Podcasts about avoidant

In this episode, Cindy Esliger addresses what she calls ‘work albatrosses', the hidden burdens that steal our time and focus and derail our long-term goals. It's tempting to always say yes, but the more we do, the more we become an albatross. She explores how to identify the early warning signs and subtle red flags that show up before the burdens become our problems. She identifies what an energy vampire looks like and shines a light on how to avoid the work albatross, protect our energy, and realign our work with what actually fuels us.   We often take on these work albatrosses out of a sense of obligation, guilt, or fear. While they're presented as a way to demonstrate our leadership, instead, they're more like career quicksand. Cindy cautions us that in order to bring clarity to chaos, we need to get brutally honest about what's actually on our plate and what shouldn't be. What does an albatross feel like? That project that makes our anxiety surge and causes success to feel like punishment, all while siphoning off our best energy and attention. Cindy identifies four common warning signs when it comes to identifying an albatross: 1. Lack of clear ownership, 2. Avoidant behavior from others, 3. We're the only ones excited, or not, and 4. A vague sense of dread. In order to set a boundary and renegotiate our role in these situations, difficult conversations may be required. Cindy offers four tips for having a respectful conversation: 1. Get right to the point, 2. Clearly state the desired outcome, 3. Mind our tone, and 4. Keep it clear. We can control how much chaos we internalize and what burdens we shoulder. Cindy guides us through navigating overwhelm and protecting our energy at work.Resources discussed in this episode:Guide to Lightening the LoadAstronomic AudioConfidence Collective—Contact Cindy Esliger Career Confidence Coaching: website | instagram | facebook | linkedin | email Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

You all have been asking for this one, so here it is. In today's episode, I'm walking you step-by-step through exactly what to do if you're dating someone with avoidant attachment. This one is packed with clarity, compassion, and a whole lot of truth.If you've ever felt confused, anxious, or like you're constantly walking on eggshells in your dating life, I want you to know you're not alone. This episode will help you understand the avoidant attachment style, how to recognize it early on, and most importantly, how to stay grounded and empowered no matter what's happening in your relationship.Inside the episode:How to recognize the real signs of avoidant attachment (and when it's not actually avoidance).The one thing you must do first before trying to “fix” the relationship.How to stop falling in love with potential and start choosing partners who can meet you.If this episode speaks to you and you're ready to finally break free from those anxious-avoidant dynamics for good, go apply to the Empowered.Secure.Loved Program today.

If you've gone no contact with your avoidant ex and they still haven't said a word, this episode will tell you exactly what's going on in their mind. Dating/relationship expert Lucia breaks down each stage of what happens internally - from denial to realization - so you can understand why silence works better than chasing.#nocontact #nocontactrule #avoidantex #avoidantattachment #fearfulavoidant #anxiousavoidant #dismissiveavoidant

Jillian breaks down one of the most talked-about topics in modern psychology: attachment styles. But instead of sticking to labels, she challenges the oversimplified ways we use them—and offers a more grounded, compassionate way to understand why we love, cling, or pull away. Jillian shares personal insights into how she healed her own attachment wounds and explains the deeper influences of culture, family conditioning, trauma, and life context on our relationships. This is your guide to moving beyond “anxious” or “avoidant” and toward true emotional security and connection. Download Jillian's FREE limerence workbook, http://jillianturecki.com/workbook  Join my community and membership, The Conscious Woman Submit your relationship question for Jillian at https://forms.gle/FbtgkGTwfnrjvHwW7  Order Jillian's book It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life at https://www.jillianturecki.com/book ~~ Follow the show on: Instagram: @jillianonlove Email the show at hello@jillianonlove.com  Subscribe to Jillian on Love+ on Apple Podcasts or Patreon ~~ Follow Jillian Turecki on: Instagram: @jillianturecki TikTok: @jillian.turecki X: @JillianTurecki Visit her website at jillianturecki.com ~~ Jillian On Love is brought to you by QCODE. To advertise on the show, contact us! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

GREIF IT'S NOT THE SAME FOR EVERYONE The Many Faces of Grief: Various Ways People Handle Grief 1. Understanding Grief Grief is a natural response to loss—whether it's the death of a loved one, the end of a relationship, a major life change, or even the loss of identity or health. While it's universal, the way each person grieves is deeply personal and influenced by culture, beliefs, personality, and life experiences. 2. The Classic Model: The Five Stages of Grief Psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross outlined five common stages: Denial – Refusing to accept the reality of the loss. Anger – Feeling frustration or resentment about what happened. Bargaining – Wishing or imagining ways the loss could be undone. Depression – Deep sadness, withdrawal, or hopelessness. Acceptance – Coming to terms with the reality of loss. These stages aren't linear; people move back and forth between them, or skip some entirely. 3. Cultural Expressions of Grief Different cultures have distinct mourning rituals: Western traditions often emphasize funerals and memorials focused on remembrance. Eastern traditions may focus on honoring ancestors and maintaining spiritual connections. Collectivist cultures tend to grieve communally, while individualist cultures may encourage private processing. 4. Emotional and Behavioral Differences People express grief in diverse ways: Emotional expressers cry, talk openly, and seek support. Instrumental grievers cope by staying busy or focusing on tasks. Avoidant grievers suppress emotions, sometimes appearing “strong” or “unmoved.” Chronic grievers experience long-term sadness and difficulty moving on. 5. Coping Mechanisms Healthy coping can take many forms: Talking it out with friends, family, or therapists. Creative outlets like writing, art, or music. Spiritual or religious practices such as prayer, meditation, or rituals. Physical activity as a way to release emotional energy. Some may also resort to unhealthy coping, like substance use or emotional withdrawal, highlighting the need for support and compassion. 6. The Growth That Can Follow Grief While grief is painful, many people experience post-traumatic growth—a newfound appreciation for life, deeper relationships, or renewed purpose. 7. A Universal Yet Unique Experience No two people grieve the same way. Understanding that can help us be more compassionate—toward others and ourselves.  

