Podcasts about avoidant

In this week's episode, Stephanie opens up about what it's really like to be the “go-to” person the one everyone calls when they need advice, support, or a shoulder to lean on. While it can feel good to be needed, it often comes with a hidden cost: exhaustion, resentment, and burnout. Stephanie dives into why so many of us fall into this role, the toll it can take on our well-being, and what it looks like when it starts to drain your energy and happiness. She also shares her own experience of stepping back from this label, the pushback she faced, and how she learned to protect her energy without losing her compassion. If you've ever felt like you're carrying the weight of everyone else's problems, this episode will help you see why it happens and remind you that it's okay to take care of yourself first. Tune in to learn how to set healthier boundaries, reclaim your energy, and show up as the best version of yourself not the burnt-out one.   For more information visit her at www.StephanieLynLifeCoaching.com   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/StephanieLynCoaching LTK: https://www.shopltk.com/explore/StephanieLynStyle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephanielyncoach/ TikTok: https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMeg1m9pu/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/stephanielyncoaching   Thank you for your love and support! Stephanie  

Send us a textEver found yourself mixing up avoidant and dependent personality disorders? You're not alone. This episode delivers a crystal-clear framework to distinguish between these commonly confused diagnoses—essential knowledge for passing your licensing exam.Dr. Linton Hutchinson cuts through the complexity to reveal the golden difference: motivation. While both disorders share features like interpersonal difficulties, low self-esteem, and comorbidity with anxiety and depression, they stem from fundamentally different fears. Avoidant personality disorder (APD) is driven by fear of criticism and rejection—these clients believe they're "not good enough" and withdraw to protect themselves. Dependent personality disorder (DPD), however, is fueled by fear of abandonment and self-doubt—these clients cling to relationships because they believe they "can't handle life alone."Through compelling case studies of Sarah and Mark, Dr. Hutchinson demonstrates how these patterns play out in real life. When relationships end, APD clients retreat further into isolation while DPD clients immediately seek replacements. Treatment approaches differ significantly too: APD therapy focuses on gradual exposure and challenging negative self-beliefs, while DPD treatment emphasizes building self-efficacy and independence. For your exam, remember to identify the core motivation—is the client avoiding potential hurt or seeking someone to depend on?Whether you're preparing for licensing exams or simply want to sharpen your diagnostic skills, this episode provides the clarity you need. Subscribe now for more clinical insights that will elevate your therapeutic practice and help you pass your exams with confidence!If you need to study for your national licensing exam, try the free samplers at: LicensureExamsThis podcast is not associated with the NBCC, AMFTRB, ASW, ANCC, NASP, NAADAC, CCMC, NCPG, CRCC, or any state or governmental agency responsible for licensure.

You know that electric, addictive chemistry we chase? Girl, it's not love. It's a nervous system hook. And we all think that if we can just get the avoidant man or woman to settle down, to pick us, to choose us, to see our worth, that everything will be okay. I call this Shiny Object Syndrome (‘I'll be happy when')... but today, I explain why 99% of the time, these people will never give you the intimacy, safety, or emotional consistency you deserve. I share my own story of being hooooooked on an avoidant man who felt like an actual drug and what happened when I finally saw through it and saw him for the reality of who he was. I also share the psychology, biology and attachment patterns I learned about on the way and how getting the avoidant person to choose you doesn't fix your own wounds. Finally, I chat self abandonment, nervous system rewiring, and how to break the cycle for GOOD. Cos damn, it feels good, but trust me, that avoidant man or woman is just casually going to waste 1 - 4 years of your life. And at some point, you'll get tired of the cycle.

In this episode, Sathiya Sam explores the intricate relationship between attachment theory and pornography addiction, emphasizing that both stem from intimacy issues. He discusses how avoidant attachment can lead to difficulties in forming deep connections and how pornography addiction is fundamentally an intimacy disorder. Sathiya provides insights into healing intimacy issues through self-awareness and meaningful relationships, offering actionable steps for listeners to improve their emotional connections and overall quality of life.   Do you prefer video format? Watch this episode on Youtube Watch Sathiya on Youtube For More Content Like This   Know more about Sathiya's work: DCIC Always – Join The Brotherhood (and get coached by Sathiya) For Less Than $2/day Submit Your Questions (Anonymously) To Be Answered On The Podcast TLR Always – Get A Free Copy of The Last Relapse, Your Blueprint For Recovery   Chapters: (00:00) Introduction to the Podcast and Content Overview (01:24) Understanding Attachment Theory and Pornography Addiction (05:08) The Connection Between Intimacy Issues and Recovery (11:22) Strategies for Healing Intimacy Disorders

No contact isn't enough to get an avoidant ex back. There's something even more powerful that overrides attachment style.Dating/relationship expert Lucia reveals the secret factor that determines whether your avoidant ex comes back or stays gone.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay Hi on Instagram#NoContactRule #AvoidantEx #GetYourExBack #ExBack #NoContact

ATTACHMENT STYLES. In this episode of the Came to Believe Recovery Podcast, Tom, Alicea and Monty discuss the four Attachment Styles most common with people. Are these healthy? Can they be useful? Where are you in these descriptions? How does recovery play a part in these styles?#recovery #alcoholic #twelvesteps #wedorecover #addiction 

When a relationship ends without warning, it's common to feel blindsided, confused, and deeply hurt. This is often labelled the “avoidant discard” — but while that term might feel validating in the moment, it can also keep you stuck in a disempowering story.In this episode, we'll talk about how to process a sudden ending in a way that honours your pain without leaving you tethered to it. We'll explore:Why shock and lack of closure can intensify heartbreakThe difference between feeling discarded and being discardedHow villain/victim narratives can hold you back from real healingThe impact of online echo chambers on your recoveryPractical steps to reclaim your agency and move forwardThis isn't about minimising what you've been through. It's about finding a more grounded, self-responsible way to engage with what happened — so you can process it fully, integrate the lessons, and step into your next chapter with clarity and self-respect.Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The 3 Shifts That Help Anxiously Attached People Heal After a Break-up Free Training: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love London Event: tickets here Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list

