Let’s Make Sense of It

The team is back for another week, and we get into a lot of topics. We touch on the topic of trauma dumping from both views, the listener and the person that's getting the trauma dumped on them. Do opposites really attract or is that a myth? We also touch on the topic of the guy that shows up during a womans healing stage and how it can be hard for that guy. We have our "Ants Tweets" segment, black parents not letting daughters date till their 20s, bad first dates and much more. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all. 

Yes, we have been on a little hiatus, but your favorite podcasters are back and it's a new year! As we get back into it, we talk about which low vibration conversations we should leave in 2024. We touch on the topics of how long is too long to be in the talking stage. We also touch on having, finding, making, and spending time and what they all mean. Can someone being a breadwinner of their family cause you to not want to date them? We touch on this, things grown women love and much more. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all. 

We missed you guys, but the team is back after a little hiatus! We get into the topic of what is someone's breaking point when it comes to relationships, friendships and just life in general. We ask the question why is the relationship only at risk when the woman is unhappy? Are men softer or are women harder in today's society? Is love a good enough reason to stay in a relationship? We get into these topics, our "Make Sense of this Scenario", "Ant's Tweets" segments, and much more. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all.

The team is back after a little hiatus, and we are right back to the advice giving. We get into the topic of is it appropriate to take a significant other to a restaurant you took a previous person? Which is harder to do, moving on, letting go, or starting over? Do you believe the narrative "we experience people differently"? Is a women's sex drive based on how you treat her? Could you stay with someone if your parent didn't like you? Does having three babyfathers/baby mothers lower a person's worth? We get into this and much more. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all. Live Show July 14, make sure you get your tickets!! https://citywinery.com/philadelphia/events/lets-make-sense-of-it-presents-something-to-talk-h41po5

Send us a Text Message.Join us Vance & Ashley for our first live podcast show, a night of laughter, great conversation and special guest. Sit down with us and join in as we discuss topics on everyday life, relationships, and the craziness of the world we live In. As always we're giving, 'The truth you don't want but definitely need! Ticket Link Below!!!https://citywinery.com/philadelphia/events/lets-make-sense-of-it-presents-something-to-talk-h41po5

The team is back for another episode as we speak on the topic of being a trauma survivor. Whether its everyday life trauma, relationship trauma, family trauma etc. we speak on it all. We also speak on the topic of different types of anxiety and how certain things can affect your everyday life. We get into what are the signs that a woman and a man need to mature. Women hate to see another woman bring the best out of a man she failed with, do you agree? We speak on these topics and much more. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all. 

The team is back and this week we touch on the topic of Emotional PTSD. We speak on the effects that has when it comes to relationships and dealing with people. We speak on why sometimes unhealed people are jealous of people who are healed. We ask the question is courting and tricking the same? Also, what is the top five reasons a person isn't ready to date. We touch on these topics and many more. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all. 

The team is back, and we are on the road as we had a chance to sit down with the owner of Arts and Class Spa and Studio Candace(@candaceraycan). Candace is a license Esthetician, and she gives us insights on skincare, her start in the beauty industry, do's and don'ts when it comes to skincare, entrepreneurship, and much more. We also get into our topics which include what is love and isn't vs lust. People raised on survival will do anything to you vs a person raised on love will do anything for you, do you agree? At a certain age, things aren't misunderstandings and mistakes it's your character, do you agree? We touch on these things, and much more. So, sit back and listen as we mask sense of it all. 

Finally, we are back at it and we get into the topic of setting boundaries. We break down setting boundaries when it comes to family, work, relationships and much more. What's worst your partner comparing you to an ex or being insulted by your partner? Also we break down what immediately tells you a person had a traumatic childhood? We get into these topics, bitter single people, why people say being single and fine is a red flag and much more. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all. 

