Whore Rapport

Aaaand just like that, we're wrapped (in leopard print). This has been a wild few years, and we're so grateful to have had you along for the ride. In this episode, we discuss the end of the Whore Rapport era, where we were versus where we are, and the problem with pumpkin spice. Ta-ta for now.

It's about time for an update! We haven't disappeared, we're coming back, and things are changing. 

In our third and final episode in this series, we answer some questions including: how can sex heal when I think the problem is that we're not having enough sex; does the cultural pressure around sex make the process of sexual healing harder to work through; and, can sex help heal the pain from cheating? As usual, these listener questions provided texture and depth to the discussion.  Song featured: Sexual Healing by Ben Harper & The Innocent Criminals Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

For part two we're joined by our brilliant friend Caroline, an intimacy coach who works with clients to explore topics such as embodiment, desire, dating, attachment, boundaries, inner-child work, and pleasure. We discuss sexual healing as a practice, and its varying modalities; the inherent, and culturally imposed limitations of these practices; the value of vulnerability in a coach-client dynamic; and the far-reaching power of connection. To book a session with Caroline go to: shadowdanceintimacycoaching.as.me/schedule.php Follow her at https://www.instagram.com/shadowdanceintimacy/ Song featured: Righteously by Anna Ash Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

We're kicking off another three part series! In this episode we begin by discussing the nature and breadth of sexual healing, as well as the ways in which we've come to understand it. We venture slightly into the relationship between trauma and healing, and we delve more deeply into the power of sex as a growth and healing modality. There's much to explore with this topic, and we're just getting started. Song featured: Ayo Technology - Live with Orchestra by Milow Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

We've danced around this one, even discussed it explicitly once or twice, but we all know it deserved its own episode. This is a conversation about a culturally imposed lens that has done nothing but distort and obscure. Over the course of this conversation we discuss: the ways in which Freud's madonna-whore complex has tainted our views of modern sexuality and relationships; why so many women struggle with the notion of “having it all,” and what to do about it. Song featured: Positions by Ariana Grande Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

In this episode we talk about talking. Specifically, we discuss the nature and importance of discernment; the ways in which communication styles can vary relationship to relationship and person to person; and what happens when these styles don't blend well, and things break down. Not surprisingly, we have a lot to say about the things we say. Song featured: Goddamn by Deva Mahal Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

We could have titled this episode “sexual dysfunction,” but we don't believe in ghosts. This is a discussion about the ways in which we perceive and address so-called dysfunction, as it pertains to sexuality. Over the course of this basement conversation we explore the cultural impact of the wellness industry; the ways in which social media perpetuates shame; some root causes of sexual dysregulation; and tennis, sort of.  Song featured: Fire for You by Cannons Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

Welcome to the kiosk, aka part three of our first ever series, dedicated to the topic of ethical non-monogamy. We're back to answer literally all of your questions, even the ones you didn't know you had. This final part in the series addresses frequently asked questions and covers topics including: fear, trust, three-way dynamics, and whether or not non-monogamy is easier than monogamy. Spoiler alert: it's not. Song featured: 3 by Britney Spears Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgs Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

Welcome to part two of our first ever series, dedicated to the topic of ethical non-monogamy. In this one we continue with your thoughtful questions, and cover a range of topics including: jealousy and imagination; the ways in which polarity can play into our dynamics, and the true (neutral) nature of power, privilege, and equality; judginess; as well as what non-monogamy can potentially teach us about other relationships. We really “succame” to this one. Song featured: In The Middle by dodie Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgs Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

We're getting whorganized! We've restructured, and added a number of perks to Patreon including access to a virtual Whore Rapport community via Discord, quarterly Zoom calls, and more. We're very excited to keep connecting with you all, and to keep building this community from the inside out.  Song featured: Thank You (Falettinme Be Mice Elf Agin) by Sly and the Family Stone Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgs Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

