Podcasts about avoidant

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Your ex starts watching your stories, liking your posts or quietly orbiting your social media. Does it mean they miss you and want to come back?In this episode, I break down a real-life case study and explain why reacting to your ex's breadcrumbs can be one of the biggest mistakes you make after a breakup.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookInstagram#getexback #exback #nocontact #nocontactrule #avoidant #avoidantattachment

In this episode, I share the lessons I've learned from dating both avoidant and anxious partners, how each relationship highlighted different areas for growth, and why the goal isn't hyper-independence or over-dependence—but healthy interdependence.If you enjoyed this episode and are ready to start creating healthier patterns in your love life, check out my Secure Self Toolkit, filled with attachment rewiring meditations, communication scripts, a trigger guide, and practical tools to help you become your most secure self.Looking for personalized support? You can also book a Free Clarity Call to learn more about working with me one-on-one.Get the Secure Self ToolkitLearn about 1:1 Attachment Coaching with Jessica

Do you feel disconnected from your wife, even though you genuinely want to be close to her?For many men in pornography addiction recovery, one of the most painful parts of the journey is not only stopping porn. It is learning how to rebuild trust, emotional safety, and real connection in marriage. You may want to listen, love, repair, and show up well, but still feel like your wife does not trust you, does not see your efforts, or does not believe your intentions. You may try to explain yourself and end up sounding defensive. You may try to help and end up trying to fix her emotions. You may try to be honest and still feel like there is a wall between you.In this episode of No More Desire, I sit down with Tyler Patrick of Therapy Brothers to talk about the real reason many men feel disconnected from their wives, how avoidant men often marry anxious women, and how this anxious-avoidant marriage cycle can quietly destroy trust, intimacy, and emotional connection.Tyler is a marriage and family therapist, certified DBT skills trainer, and has specialized training in treating sexual addiction. He also shares from his own personal recovery story, including the pain of betrayal, secrecy, shame, and the process of becoming a more grounded, honest, emotionally present husband.We talk about why porn addiction and marriage problems are so deeply connected. Porn does not only damage sexual integrity. It damages emotional safety. When a man hides pornography use, lies, minimizes, or keeps secrets, his wife often begins to question everything: “Can I trust him? Is he who I thought he was? What else do I not know?” That rupture of safety is one of the deepest wounds in betrayal trauma.We also discuss why many men shut down, withdraw, get defensive, or disappear into work, screens, or isolation when their wife is upset. Often, this is not because they do not care. It is because shame, fear, and emotional overwhelm take over. The man feels like he is failing, so he protects himself instead of staying present.Tyler explains the anxious-avoidant relationship cycle in a clear and practical way. The anxious partner often moves closer, asks more questions, seeks reassurance, and tries to regain safety. The avoidant partner often pulls away, shuts down, or feels criticized. The more she pursues, the more he withdraws. The more he withdraws, the more unsafe she feels. This cycle can become exhausting for both people.But there is hope.In this conversation, we discuss practical tools for men who want to overcome pornography addiction and become trustworthy again. We talk about emotional regulation, shame resiliency, mindfulness, self-compassion, parts work, taking healthy timeouts without abandoning your wife, and learning how to respond with presence instead of defensiveness.We also talk about why cravings are often emotional signals. A porn craving is not always just about sexual desire. Sometimes it is connected to stress, shame, fear, disconnection, or even the vulnerability of feeling close to your wife. When a man learns to understand what the craving is trying to medicate, he can begin responding with wisdom instead of panic.This episode is for the man who wants to stop hiding. It is for the husband who wants to rebuild trust after porn addiction. It is for the man who wants to become emotionally present with his wife, stop shutting down during hard conversations, and create a recovery lifestyle rooted in truth, love, and masculine self-leadership.Porn addiction trains a man to escape. Recovery trains a man to stay.Stay truthful. Stay grounded. Stay present. Stay in the work.Check out more from Tyler Patrick and the Therapy Brothers at therapybrothers.org/no-more-desire, where you'll find additional resources created specifically for No More Desire listeners.Link to Blog Article for this EpisodeVisit No More Desire Tools for Recovery for recovery tools and training, including my free eBook, Workshop, The RAIL Method ™ and more to help you break free from porn.If you're tired of trying to quit porn on your own, the No More Desire Academy gives you a structured path to recovery through coaching, brotherhood, practical tools, and step-by-step training. Learn more about the Academy.If you want deeper, more personalized support, I also offer 1-on-1 porn addiction recovery coaching. We'll work directly on your patterns, emotional triggers, recovery plan, and long-term growth. Apply here to explore coaching with Jake Kastleman.Support the showNo More Desire

► Build stable, secure relationships without the push and pull: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! Today I explain the #1 reason why avoidants return after rejecting someone.► Links and Resources:When They Realize They Lost You Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mr4HePymTMI&t=207s► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Why Avoidants Return03:20 2 Minor Reasons for Returning08:10 Avoidant's Ambivalence: Connection or Pulling Away?12:10 The Rebound Phase15:50 No 1 Reason They Return after Rejecting You (The Missing Puzzle Piece)22:20 Building Interdependence25:30 Breaking the Anxious-Avoidant Doom Cycle► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

