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6 Things Every Dad Should Do The fatherless effect. (1:10) Dad's impact on the health of the family. (3:39) 6 Things Every New Dad Should Do #1 - Be strong and fit. (5:44) #2 - Be hard-working. (13:41) #3 - Learn how to defend your family. (17:24) #4 - Understand your wife. (21:48) #5 - Pursue faith. (29:20) #6 - Invest well. (37:14) Questions: What's the best workout? (44:15) Best supplements? (45:36) Any good books? (46:36) What about TRT? (47:44) Related Links/Products Mentioned Visit Our Place for an exclusive offer for Mind Pump listeners! **Promo code MINDPUMP at checkout to receive 10% off sitewide. Our Place offers a 100-day trial with free shipping and returns. ** May Special: MAPS 15 Performance or RGB Bundle 50% off! ** Code MAY50 at checkout ** The Consequences of Fatherlessness Mind Pump #872: Dr. Warren Farrell- The Boy Crisis Mind Pump #2535: Seven Steps to Go from Dad Bod to Fit at 40 The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts Mind Pump #2325: Why Marriages Fail & What to Do About It With Dr. John Delony Mind Pump #2185: Reclaiming Self-Love & Respect With Adam Lane Smith Religiosity and spirituality in the prevention and management of depression and anxiety in young people: a systematic review and meta-analysis The Impact on Kids of Dad's Faith and Church Attendance Create a Living Trust for free – in minutes! Dynasty Trusts | GetDynasty ** A basic living trust is 100% free with GetDynasty and takes less than 10 minutes to make. ** Mind Pump #2572: Only 15 Minutes a Day to Build Muscle & Burn Fat Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind Marriage That Works: God's Way of Becoming Spiritual Soul Mates, Best Friends, and Passionate Lovers Visit Transcend for this month's exclusive Mind Pump offer! ** 25% off all GLP-1s – This includes the GLP-1 probiotic which people can order through their specialist. ** Mind Pump Podcast – YouTube Mind Pump Free Resources People Mentioned Warren Farrell, PhD (@drwarrenfarrell) X/Twitter Dr. John Delony (@johndelony) Instagram Adam | Relationship Psychology (@attachmentadam) Instagram Arthur Brooks (@arthurcbrooks) Instagram  

This week's resources:Here's the No. 1 thing that makes relationships successful, say psychologists who studied 40,000 couples by Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz GottmanThe Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert by Dr. John GottmanNext week's article:"Take a Wife ... Please!" by Olga Khazan

Resources mentioned in this episode:Here's the No. 1 thing that makes relationships successful, say psychologists who studied 40,000 couples by Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz GottmanThe Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert by Dr. John Gottman

Loneliness and disconnection in relationships can often stem from unmet needs for emotional connection. When one partner reaches out for support, validation, or understanding, and their bids go unnoticed or ignored, it can lead to feelings of isolation and alienation. This lack of responsiveness can create a sense of being unheard or unseen, deepening the emotional distance between partners. Over time, repeated instances of unmet bids can erode trust and intimacy, leaving individuals feeling unfulfilled and disconnected in their relationship. In this episode, Laura Heck and Dr. Jessica Higgins delve into the importance of turning towards your partner in a relationship to address feelings of loneliness and disconnection. By understanding the bidding system in relationships and learning to respond with empathy and curiosity, individuals can build stronger connections with their partners. This episode emphasizes the significance of acknowledging past traumas, developing new skills, and fostering grace and understanding to overcome emotional barriers and create a more fulfilling and intimate partnership. Laura Heck is a licensed marriage and family therapist, Certified Gottman Therapist, co-host of Marriage Therapy Radio, and host of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work workshop for couples. She speaks and trains for The Gottman Institute and is a regular media expert on the topic of intimate relationships. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 05:30 Laura Heck's journey into relationship support. 11:22 Understanding bids for connection in relationships. 16:27 Importance of positive to negative ratios in relationships. 21:23 Exploring bids and responses in relationship dynamics. 26:03 Understanding shutting down in relationships. 31:37 Responding to criticism and harsh startups. 33:18 Repairing miscommunications and misunderstandings. 42:32 Building compassion and empathy in relationships. 45:16 Addressing trust and misunderstandings in relationships. Mentioned The Gottman Institute The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert (*Amazon affiliate link) (book) Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Laura Heck Websites: marriagetherapyradio.com Facebook: facebook.com/marriagetherapyradio Twitter: twitter.com/forbetter_us Instagram: instagram.com/marriagetherapyradio Podcast: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marriage-therapy-radio/id1295458667?mt=2 (Apple Podcast) Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

On this special episode of Scaling UP! H2O, your host Trace Blackmore takes a detour from our usual industrial water treatment discussions to delve into a profound topic that resonated deeply with him in 2023. Join Trace as he shares insights from the game-changing book, "The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships" by the esteemed Dr. John Gottman. Discover the transformative power of understanding and combating the "4 Relational Horsemen": Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling. Trace unpacks these destructive communication patterns and reveals how they can erode the fabric of relationships, whether personal or professional. In this episode, you'll gain timeless tools to douse the flames of relational friction before they become an uncontrollable bonfire. Dr. Gottman's principles aren't just about salvaging troubled relationships; they're a compass for building stronger connections with those in your circle. As we step into 2024, Trace guides you through practical applications of these principles, ensuring that your most important asset—your relationships—flourish and thrive in the coming years. Tune in, and embark on a journey towards healthier, more fulfilling connections. Because when we invest in our relationships, we're investing in a successful and rewarding 2024 and beyond.   Timestamps 01:00 - Trace Blackmore asks you to reflect on 2023's victories and plan for this year with the 12 Week Year 04:20 - Upcoming Events for Water Treatment Professionals  11:00 - Drop by Drop With James McDonald  14:15 - The purpose of relationships and inspiration for this episode 18:30 - Reminders about what we've learned about relationships from Kathleen Edelman, Major Dick Winters, and Tim Fulton 21:12 - Introduction to “The 4 Relational Horsemen” from Dr. Gottman: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling   Quotes “Our life is all about the relationships we have.” - Trace Blackmore “We need to diffuse situations, acknowledge what people are going through, and ultimately make the relationship better.” - Trace Blackmore “Stop and think: how do I take responsibility and not shift the blame to the other person?” - Trace Blackmore “The Temperaments is one of the best things I've ever done to understand myself and every key relationship in my life.” - Trace Blackmore “Today is a great day to build relationships and to make this year a year of kindness, a year of building relationships.”   Connect with Scaling UP! H2O Email Producer: corrine@blackmore-enterprises.com Submit a show idea: Submit a Show Idea LinkedIn: in/traceblackmore/ YouTube: @ScalingUpH2O   Links Mentioned Ep 344 Toasting Triumphs: Reflecting on A Year of Water Wisdom (Last episode of 2023) Ep  132 Pinks and Blues: 12 Week Year Ep 179 with Kathleen Edelman - Communicate Better with Others Ep 281 with Kathleen Edelman - Power of Kindness Ep 117 with Kathleen Edelman - The One With Temperament Expert  Kind Words Are Cool Band of Brothers - 2001 Miniseries Ep 22 with Tim Fulton Ep 280 with Tim Fulton - Retaining Top Talent Dr. John Gottman's 6 Things that Predict Divorce Dr. John Gottman's 4 Horsemen of Conversations The Rising Tide Mastermind Scaling UP! H2O Academy video courses Submit a Show Idea AWT (Association of Water Technologies)   Books: Drop by Drop: Articles on Industrial Water Treatment by James McDonald  The 12 Week Year: Get More Done in 12 Weeks than Others Do in 12 Months by Brian P. Moran, Michael Lennington I Said This, You Heard That 2nd Edition (2023) by Kathleen Edelman I Said This, You Heard That (Workbook) by Kathleen Edelman The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships by John M. Gottman The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert, Revised and Updated by John M. Gottman The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change by Stephen R. Covey The Emotional Bank Account by Franklin Covey Beyond Band of Brothers: The War Memoirs of Major Dick Winters by Dick Winters   2024  Events for Water Professionals Check out our Scaling UP! H2O Events Calendar where we've listed every event Water Treaters should be aware of by clicking HERE or using the dropdown menu.   Drop By Drop with James McDonald In today's episode, we're wandering through a reverse osmosis unit. Starting after the pump just when the water enters an 8” RO membrane element itself. Imagine it, if you will.  Imagine the water flowing into the feed channels between the membrane envelopes themselves. Imagine the pressure. Think about how suspended solids could behave at this entry point, if they made it beyond the prefilters. How might any suspended solids interact with the feed spacer material or surface of the membrane? Think about where any chlorine allowed into the RO system would start to impact first. What damage could it do? How soon? We have not passed through the RO membrane itself yet. No, we continue to flow down membrane elements, passing from one to another still on the feedwater side of the membrane. As our journey continues, we slow down a little as pure water passes through the membrane, and there's less and less water on our feedwater side. The speed probably picks up as we move from one stage of the array to the next, with a lower number of membrane housings to ensure proper velocity and turbulence to help keep the membrane surfaces clean as we press onward to navigate around the feed channel spacer material. Although we are flowing between the membranes, we may be tempted to flow around the membrane elements themselves, out by the membrane housing. What could stop us, right? But something does. What is that thing? Is it the brine seal?  Something we haven't paid much attention to until now is that our water chemistry is changing. It is becoming more concentrated. When does this become a problem? Where does it become a problem? How does it become a problem? As we wind our way through the RO array's stages, membranes, and piping, we finally reach our point of exit where we are called reject or concentrate. From here, we are either sent down the drain or sometimes captured and reused in other applications with less restrictive water quality requirements.   

