GRWD

In this episode, Dakota and her ex-partner delve into the complexities of their relationship, exploring themes of emotional exhaustion, communication breakdowns, and the challenges of navigating boundaries and expectations. They reflect on their experiences with non-monogamy, the impact of past relationships, and the importance of intimacy and connection. Throughout the discussion, they emphasize the need for self-discovery and personal growth as they confront the realities of their breakup and consider future possibilities.Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode to spread the tough love and real talk. 

In this episode, Dakota shares a personal update on her journey through divorce and the complexities of navigating relationships. She reflects on her past experiences with monogamy and non-monogamy, the challenges of embracing a healthy relationship, and the emotional baggage that comes with it. Dakota emphasizes the importance of understanding compatibility in relationships, the lessons learned from her past, and the need for healing and self-acceptance. She encourages listeners to confront their emotional struggles and seek support in their journey towards personal growth and fulfillment. Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode to spread the tough love and real talk. For more resources, workshops, and coaching, visit ⁠⁠⁠www.getrealwithdakota.com.⁠⁠⁠ Keep it real, stay true to yourself, and remember: your pleasure and boundaries are worth fighting for!

In this episode of Get Real with Dakota, Dakota and Mx. Sizzle dive into the intricate world of relationship dynamics, sharing candid reflections on their personal journeys. From navigating the challenges of polyamory to embracing conscious monogamy, they discuss the transition between these relationship models, offering deep insights into trust, jealousy, and the importance of understanding individual needs versus wants. Mx. Sizzle opens up about their recent divorce and current monogamous relationship, while Dakota shares their evolution through toxic monogamous and polyamorous experiences. Together, they explore the power of communication, the significance of different types of intimacy, and how to build fulfilling relationships by prioritizing authenticity and alignment. This conversation isn't anti-polyamory—instead, it highlights the value of conscious relationship-building, no matter the structure. Tune in for real talk, transformative insights, and a fresh perspective on navigating love and connection. Stay up to date on Mx.Sizzle's work and adventures on their Instagram. Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode to spread the tough love and real talk. For more resources, workshops, and coaching, visit ⁠⁠⁠www.getrealwithdakota.com.⁠⁠⁠  Keep it real, stay true to yourself, and remember: your pleasure and boundaries are worth fighting for!

In this episode of 'Get Real with Dakota', Dakota and Birdie, the 420 Sexologist, delve into the complexities of divorce, sharing their personal experiences and insights. They discuss the emotional and financial implications of divorce, the impact on family dynamics, and the lessons learned throughout the process. The conversation also explores alternative relationship models and the importance of understanding one's needs in relationships. They discuss the complexities of relationship dynamics, particularly focusing on monogamy and non-monogamy. Dakota shares personal experiences of navigating relationship anxiety, trust issues, and the impact of new relationship energy. They highlight the need for conscious decision-making in relationships and the significance of understanding one's own needs and boundaries. The dialogue emphasizes the significance of recognizing value misalignments and the necessity of choosing oneself in the face of societal expectations. Tune in to this episode for a deep and real conversations. Stay up to date on Birdie's work and adventures on her Instagram. Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode to spread the tough love and real talk. For more resources, workshops, and coaching, visit ⁠⁠⁠www.getrealwithdakota.com.⁠⁠⁠ Keep it real, stay true to yourself, and remember: your pleasure and boundaries are worth fighting for! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/getrealwithdakota/support

In this episode of Get Real With Dakota, Dakota dives into the topic of "Occupational Coochie Therapy" with Nicole Porter, occupational therapist, sexuality educator, and PhD student. Join us as we explore the intersection of occupational therapy and sexual health, discussing the importance of addressing sexual health in therapy, the role of body image, and the significance of patient advocacy. Nicole shares her journey into occupational therapy, her dissertation research on sexual positions and pain, and the importance of pelvic floor therapy. Tune in to this episode for a deep and real conversation that will leave you feeling empowered and informed AF! Nicole is setting up her business IG and website so stay tuned for how to follow her work and services. Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode to spread the tough love and real talk. For more resources, workshops, and coaching, visit ⁠⁠⁠www.getrealwithdakota.com.⁠⁠⁠ Keep it real, stay true to yourself, and remember: your pleasure and boundaries are worth fighting for! ---Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/getrealwithdakota/support --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/getrealwithdakota/support

