Podcasts about Unstuck

Don't look away - if you keep looking at those hard questions, the answers come. Listen as we chat about this today! Diana Hongcha is a Chinese American author whose debut thriller, If You Don't Go, earned a silver medal at the Global Book Awards and reached Amazon Bestseller status. Born and raised in China, Diana emigrated to the United States as a teenager. A frequent traveler to China and a self-appointed culture attaché, she aims to write compelling stories that bridge the gap between the China she knows and the one depicted in the headlines. Diana dreams of one day splitting her time between Chengdu and Bozeman, Montana. For now, she's happily immersed in family life and the next story waiting to be told. Find out more at www.dianahongcha.com

Scrupulosity is often misunderstood as a faith problem — but treating it that way is one of the biggest reasons people stay stuck.In this episode of The Restored Minds Show, licensed therapist Matt Codde, LCSW explains why scrupulosity isn't about faith, belief, or not trying hard enough — and how fear hijacks religious themes and projects onto God, salvation, and belief systems.If you've been told to pray harder, believe more, or do more religious behaviors — yet still feel anxious, distressed, or disconnected from peace — this episode will help you understand what's really happening and what actually leads to recovery.Rather than trying to solve scrupulosity through faith-based reassurance, Matt explains why healing comes from addressing the fear loop and nervous system state, not the content of the fear itself.

For years, I tried everything to recover from OCD and anxiety — books, therapists, programs, techniques — yet nothing truly changed.In this episode of The Restored Minds Show, I share the moment where everything shifted for me — the point where once I did this, I healed. Not overnight. Not magically. But permanently.I walk through the two internal shifts that moved me from endlessly trying to recover… to actually living in a calm, regulated, trusting state.If you've been consuming content, searching for the “right answer,” or hoping something external will finally fix this, this episode will help you see why healing doesn't come from trying harder — but from deciding differently.Rather than managing symptoms or coping with fear, recovery came from changing my relationship to outcome, identity, and implementation.

In which Sacha and Rachael share their words of 2026, and their thoughts about their wins and losses from 2025, and where 2026 is taking them! Hint: Sacha's world dominating, and Rachael's waking up from a nap.

Mindfulness is often recommended for OCD and anxiety — but for many people, it doesn't work the way they were told it would.In this episode of The Restored Minds Show, licensed therapist Matt Codde, LCSW explains why mindfulness fails for OCD and anxiety disorders when it's misused — and how it actually fits into real recovery.If you've tried mindfulness, meditation, or grounding techniques and felt frustrated, guilty, or like you “failed,” this episode will help you understand what really went wrong — and why it wasn't you.Rather than seeing fear, intrusive thoughts, or anxiety as problems to eliminate, Matt explains how misunderstanding the role of mindfulness often turns it into a distraction, a coping strategy, or another form of avoidance — which keeps the anxiety loop going.

Times are hard, y'all. So here's a hopeful story. In this solo episode, Rachael shares about the time Madeleine L'Engle wrote to her. ✏️ 90 Days to Done NOW OPEN! http://rachaelherron.com/90daystodone✏️ 90 Day Revision NOW OPEN! http://rachaelherron.com/revision

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What if the key to success wasn't fitting in—but finally giving yourself permission to stop trying? In this refreshingly raw episode of Legendary Leaders, host Cathleen O'Sullivan sits down with Fiona Fraser—founder of Power PR and former BBC publicist—whose unfiltered honesty about ADHD, identity, and the exhausting performance of "professionalism" will make you question everything you've been told about showing up. Fiona shares what it was like spending years learning to sit on her personality in corporate environments, the casual dinner party moment when two friends diagnosed her ADHD like it was obvious to everyone but her, and why she left TV during COVID to build her own agency. With trademark directness, she explains why she can't do small talk with senior executives when she's already defended their show all weekend, why anger was her go-to ADHD response, and why the spa isn't a luxury—it's nervous system regulation. Together, Cathleen and Fiona explore why "you're not sociable enough" often means "you didn't perform emotional labor we never asked for," the stop-and-drop cycle that leaves you sick on every holiday, and why Married at First Sight at 9pm might be the most important boundary you set. This conversation is for anyone who's ever felt like an alien in open-plan offices, been told to "try harder" with people who treat you terribly, or wondered if leaving corporate means failure—when really, staying stuck might be the only shame worth naming.     Episode Timeline:   00:11:02 From BBC to 19 years in television publicity 00:12:52 COVID, motherhood, and leaving TV to build Power PR 00:18:07 The biggest shame isn't failure—it's staying stuck 00:21:21 Breaking free from "work hard" culture 00:27:19 Ambitious vs. too ambitious: fear vs. self-protection 00:32:13 Hiring an assistant and letting go of instant email responses 00:36:32 The casual dinner party ADHD diagnosis 00:38:12 Energy waves with ADHD: ride it or drown 00:41:09 Sensory overload: coughing, sneezing, and rage responses 00:47:24 Feeling like an alien and never quite fitting in 00:50:09 "I can't do small talk"—relationship building for the sake of it 00:53:17 "You didn't try hard enough" after defending their show all weekend 01:01:45 The unashamed ADHD leader who gets results 01:09:09 PR without selling your soul: controlling your message 01:18:38 Final insight: Get yourself unstuck as quickly as possible​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​   Key Takeaway: Staying Stuck Is the Real Shame—Not Changing Your Mind: Just because you've had success doesn't mean you can never change again. You can leave corporate, struggle, even go back—none of it is failure. The only shame is staying somewhere that drains you when your days are finite. If you're good, you'll get another job. If you feel stuck, get unstuck as quickly as possible. Boundaries Protect Your Energy—And Your Energy Determines Your Results: For Fiona with ADHD, energy comes in waves: 8-11am peak, 12-3pm crash, 4-6pm comeback. Working effectively means protecting those windows fiercely and accepting that if work doesn't happen during your peak, it won't happen. Boundaries aren't about being difficult—they're about understanding how you actually work and setting up your day so you can deliver. Whether it's hiring an assistant for email or taking Fridays (mostly) off, it's about giving clients better results by protecting what's finite. Recognizing Strengths Matters More Than Performative Relationships: Real leadership isn't about making people go to lunch with executives who treat them badly. It's understanding how your people work, what drives them, and what they're actually good at. Build teams around what clients need and who they'll work well with. When you respect people's strengths and working styles, you get loyalty and results—not resentment and burnout. Your Achievements Aren't Bragging—They're Taking a Moment to Actually See Yourself: When leaders can't recognize their own achievements, they create cultures where no one does. Sharing your story—the hard parts, the barriers you've overcome—isn't "too much information." It's what makes you human. Recognizing what you've created isn't arrogance. It's seeing yourself clearly instead of racing past your own life.   About Fiona Fraser: Fiona Fraser is the Founder and Director of POW PR, the UK's leading podcast-focused public relations agency, where creators, production companies, and niche experts turn standout shows into chart-topping media brands. A former television publicist with over a decade in the industry, Fiona has led PR campaigns for the BBC, Channel 4, and global production companies including Warner Bros., Fremantle, and Endemol. Since launching POW PR in 2020, she has helped clients secure multiple No. 1 podcast chart positions and drive audience growth through strategy-led PR alone. Fiona believes podcasts aren't just content—they're powerful platforms for influence, and when positioned correctly, they become impossible to ignore.   Connect with Fiona Fraser: Website: https://www.powpr.co.uk  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/fiona-fraser-powpr  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepodcastexpert    Connect with Cathleen O'Sullivan:  Business: https://cathleenosullivan.com/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cathleen-osullivan/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/legendary_leaders_cathleenos/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@LegendaryLeaderswithCathleenOS   FOLLOW LEGENDARY LEADERS ON APPLE, SPOTIFY OR WHEREVER YOU LISTEN TO YOUR PODCASTS.