Recording video segments for our new series designed for Husbands grappling with the meaning, challenges, and opportunities of marriage.*Video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/1Ex3l5Fz434 * The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert at https://amzn.to/3MmWj6n  The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God at https://amzn.to/3ZNnt9F The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People at https://amzn.to/418zDen The 80/80 Marriage at https://amzn.to/438a4fc *Please join us and other listeners on:YouTube = https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxxknPCqn8A_kDFLwDUvGfA ;Facebook  - www.facebook.com/HouseholdMANager ;Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/mr_instaman...  ;TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@mr_homemaker ;Reddit - r/Household_MANagement ;Homepage = http://Mr-Homemaker.com ;*Please support the Mr. Homemaker Podcast athttps://www.patreon.com/Mr_Homemaker *#marriage, #family, #husband, #father, #parenting, #masculinity, #positivity, #carpediem, #leadership, #love, #worklifebalance, #mrhomemaker, #rethinkmasculinity*S3WBV1a1-3Support the showMembership Application: https://mr-homemaker.com/membership

Recording video segments for our new series designed for Husbands grappling with the meaning, challenges, and opportunities of marriage.*Video on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=62OGqXRLCEo * The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert at https://amzn.to/3MmWj6n  The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God at https://amzn.to/3ZNnt9F The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People at https://amzn.to/418zDen The 80/80 Marriage at https://amzn.to/438a4fc *Please join us and other listeners on:YouTube = https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxxknPCqn8A_kDFLwDUvGfA ;Facebook  - www.facebook.com/HouseholdMANager ;Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/mr_instaman...  ;TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@mr_homemaker ;Reddit - r/Household_MANagement ;Homepage = http://Mr-Homemaker.com ;*Please support the Mr. Homemaker Podcast athttps://www.patreon.com/Mr_Homemaker *#marriage, #family, #husband, #father, #parenting, #masculinity, #positivity, #carpediem, #leadership, #love, #worklifebalance, #mrhomemaker, #rethinkmasculinity*S3WBV1a1-3Support the showMembership Application: https://mr-homemaker.com/membership

{Get the guidebook that accompanies this episode: "Building Love Maps Guidebook, a practical guide to rich and meaningful conversations}Even the best therapy in the world won't work if it only focuses on conflict and fails to focus on building friendship and positive systems of affection with your spouse. In today's episode, Robert and Sharla introduce a skill to help you create a deeper and more fulfilling relationship with your partner. This skill, known as "love maps," was created by Dr. John Gottman. Love maps refer to the knowledge and understanding partners have about each other's inner worlds, including their likes, dislikes, dreams, and aspirations.Robert and Sharla delve into the fascinating realm of love maps and explore how this powerful tool can enhance and strengthen relationships. They discuss the importance of building, maintaining, and updating love maps and how these maps contribute to fostering intimacy, emotional connection, and long-lasting love.By sharing harrowing personal stories and practical tips, Robert and Sharla offer valuable guidance on creating love maps with your significant other. From deepening understanding to sparking meaningful conversations, this episode unravels the transformative potential of love maps in nurturing thriving relationships. Join us to learn about another skill that will help you take your friendship and intimacy to a new level. There is a companion guide that goes along with this episode, which can be downloaded here."Building love maps means taking a genuine interest in your partner and making mental space to be able to store information about their world." ~ Sharla Snow "It's important to keep returning to these love maps. Return and update. Update your knowledge about yourself and each other." ~ Robert SnowIn This Episode:- What to do after managing conflict in your marriage to restore friendship and connection- What are love maps? - Why the transition into parenthood is difficult for most couples - What to do to prevent your marriage from deteriorating when having a child- How to focus on your love maps and not neglect them - How to build a love map from scratch And so much more!MYM Resources:-Building Love Maps Guidebook, A Practical Guide To Rich and Meaningful Conversations (A companion guide to this episode)- 8 Pillars Of An Exceptional Marriage - ​​https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/8-pillarsResources mentioned:- Book “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert” by John Gottman PhD and Nan Silver -

Grappling with controversial case-studies in marriage and family life from Reddit.Post being discussed is here: https://www.reddit.com/r/Waiting_To_Wed/comments/12xzfvo/i_should_not_have_to_move_in_without_an/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3 Join our discussions on Reddit at: https://www.reddit.com/r/Household_MANagement/  *The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert at https://amzn.to/3MmWj6n  The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God at https://amzn.to/3ZNnt9F The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People at https://amzn.to/418zDen The 80/80 Marriage at https://amzn.to/438a4fc *Please join us and other listeners on:YouTube = https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxxknPCqn8A_kDFLwDUvGfA ;Facebook  - www.facebook.com/HouseholdMANager ;Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/mr_instaman...  ;TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@mr_homemaker ;Reddit - r/Household_MANagement ;Homepage = http://Mr-Homemaker.com ;*Please support the Mr. Homemaker Podcast athttps://www.patreon.com/Mr_Homemaker *#husband, #father, #marriage, #homemaker, #family, #masculinity, #worklifebalance, #mrhomemaker, #rethinkmasculinity*Mr. Homemaker is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program.  As Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases.  By using our links, you help us continue to deliver content, with no additional cost to you.*S3WBMembership Application: https://mr-homemaker.com/membership

We get a little real in this episode as we dive into the Gottman Relationship Happiness Quiz and explore the benefits and risks of using a quiz/tool like this to move your relationship forward.Come join us and see what happens...Links Mentioned In This EpisodeRelationship Happiness QuizThe Sound Relationship HouseThe Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert Support The Changing Perspectives PodcastJoin us on Patreon and try a 7-day trial for FREETry Jenni's newest grief course: Understanding Your GriefBuy us a virtual coffee to help support the podcast.

Planning our next video series designed for husbands beginning their journey to cultivate a healthy, fruitful marriage.*The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert at https://amzn.to/3MmWj6n  The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God at https://amzn.to/3ZNnt9F The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People at https://amzn.to/418zDen The 80/80 Marriage at https://amzn.to/438a4fc *Please join us and other listeners on:YouTube = https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxxknPCqn8A_kDFLwDUvGfA ;Facebook  - www.facebook.com/HouseholdMANager ;Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/mr_instaman...  ;TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@mr_homemaker ;Reddit - r/Household_MANagement ;Homepage = http://Mr-Homemaker.com ;*Please support the Mr. Homemaker Podcast athttps://www.patreon.com/Mr_Homemaker *Timestamps here (if I get to that)*#husband, #father, #marriage, #homemaker, #family, #masculinity, #worklifebalance, #mrhomemaker, #rethinkmasculinity*Mr. Homemaker is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program.  As Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases.  By using our links, you help us continue to deliver content, with no additional cost to you.*S3WBMembership Application: https://mr-homemaker.com/membership

In this episode Sal, Adam & Justin speak with Drs. John & Julie Gottman about scientifically proven ways to improve relationships. What is the Gottman Institute, and what is its purpose? (2:29) What got them so interested in studying relationships? (4:16) What are some of the biggest misconceptions about the way we look at marriages back then compared to now? (6:00) What is the Love Lab, and how did it work? (9:10) The Four Horseman of the Apocalypse. (13:39) The Sound Relationship House theory of what makes relationships work. (18:52) The importance of focusing on the process rather than the content. (29:48) The value of their research in helping build healthy relationships. (34:44) Any differences in same sex-relationships vs different-sex relationships? (39:52) Are there things culturally that are working against them? (49:12) The importance of a moral aspect in a healthy relationship. (55:24) Love is an action. (57:38) Building connection through practice on Gottman Connect. (1:03:22) Love Rx and closing words to the Mind Pump audience. (1:09:21) Related Links/Products Mentioned The Gottman Institute | A research-based approach to relationships Gottman Connect Visit Seed for an exclusive offer for Mind Pump listeners! **Promo code MINDPUMP at checkout for 15% off your first month's supply of Seed's DS-01™ Daily Synbiotic** September Promotion: Skinny Guy Bundle (MAPS ANABOLIC // MAPS AESTHETIC // NO B.S. 6-PACK FORMULA // INTUITIVE NUTRITION GUIDE // OCCLUSION TRAINING GUIDE.) HALF OFF!! Also, the Fit Mom Bundle (MAPS ANYWHERE // MAPS ANABOLIC // MAPS HIIT // and INTUITIVE NUTRITION GUIDE.) HALF OFF!! **Code SEPT50 at checkout** The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert Love Lab - The Gottman Institute Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse | The Gottman Institute What is The Sound Relationship House? - The Gottman Institute Build Love Maps - The Gottman Institute The Investment Model of Commitment Processes A Review of the Research on Domestic Violence The health benefits of strong relationships The Man's Guide to Women: Scientifically Proven Secrets from the Love Lab About What Women Really Want Bringing Baby Home: The Research - The Gottman Institute Fatherhood (The Developing Child) - Book by Ross Parke Helen Fisher: The brain in love | TED Talk Love Quiz: Fondness and Admiration - The Gottman Institute American families spend just 37 minutes of quality time together per day, survey finds Gottman Card Decks App - Couples | The Gottman Institute Mind Pump Podcast – YouTube Mind Pump Free Resources

This relationship truth will change your life, and it might be hard to hear. It is not them, it's you. Why do we unconsciously sabotage our relationships? Why would we try to sabotage our chances of a fulfilling relationship? No one sets out to do this, and yet self sabotage is the #1 problem Jillian helps people with in their love loves. In this episode, Jillian also describes the role of stress in a relationship and how we can destroy connection without even realizing it. She'll also teach what you can do about it. Additional resources for dealing with trauma and building more fulfilling relationships: "The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma" by Bessel Van Der Kolk, M.D. "Supersurvivors: The Surprising Link Between Suffering and Success" by David B. Feldman and Lee Daniel Kravetz "Living Untethered: Beyond the Human Predicament" by Michael A. Singer "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert" by John M. Gottman and Nan Silver ~~ Follow the show on Instagram: @jillianonlove Email the show at hello@jillianonlove.com Find Resources mentioned in the show at the Jillian on Love Recommendations Follow Jillian Turecki on Instagram: @jillianturecki Tik Tok: @jillian.turecki Twitter: @JillianTurecki Visit her website at www.jillianturecki.com ~~ Jillian On Love is brought to you by QCODE.  To advertise on the show, contact us!