In this episode of Get Real With Dakota, Dakota dives into the topic of "Turning Yourself On" with ⁠⁠⁠⁠Jordan D'Nelle. Join us as we discuss the importance of tapping into our senses for pleasure and how it can enhance our overall well-being. Jordan shares tips on how to turn yourself on and explore sensation play. They emphasize the importance of curiosity and communication in sexual exploration. Jordan also mentions goodies like her new ebook on sensation play and upcoming limited edition merch. Tune in to this episode for a deep and real conversation that will leave you feeling full of live and driven AF! Don't forget to visit ⁠https://jordandnelle.com/ to learn more about Jordan's upcoming events and new episodes on her podcast, Vagina's, Vulvas and Vibrators. Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode to spread the tough love and real talk. For more resources, workshops, and coaching, visit ⁠⁠⁠www.getrealwithdakota.com.⁠⁠⁠ Keep it real, stay true to yourself, and remember: your pleasure and boundaries are worth fighting for! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/getrealwithdakota/support

In this episode of Get Real With Dakota, Dakota dives into the topic of "Consent Based Relationships" with ⁠Goddess Cecilia. Join us as we discuss Cecilia's journey into sex education, the importance of pleasure, and the intersection of identity and sexuality. Cecilia discusses her work as a sex educator and advocate for survivors of sexual violence. She emphasizes the importance of comprehensive sex education and the need for adults to have the same access to information as youth and her her experiences in creating consent-based relationships. Cecilia creates safe spaces for survivors to share their stories and fosters the ongoing learning process in the field of sexuality. Tune in to this episode for a deep and real conversation that will leave you feeling full of live and driven AF! Don't forget to visit www.goddesscecilia.com to learn more about Cecilia's upcoming series of events, including sex trivia nights, and the third season of her podcast, Raw Bar with Goddess Cecilia. Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode to spread the tough love and real talk. For more resources, workshops, and coaching, visit ⁠⁠www.getrealwithdakota.com.⁠⁠ Keep it real, stay true to yourself, and remember: your pleasure and boundaries are worth fighting for! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/getrealwithdakota/support

In this episode of Get Real With Dakota, Dakota dives into the topic of "Decolonizing the Coohie" with Steph Zapata. Join us as we discuss the importance of queerness and decolonizing pleasure in sex education. Steph Zapata emphasizes the importance of advocating for change in the field of sex education and challenging the status quo. They encourage sex educators to be disruptors and highlight the systems and biases that exist within the field. With the creation of the SLAM Conference and the Space Collective as spaces for BIPOC educators to do just that. Tune in to this episode for a deep and real conversation that will leave you feeling full of live and driven AF! Don't forget to visit ⁠https://www.stephaniespeakshere.com/ to learn more about Steph's offerings from consultations to spicy workshops. Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode to spread the tough love and real talk. For more resources, workshops, and coaching, visit ⁠www.getrealwithdakota.com.⁠ Keep it real, stay true to yourself, and remember: your pleasure and boundaries are worth fighting for! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/getrealwithdakota/support

In this episode of Get Real With Dakota, Dakota dives into the topic of "Coochie Food" with the Adrienne Rommel, the Yoni Nutritionist. Join us as we explore the relationship between our nutrition and our genital health. Adrienne shares her personal experience of struggling with recurring vaginal infections and how she found healing through holistic practices and changing her diet. From the importance of understanding the root causes of infections, the connection between gut health and vaginal health to the impact of inflammation and certain foods on vaginal health, Adrienne provides tips on starting a nutrition plan for vaginal health. Tune in to "Coochie Food" for an engaging and real conversation that will leave you feeling empowered and ready to eat for coochie health! Don't forget to visit www.yoninutritionist.com to learn more about Adrienne's offerings like her FREE copy of the Healthy Yoni Grocery List! Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode to spread the tough love and real talk. For more resources, workshops, and coaching, visit www.getrealwithdakota.com. Keep it real, stay true to yourself, and remember: your pleasure and boundaries are worth fighting for! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/getrealwithdakota/support

