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The podcast dedicated to the realities of life after breast cancer treatments have ended. How to get out of survival mode and into a fully lived life. Because Survival is Insufficient

Robin Fern Breast Cancer Recovery Life Coach


    • Jan 19, 2022 LATEST EPISODE
    • weekly NEW EPISODES
    • 20m AVG DURATION
    • 107 EPISODES


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    Latest episodes from Survival Is Insufficient Podcast

    Everything Does Not Happen For a Reason

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 19, 2022 17:20


    I've had people tell me this, and I've heard other breast cancer survivors say it. And I feel like no good can come from this phrase. In this episode, I break down the 3 different ways I find this phrase used and also how it tends to backfire in our lives.

    Positive and Happy are Not the Same

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 12, 2022 11:51


    I think breast cancer survivors use positive and happy interchangeably and it's doing them a disservice. In this episode I dig into the differences I see between them, and why I think its so important to be clear.

    Feeling Ungrateful for Gifts

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 5, 2022 19:42


    In the post-holiday slump, some people are feeling ungrateful for gifts they don't like. The same sometimes happens for women around gifts they receive from well-meaning friends and family when they are diagnosed with breast cancer. In this episode I talk about feeling around receiving - and giving - gifts.

    Mindful Consuming After Breast Cancer

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 29, 2021 18:07


    As we stare down a new year, many of us are looking to set resolutions, or goals or intentions. And some of those will revolve around what you consume - or don't consume. In this episode I talk about one of the common pitfalls we often fall into when we are looking to change what we consume.

    Self Protection or Self Sabotage After Breast Cancer

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 22, 2021 21:49


    It's a fine line between self-protection and self-sabotage. In this episode I share the signs you are slipping into self-sabotage, and why it happens in the first place.

    Responsibility for Your Life During and After Breast Cancer

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 15, 2021 16:12


    Going through an event like breast cancer, with so much unknown, its easy to slip into a place of relying on your treatment team to keep you informed. But this is handing over responsibility for your experience. In this episode I talk about being fiercely responsible for your life and your experience.

    Your Brain Filter After Breast Cancer

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 10, 2021 21:10


    After a life changing event like cancer, it's natural to focus on things you don't want in your life. You may start to plan for the worst, because then you'll feel less disappointment if it happens. But beyond this being a less enjoyable way to go through life, it also sets yourself up for your negative thoughts to become self-fulfilling prophecies. In this episode I talk about your RAS and how you need to be careful about how you think so your RAS is working for you, not against you.

    99. Uncomfortable with Certainty

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 2, 2021 26:16


    Most of us feel uncomfortable around the idea of uncertainty - especially after going through breast cancer. But did you know that you can feel uncomfortable around certainty also? In this episode I talk a bit about how this might be true, why it might happen, and how to not let it stop you.

    How to Shift a Belief

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 17, 2021 25:40


    There are a lot of sneaky sub-conscious beliefs that women have after breast cancer, and many of them can create that feeling of being stuck. Finding those beliefs is the first step, but what do you do once you find it? This episode gives you the visual guide that helps me when I am in the process of shifting a belief.

    Interview with Leesa

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 11, 2021 73:55


    In this episode I interview Survival is Insufficient member Leesa. She shares about her breast cancer experience during COVID and the resulting emotions she is working through now in the post-treatment phase with the help of the Survival is Insufficient program. She also shares about how her inner mean girl shows up and her resistance to listening to her and how she may be using anger as a cover emotion.

    Living or Surviving After Breast Cancer

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 3, 2021 17:43


    The difference is huge between living life or just surviving it after breast cancer treatments end. So many women get stuck in surviving life after treatments ends. This is completely normal. But it doesn't have to be the way you go through life. In this episode I dive into the differences and signs that you might be stuck in survival mode.

    Going for Average After Breast Cancer

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 27, 2021 24:21


    I see a lot of us humans using our best days to set the bar for our everyday. In this episode I talk about why this often backfires and why going for average is a more helpful way to go through life. I look at it through the lens of being post-treatment and using your life before breast cancer as a comparison point - and why that could be setting you up for misery. And I look at it through the lens of day-to-day life and goal setting. 

