Relationship Secrets Made Simple for Queer Women

Today we're talking about the 7 secrets to making a relationship work according to renowned psychiatrist John Gottman. We'' unpack the seven steps, plus the "don't do's" to help your marriage thrive in this season. And that’s what we’re digging into on today's episode. Tune to listen. TAKE THE RELATIONSHIP SUCCESS PATH QUIZ HERE. LBTQIA MARRIAGE INSIDERS COMMUNITY: JOIN HERE JOIN MY VIP RELATIONSHIP PEACE EXPERIENCE WAIT LIST: JOIN HERE

You might relate to this, you find the perfect relationship for you, the graham cracker to your s'more, fast forward to a year later and you’re struggling to figure out why you can’t connect anymore. I didn’t mean to sound like Dr Seuss there but you can see where I’m going with this. The Relationship Success Path Quiz can help with this. And that’s what we’re digging into on today's episode. Learn all about how your relationship is doing and three ways to make it better. Tune to listen. TAKE THE RELATIONSHIP SUCCESS PATH QUIZ HERE. LBTQIA MARRIAGE INSIDERS COMMUNITY: JOIN HERE JOIN MY VIP RELATIONSHIP PEACE EXPERIENCE WAIT LIST: JOIN HERE

Today, we’re talking about love goals--the mental, romantic states of mind that we need more than our lives. We’ll unpack what it means to set love goals. And I’m going to share with you, three behind the scenes-student spotlights from my relationship peace experience program, where they overcame some of their struggles and successfully enhanced their relationships with more passion, and excitement, all with setting love goals.  Read this. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide by John Gottman Read this. The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts FREE CHEAT SHEET & MINI EXECUTION PLAN: GET IT HERE LGBTQIA MARRIAGE INSIDERS CLUB: JOIN HERE CLICK HERE TO JOIN VIP RELATIONSHIP PEACE EXPERIENCE WAIT LIST: YES! I WANT TO BE NOTIFIED

Today, we’re talking about love goals--the mental, romantic states of mind that we need more than our lives. We’ll unpack what it means to set love goals. And I’m going to share with you, three behind the scenes-student spotlights from my relationship peace experience program, where they overcame some of their struggles and successfully enhanced their relationships with more passion, and excitement, all with setting love goals. FREE EPISODE CHEAT SHEET & MINI EXECUTION PLAN: GET IT HERE RSMS COMMUNITY: JOIN HERE JOIN MY VIP RELATIONSHIP PEACE EXPERIENCE WAIT LIST: YES! I WANT TO BE NOTIFIED AS SOON AS IT IS OPEN IN MAY 2021 Photo by RODNAE Productions from Pexels 

If you ever wondered where motivation comes from or where to get more of it, this episode is a must listen, especially, if your LGBTQIA Couple Goals include safety, healthy communication, connections, intimacy… and more. FREE CHEAT SHEET & MINI EXECUTION PLAN: GET IT HERE LGBTQIA MARRIAGE INSIDERS CLUB: JOIN HERE CLICK HERE TO JOIN VIP RELATIONSHIP PEACE EXPERIENCE WAIT LIST: YES! I WANT TO BE NOTIFIED

Everyone deserves a great relationship.    One of my favorite topics of all time, is how to stay connected in relationships. We’ve all been there, you find the perfect partner, the ying to your yang, the espresso to your cappuccino, fast forward to 5 years later and you’re struggling to make eye contact over your cell phone at the dinner table.    Visualize this.. a built in reminder that keeps you connected, and you won’t even need your iPhone to program it. No shade.    That reminder? Your highest WHYS in your relationship. Tune in to listen. FREE EPISODE CHEAT SHEET & MINI EXECUTION PLAN: GET IT HERE LGBTQIA MARRIAGE INSIDERS CLUB: JOIN HERE CLICK HERE TO JOIN VIP RELATIONSHIP PEACE EXPERIENCE WAIT LIST: YES! I WANT TO BE NOTIFIED

Don’t think you have what it takes to turn your relationship into a force for healthy communication, connection, intimacy and couple goal achievement? Think again, friend. Learn how to release tough emotions, outdated beliefs, heal from trauma and fulfill your relationships purpose, and meet your highest potential as a partner with the right tools in your relationship, starting today. You have the power to create the relationship of your dreams. Our perspectives have the power to reset a relationship or to end it.   We're all on a "crazy" journey in 2021 and at times, it all feels uncertain, so how do you put your relationship or marriage first on the journey, you wouldn’t try to drive across the country without a guide, would you? Evolving the story of your relationship is no different. Because the right coaching can help you reach your goals a lot quicker. They’ve already walked the path you’re on and they know exactly which obstacles to look out for. FREE EPISODE CHEAT SHEET & MINI EXECUTION PLAN: GET IT HERE EXCLUSIVE FREE RSMS COMMUNITY: JOIN HERE JOIN MY VIP RELATIONSHIP PEACE EXPERIENCE WAIT LIST: YES! NOTIFY ME WHEN IT IS OPEN IN MAY 2021  

Why do some people make positive lasting changes in their relationships and others never do? That question has been a life-long curiosity of mine and on this episode I tell you the answer. If you’ve ever wanted to stop waiting in your relationship, today’s podcast is for you. From getting unstuck to a reversal of negative thoughts, I’ll break down hard things into digestible “bite sized treats” for your mind, body, and heart. FREE 3 STEP CHEAT SHEET: GET IT HERE FREE TRAINING [SEATS LIMITED]: 10 PERSPECTIVES TO A BETTER RELATIONSHIP RSMS FB COMMUNITY: JOIN HERE. FOLLOW ME ON IG: CLICK HERE.