When he was young, it seemed like my son Cooper was almost always active and agitated. I tried everything I was told to try - bubble blowing for deep breathing, emotion naming, zones of regulation, nature walks with candy as incentives - but nothing worked. Maybe the activity would occupy him once, but then he'd be agitated all over again afterwards. I thought I must be going it wrong, or just a bad mom.What I know now is that I wasn't and I'm not - and neither are you. The logic underneath those approaches just does not match how a pathologically demand avoidant nervous system actually works.In this episode I discuss the 4-S Framework I developed to help my PDA son - and the children of the many families I was working with - stay regulated. The four S's are: safe nervous system, sensory intense experience with novelty and dopamine, screens, and special interests. I talk through what each one means for a PDA brain specifically, why children in burnout can often only access some of the four, and how to use this framework to structure unstructured time so it feels less like chaos and more like a plan.Key Takeaways Why the Approaches I Was Given Kept Making Things Worse | 00:02:06 I walk through the regulation strategies I tried with Cooper before I understood PDA: sensory integration activities like bubble blowing and glitter shaker bottles, naming emotions and using the zones of regulation stoplight, and nature walks I would incentivize with sweets. Each one followed the same pattern: novelty made the first attempt work, and the second produced refusal, avoidance, or escalating behavior. But then I had an "aha" moment and made a shift that changed everything. S1: What Actually Makes a Nervous System Safe for a PDA Brain | 00:21:43 A safe nervous system for a pathologically demand avoidant child is not simply a kind or emotionally attuned person. In my work with thousands of families, I have seen loving, competent, well-trained adults be deeply unsafe nervous systems for PDA children, not because they are unkind but because they arrive with an agenda. They want to teach, engage, improve, or modify. The safest nervous system is the one that is not trying to change the child at all. I use the example of a grandma who arrives with activities and baking plans versus a grandpa who sits on the couch reading his phone with zero agenda. The PDA child will reliably gravitate toward grandpa. This is also why you may notice your child feels safer with your partner on certain days, or with a teenage neighbor who just wants to jump on the trampoline without any goal. The lower the agenda, the safer the nervous system. S2: Sensory Intense Experience, Novelty, Dopamine, and the Modern Day Alchemist | 00:26:48 The second S covers three overlapping things: physical sensory intensity like roughhousing; novelty, which is why the first time at an ice skating rink produces full regulation and the second visit produces a meltdown; and dopamine, which can show up as a fixation on sugar, screens, or the drive to transform things from one material state to another. I call this last pattern the modern day alchemist, and I see it consistently across PDA children and adults I work with. S3: Screens, Books, Podcasts, and Journaling as Regulation Tools | 00:40:02 I view screens neutrally, and I want to be clear that this S is not only about screens. For PDA children and teens who are older, or for PDA adults who grew up before constant access to devices, this S may have looked like always having a book in hand, listening to podcasts, or journaling compulsively. What all of these have in common is that they provide autonomy, allow engagement with special interests and learning without an agenda, and offer relief from the intense sensory input that comes both from the outside world and from inside a nervous system that is chronically activated. For Cooper during burnout, screens were one of only two things that kept him regulated enough to eat and exist. Now that his activation has come down, he tracks his own screen time and averages around two hours a day, half the national average for American children. That shift was not something I imposed. It happened naturally as his window of tolerance expanded. I share this because I know how much shame parents carry around screen time, and I want to offer a different frame: screens in the right season can be what keeps your child accessible to life. S4: Special Interest and How to Use the Full Framework in Practice | 00:43:45 Special interest for a PDA brain involves what researchers call monotropic focus: sustained attention toward an interest that is deeply regulating, and dysregulation when pulled away from it. For Cooper right now the three special interests are football, fishing, and friends. When I need to help him out of the "I'm bored" loop, I use the framework to identify which S's are available and stack them. In the episode I also name what this looks like in burnout: during the hardest years, Cooper could only access safe nervous system and screens. The other S's returned as his activation came down, and I want parents to hold that as evidence that things can shift.Relevant Resources Understanding PDA — Free class where I teach the nervous system disability framework and the threat perception mechanism that explains why standard regulation approaches tend to backfire for PDA childrenBurnout — Free class with context for the burnout period I describe in this episode, when only two of the four S's are typically accessibleSchool, Screens and Siblings — Free class directly relevant to the screens S and how I think about screen time as a neutral tool within the Four S Framework Monotropism: Understanding Autistic Ways of Being — Background reading on the monotropic focus I describe in the S4 section and how it shapes regulation and learning in autistic and PDA brainsMonotropic Split and Burnout — Explains what happens when monotropic focus is repeatedly fractured, directly relevant to why pulling a PDA child away from a special interest contributes to cumulative activation and burnoutMe and Monotropism: A Unified Theory of Autism — Deeper academic context for the monotropism framework I reference when explaining the fourth S

Attachment is a survival imprint that lives in the body, encoded before you had language. In this episode, Dr. Aimie Apigian walks through the 6 hidden attachment pains, the adult symptoms each one creates, and why inner work alone cannot reach where the pattern lives. ➡️ Full show notes: https://www.biologyoftrauma.com/post/episode-177-6-attachment-wounds-chronic-symptoms In This Episode You'll Learn:  02:54 — How did Dr. Aimie's adopted son become her wake-up call to attachment biology? 10:12 — How does attachment loss connect to chronic fatigue and autoimmunity? 12:27 — Why doesn't awareness or inner work change attachment patterns? 15:24 — What is autoimmunity at the level of attachment biology? 25:06 — What is Hold Me attachment pain and how does it form? 31:36 — How does Hold Me pain become IBS, autoimmunity, and fibromyalgia? 40:11 — What is Support Me attachment pain and how does it shape the brainstem? 46:58 — What is See Me attachment pain and how does it shape self-worth? 47:47 — What is Understand Me attachment pain and which chronic conditions does it create? 50:20 — What is Love Me attachment pain and how does it shape adult relationships? Resources/Guides: Attachment Pain Guide — A complete map of all 6 attachment pains, the adult symptoms linked to each, and entry points for repair.  ➡️ Full show notes with links and resources: https://www.biologyoftrauma.com/post/episode-177-6-attachment-wounds-chronic-symptoms

► Build stable, secure relationships without the push and pull: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! Today I break down the neuroscience behind avoidant attachment patterns.► Links and Resources:Paper Neuroscience of human social interactions and adult attachment style: https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/human-neuroscience/articles/10.3389/fnhum.2012.00212/fullPaper Individual Attachment Style Modulates Human Amygdala and Striatum Activation during Social Appraisal: https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0002868Paper The neural substrates of social emotion perception and regulation are modulated by adult attachment style: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22217336/ Deactivation Strategies Video: https://youtu.be/fi-wUf36e9k?si=jcZEkDLsrvBeif8hHow I Finally Healed my Avoidant Attachment Video:► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:43 In Childhood, Developing Brain Learns Painful Lesson01:30 The Amygdala06:20 The Prefrontal Cortex08:49 The Cortisol System09:30 The Striatum11:15 The Deeper Limbic System12:20 Adulthood13:34 Deactivation Strategies16:00 How To Overcome Avoidant Attachment Patterns► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

