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Summary In this episode, Ali explores the nature of emotions, how they influence our nervous system, and practical ways to relate to them in a healthy way. She emphasizes that emotions are messengers, not commands, and shares strategies to build emotional resilience. Key Topics  Emotions as information, not instructions The role of the nervous system in emotional health How emotions can mislead us into fear or avoidance The importance of curiosity and validation in emotional processing The cycle of anxiety and exposure therapy The influence of hormones and sleep on emotions Using the feelings wheel to identify emotions The concept of neuroplastic symptoms and avoiding avoidant behaviors Takeaways Emotions are valuable messengers that tell us about our internal state. Avoid mistaking emotions for commands; they are not directives but signals. Practicing curiosity and validation helps in processing emotions effectively. Avoidant behaviors reinforce nervous system hypersensitization. Building emotional resilience involves experiencing emotions without letting them dictate actions. Logical understanding alone doesn't calm anxiety; exposure and experience do. Guilt, anxiety, and other emotions are safe to feel and do not need to be fixed immediately. Physical symptoms and emotional states are interconnected and influence each other. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to emotional health and nervous system work 00:25 Emotions as information, not instructions 02:15 Common misconceptions about strong feelings 03:13 Emotions as messengers about internal states 04:09 The danger of mistaking emotions for commands 05:02 Personal story: overcoming fear of flying 06:49 The disconnect between logic and emotional response 08:40 Understanding bodily sensations and fear triggers 10:00 Guilt, anxiety, and emotional responses 11:25 Avoidant behaviors and their impact on nervous system sensitivity 12:22 Healing is about experiencing, not eliminating emotions 13:17 Practicing emotional tolerance and resilience 15:09 Using the feelings wheel to identify emotions 16:07 The importance of contextual understanding of emotions 17:02 Allowing emotions to pass without immediate fixing 18:26 Curiosity and validation in emotional awareness 19:24 Supporting emotional health to improve physical symptoms 20:39 Resources and support for emotional work Ali's Resources:  Beam Supplements - Use Code ALIDAMRON for a discount! Consults with Ali  BIOptimizers Magnesium Breakthrough 10% off using code ALIDAMRON10 www.alidamron.com/magnesium Master Your Perimenopause Course + Toolkit "Am I in Perimenopause?" Checklist.  What Hormone is Imbalanced? Quiz! Fullscript (Get 25% off all supplements) "How To Balance Your Hormones For Better Sleep, Mood, Periods and Energy" Free, On Demand Training Website  Ali's Instagram Ali's Facebook Group: Holistic Health with Ali Damron   

In this episode, we're exploring the difference between temperament and attachment and how qualities like independence, sensitivity, introversion, emotional intensity, or a need for connection can interact with our attachment wounds. We'll also talk about what happens when two people's temperaments continually trigger each other, and how to distinguish between something that needs healing and a genuine compatibility issue.For further support:The Secure Self Toolkit:https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/secure-self-kitPersonalized Attachment Coaching:https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2

In the next two episodes, we're taking a deeper look at the most common relationship dynamic I work with inside my private coaching program, The Connected Marriage—the anxious-avoidant dynamic.While the anxious partner's disappointment, frustration, and sadness are often the most visible parts of the cycle, there are quieter behaviors that unintentionally pull both partners deeper into disconnection. These behaviors can register as neglect, inconsistency, or emotional abandonment, making it incredibly difficult for the relationship to heal.The good news? Once you become aware of them, you can begin making different choices that create the safety, trust, and connection you've been wanting all along.Inside this episode, we:Explore the subtle ways avoidant partners unintentionally contribute to the anxious-avoidant cycleTalk about how lapses in communication, inconsistency, and emotional withdrawal impact trust and emotional safetyUncover why apologies without lasting behavioral change often keep the cycle goingDiscuss the importance of bringing your thoughts, concerns, and emotions into the relationship instead of carrying them aloneExplore how negative assumptions about your partner quietly shape the energy between youTalk about the powerful role appreciation, intentional connection, and emotional responsiveness play in helping your partner feel secureChallenge you to focus on the patterns you have the power to change instead of staying distracted by your partner's reactionsThis episode isn't about blame.It's about self-awareness.Because when you understand how your behaviors influence the dynamic between you, you become empowered to create something different.And often, those small shifts become the beginning of a marriage that feels more peaceful, connected, and united.Ready to stop repeating the same cycle?If you're tired of feeling stuck in the anxious-avoidant dynamic and you're ready to understand what's really happening beneath the surface, I'd love to help.Inside The Connected Marriage, I guide couples through a step-by-step process to unravel these patterns, strengthen emotional safety, and build a relationship that feels connected, supportive, and strong.If you're ready to explore working together, schedule a private consultation HERE

This week we are getting into the contrast between anxious and avoidant patterns. I wrote something down that I feel describes the dynamic perfectly. I will discuss my own challenges with avoidance and how I am working towards healing it. I also recap a situation from last week's episode where a listener quickly backed off a relationship. I discuss how to lead with more curiosity and less defensiveness. This is not just about being the bigger person, but becoming so much more.Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-applicationChapters: 00:00 Curiosity vs. Assumption20:08 High Standards or Just Avoidant30:27 Avoidant vs Anxious Patterns53:56 "You're Not Anxious, You're Just Dating a Loser"

If your avoidant ex says they want to be friends after the break up, what does that mean? Do they still have feelings for you or are they trying to make the break up easier?In this video I explain why avoidants offer friendship, what's happening emotionally beneath the surface and the question you need to ask yourself before you say yes.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookInstagram#avoidantex #getavoidantback #getavoidantexback #friendshipwithex #avoidantattachment