Welcome to season 3 of Unscripted. In this special one-of-a-kind episode, Sam sits down with licensed family counselor Brooke James. Topics discussed: relationships, boundaries, resentment, and self-care (just to name a few). Extra resources:Exhausted: How To Set Boundaries When Someone You Love is Struggling with Alcohol by Brooke James: https://www.amazon.com/Exhausted-Boundaries-Someone-Struggling-Alcohol-ebook/dp/B09PSV5X75/ref=sr_1_1?crid=YMHH8TUB2EEN&keywords=brooke+james+exhausted&qid=1644954209&sprefix=brooke+james+exhausted%2Caps%2C356&sr=8-The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert by John Gottman:https://read.amazon.com/kp/embed?asin=B00N6PEQV0&preview=newtab&linkCode=kpe&ref_=cm_sw_r_kb_dp_09KMQ9WY0552A1Q1NT13Want more from Represent Jesus Well - An RCC Podcast?Find it here!InstagramYoutubeApple PodcastSpotify"Like" RCC on Facebook

Nik Kennett shares travel hacking tips and how he and his wife Allie quit their jobs to travel for six months. Guest Biography Nik Kennett and his wife Allie are a U.S. based couple with a love of travel and adventure on a 6-month self-funded sabbatical through Europe and Asia. They attribute much of their success to financial planning and the accumulation of over 1.7MM credit card points and miles. Nik and Allie believe in the transformative power of travel and that an intentional sabbatical or gap year can be an incredible form of personal development and a great way to forge lasting bonds as a family or couple. That is why they have committed to document their journey and provide useful tips and advice around how to plan travel and take a sabbatical of your own through 'Away Together', their YouTube channel and website. For a free ebook on how to plan a sabbatical of your own, go to www.awaytogether.com/inspiredmoney. In this episode, you'll learn: Budgeting and planning for a 6-month sabbatical Lifestyle design and living a life of intention Travel hacking tips Show notes: http://www.inspiredmoney.fm/227 Find more from our guest: www.awaytogether.com YouTube Facebook Instagram Mentioned in this episode: Delta Air Lines and British Airways have partnered with Airbnb to offer customers miles with each eligible booking through their respective portals. You'll receive 1 Delta SkyMile or 2 British Airways Avios per dollar spent. Additionally, If you're a new customer to Airbnb, the British Airways portal offers 6 Avios per dollar spent for your first booking. The Points Guy Churn, baby, churn r/churning subreddit Reddit - Credit Card Recommendation Flowchart Books: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert Thanks for Listening and Watching! To share your thoughts: Leave a note in the comment section below. Share this show on Twitter or Facebook. Join us at the Inspired Money Makers groups at facebook and LinkedIn To help out the show: Leave an honest review on Apple Podcasts, Podchaser.com, or wherever you listen. Your ratings and reviews really help, and I read each one. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts and YouTube.

In this episode, I discuss the psychology and biology of desire, love and attachment. I explain how childhood attachment types are thought to inform adult attachment styles to romantic partners, and I describe some of the major theories of human mate selection, relationships and infidelity. Additionally, I explore the neurobiology and proposed subconscious processing underlying desire, love and attachment, including the roles of empathy and “positive delusion." I outline how self-awareness can shift one's relationship attachment style towards securely bonded partnerships. Finally, I describe specific tools and supplements that have been researched to increase libido and sex drive. Throughout the episode, I explain the science and key mechanisms underlying romantic love and outline tools for those seeking to find a strong, healthy relationship, or for those wanting to strengthen an existing relationship.  Thank you to our sponsors Thesis: https://takethesis.com/huberman AG1 (Athletic Greens): https://athleticgreens.com/huberman InsideTracker: https://insidetracker.com/huberman Our Patreon page https://www.patreon.com/andrewhuberman Supplements from Thorne https://www.thorne.com/u/huberman Social & Website YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/andrewhubermanlab Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/hubermanlab Twitter - https://twitter.com/hubermanlab Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/hubermanlab Website - https://hubermanlab.com Newsletter - https://hubermanlab.com/neural-network Article Links Romantic love: an fMRI study of a neural mechanism for mate choice Relationship-specific Encoding of Social Touch in Somatosensory and Insular Cortice Investigating real-life emotions in romantic couples: a mobile EEG study Brain Knows Who Is on the Same Wavelength: Resting-State Connectivity Can Predict Compatibility of a Female–Male Relationship Manipulation of Self-Expansion Alters Responses to Attractive Alternative Partners Randomized Clinical Trial on the Use of PHYSTA Freeze-Dried Water Extract of Eurycoma longifolia for the Improvement of Quality of Life and Sexual Well-Being in Men For additional links and resources on Maca, Tongkat Ali and Tribulus, also see links in “Human Effect Matrix” at examine.com. Book Links Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find and Keep Love Right Brain Psychotherapy The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert Other Links The Gottman Institute Love Lab: A Research-Based Approach to Relationships New York Times - The 36 Questions that Lead to Love (1/9/2015) Timestamps (00:00:00) Desire, Love & Attachment  (00:02:59) Odor, Perceived Attractiveness & Birth Control (00:08:04) Thesis, AG1 (Athletic Greens), InsideTracker  (00:14:13) Romance: Balancing Love & Desire (00:19:00) Animal Studies, Vasopressin & Monogamy  (00:22:06) Strange Situation Task, Childhood Attachment Styles (00:32:52) Adult Attachment Styles (00:38:50) Secure Attachment  (00:41:23) Autonomic Arousal: The “See-Saw” (00:50:39) Tool: Self-Awareness, Healthy Interdependence (00:53:11) Neurobiology of Desire, Love & Attachment   (00:58:02) Empathy & Mating & the Autonomic Nervous System (01:10:02) Positive Delusion, Touch (01:15:20) Relationship Stability  (01:21:22) Selecting Mates, Recognition of Autonomic Tone (01:38:28) Neural Mechanisms of Romantic Attachment  (01:47:43) Autonomic Coordination in Relationships  (01:56:13) Infidelity & Cheating (02:08:56) “Chemistry”, Subconscious Processes (02:12:44) Tools: Libido & Sex Drive  (02:20:20) Maca (Maca root)   (02:25:58) Tongkat Ali (Longjack)  (02:28:56) Tribulus terrestris  (02:33:14) Zero-Cost Support, YouTube, Spotify/Apple Reviews, Sponsors, Patreon, Instagram, Twitter, Thorne Title Card Photo Credit: Mike Blabac Disclaimer

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A discussion on what makes conflict terrible and how to make it better. This content is a summary of the Gottman's “four horsemen” research that can be found in their book:The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert

How could your life look different, even if none of your circumstances changed? Today's conversation is with Jessie Ellertson, a National Guard spouse, mom of six, and life coach for military wives. Jessie shares her story of how a deployment, a podcast, and a dinner party led her to pursuing her purpose and doing the thing that lights her up – helping military wives navigate seasons of separation from their spouse due to deployments or trainings. She talks about the power of shifting your thinking and what is possible when you reframe your thoughts. She also provides some really practical tips for how we can strengthen our marriages and maintain connect with our spouses when they are deployed or away from home. If you have struggled with how your life currently looks and you feel like you're not thriving, give this episode a listen! Connect With Jessie: Simply Resilient Simply Resilient Podcast Jessie@simplyresilient.net Mentions: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert by John Gottman Links: START HERE! Learn how to stop feeling pulled in all direction & prioritize what matters most -> https://milspousemastermind.com/values CONNECT: Join the Free MilSpouse Mastermind FB Community -> https://milspousemastermind.com/community FREE LIFE ASSESSMENT: Assess which areas of your life are out of balance ->  https://milspousemastermind.com/growthwheel Request a Get Unstuck Coaching Session -> hello@milspousemastermind.com Full episodes, blog posts and more -> https://milspousemastermind.com Connect -> hello@milspousemastermind.com Instagram -> @christineh Listen on Apple Podcast -> https://milspousemastermind.com/show Listen on Google -> https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkLnBvZGJlYW4uY29tL01pbFNwb3VzZU1hc3Rlcm1pbmQvZmVlZC54bWw%3D

Jasmine: "We're talking about God's preservation of a persecuted church here in America, and his preservation of a persecuted people here in America, for His glory." Abena: "And one thing I'd love to point out is the absolute miracle that that is. Besides the suffering and all of that, we are talking about a people who were given a false gospel. Literally, pieces cut out of the Bible; only certain cherry-picked lines of Scripture. Frankly, today, people are led astray with much less effort. But like, I'm talking about people who had been given a false gospel, and somehow God actually was so faithful and present with them that they actually found truth." Portia: "And God still did it. That's what people don't understand." Joining Jasmine and Portia today is Abena Ansah-Wright, a PhD. Candidate at Vanderbilt University with a focus on Civil War history. Listen as they discuss the perseverance of the enslaved saints, God's faithfulness to an oppressed people, and the ways in which the church was - and is - implicit in this oppression. Here is the John Gottman book referenced in today's episode: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert

Today, we’re talking about love goals--the mental, romantic states of mind that we need more than our lives. We’ll unpack what it means to set love goals. And I’m going to share with you, three behind the scenes-student spotlights from my relationship peace experience program, where they overcame some of their struggles and successfully enhanced their relationships with more passion, and excitement, all with setting love goals.  Read this. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide by John Gottman Read this. The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts FREE CHEAT SHEET & MINI EXECUTION PLAN: GET IT HERE LGBTQIA MARRIAGE INSIDERS CLUB: JOIN HERE CLICK HERE TO JOIN VIP RELATIONSHIP PEACE EXPERIENCE WAIT LIST: YES! I WANT TO BE NOTIFIED

There are two things that are guaranteed in this life... taxes and conflict in marriage. But this marital conflict does not always have to be a bad thing. If done correctly then it is one of the best ways to be seen in your relationship, solve important problems, and grow together as a couple. If done incorrectly then it can quickly spell doom for your marriage.In this episode Allie and Nathan talk about conflict in marriage and how to not only fight fair, but more importantly fight productively to help you solve marital issues. They give insights on some of their own past fights and discuss the Gottman Institute's 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse in depth. They provide a guide for behaviors to avoid as well as antidotes to the 4 Horsemen if they are found in your or your partner's communication style.Learn More about the 4 HorsemenThe Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert - By John Gottman

