Connections

Intro into this awesome podcast for anyone who values relationships and connection :-) This podcast will be covering everything I wish I'd known before heading into a relationship plus everything we've learned over the last couple of decades... It doesn't matter if you are single, just got together or are in a long term relationship, the topics covered and tools shared are relevant to anyone looking to create a vibrant, loving, connected and playful relationship culture and family life :-)

Asking the big questions this morning! Who are you and what do you want? These two questions are fundamental in figuring out what you need to be doing now to create the life you want... Once we get clear on who we are and what we want, we can find the outside white noise (telling us what we want, how we should be and how we should be spending our time...) starts to dissipate. This gives us the space to build a quiet (but solid!) confidence in our ability to make great decisions right here right now for ourselves and our families. As always sharing stories, personal insights and some laughter while making the space to explore these ideas :-)

OMG this process will save you years of heartache and frustration! Walking you through the pre dating process covering who you are and what you want (just touch on this bit because we covered it in the last episode), what you're bringing to the relationship table, big red flags, the importance of saying no, actively choosing, due diligence and places to look for potential partners... I know you have these skills and you use them in other areas of your life (choosing a house - heck even choosing a movie!) let's utilise them in the dating/relationship space too!

Hey Gorgeous, yes I'm talking to you ;-) This little coffee chat will challenge your perception of what beauty really means, how you view yourself and challenge societal narratives around feminine beauty and worth. I also share how I took my 'aha' moment (having our daughter Deva) and built on that with a seemingly simple (yet powerful) exercise and ways we are supporting our kids to build their own sense of self worth and healthy body image :-)  

The honeymoon phase is almost always underutilized!! Use the most fun and easy time in your relationship to really set yourselves up for relationship success. Topics covered include building your 'million small things' into your relationship (plant that garden!!), making sure change is a non negotiable (divorce proof your relationship), embracing your feminine strengths (well one of them anyway) and projecting and scaling. Don't panic if you have already used up your honeymoon phase (I'm sure it was still fun ;-) you can implement these key concepts and build them into your relationship at any time.

Equality starts with our relationships... Being confident in sharing the leadership of your relationship means you make better decisions together - become the expert in your own relationship/family, no letters after your name required ;-) Also add a bit (or a lot) of pixie dust to your relationship!! Build in affectionate/sexual touch throughout your day which DOESN'T lead to sex (well immediately anyway) So important for you both!!

Lover? Fighter? Actually you need to be both!! Conflict is a healthy and necessary part of a vibrant, connected and loving relationship so let's make this process as soft, intimate and successful as we can. Break the cycle of unresolved conflicts piling up, nothing erodes your relationship from the inside faster! Once you master conflict resolution in your relationship, you really know you have 'made it' AND it's better than the honeymoon phase! This is because it doesn't wear off and your relationship continues to get better and better, becoming more dynamic, nuanced, connected and loving as it evolves :-)

Don't hand that precious heart out on a silver platter before trust has been earned!! Making sure we build in a trust building mechanism into our relationship ensures that we are establishing a partnership and not taking on a project.... 

Yes guys can learn to communicate, embrace change, take the lead (from the girls) and prioritise their relationship!! Giving the guy's perspective Mark shares his experience within our relationship, the things he found the hardest and what he'd wished he'd known in the early stages...

Divorce proof your relationship! Learn how we use carbs, wine and rock climbing to add a little more sparkle, playfulness and points of connection. Mark and I talk about how to create a relationship that will not only stand the tests of time but be incredibly enriching and rewarding to both of you...

Feeling like you've hit a stagnant spot in your relationship? Life get busy? Kids? Work? Feel like you aren't connecting with your partner the way you use to? In this episode I talk about a simple step by step process that you can use to supercharge your relationship within a week! Also check out my eBook Reconnect that you can download, I spent about a week putting my thoughts down in a coherent manner so a great resource in conjunction with this episode :-)

Tips and tricks I use to hijack my monkey mind :-) Covering trick and treating, dismantling that ever present list of things to do hanging over my head (ha ha not any more!!), impressing myself and tapping into the feelings of potential loss (not obsessing!) to put things in perspective...

Mark explains why it was totally worth taking a rain check on his life long dream of grading to black belt, we talk about the impossibility of finding balance at certain life stages, how me time can be over prescribed (sometimes you need to be plugging in, not disconnecting) and supporting each other through transitioning points...