Podcasts about avoidant

Avoidant partners often appear cold or indifferent after a breakup. Does that mean they don't care?Dating/relationship expert Lucia breaks down the psychology and regret timeline of avoidant exes.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App: iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets Book

This episode is all about the anxious avoidant dynamic. How we get stuck and how to get unstuck.

Do you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners? Are you dating someone who pulls away just when things get close? When this happens, it's easy to feel lost and wonder if the person you're dating is avoidant or simply not that interested. In this episode, Matthew, Stephen, and Audrey dive deep into the topic of avoidant attachment, exploring how it develops, signs to look for, and what you can do if you're dating someone with avoidant behavior. Topics Covered: The 5 key traits of avoidant partners. Why avoidants and anxious people are magnetically drawn to each other. Whether we overuse the “avoidant” label as a defense mechanism. How early experiences shape attachment patterns. What to do if you're anxiously attached and dating someone avoidant. How to tell the difference between an avoidant and someone who just doesn't want a relationship. How to anticipate the needs of a more independent partner. The importance of not mistaking emotional unavailability for “value.” Links: DatingWithResults.com – Free training for finding love without the chaos of modern dating. JoinLoveLife.com – Become a member and access exclusive live coaching sessions and courses. AskMH.com – Try Matthew AI and get real-time coaching from an AI trained on Matthew's advice. MHRetreat.com – Book your place for the October Miami Retreat (virtual + in-person options available). Cozy Earth – Get 40% off loungewear and bedsheets with code LOVELIFE at CozyEarth.com

This week, I'm joined by my former client David to talk about his transformation from emotionally shutdown and YouTube-binging to expressive, boundary-setting, and boxing-loving. We get real about what it's like to live with a dismissive avoidant attachment style, how it affected his friendships and relationships, and how he slowly built a more secure sense of self—one tiny step (and one tucked-in shirt) at a time. You'll laugh, maybe cry, and definitely relate if you've ever felt like the “quiet, weird one” at the party. David's actually charming AF.Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you're on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

In this quick solo episode, I'm talking about a newsletter I wrote on Substack about reaction types. There are many different ways parents can react when their child becomes dysregulated, pushes against a boundary they have set, or throws a tantrum. Many of these reactions are rooted in the ways we were raised by our parents or the experiences we had as we grew up. Today, I'm going to talk about the three reaction types I encounter most frequently during my coaching with parents and working with families, and I'll also provide a bonus reaction type at the end of the episode.1. Hyper-Reactor or the Punisher The parent who will go from zero to 100 instantly and doesn't have the tools to regulate themselves.They feel discomfort because of their child's reaction to something they don't like. This may be rooted in an association from their own childhood, where they didn't feel safe expressing their own emotions. Sometimes this can feel like the child is being disrespectful to the parent. 2. Panicked ParentThe parent who knows to control their big emotions around their child who is struggling but they are terribly uncomfortable with the situation.This parent over explains the boundary or tries to justify the decision or offer other choices to make the situation better.This isn't perceived as a good thing by the dysregulated child, it just feels like more input and they cannot tolerate it. 3. The AdjustorThe parent who is an overthinker and is second guessing their boundaries all the time.When they go to hold a boundary and their child pushes back against it, they make adjustments to their boundary to avoid or stop dysregulation. This is a band aid approach to parenting because it doesn't teach kids how to tolerate frustration. Bonus Type: Avoidant ParentThe parent who doesn't have a hard time staying calm, but struggles so much to set a boundary, and avoids it at all costs. They are eggshell parenting and have crafted a perfect environment so their kids don't have to experience any sort of hardship. Avoidant parents shut down when their kids become dysregulated.Resources: Substack newsletter - Beyond ‘Good' or ‘Bad': The 3 Parental Reaction Blueprints: https://albiona.substack.com/p/beyond-good-or-bad-the-3-parentalPARR Workshop: https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/parrworkshopBe sure to sign up for my Substack newsletter for longer and more specialized parenting content: https://albiona.substack.com/ I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/Follow me on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@theparentingreframe 

Not all demand avoidant children and teens are PDA. In this episode I talk through how to know if your child fits the profile for PDA, which is important, because it suggests a different root cause for their avoidance than for non-PDA demand avoidant kids. And of course, you want to know what the root cause is so you know how best to support your child or teen.I hope this is helpful to all.xo,Casey