[Rerun] This is the first deep dive in the Loneliness Deep Dive Series. (Intro) The full episode is available to patrons of the podcast.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleEmail: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comMerch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychologyinseattle/Facebook Official Page: https://www.facebook.com/PsychologyInSeattle/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kirk.hondaJune 12, 2020The Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being.Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although, we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!MorrowMarriage.com | Disrupting Divorce With The “New” MarriageCass and Kathryn came back from the depths of hell to save their marriage and keep their family together. Battling narcissism, abuse, reactive abuse, emotional, physical and sexual assault. Listen as they share their lessons, actionable steps and real life examples from even the worst of their story. Unscripted, real, raw and against the grain from society's example of marriage - currently leading to the demise of nearly 78% of all marriages today.Inspiring couples around the world...If they can save their marriage from toxicity, abuse and a sexless marriage - not only survive it all... but THRIVE... what's your excuse?Join Cass & Kathryn as they flip divorce statistics and fulfill their purpose in life.Have your own questions or topics you would like us to cover? Let us know here: https://forms.gle/7R8GBAdmQRkuZ3NFA

The Avoidant's Love Bombing Cycle- They shower you with love, pull away, and later want to reconnect. Here's how to spot—and stop—the avoidant's love bombing cycle. An avoidant's pattern often begins with intense love bombing, creating the illusion of closeness and safety. Then, without warning, they pull away, go no contact, and reappear months later expecting to pick up where things left off. This episode breaks down the emotional mechanics behind this toxic cycle and shows you how to respond with clarity and strength. How love bombing creates a false sense of security. Why avoidants pull away and go no contact. How to handle their return without losing your power. Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

Why does it feel like the therapist is always on your case, even when your wife is the one shutting down emotionally?In this video, I explain why anxious men—like many of you—end up being the focus in therapy sessions... and it's not because the therapist is against you. It's because you're actually the one most likely to change and grow.We'll talk science, psychology, and real-life patterns I've seen in hundreds of men who come to Help For Men. I'll walk you through:Why anxious men are more likely to do the workWhy avoidant women tend to resist therapyWhat the data says about who actually becomes secureHow your own healing can change the relationship—or your entire lifeIf you're tired of dragging your wife to therapy while getting all the blame, this one's for you.✅ Join the Brotherhood today: https://helpformen.com/join✅ Read The Dead Bedroom Fix: https://deadbedroomfix.com

Your avoidant ex needs emotional space - 3 feet of it. Dating/relationship expert Lucia reveals the 3 Foot Rule that makes avoidants feel safe, stops the chasing game and actually draws them back to you.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#avoidantex #attachmentstyles #nocontactrule #getyourexback

Send us a textIn this episode I answer a listener Q from “Maddie,” who's in post-breakup limbo with an avoidant ex. I unpack blurred boundaries after a breakup, why “staying friends” can quietly erode self-respect, how trauma bonds differ from schema-triggered dynamics, and what it really takes to let go when your abandonment schema is pulling you back. You'll also get a simple Relationship Review exercise to spot your patterns so you can date with clearer self-trust next time.What we coverThe self-respect signal: why “staying friends” sometimes keeps you stuckLove-bombing vs. real intimacy (and why early declarations are a red flag)Trauma bonding 101: replication, familiarity and unmet needsAvoidant–anxious dynamics and why they feel magnetic but unstable“Hard work” vs. “healthy work” in relationships - a practical litmus testHow to let go: grief, no-contact, and naming your modes without self-criticismThe Relationship Review: a step-by-step way to map your patternsTry this (listener worksheet prompts)“Where did I override red flags because of fear, guilt or hope?”“Which parts/modes showed up in me (e.g., Pleaser, Angry Protector, Vulnerable Child)?”“How did I actually feel most of the time in that relationship?”“What does ‘emotionally available' need to look like for me, specifically?”Resources mentionedEpisode 104: The Good, the Bad and the Bond (trauma bonding explainer)Free guide: Dating With Insight: A Tune-In After Every Date (reflective prompts to help you notice how you felt in their presence)Free live masterclass: The Psychology of Attraction - why chemistry isn't random and how schema chemistry pulls you toward the wrong partnersLive: Wednesday 10 September, 7:00pm AESTReplay available to all who registerIs Love Wisely for you? If you're a self-aware woman with a history of emotionally unavailable or narcissistic partners AND you're ready to rewrite your Love Template™ the next 12-week Love Wisely group starts late September. Warm, structured and practical. Support the show✨ Connect with Me

Let's explore attachment styles. Luis has learned from personal experience that avoidant attachment types are simply bodies overwhelmed by a connection that feels overly needy, like a burden, and as a result they over-identify with independence. Anxious attachment types seek safety outside of themselves, and often end up seeking that safety in an avoidant partner. So anxious types and avoidant types often end up partnered. The overwhelmed avoidant's behavior "proves" to the anxious type their need to grasp for safety, while that same grasping "proves" to the avoidant type that they need to run. A match, my friends, made in hell. Do you find yourself in an anxious and avoidant relationship pattern, or have you had these patterns in past relationships? In the upcoming 6-month Embodied Relationships slow group, Luis will teach the difference between a trigger and a need, how to fawn less, and how to identify and state preferences. With somatic tools, an avoidant and anxious couple can learn to connect from a soft place and even become a match made in heaven. Join Luis for a three-day in-person workshop connecting whole foods nutrition, somatic wisdom, and stress recovery at Kripalu. You can read more about, and register, here. Sign up for our 6-month Embodied Relationships group, beginning in October: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/relationship-groupUse the discount code QJSVR73G to save 10% if you register before August 31st.----You can learn more on the website: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/ Learn more about the self-led course here: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/self-led-new Join the waitlist to pre-order Luis' book here: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/the-book You can follow Luis on Instagram @holistic.life.navigationQuestions? You can email us at info@holisticlifenavigation.com