Today we're talking about becoming a catalyst in your relationship. What does this mean? Emotions are the drivers for everything we do in life. So why not direct them to achieve the outcomes that we really want to have in our relationships. This episode is all about channeling the three simple steps to make it happen.  FREE 3 STEP CHEAT SHEET: GET IT HERE FREE TRAINING [SEATS LIMITED]: 10 PERSPECTIVES TO A BETTER RELATIONSHIP RSMS FB COMMUNITY: JOIN HERE. FOLLOW ME ON IG: CLICK HERE.

Welcome to the Relationship Secrets Made Simple Podcasts.   If you’ve been with me for a while, then you know we’ve been reaching for higher perspective in this season with our series, 10 perspectives to a better relationship and so far we covered five perspectives:   1- Bring new perspective into a tough season 2- Calming Chaos by Shifting Perspective 3- Becoming an ally with uncertainty 4- Pivoting relationship growth and 5- Resonating with radical self-awareness   If this is your first time joining, please go back and listen to all 5 episodes. Each episode is designed to give you a massive value in your relationship season. If you haven’t signed up for the free training with me, go to corinneconway.com/10perspectives, there you’ll find access to 10 mindset moving videos with me, a workbook and community to stand behind you. You don’t want to miss it so go ahead and download it after you listen to this episode.    Good day to you all. I hope you’re all safe, healthy and well.    I want to talk about what it takes to get a fresh, connected, energetic partnership. And how to break up with unhappiness fatigue, if you’re someone that has been struggling with this for a while.   I received a DM with an intriguing and powerful question, why are relationships so hard?   Let’s talk about why relationships feel hard.   Let’s talk about what’s going on inside of us when we feel stressed when conflict come up in relationships   We face challenges in relationships and neuroscience tells us that, the heart rate and testosterone increases, cortisol (the stress hormone) decreases and adrenaline is released by forms of stress.   Our lizard brain is activated by our primary function to survive, followed by our flight, fight or flight response.   When this is activated, we have to remind our lizard brain that our partner isn’t a sabertooth tiger.   Couples that live out the relationship piece mindset stretch the possibility for being exceptional, the development of your psychology will shape the quality of your experience within your relationship.    In other words, you have to learn how to respond to your biology to have a better quality relationship.   So let me ask you a question, or are relationships hard or is it just our biology that we need to understand?   Learning how to respond to the messages that our lizard brain sends us is a skill set you can learn.   You can reprogram your conditioning to respond to these messages in a way that makes you feel better.   Your beliefs influence everything that you do.   It requires intentional action.   Here’s an example of us in action.   US Navy Seals conquer their lizard brains responses in 4 steps   1- Goal setting - They bring structure to the stressful situation with intentional goal setting   2- Mental Rehearsal - They bring vision was intentional visualization   3- Self talk - They bring in guidance with intentional self talk. Positive self talk can override the signals from the amygdala - allowing the prefrontal cortex to take control, the place where rational thinking comes from.   4- Arousal control - This involves controlling your physiology. By breathing long breaths, you can relax your body.   They overcome extreme adversity by being intentional and deliberate.   Here’s the best news of all. If you’re someone that wants to maintain long lasting love, if you’re someone that wants to create a long lasting relationship. If you’re someone that wants to create more happiness in your relationship you can start today.   You can conquer your lizard brain to have a fulfilling relationship.   Here’s the deal…   If you’re like most couples, you want to feel happier…   Here is where the art of science + love intersect...   When you feel good, these chemicals fire...    When we feel love, when we feel the attraction, we literally feel euphoria, because of this chemical formula dopamine (the happy hormone) serotonin and oxytocin that can be nurtured by being intentional and deliberate about unhappiness fatigue.    And if you want to feel elated, feel happier, feel joyful, feel excited, more of this formula with your partner, I’m going to tell you how to be intentional and deliberate about creating more happiness, creating more joy, creating more connection and less of the negative emotions that pile up causing unhappiness fatigue.   But before I do, be sure to download the free before this episode, it lists the actionable steps on how to implement the strategy in your life. It also has a section on how to share this formula with your partner.   Let’s dig into this formula   1- Step # 1 - Get present.   Self-awareness. Let’s dial inward.   Start with what you’re seeing visually. What pictures, what images, what’s playing in your head that’s showing you stories that you can be intentional about dialing in.   