In this episode of Get Real With Dakota, Dakota dives into the topic of "Coochie Confidence" with the fabulous Gabriella Scaringe, the creator of Cherri, a vulva-friendly underwear brand. Join us as we explore how to build confidence around the appearance of our vulvas and uncover the reasons why so many struggle with this aspect of their bodies. Gaby shares her inspiration for creating Cherri and the unique features that make their underwear perfect for fuller or outtie vulvas. We discuss societal and cultural influences on vulva perception, practical tips for developing coochie confidence, and the importance of having open conversations about vulva health and appearance. Listeners will gain insights into enhancing vulva comfort and confidence through thoughtfully designed products and hear personal stories of the journey to self-acceptance. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to connect deeper with their sensual selves and make their #relationshipgoals a reality. Tune in to "Coochie Confidence" for an engaging and real conversation that will leave you feeling empowered and ready to embrace your coochie with pride! Don't forget to visit https://shopcherri.com/ to get your hands on the comfiest undies out there. Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode to spread the tough love and real talk. For more resources, workshops, and coaching, visit https://www.getrealwithdakota.com/. Keep it real, stay true to yourself, and remember: your pleasure and boundaries are worth fighting for! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/getrealwithdakota/support

In this episode of "Get Real With Dakota," I dive into the essential journey of discovering and embracing your sexual desires. I share why it's crucial to understand what turns you on, the common fears that hold us back, and the transformative power of knowing your desires. Learn practical exercises to uncover your fantasies and desires, and get valuable tips for effectively communicating them with your partner. Tune in for a candid conversation that will help you enhance your self-awareness, boost your confidence, and improve your intimate relationships. If you're ready to dive even deeper, head over to my website https://www.getrealwithdakota.com/ for more resources, workshops, and coaching opportunities. Together, we can make your relationship goals a reality, pookie. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/getrealwithdakota/support

I'm joined by the fabulous Dr. Olivia Richman. We're diving deep into the emotional and physical connections of our bodies, tackling issues like painful penetration and vaginismus, and why meditation isn't the magical cure-all. Dr. Olivia shares insights on how our emotional state influences our physical well-being and practical advice for healing beyond meditation. Tune in for real talk, tough love, and steps towards your #relationshipgoals. Follow Dr. Olivia on Instagram @glamourpussmd. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/getrealwithdakota/support

In this enlightening episode of Get Real With Dakota, we delve into the transformative role of breathwork in enhancing sexual wellness and pleasure. From reducing stress and anxiety to deepening intimacy and connection, intentional breathing techniques can profoundly impact our sexual experiences. Join me as we explore various breathwork practices, backed by research and expert insights, that can unlock new levels of pleasure and satisfaction in your intimate life. Whether you're curious about enhancing arousal, prolonging pleasure, or deepening emotional intimacy, this episode offers practical tips and guided exercises to integrate breathwork into your daily routine and intimate moments. Tune in to discover how harnessing the power of your breath can revolutionize your sexual health and relationship dynamics. Follow me on IG for more tips on how to rid yourself of relationship anxiety, make boundaries your b*tch, and enhance pleasure in alllll areas of your life. Visit https://www.getrealwithdakota.com/wtf-do-you-value to download my "WTF Do You Value? Freebie." It's my most loved tool for helping my clients set boundaries that feel good and actually work. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/getrealwithdakota/support

Welcome to "Conversations with My Coochie," a new series on my podcast, Get Real With Dakota, where we flip the script on self-love and empowerment. This ain't your grandma's podcast—it's raw, real, and unapologetically fierce. Unless your grandma is all of those things - in that case, go her! We're diving deep into taboo topics like how to have heart-to-hearts with your body and harness the power of meditation. Get ready to tune in, turn up the volume on self-discovery, and learn how to love every damn inch of yourself. It's time to unleash your inner badass and own your journey to empowerment.

In this episode, inspired by a dream I had last night, we dive into the messy world of divorce. We'll chat about making those tough decisions, handling separation, and figuring out what you just can't compromise on. We'll also talk about dealing with the grief and rollercoaster of emotions that come with it. Whether you're thinking about divorce, going through it, or just curious, join me for an honest and supportive conversation. Follow @getrealwithdakota on IG for more updates on podcast episode releases and events. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/getrealwithdakota/support

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Join me for a mini dive into my journey of figuring out my relationship orientation. Open or poly? Who knows? Follow me on @getrealwithdakota for more podcast updates! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/getrealwithdakota/support

Join me for another episode of GRWD where my mom (yes, my mom) and I discuss some of our worst sex stories, icks, and things to watch out for when getting ready to sleep with someone new. Follow me @getrealwithdakota on Instagram for more updates. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/getrealwithdakota/support