In this deeply personal episode, Tarah interviews EJ about his avoidant tendencies — why he used to shut down during conflict, how it affected their relationship, and what it took to start feeling safe enough to stay present when things got hard.Book a Discovery Call for Relationship Renovation CoachingOr email us directly at coaching@relationshiprenovation.com with the subject line “Couples Coaching Application.” Order Relationship Renovation at Home Manual from AmazonJoin Our Patreon CommunityTake the Emotional Safety Assessment QuizSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Why is almost everyone so angry with people who have an avoidant attachment style? Are they evil or is something else going on?Dating/relationship expert Lucia reveals what's really behind all the hate and what to do if you're dealing with an avoidant yourself.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#avoidantattachment #fearfulavoidant #dismissiveavoidant #nocontact #avoidantex

Unlock Deeper Intimacy Starting Today. Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Attachment Styles & Intimacy Course and Finally Transform Your Relationships for Good! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-sex-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-10-22-25&el=podcast If you've ever felt like you're speaking a different language when trying to connect with a Dismissive Avoidant partner, you're not wrong. They process emotions, safety, and closeness differently at both the neurological and subconscious levels, which can make even simple conversations feel confusing or one-sided. In this video, Thais Gibson reveals how to communicate so an Avoidant actually hears you, without triggering withdrawal or shutdown. You'll learn the five key principles that transform connection, backed by neuroscience and attachment theory, plus how to stay calm and secure while getting your needs met. You'll learn: ✅ The 5 keys to communicating with a Dismissive Avoidant, without chasing or pressuring ✅ How to speak to their subconscious mind so they actually feel safe opening up ✅ The neuroscience behind why Avoidants pull away when emotions run high ✅ The difference between emotional expression and logical communication — and how to balance both ✅ How to frame your needs without sounding like an ultimatum ✅ Why timing, tone, and body language matter more than words ✅ Practical scripts to get your Avoidant partner to listen and respond Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – Intro  01:53 – 1. Communicate Your Feelings in a Logical, Factual Way 04:29 – Attachment Styles and Intimacy Promo 05:07 – 2. Use Timing Properly 07:07 – The Neuroscience Behind Avoidants and Connection 09:06 – 3. State Your Needs  09:47 – 4. Leave It Open-Ended 11:04 – 5. Timebox When Asking the Dismissive Avoidant for Something 13:46 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

In this episode, I'm breaking down the frustrating pattern when a guy says he wants something serious, but a few months in, he starts to pull away and switches it up.If you keep attracting emotionally unavailable, avoidant men (the ones who seem great at first, then go cold as things head towards commitment), this one's for you.We'll talk through:Why avoidants actually seem “secure” at firstWhat's actually happening when you're wanting to check his social media and overanalyzing your last text for the 10th timeStop the brain's rumination on “Why did he do this?”What to do when the avoidant comes back after he gets spaceHow to start becoming unavailable to avoidant love — and start attracting secure connectionSupport the showLet's connect on Instagram – send me a message @meleah_manning Learn more about Radiant Relationship Academy — a mentorship to overcome your patterns in dating & relationships and experience a healthy, fulfilling love.Enrollment now open — Book a Discovery Call for Radiant Relationship Academy.

Unlock Deeper Intimacy Starting Today. Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Attachment Styles & Intimacy Course and Finally Transform Your Relationships for Good! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-sex-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-10-21-25&el=podcast Dating a Dismissive Avoidant can change you — sometimes in ways you don't even realize. Over time, their emotional distance can actually condition your brain to link love with withdrawal, connection with uncertainty, and safety with space.  In this video, Thais Gibson shares seven ways dating a Dismissive Avoidant can affect you permanently, and how to recognize if these changes are already happening. You'll learn the hidden psychological and neurological patterns that shape your attachment style and how to rewire them through awareness, self-trust, and healing practices. You'll learn: ✅ How dating an Avoidant can subconsciously train your brain to fear closeness ✅ Why you may start questioning your worth or silencing your needs ✅ The neuroscience behind rejection, distance, and emotional pain ✅ How over-functioning and hypervigilance reinforce unhealthy dynamics ✅ What to do if your relationship is starting to impact your self-worth or boundaries ✅ How to tell when growth is mutual — and when it's time to walk away Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – Intro  01:33 – 1. You Begin to Question Your Own Worth in This Relationship 03:13 – 2. You May Learn to Suppress Your Needs Even Further 03:41 – The Neuroscience Behind Emotional Rejection and Isolation 04:47 – Attachment Styles and Intimacy Promo 05:32 – 3. You May Overfunction Emotionally in This Relationship  08:20 – 4. You May Find Yourself Being Even More Hypervigilant  09:03 – 5. You Lose Touch With Secure Love 09:46 – 6. You'll See Yourself Dismissing Your Own Boundaries 10:28 – 7. You Feel Stressed More Often 11:21 – If You're the Only One Doing the Work  12:43 – Ancient Wisdom on Self-Consideration 14:28 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

He disappears, then drops a “just checking in” text.He remembers the good old days, then ghosts again.That push–pull dance isn't love — it's control.In this episode of Dear Divorce Diary, Dawn, Tiffini, and Joy unpack the hidden cost of divorcing an avoidant man — the paranoia, the false connection, the endless emotional labor — and teach you how to finally flip the script.You'll learn: 

Let's take you through the mind of an avoidant, a self-aware one at that. I'll discuss why getting the ick might be a form of unconscious self-sabotage, why our society craves fake love, and how to better regulate and communicate as an avoidant. If you ever catch yourself missing someone who is not choosing you, let me teach you how to change the narrative and start attracting people who are actually available.Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