Avoidance doesn't always look like silence, shutting down, or refusing to communicate. In fact, you can be highly verbal, expressive, and even confrontational—and still be avoiding the conversations that actually matter. In this episode, we're unpacking the sneaky ways avoidance shows up in relationships, from people pleasing and hyper-independence to criticism, passive aggressiveness, bickering, and numbing out.We're also getting personal about the ways we've recognized these patterns in our own lives and relationships. If you've ever thought, “It's not worth bringing up,” waited until resentment exploded, expected someone to read your mind, or convinced yourself you're just better off handling everything alone, this conversation is for you. We'll help you recognize avoidant communication and start moving toward more honest, assertive, self-connected conversations—without sacrificing kindness.Episode Highlights[0:39] - Why avoidance is so misunderstood—and why being highly communicative doesn't mean you're not avoiding.[2:15] - The “siren song of avoidance”: “It's not worth it,” “It'll only start a fight,” and “Why bother?”[4:20] - When holding things in turns into overcommunicating, sarcasm, resentment, or a “victim volcano.”[8:08] - Outsourcing emotional intimacy to kids, friends, family, or someone outside your relationship.[11:16] - Distracting and numbing with phones, TV, work, social media, and other forms of escape.[12:44] - People pleasing, “good girlitis,” and learning to tolerate other people being disappointed in you.[15:40] - A practical way to build your assertiveness muscle without starting with your hardest conversation.[19:58] - How criticizing and blaming can masquerade as communicating your needs.[23:16] - Replacing harshness with direct, kind communication that your partner actually has a chance of hearing.[25:48] - Hyper-independence, the “I'll handle it myself” mentality, and the self-fulfilling prophecy it creates.[28:37] - Shutting down, stonewalling, and compartmentalizing uncomfortable relationship problems.[30:10] - Victim volcano syndrome and passive aggressiveness: what sarcasm, digs, and “jokes” may really be telling you.[34:13] - Why seemingly harmless bickering—or “toxic ping pong”—can slowly damage connection.[37:02] - Sweeping frustrations under the rug and recognizing just how many “normal” relationship behaviors are actually avoidance.[38:52] - Self-connected communication: getting underneath frustration, naming your emotions, identifying your needs, and coming forward clearly.[41:36] - Practicing communication people can hear, repairing when you get it wrong, and taking responsibility for your side of the street.If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I share from my own avoidant's perspective what your avoidant ex secretly wants during no contact.► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction01:55 1. Desire for Reconnection04:49 2. Testing Availability06:53 3. Fighting for Them09:36 4. Explaining What Went Wrong10:58 5. Desire for Independence12:56 6. Seeking Emotional Calm15:15 7. The Need for Acceptance17:40 Focusing on Your Growth► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I describe the exact moment when avoidants realize you're not coming back. And I reflect on how to move on with more ease.► Links and Resources:The Stages of an Avoidant Coming Back Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PVuzwMjflyk&t=1s The Moment I Decided to Change Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NkVmvMkZUI4&t=1s ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction01:42 Relationship Dynamics05:45 The Breakup Experience09:28 No Contact Phase11:53 The Avoidant's Internal Model16:29 Moment of Realization21:46 Moving On and Boundaries24:55 Strengthening Your Self-Worth► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

Why does healthy love sometimes feel suffocating?In this episode, we're exploring one of the biggest misconceptions behind avoidant attachment: the belief that feeling trapped automatically means something is wrong with the relationship. Together, we'll unpack how childhood experiences, attachment wounds, and our nervous system can cause us to mistake closeness for control, compromise for self-neglect, and normal relationship needs for losing ourselves.You'll learn how to distinguish between the prison created by your own mind and a relationship that is genuinely unhealthy—so you can begin making decisions from clarity rather than fear.Resources:✨ The Secure Self Toolkit (guided meditations, communication scripts, nervous system exercises, and practical attachment tools):https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/secure-self-kit

When do our coping behaviors go from necessary survival needs to reliance on avoidant behavior? In this week's episode, Bridgette and Lindsey dive into how coping mechanisms of any kind can turn into negative feedback loops or quick-relief systems. While coping mechanisms allow us to process trauma over time, understanding the boundaries between healthy versus reliant makes the healing journey an ever-changing process.Key TakeawaysCoping is necessary for survival and processing trauma over time, but our behaviors can lead to overreliance on immediate satisfaction.Behaviors can include what many people see as “healthy” or “productive”, but could still be a way to avoid processing our emotions.Research shows that we seek relief when undergoing stress; this need can lead us to build quick-acting behaviors over sitting with and acknowledging our discomfort.Avoidant coping behavior may lead to a disconnect from our bodies, communities, and long-term healing journey.Finding professional support to understand the difference between coping and processing trauma provides benefits throughout our lives.Resources MentionedGabor Maté's research on coping skills, trauma, and stress.Connect and Learn More☑️ Bridgette Stumpf | LinkedIn☑️ Lindsey Silverberg | LinkedIn☑️ Volare | LinkedIn | Instagram | Facebook☑️ TraumaTies Website | Instagram | TikTok | YouTube☑️ Subscribe Apple Podcasts | SpotifyBrought to you by Volare, TraumaTies: Untangling Societal Harm & Healing After Crime is a podcast that creates space and conversations to dissect the structural and systemic knots that keep us from addressing trauma.Rooted in a belief that survivors of crime deserve respect for their dignity in the aftermath of victimization, Volare seeks to empower survivors by informing them of all of the options available and working to transform existing response systems to be more inclusive of the diverse needs that survivors often have after crime.Volare also provides free, holistic, and comprehensive advocacy, therapeutic, and legal services to survivors of all crime types. Visit our website to learn more about how to access our trauma-informed education training and how to partner with us to expand survivor-defined justice.

The reason your marriage is sexless has nothing to do with sex. If you think a lack of intimacy in your relationship is a sex problem, I need you to hear this — it's almost never about the bedroom.In this episode, I break down emotional availability: what it really means, why so many good, hardworking, faithful men struggle with it, and how childhood shapes the way we handle conflict as adults. I explain the biology behind emotional shutdown, walk through attachment styles — secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful-avoidant — and show why emotional safety is the real path to physical intimacy for most women. Then I give you five practical shifts to become more emotionally reachable, plus real scripts you can use tonight.This isn't about blame. It's about understanding the blueprint you were handed — so you can build something better.Join the waitlist for my upcoming coaching program for midlife men: https://taboototruth.wixforms.com/f/7424226439106397420In This Episode:0:00 - Cold Open: "It's Almost Never About the Bedroom"0:20 - Welcome to Taboo to Truth1:05 - The Emotionally Unavailable Man: What Today's Episode Covers2:15 - "He's a Great Guy, But I Can't Get Close to Him"3:45 - What Emotional Availability Actually Means5:30 - Real Examples: What He Says vs. What She Hears7:15 - How Boys Are Taught to Suppress Emotion9:15 - The Biology of Shutdown: Flooding, Adrenaline & the Amygdala11:00 - What Are You Really Protecting?12:00 - Attachment Styles: Secure, Anxious, Avoidant & Fearful-Avoidant15:30 - Your Brain Can Change: Neuroplasticity Explained16:45 - Why Sexless Marriages Are Rarely About Sex19:00 - The 5 Shifts to Become Emotionally Available21:15 - Real Scripts: What to Say Instead22:10 - The Client Story: "I Thought I Had a Sex Problem"22:35 - Final Thoughts & Coaching WaitlistWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion.LINKS, RESOURCES, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS & FREEBIES

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As you do the deep internal work of understanding your Emotional Operating System, releasing shame, and rebuilding self-trust, your awareness naturally expands. You begin to notice the emotional dynamics of the people around you—friends, family members, acquaintances, and even your ex. In this episode, we focus strictly on protecting your personal recovery space. Learn how Anxious, Avoidant, and Fearful attachment styles present in others, how to spot when someone else's unmanaged chaos is threatening your progress, and how to use our Thought Download and Override method to stay firmly anchored in your own healing without falling into the "rescuer trap." Ready to Fast-Track Your Breakup Recovery? Stop waiting for "time" to heal you and start your journey back to happy with a personalized roadmap. I am now accepting a limited number of 1:1 coaching clients. Let's turn your heartbreak into a catalyst for your greatest transformation. ·                  Claim your Free 30-Minute Strategy Call here: https://www.angieday.com/join/ Discover your Unique Breakup Style: This is a crucial first step to taking back your power. Your emotional reactions are driven by a subconscious operating system (your attachment style). By identifying your unique style, you gain a clear blueprint for your behavior. This transforms your healing from a frustrating, chaotic storm into a strategic, predictable, and conquerable process. ·                  Take the quiz here: https://www.angieday.com/free-quiz/ Connect with Angie: If you or someone you love is struggling after a breakup or divorce and you'd like professional support to navigate the aftermath, I'm here to help. ·                  Email me at: angie@contactangieday.com ·                  Leave a Voicemail: https://www.speakpipe.com/TheBacktoHappyPodcast

