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Dr. Rick Hanson is a psychologist, senior fellow of UC Berkeley's Greater Good Science Center, and bestselling author known for bridging neuroscience, mindfulness, and positive psychology. His work focuses on how the brain can be trained for greater resilience, happiness, and inner strength. Through books such as Hardwiring Happiness and Resilient, Dr. Hanson shares practical, science-based tools to cultivate well-being and reduce stress. He is also a popular speaker and teacher, offering workshops and online programs that integrate psychology, meditation, and neuroscience for personal growth.In our conversation we discuss:(00:00) – Misunderstandings about relationships(04:00) – Love as a practice and skill(08:00) – Brain science and romance(12:00) – Following emotions versus awareness(16:00) – The value of mindfulness(20:00) – Acknowledging feelings and avoidance(24:00) – Negative rumination and brain circuits(28:00) – Exploring what lies beneath rumination(32:00) – Healing after heartbreak(36:00) – Building confidence and self-worth(40:00) – Imposter syndrome and motivation(44:00) – Letting go of inherited beliefs(48:00) – Practical steps for self-respect(52:00) – Choosing the right partner(56:00) – Signs of emotional availability(1:00:00) – Avoidant attachment and relationships(1:04:00) – Moving on from unavailable partners(1:08:00) – Closing thoughts and resourcesLearn more about Dr. Rick HansonBooks:Making Great RelationshipsResilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength, and HappinessWebsites:rickhanson.com — free resources, videos, and coursesglobalcompassioncoalition.org — initiative he promotes near the endWatch full episodes on: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@seankim⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Connect on IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://instagram.com/heyseankim

In this episode, I open up about how I subconsciously molded myself to attract avoidant partners and how that pattern was rooted in my earliest experiences of love. I share how I learned to appear “cool,” independent, and unattached in order to feel wanted, and why that left me feeling disconnected and unfulfilled in relationships.If you've ever found yourself downplaying your needs, pretending to be more “chill” than you are, or attracting people who can't meet your emotional depth, this episode will help you reflect on those hidden patterns. My hope is that it gives you insight into your own subconscious motivations, clarity about how you've been showing up in love, and encouragement to realign with your authentic, secure self.* Learn about 1:1 Attachment Coaching with Jessica here.

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Spin to Win is Back! Spin Now to Win Handpicked Prizes By Thais Herself—Including $250 Courses, Free Trials & More to Start Healing Your Attachment Style. Promo Ends Soon! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/spin-the-wheel?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=spin-to-win&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=yt-08-11-25&el=podcast Have you ever dated a dismissive avoidant who seemed amazing at first—only to slowly pull away around the 6-month mark? You're not imagining it. In this episode, Thais Gibson reveals the hidden avoidant timeline—why avoidants often show their “best self” early on, but gradually reveal deeper fears, wounds, and patterns as attachment builds. You'll learn the 6 stages of relationships, why avoidants change gears between month 6 and 12, and the specific fears that surface once emotional bonds deepen. Thais also shares practical communication tips to help you navigate the power struggle stage and strengthen your connection instead of losing it. You'll learn: ✅ The 6 stages of every relationship—and where most couples break up ✅ Why avoidants seem warm and connected early, then start to pull away ✅ How “feelings minus fears” explains their shift after real attachment forms ✅ The specific fears that trigger avoidant distancing behaviors ✅ How flaw-finding becomes a subconscious self-protection strategy ✅ Communication techniques to resolve conflict without pushing them further away ✅ How to frame needs positively so avoidants feel safe enough to meet them Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Send us a textThis episode shares the time line in which the avoidant show interested  in the rebound, starts to withdraws and goes back to their ex. The episode talks about why Avoidant Attached jumps into soon after a break up, what their intentions are when returning to and what you can do to prevent yourself from becoming rebound.Support the show

Avoidant vs. anxious attachment explainedWhy self-love is essential before partnershipHow to preserve your peace—mentally, energetically, emotionallyIf you've experienced emotional whiplash, gaslighting, or toxic cycles, this episode will provide clarity, validation, and a roadmap for healing. Whether single, dating, or partnered, learn how to set boundaries and choose from a place of strength.

Avoidant vs. anxious attachment explainedWhy self-love is essential before partnershipHow to preserve your peace—mentally, energetically, emotionallyIf you've experienced emotional whiplash, gaslighting, or toxic cycles, this episode will provide clarity, validation, and a roadmap for healing. Whether single, dating, or partnered, learn how to set boundaries and choose from a place of strength.

You thought I didn't care. The truth is, I cared so much it scared me.”In this intimate, hour-long monologue, MCM steps into the mind of the avoidant — the partner who pulls away, stays silent, and leaves questions unanswered. This is not an apology, not a plea, and not a rebuttal. It's a rare, unflinching look at what the avoidant carries, what they fear, and what they can't always say out loud.Whether you've been left by an avoidant, loved one, or lived with distance in your relationships, this is a letter you won't forget.

