A Love Language Minute

How can you get your husband to open up more and talk to you? The best way is to ask him specific questions and don't condemn his answers. Receive his answer and ask followup questions.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's a common myth today that people cannot change. A spouse's failures can lead to hopelessness. But his myth fails to reckon with the reality of human freedom and the power of God. People can and do change.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If there's a substantial age difference between a young person and an older person, the relationship will probably not work out. The younger person just isn't mature enough to be thinking about marriage. But the maturity of two older people will increase the possibility of a successful relationship.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The commonly held view is that we are victims of our environment. We think that if we grew up in a dysfunctional family, we're destined to failure in relationships. It doesn't have to be that way. While our environment affects us, it doesn't control us.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How do you deal with a husband's abusive anger? This behavior should never be accepted as normal. It's time to apply some tough love and separate until he changes his ways.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What should you do if your spouse no longer shows an interest in you? Dr. Gary Chapman suggests you should love your spouse unconditionally and always speak their primary love language no matter how they are treating you.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Arguments reveal the heart. Arguments often grow out of an emotional need. A wise husband and wife will look for the emotional need behind the argument.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Feeling in love doesn't take work. You're pushed along by emotions. But when you come down off the high, it takes intentional love to grow your marriage, and that takes work.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How should we process conflicts without arguing? The answer is in listening. Most of us are good at making our point without getting the point.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Scripture is very clear. When we get married, we are to leave our parents and cleave to your spouse. But that doesn't mean we should desert our parents.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If your fiancé has an STD, what should you do? Dr. Gary Chapman suggests that you find out the nature of the disease and its treatment. But ultimately it's up to you to decide if it's wise to continue the relationship.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Most couples spend 8 to 10 hours apart each day due to work etc. So how do they stay connected? Dr. Gary suggests that couples should commit themselves to a 20 minute debriefing each day. Share with each other the highlights and low lights of their day.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The vast majority of Christian couples don't have a daily devotional time together; and yet, almost all Christian couples have the sense that they should.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Communication is so important in a marriage. Why, because we're not mind readers. If you never share your thoughts, your spouse will never know what you're thinking.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What if a couple scores equally on each of the 5 Love Languages? It could that they felt truly loved their entire lives.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Some people are afraid of love after a failed marriage. They might equate love with betrayal and pain.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why do so many couples have difficulty with communication? Before marriage, there is the overpowering feeling of being in love. But later on, negative emotions usually begin to bubble up.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Individual time alone with Lord is vital. But it's equally important that couples spend time with Lord together.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When there's conflict about financial matters in a marriage, it's usually because couples don't feel like partners in this area of marriage.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Being intimate before marriage is wrong. Ultimately, it's the man who should show leadership by setting boundaries. If he doesn't show leadership in this area, it's probably an indication as to his thinking about other Biblical standards.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why does your spouse get angry with you about the smallest things? Take notice of each instance and see if something you do or say sets her off.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Money doesn't destroy marriages - people do. If you and your spouse argue about money, it's because each of you are blaming the other rather than joining forces to find a solution.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How long should you wait to remarry after the death of your spouse? Research has shown that it takes about two years for you to get back on level ground emotionally.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When was the last time you and your spouse had an argument about money? Couples who argue about the same thing over and over again need help.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What do you do when you and your spouse have taken the 5 Love Languages quiz but have very different scores for Physical Touch? Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What do you do if your wife isn't a talker? Instead of saying "I wish you'd talk more", ask her specific questions that illicit detailed answers. It's easier for her to talk if she's asked a question.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Is money an asset or liability to your marriage? It depends on your attitude toward money. If you look to money for the things that money can buy to make you happy, then money will be a source of conflict in your marriage.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The fundamental concepts to solving conflict is to recognize that you're both human. If you don't think or feel the same way, you still have to respect each other's humanity.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Money can be a big contributor to conflict in marriage; but the biggest problem is a poor relationship.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If you're separated, is there any hope for your marriage? Dr. Gary Chapman says that if your husband has not remarried, there's still hope.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What do you do if your wife jokes about all the crushes she's had on other guys? Be open about how that makes you feel, and ask her to stop saying those things.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When a guy says, "I don't love her any more", it usually means he's lost that euphoric feel of being "in love" when he first got married. Love isn't a feeling, it's an attitude and an action.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How do you deal with an angry spouse? It requires tough love. Tell your spouse that what they are doing is unacceptable, and you're going to seek out counseling. Invite your spouse to join you. If things don't change, separation might be necessary for a while.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What does love look like in a marriage? Turn to I Corinthians 13:4-7 to see how God describes love!Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If you feel you're emotionally unstable, it may be due to living in a loveless and dysfunctional family. As an adult, seek out a counselor that is trained to provide help in this area.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Some people think that physical intimacy before marriage is acceptable because marriage is "just a formality". Marriage isn't just a formality, it's a public declaration of the covenant you're making. Statistics bear out that those who have sex before marriage are far more likely to divorce.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Love is not a feeling. It's a way of life. It's a choice you make in how to express it.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

You as a parent need to acknowledge that you cannot control your adult children, but you can influence them in a positive way.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What is love? Some might think it's the feeling you have when you're "in love". But those feelings are temporary. True love is an attitude and action. Read I Corinthians 13:4-7 to see how the Bible defines love.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Is divorce biblical? Scripture never condones divorce; but God allows it when infidelity or abandonment is involved. If you're divorced, confess your part in that divorce, and seek God's guidance for your future.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you and your spouse have differing views about the Christian faith? Marriage has to do with oneness; so share your views with each other and try to understand each other's perspective.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If someone were to ask you, "Why do you want to get married", how would you respond? People often say it's because we're "in love". But that kind of love is feelings-based rather than a committed action-based love.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.