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Join TJ Thomas, a clinical mental health therapist, every Thursday for quick and accessible lessons and tips about therapy and emotional health. Learning about therapy has never been easier! Check out TJ's Instagram @tjcounseling for more therapy and ment

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    • Apr 10, 2025 LATEST EPISODE
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    186. Group Therapy 101

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 10, 2025 7:02


    Group therapy can sound intimidating — but it might be exactly the support you've been looking for. This week, I'm talking about the real benefits of group work, common fears (and why they're normal), and why group therapy might be exactly what you need. Curious? Let's talk. Find out more at tjcounseling.com.

    185. Post-Election Advice

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 7, 2024 5:59


    Obviously this was a very emotional week for lots of people in the USA with the 2024 Presidential Elections. Here today is my advice for how to manage all of the big emotions the week after the election, whether your candidate won or not.

    184. Why Pride Month Still Matters

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 6, 2024 9:01


    Every June we hear the same questions - why do we have pride month? Why does this matter? Why isn't there a straight month? In today's episode I hope to highlight one main reason why I believe Pride is still so important in 2024.

    183. Bad Advice

    Play Episode Listen Later May 2, 2024 8:32


    There are lots of pieces of advice that sound good (like “never go to bed angry”) that actually might not be as solid of advice as we thought.

    182. How to Find the Right Therapist

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 25, 2024 8:20


    When you're starting your therapy journey, it can be overwhelming trying to find a therapist. Finding the right therapist for you can be even more so. Trust me when I say you shouldn't just go for the first therapist you find. You need to make sure it is the right fit for you and what you are looking for.

    181. Excuses or Explanations?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 28, 2024 6:47


    There is a subtle but important difference between an excuse and an explanation, and it primarily comes down to where responsibility is placed.

    180. Fire Your Therapist

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 14, 2024 7:01


    The best therapists should be constantly losing their jobs, because it means they've done what they were hired to do.

    179. My Favorite Communication Hack

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 7, 2024 9:19


    Communication is at the heart of ALL relationships, and miscommunication is often at the heart of many relationship problems. This hack can be a game changer for improving your communication skills!

    178. Lessons in Forgiveness

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 8, 2024 7:39


    Forgiveness is hard, and we sometimes make it harder by expecting it to be something that it's not.

    177. How to Spend Attention

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 25, 2024 8:28


    Attention is a limited resource that must be budgeted and spent much like our money. And what you spend your attention on makes a big impact on your mental health.

    176. Say it Now

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 14, 2023 6:06


    Don't wait for the deathbed, the wedding, the Thanksgiving dinner, or any other big moment, to share how you feel with the people you love.

    175. Expect the Expected

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 7, 2023 6:43


    As we head into the holidays, it can help remove a lot of disappointment or frustration if you just expect the expected.

    174. You Actually CAN

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 30, 2023 5:41


    When we say that we “can't” do something, that statement is almost never actually true. And recognizing what is the actual truth of the matter will create a much more empowering decision.

    173. Discomfort vs Resentment

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 2, 2023 5:57


    Life is about choosing which “hard” you prefer, and one of those choices is often between discomfort and resentment.

    172. Never Say Never

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 19, 2023 6:22


    Absolute, black and white, all or nothing thinking, can be a very big problem for both relationships and individuals. In this episode, we look at where these thoughts are actually coming from and what we can do about them.

    171. Don't Do Your Best

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 12, 2023 5:40


    I don't really love the advice that we give to people to “do your best.” Sometimes the pressure to do your best gets to be too much, and when people feel like they can't do their best, they choose to do nothing.

    170. Emerald Pools and Waterfalls

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 28, 2023 5:47


    Sometimes the pain caused by an unmet expectation is far worse than the experience itself. But the good news is that this "expectation pain" is optional!

    169. Just Choose It

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 21, 2023 6:11


    If you are always struggling to make decisions because you are so concerned about making "the right choice" then I have some good news for you: there is no such thing!

    168. You are Definitely Wrong

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 3, 2023 6:12


    Did you know it is 100% guaranteed that there is something you believe to be true that you are wrong about? Whether it's something scientifically that we just don't know enough about yet, or a narrative belief about yourself or the way you fit int he world, we all have beliefs that are wrong, and that are holding us back.