Everyone's suddenly an expert on attachment styles. Anxious, avoidant, disorganized—it's all over your feed, and maybe even your therapist's office. But here's the truth: if you're trying to use attachment theory to decode every date and relationship, it's keeping you stuck. In this episode, Hilary is  breaking down why obsessing over your (and his) attachment style is doing more harm than good, and what actually matters when you're looking for real love. If you're a smart, self-aware woman who's done the work but still isn't seeing results in your love life, this might be why. Because knowing better doesn't automatically mean doing better. And the answer isn't more information—it's radical self-trust, embodied confidence, and knowing how to assess how a relationship feels instead of overthinking why someone acts the way they do.   Episode Highlights: Why therapy, books, and expert advice often lead to “knowing better but not doing better” The trap of over-intellectualizing your love life What to look for in a relationship that actually matters How long-term love evolves, and why labels won't help you grow it   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why Attachment Styles Are Keeping You Single 02:21 Information Doesn't Equal Transformation 04:46 The Problem with Overthinking and Intellectualizing Love 06:06 The Danger of Labeling Your Partner (or Yourself) 08:02 What a Healthy Relationship Actually Looks Like 09:16 Stop Fixating on Him, Focus on You   If you're ready to stop psychoanalyzing every text and start showing up as the woman who knows what she wants and how to get it—this episode is for you.

I dive deep into the silent treatment often used by avoidant partners—and what it really means. I share why this behavior isn't always intentional, how it impacts you emotionally, and what practical steps you can take to respond in a grounded, respectful way. As someone who used to be avoidant myself, I get the struggle from both sides. If you're trying to navigate this dynamic in a relationship, this episode will give you clarity and tools to build healthier communication.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 Understanding the Silent Treatment01:28 Why Avoidants Pull Away03:09 Core Beliefs of the Avoidant Mindset05:22 Nervous System Triggers and Silence08:23 The Emotional Impact on You10:35 Step 1: Ground Yourself11:50 Step 2: Communicate Assertively13:30 Step 3: Reinforce Choice and Set Agreements17:45 Invitation Over Demand: The Path Forward***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Send us a textThis is what we are talking about today-Why avoidants rush into reboundsThe negative consequences of rebound relationshipsWhether avoidants come back to their exWhat their (often anxious) partners should doHealthier alternatives for avoidantsHow secure individuals handle breakups and reboundsDon't forget to leave a review so others can know how this episode may help them too. Thanks in advance. Support the show

Are you exhausted from forcing everything to happen? From pushing through goals that leave you feeling empty once you reach them? Most avoidants live like they're perpetually on fire—reacting, controlling, forcing outcomes because "easy" feels dangerous. But here's the thing: all that forcing keeps you from the very flow state that would actually get you where you want to go. In this episode, Tracy explores: * Why ease feels dangerous when you're avoidant * The difference between forcing and allowing * How perfectionism keeps you stuck in empty cycles * Sitting with discomfort instead of reacting * Recognizing when you're escaping versus flowing "When you're forcing, you're coming from a state of lack. You can't force a healthy relationship. You can't force anything meaningful. But we keep trying because we're afraid to let go of the false building we've created that everyone can admire." ~ Tracy Crossley

Welcome back! In this episode we will be continuing our conversation with Manveer, a British punjabi girl who is pharmacist by day but an upcoming chef/ food content creator by evening who is also one of my best friends. In this episode we will continue to reflect back on our 20's but this time around focusing on dating, relationships, friendships, mental health and our honest feelings about turning 30. Listen to Part 1:EP46: Reflections on our 20s: What we'd tell our younger selves? with Manveer | South Asian, Careers, Bhangra Timestamps: (00:00) intro(01:37) our mental health in our 20s (06:11) attaching self-worth to achievements(09:09) will our 30s be like our late 20s?(10:11) how have our friendships changed over our 20s?(12:47) high value, low commitment friendships (16:05) dating in our 20s (23:55) attachment styles(25:55) uncomfortable conversations in relationships  (29:24) advice on thriving in your 20s (32:42) our honest thoughts on turning 30(37:58) outro————————————————————MANVEER:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beghalbites/ ————————————————————ATTACHMENT STYLES:Do the test: https://www.attachmentproject.com/attachment-style-quiz/ Book: Attached: Are you Anxious, Avoidant or Secure? How the science of adult attachment can help you find – and keep – love ————————————————————ABOUT IT'S PREETI PERSONAL:  This podcast is all about sharing South Asian stories and having everyday conversations but from the lens of being a brown girl so expect girl talk episodes covering topics like love, career, mental health, finances, friendships, female health and living life in our 20's and 30's. ————————————————————SOCIAL MEDIA:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/preetipersonal/YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@itspreetipersonal⁠TikTok: https://vm.tiktok.com/ZSvmbM63/Email: itspreetipersonal@gmail.comDon't forget to subscribe and follow @itspreetipersonal on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music or the place you listen to podcasts.

In this follow-up to last week's episode on navigating conflict through the lens of the Enneagram, Jilann shares a simple, body-based grounding exercise you can use before any big conversation. Whether you tend to avoid conflict, feel emotionally overwhelmed, or just want to enter a conversation with more presence and intention, this 2-minute practice is designed to help you regulate your nervous system and stay connected.You'll learn:A quick grounding practice for calming your body before conflict or emotionally charged discussionsHow quiet leaders can show up with strength and steadinessWhy nervous system regulation is key to effective communication and emotional resilienceHow the Enneagram can help identify your natural conflict styleAre you a quiet leader who's ready to step into your influence without changing who you are? My Strength in Stillness personalized leadership guide is designed just for you. Check out my website HERE for more information!