Have you ever felt like two parts of yourself are at battle with each other--one that knows something is bad for you and another that wants to do it anyway? Or maybe you have a loud inner critic, or an inner toddler that just wants to be seen and heard? We are all made up of different parts, but we can learn how to work with them vs against them. In this episode Jodi talks with therapist and author, Britt Frank, about her new book, Align Your Mind: Tame Your Inner Critic and Make Peace with Your Shadow Using the Power of Parts Work. Jodi and Britt discuss the different types of parts and how to identify them, and how parts work can be helpful in love addiction recovery.  Show notes and resources: Music by JD Pendley Link to Jodi's website and link to join her newsletter for upcoming announcements For more information about Britt Frank visit her website and follow her on Instagram @brittfank Purchase Align Your Mind here Disclaimer: This podcast is shared for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for mental health treatment with a licensed mental health professional or to be used in place of the advice of a physician. If you are struggling please don't delay in seeking the assistance of a licensed mental health practitioner or healthcare professional. If you're in crisis please visit NAMI.org or call 1-800-273-TALK for 24-hour assistance.

This episode originally aired on April 3, 2023 (Episode 343), and we're bringing it back because it resonated with so many of you. Whether you're reflecting on a past relationship, navigating one right now, or supporting clients through these dynamics, the lessons are worth revisiting. Why are people with anxious attachment styles and avoidant attachment styles drawn to each other? Can anxious-avoidant relationships work, and most importantly, can they be healthy and satisfying? Yes, they can. But the key is through your understanding of yourself, and of your partner. When you develop true understanding and empathy for your differences, you can create profound connection, and a genuinely secure and healing relationship for both of you. This episode is going to show you how. If you're in an anxious-avoidant relationship, or have been in one before, I hope it helps you understand these dynamics from a new perspective, and empowers you to move toward greater connection and security. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why Attachment Styles Matter   02:42 Core Conflict: Desire for Closeness vs. Space   07:04 The Push-Pull Dynamic of Anxious and Avoidant Partners   11:08 Can Anxious-Avoidant Relationships Be Healthy?   16:09 Finding Compatible Partners & Building Security   17:02 Strategies for Anxious Attachment   18:06 Strategies for Avoidant Attachment   33:04 Why Anxious and Avoidant Partners Are Drawn Together   42:05 Avoidant Discomfort with Closeness & Anxious Pursuing Behaviors   45:06 Doing the Work: Self-Awareness and Self-Management   49:04 Practical Tools for Avoidant Partners   55:00 True Love as a Conscious Choice   Want to know where your relationship stands today? Try my free How Healthy Is Your Relationship? Quiz. It gives you quick insights into what's working well and where you might want to focus your growth together. If this resonated with you, let's keep it going. I share more relationship advice and tools on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube, and I'd love to hear your thoughts too, whether it's feedback on the show, questions about past episodes, or ideas for what you'd like me to cover next. Let's talk! xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self

Dr. Rick Hanson is a psychologist, senior fellow of UC Berkeley's Greater Good Science Center, and bestselling author known for bridging neuroscience, mindfulness, and positive psychology. His work focuses on how the brain can be trained for greater resilience, happiness, and inner strength. Through books such as Hardwiring Happiness and Resilient, Dr. Hanson shares practical, science-based tools to cultivate well-being and reduce stress. He is also a popular speaker and teacher, offering workshops and online programs that integrate psychology, meditation, and neuroscience for personal growth.In our conversation we discuss:(00:00) – Misunderstandings about relationships(04:00) – Love as a practice and skill(08:00) – Brain science and romance(12:00) – Following emotions versus awareness(16:00) – The value of mindfulness(20:00) – Acknowledging feelings and avoidance(24:00) – Negative rumination and brain circuits(28:00) – Exploring what lies beneath rumination(32:00) – Healing after heartbreak(36:00) – Building confidence and self-worth(40:00) – Imposter syndrome and motivation(44:00) – Letting go of inherited beliefs(48:00) – Practical steps for self-respect(52:00) – Choosing the right partner(56:00) – Signs of emotional availability(1:00:00) – Avoidant attachment and relationships(1:04:00) – Moving on from unavailable partners(1:08:00) – Closing thoughts and resourcesLearn more about Dr. Rick HansonBooks:Making Great RelationshipsResilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength, and HappinessWebsites:rickhanson.com — free resources, videos, and coursesglobalcompassioncoalition.org — initiative he promotes near the endWatch full episodes on: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@seankim⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Connect on IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://instagram.com/heyseankim

#114: On today's episode, Laura Caruso, relationship therapist, writer, and speaker, jumps on the podcast to share her story, how to navigate romantic relationships, and the importance empathy plays in our interpersonal relationships. She introduces her book (coming out soon), The Empathy Deficit, and talks about the dating struggles of her clients and even herself. The girls get into:our society's lack of empathy and how it's impacting our interpersonal relationshipshow we can navigate romantic relationships and heal dating woundsthe avoidant vs the anxious attachment tipswhat to do if you can't commitwhat to do if you struggle with emotional intimacyhow to keep the spark alivethe chase vs triggersnavigating relationship OCDhow to tell if there's hope to repair in a relationshipthe signs of an abusive relationship& MORE!CONNECT BELOW:follow Laura hereListen to Laura's podcast hereWork with Laura hereCONNECT with HAN:follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shop the podcast merch ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com

In this episode, I open up about how I subconsciously molded myself to attract avoidant partners and how that pattern was rooted in my earliest experiences of love. I share how I learned to appear “cool,” independent, and unattached in order to feel wanted, and why that left me feeling disconnected and unfulfilled in relationships.If you've ever found yourself downplaying your needs, pretending to be more “chill” than you are, or attracting people who can't meet your emotional depth, this episode will help you reflect on those hidden patterns. My hope is that it gives you insight into your own subconscious motivations, clarity about how you've been showing up in love, and encouragement to realign with your authentic, secure self.* Learn about 1:1 Attachment Coaching with Jessica here.