Ever swing between anxious and avoidant with the same person, reaching for them one minute and running the next? That's not you being broken or "too much." In week three of the Breakups by Attachment Style series, Sabrina breaks down disorganized attachment (also called fearful avoidant attachment): the push-pull, hot-and-cold, on-again-off-again pattern that makes you feel like you're losing your mind. Learn what's actually happening in your nervous system, why your relationships keep taking this shape, and why no attachment style ever excuses how someone treats you. Inside: the research on fearful avoidant attachment in adulthood, a real story of dating someone disorganized, and what the path to earned security actually looks like (slower than 90 days, and worth every bit of it). Plus the Tool of the Week, a simple somatic state check-in to start tracking your nervous system today. If you've never fit neatly into anxious or avoidant, this one on attachment theory, nervous system regulation, and breaking the cycle is for you, baby. Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠ Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book If you're ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠HERE!⁠ If you're serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠ Get Ad free ⁠HERE!⁠  Watch on Spotify. Spotify subscribers get fewer ads on my video. Want to work with Sabrina? ⁠HERE!⁠  Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show ⁠HERE!⁠  Don't forget to follow ⁠Sabrina⁠ and ⁠The Sabrina Zohar Show⁠ on Instagram and ⁠Sabrina ⁠on TikTok! Video now available on ⁠YOUTUBE!⁠ Please support our sponsors! Aura has a great deal for Father's Day, an exclusive $35-off Carver Mat at https://on.auraframes.com/SABRINA. Promo Code SABRINA Get 40% off select Lola Blankets products at Lolablankets.com by using code SABRINA at checkout. Experience the world's #1 blanket with Lola Blankets This episode is sponsored by Betterhelp. Get 10% off your first month of Betterhelp at betterhelp.com/sabrina Right now, Rythm is offering our listeners 15% off your first month and free shipping at RythmHealth.com/SABRINA ============================= Chapters: 00:00 Anxious and Avoidant at the Same Time 03:48 What Disorganized Attachment Is 06:36 Why You Can't Predict the Pattern 09:43 On Again Off Again Relationships 13:35 Hot and Cold Relationship Story 18:00 Why You Keep Going Back 21:00 How the Push Pull Cycle Works 25:03 What Causes Disorganized Attachment 28:55 How to Heal Fearful Avoidant 31:26 Somatic Practice to Self Regulate Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

► Build stable, secure relationships without the push and pull: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! Today I describe how the moment feels when an avoidant realizes they lost their partner.► Links and Resources:The Neuroscience Behind Avoidant Attachment Video: https://youtu.be/pv5K9dbfp848 Phases of How I Healed my Avoidant Attachment Patterns Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4SrSolyrSCQ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction01:10 The Dating Phase02:26 The Deactivation Switch06:30 The Breakup Moment08:50 The Exact Moment of Realization12:18 Emotional Cycle Visualization18:00 Three Avoidant Motivations22:00 Moving Toward Security► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

It's crushing when your avoidant partner disappears. But why are they doing it...and what can you do. On of the most disruptive things happening in avoidant- anxious relationships is when the avoidant partner suddenly disappears without an explanation. We want to understand their motives, explain how this hurts us, try harder but perhaps if we understand why they tend to do this we can rest at ease - or make some hard decisions that will benefit us. This podcast is meant to guide you if you're going through this or if you've gone through this. For my book - From Anxious to Secure - https://stan.store/DecodingAttachmentStyles/p/from-anxious-to-secureFor my mini online program - Boundary Bootcamp - https://stan.store/DecodingAttachmentStyles/p/boundary-bootcampTo book a session with me - https://stan.store/DecodingAttachmentStyles/p/book-a-session-with-me-ui52g6pvTo Subscribe to School of Attachment - https://stan.store/DecodingAttachmentStyles/p/weekly-coaching-tools--strategiesDisclaimer: I am a certified coach with a psychology background, not a licensed therapist. The content I share is for educational and informational purposes and is based on Attachment Theory principles. I am currently funding and researching a personal project on attachment behaviors and feelings with 175 individuals. This page is not a substitute for professional therapy, diagnosis, or treatment. Please use discernment and consult a qualified mental health professional for personal advice.I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

Are you giving someone all the benefits of a relationship while they still refuse to commit?In this episode, I explain why overgiving to an avoidant or emotionally unavailable person can keep you stuck in a situationship instead of moving toward a real relationship.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookInstagram#situationship #avoidant #avoidantattachment #situationships

What you resist really does persist… and the anxiety-avoidance cycle can keep you trapped in a small life for years. If you avoid social situations, difficult conversations, travel, dating, decision-making, presentations, or anything that makes you anxious, this episode is for you. Avoidance is one of the most common coping mechanisms people use for anxiety… but it's also one of the biggest reasons anxiety continues to grow. And the problem with avoidance is you can't stop thinking about something that you're trying to avoid. In today's episode, we're unpacking the psychology of avoidance and how it ultimately reinforces fear, shrinks your comfort zone, and keeps you stuck. Tune in if you want to learn how to face your fears, build confidence in your ability to deal with stress, and live a more expansive life. We cover: Why avoidance is one of the most common coping strategies The anxiety-avoidance cycle and how it feeds anxiety Why avoiding difficult conversations creates more stress than just having them Internal avoidance: avoiding thoughts, uncertainty, decisions, and emotions How avoidance can shrink your world and limit your opportunities How Metacognitive Therapy approaches anxiety and avoidance Building tolerance for uncertainty and discomfort Using gradual exposure: the "fear ladder" Prompts to change how you think about your anxiety The Fear List exercise that helped me get unstuck If you've been feeling trapped by anxiety, fear, and avoidance, this episode is your reminder that discomfort is not dangerous… and life usually expands on the other side of the things we're afraid of.   For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

What can a steamy hockey romance teach us about attachment styles, situationships, and emotional vulnerability? This week, Matchmaker Maria is joined by her sister and fellow matchmaker, Chrisoula Mavrianos, to break down the hit series Heated Rivalry through the lens of dating psychology. They unpack why Shane and Ilya's 7 year push-pull dynamic feels so familiar, explore fearful avoidant vs. dismissive avoidant attachment styles, and compare the show's emotional tension to Normal People, Bridgerton, and classic Jane Austen romances. Plus, they dive into the art of yearning, why women LOVE slow-burn love stories, and reveal which character they'd actually choose for a healthy relationship.   ♥️JOIN MARIA'S COMMUNITY + SUBMIT A QUESTION ❓ Ready to date with intention?

