Men's Family Law Podcast

This comes from a column I write in the Santa Monica Daily Press. It's a short episode, but I get real and raw about my own father, his problems, our family issues, and the value of a dad in a child's life. 

This week I spoke with multiple New York Times best selling author Stephen Mansfield about his latest book, Men on Fire - Restoring the Forces that Forge Noble Manhood. Men in today's society often find themselves isolated and alone after a divorce or breakup and need to restore their social support network and self-esteem. It's crucial for them to set an example for their children, especially so if they are fighting for more parenting time in family court.

In this episode I answer a question that came from Facebook from a dad about how his ex was using his learning disability of dyslexia as a wedge with their children. She was telling the kids he was stupid, which made him concerned he'd lose his kids in court.  Learn how we deal with that in the Dad's Action Pack. 

In this episode I speak with Sylvio La Valle, he founded the Father's Rights group on Facebook and it's grown to serve men and women across the globe. We chat about how a father can increase his custodial time share, and work through the emotions of a custody case.  The group is on Facebook at www.facebook.com/groups/forfuturessake  If you're looking to increase your parenting time and need to represent yourself in court as a Pro Se (In Pro Per) litigant, don't forget to check out the Dad's ACTION Pack at www.mensfamilylawcenter.com/actionpack   

Today I spoke with CRAIG PERRA from TheMindfulHabit.com. He's helping men who have sex addiction and porn viewing habits recover their lives and control their sexuality in healthy ways.

In this episode I chat with Mark Santiago of www.empoweredman.co about what go through emotionally in a divorce/ child custody battle. He shares his story of what he faced, and how he's now turned that into a way to help the over 2,000,000 men each year that are facing the same hell.  I also discuss my new product to help dads who are fighting for custody. It's called the Dad's ACTION Pack, and it's designed to help you discover and then explain to the judge why you're a "Great Dad". Check it out at www.mensfamilylawcenter.com/actionpack

If you're facing a court hearing, whether it's a divorce or a child custody case, you need to be prepared to speak to a judge. In this episode I share the two reasons people hire lawyers, and share some tips on how to prepare if you're going to be self-represented. 

In today's episode some guidance for those people who are looking to represent themselves in court, but still need to meet with a lawyer to get some feedback and direction. How to maximize the time, and avoid the "fluff" that lawyers, honestly, don't care about. PLUS, the book that everyone who is going to represent themselves in any negotiation should read. 

If you've just been served with a Domestic Violence Restraining Order (DVRO) and/or Divorce Petition - this is the episode you need to listen to IMMEDIATELY! 

It's the end of 2020, and this horrible year is coming to an end with many couples thinking about calling it quits next year. If that is you, this episode will give you a place to start your preparation.  You can also download the Divorce Guide For Men at www.mensfamilylawcenter.com/divorce-guide-for-men

In this episode I talk about the long term solution of suicide to a short term problem - I'm against it. The National Suicide Hotline is 800-273-8255 and the Crisis Line for THE FATHERS RIGHTS MOVEMENT IS 907-312-5552 or email them at crisis@tfrm.us. I speak with my friend Pat Walley of DignityCreditSolutions.com - he helps people rebuild their credit post divorce and shows them how to build a business line of credit that is separate from their personal credit history. 

In this episode I explain why you may have to pay for the lawyers and experts who are representing your ex. It's not fun, but it is legal....and I explain why representing the mother is abused by family lawyers.

In this episode I review the book THE BOY CRISIS by Dr. Warren Farrell and Dr. John Gray. Farrell is called the father of the Men's Movement and his insights and research into the impact that the women's movement has had on men is addressed in this easy to read yet comprehensive book. SHORT REVIEW: BUY THIS BOOK AND READ IT!!!!

This is a short episode where I read what I wrote on fathers for the Santa Monica Daily Press where I have a regular weekly column

In this short episode I share about what to do if you're dating a foreign national and you have a child together.  Also a reminder that it's National Testicular Cancer Awareness month.

In this episode David Pisarra tells the tale of a case of the Lyin' Diva, and how he proved she was committing perjury which led to a termination of his client's having to pay alimony to her.  He goes over the California Family Code Section 4320 factors that used by courts to determine what spousal support should be, for how long and how to end it. 

In America we are losing 20-25 veterans a day to suicide. On top of that are the non-vets who are treating their depression with drugs and alcohol and overdose, or die in some other substance abuse related way. Today we hear from Dr. Sally Spencer Thomas from the Carson J. Spencer Foundation who will share about their program MANTHERAPY and how it's working on the frontlines of suicide prevention. 

