Finding Love

If you are listening to this podcast, I know you want a great relationship. You are someone who tries hard and wants things to be better. Give a listen to these 3 common roadblocks that can keep you from having the relationship you want. I'd love to hear from you. Send me an email Robyn@RobynMichon.com

Do you avoid opening presents in front of other people? Or maybe you've taken "It's better to give than to receive" a little too far and tell people you don't want anything for Christmas? Being able to receive is ESSENTIAL in a relationship. If we don't know how to receive, if we don't know what it's like to receive in a healthy way, we can block ourselves from love. We can end up pushing away real love because it feels so uncomfortable and so out of the norm. Let's use this season of receiving gifts to look at your patterns around receiving in relationships. Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationshipanxietycoach/ Send me an email at Robyn@RobynMichon.com

It's the season of giving - so we're going to use that to look at how we give in relationships.

This episode is going to help you understand what's keeping you from getting closure, common blocks to closure and how to start taking closure into your own hands and giving it to yourself.

You'd love to say you're over them, but you aren't. Knowing WHY you can't get closure is going to help you get closer to not thinking about them anymore.

As part of focusing on getting closure this month, we are looking at closure within a relationship. It might be a fight you had. Something your partner said or did. Or an issue that just keeps coming up. This episode is going to help you identify when you need closure on an issue within continuing relationship and what is preventing you from getting that closure on an issue.

Closure is our theme for this month! I open up in this episode and talk about past relationships, signs I see in myself that show I don't have closure and how I create closure for myself.

What do you do when you want sex but your partner doesn't? We look at mismatched sex drives from the perspective of the partner who wants more sex but isn't sure how to make that happen, how getting turned down can impact our confidence and how we show up when we feel hurt. Then we talk about getting on the same team - because doesn't everyone want a great sex life? I bet both you and your partner do.

What do you do when your partner wants more sex but you don't? Today we dive into what happens when you aren't meeting your partner's needs. This takes us deep into boundaries, understanding what we are and aren't responsible for in relationships and looking at the roles we fall into accidentally. Have questions? I'd love to hear from you. Reach out Robyn@RobynMichon.com.

The essence of Boundaries is understanding what we are responsible for and what we AREN'T responsible for. If you find yourself trying to figure out other people and why they do what they do - you might be struggling with Over-Responsiblity.

I dread Christmas. The unmet expectations. The stress and money of gifts and holiday parties. Dealing with family conflicts. It's the worst. But the Holidays don't have to feel like that. It's possible to have holidays that you really enjoy and look forward to. What makes that possible is Boundaries. If you want to come to the Boundaries workshop in person in Regina on Nov 11, 2023, email Robyn@RobynMichon.com and I'll send you the info.

When we think that the we are the reason we have bad relationships, it keeps us stuck. We try to solve our self worth. We tell ourselves we just need to try harder. We think if only we were more healed we could attract the right people. And those things don't work. They aren't why someone doesn't have the relationships they want. What we really need to have better relationships are relationship skills.

Toxic positivity is one of those things in relationships where it can feel like we are doing the right thing. We are trying to stay positive, focus on the good, and on the power of gratitude and appreciation. We think that this is how we'll create the relationships we want, by staying positive and focusing on the good, but when we take this TOO far - that's when it becomes toxic. That's when it turns from healthy positivity into toxic positivity. Toxic positivity happens when there is SUCH a focus on being positive that it doesn't allow for and even dismisses anything negative.

Do you have a hard time saying no? Do you tend to go along with things to avoid conflict? Or maybe you are dating someone who never says no, never has an opinion, and is super easy going ALL the time. In this episode we walk through what it's like dating someone who doesn't say no and how that prevents deeper connection.

This is one of my favorite past episodes on How To Feel More Attractive. If you are knew to the podcast - enjoy this for the first time! If you listened to this when it first came out - what's changed since then? Do you take away different things that you did earlier this year?

