Trauma Talks Babes

In this episode, we dive into Tapas or self-discipline. We explore how trauma survivors are thrown into the heat, and how we have a choice on what to do next.  Tapas allows us to become someone of great character, morals, and depth if we allow it to. We must stay in the heat and be willing to become forever changed. When we step into Tapas as trauma survivors, we move towards post-traumatic growth. Listen in to hear more about how self-discipline can help you!

In this episode, we dive into Santosha or contentment. We examine how trauma survivors can often fall into the patterns of always getting ready for the next big thing, how we can only seek pleasurable moments and avoid the tougher ones, and how we are so frequently responsible for letting our thought patterns drag us down. When we step into Santosha as trauma survivors, we move towards post-traumatic growth. Listen in to see how to live a life aligned with Santosha.

In this episode, we dive into the last Yama in our 10-part series on Yamas and Niyamas, Saucha, or purity. In the episode, we examine how purifying all aspects of our lives can help us show up more authentically. Cleaning and purifying is a part of life, but Saucha is much more than just keeping a clean house and personal hygiene. When we step into purity as trauma survivors, we meet each day with a clean slate.  Listen in to see how to live a life aligned with Saucha.

In this episode, we dive into the last Yama in our 10-part series on Yamas and Niyamas, Aparigraha, or nonpossessiveness.  In the episode, we look at how we cling to or try to possess things in many areas of our lives.  Owning things is a part of life, but Aparigraha is much more than just owning more than we need. When we step into nonpossessiveness as trauma survivors, we must notice if we are attaching emotions and memories to our physical possessions. Why? To notice if we are holding on to "stuff" because of our emotions surrounding our "stuff."  Listen in to see how to live a life aligned with Aparigraha.

In this episode, we dive into the third Yama in our 10-part series on Yamas and Niyamas, Brahmacharya, or nonexcess.  In the episode, we look at how we overdo food, clothes, work, and many other areas in our lives.  We all know that overeating is probably not the best choice, but Brahmacharya is much more than overdoing it when it comes to food. When we step into nonexcess as trauma survivors, we need to notice if we are attaching emotional needs to our physical needs. Why? To notice if we are filling our life with excess. Listen in to see how to live a life aligned with Brahmacharya. 

In this episode, we dive into the third Yama in our 10-part series on Yamas and Niyamas, Asteya or nonstealing. We all know that stealing is against the law, but Asteya is much more than not stealing physical items. When we step into nonstealing as a trauma survivor, we need to notice if our fears and worries push us to find outward satisfaction and “steal” what is not rightfully ours in a more figurative sense. In the episode, we look at how we steal from:OthersThe futureOurselvesThe earthListen in to see how to live a life aligned with Asteya. 

This week we dive into  Satya or truthfulness, the second Yama of our 10-part series. We go through how truthfulness is more than just not telling lies. We break down how living a truthful life can mean:Being real vs. niceLiving a life that you can show your true self-expression vs. self-indulgenceBalancing the need to grow with the need to belongAuthentically spending time and energy in ways that are your truthAllowing a fluidity to your truth vs. rigidityBeing truthful is a whole lot more than just telling the truth. When we begin to live a more truthful life, we revert to non-harming. We must root all of our truth in love. It's the intention in our truth that matters. Thanks for listening today, babes!

In today's episode, we talk about Ahimsa (nonviolence) which ties into self-love. Violence sneaks into our lives in ways that we often don't realize are small acts of violence to ourselves and others. We walk through worry and feeling powerless and how as trauma survivors, we can move into a place of Ahimsa. Ahimsa, nonviolence, is at the very core of yoga. And for us, this is at the very heart of our post-traumatic growth. Our PSA is PFA. Resources we talked about today: The Yamas & NiyamasSusanna BarkatakiWe want to hear from you! How are you working on nonviolence and self-love in your healing journey? DM us or send us an email traumatalkspodcast@gmail.comXOXO Tay & A