In this conversation, Whitney Dawn Pyles shares her journey of sobriety and how it has led her to a deeper understanding of authenticity, joy, and connection. She discusses thecomplexities of joy and grief, life's transitions, the societal normssurrounding alcohol, and the importance of creating spaces for genuine connection. Whitney emphasizes the significance of micro-practices in accessing joy and the role of dance and movement in self-expression. This is an invitation for listeners to explore their own relationships with joy, sobriety, and connection, encouraging a journey of self-discovery and authenticity. Chapters00:00 Trailer02:14 Transitions and Cultivating Community04:33 Well Blended Professional and Personal Lives06:41 Complexities of Joy11:31 The Return The Release The Renewal16:05 Adventurous Spirit: Living Out of a Van18:30 Existing Where We Are22:28 Exploring Sobriety and Quality of Life26:02 Sobriety As a Somatic Experience33:01 Does Alcohol Have a Premium on Joy and Play35:10 Impact of Imagery37:32 Redefining Celebration and Play Beyond Alcohol40:59 Reclaiming Authentic Connection and Vulnerability44:29 Respect Choice. No Explanation Needed48:14 The Role of Vulnerability in Authentic Sharing51:43 Accessing Joy and Celebrating Life57:31 The Power of Freeform Dance and Movement01:02:00 Micro Practices for Cultivating Joy01:05:29 Gratitude and the Importance of Connection More about Whitney Dawn Pyles Whitney Dawn Pyles is a Somatic Coach, facilitator, and creator of UNSTUCK, a self-paced series of body-based practices designed to help people move through emotionaland energetic stagnancy. After years of numbing and disconnecting from herself, her sobriety journey sparked a deep devotion to authenticity, nervous system literacy, and joy as a radical choice. Through movement, 1:1 and groupcoaching, and curated community spaces, Whitney supports people in reconnecting with one another, their bodies, and what truly moves them. She believes dance is our birthright, play is medicine, and that every moment offers an opportunity to return to ourselves with more compassion, clarity, and courage. Connect with WhitneyInstagram @whitneydawnpylesSomaticSobriety UNSTUCK– A Space to Break Patterns and Build Momentum TogetherConnect with Melanie⁠⁠Work with Melanie⁠⁠Download How to Consciously Create a Life of Joy Here

In this episode, we explore the rare but inspiring career path from Production Director to Executive Pastor.We are joined by Dave Clark of Fellowship Church (Grapevine) to discuss how he transitioned from technical leadership to executive leadership. We break down the difference between treating ministry as a "job" versus a "calling," and Dave shares practical advice on how tech directors can build trust with senior pastors and get "unstuck" when they feel stagnant.In this episode you'll hear:0:00 Toby's Church Planting Story6:30 Dave Clark (Fellowship Church Grapevine) Joins14:30 Defining Ministry: A Job vs. A Calling17:00 Career Path: From Tech Director to Executive Pastor21:45 How to Minister to Production Volunteers27:00 Getting "Unstuck" in Your Ministry Career29:00 Building Trust with Senior Leadership38:00 Pastor Ed Young's Wildest Production Requests48:00 Staying Calm During a Tech Disaster53:00 Avoiding "Imaginary Arguments"54:15 Tech Takeaway: Ask Questions to Understand55:45 C3 Conference PreviewYou can sign up for the C3 Conference with this link to get a special rate discount from $229 to $99. https://brushfire.com/fellowship/c3conference2026/598770/register?typeCode=C3COMEBACKGet Toby's new book "Sacred Spaces, Modern Production" here. Resources for your Church Tech Ministry Sell Us Gear: Does your church have used gear that you need to convert into new ministry dollars? We can make you an offer here. Buy Our Gear: Do you need some production gear but lack the budget to buy new gear? You can shop our gear store here. Connect with us: Sales Bulletin: Get better deals than the public and get them earlier too here! Early Service: Get our best gear before it goes live on our site here. Instagram: Hangout with us on the gram here! Reviews: Leaving us a review on the podcast player you're listening to us on really helps the show. If you enjoyed this episode, you can say thank you with a review!

In this Real Christian Manhood episode, Byron Myers interviews Roy Wooten about Unstuck, a trauma-informed curriculum designed to help men break free from isolation and grow in authentic Christian manhood. They explore emotional connection, courage, and biblical transformation, showing how men's small groups can foster personal growth, honesty, and lasting change. Discover how Unstuck helps men move from feeling stuck to living with authenticity, community, and faith-driven purpose.Here are some of the topics we cover in our podcast episodes: Radical honesty and grace Spiritual growth Discipleship Mentorship Personal development Life transformation Christian men's ministry Christian women's ministry Faith-based retreat Discover our other resources: Our Main Website Our Blog Online Life Coaching Christian Men's Retreats Christian Women's Retreats All content © 2024 The Crucible Project Podcast.

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This Week's EpisodeWhen life becomes a blur of busyness, even good things can pull us away from the best thing. Jesus reminded Martha - and He reminds us - that peace isn't found in performance, it's found in His presence. Ready For More?Have you made a decision to follow Jesus? You might be wondering what's next for you. We want to help! Visit firstchristian.com/followingjesus for free resources, or text "Jesus" to (330) 708-7029 and someone will respond back to talk about your next step!Check out firstchristian.com/nextsteps to find opportunities to connect and grow.We'd love to see you this coming Sunday on-campus or streaming online at 9 and 11am.About This SeriesFeeling stuck? We all hit seasons where it seems like we can't move forward - trapped by our past, our thoughts, our routines, or our fears. Living an Unstuck Life is a four-week series about how God meets us right where we are and gives us the strength to take the next step toward freedom and purpose. It's time to break free from what's been holding you back and start walking in the life God designed for you.About First Christian ChurchWe believe that Jesus is for all people... which means he is for you - that he loves you, that your life matters to him, and that he has a plan for you. We want to help you find hope, purpose, and a place to belong as part of his family. Our hope is that your journey will include joining us as we all take steps in our walk with Jesus together. Find out more about FCC at firstchristian.com/about.Find Us On Social MediaYouTube: www.youtube.com/firstchristiancantonFacebook: www.facebook.com/fcccantonInstagram: www.instagram.com/fcccantonTikTok: www.tiktok.com/@fcccantonX: www.x.com/fcccantonConnect with Pastor JimmyInstagram: www.instagram.com/jimmymcloudTikTok: www.tiktok.com/@jimmy.mcloudX: www.x.com/jimmymcloudBlog: www.jimmymcloud.comSupport the show

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Michelangelo said, "I saw the angel in the marble and carved until I set him free" - How do you do that in your own work? And how do you bring a place to life, even if you haven't ever been there? Traveler and archaeological-thriller writer Luke Richardson is our guide today! Luke Richardson is the author of international thrillers that blend history, mystery, and adventure in exotic locations. A former English teacher and lifelong traveller, he brings his real-life adventures to the page—and to podcasts—sharing insights on storytelling, creativity, and far-off places. ✏️ 90 Days to Done NOW OPEN! http://rachaelherron.com/90daystodone✏️ 90 Day Revision NOW OPEN! http://rachaelherron.com/revision