Show Notes: https://eggshelltherapy.com/podcast-blog/2025/10/18/jessica-baum/Jessica, author of Anxiously Attached, returns to discuss her new book, Safe, which expands beyond her first work to cover all four attachment patterns: secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized. Drawing on interpersonal neurobiology, she explores how early attachment wounds live in the body as implicit memory and cannot be healed alone. They require safe, anchoring relationships where nervous systems can co-regulate, whether with therapists, coaches, or trusted others. She reframes triggers as awakenings, inviting curiosity about what earlier wounds are being touched, and contextualizes people-pleasing as an intelligent adaptation rather than a flaw.Eggshell Therapy and Coaching: eggshelltherapy.com About Imi Lo: www.imiloimilo.comInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/eggshelltherapy_imilo/ Newsletters: https://eepurl.com/bykHRzDisclaimers: https://www.eggshelltherapy.com/disclaimers Trigger Warning: This episode may cover sensitive topics including but not limited to suicide, abuse, violence, severe mental illnesses, relationship challenges, sex, drugs, alcohol addiction, psychedelics, and the use of plant medicines. You are advised to refrain from watching or listening to the YouTube Channel or Podcast if you are likely to be offended or adversely impacted by any of these topics. Disclaimer: The content provided is for informational purposes only. Please do not consider any of the content clinical or professional advice. None of the content can substitute mental health intervention. Opinions and views expressed by the host and the guests are personal views and they reserve the right to change their opinions. We also cannot guarantee that everything mentioned is factual and completely accurate. Any action you take based on the information in this episode is taken at your own risk.

Sarah felt seen and validated until things turned for the worse with her avoidant attached partner. He then got up and left. You will see yourself in her story? You will learn from this coaching session how to navigate feelings the confusion and feeling of betrayal after being love bombed and discarded. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

When an avoidant wants to come back, they'll first test you - quietly, strategically and emotionally.Dating/relationship expert Lucia reveals the 3 tests they'll give you and how to pass every one with flying colors.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#getexback #attachmentstyle #avoidant #avoidantattachment #nocontact #nocontactrule

Unlock Deeper Intimacy Starting Today. Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Attachment Styles & Intimacy Course and Finally Transform Your Relationships for Good! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-sex-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_term=fRwZN0y1E-Q&utm_content=pod-10-15-25&el=podcast Dismissive Avoidants rarely say what they actually feel — instead, they test it. When they want you in their life, they won't move closer right away…they'll quietly test how safe you are first. In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down 5 hidden ways Dismissive Avoidants test emotional trust — and how to respond without losing your self-respect or over-giving in the process. You'll learn how these subtle “trust tests” show up in relationships, what they're really looking for underneath, and how to handle each moment with confidence and clarity. You'll learn: ✅ Why Dismissive Avoidants pull away after closeness (and what they're observing) ✅ How they test emotional safety through small vulnerabilities ✅ The neuroscience behind avoidance and emotional connection ✅ What delayed commitment really means for them ✅ How to respond when they need “space” — without losing yourself Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Intro  00:46 – 1. Dismissive Avoidants Withdraw or Retreat After Moments of Closeness  02:29 – 2. Dismissive Avoidants Will Test the Safety of Being Vulnerable  03:01 – The Neuroscience Behind Dismissive Avoidants  04:38 – Attachment Styles and Intimacy Promo 05:43 – 3. Dismissive Avoidants Test to See if You Accept What They Judge Themselves for  07:25 – 4. Dismissive Avoidants Will Often Delay Commitment 09:02 – 5. Dismissive Avoidants Often Test How You Will Handle Their Boundaries 11:00 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Join the Own Your Power Series - October 25th, 2025   Connect with Leanne on Social Media:   Instagram: www.instagram.com/awakeningwomenofficial/  Facebook: www.facebook.com/awakeningwomenofficial/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/theevolvedfeminine and https://www.youtube.com/@awakeningwomenofficial Website: leanneoaten.com    Leanne Oaten is a former Registered Professional Counsellor with a background in Counselling Psychology and has over 13 years of experience counselling and coaching women. This podcast is for high-achieving CEO, entrepreneurial women who refuse to settle in a life that looks successful on the outside but feels empty on the inside. If you're juggling business, career, family, and a relationship that doesn't light you up while secretly craving more freedom, more abundance, and more joy - this is the podcast for you. I help women reclaim their power, build unshakable self-trust, and create the kind of life they no longer want to escape from. We're not here to hustle harder or burn it all down, we're reinventing ourselves and our lives from power. We're no longer focused on changing men, or fixing ourselves for men,  we are building for ourselves so that we never settle again. We're here to make power moves with ease, and feminine energy that attracts everything you want without losing yourself in the process. So if you're ready to stop waiting for him to change, stop negotiating your worth, and start embodying the woman you want to be, welcome home. Let's dive in.  

It wasn't easy for her , but Sarah felt like she had no choice but to shut herself away or withdraw  from the demands and overwhelm - even if that sometimes came from her children. In this episode, Sarah tells what happens in the mind of a avoidant when they are going through their deactivation and what they think during this time. She also shares how she healed after her partner abandoned her and their children, and how she deals with romantic relationships now. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