In this episode of Quah (Q & A), Sal, Adam & Justin answer Pump Head questions about advice to correct a muscular imbalance between two sides of the body, whether you should eat the same amount of calories on a rest day as a workout day, when to prioritize organic, grass-fed and non-GMO type foods, and how to explain the importance of rest periods to the HIIT driven client. Taking breaks from the gym, a good idea for gains? (4:09) Comparing plant protein to animal protein, which is more beneficial for you? (18:22) Revisiting the standing versus sitting while you pee conversation. (22:02) Beware of the chemicals in your household cleaning products. (26:48) Why are the guys so sleep-deprived? (29:47) How Justin finds his Zen. (33:20) How the men's grooming industry is booming! (36:08) The Four Horsemen of relationships and the antidotes. (39:52) The virtue of the victim mentality. (45:47) #Quah question #1 – My fiancé noticed that one-half of my body is not as developed as the other. I have started doing priming and starter exercises, along with the starting strength big 5 lifts. What advice would you suggest to correct this imbalance? (49:28) #Quah question #2 - Should you eat the same number of calories on a rest day as a workout day? (51:38) #Quah question #3 - When should I start to prioritize organic, grass-fed, and non-GMO type foods? (56:25) #Quah question #4 - How do you explain the importance of rest periods to the HIIT-driven client? (1:01:49) Related Links/Products Mentioned February Promotion: Phase II Bundle Holly Baxter Norton IG Post – Study on Taking Breaks   Causes of Weak Urine Stream and Low Flow in Men – Urine Flow problems Visit Public Goods for an exclusive offer for Mind Pump listeners! **Receive $15 off your first Public Goods order with NO MINIMUM purchase** Mind Pump #1230: Surviving & Thriving In A Toxic World With Max Lugavere Men are a multibillion dollar growth opportunity for the beauty industry Male Grooming Products Market: Global Industry Trends, Share, Size, Growth, Opportunity and Forecast 2019-2024 Visit Caldera Labs for an exclusive offer for Mind Pump listeners! **Code “mindpump” at checkout for the discount** The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling Marriage and Couples - Research | The Gottman Institute The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert The Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting Up a Generation for Failure Starting Strength MAPS Fitness Prime | Muscle Adaptation Programming System Mind Pump #600: The Benefits Of Unilateral Training Mind Pump TV - YouTube Why Most HIIT Programs Only Work for Short Periods of Time – Mind Pump Blog How Phasing Your Workouts Leads to Consistent Plateau Free Workouts – Mind Pump Blog Mind Pump Podcast – YouTube Mind Pump Free Resources People Mentioned Holly Baxter Norton (@hollytbaxter)  Instagram John Gottman

Podcast InfoA new podcast episode drops every Monday.Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecoveryWant to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.---------Workbook + Community + Free ResourcesAre you going through a breakup or divorce?   Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereNeed help finding a counselor? Click here--------CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODEThe Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert by John Gottman, PhD, and Nan Silver----BOOK RECOMMENDATIONSThe Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert by John Gottman, PhD, and Nan Silver--WORKSHEETSGottman Worksheets---UPCOMING GUESTS' INFORMATIONSORAYA CHEMALY - EPISODE: FEBRUARY 15, 2021Twitter: @schemalyInstagram: @sorayachemalyWebsite: http://www.sorayachemaly.com/Buy her book: Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger by Soraya ChemalyDR. LAUREN FOGEL MERSY - EPISODE: MARCH 1, 2021Instagram: @drlaurenfogelmersyHer Link Tree with access to other places to find her work: https://linktr.ee/drlaurenfogelmersy

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Our Toolbox resource this week is:The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert by John Gottmanhttps://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0553447718/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=The+Seven+Principles+for+Making+Marriage+Work%3A+A+Practical&qid=1594300562&s=books&sr=1-1Interested in any of the books we have mentioned in the podcast?Go to audibletrial.com/headoverfeels to get One Free Audio Book and One Free Month Trial of Audible!Submit your burning questions at www.headoverfeelspod.com/contactNeeding some one-on-one coaching with one of us to work through your relationship woes? Go to www.headoverfeelspod.com/coaching for more info!Facebook: /headoverfeelspodInstagram: /headoverfeelspodSupport the show (http://paypal.me/headoverfeels)Support the show (http://paypal.me/headoverfeels)

SUMMARY In her newest book, The Good Fight: Use Productive Conflict to Get Your Team and Your Organization Back on Track, Liane Davey explodes the myth that “conflict” is a bad word or something to be avoided. She boldly claims, "Organizations require conflict." Without it, stagnation and resentment settle into the cracks of an original issue, making it hard to move forward. Even though conflict aversion seems to be baked into how we’re socialized, we can learn strategies for “fighting” in a productive, healthy way. KEY POINTS Instead of "the good fight," conflict is translated into passive aggression. Societal messages teach us we should avoid conflict: “Mind your own business. Don’t upset her. Stay out of trouble. Bullying is bad. If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.” Conflict tends to be the least costly way of working through issues. Conflict debt: the sum of all the contentious issues that need to be addressed to be able to move forward but instead remain undiscussed and unresolved A wide predictor of the success of teams is how many women are on the team. Three-step strategy for managing conflict: validate; ask question(s); pivot  QUOTES FROM DAVEY “At its essence, conflict is just the struggle between opposing wants, needs, and demands.” “Conflict isn't bad for organizations; it's fundamental to them." “Don’t measure the health of your relationship based on whether you have conflict or not. Instead, pay attention to the quality of the conflict.” “The longer you leave the original problem unresolved, the more interest you pay.” BUY The Good Fight: Use Productive Conflict to Get Your Team and Organization Back on Track RECOMMENDATION Find “new approaches for resolving conflicts, creating new common ground, and achieving greater levels of intimacy” in Dr. John Gottman’s New York Times bestseller. BUY The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert For weekly updates, join our email list. Connect with us! Facebook Instagram Twitter YouTube Website Special thanks… Music Credit Sound Editing Credit

We’re all going through a tough transition right now as we adjust to life at home… with kids… and work… and for many us, other caregivers. Our unique childhoods, unconscious beliefs and clashing approaches can increase the conflict, which can create stress for us, tension in our relationships and confusion for our kids. We’re all on the hunt for answers, but are beginning to realize that the questions are paramount to progress! Today we explore 10 ways we’re working to better understand and respectfully communicate with the other caregivers in our lives so that these tough times can keep us close instead of push us apart. The hard stuff is the good stuff. We laugh, we cry, we lean in… join us! Relevant Links + resources that informed this episode: - Upbringing’s Freedoms Model - Upbringing’s RESIST Approach - Esther Perel - John Gottman - Upbringing’s We Know Our Influence episode - Tina Fey in 30 Rock, Dealbreaker - Ross Greene, Collaborative + Proactive Solutions - Terry Real, author & therapist - The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert by John Gottman - Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship by Stan Tatkin - The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work by Terrence Real - Love Is Never Enough: How Couples Can Overcome Misunderstandings, Resolve Conflicts, and Solve Relationship Problems Through Cognitive Therapy by Aaron T. Beck M.D. - Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman - Raising Humans by Ross Greene - De-Escalate by Douglas E. Noll - Amber Okamura, Upbringing’s Artist - Mary Schroeder, Upbringing’s Letterer - Alex Olavarria, our producer, conductor, editor + husband/brother in law Today’s episode is supported by A Kid’s Book About- a collection of beautifully designed books that kickstart challenging and empowering conversations between kids and their grownups. Visit our website, www.upbringing.co to learn more about us and sign up for our newsletter! We want to hear your thoughts. We care deeply about what you think and how you’re doin’, so get in touch -- we’re better together. Email us: info@upbringing.co Follow Upbringing on: Instagram: @up_bringing Facebook: @jointheupbringing Join us to explore topics such as: parenting, motherhood, discipline, resistance, RIE parenting, feminist parenting, toddlers, tantrums, potty training, mindful parenting, conscious parenting, evidence-based parenting, positive parenting, respectful parenting, simplicity parenting and positive discipline.

Are you tired of feeling unheard? Join Ash this week as she sits down with Elizabeth Earnshaw a licensed therapist, to discuss simple ways you can connect more deeply with your partner. Building a solid relationship may sound and feel like a lot of work, and in some instances, it is.  But Liz reveals one single aspect of a relationship that can make the biggest impact.  On this episode, Liz dives into the power of connection in relationships, shares 2 powerful indicators of what a healthy relationship looks and walks through 3 actionable steps you can take today to build stronger connections in your life. Have you ever sat across from someone sharing something personal only for them to say nothing, or worse, change the subject completely?  Liz and Ash talk through how to handle this and what ways you can break through to reconnect. This episode isn’t just about romantic relationships, these tools can be used with friends, family, coworkers, and even strangers. If you want to build your life with more constant and continuous moments of connection, do not miss this episode! As always, be sure to stick around for the post-episode notes where Ash shares a powerful question that will spark you on the journey to connecting more with others, and yourself.   In this Episode, You’ll Learn: What a “bid” is, and how to be more open to receive and give them. Two indicators you’re in a healthy relationship. How to navigate talking about money with your partner. A simple strategy to building continuous connection back into your relationship.   Resources: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert by John Gottman   Where You Can Find Elizabeth Earnshaw: Instagram: lizlistens Therapy in Pennsylvania: abetterlifetherapy.com/   Promotion: Ready to discover the best career path for you? Visit YouTurnPodcast.com/clarity

In this episode of Quah (Q & A), Sal, Adam & Justin answer Pump Head questions about 2-a-days, whether endurance rep ranges in the 15-20 range help at all with strength and hypertrophy, the correlation between lean muscle mass and resting metabolic rate, and the best ways to deal with stress. Adam experimenting with Organifi products. (4:07) Adam's prank falls flat on his staff member. (5:21) Tom and Jerry turn 80 and the evolution of animation. (11:15) Astronauts and resistance training. (13:50) Blue light blocking glasses have come a LONG way. (17:28) Mind Pump Recommends Mythic Quest on Apple+ and McMillions on HBO. (21:10) Is masturbation the new cold & flu medicine? (26:50) The Jeff Bezos effect. (29:05) Antioxidants and cancer. (35:15) The importance of being ‘diet fluid'. (36:37) #Quah question #1 – What are your thoughts on 2-a-days? (40:24) #Quah question #2 – Do endurance rep ranges in the 15-20 range help at all with strength and hypertrophy? (48:58) #Quah question #3 – I recently came across conflicting arguments regarding the correlation between lean muscle mass and resting metabolic rate. Why do you think most of these studies seem to suggest that the increase is fairly minimal? (53:44) #Quah question #4 – What are the best ways to deal with stress? (1:02:26) Related Links/Products Mentioned February Promotion: MAPS Split ½ off! **Code “SPLIT50” at checkout** Visit Organifi for the exclusive offer for Mind Pump listeners! **Code “mindpump” at checkout** Tom and Jerry Fans Are Celebrating the Beloved Duo's 80th Birthday How do astronauts exercise in space? Visit Felix Gray for an exclusive offer for Mind Pump listeners! Mythic Quest: Raven's Banquet on Apple TV+ McMillions: Official Website for the HBO Documentary Series Effects of sexual arousal on lymphocyte subset circulation and cytokine production in man. The most expensive home in LA cost Jeff Bezos only 0.13% of his net worth Antioxidants and Cancer Prevention - National Cancer Institute Antioxidants May Make Cancer Worse - Scientific American MAPS Fitness Products – Mind Pump Which Is Better: Low Reps Or High Reps? - Mind Pump Media The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert – Book by John Gottman PhD Mind Pump Free Resources People Mentioned Dave Asprey (@dave.asprey)  Instagram Stan "Rhino" Efferding - CSCS (@stanefferding)  Instagram IFBB LEGEND FLEX WHEELER (officialflexwheeler) Instagram Jim Kwik (@jimkwik)  Instagram Wim Hof (@iceman_hof)  Instagram