Leading Into 2026: Executive Pastor Insights Momentum is real. So is the pressure. This free report draws from the largest dedicated survey of Executive Pastors ever, revealing what leaders are actually facing as they prepare for 2026. Why staff health is the #1 pressure point Where churches feel hopeful — and stretched thin What worked in 2025 and is worth repeating Clear decision filters for the year ahead Download the Full Report Free PDF • Built for Executive Pastors • Instant access Welcome back to another episode of the unSeminary podcast. We’re continuing our conversations with executive pastors from prevailing churches, unpacking what leaders like you shared in the National Executive Pastor Survey, so you can lead forward with clarity. Today we're joined by Paul Alexander, Executive Pastor at Sun Valley Community Church and Senior Consultant with The Unstuck Group. With more than 25 years of ministry experience and nearly 15 years at Sun Valley, Paul brings a blend of practitioner insight and coaching wisdom. Sun Valley is one of the fastest-growing churches in the country, with six physical locations, a prison campus, and more expansion on the way. In this conversation, Paul helps unpack one of the most pressing themes from the National Executive Pastor Survey: staff health, culture, and organizational structure. Is your church clear on vision and strategy but still struggling to move forward? Do you sense tension or fatigue beneath the surface of your staff team? Paul offers candid, practical guidance on how leaders can cultivate both healthy and high-performing teams. Staff culture is often the real growth lid. // Many churches leave strategic planning sessions with remarkable clarity—clear vision, strong strategy, and actionable next steps—yet still fail to move forward. The reason is rarely theological or missional; it's cultural. Team culture and staff structure often become the limiting factor. Just as personal growth stalls when internal issues go unresolved, churches stall when unhealthy patterns persist within leadership teams. Healthy and high-performing. // Many churches swing between two extremes: high performance with little concern for soul health, or relational warmth with minimal accountability to achieve the vision. Neither honors the full call of ministry. The healthiest teams refuse to live at either end of the pendulum. Instead, they pursue a culture where people are cared for deeply while being challenged to steward their gifts faithfully toward the mission. You can't legislate health. // Health cannot be enforced through policies alone. Leaders set the tone through example, not rules. Staff watch how senior leaders manage time, rest, family, boundaries, and pressure. Late-night emails, skipped days off, and constant urgency quietly shape expectations—even if leaders say otherwise. Pastors need to lead with moral authority, not moral perfection: modeling rhythms that reflect trust in God rather than fear-driven overwork. Practical rhythms that protect people. // At Sun Valley, staff health is reinforced through intentional systems. Leaders are expected to take their days off and use vacation time; reports track whether staff actually do. Full-time staff receive sabbaticals every seven years, including non-director-level roles. Marriage retreats are offered as a gift to staff couples, recognizing that healthier marriages produce healthier ministry. These investments cost little financially but yield long-term fruit in sustainability and trust. Hire leaders, not doers. // A common staffing pitfall is hiring doers instead of leaders. While competence and skill earn someone a seat on the team at Sun Valley, long-term effectiveness depends on their ability to develop others. Staff are evaluated not on how much ministry they personally accomplish, but on how well they equip volunteers to lead. Volunteers are the heroes; staff exist to serve and multiply them. This mindset shifts ministry from bottlenecked to scalable. Structure must evolve with growth. // Churches often treat structure as fixed, but Paul insists that growing churches must restructure continually. Span of care, staffing ratios, and role clarity must be revisited regularly. He points to healthy benchmarks—such as staffing costs and staff-to-attendance ratios—as helpful indicators, not rigid rules. When leaders ignore structure, culture suffers; when structure is aligned, momentum increases. Fruit requires clarity and measurement. // Every staff role at Sun Valley includes measurable outcomes. Paul likens this to personal goals—no one expects a marriage to improve without intentional action. Clear metrics create focus, alignment, and accountability. Monthly one-on-ones blend personal care with performance review, ensuring leaders are supported holistically while still moving the mission forward. Encouragement for leaders sensing tension. // For executive pastors who feel something is “off” but can't quite name it, Paul urges them not to ignore that instinct. Growth exposes weaknesses, and structure or culture may need adjustment. Whether the issue is misalignment, unclear expectations, or misplaced roles, addressing it early prevents deeper damage later. To learn more about Sun Valley Community Church, visit sunvalleycc.com. For resources on staff health, structure, and strategy, explore theunstuckgroup.com or email Paul directly. Watch the full episode below: Thank You for Tuning In! There are a lot of podcasts you could be tuning into today, but you chose unSeminary, and I'm grateful for that. If you enjoyed today's show, please share it by using the social media buttons you see at the left hand side of this page. Also, kindly consider taking the 60-seconds it takes to leave an honest review and rating for the podcast on iTunes, they're extremely helpful when it comes to the ranking of the show and you can bet that I read every single one of them personally! Thank You to This Episode’s Sponsor: SermonDone Hey friends, Sunday is coming… is your Sermon Done?Pastor, you don't need more pressure—you need support. That's why you need to check out SermonDone—the premium AI assistant built exclusivelyfor pastors. SermonDone helps you handle the heavy lifting: deep sermon research, series planning, and even a theologically aligned first draft—in your voice—because it actually trains on up to 15 of your past sermons. But it doesn't stop there. With just a click, you can instantly turn your message into small group guides, discussion questions, and even kids curriculum. It's like adding a research assistant, a writing partner, and a discipleship team—all in one. Try it free for 5 days. Head over to www.SermonDone.com and use promo code Rich20 for 20% off today! Episode Transcript Rich Birch — Hey friends, welcome to the unSeminary podcast. Really glad that you’ve decided to tune in. We’re doing a special series here this month where we’re looking at the results of a national survey that we did of executive pastors across the country. And we’ve pulled in some leading XPs from prevailing churches to help us think through these issues. Like we’re sitting across the table, if you talk about this problem, they want to help you with that. And today it’s our honor, our privilege really to have Paul Alexander with us. He is the executive pastor at Sun Valley Church for over 10 years. He has 25 years of experience. He’s a senior consultant with Unstuck, I think for 13 years. And he’s worked with all kinds of churches on health assessment, strategic planning. Sun Valley, if you don’t know this church, you’re living under a rock. fantastic church in Arizona, six physical locations, if I’m counting correctly, plus in prison, plus online. It’s repeatedly one of the fastest growing churches in the country. Paul, welcome to the show. So glad you’re here.Paul Alexander — Yeah, Rich, glad to be with you. Hopefully the conversation can help your listeners, man.Rich Birch — I really appreciate that. Why why don’t you fill in the picture about Sun Valley? I know we’ve had you on in the past. You should go back and listen, friends, but kind of give us the Sun Valley picture. Kind of tell us a little bit about that to set some context today.Paul Alexander — Yeah, man, been here now for almost 15 years. It’s wild to think back. When I first joined the team, it was one location, 10 acres, one exit, one entrance.Rich Birch — Wow.Paul Alexander — And, you know, there’s a lid to what you can do with that. And so we had originally went multi-site because we had to go multi-site. You know, the mission that Jesus gave the church to help more people meet him and grow up in their friendship with him. We had a lid to that with the space we were in. And so we had to go multi-site. It wasn’t cool. It wasn’t cute. It wasn’t fun. It wasn’t an experiment. It was like, if we’re going to obey Jesus, we don’t have an option.Rich Birch — Right. Yes.Paul Alexander — And so over the years, we’ve had the opportunity to add new locations. And, yeah, six physical locations, one in a prison. Our next prison campus opens up Q1. We grand open our Chandler location in March, and we break ground on San Tan in May. So, yeah, man, fun times, lots of people meeting Jesus.Rich Birch — So multi-sites not dead at Sun Valley.Paul Alexander — Man, multi-site’s not dead in America. Yeah.Rich Birch — I know. And it’s true, right? It’s one of those like, people are like, oh, I don’t know. That’s an old idea. I’m like, that’s not what I’m seeing. I’m like, gosh, there’s so many prevailing churches like Sun Valley that are just doubling down. That’s that’s fantastic. Rich Birch — Well, looking forward to today’s conversation. So friends, you’ve joined us actually for within, what did we ask, two questions that were about fears for next year and or for this year, 2026, you caught me. We recorded this late in 2025.Rich Birch — And we’re talking today about the biggest fear. 24.8% of all respondents identified staff health, organizational structure, morale, succession, leadership – the people issues as a primary fear heading into this year. In fact, and then a separate question we asked about data and insight. Where are you lacking some of that? Almost 9% of respondents answered that they’re looking for better data on staff pipeline and org chart and leadership development, these sort of things.Rich Birch — When you combine them together what does that mean? Nearly three in ten surface staff related tension as a defining pressure point for 2026. And when I was thinking about this issue, I thought of no one better than Paul to pull on and to have this conversation with. So Paul, when you look at the churches across the country, you interact with a lot of churches both just because you’re a great person and through Unstuck, and you’re and Sun Valley’s a leading church and people will ask you questions all the time. Where do you think staff health breaks down the most and why is that? Why is this such a tension for us as we lead from our seats?Paul Alexander — Yeah, well, to your point, Rich, it comes up repeatedly with my work with Unstuck with churches. It’s not uncommon to do a health assessment, strategic planning with the church, and you walk out of the room and they have great clarity on vision, on where they’re going next. They have great clarity on strategy, like how they’re actually going to pull this off and do it.Paul Alexander — And yet you walk out of the room and the lid to move towards that vision, actually obey Jesus and do what Jesus has commissioned and command commanded them to do, the lid is the culture of the team. And the team culture and the team structure is what’s holding them back from going where Jesus wants them to go. Paul Alexander — Which we shouldn’t be surprised by this, frankly. that’s That’s the organizational side of how that shows up. This shows up in our own life personally. So on a micro scale, what’s preventing you and I from actually following Jesus and what He’s calling us to do in 2026? Well, it’s not Jesus’s problem. The problem is not with him. The problem usually with us.Rich Birch — Yes.Paul Alexander — The problem is with how we structure our life, our family, our time, maybe something in our own heart and in the culture of our own heart and our families.Paul Alexander — And so on on a macro scalele scale in the church, it’s not a surprise that this shows up. Most most churches have a tendency to run on a pendulum, Rich, of either being a really high performing team or a very, very healthy team. And at Unstuck, we want we want staff teams to be both very healthy and very high performing.Paul Alexander — The the problem is most churches, their staff swing through that pendulum from one side to the other. And so, and you’ve seen this repeatedly, where it’s take ground and in just do the next thing. And they’re very project oriented and destination oriented, and they have a tendency to not really care about the soul of the team, the health of the team, and they’re caring much more about the the destination they’re chasing.Paul Alexander — Or they’re sitting around looking at each other, praying for one another, kumbaya-ing together, and they’re neglecting the actual call that God’s put on their life. It’s not just a personal holiness, but to invite others people other people to know Jesus as well.Paul Alexander — And while that’s an over-exaggeration, fundamentally, that’s very true of what happens with staff teams. And so, yeah, walking away from a strategic planning with the church, you’re thinking, oh, they’ve got everything they need.Rich Birch — Right.Paul Alexander — They just don’t have the culture to pull it off. their Their staff culture is going to prevent them from going where God wants them to go. Or they’ve hired ah a lot of doers on the team and they don’t actually have leaders. So they’ve hired people to do ministry instead of lead ministry. Or they don’t really have a development pipeline. You know, they don’t have a plan to coach up and build up people that the Lord’s already entrusted to them right underneath their nose, to invite them into leadership in the church. And so, yeah, there’s some overarching things that are common.Rich Birch — Yeah, so when I saw this came out, I wasn’t surprised by this result. We’ve seen similar results in past years. But whenever I look at this fear that leaders have, I’m reminded what our mutual friend Jenni Catrin says. She talks about senior leaders are, we think our staff culture is better than it actually is. Like from our perspective, sitting as an executive pastor, lead pastor, we look around and we’re like, man, this is a great place to work. But that’s not necessarily the case with our people. Rich Birch — Sticking with this idea of like high performing and healthy, when you think about Sun Valley or the churches you coach, what are some practical rhythms or structures that you’ve put in place or seen put in place that really help try to do both of those things. Cause I think that’s, I think that’s ultimately what honors the Lord is like, we do want to be high performing. We, the mission’s massive. Like, gosh, we got to get out and reach some people, but we, we don’t want to drive over our people to get there. Paul Alexander — Yeah.Rich Birch — Help us understand what does that practical, some of those practical rhythms look like.Paul Alexander — Well, I don’t I don’t think a lot of XPs are going like what I’m about to say… Rich Birch — Uh-oh. Paul Alexander — …but you you cannot legislate health. You can’t. You can’t build enough guidelines. You can’t build enough policies. You can’t make people be healthy. You also can’t lead a healthy organization unless you yourself are healthy. It’s that’s a just it’s just a fact. You can’t take your family somewhere you haven’t been.Paul Alexander — You disciple people, to use a Bible word for a second, you can’t disciple your own children and your own family and people close to you by intention or neglect. We do that all the time, and unless you have something to actually give them. And so this is why even in the Old Testament, you know God gives the law and we realize we can’t live up to the law. And