Avoidant people avoid for different reasons. Understanding the reason why a particular person avoids will increase your empathy and guide your decisions on what to do and what not to do.   Karla Downing's passion is to see individuals, marriages, and families set free from dysfunction, scriptural misunderstanding, and emotional pain personally and relationally. Her Christian relationship advice includes messages, books, and classes that provide practical solutions grounded in biblical truths, bringing balance and clarity to life and relationship issues. She also desires to equip ministry leaders and counselors to reach out more effectively to those struggling with difficult relationships, including abuse.  Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/4FjpSuL-DdY

He was obsessed with you. Texting every day, planning the future, making you feel chosen... and then suddenly? Cold. Distant. Gone.If you've ever asked yourself "what did I do wrong?" - you didn't. You triggered his avoidance.In this raw episode, I'm breaking down the real psychology behind avoidant men - not the TikTok version. We're talking about why high-achieving, powerful women specifically attract avoidant men, why your closeness feels like a threat to him, and why chasing him will only make him run further. This is not about fixing him. This is about getting your power back. IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVER:Why he pulled away right when things were getting goodThe 5 hidden signs you're dealing with an avoidant man (not just a busy man)The Anxious-Avoidant trap that keeps powerful women stuckWhy your success and feminine energy can actually trigger his pull-backExactly what to do when he goes cold - to stay in your soft, high-value eraIf you've ever been left confused, anxious, and overthinking a man who pulled away, this episode is your closure. It's time to stop asking why he left and start understanding why you chased.Listen now, save it, and send this to a friend who needs to hear it.

In this episode, Dr. K sits down with Dr. Kirk Honda from Psychology in Seattle for a clinical deep dive into the complex world of personality disorders. Moving beyond surface-level symptoms, they break down the developmental trauma behind Avoidant and Schizoid Personality Disorders, share personal stories of childhood bullying, and explain what a true "corrective experience" in therapy actually looks like. What to expect in this episode: Avoidant Personality Disorder (AvPD): How childhood neglect combined with terrifying social experiences creates a deeply rooted "perceptual distortion" where an individual believes they are fundamentally defective and inherently rejectable. Social Anxiety vs. AvPD: Why the dividing line often comes down to insight—social anxiety sufferers usually know their fear is irrational when calm, while those with AvPD are completely convinced everyone can genuinely see their hidden "defect" or ridiculousness. The Schizoid Experience: Understanding why Schizoid Personality Disorder develops as a defense against severe neglect and intermittent, intense parental invasiveness (enmeshment), leading individuals to completely turn off their emotions to avoid being "invaded". Proto-Emotions: Why adults with Schizoid PD often feel emotionally numb, like "robots," or incorrectly assume they are sociopaths, and how their feelings are actually unevolved "proto-emotions" that were never safely mirrored during childhood. Staring into the Abyss: A look at the terrifying moment in depth therapy where a patient must confront their deepest fears of brokenness, and why taking a "leap of faith" with an attuned therapist is the key to creating neuroplastic change. The Healing Power of Attunement: A profoundly personal moment where Dr. Honda has a visceral, protective reaction to Dr. K's history of childhood bullying, perfectly demonstrating the exact real-time empathy and validation that trauma survivors need to heal. The "Reenactment" Trap: Why treating personality disorders requires intense "5D chess," as patients will unconsciously try to induce the therapist to recreate their childhood trauma, such as a Schizoid patient baiting the therapist to be invasive or a BPD patient inducing abandonment. Dr. K's NEW Guide to Love, Sex, & Relationships is here! Order now: https://bit.ly/4dO3x0VHG Coaching : https://bit.ly/46bIkdo Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health: https://bit.ly/44z3SztHG Memberships : https://bit.ly/3TNoMVf Products & Services : https://bit.ly/44kz7x0 HealthyGamer.GG: https://bit.ly/3ZOopgQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

One of my subscribers finally received a text from her avoidant ex. Was it a breadcrumb? Did she respond?In this episode, I analyze her journey from heartbreak to healing, and break down what happened after reached out.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookInstagram#avoidant #avoidantex #getexback #exback #nocontact #getavoidantexback

Relationships can be complicated, and often the challenges we face aren't just about differences in personality, they're rooted in the ways we form attachment and connect emotionally. Whether it's fear of getting too close, pulling away when things get serious, or repeating patterns that keep love out of reach, understanding attachment styles can be a game-changer in creating lasting, fulfilling relationships. Jamal Cadoura's journey began when he started healing his fearful avoidant attachment style. Since then he has become a certified attachment coach who helps people become secure so they can heal, let go, and attract a lasting love with their ideal partner. 

Now that we've explored the four Emotional Operating Systems (Anxious, Avoidant, Fearful, and Secure), many listeners hit a quiet, heavy wall: subconscious shame. You might find yourself thinking, "If only I had been less needy," "If only I hadn't brought up that argument," or "If I were better, they would have stayed." In this episode, we deconstruct the difference between toxic shame and healthy accountability. Learn how to perform a "Shame Audit" using our Thought Download process to rewrite the narrative that you were "not enough," so you can forgive your past self and step into authentic self-trust. Ready to Fast-Track Your Breakup Recovery? Stop waiting for "time" to heal you and start your journey back to happy with a personalized roadmap. I am now accepting a limited number of 1:1 coaching clients. Let's turn your heartbreak into a catalyst for your greatest transformation. Claim your Free 30-Minute Strategy Call here: https://www.angieday.com/join/ Discover your Unique Breakup Style: This is a crucial first step to taking back your power. Your emotional reactions right now are not random; they are driven by a subconscious operating system (your attachment style). By identifying your unique style, you gain a clear blueprint for your behavior. This transforms your healing from a frustrating, chaotic storm into a strategic, predictable, and conquerable process. Take the quiz here: https://www.angieday.com/free-quiz/ Connect with Angie: If you or someone you love is struggling after a breakup or divorce and you'd like professional support to navigate the aftermath, I'm here to help. Email me at: angie@contactangieday.com Leave a Voicemail: https://www.speakpipe.com/TheBacktoHappyPodcast

He built one of the most controversial dating sites in the world. He told every woman upfront on day one that he did not believe in marriage. And then he met Dana. And everything changed. Adam Lane Smith sits down with Brandon Wade, founder of Seeking.com, and his partner Dana to break down what it actually takes to win an avoidant man's heart. What you will learn in this video: 1- Why Brandon spent years believing love was a concept invented by poor people and what changed his mind  2- Why radical honesty on a dating profile attracted the right person faster than anything else  3- Why dating apps give you quantity but why quality requires something completely different  4- Why 65 percent of couples once met through family and friend networks and what the collapse of that has done to modern relationships  5- What women are actually looking for underneath the surface and why financial safety is not gold digging  6- Why men who pursue skill mastery and competence are automatically more attractive and how Brandon proved it  7- Why avoidant men build layers of ego and what the one thing is that finally brings those walls down  8- What secure attachment actually looks like inside a real relationship between two people who almost never found each other If you have ever wondered whether an avoidant man can actually change, this conversation is your answer.

