Thoughts & Found

What is a good day? A bad day? A productive day? As adults, some of our best days are when we feel like we got a lot done, but those can be some of our kids' worst days. They can feel like they didn't get anything done. We have outings and errands to stay busy, when, often, kids just need less, not more. For kids, play is their work. In today's episode, we talk about the power of an ordinary day for kids - a "home day": an ordinary day where kids can just play, time is irrelevant, and the gateway to learning, imagination, and development really opens! Connect with Thoughts & Found on Instagram @thoughtsandfoundpodcast, Twitter @thoughtsfound, and Facebook @ThoughtsandFound.  --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thoughts-and-found/message

Dr. Mark Wilkinson (D.M.A.) - teacher, singer, performer, athlete, philosopher, and formidably gentle human being joins Adam for Part 5 of our Human Opera Series. In today's show, we talk about life's delicate balance between action and reaction, the devastating mental health effects of unchecked long-term bullying, apologies that may never come, resilience, and becoming your own mentor. Please enjoy! Connect with Mark: www.mwilkinson.ca; Twitter & Instagram: @marklwilkinson. Connect with Thoughts & Found on Instagram @thoughtsandfoundpodcast, Twitter @thoughtsfound, and Facebook @ThoughtsandFound. Disclaimer and a word of listener discretion: In this episode, our guest, Mark Wilkinson, and I (Adam) discuss some sensitive topics such as bullying, mental health, and suicide. Some listeners may find these topics uncomfortable, distressing, or triggering. Neither Mark, nor I, are qualified to provide any kind of health or mental health counselling, nor do we do so in this podcast episode. If you, or someone you know, are, or may be, experiencing bullying, a mental health crisis, or any other type of violence or abuse, no matter your age, please reach out to a friend, family member, other trusted person, or health care provider for support and assistance. You may also be able to call a toll-free crisis hotline where you live. Thank you, take good care, and be well.   --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thoughts-and-found/message

Dr. Mark Wilkinson (D.M.A.) - teacher, singer, performer, athlete, philosopher, and formidably gentle human being joins Adam for Part 4 of our Human Opera Series. In today's show, we talk about overcoming stage fright, applying the Pareto Principle (80/20 Rule) to different aspects of life, visualization when preparing for a performance, becoming resilient through practice, the nature of perfection, and lots more. Please enjoy! Connect with Mark: www.mwilkinson.ca; Twitter & Instagram: @marklwilkinson. Connect with Thoughts & Found on Instagram @thoughtsandfoundpodcast, Twitter @thoughtsfound, and Facebook @ThoughtsandFound. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thoughts-and-found/message

Dr. Mark Wilkinson - teacher, singer, performer, athlete, philosopher, and formidably gentle human being joins Adam for Part 3 of our Human Opera Series. In today's show, we talk about being hyper-subscribed in our modern lives and how context drives the human brain crazy. We also cover being in charge versus being a leader, disagreeing with a mentor, weighing personal responsibility against the public good, how we're obsessed with the micro right now and could all use some 'zooming out', and Dr. Mark's concern with the infantilization of talent with shows like "...Idol" and "...Got Talent". We also talk to Mark about his personal decision to put performing aside during the pandemic, his passion for studying the voice, and how the voice can be used to detect lying and overall health. It's another packed episode! Please enjoy! Connect with Mark: www.mwilkinson.ca; Twitter & Instagram: @marklwilkinson. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thoughts-and-found/message

"You can't go to McDonald's and ask for a "Whopper". There will always be structure to the world, that's just how it works." Dr. Mark Wilkinson - teacher, singer, performer, athlete, philosopher, and formidably gentle human being is back for a second episode! In today's show, we touch on addictions and grief in a post-pandemic world, imperfection, the sanctimony of social media, privilege, anthropomorphizing our phones, discrimination, anarchy, getting lost in what you're fighting against instead of what you're fighting for, group freedom versus individual freedom, reading books you might end up disagreeing with, slowing down to remind ourselves of what's real and beautiful in the world, and taking care of others. It's packed! Please enjoy! Connect with Mark: www.mwilkinson.ca; Twitter & Instagram: @marklwilkinson. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thoughts-and-found/message

Today's guest on Thoughts & Found is Mark Wilkinson, (Doctorate of Musical Arts - D.M.A.) - teacher, singer, performer, athlete, philosopher, and formidably gentle human being. He joins us for a lively, wide-ranging conversation, and we chat about family, noticing life's "green lights," maintaining your "self" while excelling, making art, rediscovering humanity, identifying overlap, cohesion, and next steps in your personal and professional pursuits, and so much more. Please enjoy! Connect with Mark: www.mwilkinson.ca, Twitter & Instagram @marklwilkinson Performance audio is included with permission, and with gratitude to Mark and his colleagues: the Ohio State Men's Glee Club, Casey Cook (piano), Kia-Hui Tan (violin), with Robert J. Ward conducting. Visit our website at www.thoughtsandfound.com for people, companies, and links mentioned in this episode. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thoughts-and-found/message