In this episode we are back and joined once again by Bridgette(@bbcarodine) as we catch up and get into an array of topics. We touch on uncomfortable conversations that need to be had in the black community. We also touch on six unpopular relationship opinions and selective morality. What are some red flags that caused you to stop talking to a person? What's the pettiest reason you've stopped talking to a person? We touch on these topics and much more. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all. For gear visit letsmakesenseofit.comShout out to our sponsor Love Jones Wine. Hit the link below and use our promo code "SENSE" to get a discount on your order. Love Jones Wine a cocktail made for you.https://www.lovejoneswine.com/?ref=qwq9HiFQ

The team is back after a couple month hiatus, and we are ready to get back to it. In this episode we discuss the long term and short-term effects of a breakup. We break down the 5 stages of rejection. We break down women's intuition and why sometimes it can't sense when a man is unhappy.  We get into single mother hate and explain why now a days that's such a big thing. We also discuss why some people should just remain single and why people who know they aren't ready for marriage still propose.  We get into this and a lot more. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all. For gear visit letsmakesenseofit.comShout out to our sponsor Love Jones Wine. Hit the link below and use our promo code "SENSE" to get a discount on your order. Love Jones Wine a cocktail made for you.https://www.lovejoneswine.com/?ref=qwq9HiFQ

In this episode we get into the topic of people changing in the relationship over time and how some people go about dealing with that. We break down the Keke Palmer situation and give our thoughts. We discuss being strong vs struggling and we sometimes confuse the two. Is there a such thin g as being a conscious cheater? We break that down as well as women's intuition vs being insecure. We also break down why men need to have more d**k discipline and self-respect. We break all that down and much more so sit back and listen as we make sense of it all! 

We are back for another we and we touch on the saying of "It Couldn't be Me" and how sometimes we judge others or don't give the benefit of the doubt. Whether it's how someone raises kids, being a single parent or getting cheated on just to name a few we break them down one by one. We also ask does someone ever really mentally overcome being cheated on. You're healed and secure with yourself so what's next? We give you advice on what your next step should be getting back into the dating world. What are peoples biggest three downfalls in life? We break this down as well as is there a such thing as dating fatigue? So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all. 

It's been a while, we missed all of you, but the team is back.  We get right back into it as we discuss your limitations and how far you are willing to go in certain scenarios and situations. We ask the questions is there anything off limits when it comes to an argument? "If you put your kids first in everything you do, you will forever be single" do you agree? Your best friend is dating your brother and she has a one-night stand on the girl's trip, you sticking to girl's code or snitching? Women really be gatekeeping their friends and we discuss whether that's truly the case or not. Your husband says he has no money for bills, but you find out he's been on only fans what do you do? This show is jam packed. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all. Shout out to our sponsor Love Jones Wine. Hit the link below and use our promo code "SENSE" to get a discount on your order. Love Jones Wine a cocktail made for you.https://www.lovejoneswine.com/?ref=qwq9HiFQ

The team is back, and we get into the topic of what truly makes someone the catch or the full package. "Love is the happiest thing ever but also causes the most pain" and we break down this quote. Can someone speak not having a relationship into the air? Who determines a person's "dating value"? What is the hardest truth you've learned in life? We get into this, our "Last Thought" segment about depression and much more. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all. Shout out to our sponsor Love Jones Wine. Hit the link below and use our promo code "SENSE" to get a discount on your order. Love Jones Wine a cocktail made for you.https://www.lovejoneswine.com/?ref=qwq9HiFQ

The team is back after a few weeks, and we get into an array of topics. We break down what exactly it means to be a "nice guy" and whether you agree with it or not? We break down "healing from someone you're currently co-parenting with" and why it isn't talked about enough.  Is being financially irresponsible a turn off for you? Is it a waste of time to date someone you don't see yourself marrying? We get into the topic of women doing wifely things for a boyfriend and where exactly should you draw the line? We get into our new "Last Word" segment, siblings breaking your heart and much more. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all. Shout out to our sponsor Love Jones Wine. Hit the link below and use our promo code "SENSE" to get a discount on your order. Love Jones Wine a cocktail made for you.https://www.lovejoneswine.com/?ref=qwq9HiFQ