Here is a recording of impromptu live stream I recently did. No script, no agenda, just me and the chat. And as usual, the unscheduled ones end up being the best ones.This stream turned into a full clinic on the stuff I hear from men every single day: the guy who told his wife he desired her and got nothing back. The guy 10 years into a sexless marriage who swears he "shouldn't have to" bring it up. The guy engaged to a woman who already tells him "you sexualize everything." And the one that floors the average dude — 20 years, never married, sexless, and every time he tries to leave, her tears pull him right back in.We got into why nobody has the uncomfortable conversations early (when they'd actually save you), why "she trapped me with sex" is almost never what happened, what a decade of staying teaches your partner, breadcrumbing and why that little cookie every six months keeps you quiet, and the boss-who-can-never-fire-you problem that lives inside every one of these marriages.

What does it mean when your avoidant ex reaches out after months of silence, asks to see you, and tells you they missed you?In this episode, I discuss whether it means they want to get back together or if something else is going on. Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookInstagram#avoidantex #avoidantattachment #getexback #avoidantcameback

That thing that turns you on but you've never quite been able to explain? Or the relationship dynamic you keep recreating? Those aren't random. And they aren't fully explained by your attachment style.This is the introduction episode for a series on attachment wounds and erotic desires. Before we get into the specific wound patterns, I'm laying the foundation — what attachment styles actually are, where they fall short, and how to understand attachment patterns beyond the standard (avoidant, anxious, disorganized or secure) boxes. We'll talk about how our childhood experiences and specific attachment wounds tend to lead to specific turn-ons. Plus, why that's good news and will help you de-shame your desires. In this episode:Why attachment styles are learned habits, not personality traits or life sentencesHow your attachment response shifts depending on who you're with, how they communicate, and the specific felt safety of that relationshipWhy the anxious/avoidant label doesn't capture the full picture — and what the deeper wounds underneath those patterns actually areA preview of the five developmental wounds this series explores: safety, dependency, trust, autonomy, and worthThe core skills that underlie secure attachment — and why they're learnable, not fixed traits reserved for people who had easier childhoodsHow early unmet needs shape not just your relational patterns but your specific erotic desires — and why that connection makes complete sense once you see itCompanion resource for this series: Dr. R. Chris Fraley's attachment quiz at yourpersonality.net/relstructures/ — the most useful tool I've found for understanding your patterns in the context of specific relationships, not just in the abstractThe Wheel of Erotic Emotions — a visual map of common erotic emotions organized by category → laurajurgens.com/wheelTopics: attachment styles and desire, anxious avoidant attachment, attachment wounds, childhood wounds and relationships, secure attachment skills, erotic desires, intimacy coach, somatic intimacy coach, feminist sex coach, attachment theory explained, attachment styles and sex life, desire and intimacy, how to become securely attached Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guideMore links: Substack at https://laurajurgens.substack.com/Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheelCopyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. 

Are you accidentally helping your avoidant ex move on? In this episode, I analyze a real viewer's heartbreaking story and show exactly how breaking No Contact at the wrong time changed the outcome of her relationship.Her avoidant ex admitted he always runs from relationships. He regretted the breakup, questioned his decision, and even begged her not to leave. But when she reached out and started making him feel emotionally safe again, everything changed.If you're in No Contact with an avoidant ex, this video will help you recognize the subtle mistakes that can unintentionally make it easier for them to move on - and what to do instead.Get ⁠coaching!⁠Download Silenzio App: ⁠ iPhone ⁠OR ⁠Android⁠Read No Contact Secrets ⁠Book⁠⁠Instagram⁠#avoidantattachment #avoidantex #nocontact #getexback

Avoidance looks like not wanting people. It's almost always the opposite: wanting connection so badly that being seen feels like the biggest risk of all. In this episode, Dr. Greg explores avoidant personality patterns through the lens of Catholic anthropology—where the quiet tug-of-war between longing to be known and fearing rejection comes from, and how the difference between what happens in us and what we choose opens a path toward freedom. Key Topics: Why "I just need my space" can be a wall dressed up as a boundary How a childhood full of real love—not neglect—can still teach you that being seen means being blamed Why avoidant personality isn't the same as avoidant attachment, even though they share a name What the text you rewrite four times before sending is actually protecting you from Why even your anger can be an imitation of Christ, not something to hide How the difference between what "happens" in you and what you choose to do can pull you out of hiding Learn More: Previous episode on attachment theory: Ep. #63: Attachment Theory: What It Is, What It Isn't, and How It Affects Your Relationships Previous episodes on parts work (IFS): Ep. #34: A New Theory! w/ a Catholic Lens Ep. #35: Why Do I Feel Like I Have Conflicting Thoughts? w/ Dr. Peter Malinoski Person and Act: St. John Paul II's (Karol Wojtyła's) philosophical work on the acting person, referenced in this episode Start of the Being Human series on the Antisocial Defense Patterns: Ep. #281: Control or Be Controlled: The Devastating Wounds Behind Antisocial Behavioral Patterns Start of the Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns: Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Got a Question for Dr. Greg? Have a topic suggestion? Want to share your thoughts? Email us at beinghuman@catholicpsych.com—we'd love to hear from you! Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

Money is in the top three reasons for divorce in America. But most couples fighting about money are not actually fighting about money. They are fighting about safety, worth, and trust. Adam Lane Smith sits down with Rachel Cruze, financial expert and bestselling author, to break down why money fights are almost never about money, what your attachment style is doing to your finances, and how to finally get on the same page with your partner before the fight becomes a crisis. What you will learn in this video: 1- Why avoidant people hoard money and anxious people overspend and why both come from the same wound  2- Why joint accounts get more hate on social media than any other financial advice and what that reaction actually reveals  3- Why the prenup conversation is not about divorce but about whether you are building a team  4- Why four generations of women were told men cannot be trusted and how that is running marriages today  5- Why money fights are marriage problems in disguise  6- Why the man who earns more and still feels worthless is an attachment problem not a financial one  7- Why working together to pay off debt improves marriages even when nobody taught a marriage class  8- What to do when one partner is a saver and one is a spender and neither can understand the other  9- Why 49 percent of Gen Z women say having children is no longer important and what is underneath that number If money has been a source of fighting, hiding, or distance in your relationship, the problem probably started long before the bank account did.