In this episode I discuss the difference between fear based boundaries and needs, using values to paint a picture of your needs, how to share them and a bonus tip! Follow me on Spotify and @getrealwithdakota on IG for more updates! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/getrealwithdakota/support

Today's episode discusses intellectualizing your feelings vs feeling your feelings, something I struggled with for a while. Tune out of the day to day mess and tune in so you can learn how to move with your feelings without trynna rush through them (cause that sh*t don't work). --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/getrealwithdakota/support

Car talks are my fav! Audio is booty but it'll feel like we're talking on the phone while I drive so if you're into that…great! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/getrealwithdakota/support

Confessions of a Serial Monogamist will be a mini series where I dive into the lessons I've learned as I've jumped from relationship to relationship. I'm this episode, join me for a dive into falling in love with potential. This is my most raw and present episode yet as there is no editing whatsoever. Follow me on Instagram @getrealwithdakota for more podcast episode updates, releases, events, workshops, and then some. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/getrealwithdakota/support

CW: sexual assault, trauma In this episode, I talk with my mom, Pat Gonzalez about her feature in the Never Fear Your Fire book featuring 17 Women Warriors sharing their stories. We discuss growing up in the 70s, healing from sexual trauma, facing your fears, and listening to your kids. Click here to purchase your copy of Never Fear Your Fire! Amazon BEST Seller! Follow me @getrealwithdakota for more updates on podcast releases, sexuality education workshops, events, massage candles, and more! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/getrealwithdakota/support

In this episode, I discuss what forced me to come out and what I did to manage the mess that was my life at the time. Take a listen and learn from my mistakes! Follow me on IG @getrealwithdakota for future episode updates and access to my Boundary Boss Freebie (yes, it's free)! ~Dakota --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/getrealwithdakota/support

In this episode, my wonderful spouse, Sven and I, answer questions from The Pride Pack made by Paired. Paired is an app that helps couples improve their relationships through the use of daily questions, quizzes, games and more! Sven and I navigate coming out, what we're proud of, open relationships (wtf) and then some.  Follow me on IG @getrealwithdakota for future episode updates and access to my Boundary Boss Freebie (yes, it's free)! ~Dakota --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/getrealwithdakota/support

In this episode, I'll share how my first Sex Expo experience was and wtf to say when you're setting boundaries. Come with me for a stroll around NYC and learn a bit about what you can expect at the Sex Expo and some helpful tips on setting boundaries like a #boss. Follow me on IG @getrealwithdakota for future episode updates and access to my Boundary Boss Freebie (yes, it's free)! ~Dakota --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/getrealwithdakota/support

In this episode, I'll be discussing: why making #relationshipgoals matter regardless of the relationship dynamic you want how boundaries play into your #relationshipgoals what happens when you set #relationshipgoals and what happens when you don't... Follow me on IG @getrealwithdakota for future episode updates and access to my Boundary Boss Freebie (Yes, it's free!) ~Dakota --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/getrealwithdakota/support

She's bacckkkk with season 2 of my podcast but we've made some big changes. So bye bye to Dick Nerd (for now!) and hello to Get Real With Dakota! Last season was all about being a happy, healthy hoe. This season is not just about sex but all things love, sex, and relationships.  In this episode, I'll be discussing: what I was doing before what this new season is all about my personal journey and why these changes are being made Tune in and listen up! We're here to get real and to the work so you can maintain and manifest your #relationshipgoals! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/getrealwithdakota/support

Join Dick Nerd for their lastest episode all about fisting with @honeyleavittalone! Get to know this bad ass comedian and fellow sex lover as we talk through some helpful tips for those who wants to try fisting. Lots of laughs here! Tune in next week for my episode all about catching feelings with @mystkue on Insta! This one got real, no doubt.  Follow @dick.nerd on Instagram to get more updates on future episodes and some serious sex ed! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/getrealwithdakota/support

Join Dick Nerd for their last episode to their poly hoe sub series featuring the wonderful drag qween Mary Jane Monroe and happy, healthy hoe Silver Surfer.  Threesomes, tears, love, sex clubs and moreee.  Tune in next week for my episode all about fisting! with @honeyleavittshow on Insta! We had a great time talking sh*t and learning some new thangs.  Follow @dick.nerd on Instagram to get more updates on future episodes and some serious sex ed! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/getrealwithdakota/support