I've been telling men for years to "get clipped" or "tie a knot in it" if they're going to have an active sex life with a woman of child bearing years. In this episode I speak with Dr. Martin Bastuba, the San Diego Vasectomy and Vasectomy reversal surgeon. He is nationally recognized as an expert and this show tells men exactly what to expect in the procedure and recovery times. 

In this episode I do a quick review of A Family's Heartbreak: A Parent's Introduction to Parental Alienation. I've used this book often to explain Parental Alienation to others, both clients and colleagues. It's a very useful and helpful book for those who are in the beginning of a Parental Alienation case. I also have an interview with the author, Mike Jeffries, in an earlier podcast episode you can listen to for more insight into what he went through in his case. 

This week David Pisarra is speaking with Hal Rogness from Cryo Choice a private sperm bank on why men should bank some sperm, what it costs and how the process works. It's one part of a two step process to a worry free sex life, the second part is coming up next week!  We've arranged for a discount code of $50 per sample if you use the PROMO code PODCAST at Cryo Choice. 

This week I read a couple of essays on fathers and fatherhood that I wrote, and interview Alan-Michael Graves from Project Fatherhood at Children's Institute on his upcoming fatherhood conference.    Alan-Michael Graves is the Director of Project Fatherhood at Children's Institute in Los Angeles.  http://www.childrensinstitute.org

Today's show is about suicide. It's the 10th leading cause of death in America, Men are 3.5 times more likely to die by suicide than women. White males were 70% of the suicides in 2014. Worst of all, it is preventable. We can help each other, and that's why I'm taking on this topic today.   Here's a list of hotlines if you're in crisis. www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org - Call 24/7 1-800-273-8255 www.veteranscrisisline.net Veterans Crisis Line - 800-273-8255 Press 1 www.afsp.org - American Foundation for Suicide Prevention   My guest today is Michael Volpe, his book Bullied to Death: Chris Mackney's Kafkaesque Divorce puts forth the story of how the abuse of the legal process by a vengeful ex-wife, a remorseless father-in-law and lawyers, psychologists and judges drove one man to kill himself. His book is available here at Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Bullied-Death-Mackneys-Kafkaesque-Divorce-ebook/dp/B0149ERBBI

This episode has David speaking with Dr. Debra Warner about the SCRIPT (Summit on Community Resilience, Intervention, Prevention, and Training) Conference - Stopping the Stigma of Male Sexual Trauma. www.thescriptconference.com - The Script Conference Website. www.NAASCA.ORG - The National Association of of Adult Survivors of Child Abuse.

You can't play football by the rules of baseball, and you can't play the game of Family Court if you don't know the rules - today I share with you three keys to better results in child custody battles.   I also interview Dr. Eric Frazer from Child Custody Analytics on tools he's developed to help lawyers and their clients be more successful in court. www.ChildCustodyAnalytics.com   Also heres' a video about his company Child Custody Analytics: https://youtu.be/q3lVN8mRyJM  

In this episode David Pisarra speaks with Chris Anderson from MaleSurvivor.org about the "Hot for Teacher" experience of young boys who are raped by their teachers. What are the long term effects and what can be done to help them recover? WWW.MaleSurvivor.org for more information for parents and survivors.

Today we cover the three keys to child custody for fathers. Our guest today is Philip Morghese of DaddyDaugherHairFactory.com talking about bonding with his daughter over braids and helping other men to do the same.   WWW.DADDYDAUGHTERHAIRFACTORY101.COM  

This podcast deals with test tube babies and how to have a kid without a woman - yes it's possible. Men are starting to consider ways to be a father without the trials and tribulations of finding the 'right woman' and these days, it's possible if you have the funds to be a dad without a woman, at least beyond the pregnancy part. Nicholas Berggruen is a billionaire and he did what I've been saying for years. So has Ricky Martin, Neil Patrick Harris and a host of other men who wanted the fatherhood experience, without the family court experience.   I speak with embryologist Julia Van Reeven about what In Vitro Fertilization is, and what's going on in the world of designer babies.   This episode arose out of a case in California where a married couple fertilized eggs, knowing that the wife had cancer and had limited fertility. Then they headed to divorce court, find out what happens on this episode of the Men's Family Law podcast.

