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It was supposed to be a romantic Vegas trip… until I got hemorrhoids, threw up in a $900 suite, did shrooms (allegedly), and had second thoughts about Bookman.Why? Because this man did the unthinkable… he texted back, planned dates, opened doors, used empathy, and was willing to change. Is this too good to be true… or have I met my match? You tell me.Welcome to Part 1 of Finding My Husband: Vegas - where romance meets chaos, Russian standards meet American men, and emotionally stable men are the new red flag. I said what I said.(dating podcast • Vegas trip chaos • attachment theory • love bomber or match • relationship overthinking • female hosted podcast)See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
The trip ended, the lessons didn't.In Part 2 of Finding My Husband: Vegas, I'm talking about the real game: how to keep him hooked without losing yourselfWhy even healthy love will still drive you a little insane sometimesHow to self-regulate before you self-sabotageFrom overthinking to attachment theoryEverything you need to know about dating an avoidantAnd how to actually win an avoidant over(dating podcast • attachment styles • relationship advice • how to love an avoidant • female-hosted podcast)See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
You can't force an avoidant to apologize for hurting you, but you can understand what makes them feel safe enough to do it.Dating/relationship expert Lucia explains exactly what you need to do to get your avoidant to apologize.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App: iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay Hi on Instagram#avoidantex #getavoidantexback #dismissiveavoidant #fearfulavoidant #anxiousavoidant
Unlock Deeper Intimacy Starting Today. Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Attachment Styles & Intimacy Course and Finally Transform Your Relationships for Good! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-sex-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-10-06-25&el=podcast Dismissive Avoidants rarely come out and say “I'm done.” Instead, they show it through subtle but powerful patterns, often long before the actual breakup happens. In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down the four unmistakable signs that an avoidant is emotionally checking out and shares how to protect your self-worth, regulate your nervous system, and set healthy boundaries before it's too late. Drawing on neuroscience and ancient wisdom, Thais explains how oxytocin drops, cortisol spikes, and emotional disconnection create chaos in relationships—and how to use self-awareness and communication to stop the spiral and regain control. You'll learn: ✅ The four red flags that signal a dismissive avoidant is preparing to leave ✅ How “flaw finding” and subtle criticism act as deactivation strategies ✅ Why they replace intimacy with creature comforts like work or hobbies ✅ The neuroscience of emotional withdrawal and bonding disruption ✅ How to use pattern interruption and self-regulation to stop self-blame ✅ The boundaries and conversations that separate healing from heartbreak Video Breakdown (Timestamps): 00:00 – Intro 00:53 – 1. If You See Them Shutting Down Emotionally 01:52 – 2. If There Are Sudden Devaluing Behaviors or Comments 04:59 – Attachment Styles & Intimacy Promo 05:31 – 3. Replacing Intimacy with Creature Comforts 06:51 – The Neuroscience Behind Relational Distress 09:16 – Pattern Interrupt 11:29 – Setting Clear Boundaries 13:44 – Ancient Wisdom on Self-Consideration 15:30 – 4. When They Stop Communicating 16:41 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:
When you go no contact with an avoidant ex, it might look like they don't care — but that's not what's really happening beneath the surface. In this episode, Coach Lee breaks down the true stages of no contact for an avoidant ex — what they feel, how they process silence, and why their calmness often ends with sudden panic or regret. Avoidant exes don't handle emotional loss the way secure people do. At first, they feel relief — convinced that distance equals peace. But that “peace” eventually cracks. What follows is a slow unraveling that ends in what Lee calls punctuated equilibrium — a sudden emotional rupture after weeks or months of suppression. You'll discover: Why avoidants appear cold right after the breakup The point when silence starts working on them internally Why they often resurface after long gaps of quiet How no contact reveals their attachment fears and triggers realization This isn't about manipulation — it's about understanding how an avoidant's emotional system reacts to loss. If you've wondered whether your ex still thinks about you, this episode will help you see the patterns behind their silence — and the moment it finally breaks.
Why do avoidant men struggle so much with love, vulnerability, and connection? In this video, we break down how avoidant attachment forms, why it creates barriers in relationships, and what can actually be done to move forward. Topics Covered:
Dismissive avoidants & fearful avoidants don't have the same reaction to no contact. Understanding the difference will make radio silence less scary.Dating/relationship expert Lucia explains how the 2 attachment styles behave during no contact.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App: iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#avoidantattachment #getexback #nocontact #dismissiveavoidant #fearfulavoidant
Summary In this episode of the Ali Damron Show, Ali discusses the pervasive issue of anxiety, sharing her personal experiences and insights gained from working with patients over the years. She emphasizes that anxiety is not a character flaw but a learned brain pattern that can be unlearned through understanding and practical strategies. The conversation covers the science behind anxiety, the importance of emotional expression, and actionable steps to engage with life despite anxiety. Ali encourages listeners to practice self-compassion and to view anxiety as a protective mechanism rather than a debilitating condition. Takeaways Anxiety manifests differently for everyone, both physically and mentally. Understanding anxiety as a learned behavior can empower individuals to change their responses. Neuroplasticity allows us to unlearn anxiety and create new brain pathways. Labeling anxiety as a false alarm can help diffuse its power. Allowing feelings of anxiety without resistance is crucial for healing. Engaging in life despite anxiety is essential for personal growth. Emotional expression is key to processing underlying feelings that contribute to anxiety. Self-compassion is vital in the journey of overcoming anxiety. Avoidant behaviors reinforce anxiety; facing fears is necessary for progress. Practicing small steps towards facing anxiety can lead to significant changes. Sound bites "Anxiety is not a character flaw." "Label it as a false alarm." "Self-compassion is key." Chapters 00:00 Understanding Anxiety: A Personal Journey 05:21 The Science Behind Anxiety: Neuroplasticity and Learning 12:06 Practical Strategies to Manage Anxiety 19:58 Emotional Expression: The Key to Healing 30:05 Engaging with Life: Living Alongside Anxiety 40:00 Final Thoughts: Rewiring Your Brain for Safety Ali's Resources: Calm the Chaos: Practical Tips and Tools for Stopping Anxiety in It's Tracks Course! Consults with Ali BIOptimizers Magnesium Breakthrough 10% off using code ALIDAMRON10 www.alidamron.com/magnesium Master Your Perimenopause Course + Toolkit "Am I in Perimenopause?" Checklist. What Hormone is Imbalanced? Quiz! Fullscript (Get 10% off all supplements) "How To Balance Your Hormones For Better Sleep, Mood, Periods and Energy" Free, On Demand Training Website Ali's Instagram Ali's Facebook Group: Holistic Health with Ali Damron