I sit down with Dr. Jennifer Huffman, a board-certified pediatric neuropsychologist, PDA woman with lived experience, and creator of the Neurodynamic Navigator System and the Neurodynamic Quotient. After twenty-five years working with children whose profiles were called often called ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder), she developed a framework to make the dynamic, fluctuating nature of the PDA brain visible and usable for parents, teachers, and clinicians.We talk about her childhood as an undiagnosed PDA autistic person, why ODD as a diagnosis isn't helpful, how she assesses children who cannot come into an office, and the app she is building to help families. After all that great insight, just her closing message for parents of PDA kids in burnout makes this episode worth a listen.Key TakeawaysGrowing Up as an Undiagnosed PDA Autistic Neuropsychologist | 00:02:48 Dr. Huffman describes a childhood marked by academic failure in math from third grade, severe bullying that led her parents to drive her thirty minutes each way to attend school in a different town, and the recurring experience of being told she was not living up to her potential. She names the specific mechanism she now recognizes in herself: she cannot process on demand. If someone tells her to do something, or if it feels redundant, her brain shuts off. This is not willfulness. It is the same mechanism she has spent twenty-five years helping children and families understand. She describes finding neuropsychology in her third year of undergraduate study as a light bulb moment, not because she wanted a career but because she was trying to figure out her own brain.The ODD Buster: Why Oppositional Defiant Disorder Is So Often the Wrong Label | 00:12:39 Dr. Huffman describes spending twenty-five years working with the complex cases other clinicians could not crack, children who had been given ODD diagnoses and whom nobody wanted to work with. She calls herself the ODD buster and states directly that in her clinical experience, she has rarely seen a child who actually had ODD. What she consistently found underneath that label was high empathy, anxiety, sensory differences, social communication differences, and learning differences, often in combination. She names ODD as an example of a DSM category built by non-neurodivergent clinicians describing externalized behavior without curiosity about what is underneath it.How She Assesses Children Who Cannot Come Into an Office | 00:17:38 Dr. Huffman explains that when a child is in burnout and cannot access evaluation, the work does not begin with the child. It begins with the parent: helping them advocate with the school, coordinating with medical providers who may not understand why the child cannot leave the house, and slowly building a relationship with the child themselves. She describes spending six months to a year playing Minecraft with a child before any formal assessment data is collected, and names this as genuinely valuable clinical time. She also holds PSYPACT certification, which allows her to work with families across most of the United States without the family ever entering her office.The Neurodynamic Quotient: Making the Dynamic Nature of the PDA Brain Visible | 00:36:57 Dr. Huffman introduces the Neurodynamic Quotient, her framework for understanding why PDA children can do something one day and appear to lose the skill the next. The formula combines dynamic safety, which includes felt safety, connection, information, and autonomy, with dynamic capacity, which includes the battery, sensory load, and executive functioning scaffolding, plus motivation. She explains why autonomy functions as a multiplier: if it reaches zero, the entire product is zero regardless of how much skill or capability is present. She also names motivation as the variable parents and teachers most often misuse, pushing past natural capacity because the child demonstrated what they were capable of once.Do Not Get in Front of Your Child | 00:55:03 Dr. Huffman closes with a message for parents whose children are in burnout. She names never assuming the child is not capable as the most important thing a parent can hold onto, and shares her own story as evidence: her parents could not have predicted she would become a neuropsychologist. She uses the phrase "do not get in front of your child" to mean: if they have something they want to do, let them fly. The child who is in their room with the lights off on Minecraft is telling you what they need. Meeting that need and staying regulated yourself is what moves them through burnout faster than fighting against it.Relevant ResourcesUnderstanding PDA — Free class with context on the nervous system disability framework and the dynamic, cumulative nature of activation Dr. Huffman builds on throughout this conversationBurnout — Free class with context for the red zone experience Dr. Huffman describes and the burnout recovery process for both children and parentsParadigm Shift Program — Our signature program where parenting for autonomy, safety, and connection is taught in fullUnlocking the PDA Brain by Dr. Jennifer Huffman — Dr. Huffman's book introducing the Neurodynamic Navigator System, written as a manual for understanding and supporting the PDA brainThe Able Center — Dr. Huffman's private neuropsychology practice in IllinoisThe Baby Fold — The Illinois nonprofit where Dr. Huffman serves as Vice President of Clinical Operations, specializing in trauma and higher support needs neurodivergent childrenBeyond Behaviors by Mona Delahooke — Mentioned by Dr. Huffman for understanding what is happening beneath the behavior in neurodivergent childrenDr. Huffman is also a board member of PDA North America.

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Subscribe to my YouTube channelIs it possible to become anxiously attached as a result of dating someone with avoidant patterns? That's the listener question I'm answering in today's Ask Steph episode. We'll talk about how our patterns can arise in response to someone else's, while also acknowledging fundamental differences in how people with secure vs. insecure attachment styles tend to respond to dysfunctional behaviour.LinksFree training for anxious attachment Follow me on InstagramTake my attachment styles quiz

Do you want your avoidant to be afraid to lose you, chase you and put in the effort they used to avoid giving?In this episode I explain the psychological shift that makes avoidants stop pulling away and start leaning back in instead.Get coachingDownload Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookInstagram#avoidantattachment #makeavoidantobsessed #getexback#getavoidantback #exback

Why do so many boarding school survivors struggle with boundaries?In this episode, Piers Cross explores how boarding school conditioning can shape people pleasing, emotional suppression and difficulty saying no later in life.Drawing on trauma theory, attachment work and years of coaching leaders and ex-boarders, Piers explores why boundaries can feel dangerous for many trauma survivors — and why nervous system regulation is essential when learning to hold healthy boundaries.Topics include: Boarding school and the “complier” survival strategy  Fight, flight, freeze and appease  Why boundaries feel unsafe  Shame, fear and conflict avoidance  Avoidant attachment and trauma  Boundary repair practices  EFT tapping and Havening  Leadership and emotional intelligence  Nervous system regulation and safety Piers also shares practical boundary exercises inspired by Diane Poole Heller's work on attachment and trauma healing.---Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/ 

Extreme close ups of character faces. Entirely invisible threats; 'we don't see'. What's the story behind this very odd piece of television? Why does it stand out so much in terms of style and aesthetics? What standards did it set for the era? What does it say about the companions? (00:00:00) Intro + episode's significance (00:04:40) Uncomfortable closeups (00:07:47) Directorial style of long takes (00:09:48) Impressive locations + strange edits (00:14:03) Answering questions nobody asked (00:15:48) We can't see; intangible dangers (00:22:06) Avoidant storytelling, baffling stakes (00:27:21) Didactic premise (00:32:21) Focus on Ryan (00:36:34) Balancing companions with guest cast (00:42:15) Maturity of Yaz and Ryan (00:46:07) Aesthetics of violence (00:50:14) Timeless rags, TARDIS theme, set reveal (00:56:18) Pining for the early days of the era (00:59:40) Self-defeating thesis (01:01:37) Stray thoughts + outro… Continue reading →