Welcome to part one of our first ever series, dedicated to the topic of ethical non-monogamy. In this installment we are joined by Dr. Christopher Ryan, co-author of Sex at Dawn. We discuss the difference between relationship “work” and “effort,” as well as the parallels between traveling, and cultivating aligned relationship structures. We also address some listener questions including: How do I know if non-monogamy is truly right for me? And, how do I approach non-monogamy with my partner when we're going through a rough patch? This may be the first, but it will not be the last. Song featured: MANGO (feat. Adeline) by KAMAUU Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgs Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

Welcome to the cold water podcast! In this episode we dissect and deconstruct longing. Specifically, we get into how longing looks, what it stands in for, and what it often represents. We also discuss the average lifespan of the feeling, the cycle it can perpetuate, and what it does to our perceptions of the objects of our longing as well as the types of relationships that exist around it. Brought to you from two, separate, undisclosed locations. Song featured: Shape of You - Acoustic by Ed Sheeran Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgs Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

This is an episode about the various ways in which we come out, and the closets from which we emerge. Song featured: Take Your Mama by Scissor Sisters Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgs Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

This was an incredibly synchronistic Q&A that begins with a conversation about orgasm shame/pressure, and ends with a discussion of the kinds of stories we embody. In between these topics we break down the relationship between body image and healthy weight loss, as well as the, “capitalist patriarchal media representation and expression of what we want or assume men want… gaze.” As usual, you all know how to ask questions. Song featured: Get It On... Tonite by Montell Jordan Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgs Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

We've broken the ice and had our very first guest! Cecily is extremely thoughtful, articulate, and she does something that was entirely new to us. She takes clients, over the phone, and collaborates with them to build and play out their erotic fantasies. In this conversation we break down, from multiple angles, the motivations and curiosities that go into this sort of work. Cecily's stories and reflections are not to be missed.  Song featured: Hypnotize by The Notorious B.I.G. Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgs Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

In this episode we take a look at guilt in its varied forms. Specifically we explore: implied guilt; perceived guilt; what it's like to operate from unacknowledged guilt; and the areas at which guilt, shame, and remorse intersect. (Are you sick of reading the word ‘guilt' yet?) We also dissect a teen movie with the help of Melissa Febos.  Song featured: Guilty by Lady Wray Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgs Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

Welcome to our first orgasm episode. In this exploration of “The Orgasm Gap,” we discuss the dangers of keeping score when it comes to sexual pleasure; the ways in which sexual compatibility shows up and exists outside of committed relationships; what our environment teaches us about orgasms; and more! We wrap up with a request for your thoughts. Song featured: Side to Side (feat. Nicki Minaj) by Ariana Grande Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgs Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

What are we afraid of that also turns us on? What is the relationship between these things? What does it feel like to embody them together? How do we tell the difference between healthy and legitimate risk? These are just some of the themes we get into in this week's episode. We also do some math: Fear(x) + Risk(x) + Vulnerability(x) = Authentic Intimacy Be sure to show your work when solving for your own personal x factors. Song featured: Down by Marian Hill Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgs Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

This episode is all about the oddities and complexities of dating. How can we truly get to know each other within the modern dating structure? And, more specifically, how do we establish intimacy with another person outside of the culturally perpetuated “game” that surrounds it? We also discuss the ways in which chemistry fits into all this, and the differences between chemistry and attraction.   Song featured: Can’t Take My Eyes Off of You by Lauryn Hill Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgs Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email us: whorerapport@gmail.com

We’re back with part two, and this time the questions range even further. This conversation includes discussions of sex education — seriously, who’s going to do it? — the intimate relationship between power and sexual expression; and, the ways in which we frame and understand confusing and even unwanted sexual experiences that occur in youth. You all know how to ask questions. Song featured: Make Me Feel by Janelle Monáe Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgs Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

Welcome to part one of a two part attempt to address your Qs with As. Firstly, what are our wet dreams telling us? Inquiring minds want to know. Secondly, why are we jealous? Not about the wet dreams, necessarily, but in relationships. What is the jealousy we are experiencing really showing us? Understanding that it is not a feeling to manage or control, we discuss the ways in which jealousy can deepen our understanding of what we truly want, and why. We also discuss the importance of not trying to twist oneself into a pretzel. Song featured: Sexxx Dreams by Lady Gaga Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgs Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