Next what are you hearing? With sounds, what voices are you hearing that you can intentionally dial in.   Lastly, what are you feeling? What are the sensations in your body telling you? If you feel tension, take long breaths, inhale deeply, hold it for nine seconds, then release it for 3 seconds.   Get present by noticing what’s going on visually, the sounds that you’re hearing, and the feelings that you’re feeling.   #2 - Set goals for your intention with intentional goal setting.   Important things to consider here...   What outcome do you actually want? If it’s a problem that you want to solve, then use this formula   I want to transition from defensive communication with my partner to clear, connected conversations.   When you find yourself in a stressful situation, after getting present. Have some self talk and remind yourself of the intentional goal that you want to stick with.   3- Self accountability   This is where the rubber meets the road. This is where you’ll build agility and thanks to Neural Plasticity you can build new neurological patterns.   Sustained practice of new behavior can sufficiently challenge the brain to rewire itself to think in a new way.   Behavioral science tells us that it takes 5 positive interactions to every 1 negative reaction to rewire the brain.   Have you ever noticed that It takes less effort on our limbic systems to offer something positive.   It takes less effort to say “hey, I think we’re crossing here please let me clarify.   It takes more effort to rebuild intimate connections after they’re turned down.   It takes more effort to restart your goals again.   It takes very little effort to program your mind every day to master this mindset with the three steps I just talked about. Download the cheat sheet and implement these strategies.    All right, my goal is to always provide you with immense value that you can take with you to implement in your life.   Don’t forget to download the cheat sheet for this episode at corinneconway.com/007.   If you liked this episode please share it with a friend. If you love this episode I would really appreciate it if you would give me a review on iTunes it helps me to get in front of other people like you.   Again just want to thank you for being here with me today.    I believe in you.   Ciao for now.   See you next week.

How to Make the Transition from Negative Thoughts to Happier States with Baby Steps.   Welcome to the RSMS show.    I’m Corinne, your host of this podcast, and It’s my honor to serve you today.    I teach couples how to transition from unhappy-stuck emotional states to exceptional empowering ones with outcomes that make them happier and more fulfilled in their lives and relationships.   If you’re new to my community and might be curious about who I am, I’m a certified master life coach, hypnosis practitioner, educator, entrepreneur and self proclaimed mindset mover… More importantly, I’m a pisces from NY and married queer woman of almost 7 years.   I came out of the closet after 3 decades to MYSELF, made the decision to pursue fulfilling love, met my life partner and have been building the today version of me ever since. Almost a decade later, I educate others in relationships on how to do the same… in a faster, more resourceful, connected and confident way, teaching them the power to exercise control to create exceptional lives.   I teach the skills for manifesting outcomes that people usually daydream about, and in relationships, the steps for naked conversations, the practices for intimate connections, the mindsets for building safe havens… and the confidence to quickly move far beyond comfort zones to tell a new story in their lives.    I’m here to share and show up for you as your guide to teach you these resources in bite sized chunks.   Reframing Negative Thoughts   Have you ever thought to yourself, at one time or another “I’m not in love anymore”? Let’s unpack this for a moment. We all begin in relationships with a strong emotional connection. Attraction is activated and dopamine creates a euphoric state. And when we fall in love, oxytocin in our brains quiets the amygdala for a bit, the part of the brain that coordinates fear responses and safety regulation. It also causes a relaxation of judgement, the place where we assess other people, in the prefrontal cortex.   Which brings me to my next point. Every couple will eventually face power struggles. Meaning, when we feel threatened by rejection, anger, hurt and the pain, the amygdala activates [and so will fear of rejection, avoidance and projection] reducing oxytocin and increasing cortisol. And when this repeats, we find more ways to protect ourselves from repeating that pain.    So how do we make passionate LOVE work for us again? How do we improve it, resonate with a new version of it?   Let’s talk about what love is for a moment. Because it's the reason why most people stay in relationships they’re unhappy in and why they’re chasing love, instead of resonating with it, by building the skill set to make it work for their gain. It's the reason why people spin their wheels to try and fix it…  It's the one thing that we all crave because it provides belonging and safety to all of humankind.   Here’s the real reason…..   Big Insights   Love is a feeling y’all.    It is an emotion.    And like any other emotion, it will come and go.  