Home Fires

On this final episode of Season 4, Jenni and Abigail do their best to tackle your poignant questions about a myriad of topics. We really needed another hour or two! On a personal note from me (Abigail), thank you for listening this season and bearing with the change of host and having only me on for interviews! Thank you for being gracious and rolling with the changes, despite missing Tilly. And many thanks to Jenni for stepping in so cheerfully. God has been kind! I hope this season blessed and edified you in the Lord. I'm not sure what the next season holds or who might be in your earbuds, but for now we'll just say, "As the Lord wills!" Until next time, keep those Home Fires burning.

On this final episode of Season 4, Jenni and Abigail do their best to tackle your poignant questions about a myriad of topics. We really needed another hour or two! On a personal note from me (Abigail), thank you for listening this season and bearing with the change of host and having only me on for interviews! Thank you for being gracious and rolling with the changes, despite missing Tilly. And many thanks to Jenni for stepping in so cheerfully. God has been kind! I hope this season blessed and edified you in the Lord. I'm not sure what the next season holds or who might be in your earbuds, but for now we'll just say, "As the Lord wills!" Until next time, keep those Home Fires burning.

Abigail welcomes Rosaria Butterfield back to Home Fires to discuss her new book, Five Lies of our Anti-Christian Age. Rather than begin at the beginning of her book, we begin at the end, starting with the Lie #5: Modesty Is an Outdated Burden That Serves Male Dominance and Holds Women Back, then work our way backwards. As you would expect, Rosaria pulls no punches--she is as clear, direct, and forthright as anyone I've ever met, and I love her for it. I hope you will, too. Listening to Rosaria should be a potent reminder to Chistians everywhere that you can't love people if you aren't willing to tell them the truth. For too long evangelicals have believed that they could simply pretend the enemies of God were their friends, and have, perhaps unwittingly, lost the opportunity to actually love their enemies with the truth. Let Rosaria's unwillingness to pretend or play games with the truth of God's Word blow some clean Gospel air into your lungs.

Abigail welcomes Rosaria Butterfield back to Home Fires to discuss her new book, Five Lies of our Anti-Christian Age. Rather than begin at the beginning of her book, we begin at the end, starting with the Lie #5: Modesty Is an Outdated Burden That Serves Male Dominance and Holds Women Back, then work our way backwards. As you would expect, Rosaria pulls no punches--she is as clear, direct, and forthright as anyone I've ever met, and I love her for it. I hope you will, too. Listening to Rosaria should be a potent reminder to Chistians everywhere that you can't love people if you aren't willing to tell them the truth. For too long evangelicals have believed that they could simply pretend the enemies of God were their friends, and have, perhaps unwittingly, lost the opportunity to actually love their enemies with the truth. Let Rosaria's unwillingness to pretend or play games with the truth of God's Word blow some clean Gospel air into your lungs.   

One question that has come up several times this season from listeners is some variation of: do you have any advice for parenting teens? Another frequent question is: do you have any advice for moms of young children? The good news is that being a godly and faithful mother of teens starts when your children are little. The two questions really can't be pulled apart. In this episode Abigail and Jenni work through a recent talk Abigail gave alongside Tom on parenting teens. They talk about the significant changes that happen in your role as a mother as your children grow into young adults and how mothers can help press the wisdom of Christ into the corners of her growing child's life with God's help. Lastly, they look at the tale of two mothers in Scriptures and how these two mothers advised their grown children--one in the worst way imaginable and the other for the good of her daughter.

One question that has come up several times this season from listeners is some variation of: do you have any advice for parenting teens? Another frequent question is: do you have any advice for moms of young children?  The good news is that being a godly and faithful mother of teens starts when your children are little. The two questions really can't be pulled apart. In this episode Abigail and Jenni work through a recent talk Abigail gave alongside Tom on parenting teens. They talk about the significant changes that happen in your role as a mother as your children grow into young adults and how mothers can help press the wisdom of Christ into the corners of her growing child's life with God's help. Lastly, they look at the tale of two mothers in Scriptures and how these two mothers advised their grown children--one in the worst way imaginable and the other for the good of her daughter.   

