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In this raw solo episode, I'm calling out three pieces of “wellness propaganda” I refuse to follow—sleep training, daycare before age 3, and slathering on chemical sunscreen all day. Expect science-backed research, mom-life honesty, and feminine-first biohacks that protect our babies' nervous systems and our own hormones. If you're a high-achieving mom who's tired of being told to override intuition for convenience, this conversation is for you. DM me the “propaganda” you're ditching on Instagram. I TALK ABOUT: 08:00 – Propaganda #1: Sleep training vs. respecting an infant's circadian rhythm and HPA-axis development 15:10 – Attachment parenting, intuitive nap cues, and why I ditched the Huckleberry tracking app 19:00 – Propaganda #2: Daycare cortisol spikes, behavioral dysregulation, and why grandparent care wins for under-threes 26:40 – Rejecting the 40-hour grind and building a feminine-flow business around motherhood 33:55 – Propaganda #3: Sunlight as a nutrient, mitochondrial biogenesis, and choosing mineral blockers over chemical SPF 40:00 – My go-to zinc sunscreens — One Skin SPF 30 (code: BIOHACKINGBRITTANY) and Think Baby SPF 30 for Callahan SPONSORS: Feel your best with NOVOS—the only supplement targeting all 12 causes of aging. Use code BIOHACKINGBRITTANY for 10% off your first month! RESOURCES: Trying to conceive? Join my Baby Steps Course to optimize your fertility with biohacking. Free gift: Download my hormone-balancing, fertility-boosting chocolate recipe. Explore my luxury retreats and wellness events for women. Shop my faves: Check out my Amazon storefront for wellness essentials. Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters LET'S CONNECT: Instagram, TikTok, Facebook Shop my favorite health products Listen on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, YouTube Music
In this episode, we delve into the insights of Erica Komisar, a licensed clinical social worker, psychoanalyst, and author renowned for her work on the emotional needs of children and the pivotal role of parental presence. With over 30 years of experience in private practice, Erica has become a leading voice in discussions about attachment theory and child development.Erica's perspective emphasises the critical importance of a mother's physical and emotional presence during the first three years of a child's life—a period she identifies as foundational for healthy emotional development. Her book, Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters, explores this concept in depth, offering guidance for parents navigating the complexities of early childhood care.This episode is dedicated to mothers who may feel overwhelmed, questioning, or in need of affirmation. It's a reminder that seeking support and understanding is a strength, and that every parent's journey is valid and deserving of respect.What You'll Learn:The foundational principles of attachment theory and its relevance to early childhood development.Insights from Erica's research on the impact of maternal presence in the first three years.Discussion on the societal pressures faced by modern mothers and how to navigate them.Strategies for building a supportive community and finding balance in parenting roles.Resources:Erica Komisar's WebsiteBeing There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years MattersChicken Little: The Sky Isn't Falling(no affiliate links)Connect with Us:Instagram
Carolina Allen discusses motherhood with Erica Komisar, LCSW and Madeline Wallin from FEFAF and Haro “Free women. Free women from feeling terrorized and imprisoned by the narrative that unless they are a hard driving career woman, making lots of money competing with men out in the world, that they have no value. Free women, and give them permission to embrace instincts that they feel, but society doesn't give them permission to feel.” - Erica Komisar “How can we talk about the future of the world if we can't talk about, and especially in a forum that's supposed to be for women, [if] we are not using the word ‘mother' or ‘family' and we're talking about the future?” - Carolina Allen “We need to use the words more. We need to show motherhood. We need to talk about it so much more and use the correct words. … Nobody exists without the mother!” - Madeline Wallin https://bigoceanwomen.org/our-work/subscribe/ A graduate of Georgetown and Columbia Universities and The New York Freudian Society, Erica is a psychological consultant bringing parenting and work/life workshops to clinics, schools, corporations, and childcare settings, including The Garden House School, Goldman Sachs, Shearman, and Sterling and SWFS Early Childhood Center. Erica Komisar is a clinical social worker, psychoanalyst, parent coach, and author. With 40 years of experience in private practice, she works to alleviate pain in individuals who suffer from depression, anxiety, eating, and other compulsive disorders. By helping them live better lives and have more prosperous, more satisfying relationships, she assists them in achieving their personal and professional goals and living up to their potential. Erica is also the author of the book Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters and has appeared on major media networks such as CBS, ABC, FOX, and NPR. She regularly contributes to the Wall Street Journal, Washington Post, New York Daily News, and FOX 5 NY. She is a Contributing Editor to the Institute for Family Studies. Her second book, Chicken Little The Sky Isn't Falling: Raising Resilient Adolescents in the New Age of Anxiety was released in 2021. Her upcoming book, guiding parents through divorcing healthily, will be released in 2025. She lives in New York City with her husband, optometrist, and social entrepreneur Dr. Jordan Kassalow, with whom she has three teenage and young adult children. Madeleine Wallin is General Secretary of the European Federation of Parents and Caregivers at Home (FEFAF) as well as the International Coordinator and Board Member for Haro: she previously served as President of both organizations. In her work at FEFAF and Haro, she advocates freedom of choice and equality for parents in Swedish family politics and wants to raise awareness about children's needs and the importance of motherhood. She has been interviewed by and written articles for many magazines, newspapers, and international media including the Wall Street Journal and the BBC. She is a mother of five children between 22 and 36 years of age. She lives in Hyssna, in the countryside close to Gothenburg in Sweden with her husband. Together they founded Malwa Forest AB, a business that manufactures and sells small forestry machines. Madeline is currently one of the owners and a member of the board. Carolina Allen is the founder and leader of Big Ocean Women, the international maternal feminist organization representing perspectives of faith, family, and motherhood throughout civil society. Carolina holds a B.A. in philosophy from the University of Utah with an emphasis in cultural religions and philosophy of science. Her inspirational and philosophical work has been presented at various international U.N. conferences. She is a native of Brazil, and a fluent trilingual. She and her husband Kawika are parents to 7 children. She is an avid soccer fan and had a brief career as a semi-professional player.
Erica Komisar tells her pressured New York City patients that their children have a universal, brain-based, irreducible need: their parents, mainly, mom. How to balance this need with career and personal fulfillment? We have to talk! Turns out that being there for babies benefits the parents tooAdditional resources: Komisar, Erica. Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters. 2017www.komisar.comattachmentcircles.orgInstagram and X: @ ericakomisar
Is the modern parenting playbook failing us?In this powerful and thought-provoking episode of UNLOCKED, Krista Franks sits down with psychoanalyst and author Erica Komisar, a bold voice challenging how society is raising its children—and what it's doing to our mental health.Erica unpacks the myths we've been sold about motherhood, resilience, and career ambition—and reveals the neurological consequences of early childhood stress, emotional neglect, and fractured family dynamics.Whether you're a parent, future parent, leader, or simply someone trying to live with more intention, this conversation will shift your perspective—and maybe even change how you live.Episode Summary02:45 - Why parents today are exhausted and overwhelmed 03:13 - The myth of “having it all” and the cost of two full-time jobs 07:50 - Lifestyle inflation and how children become the collateral 10:20 - Why you *can* have it all—but not all at once 14:30 - Erica's career decisions and choosing work that fits family 18:45 - Babies are NOT resilient: the science of early brain development 21:40 - How parenting literally wires the brain—for life 25:45 - What if I missed the first 3 years? Can you repair it? 28:20 - What are we *really* aiming for as parents? 30:25 - The truth behind the “quality time” myth 34:00 - Defining what it *actually* means to give your kids a good life 36:15 - Divorce, narcissism, and raising kids in two homes 40:45 - Erica's final thoughts on intentional parenting 42:20 - Where to find Erica and her upcoming work About Erica KomisarErica Komisar, LCSW is a clinical social worker, psychoanalyst, and parent guidance expert with over 30 years of private practice experience in New York City. A graduate of Georgetown University, Columbia University, and the New York Freudian Society, Erica brings her expertise to parenting workshops across clinics, schools, corporations, and childcare settings.She is a regular contributor to The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, and The New York Daily News, and serves as a Contributing Editor at the Institute for Family Studies. Erica also appears regularly on Fox & Friends and Fox 5 News.She is the author of two books:
Incorporating Biblical prayer into fasting with triple board certified OB-GYN and functional medicine Dr. Tabatha Barber joining Trending with Timmerie. (1:19) Dr. Barber answers questions on: fasting while nursing and pregnancy and carnivore. (16:42) The boys crisis – “Adolescence” ranked number one in the US and Globally right now on Netflix. (29:41) Resources mentioned : Book: Fast to Faith https://amzn.to/41Fj3G4 Intermittent Fasting Guide: https://fasttofaith.com/intermittent-fasting-guide/# Previous episode with Dr. Tabatha Barber about fasting: https://omny.fm/shows/trending-with-timmerie-catholic-principles-applied/fasting-health-benefits-faith Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Years Matter: https://www.amazon.com/Being-There-Prioritizing-Motherhood-Matters/dp/0143109294