In this episode of Quah (Q & A), Sal, Adam & Justin answer Pump Head questions about traveling with supplements, the ketogenic diet and building muscle, what to do if you are plateauing in a specific body part, and whether taking body measurements is a waste of time. A great concept to get your kids into playing music. (6:12) Can listening to music help build the brains of premature babies? (7:41) Math and technology. (12:06) What is the Down Under Donation Dildo? (17:43) Cannabinoid 2-ag and its connection to relieving stress. (21:05) Tongue fat and its relationship to obstructive sleep apnea. (28:04) Does watching a movie qualify as light exercise? (31:13) Tesla's will be farting soon. (33:13) The future of streetwear is here. (34:25) Solvable vs perpetual problems. (35:30) #Quah question #1 – Do you travel with supplements or do you just take the time off? (41:46) #Quah question #2 – What are your thoughts on the ketogenic diet in regards to building muscle? (48:21) #Quah question #3 - What should you do if you are plateauing in a specific body part? (53:00) #Quah question #4 – Do you recommend taking body measurements or is this a waste of time? (1:01:17) Related Links/Products Mentioned January Promotion: MAPS HIIT ½ off! **Code “HIIT50” at checkout** Loog Guitars Review: The Loog Guitar Is a Great DIY Way to Teach Kids Guitar Music helps to build the brains of very premature babies Sex toy company's 'Down-Under Donation Dildo' raises more than $15,000 for Australia bushfire relief Visit NED for an exclusive offer for Mind Pump listeners! The endocannabinoid system in guarding against fear, anxiety and stress Study Finds Tongue Fat Can Lead to Sleep Apnea Going to movie theater ‘counts as a light workout' Here's all the ways you can make your Tesla fart Introducing the Nike Adapt BB - Nike News The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert - Book by John M. Gottman and Nan Silver Making Marriage Work | Dr. John Gottman Visit Organifi for the exclusive offer for Mind Pump listeners! **Code “mindpump” at checkout** MAPS Aesthetic – Mind Pump Abdominal Obesity Indicators: Waist Circumference or Waist-to-hip Ratio in Malaysian Adults Population Mind Pump Free Resources

For much of human history friendship was about survival. No one, no matter how strong or independent they were, could live life alone.⁣ So we invested in our village, in our community in our tribe and developed friendships because we needed to. It was a part of our existence.⁣⁣Today, most of us aren’t reliant on friends for daily survival. Our basic needs can be met through the efforts of a lot of people who we aren’t directly connected to. We still need people to grow food for us and keep the lights on, but these people aren’t individuals who we have a direct relationship with.⁣ That’s why we’re seeing more isolation in the Western world, because technically, we don’t “need” each other to survive on a daily basis.⁣But just because you might not need a friend to help you fetch water or grow food or build a house doesn’t mean you don’t need friends to thrive! Thriving in life means having deep and meaningful friendships that have your back and help you live a life of purpose, courage, creativity, and resilience.⁣⁣On today’s Broken Brain Podcast, we are sharing an interview with our host, Dhru Purohit, who was interviewed by our dear friend, Dr. Rangan Chatterjee on his podcast, Feel Better, Live More. Dhru Purohit is a serial entrepreneur, investor, and documentary filmmaker. He is also the CEO of Dr. Hyman Enterprises and The UltraWellness Center, a Functional Medicine based clinic that specializes in treating chronic disease through personalized medicine. Dhru is a contributing author to two New York Times Best-Sellers, Clean Gut and Clean Eats, and helped launch the global “clean eating” revolution by co-founding The Clean Program. In this episode, Dhru and Dr. Rangan Chatterjee talk about how the bigger your goals and dreams are the more you need friendships that have your back and help you thrive in life.⁣ They discuss why making friends is more difficult as an adult and why this is a particular problem for men—a fifth of whom say they don’t have any close friends. They also talk about why having friendships outside of our intimate relationship is essential, and how to create deeper, more meaningful friendships. In this episode, we dive into:-Why Dhru is so passionate about friendship (2:15)-How friendships are connected to every area of our life (5:02)-The epidemic of loneliness (6:33)-The impact of touch (12:32)-The importance of an opt-out event (24:44)-What to do if you don’t have any good close friends (41:28)-The foundation of an incredible relationship (59:25)-Fear of being a burden (1:01:24)-How to make time for friendships when you have a really busy life (1:11:40)-Dhru’s book recommendations (1:36:06)For more on Dhru Purohit, be sure to follow him on Instagram @dhrupurohit, on Facebook @dhruxpurohit, on Twitter @dhrupurohit, and on YouTube @dhrupurohit. Below are the book recommendations that Dhru made during the interview:-Never Eat Alone: And Other Secrets to Success, One Relationship at a Time, by Keith Ferrazzi and Tahl Raz-Tribes: We Need You to Lead Us, by Seth Godin-The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert, by John GottmanLastly, below are links to the interviews Dhru recommends from Dr. Chatterjee’s podcast Feel Better, Live More:-How Our Childhood Shapes Every Aspect of Our Health with Dr. Gabor Mate-Stress - The Health Epidemic of the 21st Century with Dr. Rangan Chatterjee-Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression with Johann Hari Part 1-Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression with Johann Hari Part 2Sponsor: This episode is sponsored by our partnership with the AirDoctor Air Filter. To get exclusive access to this deal visit www.brokenbrain.com/filter See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In this episode of Quah (Q & A), Sal, Adam & Justin answer Pump Head questions about training around training around  a torn rotator cuff and AC joint sprain, fixing knee pain, how to handle hunger during a fast, and favorite types of gyms.  The story behind Arnold's illegitimate child. (5:58) How the reishi mushroom has antihistamine properties that can aid with allergy/sinus issues. (12:52) Recapping the Mind Pump Live Event with Mike Matthews. (17:30) Adam hooks up Mike Matthews with Vuori Clothing. (21:56) Sal reveals his blood test results. (23:18) Justin and Courtney watch the Four Horsemen video from John Gottman and gain some great insight into their relationship. (28:22) The benefits of supplementing with choline to improve cognitive performance + the demonization of meat by the vegan community. (31:52) Adam and Maximus share an evening together. (38:27) Sal recommends Scary Stories to Tell in the Dark + the guys talk Halloween costumes. (44:39) #Quah question #1 – I'm dealing with a torn rotator cuff and AC joint sprain. How would you advise training around this injury? (50:09) #Quah question #2 – I've been struggling with knee pain for years due to pronation distortion, what's the best way to go about fixing this issue? I know I have posture problems, but don't know where to start. (57:55) #Quah question #3 - How do you guys handle hunger during a fast? (1:03:00) #Quah question #4 – What are your favorite types of gyms to go to and how does the experience differ? (1:07:05) People Mentioned Mike Matthews (@muscleforlifefitness)  Instagram Dr. Michael Ruscio, DNM, DC (@drruscio)  Instagram Danny Matranga | CSCS | BSc. (@danny.matranga)  Instagram Chase Chewning (@chase_chewning)  Instagram  Justin Brink DC (@dr.justinbrink)  Instagram Dr. Ben Pollack (@phdeadlift)  Instagram   Related Links/Products Mentioned October Promotion: MAPS Anabolic ½ off!! **Code “RED50” at checkout** Arnold Schwarzenegger reveals how wife Maria Shriver confronted him about love child in new tell-all book The complicated relationship between Schwarzenegger's kids and his love child Visit Four Sigmatic for an exclusive offer for Mind Pump listeners! **Code “mindpump” at checkout** Common nutrient supplementation may hold the answers to combating Alzheimer's disease Visit Vuori Clothing for an exclusive offer for Mind Pump listeners! Visit Everly Well for an exclusive offer for Mind Pump listeners! **Code “mindpump” at checkout** The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert - Book by John M. Gottman and Nan Silver Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse | The Gottman Institute Associations of dietary choline intake with risk of incident dementia and with cognitive performance: the Kuopio Ischaemic Heart Disease Risk Factor Study. Scary Stories to Tell in the Dark (2019) - Rotten Tomatoes MAPS Fitness Prime Pro Mind Pump TV - YouTube Short foot exercise Big Tex Gym: Train Like You Mean It The Shop Gym Mind Pump Free Resources