They always come back, don't they? I hate being a statistic, but this week I embarked on a very questionable quest in the middle of an anxiety attack. In today's episode, I unpack my anxious avoidant patterns with a few wild stories. I'll also share some recent massive breakthroughs, such as the power of prioritizing self-satisfaction over external approval, and how to choose peace over performance. Let's talk about why you run, what you're actually chasing, and how to stop judging yourself for just being human. Also, at the end, I'll give you a 15-minute masterclass on flirting with people in the wild. Let's do it!Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/Chapters:00:00 Chasing Intensity Instead of Love (Deconstructing Avoidant Attachment)45:22 How to Flirt: Flirting Masterclass

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Today, I want to introduce you to a powerful framework called a Relationship Grid—a tool that maps how we show up in our relationships: in friendship, marriage, parenting, work, and even in our relationship with God. This particular grid we will focus on spans a continuum from unhealthy enmeshment and co-dependency to healthy interdependence, and all the way to emotional detachment and avoidance. Somewhere on this spectrum, you and I live every day. You'll recognize yourself in some of these patterns—like the Doormat, the Rescuer, or the Controller. Others of us might identify with the Avoidant, the Cynic, or the Ghost. These aren't just labels; they reflect deep beliefs, unmet needs, and relational habits shaped by our past.

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When an avoidant is truly never coming back, their actions show clear signs of detachment.  Dating/relationship expert Lucia shares 9 signs your avoidant ex is gone for good.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets Book

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What really goes on in the mind of an avoidant when you don't chase them after a break up?  Do they start to miss you or do they just move on without looking back?  Dating expert Lucia reveals the truth about how avoidants react to the no contact rule.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets Book

Attachment styles are our emotional blueprint, formed in our childhood, for the way we give and receive love, and for our ability to feel safe and emotionally close to others. There are four attachment styles: secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized. Each of these attachment styles is very clearly explained by Dr. Marnee Firestone, a licensed psychologist in Boca Raton, Florida.1. Secure Attachment--this is the most healthy and balanced attachment style. The person is emotionally available for intimacy, as well as independence, without feeling fearful or guilty. They tend to be calm and well balanced. A person with secure attachment most likely received consistent love, validation and nurturing as a child.2. Anxious attachment--someone with this attachment style has a deep fear of abandonment. They seek constant love and reassurance. They can be overly smothering. They panic easily and they feel overly responsible for everyone and everything. They feel a personal sense of failure if their child is struggling, and tend to micromanage their children. A person with anxious attachment style was most likely given inconsistent love and care. Their emotional needs were sometimes tended to, and other times rejected or dismissed.3.Avoidant attachment--someone with avoidant attachment seeks to escape conflicts or arguments in the relationship. They are scared to show emotion or affection because they are scared of being rejected or neglected. They tend to withdraw from both intimacy and arguments for fear of not being accepted by their spouse. A person with avoidant attachment most likely did not have their emotional needs met. 4. Disorganized attachment--someone with disorganized attachment has a push/pull dynamic. They intensely crave closeness, but once someone gets close, they immediately push them away because real intimacy is scary for them. They are highly emotional, have a heightened fear of abandonment, and they are reactive. They have difficulty self-soothing, and they tend to attract chaos in relationships. Disorganized attachment develops as the result of trauma in childhood.Dr. Marnee explains how each of these attachment styles shows up in marriage and parenting. You can change your attachment style by becoming aware of what your attachment style is, and working to emotionally regulate yourself so that you can think clearly and respond appropriately to the people and situations in your life.If you would like Dr. Marnee's free e-book on 4 Tips To Reduce Anxiety in Your Teen, please email me at: atrebbetzins@gmail.com For families interested in Dr. Marnee's program, it is called Break the Anxiety Cycle. https://breakanxietycycle.com/ Dr. Marnee Firestone & Tamar Oppenheimer, LCSW, help parents of anxious teens by teaching them effective and practical strategies that are proven to support teens in building confidence, empowering them to pursue their goals, and ultimately bringing a sense of calm to stressed households. As we approach summer, many parents of anxious teens are searching for ways to reset and prepare their families for a better school year ahead. Break the Anxiety Cycle is a structured, parent-based program created to help families disrupt the patterns that unintentionally reinforce anxiety. Rather than placing the full burden on the teen, this program empowers parents with tools to create real change at home—reducing reactivity, rebuilding connection, and promoting resilience.Vera Kessler (host of America's Top Rebbetzins) is a certified life coach. She specializes in transformational life coaching and accountability coaching. She is also a motivational speaker. Vera's mission is to help women get out of survival mode and start thriving. She works with women who are committed to stepping into their own self-worth and creating the life they want to live--one that is full of joy, empowerment, meaning, and purpose. To learn more, visit:https://innerlifecoachingwithvera.com/