so it honestly only shows our own imperfection. Right. And so God you know, Jesus says, “Well, hold on a second. The Sabbath was made for man. Man wasn’t made for the Sabbath.” Paul Alexander — And so um what does that mean? It means, I think, as executive staff, senior staff in the church, you actually have to lead with some moral authority in this area. And so people are going to watch if if they get an email from you at 11 o’clock at night, that tells them what’s expected of them. Rich Birch — Right.Paul Alexander — Without you ever even saying it, you’re telling them what’s expected. If you’re texting them after work hours, so to speak, and it’s not an emergency, it actually, you know, it could probably wait till tomorrow, but you’re having it right now because it’s important to you, and you don’t have the personal self-control to be able to not have that conversation with that staff member at that time.Rich Birch — Yeah, that’s good.Paul Alexander — You’re telling them how they’re supposed to behave. They’re watching you just again, leadership so much like parenting. And I don’t want to minimize this, but children watch their parents and they naturally adhere to and take on the behaviors of their parents and the family unit that they grow up in. Rich Birch — Yeah, it’s so true.Paul Alexander — And culture a lot like that. It’s way more caught than taught. And so the leaders of the executive staff and senior staff, they’ve got to lead with moral authority, not moral perfection. We’re not going to see that this side of seeing Jesus, right? Not moral superiority. We’re not better than anybody. But just to be able to say, hey, man, if if everybody at my church and on my staff. If they manage their time the way I manage my time, if they manage their finances the way I manage my finances, if they used alcohol the way I use alcohol, or if they use the internet or social media the way I do, if they traded their… would my church be more of what Jesus wants it to be or less?Rich Birch — That’s good. That’s so good.Paul Alexander — And so there’s a moral authority component to this. They got to model this. Okay.Paul Alexander — Now, practically, Rich, because you know, okay, what does it actually mean? Take your time off. Rich Birch — Right.Paul Alexander — Like that sounds so silly, but I mean, I remember as a young guy in ministry, my my wife was working Monday through Friday. Friday was supposed to be my day off. I’m not the kind of guy that’s going to sit around and like watch Oprah on Friday. Or like, you know, just snack and binge watch Netflix or something like that. That’s not how God wired me up. And so I would just go into the office.Rich Birch — Right.Paul Alexander — And I’m like, my my wife’s working. Well, we don’t have kids. um I’m going to go get some stuff done. I’m going to move the ball forward.Rich Birch — Yeah.Paul Alexander — And I remember the XP I was working with on the senior staff at the time came in to get something out of the office. And he saw me and he’s like, Paul, what are you what are you doing? And so I do the whole, my wife’s working and I’m not going to sit around and watch Netflix, blah, blah, blah. He’s like… he gave me a gift. He said, Paul, if you don’t take every day off between now and the end of the year, don’t bother coming in in January.Rich Birch — Oh my goodness.Paul Alexander — Yeah, yeah, yeah.Rich Birch — Wow.Paul Alexander — And looking back, that high challenge was a tremendous gift, to begin to teach a young man in ministry that had a propensity to drive hard to learn how to actually slow down and enjoy my life and receive from the Lord.Rich Birch — That’s interesting.Paul Alexander — And so, um yeah, take your day off. It sounds so silly.Rich Birch — Yeah, that’s so good. No, it’s good.Paul Alexander — I get a report on my desk once a year, Rich, of all of our staff, even multiple campuses, all that, who’s taking their time off and who hasn’t taken their time off. And it’s not uncommon for me to have a conversation in January to say, hey, dude, if you don’t take all your time off this year, we’re going to have a problem. Because you’re no good burning out. The Lord needs you in the game for the long run.Rich Birch — Yeah.Paul Alexander — And I need you in the game for the long run. Sun Valley needs you in the game for the long run. Rich Birch — Yeah. Right. Paul Alexander — Your family needs that, and you can’t self destruct. So.Rich Birch — Yeah, it’s so good. I had a similar interaction early on in ministry where I had a senior leader say to me, it with a similar kind of tone, don’t forget, take your day off is on the same list as don’t kill someone. Like, you know, which always stuck with me where I was like, you know, okay. And he said it in a funny kind of like, but but the message was was clear, right?Paul Alexander — Yeah.Rich Birch — Same kind of thing. Hey, we, and I don’t know that I’ve always lived by that. Paul Alexander — Yeah, sure.Rich Birch — Are there other behaviors that you, you know, in a similar way would lean in. I think the fact that you’re pushing on, okay, as us as senior leaders, are we setting the pace with the health of our organizations? Lean a little bit more in on that for us.Paul Alexander — Yeah, sure. So a couple of practical things that any leader can actually make their decision to start doing today. Establish a finish line. In some regards, you know, when is ministry ever really done? Rich Birch — Right.Paul Alexander — Well, when 7.5 billion people on the planet know Jesus, we’re done, right? So it’s one of those, the poor will have you with you you’ll have with you always. There’s never going to be a done moment. So you got to choose each day when you’re done. And if you don’t choose it, someone else will choose it for you. Paul Alexander — And so talk with your family, figure it out. And there may be a moving target from day to day and what the rhythm of your family is and the rhythm of your ministry is the Lord’s entrusted to you. But you have to personally establish when’s the finish line. I’m going to turn my phone off. I’m gonna turn my email off. I’m going to mute this or whatever. And unless something’s burning down, I’m not going to I’m not going to jump in. Simple things.Paul Alexander — Marriage retreats. We started experimenting some time ago with marriage retreats for our staff at Sun Valley. And so like everybody would say, it’s a good thing for people’s marriages to get better. And sometimes we’ll do that for our people in our churches. And we just thought, well, gosh, what if we did that for our staff? You know, if the marriages of our staff got better, would the ministries that the Lord’s entrusted to them get better? Of course they would.Rich Birch — Of course they would, yeah.Paul Alexander — So we just started doing a marriage retreat couple times a year for our staff.Rich Birch — Wow.Paul Alexander — We invite, you know, 10 to 15 couples. We have a professional counselor that we pay for that runs the thing. And we we just do that as a as a gift to our staff. Because we think, if our staff marriages get better, the ministry that the Lord’s entrusted to them will get better. Paul Alexander — We do sabbaticals every seven years for our full-time director level staff and up. And there’s a period of time that they get and a financial allowance they get. And they think about it in three in three different buckets, like professional development, personal development, and just family. And and ultimately we want them to rest so they can minister from a from a full cup, you know?Paul Alexander — And ah some time ago, we actually made the decision. It didn’t cost us anything, Rich, that even our full-time staff, no matter what their level in the organization was. So for example, a full-time administrative assistant. If they’re full-time, every seven years they get a sabbatical. We give them… Rich Birch — Oh, wow.Paul Alexander — …yeah, you’re full-time admin at Sun Valley. You get, now the scale of it’s a little different.Rich Birch — Sure.Paul Alexander — We just give them a month off with no financial allowance, but we give a month off every seven years to take at one lump sum… Rich Birch — Wow. Paul Alexander — …to get out and refresh their soul and enjoy their life a little bit. What’s that really cost us? Nothing, but time.Rich Birch — Right. Right.Paul Alexander — Nothing.Rich Birch — Right.Paul Alexander — And so, yeah, there’s some real tactical things that you can do to invest in your team. Again, you can’t make them be healthy people, but you can kind of roll the carpet out and pave the way for them to be healthy people.Rich Birch — I love that. That’s some real practical examples. I love what you’ve you’ve outlined there and been you know super practical. That’s, yeah, that’s fantastic. I get the sabbatical question actually quite a bit. I think churches wrestle with that and they you know they they think, oh, you know how should we do that? So you do, kind of like what we would typically think of as a sabbatical at director and above, but then everyone else does kind of this one one month off. That’s great. And they do they have to submit a plan for the sabbatical ahead of time? Some churches will do that where they have to kind of define, hey, this is how we’re going to do. Just give us a little more detail on that.Paul Alexander — Yeah. We’re not uber religious about it, Rich. Rich Birch — Sure. Paul Alexander — We, we, we, there is a plan and their supervisor talks through their plan with them… Rich Birch — Yeah. Paul Alexander — …because there’s a financial allowance that follows that. Rich Birch — Yep.Paul Alexander — So yeah, they have the conversation ahead of time. As a representative of the board, I actually sign off on all those sabbaticals just to make sure they’re thinking about and they’re thinking…Rich Birch — Right.Paul Alexander — …intelligently about how they want to spend their time. But functionally, to be honest, like you and your wife just went on vacation, right?Rich Birch — Yep.Paul Alexander — If our staff went on vacation for like an entire sabbatical and sat on the beach for a month or two, and they came back a little bit more rested, and they’d read a couple of books and spent time with the Lord… Rich Birch — Right. Paul Alexander — …and they walked and prayed and fasted and enjoyed their life a little bit, they’d probably come back a little healthier. Rich Birch — Right. Yeah, that’s great.Paul Alexander — So I don’t have strong feelings about it, man. Rest, enjoy your life.Rich Birch — Yeah. Yeah, that’s good.Paul Alexander — Yeah.Rich Birch — That’s so good. I love that. I want to loop back on one thing you talked about earlier. You talked about hiring or or are the way our staff position themselves as doers versus leaders. I think this is a critical Ephesians 4, how we’re supposed to be equipping our people. But I see way too many of our team members, I see us fall into this all the time where we just slip into doing. Coach us around that. What difference does that make around cultures in our organizations?Paul Alexander — Well, yeah. Wow. Now you’re starting to talk about where accountability comes into play in culture, right? And where culture gets violated.Paul Alexander — So it’s not uncommon. So I still, at the size we are, director level and up, I still at least have a phone conversation interview with every single director level hire and up about our culture as they’re joining the team here. And if they do join the team, we go through net new staff orientation. Once a quarter, Chad, the lead pastor and myself, spend a half a day with all of our new staff and talk through our culture and our philosophy of ministry and our strategy and all that stuff.Paul Alexander — And frankly, it’s just a time to hang out have a meal together and create some relational accessibility. Because most these people I’m not going to work with day to day. Rich Birch — Right.Paul Alexander — But I want them to know that we care about them, love them, and they’re they’re part of the family now. And so we we don’t hire people that aren’t absolutely fantastic, incredibly gifted people. Rich Birch — Right.Paul Alexander — And it’s easy to compliment everybody in the room. Rich Birch — Right. Paul Alexander — Hey man, glad you’re on the team. Whether I hired you or somebody else hired you, I know you’re awesome because we don’t hire people that aren’t awesome. And you were gifted, you’re gifted. Someone saw something in you. We invited you to the team. But here’s the deal. You’re no longer going to be evaluated on how awesome you are. Now that you’re on the team—congratulations—you’re going to be evaluated how awesome you can make everybody else. Rich Birch — So good.Paul Alexander — And so your job and how great you are and gifted you are and skilled you are, that’s what got you in the room. What’s going to keep you in the room is your ability to make everybody else just as incredible as you. And so we just say that from the very beginning. Paul Alexander — And, you know, a lot of churches, their ministry staff kind of think, OK, I have to get all these volunteers in place to help them accomplish my ministry. At Sun Valley, we flipped that upside down. And the hero of the ministry at Sun Valley is the volunteer. We’re helping the church actually be the church. The staff’s role is to be a servant, to help people find their gifting, their place, their calling. And real leaders who are getting paid real money that attend your churches, um they want to solve big problems. They don’t want to just push a broom. Now, occasionally you run into the CEO or the general or whatever, who’s like, I just want to push a broom to help me remain humble. Great. We can we have a lot of brooms you can push.Rich Birch — Yes.Paul Alexander — But most people are competent, skilled, gifted, educated people. And they want to be called into something that’s big, and where they feel like they’re making a real difference. And so, yeah, our job as a staff is to call them into that, tee them up for that, support them in that, and let them run. Not let them run within the boundaries of our strategy and our culture and our vision, but let them run. So, but we’ve got to paint the riverbanks for them.Rich Birch — Yeah, that’s really good. I love that. You know, kind of a related issue is how how is Sun Valley ensuring that you’ve got the right people in the right seats? What does that look like in your system? Like, how are you, like, what’s the what’s the cadence of, you know, regular reporting and like goal setting? Paul Alexander — Yeah.Rich Birch — And, you know, how are you holding people accountable? What does that what does that look like? I realize that could be like a whole episode in of itself… Paul Alexander — Sure. Rich Birch — …but give us kind of a thumbnail version of that.Paul Alexander — Yeah. Thumbnail. I mean, at the end of the day, I’ll give you the, how it happens, but, besides the hiring process and recruiting process, that stuff matters a lot. Right. So you’re inviting people to something that they’re actually gifted and called to. But at the end of the day, um it’s really results, Rich. The Bible way to say that is fruit. Rich Birch — Right.Paul Alexander — OK, for all of our listeners who are high on the theology side of things, I can sympathize with you. I went to Bible school, too. Really, it’s fruit. And when you are in a place, when your staff are in a place where they’re playing to their strengths and their gifting, and they’re in a place where they’re not overreaching and trying to attain a different role, and they’re not talking about career path, they’re just content to be the person and play the part in the body of the Lord’s gifted and call them to to play, they’re going to have more fun and they’re going to produce more fruit.Rich Birch — Yep.Paul Alexander — It’s just a fact. And so when when you see all this striving and, you know, this ambition to like, I want more, I want more, I want more. It’s a very American, Western idea, right? And the biblical way of doing that would be, hey, well why don’t you be faithful with what the Lord’s