In this episode of More Than Roommates, the MTR team interviews Gabe and Rebekah Lyons about their new book, The Fight For Us. The Lyons share vulnerably about their journey through conflict, emotional intimacy, and the realities of mental health in marriage. They unpack practical tools from their new book The Fight for Us, including how to support your spouse, move from isolation to connection, and keep fighting for each other when life gets hard.Scriptures:John 16:331 Peter 3:7 Questions to Discuss:1. What is one way we can “fight for us” instead of fighting against each other this week?2. Take Gabe & Rebekah's Marriage Quiz. What's your default response in the “dysfunctional dance”? (Silent, Intense, Avoidant, Anxious). How does that affect your marriage?3. In what ways can I better support you during seasons of anxiety, stress, or discouragement?4. What are some of your strengths I can celebrate more often?Resources:Book – The Fight For Us: Overcome What Divides to Build a Marriage That Thrives, Rebekah & Gabe LyonsLearn more about Gabe Lyons & Rebekah LyonsTHINQMedia.com & THINQ Summit 2025Free Marriage Quiz - What's Your Dance?Gabe & Rebekah's Marriage & Parenting RetreatThe Fight For Us Podcast Series (14 episode series) Apple & Spotify

In this milestone 100th episode, Kat invites her fiancé Tyler to the podcast for a deeply personal conversation about building a conscious, emotionally safe, and evolving relationship. They open up about doing inner work individually and as a couple, the challenges and beauty of vulnerability, and what it really takes to grow together long-term.We talk about everything from the importance of asking better questions internally and in relationships to how conscious communication leads to emotional safety. In this conversation we really see the power of doing "the work" and how it transforms relationships 00:00 Introduction 3:16 How Kat and Tyler's story began 9:49 The nervous systems role 14:34 Avoidant and anxious attachment 33:20 How to not lose yourself in a relationship 46:04 Kat and Tyler share their thoughts around being parents 51:29 Being in a relationship with someone who's doing "the work" Connect with Kat:

Explore Your Attachment Style With Thais Gibson. Access All Courses, Live Webinars & Q&As Free for 7 Days (Enough Time to Complete a Full Course). Limited-time Access: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-07-23-25&el=podcast Avoidant partners often get misunderstood—seen as cold, distant, or commitment-phobic. But underneath those protective walls are unique needs and a deep desire to connect… on their terms. If you want to love an avoidant without losing yourself, this episode is for you. In this insightful episode, Thais Gibson shares five often-overlooked emotional needs that dismissive avoidants require to feel safe, open, and genuinely happy in love. Whether you're dating an avoidant or healing avoidant tendencies within yourself, you'll walk away with empowering tools to build connection without sacrificing your own needs. You'll learn: ✅ Why avoidants need structured independence—not endless space ✅ The role of empathy in healing childhood emotional neglect ✅ How harmony (not drama) keeps avoidants emotionally engaged ✅ Why literal, direct communication builds safety and trust ✅ How to foster growth through acceptance (without enabling unhealthy patterns) ✅ Simple scripts to express your needs and avoid triggering deactivation ✅ The secret to balancing freedom and closeness in real, secure love Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

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 Love me, but from over there - The Avoidant attachment style  I want to send out a hopeful message to everyone listening – you have secure attachment in your system biologically. It's in your system and your system wants to be connected, that's what it's wired for. It's that throughout development stuff get's dumped on your system, which interrupts this. Wounds, attachment injuries, trauma disconnects us and our system wants us to return to security. People use different language for attachment style which can be confusing so, were going to refer to the avoidant attachment style today – can also be referred to as the dismissive avoidant, insecure, fearful avoidant etc.How it develops The avoidant attachment develops through absenteeism – it's a message of “nobodies there”. Think of a vacant, dissociated parent – a child might be trying to find their parents eyes staring at them and there's nobody home! Which is scary for infants who are 100% dependant on their parents! I also want to add that sometimes it's not just the parenting of the child – sometimes it's a medical procedure or an illness, maybe there was birth trauma or the parent is unwell – different factors can come in here. Any parents listening please take the burden to be perfect off your shoulders, we only need 30% attunement for secure attachment and it is a very forgiving system. Another way it can show up is when only left-brain activities are responded to – so whenever there is a learning of a skill, or an achievement in some way they were there, but whenever it was emotional or there was a need for comforting, they weren't available enough. So, what this means is there sense of self is largely felt as isolated and they tend to regulate through dissociative mechanisms like zoning out to Netflix because they have a knee – jerk reaction to withdraw and a stress on connection. If you're an avoidant you need time to surface to connection – it's like you've been deep deep diving in the ocean and if you come up too quick you get the bends, so when I'm working with couples sometimes I'll ask how much time they need to re-surface or what helps them come up slowly, because it's hard to go from deep deep isolation to connection. Avoidance is a deep withdrawal that has helped them survive – it doesn't mean they want to be alone. And often when an avoidant starts to connect to the longing of connection, it's incredibly painful, that's also our secure attachment surfacing! How to move towards security?Experiment with low-risk situations of connectYou can find more of us here: Our Online Psychology practice: Did you know we have online appointments available with our amazing therapists Lisa or Maddie. Learn more here https://thepsychcollaborative.com.au The Thriving Therapists: To connect with a safe and supportive community of like-minded therapists, head to our Thriving Therapists Facebook group: https://m.facebook.com/groups/224252457083630/?ref=share&mibextid=S66gvFOr find us on our Instagram: https://instagram.com/thethrivingtherapists?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA==The Psychology Sisters Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/thepsychologysisters/?hl=enThe Psych Collaborative instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/thepsychcollaborative/?hl=enPlease note: this episode is for informational purposes only and does not replace personalised psychological advice.