It's painful and we grieve it because we don’t want to let it go. But I have the best news for you, if you’re someone that wants to feel the euphoric, passionate emotions of love, it isn’t something that arrives at the honeymoon stage and then exits to never return again after a few years. So when you see the couple that gives you FOMO because they’re so much in love, be assured that you can create that in your life too.    Here’s what I mean.   My friends, sustainable Love is a VERB.    One more time for the people in the back, sustainable Love is a VERB.    And as you know, a verb is an action. And any action with a goal can be built into a NEW skill set. The human brain has unlimited capacity to learn new skill sets.   And you can make LOVE exceptional & euphoric again by reducing negative emotions and increasing positive ones. A study from the Harvard School of Public Health tells us that reframing negative perspectives will lead to emotional states that reduce stress. And when you reduce stress, you can reframe to feel more love.     Here’s the deal..     Flourishing relationships that build skill sets, will lead to generating passionate emotions and the skill of reframing negative emotions. A powerful tool that can help you in other areas of your life.    You build a skillset in Baby Steps and I’m going to share the formula with you so stick with me all the way to the end.    By reframing your perspective and pouring into your own cup, instead of waiting for your partner to change, you’ll generate intrinsic motivation. Studies on the benefits of intrinsic motivation tell us that you’ll become more persistent, the more intrinsic motivation that you create and competence you’ll build in the area. The more intrinsic perspective that you create, the more persistent you will be to feel more interest, enjoyment and satisfaction.   Here’s another reason why breaking patterns of negative thought and shifting perspective is so important, cognitive behavioral intervention studies tells us that cognitive restructuring or reframing a shift in perspective leads to a 75% improvement in anxiety triggers such as negative thoughts about your partner, yourself, anger, frustration.  Imagine feeling 75% better and feeling more love, more intimacy, more connection.   So many reasons to feel more love and less stress.    But Before I share the Baby Step Reframe Formula with you, I want to share with you a quick resource that I’m offering to my community. You know how most couples spend countless amounts of hours trying to figure out why they can’t get to better space in their relationship? Well this resource is completely free for the next 30 days, and I break down 10 mindset moving perspectives in my exclusive queer community to help you get to a better space in your relationship. The resource has tremendous value alone but I also have a workbook for you so you can process in real time. After 30 days, this training is going back on the market. So go check it out at corinneconway.com/10perspectives.   [FREE] Baby Step Reframe Formula Cheat Sheet Because I want you to maximize your time, I have a cheat sheet that breaks down the formula for you so you can process with your partner in real time. You can grab the freebie for this episode at corinneconway.com/006 and that’ll be in the show notes as well.   Baby Step Reframe Formula Alright, the Baby Step Reframe Formula consists of four short steps. Download the freebie and a pen.    The first, write the emotion, problem and circumstance as concisely as you can. Really make it very specific. This does something very important. It allows you to get it out of your head but also allows you to define the problem. For example: I feel anxious because I’m having thoughts that I’m not in love anymore. Next, write down why you feel this way. For example: I’m not connecting with my partner like we used to. And it's making me feel anxious and frustrated and I don’t know what else to do. This is where we do the baby step reframe. Begin to write down 5 alternative perspectives to reframe the thought.For example:1. Every couple faces power struggles2. Emotions are fleeting and will change and come back3. I can change the circumstances to reduce my anxiety4. I want more love and build the skill set to get it5. I am in charge of creating my emotions Alright, the fourth and final step is to use evidence to support the alternative perspectives.For example:1. Every couple faces power struggles - Science backs it up2. Emotions are fleeting and will change and come back - Science backs it up3. I can change the circumstances to reduce my anxiety - Science backs it up4. I want more love and build the skill set to get it - Science backs it up and it's the heart of what you really feel and want5. I am in charge of creating my emotions - Psychology backs it up Big Takeaways Learn how to shift perspective and it’ll change your life. Change how you think and it’ll change how you feel. Choose perspectives that’ll change your partnership.   Please rate & review the podcast If you think someone that you know will get value from this podcast please share it with them. 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Resonate with Mastering The Art of Self Awareness   Welcome to the Relationships Secrets Made Simple for Queer Women show.   