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The conversation explores themes of misinformation, systemic racism, and the impact of historical trauma on the Black community, particularly in relation to the Nolan Wells case. The speaker emphasizes the need for awareness and decolonization of perspectives regarding race and history. In this conversation, SaySayTheAuthor discusses various topics including updates on upcoming interviews, reflections on societal issues, and the tragic case of Nolan Wells. The dialogue emphasizes the importance of justice, community, and the impact of technology on communication and information dissemination.TakeawaysMisinformation shapes perceptionsHistorical trauma affects communities Justice for Nolan WellsImportance of community supportChapters00:00 Introduction and Personal Reflections03:01 Misinformation and Its Impact06:06 The Nolan Wells Case and Systemic Racism11:54 Understanding White Supremacy and Narcissism18:05 Historical Context and Generational Trauma24:08 Pride in Black Heritage and Resilience30:25 Upcoming Interviews and Goals32:08 Reflections on Society and Truth33:48 The Case of Nolan Wells38:06 Justice and Community Support42:06 Final Thoughts and Call to Action

Nuclear Muffins sounds like it should launch you into another dimension. This batch? More like a weighted blanket for your brain.This week on Cannabis School, Jesse and Brandon dig into a strain that sneaks up slowly and gets the conversation rolling. We're talking light, fruity flavor, squishy buds, and a high we found calm, clear, and surprisingly suited to getting creative. The number on this bag wasn't huge—but we had plenty to say about the experience.We also get into why we keep coming back to flower, our ongoing love affair with dry herb vaporizers, and how our early ideas about cannabis changed once we actually experienced it. Naturally, there's a gravity bong story. Because apparently we can't just review a strain and behave.In this episode:Nuclear Muffins' slow build and our firsthand impressions.Why the THC percentage doesn't tell us everything we want to know.THCA labels, minor cannabinoids, and the entourage effect conversation.Flower versus carts—and how our preferences have changed.Vaporizer temperatures, session length, and differences between devices.Unlearning cannabis stigma, one conversation at a time.Chapters00:00 — Welcome to Cannabis School00:27 — Vaporizer love and the borrowed VENTY01:32 — Meet Nuclear Muffins03:00 — THCA labels, THC numbers, and genetics04:34 — First impressions and vaporizer temperatures06:18 — Minor cannabinoids, flower, and carts08:11 — Unlearning the cannabis stigma09:00 — A weighted blanket for your brain11:23 — Confidence, first experiences, and changing perceptions13:22 — Gravity bongs and a party story16:15 — Back to vaporizers and getting more from flower19:25 — Fruity flavor, slow onset, and session differences20:40 — Comparing batches and wrapping up Tried Nuclear Muffins? Tell us how it hit you. Calm and floaty? More intense than our batch? We want to hear about your experience.Love you guys. Stay curious, and we'll catch you next time on Cannabis School.Find everything in one place here:

Brian welcomes Boyslut author Zachary Zane back to the podcast, this time as guest co-host! Zachary recaps his “proper gay summer” and the two compare thoughts about their favorite gay vacation destinations, and the insecurities that come along with visiting each. Brian recreates the steam room hookups of his younger days with his husband, and both Zachary and Brian's husband help him reframe his thinking around finishing quickly. The Hookup of the Week comes from a visitor to New York whose supposed threesome also includes a mysterious fourth. Brian and Zachary then welcome GayVN and Grabby award-nominated Daddy Patrick who, at 63, is new to being an adult performer and model, and who, two years into his latest career, wrote and directed the new gay western porn series, Drifters, which features, among many others, previous Dads and Daddies guests Joel Someone and Jonah Wheeler. Patrick shares how he came to start a porn career at 61, and how it evolved from making collabs for OnlyFans and JustForFans to writing, directing and performing in a 14-episode series for Ducati Studios. He compares his pre-60 corporate life to his life now in adult entertainment, he talks about what kind of Daddy he aims to be, how he imbues the porn he creates with intimacy, and about his conviction that gay men need to unlearn the instinct to be judgemental and instead to treat each other with kindness. Patrick also helps Brian and Zachary respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who is curious if aging means we have to give up our sexual pursuits. Find Daddy Patrick on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/patricgram Find Zachary Zane on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/zacharyzane_/  Email your Hookup of the Week, Go Ask Your Dad and Dr. Daddy submissions to dadsanddaddies@gmail.com Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social Your hosts, Dad Brian Rubin-Sowers - https://www.instagram.com/ditmasparkpapa  and Daddy Judson Morrow - https://www.instagram.com/gunclejudson Edited by Toby Rubin-Sowers For a 10% discount on your purchase on a Shakti Acupressure Mat or any other items at ShakitMat.com, use code DADSANDDADDIES or simply visit the URL https://shaktimat.com/DadsAndDaddies Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Crying After Stroke: What Bobby Chaggar’s Recovery Taught Him About Grief and Strength The night his stroke happened, Ramandeep “Bobby” Chaggar didn’t feel what he expected to feel. No pins and needles. No dramatic collapse. Just a left arm that wouldn’t answer him anymore.  He limped to the kitchen anyway, poured a glass of water, and brought one back for his wife because that’s what you do, even when your body has just stopped taking instructions from half of itself. It wasn’t until the ambulance service ran him through the BFAST test over the phone that the word “stroke” entered the room. A right ischaemic pontine stroke, in December 2023. He was, by his own account, in the best health of his life at the time: no blood pressure issues, no diabetes, cycling a hundred kilometres most weekends. Growing Up Believing a Stroke Meant You Were Gone Bobby grew up in an era and a family where a stroke wasn’t something you researched; it was something you heard about secondhand. “That particular cousin’s father’s grandfather had a stroke, and he’s gone,” is how the news used to travel. Nobody around him distinguished a stroke in the brain from a stroke in the heart. There was no internet to check, only the flat, final verdict that passed between relatives: he’s done for.  It’s a belief he carried into his own stroke, even as his medical training Bobby spent years as a veterinary surgeon in India before qualifying in Australia told him something else was happening. That veterinary background is exactly why he recognised what was going on in his own body faster than most people would. It didn’t make the belief disappear. It just meant he was fighting it from the inside while everyone around him was still catching up. Why His Arm Seemed to Move Then Stopped In those first disorienting hours, Bobby was convinced his arm had started moving again. He filmed it and sent the video to his sister as proof, he thought, that he was already turning a corner. By morning, the movement was gone. “It was like a bad dream,” he says. “I was like, what was that?”  What he was seeing wasn’t recovery. Doctors later explained that in the earliest hours after a stroke, the body can still fire off remnant spinal reflexes old movement patterns held in the spinal cord that can briefly activate on their own, independent of the brain damage that’s actually occurred. It’s a strange, almost cruel mechanism: the body offering a flicker of hope before the real work of recovery has even started. The Physio Who Promised Him He’d Walk Again Bobby spent 45 days in rehabilitation at Parkville, six months in a wheelchair overall, and credits one moment above almost everything else: his first physiotherapist he calls her Hannah sitting on the floor, moving his foot, and telling him he would walk again. It mattered enough that his book was originally going to be titled Walking with Hannah, before privacy considerations changed the plan. His son, who narrates the audiobook, still opens the acknowledgements by thanking her directly. Learning to Cry Again This is the part of Bobby’s story that speaks most directly to what so many stroke survivors go through and rarely say out loud. In his culture, and in his family, showing emotion, especially for the men expected to be providers and caretakers, wasn’t really an option. When his father died in 1997, he was told to be strong for his mother and sister. When his mother died in 2013, he was told the same thing again. “I’ve been told that stroke is a part of grief, and you should not suppress your feelings.” It took his brother-in-law showing up every day to help him with basic care showering, dressing, the things that felt hardest to accept before something shifted. His own psychologist eventually gave him the instruction that reframed everything: put on your own life jacket first, before you try to save anyone else. It’s advice Bobby now extends to every caregiver he talks to: the person supporting a stroke survivor needs their own support too, or they burn out trying to hold everything together. He isn’t alone in this. Bill has spoken openly on the podcast about his own experience with unexpected, involuntary crying after a neurological injury, and how much energy goes into reassuring the people around you that the tears don’t mean something is wrong. For Bobby, permission to cry didn’t erase the culture he was raised in. It just meant he stopped fighting it. A New Normal, On His Own Terms Bobby’s recovery is full of small, deliberate acts of reclaiming identity. He got his first tattoo not long after his stroke, partly, he says, because people notice ink before they notice a limp. He’s spent years slowly making peace with not tying a turban the way he used to, calling himself, with real affection, a recovering “turbanator.” He built his own incline-and-decline walking circuit near his home and quietly upped the difficulty every fortnight, the same instinct that now has him choosing stairs over the lift at the allied health course he’s completing. Running, he says flatly, is overrated. He can’t do it anymore, and he’s decided that’s fine. It’s the same acceptance that let him and his family move to Perth just one month after his stroke, and then move back again when isolation made the recovery harder than the geography ever was.  None of it looks like the version of recovery he grew up believing in, the one where a stroke simply meant a story was over. Bobby’s version has a motorbike with a sidecar he now rides himself, a book he wrote one voice note at a time because typing with one hand wasn’t fast enough, and a fairly simple message for anyone who asked him to just think positively: some things are still hard, and that’s allowed to be true at the same time as everything else.  If you’re navigating your own recovery or supporting someone who is, Bill’s book, The Unexpected Way That A Stroke Became The Best Thing That Happened (recoveryafterstroke.com/book), walks through ten practical tools for rebuilding after a stroke. And if trauma has made your world feel smaller than it used to be, Bill’s newest book, Your World Doesn’t Have to Stay This Small, is written for exactly that.  If this episode helped you, you can support the show directly at patreon.com/recoveryafterstroke. This blog is for informational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. Please consult your doctor before making any changes to your health or recovery plan. Bobby Chaggar: Learning to Cry After Stroke (Interview) He was taught a stroke meant you were gone. Bobby Chaggar’s story proves otherwise and shows why crying after a stroke is nothing to hide. Highlights: 00:00 Introduction 02:00 Life Before the Stroke 09:28 Rehabilitation Journey 12:00 Crying After Stroke 14:52 Reflections on Recovery and Growth 26:33 The Promise of Recovery and Writing a Book 29:37 Cultural Identity and Personal Beliefs 37:28 Relocation and Its Challenges 41:44 The Importance of Caregiver Self-Care 44:10 Adjusting to a New Normal 51:09 The Journey of Riding Again 57:09 Bobby’s Journey of Unlearning and Grief Transcript: Introduction – Crying after stroke Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (00:00) I realized that I was having a stroke. because it was not their usual pins and needles and there was no sensation. I couldn’t move my arm. I managed to limp. I went all the way to the kitchen. I trudged a little to the kitchen. I had a glass of water, brought a glass for my wife. in the hospital, I thought my arm started moving. And the doctors, and when I got up in the morning, it was like a bad dream. No, it was not moving again. So I was like, what was that? Bill Gasiamis (00:19) Welcome back to Recovery After Stroke. I’m Bill Gasiamis and today I’m talking with Bobby Chaggar, a veterinary surgeon originally from India, now living in Melbourne, who survived a right ischemic pontain stroke in December 2023. Bobby’s story covers a lot of ground, the cultural belief he grew up with, that a stroke simply meant you were gone. The strange confusion of a spinal reflex that made his arm move before it didn’t. Physiotherapist whose promise changed the course of recovery and what it actually took for him as a man raised to be the strong one to let himself cry. Before we get into it, if trauma has made your world feel smaller than it used to be, my new book, Your World Doesn’t Have to Stay This Small, is exactly what it’s about. Search for it on Amazon or tap the link in the show notes to grab your copy today. And one more thing, this show exists because listeners decide it’s worth keeping going. There’s no other funding behind it. If an episode like this one has ever helped you or helped someone you love, even a few dollars a month on Patreon is what keeps these conversations free for the next person who finds themselves Googling this stuff alone at two in the morning, scared, looking for someone who’s actually been through it. That’s all. patreon.com/recoveryafterstroke.. A small amount every month makes a massive difference. But now let’s get into it. Here’s my conversation with Bobby. Bill Gasiamis (01:56) Bobby Chaggar. Welcome to the podcast. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (01:58) Thank you very much. Thank you. Thank you, Bill. Life Before the Stroke Bill Gasiamis (02:00) So you grew up in a house with 22 dogs, three cats and a trilingual parrot as well, right? So what’s the situation there? You’re living with pets. Were you important in your family or Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (02:10) Ha ha. Bill Gasiamis (02:11) did the animals come first? Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (02:14) the animals definitely did come first. my mother was also a teacher, but she decided to stay at home and be a stay you know, stay a worker from home mom for for the for the kids. And my parents never used to say no to any patient. So they used to admit everything and anything. And in India also it’s quite common to rehome pets and a lot of times they don’t get proper homes. So we used to say yes to everything. So I I specifically remember this number because my mom had fallen and broken her shoulder once while walking in Labrador. So that day we counted the animals and we said, okay, no, after this, no more. That’s it. And the parrot was trilingual because the kids would play with him, so he wouldn’t know nursery rhymes, he would know the whistles, and then my grandmom’s dialect was Punjabi, so he could he could swear in Punjabi, and he could swear in Hindi because my mom was Hindi. So that’s why trilingual. Bill Gasiamis (03:08) I love that. That’s an awesome way to grow up. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (03:09) Yep. Yep, yep. Bill Gasiamis (03:12) Tell me about this bike though. So this Royal Enfield motorbike, what was the deal with that? Why was it coming to Australia? Why was it a big deal on that day? Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (03:22) it was gifted to me by it was restored and gifted to me by my wife on my fortieth. And this time on my fiftieth, the guy who had restored it, he’s a friend of mine, he decided to build this sidecar and ship it to me. And it’s a vintage, it’s a nineteen seventy three. So I’ve literally grown up on motorcycles, drive riding them, and I was quite excited about the whole thing. And I was so excited because my son’s school was only five minutes away. So I was always looking forward that I’m gonna drop him off in school in the sidecar. It’s gonna be such a big thing for him. So it was quite cool. So that’s the reason we were expecting it. It took almost two months for it to come via ship. And you know, once a ship leaves the country, there’s no way of live tracking it. There they must must be ways for the guys who are doing it, but for the clients, they have no way. They have no clue. They just talk to the customer care. And you have no idea what’s happening. And suddenly one day it just pops up and they say, Yeah, it’s in customs. Here you go and you have to do this, this and this and come and pick it up. So that’s the excitement. Bill Gasiamis (04:23) So you get that phone call and that’s it. You’re on the bikes here. We’re going to go and get it. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (04:26) Yep, yep, yep. We were just looking forward for the bike. Yep. Bill Gasiamis (04:29) I love it. In your book, you wrote about your culture that when somebody Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (04:34) Mm-hmm. Bill Gasiamis (04:35) has a stroke, most people believe that you’re gone, right? And it seems like you also believe that where does a belief like that come from? And what did you do in the first few hours? Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (04:47) You know the first because it’s it’s it’s not I mean in the era I’ve grown up there was not a lot of internet. They were only encyclopedias. So getting information was a little challenge. So as as kids when we were growing up, we were just here that that particular cousin’s father’s grandfather had a stroke and he’s gone. That particular person’s family member has has had a stroke and he’s done for. So you know a few things like that. But there are families who’ve been through stroke. Now I’ve realized and also met them. So they know stroke one could recover from the stroke and one also forgets about it over time. I’ve heard that. But mostly the thought process was because it was not too kind of a disease. And we also did not know what is a stroke in the heart. Some would someone would say he had a stroke in the heart, someone would say he had a stroke in the brain. So we had no idea what that meant. We could just as kids, as growing up people, we just knew that he had a stroke and he’s done for, he’s gone. That’s one. And because of my medical background, my veterinary background, I realized that I was having a stroke. because it was not their usual pins and needles and there was no sensation. I couldn’t move my arm. I managed to limp. I went all the way to the kitchen. I trudged a little to the kitchen. I had a glass of water, brought a glass for my wife. And I’ve also realized, learnt from doctors here that there are remnant spinal reflexes which work for some time. So those reflexes help you I think, navigate the initial few hours. It’s just that’s how we are made. Because I, you know, in the hospital, I thought my arm started moving. And the doctors, and when I got up in the morning, it was like a bad dream. No, it was not moving again. So I was like, what was that? And I have a video of that. I was sending it to my sister. Look, my arm is started to move. Wow, I’m so happy. So they told me that was just a part of the spinal reflex. So maybe that’s what made me go to the kitchen and back. So we called the Ambos and they did the BFAST test. It was FAST initially, but now the acronym has changed to BFAST. so they did that over the phone and they confirmed it was a stroke. And they were they said they’ll be at my place in two minutes. And then we made the second phone call to my brother in law who works with neurointerventional surgeons all over Australia. He’s also vet by education. So I thought he might be the best person to give me advice. And he always used to share his stories of patients, aneurysms, brain things, strokes. So I thought that, you know, he he will fix me, man. So we called Bill Gasiamis (07:10) Yeah. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (07:11) him and he said, Come straight to Royal Melbourne and th that’s where I was. And and the Amus asked me, he they said, Your catchment is northern, but where do you want to go? I said, Please take me to Northern because my brother’s gonna be there. So they drove me to Royal Melbourne and that’s where my journey started. Yep. Bill Gasiamis (07:27) Yeah. My journey started at the Austin hospital, ended up at the Royal Melbourne as well. And I had my surgery there and I learned to walk again at the Royal Melbourne hospital and at their Parkville facility where the rehab was done. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (07:42) Yeah, that’s where I was. Yep. Bill Gasiamis (07:43) Yeah, good experience. Really helpful. So you are also a vet. Okay. A surgeon as well. Are all Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (07:52) Yes. Bill Gasiamis (07:53) vets surgeons? Do they all operate on animals? Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (07:56) So in primitive times, the veterin surgery education is made around five types of animals, which is a canine, which is dogs, that that species, filine, which is cats, equines, which is horses, bovines, which is cattle, and one animal from wildlife, and one random fish, including birds. So we have to compare them in all aspects. So when we technically pass out, or rather I would say, When we used to technically pass out in those years, we were supposed to take take care of everything surgeries, medicine, prevention for all these species throughout. And obviously it was a it was a big experience learning practically as we went. Because when my father became a vet, my my grandparents were like, I don’t know whether anybody’s gonna get married to him or not. They they got worried. It was looked so down upon though that profession, you know. So he bought clamor to it. He showed everybody that passion. Can happen. It can happen in bed science also. In India. It must be good in other countries, but that’s all I know about India. Only the rich class had the dogs. The Britishers, they’re the people who were connected to the Britishers when they had gone, when they had left the country. Only that rich class was able to afford dogs because you know it was a poor country. So that’s where he started. Yep, yep. Yep. And now you have specializations Bill Gasiamis (09:05) Yeah, understood. Understood. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (09:08) on around everything. Now you can be a surgeon, you can be a bone surgeon. There’s a friend of mine, he’s a he’s a animal onko oncologist. So things like that. Yep. Bill Gasiamis (09:17) amazing how far things have come. So Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (09:19) yes, definitely. Yeah. Rehabilitation Journey Bill Gasiamis (09:20) the fact that you were kind of a surgeon, even if it was in veterinary surgery, Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (09:28) Yep, yep, yep. Bill Gasiamis (09:30) does that kind of medical knowledge that you have make it harder to face what you’re going through? Do you apply those kind of medical skills onto your own condition? Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (09:42) I would say it definitely helps in doing research and digging out evidence based study because that’s how we’ve been trained, right? So we have to we have been trained to look for specific information in a specific way. So I thought I think that is what probably helps a little bit extra when someone is from that background. So most of the medical jargon we understand because it’s same. Every all animals are same, mostly, except the ruminants which have four stomachs. So Bill Gasiamis (10:06) Mm-hmm. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (10:07) so So the single stomach animals are mostly similar, and how the physiology of the body works, how the brain works, how the conduction works, all the diseases, they have things like MS, they have things like diabetes. We used to treat them all the time. So yeah, yes, it helps. It does. Yeah. Bill Gasiamis (10:22) Yeah, that’s fascinating. I love it. so give me a little bit of an idea of you’ve gone to hospital. you realize that your arm is moving and now it’s no longer moving. And then how long were you in hospital for? And what was that, experience like what, what was your hospital stay like? Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (10:43) I remember I was very emotional. Even now I’m very emotional. If I talk about nice things, I end up crying sometimes. Or I laugh more, I cry more. But I was really worried at that point. I didn’t know what’s gonna happen. My cousins used to call me, my friends used to call me, doctors used to go past and they would tell me that you’ll be fine, man. And you know, that was you’ll be fine was was kind of unbelievable because nothing’s moving. I mean I I don’t know how that’s gonna happen. Bill Gasiamis (11:09) your left side your whole left side was gone. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (11:11) Yeah, I was on the wheelchair for about six months and I was in the same rehab as you just mentioned at Parkwell for 45 days. Bill Gasiamis (11:18) Hmm. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (11:18) And if we must have been to the chapel, which is just behind the Parkville camp campus. So I used to go there every day. My son used to wheel me there. Yeah. So it was it was quite overwhelming for me because I didn’t know what was going on. I had heard that there are these injections which which are given within the golden period. Crying After Stroke And they can just reverse the stroke instantly. But I did not know the concept. So those injections basically work and dissolve the clot which is in the brain. But if if if the stroke is of a bleeder’s type, it can also kill the person. So we were waiting for the MRI. We are waiting for the MRI when’s that gonna happen. And it was unfortunately a Saturday night, Sunday morning. So everything were lined up. You know how the systems are in Melbourne. So all the emergency patients who are dying are first, people who are not dying are second, people who just Got normal things, they’re third. So things like that. So probably that took a little while. So I had my MRI on Monday. So I was in the hospital till Monday. I just had nurses coming in assessing me if I could stand, if I could step forward, step backwards. I mean, obviously they were doing my cognition tests and everything. I got tested for a drug which was is which is called clopedrogel, I think. that is the one which dissolves clots. So they give that as an oral thing to you and they test the blood in the body that whether it responds to that or not. So they are ready for it. As soon as they have the result, they just shoot you with injections. But it was unfortunate that I got diagnosed only in about twenty four hours. And then they moved me to the rehab. I was lucky to get a room and this amazing partner in my room, and that’s that’s when my rehab started. Bill Gasiamis (12:47) What was the cause of the stroke? Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (12:48) Nobody knows. I was pr absolutely healthy. I don’t have blood pressure. I don’t have diabetes. I don’t have anything with I was cycling hundred kilometers on the weekend. I was walking my dog twice a day. I was very, very active. Even now I’m very active. I was I was when I was in rehab, obviously I started eating I was eating the same and I was obviously not exercising. So my weight went up to 120 kilos, for example, because my activity was so high. People were literally telling me that you’re eating like a Labrador, man. What happened? What’s happening? I was just like this. And the food in Royal Melbourne rehab is really good. They come to you with a menu and they ask you what you want. And so I was ordering everything I loved. So and I was hearing in one of your podcasts before, it it was literally like that. I had the I’ve had the best time of life in the last two years. Different realization, it’s changed me, and I’ve just had the best time. I always liked exercising. I’ve exercised Bill Gasiamis (13:39) Yeah. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (13:42) exercised so much at the last two years, it’s not even funny. I think he must be listening that I want to exercise. He said, Okay, go for it, man. Bill Gasiamis (13:51) You got to, you, you sounds like you were given, this like massive learning opportunity, but also a scary learning opportunity. Things were really difficult. at one point, but things have kind of progressed. Well, things are going well and that’s awesome. you’ve taken it, you’ve taken it away where this is an opportunity to grow, to learn, to try new things. but what was it like on your on the day that you noticed some movement, like in rehab, I think was that on day 28 or something like that, there was a little bit of, first Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (14:26) I think it was twenty five it was I think. Bill Gasiamis (14:28) voluntary voluntary movement first, first, yeah. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (14:30) Yeah, correct, correct. I still have that video. I remember there was this friend of mine who used to come to the hospital and she used to massage my arm. So that is also called I think it’s called passive passive stretching. And she would really press my arm and she will caught cause me pain. And I’ve been told that I’ve got a good pain threshold. Maybe that’s because of my martial arts training when I was younger. Reflections on Recovery and Growth Bill Gasiamis (14:52) Okay. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (14:53) So she used to press my arm and it was really painful. And I remember my roommate, he he had a problem with his arm, and they had to give him Botox injections to paralyze those muscles. So he could move and the muscles could be pain free. So that’s a that’s a routine thing which they do. So Botox is basically bottleneum toxin, which causes paralysis. and they give it in the muscle which is spas spas which is spasming for the person and it it releases the muscle and they feel better. So I was fortunate that she was there and I remember after her Three, four weeks of massaging my hand, and my wife used to be sitting beside my bed and she used to be pressing on my left leg, I remember. So that particular day I could see my foot move a little like this, b which I could. So that was that was a big one for me. I just cried and I didn’t know what to what to expect. my God. Yep. Bill Gasiamis (15:41) tears of relief. Yeah. that is all often a very good sign. And then, a lot of people kind of built from that. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (15:52) Yeah. Bill Gasiamis (15:53) but were you, were you near the diabetic ward as well? Were you watching people, have amputations walking out after a few days and getting down about that, that they, why are they getting out so quick? Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (16:06) So, you know, the the building which is opposite to the rehab facility on Parkville Road on the other side is the diabetic ward. Bill Gasiamis (16:11) Yep. Right. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (16:13) So those patients after their surgeries, after their treatments are shifted into rehab. And I could see that these guys are coming in and because initially I was a little curious that what’s happening here. This guy, you know, he’s he’s got an amputation and he’s just gone. After three days, four days, they would go away. So then they would new new patients come in, they would learn how to walk, then three, four, five days they’ll go away again. So I had no clue what was going on. But then over time I realized there was a diabetic ward. So those were guys was ob obviously coming in because of their neuropathies. They’ve lost some limbs. Some people were lucky, they only lost fingers, some people unlucky, they lost legs, arms sometimes. But it can be it can be quite challenging for them also, you know, certainly because it’s too quick. I I think stroke is still slow. It gets you ready, it gets you going, but it’s it’s slow paced. And now I’m an expert, I know what is gonna work. So I’m still completing three years in December. So With an exercise, I I know the stress and I know the difficulty and and and I can feel it. I can feel it that this will work. So in their in their case they don’t have time. They just lose a limb and they just have to learn in three, four days. Fortunately their brain is okay, so they are more you know, neuroplastic, I would say, but as compared to us. Bill Gasiamis (17:17) So was playing on your mind a little bit, seeing this difference in the way people were rehabilitating after an amputation compared to a stroke survivor. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (17:26) Yes, hundred percent. And considering that one of my family people, my uncles, cousins, far cousin, he had passed on because of this particular problem. And it because of the way the medicines and the medical system is in India, so I saw that he ha also had to be his one of his toes had to be amputated. and he had a neuropathy and then he lost his foot and he eventually died because of kidney problems. So this does happen in diabetic patients, very common. So it I kept thinking of those those days, you know, when I would I would hear of him, we would go and visit him in hospital. So it’s very different. They are Bill Gasiamis (18:02) Hmm. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (18:03) more conservative, they try to save the limb. Here they are more aggressive. They say that we if there’s a the there’s gangrene here, we want to cut from here and we want to make sure that you’re safe. Your life is safe. So they they are more aggressive here. Over there, they say, We’ll try to save this, we’ll try to save this, we’ll try to save this. So it’s it’s different. We have Bill Gasiamis (18:18) Yeah. So I’m to make a few huge assumptions. You’re a male, you’re Indian and your culture probably makes it difficult to accept care, especially when it comes to physical care. you know, being treated as stroke survivor in a rehabilitation hospital, when your left side’s not working means that people have to shower you and, help you at the bathroom and all that kind of stuff. What was that like for you? Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (18:47) It was hard. Then that was another time when I was really crying. Maybe it happens to everyone, you know. I’m not special. But I I was I was quite emotional and it took me a couple of days to get used to my brother in law coming in, and he said, I’ll do it for you, man. And he’s he’s a champ. And he would come every day. So it’s in our culture, it’s it’s I think it’s maybe egoistic or maybe it’s how we are. That the elder people or the boys are more looked from a perspective of as providers and caretakers. So I remember when my father passed on in 97, I was told that be strong for your mom, be strong for your sister. And then when my mom passed on in 2013, I was told the same thing: be strong for your sister. But there was one of my friends, one of my uncles, who told me that, you know, you need to do something, you need to have a couple of drinks, go to a corner and just cry it out, man. It’s important. So now I know that grief is important. and I was I’ve been told that stroke is a part of a grief and you should not suppress your feelings. Like I can do with that box of tissues right now. I can go all out. No problem. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Bill Gasiamis (19:50) Yeah, man. I’m the same. was just talking about my situation a few days ago. This happened to me in 2013. Brain surgery was in 2014 and I cry all the time. It’s not really like it’s strange. Have you heard of the super pseudo bulb affect? Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (20:06) Which one is that? No, so no, I’ve Bill Gasiamis (20:07) It’s a condition. It’s a condition where people who with neurological injuries tend to cry, or laugh Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (20:14) More. Bill Gasiamis (20:15) more and out of the blue suddenly. And often at the beginning, it’s a very difficult to control. And then later it gets better. But then for me, I, you know, a couple of years ago, I was told to go and do a presentation for the Royal Melbourne hospital neurosciences, gala ball to, to tell them what stroke, sorry, what neurosurgery meant to me, you know, like, I’m only standing there because of neurosurgery without it, I wouldn’t be standing there. My surgeon was in the room. It was 400 people in the room. And I got up and I didn’t make it to the front lectern before I started crying. And then when I got up to say the speech, I was holding on to the lectern, just waiting for the crying to stop just so that I can start the speech. And then through the speech, I had to stop a couple of times. Now I wasn’t upset. I wasn’t sad. was, I was excited, but the 400 people and the, situation talking about me, my family, et cetera, and having to describe what neurosurgery meant to me made it impossible to get through that speech. I got through it, but it was, Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (21:16) Yep, yep, yep, yep. Bill Gasiamis (21:20) but it was interesting to go through that, you know, 13 years, you know, 12, 13 years later, like it was, yeah, crazy. So, Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (21:25) Two thirty news, huh? So Bill Gasiamis (21:28) It’s not uncommon, very, very common. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (21:30) So tell me something, is it easy for you to have a poker face? Bill Gasiamis (21:34) If the, not in a, not in a situation where I have to talk about something that’s emotional, that’s about me, my experience. And if my family involved, forget about it. can’t stay out kind of the poker face. No way. Yeah. But I can in a poker game when we’re trying to take somebody else’s money. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (21:52) I think same, same. So it’s similar. I can I can cry on animations also. And my son says that he’s crying, you it’s on animation also. It’s a good movie. Good movie story. And that’s you’re done. Bill Gasiamis (21:59) Yeah. Yeah, I used to cry with the cat tripping over or something Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (22:05) Ha ha ha. Bill Gasiamis (22:06) silly, know, crazy stuff. And my wife would be going, what are you crying about now? I don’t know. I’m just crying. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (22:12) Short short. Bill Gasiamis (22:15) And the difficult part is not me. It’s the people around me thinking that I’m sad or thinking that there’s something wrong. And that’s reeducating them so that they know that’s not what’s happening. what’s today today we’re recording on Saturday on Thursday night. I was in Melbourne at Marvel stadium. there was an electronic dance music festival, 60,000 people in a stadium for a DJ. It Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (22:39) wow. Bill Gasiamis (22:39) was a most amazing electronic dance laser show. It was sensational. Now my wife didn’t see because it was too dark and she was focusing on the show, but you know, I had about three or four moments where I cried. But it wasn’t big cries, it was just tears and excitement and something else happening that made me cry. And I was moved by the fact that I was A, at the event, B, it was such an amazing event that all the people there were having a great time. Like, it was moving rather than sad or upsetting or, Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (23:14) I understand. Bill Gasiamis (23:16) and telling, kind of trying to bring people into understanding that that’s what’s happening. That was the hard part because you know, we’re from a Greek family. They see you cry. Everything’s terrible. Everything’s bad. You know, they don’t know. They don’t know how to deal with it. You know, so you’ve got to reeducate people. That was the hardest part of that experience for me. That’s all it was. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (23:37) No, because I keep thinking that since I was always in sales and I enjoyed my sales, I don’t know if that’s gonna settle down ever with me, my emotions. Bill Gasiamis (23:47) will, it will settle down and then sometimes it will just come out of nowhere and you won’t, you wouldn’t have expected it. Yeah. It changes for a lot of people. remember interviewing one gentleman. can’t remember his name now. And on the, on his wedding day, he told me that he was almost dehydrated from crying so much, you know, and he needed to continue, continue his fluids so that he doesn’t dehydrate. It was. We laughed about it like you and I are laughing. Cause that’s he’s got to that stage where it’s like, wow, you know, it is what it is. Like no big deal. He was totally moved by the fact that he was a alive, able to be at the wedding, get married to the person that he loved. and then, and then later on they had a kid and it was down all downhill again from there, you know, more tears, more crazy stuff. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (24:33) Yeah. Bill Gasiamis (24:34) It’s, it’s, it’s involuntary. And I think it’s actually very helpful for me. It’s helpful to just get it out. Like what your mate said, you know, just go into the corner and have a cry, get it out, and this whole thing, you know, our culture is the same and many cultures are the same. It’s like, you know, the men are not supposed to show emotion. You’re supposed to toughen up, you know, be stronger for everybody else. And nobody checks in with you to say, you know, okay, how are you doing now? That’s That’s just how it is. Many cultures are like that. So who’s Hannah? Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (25:05) So Hannah was my first physio who was, you know, it’s it was quite moving for me from that perspective as well. Because I I always thank and thank my stars that I got unwell in Australia. Because there are so many systems here which help younger people like NDIS and got all kinds of help. And and the medical is top-notch. The medicine is top-notch. The first day that I remember they took me to the physio room. I had this pretty girl. I c we couldn’t see them because you know it was post COVID so everybody was still using masks. But I could just see the eyes. And she was so beautiful. So she sat on the floor and she was moving my foot. So it was quite moving for me, even now. Sorry for that. Bill Gasiamis (25:41) Yeah. Yeah. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (25:42) So that was Hannah. Initially, my book was supposed to be called Walking with Hannah. So, but one of my advisors told me that look, if the book becomes really popular, then she is gonna benefit more. Change the name, man. Change it. And there are different privacy laws in Australia. So just to make sure that you are around the privacy laws, don’t put anybody’s name on it. Bill Gasiamis (26:03) Like you’re on the ground. She’s moving your leg or your foot and she makes you a promise that you would walk again. Now that’s a pretty big deal to hear that from somebody who’s in the rehabilitation space trying to help you to recover. And I think at the same time, that’s kind of when you had the realization that you should write a book. how did that come about? What was the, why did that carry so much weight that situation? The Promise of Recovery and Writing a Book Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (26:33) Should I be ready with our tissues? Have you had people who really, really break down badly on a show? Is it okay? Bill Gasiamis (26:39) Yeah, yeah, yeah. yeah, it’s okay. And yes, they have. Yeah. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (26:43) So I think in that situation For me, only that one promise coming from a physio was a big deal. I wanted to share with my friends, I wanted to share with my clients. I’ve got a lot of good people in my book, and vice versa. So I I wanted to share with all of them what I’m going through. So I was constantly taking pictures, recording voice notes. I was not so good at typing because you know I just had gone from two hands to one hand. So I just couldn’t type. So I was I was doing a lot of voice to text notes, I was writing notes, I was taking pictures, I was taking videos. We are very audiovisual. I am very audiovisual rather. So I was really doing a lot. And then I also have a habit of listening to audiobooks. And I was doing prayers and I was listening to audiobooks. I don’t even remember what book I was listening to. maybe I think it was Andrea Gossi the one. I was listening to that one. Moving story. Good story. So I thought, hey, why why don’t why can’t I convert all this what I’m writing into a book? So and I had ample time. So I thought Bill Gasiamis (27:41) Yeah. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (27:42) I was like, yeah, let’s do it. It was not it was not a business model. It was not Bill Gasiamis (27:45) Yeah. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (27:45) something which will actually make money. There was no thought around it. I just Bill Gasiamis (27:48) Yeah. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (27:48) wanted to write a book. I was just emotionally wanted to write a book. I was just compulsive. I wanted to write a book. That’s it. Done. Yep, yep, yep. Bill Gasiamis (27:55) I love it. I know that I know that feeling like same same here when I wrote the first book, Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (28:01) Yes go. Bill Gasiamis (28:01) the unexpected way this joke became the best thing that happened. It was like, I’ve learned all of this stuff. And I kind of don’t want to forget it. I want to have it in one space. I want to capture the moment as well. Like it’s like a time in history, a snapshot Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (28:14) Yeah, yeah. Bill Gasiamis (28:14) of history, you know, that book. And if I can just put everything in a book, then I could well, I could have a book, but then if people want to buy it and it helps them. then that would be a bonus. So it was the idea was about that. And then, of course, when you have a book, you may as well have the best book, and you may as well sell as many copies as possible. Well, what’s the point of having a book otherwise, you know, you want to make sure that it gets sold. So I really relate to what you’re saying about that. My book idea came in hospital as well. So no, the podcast came in hospital as well. I was getting wheeled transferred from the Royal Melbourne. to Parkville and I was waiting in the transit lounge and that is when I had the idea to start the podcast, but I was never going to do it. I don’t think I was going to do it. A friend of mine put the idea in my head later on again. And because of that, the podcast emerged. I had the idea, he reinforced it. And then I went ahead and did it. And the book again was an idea from another friend. You’ve learned all this stuff, know, you know, how, are you going to do with it? You how are you going to… tell other people about it. The podcast was one way and then the book was another way. And of course, then it’s not just about me, it’s about other people as well. Now, if I understood correctly, are you from the religion, the Sikh religion? Did you seek right? Cultural Identity and Personal Beliefs Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (29:37) Yes, I’ve yep, yep. Bill Gasiamis (29:40) And in the religion turban is quite important. How was that? How is dealing with that situation where your left side doesn’t work and the use or the need to have a turban on your head, do you kind of deal with that? Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (29:57) So I’ve been through times in my life when I was without a turban for a couple of months because I had a ac I had a small unfortunate accident with my Jeep. So I had to cut off a little bit of hair, so I just didn’t bother p going back to the turban initially. So and and I was I’m not very religious, religious. So And I was very proud of my turban because people used to tell me that your turban looks fantastic, man. You’re the best looking Sikh we’ve we’ve seen around, you know. So I was quite proud of it. And I was I used to feel on top of the world with my turban. So every every trip of mine, every travel of mine, I had to pack a couple of turbans and and I’m I think I am O C D. So I used to match it with my shirt. Sometimes I used to match it with my ties. It should should be the same color. Sometimes I’ll match it with my jeans. So you know it was it was quite a task. Every time I’m traveling. But I loved it. Having said that, I decided that my son is not gonna be a turbanator. I called myself a turbanator because of the same reason. I said that’s one thing less to take care of. It’s not that I don’t w want him to be a Sikh. He he realizes he’s a Sikh. He’s a good Sikh. He does what I do in the Sikh Sikh temple as well, which is serve. But from a religious perspective, he’s okay. He you don’t have to have a turban on your head to be that religion. You know, you can be a good person from that religion perspective also. So I was very proud of it and not being able to do it initially was a big blow to my ego or my you know image in my own brain. I lost I lost my identity, I I thought, and and my my prayer consisted of that that you know I hope I can go back to tying a turban. Even you can see I still don’t dye a turban. A lot of my friends tell me that I look good like this. The man bun suits me. But you know, I’m like, okay, go with the flow. Well, let’s see, let’s see. Bill Gasiamis (31:37) Yeah. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (31:38) Yep, yep, yep. Bill Gasiamis (31:39) so it’s challenging for people, right? Like if somebody is wearing a turban for their entire lives, then they have a stroke and then they can wear a turban because they can’t tie a turban. Then you can understand why that would be impactful in another way, you know, to their identity, to, their beliefs, to all the things that are associated to a turban. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (32:00) You know, it was it was more like a shame. It was more like Bill Gasiamis (32:03) Uh-huh. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (32:03) a shame of an uncovered head, nothing on the Bill Gasiamis (32:06) Uh-huh. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (32:06) head. Because whenever my father would get up in the morning, he’ll make sure that he just wraps around a cloth around his head. When I would whenever I would get up in the morning, I’ll put something on my head, then I’ll go out. So, you know, we had a smaller version, we had a bigger version, which was a formal more formal thing. So we were always used to having something on the head. So it’s what which was more shame shameful, you know? Yep, yep, yep. Bill Gasiamis (32:25) Yeah. Is it personal shame or is it or back in the day was a shame within the community from other people? Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (32:33) I think we were we were brought up both ways. So personal shame number one, and a lot of times when we had gone to temples with a cap on my head, for example, some elder would come up to me and they were this is a very conservative community also in those times. You know, they would tell Why you wearing a cap? Just take it off. If you like wearing a cap, you can just cut your hair. Or if you know, Sikhs and smoking don’t go together. So it’s not that the religion says that you can’t smoke. Since they are warriors, they’re supposed to be a warrior race. It was just said that you don’t do any kind of bad thing to your body, just take care of yourself, be healthy. So if if if someone saw a Sikh smoking in public, they will definitely go up to them and tell them that if you are a Sikh, why you smoking, man? You should cut your hair. Just take it easy. So things like Bill Gasiamis (33:10) Uh-huh. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (33:10) that. It was a very conservative society and it was a taboo. Smoking was a taboo, for example. So that’s how we grew up. So that’s the turban part. But I was I was more more spiritual and I was just more Personally ashamed of not being able to do it. Bill Gasiamis (33:23) Yeah. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (33:24) But I think it’s it’s it’s worked well. So I’m I’m kind of in a in a gray area now. You know, I’ve come back to hair. So I I will I will I’m open to tying it again. I want to do it, but I’m not rushing it. I know it’ll Bill Gasiamis (33:34) Yeah. Yeah. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (33:36) happen. It’ll happen one day, 100%. But I’m not Bill Gasiamis (33:38) Yeah. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (33:39) too eager. Yep, yep. Bill Gasiamis (33:40) a lot of stroke survivors get tattoos. Did you get a few? Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (33:43) yes. This one for example And it’s got my son’s name here. is it? It’s here. That’s Raj, Raj, yeah, that’s his name. So Bill Gasiamis (33:55) Uh-huh. Is that the impact that arm that, the arm that was impacted by the stroke? Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (34:00) It’s it’s very funny you asked that because you know we were not very pro tattoo. I mean, to to risk due respect to everybody who’s got a tattoo. It’s not it’s nothing negative. But we we were not very inclined to color our bodies in any r any way, right? When we grew up. So, but but there’s a friend of mine who was visiting me in hospital. He had a few, and he was in New Zealand for a long time. So he was he had that Kiwi influence, he had a Kiwi wife. my first nurse who sat with me and she told me that, you know, you’ll be fine. And she held my hand. So she had a few. So maybe that had my had an effect. And then my brother in law said, he said, just don’t worry, man. When he’s when he saw me upset, he just told me, he You don’t have to be upset, you’re alive. Just just get okay, get a few tattoos, just travel around the world, do that. So, you know, that was that’s just got stuck in me. That okay, I want to do this. So I did it. Got it done. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Bill Gasiamis (34:52) Was it like also, I Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (34:54) Mm. Bill Gasiamis (34:54) think you mentioned in your book, it was like a bit of a protection. Is this some, is was a way to change the conversation? what other role did it serve? Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (35:03) So, you know, at that point I got it done specifically at that point because of the same reason. So I wanted to get it done, but I didn’t know when. So I just thought of it. I remember one day I was walking past someone and he was coming to that table and he sat down and people asked him about his tattoo, which is that which he had on his leg. So I was like, hey. So people are just noticing that. He’s such a gorgeous looking guy, man. He’s well dressed and look at his specks, what he’s wearing. Look at the car, he’s come in. So he was quite polished. So and still he had tattoos. So the it broke the s the usual stereotype, you know? Everything that’s stereotypical. So I thought, yeah, I think this is the right time for me if I want to do it, because people will not notice my little limp. Because I was still limping and I was in a bad way for for at least a year. I was quite negative in my mind. I mean, and especially when I was 120 kilos, I don’t know what to do about do about it because I could not exercise, I could not cycle. Just didn’t know what to do about it. And I could not fast at that time because I I was having so many medicines morning and evening. So it it would call a cause acidity. So I was quite negative end of the spectrum. But that’s the time when I realized when I then I thought that I don’t care about anybody else. I am just doing this, man. So I looked up a few people and this lovely girl who used to come to drive for me, she took me around we were in Perth at that time. So she took me around my house and we went we visited a few places and then there was this lovely gentleman who was coming to Perth and he was apparently from Melbourne. So that was my turning point. So this happened in December. I booked him for for my appointment for for my tattoo in Perth. But then he told me that he he said, look, if you want to move back, if you are moving back eventually, because I had that in my mind. I wanted to move back. So he said if you’re moving back, I’m based out of Melbourne, just come to me there. So that’s when it happened. That was my new year gift to myself. And everybody was so, you know, amazed with my the the thing which I had done on one leg. And they were like, Wow, that’s a good one. Man, where do you do it? I was like, there’s a special guy who does this. So I was just end up talking of that and not of anything else. I was so happy. I think, Bill Gasiamis (37:00) I love it. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (37:00) yeah, that helped that helped in my recovery for sure. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. Relocation and Its Challenges Bill Gasiamis (37:02) Great distraction, great distraction. Yeah. That’s a great idea. So one of the things my wife says to me every so often, she says, we should go live in a different location for a little bit, know, try the beach or whatever. And I’m thinking, well, you know, that sounds like a great idea. But in my immediately in my mind and in my body, I tense up and I just find that thinking about moving. emptying a house, filling another house, doing all that stuff just fills me with like dread. And I don’t know why it’s her idea is a great idea, but I just feel kind of comfortable or whatever. But I wouldn’t think of moving. You moved your family back to Perth. And what was that like? Because. I can’t imagine leaving Melbourne and going to Perth and packing up the whole family, the whole house and all that kind of stuff and doing that. Not because I can’t do them. I can’t live in another location because I can’t do all the work that comes with that before and all the work after. It feels like it’s going to take up way too much of my attention, time, energy. What was the move like for you? Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (38:10) So imagine if you can say that ten, fifteen years into your stroke after recovering so much. So for for even that far recovery is difficult for them. So doing it one year into the stroke, or I would say one month into the stroke and moving everybody lock, stock, and barrel. I think that was the silliest idea I had. But my family supported me and we did it together and we did it. But it was pretty lonely for me. I was pretty lonely. We had no friends, we had no support system there. Although we were in a very good place, we were very central as compared to the country here. Because we were st always struggling to get physios in, OTs in. So it was, you know, a constant struggle. So over there we were central, so everything was okay, we’ll do this. It was just bang on. And I spent a good time just learning I mean, getting myself stronger, walking every day in the morning. So that was the positive. But I was quite negative, in here. Physically I was positive, but mentally I was quite I was a goner. Bill Gasiamis (39:03) Isolated, Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (39:03) But Bill Gasiamis (39:04) you isolated yourself Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (39:06) Yep, yep, yep. Bill Gasiamis (39:07) unwittingly. Like you didn’t expect that that would happen. Is it just something that happened later? You, realized later. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (39:14) And plus, you know, I my my job, I my job questioned me that why should we not terminate your thing? Because we don’t have much in Perth. So if even if you become okay, why should we not Not let you come back. I mean, so we had the discussion and they almost fired me, but they were happy to take me back when I was back in Melbourne, but they still let go of me. So I don’t know where what happened. I don’t have a job. Bill Gasiamis (39:36) Yeah. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (39:36) So yep. So I think that was a very silly decision. But that whole year I spent like that in December, I moved for my son’s holidays to my sister’s house in Melbourne. She’s also in Melbourne, and we were there for about two months. she’s in the Bay side. So after spending that quality time with family and people who were familiar, I had friends visiting me, I had people visiting me, I had so many doctors, I had these doctors’ support system from RMH. supportive stride strides workshop, which was happening, things like that. So it was it just helped me recover. And I thought that this is it, man, that this is what I should do. And and then I was, you know, I was still talking to my psychologist over the phone, and she in the book by mistake, I I just wrote a he. I think I missed the S because of this bloody autocorrect. She told me that look, you need to wear your seat your life jacket first. You know, that was one statement. Ha ha. made me calculate and rethink. So that’s when we decided, okay, let’s come back. So twice, twice in here. Yep, Bill Gasiamis (40:38) Well then. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (40:39) yep, yep. Bill Gasiamis (40:40) You need to wear your life jacket first. That’s Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (40:42) Yep, yep, yep. Bill Gasiamis (40:44) such an amazing statement. And also, it’s really important for caregivers to remember that that they need to wear their own life jacket first. Because caregivers go through this with their loved ones, whoever they’re caring for that had a stroke, and they put themselves second. And then they suffer, they suffer because they haven’t got time to themselves because they get on well. And often with people who are very kind of motivated to help their loved one. Often they end up becoming sick and passing away before the stroke survivor. So everyone needs to put on their life raft, their own life jacket first. Once they’re stable and everything is okay, then they need to assess what they can do for the other person. I love that. Such a profound statement. I can see why it moved you so much. Often stroke survivors also complain, not complain, but they mention when somebody says, just think positively. what was it like for you to hear that? Just think positively Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (41:43) Okay. The Importance of Caregiver Self-Care Bill Gasiamis (41:44) statement. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (41:44) I think my an analyzing people was out of the window. I was not analyz analysing anyone. I’m I’m not even judgmental as a person. So I don’t easily judge. I trust people at the first instance. Sorry. So it was quite common to hear that all the time. And I wouldn’t even tell anybody that I’ve had a stroke. I wouldn’t tell them. I will just talk to them. I will try to hide my walk. I don’t know, I was a little shameful. I don’t know why. For example, I’m reskilling to be an allied health assistant at the moment in Boxhill Institute. So it took me about six months before I disclosed to my class that, you know, I walk funny sometimes because of my stroke. Because I just didn’t want to tell anybody. I was a little apprehensive. And when I warmed up when everybody got to know me and I was I’m like probably the friendliest in the class. So everybody likes me. So then I told everybody, they’re friends. I said this is this is what has happened, that’s my book. Please read it. See if it helps someone. And I don’t know if this book is gonna actually help someone or not. I don’t know if there’s no scientific information in that. There’s no medical information. But what is gonna help in that book, I’m not sure. But the idea was just if even it can help one person. Bill Gasiamis (42:46) Yeah, that’s the thing. That’s interesting. I put podcast episodes out all the time. I I’ve got no idea which part will help, but somebody will reach out and they’ll pick an obscure part of the podcast episode. I’ll say that really helped me hearing that really helped me. And I was like, okay. Cool. We’ve, we’ve, we’ve achieved our outcome. It helped you. I’m happy that it helped you. And because everyone is in a different position and they’re looking for different types of information and you know, what’s, the timeline that they’re in in their recovery, whether it’s emotional, mental or physical is unique to them. So that one word might be overlooked by you and me, but then somebody else goes, that’s just the word I needed to hear. And that’s why 400 episodes of the podcast are really good because there’s something in at least one of those episodes for everybody, you know, so it will, it will help. It will make it so that people maybe even if they just realized that they can write a book, maybe if they realize that they could just share their story, that’s all, that’s good enough. Adjusting to a New Normal So, how about this whole new normal statement? Now some people are told that they have to adjust to their new normal. And I kind of, I see why people say that it helps with acceptance in some situations when you have to let go of how you went about the past, how you did your life previously. when you were more physically able-bodied or more cognitively able. So how did you handle the new normal comment statement? Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (44:20) I obviously didn’t like it initially. But then, you know, the whole religious part and how we’ve been brought up, it’s with a lot of acceptance. So which is, I think, important for a child sitting next to someone who’s a nobody, or for a child who’s sitting next to someone who’s super duper rich. Maybe he’s a prime minister of the country, but they are sitting on the same level and having food, for example, on the floor. Someone who’s sitting next to you who’s who cleans houses on the floor. They’re humans. So I think that probably got me ready for the acceptance. I mean, that that primed me for the level of expect acceptance we had. I had to work less towards accepting things. and yeah, for example, I can’t run at the moment. But then what I say to people about that, that it’s overrated, I don’t care. You know, for example, so that’s it. That’s my acceptance. That’s what I do. Make a joke of it, man. That’s it. You can’t do it, you can’t do it. What do you do? Bill Gasiamis (45:11) Dude, it is overrated. That’s the I’m going to use that now as well. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (45:16) Yep, yep, yep. Bill Gasiamis (45:18) In a couple of weeks, I’m going to go and spend some time away with a friend of mine. I’ve got a really amazing friend. We grew up together. He used to work at the Royal Melbourne hospital when I was there. He was a radiographer and he would come and see me when I was admitted. He would do my scans. Amazing. Like I’ve known this guy my entire life since I was about four years old. And we’re going to go and spend eight days just away from the whole family, the wives, everybody. We’re just going to go to Hawaii for a little bit. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (45:46) Are you going running? Bill Gasiamis (45:46) He said to me, I wake up in the morning and I go for a run. I said, fantastic. I’m going to wake up in the morning and go for a walk. You go for a run. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (45:52) Yeah. Bill Gasiamis (45:53) I’m not running. I can’t run. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (45:55) You can run either, huh? Yep, yep. Bill Gasiamis (45:56) Not anymore. No. My left leg, my left leg goes down a little bit differently from my right leg. And because I have proprioception issues and the feeling is not correct, I never know when it’s exactly in the right position. And I risk injuring my knee because sometimes I can overextend, hyper extend. And, and Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (46:15) Yep, yep, yep, yep. I know exactly what he’s saying, yep, yep. Bill Gasiamis (46:17) I’m really concerned. And also my ankle, I’m not comfortable with my the foot going down and my ankle being solid. So I don’t want to run. I can run across the road to make sure that I’m safe and there’s no car coming too fast or injuring me, but I’m not running two kilometers or a marathon or anything like that. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar (46:37) I think walking is better. Yep, yep, yep. Bill Gasiamis (46:38) Yeah, I have to think about it too much as well. And it makes it more fatiguing, more exhausting. Ramandeep (bobby) chaggar