Father's rights attorney David Pisarra speaks with Thomas Fidler, who founded the Father's Rights Movement about the movement and Florida's Equal Parenting Bill that was just vetoed by Florida Governor Rick Scott. Feminists, Domestic Violence and what's in it for the children are the topics of this podcast.   WWW.FATHERSRIGHTSMOVEMENT.US

Men's Family Law - Nationally recognized Father's Rights expert David Pisarra discusses his new film that is in development about men who are experiencing domestic abuse from the other side - women who abuse men. He gives an update on the Indiegogo campaign and what's next for the movie What About The Men? www.whataboutthemen.com  The interview today is with Jared Easley of Starve the Doubts podcast and co-founder of Podcast Movement - the largest conference in the world for podcasters. In this episode we discuss the new book by Jared and his co-host Kimanzi Constable "Stop Chasing Influencers" and their Kickstarter campaign. The book is a motivational handbook for anyone that wants to make changes in their life. www.stopchasinginfluencers.com/ks www.podcastmovement.com  

Happy Thanksgiving 2015 ! Just a quick message and song to keep you going through the rough times. Feel free to email me at david@mensfamilylaw.com

Men's Family Law - Today we're talking about an IndieGoGO crowdfunding campaign for What About The Men? Exploring the Hidden Side of Domestic Violence the documentary that we're doing to raise awareness of male survivors of domestic violence. JOIN US AND DONATE HERE: HELP US RAISE $5,000 Then our guest today is RK Hendrick from Protection For Men, he's a retired lawyer, judge and a vocal men's rights advocate. Author of the book "How to Avoid Getting Screwed when Gettting Laid." Availalble on Amazon.com

This is the trailer for the documentary What About the Men? Exploring the Hidden Side of Domestic Violence.  We have a crowd funding campaign going on over at https://www.indiegogo.com/ and we'd love to have  your support. We have some great perks like MFL official condoms, you can get the A Man's Guide.... series of books as a set. Plus there's MOVIE CREDITS to be had!   

Men's Family Law - Nationally recognized Father's Rights expert David Pisarra discusses parental alienation, what it is, the causes and how to deal with it in court.   I interview Dr. Amy J.L. Baker this week about the topic and we discuss her new novel that is entered into a writing competition on KindleScout.   Amy is an expert on Parental Alienation regularly speaks across the country and is available for coaching if you are having alienation happening in your life with your children.   Find out more about her here: www.amyjlbaker.com she is availble for phone consultation across the country.   Her latest book, the novel The Misery Checklist is in a KindleScout competition and you can read the first 2 1/2 chapters here: https://kindlescout.amazon.com/p/2JHN5LHNVK9SU   Please go read her book and nominate it by 5/27/15.

Men's Family Law - Nationally recognized Father's Rights expert David Pisarra discusses his new film that is in development about men who are experiencing domestic abuse from the other side - women who abuse men.   The interview today is with Ram Goetz, producer of the movie BLAME from Elementum Entertainment on what drew him to the movie, how domestic violence affects relationships and develops, and a funny on set story about what actors go through to get ready for a role.   View the BLAME trailer at www.elementument.com 

Today's episode is about why men stay in abusive relationships - turns out the reasons are the same as why women stay in abusive relationships - there's 13 main reasons and I go over them today.   Then we hear from Dr. Richard Gelles a professor at University of Pennsylvania who is the Dean of the School of Social Policy and Practice, and the Raymonmd Welsh Chair o f Child Welfare and Family Violence in the School of Social Policy and Practice. Dr. Gelles is the author of 24 books and over 100 articles.    His insights are amazing and this was a great interview. 

This week we discuss the dreaded moveaways when mom takes the kids to another state or country.   Then we have a chat with Robert Nickell from Daddy & Co, and My Life As A Dad webseries. Daddy Nickell is an father twice over, an entrepreneur and web host who comes on to share his experiences with having his children move to another state and how being a second time dad is different.    We talk about the benefits of a second family and what he's doing differently this time around.   For new dads who want to feel more a part of the process, he created a clothing line of medical scrubs that you can get here www.daddyncompany.com that are emblazoned with "I'm the Daddy" so the medical personnel know who you are. I think it makes a great gift idea for your buddies who are becoming dads. He's also go daddy diaper bags and a health and skin care line of products you should be sure to check out. 

