Brown Girls Do It Too

After six incredible seasons of sex chat (and so much more!), Poppy and Rubina bring the curtain down on Brown Girls Do It Too. They share their highlights, what the podcast has meant to them and read emotional letters to each other – expect a few tears. Thank you for listening to the podcast and sharing your dilemmas with the Shagony Aunties. If you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

FYI: It's an Indian braid, not a French braid! Poppy and Rubina dissect the hair on their head... and everywhere else! Why is there an expectation to remove it, how can brown girls embrace their hair and why can hair be political?Have a message for Poppy and Rubina? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.ukIf you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

Poppy and Rubina are joined by artist and composer Bishi to talk fluidity and what it actually means. They also delve into conversation about how the use of words like 'queer' and 'sexuality' have changed over the years and how they see themselves now.Have a message for Poppy and Rubina? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.ukIf you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

Kate Moss once said 'nothing tastes as good as skinny feels'. She was wrong. So why do Poppy and Rubina even care about their weight? And are they the only ones?From growing up surrounded by food as a love language to women's post-partum bodies to the awful inner voice that says you're never enough, there are so many ways in which women are made to feel bad about themselves and Poppy and Rubina have had enough! Why are we like this even when we know it's wrong? Poppy and Rubina chew the fat on why skinny is such a preoccupation for them both.Have a message for Poppy and Rubina? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.ukIf you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

How do you define an icon? Are icons always iconic? Can you do iconic things but not be an icon?Comedian Sindhu Vee joins Poppy and Rubina for International Women's Day to discuss. Sindhu discusses the women who have inspired parts of her personality, Poppy remembers the moment she saw her mum in a completely different light and Rubina is sceptical about the whole icons thing.Have a message for Poppy and Rubina? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.ukIf you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

How do you want to be remembered? Do you have a will ready? What kind of funeral do you want? Poppy and Rubina are unpacking death and why is it almost as taboo as sex to talk about? Poppy and Rubina both have very different experiences with death with Rubina growing up as a volunteer in the death community at Mosque whereas Poppy has only been to two funerals in her life however they both agree in that it needs to be spoken about more so here we are! Have a message for Poppy and Rubina? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.ukIf you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

Emmy-nominated actress Radhika Apte joins Poppy and Rubina to talk about their biggest acts of rebellion and whether it's actually just them living life on their own terms. They chat about owning their decisions, being labelled as 'difficult' and whether they should have listened to their parents all along and become doctors. Radhika has starred in some hugely-success films and risen to fame for her gritty roles and brilliant portrayal of complex characters in movies like Pad Man, Lust Stories and Sister Midnight.Have a message for Poppy and Rubina? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.ukIf you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

Poppy and Rubina are joined by content creator Salwa Aziz and actress Anoushka Chadha to talk about the heartbreak of a friendship ending. Does it hurt more than when a partner breaks up with you? Can you ever get closure? They dissect the ins and outs of friendships and why we should all start dating our friends... not in that way!Have a message for Poppy and Rubina? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.ukIf you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

Ever wondered what the fishy smell is down there? Poppy and Rubina are joined by Dr Ravina to learn about vaginal health, how to keep it 'clean' and bust some popular myths. Have a message for Poppy and Rubina? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.ukIf you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

Poppy and Rubina are back for season 6 of Brown Girls Do It Too and as always, they've got a few things to say! As Rubina returns as a mum of two and Poppy finds herself in love, they're catching up as they do best but also dissecting the word sacrifice: is it a good thing, how much is too much and what regrets do they have?Have a message for Poppy and Rubina? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.ukIf you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

Does sex get better with age? Poppy and Rubina are joined by mythologist and storyteller, Seema Anand, who has sex advice from the ancient texts for all people, young and old.Have a message for Poppy and Rubina? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.ukIf you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

Poppy and Rubina are joined by Los-Angeles creative Joty Kay to talk about her handbook in making partners hate you, getting over heartbreak and how to deal with exes.Have a message for Poppy and Rubina? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.ukIf you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

Poppy and Rubina are joined by Brown Girl royalty, Jameela Jamil, to discuss many things: like, how to have good sex, how your body image impacts your libido and the concept of being a “Girl's Girl”.What makes someone a “Girl's Girl”? Who decides who makes the cut? And does Jameela consider herself one?Jameela first caught Poppy and Rubina's attention while presenting T4, she was the cool and aloof girl everyone wanted to be - and now she's the cool and not-so-aloof Hollywood star everyone wants to be. Why was she, in her own words, a misogynistic slut-shamer? And how did she grow from her mistakes?Have a message for Poppy and Rubina? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.ukIf you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