entrusted with you today? And when he sees fit to entrust more to you, guess what? He probably will.Rich Birch — He will.Paul Alexander — There’s probably going be some stray arrow out of the battle that was never even intended to hit that guy. It’s going to find just the right place in the chink in the armor. And you’re going to ascend to the throne at the right time when the Lord wants you to. So, you know, relax. Do what the Lord’s called you to do today.Rich Birch — Right.Paul Alexander — Be faithful in that.Rich Birch — Right.Paul Alexander — And he’ll entrust more to you when he’s ready.Rich Birch — Right.Paul Alexander — So that’s a big deal. that it may sound ah like a contrite, a little bit Bible answer to that. But when your staff are personally in a place where they’re doing what God’s called them to do, and they’re they’re very sober-minded about that, they’re going to have more fun. That’s really important. They’re go to have more fun in ministry. It’s going to be more fulfilling and they’re going to produce more fruit.Paul Alexander — Now, how’s that work its way out with what you’re talking about? We have an annual run of strategic planning that we do, both senior staff and then at the campus level. And that we refresh that every single year. Out of that come real clear objectives where the Lord’s calling us to go. Then goals, professional goals are set around that at the campus level. And then that kind of trickles down. That all gets into review systems. There’s monthly one-on-ones where they’re talking about the performance side of things.Paul Alexander — But it’s really normal, Rich, where if you and I were working with one another and I was reporting to you, you’d say, hey, Paul, what’s going on with you and Lisa? And you’d be asking about my daughters and you’d be asking about my sons. And we’d be talking about life and marriage and family. And and what’s the Lord doing in your life? What’s he saying to you these days? You know, and you know where’s he challenging you? Where’s he encouraging you? So they’re very natural, normal, that part of things there. You’d probably pray for me actually in that meeting that one-on-one. Paul Alexander — And then we talk about, okay, how are we doing with our goals? What what are the measurables? What are the setbacks? Because there’s always setbacks. Rich Birch — Right. Paul Alexander — And what are the things that went faster than you thought they would go? And you’re finding real real traction.Rich Birch — Right.Paul Alexander — And then my your job as a supervisor would be, how do you get roadblocks out of the way for me to be successful? Rich Birch — Right. Paul Alexander — How do you fuel things that I need fueled so I can be successful and and reach my goals? Rich Birch — Yeah, that’s good. Paul Alexander — So yeah, does that make sense? Rich Birch — That makes total sense. So I, you know, in other contexts, I’ve said results matter because the work that you do matters so much. Like and, and we, and we, we want to think about results. We want to think about fruit. What percentage of, or you know, in a round sense of the team at Sun Valley has like a number or a metric or a like they can measure, it’s not like qualitative, like, oh, things are better. It’s like, no, no, we know. I know whether this is working or not. What percentage of your people you think have a metric like that they they think about on a regular basis?Paul Alexander — All of them.Rich Birch — Love it. Tell us about that. I think this is going to be mind blowing for leaders of churches who do not think about these things. And I know, you know, there’s people out there who, who they they haven’t wrestled with this idea. Unpack that a little bit more.Paul Alexander — Yeah. So, I mean, okay. So if I say, I want my marriage to get better this year, we’ll go real personal for a second. Rich Birch — Sure.Paul Alexander — I want to get my marriage. That’s wonderful. Who doesn’t want their marriage to get better? How are you going to do that?Rich Birch — Right.Paul Alexander — That that just doesn’t magically happen. You don’t drift towards relational intimacy with your spouse.Rich Birch — Yes.Paul Alexander — What you do is you drift apart. That’s what happens.Rich Birch — Right.Paul Alexander — Absence doesn’t make the grow heart grow fonder. It makes it wander. Rich Birch — Yes. Paul Alexander — And so, you know, you’ve got to figure out, okay, how many date nights am I going to do? How much am I going to budget towards this? Are we going to do an annual retreat as a husband and a spouse together, maybe a marriage retreat? Are we going to go on vacation? What are the conversations we feel like we need to lean into? Do we need some do we need some coaching? Rich, if you’re a professional counselor, do I need to go to you and get some some input and some professional coaching? Because goodness gracious, you can see some things that I don’t see because I’m in the fray of it day in and day out. Paul Alexander — So yeah, we’ll get real tactical and say, what book are you going to read? How many of those books are you going to read? What podcast? Rich Birch — Right.Paul Alexander — Are you going listen to the unSeminary podcast? You know. What are you going to do to to grow and in your marriage this year or as a leader. And so, yeah, if you can’t measure it, then you can’t actually do it. Rich Birch — Right. Paul Alexander — And then it gets down to opinions and, you know, everybody’s got one of those. So.Rich Birch — Yeah. Alright. I imagine imagine I’m an executive pastor you meet at a conference or you’re somewhere and you’re at an airport lounge, and they’re church of a thousand people, maybe 1500 people. They’ve got 10 staff and they’re sensing that, man, there’s some misalignment, but it’s it’s at the level of like, I think there might be a problem here. I’m not entirely sure. I feel like there’s cracks starting to happen in the staff culture, but it’s not like a giant fizzer. It’s just like things just don’t feel right. What would be some of the first steps that you would suggest a leader take to try to get clarity on actually where things are at with their staff team… Paul Alexander — Yeah. Rich Birch — …you know, in the next 90 days kind of thing?Paul Alexander — Yeah, that’s a good question. Okay, so first of all, I’d say, and this may sound, I mean, play Captain Obvious for a second, don’t ignore that inclination.Rich Birch — That’s good.Paul Alexander — So the Holy Spirit is is is impressing upon you, something doesn’t smell right, then it probably doesn’t smell right.Rich Birch — That’s good.Paul Alexander — Don’t bury that. Don’t avoid that. Avoiding something you know you have to solve is never going to make that situation better, ever.Rich Birch — That’s so true.Paul Alexander — And so don’t avoid it. Go with that feeling. Lean into it a little bit and and begin. Why? Why do I feel this way? What is what am I sensing that needs to be solved? Because my hunch is they’re anticipating something. If they are a good intuitive leader, they’re probably anticipating something before it’s going to happen.Paul Alexander — And so structure is always a lid to growth in a church. Churches always need to restructure. This is really important. So once you get a structure, it’s not like, oh we’re going to be with this structure for the next 15 years. Rich Birch — Right. Paul Alexander — And if it’s a growing church, you’re always going to need to restructure. And that’s just normal. Get used to it.Rich Birch — Right.Paul Alexander — It’s just part of what it is. Rich Birch — Yes.Paul Alexander — And so I think you’ve got decipher, is it a structure issue or is it a culture issue? That that’s, you know, Wwhat am I sensing that needs to be actually needs to be solved? If it’s a culture issue, where is there a violation of your culture taking place, and how do you help it get better? Maybe you haven’t defined what your culture is. Rich Birch — Right.Paul Alexander — Maybe you can’t actually really articulate it. Maybe you haven’t written it down, trained it. Maybe you have not filmed 5 to 10 minute videos for every new staff member to to onboarding to actually understand your cultural distinctives. Maybe you’ve not embedded that into your annual reviews and actually, you know at review time, you’re actually reviewing me on how we’re doing, how I’m doing with our staff culture.Paul Alexander — So maybe that’s something you need to just kind of look in the mirror and say, you know what, as a leader, I have the power to change that. And I’m going to get that better this next year. We’re going really clear about what our staff culture is. Rich Birch — Yeah, that’s good.Paul Alexander — And then we’re going embed that and train it. If it’s a structural thing, is it truly a structural thing or do you have one or two players that just aren’t playing their part? You know, you’ve got ah this wonderful body the Lord’s put together. He talks about the church being the body of Christ, this wonderful body but where we’re limping because our ankle, we got a bum ankle. And the reality is we either need to rest it, you know, so we can get it healed up. We need to maybe get some repair done to it, or we need to like reconstruct that thing. We need a new ankle. Rich Birch — Yeah.Paul Alexander — All of those are fine answers. And I think just being honest about the team that we have and everybody playing in the right place. And then structurally, you start to get into span of care and you know do we have the right number of staff? Those are real answers you can really get. When we do staffing and structure with churches at the Unstuck Group, there are real healthy benchmarks. There are real healthy financial numbers that are good benchmarks, you know. If you’re spending more than 50 cents on the dollar on your staffing, you should ask yourself why.Paul Alexander — You know, if you have more than your staffing, you’re, you know, beyond one to 75 and you’re creeping into an area that’s really unhealthy. You know, I’ve seen churches that are staffed like one full time staff member for every 30 attenders at the church.Rich Birch — Right, right.Paul Alexander — And you’re just like. It’s sad, frankly, because the Lord’s called us to so much more. And um so those are those are like the basic science side of things that need to be changed. You know, if you’re not clear about who your senior staff is, if you got, if your senior staff, like your executive staff, are making decisions about like the color of the carpet, and they’re making decisions that that are low-level decisions, then you kind of got to look in the mirror and say, boy, are we training our staff that all big decisions have to come to us? Or are we pushing decisions down and actually teaching people how to lead and make decisions? So myriad of things.Rich Birch — That’s good. That’s so good. One of, in last year’s, kind of rundown of, you know, most listened to podcasts, Amy from the Unstuck Group, hers, I think was our second most listened to podcast. And she, she dove in deep on exactly what we were just talking about their, friends. You should go back in the archives, find that episode. It will, it’ll, you know, all that structure stuff. Rich Birch — And I would say on that, particularly on structure and some of those benchmarks, I think too many of us think our church is like this precious, it’s so different than every other church out there. And and and that’s true. It is a unique body. There’s a there’s one way that that is true. But in this way, there are actually a lot of commonalities you can learn from other churches and gain wisdom from folks like Paul who have done this before and talked with lots of churches. So don’t don’t be in isolation about this, Paul. This has been an incredibly helpful. I’ve got a page of notes and other questions I wanted to ask as we were going through. Oh, I want to talk about that. Oh, I want to talk about that.Rich Birch — But I know you’ve got other things to do than be on our podcast. But as you’re thinking about the 2026, the year coming up here, what’s a question or two that you’re wrestling with that you’re thinking through? It doesn’t have to be on what we just talked about there. But just as you think about the future of Sun Valley, what are some things that you’re thinking about going into this year?Paul Alexander — Yeah, that’s a good question. I mean, we pressure we’ve deal with pressure points just like every church does, right? Frankly, the pressure points we’re dealing with, we’re going through a season of a couple of years of pretty significant growth. A lot of people needing Jesus. last This is the first time in back-to-back years we baptized more than 1500 people, you know, in back-to-back years. And so there’s a huge responsibility that our growth, our front end growth is beginning to outpace our engagement. Things like people engaging in groups and building meaningful friendships that are around God’s word or, engaging and volunteering and being the church, not just coming to church, right? And a giving, learning to be generous, generous and steward with the Lord’s entrusted to them. Kind of these markers that we see of people who are actually beginning to look like Jesus. They’re not just, you know, you know, attending church and trying to figure Jesus out a little bit.Paul Alexander — And so in a lot of ways, we need a bigger boat. We’ve got multiple campuses that are doing two services on Saturday and three services on Sunday. And we’ve, we’ve got to get some bigger rooms. And you know, the other side of it is is growth sometimes can grow faster than our ability to grow leaders. I mean, you think about your own personal leadership, Rich. I mean, how long has it taken you to become the leader you are today?Rich Birch — Right. Right. Not overnight. Not in 18 months.Paul Alexander — Yeah, your whole life.Rich Birch — Yes, exactly.Paul Alexander — Yeah, the answer is your whole life. Rich Birch — Yes.Paul Alexander — And so there’s definitely been crucible moments. My hunch is if we unpack your leadership journey, there’s been crucible moments where the Lord has ah stretched and grown you in unique ways and unique seasons because of pressure points that you went through. And so um we’re figuring out how do we accelerate leadership in in our staff?Rich Birch — That’s good.Paul Alexander — And you you accelerate leadership not by by giving resources, but by constricting resources. Because leaders always figured out and grow through constriction moments. Rich Birch — That’s good.Paul Alexander — And so giving stretch assignments, all those kind of fun things. So yeah, we deal with pressure points just like everybody else does. I mean, everybody’s like, oh, I’d love to have that problem. I know you would. It’s a wonderful problem to have. It’s still a problem because we don’t want to become a lid to more people meeting Jesus in 2026. You know, by us not solving something that’s in our control to solve.Rich Birch — Yeah. In other contexts, I’ve talked about platinum problems. Those are are great problems, but they’re still problems with things we have to wrestle with. And and friends, if you’re not tracking with Sun Valley, you should be, or Paul or the Unstuck Group, these are all organizations you should be getting a chance to kind of follow along with. If people want to kind of connect with the church, get a better sense, follow along with your story, where do we want to send them online? Tell us about that. And then also Unstuck Group. I want to make sure we we send people there too.Paul Alexander — Yeah, Unstuck Group is super easy to find. Unstuckgroup.com. The listeners can email me at paul@theunstuckgroup.com. That’s the easiest way to get me, frankly. The easiest, cleanest way to get me if someone has a question or wants to follow up on something personally. I’m happy to do that, man.Rich Birch — Thanks so much, Paul. I appreciate you being here today and and really looking forward to seeing what happens in 2026 at Sun Valley. Take care, man.Paul Alexander — Yeah, glad to, man. Thanks for the invitation. Hope the conversation is helpful.

