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Receive our FREE newsletters at 18forty.org/join.Our Intergenerational Divergence series is sponsored by our friends Sarala and Danny Turkel.This episode is sponsored by an anonymous friend who supports our mission.In this episode of the 18Forty Podcast, we talk to Judah, Naomi, and Aharon Akiva Dardik—an olim family whose son went to military jail for refusing to follow to IDF orders and has since become a ceasefire activist at Columbia University—about sticking together as a family despite their fundamental differences. On Aharon's 14th birthday, the Dardiks moved from America to the Neve Daniel in the West Bank/Judea and Samaria. Since then, their relationships to Israel have diverged but they have refused to be divided. In this episode we discuss:Why did Aharon initially choose to stay anonymous to protect his parents from public pushback?How can we identify positive qualities in people we viscerally disagree with? Do differences over Israel and Zionism need to tear families apart? Tune in to hear a conversation about how the Jewish People can learn to think less institutionally and more familially. Interview begins at 19:08.Rabbi Judah Dardik is an Assistant Dean and full-time Ramm at Yeshivat Orayta in the Old City of Jerusalem, where he teaches and oversees student welfare. He is also the Dean of the Orayta Center for Jewish Leadership and Engagement. Before making Aliyah, he completed 13 years as the spiritual and community leader of Beth Jacob Congregation, in Oakland, California.Naomi Dardik, with her husband, Judah, served the Beth Jacob community in Oakland for thirteen years. Now, she leads the team of Relationship Experts at "OurRitual," a young company based in Tel Aviv that is building new ways to help couples access relationship support. She earned her BA in psychology from Barnard College and her MSW from UC Berkeley.Aharon Akiva Dardik is a philosophy and political science double major at Columbia University. His activism in favor of a ceasefire in Gaza was noted in The New York Times. He formerly lived in Neve Daniel with his family. References:“Forgive Me, My King I Did Not Know You Were Also a Father” by David BashevkinBeit Yishai by Rabbi Shlomo Fisher“It Can Be Lonely to Have a Middle-of-the Road Opinion on the Middle East” Nonviolent Communication by Marshall B. RosenbergBeing Jewish After the Destruction of Gaza by Peter BeinartThe Power of Showing Up by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne BrysonMistakes Were Made (but Not by Me) by Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson“Family Ties” by David Bashevkin“Spending the Seder Alone” by David BashevkinBaderech by Rabbi Judah Mischel“Pesach Letter to My Child” by Rabbi Ahron LopianskyFor more 18Forty:NEWSLETTER: 18forty.org/joinCALL: (212) 582-1840EMAIL: info@18forty.orgWEBSITE: 18forty.orgIG: @18fortyX: @18_fortyBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/18forty-podcast--4344730/support.
Before we say angry words, we control them. After angry words are said, they control you.Your husband left the dirty dishes in the sink...again. Your son forgot to call to let you know that he will be home late. Your daughter said something insulting to you. Your mother was "less than helpful" when it came to shopping for dresses. Family members have that knack for saying or doing things that make us angry, and drive us crazy.So what should we do? In this beautiful conversation with Rebbetzin Natalie Ciner, rebbetzin of Beth Jacob Congregation of Irvine, California, we learn how to navigate challenging relationships with wisdom and kindness.The first things we learn are that anger is a natural emotion, and marriage is a vehicle for growth. The way we manage our emotions in relationships is a pathway for our own personal growth and elevation. So how do we do that?1. See marriage as a growth opportunity. Your spouse is a mirror for the areas in which we need to grow. (It can be uncomfortable to look inside ourselves and see that there are things we need to change. It can be painful. However, it's important to know that the things our spouse says and does can be important messages for our own inner work and self growth---if we are brave enough to look inside and interpret them that way.)2. Instead of being frustrated, try to see what this particular person (your spouse, child, family member, etc.) is trying to teach you.3. Judge your spouse favorably. Assume the best of the situation, instead of assuming the worst.4. Express your needs. Don't look to blame the other person.5. Strengthen your connection and bond with your husband. Spend quality time with him. You can go out on dates, walks, spend time together in the house, or do anything else that brings you close together and builds connection.When you build a good quality, healthy relationship, it will become easier for you to solve life's inevitable challenges and issues together, without a significant build up of anger. However, anger does come up--we are human, after all. So what do we do when we get angry? How can we express our feelings constructively?1. Pause before reacting. Make space between yourself and your reaction. Go for a walk. Go out of the room. Take deep breaths. Take a break. Give yourself time and space to calm down before responding2. Talk to yourself with soothing, positive self-talk. Show yourself compassion for the feelings you are experiencing, and provide yourself with soothing words and strength. Once you have gotten yourself under control, you will better be able to handle the situation with grace, and not blame.3. Use this challenge, disagreement, or situation with this person as an opportunity for self-reflection.4. Use "I" statements. Say things like "I felt hurt when you didn't call me when you were running late," instead of "You drive me crazy when you don't call me when you are late! It's so inconsiderate of you!" Using I statements allows you to express your feelings, instead of blaming someone. Look for solution, not for blame.To be connected to Rebbetzin Nathalie, please email Vera Kessler, host of America's Top Rebbetzins at atrebbetzins@gmail.com
This week I talk to Alex Locke, the new executive director at Beth Jacob Congregation. We talk about his journey in the Twin Cities Jewish world, working in the suburb he grew up in, and the big shoes he's filling, on this week's Who The Folk?! Podcast.