A podcast about teaching queer women how to improve and strengthen their relationship with actionable steps, with me, yours truly as your coach.   10 Perspectives to a Better Relationship Series    We’re back at it again, if you didn't know, we are well into our community wide challenge...       10 Perspectives to a better relationship...      It’s week 5 and.....   And we are seeing terrific momentum from our queer community.    Because Amidst the quarantine.. Amidst the chaos of 2020.. and Amidst the uncertainty...     We all want to grow in our relationships, to make them stronger, to be of support to our partners...    To show up better for each other...    You can join here corinneconway.com/10perspectives.   Seek out a mentor    If you're struggling with tough emotions in your relationship this season, seek out a mentor, someone that will help you identify what you're feeling and what you're struggling with and how to turn it around. In this series, 10 Perspectives to a Better Relationship, I will walk you through 10 Perspectives that will do just that and you will learn how to identify and shift perspectives together for the better.        And as a bonus, you can get my free accompanying workbook so that you work through and process in real time, and join my free community of queer women who are on the journey with you..    If you want some help improving your relationship, with insight that is meant  to help keep you strong, help you when it's most difficult... with tools to help you make change in your life, take this journey with me by joining, go to corinneconway.com/10perspectives.   Big Insights   Hey dreamer, I’m honored that I get to guide you to building the relationship of your dreams. You’re listening to the relationship secrets made simple for queer women show.   I hope you're doing well.     I want to talk about this idea that we all have parts of us that run completely on autopilot, that we are leaning on to get through this season.     And, some folks might say, Corinne, my relationship is fine, we're fine. Okay. Well, let me ask you, how's your connection in quarantine? Number from 1-10, how connected are you to your partner in this tough season? How has your communication been? How's your sex life? If you're below a solid 7 then there is a distinction between being together and growing together that I invite you to explore.      7 is, we are doing okay. Checking off the boxes.    6 is, we have our arguments here and there but we are okay (with reserved feeling in stomach).    5 is, we're ok this week. Last week we spent most of our nights in separate rooms.    4 is... well you get the point...    Some of us are numbing away from tough conversations, unaware of what is keeping us from having an exceptional relationship amidst the chaos, amidst what's happening in the world.    And so I want to talk to you about how this might not be serving you if you're struggling in your relationship right now.      No question---the uncertainty that we are facing is so difficult with circumstances that you may not be able to control right now.      Raise your consciousness about what isn't serving your relationship One of the most important things I can share with you about showing up well for your partnership, for your marriage is, In this season, is to raise your consciousness about what isn't serving your relationship well right now. And by that I mean certainly don't wait to evolve the story of your marriage of your partnership until after the pandemic is over. Don't let the perspective of uncertainty keep you from walking into a better season right now.     Perspective matters about how you show up and by that I mean to raise your consciousness to what is bottlenecking and sinking you into a harder season.   How are you going to raise your consciousness to growth? To a higher perspective. Answer these questions for yourself...   (A) when you prepare for the next steps in this season what energy will you fill in your environment to create an exceptional relationship?    (B) The insignia of marriage, the strength of marriage is tied directly to your coping mechanisms. And so perspective is so important when coping in difficult times. How will you show up?    Thank you for being a part of this wonderful community that can encourage each other to be better together.     Download your mini execution plan / Download your cheatsheet for this episode Hey friend,  did you know, I have an awesome freebie for this episode, with a mini execution plan, and intimate behind-the-scenes insights… all tied together by my mission to make EVERYTHING you listen to as actionable as possible to move you into a better season? You don’t want to miss it so go ahead and download it today. You can find it in the show notes or go to corinneconway.com/005. Rate & Review the Podcast Reviews for the podcast on iTunes are greatly appreciated! They help us build awareness for the show, which in turn allows us to get in front of more listeners like you. Not only that, but they help us better understand what matters the most to you so that we can bring you more value. If you received insight from this episode, it would mean so much if you could take a moment and leave a rating and review. 5 stars are nice! You can do that by clicking here.