What makes a girl a woman? When does it happen? Poppy and Rubina are joined by actress Charithra Chandran to discuss girlhood, aging, maternal influences and finding "the one".Most people know Charithra for playing the elegant Edwina Sharma in Netflix's Bridgerton. Since then, she has made her West End debut in one-woman play Instructions For A Teenage Armageddon - a show about a misfit 17 year-old girl grappling with grief and everyday adolescent challenges and featured in a show on Amazon Prime. Have a message for Poppy and Rubina? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.uk If you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

Poppy is joined by author and founder of Dope Black Dads to talk about fatherhood and the social, economic and emotional impact it has on men. They also discuss the changing role of men in society, the concept of 'fear parenting' and Marvyn flips the script by asking Poppy a question about her own father.Have a message for Poppy? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.uk. If you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

Poppy is joined by documentary and filmmaker Mobeen Azhar dissect what it means to be a 'real man' and define masculinity. The delve into whether the definition is problematic, who actually gets to define masculinity and what does the future look like? Have a message for Poppy? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.uk. If you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

Poppy is joined by producer, curator and TV personality Ryan Lanji to talk about queer brown love, embracing all aspects of being a 'hot mess' and what his red, green and amber flag are when it comes to dating. Have a message for Poppy? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.uk. If you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

What is Big Boy Energy? Poppy is about to find out and is joined by comedian and podcaster Shabaz Ali, aka Shabaz Says, to talk about internet theories about love and relationships, and their experiences with their communities. Have a message for Poppy? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.uk. If you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

Poppy is joined by comedian and writer Kae Kurd to talk about guy code and brotherhood - what does modern masculinity look like, is there too much pressure on men and would you lie for your friend if they cheated. There's a lot to unpack. Have a message for Poppy? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.uk. If you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

Poppy is joined by actor and model Ramzan Miah to talk about beauty standards - are they too high, are brown boys seen as attractive and are there enough brown heartthrobs on screen. Ramzan believes times are changing and gives us a new version of tall, dark and handsome. Have a message for Poppy? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.uk. If you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

Poppy is joined by content creator and podcaster Wajeeh West to talk all about mummy's boys - do they still exist, what defines a mummy's boy and who is responsible for creating them. It's a fiery one!Have a message for Poppy? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822.Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.uk. If you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

What is Big Boy Energy? Poppy is about to find out and is joined by comedian and actor Asim Chaudhry, famously known for his role as Chabuddy G in People Just Do Nothing. They talk about first loves in the playground, the concept of marriage, brown boys and whether men cheat more than women. Have a message for Poppy? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.uk. If you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

Since the beginning of time, women have been treated as the more mysterious sex but can anyone really claim to understand the hearts, minds and other parts of men? Poppy Jay is on a mission to delve deep into the minds of what men want, what they really think and finally get some answers. What Big Boy Energy? We're about to find out! Have a message for Poppy? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.uk. If you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

In Rubina's last episode before maternity leave, she and Poppy celebrate their mothers. What do they wish they could tell them? How have they shaped them as women? And what sort of mother will Rubina be to her grown up children?Have a message for Poppy and Rubina? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.uk. Anger and all other emotions are welcomed!If you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

No awkward topic is ever off-limits on Brown Girls Do It Too so in this episode Poppy and Rubina get into a conversation about racism. They discuss what being British means to them, dealing with heightened racial tensions and how much has changed since their parents came to this country in the 1970's. Have a message for Poppy and Rubina? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.uk. Anger and all other emotions are welcomed!If you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

Poppy and Rubina are joined by content creator Ayamé to talk feminine allure, how some women have mastered the art of being mysterious and why do some people find the chase to be so thrilling? They also talk about the opposite of being a 'trad wife'! Have a message for Poppy and Rubina? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.uk. Anger and all other emotions are welcomed!If you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

Poppy & Rubina on anger, angry sex, female rage, male rage, brown girl rage- a lot of rage, basically. Is anger always a bad thing? How do we express it in a healthy/constructive way?Have a message for Poppy and Rubina? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.uk. Anger and all other emotions are welcomed!If you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

Flirting: how does one get it right? And what happens when it goes wrong? Munveer Jabbal has learnt a thing or two about flirting this summer, mostly AFTER leaving the Love Island Villa. Is he any better at it than Poppy and Rubina though?Have a message for Poppy and Rubina or a new online trend that you want them to try? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.ukIf you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

Poppy and Rubina dissect the latest online trend - rawdogging! What does it mean, why are so many men attempting it and could they do it?Have a message for Poppy and Rubina or a new online trend that you want them to try? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.ukIf you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

What's the difference between loneliness and being alone? When is it good to be lonely? And what happens when Poppy and Rubina are left alone with their own thoughts?If you ever feel lonely, BGDIT is always here for you. If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.ukIf you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