If you're feeling alone because your husband is emotionally distant, this show is for you. Heidi begged for connection from her avoidant husband but he seemed more distant than ever. She felt broken. Then she learned a few new skills and got a completely different response. Now her husband is affectionate, close and she feels so connected to him. Discover the specific approach that transformed her avoidant husband into the affectionate man she knew he could be. Download the FREE Adored Wife Roadmap now and start transforming your relationship today! Click here: https://lauradoyle.co/4lWvKUf

In today's episode, we're exploring what avoidant attached people actually need to feel safe and secure in a relationship — and how partners can support that without self-abandoning.Avoidant attachment is often misunderstood — labelled as cold, distant, or commitment-phobic. But when we look beneath those surface-level behaviours, what we often find is a deep need for space, safety, and self-reliance.We'll cover:Why space needs to be respected, not punishedThe importance of having a partner who can self-regulate rather than emotionally offloadHow clear, direct, and honest communication builds safetyThe value of each partner having a full, meaningful life outside the relationshipWhy pacing matters — and how moving too fast can trigger shutdownBalancing lightness and heaviness Whether you're avoidant yourself or in a relationship with someone who is, this episode will help you better understand the conditions that allow these relationships to thrive.Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list

If you freeze when clients talk about weight... this episode is your guide. Learn how to hold powerful, non-diet conversations that actually support healing—not harm.Here's what you'll learn:How to stop avoiding weight conversations in coachingWhy over-intellectualizing can shut down your clientThe exact questions that uncover what's really driving weight concernsHow to shift from fixing bodies to transforming beliefsMentioned in the show:Non-Diet Coaching Certification WaitlistNon-Diet Coaching Client Assessment ToolWeight-Neutral Coaching TrainingWork With Me

What does it take for an Avoidant Man to finally feel safe enough to stay in love?  In this episode, Kimmi returns to share his journey from emotional shutdown to engagement. Once known as “Kimmi the Avoidant,” he opens up about what helped him finally connect, feel secure, and build lasting love.  Topics Covered: 

Send us a textOur ongoing exploration of attachment styles focuses on avoidant attachment, examining how it develops when caregivers consistently fail to respond to children's needs. We unpack why this attachment style, which often makes children appear self-sufficient and well-behaved, actually undermines their emotional development and capacity for meaningful relationships.• Avoidant attachment develops when caregivers are consistently unavailable or unresponsive to a child's needs• The first three years of life are critical for attachment formation, with early experiences setting patterns for future relationships• Children with avoidant attachment often appear independent and "easy" on the surface, making this attachment style easy to miss• Even though these children don't outwardly show distress, their bodies experience the same stress response as children who openly express needs• Technology may exacerbate avoidant attachment patterns by providing false substitutes for genuine connection• Healing approaches include consistent, responsive caregiving, intentional time together, and recognizing that overwhelming a child with affection may backfire• Simple strategies like scheduled meals together, protected playtime, and modeling healthy boundaries with technology can help children develop more secure attachmentContact:podcasts@calfarley.org To Donate: https://secure.calfarley.org/site/Donation2?3358.donation=form1&df_id=3358&mfc_pref=TTo Apply:https://apply.workable.com/cal-farleys-boys-ranch/j/25E1226091/For More Information about Cal Farley's Boys Ranch:https://www.calfarley.org/Music:"Shine" -NewsboysCCS License No. 9402

Avoidant men aren't emotionally distant by choice. Their detachment is often a survival response wired deep into the brain. In this episode, Adam breaks down how avoidant men develop this style of relating, why avoidant men often carry it into adulthood, and most importantly how to help avoidant men heal for good. Topics covered:

this episode, we sat down with Adam Lane Smith to discuss attachment theory. Adam shares how to identify your attachment style, how to foster a secure attachment with your own children, and how to apply those learnings to all of your relationships. TakeawaysAttachment theory focuses on the formation of healthy, loving, and collaborative relationships.There are three main attachment styles: secure, avoidant, and anxious.Attachment issues can be formed in childhood due to various factors, such as lack of bonding with parents or traumatic experiences.Birth experiences may impact attachment formation, but it is possible to improve attachment styles through explicit love and nurturing.Bonding hormones, such as oxytocin, GABA, vasopressin, and serotonin, play a crucial role in attachment and can be influenced by positive experiences.Collaboration and asking questions are essential tools for parents to create secure attachment with their children.Divorce can have a significant impact on attachment styles, and it is crucial to provide context and foster oxytocin bonding with adopted children.Couples with different attachment styles can improve their relationship by being explicit about their needs, fostering collaboration, and building a marriage agreement.The breakdown of the family structure over the past century has led to challenges in attachment and relationship dynamics.Providing a safe and nurturing environment is key to developing secure attachment in both parent-child and couple relationships. Solving problems together in a relationship opens up oxytocin receptors and fosters intimacy and connection.Avoidant attachment style is characterized by a wall up, lack of trust, and an emphasis on survival. Anxious attachment style is characterized by a fear of abandonment and a focus on pleasing others.Enmeshment is a form of insecure attachment where boundaries are poor and caretaking becomes the responsibility of the child.Secure attachment involves open and explicit communication, clear boundaries, and a focus on generosity and adjusting for reality.Attachment styles can vary in different relationships and situations, but fostering secure attachment at home is crucial for healthy relationships outside the home.Nature and genetics may play a role in attachment, but it is the parent's job to nurture and guide their child towards secure attachment.Building a self-correcting family system where open communication and resolution of issues is encouraged is more important than striving for perfection as a parent.Find Adam Lane Smith HERE. Find Adam Lane Smith on Instagram HERE. Find Adam Lane Smith on YouTube HERE.Find Homegrown on Instagram HERE. Find Liz Haselmayer on Instagram HERE. Find Joey Haselmayer on Instagram HERE.Shop real food meal plans and children's curriculum HERE.Get  exclusive podcast episodes HERE.Find us on YouTube HERE.Shop natural home goods on Haselmayer Goods HERE.