    94. Mistakes to Avoid If You Want to Feel Better After Breast Cancer

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 20, 2021 18:19


    A lot of women want to make healthy changes in their lives after breast cancer treatments end, and I fully support this. However, I see a few mistakes consistently being made that lead to these women giving up and feeling even worse about themselves. In this episode I talk about the mistakes I see and the ways to increase your chances of making lasting changes.

    93. Interview with Kim

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 13, 2021 28:16


    In this episode I interview Kim, an OG member of the Survival is Insufficient program. She talks about what her biggest take aways from this program were. We also talk about her biggest struggle was actually something she was struggling with before she was diagnosed with breast cancer. This fact is true for over 50% of the women I work with. Listen in to hear Kim's story of struggle to empowerment.

    Stop Talking About My Breasts

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 6, 2021 18:49


    Are people in your circle talking about your breasts the way they talk about the weather? In this episode I talk about what you can do about it and also what might be going on with the other person.

    A Light Case of Breast Cancer

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 29, 2021 14:36


    Some women who receive an early-stage diagnosis struggle with accepting the title of breast cancer survivor. They feel like they didn't "earn" it. In this episode I talk about why this thought can be so harmful and unhelpful in the post-treatment phase.

    I Miss Me

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 22, 2021 14:27


    When I hear a woman say "I miss me" after breast cancer treatments end, I know two things about her. She doesn't like her life now. And the "me" she misses is still there. In this episode I dive deeper into this thought and the results it creates.

    Interview with Dr. Amy Dore

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 15, 2021 47:22


    In this episode, Dr. Amy Dore shares her breast cancer story - and it is quite a story! She offers up hope for women who are struggling with anxiety after treatments. And she shares some of her favorite tools that she gained during our time working together. You can experience the same support and guidance that Amy did when you join the Survival is Insufficient program. Go to coachrobinfern.com/survival for all the information and to join.

    The Badge of Honor

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 8, 2021 10:54


    In this quick episode, I talk about the badge of honor many women who have gone through breast cancer feel they have earned. But sometimes that badge can block the work we need to do to be able to move forward more easily. For a more in-depth analysis of this concept,  be sure to check out episode 84 - I Am Not a Breast Cancer Survivor.

    87. A Little Bit of Magic

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 2, 2021 22:03


    In this episode, I tell a little story about how I believe there is a little bit of magic in the world. This is really about how what I teach is what I do. And the work this month on post-traumatic growth could not have come at a better time.

    Rushing to the Future After Breast Cancer

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 25, 2021 21:43


    While many women struggle with thinking about the future after breast cancer because they are overcome with anxiety, others are in a rush to get to the future. In this episode I talk about how this mindset can be both helpful and unhelpful in your life.

    Episode 85 - Toxic Positivity After Breast Cancer

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 18, 2021 15:16


    Perusing the breast cancer support Facebook groups, I have found a huge number of posts from women saying they are trying to stay positive. In so many cases I wonder what possible benefit they would find from trying to stay positive when they are in a very difficult time. When it seems what they really need is some compassionate allowance of the negativity. Listen in for more.

    I Am Not a Breast Cancer Survivor

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 11, 2021 15:36


    This may be an unpopular opinion, but I don't like using the term breast cancer survivor to describe myself. In this episode I walk you through the thought process I went through that brought me to this realization and what term I have shifted to instead.

    Interview with Jana

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 4, 2021 52:28


    I interview my client Jana about her experience after breast cancer treatments ended. Jana is a successful business woman who had always been able to bounce back from adversity. But breast cancer was different. She struggled with thinking about the future. She struggled with her emotions.  She shares which tools have helped her most in her recovery journey, and the things she hears in her mind in my voice that keep her moving forward.