Avoidant attachment is not coldness, and it is not emotional unavailability, it is emotional unprotection. If you keep pushing away the people you most want to keep, this video shows you why it happens and the concrete steps to start healing it.Relationship and childhood trauma recovery specialist Kenny Weiss breaks down avoidant attachment as a survival pattern built in childhood, not a personality flaw. You will learn why you go cold when closeness gets real, why you can feel emotionally unavailable to the one person who matters most, and what a love avoidant, codependent person actually needs to do to heal. It speaks to the shutdown or avoidant partner, and to the over giver exhausted from loving one.Kenny teaches that the love avoidant is the falsely empowered end of the codependence spectrum, so the way out is not more independence but interdependence. He walks through the five core symptoms of codependence first named by Pia Mellody and gives one concrete healing step for each. He ties the pattern to the Worst Day Cycle™, the unconscious loop of trauma, fear, shame, and denial that keeps the avoidant stuck.Avoidant attachment is not emotional unavailability, it is emotional unprotection, a survival persona built when childhood closeness meant engulfment. The love avoidant learned that being close meant being consumed, so the adult nervous system reads intimacy as danger and withdraws to survive.Healing avoidant attachment is not about becoming more independent, because independence is the avoidant's defense. It is about building interdependence, two whole people who choose to share a life by mutual agreement.Kenny Weiss is a relationship, communication, and childhood trauma recovery specialist and the creator of the Worst Day Cycle™, the Authentic Self Cycle™, and the Emotional Authenticity Method™. He is the author of Your Journey to Success and Your Journey to Being Yourself.More from Kenny: The Two Codependent Personality Types, and Codependent vs Narcissist, 3 Critical Differences.TOPICS COVERED: avoidant attachment, emotionally unavailable, emotional detachment, why do I push people away, love avoidant, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant, how to heal avoidant attachment, codependency recovery, five core symptoms of codependence, falsely empowered codependent, enmeshment, interdependence, boundaries vs walls, attachment styles, Kenny Weiss, Worst Day Cycle0:00 — Avoidant Attachment Is Emotional Unprotection1:10 — Why You Pull Away From the People You Want2:30 — How Smothering Parents Create a Love Avoidant4:15 — Your Independence Is Codependence in Disguise5:30 — Step One, Rebuild Worth From the Inside7:00 — Step Two, Build a Gate, Not a Wall8:30 — Step Three, Say the One True Thing10:00 — Step Four, Let Someone Meet a Need11:30 — Step Five, Practice Being, Not Doing13:00 — If You Love an Avoidant, Where to Start

Have you convinced yourself that you'll never get your avoidant ex back? In this episode, I explain why silence doesn't always mean it's over, how people with avoidant attachment process breakups differently, and why your ex's breakup words aren't always their final words.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookInstagram#avoidantattachment #avoidantex #nocontact #getexback #getavoidantexback

In this episode, we talk about traits of the avoidant attachment style and signs that may be revealing of someone's attachment patterns. Check us out on YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Coach Craig Kenneth⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Craig's help personally: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.askcraig.net/take-action/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Victoria's help: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.askcraig.net/victoria⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Craig's workbook series: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.askcraig.net/workbooks-1/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Started on the Creative Healing Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://courses.askcraig.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Just because an avoidant ex hasn't reached out, doesn't mean they don't care or that they've moved on. Sometimes, they're waiting for you to reach out.In this episode, I share 5 signs your avoidant ex may be hoping you'll make the first move, even if they haven't contacted you. You'll also learn how avoidants often signal interest indirectly.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookInstagram#avoidantattachment #getexback #exback #nocontact #nocontactrule #avoidantex

Welcome Brave Lovers! In today's episode, we are exploring eroticising power in the bedroom. Listen in as Laurie and George discuss how different attachment styles may crave to be more submissive or more dominant during sex. We discuss that both roles may be freeing, relieving of responsibility and just sinking into pleasure. Avoidant partners may feel more close, connecting with vulnerability and more anxiously attached partners may feel reassured, certain and taken care of. This is not your average vanilla episode as we step into how to share these fantasies safely with your lover. Listeners will walk away with more understanding of underlying themes of power and control and safe and secure ways to communicate themes of submission and dominance. Remember to grab a copy of our book, Brave Love, Great Sex available for pre-order now. Pre-order Sale! Buy a copy of Brave Love, Great Sex from Barnes and Noble and receive 10% off! Between now and June 26th! Barnes and Noble Premium members get an additional 10% off! Check out this episode's sponsor (and help the pod!): Uberlube -- Laurie's long-time most recommended personal lubricant. Use the code BraveLove at checkout to get your discount! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why Your Man Shuts Down When You Try to Talk & What to Do Instead | FT: DR. Chris DavidCONNECT WITH CHARLENE On Instagram @mscharlenebyars ([https://www.instagram.com/mscharlenebyars] On YouTube @chosentraining ([https://www.youtube.com/@lovestorieswithcharlenebyars]Work with me HERE ([https://charlenebyars.com/](https://charlenebyars.com/)) CONNECT WITH CHRIS DAVID On Instagram @evolvedbychris (https://www.instagram.com/evolvedbychris?igsh=dmpya2pwNmNqeTdp) Work With Me Here: https://linktr.ee/evolvedbychris?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio&fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQPOTM2NjE5NzQzMzkyNDU5AAGnjXAnZgX9oxHKwhMERoqK6npC7-Q0YGS0suMCBsKXtusB1v_-ak8TlVB9VD4_aem_k254pW6ZWslcuWxdOfOkzg Relationship and attachment coach Chris joins the Love Stories podcast for one of the most eye-opening conversations yet. After a tumultuous 14-year marriage, a painful divorce, and years of studying human behavior, Chris built a practice helping people understand why their relationships keep failing, and what to actually do about it. In this episode, he breaks down the real difference between an avoidant man and a man who's just not that into you, why communication alone won't save your relationship, how men and women bond completely differently, the 70-30 rule for emotionally charged conversations, why you should give your man a problem to solve instead of making him the problem, and how attachment styles are fully correctable. We Cover in this whole Episode: 0:00 — Intro & teaser clips 1:30 — Host welcomes Chris; his mission explained 3:00 — How Chris got into relationship coaching 5:00 — Marrying young at 26: chemistry mistaken for love 8:00 — Mr. Nice Guy syndrome: never saying no 12:00 — Shame wounds in men and what drives people-pleasing 16:00 — Childhood, Catholic upbringing & performative love 20:00 — Why traditional marriage counseling often fails 24:00 — The affairs, the explosion, and staying another 10 years 28:00 — Post-divorce: 5 years of dating around the world 33:00 — Meeting his current partner: friendship first 37:00 — What was different this time: mindset shift 41:00 — Avoidant vs. just not that into you — the key difference 45:00 — Dismissive avoidant explained: the "perfect family" facade 49:00 — The four types of memory & emotional unavailability 53:00 — Attachment is fully correctable — here's how 57:00 — How men and women bond differently: oxytocin vs. vasopressin 1:01:00 — How to let a woman express herself without shutting down 1:05:00 — Give him a problem to solve, not make him the problem 1:10:00 — The 70-30 rule for difficult conversations 1:14:00 — Vasopressin, acts of service & why men need to feel needed 1:18:00 — The 3 A's: attention, affection, affirmations 1:21:00 — How to work with Chris / closing resources 1:24:00 — Final message: only one reason a relationship truly can't work 1:26:00 — Outro & subscribe call to action If you've ever felt unheard, disconnected, or stuck in the same relationship patterns, this episode will change the way you see yourself and your partner.