Abigail welcomes Joe Rigney back to Home Fires to talk about his recent online course called Leadership in An Age of Anxiety. We particularly zoom in on the role of women both for good or for ill in how different communities function, such as the home, the church, friend groups, and more. How do we respond when other people are offended? What do we do with our own reactive feelings when the temperature is rising? Joe points us to the Scriptures for wisdom on how to be women with clarity of mind, stability of soul, and a readiness to act in godly ways through the many crackling, pressure-cooked situations we may find ourselves in.

Abigail welcomes Joe Rigney back to Home Fires to talk about his recent online course called Leadership in An Age of Anxiety. We particularly zoom in on the role of women both for good or for ill in how different communities function, such as the home, the church, friend groups, and more. How do we respond when other people are offended? What do we do with our own reactive feelings when the temperature is rising? Joe points us to the Scriptures for wisdom on how to be women with clarity of mind, stability of soul, and a readiness to act in godly ways through the many crackling, pressure-cooked situations we may find ourselves in.

Christmastime presents a lot of opportunities for shopping! But what's the point of shopping, really? How can we take what is often a wordly grab at materialism and instead shop as Christians--in a way that glorifies God? We explore the heart of generosity that should motivate our shopping and how to avoid the pitfalls of worldliness, asceticism, and buying the false ideologies that some stores sell alongside their products. We hope this episode encourages you in this Advent season! Whether you have a little or a lot, a big budget or a small one, we pray God will enlarge your heart as you give generously to the people he's given to you. Merry Christmas! Christ has come and he will come again, soon.

Christmastime presents a lot of opportunities for shopping! But what's the point of shopping, really? How can we take what is often a wordly grab at materialism and instead shop as Christians--in a way that glorifies God?  We explore the heart of generosity that should motivate our shopping and how to avoid the pitfalls of worldliness, asceticism, and buying the false ideologies that some stores sell alongside their products.  We hope this episode encourages you in this Advent season! Whether you have a little or a lot, a big budget or a small one, we pray God will enlarge your heart as you give generously to the people he's given to you. Merry Christmas! Christ has come and he will come again, soon. 

There are few authors who so regularly produce content that has its pulse on what normal Christians need to here--either by way of encouragement or rebuke or topic. Kevin DeYoung is one of those writers. In his new book, Impossible Christianity, he again finds a way to address a common problem among Christians--the problem of making Christianity impossible in ways that God never intended it to be. Without in any way lessening the clarion call of Christ to lose everything for his sake, Kevin reminds us of a Savior whose yoke really is easy. I really hope you'll listen in on this conversation and go grab this book. There's no cheap grace in it--only the powerful grace of God to produce joy and good fruit in God's children.

There are few authors who so regularly produce content that has its pulse on what normal Christians need to here--either by way of encouragement or rebuke or topic. Kevin DeYoung is one of those writers.  In his new book, Impossible Christianity, he again finds a way to address a common problem among Christians--the problem of making Christianity impossible in ways that God never intended it to be. Without in any way lessening the clarion call of Christ to lose everything for his sake, Kevin reminds us of a Savior whose yoke really is easy.  I really hope you'll listen in on this conversation and go grab this book. There's no cheap grace in it--only the powerful grace of God to produce joy and good fruit in God's children.

Jenni and Abigail talk all things "education." What is education? Is education even the right word to describe what Christians are supposed to be doing with our children while they're under our instruction and care? What are our duties as mothers when it comes to educating and discipling our children? Join us as we lean on God's word, God's truth, God's grace, and God Himself as the foundation for all real "education." And discover with us that this duty to educate our children in the Lord is not the burden some might have you think--but rather an intensely good labor of love with rewards beyond telling. And don't miss our One Big Thanksgiving prep tip.

Jenni and Abigail talk all things "education." What is education? Is education even the right word to describe what Christians are supposed to be doing with our children while they're under our instruction and care? What are our duties as mothers when it comes to educating and discipling our children?  Join us as we lean on God's word, God's truth, God's grace, and God Himself as the foundation for all real "education." And discover with us that this duty to educate our children in the Lord is not the burden some might have you think--but rather an intensely good labor of love with rewards beyond telling. And don't miss our One Big Thanksgiving prep tip. 

How do we know if something is ugly? How do we know if something is beautiful? Is it all just in the eye of the beholder? Why does it matter? Bekah Merkle helps us think about beauty by turning our thoughts to God's thoughts. And very happily for us, we discover that God has given us a vast and wide array of beauty in his created world to observe and imitate. So, while beauty is objective, it is also wonderfully expressed in in more ways than we have yet to uncover. If you avoid decorating or tend to think you're just not good at it, this may be a great place for you start. Get inspired by thinking about the purpose of decorating and interior design! We don't have to be fancy or showy to truly and beautifully love our people with the inside of our homes.

