Dropping Paradigms Podcast

Big Daddy - 1999 Episode Notes 00:16 – Intro (Our most monotone to date) 02:48 – Adam Sandler movie rankings 11:57 – IMDB & Rotten Tomatoes Summary and Reviews 14:10 – Two Word Check-in 17:05 – Nickel #1: Head or Tails – Maybe the coin can help you make a decision 22:10 – Digm #1: Allow your kids to make choices and express themselves 31:50 – Digm #2: What do you do when your life is about to change? - Phases: o Nothing o Homesick (Go back to the way things were) o Rise or Fall o Sustain 44:05 – Digm #3 – You alone are not able to influence your kids all the time. - People your kids need: 1) A person to help 2) A Grandparent (it doesn't have to be a blood relative) 3) Opposite or different person 58:15 – Nickel #2: Motivation vs Discipline – Which is more important to have? 1:06:10 - Outro

This week we decided to do something different and just talk about what influenced us on the sports front during the week. Let us know what you think about our “Random Episode”. 0:16 – Intro 3:08 – Two Word Check-In 6:06 – Digm #1: How confident is over confident? 27:00 – #NASCAR Naps 30:00 – Digm #2: What would your peers say about you? 52:15 – Wrap-up

Die Hard - 1988 IMDB: An NYPD officer tries to save his wife and several others taken hostage by German terrorists during a Christmas party at the Nakatomi Plaza in Los Angeles. 7.8/10 Rotten Tomatoes: New York City policeman John McClane (Bruce Willis) is visiting his estranged wife (Bonnie Bedelia) and two daughters on Christmas Eve. He joins her at a holiday party in the headquarters of the Japanese-owned business she works for. But the festivities are interrupted by a group of terrorists who take over the exclusive high-rise, and everyone in it. Very soon McClane realizes that there's no one to save the hostages -- but him Tomatoeter –94% & Audience Score – 94% Episode Notes 00:16 – Intro 1:21 – IMDB Summary to start the, “Is Die Hard a Christmas Movie?” debate 3:52 – Two Word Check-in 6:17 – Die Hard – IMDB & Rotten Tomatoes 10:47 – 1988 Fun Facts 12:24 – You're Welcome 21:55 – Digm #1: When you put people on notice, it comes with a cost. “Now I have a machine gun. Ho-ho-ho.” John McClaine through Hans Gruber 30:32 – Digm #2: If you put in the time and the effort you will “sink” to your level of training (preparation) 42:40 – Digm #3: How do you shift momentum in your favor? Information + Initiative + Confidence + Ability + Persistence = Momentum Shift 53:25 – Digm #4: Stop and listen before you jump to a conclusion or respond Listen to understand, do not listen to respond 1:00:20 – Wrap-Up Stay Tuned after the Wrap-up for a special treat

Valentine's Day -2010 Rotten Tomatoes – In a series of interconnected stories, various Los Angeles residents (Jessica Alba, Jessica Biel, Bradley Cooper) wend their way through the highs and lows of love during a single day. As the holiday unfolds, they experience first dates, longtime commitments, youthful crushes and connections to old flames. (Tomatometer – 18% & Audience Score – 47%) IMDB – Intertwining couples and singles in Los Angeles break-up and make-up based on the pressures and expectations of Valentine's Day. (5.7/10) 0:16 – Intro 1:45 – Movie Discussion 5:08 – Rotten Tomatoes and IMDB Discussion 7:18 – Valentine's Day Facts 13:47 – Digm #1: Emotions make it hard to see, accept, and acknowledge the obvious. 32:56 – Digm #2: If you don't know yourself, how can you be in a healthy relationship? 37:02 – Tory's Words of Wisdom – People shape relationships, but relationships also shape people. 37:21 – Tory's Words of Wisdom Part II – Don't lose yourself trying to find somebody else. 39:08 – Digm #3: We all make decisions based on desired outcomes. 50:33 – Digm #4: Don't let the world dictate what relationships look like. 58:55 – Wrap-Up 1:00:01 – Two Word Check-In