    167. Misunderstanding Motivation

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 20, 2023 6:58


    Sometimes we just don't feel motivated to follow through with things we have committed to. (Like, for me, today, recording this podcast.) And that's okay! In this episode we talk about why re-evaluating your initial reasons for committing to things is important to decide if it still aligns with your values, and how switching the way you think about motivation can help you get started.

    166. Pay Attention!

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 6, 2023 6:39


    Where we pay our attention has a drastic impact on the quality of our life, so make sure you are paying attention with intention!

    165. This Too Shall Pass

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 29, 2023 5:50


    Nothing is permanent. This might hit you as good news or bad news, depending on how you look at it. But the truth is that accepting this fact can drastically improve your overall happiness and life satisfaction, according to multiple studies.

    164. I Am Not Enough

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 22, 2023 6:40


    Many people come to therapy feeling that they are "not enough" or "not good enough." But "enough" is subjective. And rarely do we stop to ask ourselves - "Good enough at what?"

    163. Happy Isn't Enough

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 8, 2023 6:25


    The phrase "I just want you to be happy" is commonly used in all sorts of relationships, but it can sometimes be the very thing getting in the way of real happiness, particularly when two people have very different ideas of what "happy" means.

    162. Common Queer Myths

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 1, 2023 7:12


    To celebrate Pride Month, today we are breaking down 3 common myths about LGBTQ+ people: that it isn't natural, that science doesn't support it, and that there are more now than before. Happy Pride!

    161. Might as Well Start

    Play Episode Listen Later May 18, 2023 5:10


    If you've been putting off a project or change because you are worried about how long it will take, I like to remember this principle from today's episode: the time is going to pass anyway, so why not just start?

    160. Getting Punched in the Face

    Play Episode Listen Later May 11, 2023 7:08


    Did you know that getting punched in the face is a neutral situation? In this episode we break down why situations are neutral, and how our thoughts/opinions create meaning and feelings for us, using this rather painful example!

    159. Upgrade Your Problems

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 27, 2023 5:42


    Problems are an inescapable part of life (and actually, something that our brain craves!) So instead of trying to get rid of or avoid all problems, let's try upgrading our problems to better ones, or problems that we'd rather be solving.

    158. Why You Aren't Having a Breakthrough

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 13, 2023 8:02


    Many people (myself included) start therapy thinking that if they go for a while, they will have some sudden eureka-breakthrough type moment. The hard truth, however, is that therapy is not about sudden breakthroughs. It's about slow maintenance, and that can be boring sometimes.

    157. Who is God?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 6, 2023 6:37


    I know that question is one of the biggest there is, but in this episode we explore who God is to each one of us by learning about the difference between a god-concept versus a god-image, and how exploring the two sides of our understanding of god can lead to a more fulfilling relationship with our faith and religious beliefs.

    156. Mental Health and Gun Violence in America

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 30, 2023 5:23


    Every time a mass shooting happens, the same debate is sparked: what is to blame for this awful and continuing crisis? With yet another school shooting recently, and the predicable uptick of blaming the shooter's mental health, we are breaking down the truth about mental health as it relates to gun violence in America.

    155. Signs You are Doing Better than You Think

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 2, 2023 5:26


    It's really easy to get down on ourselves when we are feeling stuck, or like we aren't making the progress we'd hoped for. This episode is all about reminding you of the progress you have made, the good you are doing, and the signs that you are probably doing better than you give yourself credit for!

    154. Says Who?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 24, 2023 4:03


    There are a lot of "shoulds" that we pile onto ourselves. But you can stop and question them with a simple "says who?" You'll find that much of the time, it's just completely made up, and no one is actually holding you to that standard other than your own perceptions.

    153. How To Avoid Burnout

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 16, 2023 6:47


    Burnout has become more and more common in our world of constant hustle. And by the time burnout hits, it's really hard to get out of it. Like so many things in life, prevention is really the best policy.

    152. To Be or To Be Seen

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 9, 2023 6:28


    We all have qualities or characteristics that we hope to be - kind, loyal, smart, funny, etc. But it's important to ask ourselves whether we care more about actually being that trait, or just that other people perceive us as having that trait?

