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Daily life can be messy and complicated. Bless Our Mess discusses everyday issues through a therapeutic lens. Taylor is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who shares his clinical experience with the listeners. Taylor and Kelli have a deep desire

Kelli and Taylor - Parents of six - Marriage and Family Therapist


    • Apr 27, 2023 LATEST EPISODE
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    • 28m AVG DURATION
    • 31 EPISODES


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    6 Reasons to Take a Kid Free Vacation

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 27, 2023 29:46


    In this episode Taylor and Kelli break down six reasons why every couple should take a kid free vacation.  Discuss the importance of connection as a couple and how a kid free vacation is also good for your children.  Follow and Review on AppleFollow and Review on SpotifyFollow and Review on GoogleFollow us on Instagram at Taylored.Therapy

    Identify The Labels That Keep You Boxed In - Fundamentals of rewiring the brain

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 10, 2023 34:06


    In this episode Taylor discusses neuroplasticity and how to rewire the brain.  He discusses how neuroplasticity can be used either for our benefit or detriment.  Listen in to learn the fundamentals of rewiring your brain. Follow and Review on AppleFollow and Review on SpotifyFollow and Review on GoogleFollow us on Instagram at Taylored.Therapy

    The Growing Concern of Technology on Teens' Mental Wellness - What to do as parents

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 2, 2023 29:03


    In this episode (part two) of The Growing Concern of Technology on Teens' Mental Wellness Taylor discusses specific approaches you can take as a parent to help safe guard your children from the negatives of unhealthy electronic use and how to develop healthy electronic habits.  Follow and Review on AppleFollow and Review on SpotifyFollow and Review on GoogleFollow us on Instagram at Taylored.Therapy

    The Growing Concern of Technology on Teens' Mental Wellness

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 23, 2023 26:57


    In this episode Taylor discusses some of the alarming findings of how technology is impacting our children's' mental well being. Follow and Review on AppleFollow and Review on SpotifyFollow and Review on GoogleFollow us on Instagram at Taylored.Therapy

    Emotional Regulation and Self-Soothing - What to do when emotions are high in the marriage

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 16, 2023 27:06


    In this episode Taylor dives into the importance of emotional regulation and self-soothing practices.  He discusses how becoming emotionally flooded negatively impacts the relationships and steps each partner can take to restore calm and have healthy conflict.Follow and Review on AppleFollow and Review on SpotifyFollow and Review on GoogleFollow us on Instagram at Taylored.Therapy

    Increasing Intimacy By Becoming a Great Listener - Part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 2, 2023 36:46


    Part 2 of advancing skills to becoming a great listener.  In this episode Taylor breaks down 4 key things we can do as a spouse to become a better listener.  Follow and Review on AppleFollow and Review on SpotifyFollow and Review on GoogleFollow us on Instagram at Taylored.Therapy

    Increasing Intimacy By Becoming a Great Listener - Part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 26, 2023 17:39


    In this episode Taylor dives into the foundational steps of becoming a great listener and as a result there will be increased intimacy and closeness in your relationship. Follow and Review on AppleFollow and Review on SpotifyFollow and Review on GoogleFollow us on Instagram at Taylored.Therapy

    5 Steps to Take After a Fight With Your Spouse

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 19, 2023 31:55


    Every relationship will encounter a fight.  In this episode Taylor breaks down 5 steps to take after you have been in a fight so you can make attempts to repair and make amends.  Follow and Review on AppleFollow and Review on SpotifyFollow and Review on GoogleFollow us on Instagram at Taylored.Therapy

    15 Ways to Untwist Your Thinking to Break Out of a Bad Mood

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 15, 2022 33:53


    In this follow-up episode, Taylor dives into 15 ways we can challenge our most frequently used distortions.  The way we think influences how we feel.  The way we feel influences the way we act.  When you combined our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors we will have certain outcomes in our life both for positive and negative.  Listen in to find ways you can break out of bad mood, challenge your negative self-critic, and find a more balanced and positive approach to life. Follow and Review on AppleFollow and Review on SpotifyFollow and Review on GoogleFollow us on Instagram at Taylored.Therapy

    You Feel The Way You Think

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 9, 2022 21:37


    In this episode Taylor discusses the most commonly used distortions that can negatively impact our lives.  He discusses how our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors feed off of and impact the other and that when we are frequently using distorted thinking we can feel depressed, anxious, or decreased life satisfaction.  Tune in to see if any of these distortions are plaguing your life.  Follow and Review on AppleFollow and Review on SpotifyFollow and Review on GoogleFollow us on Instagram at Taylored.Therapy

