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A podcast about dating, sex and relationships with Carla and Pat. Carla is a dating and sex coach, while married and in a poly relationship. Pat is an ambivert, millennial and feminist. Join us as we talk about things in today’s modern dating world. Leave

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    • Jun 24, 2024 LATEST EPISODE
    • monthly NEW EPISODES
    • 34m AVG DURATION
    • 81 EPISODES


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    Final episode: onto next chapter

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 24, 2024 7:32


    Final episode. Thanks for listening!

    Being clingy.. how to recognize it and how to fix it

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 7, 2024 52:31


    Welcome to another episode of Listen to your Heart! Jenny joins Pat for a final time as they cover the topic clinginess! Enjoy the show!

    MAJOR ANNOUNCEMENT!

    Play Episode Listen Later May 7, 2024 3:22


    Pat has a special announcement he'd like to share regarding the podcast. Not much of a bio, needed it's only 3 minutes long.

    Swinging and only fans

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 26, 2024 46:26


    Welcome to another episode of Listen to your heart! Pat interviews a couple who have been swingers Jason and Stephanie Glass for at least 10 years and they have their own only fans. Pat definitely had fun with this interview! Enjoy the show!

    Sleep divorcé

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 5, 2024 39:19


    Welcome to another episode of Listen to your Heart! Jenny comes back on the show with Pat and they discuss sleep divorce. Sleep divorce is romantic partners sleeping in different rooms rather than sharing a bed at night. Pat and Jenny discuss their previous relationships where either they were sleep divorced or not and why? Enjoy the show!

    Movie review: Love and baseball (2021)

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 15, 2024 42:40


    Welcome to another episode of Listen to your heart! Today Erin joins Pat and they discuss indie film Love and Baseball! A chance meeting sparks love between Will and Michele, but due to poor timing and the reality of life--they strike out twice. If fate gives them another shot--will they hit or miss? Enjoy the show!

    Are dating apps addicting as social media apps?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 8, 2024 58:04


    Welcome to another episode of Listen to your heart! Jenny joins Pat and they talk about if dating apps are as addicting as social media apps! Enjoy the episode!

    Movie review: Miracle (2004)

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 1, 2024 51:43


    Welcome to another episode of Listen to your heart! Closing out movie review month Pat is joined by an old friend Brendan to review the Disney 2004 classic Miracle. Brendan is a high school varsity coach and liked watching this movie for inspiration for coaching. Pat gives his insights on how the movie was filmed when he refs hockey as is in the game always! Also this was the 40th anniversary of Miracle on ice! Enjoy the

    Movie review: One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest (1975)

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 16, 2024 56:20


    Welcome to another episode of Listen to your heart! For this episode we are reviewing 1970s movie classic One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest. Pat is joined by YouTube channel creator A Psych Nurse who is a psych nurse and has experience in a mental health hospital setting. Join us as we breakdown this classic movie!

    Movie review: Boys in the boat

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 10, 2024 51:53


    Welcome to another episode of Listen to your heart! In this month of February Pat is doing a month of reviewing some of the movies he personally likes. Today is joined by Erin as we talk about Boys in the Boat! Aside from the movie, we talk about our own experiences from rowing!

    Ditching toxic relationships

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 26, 2024 31:09


    Welcome to another episode of Listen to your heart! Jenny comes back and joins Pat as he has great news in love life. Since it's 2024 and the corona pandemic is done with, now it's time to ditch the bad relationships you are done with. Next month Pat will be reviewing 4 movies that he will next to review!

    Dating tends for 2024!

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 8, 2024 48:00


    Welcome back to another season of Listen to your heart! Pat is joined by past co host and best friend Hannah as they discuss new dating trends for the year 2024.

    Thank you fans!

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 8, 2023 1:39


    Thank you fans, now I'm on break! Will he back in January!

    Rejection (revisited)

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 1, 2023 27:59


    In today's episode Jenny joins Pat as we discuss one of the worst parts of dating rejection and how to move on from it. Pat was the king of rejection from grade school till college and reflects why he feels better 10+ years from now. They also discuss what their favorite plates are for thanksgiving. Pat did a double episode record the night before thanksgiving. So that's why for the last episode and this it's the night before Thanksgiving!