Men's Family Law - This week David Pisarra explains how sex, no fault divorce, and the bible all factor in to your divorce or child custody case.  Then it's all about polyamory, swinging and rebuilding your sex life after a divorce.   The interview this week is Cooper Beckett from Life On The Swingset podcast and author of My Life On The Swingset, soon to be an audiobook.   Today we discuss polyamory, open relationships, swinging and how to have fun and enjoy your sexual relationships more.    Cooper reads a chapter from his book on what divorce means to him and how it was a positive life change for his family.    http://www.lifeontheswingset.com

Men's Family Law -  This week we're talking drugs, alcohol and criminal behaviors. And dose of Travis Alexander and that psycho Jodi Arias, with Darren Kavinoky of nocuffs.com and Deadly Sins from Investigation Discovery channel.   But first I have an open letter of support to Erik Walden of the Indianapolis Colts after his ex-girlfriend and babymama attacked him and his current girlfriend with a knife, a gun and a bat.  She broke into his home and lay in wait for the couple to attack them.  Erik is now a Domestic Violence Abuse Survivor and so is his current girlfriend and we as men should stand in support of them because we want men like him to speak up and be points of light to others.   In speaking with Darren Kavinoky we have several websites for your information:    www.interventionpartners.com www.investigationdiscovery.com/tv-shows/breaking-point   You can reach Darren at 800-NoCuffs or his website www.  NoCuffs.com   Next week we have Cooper Beckett from LIfe on the Swingset podcast talking about polyamory, swinging and how to have a better sex life.

This short video is just a promo of what my UDEMY.com course is like. The course is for people who have NO KIDS and are generally getting along and just want to get back to being single. I explain what forms are needed to start, and complete a divorce in California. I explain why the needs each of them and what they do.  The course is availble here: Udemy.com/Do-It-yourself-california-divorce Podcast listeners can get a discounted price of $20 by emailing me for a coupon code. Send me an email at:  DAVID@MENSFAMILYLAW.COM and I'll send you the coupon code.

Men's Family Law - The show this week has information on a do it yourself divorce course offered by David Pisarra on YOUTUBE.COM   Today's interview is with Michael Volpe who is the author of  BULLIED TO DEATH - THE CHRIS MACKNEY STORY. A tale involving a decades old murder, lawyers, a celebrity jewelry designer named Dina Mackney and has a weird connection to Woody Harrelson's deceased father.    Chris was put through the wringer by his ex-wife, the judicial system and in this super high conflict divorce, he had little chance of coming out of it with any shred of his former life.

Men's Family Law - Nationally recognized Father's Rights expert David Pisarra explains how to get a Domestic Violence Restraining Order (DVRO) and the basic forms needed.    In today's show, we speak with John Hamel, Editor of Partner Abuse Journal on how often men are targets of abuse, and what it does to the children to live in an abusive home, and how it effects men. We bag on bad lawyers and judges, and talk about what you need to know to protect yourself.   Check out this website for more great information: http://www.domesticviolenceresearch.org   Can a DVRO help me? http://www.courts.ca.gov/documents/dv500info.pdf   Request for DVRO: http://www.courts.ca.gov/documents/dv100.pdf   Description of Abuse: http://www.courts.ca.gov/documents/dv101.pdf   Request for Custody and Visitation orders:  http://www.courts.ca.gov/documents/dv105.pdf   Request for No Travel:  http://www.courts.ca.gov/documents/dv108.pdf   Notice of Court Hearing: http://www.courts.ca.gov/documents/dv109.pdf   Temporary Restraining Order: http://www.courts.ca.gov/documents/dv110.pdf   Proof of Service: http://www.courts.ca.gov/documents/dv200.pdf  

Men's Family Law - Nationally recognized Father's Rights expert David Pisarra explains physical and psychological abuse so that men can understand and recognize it more accurately. Taking definitions straight from the CDC's National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey of 2010 he explains what psychological abuse is, and gives concrete examples.   The report is available here: NATIONAL INTIMATE PARTNER REPORT   Today's interview is with Philip W. Cook, author of Abused Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence, and When Women Sexually Abuse Men.

This is an opinon piece I wrote that no editor wants to run, so I'm just going to distribute it myself.   I call out Senator Dianne Feinstein for her deafening silence on the issue of female on male abuse. Considering she was front and center when it was Ray Rice hitting Janay, I just think it fair that she should stand up when a woman hits a man. 