Self-advocacy can feel like a challenge, especially if you're conflict-avoidant, culturally conditioned to prioritize group harmony, or simply unsure how to speak up without fear of being labeled “difficult.” In this episode, we'll explore how to advocate for yourself effectively while balancing cultural expectations, professional norms, and personal boundaries. Neelu Kaur brings her unique expertise to the discussion. With a business degree and a masters in Social & Organizational Psychology along with her experience as a coach and master practitioner certified in NeuroLinguistic Programming, Yoga, and Ayurveda, Neelu has a really unique and comprehensive framework for tackling this topic. You'll learn: How cultural upbringing in collectivist vs. individualist societies influences our ability to speak up. Why advocating for yourself isn't selfish—it's a collective act that paves the way for others. The concept of being “a part of and apart from” group efforts to gain recognition for your contributions. How to shift from problem-framed to outcome-framed questions to open up possibilities. Practical tips for navigating conflict-avoidance and building confidence in difficult conversations. Why modeling self-advocacy as educators is essential for empowering students. How mindfulness, movement, and non-attachment can ground you before challenging situations. Whether you're negotiating for resources, managing peer dynamics, or striving to be heard or advance in a professional space, this episode provides the tools you need to find your voice and advocate for what matters most. Get the shareable article/transcript for this episode here.

In love addiction, we may find ourselves feeling betrayed by a partner-- even if we don't know for sure that something is going on--while doubting our instincts, believing we're too sensitive, and giving an emotionally unavailable partner the benefit of the doubt. This feeling adds to our anxiety, and whatever information a partner is withholding adds to the dysfunction of the relationship...and we stay in the cycle of love addiction hoping things will change. In this episode Jodi talks with betrayal trauma therapist, Lindsay Haverslew, about the reality of betrayal trauma. Jodi and Lindsay share personal experiences with betrayal, and discuss signs that a partner is emotionally unavailable, tips for identifying a trustworthy person, and much more.  Show notes and resources: Music by JD Pendley Link to Jodi's website and additional resources Lindsay's website and instagram Lindsay mentioned the work of Jennifer Freyd and Dr. Kevin Skinner and the book Unleashing Your Power  Disclaimer: This podcast is shared for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for mental health treatment with a licensed mental health professional or to be used in place of the advice of a physician. If you are struggling please don't delay in seeking the assistance of a licensed mental health practitioner or healthcare professional. If you're in crisis please visit NAMI.org or call 1-800-273-TALK for 24-hour assistance.

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If your man seems distant, self-absorbed, or emotionally unavailable, you might wonder if you're married to a narcissist—or an avoidant. That uncertainty can be scary and exhausting. But what if there's a simple experiment you can do to find out for sure? In this episode, I'm sharing four powerful steps from the 6 Intimacy Skills™ that can help you find the truth—without asking him to change a thing. These steps are simple, proven, and safe to try, even if you're feeling hurt and disconnected. You'll discover: How to restore your sparkle (and why it matters) The phrase that inspires his best self (but ONLY if you use it correctly!) The #1 thing to say when you've been disrespectful (you won't like it—but you'll love what it does) How to shift the dynamic, even if you're sure he's emotionally broken And if he is narcissistic or avoidant, you'll know soon enough—but not before you try the one approach most women have never been taught. Download the FREE Adored Wife Roadmap now and start transforming your relationship today! Click here: lauradoyle.org/roadmap      

What happens when your avoidant ex finally cracks?  Will they reach out?  Will they come running back?  Dating/relationship expert Lucia shares exactly what happens when an avoidant cracks under pressure.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets Book