    How to enjoy being single!

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 25, 2023 37:06


    Welcome to another episode of Listen to your heart! Probably many people don't know being single in your 30s or older can get lonely. On this episode Pat is joined by longtime friend and therapist Sam as they discuss how to enjoy being single. Since this was recorded before thanksgiving they go over their favorite thanksgiving dishes and plans. This was a fun episode to record enjoy! Life is what you make of it.

    Rom-rom review: My Big Fat Greek Wedding

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 17, 2023 42:28


    Welcome to another episode of Listen To Your Heart! In this episode Erin joins Pat to reviewing 2002 rom com classic My Big Fat Greek Wedding enjoy the show!

    Why there is a growing amount of singles and couples don't want kids!

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 3, 2023 32:24


    Welcome to another epsiode of Listen to your heart! Pat is joined by special guest Kiris as they talk about why them and many others are part of a growing population that doesn't want to have kids. Enjoy the show!

    Signs of cheating..

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 6, 2023 61:18


    Welcome to another episode of Listen to your Heart! Todays episode we explore signs of cheating but first Jenny tells us how it went with the guy who was going to pay her to have sex with him. Pat and Jenny tell each other their favorite way to masturbate. Jenny gives us some examples why people cheat on each other. This was a great episode! If you are a fan of the show and want to up your support go to patreon.com/Listentoyourheartpodcast

    Rom com review: Love Again

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 15, 2023 47:08


    Welcome to another episode of Listen To Your Heart! Erin comes back to review with Pat a rom com called Love again. Enjoy the episode! Don't forget to leave us a review and tell us how we did!

    Virginity and dating

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 7, 2023 24:16


    Welcome to another episode of Listen to your heart! We all know it's baby fever out there, but Pat wants to talk about a topic he hasn't covered yet. Being a virgin in today's dating world can be intimidating but really it's fine. Pat brings in longtime friend and licensed therapist Sam! Enjoy the episode!

    Orgies!!

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 25, 2023 39:39


    In todays episode Pat is joined by Jenny and Mac to talk about orgies! What they are like and also talk about swinger clubs! Pat and Mac tell Jenny what orgies and swinger clubs are like! Pat opens up about his experience at a recent swinger club he went to. This is one great episode!

    What adult love and sex conventions are like with Sweet Margs!

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 18, 2023 20:45


    Welcome to another episode of Listen To Your Heart! Today Only Fans cam model Sweet Margs comes back on the podcast and tells us what going to an adult love/sex conventions are like! Enjoy the show!

    Missing being in a relationship and experimenting with your sexuality

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 28, 2023 47:08


    In today's episode Jenny is back with Pat as they discuss things they miss from being in a relationship. Then they also talk about things they want to experiment with sexually, since they have the freedom to do so. This is one great episode you don't want to miss!

    Movie review: easy A

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 1, 2023 37:17


    In today's episode Pat's co host Erin comes back to review easy A starring Emma Stone. Pat and Erin talk about facts they thought was interesting as well as a couple relatable past experiences. This was a fun episode, enjoy!

    How to have a good time shaving the carrot

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 16, 2023 22:04


    Welcome to listen to your heart! Pat is joined by recurring special guest Max Styles owner of Beyond Lifestyles. A sex positive lifestyle group. Today we talk about how to enhance masturbation for men! Enjoy the episode!

    Friendships! How to leave dead ones and find new ones

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 9, 2023 38:15


    Welcome to episode 52 of Listen to your heart! Pat is back with life coach Jenny Lee! They talk about friendships and how to make new ones and let go of ones that are dead.

    Pats solo episode: Singlehood

    Play Episode Listen Later May 5, 2023 10:47


    Welcome to another addition of Pat's solo episode! Episode 51! Today we will talk about singlehood and how to embrace it! Most people these days are married and have kids but what about the people who are single and have no kids? Pat shares some experiences of singlehood and embracing it. Pat is taking a couple weeks off from podcasting and coming back later in the month! Enjoy the short epsiode!