Sometimes bosses are afraid of conflict. They just don’t know how to handle disagreements between employees. In this episode of My Crazy Office, Kathi and Katherine discuss an interesting phenomenon: What do you do when a manager who avoids dealing with employee conflict causes more conflicts to erupt? They start with a question from someone whose boss keeps insisting that the staff resolve their interpersonal disagreements, while the employees believe they need the boss to help them work them out. Does your boss avoid conflict? Listen here.

Saul, the Avoidant Anointed - 1 Samuel 101. God gives us a calling. (Vs. 1-8)2. God confirms our calling. (Vs. 9-13)3. We avoid and hide from our calling. (Vs. 14-27)

In this episode, we talk about ways to approach a partner with an avoidant attachment style to foster understand and emotional safety. Check us out on YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Coach Craig Kenneth⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Craig's help personally: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.askcraig.net/take-action/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Victoria's help: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.askcraig.net/victoria⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Craig's workbook series: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.askcraig.net/workbooks-1/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Started on the Creative Healing Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://courses.askcraig.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this powerful episode, Lacy Phillips explores the connection between attachment styles, manifestation, and relationships. She shares how anxious patterns are often rooted in childhood conditioning—and why healing begins by returning to a grounded, secure sense of self. Through conversations about shadow work, communication, and emotional triggers, Lacy breaks down the subconscious dynamics that shape how we love and connect. This episode is a strong reminder that relationships can serve as a mirror, revealing what's ready to heal. Morning Microdose is a podcast curated by Krista Williams and Lindsey Simcik, the hosts and founders of Almost 30, a global community, brand, and top-rated podcast. With curated clips from the Almost 30 podcast, Morning Microdose will set the tone for your day, so you can feel inspired through thought-provoking conversations…all in digestible 10-minute episodes.  Wake up with Krista and Lindsey, both literally and spiritually, Monday-Friday. If you enjoyed this conversation, listen to the full episode on Spotify ⁠here⁠ and on Apple ⁠here⁠.  Sponsors: AirDoctor | Head to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code MICRODOSE to get $250 off select AirDoctor air purifiers, including the 3500, 4000, and 5500 models.

Your ex starts watching your stories, liking your posts or quietly orbiting your social media. Does it mean they miss you and want to come back?In this episode, I break down a real-life case study and explain why reacting to your ex's breadcrumbs can be one of the biggest mistakes you make after a breakup.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookInstagram#getexback #exback #nocontact #nocontactrule #avoidant #avoidantattachment

In this episode, I share the lessons I've learned from dating both avoidant and anxious partners, how each relationship highlighted different areas for growth, and why the goal isn't hyper-independence or over-dependence—but healthy interdependence.If you enjoyed this episode and are ready to start creating healthier patterns in your love life, check out my Secure Self Toolkit, filled with attachment rewiring meditations, communication scripts, a trigger guide, and practical tools to help you become your most secure self.Looking for personalized support? You can also book a Free Clarity Call to learn more about working with me one-on-one.Get the Secure Self ToolkitLearn about 1:1 Attachment Coaching with Jessica

When he was young, it seemed like my son Cooper was almost always active and agitated. I tried everything I was told to try - bubble blowing for deep breathing, emotion naming, zones of regulation, nature walks with candy as incentives - but nothing worked. Maybe the activity would occupy him once, but then he'd be agitated all over again afterwards. I thought I must be going it wrong, or just a bad mom.What I know now is that I wasn't and I'm not - and neither are you. The logic underneath those approaches just does not match how a pathologically demand avoidant nervous system actually works.In this episode I discuss the 4-S Framework I developed to help my PDA son - and the children of the many families I was working with - stay regulated. The four S's are: safe nervous system, sensory intense experience with novelty and dopamine, screens, and special interests. I talk through what each one means for a PDA brain specifically, why children in burnout can often only access some of the four, and how to use this framework to structure unstructured time so it feels less like chaos and more like a plan.Key Takeaways Why the Approaches I Was Given Kept Making Things Worse | 00:02:06 I walk through the regulation strategies I tried with Cooper before I understood PDA: sensory integration activities like bubble blowing and glitter shaker bottles, naming emotions and using the zones of regulation stoplight, and nature walks I would incentivize with sweets. Each one followed the same pattern: novelty made the first attempt work, and the second produced refusal, avoidance, or escalating behavior. But then I had an "aha" moment and made a shift that changed everything. S1: What Actually Makes a Nervous System Safe for a PDA Brain | 00:21:43 A safe nervous system for a pathologically demand avoidant child is not simply a kind or emotionally attuned person. In my work with thousands of families, I have seen loving, competent, well-trained adults be deeply unsafe nervous systems for PDA children, not because they are unkind but because they arrive with an agenda. They want to teach, engage, improve, or modify. The safest nervous system is the one that is not trying to change the child at all. I use the example of a grandma who arrives with activities and baking plans versus a grandpa who sits on the couch reading his phone with zero agenda. The PDA child will reliably gravitate toward grandpa. This is also why you may notice your child feels safer with your partner on certain days, or with a teenage neighbor who just wants to jump on the trampoline without any goal. The lower the agenda, the safer the nervous system. S2: Sensory Intense Experience, Novelty, Dopamine, and the Modern Day Alchemist | 00:26:48 The second S covers three overlapping things: physical sensory intensity like roughhousing; novelty, which is why the first time at an ice skating rink produces full regulation and the second visit produces a meltdown; and dopamine, which can show up as a fixation on sugar, screens, or the drive to transform things from one material state to another. I call this last pattern the modern day alchemist, and I see it consistently across PDA children and adults I work with. S3: Screens, Books, Podcasts, and Journaling as Regulation Tools | 00:40:02 I view screens neutrally, and I want to be clear that this S is not only about screens. For PDA children and teens who are older, or for PDA adults who grew up before constant access to devices, this S may have looked like always having a book in hand, listening to podcasts, or journaling compulsively. What all of these have in common is that they provide autonomy, allow engagement with special interests and learning without an agenda, and offer relief from the intense sensory input that comes both from the outside world and from inside a nervous system that is chronically activated. For Cooper during burnout, screens were one of only two things that kept him regulated enough to eat and exist. Now that his activation has come down, he tracks his own screen time and averages around two hours a day, half the national average for American children. That shift was not something I imposed. It happened naturally as his window of tolerance expanded. I share this because I know how much shame parents carry around screen time, and I want to offer a different frame: screens in the right season can be what keeps your child accessible to life. S4: Special Interest and How to Use the Full Framework in Practice | 00:43:45 Special interest for a PDA brain involves what researchers call monotropic focus: sustained attention toward an interest that is deeply regulating, and dysregulation when pulled away from it. For Cooper right now the three special interests are football, fishing, and friends. When I need to help him out of the "I'm bored" loop, I use the framework to identify which S's are available and stack them. In the episode I also name what this looks like in burnout: during the hardest years, Cooper could only access safe nervous system and screens. The other S's returned as his activation came down, and I want parents to hold that as evidence that things can shift.Relevant Resources Understanding PDA — Free class where I teach the nervous system disability framework and the threat perception mechanism that explains why standard regulation approaches tend to backfire for PDA childrenBurnout — Free class with context for the burnout period I describe in this episode, when only two of the four S's are typically accessibleSchool, Screens and Siblings — Free class directly relevant to the screens S and how I think about screen time as a neutral tool within the Four S Framework Monotropism: Understanding Autistic Ways of Being — Background reading on the monotropic focus I describe in the S4 section and how it shapes regulation and learning in autistic and PDA brainsMonotropic Split and Burnout — Explains what happens when monotropic focus is repeatedly fractured, directly relevant to why pulling a PDA child away from a special interest contributes to cumulative activation and burnoutMe and Monotropism: A Unified Theory of Autism — Deeper academic context for the monotropism framework I reference when explaining the fourth S