Join our Patreon to unlock 25+ full-length bonus episodes, ad-free weekly episodes, mp3 downloads of our original songs, exclusive Discord access, and more! You can also support the show by shopping small at bit.ly/lezmerch & picking up Lez-ssentials songs on Bandcamp. Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that is just too good to be true. This week, Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out with queer actor, writer, and comedian Olivia Levine (@olivialevine19) to talk about why the 1999 cult classic Drop Dead Gorgeous, Should've Been Gay. If you're unfamiliar with the plot, it focuses on a small town beauty pageant that turns deadly for the contestants. As with many movies from the 90s, there are a lot of things in the script that just do not hold up in 2026. We still enjoyed this movie overall, but please be aware there is a period-typical amount of ableism, racism, and homophobia.  One thing that Drop Dead Gorgeous does get right is the casting. This cast is STACKED. If you're a millennial like us, you'll recognize so many people in this movie, including Kirsten Dunst, Kirstie Alley, Denise Richards, Brittany Murphy, and Amy Adams. The acting is impeccable and the characters are delightfully unhinged in the campiest of ways. Being an SBG, the characters aren't openly queer, but we can honestly say we do not think there is a single straight character in this movie. Unfortunately, interpreting these characters as queer means there is quite a bit of BYG (bury your gays) trope throughout. For a romcom, there is a shocking amount of murders, but they are done in really over the top, comical ways (so it isn't scary to watch!).  We know one thing for sure, Drop Dead Gorgeous Should've Been Gay. Check out Olivia's monthly comedy show “Strapped” at the legendary Stonewall Inn in NYC. Keep an eye out for upcoming dates and locations for Olivia's solo comedy show “Unstuck”, which focuses on the intersection of OCD, anxiety and queerness.  Give us your own answers to our Q & Gay on Instagram and follow along on Facebook, TikTok, YouTube and BlueSky @lezhangoutpod. Email us @lezhangoutpod@gmail.com. Connect with us individually: Ellie Brigida (@elliebrigida). Leigh Holmes Foster (@lshfoster). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Scrupulosity can feel terrifying — especially when OCD and anxiety latch onto God, faith, salvation, or religious beliefs.In this episode of The Restored Minds Show, licensed therapist Matt Codde, LCSW explains what scrupulosity really is, why it has nothing to do with a lack of faith, and what actually allows people to recover.If you're constantly doubting your salvation, fearing you've committed an unforgivable sin, or feeling trapped in religious fear loops, this episode will help you understand what's happening beneath the surface — and why trying harder spiritually often makes it worse.Rather than treating scrupulosity as a faith problem, Matt explains why it's a fear-based nervous system issue — and how shifting your internal state, not seeking certainty, is the path to healing.