Big Emotions as the Map: Guiding Your Child's Lifelong Coping Skills Because....What You Do in Your Child's 'Big Emotional Moments' Changes Everything "If you're struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It's called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!In this episode of the Toddler Toolkit Podcast, we dive into why your toddler's big emotions matter and how to respond effectively. The discussion covers why these emotions are developmentally appropriate, the impact of dismissing feelings, and practical strategies like co-regulation. Learn how to support your child's emotional growth and build healthy relationships by showing up with curiosity and connection. Don't forget to check out the guide to the seven toddler struggles and how to solve them quickly in the show notes.00:00 Introduction to Toddler Toolkit Podcast00:57 Why Big Emotions Matter02:27 Understanding Toddler Development05:14 Big Feelings Are Not Bad Behavior10:45 Consequences of Shutting Down Emotions14:50 Avoidant and Anxious Coping Strategies22:09 Lifelong Impact of Dismissing Feelings23:05 Co-Regulation Over Correction25:31 Encouragement for Parents29:10 Conclusion and Personal Reflections------------------------------------------------------Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.Grab the  The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them FastCheck out the Transform Tantrums: A Listening Toddler In 7 Days mini-course!Join the Toddler Mom CommunityFollow me on Instagram @heatherschalkparentingWatch the YouTube channelCheck out the blog

Attachment theory and how to avoid the mistakes everyone makes when they learn about it. It's probably your attachment style. Think of it as the relational software installed in your brain during your first 18 months. This episode is a crash course in understanding your programming and avoiding common mistakes. We break down the four main styles: Secure, Anxious, Avoidant, and Disorganized. We explore the classic Anxious-Avoidant trap, where one person chases and the other retreats, creating a cycle of frustration. More importantly, we debunk the myth that these styles are a life sentence. You'll get a practical, no-fluff guide to understanding your patterns and, crucially, how to start changing them for the better. Spot the Red Flags: Learn to recognize an avoidant partner's mixed messages so you can bypass the drama. Get Your Crazy Out: Why being direct about your needs (especially if you're anxious) is the best dating strategy. Ditch the Ghost: For avoidants, learn why idolizing a fantasy ex is sabotaging your chance at real happiness. Listen now to finally make your love life make sense. ---- Advertisers BetterHelp The world's largest online therapy provider BetterHelp.com/GrowthMindset - 10% off 1st month Liquid I.V. Sugar-free hydration for any occasion Liquid-IV.com - 20% off with code GROWTH ---- NEW SHOW - How to Change the World Sam's new show can be found on major podcast players: Spotify - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/1Fj3eFjEoAEKF5lWQxPJyT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Apple - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-change-the-world-the-history-of-innovation/id1815282649⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@HowToChangeTheWorldPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Can't find it on your player? RSS feed - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/682b3b86696b5d1232d698a8⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ---- UPGRADE to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Premium⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:

In this episode, Andrey shares how he went from emotionally avoidant to fully committed in marriage. He breaks down the exact values, mindset shifts, and moments that made him stay.  Adam and Andrey explore how real love forms not through perfection, but through shared vision and integrity. This is a blueprint for building lasting connection with an avoidant man. Topics Covered:

Is your child a picky eater, or is it something more serious — and how can you tell? Avoidant/restrictive food intake disorder (ARFID) goes far beyond food preferences. It's driven by deep-seated fears of choking, vomiting, or other anxieties that can lead to dangerous nutritional deficiencies. In this episode, Gabe Howard sits down with ADAA member expert Dr. Jacqueline Sperling, a clinical psychologist and Harvard Medical School professor, to break down the signs of ARFID, outline how it differs from typical picky eating, and mention when parents should seek professional help. Learn how to spot the red flags, understand the role of anxiety in food avoidance, and discover ways to support kids managing this lesser known eating disorder. If mealtimes are a battle in your home, this episode is a must-listen! Special thanks to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America for sponsoring this episode.  “They could have different obsessions of what might happen should they eat any of those foods. Some could have a fear that there's contamination. Some can have a fear that it's cooked all the way. Some can have a concern that something separate from the food, but a negative consequence may happen if they eat those foods. It can also happen that someone is worried about having IBS symptoms in public, so they don't want to eat certain foods. And so they limit the foods that they eat, or even when they're at home because they're worried about when they go out in public afterward.” ~Jacqueline Sperling, PhD Our guest, Jacqueline Sperling, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist, assistant professor in psychology at Harvard Medical School, and the co-founder and co-program director of the McLean Anxiety Mastery Program at McLean Hospital. She is the author of the young adult nonfiction book “Find Your Fierce: How to Put Social Anxiety in Its Place” and a contributor for Harvard Health Publishing. Dr. Sperling specializes in implementing cognitive behavioral therapy with exposure and response prevention and working with youth with anxiety disorders and obsessive-compulsive disorder. She also focuses on caregiver guidance, such as by using behavioral parent training, to help families address children's internalizing and externalizing behaviors. In addition, Dr. Sperling is passionate about disseminating evidence-based information to the community, and she frequently speaks about the impact of social media use on mental health. Moreover, Dr. Sperling is committed to increasing access to care and participates in advocacy at state and federal government levels. Our host, Gabe Howard, is an award-winning writer and speaker who lives with bipolar disorder. He is the author of the popular book, "Mental Illness is an Asshole and other Observations," available from Amazon; signed copies are also available directly from the author. Gabe is also the host of the "Inside Bipolar" podcast with Dr. Nicole Washington. Gabe makes his home in the suburbs of Columbus, Ohio. He lives with his supportive wife, Kendall, and a Miniature Schnauzer dog that he never wanted, but now can't imagine life without. To book Gabe for your next event or learn more about him, please visit gabehoward.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Show Notes In this episode, renowned relationship coach Mark Groves gets real about dating, attachment styles, and what it takes to create lasting, conscious love. If you're ready to manifest healthy love, break codependency cycles, and feel seen, this one is a must-listen!  Ahead, learn how past wounds shape who we attract + why being spiritually connected is a superpower in deciding if someone is “your person.” Plus, discover what it truly means to have high standards, strong boundaries, and deep self-love in an era of casual connections. Mark dishes out actionable tips for bossing up in all your relationships, especially the one with yourself. From navigating modern romance to owning your deepest emotional truths, this episode will teach you how to step into your most empowered, magnetic energy in both dating + life. We also talk about: Understanding anxious and avoidant attachment styles in relationships How to trust your intuition while still discerning red flags versus self-sabotage The role of nervous system regulation in love, dating, and breakups Letting go of people-pleasing and reclaiming your authentic truth The spiritual and energetic impacts of casual sex “Nice guy” syndrome, boundaries, and why women crave emotional honesty Healing the father wound and mother wound for deeper connection Social media anxiety, digital burnout, and redefining self-worth outside the algorithm Personal stories of betrayal, forgiveness, and learning to honor your body's wisdom Tips for manifesting aligned partnership and recognizing when it's not your person Resources Website: markgroves.com + createthelove.com Instagram: @createthelove Podcast: The Mark Groves Podcast Substack: Humaning with Mark Groves Youtube: @markgroves Get our book, Almost 30: A Definitive Guide To A Life You Love For The Next Decade and Beyond, here: http://bit.ly/Almost30Book.  Sponsors: fatty15 | Get an additional 15% off their 90-day subscription Starter Kit by going to fatty15.com/ALMOST30 and use code ALMOST30 at checkout.  Our Place | Visit fromourplace.com/ALMOST30 and use code ALMOST30 for 10% off sitewide.  Cymbiotika | Go to Cymbiotika.com/Almost30 for 20% off + free shipping.  Podcast disclaimer can be found by visiting: almost30.com/disclaimer.  Find more to love at almost30.com! Almost 30 is edited by Garett Symes and Isabella Vaccaro.  Learn More: -⁠https://almost30.com/about⁠ -⁠almost30.com/morningmicrodose⁠ -⁠https://almost30.com/book Join our community: -⁠facebook.com/Almost30podcast/groups⁠ -⁠instagram.com/almost30podcast⁠ -⁠tiktok.com/@almost30podcast⁠ -⁠youtube.com/Almost30Podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's our 6-year wedding anniversary (!!) and today I brought my husband Craig on the podcast for the realest conversation about love, growth, and the journey from spiraling to secure. We're answering your juiciest Qs: ✨ What it's really like when anxious meets avoidant ✨ Our proposal story (yes, there was a backup plan involving a dog) ✨ How we almost didn't make it—and what shifted ✨ Craig's honest take on what helped him finally “grow up” emotionally ✨ Plus: our chaotic traits, icks, inside jokes, and a BIG announcement (no, not a baby) Whether you're deep in your healing era or just curious about what it looks like to actually do this work with a partner, this episode is for you. It's honest. It's sweet. It's full of growth and some light roasting (Just the way we like it!) WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

I hear from a lot of men who fall hard for a woman… and then she starts pulling away. Hot one minute, cold the next. Is it an avoidant attachment style—or is she just not that into you?In today's Dear DSO episode, we break down Paul's situation. He's stuck in the push-pull dynamic with a woman who's triggering every anxious bone in his body. I explain why this dynamic is so damn addictive… and what it says about him that he's still holding on.If you've ever felt stuck trying to “figure her out,” this one's for you.