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Spin to Win is Back! Spin Now to Win Handpicked Prizes By Thais Herself—Including $250 Courses, Free Trials & More to Start Healing Your Attachment Style. Promo Ends Soon! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/spin-the-wheel?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=spin-to-win&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=yt-08-11-25&el=podcast Have you ever dated a dismissive avoidant who seemed amazing at first—only to slowly pull away around the 6-month mark? You're not imagining it. In this episode, Thais Gibson reveals the hidden avoidant timeline—why avoidants often show their “best self” early on, but gradually reveal deeper fears, wounds, and patterns as attachment builds. You'll learn the 6 stages of relationships, why avoidants change gears between month 6 and 12, and the specific fears that surface once emotional bonds deepen. Thais also shares practical communication tips to help you navigate the power struggle stage and strengthen your connection instead of losing it. You'll learn: ✅ The 6 stages of every relationship—and where most couples break up ✅ Why avoidants seem warm and connected early, then start to pull away ✅ How “feelings minus fears” explains their shift after real attachment forms ✅ The specific fears that trigger avoidant distancing behaviors ✅ How flaw-finding becomes a subconscious self-protection strategy ✅ Communication techniques to resolve conflict without pushing them further away ✅ How to frame needs positively so avoidants feel safe enough to meet them Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Send us a textThis episode shares the time line in which the avoidant show interested  in the rebound, starts to withdraws and goes back to their ex. The episode talks about why Avoidant Attached jumps into soon after a break up, what their intentions are when returning to and what you can do to prevent yourself from becoming rebound.Support the show

Avoidant vs. anxious attachment explainedWhy self-love is essential before partnershipHow to preserve your peace—mentally, energetically, emotionallyIf you've experienced emotional whiplash, gaslighting, or toxic cycles, this episode will provide clarity, validation, and a roadmap for healing. Whether single, dating, or partnered, learn how to set boundaries and choose from a place of strength.

Avoidant vs. anxious attachment explainedWhy self-love is essential before partnershipHow to preserve your peace—mentally, energetically, emotionallyIf you've experienced emotional whiplash, gaslighting, or toxic cycles, this episode will provide clarity, validation, and a roadmap for healing. Whether single, dating, or partnered, learn how to set boundaries and choose from a place of strength.

Everyone's suddenly an expert on attachment styles. Anxious, avoidant, disorganized—it's all over your feed, and maybe even your therapist's office. But here's the truth: if you're trying to use attachment theory to decode every date and relationship, it's keeping you stuck. In this episode, Hilary is  breaking down why obsessing over your (and his) attachment style is doing more harm than good, and what actually matters when you're looking for real love. If you're a smart, self-aware woman who's done the work but still isn't seeing results in your love life, this might be why. Because knowing better doesn't automatically mean doing better. And the answer isn't more information—it's radical self-trust, embodied confidence, and knowing how to assess how a relationship feels instead of overthinking why someone acts the way they do.   Episode Highlights: Why therapy, books, and expert advice often lead to “knowing better but not doing better” The trap of over-intellectualizing your love life What to look for in a relationship that actually matters How long-term love evolves, and why labels won't help you grow it   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why Attachment Styles Are Keeping You Single 02:21 Information Doesn't Equal Transformation 04:46 The Problem with Overthinking and Intellectualizing Love 06:06 The Danger of Labeling Your Partner (or Yourself) 08:02 What a Healthy Relationship Actually Looks Like 09:16 Stop Fixating on Him, Focus on You   If you're ready to stop psychoanalyzing every text and start showing up as the woman who knows what she wants and how to get it—this episode is for you.

I dive deep into the silent treatment often used by avoidant partners—and what it really means. I share why this behavior isn't always intentional, how it impacts you emotionally, and what practical steps you can take to respond in a grounded, respectful way. As someone who used to be avoidant myself, I get the struggle from both sides. If you're trying to navigate this dynamic in a relationship, this episode will give you clarity and tools to build healthier communication.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 Understanding the Silent Treatment01:28 Why Avoidants Pull Away03:09 Core Beliefs of the Avoidant Mindset05:22 Nervous System Triggers and Silence08:23 The Emotional Impact on You10:35 Step 1: Ground Yourself11:50 Step 2: Communicate Assertively13:30 Step 3: Reinforce Choice and Set Agreements17:45 Invitation Over Demand: The Path Forward***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Send us a textThis is what we are talking about today-Why avoidants rush into reboundsThe negative consequences of rebound relationshipsWhether avoidants come back to their exWhat their (often anxious) partners should doHealthier alternatives for avoidantsHow secure individuals handle breakups and reboundsDon't forget to leave a review so others can know how this episode may help them too. Thanks in advance. Support the show

Are you exhausted from forcing everything to happen? From pushing through goals that leave you feeling empty once you reach them? Most avoidants live like they're perpetually on fire—reacting, controlling, forcing outcomes because "easy" feels dangerous. But here's the thing: all that forcing keeps you from the very flow state that would actually get you where you want to go. In this episode, Tracy explores: * Why ease feels dangerous when you're avoidant * The difference between forcing and allowing * How perfectionism keeps you stuck in empty cycles * Sitting with discomfort instead of reacting * Recognizing when you're escaping versus flowing "When you're forcing, you're coming from a state of lack. You can't force a healthy relationship. You can't force anything meaningful. But we keep trying because we're afraid to let go of the false building we've created that everyone can admire." ~ Tracy Crossley