This week I'm very excited to be joined by Rabbi Adam Rubin, who starting July 1, will be the new senior rabbi at Beth Jacob Congregation. Rabbi Rubin talks about his path to the rabbinate, being a rabbi in this unprecedented era, and the secret to his homemade hummus, on this week's Who The Folk?! Podcast.
Welcome to the Forty Eighth episode of Daily Daf Differently. In this episode, Rabbi Emma Kippley-Ogman looks at Masechet Shabbat Daf 49. Riffing on feathers, Elisha the Winged One’s tefillin become doves and our mitzvot become our wings of safety and freedom in this episode. Rabbi Emma Kippley-Ogman is Assistant Rabbi at Beth Jacob Congregation […]
Welcome to the Forty Eighth episode of Daily Daf Differently. In this episode, Rabbi Emma Kippley-Ogman looks at Masechet Shabbat Daf 49. Riffing on feathers, Elisha the Winged One’s tefillin become doves and our mitzvot become our wings of safety and freedom in this episode. Rabbi Emma Kippley-Ogman is Assistant Rabbi at Beth Jacob Congregation […]
Welcome to the Forty Seventh episode of Daily Daf Differently. In this episode, Rabbi Emma Kippley-Ogman looks at Masechet Shabbat Daf 48. Focusing on handkerchiefs and feathers, today we enter the world of chapter four — the material culture of keeping things warm on Shabbat. Rabbi Emma Kippley-Ogman is Assistant Rabbi at Beth Jacob Congregation […]
Welcome to the Forty Seventh episode of Daily Daf Differently. In this episode, Rabbi Emma Kippley-Ogman looks at Masechet Shabbat Daf 48. Focusing on handkerchiefs and feathers, today we enter the world of chapter four — the material culture of keeping things warm on Shabbat. Rabbi Emma Kippley-Ogman is Assistant Rabbi at Beth Jacob Congregation […]
French Language Translation of Answers Given to the Beth Jacob Congregation
A compilation of songs from the Yamim Noraim (High Holidays) sung at Beth Jacob Congregation in Atlanta, GA. For lyrics and more information see: www.bethjacobatlanta.org/songs
A compilation of songs from the Yamim Noraim (High Holidays) sung at Beth Jacob Congregation in Atlanta, GA. For lyrics and more information see: www.bethjacobatlanta.org/songs
A compilation of songs from the Yamim Noraim (High Holidays) sung at Beth Jacob Congregation in Atlanta, GA. For lyrics and more information see: www.bethjacobatlanta.org/songs
A compilation of songs from the Yamim Noraim (High Holidays) sung at Beth Jacob Congregation in Atlanta, GA. For lyrics and more information see: https://www.bethjacobatlanta.org/songs
A compilation of songs from the Yamim Noraim (High Holidays) sung at Beth Jacob Congregation in Atlanta, GA. For lyrics and more information see: https://www.bethjacobatlanta.org/songs
A compilation of songs from the Yamim Noraim (High Holidays) sung at Beth Jacob Congregation in Atlanta, GA. For more information see: https://www.bethjacobatlanta.org/songs
(Apologies for static in parts of the episode, tried to get rid of it and it is only there for parts) This week for Parshat Vayeshev, I have Gershon Albert! Gershon is the Rabbi at Beth Jacob Congregation in Oakland, and was in my class at Yeshiva University! Here we talk about what Yosef was thinking when he was telling his brother the dreams, what they actually might have meant, and who actually sold Yosef.