In honour of our 13th episode, we have fun chatting about the bizarre, unsettling, fantastical, and downright frightening things that children have reportedly said out-of-the-blue. Are children somehow aware of, or connected to, otherworldly dimensions or experiences? We add in some of our own strange experiences with our daughter, and as a couple before she was born, and draw on pop-culture and philosophy during our conversation. Join us for a fun and skin-chilling discussion! Visit our website at www.thoughtsandfound.com for people, companies, and links mentioned in this episode. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thoughts-and-found/message

In this episode, we chat about the book, "The Wonder Weeks," by Hetty van de Rijt, Ph.D., Frans Plooij, Ph.D., and Xaviera Plas-Plooij. The book outlines "how to stimulate the most important developmental weeks in your baby's first 20 months and turn these 10 predictable, great, fussy phases into magical leaps forward." We discuss how we prefer the term and concept of a 'leap' to the more popular one 'milestone'; how we've continued to apply the term, 'leap' to our daughter's development past the age range presented in the book, and what strategies we've used as parents to push through the inevitable fussy phases and trust the ride to take us to the wonderful gains that come soon after. Visit our website at www.thoughtsandfound.com for people, companies, and links mentioned in this episode. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thoughts-and-found/message

In this episode, Adam talks about two delightful books we added to our home library this Christmas season. They are books for all-ages, can be opened to any page, anytime, and can even be enjoyed by your toddler. We invite you to understand why. The Boy Who Would Be King, written by Ryan Holiday, and illustrated by Victor Juhasz. The Boy, The Mole, The Fox, and The Horse, written and illustrated by Charlie Mackesy. This episode is NOT sponsored by the authors; we just really like their books. Visit our website at www.thoughtsandfound.com for people, companies, and links mentioned in this episode. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thoughts-and-found/message

In this episode, we chat about how the Royal Canadian Legion has chosen to commemorate the 100th anniversary of wearing a Remembrance Day Poppy in Canada, and how we stumbled on a way to make Remembrance Day and poppy-wearing easier for a toddler to understand. Visit our website at www.thoughtsandfound.com for people, companies, and links mentioned in this episode. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thoughts-and-found/message

From Empedocles, to Hippocrates and Galen, philosophers and medical practitioners have been helping people balance their "four humours" for centuries. In this episode, we chat about how we balance our humours on busy days with our two-year-old toddler: What we add or subtract to keep our days, ourselves, and our toddler operating smoothly. Visit our website at www.thoughtsandfound.com for people, companies, and links mentioned in this episode. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thoughts-and-found/message

"Little things in life matter." In this episode, we chat about how something as (seemingly) inconsequential as making your bed can give you a sense of accomplishment and calmness at the end of those busy days as a work-from-home parent. Learning the little things sets kids up for the big things that come later. We based this discussion on the book, "Make Your Bed - Little Things That Can Change Your Life...And Maybe The World," by Admiral William H. McRaven (U.S. Navy Retired), and extended his idea to a few key spots around the house that can quickly be tidied (or maintained) on-the-go or in just a few minutes at the end of a hectic day. Visit our website at www.thoughtsandfound.com for people, companies, and links mentioned in this episode. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thoughts-and-found/message

As a couple, we love spending time outside. So, it's only natural that we want to share that joy with our child. Plus, being outside makes our parenting life so much easier. In this episode, we chat about how parenting outside has saved us money, kept us moving, and taught our two-year-old how to read, all while exploring our new city and meeting the people we share it with. Not to mention the fun to be had together, and the clean house when you get back home! Visit our website at www.thoughtsandfound.com for people, companies, and links mentioned in this episode. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thoughts-and-found/message

As parents of a 2-year-old with hip dysplasia, we provide background on causes, risk factors, diagnosis, treatments, and prognosis of this condition, and round out the conversation with our experience to date. Visit our website at www.thoughtsandfound.com for people, companies, and links mentioned in this episode. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thoughts-and-found/message

Ever wondered what it really means to 'sleep like a baby'? It's pretty wacky. We're about to walk you through it. Join us in this episode for our experience with the ups and downs of newborn and toddler sleep. Visit our website at www.thoughtsandfound.com for people, companies, and links mentioned in this episode. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thoughts-and-found/message

After the arrival of our baby girl, we're (finally!) back to give an update on the final weeks of pregnancy and the initial days of parenthood, with some funny stories along the way, that hopefully some of you can relate to! We kept this episode intentionally light; we're just back with a fairly short, conversational recap of the past several months, and why the heck we haven't recorded a new podcast. We hope you'll enjoy pouring a cup of your favourite drink and joining us for some laughs. Thanks for listening, subscribing, and rejoining us. Lots more to come! Visit our blog at www.thoughtsandfound.com for people, companies, and links mentioned in this episode. Related & recommended Thoughts & Found episodes: Episode #3: Pregnancy Series: 10 Things That Have Surprised Us About Pregnancy (So Far!) Episode #2: Pregnancy Series: Navigating “the Tell” Episode #1: Pregnancy Series: "Baby Gear" --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thoughts-and-found/message