    Pat's solo episode: Break ups: how to go from being sad to your happiest!

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 21, 2023 13:47


    Break ups.. The down side of being in love but how you can go from being the saddest to the happiest you'll ever be! Welcome to episode 50! Pat talks about his past experiences with his break ups and how he ended up being very happy while being single. Now ready for his next relationship, this is an episode you'll like to listen to! Enjoy!

    Pat's solo episode: Chasing vs pursuing

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 7, 2023 13:49


    Welcome to episode 49 of Listen to your heart! Pat gives an update on his love life and talking about chasing vs pursuing. Enjoy the short episode!

    Good and bad first date ideas

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 24, 2023 55:21


    Welcome to episode 48 of Listen to your heart! Today I am joined by life coach Jenny Lee. We talk about good and bad ideas for a first date. Shockingly going out to dinner for a first date is one of the worst ideas you can do for a first date! Enjoy the show!

    Rom com review: When Harry Met Sally

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 17, 2023 38:13


    Welcome to episode 47 of listen to your heart! Today Pat and Erin talk about rom com classic When Harry Met Sally. Do you think a man and a woman can be friends and not be sexually attracted to each other?

    The rise of lonely single men

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 24, 2023 11:34


    Pat's solo episode today is about a controversial topic. The rise of single lonely men. He reads from an article about this topic gives some examples from past experiences. Also explains what lonely single men can do to get out of being lonely.

    Movie review: Flipped

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 3, 2023 51:42


    Welcome to episode 46 of Listen to your heart! Erin also know as @audichic on instagram joins Pat as we talk about rom com Flipped a movie about first love. Pat and Erin talk about some things about their past on how it's relatable to the movie. This was another great episode Pat and Erin recorded!

    Things that men do that creep women out!

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 27, 2023 29:09


    Welcome to episode 45 of Listen to your heart! Today Pat is joined by dating coach Lloyd otherwise known as “A Single Guy”. In todays world there are things men do intentionally and unintentionally that creep women out. Lloyd joins Pat as they talk about some points that creep women out and ways to avoid it. Enjoy the show!

    Dating trends of 2023!

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 13, 2023 38:53


    Welcome to episode 44 of Listen to your heart! Carla and Pat recap how the holiday season went for them. Pat shares some news for a career he wants to go for. Listen in as both Pat and Carla share some very interesting dating trends coming this year! Enjoy the show!

    Rejection..

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 16, 2022 32:14


    In today's episode Carla and Pat talk about rejection and previous experiences. Rejection for dating is never easy but there are right and wrong ways you can deal with rejection. This was a fun episode to record. Happy holidays listeners!

    Movie review: Love Actually

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 9, 2022 57:03


    In today's episode Erin Scott joins Pat in reviewing rom com classic Love Actually! Since it's almost Christmas Erin wanted to do this movie review. Also for the fact the director said recently the movie wasn't diverse enough. Pat and Erin also give an update on their dating life, Listen in as we discuss this classic rom com.

    Finding out what Onlyfans is about!

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 2, 2022 39:16


    In today's porn world there is a big difference between studio porn and homemade porn. Sweet Margs otherwise known as @101firstdates on TikTok talks about what got her into doing only fans. A site dedicated to self love and homemade porn. Sweet Margs has many TikTok profiles and only fans so Pat and Carla ask her some interesting questions about why she got into it. Of course Carla and Pat are both interested in this type of business.

    Cuffing season is upon us!

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 25, 2022 35:53


    On today's episode of Listen to Your Heart, Erin joins Pat again to discuss "Cuffing Season." As the Northeast weather starts to get colder, cuffing could be the best way to heat things up! Never heard of cuffing? Trust us, you want to know more! Tune in to this can't-miss episode packed with personal stories and some great tips for spicing up your life this holiday season.

    Pats sound off: Not desperate and happy with that

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 18, 2022 6:07


    Pat goes off on a sound off epsidoe of why I'm not desperate for a relationship and happy with it. Also briefly talks about a situationship he just entered in. Sharks can sense blood in the water just like women can sense a man being desperate for a relationship. Short episode enjoy!