In this episode, I had an enlightening conversation with Erica Komisar, a psychoanalyst and author of Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters. Erica shared her extensive research on the critical importance of a mother's physical and emotional presence in the early years of a child's life. We discussed the myths surrounding "quality time," the detrimental effects of daycare, and the cultural shifts that have led parents to prioritize careers over their children. Erika emphasized the unique roles of mothers and fathers, the long-term impact of early childhood experiences, and offered practical advice for parents who may have made common mistakes. This episode is a deep dive into understanding how to raise emotionally resilient and well-adjusted children in today's fast-paced world. Timestamps: 00:00:0O - Introduction to Erika Komisar 00:01:36 - Lies About Raising Babies 00:08:05 - The Stress of Modern Parenting 00:40:08 - Issues with Daycare 00:42:49 - ADHD and Fear 00:43:08 - Reversing ADHD MY Go Big Podcasting Courses Are Here! Purchase Go Big Podcasting and learn to start, monetize, and grow your own podcast. USE CODE: Cyber10 for 10% OFF **SHOP my Amazon Marketplace - especially if you're looking to get geared-up to start your own Podcast!!!** https://www.amazon.com/shop/thesarahfrasershow Show is sponsored by: Amazfit.com/tsfs are the best, most affordable, and long-lasting performance watches! Use code TSFS for 10% OFF HometownHero.com for the BEST CBD and THC products that support Veterans, and use code TSFS to take 20% off your first purchase Horizonfibroids.com get rid of those nasty fibroids JunesJourney download the free game in the app store, find clues and solves mysteries with this fun game. LittleSaints.com use code TSFS for 20% off your first order, these are my FAV non-alcoholic cocktails, enjoy better sleep, less stress, and more! MeetFabric.com/TSFS join the thousands of parents who trust Fabric to help protect their family. Apply today in just minutes Nutrafol.com use code TSFS for FREE shipping and $10 off your subscription Prolonlife.com/tsfs 15% off sitewide plus a $40 bonus gift when you subscribe to their 5-Day Nutrition Program! ● Try their detox that has REAL FOOD and WORKS! Rula.com/tsfs to get started today. That's R-U-L-A dot com slash tsfs for convenient therapy that's covered by insurance. Quince.com/tsfs for FREE shipping on your order and 365 day returns Follow me on Instagram/Tiktok: @thesarahfrasershow ***Visit our Sub-Reddit: reddit.com/r/thesarahfrasershow for ALL things The Sarah Fraser Show!!!*** Advertise on The Sarah Fraser Show: thesarahfrasershow@gmail.com Got a juicy gossip TIP from your favorite TLC or Bravo show? Email: thesarahfrasershow@gmail.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
I dive into the reality of balancing work and motherhood, the science of heart rate variability (HRV) tracking, and the signs of postpartum depression, anxiety, and OCD. As a new mom, I share my personal experiences, research-backed insights, and practical strategies for optimizing health and mental well-being during this phase of life. Want your question answered in a future episode? Send me a DM on Instagram! I TALK ABOUT: 06:00 – Redefining balance as a working mom and why perfect balance is a myth 09:40 – Adapting work-life balance strategies as a new mom 17:45 – The reality of work-life balance and being present with your child 23:10 – Understanding HRV, why it matters, and how to track it 26:50 – The link between HRV and longevity, mental health, and stress resilience 27:58 – Practical ways to improve HRV 29:10 – The signs and symptoms of postpartum depression, anxiety, and OCD 31:00 – The underestimated challenges of postpartum life 45:40 – How traveling and getting out of town helps mental health during postpartum 49:00 – Supplements, self-care, and mental offloading strategies for postpartum wellness 51:40 – The importance of social connections and therapy during motherhood SPONSORS: Join me at the Health Optimization Summit USA 2025 in Austin, Texas! Use my code BIOHACKINGBRITTANY for an extra 10% off your tickets. Grab your tickets at hosummit.com/brittany. Your smile deserves a glycerin-free and fluoride-free toothpaste from Wellnesse. Use my link to get 12% OFF. RESOURCES: Optimize your preconception health by joining my Baby Steps Course today! Optimize your preconception health and fertility through my free hormone balancing, fertility boosting chocolate recipe! Download it now! My Amazon storefront The book: Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters HRV Trackers: Oura Ring, WHOOP, Garmin, Ultra Human Ring LET'S CONNECT: Instagram, TikTok, Facebook Shop my favorite health products Listen on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, YouTube Music
How to Raise Healthy & Resilient Children with Erica Komisar What inspired her to write her book ‘Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters'. (1:54) The first 3 years are the first CRITICAL period of brain development. (4:52) Various attachment disorders. (10:33) Defining ‘learned helplessness'. (13:35) The myths that children need daycare. (15:15) Sleep with your children. (18:18) Why little boys are more sensitive. (21:07) Social-emotional development has to proceed with cognitive development. (24:59) Regulating toughness and aggression. (28:24) Mothers are the love objects of attachment, and fathers are the love objects of separation. (32:13) Advocating for the importance of paid leave. (34:37) The lost instinct. (37:53) The causes of postpartum. (43:53) Breastfeeding is best. (47:55) The birthing effects on attachment. (51:49) What can fathers do in the first three years to support? (54:46) Young children benefit from being talked to. (57:14) The greatest gift you can give your children. (59:15) Can you repair attachment issues from the first three years? (1:00:07) In adolescence, you have a second chance. (1:01:45) The importance of the friends your kids choose. (1:04:12) The impact of technology. (1:07:19) Are children's tantrums a reflection of the parents? (1:14:16) Gentle separation process. (1:16:47) Building the foundation of resilience. (1:18:45) Related Links/Products Mentioned Visit Seed for an exclusive offer for Mind Pump listeners! **Promo code 25MINDPUMP at checkout for 25% off your first month's supply of Seed's DS-01® Daily Synbiotic** January Promotion: New Year's Resolutions Special Offers (New to Weightlifting Bundle | Body Transformation Bundle | New Year Extreme Intensity Bundle | Body Transformation Bundle 2.0 ** Savings up to $350! ** Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters How ‘alloparenting' can be a less isolating way to raise kids Learned Helplessness: Seligman's Theory of Depression Lamarck, Evolution, and the Inheritance of Acquired Characters How Do Genes Sway the Sensitivity or Resilience of a Child? Oxytocin produces more engaged fathers and more responsive infants CDC: One in Five Kids Lives with a Mental Health Issue - NAMI Primary Maternal Preoccupation - Oxford Academic Brain templates for Chinese babies from newborn to three months of age Homepage - Mister Rogers' Neighborhood Australia bans social media for children under 16 | AP News Mind Pump Podcast – YouTube Mind Pump Free Resources Featured Guest Erica Komisar, LCSW (@ericakomisar) Instagram Website
In today's episode of Dates, Mates, and Babies with the Vallottons, hosts Jason and Lauren Vallotton sit down with renowned psychoanalyst and author Erica Komisar to explore the profound challenges and rewards of parenting. Erica, a licensed clinical social worker (LCSW), brings years of expertise in child development and the psychological aspects of motherhood and fatherhood. She has authored two insightful books:Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years MattersChicken Little: The Sky Isn't FallingIn this conversation, Erica highlights the crucial role emotional attachment plays in a child's development, particularly during the first three years. She discusses the importance of both mothers and fathers being present and emotionally available, as well as how societal pressures and guilt impact the way mothers show up for their families.What You'll Learn in This Episode:The key ingredients for building a healthy attachment with your child, particularly in the first three years.Insights from Erica's book Being There on the lasting impact of maternal presence during a child's formative years.Why father involvement is just as crucial as mothers in raising emotionally resilient children.How to address societal pressures, guilt, and the overwhelming demands placed on mothers today.The importance of staying engaged with your children throughout adolescence, even when they seem to need you less.About Erica Komisar:Erica Komisar is a licensed clinical social worker and psychoanalyst with extensive experience working in child development and parenting. She has authored two influential books, Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters and Chicken Little: The Sky Isn't Falling. Her work emphasizes the emotional and psychological needs of children, focusing on the vital role parents play in shaping their children's emotional well-being. Erica's expertise has made her a sought-after speaker and resource for parents looking to navigate the challenges of raising children in today's world.Where to Find Erica Komisar:She's on Instagram. @ericakomisar To learn more about Erica's work and upcoming events, visit her official website.PatreonIf you've enjoyed this podcast, would you consider financially supporting the show? Every donation, big and small, helps the Vallottons continue to prioritize making this content for you. Click this link to support! Thank you!For information on the Intensive and other resources, go to jasonandlaurenvallotton.com !Connect with Lauren:InstagramFacebookConnect with Jason:Jay's InstagramJay's FacebookBraveCo Instagramwww.braveco.org
“We have devalued and deprioritized mothering to the extent that young people today do not want to have children and if they do, they do not want to care for them," says social worker, psychoanalyst, and author Erica Komisar. In this episode of THINQ Podcast, Erica speaks about the mental health epidemic among kids and pinpoints the two things that are causing kids to break down: 1) How we're raising our children and 2) What we're exposing them to. She specifically speaks to the significance of mothers and the important physical and mental health foundation a mother gives her children during the ages 0-3 and again at ages 9-25. She also points to the profound ramifications of technology and social media on our children. Listen in to hear what solutions Erica proposes to help parents turn things around… Resources: Check out Erica's book Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters andChicken Little the Sky Isn't Falling: Raising Resilient Adolescents in the New Age of Anxiety. Create a free THINQ Account to access more trusted content like this on topics from all channels of culture at thinqmedia.com. Attend THINQ events where you can gather with like-minded leaders, ask better questions and have conversations that lead to wisdom: Host Faithfulness in our Political Moment in your local community on October 3, 2024. Register for Next Gen Summit, November 8-9, 2024 in Nashville. Bring the 28-Day Digital Fast to your family, church or workplace throughout the month of January. More from the THINQ Podcast Network: The InFormed Parent with Suzanne Phillips NextUp with Grant Skeldon NeuroFaith with Curt Thompson UnderCurrent with Gabe Lyons
This episode was recorded on Jan 30th, 2024. Erica Komisar is a clinical social worker, psychoanalyst, and parent guidance expert who has been in private practice in New York City for over 30 years. A graduate of Georgetown and Columbia Universities and The New York Freudian Society, Ms. Komisar is a psychological consultant bringing parenting workshops to clinics, schools, corporations, and childcare settings. She is a contributor to The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post and The New York Daily News. She is also a Contributing Editor to The Institute for Family Studies and appears regularly on Fox and Friends and Fox 5 News. Erica is the author of Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters and Chicken Little the Sky Isn't Falling: Raising Resilient Adolescents in the New Age of Anxiety. Find more from Erica: Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters: https://www.amazon.com/Being-There-Prioritizing-Motherhood-Matters/dp/0143109294/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1509479701&sr=8-1&keywords=Erica+Komisar Chicken Little The Sky Isn't Falling: Raising Resilient Adolescents in the New Age of Anxiety: https://www.ericakomisar.com/chicken-little Connect with me: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tammy.m.peterson Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TammyPetersonPodcast TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tammypetersonpodcast Twitter: https://twitter.com/Tammy1Peterson Rumble: https://rumble.com/c/TammyPetersonPodcast