As we continue our exploration of Matthew 6:25-34, we're challenged to confront our deepest worries and anxieties. Jesus' teachings on worry aren't naive platitudes, but nuanced truths that speak to the core of our human experience. We're reminded that our value exceeds our basic needs - we are more than what we eat, drink, or wear. By looking at the birds of the air and the flowers of the field, we're encouraged to trust in God's provision and care. This message pushes us to examine where we place our security and hope. Are we building our lives on worry, or on trust in God's kingdom? The call to 'seek first His kingdom and His righteousness' invites us to shift our focus from earthly concerns to eternal priorities. As we grapple with our tendency to worry, we're challenged to embrace a life of daily surrender, courageous generosity, and present-moment living. This teaching isn't about ignoring real-life challenges, but about finding a deeper trust in God that can transform our approach to life's uncertainties.

As we continue our exploration of Matthew 6:25-34, we're challenged to confront our deepest worries and anxieties. Jesus' teachings on worry aren't naive platitudes, but nuanced truths that speak to the core of our human experience. We're reminded that our value exceeds our basic needs - we are more than what we eat, drink, or wear. By looking at the birds of the air and the flowers of the field, we're encouraged to trust in God's provision and care. This message pushes us to examine where we place our security and hope. Are we building our lives on worry, or on trust in God's kingdom? The call to 'seek first His kingdom and His righteousness' invites us to shift our focus from earthly concerns to eternal priorities. As we grapple with our tendency to worry, we're challenged to embrace a life of daily surrender, courageous generosity, and present-moment living. This teaching isn't about ignoring real-life challenges, but about finding a deeper trust in God that can transform our approach to life's uncertainties.

Do you have a partner or friend that exhibits some of the signs of an avoidant attachment style?And do you find your own anxiety being triggered by their behaviour - resulting in a push-pull cycle - where both people feel frustrated and disconnected?You're certainly not alone with this.And in today's episode, I'm teaching you how to manage your OWN mind and create a secure response to avoidant behaviour.So that you can feel calm and grounded, regardless of what's going on for them - and actually create more connection.Mentioned in this episode:SIGN UP TO THE 5 DAY CHALLENGEProcessing emotions meditationSelf Esteem Building KitEmail me about 1:1 coaching - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

Passage: Exodus 34:5-7Sermon Notes:· Rejoice in the Lord always; I will say it again: Rejoice! - Philippians 4:4· Admit we are powerless.· God is greater than us and he can restore us to sanity.· Sanity is a soundness of mind, a correct understanding of reality.· What kind of God is God, and can he help me?· We doubt God has the power· We doubt God is good.· We doubt God exists.· We doubt God intervenes.· We doubt people can change.· Sheldon Vanauken – The best argument of Christianity is Christians: their joy, their certainty, their completeness. But the strongest argument against Christians is also Christians – when they are somber and joyless, when they are self-righteous and smug…; when they are narrow and repressive…· We doubt religion.· Exodus 34:5 – And the LORD came down in a cloud to be there (with Moses). He called out with the name of the LORD.· He wants to be with us.· God gets you.· Exodus 34:6 – The LORD passed in front of him and called out, “The LORD, the LORD is a compassionate and gracious God…· God is compassionate.· God is gracious.· “…long to anger and having much love and truth.”· Exodus 34:7 – “… a guardian of love for thousands, lifter of guilt and transgressions and sins. The unpunished ones are not unpunished. He pays attention to the sins of the fathers, upon their sons, and upon their sons' sons, to the third and fourth generations.· God is compassionate, gracious, long fused, with much love and truth, a guardian of love, a lifter of guilt and sin, and he pays attention to you and your family.· Do you know this God?· Anxious attachment· Avoidant attachment· Secure attachment.· What kind of attachment do you have with God?· Ask God for good enough faith.· Heavenly Father, give me good enough faith to take my next step.· Don't let the “but” win.· Lisa Terkeurst – God is bigger than your ‘but.' (one t)· “But I,” or “but God.”LIFE Group Discussion QuestionsOpener: Think about God thinking about you. What is the first word that comes to your mind?1. Read Exodus 34:52. When in your life have you felt God draw near?3. Read Exodus 34:6-74. How have you experienced God's compassion?5. How would you explain grace to someone who is not a follower of Jesus?6. Think times in the Bible when God was slow to anger.7. God is described as having much love and truth. Notice the two are paired. Why do you think this is?8. God lifts transgressions, sins and guilt. What best helps you feel the lifting of these burdens from your soul?9. God does pay attention to sin and sin patterns. What sin patterns a present in your family? How might God help you break these patterns.