You’re Either Growing or Dying in Your Relationship   Welcome to the Relationships Secrets Made Simple for Queer Women show...   A podcast about teaching queer women how to improve and strengthen their relationship with actionable steps, with me, yours truly as your coach.   10 Perspectives to a Better Relationship Series We are well into our series, 10 Perspectives to a Better Relationship.   It’s week 4! And we are seeing terrific momentum from our queer community    Have you joined our tribe? If not, keep reading.    Seek out a mentor   If you're struggling with tough emotions in your relationship this season, seek out a mentor, someone that will help you identify what you're feeling and what you're struggling with and how to turn it around. In this series, 10 Perspectives to a Better Relationship, I will walk you through 10 Perspectives that will do just that and you will learn how to identify and shift perspectives together for the better.        And as a bonus, you can get my free workbook, so that you work through and process in real time, and join my free community of queer women who are on the journey with you.   If you want some help improving your relationship, with insight that is meant  to help keep you strong, help you when it's most difficult... with tools to help you make change in your life, take this journey with me by joining, go to corinneconway.com/10perspectives.   Two seasons of growth. What we're going to talk about today is this idea that there are two seasons of growth that you can have in your relationship.    And some of you might relate to feeling like you've been stuck in a tough season, in your relationship for a while. And I want to talk about why a new perspective is so important, in delivering growth in this season and why I think it's so important for you right now.    Relationships are always in a constant state of movement… changing from season to season.   But in terms of personal development, one can look at it as either a growing season or a dying season, metaphorically.    Here's what I mean..    If you aren't working hard to ascend into seasons that better serve your relationship..   Then you will descend into seasons devoid of growth...    lf you aren't creating a safe haven for connection..    Then you're fueling your power struggles     If you're not self-editing..      Then the patterns you'll repeat will continue to show up in your life....    If you aren't raising your subconscious about the habits that aren't serving your relationship    Then you're finding yourself doing the same habits you were doing a year ago, and 2 years ago, and 5 years ago... still on auto pilot...    If you aren't reaching for perspective...   Then you're avoiding your growth seasons..    Giving it a little more to grow. How about you? Have you ever been in a situation in your relationship where you needed to give it a little more?    A little more effort. A little more patience.  A little more time. A little more clarity.    And I want to ask you, do you need to give a little more now to grow in this time?   What I invite you to ask yourself is...    What season are you going to continue to walk in?    Which perspective are you going to choose, growing or dying?    Download your mini execution plan / Download your cheatsheet for this episode   Hey friend,  did you know, I have an awesome freebie for this episode, with a mini execution plan, and intimate behind-the-scenes insights… all tied together by my mission to make EVERYTHING you listen to as actionable as possible to move you into a better season?   You don’t want to miss it so go ahead and download it today. You can find it in the show notes or go to corinneconway.com/004.   Ciao for now   See you next week.   Rate & Review the Podcast Reviews for the podcast on iTunes are greatly appreciated! They help us build awareness for the show, which in turn allows us to get in front of more listeners like you. Not only that, but they help us better understand what matters the most to you so that we can bring you more value. If you received insight from this episode, it would mean so much if you could take a moment and leave a rating and review. 5 stars are nice! You can do that by clicking here.  

Become An Ally With Uncertainty In This Season Welcome to the Relationships Secrets Made Simple for Queer Women show. A podcast about teaching queer women how to improve and strengthen their relationships with actionable steps, with me as your coach.   10 Perspectives to a Better Relationship Series and Challenge If you didn't know, I started a community wide challenge.  10 Perspectives to a Better Relationship.  It’s week 3 and we are seeing terrific momentum from our queer community.  Vee, from New York City says... “I'm having real time mindset shifts in real time!”. Thank you Vee. We are so happy to have you be a part of this community.   Seek out a mentor  If you're struggling with tough emotions in your relationship this season, seek out a mentor, someone that will help you identify what you're feeling and what you're struggling with and how to turn it around. In this series, 10 Perspectives to a Better Relationship, I will walk you through 10 Perspectives that will do just that and you will learn how to identify and shift perspectives together, for the better.      And as a bonus, you can get my free training and accompanying workbook, so that you work through and process in real time, and join my free community of queer women who are on the journey with you.  If you want some help improving your relationship, with insight that is meant to help keep you strong, help you when it's most difficult... with tools to help you make change in your life, Take this journey with me by  joining, go to corinneconway.com/10perspectives.      How to become an ally with uncertainty (a story). In this episode, we’re going to talk about something that we all can relate to in this season.. a feeling that is very familiar.. Get your hearts ready, because you’re going to learn the best practices to control that one thing... and that one thing my friends is uncertainty. Let me tell you a story, when I was young, about eight or nine years old, my Dad worshiped Bruce Lee. He had a corner in our living room with a shelf, with all sorts of small statues that represented this culture. A bunch of Chinese metal stars, a bright red colorful fan with Asian patterns and a porcelain samurai statue, that all of us knew was off-limits. As a kid, these things fascinated me. And that's because my Dad shared his passion with us by allowing us to watch karate flicks. Naturally, as kids we wanted to practice some moves. So on one faithful day, my brothers and I we’re mimicking some martial arts moves in the living room. And the unthinkable happened and I want you to imagine this in slow motion, my fathers precious samurai, the centerpiece that lit up our living room, my dads precious gem... somehow was shaken off the shelf.. and up in the air It tumbled, round and round in the air, until it finally hit the ground.  