Start Healing Core Wounds with Our Reparent Your Inner Child Course, Free with a 7-Day Trial to the Personal Development School https://offer.personaldevelopmentschool.com/reparenting-your-inner-child?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=reparenting-your-inner-child&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-05-20-26&el=podcast Have you ever felt like you're doing everything to heal… reading the books, going to therapy, doing the work and still feel stuck? You're not alone. And more importantly… you're not broken. We're living in one of the most emotionally overwhelming times in history and your Attachment Style may be getting triggered in ways that make healing feel harder than ever. Episode Summary In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down exactly why healing feels harder than ever and how this shows up differently depending on your Attachment Style. You'll learn how the modern world (social media, constant comparison, emotional overwhelm, and disconnection) amplifies your core attachment wounds, whether you're Anxious Avoidant, Dismissive Avoidant, Fearful Avoidant, or Securely Attached. Thais walks through each Attachment Style and explains the specific challenges you may be facing in your healing journey and what you can do to start moving forward in a more grounded, empowered way. Key Takeaways ✔️ You're not failing at healing; you're healing in an overwhelming world. ✔️ Your Attachment Style may be getting triggered daily without you realizing it. ✔️ Anxious Attachment feels amplified by comparison, rejection, and fear of abandonment. ✔️ Avoidant patterns can hide behind independence, numbing, and emotional disconnection. ✔️ Fearful Avoidants may feel constant inner chaos mirrored by the outside world. ✔️ Secure Attachment isn't perfection, it's learning to regulate, reflect, and repair. Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Avoidant attachment is not coldness, it is a six-part survival system the avoidant built before they could read, and until you can name all six parts, no relationship advice will reach them.If you are the partner who keeps reaching, or the partner who keeps disappearing, this video maps the exact internal architecture of the avoidant: the six sub-personalities that take turns at the wheel, the three core fears underneath, and the pathway out that attachment-style content cannot offer.Kenny Weiss is a relationship, communication, and childhood trauma recovery specialist. He teaches the Worst Day Cycle™, the Authentic Self Cycle™, and the Emotional Authenticity Method™. He names what most attachment content misses: avoidants don't avoid people, they avoid the shame they believe connection will expose. Avoidance is not one shutdown, it is six survival selves working together.The six sub-personalities Kenny maps inside every love avoidant are the Protector who runs the perimeter, the Rationalist who neutralizes emotion with logic, the Lone Wolf who built an identity around needing no one, the Wall-Builder who constructs a fortress disguised as a lifestyle, the Performer who looks confident to conceal shame, and the Ghost who disappears during conflict. Each part was a brilliant childhood adaptation. In adult intimacy, each sabotages the connection both partners actually want.Underneath those six selves sit three core fears: the fear of being consumed because a parent once swallowed you emotionally, the fear of being seen because you believe what is underneath is not enough, and the fear of being responsible because closeness once meant emotional labor you did not consent to. The Emotional Authenticity Method™ is the six-step process that rewires the blueprint, ending with Feelization, where a new emotional addiction to safe closeness replaces the old wiring.Kenny Weiss has helped thousands of adults stop the pursue-withdraw dance, end emotional shutdown, and rebuild intimacy from the Authentic Self instead of the survival persona. His work is a blueprint rewrite, not symptom management.TOPICS COVEREDavoidant attachment, love avoidant, why do I push people away, emotional shutdown, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant, six sub-personalities, three core fears, shutdown avoidant partner, pursue withdraw cycle, avoidant in conflict, intimacy avoidance, falsely empowered codependent, Worst Day Cycle, Authentic Self Cycle, Emotional Authenticity Method, Kenny WeissTIMESTAMPS0:00 — The Suitcase You Are Not Allowed To See1:30 — Why The Cold Story About Avoidants Is Wrong3:00 — Meet The Protector5:00 — Meet The Rationalist6:30 — Meet The Lone Wolf8:00 — Meet The Wall-Builder9:30 — Meet The Performer11:00 — Meet The Ghost12:30 — The Three Core Fears15:00 — The Worst Day Cycle Of Avoidance17:00 — The Authentic Self Cycle Rewrite19:00 — The Emotional Authenticity Method For Avoidants22:00 — The Sixty-Second Experiment That Starts Staying

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Have you ever walked away from a conversation completely confused, not sure if anything was actually said?   In Episode 110 of Got Her Back, Carrie and Meg are pulling back the curtain on avoidant attachment style: what it looks like, how it shows up in dating, and why some women keep attracting the same emotionally unavailable person over and over again.   Plus, Carrie shares exciting updates on her Pretty in Pink cabin in Broken Bow, wedding planning conversations are officially heating up, and the girls float the idea of a Got Her Back girls' retreat — and honestly, we're here for all of it.   Chapters: 0:00 Cold Open — Spotting an Avoidant 0:45 Welcome Back & Cat Mom Updates 3:45 Hot Topic: Our Friend Is Dating an Avoidant (Again) 5:00 What Avoidant Attachment Actually Looks Like 7:30 They Talk in Circles — And Other Red Flags 9:30 Why Avoidants Go for Easier Targets 11:00 The Daddy Issues Connection (Attachment Roots) 13:00 "Let's Just Be Friends" — The Classic Avoidant Exit 15:00 Wedding Planning Check-In & Setting a Date 18:00 Backyard Wedding Vision & Decorator Goals 20:30 Pretty in Pink Cabin in Broken Bow 23:30 Got Her Back Girls' Retreat Idea 24:30 Final Thoughts — Don't Be an Avoidant, Put a Ring On It  