Welcome back! In this episode we will be continuing our conversation with Manveer, a British punjabi girl who is pharmacist by day but an upcoming chef/ food content creator by evening who is also one of my best friends. In this episode we will continue to reflect back on our 20's but this time around focusing on dating, relationships, friendships, mental health and our honest feelings about turning 30. Listen to Part 1:EP46: Reflections on our 20s: What we'd tell our younger selves? with Manveer | South Asian, Careers, Bhangra Timestamps: (00:00) intro(01:37) our mental health in our 20s (06:11) attaching self-worth to achievements(09:09) will our 30s be like our late 20s?(10:11) how have our friendships changed over our 20s?(12:47) high value, low commitment friendships (16:05) dating in our 20s (23:55) attachment styles(25:55) uncomfortable conversations in relationships  (29:24) advice on thriving in your 20s (32:42) our honest thoughts on turning 30(37:58) outro————————————————————MANVEER:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beghalbites/ ————————————————————ATTACHMENT STYLES:Do the test: https://www.attachmentproject.com/attachment-style-quiz/ Book: Attached: Are you Anxious, Avoidant or Secure? How the science of adult attachment can help you find – and keep – love ————————————————————ABOUT IT'S PREETI PERSONAL:  This podcast is all about sharing South Asian stories and having everyday conversations but from the lens of being a brown girl so expect girl talk episodes covering topics like love, career, mental health, finances, friendships, female health and living life in our 20's and 30's. ————————————————————SOCIAL MEDIA:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/preetipersonal/YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@itspreetipersonal⁠TikTok: https://vm.tiktok.com/ZSvmbM63/Email: itspreetipersonal@gmail.comDon't forget to subscribe and follow @itspreetipersonal on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music or the place you listen to podcasts.

In this follow-up to last week's episode on navigating conflict through the lens of the Enneagram, Jilann shares a simple, body-based grounding exercise you can use before any big conversation. Whether you tend to avoid conflict, feel emotionally overwhelmed, or just want to enter a conversation with more presence and intention, this 2-minute practice is designed to help you regulate your nervous system and stay connected.You'll learn:A quick grounding practice for calming your body before conflict or emotionally charged discussionsHow quiet leaders can show up with strength and steadinessWhy nervous system regulation is key to effective communication and emotional resilienceHow the Enneagram can help identify your natural conflict styleAre you a quiet leader who's ready to step into your influence without changing who you are? My Strength in Stillness personalized leadership guide is designed just for you. Check out my website HERE for more information!

In this episode of More Than Roommates, the MTR team interviews Gabe and Rebekah Lyons about their new book, The Fight For Us. The Lyons share vulnerably about their journey through conflict, emotional intimacy, and the realities of mental health in marriage. They unpack practical tools from their new book The Fight for Us, including how to support your spouse, move from isolation to connection, and keep fighting for each other when life gets hard.Scriptures:John 16:331 Peter 3:7 Questions to Discuss:1. What is one way we can “fight for us” instead of fighting against each other this week?2. Take Gabe & Rebekah's Marriage Quiz. What's your default response in the “dysfunctional dance”? (Silent, Intense, Avoidant, Anxious). How does that affect your marriage?3. In what ways can I better support you during seasons of anxiety, stress, or discouragement?4. What are some of your strengths I can celebrate more often?Resources:Book – The Fight For Us: Overcome What Divides to Build a Marriage That Thrives, Rebekah & Gabe LyonsLearn more about Gabe Lyons & Rebekah LyonsTHINQMedia.com & THINQ Summit 2025Free Marriage Quiz - What's Your Dance?Gabe & Rebekah's Marriage & Parenting RetreatThe Fight For Us Podcast Series (14 episode series) Apple & Spotify

In this milestone 100th episode, Kat invites her fiancé Tyler to the podcast for a deeply personal conversation about building a conscious, emotionally safe, and evolving relationship. They open up about doing inner work individually and as a couple, the challenges and beauty of vulnerability, and what it really takes to grow together long-term.We talk about everything from the importance of asking better questions internally and in relationships to how conscious communication leads to emotional safety. In this conversation we really see the power of doing "the work" and how it transforms relationships 00:00 Introduction 3:16 How Kat and Tyler's story began 9:49 The nervous systems role 14:34 Avoidant and anxious attachment 33:20 How to not lose yourself in a relationship 46:04 Kat and Tyler share their thoughts around being parents 51:29 Being in a relationship with someone who's doing "the work" Connect with Kat:

Explore Your Attachment Style With Thais Gibson. Access All Courses, Live Webinars & Q&As Free for 7 Days (Enough Time to Complete a Full Course). Limited-time Access: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-07-23-25&el=podcast Avoidant partners often get misunderstood—seen as cold, distant, or commitment-phobic. But underneath those protective walls are unique needs and a deep desire to connect… on their terms. If you want to love an avoidant without losing yourself, this episode is for you. In this insightful episode, Thais Gibson shares five often-overlooked emotional needs that dismissive avoidants require to feel safe, open, and genuinely happy in love. Whether you're dating an avoidant or healing avoidant tendencies within yourself, you'll walk away with empowering tools to build connection without sacrificing your own needs. You'll learn: ✅ Why avoidants need structured independence—not endless space ✅ The role of empathy in healing childhood emotional neglect ✅ How harmony (not drama) keeps avoidants emotionally engaged ✅ Why literal, direct communication builds safety and trust ✅ How to foster growth through acceptance (without enabling unhealthy patterns) ✅ Simple scripts to express your needs and avoid triggering deactivation ✅ The secret to balancing freedom and closeness in real, secure love Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