Why does avoidant attachment make it so hard to feel close, even in loving relationships? For many men, emotional distance isn't a lack of love—it's a stress-driven response that blocks connection. This video unpacks the psychology and biology behind avoidant patterns and offers tools to create healthier intimacy. Topics Covered
Attachment Theory Expert Adam Lane Smith joins Gabby Reese to dive deep into Anxious & Avoidant Attachment and the neuroscience of secure relationships. Learn how to heal your nervous system and unlock true monogamy through co-solving life's challenges. Adam Lane Smith reveals the hidden science that governs our bonds, explaining how our nervous systems are "fried" by modern life and how attachment science is the future of human connection. Discover the chemical keys to lasting partnership, including the vital role of vasopressin, the hormone released when couples overcome stress and solve problems as a team.Gabby and Adam discuss: How to understand and shift your personal attachment style (Anxious, Avoidant, Disorganized) to secure. The difference between oxytocin and vasopressin and how to naturally increase your bonding hormones. Gabby's personal story of almost divorcing Laird Hamilton and the pivotal shift that transformed her marriage through honest, brave communication. The biological imperative of a "safe perimeter" and the dynamic of healthy masculinity and femininity. Why the greatest form of resilience for a child is a secure family they can always return to. How relationships can become your "medicine" and your greatest tool for a regulated nervous system and a resilient life. Connect with Adam Lane Smith:https://adamlanesmith.com/https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam For more on Gabby Instagram @GabbyReece: https://www.instagram.com/gabbyreece/ TikTok @GabbyReeceOfficial https://www.tiktok.com/@gabbyreeceofficial The Gabby Reece Show Podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@GabbyReece The Gabby Reece Show podcast is produced by Rainbow Creative (https://www.rainbowcreative.co/) Thank You to Our Sponsors The Reecet - Join Gabby Reece for a transformative women's retreat designed to simplify and reframe what it means to be healthy. Learn more at https://amphora.la/thereecet Laird Superfood - High-quality ingredients paired with incredible taste. Use the code GABBY20 for 20% off your purchase at http://lairdsuperfood.com CHAPTERS 00:00 Intro: Fried Nervous Systems & Attachment 03:55 The Monogamy Hormone: Vasopressin 07:14 Gabby's Story: Almost Divorcing 14:19 Secure Parenting: Safe Perimeter 19:30 The 4 Layers of Male Safety 30:00 Re-Parenting & Going Secure 36:10 Masculine and Feminine Roles 45:10 Adam Lane Smith's Path 53:20 Effeminate Men vs. Feminine 59:15 The Cost of Non-Commitment 08:45 How to Heal Anxious Men 01:13:50 Conflict Builds Strong Bonds 01:21:10 Anxious Attachment Needs Solving 01:32:00 3 Steps to Secure Attachment Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Avoidant attachment gets such a bad reputation, but the truth is much more nuanced and hopeful. In this highly requested episode, I break down what's really happening inside the avoidantly attached partner's mind, why intimacy can feel like danger, and most importantly, how healing is absolutely possible. Whether you identify as an avoidant, you're anxiously attached, or you just want to better understand relationships, this episode is for you.Inside the episode, I share:Why avoidantly attached partners distance themselves (and why it's not about not caring).The truth about healing avoidant attachment (and what it really takes).How you can build safety, connection, and secure attachment—even if avoidance has been your default.
Send us a textHave you ever stared at your phone, heart pounding, wondering if one wrong text could push your partner even further away? You're not alone. In this raw and practical episode, we break down the real reason relationships don't survive space - and it's not what you think.The Hard Truth: Most relationships don't end because of space. They end because of miscommunication during that space.What You'll LearnWhy "the perfect phrase" is marketing BS that preys on your desperationHow your brain fills in the blanks with worst-case scenarios during silenceWhy labels shut down conversations instead of opening them upThe Avoidant Partner Question: A listener asks about navigating communication with an avoidant partner. Staci's Answer: Stop weaponizing labels. Avoidant partners aren't broken - they're coping.Key Insights About Avoidant Partners:They're not withholding love on purpose, they literally don't know how to express itThey're often the most sensitive, emotionally deep people you'll meetAvoidance is a coping behavior, not a life sentencePractical ToolsWhen to reach out vs. when to hold back during spaceHow to regulate yourself so your words don't come from panicThe difference between connection and pressure in your messagesThe "Decoding the Delay" Game: Next time someone doesn't text back immediately, challenge your brain's negative bias. Maybe they're just working, crafting a thoughtful response, or being human.ResourcesEpisode #210: An Avoidant Partner's Story: https://www.buzzsprout.com/admin/1763017/episodes/16379882-210-when-your-avoidant-partner-needs-space-a-story-of-coming-back-to-lifeSong: "Hold My Hand" by Jesse GlennLive Masterclass: "What to Say (and Not Say) During Space" - September 27th, 2025 at 12pm EST for $3930-Day Love in Limbo RoadmapKey Quotes "It's not a texting problem, it's an emotional regulation problem." "Space doesn't end relationships, miscommunication does."Take Action Join the Live Masterclass: stacibartley.com/live-masterclassTimestamps:01:36 The Emotional Impact of Silence14:33 The Danger of Labels in Relationships28:32 Navigating Space and Separation37:44 Conclusion and Resources
Why does avoidant attachment make it so hard to feel close, even in loving relationships? For many men, emotional distance isn't a lack of love—it's a stress-driven response that blocks connection. This video unpacks the psychology and biology behind avoidant patterns and offers tools to create healthier intimacy. Topics Covered
✨ Achieve Your Goals FAST With the “Needs” Course. Free for Life With a 7-Day Trial https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-free-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-free-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-09-25-25&el=podcast Have you ever wondered what really happens when you pull away from a Dismissive Avoidant? It can feel confusing when the person who once shut down suddenly starts to pursue you. This push-pull cycle can be painful, but understanding it is the key to breaking free from games and creating real, lasting connections. In this episode, Thais Gibson explains why Dismissive Avoidants often re-engage when you step back, the subconscious fears driving this pattern, and how you can respond in a way that honors both your needs and theirs. By learning these dynamics, you'll gain the clarity to set healthy boundaries, stop repeating cycles, and know when it's time to walk away. You'll learn: ✅ Why Dismissive Avoidants feel safer pursuing when you step back ✅ How “feelings minus fears” explains their hot-and-cold cycle ✅ The role of childhood conditioning and trauma in these behaviors ✅ Why pulling away works temporarily—but isn't a long-term solution ✅ How to find the middle ground between autonomy and intimacy ✅ The importance of setting boundaries, deadlines, and direct communication ✅ How to know if someone is willing (or not) to do the work in a relationship Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Intro 00:49 – The Four Attachment Styles 01:46 – Feelings Minus Fears 03:39 – 1. Learn How to Walk the Middle Ground 04:34 – Discover, Embrace, & Fulfill Your Personal Needs Course Promo 04:54 – 2. Encourage the Other Person to Work on Themselves 06:06 – 3. Set a Deadline 07:10 – 4. Communicate Directly About the Situation 07:58 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:
Imagine craving the warmth of a campfire. You love the light, the comfort, the shared stories. You want to be close enough to feel its heat. But the moment someone says, "Here, tie this rope around your waist and anchor yourself to this log right next to the flames," you panic. The very thing that offered comfort suddenly feels like a trap. The fire hasn't changed; the constraint has.This is the daily reality for many with an avoidant attachment style when they hear the word "commitment." It's not the shared future, the inside jokes, or the quiet companionship they fear. In fact, they often deeply desire those things. What triggers their alarm system is the label itself. "Commitment" sounds like a contract, a loss of self, a final closing of doors. It translates in their mind to obligation, expectation, and the slow erosion of their most cherished value: autonomy.On this podcast, we're not going to villainize the avoidant or patronize the partner who wants security. We're going to climb inside this paradox. We'll explore why the same person who plans a vacation with you six months from now can freeze up when you call them your "boyfriend" or "girlfriend." It's a confusing cha-cha on the intimacy-autonomy seesaw, and understanding that this is cha-cha and not a waltz is the first step to changing the dance entirely.Support the show
Blocking an avoidant ex sets off a chain of psychological stages that most people don't expect.Dating/relationship expert Lucia breaks down the 4 things that happen when you block an avoidant dumper.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App: iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#AvoidantEx #DismissiveAvoidant #FearfulAvoidant #ExBack
Click here to take the quiz and learn your Relational Blueprint type If you've ever felt that Attachment Theory doesn't quite explain everything, then you're intuitively tuning into something that most people are ignoring. We as individuals are so much more complex than the label of "anxious" or "avoidant." Underneath every anxious woman is someone who secretly avoids love through pushing, pursuing , and proving. And underneath every avoidant man is someone who gets so anxious around intimacy, that he has to withdraw from it. Attachment theory gave us some important perspective but in this episode I want to honestly speak about the important things it doesn't address and introduce a new Blueprint system I've been developing that fills in the gaps where attachment theory fails. This one will be powerful. Enjoy!
Want to know how to make your avoidant wife affectionate again? Does your wife spend all her time on her phone or with the kids or friends? Does it drive you mad, and when you address it she gets defensive? In this episode I explain some details about why she's avoidant and why the way you are reacting to her is making it worse - plus what needs to happen for you to confidently lead her back into connection, fun, flirtation and affection again.In our coaching, we help men get a powerful new mindset that empowers you to give, love and connect more deeply because you're finally doing that within yourself first. This mindset allows empathy, trust and connection to happen because you're confident in who you're being. We teach skills and knowledge that nobody ever teaches men when we're younger. Skills and knowledge that make you feel confident and in control even when chaos is going on around you. It's amazing what you can achieve when you make yourself a priority. Most men don't. They are too busy taking care of everyone else. Too busy minding the store and making the money. They are focused on the "outside game" of winning life. But their "inside game" of confidence and clarity is suffering badly. You can only improve your inside game with other men. We would love to help you become more calm, more strong emotionally and more confident and happy in who you are as a man. Come and join us, either through 1-on-1 coaching with my colleague Dan Dore or me, or in our group coaching program with other amazing men who are travelling the same path as you right now in our Men's Live Coaching Roundtable. There's an amazing tribe of guys in this group with us, supporting and helping each other through this process of growth and self realization. https://goodguys2greatmen.com/goodguys2greatmen-live-coaching-roundtable/ If you're facing possible divorce, we have an online course which is specifically for you - Defuse the Divorce Bomb: https://mojopolis.thinkific.com/courses/HDDB-preview?ref=a53950 What if this next year everything changed for you? That's what we want for you brother, We love teaching men these tools - how to be better, how to know who you are, what you stand for, what you want and how to CREATE it in your life through our Masculine Confidence coaching programs. Dan and I are here to guide you on this mission.https://goodguys2greatmen.com/mens-relationship-coaching/ Steve's book Straight Talk Tools for the Desperate Husband will help you to lead yourself and your relationship back to good health. Understand why your partner acts the way she does toward you and learn how to lead your life in the direction you want it to go. You CAN have the relationship you want, fulfilling all your desires while maintaining love and respect.https://goodguys2greatmen.com/straight-talk-tools-for-the-desperate-husband/ We also have a free e-book to help men learn how to lose their fear and be more bold in their marriage to create the love and connection they want. Get The Hard to Swallow Truth About Saving Your Marriage: https://goodguys2greatmen.com/ If you want to learn more about how to take a bigger step toward being a clear-headed, confident man of action, then find out more here: https://goodguys2greatmen.com/mens-relationship-coaching/ We would be thrilled to help you get there - our first discovery call is always free and always gives you a BIG boost of confidence. You WILL become a clearer, stronger, more confident man only through other men. Your woman cannot take you there - and she doesn't WANT to...trust us on that. Sign up to receive our email newsletters for lots more free tips and advice here: https://archive.aweber.com/stevemain Subscribe to be notified whenever we upload a new video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC13h36xaBvyTPVAES4-4rXw?sub_confirmation=1 You can watch all our videos here: https://goodguys2greatmen.com/video-library/ Or read our blog articles here: https://goodguys2greatmen.com/blog/Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/goodguys2greatmen-podcast--4650431/support.