In today's episode, we dive into brain fog. Listen in as we go through typical symptoms of brain fog like fatigue and forgetfulness. Our experience with BF - like when Tay couldn't process a simple question and when A zoned out during an important meeting. Finally, what you can do to address brain fog in your life. Resources:Trauma Practice on Brain Fog The Yamas & Niyamas Mindfulness Pinterest Xoxo Tay & A 

How does “good vibes only” create an unhealthy approach to life? We discuss how toxic positivity, the belief that only positive emotions should be felt, can be harmful because it minimizes and denies negative emotions. Failure, doubt, pain, fear, sadness and other negative emotions are all part of the human experience and we need to allow them to be felt the same way we do with positive emotions. When we deny these parts of our lives, it creates a disconnect in our bodies, minds, and souls. After all, “the avoidance of suffering is a form of suffering” states Mark Manson in his book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life.We discuss our own experiences with toxic positivity as trauma survivors, including the roots of our own toxic positivity. You'll hear our tips for living a more authentic life that truly lets you feel all your emotions--both the positive and the negative ones. Tell us about your experiences with toxic positivity! Do you allow yourself to fully feel all your emotions? How has TP shown up in your life? DM us on Insta or Facebook or send us an email to traumatalkspodcast@gmail.com

How much time are you spending on your trauma story? In this episode, we dive into the idea that “where your focus goes, energy flows.” Sankalpa is a Sanskrit word that means an intention formed by the heart and mind -- a solemn vow, determination, or will. It helps give our lives a direction instead of letting trauma drive our lives: It's living your purpose at this time in your life. Join us as we walk through the steps to uncovering your purpose and taking a step towards healing. How do you uncover your purpose and jump back in the driver's seat of your life?Here are the steps we took:What do you wantWhat are your goalsWhat is the theme of your wants and goalsHow would your life feel if you had your wants and goalsWhy did this come up for you? Take a few days or weeks to journal and ”try it on”Live with this purpose and check in with it every dayWe want to hear from you! Did you uncover your Sankalpa? If so, let us know how it went! Feel free to share your Sankalpa with us if you'd like! We'd love to hear your life's purpose at this time! Links to things we mentioned in today's episode: PinterestMount Lai (not sponsored)How to support your communityXOXO Tay & A

Fear surrounding past conflicts often holds back trauma survivors. This fear is often related to shame, and this popped up for us this week through a text. Someone texted Tay, and she had a visceral reaction. In this episode, we talk about how shame is a feeling that we get in our bodies, and we explore lovingly exposing our shame. We don't want to keep secrets and hide in the darkness anymore. Babes, let's hear from you! Tell us how shame has affected you. Has it shown up as fear? What has it cost you? Are you ready to shine a light on your shame? DM us on Insta, Facebook, or send us an email!XoXo Tay & AThe article that Tay discussed in the episode: https://greatist.com/connect/emotional-body-maps-infographic#does-this-work

Trigger warning: self-harm, ED, sexual assault, and suicide.In this episode, Tay walks through her trauma which all surrounds the theme of unconditional love. We all have layers to our stories. Like yours, Tay's has a complexity that can not be unpacked in just one 30 minute podcast. This episode is an overview. After her father's suicide, forgiveness was the foundation for beginning to heal. Tay' steps to growth after trauma include: Forgiveness. Commit to love and forgive yourself.Acknowledgment and awareness. Admit to yourself what happened and then become aware of how your trauma is speaking for you. Inward reflection: Journaling and self-understanding. Commitment to yourself. Commit to loving and forgiving.Gratitude. Find a sense of appreciation in the small things throughout your day and in your story. "Darkness often reveals what daylight would hide from us." Our stories give us an incredible gift. We can sit with people who have experienced immense amounts of pain without fixing it for them. We can hear their experiences with 100% non-judgment and see them as they are. As trauma survivors, we can sit with others and validate their experiences, but we often forget to validate ourselves. Babe, you deserve to be validated. You are worthy of forgiveness and unconditional love.  Resources:Suicidehttps://www.newportacademy.com/resources/mental-health/teen-suicide-prevention-facts/https://www.thetrevorproject.org/trvr_support_center/mental-health/Funeralshttps://funeralcompanion.com/help-with-funeral-expenses/https://www.supermoney.com/planning-affordable-funeral-find-financing-assistance/https://www.lhlic.com/consumer-resources/need-help-with-funeral-costs-knowing-your-rights-can-save-you-money/Signs of Depressionhttps://www.bridgestorecovery.com/blog/5-warning-signs-of-suicidal-behavior-that-are-easy-to-miss/https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/recognizing-suicidal-behaviorLink to our Pinterest boardhttps://www.pinterest.com/traumatalkspodcast/ 