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Continuing the series of big life announcements, Faithful Freedom host Teryn Gregson reveals she'll be leaving the show to pour herself into motherhood as her and her husband prepare to welcome their third child, while simultaneously building their homestead. She announces her next chapter involves Driving Disciples ministry work and her new book, “The Only Like That Matters Is God's: Using The Bible To Transform Your Life On Social Media.” Diving into the story behind the book and bible study, she talks about moving the publication date back for the birth of their child, how she wrote it back in 2020 and why she thinks the book's subject of how to consume and operate on social media from a biblical worldview is so important for teens, young women and parents today. She also reveals what bible study she is doing currently, Erica Komisar's book “Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters” that has impacted her most lately and more of what she's picking up from the library right now.The opinions expressed by our show guests are their own, and are not necessarily shared by We The Patriots USA. However, we value free speech and will always fight to protect it! We The Patriots USA does not endorse or recommend any product or service advertised on this program. We The Patriots USA is not a healthcare provider and cannot provide medical advice or treatment.About Teryn's New Book: https://teryngregson.com/bookPre-order the book: https://amzn.to/3StVJq1Teryn's Golf & Bible Study Ministry: https://drivingdisciples.org/Watch and share our latest documentary go to ShotDead.orgJoin the fight to get justice for the victims by making a donation by visiting www.wethepatriotsusa.orgReceive Legal Updates via the We The Patriots USA newsletter: https://wethepatriotsusa.org/news-updates/Subscribe to listen to the podcast:iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/faithful-freedom-with-teryn-gregson/id1598602749Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6dKsn0JqtNJfarUUVYuv5v?si=a810d53643fb4017Rumble: https://rumble.com/WeThePatriotsUSA
In today's episode, I spoke with Erica Komisar about her best-selling book 'Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters'. We started with a quick mention of Erica's recent speech at the Alliance for Responsible Citizenship (ARC) Conference organized by Jordan Peterson, where she spoke about the importance of a mother's love, presence, and emotional attunement in the first three years of a child's life.Erica brought us into her world of attachment, child development, and psychoanalysis, and she explained why the maternal instinct is not 'a ploy devised by the patriarchy to keep women at home' - rather it is an ancient, in-built biological system, common to all mammals. Human babies are born especially vulnerable compared to other mammals, and they rely on their mother for moment-to-moment emotion regulation. Erica explained how the early attachment relationship between mother and baby affects that child's future attachment security, emotional resilience, and social skills.We spoke about the negative consequences that daycare can have on children's mental and physical health, and why we need to rethink the way we look at daycare - in terms of the length of time a child spends each day in daycare and the age at which they begin. For example, children who went to daycare were shown to have elevated levels of salivary cortisol, a biomarker for stress, that's correlated with the development of diseases of inflammation later on. Erica explains how a toddler's aggressive behavior or constant acting out is often their fight-or-flight response to the overwhelming stress of being disconnected from their mothers for extended periods of time.We discussed the difficulties of postpartum depression, how it is often related to a woman being emotionally disconnected and uninterested in her baby, and why so many women are suffering from postpartum depression these days.We also gave a shout out to dads, highlighting the tremendous role that a father has in his child's development. We spoke about how mothers and fathers parent differently, why these differences are important, and why both roles are necessary. For instance - fathers are especially important for regulating a child's aggression, enforcing boundaries, and facilitating the child's gradual separation from the mother through rough-and-tumble play.Lastly, we spoke about the important achievements of second wave feminism - and where we each thought the movement went wrong. We discussed the paradox of a feminist movement that fought for women's right to be just like men - while devaluing femininity as such. Erica and I hope to see the pendulum swing back into a more balanced direction! One where women can have it all, just in different ways at different times.I would love to hear your thoughts on the topics we raised today - did you agree or disagree? Do you have any questions for Erica that you'd like us to explore in a future episode? Share your thoughts in the comments below
Children are experiencing unprecedented levels of anxiety. Dr. Erica Komisar, a psychoanalyst and author, discusses the critical role of parental well-being in promoting children's mental health. Erica emphasizes the profound impact of early attachment and the importance of parents being emotionally present during the crucial first three years of a child's life. Her expertise and insights underscore the need for parents to prioritize their own emotional well-being in order to support their children effectively. If you're looking to raise resilient and mentally healthy kids in today's digital age, then this is a must-listen. In this episode, you will learn about: The Power of Attachment: Rooted in the undeniable fact, healthy attachment lays the groundwork for essential feelings of safety and trust that are crucial for your child's mental health. The Influence of Technology: The lure of overstimulating technology and its addictive nature can often outrun children's and adolescents' emotional regulation capabilities, leading to potential emotional breakdowns. Discover how to limit the harmful exposure and effects to set your kids up for success. Healthy Boundaries: By establishing healthy boundaries you not only safeguard your children's mental health but also model self-care, fostering a family environment that promotes resilience, stability, and emotional health. Today's Guest Erica Komisar LCSW is a clinical social worker, psychoanalyst, and parent guidance expert who has been in private practice in New York City for over 30 years. A graduate of Georgetown and Columbia Universities and The New York Freudian Society, Ms. Komisar is a psychological consultant bringing parenting workshops to clinics, schools, corporations, and childcare settings. She is a contributor to The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post and The New York Daily News. She is also a Contributing Editor to The Institute for Family Studies and appears regularly on Fox and Friends and Fox 5 News. Erica is the author of Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters and Chicken Little the Sky Isn't Falling: Raising Resilient Adolescents in the New Age of Anxiety. Our Sponsors Masimo Stork Masimo Stork is a revolutionary new baby monitor. To learn more, go to masimostork.com Green Chef The #1 Meal Kit for Eating well. Go to greenchef.com/60drmeg and use code 60drmeg to get 60% off plus 20% off your next two months. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode, we challenge the conventional wisdom surrounding the development of children and explore the impact of daycare on their early years.Renowned clinical psychoanalyst and social worker, Erica Komisar, joins us from New York City to share her expertise. Author of "Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters" and "Chicken Little The Sky Isn't Falling: Raising Resilient Adolescents in the New Age of Anxiety," Komisar sheds light on the importance of maternal presence and its role in neurological development during the formative years.As we discuss the societal pressure on mothers to enroll their children in daycare for socialization, we confront the common belief that mothers alone may not be sufficient for a child's optimal development. Komisar addresses this dilemma, drawing on her extensive research and experiences, and explores the impact of daycare on children compared to playdates with other moms. Additionally, the episode touches on the alarming rise in personality disorders, particularly in young women, and ADHD.Tune in to season 2 of "What Should I Tell my Daughter?" revamped as "Psychobabble" for an eye-opening discussion that challenges preconceptions and explores the intricate factors contributing to the mental health crisis in the Western world. Don't miss out—subscribe now and share this episode with your friends for an engaging exploration of the cultural trends influencing our children's well-being.Watch Psychobabble on Youtube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZlHNlu2CVjcPy9sA8iBHkQCheck out the work of Erica Komisar:https://www.ericakomisar.com/Visit our website and subscribe to join the Psychobabble journey:https://hannahspier.substack.com/p/what-should-i-tell-my-daughter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Get full access to Psychobabble at hannahspier.substack.com/subscribe
This episode was going to be apart of my part-time NP series, but the episode was just too good to put behind a paywall. Subscribers stay tuned for specific content for you coming out next week! This week I spoke with Erica Komisar who is a clinical social worker, psychoanalyst, parent coach, and author. With 30 years of experience in private practice, she works to alleviate pain in individuals who suffer from depression, anxiety, eating, and other compulsive disorders. By helping them live better lives and have richer, more satisfying relationships, she assists them in achieving their personal and professional goals and living up to their potential. A graduate of Georgetown and Columbia Universities and The New York Freudian Society, Erica is a psychological consultant bringing parenting and work/life workshops to clinics, schools, corporations, and childcare settings including The Garden House School, Goldman Sachs, Shearman, and Sterling and SWFS Early Childhood Center. Erica is also the author of the book Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters and has appeared on major media networks such as CBS, ABC, FOX, and NPR. She is a regular contributor to the Wall Street Journal, Washington Post, New York Daily News, and FOX 5 NY. She is a Contributing Editor to the Institute for Family Studies. Her upcoming book, Chicken Little The Sky Isn't Falling: Raising Resilient Adolescents in the New Age of Anxiety will be released in Fall 2021. She lives in New York City with her husband, optometrist, and social entrepreneur Dr. Jordan Kassalow with whom she has three teenage and young adult children. https://www.ericakomisar.com/ Doctor Nurse Podcast Links: Check out the DNP blog for more information on side hustles: https://doctornursepodcast.com/blog Doctor Nurse Podcast YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCYQYlS9d6m7HyMK7Z1BI5DA Doctor Nurse Podcast IG: https://www.instagram.com/DoctorNursePodcast Doctor Nurse Podcast Website: http://www.doctornursepodcast.com Doctor Nurse Podcast Email: doctornursepodcast@gmail.com SuccessNPs.com is our official and newly launched website for all things SucessNP! Get your clinical rotation booklets. Be sure to follow us on IG...I'm not going to lie- We are pretty funny :) https://www.instagram.com/successnps/ Share this podcast with a nurse friend: Subscribe to exclusive Doctor Nurse Content for only $4.99 a month!! Support the podcast and hear content to help you grow in your career. https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedoctornursepodcast/subscribe
