Podcasts about restoration therapy model

In this episode I talk with my good friend Nicole Zasowski, who is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and the author of several books: What if it's Wonderful, From Lost to Found, and Families and Forgiveness which she co-authored with Terry Hargrave.  I so much respect the professional and personal work that Nicole does in her life, and she is a lifelong learner which I love.  In this episode we dig deep into anxiety and looking at it through the framework of the Restoration Therapy model.  I hope that you enjoy this episode and find it's content helpful.  Check out more of my work at my website www.rhettsmith.com

What happens when we get stuck in unhealthy patterns? How do we let Jesus into the broken places and step into spiritual and emotional wholeness? In this episode, Gina has a conversation with Ali Ash about the things that get in the way of healthy relationship with God, ourselves and each other.  Ali Ash is a certified Life Purpose Coach. She is also certified in the Restoration Therapy Model, a TRR (The Relationship Resource) trainer and has been cultivating healthy leadership for the nonprofit world for over 10 years. She is passionate about coming alongside people where their mental and emotional health intersects with Spiritual Formation. Seeing people find a renewal of hope, joy and purpose through intentional holistic living is her sweet spot. She and her husband Ryan have been married for 20 years and live in San Diego, CA with their 3 boys.  DONATE NOW to support the production of this podcast and other projects bt Stockton Ministries   Connect with Ali: ali@sdchurch.com; https://www.sdchurch.com/   Resources: Pain & Peace Cycle Worksheets: Email gina@ginastockton.com    TRR Workshops & Intensives: https://www.therelationshipresource.org/ Dr. Terry Hargrave/Restoration Therapy (Pain to Peace): https://www.restorationtherapytraining.com/ Dr. Mark Wolynn (Inherited Family Trauma, why it didn't start with you): https://markwolynn.com/ Bob Mulholland (Invitation to a Journey, Spiritual Formation): https://transformingcenter.org/2016/03/remembering-bob-mulholland/

Episode 13, Mom's Mental Health, Our Drive for Perfection, The "Hurt Cycle," and Finding Joy in the Valley - Val interviews Amanda Colliatie, Marriage and Family Therapist with a Live Studio Audience.Mom, you’re committed to monitoring your child’s mental and emotional health, but what about your own? Today we’ve got a LIVE studio audience and a marriage and family therapist to help us turn the mirror on ourselves, take a gentle look to make a doable action plan for heading toward healing.You are a mom who is seriously trying your best to be a great mom. You are all in. You are focused and you are daily growing and seeking new ways to better be there for your family to pull your family to a better place. You’re a marathon mom! Sometimes we marathon moms can quickly slide into perfectionism -seeking perfect actions, decisions, and results. What pressure! When we get our expectations set on perfection and it doesn’t come, what’s our response then?Amanda Colliatie will walk us through four buckets - Blame, Shame, Escape, and Control- that moms find themselves pulling from in their moments of distress. We’ll learn to recognize this in ourselves and get some action items for stopping the cycle? Regardless of if we're struggling with perfectionism, anxiety, depression O. C. D. parent-child conflict, the “Hurt Cycle” is one to be aware of and have solution steps in place for stepping out of the cycle of blame, shame, escape, or control (from the Restoration Therapy Model). Amanda Colliatie is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Wichita, Kansas. Her practice at Encounter Freedom Therapy Center website or Facebook page is dedicated to providing skilled therapy that is safe, affordable, and practical. Amanda likes to talk emotions! She is passionate about mental health and creating space for intentional conversations about difficult things. Today we are going to discuss how our pursuit of perfection can often give us short term solutions that create long term pain. Amanda introduces S H A L T. - an acronym that stands for Am I “sad, hungry, angry, lonely or tired?” Then Val mentions her Hierarchy of Needs that lead to God's will for your life, both God's daily and long term will and also learning to recognize if you're a "high physical needs person." Val goes on to share how her spiritual hero, her grandmother, handled tragedy by praying for two specific things: 1-Joy and 2-To forget the toxic details of the past. The author of the plaque she mentioned was by Morris Cerullo, World Evangelism.Contact Val in her Facebook Group: Intentional Mom, Strong Family or through her website www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.comIf you found this podcast helpful, would you please consider leaving a review and sharing this with other moms who are seeking to be more intentional.