If you struggle feeling safe and secure in relationships or face challenges due to chronically unhealthy relationship dynamics, did you know that your attachment style might be at the root of the issues? Your attachment style, whether secure or one of the three types of insecure attachment, has a huge influence on how you perceive and operate in your relationships. In my work as a clinical psychologist, I have discovered the game-changing power of delving into and healing attachment wounds. If you are seeking more joy and stability in your relationships, join me and top-notch attachment experts Rebecca Webster and Pablo Alvarez for a deep dive into the power of attachment theory. Topics discussed include attachment theory, secure attachment, insecure attachment, avoidant attachment, anxious attachment, disorganized attachment, marriage, relationships, intimate relationships, marriage counseling, therapy, mindfulness, journaling, self-reflection, co-regulation, and empathy.Please note that this episode may contain sensitive material; listener discretion is advised.Emergency Assistance Note: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling “911” or “988” (Suicide and Crisis Hotline). Support/informational links are in the show notes.IMPORTANT DISCLAIMER: No expert in this (or any episode) is offering medical or psychological direction; the content is purely informational in nature. Please consult your physician or healthcare provider before undertaking any new regimen or procedure.https://www.nami.org/support-education/nami-helpline/Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manlyBooks by Dr. Carla Manly:Joy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyAging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached RelationshipsOracle decks by Dr. Carla Manly:EtsyAmazonConnect with Rebecca Webster and Pablo AlvarezWebsite: https://www.connection-counselling.ca/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/connectioncounselling.ca/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@connectioncounselling Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com/

It was supposed to be a romantic Vegas trip… until I got hemorrhoids, threw up in a $900 suite, did shrooms (allegedly), and had second thoughts about Bookman.Why? Because this man did the unthinkable… he texted back, planned dates, opened doors, used empathy, and was willing to change. Is this too good to be true… or have I met my match? You tell me.Welcome to Part 1 of Finding My Husband: Vegas - where romance meets chaos, Russian standards meet American men, and emotionally stable men are the new red flag. I said what I said.(dating podcast • Vegas trip chaos • attachment theory • love bomber or match • relationship overthinking • female hosted podcast)See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The trip ended, the lessons didn't.In Part 2 of Finding My Husband: Vegas, I'm talking about the real game: how to keep him hooked without losing yourselfWhy even healthy love will still drive you a little insane sometimesHow to self-regulate before you self-sabotageFrom overthinking to attachment theoryEverything you need to know about dating an avoidantAnd how to actually win an avoidant over(dating podcast • attachment styles • relationship advice • how to love an avoidant • female-hosted podcast)See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when an avoidant man is confronted with the emotional truths his partner has been holding back?  In this episode, Adam invites a couple to face nine brutally honest relationship challenges. The conversation dives into emotional shutdowns, loyalty issues, and the impact of childhood wounds — revealing what avoidance looks like when love and vulnerability collide. ✨Topics Covered:

You can't force an avoidant to apologize for hurting you, but you can understand what makes them feel safe enough to do it.Dating/relationship expert Lucia explains exactly what you need to do to get your avoidant to apologize.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay Hi on Instagram#avoidantex #getavoidantexback #dismissiveavoidant #fearfulavoidant #anxiousavoidant

Unlock Deeper Intimacy Starting Today. Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Attachment Styles & Intimacy Course and Finally Transform Your Relationships for Good! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-sex-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-10-06-25&el=podcast Dismissive Avoidants rarely come out and say “I'm done.” Instead, they show it through subtle but powerful patterns, often long before the actual breakup happens. In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down the four unmistakable signs that an avoidant is emotionally checking out and shares how to protect your self-worth, regulate your nervous system, and set healthy boundaries before it's too late. Drawing on neuroscience and ancient wisdom, Thais explains how oxytocin drops, cortisol spikes, and emotional disconnection create chaos in relationships—and how to use self-awareness and communication to stop the spiral and regain control. You'll learn: ✅ The four red flags that signal a dismissive avoidant is preparing to leave ✅ How “flaw finding” and subtle criticism act as deactivation strategies ✅ Why they replace intimacy with creature comforts like work or hobbies ✅ The neuroscience of emotional withdrawal and bonding disruption ✅ How to use pattern interruption and self-regulation to stop self-blame ✅ The boundaries and conversations that separate healing from heartbreak Video Breakdown (Timestamps): 00:00 – Intro 00:53 – 1. If You See Them Shutting Down Emotionally 01:52 – 2. If There Are Sudden Devaluing Behaviors or Comments 04:59 – Attachment Styles & Intimacy Promo 05:31 – 3. Replacing Intimacy with Creature Comforts 06:51 – The Neuroscience Behind Relational Distress 09:16 – Pattern Interrupt 11:29 – Setting Clear Boundaries 13:44 – Ancient Wisdom on Self-Consideration 15:30 – 4. When They Stop Communicating 16:41 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

When you go no contact with an avoidant ex, it might look like they don't care — but that's not what's really happening beneath the surface. In this episode, Coach Lee breaks down the true stages of no contact for an avoidant ex — what they feel, how they process silence, and why their calmness often ends with sudden panic or regret. Avoidant exes don't handle emotional loss the way secure people do. At first, they feel relief — convinced that distance equals peace. But that “peace” eventually cracks. What follows is a slow unraveling that ends in what Lee calls punctuated equilibrium — a sudden emotional rupture after weeks or months of suppression. You'll discover: Why avoidants appear cold right after the breakup The point when silence starts working on them internally Why they often resurface after long gaps of quiet How no contact reveals their attachment fears and triggers realization This isn't about manipulation — it's about understanding how an avoidant's emotional system reacts to loss. If you've wondered whether your ex still thinks about you, this episode will help you see the patterns behind their silence — and the moment it finally breaks.