If you're a parent of tweens or teens, you've probably wondered about the difference between “typical” teen angst—that is, normal worries, fears, and struggles associated with adolescence—and when there's a deeper issue that might require talk therapy (or possibly, medication). Today, psychoanalyst and clinical social worker Erica Komisar joins us to share her experience and knowledge from more than 30 years in private practice. Hear what she has to say about identifying teens' challenges and struggles, when to seek outside help, how to provide support at home, and the best circumstances to have deeper conversations with your teen. Listen as Dr. Amy, Teri, and Erica discuss everything from boundaries and flexibility to brain development and how parents can serve as the emotional regulators for their teens as they navigate the transition to adulthood.ABOUT ERICA KOMISAR: Erica Komisar is a clinical social worker, psychoanalyst, and parent guidance expert who has been in private practice in New York City for over 30 years. A graduate of Georgetown and Columbia universities and the New York Freudian Society, she is a psychological consultant bringing parenting workshops to clinics, schools, corporations, and childcare settings. She is a contributor to the Wall Street Journal, the Washington Post, and the New York Daily News. She is also a contributing editor to the Institute for Family Studies and appears regular on Fox and Friends and Fox 5 News. Erica is the author of “Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters” and “Chicken Little the Sky Isn't Falling: Raising Resilient Adolescents in the New Age of Anxiety.” CONNECT WITH ERICA KOMISAR:• website: www.ericakomisar.com• Facebook: @EricaKomisarLCSW• LinkedIn: @EricaKomisar• Twitter/X: @EricaKomisarCSW CONNECT WITH US Website: www.TheBrainyMoms.com Email: info@TheBrainyMoms.com Social Media: @TheBrainyMoms Dr. Amy's website: www.AmyMoorePhD.comSponsor's website: www.LearningRx.com
Our guest today, Erica Komisar certainly thinks so. She believes that mothers in particular should spend significant time being present with their children in the first three years of life - quitting their jobs if necessary. To say that this topic is complex is an understatement, and it may lead to strong feelings on both sides of the conversation. As we value the opportunity to engage with experts who share differing perspectives, next week we'll be bringing you an episode with Vivvi daycare founder Ben Newton who will present an alternate view, so be sure to listen to both episodes back-to-back for the full story.More on Erica Komisar: ERICA KOMISAR, is a clinical social worker, psychoanalyst, and parent guidance expert who has been in private practice in New York City for over 30 years. A graduate of Georgetown and Columbia Universities and The New York Freudian Society, Ms. Komisar is a psychological consultant bringing parenting workshops to clinics, schools, corporations, and childcare settings. Erica is the author of Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters and Chicken Little the Sky Isn't Falling: Raising Resilient Adolescents in the New Age of Anxiety.Resources:nosillyquestionspodcast.comhttps://www.instagram.com/nosillyquestionspodcast/
Did you know the first 1000 days of a baby's life are critical for developing secure attachment? Erica Komisar is a clinical social worker, psychoanalyst, parent coach, and author of the book Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters. Her advice to moms? Be open to making a change to prioritize time with your children - and that doesn't necessarily mean that you have to quit work.In this episode, Erica and Liz discuss the difference between secure and insecure attachment, the root causes of ADHD, the myth of socialization, and why "being there" matters most.In This Episode: Erica Komisar Website | Instagram | Books | Facebook- - - - - - - - - - -Liz Durham Instagram | WebsiteSubscribe Apple Podcast | SpotifyBeing Different with Liz Durham is a Palm Tree Pod Co. production
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Erica Komisar, psychoanalyst and author of “Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters”, joins Trending with Timmerie to discuss: What social science says about why moms matter most to their children. (2:00) and Why being physically and emotionally present to your child is important and how to do it. (16:27) How a husband's career choices impact the family: Tom Brady & Gisele (37:21) How a father can talk to his teen daughter about birth control (47:54). Resources mentioned : https://www.ericakomisar.com/ Book: Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters https://www.amazon.com/Being-There-Prioritizing-Motherhood-Matters/dp/0143109294 Book: Good Enough Parent https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/13207/good-enough-parent-by-bruno-bettelheim/ Podcast on Tom Brady & Gisele Book: The Happy Girl's Guide to Being Whole https://www.lumenpress.org/product/the-happy-girls-guide-to-being-whole/
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Erica Komisar, psychoanalyst and author of “Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters”, joins Trending with Timmerie to discuss: What social science says about why moms matter most to their children. (2:00) and Why being physically and emotionally present to your child is important and how to do it. (16:27) How a husband's career choices impact the family: Tom Brady & Gisele (37:21) How a father can talk to his teen daughter about birth control (47:54). Resources mentioned : https://www.ericakomisar.com/ Book: Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters https://www.amazon.com/Being-There-Prioritizing-Motherhood-Matters/dp/0143109294 Book: Good Enough Parent https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/13207/good-enough-parent-by-bruno-bettelheim/ Podcast on Tom Brady & Gisele Book: The Happy Girl's Guide to Being Whole https://www.lumenpress.org/product/the-happy-girls-guide-to-being-whole/
ADHD IS A RESPONSE TO STRESS is a powerful episode with renowned NYC psychoanalyst Erica Komisar. Erica is also a parent guidance expert and author of Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters as well as her most recent book ‘Chicken Little the Sky Isn't Falling: Raising Resilient Adolescents in the New Age of Anxiety.' Erica is a psychological consultant who brings parenting and work/life workshops to clinics, schools, corporations, and childcare settings including The Garden House School, Goldman Sachs, Shearman, and Sterling and SWFS Early Childhood Center and she has appeared on major media networks such as CBS, ABC, FOX, and NPR. She is a regular contributor to the Wall Street Journal, Washington Post, New York Daily News, and FOX 5 NY as well as a Contributing Editor to the Institute for Family Studies. Erica and I talked about ADHD over diagnosis, over-medication, the possible real causes of ADHD behaviors and the theory that ADHD is a response to stress in our environment... For more information on Erica, please visit https://www.ericakomisar.com To purchase Erica's latest book, got to https://www.amazon.com/Chicken-Little-Sky-Isnt-Falling/dp/0757324002/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2SLOD8FQD64TQ&keywords=erica+komisar&qid=1640034022&sprefix=erica+komisa%2Caps%2C340&sr=8-1 Erica's infamous Fox & Friends appearance I mentioned during this episode: https://video.foxnews.com/v/6011977753001#sp=show-clips For more information on our podcast, go to www.adhdisover.com
Join us for the latest episode of The Hamilton Review Podcast! In this conversation, Dr. Bob has a great discussion with three time returning guest, Erica Komisar! Erica is Clinical Social Worker, Psychoanalyst and author of "Chicken Little the Sky Isn't Falling." Dr. Bob and Erica discuss her new book which addresses the mental health crisis in adolescence today as well as great advice for parents on how to handle it all. Erica has a wealth of knowledge and is at the top of her field - don't miss this important discussion and share with a friend! ERICA KOMISAR, LCSW is a clinical social worker, psychoanalyst, and parent guidance expert who has been in private practice in New York City for over 30 years. A graduate of Georgetown and Columbia Universities and The New York Freudian Society, Ms. Komisar is a psychological consultant bringing parenting workshops to clinics, schools, corporations, and childcare settings. She is a contributor to The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post and The New York Daily News. She is also a Contributing Editor to The Institute for Family Studies and appears regularly on Fox and Friends and Fox 5 News. Erica is the author of Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters and Chicken Little the Sky Isn;t Falling: Raising Resilient Adolescents in the New Age of Anxiety. How to contact Erica: Erica Komisar's website Erica Komisar on Instagram Erica's YouTube Channel Erica on Twitter Erica on Facebook How to contact Dr. Bob: Dr. Bob on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChztMVtPCLJkiXvv7H5tpDQ Dr. Bob on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drroberthamilton/ Dr. Bob on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/bob.hamilton.1656 Dr. Bob's Seven Secrets Of The Newborn website: https://7secretsofthenewborn.com/ Dr. Bob's website: https://roberthamiltonmd.com/ Pacific Ocean Pediatrics: http://www.pacificoceanpediatrics.com/ Dr. Bob's website: https://roberthamiltonmd.com/ Pacific Ocean Pediatrics: http://www.pacificoceanpediatrics.com/
"To be able to contain, withstand and hold the aggression of your adolescents who push you away, you have to feel very secure - meaning that you have to feel pretty good about yourself as a parent, that you have given them everything, that you have been present enough. It comes from a security and I find today that many, many parents are not secure in their feelings that they have given their children enough." Episode Description: We begin with an overview of the stages of adolescence - exploration, declaration, and confirmation. We follow the threads of attachment and separation as they play out across these years. We consider the development of internal voices during this period, those that are benevolent and those that are harsh, as well as the manifestations of authentic and pseudo independence from their families. We discuss talking about sex and paying for good grades. Erica presents a clinical example of a teenager who is struggling and she shares with us some of the difficulties she faced in her own adolescence. We conclude with a glimpse into her third book on the impact of divorce on children. Our Guest: Erica Komisar, LCSW is a clinical social worker, psychoanalyst, and parent guidance expert who has been in private practice in New York City for over 30 years. A graduate of Georgetown and Columbia Universities and The New York Freudian Society, Ms. Komisar is a psychological consultant bringing parenting and work/life workshops to clinics, schools, corporations, and childcare settings. She is a contributor to The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, and The New York Daily News. She is a Contributing Editor to The Institute of Family Studies and appears regularly on Fox and Friends and Fox 5 News. Erica is the author of Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters, and her second book, Chicken Little the Sky Isn't Falling: Raising Resilient Adolescents in the New Age of Anxiety released in October 2021.