Start Healing Core Wounds with Our Reparent Your Inner Child Course, Free with a 7-Day Trial to the Personal Development School https://offer.personaldevelopmentschool.com/reparenting-your-inner-child?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=reparenting-your-inner-child&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-05-15-26&el=podcast If you're dating a Dismissive Avoidant, it can feel like you're doing everything right… and still not getting the connection you want. That's because Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Styles experience love very differently often in ways they don't openly communicate. Understanding how they actually feel loved can completely change the way you approach the relationship without abandoning your own needs. Episode Summary In this episode, Thais Gibson shares the 5 key ways Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Styles feel loved, and why many of these needs are often misunderstood in relationships. You'll learn how honoring autonomy, creating emotional calm, maintaining independence, offering practical support, and protecting vulnerability all play a major role in helping Avoidant individuals feel safe enough to connect. Thais also explains how to balance meeting your own needs while adapting your approach — so you can build connection without reinforcing unhealthy patterns. Key Takeaways ✔️ Dismissive Avoidant individuals feel loved when their autonomy is respected ✔️ Calm, steady connection feels safer than emotional intensity ✔️ Independence and self-sourcing needs reduce pressure in relationships ✔️ Acts of practical support often communicate love more than words ✔️ Vulnerability must be met with safety, not criticism or shame ✔️ Space is often experienced as safety, not rejection ✔️ Secure communication balances both partners' needs Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

If you've ever called out an avoidant for pulling away, being distant or sending mixed signals, you may have accidentally pushed them further away.In this episode I explain why calling out an avoidant usually backfires and what to do instead if you want to stop the push-pull cycle.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookInstagram#avoidant #avoidantattachment #getexback #getavoidantback #attachmentstyle

Start Healing Core Wounds with Our Reparent Your Inner Child Course, Free with a 7-Day Trial to the Personal Development School https://offer.personaldevelopmentschool.com/reparenting-your-inner-child?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=reparenting-your-inner-child&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-05-13-26&el=podcast Have you ever been ghosted and felt like it must have been your fault? Like you did something wrong… or weren't enough? In this episode, we break down the real reasons why Dismissive Avoidant attachment styles pull away, and what it actually means about them… and about you. If you've ever been left confused, hurt, or chasing closure, this will help you understand what's really going on beneath the surface and how to take your power back. What You'll Learn in This Episode: What is a Dismissive Avoidant attachment style? The two key stages where avoidants pull away The real reasons Avoidants ghost (it's not what you think) Why being ghosted is not a reflection of your worth The subconscious patterns that keep you attracted to unavailable partners How to stop chasing and start choosing yourself Practical steps to break the cycle and build healthier relationships Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

This one is for all of my cycle breaker trauma survivors - big or little t, we've got you covered here. Dr. Shahrzad Jalali joins me in a conversation about silent trauma, emotional autonomy, and breaking cycles. We talk about how trauma is stored in the body and the ways it can show up in relationship with others. Dr. Jalali is going to help us better understand childhood trauma, generational cycles of trauma, repressed memories, and the roles we fall into in families. She will also share ways to regulate your nervous system, grow emotional intelligence, and develop emotional autonomy. 

Safe eating is at the heart of managing food allergies—but what happens when that vigilance starts to feel overwhelming, and food becomes a source of fear instead of nourishment? For many families, the line between necessary caution and something more serious can be hard to recognize. We are diving into the intersection of food allergies and Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder, or ARFID. Joining us is Dr. Brian Vickery, Division Chief of Allergy & Immunology at Children's Healthcare of Atlanta and Emory University, and Kaitlin B. Proctor, PhD, Assistant Professor at Emory School of Medicine Department of Pediatrics, and board-certified psychologist at Children's Healthcare of Atlanta to unpack what this means for families and share insights from Dr. Vickery's latest research. Resources to keep you in the know:Psychology TodayAAAAI's People with Food Allergies May Be Susceptible to Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake DisorderFAACT's Behavioral Health Resource Center"When Medically Required Food Avoidance Goes Awry: A Conceptual Framework of ARFID as an Underrecognized Clinical Complication of Food Allergy" - Research paperFAACT's Roundtable Podcast can be found on Apple Podcast, Pandora, Spotify, Podbay, iHeart Radio or wherever you listen to your podcasts.Follow us on Facebook, Instagram, Threads, BlueSky, LinkedIn, Pinterest, TikTok, and YouTube. Sponsored by: GenentechThanks for listening! FAACT invites you to discover more exciting food allergy resources at FoodAllergyAwareness.org!

In this episode, we explore the paradox of avoidant healing and why intimacy can feel both deeply comforting and deeply threatening at the same time.We talk about:why avoidant attachers often push away the very connection they desirethe fear of dependency, vulnerability, and losshow hyper-independence has disconnected many of us from healthy emotional reliancewhy intimacy is so much more than sexand how safe relationships can biologically reshape the way we experience love over timeThis is a raw and honest conversation about fear, closeness, healing, and learning how to slowly lean into intimacy despite the risk.Learn about 1:1 Attachment Coaching here.Get the Secure Self Kit here.

Explore Your Attachment Style With Thais Gibson. Access All Courses, Live Webinars & Q&As Free for 7 Days (Enough Time to Complete a Full Course). Limited-time Access: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-05-11-26&el=podcast Avoidant individuals don't just fear relationships they often have a very specific idea of what a relationship should look like. The challenge is that some of these expectations are healthy… and some are rooted in subconscious protection patterns that can quietly limit connection. Understanding these beliefs can help you better navigate relationships with a Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style or recognize these patterns within yourself. Episode Summary In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down what individuals with a Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style believe a relationship should look like and which of these beliefs are healthy versus distorted. You'll learn how Avoidant individuals often prioritize harmony, independence, predictability, and low emotional intensity while also struggling with receiving needs, vulnerability, and emotional closeness. Thais also explains how preferences like needing space, minimizing dependency, and avoiding conflict can be both beneficial and limiting depending on how they are expressed in a relationship. Key Takeaways ✔️ Dismissive Avoidant individuals often prioritize harmony and low conflict ✔️ Independence and space are core needs in Avoidant Attachment Styles ✔️ Emotional closeness can feel unfamiliar or overwhelming ✔️ Avoidants may prefer meeting their own needs over relying on others ✔️ Acts of service and subtle affirmation are common love languages ✔️ Too much intensity or praise can feel uncomfortable or inauthentic ✔️ Lack of chaos can feel safe, but too much distance can limit connection Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

In the early stages of dating, it can be confusing when someone pulls away, sends mixed signals, or struggles with emotional closeness. Two patterns that often get mistaken for each other are narcissism and avoidant attachment. Here are five ways to tell the difference.►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio ►If you're feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application ►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate ►Get Sandy's books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amzn.to/4erpj7C ►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching ►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” http://bit.ly/whymendisappear ►FREE download: “The Green Light Guide to Dating After 50” https://lastfirstdate.com/green-light-guide/ ►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/ ►Website → https://lastfirstdate.com/ ► Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/ ► TikTok → https://www.tiktok.com/@lastfirstdate1►Get Amazon Music Unlimited FREE for 30 days at https://getamazonmusic.com/lastfirstdate  

Fashion is Art! This week Sav and Llary break down some of their favorite looks from the Met Gala. Then they discuss some dating updates, which may or may not include some avoidant tendencies (to varying levels) from different guys.

