The Hey Black Girl! Let's Talk Podcast

Hey Black Girl! Exciting times happening for me right now - please be patient with me as I navigate through it - I promise to share all the details! Be back soon...

As a race we are disproportionately subjected to a variety of health risks and illnesses- primarily due to a lack of quality care and attention. For us melanin ladies, we not only have to be concerned with the heart disease, stroke, and diabetes diagnosis that our culture is known to suffer from. We have the added addition of fibroids, cervical cancer, and breast cancer.  Join me as I dive into the first of three episodes on our health -Supplements.  

Why do we argue with the person that we are supposed to love? Why are we over here arguing with our men? With our women?? We can learn to agree to disagree and argue without getting into toxic territory when we learn what's needed to support each other emotionally.   Let's get into it.

Happy New Year Black Girl! I am back and better than ever...2021 was the year where life was spent looking back and healing from trauma - but this year I am focused on looking forward and focusing on the things that are going to make us even better as black women.  It's 2022, Let's talk!

You're soul mates...right? The Honeymoon phase is like a sugar high. A reaction to the hormones and chemicals that we produce when we are happy...but what happens when real life comes into play? Because at the end of the day the honeymoon phase...is just that, a phase.

I know it's a reality show, but there were some hard truths that both validated and shocked me! This reality TV madness was both entertaining and educational. Allow me to share what I learned about men, women, and the facts of life.

"An absent parent is like one big punch in the face, and an inconsistent one is a big punch in the face every time you stand up"

Do the hunters now want to be hunted? And does this mean that I now have to share my princess tiara? I mean, do men want to wear the pants or the panties?   Let's find out!

As the saying goes, there are plenty of fish in the sea...but are all 'fish' equal? Are these really the fish you want? There's the good pond and there's the bad pond. The question is...what do we have to do to get over to the good pond? Because there are some damn good fish over there.

In the center of that dance floor, I was the main reception to those who desired to be touched by 'it's' energy. As the crowd began to sway to the beat of this monster, I could have sworn I heard the wickedness of his laugh echoing somewhere in the distance. If this sounds heavy, believe me it is.

Why do some men appear to carry an aura of calm, appearing to be nonchalant and  unbothered in situations that rightfully deserve some type of reaction. Whether it is a death in the family, a break up, a health crises, or loss of employment and economic status - many of these men are rarely seen broke down, crying uncontrollably, and waiting for someone to console them. And if it does happen, it happens behind the scenes somewhere. But not out in these streets.

Distractions. Forgotten Dreams. Procrastination. Distractions are one of the biggest differences between those of us who have succeeded with whatever goals we set out with and those of us who are looking at a life that has no resemblance to that which we would have desired.   Let's talk.

Red Flags, last minute men from the discount bin, and the myth that women don't want or aren't supposed to want to throw it back and bust it open for someone.   Can we talk about the week of RED FLAGS please?

Absence makes the heart grow fonder? Or, does out of sight mean out of mind? Is it better to be up in someone's face or do you end up thrown on the discount rack by being too available?   Let's talk about it.

In life, some of us have the expectation that whatever hard work and effort that we put in is what we are going to get out. This isn't always the case, though. Think back to the last time you were left standing without a chair. What did you do? How did you manage?

Complete episode updated! Part II of The Seeds of Bitterness.   I've come to the conclusion, that some of our black men are not just angry - they are tired. Just like us. Join me along with two beautiful, black men as they speak out on mental illness, relationships, and racism. 

Our mental health matters. We matter. We feel pain. We cry. We need a break.  But it's not just us, some of our men need help navigating their mental health too,   Come on in, let me explain...

Why me? Why do I have to go through this? Life isn't supposed to be like this. Life isn't fair. I mean, I knew how I expected life to turn out and THIS WASN'T IT!   But it turns out, life was not the problem, my expectations were.

In order to even begin to recognize their own mistakes and weaknesses - a narcissist can only recognize them in YOU. Not themselves. So now you have a narcissist and a co-dependent. Two people...on an imaginary, makeshift stage - acting out their childhood issues.   You look like I got some real issues.  

To be honest, what someone looks like on paper is just a random list of attributes that don't really speak to how this person will treat you or if you can even handle spending five minutes with them in a room alone together.  But if two people have that crazy, insane level of chemistry, then they can find a way to make a relationship work. Life is short. Love is irrational. And to be honest, it's better that way.    

Have you ever been in a co-dependent relationship? Or did you grow up in a co-dependent household? It may feel nearly impossible to break free when you are addicted to the toxic cycle of co-dependency. Let's talk about it.

In my opinion, a father is nothing more than a matter of medical fact. But a Dad? Well, that's something different...