ADHD IS A RESPONSE TO STRESS is a powerful episode with renowned NYC psychoanalyst Erica Komisar. Erica is also a parent guidance expert and author of Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters as well as her most recent book ‘Chicken Little the Sky Isn't Falling: Raising Resilient Adolescents in the New Age of Anxiety.' Erica is a psychological consultant who brings parenting and work/life workshops to clinics, schools, corporations, and childcare settings including The Garden House School, Goldman Sachs, Shearman, and Sterling and SWFS Early Childhood Center and she has appeared on major media networks such as CBS, ABC, FOX, and NPR. She is a regular contributor to the Wall Street Journal, Washington Post, New York Daily News, and FOX 5 NY as well as a Contributing Editor to the Institute for Family Studies. Erica and I talked about ADHD over diagnosis, over-medication, the possible real causes of ADHD behaviors and the theory that ADHD is a response to stress in our environment... For more information on Erica, please visit https://www.ericakomisar.com To purchase Erica's latest book, got to https://www.amazon.com/Chicken-Little-Sky-Isnt-Falling/dp/0757324002/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2SLOD8FQD64TQ&keywords=erica+komisar&qid=1640034022&sprefix=erica+komisa%2Caps%2C340&sr=8-1 Erica's infamous Fox & Friends appearance I mentioned during this episode: https://video.foxnews.com/v/6011977753001#sp=show-clips For more information on our podcast, go to www.adhdisover.com
Hi guys, this is the 5th episode in the Calm and Confident Mum summit. In this video Erica shares her scientific knowledge and decades of experience around why teenagers behave the way they do; as well as why Lockdown has given parents another chance to build stronger relationships with their children/teenagers. Erica Komisar, LCSW is a clinical social worker, psychoanalyst, and parent guidance expert who has been in private practice in New York City for over 30 years. A graduate of Georgetown and Columbia University and The Contemporary Freudian Society, Ms. Komisar is a psychological consultant bringing parenting workshops to schools, clinics, corporations, and childcare settings. Erica is also author of the book Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters and has appeared on major media networks such as CBS, ABC, FOX and NPR. She is a regular contributor to the Wall Street Journal, Washington Post, New York Daily News and FOX 5 NY. She is a contributing editor for the Institute for Family Studies.
On this week's episode of SheThinks, we chat with Dr. Erica Komisar about the science behind early childhood development and why institutionalized daycare and preschool are not often the best options for young children — or their parents. Komisar is a clinical social worker, psychoanalyst, parent coach, and author. With 30 years of experience in private practice, she works to alleviate pain from individuals who suffer from depression, anxiety, eating, and other compulsive disorders. She is the author of the book Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters, and Chicken Little The Sky Isn't Falling: Raising Resilient Adolescents in the New Age of Anxiety, which will be released in November 2021.--She Thinks is a podcast for women (and men) who are sick of the spin in today's news cycle and are seeking the truth. Once a week, every week, She Thinks host Beverly Hallberg is joined by guests who cut through the clutter and bring you the facts. You don't have to keep up with policy and politics to understand how issues will impact you and the people you care about most. You just have to keep up with us. We make sure you have the information you need to come to your own conclusions. Because, let's face it, you're in control of your own life and can think for yourself. You can listen to the latest She Thinks episode(s) here or wherever you get your podcasts. Then subscribe, rate, and share with your friends. If you are already caught up and want more, join our online community. Be sure to subscribe to our emails to ensure you're equipped with the facts on the issues you care about most: https://iwf.org/connect. Independent Women's Forum (IWF) believes all issues are women's issues. IWF promotes policies that aren't just well-intended, but actually enhance people's freedoms, opportunities, and choices. IWF doesn't just talk about problems. We identify solutions and take them straight to the playmakers and policy creators. And, as a 501(c)3, IWF educates the public about the most important topics of the day. Check out the Independent Women's Forum website for more information on how policies impact you, your loved ones, and your community: www.iwf.org. Subscribe to IWF's YouTube channel. Follow IWF on social media: - on Twitter- on Facebook- on Instagram#IWF #SheThinks #AllIssuesAreWomensIssues See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Joining Jill Devine this week for the second time on the podcast is Erica Komisar. She was Jill's guest on Episode 37: You Have A Small Window To Make A Huge Difference In The Mental Health and Well Being Of Your Child: Through her research for the book Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters, Erica found at least 1 in 5 children have some form of mental illness. Mothers serve a critical biological function in a babies' brain development. Since that conversation, Erica has written another book, Chicken Little the Sky Isn't Falling: Raising Resilient Adolescents in the New Age of Anxiety. In these times of great stress for kids, resilience is not a given. The epidemic of mental health disorders in adolescents has made parenting even more challenging, but parents can still have an enormous impact on the health and well-being of their child. Chicken Little the Sky Isn't Falling is a comprehensive guide that offers the tools you need as a parent to navigate this tumultuous time of change and create a continuous deep connection with your child. Covering topics including anxiety, depression, ADHD, behavioral issues, addiction to name just a few, it will help readers learn how to help prevent, recognize and address mental health disorders. Ms. Komisar offers compassionate and practical advice to parents on how to help their child with these issues if they occur. In addition to discussing the details of Erica's new book, Jill and Erica also discussed the different types of professional help for children and adolescents. Erica also provided a very important tip about utilizing the low fee referral services at Psychoanalytic Institutes, where you can get therapy for as little as $35 a session. Facebook: www.facebook.com/EricaKomisarLCSW Instagram: @ericakomisar Twitter: @EricaKomisarCSW Two Kids and A Career Website: https://www.jilldevine.com/ Two Kids and A Career Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jilldevine/?hl=en Two Kids and A Career Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JillDevineMedia/ Thank you to our sponsor: Elemental Esthetics
Erica Komisar talks to us about why being there for your children, especially in the first few years of life, is so important. Ms. Komisar is a clinical social worker, psychoanalyst, and parent guidance expert who has been in private practice in New York City for over 30 years. She strives to help parents live more satisfying lives and raise healthier children. A graduate of Georgetown and Columbia Universities and The New York Freudian Society, Ms. Komisar is a psychological consultant bringing parenting and work/life workshops to clinics, schools, corporations, and childcare settings. She is a contributor to The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post and The New York Daily News. Erica is the author of Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters, and is currently finishing a second book on the topic of raising resilient, emotionally secure adolescents in an age of anxiety.
Randy talks to Erica Komisar, author of Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters, Contributing Editor for The Institute for Family Studies, LCSW, psychoanalyst, and parent guidance expert about Institute for Family Studies: Another Reason Birth Rates Are Dropping: We Have Devalued Parenthood. Randy also chats with Greg Willard, SLU Law Professor and Former Attorney for President Gerald Ford about SCOTUS Decisions on ACA and Philadelphia Catholic Church and adoptions. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
"Any separation, no matter how short the separation, requires a moment of reunion and repair. If you disregard the importance of that reunion and repair, collectively that starts to do great injury to that baby. Every time we have those missteps it is really important to repair them." Episode Description: We begin by discussing the centrality of the newborn's experience of attachment and how that connection comes to serve as a foundation for all later attachments. Attachment includes managing separations and Erica describes the parents' vital function of recognizing the ruptures in their infant's sense of safe attachment. She makes common-sense and wise recommendations for how one can facilitate the repair of these ruptures. Central to these repairs is the parents' ability to recognize and tolerate their baby's experiences of loss, sadness, and anger. We discuss the neurochemistry of attachment and how it differs between mothers and fathers. We conclude with Erica sharing with us something of her own growing-up experience and how that has contributed to her devotion to this work. Our Guest: Erica Komisar, LCSW is a clinical social worker, psychoanalyst, and parent guidance expert who has been in private practice in New York City for over 30 years. A graduate of Georgetown and Columbia Universities and The New York Freudian Society, Ms. Komisar is a psychological consultant bringing parenting and work/life workshops to clinics, schools, corporations, and childcare settings. She is a contributor to The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post and The New York Daily News. She is a Contributing Editor to The Institute of Family Studies and appears regularly on Fox and Friends and Fox 5 News. Erica is the author of Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters, and her second book, Chicken Little the Sky Isn't Falling: Raising Resilient Adolescents in the New Age of Anxiety will be released in October 2021 to listen, subscribe and to receive Erica Komisar's Recommended Readings, visit HarveySchwartzMD.com Upcoming Episode: Zen and Psychotherapy with Robert Waldinger, MD
Dr. Tobler speaks with Erica Komisar, LCSW, psychoanalyst, author, and parent guidance expert about how universal child care is not what most parents want—or what children need and about her book, Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters and is a Contributing Editor for The Institute for Family Studies. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Despite the tragedy, suffering and economic losses of COVID, there are silver linings for many families in the current crisis. Recent lockdowns have a bright side for teens. A new survey says they're spending more time with their parents, getting extra sleep, and suffering from lower levels of clinical depression.Our guest, New York psychoanalyst, parent coach, and author Erica Komisar, wrote in The Wall Street Journal "it has taken a pandemic to prove that it's possible to integrate work into our personal lives, as many millions of parents are now working from home. "Everyone wins— maternity-leave advocates who have been fighting for this arrangement for years, employers, mothers and children most of all." In lockdowns, Erica tells us, "children are getting a great deal more of their parents' time and attention and energy than they have previously.' In this episode, we also discuss why the findings of her book, "Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters" challenge both liberals and conservatives. We look at the case for extended paid maternity leave, and the potential emotional costs of daycare for infants and toddlers.Recommendation: Jim is listening to "Missing in Alaska", a podcast by journalist Jon Walczak about a 50-year-old mystery of a plane disappearance. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
About Erica Komisar: Erica Komisar is a licensed clinical social worker, psychoanalyst, and parent guidance expert who has been in private practice in New York City for over 30 years. She's a graduate of Georgetown and Columbia Universities and the New York Freudian Society. Erica is a contributor to the Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, and The New York Daily News. She is the author of a book called Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters and she is currently finishing a second book on the topic of raising resilient emotionally secure adolescents in an age of anxiety. In this episode, Jordan and Erica discuss: Scientific research on how gender differences impact leadership and parenting The impact of the political trend to neutralize differences between genders The importance of balance between aggression and nurturing for leadership Liberal, mainstream and conservative media ignore science when it conflicts with politics Key Takeaways: Women leaders need to express more of their aggression and men more of their nurturance. Healthy aggression is channeled into ambition, competition, self-reliance, protective vigilance, and other traits needed for successful leadership. Oxytocin and testosterone are expressed differently in women and men Proof that motherhood and nurturing are not valued in this country is that there is not an emphasis on paid maternity leave. "The first three years of being emotionally and physically available to your baby lay down the foundation for that child's emotional security for life." — Erica Komisar Connect with Erica Komisar: Email: erica@komisar.com Website: www.komisar.com Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erica-komisar-lcsw-305bb218 Twitter: https://twitter.com/ericakomisarcsw?lang=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/EricaKomisarLCSW/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ericakomisar/?hl=en Book: Being There: Why Prioritising Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters Connect with Jordan: Get a free copy of Jordan's book at www.workplacewarrior.com Website: www.workplacewarriorinc.com Twitter: https://twitter.com/jordangoldrich1 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jordan.goldrich Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jordangoldrich/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jgoldrich/