    Seemingly Small and Insignificant Things Build Positive Lasting Relationships

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 1, 2022 26:21


    In this episode Taylor discusses the small things couples can do to maintain connection and build a positive lasting marriage.  He discusses the importance of how we part in the mornings, reunite later, date nights, expressions of appreciation and affection, and the aftermath of a fight.  Follow and Review on AppleFollow and Review on SpotifyFollow and Review on GoogleFollow us on Instagram at Taylored.Therapy

    7 Clinically Proven Benefits of Gratitude That Increase Happiness

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 24, 2022 28:20


    In this episode Taylor dives into how our a selective attention creates labels and how these labels feed our assumptions about ourselves, others, and the world in which we live. We take a deeper look at the benefits we receive when practicing gratitude.  Then we finish the episode with three simple tactics to foster gratitude and experience the benefits of being thankful.Follow and Review on AppleFollow and Review on SpotifyFollow and Review on GoogleFollow us on Instagram at Taylored.Therapy

    Understanding the Different Types of Infidelity

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 18, 2022 12:18


    Unfortunately, infidelity is becoming more and more common in our society.  Sometimes this infidelity happens because each partner has differing perspectives of what infidelity is for them.  In this episode Taylor shares the different types of infidelity to better help marriages beware of the pitfalls of infidelity. Follow and Review on AppleFollow and Review on SpotifyFollow and Review on GoogleFollow us on Instagram at Taylored.Therapy

    Teamwork In Marriage - Tips On Becoming More United

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 10, 2022 29:17


    Do you feel like you are alone in your marriage?  Unfortunately, this is more common than ever.  In this episode, Taylor and Kelli discuss how marriages fall into this trap and several ways to break out of the pattern, become united, and find more satisfaction within the marriage. Follow and Review on AppleFollow and Review on SpotifyFollow and Review on GoogleFollow us on Instagram at Taylored.Therapy

    Hook Up Culture - The Down Fall of Society

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 3, 2022 31:20


    Taylor is joined by his daughter where they discuss how hook up culture is concerning to the overall well-being of the individual and the impact it is having on society.  Listen in for ways to identify your true life desires and the ability to build the fortitude to purse those goals. Follow and Review on AppleFollow and Review on SpotifyFollow and Review on GoogleFollow us on Instagram at Taylored.Therapy

    How To Identify and Manage Anxiety In Life

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 27, 2022 33:35


    In this episode Taylor and Kelli discuss the symptoms of anxiety as well as the often over looked symptoms of anxiety.  We share our personal and professional experiences in managing anxiety so we can more fully enjoy life. Follow and Review on AppleFollow and Review on SpotifyFollow and Review on GoogleFollow us on Instagram at Taylored.Therapy

    5 Warning Signs That Couples Should Consider Counseling

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 20, 2022 35:57


    In this episode, Kelli and Taylor discuss stigmas surrounding therapy and what holds couples back from seeking counseling.  Also, they discuss several warning signs that indicate couples should consider counseling - Break down in communication, arguments are destructive, lack of trust, lost the spark, and going through significant issues together.Follow and Review on AppleFollow and Review on SpotifyFollow and Review on GoogleFollow us on Instagram at Taylored.Therapy

    014 The Four P's and Universal Truths of Anger

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 13, 2022 18:46


    In this episode Taylor breaks down the four P's of anger (past, purpose, pattern, and payoff) and the universal truths of anger.  How does anger show up in your life? Where did you learn to express anger the way you do? What is the purpose and desired payoffs of your anger? Listen in to find out more and knowing these things can better help us manage anger.Follow and Review on AppleFollow and Review on SpotifyFollow and Review on GoogleFollow us on Instagram at Taylored.Therapy

    013 How To Build Trust and Be An Approachable Parent - A Teen's Perspective

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 6, 2022 33:21


    In this episode we are joined by a very special guest to discuss how we as parents can build trust and be approachable by our kids.  It is paramount that our children can trust and confidently come to us in time of need or crisis.  We discuss what approaches parents can take to quickly gain the trust of their teens.  I hear in therapy too often that teens do not feel comfortable disclosing certain life issues with their parents and instead turn to their peers for help.  Listen in to find out how you can be the main person your teen trusts with life's biggest issues. 