This episode is a companion to our early episodes on embodiment. We wanted to get into what it’s really like to feel disconnected from one’s body, and how those feelings manifest and change from puberty into adulthood. Specifically, we talk about issues around body image; how bodies are affected by major decisions we make, or don’t make, in our lives; and the impact of trauma on the ways in which we view our physical bodies. We also talk about how this all relates to sex, given that this indeed a sex podcast.  Song featured: Paper Bag by Fiona Apple Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgs Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

It’s not you, it’s us... This week’s episode is a discussion of the ways in which relationships change. The good, the bad, and the overly complicated. Specifically, we touch on the role that truth plays, leading up to and during a relationship transition; the problems with seeing the transition of a relationship as a failure; the limitations imposed by euphemistic relationship terminology; and the ways in which we can, and do, transition relationships without in fact ending them at all.  Song featured: Somebody That I Used to Know by Gotye, Kimbra Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgs Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

This week we dip our toes into some incredibly vast pools. This conversation includes discussions of: what happens when the private becomes public; Only Fans; the complexities of the porn industry; the power of imagination; and our personal experiences of porn and how our opinions of it, and engagement with it, have evolved over time. Xtina makes her way into the conversation.  Song featured: Dirrty (feat. Redman) by Christina Aguilera

For our dirty thirty (wooo!), we discussed the complexities of maturing sexual energy. Specifically, the ways in which sex education, or the lack thereof, impacts our understanding of our own sexuality; what happens when we project a strong sense of sexual understanding that we don’t actually have; and the importance of open, vulnerable communication — especially when it’s awkward — as a tool for self knowing. We also nail down the problem with dating apps. Song featured: Let’s Talk About Sex by Salt-N-Pepa Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgs Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

We honestly had no idea this episode would extend as far as it did when we turned on the mics, but such is the nature of this type of unbridled conversation. Topics discussed include: sexual acts as "bases," and the shift toward intimacy as a true gauge of experience; the concept of reciprocity in sexual relationships; male desire, and the issues that arise for everybody when we pathologize it. We’re really earning our ‘explicit’ rating with this one.  Song featured: Oops (Oh My) [feat. Missy Elliot] by Tweet Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgs Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

This episode is about the relationship structure to which we inevitably compare all other relationship structures. We discuss the difference between actively choosing versus assuming what our relationships will look like, as well as the importance and power of this sort of intentionality; the downsides of passive feelings of safety and security between partners; and what periods of stagnancy mean, or don’t mean. We also acknowledge that since we made it past episode 27, this podcast is officially in its Saturn return... Song featured: Say Anything by Tristan Prettyman Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgs Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

We’re kickin’ off this wild new year with another round of your questions. We love hearing from you, and this batch of inquiries did not disappoint. Themes covered in this episode include: intrusive sexual thoughts, sexual shyness, what it means to fully step into intimacy, the journey (not the destination) of sexual embodiment, and sexual incompatibility within a monogamous relationship structure. We also assign homework in the form of a music video recommendation. Song featured: Watermelon Sugar by Harry Styles Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgs Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

On this sacred day — the two-year anniversary of the friendship that birthed this podcast — we do another deep exploration of what it means to be a whore. This conversation includes discussions of: pornstar-like friendship, dominatrix dynamics, whore as a derogatory term as well as the ancestral resonance of the word whore, and more! This episode also includes an ASMR style break (not, technically) brought to you by Alter Eco… you’re welcome? Song featured: The Cult of Dionysus by The Orion Experience Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgs Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

We were on a podcast! This week’s episode of Whore Rapport is actually an episode of Tangentially Speaking, hosted by Christopher Ryan. Chris is a bestselling author, podcaster, and friend who played a critical role in the Whore Rapport origin story. Our conversation includes discussions of eroticism, rapport, abs, and so much more. Check out Chris’s books and listen to his podcast at www.chrisryanphd.com. Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgs Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