Depression and anxiety take root in childhood, writes veteran psychoanalyst Erica Komisar. Parents who are concerned about their children's mental health and emotional well-being need to know that early intervention and guidance is the way to prevent early symptoms in children from developing into long-term mental disorders. The way to avoid this? Be there. Not just physically but emotionally. Erica is a parent guidance expert who has been in private practice in New York City for 25 years. She's the author of Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters, which is based on more than two decades of clinical work and breakthrough neurobiological research and challenges the pervasive myths of infant resiliency and the concept of women being able to ‘have it all.' Erica's new book, which will be published in 2021, is about the equally significant value of being there for one's children in the teenage years. Erica's work teaches parents how to raise emotionally healthy children by being as present emotionally and physically as possible from infancy through adolescence. In this podcast episode, she and I discuss why this is vital to children's development and how those whose mothers were not emotionally available can break the cycle. IN THIS EPISODE: 5:00 What devaluing mothering does to children in the short- and long-term, especially when it comes to children learning how to regulate their emotions 7:30 Erica talks about how skin to skin contact regulates a baby's emotions and regulates their stress. She discusses how we expose them to too much stress now because of our lifestyle. ex. going to work , daycare, etc. 8:55 Suzanne talks about the vast priority shift that happens when you become a mother vs. when you are in the working world without children 14:20 Erica and Suzanne talk about how important it is to be on the same page with your spouse about family, motherhood and if you (the woman) will stay home 15:20 Suzanne and Erica talk about “guilt” and how it impacts women and why it's different for men 18:40 Erica explains the “boredom” of early motherhood, what that means, how for many it's related to postpartum depression 21:30 Quality time vs. quantity time and moment to moment nurturing 24:00 Erica talks about how fragile emotionally and neurologically babies are and how different our lives and our family's lives would be if we as a culture understood that 24:50 Erica talks about her new book, coming out next year, and about being an emotionally available parent in adolescence 28:40 What IS an emotionally unavailable mother? 32:10 Erica explains attachment disorders and how babies create “strategies” to emotionally unavailable mother 33:40 Suzanne and Erica discuss how parents today are distracted, preoccupied with themselves and not present 35:25 The alcoholic mother and how alcoholism is a symptom of depression 37:00 Suzanne talks about different forms of depression, including post-divorce depression 40:00 Abandonment issues from childhood stays with you and carries over into your other relationships 43:15 The “absentee mother” 45:15 Erica talks about her counseling practice and what she has seen during COVID-19 49:40 What makes a “good” mother? Sign up for coaching with Suzanne: www.suzannevenker.com/coaching Support Suzanne on Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/thesuzannevenkershow --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Abigail and Tilly talk about being bored while home with young children. Our culture has a preferred solution: outsourced childcare. But what does the boredom actually indicate? Is it necessarily a problem? They jump off by talking about a book by Erica Komisar called Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters.
Abigail and Tilly talk about being bored while home with young children. Our culture has a preferred solution: outsourced childcare. But what does the boredom actually indicate? Is it necessarily a problem? They jump off by talking about a book by Erica Komisar called Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters.
Erica Komisar, LCSW is a clinical social worker, psychoanalyst, and parent guidance expert who has been in private practice in New York City for over 30 years. A graduate of Georgetown and Columbia Universities and The New York Freudian Society, Ms. Komisar is a psychological consultant bringing parenting and work/life workshops to clinics, schools, corporations, and childcare settings including The Garden House School, Goldman Sachs, Shearman and Sterling and SWFS Early Childhood Center. Erica is the author of Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters, and is currently finishing a second book on the topic of adolescence. From Erica: “Depression and anxiety take root in childhood, which is why I see parents and mothers in particular who are concerned about their children’s mental health and emotional well being. I believe in early intervention and guidance as a way to prevent early symptoms in children from developing into long-term mental disorders.” Through her research for the book Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters, Erica found at least 1 in 5 children have some form of mental illness. Mothers serve a critical biological function in a babies’ brain development Jill Devine invited Erica to be a guest on the podcast to discuss Erica’s book, paid maternity leave and the lack of it in the United States of America, the impact of COVID-19 on a child’s well being, and value based conversations on race and racism. You can access more information about Erica and the workshops she provides by visiting her website and her YouTube Channel. Two Kids and A Career Website: https://www.jilldevine.com/ Two Kids and A Career Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jilldevine/?hl=en Two Kids and A Career Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JillDevineMedia/ Thank you to our sponsor: Blondin Professional Real Estate
SUMMARY Bridgett Miller, with almost two decades of experience as a teacher and parent, writes What Young Children Need You to Know: How to See Them So You Know What to Do for Them. Supporting adults to nurture the children in their lives using their heads and their hearts, Miller brings to the table her credentials, including being an authorized Facilitator of the Neufeld Institute and the creator of Look with Love and Parenting with Intention on Facebook and Instagram. In essence, Miller says about children, “What they desire and deserve most is to be in the presence of a caring adult who acknowledges and validates what they are feeling. Most important, they need an adult who stays connected to them in a heartfelt way by resisting the temptation to suppress or judge their behavior in their most vulnerable moments.” In short, children crave a strong and loving connection, and “we keep showing up because we love them.” KEY POINTS Connection – the most important key to good parenting Parental stumbling block – expecting to be on top of our game all the time; antidote – giving ourselves some grace Children’s development is not entirely up to us; Mother Nature helps by working on the inside to help our children mature. Temper tantrums – “gifts in disguise” Young children are incapable of filtering mixed feelings (exercising self-control). Tears show extreme vulnerability, indicating a healthy emotional sense of self. Children live in the moment, so countdown warnings aren’t always helpful, especially because adults often stretch and condense the time for their own benefit. Bedtime – perceived as a time of separation from the people they’re deeply attached to Cellphones – perceived as a competing attachment Interruptions – younger children get in our physical space; older children use words because they can’t hold their thoughts in their mind Light physical contact helps ground children when they’re upset. Parenting (doing) isn’t the same as being with our children. QUOTES FROM MILLER “As Gordon Neufeld often states, your children never feel lost when they are sure of the person who is leading them.” “Emotions need to move…[they] are better out than in, especially when children are very young.” “Attempting to teach a young child something they aren’t yet capable of doing fuels a sense of disconnection between you and your child.” “Every interaction is an invitation to teach and to learn.” “What [children] want most is for you to give them the sense that you ‘get’ them, even when they are struggling to express themselves.” “Parenting can become a daily reminder of the importance of getting to know ourselves better so that we can become more conscious in all of our relationships.” “Parents often have to release the deluded notion that children are here to make us happy and that their behavior needs to be a certain way in order for us to experience the joy of parenting.” “Putting some of our energy into understanding the needs that drive young children’s behaviours and then doing what we can to meet them, will—in the long term—serve us much better than a weekend away at a spa.” “The key to understanding our child is to become very good at observing them and not to cling to the outcome of how we think things need to go.” “The beauty of play is that it teaches…children more than we could ever hope to.” “The children who stir us up and the ones who wake us up…If they’re pushing our buttons, it’s because those buttons need to be pushed.” “One of the greatest unexpected by-products of raising children is the opportunity to grow into the people we’re capable of being.” BUY What Young Children Need You to Know: How to see them so you know what to do for them RECOMMENDATIONS Listen to Nonfiction4Life Episode 15 with Erica Komisar, Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters Listen to Nonfiction4Life Episode 30 with Rebecca Eanes, The Positive Parenting Workbook: An Interactive Guide for Strengthening Emotional Connection Connect with us! Facebook Instagram Twitter YouTube Website Special thanks… Music Credit Sound Editing Credit
In part two of the original conversation, Dr. Bob continues his discussion with Erica Komisar. Erica is a clinical social worker, psychoanalyst and parent guidance expert who has been in private practice in New York City for the last 25 years. Erica is also author of her book, "Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters." A couple of key topics that they discuss: – A mother figure and a father figure is important for children. – The importance of holding and loving your baby. – Acknowledging the loss of divorce. We received wonderful feedback from part one and are excited to bring you part two of this conversation. How to contact Erica: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ericakomisar/ Facebok: https://www.facebook.com/EricaKomisarLCSW/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/ericakomisarcsw?lang=en How to contact Dr. Bob: Dr. Bob on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChztMVtPCLJkiXvv7H5tpDQ Dr. Bob on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drroberthamilton/ Dr. Bob on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/bob.hamilton.1656 Dr. Bob's Seven Secrets Of The Newborn website: https://7secretsofthenewborn.com/ Dr. Bob's website: https://roberthamiltonmd.com/ Pacific Ocean Pediatrics: http://www.pacificoceanpediatrics.com/
"Mothers are biologically important to the right brain development of children in the first three years." A quote from Erica Komisar, a clinical social worker, psychoanalyst and parent guidance expert who has been in private practice in New York City for the last 25 years. Erica is also author of her book, "Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters." Dr. Bob and Erica have an in depth discussion about the importance of a mother's presence in the first years of life, among many other topics. You will not want to miss this powerful discussion. How to contact Erica: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ericakomisar/ Facebok: https://www.facebook.com/EricaKomisarLCSW/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/ericakomisarcsw?lang=en How to contact Dr. Bob: Dr. Bob on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChztMVtPCLJkiXvv7H5tpDQ Dr. Bob on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drroberthamilton/ Dr. Bob on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/bob.hamilton.1656 Dr. Bob's Seven Secrets Of The Newborn website: https://7secretsofthenewborn.com/ Dr. Bob's website: https://roberthamiltonmd.com/ Pacific Ocean Pediatrics: http://www.pacificoceanpediatrics.com/
When was the last time you heard the media support or even acknowledge the fact that mothers are critically important to children in the early years? This is something that used to be understood by most Americans but has been ignored for decades. Fortunately, in recent years brain research has proven what people in the past instinctively knew to be true: that women bring something unique to the table when it comes to caring for children. My guest today is Erica Komisar, a Manhattan psychoanalyst and a fierce advocate for the importance of mothers in the early years of a child's life. Erica has been in private practice for 25 years and is best known in the media for her recent book, Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First 3 Years Matters. Based on more than two decades of clinical work and breakthrough neurobiological research on caregiving, attachments, and brain development, Erica's book challenges myths regarding infant resiliency, as well as the idea that parents can both work full-time and year-round and still meet their babies' needs. We'll also talk with Erica about the pushback she's gotten in the media for writing this bold and important book. Sign up for relationship coaching with Suzanne: https://www.suzannevenker.com/relationship-coaching/ Subscribe to The Suzanne Venker Show: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-suzanne-venker-show/id1471433977 Follow Suzanne on Social Media: https://twitter.com/SuzanneVenker https://www.facebook.com/SuzanneVenkerAuthor/ https://www.instagram.com/suzannevenkerauthor/ Buy Women Who Win at Love or The Alpha Female's Guide to Men & Marriage NOW: https://www.amazon.com/Suzanne-Venker/e/B001K7VY7K%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_share --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Erica Komisar, LCSW, is a clinical social worker, psychoanalyst, parent guidance expert who has been in private family practice in New York City for more 25 years, and author of Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in The First Three Years Matters. In this episode of the Bottom Line Advocator Podcast, Erica joins Bottom Line President Sarah Hiner to discuss and expand on her recently published op-ed for The Wall Street Journal titled “We’re Overmedicating Our Children.” Erica wrote the piece after witnessing the dramatic increase in medicating children for emotional problems (stress response, family issues, trauma, or pressure to achieve). Instead of addressing the underlying issues, she believes that many parents, doctors and practitioners are taking the “easy” solution—silence the symptoms with dangerous medications. How’d we get to this point? And what can we do about it? Listen in as Sarah and Erica get to the bottom of it.