    151. What Other People Think Does Matter

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 2, 2023 6:39


    Your whole life you've probably heard some version of - "Don't care what other people think!" And it sounds like good advice. At first. But it pretty quickly starts to break down in real life. In this episode we discuss why what other people think about you actually does matter, why you should care about it, and how do care about it in a more healthy way.

    150. Accessibility Matters

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 26, 2023 4:37


    After a sickness-related hiatus, we are coming back and talking about an experience I had losing my voice, and how it opened my eyes to the issues we have with accessibility in our society.

    149. The Failure Bias

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 12, 2023 6:30


    Our brains have a strong bias towards remembering our failures with much more detail and clarity than our successes, and a nasty habit of bringing them to the front of our minds at the worst times. In today's episode we talk about why that is and what you can do about it!

    148. Move Over, Grandma!

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 5, 2023 7:47


    We have all experienced driving down the road when someone is going either waaaaay too slow or dangerously fast. And as we pass them (or they pass us) we have a seemingly uncontrollable urge to look over and see who the other driver was. In today's episode we talk about that urge and what it is doing for our brains.

    147. Anti-Resolutions

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 29, 2022 6:46


    This New Years, instead of adding yet another goal that probably won't last til February and then leaving you feeling guilty for not accomplishing it, try setting an anti-resolution by choosing something from your life to get rid of, rather than trying to add another new thing.

    146. Be Unsurprised

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 23, 2022 5:45


    Being "unsurprised" this Holiday season is a great way to break cycles. You know the topics that will stir up problems. You know the family members that will do/say something a bit out in left field. So be unsurprised by that, and take your power back.

    145. Ditching Traditions

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 15, 2022 9:01


    Holiday traditions can be lots of fun, but they can also be a huge headache. When the downsides and costs of continuing a tradition outweighs the benefits, it is time to move on. In this episode we talk about why and how this happens.

    144. Live from the Traffic Jam

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 8, 2022 12:10


    I come to you for this very special episode live from a traffic jam to put into practice the SOFAR model that we have discussed on previous episodes! Let's take a look at this real world example of implementing the model.

    143. Myths about Gender Affirming Care

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 1, 2022 14:27


    There are a LOT of myths and straight up lies that have been circulating for a long time about gender affirming care. So today we are setting the record straight with facts and studies, not fear and hunches.

    142. The Science of Gratitude

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 24, 2022 5:47


    We hear all the time about how gratitude can improve our mood, but did you know it can also improve your physical health? The psychological principles behind why this happens are fascinating. Check it out on this week's Thanksgiving episode!

    141. They Might Be Happier

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 17, 2022 9:30


    Today we address a commonly held belief amongst many religious groups, political parties, businesses, etc - that a person will not be able to be truly happy if they leave the group. It's a dangerous belief that not only harms the person leaving, but can seriously limit our own happiness as well.

    140. Origins of Anger

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 10, 2022 6:58


    Where does anger come from? Why do we feel it so intensely? Is it good or bad? Is it always a secondary emotions? There are a lot of questions to explore about anger on today's episode.

    139. Empaths 101

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 3, 2022 6:48


    Have you ever wondered why empaths seem to only take on the "negative" emotions around them, rather than attune to all the people with more positive emotions they meet? In this episode we talk all about empaths, where this skill comes from, and why they are more likely to take on other people's sadness, distress, etc, rather than people's happiness or joy.

    138. You Got it Wrong

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 27, 2022 6:11


    We all get it wrong sometimes. The most common seems to be when we project our views, understandings, opinions, cultures, etc, onto other people. It helps reduce a lot of conflict and stress when you just communicate with someone about a perceived wrongdoing rather than assume they did it intentionally.

    137. TikTok Lied to You

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 20, 2022 6:57


    TikTok and other social media have done a great job at increasing the amount we talk about mental health and therapy. Unfortunately, that has also increased the amount of false information about mental health and therapy. And considering GenZ use TikTok to search for information more than Google, that leads to a lot of incorrect and dangerous self-diagnosing.

    136. Validation 101

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 13, 2022 5:47


    In this episode we dive into why validation is so important to us, how we so often get it wrong, and offer tips on how to do it better. Learning how to better validate people's emotions (including your own) can be a key step in improving overall mental health!

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