One thing we've learned on this journey to becoming parents is that every pregnancy is mind-blowingly different! With that in mind, in this episode, we talk about 10 things that have surprised us about Danielle's pregnancy (so far). The list includes things we either hadn't heard from other women or doctors, things we know other pregnant women and expectant couples must have experienced, but that 'just don't get talked about' - at least publicly - and things that we've encountered that are the complete opposite from what other people have said pregnancy would be like! In true Thoughts & Found form, we hit this one hard and put it all out there - the good, the bad, the personal, and the potentially TMI! Hope you enjoy - it's a bit of a fun one! Thanks for listening! Show notes (and approximate timestamps): 1. Uniqueness of symptoms - (00:50) 2. How soon the extra bathroom trips kick in - (03:44) 3. Sleep/insomnia - (06:07) 4. “Raincheck” excuses - (11:31) 5. Mobility...or lack thereof - (15:30) 6. Social life / going out in public - (21:25) 7. How long I could ACTUALLY go without maternity clothes - (27:53) 8. How much you have to figure out for yourself - (30:57) 9. The waiting game / lull points - (39:01) 10. Baby movement - (42:47) Closing - (47:12) Visit our blog at www.thoughtsandfound.com for people, companies, and links mentioned in this episode. Related & recommended Thoughts & Found episodes: Episode #2: Pregnancy Series: Navigating “the Tell” --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thoughts-and-found/message

Expecting? Congratulations! Not sure when, or how to tell people, or who to tell first? We review the ups and downs of our own experiences of ''navigating the tell" with two pregnancies that ended in miscarriage, and a current third pregnancy. We also run through the pros and cons of telling early, factors that can accelerate the timing of when you tell (!), and the importance of going with your gut and telling in your own way. If you're comfortable sharing your own experiences with us and with our listeners, leave a message on Anchor or find us on social media through the links on our blog below. Thanks for listening! Show notes (and approximate timestamps): Telling people about a pregnancy loss - (01:33) Holidays - (06:02) The so-called “safe zone” - (09:38) Work considerations - (10:44) “Everyone’s fighting a battle you know nothing about” - via Tim Ferriss - (14:50) Telling in your own way - (18:37) Others’ perceptions of your news after a pregnancy loss - (21:50) Social media and the news spreading - (24:16) Neighbours and climate - (27:55) Going with your gut - (29:50) Receiving the news - (33:02) Closing - (35:00) Visit our blog at www.thoughtsandfound.com for people, companies, and links mentioned in this episode. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thoughts-and-found/message

Have you ever sat down to create a list of all the "gear" you "need" for baby's arrival? Wish it was all listed in one place instead of scattered across the internet? Wish people were honest about what they really needed vs. what they were led to believe they needed by big box stores, registry sales people and websites, (and, dare we say it, even friends and family)? Trying to stick to a budget for baby's arrival? You can be led to spend a fortune without even trying. In this first official episode of our podcast, we review all the gear we've looked at, reviewed, compared, considered, and carefully evaluated - and then what we eventually bought in order to prepare for the arrival of our first baby. We divided the 'stuff' into categories, which you can find listed below. And it's not as much as we thought! (We'll be back to update the list once baby arrives and we can really put our money where our mouth is in terms of what should have made the list and what didn't need to be included). Enjoy! Leave us a message through the Anchor app or find us online through our blog below. For direct links to many of the items we talk about in the show, visit our blog: https://www.lifeinthedoglane.com/2019/06/20/thoughts-found-podcast-pregnancy-series-episode-1-baby-gear/ Show notes (and approximate timestamps): Nursery - (05:00) Sleeping / napping - (27:15) Feeding - (34:30) Changing - (38:55) Clothing - (43:20) Bathing - (47:25) Medical - (50:48) Grooming - (51:42) Miscellaneous - (52:25) Transportation - (57:21) Disclaimer - we’re not medical professionals; we are speaking about our experiences; please speak with your own health care providers regarding your situation - (1:20:15) Pregnancy loss / miscarriages - (1:21:04) Sensitivity towards people experiencing infertility, pregnancy difficulties, or losses - (1:21:56) Closing - (1:22:32) --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thoughts-and-found/message

A brief overview of our new show about life’s less talked about moments: from miscarriage to admitting defeat, to taking calculated risks in life, work, and relationships. We have the conversations others don’t have. If you have questions or suggestions for topics or guests, please let us know! Thanks for listening! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thoughts-and-found/message