Attachment is a survival imprint that lives in the body, encoded before you had language. In this episode, Dr. Aimie Apigian walks through the 6 hidden attachment pains, the adult symptoms each one creates, and why inner work alone cannot reach where the pattern lives. ➡️ Full show notes: https://www.biologyoftrauma.com/post/episode-177-6-attachment-wounds-chronic-symptoms In This Episode You'll Learn:  02:54 — How did Dr. Aimie's adopted son become her wake-up call to attachment biology? 10:12 — How does attachment loss connect to chronic fatigue and autoimmunity? 12:27 — Why doesn't awareness or inner work change attachment patterns? 15:24 — What is autoimmunity at the level of attachment biology? 25:06 — What is Hold Me attachment pain and how does it form? 31:36 — How does Hold Me pain become IBS, autoimmunity, and fibromyalgia? 40:11 — What is Support Me attachment pain and how does it shape the brainstem? 46:58 — What is See Me attachment pain and how does it shape self-worth? 47:47 — What is Understand Me attachment pain and which chronic conditions does it create? 50:20 — What is Love Me attachment pain and how does it shape adult relationships? Resources/Guides: Attachment Pain Guide — A complete map of all 6 attachment pains, the adult symptoms linked to each, and entry points for repair.  ➡️ Full show notes with links and resources: https://www.biologyoftrauma.com/post/episode-177-6-attachment-wounds-chronic-symptoms

Ever swing between anxious and avoidant with the same person, reaching for them one minute and running the next? That's not you being broken or "too much." In week three of the Breakups by Attachment Style series, Sabrina breaks down disorganized attachment (also called fearful avoidant attachment): the push-pull, hot-and-cold, on-again-off-again pattern that makes you feel like you're losing your mind. Learn what's actually happening in your nervous system, why your relationships keep taking this shape, and why no attachment style ever excuses how someone treats you. Inside: the research on fearful avoidant attachment in adulthood, a real story of dating someone disorganized, and what the path to earned security actually looks like (slower than 90 days, and worth every bit of it). Plus the Tool of the Week, a simple somatic state check-in to start tracking your nervous system today. If you've never fit neatly into anxious or avoidant, this one on attachment theory, nervous system regulation, and breaking the cycle is for you, baby. Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠ Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book If you're ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠HERE!⁠ If you're serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠ Get Ad free ⁠HERE!⁠  Watch on Spotify. Spotify subscribers get fewer ads on my video. Want to work with Sabrina? ⁠HERE!⁠  Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show ⁠HERE!⁠  Don't forget to follow ⁠Sabrina⁠ and ⁠The Sabrina Zohar Show⁠ on Instagram and ⁠Sabrina ⁠on TikTok! Video now available on ⁠YOUTUBE!⁠ Please support our sponsors! Aura has a great deal for Father's Day, an exclusive $35-off Carver Mat at https://on.auraframes.com/SABRINA. Promo Code SABRINA Get 40% off select Lola Blankets products at Lolablankets.com by using code SABRINA at checkout. Experience the world's #1 blanket with Lola Blankets This episode is sponsored by Betterhelp. Get 10% off your first month of Betterhelp at betterhelp.com/sabrina Right now, Rythm is offering our listeners 15% off your first month and free shipping at RythmHealth.com/SABRINA ============================= Chapters: 00:00 Anxious and Avoidant at the Same Time 03:48 What Disorganized Attachment Is 06:36 Why You Can't Predict the Pattern 09:43 On Again Off Again Relationships 13:35 Hot and Cold Relationship Story 18:00 Why You Keep Going Back 21:00 How the Push Pull Cycle Works 25:03 What Causes Disorganized Attachment 28:55 How to Heal Fearful Avoidant 31:26 Somatic Practice to Self Regulate Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It's crushing when your avoidant partner disappears. But why are they doing it...and what can you do. On of the most disruptive things happening in avoidant- anxious relationships is when the avoidant partner suddenly disappears without an explanation. We want to understand their motives, explain how this hurts us, try harder but perhaps if we understand why they tend to do this we can rest at ease - or make some hard decisions that will benefit us. This podcast is meant to guide you if you're going through this or if you've gone through this. For my book - From Anxious to Secure - https://stan.store/DecodingAttachmentStyles/p/from-anxious-to-secureFor my mini online program - Boundary Bootcamp - https://stan.store/DecodingAttachmentStyles/p/boundary-bootcampTo book a session with me - https://stan.store/DecodingAttachmentStyles/p/book-a-session-with-me-ui52g6pvTo Subscribe to School of Attachment - https://stan.store/DecodingAttachmentStyles/p/weekly-coaching-tools--strategiesDisclaimer: I am a certified coach with a psychology background, not a licensed therapist. The content I share is for educational and informational purposes and is based on Attachment Theory principles. I am currently funding and researching a personal project on attachment behaviors and feelings with 175 individuals. This page is not a substitute for professional therapy, diagnosis, or treatment. Please use discernment and consult a qualified mental health professional for personal advice.I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

Are you giving someone all the benefits of a relationship while they still refuse to commit?In this episode, I explain why overgiving to an avoidant or emotionally unavailable person can keep you stuck in a situationship instead of moving toward a real relationship.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookInstagram#situationship #avoidant #avoidantattachment #situationships

What can a steamy hockey romance teach us about attachment styles, situationships, and emotional vulnerability? This week, Matchmaker Maria is joined by her sister and fellow matchmaker, Chrisoula Mavrianos, to break down the hit series Heated Rivalry through the lens of dating psychology. They unpack why Shane and Ilya's 7 year push-pull dynamic feels so familiar, explore fearful avoidant vs. dismissive avoidant attachment styles, and compare the show's emotional tension to Normal People, Bridgerton, and classic Jane Austen romances. Plus, they dive into the art of yearning, why women LOVE slow-burn love stories, and reveal which character they'd actually choose for a healthy relationship.   ♥️JOIN MARIA'S COMMUNITY + SUBMIT A QUESTION ❓ Ready to date with intention?

