ThisCantBeLyfe Podcast

S1 Ep 1- The Journey by ThisCantBeLyfe Podcast

After yet another hiatus, KayTheRebel returns with an uncomfortable topic. This episode she does a break down and deep analysis on why in the past she has stated "I don't need a man". She mentions her first experience/introduction to what a man should be and also took a deeper look at both her mother and grandmother and how they have contributed to her viewpoint on men and if they are valuable or not. Listen and learn; there is no room for judgment here!

This week KayTheRebel revamps an old segment but with a new name. Anything goes on this episode where she discusses the flip side of grief and how you can grieve people who are still alive. She gave her opinion on Summer Walker's rant this week and is convinced she is the problem. Do you ever feel like you need a hug sometimes? Well, she talks about hugs being a new form of intimacy she craves. The episode ended with a perspective from an older woman on how single women hang around other single women too much and should hang around men more.

This week KayTheRebel releases a 2nd episode surrounding mental health. She spoke about the misconceptions surrounding being "healed" and chimed in on how the process is not as black & white as folks make it seem. While giving a real life example of her childhood trauma (being bullied as a kid), she was able to connect that to her adulthood trauma. She told the audience "my trigger's triggers got triggers" to place emphasis on why the journey of healing is often tough.

KayTheRebel returns this week and delivers content centered around mental health. While providing her listeners with an explanation for her 2-3 month absence, she shared all of her moments of self-reflection within the past 6-9 months in the most organic/transparent way. She discussed why she returned to therapy and why it will always be a part of her life. The two biggest assignments from her therapist were completed in 2022 and shared that experience with listeners while encouraging everyone to give therapy a shot. Change your thinking, change your life!!!

On this week's episode, KayThe Rebel talks about a trigger of her which she remains silent about; feeling unappreciated. She touches base on getting the short end of the stick in a lot of situations in love, friendship and even family. It is very bothersome how people don't return the same energy/love that you give them. Will there ever be some sort of balance between the givers and the takers?

After another brief hiatus, KayTheRebel returns with a short and sweet episode addressing an issue that she no longer glorifies; exes reconnecting and re-engaging without pure intentions. She talked about how it can be damaging sometimes or that she often feels triggered by it. Do these men do this to only her or all their other exes too? She's tired of the false narrative that she's "missed" or the "one who got away". Find someone else to play with!!

This week KayTheRebel sits down with "Bam", the host of the Bam LaFlare Podcast and chops it up about triggers. First, they kept it light and discussed hot topics in Hollywood and then proceeded to discuss their personal triggers as well as triggers of some of their listeners. Does being w/ a "runner" trigger you? When you meet someone who is lacking financially, can that be a trigger too? Is the way in which your partner does/does not respond to conflict a trigger?

After hearing all of the chatter regarding black women not being married, KayTheRebel decided it was best to approach the mic and spin her perspective on the topic. She shared an argument from a popular influencer on Instagram which helped guide her thoughts/opinions about women who are in their 30s/40s and unmarried. She wants to encourage more women to accept their marital status as single and be okay with the fact that they may never get married. The episode ended with multiple affirmations for black women who are currently single.

This week KayTheRebel talks about what the year 2022 looked like when it came to dating. She shared stories of experiences she had throughout the year which led to her decision to stop dating altogether. Finding someone who aligns with you and someone you can have organic chemistry with seems far and a few. Dating apps are canceled and the chances of meeting a gentleman in person are unlikely. Maybe one day she will date again, but for now she's all set!!

After a very long break, KayTheRebel comes through emptying the entire clip as she expresses her disdain for the "Protect black women" movement. She addresses the inconsistencies within the movement and questioned when or why it even started. For a person who is not gender-biased, she really feels the narrative that black women are most unprotected is only being used for convenience and sometimes to promote victimization. When it comes to this movement, she does not want to be associated and would like for yall to pick someone else.

This week KayTheRebel returns with a heartfelt episode regarding parenting. She spoke in depth about what her experience is raising a daughter and how it has never been easy. There have been many lessons; some she learned, ones that she taught her daughter and also some lessons her daughter taught her. She openly admitted to a few mistakes she's made and how she is actively working towards being a better parent.

This week KayTheRebel returns from a two month break and discusses friendships amongst women. She discussed her experience with coming to the realization that although someone is your close friend, there are sometimes levels to it. Just because someone labels you a "bestie" doesn't mean that you truly are. Why don't more women show up for their friends as they do for men? Why is love and energy overall not always reciprocated?

This week KayTheRebel dropped an episode filled with unsolicited advice. LOL. Be happy when people find love (even if it doesn't fit your standard). Many of y'all have twisted the definition of loyalty to your liking & need to quit the BS. Forgiveness is trash; it doesn't do anything except encourage ppl to keep playing with you. Stop personalizing other people's journey. Not everyone is worthy of blessings.