Singer-songwriter Sally Jaye joins Jamie on Jrodconcerts: The Podcast for an intimate, vulnerable look into the seasons of turbulence and triumph behind her album, You'll Be Okay, Baby. Tracked at the legendary Capricorn Sound Studios in Macon, Georgia, with acclaimed songwriter-artist Brent Cobb producing—alongside contributions from Nashville bassist/producer Ted Pecchio—the record channels Georgia's rich sonic soil into an honest, warm embrace. Sally dives into the spiritual weight of working among Capricorn's historic ghosts, reconnecting with her home state, and crafting songs that balance world-weary acceptance with unabashed joy. Across the conversation, Sally reflects on the defining milestones of her artistic life: unlearning the rigid technical boundaries of the Cincinnati Conservatory of Music, navigating the storied Los Angeles Hotel Café scene, co-writing the end-credits song for the film If Only and playing it in a room for Jennifer Love Hewitt, the backstage wisdom passed down by Judy Collins during the filming of the TV series Christy, and the gritty realities of owning independent label Café Rooster Records. Topics Discussed: Pitching and playing the If Only end-credits song for Jennifer Love Hewitt and the director The surreal shift of seeing your original music featured on screens worldwide Acting as "Bessie" in the television series Christy and sharing the set with Judy Collins Enduring career and personal advice delivered by Judy Collins during filming The vulnerable origin of You'll Be Okay, Baby and soothing yourself after personal upheaval Tracking at Macon's historic Capricorn Sound Studios with Brent Cobb at the helm Channeling deep Southern grooves and falling back in love with Georgia Dissecting "Lovin' And Losin'": writing to heal versus documenting raw heartbreak Capturing humor, swagger, and romantic levity on "Making Pretty Babies" Breaking away from classical vocal rules to find an authentic, intuitive songwriting voice The highs, lows, and business lessons of launching and running Café Rooster Records The perspective and acceptance running through "Win Some, Lose Some" Connect with Sally Jaye: Website: https://www.sallyjaye.org Instagram: https://instagram.com/sallyjaye Connect with Jrodconcerts Media: Website: jrodconcertsmedia.com Instagram: @jrodconcertsmedia Support The Show: DoorDash: When life gets crazy, DoorDash helps bring some order to it. Order Now. https://www.doordash.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In recognition of the National Day for Truth and Reconciliation, we are revisiting an episode from the DCO Discourse archives featuring Caitlin Plant and Melissa Ireland. Melissa is an Indigenous holistic social work professional with a passion for inclusion and education, wellness, and connection to community and culture. In this episode, Caitlin and Melissa discuss relationships, learning and unlearning, and what it means to be a better ally to First Nations, Inuit, and Métis peoples. This conversation was originally released in 2022 as part of a series discussing Truth and Reconciliation. Through four conversations with Indigenous community members and service providers, the series explored Truth and Reconciliation, the experiences of First Nations, Inuit, and Métis peoples in Canada, and how we can work toward stronger relationships and communities. Throughout the series, guests also shared resources, media, and community initiatives for those interested in continuing their learning and unlearning. DCO updated this collection in 2023 with additional recommendations from community partners, podcast guests, and DCO staff. You can explore the full National Day for Truth and Reconciliation Resource List here. To connect with support related to this episode, or for anything else going on in your life, please visit www.dcontario.org/locations to find your nearest Member Centre. Many of our Member Centres operate 24/7. Thank you for listening and we hope you'll join us again next time. If you would like to provide feedback on this episode, past episodes, or request future content, you can do so using the following link: https://forms.gle/o8yUPMss6wo8dP1X8.