I want to hear your thoughts about the show and this episode. Text us here...Do you ever wonder why you react the way you do in relationships. or why certain patterns keep showing up? In this episode of Casa De Confidence, Julie sits down with Bev Mitelman, M.A., Relationship and Attachment Trauma Practitioner and founder of Securely Loved.Bev shares her personal story of growing up in emotional chaos, how attachment styles form in childhood, and why they deeply impact how we show up in love, business, and life. From anxious preoccupied to dismissive avoidant and fearful avoidant, you'll learn the signs of insecure attachment, and practical ways to move toward secure, healthy connections.If you've ever struggled with perfectionism, people-pleasing, or the fear of abandonment, this episode will help you understand yourself on a deeper level and give you tools to create the relationships, and confidence—you deserve.In This Episode:What attachment theory really is and why it mattersThe difference between secure and insecure attachmentSigns of anxious, avoidant, and fearful attachment stylesHow childhood experiences shape adult relationshipsPractical steps to heal and move toward secure attachmentWhy selJoin Julie's upcoming Confident You CEO Retreat — a powerful space designed for women entrepreneurs who are tired of hustling without results, feeling scattered, or second-guessing every decision. → GoConfidentlyCoaching.comGo Confidently ServicesEmpowering Women Entrepreneurs with Julie DeLucca-Collins | Go Confidently Services This is an invitation to join a supportive community of purpose-driven entrepreneurs who are creating an impact in the world.A mastermind is a community of peers who exchange ideas, provide support, and offer sound advice for running a successful business.Join the Confident YOU Mastermind now at https://goconfidentlyservices.myflodesk.com/confidentyoumastermindSupport the showOther helpful resources for you: For more about me and what I do, check out my website. Are you ready to get some help with:Podcast launch/re-launchPodcast growth, to increase your authority and position yourself as the thought leader you are. Or Leveraging your podcast to build your online biz and get more clientsSign up for a FREE 30 minute Confident Podcast Potential Discovery Call In this session I will: Identify the pain point that is holding you back. Suggest a next step strategy for solving the pain point.https://calendly.com/goconfidentlycoaching/30-minutes-free-coaching-sessioin Then we will talk about working together to accelerate the process. Do you want a podcast audit? Check out this link If you're looking for support to grow your business faster, be positioned as an authority in your industry, and impact the masses, schedule a call to explore if you'd be a good fit for one of my coaching programs. ...
Are you struggling with sex feeling stressful, pressured, or disconnected? You're not alone. Many avoidant men experience intimacy as overwhelming, which keeps them stuck in cycles of shallow connection, overthinking, and emotional distance. In this episode, David Chambers reveals the 5 biggest reasons avoidant men find sex difficult — and how to shift from performance and pressure into presence, vulnerability, and deeper intimacy. He shares practical steps to move beyond avoidance and create relationships built on connection, openness, and genuine pleasure. From chasing sex to feeling empty afterwards — discover why avoidance sabotages both intimacy and fulfillment, and what it really takes to break free.
Send us a textSarah (name changed) has been a relationship with a fearful avoidant for almost a year. All was going well until it got rocky. She now wants to try again but with some boundaries in place. Sarah and I sat down recently to discuss how it could look going forward for her and her partner.Sarah agreed to have this session recorded and aired for the benefit of everyone listening. Remember, as humans, our views and needs differ. Take what you believe would be helpful for your situation and leave what doesn't. Love, AnnalisaSupport the show
What does it take to shift from avoidant attachment to secure, engaged connection in just eight weeks? In this episode, Adam talks with a client who shares her powerful story of breaking free from lifelong avoidance and building safety in love. Topics Covered:
Why are so many women drawn to the very kind of men who leave her feeling unseen, unsettled, and unsatisfied? She knows he's pulling away. She knows it's costing her peace. And yet—something inside her keeps reaching for him. In this episode, we go into the hidden magnet behind that attraction. Not in the way you've heard a hundred times before, but in a way that could shift how you see yourself, men, and love—forever. This isn't about blame. It's about freedom. By the end of this episode, you'll learn how to break the addiction and magnetize him back toward you. Whether you still want him or not, you'll be choosing now.