On this week’s episode, we discuss the intersection of three major themes. Specifically, we get into the importance of cultivating sexual desire; that lusty, “drunk” phase of a relationship and what it says about intimate connection; and the ways in which we think about taboo collectively, individually, and at various points throughout our lives. We do all of this under a leopard print throw, naturally.  Song featured: Son of a Preacher Man by Dusty Springfield Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgs Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

Where for art thou whoreo? A timeless query, and one we break down in full detail. We also cover fantasy projection/wanting what we can’t have; the ways in which our personal stories and histories play out in our relationships and attractions; the concept of soulmates; and of course, crushes (we’re looking at you Hugh Grant). We even touch on the notion of eros, and the contexts in which it plays out in our everyday lives. Song featured: Fantasy (feat. Ol’ Dirty Bastard) by Mariah Carey Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Check out our website! www.whorerapport.com Find us on Instagram: Whore Rapport: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgs Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

Welcome to another edition of “Whore Chatter.” This episode is all about what happens when we move out of the standard issue ‘friend zone.’ We discuss the ways in which sex can enhance and deepen a friendship; the importance of personal boundaries; and the various shapes these sorts of friendships can take. Let’s be honest, sometimes it's more awkward not to have sex. Song featured: Tie You Up by Andy Frasco and the U.N. Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Check out our website! www.whorerapport.com Find us on Instagram: Whore Rapport: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgs Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

What is cheating? What does it look like in the context of a non-monogamous relationship? What does it mean to be a cheater? And, why are we so afraid of the possibility that the answers to these questions may be less black and white than they seem? These are some of the questions we tackle in this week’s episode. We also discuss some thoughts and inquiries sent to us by a listener. Songs featured: You Know I’m No Good by Amy Winehouse & Wicked Games by The Weeknd Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Find us on Instagram: Whore Rapport: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgs Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

This week’s episode extends from the archetype of the sacred prostitute, to the social and historical implications of sex as a service. That is to say, we go deep. This is one of those ideas that is simultaneously misunderstood, underexplored, and criticized. Our conversation covers multiple corners, both personal and cultural.  Song featured: Lady Marmalade by G Flip  Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Find us on Instagram: Whore Rapport: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgs Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

Welcome to the whoremone episode. In our first ever coffee-time podcast, we discuss the varied methods of birth control, periods, morning after pills, hormone imbalances, STIs, and the excessively inflated stigma and shame attached to all of it. We also dabble in supplements, functional versus standard Western approaches to health, and abortion. There’s really something for everyone here.  Song featured: Little Red Corvette by Prince Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Find us on Instagram: Whore Rapport: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgs Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

We’re on to part two of this round of the Femininity-Masculinity discussion. We begin by recounting our earliest understandings of masculinity. From there we explore cultural perceptions and layers of healthy masculinity; feminine/masculine interplay; masculine embodiment; and the dangers of perpetuating the concept of “toxic masculinity.” It’s an intricate one.  Song featured: Whatta Man (feat. En Vogue) by Salt-N-Pepa Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Find us on Instagram: Whore Rapport: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgs Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

After a circumstantial summer break, we’re back with an episode we've been mulling over since long before any of us knew what it meant to #quarantineandchill. This is part one of an energetic discussion about femininity and masculinity. We discuss the paradigms that exist around embodied femininity; the light and shadow of both feminine and masculine energies; and how all of this plays out within the context of the Madonna-Whore dichotomy. We also get into WAP, naturally. Song featured: WAP (feat. Megan Thee Stallion) by Cardi B Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Find us on Instagram: Whore Rapport: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgs Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

In this week’s episode we decided to address the moment, head on. We begin by discussing the accusations facing Chris D’Elia (et. al.), and move into the problems with shaming as a strategy for change; the importance and value of self reflection; and the power of constructive, individual voice. It’s a totally "consexual" conversation.  Song featured: None of Your Business by Salt-N-Pepa Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Find us on Instagram: Whore Rapport: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgs Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