The team is back as we discuss the topic of knowing your value and worth. "A high value woman cares about what's inside your heart and a low value woman care about what's in your wallet" do you agree? We discuss the "90 Day Rule" and whether that's really still a thing?  Do you believe all long-term relationships happen from an immediate connection? We discuss this as well as what exactly the ups and downs of a relationship really is. We get into this and much more. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all. Shout out to our sponsor Love Jones Wine. Hit the link below and use our promo code "SENSE" to get a discount on your order. Love Jones Wine a cocktail made for you.https://www.lovejoneswine.com/?ref=qwq9HiFQ

It's been a few weeks, but the team is back, and we got an array of topics. We discuss the topic of adults chasing the popularity they missed out on as teenagers.  We also discuss a person telling a child to keep a secret between them young and how that can be a slippery slope later in life?  Taking dating advice from women who hate men instead of women who enjoy the men they date could actually be negatively affecting your dating life, we discuss this. Is it disrespectful if your woman is twerking on her favorite R&B singer at a concert, we have many different viewpoints when it comes to this. We discuss and many more topics. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all. Shout out to our sponsor Love Jones Wine. Hit the link below and use our promo code "SENSE" to get a discount on your order. Love Jones Wine a cocktail made for you.https://www.lovejoneswine.com/?ref=qwq9HiFQ

In this episode the team is back as we get into an array of topics. We get into the topics of relationship preferences. Is this quote true "most women are single because they want to be paid to be in a relationship nowadays"?  We break down whether the "Hot Girl" and "City Girl" wave is over.  How do men grow up with single moms and don't have respect for women? We touch on this, popular nobodies, girls over exaggerating a breakup and much more. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all. Shout out to our sponsor Love Jones Wine. Hit the link below and use our promo code "SENSE" to get a discount on your order. Love Jones Wine a cocktail made for you.https://www.lovejoneswine.com/?ref=qwq9HiFQ

In this episode the team is back as we discuss an array of topics. We discuss the topics of are all red flags deal breakers. Is playing hard to get wise or unwise? Is love a feeling or a decision? Are weight preferences fair? Providing vs Spoiling when it comes to children? Does someone cheating make them a bad person? We get into this and much more. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all. Shout out to our sponsor Love Jones Wine. Hit the link below and use our promo code "SENSE" to get a discount on your order. Love Jones Wine a cocktail made for you.https://www.lovejoneswine.com/?ref=qwq9HiFQ

In this episode the team is back as we discuss the topic of facing different situations head on. We discuss men or women trapping their partner just because they want kids, but the other person doesn't. We discuss why no one wants to talk about evolving as a person. "They make it seem like men vs women when its actually you vs your unresolved trauma" we discuss these quotes as well as "people be sexually attracted to you not interested in you" big difference.  We get into this and much more. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all. Shout out to our sponsor Love Jones Wine. Hit the link below and use our promo code "SENSE" to get a discount on your order. Love Jones Wine a cocktail made for you.https://www.lovejoneswine.com/?ref=qwq9HiFQ

In this episode the team is back as we are joined by C. Stylez(@cstylezll) and Ski(@presadent_nixon) as we get into an array of topics. We discuss their start into rapping, their My Side Rules Multi-Media, and much more. We get into the topics of who has more dating options deadbeat fathers or single mothers? Who determines a "sorry" needs to be said? Is "forgiveness" for you or the other person? Are modern men "crying" without tears? Recycled nudes, group chat woes and much more. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all. Shout out to our sponsor Love Jones Wine. Hit the link below and use our promo code "SENSE" to get a discount on your order. Love Jones Wine a cocktail made for you.https://www.lovejoneswine.com/?ref=qwq9HiFQ

In this episode the team is back as we discuss an array of topics including one sided friendships and relationships. We discuss why some women hate to see another woman bring the best out a man she failed with.  We also discuss the difference between liking and loving your partner. We explain the "im him" guy and why some women try to pull their cards. We get into this and much more so sit back and listen as we make sense of it all. Shout out to our sponsor Love Jones Wine. Hit the link below and use our promo code "SENSE" to get a discount on your order. Love Jones Wine a cocktail made for you.https://www.lovejoneswine.com/?ref=qwq9HiFQPassive AggressionA Midwestern look at hot button, taboo and dated topics with Kyle and Jess WassingListen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify

Happy New Year, the team is back at it as we discuss an array of topics. We ask is a women's value only as good as here past. We also break down the signs that you might be breeding a bum as a spouse. "Your ego will have you thinking a man can't leave you alone, whole time you just his favorite dummy" we break down what exactly that means. You missed my birthday and the girl's trip yes, we have a problem, we break down why women get so upset when this happens. We get into this and much more. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all. Shout out to our sponsor Love Jones Wine. Hit the link below and use our promo code "SENSE" to get a discount on your order. Love Jones Wine a cocktail made for you.https://www.lovejoneswine.com/?ref=qwq9HiFQPassive AggressionA Midwestern look at hot button, taboo and dated topics with Kyle and Jess WassingListen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify

In the episode the team is back and it's our one-year anniversary episode! We get into the topics of women's intuition and how sometimes it can be wrong when it comes to picking men. Would you cut your friends off if they cheat on their significant other? Should you get into a relationship if you not financially stable? Why are black women told and taught to deal with struggle love while other races are taught to date/marry? We get into our too sense segment, how petty can you be segment and much more. So, sit back and listen to this jam-packed show as we make sense of it all. Shout out to our sponsor Love Jones Wine. Hit the link below and use our promo code "SENSE" to get a discount on your order. Love Jones Wine a cocktail made for you. https://www.lovejoneswine.com/?ref=qwq9HiFQ

In this episode the team is back as we are joined by @pettywednesday as we get into her life and how she started her petty Wednesday brand which includes her card game "how petty are you"? We also talk about the dos and don'ts when it comes to thanksgiving. We ask the question what's the pettiest thing someone has done during a breakup? We get into this and much more. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all.

In this episode the team is back as we get into the topic of free speech and what that means. From twitter to other social media to the effects of things we say that can cost us our jobs we break it all down. We also break down the Kanye West situation and specifically the black community's response to him.  We also touch on the topic of should you date casually immediately after a breakup? Would you date someone a friend dated?  We touch on these topics and much more. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all.  

In this episode the team is back as we get into the topic of parenting. We break down gentle parenting, having kids to save a relationship, being a single parent but married. We ask the question do you want to be a parent or are you being pressured into having kids. If you meet someone are your birthday, are you/they obligated to buy a gift? When someone drunk text an ex is there a hint of feelings still there? We break down this and much more so sit back and listen as we make sense of it all.  

In this episode the team is back as we break down what exactly make a person attractive in your eyes. We ask the question how come some women never are approached while they are out with their friend group. We also break down what is chivalry and is it dead or not. We get into our two-sense segment with the question of is oral considered sex? We get into this and much more so sit back and listen as we make sense of it all.  

The team is back as we touch on the subject of addictions that people might not realize they have such as addicted to spending money, working, and social media just to name a few. We ask the question why do people say they want generational wealth but bash people with mom and dad money? Also, would you support the idea of marriage licenses expiring like driver's licenses to give couples an option to renew? We touch on this, Kanye West, our two-sense segment and much more. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all.

In this episode we are back as we get into the discussion of interracial relationships. We break down having interracial kids, interracial misconceptions, the way the world views interracial relationships and much more. We also touch on the topic of death etiquette and how sometimes people don't know how to let someone properly grieve.  Known fact that women only set requirements for guys they really don't like, we discuss this quote and if it's true or not. We break all of this down as well as a bunch of different scenarios in our two-sense segment. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all.

The team is back as we get into the topic of you vs society. Do you want certain things because YOU want them or because society tells you that you should or shouldn't? Kids, income, certain jobs, body type, monogamy, etc. we touch on each one when it comes to society. We break down the Ime Udoka cheating scandal as well as dealing with feeling alone and how you overcome it. We also get into healthy relationships and things we can do to make our relationships better and healthier. We touch on these topics and much more so sit back and listen as we make sense of it all. 