How do we know if something is ugly? How do we know if something is beautiful? Is it all just in the eye of the beholder? Why does it matter? Bekah Merkle helps us think about beauty by turning our thoughts to God's thoughts. And very happily for us, we discover that God has given us a vast and wide array of beauty in his created world to observe and imitate. So, while beauty is objective, it is also wonderfully expressed in in more ways than we have yet to uncover.  If you avoid decorating or tend to think you're just not good at it, this may be a great place for you start. Get inspired by thinking about the purpose of decorating and interior design! We don't have to be fancy or showy to truly and beautifully love our people with the inside of our homes. 

I'm eager to share this interview with author and pastor Michael Clary about his new book, God's Good Design. Michael shares some of his personal story, his love for the local church, and what prompted him to write this book (spoiler: struggling young women). He also helps us connect how we're made to the Scriptures and to our God-given purpose in life. Join us as we consider what worldly ideas masquerade as enlightenment, when in fact we need to unlearn those false ideas about men and women and learn to see and love the reality of how God has made men and women.   Here's a link to Michael's worthwhile book.  

I’m eager to share this interview with author and pastor Michael Clary about his new book, God’s Good Design. Michael shares some of his personal story, his love for the local church, and what prompted him to write this book (spoiler: struggling young women). He also helps us connect how we’re made to the Scriptures and to our God-given purpose in life. Join us as we consider what worldly ideas masquerade as enlightenment, when in fact we need to unlearn those false ideas about men and women and learn to see and love the reality of how God has made men and women. Here's a link to Michael's worthwhile book.

Today we're mulling over the hurdles and roadblocks to Christian hospitality. What is it that really keeps people from welcoming others in? Is the problem with our homes or with our hearts? Do some people just have the hospitality gene and others don’t? We take a close look––not just at the hurdles––but the great reward of hospitality. It is such a wonderful inheritance from the Lord to get to spend and be spent for others. Don’t miss the huge blessing hospitality is—not just for those receiving it—but especially for the ones offering it. Plus, some bonus insights on downhill skiing.

Today we're mulling over the hurdles and roadblocks to Christian hospitality. What is it that really keeps people from welcoming others in? Is the problem with our homes or with our hearts? Do some people just have the hospitality gene and others don't? We take a close look––not just at the hurdles––but the great reward of hospitality. It is such a wonderful inheritance from the Lord to get to spend and be spent for others. Don't miss the huge blessing hospitality is—not just for those receiving it—but especially for the ones offering it. Plus, some bonus insights on downhill skiing.

With Tilly away caring for a new baby, homeschooling littles, working behind the scenes for a new coffee shop endeavor, and generally tending her actual home fires, Jenni Naselli graciously joins Abigail and agrees to be put in the hot seat for an interview.  Jenni shares how she came to trust Christ as well as the story of how she met and married her husband, Andy. Get ready to absorb some helpful wisdom as you hear how Jenni's parents carefully and tenderly shepherded her through her young adult years. We don't have to do exactly as Jenni's parents did, but we can learn so much from the godly principles they exhibit. 

With Tilly away caring for a new baby, homeschooling littles, working behind the scenes for a new coffee shop endeavor, and generally tending her actual home fires, Jenni Naselli graciously joins Abigail and agrees to be put in the hot seat for an interview. Jenni shares how she came to trust Christ as well as the story of how she met and married her husband, Andy. Get ready to absorb some helpful wisdom as you hear how Jenni's parents carefully and tenderly shepherded her through her young adult years. We don't have to do exactly as Jenni's parents did, but we can learn so much from the godly principles they exhibit.

Tilly and Abigail team up to answer the great questions you all sent in. They talk about raising girls (friendships, dating, reading, and more), friendships with other couples, hospitality practices, dealing with spousal conflict, and pass right over your questions about head coverings and Christian Nationalism. Fun cap to the season!

Tilly and Abigail team up to answer the great questions you all sent in. They talk about raising girls (friendships, dating, reading, and more), friendships with other couples, hospitality practices, dealing with spousal conflict, and pass right over your questions about head coverings and Christian Nationalism. Fun cap to the season!