Send us a textStruggling to master personality disorders for your upcoming licensure exam? Look no further than this deep dive into Dependent Personality Disorder (DPD) – a condition you might encounter on test day.We meticulously break down the DSM diagnostic criteria, requiring at least five symptoms from a pattern that includes difficulty making everyday decisions, needing others to assume responsibility for major life areas, and fears of being left to care for oneself. You'll learn to recognize the classic clinical presentation: clients who consistently defer to others, express intense abandonment fears, and often tolerate mistreatment rather than risk being alone. Most importantly, we clarify how to differentiate DPD from its common look-alikes like Borderline, Avoidant, and Histrionic Personality Disorders –  distinctions that frequently appear as exam questions.The episode explores DPD's developmental trajectory, typically rooted in childhood experiences with overprotective or authoritarian parenting that restricted age-appropriate autonomy. We examine how cultural factors influence diagnosis and discuss common comorbidities including anxiety disorders, depression, and substance use. The second half provides a comprehensive review of evidence-based treatments, from cognitive-behavioral approaches that challenge core beliefs about helplessness to schema therapy addressing early maladaptive patterns. You'll learn specific interventions like gradual exposure to independent decision-making, assertiveness training, and anxiety management techniques.Whether you're preparing for your exam or working with dependent clients in clinical practice, this episode delivers everything you need to understand this complex condition. Subscribe to Demystifying Disorders for more exam-focused breakdowns of essential mental health topics, and leave us a review if you found this helpful for your exam prep!If you need to study for your national licensing exam, try the free samplers at: LicensureExamsThis podcast is not associated with the NBCC, AMFTRB, ASW, ANCC, NASP, NAADAC, CCMC, NCPG, CRCC, or any state or governmental agency responsible for licensure.

Ever wonder why YOU are SO addicted to people who pull away? Today, you'll finally find out.If the harder you chase, the faster they run — you might be trapped in the anxious-avoidant cycle: where one partner craves closeness, and the other panics when things get too real. In this BBC episode, Violet breaks down why this dynamic feels like home but leaves you emotionally starved.Inspired by the book Attached, we dive into real stories, psych-backed insights, and how to finally break free.Bonus: Don't miss the quiz at the end—It'll help you decode your partner's attachment style fast. Jump to minute 37:00 if you're done guessing and ready to know who you're really dealing with.Wanna listen to this episode AD FREE?? Go to my ad free subscription at - https://almostadulting.supercast.comToday's episode is brought to you by:NULLY CLOTHING RENTAL - Just go to Nuuly.com and use my code ADULTING to get $28 off your first month.PRETTY LITTER - Get 20% off on your FIRST order + get a FREE cat toy + FREE shipping when you go to prettylitter.com/adulting SHOPIFY - Sign up for your ONE DOLLAR per-month trial period at Shopify.com/adultingPAIRED APP - Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at HERERULA HEALTH - Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/adultingSIMPLY POP - Spill the Pop tour with Remi & Alisha from Pretty basic is coming to a city near you!! For tour information and FREE tickets, visit cokeurl.com/simplyPOPtour , but hurry! Availability is limited.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Spin to Win! Get exclusive discounts on PDS membership. Limited-time offer—don't miss out! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/spin-the-wheel?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=spin-the-wheel&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast   Why are anxious and dismissive partners so magnetically drawn to each other—and yet so often stuck in pain? In this powerful episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais explores the intense emotional dynamic between the “love addict” (anxious attachment) and “love avoidant” (dismissive attachment). Learn how their core wounds, unmet needs, and subconscious patterns both clash and intertwine—and most importantly, how each can heal independently and together.   What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why anxious and dismissive styles are subconsciously drawn to each other ✔️ How unmet emotional needs in childhood fuel anxious clinging or avoidant withdrawal ✔️ Why the dismissive avoidant craves space while the anxious needs closeness ✔️ How this dynamic leads to painful push-pull cycles and mutual frustration ✔️ Practical tools for both partners to heal: anxious self-soothing & avoidant vulnerability ✔️ What each style must do individually to change the relationship together   If you've ever felt stuck in an “on again, off again” dynamic—or feel like you're giving too much or shutting down too fast—this episode is your roadmap to healing and connection.   Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, best-selling author, and a globally recognized expert in attachment theory and subconscious healing. With a Ph.D. and over a decade of experience, she's helped over 70,000 people transform their relationships and emotional patterns from the inside out. Helpful Resources:

Ever feel like you and your partner speak totally different relationship languages?In this It's About DAMN Time classic, I sit down with licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Jannis Moody to break down attachment styles—how they're formed, how they show up, and what they mean for your relationships. Whether you're Secure, Anxious, Avoidant, or Disorganized… this one will have you reflecting and rethinking how you show up for love.I've been revisiting some of my own relationship patterns lately, and this conversation still hits. So if you missed it the first time—or need the reminder like I did—tap in.In this episode, we cover:How childhood experiences shape your attachment styleThe signs and patterns of each style in relationshipsWhat to do when your style doesn't match your partner'sCommunication strategies for navigating emotional differencesTools for building stronger, more secure connectionsThis episode is packed with insights, lightbulb moments, and practical tools to help you understand yourself and your relationships better.

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In this epside, Taylor gives a full update on her new engagement, wedding dress, wedding venue, move, and the feeling of getting everything you've desired.PLUS - going all in on the pendulum swing of the anxious woman who's found avoidance but moved so far from her heart.Book a call here - www.upgradewithtaylor.com/30m-consultKeys To The Queendom - www.upgradewithtaylor.com/queendomClick here to follow on social media

Jess shares an inspiring story of synchronicity that sparks a deep dive into how people—especially women—can unknowingly leak financial potential due to insecure attachment styles. She reflects on how our past experiences, wisdom, and accumulated knowledge are often undervalued or discarded, leading to scarcity patterns and survival-mode living.Using a relatable example of a fashion journalist friend, Jess maps out how even someone with a rich professional background might find themselves financially stuck—not because they lack value, but because they're not recognizing or monetizing it.She breaks down a model of creating a high-value membership offering and uses simple math to show how it could result in multi-million-pound futures. But beyond the numbers, she brings the focus back to inner healing: the importance of cultivating secure attachment, trusting your worth, and learning to hold abundance without fear or leakage.Key TakeawaysYour past holds financial gold. Every experience, skill, and relationship you've built is valuable and potentially monetizable.Secure attachment supports financial clarity. When you're grounded in your worth, you can plan wisely for the future and build income streams aligned with your value.Scarcity often comes from wounding. Avoidant or anxious attachment patterns can block abundance by creating subconscious resistance to holding or receiving money.Build with intention. Something like a small membership community (e.g. 250 people paying £297/month) can create over £900K/year, which, wisely invested, sets up generational wealth.Your pension starts now. Think beyond work. What do you need to feel supported later in life? Design for that today.Self-worth is the foundation. Healing is essential. Until you feel worthy of holding and receiving, no strategy will feel sustainable.Quotes from Jess“All along the way, you've been investing in yourself. But have you just thrown that all away?”“A secure attachment style helps you hold. Money. Love. Safety. Legacy.”“What's leaking is your gold. But it can be reclaimed.”

Winter is loosening her grip slowly this year, matching our emotions as we move into our first season without Mom here on Sap Bush Hollow Farm.  We're doing as well as can be expected…in spite of my dog's utter failure to offer emotional support.  I'm Shannon Hayes, and you're listening to Season 6, Episode 1 of The Hearth of Sap Bush Hollow. You can find the full transcript of this essay on The Radical Homemaker Blog at SapBushFarmStore.com. Support the show

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. Avoidant attachment is one of the four attachment styles that can present in a person that affects their view of self and others. 1. How it happens or what it looks like in a relationship 2. What someone with avoidant attachment feels when someone tries to get too close 3. How to help them out of their shell and not take it personally Mind Renewal Tip: Avoidant attachment is something that is meant to be personal to others. It's a coping mechanism developed to protect the person from stress. Scripture Renewal Tip:A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1