In relationship, when we have a concern or an issue about something (as it relates to something our partner is doing that is bothering, upsetting, or offending us), we will likely want to: Point out and identify what your partner is doing wrong. Tell them how you don’t like what they are doing. Describe how their behavior is not okay. Illustrate how what they are doing is unfair or not good. In response, your partner will likely dispute your claims and perspective to defend their position. While your partner cares deeply about what you are experiencing and feeling, they care less about your judgement and evaluation of them. When in conflict, it is easy to focus more on your partner’s behavior and reactions. However, we often overlook our behavior and interactions. Or sometimes, we think reacting is the only way to get our partner’s attention. Almost as if to say “the only way my partner listens to me is when I scream and shout.” (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) One of the biggest shifts that I experienced in my relationship journey (there have been several) is when I shifted my focus from what my partner was doing wrong to looking at my behavior…and taking full responsibility for my experience. When I made this decision, I had been around the block enough to know that participating in the negative-reactive cycle was only going to contribute to more pain and disconnect. Besides, I cannot control my partner’s behavior or reactions. All I can do is be responsible for my feelings, reactions, needs, and boundaries. How often do we ask the question…”How lovable am I being?” To be clear, I am not talking about your deserving of love. I am talking about how you are participating in the dance you and your partner are creating together. In Ann Smith’s article, “Love and Love-Ability,” she talks about how our childhood impacts our ability to engage in love and receive love. She also affirms our innate lovability by saying: “Being lovable is inherent. It is not earned and it is not dependent on the approval of another person. Whether you are alone or in a secure relationship, you are still lovable. You are forever and always lovable. Even if a bad childhood led you to feel unloved and unworthy, you are still lovable. Even if you feel ashamed due to past failures and mistakes, you are still lovable. Even if you have been rejected or abandoned by someone, you are still lovable. You possess the capacity to attach to others and to receive love from others even when you feel that no one loves you.” by Ann Smith When you look at your relationship, how do you measure success? What matters to you? Being emotionally connected (you and your partner can count on each other and feel a sense of closeness) Satisfied (a sense of fulfillment) Happy (experience joy, play, and laughter together) Healthy sex life (time for sexual intimacy, passion, excitement) Companionship (enjoy being together and work well together) Kindness and respect (understanding, care, and consideration) How does your behavior contribute to your relationship success? What happens when it is hard to contribute positively to the interactions with your partner, especially when in conflict? There are so many things that get in the way: Fear Insecure attachment feelings Projection Defensive patterns (like criticism, blame, and judgment) Resentment Old injury and trauma Fantasy bond In Dr. Lisa Firestone’s article, “Just Be Kind: The Only Relationship Advice You’ll Ever Need,” she talks about the “fantasy bond,” which is where couples: “They start to overstep each other’s boundaries, replace substance with form, and diminish real, personal interactions. Although it isn’t a conscious process, when a couple forms this type of fantasy, they stop engaging in small acts of kindness or even showing care and concern for each other. Without realizing it, couples form a fantasy bond in order to feel a sense of safety. However, what they end up feeling is resentment and frustration. Instead of seeing their partner as someone they chose, they may feel like their partner is someone they’re stuck with. The behavior between the couple deteriorates. One partner may become withholding or controlling. Both can become more nitpicky, critical, and less accepting of their partner’s individuality and freedom. While the quality of the relationship may be deteriorating, a fantasy bond still offers an impression of unity that gives us a certain sense of security. When we’ve formed this type of bond, being kind to our partner actually threatens to disrupt the sense of safety we experience: It forces us to acknowledge our partner as a separate person. ” by Dr. Lisa Firestone HOW TO BE MORE LOVABLE 1. Be Kind: “Positive sentiment override” versus “Bad Memories” (referencing Dr. John Gottman’s book “The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work”). Be tolerant with each other’s flaws. Notice a time where you can help out. Show care and concern in a way that hits home from your partner (the platinum rule) 2. Share Vulnerability & Reveal More Fully: When something is important to you, try to help your partner understand you and your experience better. If you bottle it up, it will build resentment and often make it harder to deal with. Being vulnerable often feels scary and terrifying. Being open allows for your partner to be able to care for you and love you better. Stay tuned for the Part Two.   MENTIONED: ERP 125: How Kindness Can Strengthen Your Love – Part One (podcast) The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert Just Be Kind: The Only Relationship Advice You’ll Ever Need by Dr. Lisa Firestone (article) Love and Love-Ability by Ann Smith (article) Photo by Miranda Wipperfurth on Unsplash (photo credit)   TRANSCRIPT: Click on this link to access the transcript for this episode: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.   Thank you! ❤   If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.

Should you start a cleaning business with your spouse? Angela Brown, The House Cleaning Guru shares the pros and cons. Anytime you go into business with your spouse, you challenge your marriage. You sign a prenup when you get married and should have prenup agreements in place with your spouse as business partner. When you start a cleaning business you need moral support and a business plan. And if you add a business partner to the list to spin #businessideas you also need boundaries or you could be facing a divorce. Today's #AskaHouseCleaner sponsors are Savvy Cleaner (training for house cleaners and maids.) And My Cleaning Connection (a hub for all things cleaning.) #Cleaning *** COME JOIN OUR COMMUNITY *** https://mycleaningconnection.com/community *** MORE VIDEOS ON THIS TOPIC *** 3 Tips for Working with your Spouse or Partner - White in Recovery - https://youtu.be/UigoVJjjqas Let's Chat! EP 1: Tips for Running A Business with Your Spouse | Healthy Grocery Girl - https://youtu.be/cFPUX-OwqS8 Should You Work w/ Your Spouse? Tony & Chelsea Northrup - https://youtu.be/voGxWP4C51E The 3 Phases of Running a Business with Your Spouse - Inc. - https://youtu.be/ptrUFOvP3yc *** RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE ***   Boundaries in Marriage - https://amzn.to/2Oipasu The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert - https://amzn.to/2YeR50P In Bed with The Business: An Entrepreneurial Spouse’s Survival Guide - https://amzn.to/2HzDNXG You & Your Partner, Inc.: Entrepreneurial Couples Succeeding in Business, Life and Love - https://amzn.to/2YdneGj The Accidental Entrepreneur: The 50 Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me About Starting - https://amzn.to/2CzcXLj We are a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for us to earn fees by linking to Amazon.com and affiliated sites.   *** OTHER WAYS TO ENJOY THIS SHOW *** ITUNES - http://apple.co/2xhxnoj STITCHER - http://bit.ly/2fcm5JM SOUNDCLOUD - http://bit.ly/2xpRgLH GOOGLE PLAY - http://bit.ly/2fdkQd7 YOUTUBE - https://goo.gl/UCs92v *** GOT A QUESTION FOR A SHOW? *** Email it to Angela[at]AskaHouseCleaner.com Voice Mail: Click on the blue button at https://askahousecleaner.com *** HOUSE CLEANING TIPS VAULT *** (DELIVERED VIA EMAIL) - https://savvycleaner.com/tips *** FREE EBOOK – HOW TO START YOUR OWN HOUSE CLEANING COMPANY *** http://amzn.to/2xUAF3Z *** PROFESSIONAL HOUSE CLEANERS PRIVATE FACEBOOK GROUP *** https://www.facebook.com/groups/ProfessionalHouseCleaners/ *** VRBO AIRBNB CLEANING FACEBOOK GROUP *** https://www.facebook.com/groups/VRBO.Airbnb.Cleaning/ *** LOOKING FOR WAY TO GET MORE CLEANING LEADS *** https://housecleaning360.com *** FOLLOW ANGELA BROWN ON SOCIAL MEDIA *** https://Facebook.com/SavvyCleaner https://Twitter.com/SavvyCleaner https://Instagram.com/SavvyCleaner https://Pinterest.com/SavvyCleaner https://Linkedin.com/in/SavvyCleaner *** WHAT IS ASK A HOUSE CLEANER? *** Ask a House Cleaner is a daily show where you get to ask your house cleaning questions and we provide answers. Learn how to clean. How to start a cleaning business. Marketing and Advertising tips for your cleaning service. How to find top quality house cleaners, housekeepers, and maids. Employee motivation tactics. Strategies to boost your cleaning clientele. Cleaning company expansion help. Time-saving Hacks for DIY cleaners and more. Hosted by Angela Brown, 25-year house cleaning expert and founder of Savvy Cleaner Training for House Cleaners and Maids. *** SPONSORSHIPS & BRANDS *** We do work with sponsors and brands. If you are interested in working with us and you have a product or service that is cohesive to the cleaning industry read this: https://savvycleaner.com/product-review *** THIS SHOW WAS SPONSORED BY *** SAVVY CLEANER - House Cleaner Training and Certification – https://savvycleaner.com MY CLEANING CONNECTION – Your hub for all things cleaning – https://mycleaningconnection.com HOUSECLEANING360.COM – Connecting House Cleaners with Homeowners – https://housecleaning360.com SAVVY PERKS – Employee Benefits for Small Business Owners – https://savvyperks.com VRBO AIRBNB CLEANING – Cleaning tips and strategies for your short-term rental https://TurnoverCleaningTips.com

In their most revealing Ben Greenfield interview to date, Sal, Adam & Justin touch on coffee enemas, stem cell injections, Ben's new company Kion (as you would expect) but then move over to more in depth conversation about Ben's relationship with his wife, parenting, connecting with your soul's purpose, religion and much more. This was a very relaxed and spontaneous conversation that will suck you in. I want people to have an experience. Ben opens up on his new brand, Kion, and how it has been received so far. (5:17) Ben on podcasting, analytics, his wheel space and “What's hot” on iTunes. (14:15) Ben's Rules for Life: His traveling tips, walking after eating and the benefits of hot/cold contrast. (19:15) Let's get down to it…the science/process behind the benefits of doing a coffee enema. (31:37) The “Dick Hacker, Cock Warlock.” The crazy things he has done in the name of science to his lower region. (39:58) His experience on The Joe Rogan Experience. (49:10) Ben bares all. His relationship with his wife, being a good father and practices he does to keep homeostasis in the Greenfield Household. (50:40) Connecting with your soul and finding your purpose. Ben opens up about religion, his experiences with plant medicine and how his community/audience receives his message. (1:05:34) Looking for the next pretty penny. What scares him when it comes to our future? (1:21:52) Related Links/Products Mentioned: How To Make The Healthiest Cup Of Coffee - Ben Greenfield Fitness Black Ivory Coffee: The World's Rarest Coffee Naturally Refined by Elephants Yes, Baby Quinoa Is Actually A Thing. 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Kennedy Religion May Reduce Stress and Increase Longevity - Blue Zones Sex at Dawn - Book by Cacilda Jethá and Christopher Ryan Featured Guest/People Mentioned: Ben Greenfield (@bengreenfieldfitness)  Instagram Ben Greenfield Fitness Kion - Ancient Wisdom. Modern Science. Live A Limitless Life Robb Wolf (@dasrobbwolf)  Instagram Dave Asprey (@dave.asprey)  Instagram Ray Cronise (@raycronise)  Instagram Wim Hof (@iceman_hof)  Instagram Joe Rogan (@joerogan)  Instagram Aubrey Marcus (@aubreymarcus) Instagram Paul Chek (@paul.chek) Instagram Would you like to be coached by Sal, Adam & Justin? You can get 30 days of virtual coaching from them for FREE at www.mindpumpmedia.com. Get our newest program, MAPS HIIT, an expertly programmed and phased High Intensity Interval Training program designed to maximize fat burn and improve conditioning. Get it at www.mindpumpmedia.com! 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Today's Topic: How to Avoid Divorce John Gottman can predict, with 99.9% accuracy, if a couple will get divorced by spending just two minutes with them.   How does he know? Gottman knows to look for The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse: Criticism - When you start being critical about your partner. Contempt - Criticism can escalate into contempt; the eye roll personified. Defensiveness - If you don't repair that contempt, defensiveness will grow. Stonewalling - Finally, you will essentially become numb to your partner's reactions and when you communicate to them. According to Gottman's research, if you get to this point, you have a 99.9% chance of divorce in the next two years.   Okay, now that you know what the Four Horsemen are, and knowing is half the battle after all, are you dealing with any of them? If you are, I've found that these strategies have really improved my relationship: When you're in criticism, try to complain without blaming (which isn't easy to do!) When you feel contempt, you want to build a culture of appreciation. So when you start rolling your eyes, instead choose to appreciate everything that you love about your partner. If you are defensive, you want to take responsibility for it. When you find yourself stonewalling, take a break – give yourself 20 minutes and   Resources: Learn more from The Gottman Institute: Gottman.com Read: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert by John M. Gottman and Nan Silver Want to try Organifi Gold Superfood Powder? Use discount code "WORKHARDPLAYHARD" for 20% off at organifishop.com   I'd love your feedback on the show, and to show my thanks I'm raffling away a ticket to Lewis Howes' next event, every week. Click here to review the podcast and leave a 5-star Review.