In this week's episode the team is back as we discuss the topic of "Cuffing Season". We break down the definition of cuffing season. the dos and don'ts, how long cuffing season, etc. We ask the questions is there a difference between privacy and sneaking? We discuss the topic of a therapist who was fired for her delivery when it came to her practice. You didn't bring a gift to my baby shower, why are you here? We break down this scenario as well as an array of different scenarios and much more. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all.

In this episode we are joined by entertainer, dancer and overall talent Bridgette (@bbcarodine) as we discuss an array of subjects. We ask her what got her started making social media videos, being a daughter of a mortician, dealing with the spotlight and overcoming dealing low self-esteem. We discuss the topic of ultimatums and do they push people away. Dealing with different ultimatums when it comes to friends and everyday life. Why is it easier for women to vent to their friends than it is for men? You got car jacked while having sex in the car, how do you explain this? We break down this crazy scenario in our two-sense segment. We get into these topics and much more. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all.

In this episode we are joined by entrepreneur, teacher, and owner of SpinwithWhit LLC Whitley. Whitley breaks down her start in business, how she started in the spin business and how working for others helped her when it came to opening and running her own business. We break down the topics of what are the do's and don'ts when it comes to dating? How to go about getting a second date and beyond. We also break down why is it a problem when in a relationship either gender isn't in the mood? At what age should couples move in together? You slept with my brother and now I'm putting your tape out at our wedding! We break down this crazy scenario in our too sense segment and much more. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all. 

In this episode we are joined by entrepreneur Bella (@shinney.bella) as we get into an array of topics. We break down her start with cooking, where she got her hustler mindset, her daughters' lemonade business(@rileyssecretjuice), her podcast (@teatimewithbella_) and much more. We get into some struggles that black business owners deal with, people needing to learn professionalism, and ask the question are business brunches a scam? Does a man having kids with multiple women lower their value? Should child support come with therapy? Could you date a man who plays a lead gay role as an actor? We get into all of this and much more. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all.

In this episode we are back as we break down the different struggles of life.  Fun vs responsibility, young enough to do stuff but old enough to know better, and budgeting are some of the things we break down. We ask the questions why do people who have kids judge people without kids when they say their tired, exhausted or struggling? "We need more men to speak life into male brokenness instead of giving women relationship advice", do you agree? We debut a new segment " does this make sense", as well as get into our two-sense segment and much more. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all. 

In this episode we are back breaking down and identifying toxic traits and how we need to unlearn certain things. We ask the questions why can't some people be happy without a relationship? What should be the proper way to pay when going out with friends? Why when the parent's breakup most of the time the child stays with the mom and the father becomes a weekend dad? We break all this down as well as our two-sense segment and much more. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all.

In this episode the team is back as we discuss the taboos of being you. We ask the question, what are some traditional and non-traditional beliefs you agree with that society may not. We break down the power of your words and how you have to be careful with what you say. We break down healthy self-esteem and why it's important to you. So, we broke up a month ago and now you're engaged? Our two-sense segment gets crazy with this scenario. We get into all these topics and much more. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all.  Follow Us on Instagram @letsmakesenseofit_

In this episode the team is joined by guests Marcos (@mrtableforone) and Mo (@_mo2thaaaa). We touch on an array of topics that include the Roe v. Wade ruling being overturned. We touch on the Mario v Omarion versus battle. We ask the question is celibacy a trend and why does it take for someone to be celibate to work on themselves. Should you give a person your "A game" during sex if you're not together? It isn't tricking if you got it or is it, we touch on the topic of tricking, todays dating pool, quality of Ex's and much more. So, sit back and listen as we try to make sense of it all.

In this episode the team is back with the topic of trauma bonding. We break down different types of trauma bonding examples such as domestic violence, sexual abuse, human trafficking just to name a few. We also get into the roles of a stepfather, God father and in general of bring a child into another person's life. Why do mean keep women they don't want a relationship with around, we break this question down. "My wife had a stroke using her rose toy and I'll never forgive her", our two-sense segment get wild with this topic and many more. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all.