Why do avoidant men struggle so much with love, vulnerability, and connection?  In this video, we break down how avoidant attachment forms, why it creates barriers in relationships, and what can actually be done to move forward. Topics Covered: 

Dismissive avoidants & fearful avoidants don't have the same reaction to no contact. Understanding the difference will make radio silence less scary.Dating/relationship expert Lucia explains how the 2 attachment styles behave during no contact.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#avoidantattachment #getexback #nocontact #dismissiveavoidant #fearfulavoidant

Summary In this episode of the Ali Damron Show, Ali discusses the pervasive issue of anxiety, sharing her personal experiences and insights gained from working with patients over the years. She emphasizes that anxiety is not a character flaw but a learned brain pattern that can be unlearned through understanding and practical strategies. The conversation covers the science behind anxiety, the importance of emotional expression, and actionable steps to engage with life despite anxiety. Ali encourages listeners to practice self-compassion and to view anxiety as a protective mechanism rather than a debilitating condition. Takeaways Anxiety manifests differently for everyone, both physically and mentally. Understanding anxiety as a learned behavior can empower individuals to change their responses. Neuroplasticity allows us to unlearn anxiety and create new brain pathways. Labeling anxiety as a false alarm can help diffuse its power. Allowing feelings of anxiety without resistance is crucial for healing. Engaging in life despite anxiety is essential for personal growth. Emotional expression is key to processing underlying feelings that contribute to anxiety. Self-compassion is vital in the journey of overcoming anxiety. Avoidant behaviors reinforce anxiety; facing fears is necessary for progress. Practicing small steps towards facing anxiety can lead to significant changes. Sound bites "Anxiety is not a character flaw." "Label it as a false alarm." "Self-compassion is key." Chapters 00:00 Understanding Anxiety: A Personal Journey 05:21 The Science Behind Anxiety: Neuroplasticity and Learning 12:06 Practical Strategies to Manage Anxiety 19:58 Emotional Expression: The Key to Healing 30:05 Engaging with Life: Living Alongside Anxiety 40:00 Final Thoughts: Rewiring Your Brain for Safety     Ali's Resources:  Calm the Chaos: Practical Tips and Tools for Stopping Anxiety in It's Tracks Course! Consults with Ali  BIOptimizers Magnesium Breakthrough 10% off using code ALIDAMRON10 www.alidamron.com/magnesium Master Your Perimenopause Course + Toolkit "Am I in Perimenopause?" Checklist.  What Hormone is Imbalanced? Quiz! Fullscript (Get 10% off all supplements) "How To Balance Your Hormones For Better Sleep, Mood, Periods and Energy" Free, On Demand Training Website  Ali's Instagram Ali's Facebook Group: Holistic Health with Ali Damron   

Why does avoidant attachment make it so hard to feel close, even in loving relationships? For many men, emotional distance isn't a lack of love—it's a stress-driven response that blocks connection. This video unpacks the psychology and biology behind avoidant patterns and offers tools to create healthier intimacy. Topics Covered

Attachment Theory Expert Adam Lane Smith joins Gabby Reese to dive deep into Anxious & Avoidant Attachment and the neuroscience of secure relationships. Learn how to heal your nervous system and unlock true monogamy through co-solving life's challenges. Adam Lane Smith reveals the hidden science that governs our bonds, explaining how our nervous systems are "fried" by modern life and how attachment science is the future of human connection. Discover the chemical keys to lasting partnership, including the vital role of vasopressin, the hormone released when couples overcome stress and solve problems as a team.Gabby and Adam discuss: How to understand and shift your personal attachment style (Anxious, Avoidant, Disorganized) to secure. The difference between oxytocin and vasopressin and how to naturally increase your bonding hormones. Gabby's personal story of almost divorcing Laird Hamilton and the pivotal shift that transformed her marriage through honest, brave communication. The biological imperative of a "safe perimeter" and the dynamic of healthy masculinity and femininity. Why the greatest form of resilience for a child is a secure family they can always return to. How relationships can become your "medicine" and your greatest tool for a regulated nervous system and a resilient life. Connect with Adam Lane Smith:https://adamlanesmith.com/https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam For more on Gabby Instagram @GabbyReece: https://www.instagram.com/gabbyreece/ TikTok @GabbyReeceOfficial https://www.tiktok.com/@gabbyreeceofficial The Gabby Reece Show Podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@GabbyReece  The Gabby Reece Show podcast is produced by Rainbow Creative (https://www.rainbowcreative.co/)  Thank You to Our Sponsors The Reecet - Join Gabby Reece for a transformative women's retreat designed to simplify and reframe what it means to be healthy. Learn more at https://amphora.la/thereecet Laird Superfood - High-quality ingredients paired with incredible taste. Use the code GABBY20 for 20% off your purchase at http://lairdsuperfood.com CHAPTERS 00:00 Intro: Fried Nervous Systems & Attachment 03:55 The Monogamy Hormone: Vasopressin 07:14 Gabby's Story: Almost Divorcing 14:19 Secure Parenting: Safe Perimeter 19:30 The 4 Layers of Male Safety 30:00 Re-Parenting & Going Secure 36:10 Masculine and Feminine Roles 45:10 Adam Lane Smith's Path 53:20 Effeminate Men vs. Feminine 59:15 The Cost of Non-Commitment 08:45 How to Heal Anxious Men 01:13:50 Conflict Builds Strong Bonds 01:21:10 Anxious Attachment Needs Solving 01:32:00 3 Steps to Secure Attachment Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Avoidant attachment gets such a bad reputation, but the truth is much more nuanced and hopeful. In this highly requested episode, I break down what's really happening inside the avoidantly attached partner's mind, why intimacy can feel like danger, and most importantly, how healing is absolutely possible. Whether you identify as an avoidant, you're anxiously attached, or you just want to better understand relationships, this episode is for you.Inside the episode, I share:Why avoidantly attached partners distance themselves (and why it's not about not caring).The truth about healing avoidant attachment (and what it really takes).How you can build safety, connection, and secure attachment—even if avoidance has been your default.