This week we continue talking about boundaries with 5 more signs you need to work on creating stronger boundaries in your life. 1. Indecision. You spend lots of your life not sure what to do, what to eat for supper and asking everyone else what they think. 2. Chronic complaining. When we are complaining we aren't setting boundaries. 3. Anger/Resentment. Anger is your friend. It tells you that you aren't okay with something that is happening. 4. You feel responsible for other people's feelings. 5. You don't speak up for yourself. Want

We know boundaries are important. But how do we know when we need boundaries? Here are some signs we explore this week: 1. You say yes when you want to say no.2. You end up doing all the work - weather it's at work, at home or the emotional labor in the relationship.3. You are the person who is always being left or feel like you are always being left. 4. Running late all the time. 5. You see yourself being passive aggressive (or other people point it out to you.)

We talk about behaviors that prevent healthy relationships from happening. This is all about how other people are behaving and red flags in relationships.

This week we look at what happens when you focus on them and what they are doing instead of focusing on you and what you want.

A request is about asking someone else to change their behaviour. A boundary is about us deciding what we allow and don't allow in our lives. A boundary is about how we speak, think and act toward ourselves. Want to learn more? Attend the Boundary workshop! Cost: $25 Sept 9 in Regina in person from 10am-noon Aug 30 online over Zoom at 6pm PT

You try to set boundaries but they don't work. You don't want to seem mean or hurt someone else so you don't set boundaries. You've heard of boundaries - but you don't really get what they are. If you relate to any of these - you must listen to this podcast. Georgia from @theragingtherapist and I explore boundaries and what is and what isn't a boundary. If you want to sign up for the workshop. Virtual - over zoom on Aug 30, 2023 at 7pm CT In person - Regina SK on Sept 9 at 10am-noon. Both are $25 and may be covered under insurance. Send me an email to sign up: Robyn@RobynMichon.com

They've been dating for 2 months and she keeps seeing him liking photos of half naked women online. She's been cheated on in that past and him liking these photos is making her wonder if she's going to be cheated on once again. This week we dive into how to think through this, all of the aspects to think about and I give you examples of how healthy couples communicate over issues that come up. If you are struggling to communicate what you need in your relationship, sign up for a free consult with Robyn for one on one coaching. We meet over zoom and help you gain the confidence and skills you need to have the relationship you want. Click here to book a call: https://robynmichoncoaching.as.me/

Are you in indecision about a relationship? Whether it's to date, get married, or move on - this podcast episode is for you.

In this episode we talk about how to know if love is real, the different definitions of love and what to look for early on in dating.

Considering being friends with an ex? You NEED to listen to this episode. It's all about choice, being honest with yourself and doing what really helps you feel better instead of worse. Have questions or want to reach out to Robyn? Send her an email at Robyn@RobynMichon.com.

Do you attach too easily? Or maybe you still feel attached to an ex you are trying to get over. We often think the solution to attachment is to just not care or to pretend we don't care. We think we have to let go and detach. But the truth is - the opposite of attachment is connection. Ready to take your relationships to the next level? Whether you are single, sort of dating or in a couple, 1:1 coaching with Robyn can help you have a better relationship. Email Robyn@RobynMichon.com to set up a free consult call.

The most common relationship that problem that people have is needing to communicate better. But HOW do we communicate better? It starts with understanding the 4 parts of communication.

If you are having BIG or challenging feelings in your relationship - you *need* to give this podcast a listen right now. This week we talk about how to handle someone setting a boundary with us. Boundaries can bring up BIG feelings. How we manage these feelings and learn to help ourselves through them makes a huge difference in our relationships and in our lives.

Worried about that first date?I got you.We talk through 4 fundamental shifts that will help you overcome first date anxiety. Shift 1: Don't build up the relationship in your head before you've met them.Shift 2: Get support.Shift 3: Be proud of yourself for showing up - even if the date doesn't go well.Shift 4: Do you honestly care what they think? How not to care so much. Let's dive in.Follow me on Instagram: @relationshipanxietycoachSign up for a free consult for 1:1 coaching: https://robynmichoncoaching.as.me/FreeRelationshipAssessmentCall

Want to know how to make a relationship work? This week we finish up our conversation about The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman. According to research done by the Gottman Institute, almost 70% of problems in relationships are unsolvable. Unsolvable problems are the issues where we have differing needs or dreams. One of us might have a deep desire for freedom, while the other has needs for consistency and predictably. Or we might believe children need strict rules while our partner believes in gentle parenting and talking things through is the best way to parent. In this episode, we talk about how happy couples manage these unsolvable differences. Then we go beyond just being happy in your relationship to talk about creating shared meaning and how building in rituals, understanding each person's role and setting shared goals can help your relationship go from okay to amazing.

