Happily Ever Employed

Stay Woke [S2 Ep. 49]

Part 2 of our 3 part series. I need yall to stop arguing with these 3 people. 

Its time to get unstuck and get out of your own head. Sometimes its your own words that can keep you from where you need to be. Lets discuss.

Can we talk about position shelf life? Yeah its a thing. You know what shelf life is...like when you buy something at the store and it has "Use By" date on it. Yeah your career can have a shelf life date as well. I want to detail 3 ways to determine the shelf life date of your position at your current job.

So last week we discussed "Place" when it comes to you career. This week I want to talk about marketing. And what I mean is how are you marketing...you? I have 3 things that will help you market yourself...lets discuss

Place is the hardest thing when it comes to be an Employeeprenuer or even an Entrepreneur. Because we have to pick the place. And when it comes to picking a place where your career belongs we have to factor in a lot of things and guess what, money is NOT on the top of the list....Lets Discuss

So I have explained what an employeeprenuer is in the past. But we have new people listening or some that still dont understand. So I will quickly explain what an employeeprenuer is. 

You are Working Hard Enough...yes thats the message...You Are Working Hard Enough. I hate when coaches tell people they need to work harder. Especially when the message comes from someone that was given everything. No you are working hard enough. You just need to work smarter. 

This is our 3rd installment of our "Leaving The Job You Hate" Series. In this episode we just talk about getting past the fear of leaving your current job. I want you to understand that everyone goes through it. Whether you are leaving one job for a new job or leaving your career to start your own busiess, we all have that fear of the unknown. Even if we hate our current situation we at least we know what we are getting. We get paid every 2 weeks. I we have pretty much settled. Lets get past that mindset and get past the fear of the unknown. It is absolutley for your best.

I am continuing the conversation around leave the job you hate to do what you want. I have a system that I give my clients that is called B.A.C. or Build, Ask, Call. In this episode I discuss how these steps will help you move past the fear of leaving the job you absolutely hate. 

I deal with a lot of clients that are miserable at their jobs. I am not talking about just dont like going to work. I am talking about the job gives them high blood pressure. But they would always find an excuse as to why they stay on the job. Well I have 3 steps on how to stop all the excuses and create a plan for you future. 

We are talking about how do we build your personal Employeepreneur brand. So that it speaks for you when you arent in the room. 

So if you have had an Evaluation at your job there is probably a great chance you didnt agree with what the evaluation said. So lets talk about the 5 best ways to dispute your evaluation without getting even lower scores lol.

We are still talking about performance evaluations and today I want to focus on your Yay Me Files. Yes these are all the great accomplishments that you have done for the company that you are supposed to document so that you can provide proof of what you have done for your company so you can get the raise or the promotion that you deserve. 

I dont like performance evaluations. Its tied to too many incentives for your next promotion and doesnt happen nearly enough for employees to get the benefit of them. So lets break down what the performance evaluation is all about. 

So you didnt like what your performance evaluaiton had to say. You disagree with your supervisor. Well lets talk about how to rebut a performance evaluation

As we conclude our discussion about the the woman who didn't gave someone a salary of $80k when she had a budget of $130k. I wanted to talk to you about some negoatiation tips that can serve you well the next time you have to talk about salary whether in a promotion or as a new hire. 

Its that wonderful time of year. Performance Evaluation Time. But are you using this time properly to foward your career. Lets discuss what you should be doing at this time to make the progress you need to get the promotion you deserve.

We go into depth about the recruiter that went on social media and posted about having $130k budget to pay a new employee but since the new employee only asked for $80k thats what she paid her. Dethra talks about was she right and what would Dethra do in this situation. Also what you should do while negotiating a salary.

Get your pen and paper out. We are talking about PRODUCTIVITY. Do you make a list and dont get anything on it done. Let me give you some tips on how I get the most out of my day. 

Have you seen the instagram post from the HR Rep talking about having a budget for a position of $130,000 but since the person she hired only requested $80,000 thats what she gave her. She said she didnt have time to teach this woman about how to negotiate. Well she has gotten a lot of criticism for not helping that woman. So today starts a new series about negotiating your salary. Cause I Told Y'all. Know Your Worth

When we are talking about our careers the word "And" will come up a lot. I started here "And" I ended up here. In that word "And" is all the work that led to that promotion, raise, or upgraded job. So today I want to talk about the power of the word "And" when it comes to your career. 

Quick pep talk for my family. I am the relief, I am the answer that they are looking for. Enjoy and subscribe. 

Social Media isnt the only thing that follows an algorithm. Lets talk about your career algorithm and how you can adjust it. 

Lets continue our conversations talking about Principles vs Suggestions when it comes to your work, 

There is a difference between Principles and Suggestions. Lets break it down

Want to talk to you real quick about the word resilience. A lot of us have been using the word incorrectly. Lets make some adjustments. 

I want to continue the conversation we were having about work relationships. And how you have to use the same principles of any other relationship with work relationships. I also will be diving into how those friends at work arent really your friends. 

Did you know that your job is like a restaurant, you can have it your way. Thats right you have options. Lets talk about what that looks like from an employeprenure perspective.

Happy New Year. Welcome to a brand new episode of Happily Ever Employed. Had to take a little break but we are back. There will be two episodes a week starting today and Thursday. Tuesdays episodes will be matching up with my segment on the Willie Moore Jr. Show. Today we are talking about applying the same relationship prinicples you have with your significant other, to your job. 