The sound that it made when it shattered into a million pieces, as it hit the ground sent a chill up my spine that caused a fright, that I can only describe as complete and utter panic. My mother entered the room, with what felt like the speed of light, and said this iconic phrase “what happened”? My older brother, who wasn’t worthy of taking one for the team, immediately belted out “she broke it”. Meeeeeeeeee? I thought. Surprised and astonished, suddenly, my heart sank. I became deathly afraid, not because I would be punished but because I knew that statue had held a lot of meaning for my father. I was uncertain of my fate. Would my dad be hurt, angry  and would I be bound to my room for life? What about the precious samurai that lit up the room, that was wounded and shattered on the ground like a pile of dust particles, instead of a strong statement that embodied my Dad's strength in our home. Ooooh, My mother the saint, painstakingly, picked up each piece, one by one and glued the pieces back together with Kraft glue. After she glued it back together, the poor samurai had cracks all over it. And she put the wounded figure back on the shelf after hours of labor. Just looking at it made me weak... A bit of time passed by, yet, my dad still hadn’t arrived home from work. And so, I did what any eight-year-old would do, I ran. I used to go to this place, when I felt uncertain as a kid, it was my bunk bed. And as a small kid, I could hide in the covers and no one could find me there. There, I would think, or calm down. There I would hide away from anything scary.   Now let me ask you, has this ever happened to you, have you ever gone to a place to retreat, to hide when you felt uncertain?  Whether physically or emotionally? Uncertainty is temporary. There was a lesson I learned from this experience, and it was, uncertainty is temporary. Like the samurai, when wounded, you have to choose and shift perspective to move you forward. You can’t shut down, you can’t hide. Eventually, I had to face my dad, and he forgave me and as a reminder to not give up, the samurai stayed on the shelf. Don’t give up because it's easy or familiar When you’re ready to give up, freeze, shut down, numb your hurt, when you hit the wall, when your courage is weak, when you cling to coping mechanisms that are comfortable and safe, when you go to that place when you’re feeling uncertain shift perspective to become an ally with uncertainty. As you continue to head into this chapter…   I want you to think about..  How are you going to become an ally with uncertainty? Answer these questions wholeheartedly.  Who will you show up as when your relationship requires you to choose perspective to walk toward an exceptional relationship?     When you prepare for the next steps in this season what energy will you fill in your environment to create an exceptional relationship?    The insignia of marriage, the strength of marriage is tied directly to your coping mechanisms. And so perspective is so important when coping in difficult times.     How will you be deliberate and intentional about showing up even when you don’t feel like it, even when you’re scared, even when it’s easier to cut and run?   Download your mini execution plan / cheatsheet for this episode. 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Welcome to the Relationships Secrets Made Simple for Queer Women show...   A podcast about teaching queer women how to improve and strengthen their relationship with actionable steps, with Corinne Conway as your coach.   10 Perspectives to a Better Relationship Training Series Because Amidst the quarantine.. Amidst the chaos of 2020.. and Amidst the uncertainty...     We all want to grow in our relationships, to make them stronger, to be of support to our partners... to walk into an exceptional season full of love, relationship peace and new perspective.    To show up better for each other...     When To Seek Out A Mentor   If you're struggling with tough emotions in your relationship this season, seek out a mentor, someone that will help you identify what you're feeling and what you're struggling with and how to turn it around. In this series, 10 Perspectives to a Better Relationship, I will walk you through 10 Perspectives that will do just that and you will learn how to identify and shift perspectives together for the better.        And as a bonus, you can get my free accompanying workbook so that you work through and process in real time, and join my free community of queer women who are on the journey with you..   We as a community can encourage each other to be better together. You can join by going to corinneconway.com/10perspectives. Big Insights   Choose the perspective to prepare you for the season that your relationship is in right now.    One of the most important things that I can share with you about showing up well for your partnership, for your marriage is, in this season is, to intentionally choose the perspective to prepare you for the season that your relationship is in right now.     And no one is prepared for a pandemic but under any circumstance, under any amount of chaos that you may face, you can control your perspective and you can change it for the better.     Three keys to a new perspective in chaos.   1 - Control your perspective.    The first thing is you can control your perspective.     Your thoughts.   Your vantage point.     Your angle.     Your point of view.    Your story.    So in this picture in your mind, you have to think about what your perspective looks like…     The picture that you see, the attitude that you have about it, is the perspective on how you show up or not for an exceptional relationship.     2 - You can change your perspective.  The second thing that I really want  to share with you is, you can change your perspective. Even in a pandemic, you can choose it. When we first heard about coronavirus in February 2020, all we saw were numbers of people dying on the screen. We were devastated. And my heart goes out to anyone who has lost someone. We lost someone… but for us we had to reshape our perspective when we tested positive for coronavirus.     3 - What new perspective do you need to lead in this season?  And the third is, what new perspective do you need to lead in this season? If you’re a daughter, a sister, an aunt, a mother, a wife, a friend… what new perspective do you need to show up well to have an exceptional relationship for who you need to be in this season?     Maybe it’s choosing to work on things together instead of avoiding conflict.   Maybe it’s looking at your own toxic traits instead of blaming your partner.    Maybe it’s finding a mentor or coach instead of ignoring the patterns that you seemingly repeat over and over.   Sometimes it's choosing the perspective that we show up with our whole heart this time instead of half because of the hurts we experienced in the past.    Sometimes it’s choosing the perspective to work on ourselves instead of waiting for our partners to change.    Choosing perspective is walking into a new season and it’s walking into courage.     You can be still in chaos.       Join me for 8 more mindset moving perspectives  in this series.    To grow in your relationship to make it stronger    Amidst the pandemic.. Amidst the chaos of  2020.    To show up better for each other...     To help to advance you into a better season now...      I believe in you.     Download your mini execution plan / cheatsheet for this episode   Hey friend,  did you know, I have an awesome freebie for this episode, with a mini execution plan, and intimate behind-the-scenes insights… all tied together by my mission to make EVERYTHING you listen to as actionable as possible, to move you into a better season?   You can download by clicking here.   Rate & Review the Podcast Reviews for the podcast on iTunes are greatly appreciated! They help us build awareness for the show, which in turn allows us to get in front of more listeners like you. Not only that, but they help us better understand what matters the most to you so that we can bring you more value. If you received insight from this episode, it would mean so much if you could take a moment and leave a rating and review. 5 stars are nice! You can do that by clicking here.