If you're Anxious Preoccupied in relationships and your partner pulls away, it can feel deeply confusing and painful. You may interpret distance as rejection, wondering what you did wrong or how to fix it. But for someone with a Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style, that distance is often not about you… it's about their internal fears being activated. Understanding this dynamic can help you stop personalizing the cycle and start seeing what's really happening beneath the surface. Episode Summary In this episode, Thais Gibson explains why individuals with a Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style often pull away from an Anxious Preoccupied partner, especially in the early stages of dating. You'll learn how Dismissive Avoidants experience a conflict between their feelings and their fears, and how subtle signals of closeness can trigger fears of vulnerability, pressure, or commitment. Thais also breaks down how Anxious Attachment activation strategies like pursuing, texting more, or trying to increase closeness, can unintentionally intensify the cycle, creating a push-pull dynamic between both partners. Key Takeaways ✔️ Dismissive Avoidant individuals may pull away when fears override their feelings ✔️ Subtle cues of closeness can trigger fear of vulnerability or pressure ✔️ Anxious Preoccupied partners may respond by increasing pursuit and proximity ✔️ Pursuit can unintentionally reinforce Avoidant distancing behaviors ✔️ This push-pull dynamic is driven by opposing attachment strategies ✔️ These patterns are rooted in subconscious programming, not personal failure ✔️ Understanding both Attachment Styles helps break the cycle Timestamps 00:00 – Why Dismissive Avoidants Keep Pushing Their Anxious Partner Away 00:38 – The Dating Stage 01:43 – 1. Dismissive Avoidants Operate From Their Feelings Minus Their Fears 04:49 – 2. In Reaction, the Anxious Preoccupied's Activation Strategies May Kick In 06:22 – 7-Day Free Trial + Needs Course Promo 07:15 – Like, Share, and Subscribe for Daily Videos Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Attachment language is everywhere, but it often gets used as a shortcut: anxious, avoidant, disorganized as labels instead of doorways into real work. In this episode, Vanessa Bennett, LMFT reframes attachment as an adaptation—a deeply intelligent strategy your nervous system and psyche developed to survive love when closeness felt inconsistent, unsafe, or overwhelming. We explore anxious hypervigilance, avoidant self-protection, disorganized contradiction, and why the anxious-avoidant dance becomes a “nervous system duet” when threat gets activated. The destination isn't a perfect “secure” identity—it's earned security and differentiation: the capacity to need, love, and stay a Self. For educational purposes only. This isn't therapy.If you want to go deeper, check out the written companion on Substack and explore community + training at https://www.vanessaBennett.com.Additional ResourcesExplore: VanessaBennett.comBook: The Motherhood MythCommunity: Inner Compass CollectiveTraining: Inner Compass AcademyConnect with Inner CompassFollow on InstagramConnect with Vanessa Bennett:Follow on InstagramFollow on TikTokLearn more on SubstackConnect with Vanessa Bennett on LinkedInSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Have you ever felt like you're both Anxious and Avoidant in relationships? Maybe you obsess when someone pulls away, but when things get too close, you suddenly feel overwhelmed and want distance. If that sounds familiar, you might not be Anxiously Attached — you may actually have a Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style. Fearful Avoidant Attachment can feel confusing because it combines both Anxious and Avoidant patterns. You may deeply crave connection and intimacy, yet feel unsafe or overwhelmed when relationships become emotionally close. Episode Summary In this episode, Thais Gibson walks you through the major signs of Fearful Avoidant Attachment, how it differs from Anxious Attachment, and what it takes to move toward Secure Attachment. How Fearful Avoidant Attachment shows up through core wounds, emotional patterns, unmet needs, boundary struggles, communication habits, and coping mechanisms. You'll learn why Fearful Avoidants often experience intense internal conflict in relationships, why trust and safety are essential for them, and how understanding these deeper patterns can help you begin the process of healing and building secure attachment. Key Takeaways ✔️ You crave deep love — but closeness can suddenly feel overwhelming. ✔️ Fearful Avoidant patterns often come from deep wounds of betrayal, abandonment, and feeling unsafe. ✔️ Your emotions can swing between anxiety, anger, shame, and overwhelm in relationships. ✔️ Boundaries may feel impossible; until everything explodes at once. ✔️ You may give too much, receive too little, and feel emotionally drained. ✔️ Healing is possible when you learn to meet your needs and build real emotional safety. Timestamps 00:00 – Major Signs That You Are a Fearful Avoidant 00:36 – Core Wounds 01:48 – Emotions 02:17 – Needs 03:14 – Boundaries 07:05 – 7-Day Free Trial + Needs Course Promo 07:58 – Coping Mechanisms 08:57 – The Path to Secure Attachment Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

If you're wondering what actually hurts an avoidant ex after a breakup, it 's usually not what most people think.In this episode, I break down what really gets through to an avoidant ex, what keeps them emotionally shut down and why trying to "fix" things often backfires.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookInstagram#avoidantex #avoidantattachment #getexback #nocontact

How To Rebuild Self-Esteem, Confidence & Self-Worth At The Core https://offer.personaldevelopmentschool.com/self-esteem?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=self-esteem-mastery&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-04-29-26&el=podcast Have you ever met someone and felt instant chemistry like your body decided before your brain did? Many people assume chemistry means compatibility, but neuroscience and Attachment Theory show that what feels magnetic isn't always healthy. Depending on your Attachment Style, chemistry can feel like urgency, emotional intensity, novelty, or even chaos. Understanding these patterns can help you stop chasing familiar but unhealthy dynamics and start choosing relationships that are truly compatible. Episode Summary In this episode, Thais Gibson explains the science behind what attracts each Attachment Style and why the chemistry you feel with someone may actually be your nervous system responding to familiar patterns. You'll learn how Anxious Attachment, Dismissive Avoidant, and Fearful Avoidant Attachment Styles experience attraction differently and how subconscious programming and nervous system conditioning influence who you feel drawn to. Thais also breaks down why “wrong chemistry” can feel so right, and how healing your Attachment Style can change what you're naturally attracted to in relationships. Key Takeaways ✔️ Anxious Attachment often experiences chemistry as urgency and emotional intensity ✔️ Unpredictability can increase attraction through dopamine and cortisol spikes ✔️ Dismissive Avoidant individuals may withdraw when vulnerability increases ✔️ Protecting independence often drives Avoidant attraction patterns ✔️ Fearful Avoidant chemistry can feel intense due to push-pull dynamics ✔️ Familiar emotional chaos can be mistaken for compatibility ✔️ Healing your Attachment Style helps you choose healthier partners Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