Jingle All The Way – 1996 IT'S TURBO TIME! IMDB: A father vows to get his son a Turbo Man action figure for Christmas. However, every store is sold out of them, and he must travel all over town and compete with everybody else in order to find one. Rating - 5.7/10 Rotten Tomatoes: Workaholic Howard Langston (Arnold Schwarzenegger) wants to make things up to his son, Jamie (Jake Lloyd), and wife, Liz (Rita Wilson). He promises to get Jamie the hottest toy of the season, Turbo-Man -- even though it's Christmas Eve and the toy is practically sold out. As Langston hunts down the elusive gift, he runs into mailman Myron (Sinbad), another father on the same quest. With the clock winding down, Langston's moral code is tested as he starts to learn the real meaning of Christmas. Tomatoeter –19% & Audience Score – 38% Episode Notes 00:15 – Intro 01:16 – Do you Like Christmas Music 3:40 – Christmas Traditions 8:31 – IMDB & Rotten Tomatoes 14:30 – Favorite Christmas Toy? 19:22 – The Hottest Toys of Christmas 24:42 – Digm #1 – Accountability is vital to relationships “If you don't have accountability in a relationship you don't have anything.” 34:28 – Digm #2 – Material things vs Physical Presence 41:20 – Tory drops a bomb – Statement Action Agreement 42:20 – Digm #3 – Ulterior Motivates – maybe they aren't always so bad “A man always has two reasons for doing anything, a good reason and the real reason.” ~JP Morgan 52:50 – Digm #4 – The Viral Effect 1:06:30 – Two Word Check Out

Remember the Titans – 2000 IMDB: The true story of a newly appointed African-American coach and his high school team on their first season as a racially integrated unit. 7.8/10 Rotten Tomatoes: In Virginia, high school football is a way of life, an institution revered, each game celebrated more lavishly than Christmas, each playoff distinguished more grandly than any national holiday. And with such recognition, comes powerful emotions. In 1971 high school football was everything to the people of Alexandria. But when the local school board was forced to integrate an all black school with an all white school, the very foundation of football's great tradition was put to the test. Tomatoeter – 73% & Audience Score – 93% Episode Notes 00:15 – Intro 00:43 – Tory drops a double negative 1:25 – Two word check-in 2:30 – Daylight Savings Time tangent 6:05 – Heath's Favorite part of the show aka Ask Tory Random Questions and then make fun of him for not getting them correct 18:51 – Finally we talk about Remember the Titans 22:35 – Here is the link to the ESPN article – 25:39 – Digm #1: We all need someone or something to rally (connect) around Who or what are you rallying around? 32:30 – Digm #2: Common Enemy Effect – Balance Theory – Identity Fusion The idea that right circumstances people will be willing to undergo self-sacrifice for the betterment of the group. 43:12 – Digm #3: How do you change attitude and perception? 52:10 – Digm #4: Culture change does not always happen at the top. Culture change requires buy-in. Culture changes does not have to be overt. (Do not wait for permission to be a culture changer!) 1:00:00 – Yo Mama Jokes 1:08:00 – Digm #5: Environment plays a role in moral decision-making.

Episode Notes 00:16 – Intro 4:19 – Two Word Check-in 6:39 – We discuss the messages from social media Jocko Willink Lessons from a 3rd Grad Dropout Rick Rigsby Chris Farley – Van Down by the River Former CMSgt of the Air Force Robert Gaylor Facing the Giants Jesus is Loving Barabbas Bluto's Speech Art of Happiness by Arthur Brooks Straight Up with Trent Shelton Independence Day – President's Speech Icky Woods I am Number 8 by John Gray Rudy's Notre Dame Locker Room Speech Lou Holtz Martin Luther King Jr. 44:18 – Tory's 1st Digm - Grey's Anatomy https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PCmte2hjC2A “You want someone to run a 4 minute mile? You don't chase them, you don't give them something to run from. You give them something to run to” Dr Richard Webber 53:38 – Heath's 1st Digm – The Office https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Gvk0_6p_-s "I wish there was a way to know you were in the good old days before you actually left them." Andy Bernard (Ed Helms) 57:38 – Tory's 2nd Digm – Eric Thomas aka ET the Hip Hop Preacher https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=97V4ZZqwxiw Do you want to do it as bad as you want to breathe? 1:06:58 – Heath's 2nd Digm – All Blacks Haka https://www.allblacks.com/the-haka/ 1:20:45 – Inspirational Haka