This week KayTheRebel talks about an uncomfortable topic and shares her thoughts on it. After witnessing so many people say they're giving up on love or just feeling like love is hiding under a rock for most single folks, she openly admitted she is okay with "dying alone". She made reference to Lauren London's recent interview w/ Angie Martinez and shared two short stories to provide further insight on the topic. Listen to this episode, but also learn from it. !!!

On this 90 min episode, KayTheRebel and her guest @WittyEmpress918 practically emptied the entire clip. After months of watching men on social media platforms overly use 2 words (submission & aggression), they felt it was time to speak up and set the record straight. Both ladies felt those words are being misused in the midst of creating false narratives when it comes to how women are perceived in the world of dating. They're challenging men to really study the true definition of those words and alter their perspectives. Essentially when you're pointing the finger at women; there are 3 pointing right back at you!!!!

This week KayTheRebel returns and discusses infidelity from the perspective of a woman. While watching this season of Marriage Bootcamp: Hip Hop Edition, she became triggered while watching Rich Dollaz speak with Lyrica about how she needed to push forward and fully forgive her husband. KayTheRebel broke down the different stages that women go through while trying to overcome the traumas associated with infidelity. No one should rush that process; especially men who cheat!!!

This week KayTheRebel shares her perspective on how folks should start shying away from saying they want love like someone else (whether celebrities, movies, parents etc). She feels that in matters of love, people should want to create their own stories in real time because no 2 love stories will ever mimic one another. The episode ended with her talking about being unable to establish a connection in the early stages of dating & meeting someone.

This week KaytheRebel brings back her favorite guest @WittyEmpress918 who posed a question "Would you prefer a traditional or millennial marriage"? The inspiration behind the question came from a new series on NetFlix titled "The Ultimatum". They discussed finances in a marriage and/or long term relationship after taking a small poll with men; asking if they would pay all household bills or split 50/50. The topic got a little heated as both ladies were annoyed with the responses. Both ladies agreed that they would prefer a traditional marriage over a millennial marriage anyday. (Spoiler Alert: Details of The Ultimatum were discussed)

After being missing for a month, KayTheRebel returned with an insightful episode. This week she talked about all of the things that her mother taught her growing up and how it showed up in her adult life. She also talked about lessons she wish she had learned such as vetting men properly, managing her emotions and how to embrace femininity. At the end of the episode, she challenged her listeners to think about things they wish someone had taught them.

This week KayTheRebel records an episode that was pitched by a faithful listener. She discussed her first-hand experience with staying too long in a relationship that no longer served her. How most of the times we stay in relationships longer than we should when mistreated because we don't always see a way out. People stay for children, fear or even finances. She encouraged everyone to leave unhealthy relationships. #GetOut #Find YourHappy

This week KayTheRebel takes the time to reflect on her first year as a single women. She discussed the highs, the lows and still felt it was a positive year even with disappointments and annoyances. She shared stories to support why she has non-negotiables about being courted and how she became a professional ghoster. The episode ended with her giving solid advice and a new perspective for other single ladies.

As a follow up to Fathers Pt. 1, KayTheRebel also pens an open letter to the two fathers of her children.

KayTheRebel drops her first episode of the new year after a short hiatus. It is an open letter to her father based off of an assignment during one of her therapy sessions.

This week KayTheRebel gets in her feelings and expresses how she feels about love songs and the emotions that come along with them. She played a few tracks and used them as a way to express her thoughts on love and her admiration for people who fall in love fearlessly. While having flashbacks of a wedding she attended not too long ago, she came to terms with the fact that she will probably never love fearlessly and how she has to learn how to be vulnerable again from scratch.

This episode started off with bloopers & drunk auntie laughs. Months ago, KayTheRebel talked about anxiety and how it shows up in her life. This week her best friend @WittyEmpresss918 joined her to discuss how anxiety also can be triggered in our friendships. Sometimes friends don't show up as they should and we feel abandoned. Some friends are seasonal. Some of our friendships lack transparency & consistency.

This week Kay The Rebel talked about a few different things. First, she addressed how not all family is family and can be considered the opps too. She talked about those who live in glass houses and throw stones. There was a moment of accountability and she voiced her perspective on people choosing wisely when procreating with others. Have you ever had someone hate on you just for living your life authentically? The episode ended with a poem about love from @MikeThePoet

This week KayTheRebel hit yall with a dual topic. First she discussed ghosting in friendships and how she does not always respect it. In certain instances it is cowardly and fake af. Next, she went on a mini rant about dating and men who intentionally show up with the bare minimum with new prospects. However, they were in long term relationships with women who brought nothing to the table. These same men usually judge women for dating "bums". Pot meets kettle!!!