This week, Megan Basham joins us to talk about the widely supported claim that inside and outside the church, we should "believe all women." Where did this phrase come from? What does it mean? What does it mean for the local church, the local university, the family, and the justice system?

This week, Megan Basham joins us to talk about the widely supported claim that inside and outside the church, we should "believe all women." Where did this phrase come from? What does it mean? What does it mean for the local church, the local university, the family, and the justice system?

Abigail and Tilly talk about the kinds of people we want our children to marry. How did our own experiences shape our desires for the kids? What kind of advice does a mother have to offer her son or daughter as they grow up? How can we help prepare them to be and to choose a godly spouse?

Abigail and Tilly talk about the kinds of people we want our children to marry. How did our own experiences shape our desires for the kids? What kind of advice does a mother have to offer her son or daughter as they grow up? How can we help prepare them to be and to choose a godly spouse?

This week, Greg Morse joins the podcast to talk about the "hard words" of scripture. We read and discuss challenging statements that ask us to make hard choices: to repent or remain in sin, to worship God or worship false gods. Greg's own testimony is an illustration of how the Lord often uses "hard words" to move our hearts and change our lives.

This week, Greg Morse joins the podcast to talk about the "hard words" of scripture. We read and discuss challenging statements that ask us to make hard choices: to repent or remain in sin, to worship God or worship false gods. Greg's own testimony is an illustration of how the Lord often uses "hard words" to move our hearts and change our lives.

Tilly and Abigail cozy up and chat about wisdom. What are some of the companion virtues that run in a pack with wisdom? What are counterfeit forms of wisdom that we see today? (I.e., "deep thoughts" of oversharing Christian writers, pragmatism that is really just worldly wisdom, "humor" that is really just scoffing, etc.)  They also talk about the delights of wisdom, how scripture directs us to ask for it, because it's a gift. Wisdom comes from scripture, but must be mediated through the work of the Holy Spirit.

Tilly and Abigail cozy up and chat about wisdom. What are some of the companion virtues that run in a pack with wisdom? What are counterfeit forms of wisdom that we see today? (I.e., "deep thoughts" of oversharing Christian writers, pragmatism that is really just worldly wisdom, "humor" that is really just scoffing, etc.) They also talk about the delights of wisdom, how scripture directs us to ask for it, because it's a gift. Wisdom comes from scripture, but must be mediated through the work of the Holy Spirit.

Tilly's husband Justin joins the podcast to talk about something he's been trying to train her in for the last ten years: intellectual virtue. How do we become God-honoring thinkers, who are honest, teachable, open to reason, lovers of truth, curious, attentive listeners, just, courageous, studious, and patient? How do we recognize intellectual virtue in other voices that we tune in to? Can we change our minds when the evidence demands that we do so? Can we also protect ourselves from becoming reeds blown by every wind of doctrine? How does this intellectual responsibility fit into the practical life of the mother at home? All questions answered in full by pastor Justin Dillehay and Abigail;) --- Epistemology, W.J. Wood (early chapters referenced in episode) The Wisdom Pyramid, Brett McCracken

Tilly's husband Justin joins the podcast to talk about something he's been trying to train her in for the last ten years: intellectual virtue. How do we become God-honoring thinkers, who are honest, teachable, open to reason, lovers of truth, curious, attentive listeners, just, courageous, studious, and patient? How do we recognize intellectual virtue in other voices that we tune in to? Can we change our minds when the evidence demands that we do so? Can we also protect ourselves from becoming reeds blown by every wind of doctrine? How does this intellectual responsibility fit into the practical life of the mother at home? All questions answered in full by pastor Justin Dillehay and Abigail;) --- Epistemology, W.J. Wood (early chapters referenced in episode) The Wisdom Pyramid, Brett McCracken

This week, we're joined by Jenni Naselli for a relaxed conversation about how our families keep the Advent season. We also touch on the day-after slump, which strikes all and sundry, and the ways to bless others when you're the guest instead of the host. We'll be taking a break for the Christmas season. We'll pick up and finish out Season 3 in the new year! See you then!

This week, we're joined by Jenni Naselli for a relaxed conversation about how our families keep the Advent season. We also touch on the day-after slump, which strikes all and sundry, and the ways to bless others when you're the guest instead of the host. We'll be taking a break for the Christmas season. We'll pick up and finish out Season 3 in the new year! See you then!