    Happiness Inequality After Breast Cancer

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 28, 2021 18:22


    Some women struggle with feeling happy after they get done with breast cancer treatments. There can be multiple reasons for this, but one I think shows up for most women is happiness inequality. In this episode I dive into what this is, how it presents, how it lowers your experience of happiness, and some ways to combat it. Join the Survival is Insufficient: Breast Cancer Recovery Program in the month of August to get the tools and tactics I use to create an enjoyable, intentional day-to-day life while also keeping my big goals and dreams in the works. Use coupon code TRYIT to get the first 30 days for $1. coachrobinfern.com/survival

    Acceptance is Not Resignation

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 21, 2021 15:21


    Women often struggle with the idea of accepting the fact that a cancer recurrence is a possibility. They push back on it because they think that accepting this idea means that they will be resigned. But this isn't true. Listen in to understand the difference. And to watch the story of The Three Brothers, click here.

    Interview with Kathleen Brazie Part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 14, 2021 65:56


    In this episode we talk about the cancer experience when you don't have a spouse, significant other, children or parents as the foundation of your support network and the surprising places that support can come from.

    Interview with Kathleen Brazie Part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 7, 2021 35:50


    In this first-ever interview episode, I speak with Kathleen Brazie. The conversation was so good, we had to make it 2 episodes. In this first episode we talk about her philosophy of working with her body rather than fighting cancer, being an empowered partner on your treatment team, and the idea of taking on a new form or identity after treatments end. Kathleen is the founder of Purple Boots Creative with the mission of empowering change through advocacy and movement. Here's how you can connect with her: purplebootscreative.com Facebook - /PurpleBootsCreative

    Returning to Work After Breast Cancer

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 6, 2021 12:57


    Going back to work after breast cancer can cause worries of overwhelm. In this episode I talk about what one of the Survival is Insufficient: Breast Cancer Recovery members did to prepare herself after we coached on this topic in a live Q&A call.

    Knowing Ahead of Time

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 23, 2021 10:28


    Women often tell me that they just wish they knew what their future held. Will the cancer come back? When? Will it be metastatic? But a very difficult situation I'm going through right now is showing me that knowing ahead of time comes with its own burden. One I'm not sure is worth the benefits.

    The One Without a Title

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 9, 2021 24:46


    In this impromptu, unscripted episode, I talk about a series of events that left me feeling a lot of negative emotions, and then how I worked through them. This is a real life example of how I use the work I teach breast cancer survivors in situations beyond breast cancer.

    Trust and Sex After Breast Cancer

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 2, 2021 15:09


    Sex generally requires us to have minimal stress to be able to enjoy it. And most of us are aware of our acute stresses. But in this episode I talk about a more deeply rooted cause of a more chronic stress that I believe many women may struggle with after breast cancer - trust of their own bodies.

    Self Perception After Breast Cancer

    Play Episode Listen Later May 26, 2021 17:38


    Often times our self-perception bumps up against reality. This is true whether you had breast cancer or not. But it's extra when you have had cancer. Self perception often has a lag behind reality. Cancer changes things so fast that self perception often just can't keep up. Listen in to understand more about this idea and how it might be present in your life.

    Misbehaving Body

    Play Episode Listen Later May 19, 2021 20:10


    Do you feel like you body was misbehaving when you were diagnosed with cancer? In this episode I dive into this type of thought process, and a shift that can help you move forward with more trust and respect for your body.

    Kintsugi and Your Body After Breast Cancer

    Play Episode Listen Later May 12, 2021 10:09


    The Japanese art of Kintsugi can be a powerful metaphor for healing your relationship with your body after breast cancer. Whether you choose a more literal interpretation or a symbolic interpretation, accepting your body is an important step in the healing process after cancer treatments end.

    Identity Crisis After Breast Cancer

    Play Episode Listen Later May 5, 2021 18:50


    I believe most women go through an identity crisis after breast cancer. In this episode I talk about why that is and the concept I think can help move you forward - AND instead of BUT.