This is one of those big issue episodes we couldn’t wait on any longer. The conversation includes a discussion of the Lewinsky-Clinton scandal; egalitarian versus Western, patriarchal understandings of power; cultural perceptions of the penis; and masculine versus feminine expressions of power.  Song featured: Feelin’ Love by Paula Cole Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Find us on Instagram: Whore Rapport: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgshaw Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

We’re back with part two of this round of listener Qs & As. This time we answer questions about what happens when you find yourself attracted to someone unexpected; the implications and assumptions around degradation in sexual relationships and the importance of context when addressing and exploring them; as well as, age gaps in romantic partnerships. Erin also learns a thing or two about ‘stroking’ fires.  Song featured: bad guy by Billie Eilish Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Find us on Instagram: Whore Rapport: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgshaw Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

This is part one of a two part Q&A that begins with a Billie Eilish update. From there we discuss modesty and the challenges that arise around expression, discretion, and embodiment. We also answer a multi-part question about casual sex -- for starters, what is it? -- that includes some thoughts on the differences between ‘slut’ and ‘whore,’ as well as the role of intimacy in sexual connection. Song featured: Hussy by Black Carl Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Find us on Instagram: Whore Rapport: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgshaw Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

Brace yourself for some classic Whore Rapport deconstruction. In this episode we take a magnifying glass to jealousy by exploring tropes, sharing personal experiences, and examining what’s really underneath it all. Anya also gets something off her chest.  Song featured: F**k You by CeeLo Green Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Find us on Instagram: Whore Rapport: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgshaw Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

This week is all red roses and chocolate hearts... In this episode we swap romantic stories; discuss the underlying motivations behind grand gestures and diamond ring engagements; and explore the ways in which romance can be authentically conveyed and received. Erin’s Romance Song: I Wanna Make It Wit Chu by Queens of the Stone Age  Anya’s Romance Song: Into the Deep by Galactic feat. Macy Gray Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Find us on Instagram: Whore Rapport: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgshaw Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

Ten episodes deep seemed like the perfect opportunity to revisit what it means to be a whore, and more specifically, what it means to have "whore rapport". We touch on the etymology; the madonna-whore dichotomy; and why reclaiming the word ‘whore’ feels so aligned. We also read an excerpt from a book about whoring… firsts.  Song featured: Piece of My Heart by Janis Joplin & Big Brother & The Holding Company Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Find us on Instagram: Whore Rapport: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgshaw Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

This week’s episode is a reflection on sexual preference, inspired by a listener question. We talk about the ways in which preferences and fantasies evolve, and how this evolution is not only rooted in experience, but also tends to be quite context specific. We also get into the power of vulnerability and curiosity.   Song featured: Bitch by Meredith Brooks Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Find us on Instagram: Whore Rapport: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgshaw Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

Our first part two! This time around we discuss compliments; sexual embodiment in its various forms; the compartmentalization of intellect and physical appearance, and what it takes to integrate the two. We also don’t forget to talk about shaving.   Song featured: Back in My Body by Maggie Rogers Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Find us on Instagram: Whore Rapport: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgshaw Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

Part one of what we’ve determined will be a two part episode on the body and how we relate to it. We discuss the projections we put on -- and cultivate within -- our bodies, the havoc that can wreak, as well as the lessons that can emerge from it. We also dabble in clothes competition (it’s real), makeup, piercings, and tattoos. Song featured: Video by India Arie Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Find us on Instagram: Whore Rapport: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgshaw Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

We’re back (and things have gotten real weird)! In this episode we reflect on the current state of things, internally and externally. We discuss what it's like to be non-monogamous in a monogamous time, the current rules of physical engagement, and phone sex. There’s a fair bit of phone sex. Song featured: Use Me by Bill Withers Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Find us on Instagram: Whore Rapport: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgshaw Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com

Desired, desirous, desirer, desiring... in this episode we consider desire from assorted perspectives. We discuss it as it pertains to femininity, masculinity, our own experiences, books we’ve read, and bonobos. We get into the innateness of it, and specifically, how desire shifts with context, conversation, and experience.  Song featured: Come on Closer by Jem Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Find us on Instagram: Whore Rapport: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgshaw Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: whorerapport@gmail.com