Today, Abigail and Tilly talk about how to practice affirmation in the home and in the church. How do you affirm other human people--husband, children, friends, family--without falling into flattery, or even idol worship? Jumping off of Practicing Affirmation by Sam Crabtree, they try to get a handle on how God-centered affirmation can be a tool for building people up and strengthen relationships.

Today, Abigail and Tilly talk about how to practice affirmation in the home and in the church. How do you affirm other human people--husband, children, friends, family--without falling into flattery, or even idol worship? Jumping off of Practicing Affirmation by Sam Crabtree, they try to get a handle on how God-centered affirmation can be a tool for building people up and strengthen relationships.

This week, Joe Rigney joined us on the podcast to talk about parenting. We discussed what it means to show our children the Father's pleasure in them by demonstrating our own fatherly or motherly pleasure. We also chatted about sharing interests with our kids, discipline in an atmosphere of fellowship, and parenting special needs kids. (And Jane Austen?!?)

This week, Joe Rigney joined us on the podcast to talk about parenting. We discussed what it means to show our children the Father's pleasure in them by demonstrating our own fatherly or motherly pleasure. We also chatted about sharing interests with our kids, discipline in an atmosphere of fellowship, and parenting special needs kids. (And Jane Austen?!?)

Abigail and Tilly discuss the human tendency to assume that to abstain from something is more virtuous than to partake in it. They relate this to women in the church bumping up against each other's consciences and practices. Why is it that women often take one another's convictions as a personal challenge? How can we allow iron to sharpen iron without being at the mercy of every suggestion made by another family's personal practices?

Abigail and Tilly discuss the human tendency to assume that to abstain from something is more virtuous than to partake in it. They relate this to women in the church bumping up against each other's consciences and practices. Why is it that women often take one another's convictions as a personal challenge? How can we allow iron to sharpen iron without being at the mercy of every suggestion made by another family's personal practices?

In episode 34, Abigail and Tilly cozy up in separate states again to talk about confession. James 5:16 tells us to confess our sins one to another. What does that mean on the ground? How do we practice the regular confession of sin in our homes and in the church, and what exactly does confession do for us?

In episode 4, Abigail and Tilly cozy up in separate states again to talk about confession. James 5:16 tells us to confess our sins one to another. What does that mean on the ground? How do we practice the regular confession of sin in our homes and in the church, and what exactly does confession do for us? 

Abigail's husband Tom joins the podcast to talk about parenting! He shares wisdom from his years growing into fatherhood. Fathers have the unique responsibility to proclaim godly precepts to their kids and to pursue holiness for themselves and their family, in order to prepare godly offspring.

Abigail's husband Tom joins the podcast to talk about parenting! He shares wisdom from his years growing into fatherhood. Fathers have the unique responsibility to proclaim godly precepts to their kids and to pursue holiness for themselves and their family, in order to prepare godly offspring. 

This week we discuss the sin of sloth. What does the Bible say about the sluggard? What does sloth it look like on the ground? Is it possible for such busy women to even BE slothful? (Hint: yes it is) Fun times discussing the sin nobody thinks they struggle with.

This week we discuss the sin of sloth. What does the Bible say about the sluggard? What does sloth it look like on the ground? Is it possible for such busy women to even BE slothful? (Hint: yes it is) Fun times discussing the sin nobody thinks they struggle with.

Tilly and Abigail settle down in person in a fourth-floor office of Bethlehem College and Seminary to catch up on life. 10 and 20 year wedding anniversaries, graduating children from high school, new hobbies, new responsibilities, new human beings, and why you shouldn't approach the Bible the way Abigail approaches painting a picture of a mountain... nothing is below our notice in this first episode of Home Fires, Season 3.

Tilly and Abigail settle down in person in a fourth-floor office of Bethlehem College and Seminary to catch up on life. 10 and 20 year wedding anniversaries, graduating children from high school, new hobbies, new responsibilities, new human beings, and why you shouldn't approach the Bible the way Abigail approaches painting a picture of a mountain... nothing is below our notice in this first episode of Home Fires, Season 3. 

Tilly and Abigail close out season 2 by answering as many as possible of all the good questions listeners sent in. They talk about: Keeping a home during the single years, the Enneagram, book recommendations, disagreeing with presumed Christians on major issues, raising daughters to think about homemaking, education, and work, maturing in the faith (if you're already reading your Bible), and truths that get them through the difficult days.