College Football Episode Notes - This is our first episode recorded with a live audience. 00:16 – Intro 3:55 – Two-word check-in (Two episodes in a row) 11:55 – Mascot talk Ethan Bauer Article - https://www.deseret.com/indepth/2020/1/10/21052358/clemson-lsu-tigersnicknames-mascots-college-tribal 25:46 – Digm #1 – What are you doing to enhance the traits of your “ingroup”? Social Identify Theory - https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/9781119011071.iemp0153 https://esrc.ukri.org/about-us/50-years-of-esrc/50-achievements/social-identity-us-and-them/ 37:28 – Digm #2 – Be mindful of the outside pressures that people face. Name, Image, and Likeness discussion 54:40 – Digm #3 – Find your mantra that allows you to do big things. "My thoughts just before the first real college game of my life: The honor of my race, family and self-are at stake, "Everyone is expecting me to do big things. I will! "My whole body and soul are to be thrown recklessly about on the field tomorrow. Every time the ball is snapped, I will be trying to do more than my part. … Be on your toes every minute if you expect to make good. Jack." ~ Jack Trice https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HO79kCNOhT4 https://aaregistry.org/story/jack-trice-isu-football-legend/ 1:08:00 – Digm #4 – How do you respond when you fall from grace? (Be a Billy Napier) 1:18:06 – Digm #5 – The level of commitment required of you to reach your dreams is insane. So…..”Are you willing to sprint when the distance is unknown?” Lewis Caralla https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ExAkkAbwLHY “When nothing seems to help, I go and look at a stonecutter hammering away at his rock perhaps a hundred times without as much as a crack showing in it. Yet at the hundred and first blow it will split in two, and I know it was not that blow that did it, but all that had gone before.” ~ Jacob Riis

Space Jam The New Legacy – 2021 Rotten Tomatoes – 26% & Audience Score – 79% Storyline IMBD A rogue artificial intelligence kidnaps the son of famed basketball player LeBron James, who then has to work with Bugs Bunny to win a basketball game. Episode Notes - This is our first episode recorded with a live audience. 00:16 – Intro 00:23 – Tory really brings the energy with his introduction 00:55 – Two word check-in (We kept our word for at least one episode) 2:26 – Quiz Tory - Which team wins? o Monstars: 1) Charles Barkley 2) Patrick Ewing 3) Larry Johnson 4) Shawn Bradley 5) Mugsy Bogues o Goon Squad: 1) Anthony Davis 2) Klay Thompson 3) Damian Lillard 4) Diana Taurasi 5) Nneka Ogumike - Better Uniforms? - Better Shoes: Jordan VI Space Jam or Lebron James 19 “Space Jam” - Who had the better stat line? o Michael Jordan in Space Jam: 44 Points 22-22 FG 0 REB 0 AST 1 GAME WINNER o LeBron James in Space Jam 2: 8 Points 4-5 FG 1 REB 1 AST 1 GAME WINNER 10:34 – IMDB Storyline 11:19 – Rotten Tomatoes 14:27 – Digm #1 (Well sort of – It was more to help Tory) 15:51 Digm #1 (For real this time) Relationships Stop projecting on your Kids Please Remember Signs o These are KIDS o This is a GAME o Coaches are VOLUNTEERS o Umpires are HUMAN o Your child is NOT being scouted o NO college scholarships will be handed out today Trust (Jar of marbles) and communication are key to positive relationships Don't seek too much validity from outside persons “The truth is that your value is constant, it is priceless, and it never truly goes up or down based off of results or your performance. Your value comes from who you are, not from what you do.” ― Joshua Medcalf, Chop Wood Carry Water 36:47 – Digm #2 – The Pressure and Peace of Narratives 42:06 Peace of Narratives 47:33 Wrap-Up

