Out of the Box with Steve and Lorraine

Episode 39 has more encouragement and insight for parenting in this third session of How to be a “Perfect” -NOT- Parent, and Not Loose Your Mind. Dustin and Savannah Box, again give practical examples and tips in parenting as you partner with Holy Spirit. They take an honest look at Self Control vs Other’s Control, ...

What does it look like to partner with Holy Spirit in your parenting – where you are empowered and you empower your children to be all God has designed them to be? In Session 2 of How To Be the Perfect Parent and Not Loose Your Mind, Dustin and Savannah share some key concepts about...

Do you have a passion to parent well? Do you desire to improve on your parenting? The Father designed the family and how family should flow together. He commissioned us to be fruitful and fill the earth… and one of the ways we do this is in family. We can all use more wisdom and...

In Episode 36 Steve and Lorraine talk about relational health and three common myths that keep us from being relationally healthy! Conflict is always a big subject in the context of relationship – is it healthy or unhealthy… where does it come from, and what do you do with it? What about failure – failure...

In this episode, Steve and Lorraine introduce and interview Elizabeth Woning, co-founder of Equipped To Love a ministry designed to educate and encourage the church around the subject of same-sex attraction. Elizabeth brings hope and health to our conversations and attitudes centered around same-sex attraction. She consults with church leaders, parents to offer guidance in loving well,...

Just having celebrated 39 years of marriage, Steve and Lorraine share 39 Tips from 39 Years of Marriage. Here in the show notes are nested links to great resources. We want to highlight the free 3-session parenting resource with notes in Tip # 21. This will be worth it’s weight in gold. Grab it, gather...

Whether its your marriage, your team, your family, or your work environment – strength of connection determines the level of life in those relationships. In this episode Steve and Lorraine continue looking at the life of Nehemiah and provide a blueprint for building strength in relationship. Steve and Lorraine share about taking time to survey...

Whether its your marriage, your team, your family, or your work environment – strength of connection determines the level of life in those relationships. In this episode Steve and Lorraine share a bit about re-calibrating your relationships for strength. We often look past indications that our relationship is at risk and find ways of managing...

Research in marriage and family therapy suggests that approximately 80% of the emotional conflicts between couples is rooted in events that pre-date the couple knowing each other.  Anatomy of the Soul, by Dr. Curt Thompson In Episode 31 Steve and Lorraine revisit implicit memory and talk about what explicit memory is. They share why working...

God wants to use our most intimate relationships as a source of healing! In this episode Steve and Lorraine share a recent encounter that led them to understand more fully the role that our implicit memories play in our current interactions in both marriage and relationship in general. Steve and Lorraine talk about what an...

In Ep 29 we continue with Juan and Beulah Swart, Dream Coaches, and consider the practical aspects of moving forward in activating & unlocking the Dreamer in you. How Do I Dream? Getting Unstuck! and Where Do I Start? Juan and Beulah give us a list of practical questions to activate our dreamers. Our past disappointments and delays...

In Ep #028 we’re talking about Dreaming… the values, the how’s and the why’s of dreaming together… getting unstuck, get moving and working together with God for all that is in Dreaming! In this podcast we chat together with Dream Coaches, Juan and Beulah Swart and draw from their practical journey of what it looks...

In this episode we visit the difficult subject of divorce and remarriage with Robb and Phyllis Burkee, leaders, coaches, and healers. With a personal history of addiction and betrayal, Robb and Phyllis candidly share their journey of brokenness, healing, and finding love again. Having blended two families and five kids, Robb and Phyllis give us...

What is intimacy in marriage and how do we get it? A great question we received from a newly married couple that we want to explore a bit together in this podcast. The subject of intimacy can be a very broad subject because intimacy is about emotional, physical, and spiritual oneness – so we’re going to only touch...

We are excited to post this message and release it in this Kairos season. It was a word we felt God gave to us for us and then for us to share and release over churches where we traveled in 2016. We watched God unlock many things in churches and individual lives in Spain, Norway, England, and...

It’s not every day you meet two people like Erik and Kate Bagley! They tell a story of pursuit and intention, wisdom and love. Together they share their journey of setting their lives together – up for success… How they handled the days before they said “I Do!” was a standard for how they would...

What a great, practical and fun podcast here with Senior Leaders, Caleb and Rachael Klinge from Novato, CA – New Life Church. They share their Top Ten Count Down of things they learned in their first 20 years of marriage. They share both biblical insights along with their personal experiential journey that led them to their top ten....

How do you guard your heart and let people into intimate places at the same time? In other words… How do you walk wisely in relationship, while also being open and vulnerable? In this episode we explore how we must both risk and practice trust in order to develop intimacy in relationship. The level of intimacy we experience will...

Today we are going to talk about arguing – The question we want to actually address is “How do we wrestle through the realities of different opinions, ideas, values, preferences and desires while maintaining our connection, demonstrating love and honor, and being fully ourselves.” Another way to re-phrase this question is “How do we create an environment that makes room for both spouses...

This question is not one we normally ask… but in this episode Steve and Lorraine respond to a listener’s question regarding what seems like a lack of communication in near-by marriage relationships. Steve and Lorraine talk about habits, health, and seasons of marriage and how they affect our communication – good or bad. Steve and Lorraine...