    Beliefs About Your Emotions

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 28, 2021 17:15


    Feeling our negative emotions is hard enough. But then we pile on a whole bunch of beliefs and judgements about ourselves for feeling those negative emotions - making it an even worse experience. Listen in to learn more about the impact of our beliefs about our emotions.

    Emotional Skills After Breast Cancer

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 21, 2021 20:38


    There are certain skills that are necessary to build emotional health after breast cancer. In this episode I outline the most important ones.

    Emotional Health After Breast Cancer

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 14, 2021 26:24


    Building emotional health after breast cancer is such an important part of building our overall health. This episode clears up some misconceptions about emotional health, what it really is, and why it is so important.

    What Emotions Tell You After Breast Cancer

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 7, 2021 17:15


    Most of hold some strong negative emotions after breast cancer. But those emotions are telling us something. When we can tune into that, we can use those emotions to fuel change in our life. If we try to ignore them, they can keep us stuck in our life.

    Painful Self Beliefs After Breast Cancer

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 31, 2021 22:28


    We all have painful self beliefs. Some come about directly because of having had breast cancer. But many more are just acquired over the course of our lives. These beliefs create an unconscious vibe that holds us back in life. Listen in to learn more and how to start to re-write some of these painful beliefs.

    Dealing with Uncertainty After Breast Cancer

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 24, 2021 16:47


    Uncertainty of the future after breast cancer causes a lot of women to freeze. The problem is they are focused on what will happen to them in the future, and not on what they truly have control over. In this episode I help shift the focus to the one thing you can control.

    Anti-Anxiety Medications After Breast Cancer

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 17, 2021 21:46


    Because a lot of the work I do with breast cancer survivors revolves around anxiety, I often get asked my opinion on anti-anxiety medications. In this episode I share my thoughts and opinions about them.

    When Anxiety is a Security Blanket

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 10, 2021 16:34


    After nearly a year of breast cancer treatments, anxiety becomes a well practiced and familiar emotion for many women. And sometimes it becomes a security blanket emotion. Most of us don't want to feel anxiety any more than we have to, so we have to figure out how to break the cycle.

    Suffering Ahead of Time

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 3, 2021 21:38


    After breast cancer a lot of women suffer from anxiety. Anxiety is a feeling, and it is creating suffering ahead of time, and often for no real reason. It's a fortune teller that can only see tragedy and suffering in your future. Listen in to learn more about anxiety after breast cancer.

    Lonely in a Relationship

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 24, 2021 16:10


    After breast cancer, it's not uncommon for women to feel lonely even when they are in a relationship. In this episode I reveal what is going on, and some ways to move forward.

    Rejection After Breast Cancer

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 17, 2021 22:30


    Some women face rejection from friends and family after breast cancer. This is so hard. Why would they do that?  But perhaps worse is when women reject themselves.  In this episode we dive into why we face rejection, how we deal with rejection, and tools for moving forward after being rejected.

    Feeling Selfish After Breast Cancer

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 10, 2021 23:48


    Do you feel like you are being selfish after breast cancer? Join the club. But in this episode we dive into whether you are really being selfish, and how this emotion holds you back from being the person and living the life that you really want.

    How to Have a Hard Conversation After Breast Cancer

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 3, 2021 30:44


    Better relationships help create a better life. And conversations are a huge part of our relationships. After breast cancer, there are often a lot of hard conversations to have. So many things have changed and things need to be brought back in alignment. Listen in for my tips on having a hard but productive conversation.

    Stop Trying So Hard

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 27, 2021 17:11


    Women often come to me with a list of things they want to change in their life after breast cancer. What we often discover is that they have either been trying to 1) make changes from a weak position or 2) change things outside of their control. They are trying so hard, but the reality is a shift in their perspective can make things so much easier. In this episode we explore some of these scenarios, and how to actually create lasting change with greater ease.

    The Facade of the Known

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 20, 2021 16:49


    "I don't know" is one of the most dis-empowering things I hear breast cancer survivors say. But it's more than just staying stuck in the fear and confusion of that statement. There is another layer to it. What do we actually know at all? Are we attaching so much to a facade?

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