Today we are joined by special guest, Nicole aka Nic ForReel, as we discuss the wisdom of priority. What are the things in life that are most important and what should we focus on more than others? These questions and more will be answered in today's episode as we talk with Nic about her journey from celibrity interviewer and reality TV star to prioritizing motherhood above all else. Our recommended book of the week is Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters by Erica Komisar. Download the FREE audiobook today at http://audibletrial.com/LoveWisdom Theme song written by Jason C. Johnson and Jasmine Harris (Juicy Jazzo). Featuring DeAnna Dixon on the chorus. More music by JC Johnson can be found at www.soundcloud.com/johnsoniantheory/sets/dmvoh-acoustic-sessions. For more from JC Johnson including exclusive music, blog posts, and more visit his website at https://johnsoniantheory.wordpress.com Theme music produced by BenJamin Banger. For exclusive music by BenJamin Banger you can reach him on Instagram: @BenJaminBanger or at his website: http://smarturl.it/hjfi20 Background music produced by Ryan Little, Audio Binger, Daniel Birch, Yung Kartz, and Benjamin Banger. More of their music can be heard on SoundCloud at @danielbirch @iamryanlittle @yungkartz and @benjamin-banger and @audiobinger
We continue this interesting conversation with special guest, Nicole aka Nic ForReel, as we discuss the wisdom of priority. What are the things in life that are most important and what should we focus on more than others? These questions and more will be answered in today's episode as we conclude our conversation with Nic about her journey from celibrity interviewer and reality TV star to prioritizing motherhood above all else. Our recommended book of the week is Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters by Erica Komisar. Download the FREE audiobook today at http://audibletrial.com/LoveWisdom Theme song written by Jason C. Johnson and Jasmine Harris (Juicy Jazzo). Featuring DeAnna Dixon on the chorus. More music by JC Johnson can be found at www.soundcloud.com/johnsoniantheory/sets/dmvoh-acoustic-sessions. For more from JC Johnson including exclusive music, blog posts, and more visit his website at https://johnsoniantheory.wordpress.com Theme music produced by BenJamin Banger. For exclusive music by BenJamin Banger you can reach him on Instagram: @BenJaminBanger or at his website: http://smarturl.it/hjfi20 Background music produced by Ryan Little, Audio Binger, Daniel Birch, Yung Kartz, and Benjamin Banger. More of their music can be heard on SoundCloud at @danielbirch @iamryanlittle @yungkartz and @benjamin-banger and @audiobinger
The age-old question from parents is “How do I ensure my children grow into stable, successful adults?” Erica Komisar, a clinical social worker and parent guidance expert offers tips on this topic in her new book Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters and more in this Episode 25 of Reality Check.
Is motherhood your priority? Are you a working mom who feels guilty about leaving your little one? In this episode, I interview parenting expert and author Erica Komisar. We talk about her book Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters. Links to Website http://www.komisar.com/beingthere.html Quote From This Episode:“Children are not a distraction from more important work. They are the most important work.” – Dr. John Trainer Empowered Mama Book Bonuseswww.empoweredmamabook.com www.fit4mom.com www.fit4momfranchise.com
With mothers being increasingly busy these days, connecting with your kids can be a challenge (to say the least!). Dr. Meeker brings in Erica Komisar, LCSW, to talk about how to establish emotional connections with your kids at an early age to promote emotional health and well-being. Erica is the author of the book Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters, and she’s also a psychoanalyst and parenting coach, making her a perfect interview for this topic! Also in this episode, Dr. Meg gives you her points to ponder to begin using right away, and she answers a question from a grandmother who has a six-year-old granddaughter frightened by kids with special needs. Do you have a question for Dr. Meg? If so, email them to askmeg@megmeekermd.com and she could answer your question in an upcoming episode! 0:00 – AD – GOGO SQUEEZ For a healthy and delicious snack that lets your kids explore, play, and be their best – you’ve got to try GoGo squeeZ. GoGo squeeZ made from one hundred percent, all-natural fruit, with ‘no artificial anything.’ There’s over twenty-five tasty varieties kids will love - and that you can feel great about too. GoGo squeeZ ‘fruit on the go’ pouches. Find them in the applesauce aisle today. 0:42 – AD – LIFE ON THE FAST TRACK PODCAST From Slate in collaboration with Ford comes a new podcast called Life On The Fast Track. Cheer on three girl scouts as they design, build and race wooden cars in the Ford Girls Fast Track Races. You’ll meet their families, use power tools, and hear what happens when girls are empowered to put STEAM principles to the test. Download and subscribe wherever you get your podcasts! 1:39 – WELCOME Dr. Meg introduces the topic “Motherhood and Connecting Better With Your Kids”. She also teases her conversation with Erica Komisar, her points to ponder, and a question from a grandmother who has a six-year-old granddaughter frightened by kids with special needs. 2:56 – POINTS TO PONDER Dr. Meg gives you three points to ponder as you learn more about being present for your kids! 12:39 – PARENTING RESOURCES Dr. Meg understands that talking to your kids about sex is uncomfortable and wants you to have the tools you need to make this conversation easier and more effective. Check out Dr. Meg’s digital toolkit, “How To Have The Talk With Your Child” to get ready for the initial conversation. Go to megmeekermd.com and click on “Parenting Resources” to find out more! 15:22 – A CONVERSATION WITH ERICA KOMISAR (PART 1) Dr. Meg sits down with Erica Komisar to talk about how to be a busy mom, but still be present for your kids. 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In America today, 25 percent of women go back to work less than two weeks after giving birth. Seventy percent of babies under the age of one are regularly cared for by someone other than a parent. When you consider the biological imperative for mothers to be close to their babies -- the indisputable norm for how babies were nourished, nurtured, and protected from potential predators for millennia of human history -- it would appear we are now in the midst of a biological and societal experiment in child-rearing unprecedented in the history of humankind. This experiment hasn’t been without consequences, says Erica Komisar, my guest today and the author of the thought-provoking (and controversial) new book Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters. In it, she explores the critical nature of a mother’s presence in early childhood, and connects the alarming increase in childhood mental disorders over the past 30 years to our society’s absence and devaluation of mothering. Erica is a psychoanalyst, so not surprisingly we unpack a lot in this interview -- from the neuroscience underscoring the pivotal role of motherhood and our time’s misguided focus on gender neutrality, to her thoughts on technology, modern-day alloparenting, and how we can spark the revolution toward a truly child-centric society in the 21st century.
Neil Brennan is a prominent standup comedian, writer, director, actor, and producer. He was the co-creator of Chappelle's Show and was the star of the Netflix special, "3 Mics." Erica Komisar is a psychoanalyst, parent guidance expert, and author with a private practice in New York. She consults for schools, corporations, and other institutions. She is the author of the book, "Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters."
Neil Brennan is a prominent standup comedian, writer, director, actor, and producer. He was the co-creator of Chappelle's Show and was the star of the Netflix special, "3 Mics." Erica Komisar is a psychoanalyst, parent guidance expert, and author with a private practice in New York. She consults for schools, corporations, and other institutions. She is the author of the book, "Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters."