Stephenie Lievense is a wife and mom to 2 boys, as well as a Marriage & Family Therapist. She owns a private practice in La Canada, and is an adjunct professor at Fuller Theological Seminary in Pasadena, CA. She specializes in couples work using the Restoration Therapy Model by Dr Terry Hargrave. In this episode we discuss this Therapy Model and how people can move from Pain to Peace. Stephenie shares some experiences that have developed inner strength and the lessons she learned from going through hard things. She talks about her journey of health & wellness, and gives some tips for self care. Stephenie has taught me how to love life and embrace the moment. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/balancedbybeth/support

Last weekend I had the humbling opportunity to speak at the first ever Restoration Therapy Conference which was held at Pepperdine University in Malibu, CA. When the founder of the model, Dr. Terry Hargrave asked med to present on anxiety and the Restoration Therapy model, I knew it was an invitation that I couldn't refuse. I consider Dr. Hargrave not only a mentor, but also a friend, so I definitely wanted to participate in anything he was doing. But I also knew I would be anxious for several months leading up to my presentation. And I was. But it was a great time to be with a bunch of other therapists and researches who are on the ground floor in the ongoing development of the Restoration Therapy model.   I won't go into details in this post since you will hear more in this episode. But I've been using Restoration Therapy as my primary therapeutic model since about 2010 when I was first exposed to it co-leading marriage intensives at The Hideaway Experience in Amarillo, TX. I did not know the model as Restoration Therapy at the time, but rather as The 5 Days to a New Marriage model...and essentially, the Pain and Peace Cycle model.   But no model has changed my life more than this one. And no model has helped my clients more than this one. I have experience and training and proficiency in a lot of different models, but I believe this is the best one out there for a lot of reasons...many of which I will go into in this episode.   This is a 2 part episode, and in these episodes I explore the concept of anxiety and how it differs from fear...and why that distinction is so important. I look at what anxiety is and how to define it. I talk about how to normalize anxiety for your clients and reframe it as an opportunity for growth. I talk about how to get at the roots of anxiety using the RT Model and understanding the work of the Pain and Peace Cycle. I talk about how to take the Pain and Peace Cycle and practice it daily to create transformation. And then I talk about the important tools and resources that can help people manage their anxiety.   But for now, what you must know is this. In the Restoration Therapy Model, anxiety is not a feeling, but rather a coping behavior. We don't feel anxious, rather we become anxious. We do anxiety. But there is some other feeling that drives the anxiety. And that's important, otherwise we could end up just chasing the relief of the symptoms (though important), rather than dealing with the root issues of anxiety. Keeping that in mind, it's important to understand that anxiety is about issues concerning individual(love/identity) and relational personhood (trust/safety). And they are about "ultimate concerns" in life such as faith, life, death, purpose, meaning, relationships. Whereas, fear is about specific situations and circumstances.   So as I spell out in these episodes, my fear growing up was speaking in front of people because I would stutter. But my anxiety was that I would feel inadequate, be alone, not measure up. And I spent most of my life trying to relieve my fears (speaking), rather than understanding and dealing with my anxiety (coping behavior) and what was at the root of it, which was those feelings of inadequacy (feelings).   It may not seem like an important distinction at the outset, but actually has huge implications in terms of one getting healing when it comes to their anxiety. And I think you can see this distinction play out both in faith and biblical perspectives, as well as psychological and secular perspectives...so I address these integrative pieces as well.   So whether you are a therapist, lay counselor, pastor, friend, spouse, parent, colleague....who wants to help someone with anxiety...or whether you are trying to help your own anxiety...these episodes are for you. Please listen and subscribe to my podcast in the following places, and then leave a comment letting me know what you liked about the show, or what guest you would like to hear from. Thank you so much for your support. iTunes -- Stitcher Player FM -- Libsyn   People and Resources Mentioned in the Episodes Restoration Therapy Model -- in Episode 21 I talk about Restoration Therapy and how I use it for my work with individuals, couples, churches and organizations. Restoration Therapy Conference Terry Hargrave -- in Episode 55 I interview Dr. Hargrave Pain Cycle (this is Episode 42) Peace Cycle (this is Episode 43) Sharon Hargrave Steve and Rajan Trafton The Hideaway Experience The Anxious Christian by Rhett Smith The Concept of Anxiety by Soren Kierkegaard Fear and Trembling by Soren Kierkegaard The Meaning of Anxiety by Rollo May Be Not Anxious: Pastoral Care of Disquieted Souls by Allan Huge Cole Jr. Things Might Go Terribly, Horribly Wrong: A Guide to Life Liberated from Anxiety by Kelly G. Wilson and Todd Dufrene The Courage to Be by Paul Tillich Existential Psychotherapy by Irvin D. Yalom  