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 Love me, but from over there - The Avoidant attachment style  I want to send out a hopeful message to everyone listening – you have secure attachment in your system biologically. It's in your system and your system wants to be connected, that's what it's wired for. It's that throughout development stuff get's dumped on your system, which interrupts this. Wounds, attachment injuries, trauma disconnects us and our system wants us to return to security. People use different language for attachment style which can be confusing so, were going to refer to the avoidant attachment style today – can also be referred to as the dismissive avoidant, insecure, fearful avoidant etc.How it develops The avoidant attachment develops through absenteeism – it's a message of “nobodies there”. Think of a vacant, dissociated parent – a child might be trying to find their parents eyes staring at them and there's nobody home! Which is scary for infants who are 100% dependant on their parents! I also want to add that sometimes it's not just the parenting of the child – sometimes it's a medical procedure or an illness, maybe there was birth trauma or the parent is unwell – different factors can come in here. Any parents listening please take the burden to be perfect off your shoulders, we only need 30% attunement for secure attachment and it is a very forgiving system. Another way it can show up is when only left-brain activities are responded to – so whenever there is a learning of a skill, or an achievement in some way they were there, but whenever it was emotional or there was a need for comforting, they weren't available enough. So, what this means is there sense of self is largely felt as isolated and they tend to regulate through dissociative mechanisms like zoning out to Netflix because they have a knee – jerk reaction to withdraw and a stress on connection. If you're an avoidant you need time to surface to connection – it's like you've been deep deep diving in the ocean and if you come up too quick you get the bends, so when I'm working with couples sometimes I'll ask how much time they need to re-surface or what helps them come up slowly, because it's hard to go from deep deep isolation to connection. Avoidance is a deep withdrawal that has helped them survive – it doesn't mean they want to be alone. And often when an avoidant starts to connect to the longing of connection, it's incredibly painful, that's also our secure attachment surfacing! How to move towards security?Experiment with low-risk situations of connectYou can find more of us here: Our Online Psychology practice: Did you know we have online appointments available with our amazing therapists Lisa or Maddie. Learn more here https://thepsychcollaborative.com.au The Thriving Therapists: To connect with a safe and supportive community of like-minded therapists, head to our Thriving Therapists Facebook group: https://m.facebook.com/groups/224252457083630/?ref=share&mibextid=S66gvFOr find us on our Instagram: https://instagram.com/thethrivingtherapists?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA==The Psychology Sisters Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/thepsychologysisters/?hl=enThe Psych Collaborative instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/thepsychcollaborative/?hl=enPlease note: this episode is for informational purposes only and does not replace personalised psychological advice.

If you're feeling alone because your husband is emotionally distant, this show is for you. Heidi begged for connection from her avoidant husband but he seemed more distant than ever. She felt broken. Then she learned a few new skills and got a completely different response. Now her husband is affectionate, close and she feels so connected to him. Discover the specific approach that transformed her avoidant husband into the affectionate man she knew he could be. Download the FREE Adored Wife Roadmap now and start transforming your relationship today! Click here: https://lauradoyle.co/4lWvKUf

In today's episode, we're exploring what avoidant attached people actually need to feel safe and secure in a relationship — and how partners can support that without self-abandoning.Avoidant attachment is often misunderstood — labelled as cold, distant, or commitment-phobic. But when we look beneath those surface-level behaviours, what we often find is a deep need for space, safety, and self-reliance.We'll cover:Why space needs to be respected, not punishedThe importance of having a partner who can self-regulate rather than emotionally offloadHow clear, direct, and honest communication builds safetyThe value of each partner having a full, meaningful life outside the relationshipWhy pacing matters — and how moving too fast can trigger shutdownBalancing lightness and heaviness Whether you're avoidant yourself or in a relationship with someone who is, this episode will help you better understand the conditions that allow these relationships to thrive.Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list

If you freeze when clients talk about weight... this episode is your guide. Learn how to hold powerful, non-diet conversations that actually support healing—not harm.Here's what you'll learn:How to stop avoiding weight conversations in coachingWhy over-intellectualizing can shut down your clientThe exact questions that uncover what's really driving weight concernsHow to shift from fixing bodies to transforming beliefsMentioned in the show:Non-Diet Coaching Certification WaitlistNon-Diet Coaching Client Assessment ToolWeight-Neutral Coaching TrainingWork With Me

What does it take for an Avoidant Man to finally feel safe enough to stay in love?  In this episode, Kimmi returns to share his journey from emotional shutdown to engagement. Once known as “Kimmi the Avoidant,” he opens up about what helped him finally connect, feel secure, and build lasting love.  Topics Covered: 

Send us a textOur ongoing exploration of attachment styles focuses on avoidant attachment, examining how it develops when caregivers consistently fail to respond to children's needs. We unpack why this attachment style, which often makes children appear self-sufficient and well-behaved, actually undermines their emotional development and capacity for meaningful relationships.• Avoidant attachment develops when caregivers are consistently unavailable or unresponsive to a child's needs• The first three years of life are critical for attachment formation, with early experiences setting patterns for future relationships• Children with avoidant attachment often appear independent and "easy" on the surface, making this attachment style easy to miss• Even though these children don't outwardly show distress, their bodies experience the same stress response as children who openly express needs• Technology may exacerbate avoidant attachment patterns by providing false substitutes for genuine connection• Healing approaches include consistent, responsive caregiving, intentional time together, and recognizing that overwhelming a child with affection may backfire• Simple strategies like scheduled meals together, protected playtime, and modeling healthy boundaries with technology can help children develop more secure attachmentContact:podcasts@calfarley.org To Donate: https://secure.calfarley.org/site/Donation2?3358.donation=form1&df_id=3358&mfc_pref=TTo Apply:https://apply.workable.com/cal-farleys-boys-ranch/j/25E1226091/For More Information about Cal Farley's Boys Ranch:https://www.calfarley.org/Music:"Shine" -NewsboysCCS License No. 9402