The Christian Outlook – November 11, 2017In the wake of yet another shooting, this time in Texas, Kevin McCullough turns to Max Lucado, who challenges us to have faith instead of fear. Albert Mohler joins Frank Sontag to remind us that moments like this tragedy are signals of eternity and serve as a reminder to cling to The Savior and reaffirm our complete dependence on Him. Arizona Representative Trent Franks and Janet Porter, president of anti-abortion group Faith2Action, share about the “Heartbeat Protection Act of 2017,” better known as the Heartbeat Bill. Albert Mohler shares from Erica Komisar's book: “Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters.” Eric Metaxes invites Christopher Yuan to share his powerful testimony and journey from homosexuality to Christ that will leave you in awe. He also shares the faithfulness of his mom who prayed constantly for his salvation. Yuan is author of “Out of a Far Country A Gay Sons Journey to God. A Broken Mothers Search for Hope.”See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Erica Komisar champions the role of mothers in Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters. As a licensed clinical social worker, psychoanalyst, and parent guidance expert, Komisar sees a strong correlation between absent mothers and children diagnosed with mental disorders such as ADHD, aggression, autism, anxiety, and depression. Her words are a clarion call to society, which has come to devalue mothers and overvalue success, money, achievement, and status. The message is not a political message but rather a human message: mothers are not a luxury to children; they are a necessity. Women are biologically designed to take care of their babies, especially during the first three years. Although this concept is instinctive to many women, Komisar now supports it with research. In addition to citing numerous studies, Komisar includes experiential evidence and sage advice. She aims to teach all mothers how to be more physically and emotionally present for their children while finding ways to feel more joy and peace in their maternal role. Consider just three important takeaways: Mothers act as a baby's central nervous system for the first nine months. During this time, babies are unable to regulate emotions and stress on their own. The good news is mothers are uniquely equipped to comfort constantly, from moment to moment, all day long. As Komisar says, "The capacity to develop in a healthy manner, to regulate stress, to balance emotions, and to feel for another human being begins with mothers." In other words, when present, a mother can neutralize emotions and buffer stress. These moms can expect their children to grow up to be resilient adults. Every absence from a baby needs repairing. Komisar tells us,"The most painful times for young children are the comings and goings of their mothers." When a mother leaves for even a very short time, her baby feels distressed. Knowing this, mothers can choose to be there during times of transition. Her presence is especially important when babies go to sleep and wake up. To avoid too many separations, mothers can choose to keep very young babies physically close. Her touch, eye contact, and voice are all very reassuring, increasing a baby's emotional security. Mothers and fathers are not interchangeable. Although both mothers and fathers produce oxytocin (the love hormone), this chemical produces different responses in males and females. A mother is “bathed” in oxytocin when she delivers a baby and breastfeeds. This causes her to become a more sensitive and empathic nurturer. A father who spends time with his baby also produces increased oxytocin. But the hormone causes him to become more playfully stimulating. He also produces vasopressin. This helps him protect his young, regulate their aggression, and help them separate healthily from their mothers at the right time. BUY Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters More about "Being There" Music Credit Sound Editing Credit
The Cohesive Home Q&YAY is a quick and feisty chat with Melissa and Kate to kick your weekend off right. In this episode, the two answer the question: “As a mom I find it hard to meet other like minded mamas. Do you have any advice on how to make this easier?” Listen to the full episode to hear their answer as well as what they're reading and thinking about this week or read more below: Cohesive Homies Community Groups: sign up online, make some new friends, and build your community! Put yourself out there Approach someone you could see yourself being friends with, but also be open-minded Use your kids' activities to search for like-minded people Don't be afraid to share your story and be vulnerable You will find your people! Kate is reading: "Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters" by Erica Komisar LCSW Melissa is crushing hard on: the entire East Coast. Contact her if you want to help host her visit to your New England hometown! Thank you for listening! We'll be back Tuesday with another full-length episode. In the meantime, follow us on Instagram @cohesive_home and subscribe to updates at cohesivehome.com.
Like winning the lottery, even if it were possible, what are the odds that it would actually happen? When it comes to our child's emotional future, could it be argued that time, biology, nature, and what used to be called common sense all betray the notion that moms can actually do it all and have it all—all at the same time? Erica Komisar, LCSW is a psychoanalyst, parenting coach, and author. She works to ease the burden of those suffering from depression, anxiety, eating disorders, as well as other manifestations of anxiety and compulsion. She recognizes that many of these disorders begin in individuals at a young age, and has put her focus on the mental and emotional well-being of children. She promotes intentional parental interaction early in a child's development and offers workshops to aid parents in becoming more present and better at understanding their child's development. Erica recently released her book Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters. She also recently appeared as a guest on Good Morning America and Fox and Friends to discuss the topics in her book. Why Being an Effective Mother Must Involve Caring for the Mental Health of Your Children Every parent is concerned about their children's physical health. And for believers, of course, there's an even greater concern about their spiritual health. But with the exception of parents raising kids who have experienced some sort of brain trauma or brain malady from birth, “brain care” isn't all that often on the radar, is it? You don't hear a lot of parents talking to one another about how to protect or build their kids' brains; at least I haven't—not in the way I am thinking about it right now. Certainly, kids wearing helmets while they ride their bikes is a big deal today. There's also the recent controversy about if kids should play football six years out of the womb, and things like that. And of course every parent wants their kids to go to school and get good grades. But that is not all we are talking about here. I think there are a lot of things—and we talk about this all the time—that are systemic to today's American culture that are absolutely devastating to, not just our kids' brains, but ours as well. I'm talking about things that the good parents of helmet-wearing, straight “A” students are too often oblivious to. Erica Komisar, LCSW and I discuss caring for the brains of young children as we consider the following topics: What does it mean to be a stay-at-home mom? Why is it important to understand neuroscience with my kids? How to understand a mother's true role. Why you can't have it all as a woman. How outside stimuli impacts us at the cellular level. What does it mean to be a nurturer. Is a career truly more important that being a mother? What role should the father be playing? Picture provided by: Myles Grant (Flickr) [CC BY-SA 2.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/2.0)], via Wikimedia Commons
Like winning the lottery, even if it were possible, what are the odds that it would actually happen? When it comes to our child's emotional future, could it be argued that time, biology, nature, and what used to be called common sense all betray the notion that moms can actually do it all and have it all—all at the same time? Erica Komisar, LCSW is a psychoanalyst, parenting coach, and author. She works to ease the burden of those suffering from depression, anxiety, eating disorders, as well as other manifestations of anxiety and compulsion. She recognizes that many of these disorders begin in individuals at a young age, and has put her focus on the mental and emotional well-being of children. She promotes intentional parental interaction early in a child's development and offers workshops to aid parents in becoming more present and better at understanding their child's development. Erica recently released her book Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters. She also recently appeared as a guest on Good Morning America and Fox and Friends to discuss the topics in her book. Why Being an Effective Mother Must Involve Caring for the Mental Health of Your Children Every parent is concerned about their children's physical health. And for believers, of course, there's an even greater concern about their spiritual health. But with the exception of parents raising kids who have experienced some sort of brain trauma or brain malady from birth, “brain care” isn't all that often on the radar, is it? You don't hear a lot of parents talking to one another about how to protect or build their kids' brains; at least I haven't—not in the way I am thinking about it right now. Certainly, kids wearing helmets while they ride their bikes is a big deal today. There's also the recent controversy about if kids should play football six years out of the womb, and things like that. And of course every parent wants their kids to go to school and get good grades. But that is not all we are talking about here. I think there are a lot of things—and we talk about this all the time—that are systemic to today's American culture that are absolutely devastating to, not just our kids' brains, but ours as well. I'm talking about things that the good parents of helmet-wearing, straight “A” students are too often oblivious to. Erica Komisar, LCSW and I discuss caring for the brains of young children as we consider the following topics: What does it mean to be a stay-at-home mom? Why is it important to understand neuroscience with my kids? How to understand a mother's true role. Why you can't have it all as a woman. How outside stimuli impacts us at the cellular level. What does it mean to be a nurturer. Is a career truly more important that being a mother? What role should the father be playing? Picture provided by: Myles Grant (Flickr) [CC BY-SA 2.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/2.0)], via Wikimedia Commons
True or false? The more physical and emotional presence that a mother has presence has in her child’s life during the first three years, the greater the chances the child will grow up emotionally healthy, secure and resilient. We’ll find out … on this edition of Frank Relationships. The post Frank Relationships: Erica Komisar, LCSW; Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters appeared first on Frank Love on Relationships.
This week on Mom Talk Radio, Loryn Brantz, author of Feminist Baby, shares what it is like writing about feminism and body image. Spotlight on Moms features Nina Obier or NinaObier.com. Erica Kosimer, author of Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters, discusses why she believes mothers are so essential in the first years. M.J. Corcoran, family coach, talks underage drinking. Late-stage college planning specialist, Brad Baldridge, shares common mistakes families make when planning for college.
Kathryn interviews psychoanalyst and parent guidance expert Erica Komisar LCSW, author of “Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters”. Komisar makes a bold-faced point: that both a mother's emotional and physical presence in the first years of her child's life have a monumental impact on a child's ability to grow up emotionally healthy, happy, secure, and resilient. Komisar is featured on Good Morning America, FOX and Friends, ABC News and CBS. Kathryn also interviews financial columnist and equity analyst Chris Versace, author of “Cocktail Investing: Distilling Everyday Noise into Clear Investment Signals for Better Returns”. Versace focuses on the intersection of economics, demographics, psychographics, technology, policy, and more, to help readers build a more profitable portfolio based on what they see everyday rather than following the herd on Wall Street. Versace is a columnist for Business Insider, Forbes, and TheStreet.com.
Kathryn interviews psychoanalyst and parent guidance expert Erica Komisar LCSW, author of “Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters”. Komisar makes a bold-faced point: that both a mother's emotional and physical presence in the first years of her child's life have a monumental impact on a child's ability to grow up emotionally healthy, happy, secure, and resilient. Komisar is featured on Good Morning America, FOX and Friends, ABC News and CBS. Kathryn also interviews financial columnist and equity analyst Chris Versace, author of “Cocktail Investing: Distilling Everyday Noise into Clear Investment Signals for Better Returns”. Versace focuses on the intersection of economics, demographics, psychographics, technology, policy, and more, to help readers build a more profitable portfolio based on what they see everyday rather than following the herd on Wall Street. Versace is a columnist for Business Insider, Forbes, and TheStreet.com.