Last weekend I had the humbling opportunity to speak at the first ever Restoration Therapy Conference which was held at Pepperdine University in Malibu, CA. When the founder of the model, Dr. Terry Hargrave asked med to present on anxiety and the Restoration Therapy model, I knew it was an invitation that I couldn't refuse. I consider Dr. Hargrave not only a mentor, but also a friend, so I definitely wanted to participate in anything he was doing. But I also knew I would be anxious for several months leading up to my presentation. And I was. But it was a great time to be with a bunch of other therapists and researches who are on the ground floor in the ongoing development of the Restoration Therapy model.   I won't go into details in this post since you will hear more in this episode. But I've been using Restoration Therapy as my primary therapeutic model since about 2010 when I was first exposed to it co-leading marriage intensives at The Hideaway Experience in Amarillo, TX. I did not know the model as Restoration Therapy at the time, but rather as The 5 Days to a New Marriage model...and essentially, the Pain and Peace Cycle model.   But no model has changed my life more than this one. And no model has helped my clients more than this one. I have experience and training and proficiency in a lot of different models, but I believe this is the best one out there for a lot of reasons...many of which I will go into in this episode.   This is a 2 part episode, and in these episodes I explore the concept of anxiety and how it differs from fear...and why that distinction is so important. I look at what anxiety is and how to define it. I talk about how to normalize anxiety for your clients and reframe it as an opportunity for growth. I talk about how to get at the roots of anxiety using the RT Model and understanding the work of the Pain and Peace Cycle. I talk about how to take the Pain and Peace Cycle and practice it daily to create transformation. And then I talk about the important tools and resources that can help people manage their anxiety.   But for now, what you must know is this. In the Restoration Therapy Model, anxiety is not a feeling, but rather a coping behavior. We don't feel anxious, rather we become anxious. We do anxiety. But there is some other feeling that drives the anxiety. And that's important, otherwise we could end up just chasing the relief of the symptoms (though important), rather than dealing with the root issues of anxiety. Keeping that in mind, it's important to understand that anxiety is about issues concerning individual(love/identity) and relational personhood (trust/safety). And they are about "ultimate concerns" in life such as faith, life, death, purpose, meaning, relationships. Whereas, fear is about specific situations and circumstances.   So as I spell out in these episodes, my fear growing up was speaking in front of people because I would stutter. But my anxiety was that I would feel inadequate, be alone, not measure up. And I spent most of my life trying to relieve my fears (speaking), rather than understanding and dealing with my anxiety (coping behavior) and what was at the root of it, which was those feelings of inadequacy (feelings).   It may not seem like an important distinction at the outset, but actually has huge implications in terms of one getting healing when it comes to their anxiety. And I think you can see this distinction play out both in faith and biblical perspectives, as well as psychological and secular perspectives...so I address these integrative pieces as well.   So whether you are a therapist, lay counselor, pastor, friend, spouse, parent, colleague....who wants to help someone with anxiety...or whether you are trying to help your own anxiety...these episodes are for you. Please listen and subscribe to my podcast in the following places, and then leave a comment letting me know what you liked about the show, or what guest you would like to hear from. Thank you so much for your support. iTunes -- Stitcher Player FM -- Libsyn People and Resources Mentioned in the Episodes Restoration Therapy Model -- in Episode 21 I talk about Restoration Therapy and how I use it for my work with individuals, couples, churches and organizations. Restoration Therapy Conference Terry Hargrave -- in Episode 55 I interview Dr. Hargrave Pain Cycle (this is Episode 42) Peace Cycle (this is Episode 43) Sharon Hargrave Steve and Rajan Trafton The Hideaway Experience The Anxious Christian by Rhett Smith The Concept of Anxiety by Soren Kierkegaard Fear and Trembling by Soren Kierkegaard The Meaning of Anxiety by Rollo May Be Not Anxious: Pastoral Care of Disquieted Souls by Allan Huge Cole Jr. Things Might Go Terribly, Horribly Wrong: A Guide to Life Liberated from Anxiety by Kelly G. Wilson and Todd Dufrene The Courage to Be by Paul Tillich Existential Psychotherapy by Irvin D. Yalom