This week KayTheRebel felt like it was time for another venting session. She brought on her bestie @WittyEmpress918 to add a different perspective to her thoughts/opinions. Her first area of concern was discovering that men hate on women just as hard as females. Do "big mouth" black women have a lower chance of snagging a high value man? Why are folks coming for Jeanie Mai after announcing her pregnancy? Are you really being private or just saving face in your relationship? Why do couples have multiple babies back2back and act surprised when turbulence follows?

This week KayTheRebel gave a review on Netflix's new film release titled "Really Love". [Spoiler Alert] She discussed the timeline of Isaiah and Stevie's relationship; both the ups and downs. Their relationship gave her the opportunity to reflect on finances in a relationship. Should we chase our careers first and love last or vice versa? Is it always a better option to put your partner's wants/needs before yours? Overall, she felt it was a great film capturing black love without the struggle.

This week KayTheRebel decides to set the record straight surrounding the constant bashing and unpopular opinions of modern women. She talked about their power to choose and how their opportunities are limitless. They should NEVER be compared to traditional women. Throughout the episode, she stressed that the common phrase "I don't need a man" is not an attack against black men and simply a badge of honor that we have earned. We don't need to be defined by our relationship status and modern women are going to live their lives with or without a man....periodt!!!

For a second week in a row, KayTheRebel brings on a guest to aid her in continuing the King's Perspective segment. Mitchell, a black man who loves both his career and his woman approached the mic and kept it real about his strengths and weaknesses. He talked about his growth and how his mistakes were some of his biggest lessons in life. He was honest about his level of accountability and how he is constantly working towards being the best version of himself. Throughout the episode, Mitchell portrayed himself as a man who does not walk by fear and instead faith which is how he is able to live his authentic self. He believes the best way to protect black women is to be with one!!!

This week KayTheRebel is joined by her bestie Natasha aka @WittyEmpress918 who posed a question "Should you be responsible for your partner's mental health"? Both ladies agreed that they feel you should be partially responsible for paying attention and/or addressing mental health concerns with your partner. Couples therapy was also on the discussion table and they felt that it was healthy for couples to seek help from a 3rd party when things get too rough. Witty Empress ended the episode giving tips on how you can balance your own personal mental health as well as your partner's.

This week KayTheRebel was super vulnerable and decided to record a sequel to a episode 22 from 3 years ago when she spoke in depth about her experience with therapy. She returned to therapy this year and did a comparison to how far she has come. It was tough to admit, but she came to terms with the fact that when she attended therapy last time, she acknowledged her flaws but did NOT do the work. Currently she is working on self-improvement with no days off and dropped a ton of gems to share with those who are also growing & healing. Emotions were super high!!!

This week KayTheRebel approaches the mic with guns blazing and ready to take down any and all folks who have ever formed an opinion or have spoken ill of single mothers. You don't know their stories or their struggles was one of her continuous arguments. As a single mother of two children, she refuses to sit back and watch anyone defame or degrade single mothers.

This week KayTheRebel felt it was time to purge again. She started with her views on Sha'Carri Richardson and how she doesn't agree with the boycott (baby girl needs to be accountable). Next, she weighed in on Erica & Safaree's pending divorce and relationships which include emotional negligence. Do you like your in-laws? Cool, because KayTheRebel hates them (especially sisters). She was over Quavo being a bitter ex and said in the world of dating she will always choose character over money. The episode ended with her explaining how self-love is what has led her to a state of peace.

This week KayTheRebel gives some advice regarding friendships. Throughout the episode she shares a story of someone who wanted to know if they should try to "fix" their friendship or just ghost their bestie and walk away from it all. She stressed the point of friendship feeling more like a sisterhood more than anything. That it is suppose to add value to your life and not subtract from it. Pressure or stress should not be included!!!

KayTheRebel continues her new segment and brings one of her favs out from the podcasting community out of retirement. "Darnell" from Talking Greasy lived in his truth and admitted that he has struggled with setting boundaries in life. He discussed how as a black man he has "no choice" but to manage his emotions at all times and his experience with being a relationship with a female who was a narcissist. This year, he finally gave himself permission to celebrate his wins in life.

This week KayTheRebel begins a new segment where she will sit down with black men and take the opportunity to both learn and understand how men think and/or feel about certain aspects of life. She uses Mac The Therapist's list of 13 things he encourages black men to do more of. The segment starts with a returning guest, El-Amin who has also been featured on the Black Owned Everything segment. He let his guard down and talked about his experience with setting boundaries and how he strives to be accountable every day. He also shared how stress channels his creative sense and how if he had one area of improvement, it would be to have a bigger heart and to do more for others. Blessings to this King!!!

