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Summary:Unkle Lew hosts the final episode of the year on "Don't be Koi Journal Club" with guests Brian Wesley Harrington and Darren Jenkins. The focus is on concluding the conversation around the transformation process, exploring topics such as embracing triumphs, cultivating presence, and charting the future in a journey of transformation. The discussion delves into the significance of celebrating victories, the impact on overall well-being, and mindfulness techniques for staying present during transformative experiences. Host: Unkle Lew Guests: Brian Wesley Harrington: A black queer man pursuing a Ph.D. at the University of Mississippi, sharing insights on the transformative journey and the importance of authenticity. Darren Jenkins: A professional in the education sector emphasizing the role of mentorship and networks in personal and professional transformations. Key Themes: Celebrating Victories: Brian and Darren discuss the importance of acknowledging and celebrating small and big victories in daily life, emphasizing how it contributes to overall well-being. They highlight the role of gratitude and affirmations in building momentum and positively impacting mental health. Mindfulness Techniques: The guests share mindfulness practices like meditation, deep breathing, and intentional self-reflection to navigate challenges during the transformation process. Brian emphasizes the significance of being present, especially in moments of completion, and the role of mindfulness in recentering oneself. Community and Representation: Brian reflects on the impact of attending a black educators conference, highlighting the sense of community and representation it provided. The discussion emphasizes the importance of being authentic and creating space for oneself while also considering the impact on future generations. Closure and Accountability: The conversation touches on the critical aspect of closure after transformative experiences, including self-reflection on personal behavior and lessons learned. The guests stress the importance of holding oneself and others accountable for fostering a diverse and inclusive environment. The episode concludes with insights into maintaining closure, gratitude, and accountability as individuals embark on their next transformative journeys. The discussion encourages listeners to reflect on their own paths and consider the impact of their actions on creating more inclusive spaces.

Shame is something we all experience, not just those who have experienced trauma in their lives. We feel shame about the parts of ourselves that are most fundamental to who we are. But we don't really talk about it.

Episode Summary:Uncle Lew welcomes Rio Estollas to "Don't Be Koi" for a deep dive into his personal and professional journey within the theme of "Inner Renaissance." From growing up in a diverse, culturally rich environment to venturing into the world of vintage, Rio shares insights into his gradual evolution and the challenges he faced on the path to owning his own shop. The episode explores the mindset shifts, the importance of gratitude, and how facing challenges can be seen as a learning experience. As Rio shares his experiences, the conversation delves into the significance of giving back, offering a glimpse into Rio's upcoming projects that aim to inspire and educate the youth. Show Notes: Host: Uncle Lew Guest: Rio Estollas Key Themes: Inner Renaissance: Rio's journey from growing up in San Francisco in the vintage world. Betting on Yourself: Rio's transition from odd jobs to owning a vintage shop. Facing Challenges: Overcoming obstacles and the mindset shift towards learning. Gratitude and Mindset: Rio's perspective on gratitude and the evolution of priorities. Giving Back: Rio's projects to inspire and educate the youth in the realm of creativity. Lessons for the Youth: Emphasizing the importance of failure, self-belief, and active listening. This episode invites listeners to reflect on their own journeys, embrace challenges, and consider the impact of gratitude and giving back in their lives.

Marketing professional Roshni Kamta sits down with Unkle Lew and discusses her moments of transformation. In this episode Rosh shares how through her personal journey, she has developed the confidence to ask "what's next?". To stay up to date on the latest Don't Be Koi information make sure you follow us on Instagram @dbk_podast

Claiming your victory means acknowledging and celebrating your accomplishments, no matter how big or small they may be. 

In this episode, Unkle Lew, Brian Wesley Harrington, and Pheron Russell engage in a candid discussion about the importance of self-reflection. They explore the transformative potential of self-reflection and its role in personal growth. The conversation delves into defining self-reflection and the techniques each participant uses, such as solitude, verbal processing, and seeking wisdom from trusted individuals or spiritual practices. The discussion takes a turn towards vulnerability, shame, and the emotions that emerge during moments of deep self-reflection. The participants share personal experiences, including a powerful example from Unkle Lew about a candid conversation that impacted his growth. They emphasize the significance of recognizing relationships that may be placeholders, lacking depth, and discuss setting boundaries as a crucial aspect of self-reflection. The episode concludes with insights into identifying and prioritizing self-compassion, intentional self-love, and the importance of aligning decisions with core values for genuine personal growth.