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Choosing a process vs choosing a result is one of the most overlooked reasons people stay stuck in anxiety, OCD, and mental health struggles for years.In this episode of The Restored Minds Show, licensed therapist Matt Codde, LCSW breaks down why trying tools, techniques, and processes without deciding on a clear outcome keeps people cycling — and what actually creates lasting transformation.If you've tried ERP, mindfulness, ACT, coping strategies, books, or programs but still feel like nothing truly sticks, this episode will help you understand what's missing.Rather than focusing on eliminating symptoms, Matt explains why recovery and transformation begin with choosing an identity and a destination — and then building the structure, skills, and support that align with that result.

This week, we explore why isolation can be deadly to our spiritual growth and how to fight for community even when we've been hurt in the past.

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This Week's EpisodeAfter his greatest victory, Elijah fell into his deepest valley. Overwhelmed, afraid, and depressed, he isolated himself - but God met him gently in the silence. Like Elijah, we'll discover that when our thoughts spiral, God's truth still reminds us that we're not alone, and our story isn't over.Ready For More?Have you made a decision to follow Jesus? You might be wondering what's next for you. We want to help! Visit firstchristian.com/followingjesus for free resources, or text "Jesus" to (330) 708-7029 and someone will respond back to talk about your next step!Check out firstchristian.com/nextsteps to find opportunities to connect and grow.We'd love to see you this coming Sunday on-campus or streaming online at 9 and 11am.About This SeriesFeeling stuck? We all hit seasons where it seems like we can't move forward - trapped by our past, our thoughts, our routines, or our fears. Living an Unstuck Life is a four-week series about how God meets us right where we are and gives us the strength to take the next step toward freedom and purpose. It's time to break free from what's been holding you back and start walking in the life God designed for you.About First Christian ChurchWe believe that Jesus is for all people... which means he is for you - that he loves you, that your life matters to him, and that he has a plan for you. We want to help you find hope, purpose, and a place to belong as part of his family. Our hope is that your journey will include joining us as we all take steps in our walk with Jesus together. Find out more about FCC at firstchristian.com/about.Find Us On Social MediaYouTube: www.youtube.com/firstchristiancantonFacebook: www.facebook.com/fcccantonInstagram: www.instagram.com/fcccantonTikTok: www.tiktok.com/@fcccantonX: www.x.com/fcccantonConnect with Pastor JimmyInstagram: www.instagram.com/jimmymcloudTikTok: www.tiktok.com/@jimmy.mcloudX: www.x.com/jimmymcloudBlog: www.jimmymcloud.comSupport the show

Jesus gave himself for us to redeem us from all lawlessness and to purify for himself a people for his own possession who are zealous for good works. ​ He gets us unstuck. ​ The grace that is Jesus Christ appeared in the world once and for all time, interrupting the death march of humanity by his own living, dying, and rising. ​ Now, in this present, the event of Jesus calls us to a new life today, training us to renounce ungodliness and worldly passions and live in freedom with a new purpose.

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Why you're stuck isn't random — and it isn't because you're broken, resistant, or missing the right information.In this episode of The Restored Minds Show, licensed therapist Matt Codde, LCSW explores why people stay stuck in anxiety, OCD, and fear-based loops — and what actually creates real change.If you've tried coping strategies, therapy, tools, or information but still feel trapped in the same cycles, this episode will help you understand the missing piece that keeps progress from sticking.Rather than focusing on managing symptoms, Matt explains why transformation begins with responsibility, internal ownership, and changing the patterns that maintain fear — not blaming circumstances, genetics, or the outside world.

Money AND power? We're allowed to want those things? Heck, yes, we are. Don't miss this dynamic conversation about how to do it! Amy Suto is a freelance memoir ghostwriter, bestselling author, and the writer behind the top-ranked Substack, Make Writing Your Job. As a ghostwriter, Amy has written memoirs on behalf of Olympians, CEOs and NBA players. Her Substack, Make Writing Your Job, has more than 23,000 subscribers, providing a job board and practical tips for writers. In addition to her ghostwriting business and Substack, Amy published her debut romantasy novel, The Ash Trials, in 2025. Write for Money and Power is her most recent release. https://www.amysuto.com/write-for-money-and-power✏️ 90 Days to Done NOW OPEN! http://rachaelherron.com/90daystodone✏️ 90 Day Revision NOW OPEN! http://rachaelherron.com/revision

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Control is just the illusion that if we manage things well enough we can avoid pain and disappointment. Instead of helping us live free, unhealthy levels of control get us stuck and prevent us from being who God has created us to be. We continue our exploration of Daniel by looking at how we can surrender control and get unstuck.

If traditional goal-setting feels exhausting, rigid, and not your jam, this episode will help you reimagine how you plan your life in 2026.We're diving into The Odyssey Plan, a powerful life design and goal-setting framework developed at Stanford University as part of the Designing Your Life curriculum by Bill Burnett and Dave Evans.It's the ideal method for anyone who feels burnt out by traditional goal-setting, overwhelmed by decisions, or scared of choosing the “wrong” path.Instead of forcing yourself into one narrow future, the Odyssey Plan helps you imagine multiple possible lives, reduce fear-based decision-making, and set goals that actually align with your values, energy, and curiosity — not just productivity or external pressure.Tune in for a creative and science-backed way to reset and design goals you can actually stick to.Listen in for:Using Stanford Life Design principles to set meaningful goals without burnoutCreate three different life paths instead of committing to one rigid planSet intentions for 2026 that feel exciting, flexible, and realisticReduce fear of “making the wrong choice” and embrace curiosity-driven planningPrototype and test future goals before fully committingTurn long-term life vision into actionable goals you can start this year Download the Odyssey Plan template. For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

We kick off the new year by diving into Daniel to explore how we can remain holy and set apart in a culture that wants us to conform to the world around us.