Many people misunderstand their attachment style, overidentify with labels, or confuse trauma responses with personality traits. Today we break down secure and insecure attachment, discuss how anxious and avoidant dynamics form, and look at how emotional abuse and trauma erode self-trust. Many highly sensitive people (HSPs) often internalize critical voices and lose their sense of emotional safety. With radical honesty, self-awareness, boundaries, and emotional maturity, we can rebuild secure attachment—starting with our relationship to ourselves. Workshops & Programs: THE BOUNDARIES INTENSIVE:⁠⁠ https://EmotionalBadass.com/boundaries⁠⁠ Services, Products & Content: WORK WITH NIKKI 1:1 :⁠⁠ https://EmotionalBadass.com/coaching⁠⁠ PATREON: ⁠⁠https://Patreon.com/emotionalbadass⁠⁠ WEEKLY NEWSLETTER:⁠⁠ https://www.EmotionalBadass.com/newsletter⁠⁠ Follow us: YT:⁠⁠ https://www.youtube.com.com/emotionalbadass/⁠⁠ IG:⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/emotional.badass/⁠⁠ FB:⁠⁠ https://www.facebook.com/emotionalbadass⁠⁠ TIKTOK:⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@emotionalbadass Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Avoidant partners often appear cold or indifferent after a breakup. Does that mean they don't care?Dating/relationship expert Lucia breaks down the psychology and regret timeline of avoidant exes.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App: iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets Book

This episode is all about the anxious avoidant dynamic. How we get stuck and how to get unstuck.

Do you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners? Are you dating someone who pulls away just when things get close? When this happens, it's easy to feel lost and wonder if the person you're dating is avoidant or simply not that interested. In this episode, Matthew, Stephen, and Audrey dive deep into the topic of avoidant attachment, exploring how it develops, signs to look for, and what you can do if you're dating someone with avoidant behavior. Topics Covered: The 5 key traits of avoidant partners. Why avoidants and anxious people are magnetically drawn to each other. Whether we overuse the “avoidant” label as a defense mechanism. How early experiences shape attachment patterns. What to do if you're anxiously attached and dating someone avoidant. How to tell the difference between an avoidant and someone who just doesn't want a relationship. How to anticipate the needs of a more independent partner. The importance of not mistaking emotional unavailability for “value.” Links: DatingWithResults.com – Free training for finding love without the chaos of modern dating. JoinLoveLife.com – Become a member and access exclusive live coaching sessions and courses. AskMH.com – Try Matthew AI and get real-time coaching from an AI trained on Matthew's advice. MHRetreat.com – Book your place for the October Miami Retreat (virtual + in-person options available). Cozy Earth – Get 40% off loungewear and bedsheets with code LOVELIFE at CozyEarth.com

This week, I'm joined by my former client David to talk about his transformation from emotionally shutdown and YouTube-binging to expressive, boundary-setting, and boxing-loving. We get real about what it's like to live with a dismissive avoidant attachment style, how it affected his friendships and relationships, and how he slowly built a more secure sense of self—one tiny step (and one tucked-in shirt) at a time. You'll laugh, maybe cry, and definitely relate if you've ever felt like the “quiet, weird one” at the party. David's actually charming AF.Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you're on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

In this quick solo episode, I'm talking about a newsletter I wrote on Substack about reaction types. There are many different ways parents can react when their child becomes dysregulated, pushes against a boundary they have set, or throws a tantrum. Many of these reactions are rooted in the ways we were raised by our parents or the experiences we had as we grew up. Today, I'm going to talk about the three reaction types I encounter most frequently during my coaching with parents and working with families, and I'll also provide a bonus reaction type at the end of the episode.1. Hyper-Reactor or the Punisher The parent who will go from zero to 100 instantly and doesn't have the tools to regulate themselves.They feel discomfort because of their child's reaction to something they don't like. This may be rooted in an association from their own childhood, where they didn't feel safe expressing their own emotions. Sometimes this can feel like the child is being disrespectful to the parent. 2. Panicked ParentThe parent who knows to control their big emotions around their child who is struggling but they are terribly uncomfortable with the situation.This parent over explains the boundary or tries to justify the decision or offer other choices to make the situation better.This isn't perceived as a good thing by the dysregulated child, it just feels like more input and they cannot tolerate it. 3. The AdjustorThe parent who is an overthinker and is second guessing their boundaries all the time.When they go to hold a boundary and their child pushes back against it, they make adjustments to their boundary to avoid or stop dysregulation. This is a band aid approach to parenting because it doesn't teach kids how to tolerate frustration. Bonus Type: Avoidant ParentThe parent who doesn't have a hard time staying calm, but struggles so much to set a boundary, and avoids it at all costs. They are eggshell parenting and have crafted a perfect environment so their kids don't have to experience any sort of hardship. Avoidant parents shut down when their kids become dysregulated.Resources: Substack newsletter - Beyond ‘Good' or ‘Bad': The 3 Parental Reaction Blueprints: https://albiona.substack.com/p/beyond-good-or-bad-the-3-parentalPARR Workshop: https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/parrworkshopBe sure to sign up for my Substack newsletter for longer and more specialized parenting content: https://albiona.substack.com/ I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/Follow me on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@theparentingreframe 

Not all demand avoidant children and teens are PDA. In this episode I talk through how to know if your child fits the profile for PDA, which is important, because it suggests a different root cause for their avoidance than for non-PDA demand avoidant kids. And of course, you want to know what the root cause is so you know how best to support your child or teen.I hope this is helpful to all.xo,Casey

They always come back, don't they? I hate being a statistic, but this week I embarked on a very questionable quest in the middle of an anxiety attack. In today's episode, I unpack my anxious avoidant patterns with a few wild stories. I'll also share some recent massive breakthroughs, such as the power of prioritizing self-satisfaction over external approval, and how to choose peace over performance. Let's talk about why you run, what you're actually chasing, and how to stop judging yourself for just being human. Also, at the end, I'll give you a 15-minute masterclass on flirting with people in the wild. Let's do it!Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/Chapters:00:00 Chasing Intensity Instead of Love (Deconstructing Avoidant Attachment)45:22 How to Flirt: Flirting Masterclass