We all have or have had situations with family members that leave us unsure, frustrated, confused, hurt or even mad! In this episode we answer a commonly asked question that involves a challenging family situation and dynamics. We give five key thoughts to consider as we face our family situations, and we offer two tools and a...

We are starting 2017 off with Steve Backlund of Igniting Hope and looking at successful leadership and building healthy teams. Steve gives us a powerful word to start the year with; he shares four key thoughts regarding personal development, important relationship skills to develop as a leader, and how he overcame his personal challenges. Steve completes our time...

Today is week four – of Holiday Fun with Spencer and Wendy Tang. Spencer and Wendy have been busy raising six amazing and beautiful girls, mentoring other men and women in business, family-life and marriage while developing a quickly growing bakery and cafe business From The Hearth here in Redding. As a mother and father in...

Today is week three – of Holiday Fun with Olivia Shupe from Raising Tomorrow’s Leaders. If you missed episode 7 with Olivia – give it a quick listen. You’ll laugh and be taught all in a single thought! Olivia gives us some great things to consider and tools for setting our kids up for media-success...

Week Two – of Holiday fun with Lisa Max from Let The Children Fly. Lisa is joining us today to share about what partnering with Holy Spirit looks like in our parenting – an especially great idea during the Holiday season. She is a great teller of stories and personal testimonies of their family-life –...

Today we’re starting Four Weeks of Holiday Fun here on Out of the Box with Steve and Lorraine… We want you to be resourced in preparation for the holidays! We launch this week from Levanger Norway – the picture perfect location to talk about Christmas and the holiday season! We start the month off with Five Tips For Having An Intentionally Blessed Holiday Season...

What an outstanding podcast with the leadership team of Northgate Alaska, in Wasilla. Senior leader, Dennis Hotchkiss, along with his team,  Marla Rowland and Carla Chud share about a season of transition, definition, some dis-mantling and redefining as a church and team. They talk about what they learned in this process, what their process looked...

What a fun time with Ahab and Jessica (Ahab & Jessica Ministries) – great friends and local business owners of Madaynes here in Redding. Together we talk about how to navigate a new marriage, two boys (2 years & 6 months), two restaurant locations and a ministry that has you traveling internationally. Their real and...

We are super blessed to have long time friends, Juan & Beulah Swart with us in this podcast. John and Beulah are in the midst of a major life transition – in the hallway, between where they’ve been and where they are going. They share candidly about their journey – journey of the heart as...

Jordan joins us from Ann Arbor, Michigan where he and Christy not only pastor a church, but are raising five children and providing help and resources to couples in their first five years of marriage. The First Five was developed out of what Jordan and Christy learned in their their own lives and what they...

Just what do you do with two powerful people in a marriage? How do you not loose yourself, and create a value for each spouse to contribute, be heard and understood, while growing individually and as a couple? In this podcast we interview Josh Cearbaugh, here in Redding. Together we talk about how to nurture...

What a great night of encounter! Three congregations gathered together in St. Paul’s Salisbury to encounter God. Salisbury Vineyard friends, Ed & Claire Evans, Sue Holzer from City Gate Church, and the rector, Craig Ryalls of St Paul’s and their congregations came together for their city and region, uniting as one heart to adore the...

This is an interview you don’t want to miss if you have kids or grandkids! Author of Renaissance Kids and founder of Raising Tomorrow’s Leaders, Olivia Shupe gives practical and powerful answers and input regarding the challenge of raising transformational leaders in today’s world. With well researched data and insight, she talks about kids and media,...

In Episode 6 Steve and Lorraine answer four common marriage questions. 1. How do we define our roles in marriage – careers, family, home, etc.? 2. My spouse and I have different bedtimes. Is it healthy to go to sleep at different times? 3. How do couples see each others’ dreams come alive when sometimes...

In Episode 5 we look at relationships in the context of being single and moving toward marriage with Wendee Mannon – Author of Love Unstuck: Partnering With God to Move Towards Marriage, Owner and CEO of an online Christian dating site – OnDaySix. Wendy talks about the tightrope of FEAR and FAITH, “soul mates” and...

There’s nothing better than sharing air-time with your kids. In Episode 4 Steve and Lorraine welcome Dustin and Savannah Box. They share excerpts from a recent message they spoke together at New Life Church in Novato, titled “How To Build A [O]Fence”. In this podcast Dustin and Savannah openly share their life and journey in...

Tools are absolutely one of the best solutions to navigating the complexity of relationship. Together Steve and Lorraine explore Four Great Questions to use in dialoguing with others (your team, your family, spouse, or roommates) in order to define and understand Connection in that given relationship. Along with these questions are Five Useful Tips in...

CONNECTION – exactly What is Connection? Steve and Lorraine explore a definition for connection and give two key thoughts about the role that connection plays in our interpersonal relationships. They leave us with two key thoughts and questions to consider and respond to.

In this introductory episode Steve and Lorraine share some of their personal history – letting you in to see a bit of who they are. They give you a peek into their journey of recognizing that after 30 years of being happily married with two married sons and several grandchildren – that they were functionally dysfunctional. They...