Send us a textHave you ever stared at your phone, heart pounding, wondering if one wrong text could push your partner even further away? You're not alone. In this raw and practical episode, we break down the real reason relationships don't survive space - and it's not what you think.The Hard Truth: Most relationships don't end because of space. They end because of miscommunication during that space.What You'll LearnWhy "the perfect phrase" is marketing BS that preys on your desperationHow your brain fills in the blanks with worst-case scenarios during silenceWhy labels shut down conversations instead of opening them upThe Avoidant Partner Question: A listener asks about navigating communication with an avoidant partner. Staci's Answer: Stop weaponizing labels. Avoidant partners aren't broken - they're coping.Key Insights About Avoidant Partners:They're not withholding love on purpose, they literally don't know how to express itThey're often the most sensitive, emotionally deep people you'll meetAvoidance is a coping behavior, not a life sentencePractical ToolsWhen to reach out vs. when to hold back during spaceHow to regulate yourself so your words don't come from panicThe difference between connection and pressure in your messagesThe "Decoding the Delay" Game: Next time someone doesn't text back immediately, challenge your brain's negative bias. Maybe they're just working, crafting a thoughtful response, or being human.ResourcesEpisode #210: An Avoidant Partner's Story: https://www.buzzsprout.com/admin/1763017/episodes/16379882-210-when-your-avoidant-partner-needs-space-a-story-of-coming-back-to-lifeSong: "Hold My Hand" by Jesse GlennLive Masterclass: "What to Say (and Not Say) During Space" - September 27th, 2025 at 12pm EST for $3930-Day Love in Limbo RoadmapKey Quotes "It's not a texting problem, it's an emotional regulation problem." "Space doesn't end relationships, miscommunication does."Take Action Join the Live Masterclass: stacibartley.com/live-masterclassTimestamps:01:36 The Emotional Impact of Silence14:33 The Danger of Labels in Relationships28:32 Navigating Space and Separation37:44 Conclusion and Resources

Why does avoidant attachment make it so hard to feel close, even in loving relationships? For many men, emotional distance isn't a lack of love—it's a stress-driven response that blocks connection. This video unpacks the psychology and biology behind avoidant patterns and offers tools to create healthier intimacy. Topics Covered

✨ Achieve Your Goals FAST With the “Needs” Course. Free for Life With a 7-Day Trial https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-free-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-free-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-09-25-25&el=podcast   Have you ever wondered what really happens when you pull away from a Dismissive Avoidant? It can feel confusing when the person who once shut down suddenly starts to pursue you. This push-pull cycle can be painful, but understanding it is the key to breaking free from games and creating real, lasting connections. In this episode, Thais Gibson explains why Dismissive Avoidants often re-engage when you step back, the subconscious fears driving this pattern, and how you can respond in a way that honors both your needs and theirs. By learning these dynamics, you'll gain the clarity to set healthy boundaries, stop repeating cycles, and know when it's time to walk away.   You'll learn: ✅ Why Dismissive Avoidants feel safer pursuing when you step back ✅ How “feelings minus fears” explains their hot-and-cold cycle ✅ The role of childhood conditioning and trauma in these behaviors ✅ Why pulling away works temporarily—but isn't a long-term solution ✅ How to find the middle ground between autonomy and intimacy ✅ The importance of setting boundaries, deadlines, and direct communication ✅ How to know if someone is willing (or not) to do the work in a relationship   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Intro  00:49 – The Four Attachment Styles 01:46 – Feelings Minus Fears 03:39 – 1. Learn How to Walk the Middle Ground 04:34 – Discover, Embrace, & Fulfill Your Personal Needs Course Promo  04:54 – 2. Encourage the Other Person to Work on Themselves 06:06 – 3. Set a Deadline 07:10 – 4. Communicate Directly About the Situation 07:58 – Conclusion   Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.   Helpful Resources:

Imagine craving the warmth of a campfire. You love the light, the comfort, the shared stories. You want to be close enough to feel its heat. But the moment someone says, "Here, tie this rope around your waist and anchor yourself to this log right next to the flames," you panic. The very thing that offered comfort suddenly feels like a trap. The fire hasn't changed; the constraint has.This is the daily reality for many with an avoidant attachment style when they hear the word "commitment." It's not the shared future, the inside jokes, or the quiet companionship they fear. In fact, they often deeply desire those things. What triggers their alarm system is the label itself. "Commitment" sounds like a contract, a loss of self, a final closing of doors. It translates in their mind to obligation, expectation, and the slow erosion of their most cherished value: autonomy.On this podcast, we're not going to villainize the avoidant or patronize the partner who wants security. We're going to climb inside this paradox. We'll explore why the same person who plans a vacation with you six months from now can freeze up when you call them your "boyfriend" or "girlfriend." It's a confusing cha-cha on the intimacy-autonomy seesaw, and understanding that this is cha-cha and not a waltz is the first step to changing the dance entirely.Support the show

Blocking an avoidant ex sets off a chain of psychological stages that most people don't expect.Dating/relationship expert Lucia breaks down the 4 things that happen when you block an avoidant dumper.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#AvoidantEx #DismissiveAvoidant #FearfulAvoidant #ExBack

Click here to take the quiz and learn your Relational Blueprint type    If you've ever felt that Attachment Theory doesn't quite explain everything, then you're intuitively tuning into something that most people are ignoring. We as individuals are so much more complex than the label of "anxious" or "avoidant." Underneath every anxious woman is someone who secretly avoids love through pushing, pursuing , and proving. And underneath every avoidant man is someone who gets so anxious around intimacy, that he has to withdraw from it. Attachment theory gave us some important perspective but in this episode I want to honestly speak about the important things it doesn't address and introduce a new Blueprint system I've been developing that fills in the gaps where attachment theory fails.    This one will be powerful. Enjoy!  