Today’s Topic: How to Avoid Divorce John Gottman can predict, with 99.9% accuracy, if a couple will get divorced by spending just two minutes with them.   How does he know? Gottman knows to look for The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse: Criticism - When you start being critical about your partner. Contempt - Criticism can escalate into contempt; the eye roll personified. Defensiveness - If you don’t repair that contempt, defensiveness will grow. Stonewalling - Finally, you will essentially become numb to your partner’s reactions and when you communicate to them. According to Gottman’s research, if you get to this point, you have a 99.9% chance of divorce in the next two years.   Okay, now that you know what the Four Horsemen are, and knowing is half the battle after all, are you dealing with any of them? If you are, I’ve found that these strategies have really improved my relationship: When you’re in criticism, try to complain without blaming (which isn’t easy to do!) When you feel contempt, you want to build a culture of appreciation. So when you start rolling your eyes, instead choose to appreciate everything that you love about your partner. If you are defensive, you want to take responsibility for it. When you find yourself stonewalling, take a break – give yourself 20 minutes and   Resources: Learn more from The Gottman Institute: Gottman.com Read: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert by John M. Gottman and Nan Silver Want to try Organifi Gold Superfood Powder? Use discount code "WORKHARDPLAYHARD" for 20% off at organifishop.com   I’d love your feedback on the show, and to show my thanks I’m raffling away a ticket to Lewis Howes’ next event, every week. Click here to review the podcast and leave a 5-star Review.

Carol Allen is a happily married Vedic astrologer and relationship coach whose mission is to empower women to enjoy truly “out of this world” love lives. Carol’s been featured on E!, Bridezillas, EXTRA, Dr. Drew’s Lifechangers, in Chicken Soup For The Soul, Woman’s World, and Daily Candy, plus she is the author of Love Is In The Stars – The Wise Woman’s Astrological Guide To Men. Her methods are a unique marriage of East and West, combining her training in the astrology of India with cutting-edge, real-world relationship research. Whether you’re looking for a soulmate, want to deepen an existing relationship, or heal lifelong love patterns, the answers are literally written in the stars… and almost anything can be made much better with your own right-actions, once you know the truth and what to do about it. Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra God loves me and everything is alright. When You Tripped Up When Carol and her husband met they were more about trying to make their lives happen as opposed to co-create their lives. It came from this desire to feel control because they were scared. For her this showed up as being controlling. She found herself trying to change him. Carol had to let go of a lot of superficial ideas of what her relationship was supposed to look like. She loved that he was being true to himself and if she succeeded in changing him that would be lost. It took her breaking up with him to figure out what she had.  To have a fulfilling relationship we need to check in with our head, heart and groin. So often we pick someone who works for two of these areas and wonder why we aren’t happy. Proudest moment in partnership When Carol and her husband cared for her husband’s mother as she was dying is a time she is really proud of. In their relationship they tend to be happier when they are serving something greater than themselves. Carol and her husband were easily able to set aside their own needs and do what they had to for his mother. And there was no arguing over who did what. What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received? Give the other person what they want when they want it. No more. No less. It sounds so simple, but it is hard to do. Often we want to say no just to say no, but if it is not compromising your core needs then what’s the big deal. If one person leads the way the other tends to follow so do it even if they aren’t doing it yet. Then you get to be a great partner in spite of your partner. And if giving them what they want when they want it is not right for you or comfortable for you, then that is one of the ways you find out if they are the right person for you. Best Partnership Book (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0977984575/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0977984575&linkCode=as2&tag=speakofpartn-20&linkId=3930f4f035529d84b3f2b91c24363090) The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman's Guide to Being Absolutely Irresistible (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0977984575/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0977984575&linkCode=as2&tag=speakofpartn-20&linkId=0d33b7948e844c7cbb36b84268241ae2) (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0553447718/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0553447718&linkCode=as2&tag=speakofpartn-20&linkId=aec32bc2819ca269070583072a7f7127) The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0553447718/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0553447718&linkCode=as2&tag=speakofpartn-20&linkId=591b68b9e857a577eac0dff7d6973a13) Payoff of Partnership Carol never would have brought her work to the internet without the guidance of a...

Geoff Laughton, known as Your Relationship Architect, is an internationally best-selling author, speaker, men's retreat leader, and sought after relationship coach. For more than 20 years, he’s been teaching couples and individuals how to build the relationship and life they truly desire. In a world where far too many people settle for what they believe they can get, Geoff is devoted to teaching how to have love relationships that expand connection, healing, and create harmony with those dreams that people have simply neglected and/or forgotten. Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra Geoff’s guiding principle is that relationship is cutting edge spiritual practice.  When things get tough this reminds him that his relationship with his wife Sarah is a way they connect with spirit. “The truth will set you free, but first it may piss you off!”  Telling the truth almost always creates breathing room that feels like freedom. When You Tripped Up Take a trip back to 1999 when Geoff and his wife had just moved to Colorado. His consulting contract suddenly disappeared. And this caused a great deal of anxiety, fear and upset. He was experiencing his worst fear. He kept all the emotional stuff to himself and did not talk to his wife and family about it. Geoff was trying to look like he had it handled. He got to the point where on Christmas day 1999, he decided it was time to go. The notes were written and he was ready to take himself out because to Geoff he was failing at what a good man was. As he was getting ready to do it while his wife and son were still asleep, something told him that if he does this, he fails the test. The test of faith. He called one of the two people he knew in this town and they told him to get his family up and get over to her house now! They spent about 5 hours together on Christmas day working this out. Apologizing to his wife for how he had failed her changed everything. Proudest moment in partnership Geoff’s awareness of what he has in his marriage is one of his proudest moments.  When she looks in his eyes and their love never has dissipated in all their years together. One day Sarah looked him in the eye when he told her he was terrified to make the career leap into coaching and with 100% authenticity said… “Why can’t you get that I would rather live under a freeway in a refrigerator box and have you, than live in a nice house with plenty of money and have you be miserable.” Geoff let this in and gave him the courage he needed to go after his dreams. This mature love he received from Sarah helped to mature Geoff. What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received? When the shit hits the fan and you’re playing victim and blaming your partner, it is never about them. If you love your partner, that love won’t fix everything. But if its there, you might as well find the pathway to work it out. Because if you don’t work it out and you end the relationship, you are virtually guaranteed to repeat the same pattern in your next relationships. You are 100% responsible for your experience and how you are rolling with it or not. Best Partnership Book or Resource (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0553447718/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0553447718&linkCode=as2&tag=speakofpartn-20&linkId=e065975380a1f4c32c82eaada016c9e9) The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0553447718/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0553447718&linkCode=as2&tag=speakofpartn-20&linkId=28e7f4ced15bdf1f9f710039bae307f4)...

Dr. Duana (DWAY-nah) Welch is known for applying social science to people's real-life relationship issues. She is the author of Love Factually, the first book that uses science rather than opinion to take men and women from before they meet until they decide whether to commit. She has been a professor at universities in Florida, California, and Texas, and she writes for publications at Psychology Today, eHarmony, and others. She also coaches men and women who want more love in their lives, via Skype and at her office in downtown Eugene, Oregon. Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra If you can find and be someone kind and respectful your love life will go great. And if you can’t it won’t. Before you make a commitment to a partnership it is about how similar you are.  After you make the commitment it is about how kind and respectful you are. When You Tripped Up Her picker was broken.  Dr. Duana would get stars in her eyes even when there was a deal breaker from the onset. But she didn’t want to look too closely at that.  And she would get pretty deeply involved and then figure it out. By that time it absolutely ripped her heart apart to have to leave. This story we can all relate to. The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever Duana found in her research on relationship science that what she was doing in her relationships, was the exact thing that tells men not to take her seriously. Her “DUH” moment was realizing that she can value herself and be valued. And that can extend all the way to the bedroom. Proudest moment in partnership When her husband suggested they move to a state where she could teach again.  This was a huge sacrifice for him, and it showed the level of commitment he had to being a partnership.  He is her hero. Current Partnership that Has You Excited No surprise here, it is her partnership with her husband. Both what she has been able to do in her life and what he has been able to do is exciting. Diana’s partnership with her husband has allowed her to stop focussing her feelings of security or insecurity. Instead she is able to work from a bedrock or secure relating so she can live the best life she can live. [spp-tweet tweet="The right partnership brings you to your better self."] What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received? Turn towards your partner rather than away. It’s what happens in the small moments of partnership that create the overall feeling. Best Partnership Book (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0986333204/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0986333204&linkCode=as2&tag=speakofpartn-20&linkId=TJ3QS37ZEP6QQTOZ)   - If you have not picked a partner yet Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I Do (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0986333204/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0986333204&linkCode=as2&tag=speakofpartn-20&linkId=U4R7VVWQS3Q47YNR) (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0553447718/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0553447718&linkCode=as2&tag=speakofpartn-20&linkId=ZLLLMNFD6ACTPG7D)   - If you are already in a committed relationship. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0553447718/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0553447718&linkCode=as2&tag=speakofpartn-20&linkId=SMIT4YQW4ZPXSFRE) Payoff of Partnership - Duana was able to create her blog and her book and return to teaching. Then being able to leave that career and build a new life all because of the partnership she is in with her husband. Knowing they support each other’s dreams.