I sit down with Dr. Jennifer Huffman, a board-certified pediatric neuropsychologist, PDA woman with lived experience, and creator of the Neurodynamic Navigator System and the Neurodynamic Quotient. After twenty-five years working with children whose profiles were called often called ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder), she developed a framework to make the dynamic, fluctuating nature of the PDA brain visible and usable for parents, teachers, and clinicians.We talk about her childhood as an undiagnosed PDA autistic person, why ODD as a diagnosis isn't helpful, how she assesses children who cannot come into an office, and the app she is building to help families. After all that great insight, just her closing message for parents of PDA kids in burnout makes this episode worth a listen.Key TakeawaysGrowing Up as an Undiagnosed PDA Autistic Neuropsychologist | 00:02:48 Dr. Huffman describes a childhood marked by academic failure in math from third grade, severe bullying that led her parents to drive her thirty minutes each way to attend school in a different town, and the recurring experience of being told she was not living up to her potential. She names the specific mechanism she now recognizes in herself: she cannot process on demand. If someone tells her to do something, or if it feels redundant, her brain shuts off. This is not willfulness. It is the same mechanism she has spent twenty-five years helping children and families understand. She describes finding neuropsychology in her third year of undergraduate study as a light bulb moment, not because she wanted a career but because she was trying to figure out her own brain.The ODD Buster: Why Oppositional Defiant Disorder Is So Often the Wrong Label | 00:12:39 Dr. Huffman describes spending twenty-five years working with the complex cases other clinicians could not crack, children who had been given ODD diagnoses and whom nobody wanted to work with. She calls herself the ODD buster and states directly that in her clinical experience, she has rarely seen a child who actually had ODD. What she consistently found underneath that label was high empathy, anxiety, sensory differences, social communication differences, and learning differences, often in combination. She names ODD as an example of a DSM category built by non-neurodivergent clinicians describing externalized behavior without curiosity about what is underneath it.How She Assesses Children Who Cannot Come Into an Office | 00:17:38 Dr. Huffman explains that when a child is in burnout and cannot access evaluation, the work does not begin with the child. It begins with the parent: helping them advocate with the school, coordinating with medical providers who may not understand why the child cannot leave the house, and slowly building a relationship with the child themselves. She describes spending six months to a year playing Minecraft with a child before any formal assessment data is collected, and names this as genuinely valuable clinical time. She also holds PSYPACT certification, which allows her to work with families across most of the United States without the family ever entering her office.The Neurodynamic Quotient: Making the Dynamic Nature of the PDA Brain Visible | 00:36:57 Dr. Huffman introduces the Neurodynamic Quotient, her framework for understanding why PDA children can do something one day and appear to lose the skill the next. The formula combines dynamic safety, which includes felt safety, connection, information, and autonomy, with dynamic capacity, which includes the battery, sensory load, and executive functioning scaffolding, plus motivation. She explains why autonomy functions as a multiplier: if it reaches zero, the entire product is zero regardless of how much skill or capability is present. She also names motivation as the variable parents and teachers most often misuse, pushing past natural capacity because the child demonstrated what they were capable of once.Do Not Get in Front of Your Child | 00:55:03 Dr. Huffman closes with a message for parents whose children are in burnout. She names never assuming the child is not capable as the most important thing a parent can hold onto, and shares her own story as evidence: her parents could not have predicted she would become a neuropsychologist. She uses the phrase "do not get in front of your child" to mean: if they have something they want to do, let them fly. The child who is in their room with the lights off on Minecraft is telling you what they need. Meeting that need and staying regulated yourself is what moves them through burnout faster than fighting against it.Relevant ResourcesUnderstanding PDA — Free class with context on the nervous system disability framework and the dynamic, cumulative nature of activation Dr. Huffman builds on throughout this conversationBurnout — Free class with context for the red zone experience Dr. Huffman describes and the burnout recovery process for both children and parentsParadigm Shift Program — Our signature program where parenting for autonomy, safety, and connection is taught in fullUnlocking the PDA Brain by Dr. Jennifer Huffman — Dr. Huffman's book introducing the Neurodynamic Navigator System, written as a manual for understanding and supporting the PDA brainThe Able Center — Dr. Huffman's private neuropsychology practice in IllinoisThe Baby Fold — The Illinois nonprofit where Dr. Huffman serves as Vice President of Clinical Operations, specializing in trauma and higher support needs neurodivergent childrenBeyond Behaviors by Mona Delahooke — Mentioned by Dr. Huffman for understanding what is happening beneath the behavior in neurodivergent childrenDr. Huffman is also a board member of PDA North America.

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Subscribe to my YouTube channelIs it possible to become anxiously attached as a result of dating someone with avoidant patterns? That's the listener question I'm answering in today's Ask Steph episode. We'll talk about how our patterns can arise in response to someone else's, while also acknowledging fundamental differences in how people with secure vs. insecure attachment styles tend to respond to dysfunctional behaviour.LinksFree training for anxious attachment Follow me on InstagramTake my attachment styles quiz

Do you want your avoidant to be afraid to lose you, chase you and put in the effort they used to avoid giving?In this episode I explain the psychological shift that makes avoidants stop pulling away and start leaning back in instead.Get coachingDownload Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookInstagram#avoidantattachment #makeavoidantobsessed #getexback#getavoidantback #exback

Start Healing Core Wounds with Our Reparent Your Inner Child Course, Free with a 7-Day Trial to the Personal Development School https://offer.personaldevelopmentschool.com/reparenting-your-inner-child?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=reparenting-your-inner-child&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-05-20-26&el=podcast Have you ever felt like you're doing everything to heal… reading the books, going to therapy, doing the work and still feel stuck? You're not alone. And more importantly… you're not broken. We're living in one of the most emotionally overwhelming times in history and your Attachment Style may be getting triggered in ways that make healing feel harder than ever. Episode Summary In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down exactly why healing feels harder than ever and how this shows up differently depending on your Attachment Style. You'll learn how the modern world (social media, constant comparison, emotional overwhelm, and disconnection) amplifies your core attachment wounds, whether you're Anxious Avoidant, Dismissive Avoidant, Fearful Avoidant, or Securely Attached. Thais walks through each Attachment Style and explains the specific challenges you may be facing in your healing journey and what you can do to start moving forward in a more grounded, empowered way. Key Takeaways ✔️ You're not failing at healing; you're healing in an overwhelming world. ✔️ Your Attachment Style may be getting triggered daily without you realizing it. ✔️ Anxious Attachment feels amplified by comparison, rejection, and fear of abandonment. ✔️ Avoidant patterns can hide behind independence, numbing, and emotional disconnection. ✔️ Fearful Avoidants may feel constant inner chaos mirrored by the outside world. ✔️ Secure Attachment isn't perfection, it's learning to regulate, reflect, and repair. Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

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