    012 Tactics to Challenge Negative Thinking

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 29, 2022 16:07


    Life gets messy, it can be difficult, and it can be overwhelming.  It's easy to experience negative thoughts which in turn affects the way we feel and act.  It's easy to be consumed with these thoughts and if are present for long enough periods of time can result in us formulating negative limiting beliefs about ourselves, others, and the world. In this episode we discuss several options to challenging our negative thoughts which can drastically improve our mood and overall life satisfaction.  

    011 Celebrating 18 Years of Marriage. Reflecting on what we've developed for a strong and vibrant marriage.

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 16, 2022 30:47


    In this episode we reflect on what we have learned to implement to forge a strong, vibrant, and fulfilling marriage.   We discuss communication tactics, behavioral interventions, and supporting our spouse as an individual and a partner.  

    010 Simple Tactics to Making Healthy Choices for Long Term Happiness

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 11, 2022 17:35


    In this episode Taylor breaks down two therapy tactics that help us make decisions that will help us be happier and experience less regret in life.  Taylor shares several of his life experiences that have reinforced the power of these tactics.

    009 My Struggles with Imposter Syndrome

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 5, 2022 21:07


    In this episode Taylor shares his experience with his limiting beliefs, self-doubt, and how he is continuously challenging his feelings of being and imposter.Thank you all for the love and support! 

    008 Overcoming Self-Doubt

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 22, 2022 32:31


    In this episode Kelli and Taylor discuss self-doubt and how our insecurities hold us back and feed mental and emotional issues.  They process through the concept of how we can't change what we don't acknowledge, how we developed self-limiting beliefs, and what we can do to recalibrate.  Be sure to follow us on Instagram @ taylored.therapy for more therapy tips and insights for a happier life.

    007 Parenting With Love and Logic

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 15, 2022 38:02


    In this episode Kelli and Taylor discuss their experience parenting with the Love and Logic methods.  They discuss the importance of letting your children fail safely and being able to communicate how those behaviors translate to life as an adult.  Be sure to follow us on Instagram @ taylored.therapy for more therapy tips and insights for a happier life.

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    006 Mastering Your Mindset

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 8, 2022 35:51


    In this episode Kelli and Taylor share their personal experiences with identifying their insecurities that had been holding themselves and their relationship back from what it could be.  They discuss the importance of being proactive in self-improvement rather than waiting until you're in crisis.  Be sure to follow us on Instagram @ taylored.therapy for more therapy tips and insights for a happier life.

    005 - The Why - Power In Being Vulnerable

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 1, 2022 18:50


    In this episode Kelli and Taylor discuss further the why and purpose of starting Bless Our Mess.  They discussed the initial fears of being vulnerable but unpack how powerful vulnerability can be.     Be sure to follow us on Instagram @ taylored.therapy for more therapy tips and insights for a happier life.

    003 - Friend or Foe? Should We Be Our Kids Friend?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 24, 2022 27:30


    In this episode Kelli and Taylor dive into how important the role of a parent is to their children.  They discuss potential pitfalls of being your child's friend more than being their parent.  Be sure to follow us on Instagram @ taylored.therapy for more therapy tips and insights for a happier life.

    004 - Are You Setting Your Kids Up To Fail? Failing Parent Approaches and What To Do

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 24, 2022 38:26


    Unfortunately, many parents are using approaches that set their kids up to fail where it matters most...LIFE! In this episode Kelli and Taylor discuss two specific parenting approaches that lead to your child developing poor self-esteems and learned helplessness (where they believe they are weak and incapable of doing anything in life, while expecting someone to do the work for them). Be sure to follow us on Instagram @ taylored.therapy for more therapy tips and insights for a happier life.

    002 - Open The Flood Gates - Anger Management

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 24, 2022 40:13


    In this episode Taylor and Kelli share recent life and parenting trials that are upsetting and angering.  Taylor shares several anger management techniques to help parents and individuals manage their anger in upsetting life events. Be sure to follow us on Instagram @ taylored.therapy for more therapy tips and insights for a happier life.

    001 Introduction to Bless Our Mess

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 24, 2022 15:49


    Kelli and Taylor introduce themselves and give some background on how the podcast came about.   Be sure to follow us on Instagram @ taylored.therapy for more therapy tips and insights for a happier life.

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