Join  Dick Nerd for their 7th episode alllll about poly hoes. It's a big  crowd this time but there's a whole lotta love for this 3 part episode!  Special guests, Silver Surfer (queer poly queen) and Mary Jane Monroe ( gender f*ck open hoe) continue sharing their experiences in regards to being poly and I get more emotional and share some shit about myself, if I'm being real! Tune in for Part 3 next week where we get to find out more about Mary Jane Monroe's polysexual relationship, a lot more sex and a lot less feelings okkkkk.  Follow @dick.nerd on Instagram to get more updates on future episodes and some serious sex ed! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/getrealwithdakota/support

Join Dick Nerd for their 6th episode alllll about poly hoes. It's a big crowd this time but there's a whole lotta love for this 3 part episode! Special guests, Silver Surfer (queer poly queen) and Mary Jane Monroe ( gender f*ck open hoe) share their experiences being sexually open in their relationships!  Part 1 is mostly about Silver Surfer and her partners experience meeting. Tune in for Part 2 next week where we get to find out how Silver Surfer's boo felt about her being poly & what they do when SS find someone she wants to baaaaang.  Follow @dick.nerd on Instagram to get more updates on future episodes and some serious sex ed! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/getrealwithdakota/support

Join Dick Nerd for their 5th episode where they chat with their bestie, Kwame or DJ  Ohene Tigre, about hoein' during a pandemic! I share my journey navigating a new relationship a week before quarantine happened and Kwame talks about a bunch of things, including trying to get head through a window to cope with the pandemic sexual blues.  TW: COVID, sexual assault, rape and stealthing  You can check out DJ Ohene Tigre on Instagram @ohtigre_ or  @african_buddah to listen to his sick mixes! Follow @dick.nerd on Instagram to get more updates on future episodes and some serious sex ed! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/getrealwithdakota/support

Join Dick Nerd for their 4th episode where they chat with their besties, DJ Ohene Tigre and Badluck Brit, along with their lover Sven Fresca, about what to do when someone crosses a boundary. We discuss fuck boys, Brit calling the shots, paying for dates, infidelity, and the secret to living your best (sex) life over some seafood broil. So yes, this is also for my ASMR babes who love hearing people eat and suck on some crab legs ;). Follow these bad asses to see more of the amazing beings they are and the awesome things they do. You can check out DJ Ohene Tigre on Instagram @ohtigre_ or @african_buddah to listen to his sick mixes! Follow @badluckbrit to see more of some Portuguese hipster realness (paired with the best dark humor and a beautiful face...and sense of style if we're being real) and check out @svenfresca to see all the wholesome gay content your heart desires.  Follow @dick.nerd on Instagram to get more updates on future episodes and some serious sex ed! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/getrealwithdakota/support

Join Dick Nerd for their 3rd episode to their series, A Guide to Being a Happy, Healthy Hoe. Dear friend, Maddy a.k.a @divinelyaligned (on Insta), chat about different types of boundaries and our own struggles setting them. This episode is allll about exploring the different types of boundaries that you may have so you KNOW when a mofo crosses them. They cover everything from paying on dates, butt stuff, to using condoms, and the list goes on. Don't wanna miss this :) Follow @divinelyaligned to learn more about the holistic work Maddy is doing to make the world a better place. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/getrealwithdakota/support

Join Dick Nerd and their partner, @svenfresca, to chat about how to identify what type of relationship dynamic you want and why you want it. Here to help you make sure you're hoe-ing is coming from an honest, healthy place, Dick Nerd and Sven Fresca discuss how they first met and how their own expectations shifting as they grew to know one another. Just another wholesome....and very gay chit chat. Follow @svenfresca on Instagram to find out more about their cooking and gender/sexuality work! Follow @dick.nerd to get more updates about this podcast~ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/getrealwithdakota/support

Join Dick Nerd and special guests, Magic Dyke and DJ Ohene Tigre for the very first episode of A Guide to Being a Happy, Healthy Hoe. In this episode, they take to Dick Nerd's Instagram followers for some insight on what they think a hoe is. From defining the word with the word to some salty responses, these best friends laugh, dissect, and keep it real when reading the people's thoughts, okkkkk. Follow Magic Dyke @svenfresca and @queer.kitchen to learn more about their gender/sexuality studies and the yummy recipes they're cooking up. Follow @ohtigre_ for theeee sickest beats and mixes. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/getrealwithdakota/support