You know this was going to be the first topic of discussion when it came to our Covid series. Between companies having their own vaccination rules and President Biden mandating companies with 100+ employees to be vaccinated or tested weekly. Its harder and harder to find places that dont have some kind of vaccination situation. So what does it mean for you the employee or what does it mean for the company. Lets talk about it.

I have been hit up by so many people asking about the Rona and their employment. I know are A LOT of questions about this. So I will be breaking this into a 3 part series where we will talk about returning to work. What can you negotiate for while working from home? Can your company force you to take the shot?

Getting a pay increase from your job isnt just a sit down and demand money. Dethra is going to break down The Pay Increase Strategy to help you make the money you deserve.

When things arent going the right way in the operating room and a patient dies the doctor has to Make the Call and give the time of death. Same can be said about your career or the current job your are at. Things arent going right, you dont like going to work. But you keep working in stead of Making the Call

Have you ever seen someone in a relationship where they are miserable but they just stick it out. Yeah thats what I see a lot of people doing when it comes to their careers. They will be working for companies that are basically telling them that they are done with them. They are taking away responsibilities. They arent including you in meetings that they you usually are always in. But you dont want to see the writing on the wall. In this episode I talk about when its time to leave your job and how to leave on your own terms.

In this 3rd and last episode in this 3 part series about Changing Careers. We discuss how important your network is when trying to switch careers.

In our second part of our Changing Careers Series. We talk about the importance of being a steward of your finances. Because when it comes to changing careers some people want to change but wont because they would have to take a pay cut. If you are handling your finances a small pay cut wouldnt stop you from making the career change you need to make you happy.

There comes a time in ones career that...you are ready for a change. You are no longer interested in continuring the career path you have started. But then you think I have been doing this job for this long how can I possibly change career paths. Well this epsidode we will break down the 4 ways you can begin that process. 1. Identifying Transferable Skills 2. Getting Certifications 3. Keeping up with the Trends 4. Working Your Network

When it comes to being an Employeeprenuer this week has had a bunch of stories that can teach all of us lessons. In this second bonus episode this week, we will be discussing what happened with Nikole Hannah-Jones at the University of North Carolina where she should have gotten tenure. But because of a high profile back and forth with the institution she decided to leave UNC for a position at Howard University. Now my background in HR will help to break this down as I worked for a university and understand the tenure process well. I will be discussing what UNC should be doing, what Nikole should do, and what lessons you should take from this. Lets dive in.

ESPN journalist Rachel Nichols was caught having a private conversation on a hot mic discussing how her collegue Maria Taylor got a job that she wanted because of ESPNs lack of diversity. Of course when a white woman says that a black woman got a job because of her race there are going to be problems. This is one of the biggest stories in media and as an HR professional there is so many layers to discuss with this. In this episode I will break down what ESPN should be doing as a company. What Rachel Nichols should be doing regarding damage control. How Maria Taylor should be maneuvering this situation and how their co-workers should handle themselves when it comes to taking sides. Lets deep dive into this folks.

Are you a networking hoarder? You go to networking events. You make connections on LinkedIn but you dont do anything with them? You have a drawer full of business cards you haven't looked at since your first got them. Well thats not how networking works and in this episode we talk about how we can build up and utilize our LinkedIn Network.

So last episode I talked about the importance of LinkedIn and why every Employeeprenuer needs an account. So you went and got your account lets talk about what we need in your profile.

Before going into business for myself the last two jobs I got I didnt even apply for. Both of those jobs found me on LinkedIn. I need for all of my business professionals to have a linkedin profile and actually use it. So I am starting a series on how you can maximize linkedin to get you from the cubicle to the corner office.

You do know that you are leaving that job right? Whether it be voluntary or involuntary you are leaving that job. I have had so many clients that figure out that they are about to be fired work so hard to keep their job. And I always says to them. "You don't like your job, "You job doesnt want you, Why are you fighting to keep it?" What they all need to be doing is planning their exit strategy. You will be surprised what you can get when you go to your employer and negotiate your resignation. I have a lot to say so lets get this thing started.

Every time I have worked with someone who has had a position shock in their career. For example they were fired, demoted, or even just a pay cut. Everytime this has happened my clients always say I didnt pay attention to the alarms. Let me tell you how to pay attention to alarms in your career and how to deal with them.

My clients tell me all the time how they are tired of not getting the promotion when they work so hard. Or their boss does half the work they do but gets paid double in salary. I have a simple answer for them. Just because you do more stuff doesnt mean you deserve a promotion. I have 5 ways to make sure what you are doing at work is adding value and not just stuff.

In this episode we talk about conflict resolution. Specifically one way towards conflict resolution and that is perspective taking. We will discuss how perspective taking can be used to diffuse a situation.

Dethra wants to continue showing love to her favorite rapper DMX. In an interview he did recently he talked about trust and that got her thinking about clients who says they dont know who to trust at the workplace. Well Dethra has an answer to that question in this episode.

Welcome to Season 2 of Happily Ever Employed. I want to first let you know something about me. I LOVE DMX. So his passing really hurt. And while listening to his funeral I hear Swizz Beatz talk about how he wished people would have helped and appreciated DMX when he was here. It got me thinking about you. How important appreciation is when it comes to retention within your comapny. In this episode I break down some tips in how to retain your star employees.

There are a lot of reasons people don't reach their goals. But in this episode we are focusing on 2 main reasons why we see people dont reach their goal. 1. Goal misidentification and 2. Goal misalignment.

Have you ever met someone that was quick to turn an Ally into an Enemy and then mess up their future relationships. We talk about some of the latest headlines that show this and break down how we can do better.