In this week's episode, Stephanie opens up about what it's really like to be the “go-to” person the one everyone calls when they need advice, support, or a shoulder to lean on. While it can feel good to be needed, it often comes with a hidden cost: exhaustion, resentment, and burnout. Stephanie dives into why so many of us fall into this role, the toll it can take on our well-being, and what it looks like when it starts to drain your energy and happiness. She also shares her own experience of stepping back from this label, the pushback she faced, and how she learned to protect her energy without losing her compassion. If you've ever felt like you're carrying the weight of everyone else's problems, this episode will help you see why it happens and remind you that it's okay to take care of yourself first. Tune in to learn how to set healthier boundaries, reclaim your energy, and show up as the best version of yourself not the burnt-out one. For more information visit her at www.StephanieLynLifeCoaching.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/StephanieLynCoaching LTK: https://www.shopltk.com/explore/StephanieLynStyle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephanielyncoach/ TikTok: https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMeg1m9pu/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/stephanielyncoaching Thank you for your love and support! Stephanie
Dating the human hot-and-cold? Avoidant attachment explains a lot. We called on licensed marriage and family therapist Stephanie Michaelian (@losangeles.therapy) to help us understand wtf is going on in the mind of an avoidant. We unpack childhood roots, adult red flags, and how to set requests (and boundaries) without losing yourself.Follow Stephanie on IG and TikTokWork with Stephanie (Los Angeles based)Follow Unbothered on IG and TikTok Follow Chloe & Alexa
Send us a textEver found yourself mixing up avoidant and dependent personality disorders? You're not alone. This episode delivers a crystal-clear framework to distinguish between these commonly confused diagnoses—essential knowledge for passing your licensing exam.Dr. Linton Hutchinson cuts through the complexity to reveal the golden difference: motivation. While both disorders share features like interpersonal difficulties, low self-esteem, and comorbidity with anxiety and depression, they stem from fundamentally different fears. Avoidant personality disorder (APD) is driven by fear of criticism and rejection—these clients believe they're "not good enough" and withdraw to protect themselves. Dependent personality disorder (DPD), however, is fueled by fear of abandonment and self-doubt—these clients cling to relationships because they believe they "can't handle life alone."Through compelling case studies of Sarah and Mark, Dr. Hutchinson demonstrates how these patterns play out in real life. When relationships end, APD clients retreat further into isolation while DPD clients immediately seek replacements. Treatment approaches differ significantly too: APD therapy focuses on gradual exposure and challenging negative self-beliefs, while DPD treatment emphasizes building self-efficacy and independence. For your exam, remember to identify the core motivation—is the client avoiding potential hurt or seeking someone to depend on?Whether you're preparing for licensing exams or simply want to sharpen your diagnostic skills, this episode provides the clarity you need. Subscribe now for more clinical insights that will elevate your therapeutic practice and help you pass your exams with confidence!If you need to study for your national licensing exam, try the free samplers at: LicensureExamsThis podcast is not associated with the NBCC, AMFTRB, ASW, ANCC, NASP, NAADAC, CCMC, NCPG, CRCC, or any state or governmental agency responsible for licensure.
You know that electric, addictive chemistry we chase? Girl, it's not love. It's a nervous system hook. And we all think that if we can just get the avoidant man or woman to settle down, to pick us, to choose us, to see our worth, that everything will be okay. I call this Shiny Object Syndrome (‘I'll be happy when')... but today, I explain why 99% of the time, these people will never give you the intimacy, safety, or emotional consistency you deserve. I share my own story of being hooooooked on an avoidant man who felt like an actual drug and what happened when I finally saw through it and saw him for the reality of who he was. I also share the psychology, biology and attachment patterns I learned about on the way and how getting the avoidant person to choose you doesn't fix your own wounds. Finally, I chat self abandonment, nervous system rewiring, and how to break the cycle for GOOD. Cos damn, it feels good, but trust me, that avoidant man or woman is just casually going to waste 1 - 4 years of your life. And at some point, you'll get tired of the cycle.
In this episode of The Light Inside, host Jeffrey Biesecker delves into the concept of avoidance as an emotional coping strategy. He discusses how unresolved psychological issues can inhibit emotional regulation and self-awareness, leading to unprocessed trauma that affects our relationships with ourselves and others. The episode explores the subtle ways avoidance influences our reactions and highlights the challenges and transformative potential of facing what we have long avoided. Listeners will gain insights into strategies for gently confronting avoidance patterns without feeling overwhelmed, paving the way for deeper connections and personal growth. Tune in to discover how confronting avoidance can illuminate your path to healing.Timestamps[00:02:54] Avoidant coping and emotional attunement.[00:06:01] Avoidance as a survival strategy.[00:08:07] Hypervigilance as a baseline.[00:12:20] Evolution of avoidance strategies.[00:16:47] Emotional capacity and discomfort.[00:20:49] Co-regulation and emotional connection.[00:26:00] Vagal breaking and safety.[00:28:48] Over-intellectualizing vs. under-feeling.[00:32:36] Somatic responses to anxiety.[00:39:15] Guilt, shame, blame cycle.[00:40:42] The nature of change.[00:45:45] Exploring unconscious beliefs and triggers.[00:49:23] Positive vs Negative Beliefs.[00:54:01] Somatic signals and identity.[00:57:21] Bridging somatics and cognition.[01:00:56] Finding the grounding point.[01:05:20] Avoidant behaviors and their roots.CreditsHost: Jeffrey BeseckerGuest: Brianna SanbornExecutive Program Director: Anna GetzProduction Team: Aloft Media GroupMusic: Courtesy of Aloft Media GroupConnect with host Jeffrey Besecker on LinkedIn.Building Emotional and Somatic Language: Learning to Understand Your Body and FeelingsIn this course, Brianna guides you in identifying the emotional and somatic language that bridges your inner experience with clearer self-understanding. You'll discover how emotions first surface in the body, why they can feel confusing without words to name them, and how to communicate your feelings more effectively with yourself and others. With practical tools for recognition, regulation, and safe exploration, this course helps transform overwhelming sensations into empowering clarity. Note: Some exercises may stir strong emotions—practice at your own pace and lean on support if needed.