This week KayTheRebel discusses how she has often felt unprotected or unsafe in her relationships. She takes a trip down memory lane and how she felt when she read words from Lauren London, stating that Nipsey was her "sanctuary". She also shared a rare perspective on those who are in their 30s or 40s and who do not have children. Could it be that the universe or higher powers are saving you from procreating with the wrong one? Lastly, she spoke briefly on how there are people we will cross paths with someone who may be the right person, but the timing won't be in your favor.

This week KayTheRebel continues to carry out her black owned business segment and highlights one of Boston's fitness trainers, "Muffin", the owner of Motivated by Muffin. She spoke in depth about what fitness means to her and how it will always play a role in her life. KayTheRebel gave her the opportunity to reflect on her growth; how she once trained multiple Boston natives for free and now presently crushing her goals and making Motivated by Muffin an entire brand which includes: individual & group training, fitness boot camps and merchandise. The episode ended with Muffin giving the listeners words of encouragement on how they can make health & wellness a priority. How we can all find ways to accomplish our own personal fitness goals and maintain a healthy lifestyle.

This week KayTheRebel came to the defense of women who are viewed as being "overly independent". She discussed her upbringing and how life lessons also have taught her to be independent. While taking a look at her life, she came to the conclusion that maybe being overly independent is a trauma response. How can you unlearn something that you've been taught your whole life? Fears of being let down have lead to her anxiety about asking for help and/or allowing herself to need someone; especially a man.

This week KayTheRebel had a little to say about a bunch of things. For starters she discussed her experience with visiting Chicago for the first time. Next, she talked about not being a fan of Mother's Day, Porsha from RHOA being engaged to the African man, women standing their ground in relationships, losing yourself, a new term she learned called "breadcrumming". The episode ended with her struggling with the idea that she may have to agree that it may b e impossible for two attractive people to just be friends for long period of time and nothing more.

This week KayTheRebel digs a little deeper internally and discussed how she comes to terms with the fact that she does have a type which are men who are "hood". She discusses Kevin Samuels and his theory on black women not wanting or attracting high value men and admitted to her struggles with that. Then she went further and linked her childhood/upbringing and how it relates to the type of men she chooses. Accountability & self-reflection were displayed throughout the entire episode.

This week KayTheRebel discusses her level of dedication when it comes to her hair. In a perfect world, she would have perfect hair everyday. She talked about the lengths she goes style her hair and aim for perfection. A friend suggested that she try to use that same approach when it comes to battling with anxiety. She discussed the things in life that create the most anxiety and then ended the episode giving tips on how we all can manage our anxiety.

This week KayTheRebel purged about what has been on her mind this week. She encouraged listeners to get better about sharing words of affirmation within friendships. "Suffering in silence" during relationships, self-awareness, The Game's controversial tweet about taking care of his woman, people who are loud & wrong and the most important take away from this episode was teaching her daughter to NOT date down!!!

On this week's episode, KayTheRebel lists everything that she is sick & tired of. There were challenges in which she feels are preventing her from being the best version of herself. Doing the work has been exhausting!! She revisited the discussion of her struggles with anger and aggression. The episode ended letting the listeners know that you're only human and that one day you can be on the edge and there could be something or someone who will push. Forgive yourself and move on........

On this week's episode, KayTheRebel discusses her issues surrounding individuals who like to tell another person how to feel. She also briefly touched on how in today's society it is a crime to be "in your feelings" and that growth and wisdom has taught her that it is okay to tap into your emotions. Your feelings are real and you are the only one who has rights to them!!!!

This week KayTheRebel continues her segment to highlight and promote black owned businesses. She chopped it up with Newark native El-Amin Jumuah, the CEO of Passionate Rebel LLC. While discussing being a black business owner, El-Amin shared with KayTheRebel how he bridges the gap between fashion and one's motivation/hustle. Throughout the interview he encouraged listeners to discover their true passion and to define success on their own terms. Other gems were dropped during the episode as he gave advice on starting your own business and what each of us can do to find our purpose in this journey called life.

This week's episode was impromptu and also unconventional. KayTheRebel was interviewed by her bestie who asked her questions regarding sex. She answered them truthfully while feeling a huge level of embarrassment and discomfort. Should you be considered "childish" for your lack of bedroom experience or reluctance to try new things? KayTheRebel feels that women often switch up their sex game based on who the partner is; what she may do for one she may not do for the next.

This week KayTheRebel brings back her fav guest, Witty Empress aka Natasha who has made it her personal business to be featured on all of the deep/raw episodes. The ladies discussed a poetry clip found on Instagram that had a powerful message regarding mistakes women make while dating. "I'm teaching my affection to not overstay her welcome". Both ladies admitted to falling victim to this mistake and were extremely accountable.