I want to hear your thoughts about the show and this episode. Text us here...Do you ever wonder why you react the way you do in relationships. or why certain patterns keep showing up? In this episode of Casa De Confidence, Julie sits down with Bev Mitelman, M.A., Relationship and Attachment Trauma Practitioner and founder of Securely Loved.Bev shares her personal story of growing up in emotional chaos, how attachment styles form in childhood, and why they deeply impact how we show up in love, business, and life. From anxious preoccupied to dismissive avoidant and fearful avoidant, you'll learn the signs of insecure attachment, and practical ways to move toward secure, healthy connections.If you've ever struggled with perfectionism, people-pleasing, or the fear of abandonment, this episode will help you understand yourself on a deeper level and give you tools to create the relationships, and confidence—you deserve.In This Episode:What attachment theory really is and why it mattersThe difference between secure and insecure attachmentSigns of anxious, avoidant, and fearful attachment stylesHow childhood experiences shape adult relationshipsPractical steps to heal and move toward secure attachmentWhy selJoin Julie's upcoming Confident You CEO Retreat — a powerful space designed for women entrepreneurs who are tired of hustling without results, feeling scattered, or second-guessing every decision. → GoConfidentlyCoaching.comGo Confidently ServicesEmpowering Women Entrepreneurs with Julie DeLucca-Collins | Go Confidently Services This is an invitation to join a supportive community of purpose-driven entrepreneurs who are creating an impact in the world.A mastermind is a community of peers who exchange ideas, provide support, and offer sound advice for running a successful business.Join the Confident YOU Mastermind now at https://goconfidentlyservices.myflodesk.com/confidentyoumastermindSupport the showOther helpful resources for you: For more about me and what I do, check out my website. Are you ready to get some help with:Podcast launch/re-launchPodcast growth, to increase your authority and position yourself as the thought leader you are. Or Leveraging your podcast to build your online biz and get more clientsSign up for a FREE 30 minute Confident Podcast Potential Discovery Call In this session I will: Identify the pain point that is holding you back. Suggest a next step strategy for solving the pain point.https://calendly.com/goconfidentlycoaching/30-minutes-free-coaching-sessioin Then we will talk about working together to accelerate the process. Do you want a podcast audit? Check out this link If you're looking for support to grow your business faster, be positioned as an authority in your industry, and impact the masses, schedule a call to explore if you'd be a good fit for one of my coaching programs. ...

Are you struggling with sex feeling stressful, pressured, or disconnected? You're not alone. Many avoidant men experience intimacy as overwhelming, which keeps them stuck in cycles of shallow connection, overthinking, and emotional distance. In this episode, David Chambers reveals the 5 biggest reasons avoidant men find sex difficult — and how to shift from performance and pressure into presence, vulnerability, and deeper intimacy. He shares practical steps to move beyond avoidance and create relationships built on connection, openness, and genuine pleasure. From chasing sex to feeling empty afterwards — discover why avoidance sabotages both intimacy and fulfillment, and what it really takes to break free.

Send us a textSarah (name changed) has been a relationship with a fearful avoidant for almost a year. All was going well until it got rocky. She now wants to try again but with some boundaries in place. Sarah and I sat down recently to discuss how it could look going forward for her and her partner.Sarah agreed to have this session recorded and aired for the benefit of everyone listening. Remember, as humans, our views and needs differ. Take what you believe would be helpful for your situation and leave what doesn't. Love, AnnalisaSupport the show

What does it take to shift from avoidant attachment to secure, engaged connection in just eight weeks? In this episode, Adam talks with a client who shares her powerful story of breaking free from lifelong avoidance and building safety in love. Topics Covered:

Why are so many women drawn to the very kind of men who leave her feeling unseen, unsettled, and unsatisfied? She knows he's pulling away. She knows it's costing her peace. And yet—something inside her keeps reaching for him.   In this episode, we go into the hidden magnet behind that attraction. Not in the way you've heard a hundred times before, but in a way that could shift how you see yourself, men, and love—forever.   This isn't about blame. It's about freedom. By the end of this episode, you'll learn how to break the addiction and magnetize him back toward you. Whether you still want him or not, you'll be choosing now. 

In this week's episode, Stephanie opens up about what it's really like to be the “go-to” person the one everyone calls when they need advice, support, or a shoulder to lean on. While it can feel good to be needed, it often comes with a hidden cost: exhaustion, resentment, and burnout. Stephanie dives into why so many of us fall into this role, the toll it can take on our well-being, and what it looks like when it starts to drain your energy and happiness. She also shares her own experience of stepping back from this label, the pushback she faced, and how she learned to protect her energy without losing her compassion. If you've ever felt like you're carrying the weight of everyone else's problems, this episode will help you see why it happens and remind you that it's okay to take care of yourself first. Tune in to learn how to set healthier boundaries, reclaim your energy, and show up as the best version of yourself not the burnt-out one.   For more information visit her at www.StephanieLynLifeCoaching.com   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/StephanieLynCoaching LTK: https://www.shopltk.com/explore/StephanieLynStyle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephanielyncoach/ TikTok: https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMeg1m9pu/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/stephanielyncoaching   Thank you for your love and support! Stephanie  