Men's Family Law - Nationally recognized Father's Rights expert David Pisarra talks with Chris Anderson of the website MaleSurvivor.org about how men who have been abused, sexually or traumatized, can identify themselves and then seek help.    This is a far ranging conversation dealing with sex and sexuality, with how humans have historically handled sexual exploration  and what we as a society are doing to develop a healthy sexuality while avoiding traumatizing behaviors.   We talk about how likely is a victim to become an abuser and the "Vampire Myth" of abuse as it pertains to men.   Today's conversation may be uncomfortable some people who have been abused or traumatized. 

Men's Family Law -  This episode talks about Domestic Abuse and how men don't recognize that they are victims or targets as often as they should.   The article "HOW THE WELL MEANING SUPERBOWL COMMERCIALS FUMBLED DOMESTIC VIOLENCE" was written by David Pisarra and published on GoodMenProject.com. David reads this article for you today, it's a 750 word essay that discusses what men need to know about domestic violence.   Daniel Crespo was the mayor of Bell Gardens  when on September 30, 2014 the eve of the National Domestic Violence awareness month, his wife, Lyvette Crespo put three bullets in close proximity to each other in his chest. She claims he was an abusive cheater and it was self-defense. Which is odd considering he was fighting with their 19 year old son. Attorney James Deavitt, of www.domesticviolenceatty.com is representing Daniel Crespo's mother and brother in a wrongful death lawsuit against Lyvette Crespo.   

A special Valentine's Day reading of "To A Friend On His Divorce" by Josh Max. This piece originally was published in the New York Times on February 13, 2015.    It's a bittersweet and hopeful piece for men who are feeling alone or hurting on this Valentine's Day.    Just hold on, it does get better.    

Men's Family Law - Nationally recognized Father's Rights expert David Pisarra explains the most important things fathers need to know about  talking to the judge about your Child Custody and the best strategy for  getting the most time with their child.   In this episode, David explains how telling the judge your WHY impacts your ability to get what you want from a judge, and the biggest mistake most men make in asking for more time with their children.    We talk with Pat Williams from the Orlando Magic about his experiences as a leader in his family of 19 children, and in building teams throughout his career in professional sports.

Men's Family Law - Nationally recognized Father's Rights expert David Pisarra explains the three most important things fathers need to know about Child Custody and the strategy for getting the most time with their child.   This week I explain what forms are needed to get a hearing for a child custody plan, what you should put in your declaration to make the judge want to give you the time you need with your children. I give tips on  how to fill out the fl-150 the income and expense declaration and create a Profit and Loss statement if you're self-employed.   I speak with Dr. Carol Hirshfield about the difference between Parental Alienation Syndrome and Parental Alienation. We talk about what Reunification Therapy is and why she thinks it should be called Famiy Therapy. We explore why some kids might be more attached to one parent than the other, and why that is not a bad thing always.

This week we talk about why filing a court case is crucial to protecting your rights as a father, even if the baby isn't born yet. I explain briefly what forms you need to file and how to take control of what is often a situation that feels out of your control.   In our interview segment we talk to Paul Raeburn, author of "Do Fathers Matter?  What Science Is Telling Us About the Parent We've Overlooked." His book is available on Amazon and BN.com.

Today's show will make you Educated, Empowered and Entertained - and that's our goal with every show.     In this episode David Pisarra talks about how being honest with your lawyer is crucial to setting yourself up for success in a divorce or child custody case.   In this week's interview DIAMOND DALLAS PAGE comes on to talk about his experiences with the USO in Iraq and Afghanistan, how he developed his DDP YOGA and why it is crucial for men to get honest with themselves in order to get healthier.   We discuss Arthur, one of the greatest turnaroundstories of health and fitness in American history. If you haven't seen the video of Arthur's transformation thanks to DDP Yoga, you can watch it here: www.ddpyoga.com.

Men's Family Law - Nationally recognized Father's Rights expert David Pisarra talks about how important sex is to a marriage and if you're not getting it, it may be time to get out and get a divorce.   Irreconcilable differences is a catch all phrase for why to get a divorce and it's explained in this episode.   THIS IS AN EXPLICIT CONVERSATION FOR ADULTS. IT'S RAUNCHY IN PLACES AND NOT FOR THE FAINT OF HEART.   Today's guest is JV Altharas from Ending the Sexual Dark Age Podcast. We chat about all the stuff you want to know, and more. We talk about being sex positive in society and why we're not. Slut shaming and who's really doing it.  How to save a relationship with a positive sexual attitude and how to make a woman want to give you anything you ask for. www.sexualdarkage.com