Entrepreneur Benny Hubbard sits down with Unkle Lew and discusses his moments of transformation. In this episode Benny shares his journey on how developing his brand BennyXBlack supported his development of self. To stay up to date on the latest Don't Be Koi information make sure you follow us on Instagram @dbk_podast

Workforce Development professional Aara Shaikh sits down with Unkle Lew and discusses her moments of transformation. In this episode Aara shares how in staying present and knowledgeable of one's values, she was able to identify her identity. To stay up to date on the latest Don't Be Koi information make sure you follow us on Instagram @dbk_podast

Self-reflection is an important tool for growth as it helps individuals to gain a deeper understanding of their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. 

Unkle Lew and Brian Wesley Harrington host this monthly journal club to embark on the transformation journey through facilitated discussions based on previous episodes and our communities personal experiences.

Education advocate Pheron Russell sits down with Unkle Lew and discusses her moments of transformation. In this episode Pheron discusses how in various points of her transformation journey, she had to face her fate to reach the next milestone. To stay up to date on the latest Don't Be Koi information make sure you follow us on Instagram @dbk_podast

Student artist Tyler Goliday sits down with Unkle Lew and discusses his moments of transformation. In this episode Tyler shares how reflecting on past mistakes has given perspectives on new paths. To stay up to date on the latest Don't Be Koi information make sure you follow us on Instagram @dbk_podast

Attorney Laura K. Cooper sits down with Unkle Lew and discusses her moments of transformation. In this episode Laura shares how the confidence in following her heart serves as a guiding light through her journey. To stay up to date on the latest Don't Be Koi information make sure you follow us on Instagram @dbk_podast

Defining success is a deeply personal and subjective process. Aswhat may be considered successful to one person, may not hold true for another. 

Unkle Lew and Brian Wesley Harrington host this monthly journal club to embark on the transformation journey through facilitated discussions based on previous episodes and our communities personal experiences.

Dr. Jeremy McLemore sits down with Unkle Lew and discusses his moments of transformation. In this episode Jeremy shares how through recently enduring multiple simultaneous transitions, he found solace in returning to his baseline. To stay up to date on the latest Don't Be Koi information make sure you follow us on Instagram @dbk_podast

Dr. Aurora Washington sits down with Unkle Lew and discusses her moments of transformation. In this episode Aurora shares how her creative journey has been a reflection of her personal transformations. To stay up to date on the latest Don't Be Koi information make sure you follow us on Instagram @dbk_podast

Life is full of unexpected challenges that can throw us off course. In order to navigate these challenges with grace and ease, it is important to cultivate the skills of adaptability and mindfulness. 

Unkle Lew and Brian Wesley Harrington host this monthly journal club to embark on the transformation journey through facilitated discussions based on previous episodes and our communities personal experiences.

Coast Guardsman Brandon Dean sits down with Unkle Lew and discusses his moments of transformation. In this episode Brandon shares how learning to actively listen has led to his growth and development. To stay up to date on the latest Don't Be Koi information make sure you follow us on Instagram @dbk_podast

Talent Consultant Ongelique Pyles sits down with Unkle Lew and discusses her moments of transformation. In this episode Ongelique shares how she learned to live in the moment and the impact that has had to her growth and development. To stay up to date on the latest Don't Be Koi information make sure you follow us on Instagram @dbk_podast.

Celebrating small wins is an effective way to practice the art of being present. When we acknowledge a small victories, we become more mindful of the positive aspects of our lives.

Unkle Lew and Brian Wesley Harrington host this monthly journal club to embark on the transformation journey through facilitated discussions based on previous episodes and our communities personal experiences.

Attorney Darryl Wilson sits down with Unkle Lew and discusses his moments of transformation. In this episode Darryl shares how he learned to give grace. And the impact that has had to his growth and development. To stay up to date on the latest Don't Be Koi information make sure you follow us on Instagram @dbk_podast.

HR Consultant Will Fuller sits down with Unkle Lew and discusses his moments of transformation. In this episode Will shares how learning to actively tell the story of his narrative has led to his growth and development. To stay up to date on the latest Don't Be Koi information make sure you follow us on Instagram @dbk_podast.

Dental School student Larekia Brown sits down with Unkle Lew and discusses her moments of transformation. In this episode Larekia shares how she evaluates her own personal growth and development through constantly asking herself "the question". To stay up to date on the latest Don't Be Koi information make sure you follow us on Instagram @dbk_podast.