Is chivalry still important or is it an out-of-date concept? Does Taha see himself as a bad boy? What exactly is a naked cuddle? Bollywood actor Taha Shah Badussha who starred in the hit Netflix show Heeramandi joins Poppy and Rubina to talk about dating as a 'realistic romantic', how chivalry is important in all relationships and what Taha's love language is. Have a message for Poppy and Rubina? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.ukIf you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

What goes into happy and successful long term relationships? Does being a realist take away from romance or is it a protection method? Is it ever too late to leave a relationship? Poppy and Rubina talk about the long-term relationships they've been in over the years and how they've shaped them as women today.Have a message for Poppy and Rubina? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.ukIf you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

How do you know what's right for you: to become a parent or to take the road less travelled? Is one choice more fulfilling than the other? And why do any of us have to justify our choices anyway?In this episode, Poppy & Rubina discuss motherhood, childlessness and whether any of it is really a choice.Have a message for Poppy and Rubina? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.ukIf you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

Priya Sohanpal is a Punjabi Sikh (& Dom Fem) icon who's stealing the show in BBC Three's I Kissed A Girl. In this episode, she joins Poppy and Rubina to discuss kissing: how important is the first kiss? Where do they like to be kissed (other than the lips?) and can you fix a bad kisser? Also, are queer women better kissers? They also chat labels, relationship drama and representation.Have a message for Poppy and Rubina? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.ukIf you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

Comedian, Henry Rowley, joins Poppy & Rubina to discuss the importance of humour in sex.What's more important for a relationship: sexual chemistry or laughter? And what's harder to get back once lost? Henry is a comedian who rose to fame with viral TikTok characters, like Minty and Hugo. He learns three important things in the episode, including the shape of a duck's penis.Have a message for Poppy and Rubina? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.ukIf you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

Poppy and Rubina are joined by beauty influencer Anchal Seda and founder of sustainable fashion brand Eshita Kabra to talk about fashion, style and beauty. Anchal and Eshita have both carved spaces for themselves in the fashion and beauty industry so bring their many years of living and breathing in this field to Brown Girls Do It Too. They discuss dress codes at wedding (Eshita had four different themes!), whether they dress for themselves or men and what the most expensive item of clothing is in their wardrobe. Have a message for Poppy and Rubina? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.ukIf you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

Poppy and Rubina are joined by comedian Fatiha El-Ghorri to talk about one thing they definitely got from their ancestors: intergenerational trauma and discuss remembering the smiles of their mothers as opposed to their scars. If anything discussed in this episode impacts you, there are great resources available on bbc.co.uk/ActionLine. Have a message for Poppy and Rubina? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.ukIf you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

Poppy & Rubina are joined by Nas Majeed & Dev Bajwa to discussing dating, love & sex - from the perspectives of straight, brown boys.Nas & Dev are both recently single. How should they approach today's dating scene?Poppy & Rubina ask them: is there too much pressure on boys? Do they prefer to pay on the first date? Are they worried about giving someone the ick? And how do they know when to make a move?Have a message for Poppy and Rubina? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.ukIf you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

Money: it's a topic most people struggle to talk about openly.Zing Tsjeng joins Poppy & Rubina to talk all things finance.How much do we spend to get ready for sex? Who should pay on a first date? And how do you split finances in a relationship?Have a message for Poppy and Rubina? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.ukIf you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

Comedians Grace Campbell & Chris Hall join Poppy & Rubina to discuss sex mistakes and mishaps. Are some regrets inevitable? And why do some of us make the same mistakes over and over again?Lessons learned include: always use protection; check if the guy you're hitting on is dating your best friend; sometimes the night bus IS better than a stranger's bed, and... not everyone fancies you but that's okay.Have a message for Poppy and Rubina? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.ukIf you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

Cuddling? Talking? Assessing the bed sheets? What is the perfect sex aftercare package? Poppy and Rubina delve deep into the often overlooked but important aspect of caring for your partner after sex. They talk about what they rate and slate when it comes to aftercare and how that differs when you're in a long-term relationship or casually hooking up. Have a message for Poppy and Rubina? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.ukIf you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5

Dangerous messaging or innocent, aesthetic fun?Poppy & Rubina unpack the Trad Wife internet trend with Reliable Sauce hosts and BBC journalists, Jonelle & Kirsty. What is a Trad Wife? Would any of them ever be tempted to live that way? How important is financial independence to modern women? And is Rubina too obsessed with Nara Smith?Have a message for Poppy and Rubina? If you're over 16, you can message the BGDIT team via WhatsApp for free on 07968100822. Or email us at browngirlsdoittoo@bbc.co.ukIf you're in the UK, for more BBC podcasts listen on BBC Sounds: bbc.in/3UjecF5