In this episode, Sathiya Sam explores the intricate relationship between attachment theory and pornography addiction, emphasizing that both stem from intimacy issues. He discusses how avoidant attachment can lead to difficulties in forming deep connections and how pornography addiction is fundamentally an intimacy disorder. Sathiya provides insights into healing intimacy issues through self-awareness and meaningful relationships, offering actionable steps for listeners to improve their emotional connections and overall quality of life. Do you prefer video format? Watch this episode on Youtube Watch Sathiya on Youtube For More Content Like This Know more about Sathiya's work: DCIC Always – Join The Brotherhood (and get coached by Sathiya) For Less Than $2/day Submit Your Questions (Anonymously) To Be Answered On The Podcast TLR Always – Get A Free Copy of The Last Relapse, Your Blueprint For Recovery Chapters: (00:00) Introduction to the Podcast and Content Overview (01:24) Understanding Attachment Theory and Pornography Addiction (05:08) The Connection Between Intimacy Issues and Recovery (11:22) Strategies for Healing Intimacy Disorders
No contact isn't enough to get an avoidant ex back. There's something even more powerful that overrides attachment style.Dating/relationship expert Lucia reveals the secret factor that determines whether your avoidant ex comes back or stays gone.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App: iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay Hi on Instagram#NoContactRule #AvoidantEx #GetYourExBack #ExBack #NoContact
ATTACHMENT STYLES. In this episode of the Came to Believe Recovery Podcast, Tom, Alicea and Monty discuss the four Attachment Styles most common with people. Are these healthy? Can they be useful? Where are you in these descriptions? How does recovery play a part in these styles?#recovery #alcoholic #twelvesteps #wedorecover #addiction
When a relationship ends without warning, it's common to feel blindsided, confused, and deeply hurt. This is often labelled the “avoidant discard” — but while that term might feel validating in the moment, it can also keep you stuck in a disempowering story.In this episode, we'll talk about how to process a sudden ending in a way that honours your pain without leaving you tethered to it. We'll explore:Why shock and lack of closure can intensify heartbreakThe difference between feeling discarded and being discardedHow villain/victim narratives can hold you back from real healingThe impact of online echo chambers on your recoveryPractical steps to reclaim your agency and move forwardThis isn't about minimising what you've been through. It's about finding a more grounded, self-responsible way to engage with what happened — so you can process it fully, integrate the lessons, and step into your next chapter with clarity and self-respect.Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The 3 Shifts That Help Anxiously Attached People Heal After a Break-up Free Training: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love London Event: tickets here Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list
[Rerun] This is the first deep dive in the Loneliness Deep Dive Series. (Intro) The full episode is available to patrons of the podcast.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleEmail: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comMerch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychologyinseattle/Facebook Official Page: https://www.facebook.com/PsychologyInSeattle/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kirk.hondaJune 12, 2020The Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being.Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although, we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com
Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!MorrowMarriage.com | Disrupting Divorce With The “New” MarriageCass and Kathryn came back from the depths of hell to save their marriage and keep their family together. Battling narcissism, abuse, reactive abuse, emotional, physical and sexual assault. Listen as they share their lessons, actionable steps and real life examples from even the worst of their story. Unscripted, real, raw and against the grain from society's example of marriage - currently leading to the demise of nearly 78% of all marriages today.Inspiring couples around the world...If they can save their marriage from toxicity, abuse and a sexless marriage - not only survive it all... but THRIVE... what's your excuse?Join Cass & Kathryn as they flip divorce statistics and fulfill their purpose in life.Have your own questions or topics you would like us to cover? Let us know here: https://forms.gle/7R8GBAdmQRkuZ3NFA
The Avoidant's Love Bombing Cycle- They shower you with love, pull away, and later want to reconnect. Here's how to spot—and stop—the avoidant's love bombing cycle. An avoidant's pattern often begins with intense love bombing, creating the illusion of closeness and safety. Then, without warning, they pull away, go no contact, and reappear months later expecting to pick up where things left off. This episode breaks down the emotional mechanics behind this toxic cycle and shows you how to respond with clarity and strength. How love bombing creates a false sense of security. Why avoidants pull away and go no contact. How to handle their return without losing your power. Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile
Why does it feel like the therapist is always on your case, even when your wife is the one shutting down emotionally?In this video, I explain why anxious men—like many of you—end up being the focus in therapy sessions... and it's not because the therapist is against you. It's because you're actually the one most likely to change and grow.We'll talk science, psychology, and real-life patterns I've seen in hundreds of men who come to Help For Men. I'll walk you through:Why anxious men are more likely to do the workWhy avoidant women tend to resist therapyWhat the data says about who actually becomes secureHow your own healing can change the relationship—or your entire lifeIf you're tired of dragging your wife to therapy while getting all the blame, this one's for you.✅ Join the Brotherhood today: https://helpformen.com/join✅ Read The Dead Bedroom Fix: https://deadbedroomfix.com
Your avoidant ex needs emotional space - 3 feet of it. Dating/relationship expert Lucia reveals the 3 Foot Rule that makes avoidants feel safe, stops the chasing game and actually draws them back to you.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App: iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#avoidantex #attachmentstyles #nocontactrule #getyourexback