Anxious? Avoidant? How about transcending ALL of it? PLUS: A quick antidote to Mom ShameSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When an avoidant is truly never coming back, their actions show clear signs of detachment.  Dating/relationship expert Lucia shares 9 signs your avoidant ex is gone for good.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets Book

What really goes on in the mind of an avoidant when you don't chase them after a break up?  Do they start to miss you or do they just move on without looking back?  Dating expert Lucia reveals the truth about how avoidants react to the no contact rule.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets Book

Self-advocacy can feel like a challenge, especially if you're conflict-avoidant, culturally conditioned to prioritize group harmony, or simply unsure how to speak up without fear of being labeled “difficult.” In this episode, we'll explore how to advocate for yourself effectively while balancing cultural expectations, professional norms, and personal boundaries. Neelu Kaur brings her unique expertise to the discussion. With a business degree and a masters in Social & Organizational Psychology along with her experience as a coach and master practitioner certified in NeuroLinguistic Programming, Yoga, and Ayurveda, Neelu has a really unique and comprehensive framework for tackling this topic. You'll learn: How cultural upbringing in collectivist vs. individualist societies influences our ability to speak up. Why advocating for yourself isn't selfish—it's a collective act that paves the way for others. The concept of being “a part of and apart from” group efforts to gain recognition for your contributions. How to shift from problem-framed to outcome-framed questions to open up possibilities. Practical tips for navigating conflict-avoidance and building confidence in difficult conversations. Why modeling self-advocacy as educators is essential for empowering students. How mindfulness, movement, and non-attachment can ground you before challenging situations. Whether you're negotiating for resources, managing peer dynamics, or striving to be heard or advance in a professional space, this episode provides the tools you need to find your voice and advocate for what matters most. Get the shareable article/transcript for this episode here.

In love addiction, we may find ourselves feeling betrayed by a partner-- even if we don't know for sure that something is going on--while doubting our instincts, believing we're too sensitive, and giving an emotionally unavailable partner the benefit of the doubt. This feeling adds to our anxiety, and whatever information a partner is withholding adds to the dysfunction of the relationship...and we stay in the cycle of love addiction hoping things will change. In this episode Jodi talks with betrayal trauma therapist, Lindsay Haverslew, about the reality of betrayal trauma. Jodi and Lindsay share personal experiences with betrayal, and discuss signs that a partner is emotionally unavailable, tips for identifying a trustworthy person, and much more.  Show notes and resources: Music by JD Pendley Link to Jodi's website and additional resources Lindsay's website and instagram Lindsay mentioned the work of Jennifer Freyd and Dr. Kevin Skinner and the book Unleashing Your Power  Disclaimer: This podcast is shared for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for mental health treatment with a licensed mental health professional or to be used in place of the advice of a physician. If you are struggling please don't delay in seeking the assistance of a licensed mental health practitioner or healthcare professional. If you're in crisis please visit NAMI.org or call 1-800-273-TALK for 24-hour assistance.

If your man seems distant, self-absorbed, or emotionally unavailable, you might wonder if you're married to a narcissist—or an avoidant. That uncertainty can be scary and exhausting. But what if there's a simple experiment you can do to find out for sure? In this episode, I'm sharing four powerful steps from the 6 Intimacy Skills™ that can help you find the truth—without asking him to change a thing. These steps are simple, proven, and safe to try, even if you're feeling hurt and disconnected. You'll discover: How to restore your sparkle (and why it matters) The phrase that inspires his best self (but ONLY if you use it correctly!) The #1 thing to say when you've been disrespectful (you won't like it—but you'll love what it does) How to shift the dynamic, even if you're sure he's emotionally broken And if he is narcissistic or avoidant, you'll know soon enough—but not before you try the one approach most women have never been taught. Download the FREE Adored Wife Roadmap now and start transforming your relationship today! Click here: lauradoyle.org/roadmap      

Ever wonder why YOU are SO addicted to people who pull away? Today, you'll finally find out.If the harder you chase, the faster they run — you might be trapped in the anxious-avoidant cycle: where one partner craves closeness, and the other panics when things get too real. In this BBC episode, Violet breaks down why this dynamic feels like home but leaves you emotionally starved.Inspired by the book Attached, we dive into real stories, psych-backed insights, and how to finally break free.Bonus: Don't miss the quiz at the end—It'll help you decode your partner's attachment style fast. Jump to minute 37:00 if you're done guessing and ready to know who you're really dealing with.Wanna listen to this episode AD FREE?? Go to my ad free subscription at - https://almostadulting.supercast.comToday's episode is brought to you by:NULLY CLOTHING RENTAL - Just go to Nuuly.com and use my code ADULTING to get $28 off your first month.PRETTY LITTER - Get 20% off on your FIRST order + get a FREE cat toy + FREE shipping when you go to prettylitter.com/adulting SHOPIFY - Sign up for your ONE DOLLAR per-month trial period at Shopify.com/adultingPAIRED APP - Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at HERERULA HEALTH - Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/adultingSIMPLY POP - Spill the Pop tour with Remi & Alisha from Pretty basic is coming to a city near you!! For tour information and FREE tickets, visit cokeurl.com/simplyPOPtour , but hurry! Availability is limited.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.