this episode, we sat down with Adam Lane Smith to discuss attachment theory. Adam shares how to identify your attachment style, how to foster a secure attachment with your own children, and how to apply those learnings to all of your relationships. TakeawaysAttachment theory focuses on the formation of healthy, loving, and collaborative relationships.There are three main attachment styles: secure, avoidant, and anxious.Attachment issues can be formed in childhood due to various factors, such as lack of bonding with parents or traumatic experiences.Birth experiences may impact attachment formation, but it is possible to improve attachment styles through explicit love and nurturing.Bonding hormones, such as oxytocin, GABA, vasopressin, and serotonin, play a crucial role in attachment and can be influenced by positive experiences.Collaboration and asking questions are essential tools for parents to create secure attachment with their children.Divorce can have a significant impact on attachment styles, and it is crucial to provide context and foster oxytocin bonding with adopted children.Couples with different attachment styles can improve their relationship by being explicit about their needs, fostering collaboration, and building a marriage agreement.The breakdown of the family structure over the past century has led to challenges in attachment and relationship dynamics.Providing a safe and nurturing environment is key to developing secure attachment in both parent-child and couple relationships. Solving problems together in a relationship opens up oxytocin receptors and fosters intimacy and connection.Avoidant attachment style is characterized by a wall up, lack of trust, and an emphasis on survival. Anxious attachment style is characterized by a fear of abandonment and a focus on pleasing others.Enmeshment is a form of insecure attachment where boundaries are poor and caretaking becomes the responsibility of the child.Secure attachment involves open and explicit communication, clear boundaries, and a focus on generosity and adjusting for reality.Attachment styles can vary in different relationships and situations, but fostering secure attachment at home is crucial for healthy relationships outside the home.Nature and genetics may play a role in attachment, but it is the parent's job to nurture and guide their child towards secure attachment.Building a self-correcting family system where open communication and resolution of issues is encouraged is more important than striving for perfection as a parent.Find Adam Lane Smith HERE. Find Adam Lane Smith on Instagram HERE. Find Adam Lane Smith on YouTube HERE.Find Homegrown on Instagram HERE. Find Liz Haselmayer on Instagram HERE. Find Joey Haselmayer on Instagram HERE.Shop real food meal plans and children's curriculum HERE.Get  exclusive podcast episodes HERE.Find us on YouTube HERE.Shop natural home goods on Haselmayer Goods HERE.

Attachment theory and how to avoid the mistakes everyone makes when they learn about it. It's probably your attachment style. Think of it as the relational software installed in your brain during your first 18 months. This episode is a crash course in understanding your programming and avoiding common mistakes. We break down the four main styles: Secure, Anxious, Avoidant, and Disorganized. We explore the classic Anxious-Avoidant trap, where one person chases and the other retreats, creating a cycle of frustration. More importantly, we debunk the myth that these styles are a life sentence. You'll get a practical, no-fluff guide to understanding your patterns and, crucially, how to start changing them for the better. Spot the Red Flags: Learn to recognize an avoidant partner's mixed messages so you can bypass the drama. Get Your Crazy Out: Why being direct about your needs (especially if you're anxious) is the best dating strategy. Ditch the Ghost: For avoidants, learn why idolizing a fantasy ex is sabotaging your chance at real happiness. Listen now to finally make your love life make sense. ---- Advertisers BetterHelp The world's largest online therapy provider BetterHelp.com/GrowthMindset - 10% off 1st month Liquid I.V. Sugar-free hydration for any occasion Liquid-IV.com - 20% off with code GROWTH ---- NEW SHOW - How to Change the World Sam's new show can be found on major podcast players: Spotify - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/1Fj3eFjEoAEKF5lWQxPJyT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Apple - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-change-the-world-the-history-of-innovation/id1815282649⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@HowToChangeTheWorldPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Can't find it on your player? RSS feed - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/682b3b86696b5d1232d698a8⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ---- UPGRADE to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Premium⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:

Is your child a picky eater, or is it something more serious — and how can you tell? Avoidant/restrictive food intake disorder (ARFID) goes far beyond food preferences. It's driven by deep-seated fears of choking, vomiting, or other anxieties that can lead to dangerous nutritional deficiencies. In this episode, Gabe Howard sits down with ADAA member expert Dr. Jacqueline Sperling, a clinical psychologist and Harvard Medical School professor, to break down the signs of ARFID, outline how it differs from typical picky eating, and mention when parents should seek professional help. Learn how to spot the red flags, understand the role of anxiety in food avoidance, and discover ways to support kids managing this lesser known eating disorder. If mealtimes are a battle in your home, this episode is a must-listen! Special thanks to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America for sponsoring this episode.  “They could have different obsessions of what might happen should they eat any of those foods. Some could have a fear that there's contamination. Some can have a fear that it's cooked all the way. Some can have a concern that something separate from the food, but a negative consequence may happen if they eat those foods. It can also happen that someone is worried about having IBS symptoms in public, so they don't want to eat certain foods. And so they limit the foods that they eat, or even when they're at home because they're worried about when they go out in public afterward.” ~Jacqueline Sperling, PhD Our guest, Jacqueline Sperling, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist, assistant professor in psychology at Harvard Medical School, and the co-founder and co-program director of the McLean Anxiety Mastery Program at McLean Hospital. She is the author of the young adult nonfiction book “Find Your Fierce: How to Put Social Anxiety in Its Place” and a contributor for Harvard Health Publishing. Dr. Sperling specializes in implementing cognitive behavioral therapy with exposure and response prevention and working with youth with anxiety disorders and obsessive-compulsive disorder. She also focuses on caregiver guidance, such as by using behavioral parent training, to help families address children's internalizing and externalizing behaviors. In addition, Dr. Sperling is passionate about disseminating evidence-based information to the community, and she frequently speaks about the impact of social media use on mental health. Moreover, Dr. Sperling is committed to increasing access to care and participates in advocacy at state and federal government levels. Our host, Gabe Howard, is an award-winning writer and speaker who lives with bipolar disorder. He is the author of the popular book, "Mental Illness is an Asshole and other Observations," available from Amazon; signed copies are also available directly from the author. Gabe is also the host of the "Inside Bipolar" podcast with Dr. Nicole Washington. Gabe makes his home in the suburbs of Columbus, Ohio. He lives with his supportive wife, Kendall, and a Miniature Schnauzer dog that he never wanted, but now can't imagine life without. To book Gabe for your next event or learn more about him, please visit gabehoward.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Show Notes In this episode, renowned relationship coach Mark Groves gets real about dating, attachment styles, and what it takes to create lasting, conscious love. If you're ready to manifest healthy love, break codependency cycles, and feel seen, this one is a must-listen!  Ahead, learn how past wounds shape who we attract + why being spiritually connected is a superpower in deciding if someone is “your person.” Plus, discover what it truly means to have high standards, strong boundaries, and deep self-love in an era of casual connections. Mark dishes out actionable tips for bossing up in all your relationships, especially the one with yourself. From navigating modern romance to owning your deepest emotional truths, this episode will teach you how to step into your most empowered, magnetic energy in both dating + life. We also talk about: Understanding anxious and avoidant attachment styles in relationships How to trust your intuition while still discerning red flags versus self-sabotage The role of nervous system regulation in love, dating, and breakups Letting go of people-pleasing and reclaiming your authentic truth The spiritual and energetic impacts of casual sex “Nice guy” syndrome, boundaries, and why women crave emotional honesty Healing the father wound and mother wound for deeper connection Social media anxiety, digital burnout, and redefining self-worth outside the algorithm Personal stories of betrayal, forgiveness, and learning to honor your body's wisdom Tips for manifesting aligned partnership and recognizing when it's not your person Resources Website: markgroves.com + createthelove.com Instagram: @createthelove Podcast: The Mark Groves Podcast Substack: Humaning with Mark Groves Youtube: @markgroves Get our book, Almost 30: A Definitive Guide To A Life You Love For The Next Decade and Beyond, here: http://bit.ly/Almost30Book.  Sponsors: fatty15 | Get an additional 15% off their 90-day subscription Starter Kit by going to fatty15.com/ALMOST30 and use code ALMOST30 at checkout.  Our Place | Visit fromourplace.com/ALMOST30 and use code ALMOST30 for 10% off sitewide.  Cymbiotika | Go to Cymbiotika.com/Almost30 for 20% off + free shipping.  Podcast disclaimer can be found by visiting: almost30.com/disclaimer.  Find more to love at almost30.com! Almost 30 is edited by Garett Symes and Isabella Vaccaro.  Learn More: -⁠https://almost30.com/about⁠ -⁠almost30.com/morningmicrodose⁠ -⁠https://almost30.com/book Join our community: -⁠facebook.com/Almost30podcast/groups⁠ -⁠instagram.com/almost30podcast⁠ -⁠tiktok.com/@almost30podcast⁠ -⁠youtube.com/Almost30Podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Many people misunderstand their attachment style, overidentify with labels, or confuse trauma responses with personality traits. Today we break down secure and insecure attachment, discuss how anxious and avoidant dynamics form, and look at how emotional abuse and trauma erode self-trust. Many highly sensitive people (HSPs) often internalize critical voices and lose their sense of emotional safety. With radical honesty, self-awareness, boundaries, and emotional maturity, we can rebuild secure attachment—starting with our relationship to ourselves. Workshops & Programs: THE BOUNDARIES INTENSIVE:⁠⁠ https://EmotionalBadass.com/boundaries⁠⁠ Services, Products & Content: WORK WITH NIKKI 1:1 :⁠⁠ https://EmotionalBadass.com/coaching⁠⁠ PATREON: ⁠⁠https://Patreon.com/emotionalbadass⁠⁠ WEEKLY NEWSLETTER:⁠⁠ https://www.EmotionalBadass.com/newsletter⁠⁠ Follow us: YT:⁠⁠ https://www.youtube.com.com/emotionalbadass/⁠⁠ IG:⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/emotional.badass/⁠⁠ FB:⁠⁠ https://www.facebook.com/emotionalbadass⁠⁠ TIKTOK:⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@emotionalbadass Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Avoidant partners often appear cold or indifferent after a breakup. Does that mean they don't care?Dating/relationship expert Lucia breaks down the psychology and regret timeline of avoidant exes.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App: iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets Book

Do you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners? Are you dating someone who pulls away just when things get close? When this happens, it's easy to feel lost and wonder if the person you're dating is avoidant or simply not that interested. In this episode, Matthew, Stephen, and Audrey dive deep into the topic of avoidant attachment, exploring how it develops, signs to look for, and what you can do if you're dating someone with avoidant behavior. Topics Covered: The 5 key traits of avoidant partners. Why avoidants and anxious people are magnetically drawn to each other. Whether we overuse the “avoidant” label as a defense mechanism. How early experiences shape attachment patterns. What to do if you're anxiously attached and dating someone avoidant. How to tell the difference between an avoidant and someone who just doesn't want a relationship. How to anticipate the needs of a more independent partner. The importance of not mistaking emotional unavailability for “value.” Links: DatingWithResults.com – Free training for finding love without the chaos of modern dating. JoinLoveLife.com – Become a member and access exclusive live coaching sessions and courses. AskMH.com – Try Matthew AI and get real-time coaching from an AI trained on Matthew's advice. MHRetreat.com – Book your place for the October Miami Retreat (virtual + in-person options available). Cozy Earth – Get 40% off loungewear and bedsheets with code LOVELIFE at CozyEarth.com

Anxious? Avoidant? How about transcending ALL of it? PLUS: A quick antidote to Mom ShameSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.