As humans, we tend to compare things, including our traumas. We tell ourselves things like, "his story is so much worse than mine, and I shouldn't feel so bad." Or "why is she so upset about that?" "It doesn't seem like such a big deal." Trauma is an event that fundamentally changes the way you see the world and yourself, and that will be different for each of us. In the episode today, we talk about our values and about A's trauma. Our Values:Every human is welcome in our safe community. Listen with an open heart and open mind. Speak your truth as it is right nowBelieve in the power of post-traumatic growth. It's a journey and a process with no end destination, but it's an essential piece in your path to healing.A's Story is about shifting from a place of shaming and blaming to a place of taking credit for the hard shit she did. She went through years of trauma, but she felt a sense of support when someone stepped into her corner. That support was a pivotal moment, and A uncovered what had been hiding inside her for so long. She began taking back bits of her life before she ever knew there was this thing called post-traumatic growth. She reclaimed herself and her life.  We are so excited to be releasing our Podcast! We want to share the gratitude we have for our listeners, and that means a giveaway! You can win the book Transformed by Trauma, Tay's fave mug (in your choice of yellow or blue), and A's fave candle!To Enter Our Giveaway:Follow Trauma Talks Babes on InstagramListen to an episodeLeave us an honest reviewTake a screenshot of your review and post it on your Instagram story or feed and tag us in your post! Extra Entry: For an additional entry like our giveaway post and tag a friend in the comments section! *You must be following us on Instagram* Our giveaway ends April 28th, 2021, and the winner will be announced on May 2nd, 2021. Good luck, babes!(This giveaway is not affiliated with Instagram) 

As trauma survivors, our fundamental trust in the universe is often fractured. We usually have a passive sense of everything that happens for a reason - what is meant to be will be or will not be. A really shitty way to move through life! In this episode, we share the story of how we met and the first step in changing our trajectory as trauma survivors. *Spoiler* Being vulnerable is key to growing through your trauma. "Tell the storyOf the mountainYou climbed.Your wordsCould become a new pageIn someone else'sSurvival guide"Be vulnerable! Tell your story! It's the first step, and we are here for it. XOXO Tay & AWe are so excited to be releasing our Podcast! We want to share the gratitude we have for our listeners, and that means a giveaway! You can win the book Transformed by Trauma, Tay's fave mug (in your choice of yellow or blue), and A's fave candle!To Enter Our Giveaway:✨Follow Trauma Talks Babes on Instagram✨Listen to an episode✨Leave us an honest review✨Take a screenshot of your review and post it on your Instagram story or feed and tag us in your post! ✨Extra Entry: For an additional entry like our giveaway post and tag a friend in the comments section! *You must be following us on Instagram* Our giveaway ends April 28th, 2021, and the winner will be announced on May 2nd, 2021. Good luck, babes!(This giveaway is not affiliated with Instagram)  

Welcome to Trauma Talks, Babes! In episode 0, we share why this podcast came into being and our purpose. You'll get an unvarnished, truthful take from the people who have experienced trauma and a ready to take back their story. In season one, we dive deep into our stories and the lesson we have learned from them. We also have some wonderful guests lined up to share their stories. We understand that trauma speaks for you - but you have the power to take it back! We welcome you to our community with open arms!We hope that our conversations will empower you to speak your truth.