The Wonderful World of Wine (WWW) Episode 325 Hosts Kim Simone and Mark Lenzi exploring all things wine with you! Adapting, Judging, and Unlearning Wine with Joe Roberts In this episode of The Wonderful World of Wine (WWW), hosts Kim and Mark sit down for an engaging conversation with Joe Roberts, the creative force behind the long-running, award-winning blog 1WineDude. Joe is also the author of three fantastic books: Wine Taster's Guide: Drink and Learn with 30 Wine Tastings, How to Win at Wine, and Unlearning Wine. Joe shares the story of his background and reflects on how his blog has adapted over the years to stay relevant in an ever-changing wine landscape. We dive into the meaning behind his unique motto and explore the fun, creative reasons behind his famous wine badge rating system. Whether you are a novice or a seasoned enthusiast, Joe explains why it is incredibly important to learn exactly what you like in the wine world—and, more importantly, how to actually put that knowledge to practical use. We also chat about the wine shop experience, exploring why different retail environments offer such vastly distinct buying experiences. Finally, Joe pulls back the curtain on what is currently annoying him in the wine industry, defines what "cheap wine" really means, and gives us a fascinating inside look at what is truly involved in professional wine judging. Tune in for a fun, educational, and candid episode! Visit The Wonderful World of Wine: www.thewww.wine Connect with Joe Roberts: www.1winedude.com Cheers, Kim and Mark

Yi Lin Pei is 3x PMM leader turned coach, advisor, and founder of Courageous Careers where she's helped 400+ product marketers navigate their career. We discuss:Product ships on a weekly basis. At the same time, marketers can pump out endless content. But the customer's ability to absorb product change doesn't work like that. How to navigate this disconnect and why your checklist launches don't work anymore.Here's the LinkedIn post we mention that talks about the GTM Launch Canvas: https://www.linkedin.com/posts/yilinpei_productmarketing-productmanagement-launch-share-7429939301456703488-9Giz/Jump in:03:06 Traveling to Scotland07:15 Checklist launches and their pitfalls11:11 Reevaluating launch strategies with first principles thinking12:32 Implementing phased product launches and public beta testing15:28 The value of building in public and transparent launches17:12 The GTM Launch Canvas19:12 The book 'Loved' and its influence20:03 The effectiveness of a one-page go-to-market canvas23:00 Unlearning cookie-cutter launch templates24:37 First principles thinking in product marketing27:55 Aligning messaging themes with customer and market needs30:33 Innovative marketing tactics like physical events and street campaigns32:21 The importance of brand and storytelling in B2B launches33:11 Building a product marketing team: vision, structure, and traits36:06 The evolving role of the "superPMM" and future skills40:25 The importance of strategic thinking and mini GMs in marketing44:38 Using insights from business analysis to drive product success46:24 The real role of product marketing in business strategySubscribe to Building With Buyers on Apple or Spotify or wherever you like to listen, and don't forget to leave a review if you're lovin' the show.Yi Lin on LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠www.linkedin.com/in/yilinpeiYi Lin's newsletter: www.courageous-careers.com/newsletterAnna on LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠linkedin.com/in/annafurmanov⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠furmanovmarketing.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Newsletter: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠One Insight⁠⁠⁠

SummaryRobert Bolden shares his personal journey of spiritual transformation, emphasizing the importance of daily engagement with the Word and the Holy Spirit's guidance. He discusses the contrast between living by the flesh and the spirit, and how faith in Jesus offers eternal life, Joy and peace.Keywordsspiritual growth, faith, Holy Spirit, Bible, Jesus, transformation, daily devotion, Christian life, peace, eternal life, love one anotherKey TopicsThe importance of daily engagement with the BibleThe contrast between living by the flesh and the spiritThe role of the Holy Spirit in personal transformationFaith in Jesus as the only way to GodThe significance of remaining in Jesus and the WordThose who choose to follow Jesus Love one anotherThe devil has those who do evil and have the charachter of the worldTakeawaysThe power of being in the Word every day to transform your lifeLiving by the Spirit brings life and peace, unlike living by the fleshFaith in Jesus offers eternal life and true peaceThe Holy Spirit teaches us all things and remains within usRemaining in Jesus and the Word is essential for living life to the fullSound Bites"The word does the transforming, not people""Living by the Spirit brings life and peace""There is only one way to God, through Jesus"Chapters00:00 Introduction and Personal Spiritual Journey02:30 The Power of Daily Engagement with the Word04:04 Living by the Flesh vs. Living by the Spirit05:10 The Significance of Faith in Jesus06:52 The Holy Spirit's Role in Guidance and Teaching08:46 The Bible as a Guide and Confirmation11:05 Remaining in Jesus and the Word 12:46 Money, Idols, and Worldly Influences14:11 Unlearning the Flesh and Relearning the Spirit15:07 Closing Remarks and Invitation to ConnectReady to become part of the community? https://lifetransformed.podia.com/message us and we will give you free access.Merchhttps://www.bonfire.com/store/lifetransformed/Schedule a serve call ⁠https://www.picktime.com/LifeTransformed⁠Instagram ⁠https://www.instagram.com/bbolden18?igsh=cnlvdjQ5eGJwZTM%3D&utm_source=qr⁠https://www.instagram.com/bbolden18?igsh=cnlvdjQ5eGJwZTM%3D&utm_source=qrYouTube⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCx6sszulCUrjodEyThd-rBw⁠Podcasts Join me live from Odd's Cafe here in Asheville…  message me for the exact time.  ⁠https://www.oddscafe.com/⁠Email: robertbolden@thisworldfreedom.com

What if becoming better educated isn't always about learning more, but about unlearning some of what we already believe?Most parents today did not grow up with classical Christian education. We bring our own experiences of school with us, along with assumptions about grades, success, learning, authority, and what education is supposed to accomplish. Often, we don't even realize those assumptions are there.In this episode of BaseCamp Live, Davies Owens talks with educator, author, and consultant Christine Norvell about the surprising importance of unlearning. Drawing on more than 25 years in classical, homeschool, and public education, Christine explores how parents and teachers can recognize inherited habits of thought and begin replacing them with something deeper and more intentional.Along the way, Mark Twain raises the uncomfortable question of where our opinions actually come from, while C.S. Lewis and his famously demanding tutor, “the Great Knock,” offer a picture of what it looks like to have our thinking challenged and rebuilt. The conversation also gets intensely practical. What happens when students are given time to think before answering? How can parents respond to an argumentative child without simply shutting down the conversation? And how do we help young people move beyond reacting with opinions toward thoughtful discernment?Join us as we discuss moving forward in education while recognizing what we need to leave behind.Special Thanks to our partners who make BaseCamp Live possible:Wisdom and EloquenceThe Herzog FoundationZipCastLife ArchitectsWisephone by Techless Stay tuned for more enlightening discussions on classical Christian education, and join us next time on BaseCamp Live! Remember to subscribe, leave us a review, and reach out to us at info@basecamplive.comDon't forget to visit basecamplive.com for more info and past episodes.

summary In this episode, Jayla and Shaye explore personal growth, community building, and the power of mindset. They share insights from their recent experiences, upcoming events, and the importance of surrounding yourself with supportive people.  keywords personal growth, community, mindset, Oglebay Fest, studio opening, self-programming, empowerment  key  topics Making friends through walking and shared activities Planning and experiencing Oglebee Fest in Wheeling Starting a new fitness studio and building community Understanding brain waves and self-programming from childhood to adulthood The importance of surrounding yourself with supportive, entrepreneurial people  takeaways Walking is a simple yet powerful way to make friends and build community. Planning events like Oglebee Fest creates tradition and anticipation. Surrounding yourself with supportive people accelerates growth and success. Understanding brain wave states can help reprogram negative beliefs. Taking small, consistent actions leads to big progress in business and personal life.  sound bites "Stop asking yourself why, start asking why not." "Walking around is my new way to make friends." "Surround yourself with people who lift you up." Chapters 00:00 Introduction and podcast origins 01:50 Sharing memories of COVID-19 era and wine 04:07 Discussing Oglebee Fest and community traditions 05:54 Planning a cabin trip and family activities 07:50 Making friends in your forties through walking 09:18 Promoting the Broadway Sang Along event 11:09 Updates on opening a new fitness studio 13:52 Supportive community and mentorship in business 17:07 Reprogramming the brain and subconscious beliefs 19:55 Reflections on societal programming and beliefs

SummaryRobert Bolden shares his personal journey of spiritual transformation, emphasizing the importance of daily engagement with the Word and the Holy Spirit's guidance. He discusses the contrast between living by the flesh and the spirit, and how faith in Jesus offers eternal life and peace.Key TopicsThe importance of daily engagement with the BibleThe contrast between living by the flesh and the spiritThe role of the Holy Spirit in personal transformationFaith in Jesus as the only way to GodThe significance of remaining in Jesus and the WordTakeawaysThe power of being in the Word every day to transform your lifeLiving by the Spirit brings life and peace, unlike living by the fleshFaith in Jesus offers eternal life and true peaceThe Holy Spirit teaches us all things and remains within usRemaining in Jesus and the Word is essential for spiritual growthSound Bites"The word does the transforming, not people""Living by the Spirit brings life and peace""There is only one way to God, through Jesus"Chapters00:00 Introduction and Personal Spiritual Journey02:30 The Power of Daily Engagement with the Word04:04 Living by the Flesh vs. Living by the Spirit05:10 The Significance of Faith in Jesus06:52 The Holy Spirit's Role in Guidance and Teaching08:46 The Bible as a Guide and Confirmation11:05 Remaining in Jesus and the Word for Growth12:46 Money, Idols, and Worldly Influences14:11 Unlearning the Flesh and Relearning the Spirit15:07 Closing Remarks and Invitation to ConnectReady to become part of the community? https://lifetransformed.podia.com/message us and we will give you free access.Merchhttps://www.bonfire.com/store/lifetransformed/Schedule a serve call ⁠https://www.picktime.com/LifeTransformed⁠Instagram ⁠https://www.instagram.com/bbolden18?igsh=cnlvdjQ5eGJwZTM%3D&utm_source=qr⁠https://www.instagram.com/bbolden18?igsh=cnlvdjQ5eGJwZTM%3D&utm_source=qrYouTube⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCx6sszulCUrjodEyThd-rBw⁠Podcasts Join me live from Odd's Cafe here in Asheville…  message me for the exact time.  ⁠https://www.oddscafe.com/⁠Email: robertbolden@thisworldfreedom.com

summary In this episode, Jayla and Shaye explore personal growth, community building, and the power of mindset. They share insights from their recent experiences, upcoming events, and the importance of surrounding yourself with supportive people.  keywords personal growth, community, mindset, Oglebay Fest, studio opening, self-programming, empowerment  key  topics Making friends through walking and shared activities Planning and experiencing Oglebee Fest in Wheeling Starting a new fitness studio and building community Understanding brain waves and self-programming from childhood to adulthood The importance of surrounding yourself with supportive, entrepreneurial people  takeaways Walking is a simple yet powerful way to make friends and build community. Planning events like Oglebee Fest creates tradition and anticipation. Surrounding yourself with supportive people accelerates growth and success. Understanding brain wave states can help reprogram negative beliefs. Taking small, consistent actions leads to big progress in business and personal life.  sound bites "Stop asking yourself why, start asking why not." "Walking around is my new way to make friends." "Surround yourself with people who lift you up." Chapters 00:00 Introduction and podcast origins 01:50 Sharing memories of COVID-19 era and wine 04:07 Discussing Oglebee Fest and community traditions 05:54 Planning a cabin trip and family activities 07:50 Making friends in your forties through walking 09:18 Promoting the Broadway Sang Along event 11:09 Updates on opening a new fitness studio 13:52 Supportive community and mentorship in business 17:07 Reprogramming the brain and subconscious beliefs 19:55 Reflections on societal programming and beliefs

Are you exhausted from constantly chasing the next career milestone without ever feeling truly satisfied? Join us as we explore how to step off the treadmill and shift your focus from endless professional growth to genuine human flourishing.