We continue our conversation from last week about the book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman. Principle 4: Let Your Partner Influence You Principle 5: Solve Your Solvable Problems

Using the book by John Gottman called "The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work", we are talk about the science behind how happy couples interact. We start with the first 3 principles: 1. Enhance Your Love Maps (Be best friends.) 2. Nurture Your Fondness and Admiration 3. Turn Toward Each Other Instead Of Away

These 10 signs of a healthy relationship are going to help you better understand why a relationship is feeling good and healthy or why it isn't. These signs hold true for any relationship - romantic, family, work, friends, your pet etc.

Relationships are harder for some of us. In this weeks episode we look at advantages and disadvantages you had growing up that may make it harder for you to have a healthy relationship. We also talk about how relationship skills are learned, which means that even if you recognize relationships are harder for you than other people it's still possible for you to learn how to have a healthy relationship.

This week we dive into a real-life couple example. They are going to a baby shower. She tells him to pick up the gift on his lunch break. The gift he picks up is not acceptable to her. Give it a listen and learn how a relationship coach thinks through conflict.

One of the best things we can do for our relationships is to learn how to help ourselves feel better when we aren't okay.  In this episode we talk about the steps you can take to help yourself feel better when you aren't feeling like yourself.

It doesn't matter how attracted you are to someone - physically or emotionally or magnetically - they have to treat you well in order to be in a relationship with you. We know that. But sometimes, especially when we think someone is our soulmate, we focus on the fantasy of the relationship instead of the reality of how we are actually being treated.

We dive into what acceptance is (it's looking at the facts and reality of something) and how to accept your partner and yourself.

What you are thinking and feeling before you bring up a problem MATTERS. In this episode we explore how you think about yourself and how you think about the other person affects how you show up when you bring up an issue.

This week we go Q&A style. We talk about: -looking for red flags on the first few dates -how to know if you are compatible -checking your partner's social media -being in a situationship -fear of setting boundaries Have questions you want me to answer on future episodes? Email me at Robyn@RobynMichon.com

I recently decided to end a close relationship in my life. This is that story.

Listen until the end of this episode for when I get vulnerable and share with you how working on boundaries impacted my relationship with my dad.

You get a text message from him, but you don't know what to say. What does he mean? How should you reply? This podcast has the answer. And it's not what you think.

Sometimes the answers we need are inside of us, but sometimes they aren't. Sometimes we don't have the answers. In this podcast we explore the thought "Your Answers Are Inside Of You" and how that thought can keep you stuck.

Buckle up because this is an episode that could change everything for you. We talk about where attractiveness comes from and how it's your partner's job to find you attractive - not your job to look a certain way.

In relationship self help we are told the importance of self love and self worth, but rarely are we told how to actually love ourselves. Today we are going to do that. We are going to look at what self love is and where confidence and self worth come from. Let's dive into confidence, self love and self worth.

In this episode my mom and I answer the question of: How do you make a relationship last? Should that be a goal? I want you to listen into this episode for the mindset we use thinking about past relationships, our and how we think about ourselves. Bonus: There is a cat in the background.

Ahhh getting triggered. It's something that happens to the best of us! In this episode we explore both when we are the person being triggered and when we are the person doing the triggering.

Do you have a hard time saying no? Are you a people pleaser? This episode is for you.

Want to get a better understanding of why you feel loved and why you feel unloved? This podcast can help you begin to answer that. The 5 Love Languages talk about the 5 different ways that people give and receive love. We dive into each of the different ways and I talk about how our thoughts are more important than our actions when it comes to feeling loved.

I'm sure you've heard TONS about how to set goals. We aren't talking about SMART goals or actions plans, instead we going to focus on two things: Do you actually believe your goal is even possible? And are you going to look after yourself and be okay no matter what happens on your journey to reaching that goal?