Why Perspective Matters Welcome to the Relationships Secrets Made Simple for Queer Women show.  A podcast about teaching queer women how to improve and strengthen their relationship with actionable steps, with me, yours truly as your coach. Big Insights What can dramatically improve the direction of my relationship right now?  ... drumroll please...  You might be surprised to know its shifting perspective. Not so surprising, I know.  But why do so many couples miss this step? And that is what you're going to hear and learn about today.  At the time of this recording, America and the world is still battling the corona virus and I hope that you and your loved ones are at home and are safe and healthy.   I want to talk to you about this idea of finding a new perspective in a tough season. And new perspective in a tough season doesn't mean that we bend reality or lack empathy. It means we build positive strength amidst the uncertainty.   And in juggling all of these thoughts, I began to look for ways to ascend out of the negative emotions that I was feeling amidst the panic of the pandemic and I knew the key that was going to get me there was shifting perspective despite what was happening around us.   1. Ways to Ascend Out of Negative Emotions Madison, a student from my Relationship Peace Academy, was full of pride, she was sure that she knew that her partner would never change. She was hurt by broken promises that her partner Jennifer didn’t live up to. In this season, they were struggling together. Because of how Madison felt, she was unable to work through tough conversations with Jennifer. She was dismissive and rude. As a result, the relationship was on the rocks in a tough season. She was seeing things through the perspective of her pain. She was seeing the relationship through her trauma. But that wasn’t serving the growth of their relationship or Madison either. How about you, have you ever struggled to see things from another perspective because you felt hurt or afraid to get hurt again? This is quite common and it happens to all of us. Madison and Jennifer learned that perspective matters when they had to see things from each others perspective to heal. They had to shift perspective to see the position of each other so that they can grow more understanding and empathy in the relationship. As a result, they are able to communicate and work through their problems together. 2. Create Big Momentum with Perspective Shifts Perspective matters so much in the season, because your perspective shifts will create big momentum, create shared meaning, create commitment to shift paradigms and negative emotions and limiting beliefs that will move you out of toxic patterns, to understanding your sense of self, and can help move you into a committed season of relationship peace. This commitment exists beyond your mood, regardless of your mood. Shifting perspective isn’t  something that spontaneously happens, it requires commitment, determination and focus. And when you know that perspective matters, you know what is going to serve you on a higher level, your relationship on a higher level. 3. Seek Out a Mentor In this season, I want to offer guidance, motivation and inspiration on a new journey, about being honest about where you want to go. About what you're dealing with and about how you can shift if you're someone that wants to reconnect the synergy between you and your partner. If you're someone who wants to feel more joy, be happier and identify the patterns that are showing up in your life.   If you're struggling with tough emotions in your relationship this season, seek out a mentor, someone that will help you identify what you're feeling and what you're struggling with and how to turn it around. In this series, 10 Perspectives to a Better Relationship, I will walk you through 10 Perspectives that will do just that and you will learn how to identify and shift perspective.      And as a bonus, you can get my free training and accompanying workbook so that you work through and process in real time, and join my free community of queer women who are on the journey with you. You can join by going to here. We as a community can encourage each other to be better together. Go from Insight to action: Download your mini execution plan/cheatsheet for this episode here. Rate & Review the Podcast Reviews for the podcast on iTunes are greatly appreciated! They help us build awareness for the show, which in turn allows us to get in front of more listeners like you. Not only that, but they help us better understand what matters the most to you so that we can bring you more value. If you received insight from this episode, it would mean so much if you could take a moment and leave a rating and review. Thank you!