After 30-plus years of marriage, do Snooks and Lovey still really know each other — or have they become strangers under the same roof? In this raw, funny, and unexpectedly emotional episode, the couple plays "We're Not Really Strangers," a 20-question card game designed to break down the walls that even long-married couples build without realizing it in PART 1 of a two part episode. From fears of failure and success, to the moment Snooks walked across the stage for her master's degree, to the "concentric circle" that defines their marriage — this episode is full of real talk, real laughs, and real vulnerability. They unpack why couples start feeling more like roommates than partners, how personality differences (High D vs. High S/C) can actually strengthen a marriage, and why asking your spouse the same "old" questions in new seasons of life matters more than you think. Whether you've been married 3 years or 30, this episode will challenge you to stop assuming you already know everything about the person you love — and start asking again. In this episode we cover: - The "We're Not Really Strangers" card game — 20 questions, 10 each - Why long-married couples start to feel like roommates instead of partners - Fear of failure vs. fear of success in marriage and life - Snooks' journey back to school and finishing her master's degree - Unlearning a "single mother" mindset inside a marriage - What it means to define love as "surrender" - How opposite personalities (High D and High S/C) complement each other in marriage - Their biggest fears, happiest memories, and hardest-to-understand quirks 

New Series: Becoming a Modern-Day MatriarchSometimes clarity doesn't arrive as an answer. Sometimes it arrives as a recognition: Oh. I think I see what has been taking shape here. I see hints and am beginning to make sense of it all.As A Birth Season comes to a close, Janell reflects on an unexpected realization: two book projects she has been developing for years—Moving Day and Modern-Day Matriarchs—are no longer simply ideas she is writing about. She is living them.In this tender transition episode, she explores what she is being invited to leave behind, what she hopes to carry forward, and how a possible move to Kansas has awakened a deeper calling to become an intentional matriarch for the generations she loves. It's the beginning of a new conversation—and perhaps a new season. Connect with Janell & The Heartlifter Way on SubstackWebsite: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠janellrardon.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@janellrardon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@theheartlifterway⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: Heartlift WellnessRevisit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠"When God Speaks in Metaphors"⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Revisit ⁠⁠⁠"Unlearning with The Waiting Room"⁠⁠⁠Download the "Principles of Discernment" PDF: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Trust What is Taking Shape⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Download the "Discernment Prayer" to use during our Birth Season: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Prayer PDF⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Download ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠"The Three Pots" ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Graphic to use during the meditative exercise.Download ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠"The G.E.N.T.L.E. Path"⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ PDF

Ever questioned whether true magic is something you were born with or something the world conditioned right out of you? Tahverlee challenges the myth that only the “chosen” or innately gifted hold the keys to spiritual power. Step across the veil and discover what happens when you start to remember the capabilities you've had all along, and what it really takes to reclaim your magic in a world designed to keep you small.Here's a sneak peek:Why your magic was never gone, just buried beneath generations of expectations, norms, and conditioning.Untangling the web of beliefs tying down your spiritual gifts, and how “remembering” is the true essence of awakening.The relationship between grounding, daily rituals, and the power of spellcasting; why magic without deep self-connection rarely sticks.Tips for stepping out of the matrix, auditing your beliefs, and building a practice rooted in personal power, ritual, and aligned action.You don't need a special lineage for this journey—just a desire to know yourself and a willingness to engage the mysteries. Start untraining the world out of you and step fully into your craft.***********************************************************************************Continue your magical journey…Walk the High Priestess / High Priest PathJoin Tahverlee inside Moon Temple Mystery School for classes, community, rituals, and deeper teachings on witchcraft, magic, and spiritual awakening.Discover Tahverlee's books and oracle deck at Tahverlee.com.Meet Tahverlee in person at Upcoming EventsReceive Free Resources for your magical awakening. Watch all episodes of The Tahverlee Show on my YouTube channel.Contact: Tahverlee@MoonTempleSchool.comFollow Tahverlee: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tahverlee TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@athena_in_my_bloodTheme Music by Les Konley | Produced by Les Konley

"May all that is unforgiven in youBe released.May your fears yield Their deepest tranquillities.May all that is unlived in you blossom into a futureGraced with love."John O'Donohue, To Bless the Space Between UsWhat if a season can be complete even when the story isn't?In this final episode of “A Birth Season,” we arrive at Day Five of our closing journey: BLESS. After 90 days of listening, noticing, releasing, and learning what is ours to carry forward, we make room for what remains unresolved.Together, we'll practice blessing the unfinished—honoring what has been, receiving what has been born, and trusting God with what is still becoming.Because perhaps discernment doesn't always end with an answer.Sometimes it ends with open hands, a faithful next step, and a blessing.Connect with Janell & The Heartlifter Way on SubstackWebsite: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠janellrardon.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@janellrardon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@theheartlifterway⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: Heartlift WellnessRevisit ⁠⁠⁠⁠"When God Speaks in Metaphors"⁠⁠⁠⁠Revisit ⁠⁠"Unlearning with The Waiting Room"⁠⁠Download the "Principles of Discernment" PDF: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Trust What is Taking Shape⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Download the "Discernment Prayer" to use during our Birth Season: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Prayer PDF⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Download ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠"The Three Pots" ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Graphic to use during the meditative exercise.Download ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠"The G.E.N.T.L.E. Path"⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ PDF

Learning is how we absorb. It's how we develop skills, figure out the world, find our footing. But when do we give any of it back? When do we drop what no longer serves?Unlearn is that step. This episode goes through what got installed before Sanika had a say: the family scripts, the migration story she inherited, the range of anger she was allowed to show. None of it was chosen. All of it got carried.Unlearning is not erasing. It's sorting. Keep the essence. Shake off the dirt. How do you divine unlearn?Send us Fan MailThank you for listening and for adding new dimensions to your definitions. Keep growing, keep exploring, and keep defining life on your terms.Explore the website: howdoyoudivine.comFollow the showInstagram: instagram.com/howdoyoudivineYouTube: youtube.com/@howdoyoudivineFacebook: facebook.com/howdoyoudivineMeet the founder and hostSanika is a founder, inventor, and strategist building at the intersection of culture, media, and technology. How Do You Divine?® is the anchor of HDV Media, a company built on one idea. The words we inherit quietly design the lives we lead.Every episode takes one word and examines it through culture, intellect, emotion, and lived experience. Definitions that were handed to you. Definitions you adopted. Definitions you assumed were just normal.New episode every Sunday.

What if finding our way home has less to do with hurrying toward an address—and more to do with trusting the quiet instincts God has placed within us?In Episode 27, Janell reflects on the box turtle that keeps returning to her Virginia garden and its remarkable homing instinct. As A Birth Season draws toward its close, this little creature becomes a beautiful metaphorical mirror for transition: move slowly, carry home with you, and trust the way forward even when you cannot yet see where you will land.Perhaps home isn't something we have to chase.Perhaps, in its own mysterious way, home is finding us.Connect with Janell & The Heartlifter Way on SubstackWebsite: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠janellrardon.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@janellrardon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@theheartlifterway⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: Heartlift WellnessRevisit ⁠⁠⁠"When God Speaks in Metaphors"⁠⁠⁠Revisit ⁠"Unlearning with The Waiting Room"⁠Download the "Principles of Discernment" PDF: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Trust What is Taking Shape⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Download the "Discernment Prayer" to use during our Birth Season: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Prayer PDF⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Download ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠"The Three Pots" ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Graphic to use during the meditative exercise.Download ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠"The G.E.N.T.L.E. Path"⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ PDF

In this episode of the Passive Mobile Home Park Investing Podcast, Andrew Keel sits down with Jeff Anzalone, founder of Perdido Capital and creator of The Debt Free Doctor, to discuss his journey from practicing dentistry to building a portfolio of approximately 18 mobile home parks with around 1,200 lots. Jeff shares the moment that made him realize being debt-free wasn't the same as being financially free, and how a ski accident ultimately pushed him to rethink his approach to work, investing, and building passive income. He also opens up about some of his early—and costly—lessons as a passive investor, including losing $50,000 on an apartment investment and learning the importance of thoroughly vetting the operator behind a deal. Jeff explains why mobile home parks have become his preferred asset class, including the potential for significant year-one depreciation, the lower management burden associated with tenant-owned homes, and the ability to operate his portfolio remotely. He and Andrew also discuss building passive income, finding the right business partner, the impact of Louisiana's growing data-center industry on local housing demand, and the key things passive investors should look for before investing in a mobile home park deal. Andrew's Bio:  Andrew Keel is the owner of Keel Team, LLC, a Top 100 Owner of Manufactured Housing Communities with over 2,500 lots under management. His team currently manages over 40 manufactured housing communities across more than 10 states. His expertise is in turning around under-managed manufactured housing communities by utilizing proven systems to maximize occupancy while reducing operating costs. He specializes in bringing in homes to fill vacant lots, implementing utility bill back programs, and improving overall management and operating efficiencies, all of which significantly boost the asset value and net operating income of the communities. Check out KeelTeam.com to learn more.   Andrew has been featured on some of the Top Podcasts in the manufactured housing space. Click here to listen to his most recent interviews: https://www.keelteam.com/podcast-links. To successfully implement his management strategy, Andrew's team usually moves on location during the first several months of ownership. Find out more about Andrew's story at AndrewKeel.com.  Are you getting value out of this show? If so, please head over to iTunes and leave the show a quick five-star review. We're aiming for over 500 total 5-star reviews, and it would mean the world to us if you could help us get there. Thanks in advance for making our day with your five-star review of the show.  Would you like to see mobile home park projects in progress? If so, follow us on Instagram: @passivemhpinvesting for photos and awesome videos from our recent mobile home park acquisitions.  Talking Points:  1:18 - The ski accident that changed Jeff's financial perspective  2:22 - Debt-free doesn't necessarily mean financially free  3:00 - Unlearning what he was taught in dental school  4:32 - Jeff's $50,000 investing mistake  7:16 - The lesson that changed how Jeff invests  9:16 - Why mobile home parks stand out for passive investors  10:24 - The “passive income snowball”  12:16 - Are mobile home parks risky or sketchy?   13:34 - Don't believe everything you see on social media  15:41 - How to evaluate an operator's track record  16:53 - What to do with $100,000 before investing  20:08 - How Jeff met his mobile home park partner  20:50 - From five parks to roughly 20  21:55 - The tenant-owned-home strategy  24:13 - The unexpected ben...

Not everything that carried you through one season is meant to come with you into the next.In Episode 26 of The Heartlifter Way, we continue our Five Gentle Conversations from “A Birth Season” by exploring the sacred practice of release. Like the acorn that nourishes the emerging oak until its work is complete, some patterns, expectations, roles, and burdens may have served a purpose—and now be ready to be released.Today, we gently ask:What has completed its work in your life—and what are you ready to leave behind?Because sometimes letting go isn't loss.It's making room for what is becoming.Connect with Janell & The Heartlifter Way on SubstackWebsite: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠janellrardon.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@janellrardon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@theheartlifterway⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: Heartlift WellnessRevisit ⁠⁠"When God Speaks in Metaphors"⁠⁠Revisit "Unlearning with The Waiting Room"Download the "Principles of Discernment" PDF: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Trust What is Taking Shape⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Download the "Discernment Prayer" to use during our Birth Season: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Prayer PDF⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Download ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠"The Three Pots" ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Graphic to use during the meditative exercise.Download ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠"The G.E.N.T.L.E. Path"⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ PDF

How do you go from anchoring primetime news on NDTV to leaving mainstream television, co-founding India's first short-form digital news platform, and bringing old-school editorial rigor to Gen Z — all while fighting algorithms and online polarization?In this episode of TRUST ME I KNOW WHAT I'M DOING, host Dr. Abhay Dandekar sits down with award-winning independent journalist, former NDTV primetime anchor, and PEEK TV Co-Founder Priyanshi Sharma. Priyanshi shares her journey from mainstream television newsrooms to corporate business school at ISB, and her decision to build a new media model focused on unbiased, unsensational, fact-based reporting for global digital audiences.Priyanshi also breaks down her philosophy on why "every generation deserves old-school journalism," how the definition of the "informed Indian youth" shifted from apolitical to deeply engaged, why the boundaries between journalism, activism, and social media influencers must remain distinct, and how PEEK TV is detoxing online discourse to keep the global Indian diaspora connected to true ground realities.If you enjoy deep conversations on journalism, digital media, Indian democracy, technology, and identity across the global South Asian community, please LIKE, SHARE, and SUBSCRIBE!--------------------------CHAPTERS / TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - Introductions and welcoming Priyanshi03:43 - The Journalist's Detox & Managing 24/7 News FOMO09:54 - The Informed Indian Youth: From Apolitical to Deeply Engaged15:15 - Delusion vs. Hope: How Youth Protests Re-Energized Indian Citizenship18:28 - Sponsor Break: TRAVELOPOD20:28 - Journalism vs. Activism & Influencers: Why Credibility Matters24:31 - Building PEEK TV: Short-Form Digital News Beyond Mainstream TV28:13 - Sponsor Break: Lotus Lane Coffee & Timberdog Ruffrest29:28 - Storytelling, Misinformation & "Detoxing the Discourse"37:52 - Algorithmic Polarization & Unlearning the "TV Anchor Tone"45:03 - Connecting the Global Indian Diaspora to Ground Realities48:01 - Hope, Dissent, and the Future of Independent Indian Media52:29 - Outro & Diaspora Community Shoutouts--------------------------EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS & KEY TAKEAWAYS:• Old-School Journalism in Short-Form: How PEEK TV brings rigorous editorial standards and fact-based reporting to short-form digital video platforms.• Journalism vs. Activism: Why maintaining strict independence and objectivity is vital for stories to retain public credibility.• Detoxing the Discourse: Overcoming algorithmic polarization, echo chambers, and sensationalism to deliver balanced perspectives.• The Diaspora Connection: How independent digital media bridges the gap for global Indians seeking reliable, unvarnished news from the ground.GUEST & HOST RESOURCES:

The Holocaust is at the heart of German national memory culture.  From commemorative events organized on the floor of the parliament to mandatory instruction in public schools, «never again » is a much repeated refrain echoed throughout German society.  How then is it possible that Germans are unlearning the lessons of the Holocaust?  This is the contention of historian Juergen Zimmerer, renouned for his scholarship on the genocide in imperial German South West Africa.  Zimmerer argues that by making the defense of Israel, Staatsräson, or national policy based on the burden of the past, Holocaust memory is being used to stifle freedom of expression and to promote ethnonationalist thinking.  By reducing the causal factors of the Holocaust to antisemitism in the Nazi era, it becomes possible to bracket out an uncomfortable past as a problem resolved. Antisemitism can now be located either in the regressive thinking of unwanted Muslim minority communities or the horrors perpetrated by Hamas in the present.  Instead of embracing tolerance and respect for fundamental human rights, Germany is now unlearning the lessons of the Holocaust and moving towards a more intolerant, ethno-nationist future.  A conversation with Juergen Zimmerer about his book, Germany's History Wars: Contesting Memory and Identity Today, in this episode of the Realms of Memory podcast. 