Send us a textIn this episode I answer a listener Q from “Maddie,” who's in post-breakup limbo with an avoidant ex. I unpack blurred boundaries after a breakup, why “staying friends” can quietly erode self-respect, how trauma bonds differ from schema-triggered dynamics, and what it really takes to let go when your abandonment schema is pulling you back. You'll also get a simple Relationship Review exercise to spot your patterns so you can date with clearer self-trust next time.What we coverThe self-respect signal: why “staying friends” sometimes keeps you stuckLove-bombing vs. real intimacy (and why early declarations are a red flag)Trauma bonding 101: replication, familiarity and unmet needsAvoidant–anxious dynamics and why they feel magnetic but unstable“Hard work” vs. “healthy work” in relationships - a practical litmus testHow to let go: grief, no-contact, and naming your modes without self-criticismThe Relationship Review: a step-by-step way to map your patternsTry this (listener worksheet prompts)“Where did I override red flags because of fear, guilt or hope?”“Which parts/modes showed up in me (e.g., Pleaser, Angry Protector, Vulnerable Child)?”“How did I actually feel most of the time in that relationship?”“What does ‘emotionally available' need to look like for me, specifically?”Resources mentionedEpisode 104: The Good, the Bad and the Bond (trauma bonding explainer)Free guide: Dating With Insight: A Tune-In After Every Date (reflective prompts to help you notice how you felt in their presence)Free live masterclass: The Psychology of Attraction - why chemistry isn't random and how schema chemistry pulls you toward the wrong partnersLive: Wednesday 10 September, 7:00pm AESTReplay available to all who registerIs Love Wisely for you? If you're a self-aware woman with a history of emotionally unavailable or narcissistic partners AND you're ready to rewrite your Love Template™ the next 12-week Love Wisely group starts late September. Warm, structured and practical. Support the show✨ Connect with Me
Let's explore attachment styles. Luis has learned from personal experience that avoidant attachment types are simply bodies overwhelmed by a connection that feels overly needy, like a burden, and as a result they over-identify with independence. Anxious attachment types seek safety outside of themselves, and often end up seeking that safety in an avoidant partner. So anxious types and avoidant types often end up partnered. The overwhelmed avoidant's behavior "proves" to the anxious type their need to grasp for safety, while that same grasping "proves" to the avoidant type that they need to run. A match, my friends, made in hell. Do you find yourself in an anxious and avoidant relationship pattern, or have you had these patterns in past relationships? In the upcoming 6-month Embodied Relationships slow group, Luis will teach the difference between a trigger and a need, how to fawn less, and how to identify and state preferences. With somatic tools, an avoidant and anxious couple can learn to connect from a soft place and even become a match made in heaven. Join Luis for a three-day in-person workshop connecting whole foods nutrition, somatic wisdom, and stress recovery at Kripalu. You can read more about, and register, here. Sign up for our 6-month Embodied Relationships group, beginning in October: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/relationship-groupUse the discount code QJSVR73G to save 10% if you register before August 31st.----You can learn more on the website: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/ Learn more about the self-led course here: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/self-led-new Join the waitlist to pre-order Luis' book here: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/the-book You can follow Luis on Instagram @holistic.life.navigationQuestions? You can email us at info@holisticlifenavigation.com
Have you ever felt like two parts of yourself are at battle with each other--one that knows something is bad for you and another that wants to do it anyway? Or maybe you have a loud inner critic, or an inner toddler that just wants to be seen and heard? We are all made up of different parts, but we can learn how to work with them vs against them. In this episode Jodi talks with therapist and author, Britt Frank, about her new book, Align Your Mind: Tame Your Inner Critic and Make Peace with Your Shadow Using the Power of Parts Work. Jodi and Britt discuss the different types of parts and how to identify them, and how parts work can be helpful in love addiction recovery. Show notes and resources: Music by JD Pendley Link to Jodi's website and link to join her newsletter for upcoming announcements For more information about Britt Frank visit her website and follow her on Instagram @brittfank Purchase Align Your Mind here Disclaimer: This podcast is shared for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for mental health treatment with a licensed mental health professional or to be used in place of the advice of a physician. If you are struggling please don't delay in seeking the assistance of a licensed mental health practitioner or healthcare professional. If you're in crisis please visit NAMI.org or call 1-800-273-TALK for 24-hour assistance.
The Love, Happiness and Success Podcast With Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
This episode originally aired on April 3, 2023 (Episode 343), and we're bringing it back because it resonated with so many of you. Whether you're reflecting on a past relationship, navigating one right now, or supporting clients through these dynamics, the lessons are worth revisiting. Why are people with anxious attachment styles and avoidant attachment styles drawn to each other? Can anxious-avoidant relationships work, and most importantly, can they be healthy and satisfying? Yes, they can. But the key is through your understanding of yourself, and of your partner. When you develop true understanding and empathy for your differences, you can create profound connection, and a genuinely secure and healing relationship for both of you. This episode is going to show you how. If you're in an anxious-avoidant relationship, or have been in one before, I hope it helps you understand these dynamics from a new perspective, and empowers you to move toward greater connection and security. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why Attachment Styles Matter 02:42 Core Conflict: Desire for Closeness vs. Space 07:04 The Push-Pull Dynamic of Anxious and Avoidant Partners 11:08 Can Anxious-Avoidant Relationships Be Healthy? 16:09 Finding Compatible Partners & Building Security 17:02 Strategies for Anxious Attachment 18:06 Strategies for Avoidant Attachment 33:04 Why Anxious and Avoidant Partners Are Drawn Together 42:05 Avoidant Discomfort with Closeness & Anxious Pursuing Behaviors 45:06 Doing the Work: Self-Awareness and Self-Management 49:04 Practical Tools for Avoidant Partners 55:00 True Love as a Conscious Choice Want to know where your relationship stands today? Try my free How Healthy Is Your Relationship? Quiz. It gives you quick insights into what's working well and where you might want to focus your growth together. If this resonated with you, let's keep it going. I share more relationship advice and tools on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube, and I'd love to hear your thoughts too, whether it's feedback on the show, questions about past episodes, or ideas for what you'd like me to cover next. Let's talk! xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self