Do you ever feel like one swift breeze can knock you off course and send you spiraling in the wrong direction? Are you holding your breath, hoping and praying that you can pull it all off and do what needs to be done without worrying about it all falling apart? Been there. Done that. Bought the T-shirt.

We are fighting for our lives. Literally.  Do we know how to listen to spirit? Listen to intuition? Learning and understanding our thinking leads us to the clues of what our individual bodies and minds need to have health, wealth, and good vibes with good vibes people. Ana delves into creating consciously, affirmations, and speaking and believing what we truly want into existence.  She shows us how to train our minds and own our own energy fields. She wants us to understand that there is  is nothing that we lack on earth  -when we want, believe, and accept our true circumstances whether good or bad, we can then repair what needed to be repaired.

How.many of our exes are still living rent-free on our heads? How.many of us would hit the repeat button if we had the chance. This week seemed to be the case of the Ex week across the land. Let's talk about it...

It is my opinion that bad relationships make a woman stronger, more resilient, and more cautious. But definitely not any less feminine. What say you black girl?

What does it mean to be a high value man? Do you know what a high-value man looks like? This episode looks at a definitons of what he is and what he isn't. Black girls are the judge and juror of who we decide to let into our lives. When we start to truly love ourselves, high value looks different.

We are indeed powerful. Sis...how does it feel to know that your birthright is responsible for the creation of every single person on this planet?

The melanin is popping! It is here to be our everything while protecting our skin this summer from UV rays. Go ahead and get yourself immersed in all of this black girl magic.

You may go back over times in your life that you went through hard trials and tribulations- and that person wasn't there. You may go over text messages and notice that you started all of your conversations, like when was the last time that this person reached out to you? The likely issue is that the role that we assumed in their lives is not the role they cast us in.

Okay sis! So you did some time in heartbreak city and now you're back out in these streets- single and ready to mingle...and then you have your first few encounters out in the wild and you're ready to shut it all back down. What the 'stjshshdhdjst' is going on out here? I understand but don't give up just yet!

We are hypervisible out here in these streets, this is just one of the things that make us a target...

The reasons some of us choose to be the sidepiece varies. The fun, convenience, and none of the responsibilities of a commitment. I mean, there must be something wrong with her if he's choosing to be with someone else, right?

Closure can be helpful with a relationship gone sour, closure with a job, or with messy family members or friends. But what about when that closure is refused? How do we let go when we haven't been given the dignity of 'Why'

This partner is insecure- he criticizes you in an attempt to always ensure that you are never better than him in both his mind and yours. If he can keep you feeling worthless' he believes he can keep the upper hand and control. He will not have to worry about you leaving him until he is ready to be done with you.

Our hair! The genetic gift that the world tried to convince us was a curse. Let's talk about this unique and complicated relationship.

Let me explain. I am referring to 'man mileage' - Yes! Men can have mileage too.

The stakes are higher than the average because as a black mother- you realize that the fate of an entire generation of black men and women depends on us.

What about those women that have it all? High powered executive women who have the salary, the career, the financial stability, the kids, and the husband, engagement, or single and ready to mingle. Have you ever wondered how these women do it? How are they able to maintain such a high octane life style and still be human? My guest is one of those women.

It's cool to travel alone and it's even better to travel with your man. But there is nothing that can compare to hitting the road with the gang or a bestie ❤

Daddy, Granddaddy, Great Granddaddy, Uncles, Brothers, Cousins - black men and cheating seem to go together like peanut butter and jelly, salt and pepper, trick or treat...

For those of us who have placed getting married and having some kids as an absolute must happen event in our lives. How is your biological clock looking?

My guest today struggled though years of drug addiction, homelessness, abuse, and incarceration – she is nothing short of a walking miracle and an inspiration to those who are still in the fight.

No one can love these men to mental health, no one can love them into respecting and appreciating the women in their lives, No one can love these men enough to fix the brokenness inside of them. No one.

Some of us are out here funding men who are doing hard time right now in prison – with the hope that he will be a good build a bear man and the man of the house once he gets out. What say you black girl? Deal or deal breaker?

No, this is not referring to whomever you may be role-playing with in your bedrooms! This one here is about your real, biological Dad.

If you have ever slashed tires, added some pink paint to the man's car, or smashed windows...this one's for you.

I've financed the unemployed, cared for the sick, forgiven the cheater...whew! What say you black girl?

Black girls  who only want to date 8-figure men. Tap in, let's talk about it!

Plenty of Fish, Match, Bumble...I even tried Facebook dating...I triieed!

Strong, hypersexual, jezebel, angry, black don't crack...I seriously could go on and on