Lauren Kleinman is the founder of Dreamday and co-founder of Quality Media and The Quality Edit. She coined the term "performance PR," built two agencies without raising a dollar, and today leads more than a hundred people.Before any of this, Lauren spent almost a decade as an employee. First employee at StartEngine. Sixteenth at Scopely, which sold for billions. Then first employee at Ritual. She knew she wanted to build something of her own, she just didn't know what yet. When she finally left, she named her company Dreamday, because she'd pictured the day she actually wanted. A hike, a swim, a couple of client calls, and time with her kids. Seven years later, she'll tell you it has never happened. What happened instead was having two young kids during COVID, no maternity leave, and burning herself out so badly she had panic attacks for the first time in her life.In this episode, Lauren gives you the actual playbook, from how to know when you're ready to leave your job, to how to line up your first client before you even quit. She breaks down how to get press when you can't afford PR, and what makes an editor open your email out of the four hundred sitting in her inbox that day. And she's just as honest about the rest of it, from what burnout really looked like for her, to what she'd tell you to watch out for, to how she finally stopped believing she had to carry all of it alone. If you want to build something of your own one day, and you also want to still like your life while you build it, this one is for you. In this episode, we'll talk to Lauren about:* Why overworking became tied to worthiness and success. [02:20]* Learning to shift from constant doing toward simply being. [03:16]* Unlearning the hustle mentality after years of proving her worth through work. [04:38]* Why perfect balance is unrealistic—and one ball will always drop. [09:20]* Why profitability and sustainable margins matter from day one. [14:11] * Knowing when the entrepreneurial itch is strong enough to make the leap. [16:08]* Spotting gaps in PR and coining the idea of performance PR. [18:00]* How whitelisting gives brands the credibility of creators and publishers. [19:35]* Turning real brand pain points into The Quality Edit and Quality Media. [20:00]* Using a network and early clients to validate the leap into entrepreneurship. [21:00]* Recognizing when business momentum starts looking dangerously like burnout. [23:20]* The burnout breaking point and learning to build boundaries around work. [24:59]* Why public speaking is a muscle for founders. [30:16]* How smaller brands can build PR relationships and use AI to pitch smarter. [35:02]* What makes a pitch cut through: cultural relevance, strong numbers, and making the editor's job easier. [36:58]* Why affiliate links matter—and when publications actually use them. [42:58]* Learning to delegate, release perfectionism, and decide which fires can burn. [47:18]* The reminder that even successful leaders are still figuring it out. [50:28]This episode is brought to you by Beeya:* If you or anyone you know have been struggling with hormonal imbalances and bad periods, go to https://beeyawellness.com/free to download the free guide to tackling hormonal imbalances* Plus, get $10 off your order by using promo code BEHINDHEREMPIRE10Follow Yasmin:* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yasminknouri/* Website: https://www.behindherempire.com/Follow Lauren:* Website: https://www.dreamday.la/* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dreamday.la/* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauren.kleinman/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Highlights With KatieWhy healing often requires unlearning more than learningThe invisible beliefs, identities, and patterns that kept me stuck … even when I was doing “all the right things”How clinging to control, perfection, and certainty created more stress than peaceThe surprising nervous-system science behind letting go (and why your biology resists it)How my identity as a “fixer,” “caretaker,” and “high achiever” held me back from true healingHow rewriting internal stories (“I am responsible for everything” ? “I am allowed to live with ease”) transformed my health, business, parenting, and relationshipsHow grief, loss, and major life transitions became openings rather than endingsWhy releasing old stories frees up enormous energy, creativity, and resiliencePractical ways to start letting go in your own life … without fear, force, or overwhelmThe difference between surrender and giving up, and how to tell which one you're doingHow to trust yourself, your body, and your path even when it doesn't fit the old rulesResources MentionedLetting Go: The Pathway of Surrender by David R Hawkins, MDAwareness: Conversations with the Masters by Anthony De MelloJust Thrive:Just Thrive Health has been one of my longtime favorite brands for gut health and they have an amazing Daily Gut Detox. Your immune system, gut barrier, and digestion get the support they need to stay strong and healthy. You can find this and their probiotics at justthrivehealth.com/wellnessmama or use code wellnessmama for 20% off your order. HiyaHiya created a super powered chewable vitamin for kids that packs twelve organic fruits and vegetables plus fifteen essential vitamins and minerals into every dose. Try it at hiyahealth.com/wellnessmama.

In this episode, our host Kyia opens up about a truth she's been sitting with lately: growth doesn't always mean learning something new sometimes it means unlearning the old. From the hustle mentality she built as a competitive runner to the way she's shown up in friendships and marriage, Kyia walks through the seasons of her life that once demanded one version of her and are now asking for something different. She gets honest about what it's looked like to release the "push through anything" mindset as she navigates pregnancy, how friendships shift shape (without ending) as everyone moves into new life stages, and how marriage itself keeps evolving long after the wedding day. 

Over the Summer I've curated a mini series of some of my favourite episodes from the podcast so far. We revisit old episodes that have stayed rent-free in my brain! So whether this episode ends up being new for you or you get to enjoy it again years later, I hope you find it helpful. In this episode, I interview Meg Lewis, a designer, and educator who runs the studio The Meg Lewis Fun House, teaching workshops on personal branding, finding your style, and portfolio strategy.  Meg chatted with me about building an authentic and impactful brand around your personality and style and how that can help to make the world a happier place.  We discuss professionalism, dealing with negative comments online, and having a positive impact on the world. If you want your brand to feel more 'you' but don't know where to start this is the perfect episode.    Key Takeaways Authenticity is Your Superpower Embracing who you truly are; quirks, passions, and all; creates a brand and life that feels joyful and meaningful. Unlearning Conformity Letting go of what you "should" be and questioning old beliefs opens the door to creativity, confidence, and genuine connection. You're Not for Everyone (and That's Good) Being boldly yourself will attract the right people and opportunities, while freeing you from people-pleasing and self-doubt. Define Success on Your Own Terms True fulfillment comes from aligning your goals and lifestyle with what matters most to you, not chasing someone else's version of success. Your Unique Mix is Your Niche Combining your personality, skills, and interests creates a one-of-a-kind offering that no one else can replicate. Modeling Authenticity Inspires Others By showing up as yourself, you give others permission to do the same and help build a more supportive, creative world. Episode Highlights 00:10 – Why this episode is a favorite and Meg's impact on the show 01:22 – Meg's journey: from conformity to authentic self-expression 03:15 – Finding your style and building a cohesive personal brand 05:17 – Overcoming fear, negative comments, and embracing individuality 10:45 – Unlearning old beliefs and practicing self-acceptance 20:12 – Redefining professionalism and thriving by being yourself 22:01 – Attracting the right clients and opportunities through authenticity 27:20 – Setting your own goals and letting go of people-pleasing 33:05 – Personal style, branding, and resisting trends 42:25 – The empowerment and freedom of living as your true self 48:49 – Where to find Meg and learn more about their workshops and resources Don't forget to check out Meg's online and follow them on Instagram.  I would love to hear what you think of this episode, so please do let me know on Instagram where I'm @‌lizmmosley or @‌buildingyourbrandpodcast and I hope you enjoy the episode! This episode was written and recorded by me and produced by Lucy Lucraft lucylucraft.co.uk If you enjoyed this episode please leave a 5* rating and review! Check out Birmingham Design Festival featured in today's episode

How singular was the Holocaust?  Historian Juergen Zimmerer sparked a firestorm of controversy in Germany for suggesting continuity between the colonial past and the Holocaust.  Any suggestion that the Holocaust needs to be understood within a broader framework that goes beyond antisemitism and the Nazi era strikes at the heart of the German national memory culture.  Drawing from his recently published edited volume, Germany's History Wars: Contesting Memory and Identity Today, I had the chance to talk with Juergen Zimmerer about how the singularity idea has contributed to the unlearning of the lessons of the Holocaust.  A conversation with Juergen Zimmerer, renowned scholar of the genocide in German South West Africa, next on the September 1st episode of the Realms of Memory podcast.    

Send us Fan MailWhat if the most painful part of betrayal isn't the betrayal itself?What if it's realizing that you've spent years living by rules you never consciously chose?In this episode of The Dimple Bindra Show, I sat down with scientist, wellness coach, researcher, and author Apurva Sawhney for a powerful conversation about identity, conditioning, self-abandonment, and the expectations women inherit from family, culture, and society.Together, we explore why so many women lose themselves in relationships, why betrayal often triggers a deep identity crisis, and how years of living according to "shoulds" can disconnect us from who we really are.We talk about: • Why women blame themselves after betrayal • The hidden cost of people-pleasing • Fear, guilt, shame, and cultural conditioning • How to stop self-abandoning and start trusting yourself • Why being "good" isn't always healthy • The difference between being broken and being badly managed • How to rebuild your life on your own termsThis episode is for any woman who has ever asked herself:"Am I living my life, or the life other people expected me to live?"If you've been betrayed, questioning everything, or trying to find yourself again after years of putting everyone else first, this conversation will challenge you to think differently and help you reconnect with your own voice. Because healing isn't just about recovering from betrayal.Sometimes it's about unlearning everything that taught you to betray yourself.

Jack and Rhian are joined by Moe Ari Brown, Hinge’s Love and Connection Expert to dive into queer dating and Hinge’s 2026 LGBTQ+ DATE Report. Drawing on surveys with over 31,000 LGBTQ+ daters globally, we unpack everything from clarity-building chemistry to the unique pressures queer people face navigating modern dating without traditional relationship blueprints. Moe goes into detail on must-haves for queer relationships, the shift away from rigid timelines, safety concerns around PDA, and practical advice for ending connections with care rather than ghosting. Chapters 02:17 – Unlearning hookup app habits 04:17 – How clarity transforms the dating experience 11:54 – Queer relationships beyond rigid heterosexual timelines 15:03 – Why everyone worries if their date likes them 18:17 – Top non-negotiables for LGBTQ+ daters 20:11 – Why queer daters prioritise values over finances 22:43 – Freedom and exhaustion of lacking relationship blueprints 27:13 – Navigating non-monogamy without existing models or blueprints 31:06 – Why queer daters want actions over words 34:47 – Social media’s impact on queer PDA anxiety 38:05 – Low-stakes gestures to build warmth on dates 42:12 – Distinguishing genuine affection from love bombing behaviour 45:30 – Sentence starters for pace and communication check-ins 48:37 – Origins and evolution of Hinge’s LGBTQ+ reports 52:06 – Breaking the ghosting cycle with honest closure 52:56 – Better texting habits and ending connections gracefully 54:25 – Conversation starters for alignment and pace discussions 56:39 – The single most actionable dating takeaway revealed All chapter timecodes are approximate. Want more Well Well Well? Check out our other JOY Podcasts for more on LGBTIQ+ health and wellbeing at joy.org.au/wellwellwell. If there's something you'd like us to explore on the show, send through ideas or questions at wellwellwell@joy.org.au Find out more about LGBTIQ+ services and events in Victoria and South Australia at thorneharbour.org. Produced by: Jack Crnjanin & Rhian Graco-Ilves

Send us Fan MailWhat if healing isn't about learning more—but about unlearning what no longer serves you?In this powerful episode of The Box & The Sky, Keya McClain the Poet explores the courageous process of questioning inherited beliefs, redefining personal truth, and trusting your own spiritual and emotional journey.While leaving organized religion became part of her story, this conversation reaches far beyond faith. It explores the beliefs we inherit about success, womanhood, relationships, worthiness, boundaries, leadership, grief, and identity—and the freedom that comes from examining what still aligns with the person you're becoming.In this episode, Keya discusses: Why healing often requires unlearning  The difference between questioning and rebellion  Leaving inherited beliefs without abandoning your values  Healthy detachment versus emotional disconnection  Boundaries that naturally emerge through discernment  Releasing the belief that your worth is tied to your usefulness  Becoming curious enough to rediscover yourself This episode is for anyone who has ever felt the tension between honoring where they came from and embracing who they are becoming.Healing doesn't ask you to reject your past.It invites you to examine it with honesty, compassion, and courage.Support the show

Most nonprofit leaders treat capacity like a fuel tank — something you deplete and refill. Brooke Richie-Babbage makes the case that capacity is something you design, and that the strain you're feeling is information about that design, not about your dedication.She's joined by two leaders who've rebuilt theirs in public: Casey Lardner, Executive Director of Genspace, the world's first community biology lab, and Chidi Asoluka, Founder and CEO of NewComm, which went from a classroom experiment with 18 kids to a student-led organization delivering projects for the NYC Department of Health and Mount Sinai.

For generations, many of us have been taught that God's wrath is His anger directed toward sinful people. But what if we've misunderstood it?In this final message of the Reframe series, Cory explores one of the most misunderstood themes in Scripture and asks a simple but profound question: If Jesus is the perfect revelation of the Father, what does that mean for how we understand God's wrath?Looking through the lens of Jesus, this message challenges the idea of an angry, punitive God and presents a different picture—one where God's wrath is His relentless love confronting everything that distorts, enslaves, and dehumanizes us. Rather than destroying people, God's passion is aimed at destroying the lies that keep us from knowing who we've always been.Together, we explore:• What the Bible actually means by "wrath"• Why Romans 1 says God "gave them over"• How Jesus redefined God's character• Why the cross reveals reconciliation, not divine retaliation• The difference between fear-driven religion and love-driven transformation• How God's consuming fire purifies instead of punishes00:00 - Introduction & Why We're Revisiting Reframe02:35 - My Journey of Unlearning and Relearning06:20 - Week 5: Reframing God's Wrath09:28 - From Fear-Driven Thinking to Peace-Filled Living12:25 - What If Wrath Isn't God's Anger?15:35 - The Church's View of Wrath Changed16:19 - God Is Love, God Is Light17:52 - The Meaning of "Wrath" in Scripture19:10 - Romans: Wrath as Natural Consequences21:32 - Jerusalem, 70 AD & Rejecting Love24:00 - God's Fire Purifies, Not Punishes25:11 - Jesus Corrects the Old View of Wrath29:01 - The Cross Reveals God's True Heart32:04 - The Old Lens vs. The New Lens33:29 - Living From Love Instead of Fear38:09 - Closing Prayer & Final Encouragement

In Today's Episode... In this premiere episode of the Wealth and Wisdom series, host Jordan sits down with former Division I basketball standout Bobby Capobianco for an unfiltered conversation about redefining success. Moving far beyond traditional definitions of wealth, net worth, and societal expectations, Bobby opens up about the powerful lessons learned through his journey from the basketball court, navigating life's unexpected transitions, and finding true fulfillment in the present moment.   Connect with Bobby Instagram LinkedIn Website   About Bobby Capobianco Bobby Capobianco is a former Division I collegiate basketball player (Indiana University and Valparaiso), a business professional, a health and wellness entrepreneur, and a devoted husband and father. Standing 6 ft 10 in, Bobby spent his youth and early twenties heavily defined by his athletic prowess. However, beneath the surface of the "basketball player" box, he harbored a deep curiosity for art, design, space theories, and action sports. After college, Bobby made the countercultural decision to turn down professional sports overseas to stay home and marry his wife—prioritizing faith, family, and fun above all else. In his twenties, he experienced a massive lifestyle shift, intentionally stepping away from his athletic identity and gaining 100 pounds before radically transforming his health through endurance sports, marathons, and triathlons. Today, Bobby brings a refreshing, radically honest perspective to personal development, ego death, agency, and the profound practice of deep gratitude.   Reminder: Subscribe, Rate & Review this podcast!   Whatever platform you are listening on, make sure to follow or subscribe & sign up for notifications for when weekly episodes drop every week! And if you feel called, please leave a rating and review. This helps us to reach more people!  JordanPendleton.com