Dr. Rick Hanson is a psychologist, senior fellow of UC Berkeley's Greater Good Science Center, and bestselling author known for bridging neuroscience, mindfulness, and positive psychology. His work focuses on how the brain can be trained for greater resilience, happiness, and inner strength. Through books such as Hardwiring Happiness and Resilient, Dr. Hanson shares practical, science-based tools to cultivate well-being and reduce stress. He is also a popular speaker and teacher, offering workshops and online programs that integrate psychology, meditation, and neuroscience for personal growth.In our conversation we discuss:(00:00) – Misunderstandings about relationships(04:00) – Love as a practice and skill(08:00) – Brain science and romance(12:00) – Following emotions versus awareness(16:00) – The value of mindfulness(20:00) – Acknowledging feelings and avoidance(24:00) – Negative rumination and brain circuits(28:00) – Exploring what lies beneath rumination(32:00) – Healing after heartbreak(36:00) – Building confidence and self-worth(40:00) – Imposter syndrome and motivation(44:00) – Letting go of inherited beliefs(48:00) – Practical steps for self-respect(52:00) – Choosing the right partner(56:00) – Signs of emotional availability(1:00:00) – Avoidant attachment and relationships(1:04:00) – Moving on from unavailable partners(1:08:00) – Closing thoughts and resourcesLearn more about Dr. Rick HansonBooks:Making Great RelationshipsResilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength, and HappinessWebsites:rickhanson.com — free resources, videos, and coursesglobalcompassioncoalition.org — initiative he promotes near the endWatch full episodes on: https://www.youtube.com/@seankimConnect on IG: https://instagram.com/heyseankim
#114: On today's episode, Laura Caruso, relationship therapist, writer, and speaker, jumps on the podcast to share her story, how to navigate romantic relationships, and the importance empathy plays in our interpersonal relationships. She introduces her book (coming out soon), The Empathy Deficit, and talks about the dating struggles of her clients and even herself. The girls get into:our society's lack of empathy and how it's impacting our interpersonal relationshipshow we can navigate romantic relationships and heal dating woundsthe avoidant vs the anxious attachment tipswhat to do if you can't commitwhat to do if you struggle with emotional intimacyhow to keep the spark alivethe chase vs triggersnavigating relationship OCDhow to tell if there's hope to repair in a relationshipthe signs of an abusive relationship& MORE!CONNECT BELOW:follow Laura hereListen to Laura's podcast hereWork with Laura hereCONNECT with HAN:follow Han herefollow HOW I SEE IT hereshop the podcast merch herework with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com
In this episode, I open up about how I subconsciously molded myself to attract avoidant partners and how that pattern was rooted in my earliest experiences of love. I share how I learned to appear “cool,” independent, and unattached in order to feel wanted, and why that left me feeling disconnected and unfulfilled in relationships.If you've ever found yourself downplaying your needs, pretending to be more “chill” than you are, or attracting people who can't meet your emotional depth, this episode will help you reflect on those hidden patterns. My hope is that it gives you insight into your own subconscious motivations, clarity about how you've been showing up in love, and encouragement to realign with your authentic, secure self.* Learn about 1:1 Attachment Coaching with Jessica here.
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Spin to Win is Back! Spin Now to Win Handpicked Prizes By Thais Herself—Including $250 Courses, Free Trials & More to Start Healing Your Attachment Style. Promo Ends Soon! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/spin-the-wheel?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=spin-to-win&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=yt-08-11-25&el=podcast Have you ever dated a dismissive avoidant who seemed amazing at first—only to slowly pull away around the 6-month mark? You're not imagining it. In this episode, Thais Gibson reveals the hidden avoidant timeline—why avoidants often show their “best self” early on, but gradually reveal deeper fears, wounds, and patterns as attachment builds. You'll learn the 6 stages of relationships, why avoidants change gears between month 6 and 12, and the specific fears that surface once emotional bonds deepen. Thais also shares practical communication tips to help you navigate the power struggle stage and strengthen your connection instead of losing it. You'll learn: ✅ The 6 stages of every relationship—and where most couples break up ✅ Why avoidants seem warm and connected early, then start to pull away ✅ How “feelings minus fears” explains their shift after real attachment forms ✅ The specific fears that trigger avoidant distancing behaviors ✅ How flaw-finding becomes a subconscious self-protection strategy ✅ Communication techniques to resolve conflict without pushing them further away ✅ How to frame needs positively so avoidants feel safe enough to meet them Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:
I dive deep into the silent treatment often used by avoidant partners—and what it really means. I share why this behavior isn't always intentional, how it impacts you emotionally, and what practical steps you can take to respond in a grounded, respectful way. As someone who used to be avoidant myself, I get the struggle from both sides. If you're trying to navigate this dynamic in a relationship, this episode will give you clarity and tools to build healthier communication.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 Understanding the Silent Treatment01:28 Why Avoidants Pull Away03:09 Core Beliefs of the Avoidant Mindset05:22 Nervous System Triggers and Silence08:23 The Emotional Impact on You10:35 Step 1: Ground Yourself11:50 Step 2: Communicate Assertively13:30 Step 3: Reinforce Choice and Set Agreements17:45 Invitation Over Demand: The Path Forward***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram
Are you exhausted from forcing everything to happen? From pushing through goals that leave you feeling empty once you reach them? Most avoidants live like they're perpetually on fire—reacting, controlling, forcing outcomes because "easy" feels dangerous. But here's the thing: all that forcing keeps you from the very flow state that would actually get you where you want to go. In this episode, Tracy explores: * Why ease feels dangerous when you're avoidant * The difference between forcing and allowing * How perfectionism keeps you stuck in empty cycles * Sitting with discomfort instead of reacting * Recognizing when you're escaping versus flowing "When you're forcing, you're coming from a state of lack. You can't force a healthy relationship. You can't force anything meaningful. But we keep trying because we're afraid to let go of the false building we've created that everyone can admire." ~ Tracy Crossley
In this episode of More Than Roommates, the MTR team interviews Gabe and Rebekah Lyons about their new book, The Fight For Us. The Lyons share vulnerably about their journey through conflict, emotional intimacy, and the realities of mental health in marriage. They unpack practical tools from their new book The Fight for Us, including how to support your spouse, move from isolation to connection, and keep fighting for each other when life gets hard.Scriptures:John 16:331 Peter 3:7 Questions to Discuss:1. What is one way we can “fight for us” instead of fighting against each other this week?2. Take Gabe & Rebekah's Marriage Quiz. What's your default response in the “dysfunctional dance”? (Silent, Intense, Avoidant, Anxious). How does that affect your marriage?3. In what ways can I better support you during seasons of anxiety, stress, or discouragement?4. What are some of your strengths I can celebrate more often?Resources:Book – The Fight For Us: Overcome What Divides to Build a Marriage That Thrives, Rebekah & Gabe LyonsLearn more about Gabe Lyons & Rebekah LyonsTHINQMedia.com & THINQ Summit 2025Free Marriage Quiz - What's Your Dance?Gabe & Rebekah's Marriage & Parenting RetreatThe Fight For Us Podcast Series (14 episode series) Apple & Spotify