In this episode the team is back as we get into an array of topics including reasons people go ghost on you. Loving someone who never had the intentions of loving you back, we break down this quote and how this situation can break a person down. You've been in a relationship with your cousin for three years and didn't know? Things get crazy in our two-sense segment. We touch on the Michael B. Jordan/Lori Harvey breakup, cancel culture and much more. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all.

The team is back, and we break down what a narcissistic person is. Manipulative, constantly dimmish you while building themselves up, refuses to take responsibility for their actions, are just a few things a narcissistic person does, and we break each thing down. We also break down a damaged person and the affects that has on them going through everyday life. Forget the date just run me the bread and head? We break this scenario in our two-sense segment and get into much more. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all. 

In this episode the team is back to break down how sometimes people self-sabotaged themselves and don't realize it.  We break down why sometimes people stress or cry over a person that doesn't respect or care about them.  We break down why sometimes people don't know their self-worth. Its ok to say NO, we break down why it's so hard to say it and why it makes people feel guilty for doing it. You slept with my dad, our too sense segment get wild with this messy scenario. We get into this and a whole lot more so sit back and listen as we make sense of it all.  

In this episode the team is joined by Zach Frazier the president of Philly trust factor and Mazzie Casher the co-creator of the Philly truce app and the director of Philly truce. The guys break down the philly truce app and how it works. They also explain how they are trying to make a difference in the community by their different mentor programs, call for peace initiatives and much more. We also break down PTSD when it comes to the black community, building trust with the youth and much more. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all.

In this episode the team gets into questions and scenarios that make people want to self-reflect. They ask the questions, why do women only talk about the guys that don't do right by them but never the dudes who tried to do right by them. Also, why is the pressure to be the bigger person always placed on the person that was wronged? Should DNA test be mandatory? Should single friends give out relationship advice? I'm pregnant but not sure if it's my ex's, my coworkers or my bosses, we break down what she should do during our two-sense segment. We get into all of this and much more, so sit back and listen as we make sense of it all.

In this episode the team is joined by a few members from the LGBTQ+ community.  Kim(@thenorfphillyqueen) who is transgender and Maurice(@willsmithslappedmetoo) who is a gay male as we get into an array of topics. We get into their upbringing, coming out, their business ventures and much more. We also ask them their thoughts on the "Don't Say Gay Bill", bathroom laws, Boosie, Men on the DL (down low) and much more. You don't want to miss this episode as we educate ourselves on different perspectives of the LGBTQ+ community. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all.  

In this episode the team gets into an array of topics including can a person's social media timeline influence you not to date them. Do you think love comes with pain? Do single mothers raise boys to be emotional men? Are all men the same or do you allow the men to handle you the same? of course we break down the Will Smith situation and much more. So, sit back and listen as we make sense of it all.Follow Us on Instagram @letsmakesenseofit_

In this episode the team breaks down social media vs reality. They ask the questions, has social media ruined relationships when it comes to family, friends, and dating? They also ask the question, has social media contributed to people being emotionally unavailable? What's stronger the want for love or attention? You took my daughter for an abortion but didn't tell me, the team breaks down this scenario in their two-sense segment. They get into these topics and much more so sit back and listen as they make sense of it all. 

In this episode the team breaks down different stereotypes when it comes to an array of topics. Some of the stereotypes include "pretty single women are talking to a bunch of guys", "you didn't grow up in the hood you don't know struggle", "after a breakup it is assumed it is the guy's fault", and many more. You had dinner with your ex who's going to prison? Our too sense segment gets wild with that scenario and much more. Sit back and listen as we make sense of it all.

In this episode the team gets into the discussion of choices we man in life. We break down the choices we make when it comes to raising children, picking a career, walking away from toxic people and much more. We ask the question why closure is so hard to grasp, whether it's a relationship or friendship. We also ask at what point are you considered stupid for holding someone down? We get into these topics and much more so sit back and listen as we make sense of it all.