If this resonated with you, here are additional resources:⭐ APPLY TO SHIFT: https://sidehustlepro.co/shiftIn this episode, I'm sharing the seven beliefs I had to unlearn before I could finally leave my corporate job and build Side Hustle Pro full time. I spent decades in corporate America, working at places like HBO, MTV, Google, and NPR, and even though I knew I wanted to leave, I wasn't mentally ready until I confronted the internal beliefs that kept me tied to that life.Highlights Include00:00 - My corporate background and why I'm scratching the record on old habits 03:01 - The seven things I had to unlearn to build Side Hustle Pro full time 06:48 - Unlearning the need to have my entire future figured out before leaving 11:25 - Why other people's opinions could not be my decision making system 17:31 - Unlearning that a job or promotion was my only path to more money 21:59 - Pay inequity in corporate and why the ceiling is lower than it seems 22:49 - Unlearning that I was limited to doing only what I had already done 27:33 - Confusing busyness with meaningful progress, and the one hour a day model 33:36 - The biggest unlearn: staying employed was not actually the safest option 42:21 - Reflection questions to figure out which belief you're still carryingWatch & ListenSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/13qDj08lBR4ymzGhXIKy8tApple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/side-hustle-pro/id1126021323Social MediaInstagram: @SideHustlePro Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What happens when you stop trying to become the person the world expects and finally begin choosing who you want to be? In Episode 152 of Pushing Forward with Alycia, host Alycia Anderson welcomes global speaker, bestselling author, disability advocate, activist, and content creator Spencer West for a powerful conversation about disability identity, autonomy, interdependence, and breaking free from expectations. Spencer is the author of Breaking Free: Stop Following Expectations and Start Following Yourself, a new book that invites readers to question the expectations shaping their lives and begin choosing a more authentic path. Born with a genetic condition that prevented the muscles in his legs from functioning, Spencer underwent surgeries that resulted in the amputation of both legs just below his pelvis. Growing up, he was repeatedly told that he was “just like everyone else” and that every child wanted to walk. But prosthetic legs were not the best mobility choice for Spencer. By sixth grade, his parents and therapist gave him the opportunity to decide for himself how he wanted to navigate the world. Choosing to stop using prosthetic legs became one of his earliest lessons in bodily autonomy. “The moment I realized I could choose how I wanted to navigate the world, everything started to change.” That decision did not eliminate the pressure to fit in. Spencer shares how he continued confronting internalized ableism, social expectations, and the confusing message that disability should be ignored rather than embraced as part of his identity. The Life Changing Power of Autonomy Spencer and Alycia discuss why disabled children deserve the opportunity to participate in decisions about their own bodies, mobility, healthcare, and lives. Spencer credits his parents with giving him choices instead of assuming they always knew what was best for him. Looking back, he recognizes that this early experience helped him understand that he could make other meaningful choices too. For parents, educators, medical professionals, and leaders, his story offers an important reminder: supporting disabled people does not mean controlling every decision. It means creating space for autonomy, self discovery, and informed choice. Climbing Kilimanjaro and Redefining Help Spencer also shares the story behind climbing Mount Kilimanjaro. He was not motivated by a desire to prove that “anything is possible.” In fact, Spencer openly admits that he does not like camping and had never dreamed of becoming a mountain climber. The climb became part of a larger campaign called Redefine Possible, which raised more than its original $500,000 goal for clean water initiatives in East Africa. Spencer trained for a year alongside two of his closest friends. Although the original plan was to use both his wheelchair and his hands to climb, the terrain required him to navigate much more of the mountain on his hands than expected. Throughout the expedition, Spencer relied on his friends for physical support. But on summit day, both friends became sick from the altitude. Suddenly, the person who assumed he would need the most assistance became the person helping them continue. Spencer could not physically carry his friends, but he could stay beside them, encourage them, and keep moving forward with them. That experience transformed how he viewed strength. “We all need help. We all need to ask for help, and we all need to offer help.” Rather than celebrating the myth of the self made person, Spencer encourages people to embrace interdependence, the understanding that every person depends on support, relationships, community, and collaboration. Moving Beyond Inspiration Porn Spencer and Alycia examine the harmful narratives that often surround disabled people who accomplish highly visible goals. Spencer never wanted his Kilimanjaro climb reduced to a message suggesting that if a disabled person can climb a mountain, everyone should be able to overcome every barrier. That framing ignores systemic ableism, access needs, privilege, support, and the reality that every disabled person has a different body and experience. Spencer shares how disability justice advocate Naomi Ortiz challenged him to reconsider the way he talked about the climb. The true story was not that he overcame disability alone. It was that he reached the summit through community and interdependence. That conversation led Spencer to study disability history, disability justice, and the advocates who have shaped the movement. Today, much of his content reflects what he continues to learn and unlearn in real time. What Does It Mean to Break Free? Spencer's new book, Breaking Free: Stop Following Expectations and Start Following Yourself, examines the expectations people absorb from the moment they enter the world. For Spencer, those expectations included: Do not think of yourself as disabled Overcome your disability Use prosthetic legs Follow a traditional career path Marry a woman Measure success through productivity Live according to society's definition of a successful life As a disabled gay man growing up in a conservative Wyoming community, Spencer gradually realized that many of those expectations did not reflect who he was or what he wanted. Breaking free became the process of identifying which expectations belonged to him and which ones had been placed upon him by others. “My value and success are not tied up in what my body can produce.” Spencer explains that breaking free does not always require climbing a mountain or completely changing your career. It can begin with one small decision, such as leaving an unhealthy relationship, exploring a new passion, moving to another city, or making room for something that brings joy. Disability as Identity During a volunteer trip to Kenya, Spencer spoke with students about his disability. A young girl told him she had not realized that the loss of limbs could happen to a white person too. Her observation sparked a major realization. Until that moment, Spencer had viewed disability primarily as something that happened to him. He had not yet embraced it as part of his identity. That experience helped him begin connecting disability with the other layers of who he is, including being queer, a speaker, a creator, and an advocate. Spencer and Alycia reflect on how long it can take to fully embrace disability identity after growing up in environments that treated disability as something negative, shameful, or separate from the self. A Book Designed to Become a Tool Breaking Free is more than a memoir. Spencer designed the book as a practical guide for readers who are questioning the expectations shaping their lives. Each chapter includes exercises, reflection questions, key concepts, and opportunities for readers to begin their own process of change. The book also gives Spencer an opportunity to share parts of his life that he had not discussed publicly before, including the pressure he experienced to hide his queer identity while working within an organization concerned about conservative donors and religious partners. After years of advocacy from Spencer, queer colleagues, and allies, he eventually shared his coming out story publicly on June 26, 2015, the day marriage equality became law across the United States. For Spencer, that moment represented years of persistence, truth telling, and breaking free. Spencer West's North Star Today, Spencer continues speaking, creating digital content, and helping organizations understand the value of hiring disabled talent. His work challenges myths about disabled employees and highlights the unnecessary ableism many disabled people face while trying to find meaningful employment. His current North Star is clear: get Breaking Free into the hands of people who need permission to question expectations, embrace their identities, and begin choosing themselves. In This Episode Why bodily autonomy matters for disabled children and adults Spencer's decision to stop using prosthetic legs Unlearning internalized ableism The deeper story behind climbing Mount Kilimanjaro Why no one is truly self made Interdependence and the courage to ask for help How inspiration porn harms disabled people Learning from disability justice advocates Disability and queer identity Breaking free from society's expectations Separating personal value from productivity Why Spencer wrote Breaking Free Disability inclusion and employment Memorable Quotes from Spencer West “The moment I realized I could choose how I wanted to navigate the world, everything started to change.” “The story was not that I reached the top alone. The story was interdependence.” The Pushing Forward Moment “Maybe our job is not to become anything. Maybe our job is to unbecome all the things that do not belong to us so we can become the person we were meant to be.” Spencer explains that this idea, inspired by a passage associated with Paulo Coelho's The Alchemist, became the guiding thesis behind Breaking Free. Connect with Spencer West Visit Spencer2TheWest.com to learn more about Spencer, book him to speak, and find his new book. Follow Spencer on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube at @spencer2thewest. Book: Breaking Free: Stop Following Expectations and Start Following Yourself Available wherever books are sold. Connect with Alycia Anderson Visit AlyciaAnderson.com to learn more about Alycia's keynotes, disability inclusion programs, accessibility resources, and consulting services. Explore more episodes of Pushing Forward with Alycia. Pushing Forward is how we roll. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Wondering if it's really possible to launch your consulting or coaching business in less than 30 days...without cutting corners or relying on AI? If you've spent decades building your expertise but feel overwhelmed by turning it into a business, you might assume launching the right way has to take months. It doesn't. In this episode of the Consulting Matters podcast, my guest is my client Dorothy Mosby, who went from senior academic leader to consulting and coaching business owner in less than 30 days — complete with a clear brand position, compelling messaging, a professionally designed website, and a successful launch just in time for a critical speaking event at a conference filled with her ideal clients. Together, we pull back the curtain on what made that possible, why speed doesn't have to come at the expense of quality, and why AI can be a valuable tool at times but can never replace the strategy, creativity, and human insight required to build a business that truly represents who you are and connects you to the clients you're meant to serve. IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL DISCOVER: Why slowing down to work first on your brand clarity is what speeds up your business launch Where AI helps when you're launching your consulting or coaching business — and where it slows you down The unlearning experienced academics and corporate professionals have to do to craft messages and copy that connects with clients Why your website is about far more than credibility: it's about stepping into your identity as a business owner WHERE TO DIVE IN: 02:18 – Why Dorothy left senior academic leadership for consulting/coaching business ownership 09:00 – Why experienced professionals struggle to define their niche 13:22 – How a conference deadline forced a 30-day launch 16:22 – Why professional branding photos matter 36:53 – Unlearning academic and corporate writing 43:50 – Finding the right words in a politically sensitive climate 50:59 – Dorothy's advice for midlife entrepreneurs 55:03 – Who Dorothy serves and how to send the right leaders her way See full show notes and transcript here → https://www.betsyjordyn.com/blog/How-to-Launch-a-Consulting-or-Coaching-Business-in-Less-Than-30-Days NEXT STEPS Learn more about my VIP brand-building & messaging services, custom-designed for purpose-driven consultants and coaches → https://www.betsyjordyn.com/services Get free templates and guides to nail your niche, clarify your value, craft compelling messages, and position yourself for the right clients and opportunities → https://www.betsyjordyn.com/downloads RESOURCES Learn more about Dorothy's academic leadership coaching (and how my team and I brought her brand positioning and messaging to life through copy, photos, and visuals)→ https://dorothymosby.com If you prefer video or want closed captions, you can watch all my episodes on YouTube → https://www.youtube.com/c/BetsyJordyn If you're on LinkedIn, come say hi! → https://www.linkedin.com/in/betsy-jordyn/

You may have chosen to go into private practice because you wanted more freedom, only to find yourself recreating the same traditional workweek you were trying to leave behind.When success has always looked like putting in your time, staying busy, and being available throughout the workday, stepping away from your desk can feel like playing hooky, which can be uncomfortable — even when your business is stable and your clients are well supported.In this “Best Of” episode, Linzy revisits one of the most downloaded conversations from the past year with Diane Webber, a financial therapist, private practice owner, and coach in the Money Skills programs. Together, they explore the freedom, responsibility, uncertainty, and purpose that can come with self-employment.Diane shares how private practice has allowed her to be present for her family while navigating the changing needs of the sandwich generation. She and Linzy also talk about why therapists do not have 40 hours of quality emotional energy to give every week, how rest and time away support better clinical work, and why appearing busy is not the same as doing meaningful work.Their conversation also turns to the ongoing work of managing money as business owners. Financial systems cannot always be reorganized quickly because money is still coming in and going out while the changes are happening. Diane explains why patience, small wins, and confidence in the decision-making process matter more than trying to fix everything at once.If you have been measuring your success by the number of hours you work, feeling guilty when you step away, or trying to overhaul your finances in one intense burst, this episode will help you think differently about what a sustainable private practice can look like.Timestamps:03:30 - Meet Money Skills Coach Diane Webber04:16 - The Highs and Lows of Self-Employment05:17 - What Freedom in Private Practice Can Look Like06:05 - Self-Employment and the Needs of the Sandwich Generation07:41 - Building a Business That Supports Time Away08:01 - Unlearning the Need to Put In Your Time09:39 - Why Quality Matters More Than Quantity10:26 - Therapists Do Not Have 40 Hours of Emotional Energy11:16 - Giving Yourself Permission to Step Away12:54 - Letting Your Brain Work in the Background13:56 - The Performance of Busyness and Pseudo-Productivity14:41 - Understanding and Honoring How You Work Best17:34 - Variety, Change, and Using Different Parts of Your Brain18:17 - Why Money Skills Work Can Feel More Concrete20:00 - Creating Order in Work That Often Feels Messy22:00 - Building Confidence in Your Financial Process22:33 - Learning Money Skills While Money Is Still Moving23:30 - Creating a Sustainable, Ongoing Relationship with Money24:43 - Do All Private Practice Owners Identify as Entrepreneurs?29:33 - Finding a Gap and Building Work Around It30:33 - How Owning Your Niche Helps the Right Clients Find You32:22 - Outsourcing Work You Do Not Enjoy33:00 - Freedom, Responsibility, and the Thrill of Self-Employment34:06 - Diane's Financial Therapy Practice35:29 - Linzy's Final Reflection and Community InvitationConnect with Diane Webber:Diane is a licensed professional counselor and certified financial social work counselor with a fully online private practice in Northeastern Pennsylvania. She serves clients experiencing financial anxiety, general anxiety, strained relationships, grief, loss, and life transitions where money is part of the picture.Diane is also a proud member of the Money Skills for Therapists coaching team, enthusiastically celebrating successes as members of the program redefine their money mindsets and sharpen their money skills.Website: https://www.dianewebber.me/For other episodes with Diane, check out: Episode 97: Compassionate Approaches to Finances with Diane WebberEpisode 213: Adapting Your Business and Team for a Changing MarketAbout Linzy Bonham:Linzy Bonham is a therapist turned money coach who helps private practice owners and health professionals feel calm, confident, and in control of their finances through her podcast, free workshops and comprehensive programs: Money Skills for Therapists and Money Skills for Group Practice Owners.It all started when she saw her extremely skilled colleagues struggle with the money side of business. Some had even left private practice, or were avoiding starting one, because managing finances was just too stressful.So Linzy set out to support helpers and healers with developing peace of mind about their money. Since so many were never taught money skills, she focuses on the “how” of making the business side of private practice doable, and even super satisfying.You can learn more here: https://moneyskillsfortherapists.com/aboutAnd you can follow along on social media:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/linzybonham/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/moneyskillsfortherapists/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/moneynutsandboltsWant to feel more calm and confident about your money? Join one of Linzy's free online workshops for private practice owners who want practical support with money mindset, avoidance, and the technical side of managing business finances.Explore upcoming workshops and save your spot or register to get the replay: https://moneyskillsfortherapists.com/workshopsYou can also join the private WhatsApp community to connect with other therapists, health practitioners, and podcast listeners. Submit your request here to join today.

In this episode of Shoulders Down, Leah sits down with licensed psychotherapist Paula D. Atkinson to explore the intersection of body image, eating disorders, social justice, and body liberation.Paula shares her personal journey from growing up as a fat child, developing anorexia as a teenager, and eventually becoming a therapist, educator, and advocate for body justice. Together, Leah and Paula discuss the history of fatphobia, the limitations of weight-centric definitions of health, and why healing body image requires more than individual self-acceptance.Their conversation explores the role of systemic oppression in shaping body image, the power of critical thinking in diet culture recovery, and how anger can become a catalyst for liberation rather than something to suppress.You'll hear about:Paula's journey from anorexia recovery to becoming a body liberation therapist and educatorWhat teaching a university course on weight, health, and society revealed about diet culture and the "obesity epidemic"The role of rage in disordered eating and body image healingWhy external validation can never replace genuine self-acceptanceHow body image healing intersects with social justice, oppression, and collective liberationPaula's perspective on anger, psychedelics, and other unexpected pathways to body liberationMore From Paula:Website: https://www.pauladatkinson.comInstagram: @pauladatkinsonMore From Leah:

This was my recent interview on my business mentee and friend Kate Hamilton's podcast.  You can listen to all her other great episodes here.  https://open.spotify.com/show/3Cs5JWdQ4AZQdFe5wAlikh _________________________________________________________ Brian Keane isn't just my mentor — he's the guy who built an online fitness empire before "online fitness empire" was even a category. Four-time bestselling author, podcaster, business coach, and someone who's actually walked the path most people just talk about. In this episode we go deep on the stuff nobody puts on a highlight reel: how growing up shaped his relationship with money, confidence, and proving himself. How he went from teaching to building a fitness business using nothing but video and Snapchat — before either platform was a "strategy." And how audience-led offers like GAIN Body got built in real time, not from a boardroom. We also get into the part most coaches won't say out loud — money as a tool, not a personality trait. Scarcity mindsets. Lifestyle creep. The difference between ethical selling and pressure tactics. And what it actually costs — relationally, mentally — to scale a business without losing yourself in the process. Brian shares his SCALE framework, his book Scaling Your Story, and a free download you can grab here: If you've ever felt the pull between ambition and freedom — this one's for you. Timestamps: 00:00 Welcome and Guest Intro 01:07 Why Brian Now 03:02 Free Book Download 03:52 Starting the Conversation 04:48 Family Values and Security 08:24 Sport and Proving Yourself 12:21 Confidence and Intuition 15:15 Teaching to Fitness Pivot 18:30 Early Social Media Strategy 22:15 Snapchat and Pre Selling 24:26 Kindness Over Numbers 26:40 Ethical Selling and Fit 30:22 Money Mindset Reality Check 34:57 Chasing the Dragon 36:58 Lifestyle Creep and Self Worth 37:57 Money Amplifies You 38:24 Scarcity To Tax Reality 39:22 Social Media Validation Trap 40:36 Freedom Without Fulfillment 42:13 Guilt And Business Pivot 45:43 Mentors Find Your Why 49:15 SCALE Framework Explained 52:42 Paranoia Versus Gratitude 53:47 Grounded Powerhouse Balance 55:39 Success Costs And Tradeoffs 01:05:40 Side Jobs To Buy Time 01:09:15 Book Plug And Wrap Up

Did you like the episode? Send me a text and let me know!! Episode Title: The Skill Nobody Teaches You: Unlearning, Failing Forward & Building Brain Digits Episode Summary: What happens when an entrepreneur from Beirut, Lebanon starts a digital agency in 2011 — when Facebook was three years old and mobile websites were a novelty — and then bootstraps his way through banking crises, regional conflict, and the AI revolution to build a company now operating across the GCC? You get Jack Jendo, founder of Brain Digits, and one of the most globally minded conversations in the show's history. In this episode of Undiscovered Entrepreneur: Get Across the Start Line, Jack unpacks why bootstrapping beats fundraising, why unlearning is a skill most entrepreneurs never develop, why failure needs to be called failure before you can learn from it, and why the future of nations depends on what humans choose to do with the most powerful tool ever created. What You'll Learn: Why Jack left a remote work opportunity in 2010 — before remote work existed — to start his first ventureWhat Brain Digits does: AI enablement, VR training, and emerging technology solutions across hospitals, banking, and governmentWhy bootstrapping forces you to learn every step and makes you unbreakable in a crisisWhy getting investor funding can turn a founder into an employee — and how to know when funding is actually rightThe fire analogy that explains AI's dual nature better than any tech policy paperWhy "unlearning" is the most underrated skill in entrepreneurshipWhy you need to admit failure before you can learn from it — not relabel it as "a step"Jack's 10 entrepreneurial power cards: the priority framework he shares with every founder he meetsThe concept of co-opetition — and why competing less and cooperating more grows the whole marketWhy plans are useless but planning is everythingTimestamps: [00:00:00] – Introduction & Welcome[00:01:00] – Jack's Entrepreneur Origin: Not Built for 9-to-5 in 2010[00:02:00] – Starting a Digital Agency When Facebook Was Three Years Old[00:04:00] – What Brain Digits Does: AI, VR & Emerging Technology Across the GCC[00:05:30] – From Delaware to Dubai to Saudi Arabia: How Brain Digits Scaled[00:07:00] – AI as a Tool, Not a Replacement: The Fire Analogy[00:09:00] – PhD Research: The Future of Nations with Emerging Technologies[00:10:00] – AI as a Second Brain — And the Danger of Losing Critical Thinking[00:11:30] – Human Skills in an AI World: What Schools Should Be Teaching[00:12:30] – How to Bootstrap a Business From Zero[00:14:00] – Why the Founders Who Raised Millions Wished They Had Bootstrapped[00:15:30] – The Lebanon Banking Crisis: Why Bootstrapping Made Jack Unbreakable[00:17:00] – When to Get Funding — and Why Early Funding Makes You an Employee[00:19:00] – Job Security Is a Myth: Personal Accountability in Any Economy[00:20:30] – Why Even Employees Should Start a Small Venture Now[00:22:30] – Admit Failure Before You Can Learn From It[00:23:30] – The Skill of Unlearning: Why Your Brain Needs to Delete Old Files[00:25:00] – Zone of Genius: Working Light, Fast & Free[00:27:30] – Jack's One Piece of Advice: Don't Fall in Love With Your Idea[00:29:30] – The 10 Entrepreneurial Power Cards Framework[00:31:30] – Co-opetition: Cooperating to Compete on a Larger Scale[00:33:30] – Jack's Six-Month Goal: Leading the AI Conversation in Government, Education & Health[00:35:00] – How to Find Jack & Brain DigitsConnect with Jack Jendo:

Feeling like an outsider is far more common than most people admit—and that applies to men just as much as women, even if they don't always say it out loud. Our guest today, Alma Derricks, empowers adventurous leaders and global brands to uncover blind spots and think beyond conventional limits. Having worked with an impressive range of both traditional and creative companies, Alma brings deep insight into what it takes to grow through change. Even if you don't see yourself as an "adventurous leader," this conversation will challenge the insecure voice many of us need to unlearn, helping us embrace creative thinking, self-leadership, and the courage it takes to pivot successfully into what's next. More about Alma here: https://rev.la   Full article here: https://goalsforyourlife.com/unlearning-insecure-thinking    Watch, then subscribe on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/kJQvHa6yBTw  Chapters 0:00 Introduction to Alma Derricks 3:20 Slaloming through career disruptions 7:45 Contrasting Deloitte and Cirque du Soleil 1 2:10 Why established companies become risk averse 16:30 Unlearning the business school mindset 21:00 How to identify your unique superpowers 25:40 Transitioning from corporate to solo consulting 30:15 The art of selling value and solving problems 34:50 Managing insecurity in high stakes environments 39:20 Adopting an entrepreneurial scan of the market 43:40 Innovation versus invention in the age of AI 47:10 Final advice and how to start your next act Get POWER OF AFTER BOOK HERE: https://amzn.to/3GpEGlJ  Make sure you're getting all our podcast updates and articles! Get them here: https://goalsforyourlife.com/newsletter  Resources with tools and guidance for mid-career individuals, professionals & those at the halftime of life seeking growth and fulfillment: http://HalftimeSuccess.com 

Some conversations are simply too good to leave in the archives.This week I'm re-releasing one of my favorite early episodes with my dear friend, Wilder. Even years later, this conversation feels just as relevant. We dive into what it actually looks like to build a life outside of traditional relationship norms, from joining an already-married couple to creating a thriving polyamorous family together.Wilder shares her experience of living in a closed triad, navigating the assumptions people make about triads, unpacking monogamous conditioning, and raising children in a loving, intentional polyamorous household.Whether you're curious about polyamory, already practicing ethical non-monogamy, or simply interested in questioning the relationship scripts we've all inherited, this conversation is full of honesty, vulnerability, and hope.Wilder lives in Olalla with her partners, their children, and an ever-growing collection of chickens, ducks, adventures, and beautiful chaos.In This Episode What a closed triad actually is - and what people often misunderstand about them  Why labels can be helpful...and where they can become limiting  The emotional journey of transitioning from monogamy to polyamory  Authenticity, self-love, and creating relationships that fit who you really are  Unlearning monogamous programming  Navigating jealousy with curiosity instead of fear  Raising children in a polyamorous family  Imagining new possibilities for love, family, and partnership  The difference between control and trust  Choosing authenticity over societal expectations Timestamps2:19 – What is a closed triad?4:20 – Labels and identity8:24 – Transitioning into polyamory15:03 – Authenticity and self-love18:59 – Monogamous programming and triad dynamics33:24 – Jealousy44:49 – Raising kids in a polyamorous family52:44 – The possibilities of the future54:41 – Control versus trust1:00:08 – Living authenticallyIf you enjoyed this conversation, I'd love for you to share it with someone who's questioning the relationship "rules" they've always been taught. Every time we hear real stories from real people, it becomes a little easier to imagine that there are many ways to build a loving, connected life.❤️ Thanks for listening to Nope, We're Not Monogamous.Send us Fan MailSupport the show

Chapters:0:00 Reflecting on the Stop Sindhi Hate campaign3:09 TPE has always raised their voices for the oppressed8:06 Hate against Sindhis has been normalized13:10 People of Karachi are privileged including me15:35 Your identity being weaponized, labels and propaganda21:50 Views, likes and dollars28:50 TPE is an independent platform31:52 Stop Sindhi Hate37:00 MQM brainwashing43:00 Unlearning colonial tropes46:22 Nafratain chor kar pyar kee taraf aayai48:00 Understanding the Stop Sindhi Hate CampaignThe Pakistan Experience is an independently produced podcast looking to tell stories about Pakistan through conversations. Please consider supporting us on Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/thepakistanexperienceTo support the channel:Jazzcash/Easypaisa - 0325 -2982912Patreon.com/thepakistanexperienceAnd Please stay in touch:https://twitter.com/ThePakistanExp1https://www.facebook.com/thepakistanexperiencehttps://instagram.com/thepakistanexpeperienceThe podcast is hosted by comedian and writer, Shehzad Ghias Shaikh. Shehzad is a Fulbright scholar with a Masters in Theatre from Brooklyn College. He is also one of the foremost Stand-up comedians in Pakistan and frequently writes for numerous publications. Instagram.com/shehzadghiasshaikhFacebook.com/Shehzadghias/Twitter.com/shehzad89Join this channel to get access to perks:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC44l9XMwecN5nSgIF2Dvivg/join

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To Support The Show:  Patreon.com/islandsofcoherence Subscribe, Like, Comment, and Hit the Bell for Notifications on YouTube Follow us on Instagram (@islands.of.coherence) and Tik Tok (@islandsofcoherence) Joining us this week for the show is member of the Cheyenne River Lakota Nation of South Dakota, Tiokasin Ghosthorse. In this conversation we explore the nature of language in how it shapes our ability to relate with ourselves and the world. From that foundation we take a look at solutions to the interlocking crises of the present day.  Tiokasin Ghosthorse is a member of the Cheyenne River Lakota Nation of South Dakota, an educator, musician, and internationally recognized speaker on peace and Indigenous issues. He is the founder, host, and executive producer of First Voices Radio, a program he started in 1993 that is now syndicated to over 120 public, community, and commercial radio stations across the US and Canada. A survivor of Bureau of Indian Affairs boarding schools, he has spent decades speaking on Indigenous cosmology, language, and humanity's relationship with the Earth — work that led to a 2016 Nobel Peace Prize nomination from the International Institute of Peace Studies and Global Philosophy. He's also a master musician who performs the traditional Lakota cedar flute worldwide, and has been featured at venues including the Cathedral of Saint John the Divine, Lincoln Center, and the United Nations. Show Topics - How Humans Forgot Their Connection to the Planet - Lakota Language as a Living Language - English's Blind Spots - Is There a Greater Purpose for this Disconnection? - Decentering Humans - Recognizing Beauty and the Music of All Things - The Energetic Signature of Cities - Colonization Mindset - Reconnecting with Natural Languages - Grandmother's Songs - Intuition, Gratitude, and Ceremony

In this episode of Workday Playdate, Erin sits down with Phylicia McLeod to explore why thinking on your feet has less to do with having the right answer and more to do with trusting yourself. As an improviser, facilitator, teacher, and performer with the The Second City National Touring Company, Phylicia has built a career around navigating uncertainty in real time. If you've ever found yourself overthinking a decision, freezing under pressure, or wishing you trusted your instincts more, this conversation is packed with practical wisdom and an unexpected case for tarot cards. Inside This Episode: Why Intuition Deserves a Seat at the Table: Phylicia and Erin discuss how intuition, reflective practices, and self-trust can help us make faster, more confident decisions when uncertainty strikes. How Improv Trains You to Think on Your Feet: Performing improv for a living means making thousands of decisions in real time. Phylicia shares the biggest lessons improv has taught her about trust, adaptability, and moving forward without a script. Tarot Cards, Creativity, and Decision-Making: Before you roll your eyes, hear us out. Phylicia explains how tarot serves as a powerful reflective tool that helps people access intuition, uncover blind spots, and make meaning during uncertain moments. Helping People Move Through the Freeze Response: As a longtime improve it! facilitator, Phylicia has helped countless participants navigate those deer-in-headlights moments. Learn how creating psychological safety and lowering the stakes can help anyone think more clearly under pressure. Unlearning the Need for Certainty: Through her work as co-host of the podcast Unlearning, Phylicia explores what it means to let go of old stories, trust yourself more deeply, and embrace uncertainty as part of growth. What to Do Now: Listen to Your Gut First: The next time you're facing a difficult decision, give yourself five uninterrupted minutes to write down what your intuition is telling you before seeking outside opinions. Practice Imperfect Action: Thinking on your feet isn't about certainty. It's about making the next move with the information you have and trusting yourself to adjust along the way. Get Curious About Your Patterns: Notice where you tend to overthink, freeze, or seek external validation. Awareness is the first step toward building greater self-trust. About the Guest Phylicia McLeod is a Chicago-based improviser, writer, voice actor, and educator. She currently tours with The Second City National Touring Company and has been a beloved improve it! facilitator since 2018. In addition to performing and teaching, Phylicia co-hosts the podcast Unlearning, where she explores growth, identity, and the stories we tell ourselves. Whether she's on stage, in the classroom, or reading tarot cards, Phylicia is passionate about helping people trust themselves, embrace uncertainty, and lead with curiosity. Your Freebie You're calm, capable, and composed… until things take an unexpected turn (as they tend to do)! This is exactly why we created The Clarity Under Pressure Toolkit: What to Do in the First 5 Minutes of Any Uncertain Situation. It's your go-to guide for staying grounded when it matters most. Download it here. Connect with Phylicia McLeod Phylicia's LinkedIn Connect with Erin Diehl x improve it! Leadership Playground online membership community Erin's website Erin's Instagram Erin's TikTok Erin's LinkedIn improve it!'s website improve it!'s Instagram Connect with Erin Diehl

Summary In this episode, Andy sits down with Tom Rath, one of the most respected researchers on wellbeing and human potential, author of What's the Point? Turning Your Purpose Into a Superpower. Tom argues that we can be incredibly busy while slowly drifting away from what matters most, optimizing our schedules while our lives quietly leak away. Andy and Tom explore why "follow your passion" can be harmful advice, how status seeking becomes career quicksand, and why our smartphones may be one of the greatest threats to purposeful living. They also discuss how many of us inherit ambitions from our parents that we never consciously chose, and how an honest awareness of mortality can sharpen our clarity, intentionality, and sense of purpose. Rather than treating purpose as one grand calling, Tom reframes it as something we create in small moments throughout the day. If you're looking for a practical, and honestly a little uncomfortable, guide to leading and living with more purpose, this episode is for you! Sound Bites "Here's what I know with absolute certainty: you're wasting most of your day. Not because you're lazy, but because you've never asked the right question. You're so busy being busy that you've forgotten to ask why. You're optimizing your schedule while your life leaks away, hour by hour in meetings that don't matter and tasks that won't be remembered next week, let alone next year." "If you fail to do those things in a day and take that initiative and have those meaningful and purposeful conversations, and you put those off until tomorrow, tomorrow never really comes because we get into that responsive mode." "Passion by definition starts with you, and it's a little self-oriented, whereas I would argue purpose by definition has an other orientation to it, which is a much better idea for anchoring your energy in a day." "If you're not connecting back with the impact that it made on one person that day, it fails to kind of count in the way we motivate ourselves and think about our work on a daily basis." "I would argue that 90% of the purpose in life is built in those moments, not in some epiphany on a sunny day." "I would estimate that at least 80% of people, maybe 90%, make it all the way to the very end of their career in their life without ever seeing what they could have been best at in life." "Even as managers and leaders, if we don't take care of our own health and wellbeing first, we just have no shot at even being our best for other people that we manage." "There's always someone making twice as much as you or 10 times as much as you, and there's always somebody with more followers or more listeners or more readers or whatever it might be." "The eulogy virtues are about what am I doing today so I'll be a better dad, a better husband, a better friend, to help readers, to help people with the products I'm working on." "I would argue that 80% of people I see out in public today, out in the wild, are essentially working for their smartphone." "Their smartphone's running their life, and they're the ones salivating like one of Pavlov's dogs every time the darn thing blinks or buzzes or vibrates, right?" "Having your phone out sends an implicit message to the other person that the little black box on the table matters more than the other person, and it degrades the quality of the conversation." "The one thing we've all got in common is we have today to try and do some things that serve a purpose and help another person, and if you miss that opportunity, it's gone." "None of them, none of the headstones say anything about those kind of resume virtues that we were talking about." Chapters 00:00 Introduction 02:00 Start of Interview 02:08 Busy, Yet Drifting from What Matters 05:50 Rethinking the "One True Calling" 07:38 Why "Follow Your Passion" Can Backfire 09:26 From "What Do I Do?" to "Who Do I Help?" 11:20 How Our Parents' Paths Shape Us 12:11 When Admirable Influence Becomes a Limiting Script 15:01 Unlearning the "Always the Hardest Worker" Mindset 16:55 Are We Nudging Our Kids Into Our Dreams? 19:23 Status Seeking as Career Quicksand 22:02 Choosing Your Own Scoreboard 23:38 Smartphones and the Threat to Purpose 26:28 Making Technology Work for You 28:05 How Mortality Sharpens Purpose 30:52 What the Headstones Don't Say 32:33 Helping Kids Build Lives That Matter 35:21 End of Interview 35:48 Andy Comments After the Interview 40:20 Outtakes Learn More You can learn more about Tom and his new book at tomrath.org/whats-the-point. For more learning on this topic, check out: Episode 132 with Tom Rath. An earlier conversation with Tom, digging into his story and his research on wellbeing. Episode 140 with Tom Rath. Another previous discussion with Tom on wellness and living with strengths. Episode 31 with Adam Grant. Adam's first-ever podcast interview, where he shares insights on how to lead with meaning. Episode 261 with David Epstein. A conversation about his book Range, a helpful complement on career decisions for kids and for us. Chat with PMeLa You can chat directly with PMeLa—the podcast's AI persona—to get episode recommendations and answers to your project management and leadership questions. Visit PeopleAndProjectsPodcast.com/PMeLa to chat with her. Join Us for LEAD52 I know you want to be a more confident leader–that's why you listen to this podcast. LEAD52 is a global community of people like you who are committed to transforming their ability to lead and deliver. It's 52 weeks of leadership learning, delivered right to your inbox, taking less than 5 minutes a week. And it's all for free. Learn more and sign up at GetLEAD52.com. Thanks! Thank you for joining me for this episode of The People and Projects Podcast! Talent Triangle: Business Acumen Topics: Purpose, Leadership, Career Development, Passion, Wellbeing, Intentionality, Status, Comparison, Digital Distraction, Mortality, Parenting, Meaningful Work, Project Management The following music was used for this episode: Music: Summer Awakening by Frank Schroeter License (CC BY 4.0): https://filmmusic.io/standard-license Music: Tuesday by Sascha Ende License (CC BY 4.0): https://filmmusic.io/standard-license

What if loving something (your country, your work, your own self-image) actually requires being brutally honest about its flaws? In this encore episode of The Game Changing Attorney Podcast, Michael Mogill sits down with Dr. Dolly Chugh, social psychologist, behavioral scientist, and bestselling author, to unpack why our brains are wired for consistency instead of objectivity, and how guilt and shame can become engines for real growth. They get into the "psychology of good people," the trap of the flawless narrative, and what it takes to keep getting better instead of defending a story that no longer fits. It's a conversation about replacing brittle perfection with something far more durable. Here's what you'll learn: Why a "good person" is a fragile identity, and what to build instead How to give a real apology that actually resets the relationship What the "long time ago illusion" is, and how it distorts your judgment The version of yourself you're defending might be the thing holding you back. This one will make you rethink it. (00:00:00) Introduction (00:02:48) Becoming a psychologist (00:05:29) The psychology of good people (00:07:29) No one is good all the time (00:09:02) Canceling and growth (00:14:52) Home team bias (00:17:09) The gritty patriot (00:20:40) Guilt vs. shame (00:29:52) The "long time ago" illusion (00:35:32) What makes an apology work (00:36:53) George Takei's story (00:41:13) Being a game changer ---- Links & Resources: A More Just Future by Dr. Dolly Chugh Dr. Dolly Chugh Grit by Angela Duckworth The Power of Us by Jay Van Bavel and Dominic Packer Mindset by Carol Dweck Caste: The Origins of Our Discontents by Isabel Wilkerson George Takei Little House on the Prairie by Laura Ingalls Wilder Buffalo Soldier by Bob Marley ---- Learn what sustainable growth can look like for your firm at crispcoach.com. ---- Do you love this podcast and want to see more game changing content? Subscribe to our YouTube channel. ---- Past guests on The Game Changing Attorney Podcast include David Goggins, John Morgan, Alex Hormozi, Randi McGinn, Kim Scott, Chris Voss, Kevin O'Leary, Laura Wasser, John Maxwell, Mark Lanier, Robert Greene, and many more. ---- If you enjoyed this episode, you may also like: 330. Jay Van Bavel - Bias, Belonging, and the Battle for Truth 275. Kim Scott - The Power of Radical Respect 121. Ben Crump - Speaking Truth to Power: The Fight for Social Justice in America