Space Jam – 1996 Rotten Tomatoes – 44% & Audience Score – 64% Storyline In a desperate attempt to win a basketball match and earn their freedom, the Looney Tunes seek the aid of retired basketball champion, Michael Jordan. Episode Notes 00:15 – Intro 2:04 – 1996 History, facts, and questions 9:07 – IMDB Summary and Rotten Tomato Ratings 11:41 – Our Initial thoughts on Space Jam as a kid 16:06 – Superstitious or maybe a little stitious 26:50 – Movie Background 29:06 – Digm 1: The importance of Emotional Intelligence or EQ 32:34 – Dr. Daniel Goleman – Emotional Intelligence: a person's ability to manage his feelings so that those feelings are expressed appropriately and effectively. According to Goleman, emotional intelligence is the largest single predictor of success in the workplace. 34:14 – Five pillars of Emotional Intelligence (Dr. Goleman) 1) Emotional self-awareness — knowing what one is feeling at any given time and understanding the impact those moods have on others 2) Self-regulation — controlling or redirecting one's emotions; anticipating consequences before acting on impulse 3) Motivation — utilizing emotional factors to achieve goals, enjoy the learning process and persevere in the face of obstacles 4) Empathy — sensing the emotions of others 5) Social skills — managing relationships, inspiring others and inducing desired responses from them 39:24 – Brené Brown – Exercise: We start every meeting with a two-word check-in. We take turns sharing two words that describe how we're feeling that day. We all have the human need to see others and to be seen. The realness connects us. 41:29 – Digm 2: The realm of the possible stops at the limits of your mind. 45:10 – How often are we limited by the boundaries our mind has set for us? 1:02:25 – Wrap-up

Coco – Nov 22, 2017 (19th feature film from Pixar) Rotten Tomatoes – 97% & Audience Score – 94% Storyline Despite his family's baffling generations-old ban on music, Miguel dreams of becoming an accomplished musician like his idol, Ernesto de la Cruz. Desperate to prove his talent, Miguel finds himself in the stunning and colorful Land of the Dead following a mysterious chain of events. Along the way, he meets charming trickster Hector, and together, they set off on an extraordinary journey to unlock the real story behind Miguel's family history. Episode Notes 00:40 - Into and background behind the wait: 40 seconds 3:24 - Coco background 5:11 - 2017 Year in Review 11:52 - Reason behind Coco and three dead people dinner question Tory's Picks 1) Jesus (20yr old Jesus) 2) C.S. Lewis 3) Kobe Bryant Heath's Picks 1) Kobe Bryant 2) Johnny Cash 3) Fred Rogers/Stan Lee 26:00 – Digm #1 (aka Nickels #1/2): Understand/Explain the Why & Asking for understanding is not disrespect or dissent 33:50 - Digm #2: What is the cost of seizing your moment and do you have someone to help you understand the cost? 44:42 - What is the difference between having someone to keep you in check and someone you need permission from? 48:47 – Digm #3: You transcend time by the people you affect

Toy Story – 1995 Episode Notes 2:08 - IMDB Summary 4:05 - 1995 Year in Review 11:21 - Why is Toy Story Heath's Number 1 Pixar Movie 14:40 - Digm #1 - “Don't overlook the gift and the curse that is perception.” 27:31 - Digm #2 – Self Worth & Self Love 33:59 - Brené Brown's Top Ten Rules for Self-Love 1. You are Enough 2. Share Your Whole Story and Whole Heart 3. Engage with the world 4. Vulnerability is the birthplace of love 5. Get Vulnerable 6. Let go of your armor 7. Speak to yourself the way you speak to someone you love 8. Let go of perfectionism 9. Be Grateful 10. Practice authenticity https://mindspo.com/2020/08/10/brene-browns-top-10-rules-for-self-love/ 38:40 - “Show Up and Show Out” 47:30 - You've Got a Friend in Me 51:16 - Man in the Arena "It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat." ~ Theodore Roosevelt Netflix Special - Brené Brown: The Call to Courage https://www.netflix.com/title/81010166