Setting intentions is imperative in a transformation journey. Through setting intentions, one is establishing purpose. Providing accountability towards achieving your goals.

Housing Solutions for Hope founders Lauri and Scott Bingham sit down with Unkle Lew and shares their story of how their organization is supporting the issue of housing insecurity for Seattle Children's patient families. If you would like to support this goal, visit their site at housingsolutionsforhope.org

Unkle Lew and Brian Wesley Harrington host this monthly journal club to embark on the transformation journey through facilitated discussions based on previous episodes and our communities personal experiences.

Don't be Koi invites you! To our inaugural Summer Social and Charity Showcase. At Don't be Koi we are committed to making positive impacts towards our community.  We believe that by partnering with organizations to address social causes, we can make a meaningful difference inwards and out. Our goal is to raise awareness and funds for our chosen charity, Housing Solutions for Hope, and create an engaging social experience for all attendees.  We strive to foster a spirit of generosity and goodwill, and to inspire others to join us in making a positive impact in the world. Join us Tuesday, June 20th at 6:30pm Till Dawn Coffee and Gaming Bar Register Today

Talent Coach David Cumplido sits down with Unkle Lew and discusses his moments of transformation. In this episode David shares how presently choosing himself has been the best decision in his life.

Law Student Marvin Dale sits down with Unkle Lew and discusses his moments of transformation. In this episode Marvin shares how his past experiences established core values in various moments of his life.

Commencing a new chapter can be very exiting and overwhelming. 

Unkle Lew and Brian Wesley Harrington host this monthly journal club to embark on the transformation journey through facilitated discussions based on previous episodes and our communities personal experiences.Tune in ever last Sunday from April through December to be apart of “The Pond”.

Educator Stan Powell sits down with Unkle Lew and discusses his moments transformation. In this episode Stan reflects on taking the steps to transition between careers.

Activist Uri Baker sits down with Unkle Lew and discusses his moments of transformation. In this episode Uri discuses how his pursuit for changing disparities has helped develop his personal maturity.

Our transformations are guided by a formula of resources, choices, and circumstances. Some factors we cannot control. Yet our choices can lead us to our goals.

Dr. Kelsey Paul-Stubbs sits down with Unkle Lew and discusses her moments of transformation. In this episode Kelsey shares how her appreciation of the simplest moments can help carry the heaviest burdens.

Attorney April Love sits down with Unkle Lew and discusses her moments of transformation. In this episode April discusses the importance of flexibility when navigating one's journey.

Biostatistician Chantal Lewis sits down with Unkle Lew and discusses her moments of transformation. In this episode Chantal shares how childhood memories, bring moments of comfort through some of the most challenging journeys.

Attorney India Sprinkle sits down with Unkle Lew and discusses her moments of transformation. In this episode India reminiscences on the beauty of simpler times and how she can retain that feeling today.

Attorney Andrew Gonzalez sits down with Unkle Lew and discusses his moments of transformation. In this episode Andrew shares how he was able to stay grounded and present in his experience coast to coast.

Attorney La'Bria Barnes sits down with Unkle Lew and discusses her moments of transformation. In this episode La'Bria reflects on points in time where she found peace in the midst of a busy storm.

Marketer David Wright sits down with Unkle Lew and shares the experiences that led to the development of his career. In this episode David discusses how he will leverage skills developed for a successful transition into an independent lifestyle.

Continuous Improvement Leader Vinay Thakorlal sits down with Unkle Lew and shares details on recent experiences in his life. In this episode Vinay discusses the priorities that lead to his successful transition into his new chapter.

Photographer Chauncey Mangum sits down with Unkle Lew and shares his approach to remaining present in doing what he loves. In this episode, Chauncey shares the tools he uses to engage, sustain, and scale his passion.

Marketing Professional Brandon Bell sits down with Unkle Lew and shares his journey on creating his narrative. In this episode Brandon depicts the journey he took to find and develop his personal brand.

Emergency Management Specialist Kayvia Pemberton sits down with Unkle Lew and shares her approach to living her dreams. In this episode Kayvia shares how through pursuing her passions she's been able to create a fulfilled and balanced life.

Food Enthusiast Dae'Mar Kirksey sits down with Unkle Lew and reflects on his journey through the food industry. In this episode Dae'Mar shares how he supports a personal passion with self development.