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Feeling scared for no reason is one of the most unsettling anxiety experiences — especially when you know nothing dangerous is happening, yet your body reacts as if it is.In this episode of The Restored Minds Show, licensed therapist Matt Codde, LCSW explains why anxiety feels so real even when there is no external threat, and why trying to argue with or suppress the feeling often keeps you stuck in the anxiety loop.If you're experiencing sudden fear, panic sensations, or anxiety that feels urgent “out of nowhere,” this episode will help you understand what's actually happening inside your nervous system — and how to respond in a way that allows anxiety to release.Rather than trying to fix or eliminate fear, Matt breaks down how healing comes from changing your relationship with the feeling itself, not fighting the experience or projecting it onto the outside world.

Have you ever known what God was calling you to do… but still felt stuck, hesitant, or unable to move forward? In this episode, I'm sharing my personal story of how God used neuroscience to help me get unstuck in my calling—not instead of faith, but alongside it. For a long time, I believed that if I truly trusted God, obedience wouldn't feel so hard. But what I've learned—both in my own life and through coaching women who deeply love God—is that many of us don't actually have a clarity or faith problem. We have a wiring problem. Scripture tells us that we are transformed by the renewing of our mind (Romans 12:2). Neuroscience shows us how that renewal happens—through repetition, safety, and new neural pathways. God designed the brain, and He knew that our mind, body, and nervous system would need to partner with our calling so we could walk in obedience with peace instead of striving. In this episode, I talk about: Why knowing God's will isn't always enough to move forward How subconscious thoughts, beliefs, and nervous system patterns can keep us stuck—even when we love God Why self-sabotage is often about safety, not disobedience How renewing your mind is both a spiritual and biological process Why every new level of calling requires new wiring I also share honestly how this pattern has shown up for me again as I've stepped into a new level of my own coaching and calling—and why returning to this work is essential at every stage. If you've ever wondered why following God feels harder than you think it should, this episode will help you see that nothing is wrong with you—and that alignment, not pressure, is often the missing piece. Work With Me: Align & Activate™ Sessions I'm currently offering a limited number of Align & Activate™ Sessions—one-time, 60-minute coaching calls designed to help you: Get clear on what God is inviting you into Identify the thoughts, beliefs, and brain patterns holding you back Create a grounded, personalized plan to move forward with confidence and peace These sessions are especially powerful if you: Know you're called to something but feel stuck Are overthinking your next step Want clarity without pressure or striving Desire to partner with God using both faith and neuroscience

Life doesn't always move at the pace we want, and when progress feels slow or invisible, it's easy to wonder if anything is actually happening. But joy isn't built on quick fixes or surface-level change, but on the deeper work God is doing underneath the surface—especially in seasons that feel dry, confusing, or delayed. Even when life feels stalled, prayer still moves us forward, and trust grows quietly below the surface. Faith doesn't avoid the mess—it finds Jesus in it. Your faith was made for the mess. (Talk by Joshua Ott)

Life doesn't always move at the pace we want, and when progress feels slow or invisible, it's easy to wonder if anything is actually happening. But joy isn't built on quick fixes or surface-level change, but on the deeper work God is doing underneath the surface—especially in seasons that feel dry, confusing, or delayed. Even when life feels stalled, prayer still moves us forward, and trust grows quietly below the surface. Faith doesn't avoid the mess—it finds Jesus in it. Your faith was made for the mess.

This Week's EpisodeJoseph had every reason to stay bitter - betrayed, abandoned, forgotten. Yet instead of letting his past define him, he let God redeem it. When he finally faced the ones who hurt him, he chose forgiveness over revenge. His life demonstrates that you can't move forward if you're still chained to what happened to you. Choosing forgiveness frees you to live an unstuck life.Ready For More?Have you made a decision to follow Jesus? You might be wondering what's next for you. We want to help! Visit firstchristian.com/followingjesus for free resources, or text "Jesus" to (330) 708-7029 and someone will respond back to talk about your next step!Check out firstchristian.com/nextsteps to find opportunities to connect and grow.We'd love to see you this coming Sunday on-campus or streaming online at 9 and 11am.About This SeriesFeeling stuck? We all hit seasons where it seems like we can't move forward - trapped by our past, our thoughts, our routines, or our fears. Living an Unstuck Life is a four-week series about how God meets us right where we are and gives us the strength to take the next step toward freedom and purpose. It's time to break free from what's been holding you back and start walking in the life God designed for you.About First Christian ChurchWe believe that Jesus is for all people... which means he is for you - that he loves you, that your life matters to him, and that he has a plan for you. We want to help you find hope, purpose, and a place to belong as part of his family. Our hope is that your journey will include joining us as we all take steps in our walk with Jesus together. Find out more about FCC at firstchristian.com/about.Find Us On Social MediaYouTube: www.youtube.com/firstchristiancantonFacebook: www.facebook.com/fcccantonInstagram: www.instagram.com/fcccantonTikTok: www.tiktok.com/@fcccantonX: www.x.com/fcccantonConnect with Pastor JimmyInstagram: www.instagram.com/jimmymcloudTikTok: www.tiktok.com/@jimmy.mcloudX: www.x.com/jimmymcloudBlog: www.jimmymcloud.comSupport the show

Anxiety and mental stress tips are everywhere — but most of them keep you stuck in the anxiety loop.In this episode of The Restored Minds Show, licensed therapist Matt Codde, LCSW shares 5 practical, grounded anxiety and mental stress tips to help you stop fighting your anxiety and start breaking the loop that keeps fear, tension, and overwhelm in control.If you're starting 2026 feeling anxious, emotionally drained, or exhausted from managing symptoms, this episode will help you understand why anxiety persists — and what actually allows it to release.Rather than trying to “fix” anxiety, Matt explains how healing comes from changing your relationship with thoughts, sensations, and emotional tension.

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Send us a textCareer Momentum and Getting "Unstuck" Starts With How You SHOW UPCareer momentum does not come from doing more. It comes from showing up with clarity, intention, and confidence, especially at mid-career. In this opening episode of the year, I share my personal journey from classroom teacher to leadership and career coach, and the moment when being fine was no longer enough.I walk you through the experiences that shaped how I think about careers today, from turning classic game shows into engaging math lessons to leading instructional coaches across 13 middle schools. Along the way, stalled interviews, internal politics, and budget delays forced me to rethink how career decisions are really made and how influence is built at mid-career.These lessons became the foundation of my work helping mid-career professionals who feel undervalued, underutilized, or stuck despite doing everything they were told would lead to advancement.Why Mid-Career Feels Harder Than It ShouldMid-career is not a plateau. It is a dynamic and decisive phase where visibility, influence, and clarity matter more than effort alone. I share how nonprofit reorganizations left me highly valued by some leaders and invisible to others and how those moments sharpened my understanding of what truly drives career momentum.In this episode, I introduce the six strategies for showing up with intention. These strategies focus on aligning your thoughts, emotions, and actions so you can protect your professional brand, have more meaningful conversations, and make smarter career decisions in a complex job market.What You Will Learn in This EpisodeIf you are a manager or senior director balancing career growth with family and caregiving responsibilities, this episode will help you cut through the noise and regain momentum.You will learn:Why mid-career is one of the most important and misunderstood stages of your careerThe turning point that shifted me from educator to leader and coachHow to read interview signals and ask for feedback that actually mattersHow to reframe career setbacks into growth opportunitiesThe six strategies for showing up with clarity and intentionCommon challengeSupport the showReady to give your career the jumpstart it needs to whatever is next? Schedule a $197 Career/Leadership Strategy Session. Click here to learn more about how this transformative strategy session will help you. Visit https://johnneral.com/resources to: Subscribe to my free leadership and career newsletter Get The Mid-Career Promotion Blueprint to help you figure out whatever is next for you and your career Join The Mid-Career GPS Membership Community. Please leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts here. Connect with John on LinkedIn here.Get John's New Mid-Career Journal on Amazon here. Follow John on Instagram @johnneralcoaching. Subscribe to John's YouTube Channel here.

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Ask Farnoosh tackles three timeless money crossroads: getting out from under high-interest credit card debt, taking a career break without losing financial footing, and deciding whether an early retirement package is a smart (and safe) next move. Questions Include: How to manage credit card debt at 30% interest? Consolidation options, reputable nonprofit credit counseling, negotiating APR, and a realistic payoff plan Burnt out breadwinner considering a 6-month break? Exploring a “middle path” (sabbatical/reduced hours), runway math, and navigating the fear of financial dependence Take an early retirement package? Evaluating the offer, retirement readiness checks, when to consult a planner, and why buyouts can signal future layoffs Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.