Join Tory and Heath on Episode 4 as they break down and drop the paradigms they learned from watching, “The Pixar Story.” Thanks for listening and check below for a quick breakdown of the episode and each one of the “digms.”. Follow them on Twitter @DroppingDigms.

Join Heath and Tory on Episode 3 as they drop “digms” of leadership, culture, and relationships using another 1993 classic, “Jurassic Park.” If you enjoyed this episode or any previous episode please, like, subscribe, rate, and review. Thanks for listening and check below for a quick breakdown of each of the episode and each one of the “digms.”. 00:49 – IMDB Synopsis of Jurassic Park 1:49 – Jurassic Park Trivia, History, and Questions – https://jurassicpark.fandom.com/wiki/Jurassic_Park_(film) 11:53 – Digm #1 Brand Identity 18:45 – Jordan Brand 23:39 – All Blacks Rugby Identity 29:30 – Digm #2 Passion without Perspective 37:30 – Find the people that help with perspective and keeping you moving forward 39:34 – Digm #3 Risk vs. Reward 43:10 – Framing Effect – https://thedecisionlab.com/biases/framing-effect/ 43:21 – Prospect Theory – https://www.britannica.com/topic/prospect-theory 44:40 – Pseudocertainty – https://psychology.wikia.org/wiki/Pseudocertainty_effect 45:55 – Getting rid of pseudocertainty – Understanding the “substance” of the problem

In Episode 2 Heath and Tory drop “digms” of leadership, culture, and relationships using the 1993 classic, “The Sandlot”. Join the team as they speak on telling your story (8:09), following through with what you say (17:10), asking yourself when you stopped “playing the game” (22:12), and correctly defining and overcoming obstacles or problems (34:20). Check down below for additional information on the history of Dexter Avenue in Montgomery, Alabama as well as the problem-solving models the guys mention on the episode. A glimpse at the history of Dexter Avenue: https://www.newsweek.com/montgomery-alabama-travel-1351256 IDEAL Problem-Solving: https://lifeskillsadvocate.com/blog/teaching-the-ideal-problem-solving-method-to-diverse-learners/ IDECIDE Problem-Solving: https://www.slideshare.net/thiennv1211/creative-problem-solving-skills-for-staff-77257674 Find us on Twitter - @DroppingDigms Email us at DroppingParadigms@gmail.com Tell us what you liked about the show and what you want to hear on future episodes.

In the basketball world if you “Drop a dime,” you have just thrown the ball to a teammate who scores off your pass in other words thrown an assist. On this podcast when we “Drop a Digm” it means we are providing you with some insight into being a better leader, building a cultural advantage, or strengthening a relationship. It is these paradigms that we learn from sports, TV, movies, and pop culture that we drop for you. So, join Heath and Tory on Episode 1 as they breakdown leadership, culture, and relationship lessons they learned while watching the ESPN series, “The Last Dance.” Find us on Twitter - @DroppingDigms Email us at DroppingParadigms@gmail.com Tell us what you liked about the show and what you want to hear on future episodes. Podcast Notes: 3:25 1st Digm – Turning it off and First Impressions 11:55 2nd Digm – Can one person change a Culture? Turn the Ship Around – By L. David Marquet 10 min Youtube summary - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bm4mCn5x5iM 20:10 3rd Digm – Why do some relationships that come to blows result in a stronger bond and other relationships fizzle out? 31:17 Quick Break 31:20 4th Digm – Platinum Rule Platinum Rule: "Do unto others as they would have you do unto them, not as you would have them do unto you." “Treat people the way they need to be treated.” 47:10 5th Dime – Being Present

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