Hanging out at our Strong Marriage training in Malibu, CA. This last week my wife and I spent two days training with Sharon Hargrave in her Marriage Strong curriculum. There were several reasons why we wanted to attend the training: 1) We know how much working through our Pain and Peace Cycle has transformed our own marriage; 2) We have a desire to lead these groups in our neighborhood, community, and at workshops and conferences; and I in my practice. 3) I absolutely love the work of Terry and Sharon Hargrave.   In 2010 my colleague and good friend Todd Sandel started telling me about these amazing 4 day marriage intensives taking place at The Hideaway Experience in Amarillo, Texas. After going up and sitting in a few of these marriage intensives, I eventually went on staff as one of the therapists, and helped co-lead marriage intensives there until 2014 when I eventually stepped off staff because of time constraints with my own practice and family life. It was here that I learned about the Pain and Peace Cycle through the 5 Days to a New Marriage model developed by Terry Hargrave and Shawn Stoever for The Hideaway. I put this model to work fairly quickly in my own marriage...and it was then that a radical shift took place that has helped us really transform our marriage into what it is today.   I then went back to my therapy practice and began using this model not only with couples, but also individual clients and I saw people's lives dramatically change. It was through these experiences that I came to realize and really believe in the work of the Pain and Peace Cycle, and I wanted to do everything I could to become a better practitioner of it. So this last year I spent time training with the founder of the Pain and Peace Cycle, Marriage and Family Therapy pioneer, Terry Hargrave. Through my training with him I officially became a Level II certified therapist in Restoration Therapy.   I have used this work with individuals, couples, families, church staffs, corporate managers and directors...and I have seen it transform people in all of these areas.   So when my wife and I had the chance to go train in Marriage Strong which has Restoration Therapy as it's foundational piece, we jumped at the opportunity.   We had a great weekend learning more about each other and talking about how we can intentionally continue to improve our marriage. As we spent time doing this I came to realize that there are a certain number of skills that I think if couples practice, they would benefit greatly from...they would see their marriage shift in some really positive directions.   So in this podcast I took all of my training that I've learned at The Hideaway Experience, Restoration Therapy, Marriage Strong, and other things that I've learned and developed along the way as a clinician...and I boiled it down to 5 skills. Of course there are a lot of varying skills couples can practice, but instead of always looking for that "silver bullet" to fix everything in a marriage, I think more couples need to really focus on a few skills and just practice...practice...practice...practice...practice. You get the point. Marriages grow and become strong through practice, not through some shiny or sexy new skill that will fix everything.   So in this episode I talk about these 5 skills: identifying and practicing awareness around your negative pattern of interaction made up of your feelings and coping (Pain Cycle). taking responsibility for yourself (your Pain Cycle) and learning to emotionally regulate yourself, rather than expecting your spouse to. identifying and developing your positive pattern of interaction made up of your truth and action (Peace Cycle) learning how to problem solve out of your Peace Cycle. fostering your sense of "usness" in the marriage. Resources and People Mentioned in the Episode Marriage Strong The Hideaway Experience 5 Days to a New Marriage Restoration Therapy Terry Hargrave Sharon Hargrave Todd Sandel LifeGate Group Restoration Therapy: Understanding and Guiding Healing in Marriage and Family Therapy Using the Restoration Therapy Model to Transform You, Your Relationships, Churches, Organizations, and Corportations