Dating the human hot-and-cold? Avoidant attachment explains a lot. We called on licensed marriage and family therapist Stephanie Michaelian (@losangeles.therapy) to help us understand wtf is going on in the mind of an avoidant. We unpack childhood roots, adult red flags, and how to set requests (and boundaries) without losing yourself.Follow Stephanie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and TikTokWork with Stephanie (Los Angeles based)Follow Unbothered on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Chloe⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Alexa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Send us a textEver found yourself mixing up avoidant and dependent personality disorders? You're not alone. This episode delivers a crystal-clear framework to distinguish between these commonly confused diagnoses—essential knowledge for passing your licensing exam.Dr. Linton Hutchinson cuts through the complexity to reveal the golden difference: motivation. While both disorders share features like interpersonal difficulties, low self-esteem, and comorbidity with anxiety and depression, they stem from fundamentally different fears. Avoidant personality disorder (APD) is driven by fear of criticism and rejection—these clients believe they're "not good enough" and withdraw to protect themselves. Dependent personality disorder (DPD), however, is fueled by fear of abandonment and self-doubt—these clients cling to relationships because they believe they "can't handle life alone."Through compelling case studies of Sarah and Mark, Dr. Hutchinson demonstrates how these patterns play out in real life. When relationships end, APD clients retreat further into isolation while DPD clients immediately seek replacements. Treatment approaches differ significantly too: APD therapy focuses on gradual exposure and challenging negative self-beliefs, while DPD treatment emphasizes building self-efficacy and independence. For your exam, remember to identify the core motivation—is the client avoiding potential hurt or seeking someone to depend on?Whether you're preparing for licensing exams or simply want to sharpen your diagnostic skills, this episode provides the clarity you need. Subscribe now for more clinical insights that will elevate your therapeutic practice and help you pass your exams with confidence!If you need to study for your national licensing exam, try the free samplers at: LicensureExamsThis podcast is not associated with the NBCC, AMFTRB, ASW, ANCC, NASP, NAADAC, CCMC, NCPG, CRCC, or any state or governmental agency responsible for licensure.

In this episode of The Light Inside, host Jeffrey Biesecker delves into the concept of avoidance as an emotional coping strategy. He discusses how unresolved psychological issues can inhibit emotional regulation and self-awareness, leading to unprocessed trauma that affects our relationships with ourselves and others. The episode explores the subtle ways avoidance influences our reactions and highlights the challenges and transformative potential of facing what we have long avoided. Listeners will gain insights into strategies for gently confronting avoidance patterns without feeling overwhelmed, paving the way for deeper connections and personal growth. Tune in to discover how confronting avoidance can illuminate your path to healing.Timestamps[00:02:54] Avoidant coping and emotional attunement.[00:06:01] Avoidance as a survival strategy.[00:08:07] Hypervigilance as a baseline.[00:12:20] Evolution of avoidance strategies.[00:16:47] Emotional capacity and discomfort.[00:20:49] Co-regulation and emotional connection.[00:26:00] Vagal breaking and safety.[00:28:48] Over-intellectualizing vs. under-feeling.[00:32:36] Somatic responses to anxiety.[00:39:15] Guilt, shame, blame cycle.[00:40:42] The nature of change.[00:45:45] Exploring unconscious beliefs and triggers.[00:49:23] Positive vs Negative Beliefs.[00:54:01] Somatic signals and identity.[00:57:21] Bridging somatics and cognition.[01:00:56] Finding the grounding point.[01:05:20] Avoidant behaviors and their roots.CreditsHost: Jeffrey BeseckerGuest: Brianna SanbornExecutive Program Director: Anna GetzProduction Team: Aloft Media GroupMusic: Courtesy of Aloft Media GroupConnect with host Jeffrey Besecker on LinkedIn.Building Emotional and Somatic Language: Learning to Understand Your Body and FeelingsIn this course, Brianna guides you in identifying the emotional and somatic language that bridges your inner experience with clearer self-understanding. You'll discover how emotions first surface in the body, why they can feel confusing without words to name them, and how to communicate your feelings more effectively with yourself and others. With practical tools for recognition, regulation, and safe exploration, this course helps transform overwhelming sensations into empowering clarity. Note: Some exercises may stir strong emotions—practice at your own pace and lean on support if needed.

In this episode, Sathiya Sam explores the intricate relationship between attachment theory and pornography addiction, emphasizing that both stem from intimacy issues. He discusses how avoidant attachment can lead to difficulties in forming deep connections and how pornography addiction is fundamentally an intimacy disorder. Sathiya provides insights into healing intimacy issues through self-awareness and meaningful relationships, offering actionable steps for listeners to improve their emotional connections and overall quality of life.   Do you prefer video format? Watch this episode on Youtube Watch Sathiya on Youtube For More Content Like This   Know more about Sathiya's work: DCIC Always – Join The Brotherhood (and get coached by Sathiya) For Less Than $2/day Submit Your Questions (Anonymously) To Be Answered On The Podcast TLR Always – Get A Free Copy of The Last Relapse, Your Blueprint For Recovery   Chapters: (00:00) Introduction to the Podcast and Content Overview (01:24) Understanding Attachment Theory and Pornography Addiction (05:08) The Connection Between Intimacy Issues and Recovery (11:22) Strategies for Healing Intimacy Disorders

No contact isn't enough to get an avoidant ex back. There's something even more powerful that overrides attachment style.Dating/relationship expert Lucia reveals the secret factor that determines whether your avoidant ex comes back or stays gone.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay Hi on Instagram#NoContactRule #AvoidantEx #GetYourExBack #ExBack #NoContact

When a relationship ends without warning, it's common to feel blindsided, confused, and deeply hurt. This is often labelled the “avoidant discard” — but while that term might feel validating in the moment, it can also keep you stuck in a disempowering story.In this episode, we'll talk about how to process a sudden ending in a way that honours your pain without leaving you tethered to it. We'll explore:Why shock and lack of closure can intensify heartbreakThe difference between feeling discarded and being discardedHow villain/victim narratives can hold you back from real healingThe impact of online echo chambers on your recoveryPractical steps to reclaim your agency and move forwardThis isn't about minimising what you've been through. It's about finding a more grounded, self-responsible way to engage with what happened — so you can process it fully, integrate the lessons, and step into your next chapter with clarity and self-respect.Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The 3 Shifts That Help Anxiously Attached People Heal After a Break-up Free Training: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love London Event: tickets here Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list

[Rerun] This is the first deep dive in the Loneliness Deep Dive Series. (Intro) The full episode is available to patrons of the podcast.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleEmail: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comMerch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychologyinseattle/Facebook Official Page: https://www.facebook.com/PsychologyInSeattle/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kirk.hondaJune 12, 2020The Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being.Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although, we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com