How To Rebuild Self-Esteem, Confidence & Self-Worth At The Core https://offer.personaldevelopmentschool.com/self-esteem?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=self-esteem-mastery&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-04-27-26&el=podcast If you're in a relationship with a Dismissive Avoidant, it can be incredibly confusing to know whether you should stay and work through the challenges or walk away. Episode Summary In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down three critical signs that indicate a relationship with an avoidant partner may not be healthy to continue. These signs help you determine whether both partners are genuinely invested in growth or whether the relationship is likely to continue causing emotional pain. When someone has a Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style, relationships can sometimes feel unstable, confusing, or emotionally distant. But Avoidant Attachment alone doesn't mean a relationship is doomed; what matters most is whether both partners are willing to do the work. You'll learn how to evaluate whether both partners are committed to growth, how to stop dating someone's potential instead of their present behavior, and how to honestly assess whether the relationship is helping you grow or slowly breaking you down emotionally. Key Takeaways ✔️A relationship can only improve if both partners are willing to work on themselves and the relationship. ✔️Many people stay in relationships because they're attached to who their partner could become, instead of evaluating who they are today. ✔️The most important question you can ask yourself is: “How is this relationship actually making me feel on a daily basis?” ✔️Words alone don't determine relationship health; consistent behavior and effort do. ✔️If a relationship is draining your emotional energy and preventing your growth, it may be time to reconsider staying. Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

In this episode, I discuss whether or not the person with avoidant attachment (who left you, ghosted you, cheated on you, etc) will come back and try and repent, and what to do when and if they do.I also discuss reasons why people may stay in such toxic relationships, such as addiction to drama, financial greed, psychological codependency, an ego boost that no matter how often someone cheats they come back, etc.The real question is - when the avoidant ex comes back, why would you even want them? Why do you feel compelled to give them a chance? Why do you have such low expectations for your life and the people in it? If you have a hard time extracting yourself from so much drama, there is likely a psychological reason that YOU are addicted/compelled to this push/pull cycle.-Secrets of a Witch is a podcast by writer, artist, and spiritual teacher Sabrina Scott. She's been a practicing witch and medium for more than 25 years, and in this casual, mellow show she shares her secrets and musings about how to overcome pain and live a happy, magical life. She is the author of five books: Witchbody; Curse and Cure: Magic for Real Life; Rapeseed: Poetry and Writing About Life After Rape; Bodymagic: A Graphic Novel About Witchcraft, Trauma, and Healing; and A Witch at Home: 18 Rituals for Life, Love, and Healing. You can learn more about Sabrina, book a tarot reading, and learn about her courses at sabrinamscott.com, and say hi on Instagram @sabrinamscott. Email her at ceo@sabrinamscott.com

Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder (ARFID) is an eating disorder diagnosis characterized by a persistent restriction or avoidance of food intake that results in clinically significant consequences (medical, nutritional, and/or psychosocial), but without the weight- and shape-driven psychopathology typical of anorexia nervosa and bulimia nervosa. In this episode, Megan Hellner and Katherine Hill outline how ARFID presents across the lifespan, why it is frequently missed in routine healthcare, and what an evidence-informed assessment and treatment pathway can look like in practice. A central theme is that ARFID is not synonymous with "picky eating" and not confined to any one body size. Patients may present at any point on the weight chart, including those who are weight-stable or in larger bodies, and the condition can begin in early childhood and persist into adulthood. The episode also highlights ARFID in athletes and physically active people, where restricted dietary variety and/or low intake can contribute to low energy availability and RED-S-like presentations, sometimes without an obvious intent to lose weight. Timestamps [03:48] Interview start [06:23] What is ARFID? DSM-5 definition vs "picky eating" [09:36] Clinical red flags: when restriction becomes a disorder [11:37] ARFID isn't always underweight: missed cases & diagnostic pitfalls [16:46] ARFID presentation profiles: low interest, sensory sensitivity, fear [18:59] Comorbidities & nutrition consequences [25:16] Evidence-based ARFID treatment [29:16] How to expand foods without pressure [32:28] Weight restoration, stabilization, and long-term maintenance [35:44] What research still needs [38:16] Differential diagnosis & referral Links/Resources Go to episode page (with links to papers and ARFID resources) Subscribe to Sigma Nutrition Premium Join the Sigma email newsletter for free Enroll in the next cohort of our Applied Nutrition Literacy course

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How To Repair Relationships & Create Lasting Emotional Connection https://offer.personaldevelopmentschool.com/relationship-repair?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=relationship-repair&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-04-17-26&el=podcast Sometimes it can be incredibly confusing to figure out whether someone is a Dismissive Avoidant who needs time to open up or whether they're simply not that interested in the relationship. Both situations can look similar on the surface, lukewarm communication, mixed signals, or slow progress. But there are very clear differences between someone who is Avoidant but invested and someone who is breadcrumbing. Understanding the difference between Avoidant Attachment and a lack of interest can save you a lot of confusion and emotional energy in dating. Episode Summary In this episode, Thais Gibson explains how Dismissive Avoidant behave when they are genuinely interested in someone and shares the key signs that someone may actually be breadcrumbing you instead. In this video, you'll learn: •  How Dismissive Avoidant behave when they're genuinely interested in a relationship •  The key difference between slow emotional warming and breadcrumbing behavior •  Four major signs that someone may be breadcrumbing you •  Why consistency and effort matter more than labels or Attachment Styles •  What to do if someone's actions aren't meeting your relationship standards Key Takeaways ✔️ Dismissive Avoidant may be slower to warm up but still show consistent effort ✔️ Someone who is interested will initiate contact and make plans regularly ✔️ Breadcrumbing often shows up as chronic inconsistency in time, attention, and plans ✔️ Last-minute responses and lack of acknowledgment for missed communication can be red flags ✔️ Clear personal standards help you decide whether a relationship is meeting your needs ✔️ Understanding your own boundaries can prevent you from staying in unhealthy dynamics Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

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