    Dating when on vacation when you're single

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 4, 2022 38:14


    On episode 39 of Listen to your heart Pat and Carla talk about Pat's new dating idea when you are single called “dating when you are on vacation” they catch up for what they did for Halloween. Pat talks about his recent trip he went on to his hometown and it felt different than his past visits. He talks about a vacation date he went on. In today's world single doesn't have to suck when you go on trips. Maybe going out with a local could be a fun experience. Carla and Pat briefly talk about period sex. We talk about vacation dating and trips and tricks for having a fun safe experience.

    Online dating red flags!

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 28, 2022 47:08


    Today on episode 38, Pat is again joined by Erin as they discuss the phenomenon that is today's world of online dating. While options can feel extensive and overwhelming, the upside is that red flags are becoming easier to spot. This episode is a must listen because you won't want to miss out on some of the hosts' crazy "red flag" encounters!

    Pat's sound off: not chasing

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 21, 2022 5:38


    Pat goes off on a solo episode of how he's not chasing and just figuring out what he wants in his life. Letting the right one find him.

    I just got ghosted… ah man!

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 7, 2022 38:21


    On episode 37 of Listen to you Heartless features Pat and Carla's thoughts on one of the most dreaded aspects of dating...being ghosted! They'll discuss the reasons some people do it, the impact it can have on those seeking a new relationship, and reveal their own experiences with the harsh reality of being left in the dark.

    Pat's sound off: Not settling

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 30, 2022 5:43


    Short episode of a rant Pat went on. Even though there are a lot of women who want or have kids. (Baby fever) Pat doesn't want to settle for a life he doesn't want. Also for the month of October he won't be dating and won't try.

    Reviewing Crazy stupid love!

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 23, 2022 57:19


    On today's episode of Listen to Your Heart, Pat is joined by his new co-host Erin Scott (no relation to Michael, sadly) as they discuss the 2011 classic Crazy, Stupid, Love. They'll also dive into their current dating lives and wind up on a few wild tangents! And for any single listeners, tune in for Erin's advice on how to dress for a first date. P.s., give yourself bonus points if you can guess how many times the word "Lindhagen" is said!

    Masturdating!

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 16, 2022 30:32


    On episode 35 of Listen To Your Heart Carla and Pat talk about Masturdating! Pat describes what it's like to be a masturdater and how he knew he liked masturdating. Also on how to masturdate you wouldn't want to miss this episode!

    Talking about Happy Madison Rom Coms!

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 2, 2022 45:36


    Welcome to episode 34! In today's episode Carla and Pat talk about Happy Madison rom coms since we both love watching Adam Sandler and watching rom coms.Pat and Carla gives an update on their love lives. They talked about their favorite lines and characters from the movies. In a couple weeks Carla and Pat will talk about masturdating. (No that's not a typo)

    The good guy VS the nice guy

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 26, 2022 40:52


    Episode 33! Returning special guest Erin or otherwise known as Audiochic on instagram. Joins me for this episode of breaking down the difference between the good guy and the nice guy. We also cover if you feel like you are a nice guy what to do about it and change it. Enjoy the episode!

    Gaslighting!

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 19, 2022 40:07


    Welcome to episode 32 of Listen to your heart! After doing a month of Rom Com reviews Carla and Pat catch up with each other show their summer has been going. Pat opens up about his vasectomy he got done recently. For today's episode they talk about gas lighting aka victim blaming. As we talk an article about gas lighting from psychologytoday.com. And the reason behind gas lighting. Carla will be back in a couple weeks as her and Pat talk about Rom Coms by Adam Sandler.

    Movie review: 50 First Dates

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 22, 2022 32:11


    On today's episode, Pat and Carla deep dive into some exciting trips they've been on lately. While Carla went to New Orleans to attend a Swingers Convention Pat visited Pittsburgh for their famous Picklefest. They'll also be reviewing the 2004 rom-com "50 First Dates", specifically discussing and comparing a variety of some other iconic Adam Sandler films. Stay tuned for some more upcoming movie reviews with exciting surprise guests!

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