COMPETING IN A RELATIONSHIP Competition is wonderful in many ways. However, when we get stuck in habitual patterns of a competitive mindset, it can bring stress and strain to our lives and romantic relationships. A competitive mindset assumes limited resources and opportunities, resulting in an “I have to get mine” attitude. Being in a competitive mindset can lead to a survival mentality. You begin to think that in order to win, you have to beat others – survival of the fittest. This is also a fear based mindset. When fear sets in, we start to view the world differently. NEGATIVE BASIS From an evolutionary standpoint, humans are prone to having a negative basis. Having a negative basis helps us pay attention to negative and painful events so that we will learn and be more prepared to handle threats. In doing so, we may be able to better protect ourselves. The downside to this negative basis is that it’s easy to overlook our strengths, assets, resources, and opportunities because all of our attention is focused on the negative. When we focus on the negative, it is easy to become reactive and more fearful, responding to situations from a protective and competitive approach. When we emphasize the negative, we miss the whole picture. HOW DO YOU MOVE FROM COMPETITION TO CREATIVITY IN A RELATIONSHIP? How do you begin to shift your mindset? The most personal and profound way that I know is through Gratitude. As we shift our attention to what we are grateful for, we will recognize more positivity for that we have been previously overlooking or ignoring. We will acknowledge more resources and opportunities in our partnership. We will begin to feel more relaxed and more regulated. We feel empowered and less threatened, and we start believing in a more generative outcome. “Abilities wither under faultfinding, blossom under encouragement.” ~ Donald A. Laird EXERCISE FOR WAYS TO BE CREATIVE IN A RELATIONSHIP Start with your own inner universe. Can you think of an area in your love life where you are feeling constricted, competitive, or fearful? Notice how you feel. Now, shift your attention to something you are grateful for. Take a moment to stay with the gratitude. Do you notice a shift? WHAT STOPS US FROM BEING CREATIVE IN A RELATIONSHIP? Cultivating an environment of appreciation often doesn’t come naturally and easily. Many of us do not express appreciation to our partner because: We think it is childish. It feels awkward and unfamiliar. We assume we are stating the obvious. We forget. We think it is cliché.   HOW TO SHOW GRATITUDE IN A ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP When we share our appreciation in a romantic relationship, it has a powerful impact on others. Appreciation is the expression of gratitude. 5 to 1 John Gottman, a psychologist and researcher, offers a formula for happy relationships. He claims that for every negative expression in a relationship (a complaint, frown, put-down, expression of anger) there needs to be about five positive expressions (smiles, compliments, laughter, expressions of appreciation and gratitude) to counter balance the mindset. Ideas to Express Gratitude in a Relationship: Ask your partner to share one thing they are grateful for and then give one appreciation to them. Get out some paper and pens. Set a timer for 3 mins. Ask your partner to try and come up with 100 things they are grateful for. Then, invite her/him to share one or as many they are comfortable with sharing. MENTIONED The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert, by John Gottman (book) If you have a topic you would like me to discuss or a situation you would like me to speak to, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving the quality of your romantic relationship! I believe in your success! Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please post one by clicking here. Thank you!  If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome your relationship challenges, please consider taking the Empowered Relationship Course or getting some relationship coaching.

Jade and Kidder Kaper have begun couple's therapy with a super sex-positive kink-friendly shrink. She had us read, "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert."Now lie back and tell me about your mother.Kidder allowed his 12 year old to watch, "28 Days Later." This may have been a bad idea. A special thanks goes out to the listener who bought Kidder a copy of, Walking Dead Board Game (Z man) from Kidder's Amazon Wish-list. It is a gosh-darn-decent game.

We’re all going through a tough transition right now as we adjust to life at home… with kids… and work… and for many us, other caregivers. Our unique childhoods, unconscious beliefs and clashing approaches can increase the conflict, which can create stress for us, tension in our relationships and confusion for our kids. We’re all on the hunt for answers, but are beginning to realize that the questions are paramount to progress! Today we explore 10 ways we’re working to better understand and respectfully communicate with the other caregivers in our lives so that these tough times can keep us close instead of push us apart. The hard stuff is the good stuff. We laugh, we cry, we lean in… join us! Relevant Links + resources that informed this episode: - Upbringing’s Freedoms Model - Upbringing’s RESIST Approach - Esther Perel - John Gottman - Upbringing’s We Know Our Influence episode - Tina Fey in 30 Rock, Dealbreaker - Ross Greene, Collaborative + Proactive Solutions - Terry Real, author & therapist - The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert by John Gottman - Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship by Stan Tatkin - The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work by Terrence Real - Love Is Never Enough: How Couples Can Overcome Misunderstandings, Resolve Conflicts, and Solve Relationship Problems Through Cognitive Therapy by Aaron T. Beck M.D. - Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman - Raising Humans by Ross Greene - De-Escalate by Douglas E. Noll - Amber Okamura, Upbringing’s Artist - Mary Schroeder, Upbringing’s Letterer - Alex Olavarria, our producer, conductor, editor + husband/brother in law Today’s episode is supported by A Kid’s Book About- a collection of beautifully designed books that kickstart challenging and empowering conversations between kids and their grownups. Visit our website, www.upbringing.co to learn more about us and sign up for our newsletter! We want to hear your thoughts. We care deeply about what you think and how you’re doin’, so get in touch -- we’re better together. Email us: info@upbringing.co Follow Upbringing on: Instagram: @up_bringing Facebook: @jointheupbringing Join us to explore topics such as: parenting, motherhood, discipline, resistance, RIE parenting, feminist parenting, toddlers, tantrums, potty training, mindful parenting, conscious parenting, evidence-based parenting, positive parenting, respectful parenting, simplicity parenting and positive discipline. We’re all going through a tough transition right now as we adjust to life at home… with kids… and work… and for many us, other caregivers. Our unique childhoods, unconscious beliefs and clashing approaches can increase the conflict, which can create stress for us, tension in our relationships and confusion for our kids. We’re all on the hunt for answers, but are beginning to realize that the questions are paramount to progress! Today we explore 10 ways we’re working to better understand and respectfully communicate with the other caregivers in our lives so that these tough times can keep us close instead of push us apart. The hard stuff is the good stuff. We laugh, we cry, we lean in… join us! Relevant Links + resources that informed this episode: - Upbringing’s Freedoms Model - Upbringing’s RESIST Approach - Esther Perel - John Gottman - Upbringing’s We Know Our Influence episode - Tina Fey in 30 Rock, Dealbreaker - Ross Greene, Collaborative + Proactive Solutions - Terry Real, author & therapist - The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert by John Gottman - Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship by Stan Tatkin - The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work by Terrence Real - Love Is Never Enough: How Couples Can Overcome Misunderstandings, Resolve Conflicts, and Solve Relationship Problems Through Cognitive Therapy by Aaron T. Beck M.D. - Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman - Raising Humans by Ross Greene - De-Escalate by Douglas E. Noll - Amber Okamura, Upbringing’s Artist - Mary Schroeder, Upbringing’s Letterer - Alex Olavarria, our producer, conductor, editor + husband/brother in law Today’s episode is supported by A Kid’s Book About- a collection of beautifully designed books that kickstart challenging and empowering conversations between kids and their grownups. Visit our website, www.upbringing.co to learn more about us and sign up for our newsletter! We want to hear your thoughts. We care deeply about what you think and how you’re doin’, so get in touch -- we’re better together. Email us: info@upbringing.co Follow Upbringing on: Instagram: @up_bringing Facebook: @jointheupbringing Join us to explore topics such as: parenting, motherhood, discipline, resistance, RIE parenting, feminist parenting, toddlers, tantrums, potty training, mindful parenting, conscious parenting, evidence-based parenting, positive parenting, respectful parenting, simplicity parenting and positive discipline. We’re all going through a tough transition right now as we adjust to life at home… with kids… and work… and for many us, other caregivers. Our unique childhoods, unconscious beliefs and clashing approaches can increase the conflict, which can create stress for us, tension in our relationships and confusion for our kids. We’re all on the hunt for answers, but are beginning to realize that the questions are paramount to progress! Today we explore 10 ways we’re working to better understand and respectfully communicate with the other caregivers in our lives so that these tough times can keep us close instead of push us apart. The hard stuff is the good stuff. We laugh, we cry, we lean in… join us! Relevant Links + resources that informed this episode: - Upbringing’s Freedoms Model - Upbringing’s RESIST Approach - Esther Perel - John Gottman - Upbringing’s We Know Our Influence episode - Tina Fey in 30 Rock, Dealbreaker - Ross Greene, Collaborative + Proactive Solutions - Terry Real, author & therapist - The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert by John Gottman - Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship by Stan Tatkin - The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work by Terrence Real - Love Is Never Enough: How Couples Can Overcome Misunderstandings, Resolve Conflicts, and Solve Relationship Problems Through Cognitive Therapy by Aaron T. Beck M.D. - Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman - Raising Humans by Ross Greene - De-Escalate by Douglas E. Noll - Amber Okamura, Upbringing’s Artist - Mary Schroeder, Upbringing’s Letterer - Alex Olavarria, our producer, conductor, editor + husband/brother in law Today’s episode is supported by A Kid’s Book About- a collection of beautifully designed books that kickstart challenging and empowering conversations between kids and their grownups. Visit our website, www.upbringing.co to learn more about us and sign up for our newsletter! We want to hear your thoughts. We care deeply about what you think and how you’re doin’, so get in touch -- we’re better together. Email us: info@upbringing.co Follow Upbringing on: Instagram: @up_bringing Facebook: @jointheupbringing Join us to explore topics such as: parenting, motherhood, discipline, resistance, RIE parenting, feminist parenting, toddlers, tantrums, potty training, mindful parenting, conscious parenting, evidence-based parenting, positive parenting, respectful parenting, simplicity parenting and positive discipline.