About 5 years ago I was introduced to a therapy model that changed my life. And that's not an exaggeration. It literally changed my life, beginning with me, then my marriage, then my parenting, then my therapy work, then friendships, and eventually in the work I do with organizations, churches and corporations. I was introduced to a model of therapy developed by Terry Hargrave called Restoration Therapy. Actually, at the time I didn't know it as Restoration Therapy, but rather as the 5 Days to a New Marriage model that was developed for The Hideaway Experience by Terry and Shawn Stoever. Essentially, from what I know, Terry and Shawn created a model for the marriage intensives based on Terry's Restoration Therapy work that he was developing, and which was eventually written by Terry and Franz Pfitzer under the title Restoration Therapy: Understanding and Guiding Healing in Marriage and Family Therapy.   In October 2010 I attended my first marriage intensive and sat "3rd chair", which essentially means I was not one of the co-therapists, but was rather there to observe...and speak/share if I felt compelled. I was so intimidated by that first experience I remember saying very little, but I also remember being blown away by the transformation I witnessed taking place with the 4 couples who were there that weekend. It was an unbelievable team effort between the founders/operators Steve and Rajan Trafton, the two therapists, the cook (who provided all the meals)...and of course the 4 couples who ended up really being some of the biggest encouragers of transformation for the other couples. If you are curious about what this experience is like, I blogged about it early on. I ended up staying on staff of The Hideaway Experience for about four years and it continues to be one of the most amazing experiences I have had in working with clients, especially couples, as well as being an amazing experience for me. Eventually it was difficult for me in my stage of life (young family, growing practice, etc.) to continue to travel to Palo Duro to do an intensive, so I eventually resigned, but continue to be in collaboration with them, as well as referring clients to them and working with couples after they do an intensive.   But all of these experiences led me to really want to dive more in depth into Restoration Therapy so I could better understand the change I was seeing in individuals and couples I worked with, as well become a better practitioner of the model. So in December of 2014 I started Level I training with Terry, and then completed Level II training with Terry in May and June of this year. Now I'm a certified Restoration Therapy therapist...it has helped me better understand a model I had already been practicing for about the last 4+ years.   As I have stated above, this is a model that has changed my life, so I use it with all my clients to varying degrees, whether individual, couples or families. And what I have learned from it I implement in my relationships, whether it be my wife, kids, parents, friends or colleagues. That being said, I decided it was time to do a podcast about Restoration Therapy. There is so much I could talk about, but I thought I could start with just a general overview of some of its features, as well as how the Pain and Peace Cycles work. There is definitely more to be said on this topic, and I will continue to write some posts on it, as well as record some podcasts on the topic, and eventually have Terry Hargrave on the podcast, as well as Steve and Rajan Trafton, and my good friend Todd Sandel who was the first to train me at The Hideaway Experience.   So in this podcast I do my best to talk through some of the features of Restoration Therapy and how it can be applied to your life and relationships. In the podcast I discuss: my experience at The Hideaway Experience early on and eventually as a co-therapist. my experience in learning the 5 Days to a New Marriage (i.e. Restoration Therapy) and how I began to apply it to my practice. how Restoration Therapy changed people's lives. my desire to learn more about Restoration Therapy, and eventually go train with Terry Hargrave the 4 elements of Restoration Therapy: a) helping people identify and understand their pain (fostering awareness in the client of their destructive pattern); b) promote emotional regulation through helping the client identify their truth (teaching the client to take responsibility for themselves); c) provide cognitive map for understanding new behavior (helping client make choices); d) practice of these steps (mindfulness/experiential). Restoration Therapy's focus on attachment, emotional regulation, and mindfulness. the Pain Cycle the Peace Cycle Restoration Therapy's 4 steps: a) say what you feel; b) say what you normally do; c) say your truth; d) say what action you will do differently. how I've used the Restoration Therapy model for individuals, couples, families, churches, organizations and corporations. Please listen and subscribe to my podcast in the following places, and then leave a comment letting me know what you liked about the show, or what guest you would like to hear from. Thank you so much for your support. iTunes Stitcher Player FM Libsyn Resources Discussed in This Episode The Hideaway Experience Steve and Rajan Trafton 5 Days to a New Marriage Terry Hargrave Restoration Therapy and Restoration Therapy Training Restoration Therapy: Understanding and Guiding Healing in Marriage and Family Therapy Shawn Stoever Winshape Todd Sandel LifeGate Counseling