This episode of Just For Girls is bought to you by SORTD - get the app for free NOW Hey girls! While we're recovering from Coachella, we're answering the rest of your dilemmas to hopefully make you all feel better. We answer questions about when to move on from an ex, whether to stay back and not travel for a guy & what to do when you've outgrown a friendship but want to be there for the friend. Chat next week xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Spin to Win! Get exclusive discounts on PDS membership. Limited-time offer—don't miss out! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/spin-the-wheel?utm_source=&utm_campaign=spin-the-wheel&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast Why do avoidants seem hesitant to commit—even when things are going well? In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais reveals the three hidden qualities every dismissive avoidant looks for before committing to a long-term relationship or deep friendship. These traits aren't always spoken aloud, but they quietly determine whether the relationship feels safe and sustainable. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why emotional acceptance is essential to avoidants (and how criticism shuts them down) ✔️ The importance of emotional stability—and how avoidants subtly test for it ✔️ How a strong sense of autonomy and independence is a non-negotiable for commitment ✔️ What not to do if you want to build trust with an avoidant partner ✔️ How to communicate your needs while honoring theirs ✔️ Why understanding these three traits can transform your relationship dynamic If you've ever felt confused by an avoidant partner's pullback or mixed signals, this episode gives you the roadmap to understanding their core needs—and deciding if you're aligned for the long haul. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, best-selling author, and expert in reprogramming subconscious patterns. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in modalities like CBT, Somatic Experiencing, and more, Thais has helped thousands transform their relationships and emotional lives. Helpful Resources:

The dating and relationship world is rife with blindsided breakups. Is this the hallmark of an Avoidant? Counsellor Ken Reid is here to discuss Fearful and Dismissive Avoidants and explain why this heartbreaking scenario is so often the upshot of their relationship trajectory. Counsellor Ken Reid is the go-to source for all things ATTACHMENT THEORY. His work includes relationship challenges, breakups, grief, and communication skills. He also serves the LGBTQIA+ community. Defining fearful and dismissive avoidants Hallmarks and “Tells” of an Avoidant The Blindsided Breakup Strategy Website: https://www.kenreidcounselling.com.au Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kenreads Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

Are you wearing rose-colored glasses that are distorting your ability to see people clearly?In this episode of The New Age Sage, I uncover the hidden traumas and attachment wounds that keep you blind to red flags, addicted to chaos, and stuck in cycles of love that drain your soul. Whether it's anxious attachment, fear of being alone, or the belief you can fix someone, these unconscious patterns shape who you attract and what you tolerate.If you're tired of mistaking red flags for connection and calling it love, this episode will show you how to take the glasses off, see with truth, and finally choose relationships rooted in wholeness.———————00:00 - Intro00:40 - The terror of being alone06:07 - Brokenness and the belief in a missing piece12:43 - My anxious attachment20:02 - Narcissists and love bombing26:08 - Visualizing the cost of chasing the wrong person30:21 - Romantic trauma is the final boss33:36 - Being a fixer is a red flag in disguise37:00 - Avoidant terror of intimacy43:04 - Being addicted to changing someone50:01 - Women who believe they can't provide54:35 - Final thoughts———————Please like, comment, and subscribe if this episode resonates with you. I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments below!Lucas Salame: www.instagram.com/lucas__salame/ | https://www.new-age-sage.com

Can water hold memory, respond to your thoughts, and support healing? In this episode of The Healing & Human Potential Podcast, we explore the hidden intelligence of water—and what it means for your health, emotions, and connection to life. You'll hear how water responds to intention, sound, and words by forming stunning crystallized images. We talk about how it can reflect what's happening in your body, store past trauma, and even act as a mirror for the divine.  Our guest is Veda Austin, a water researcher and author whose healing journey began after a near-fatal car crash. She shares how water helped her recover, what she's discovered through years of crystallography, and how she developed her freezing method. Veda also talks about “hydro glyphs”—symbols water forms in response to specific words—and her work with the non-speaking autistic children from The Telepathy Tapes who describe these images as doorways to healing. If you're ready to see water in a whole new way, this is a conversation you won't want to miss.   ===   Have you watched our previous episode titled Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love   Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/bfBSNKPEl80?si=69P6OtbXKAlyjYFR   ===   GUEST LINKS https://facebook.com/waterresearcher https://instagram.com/vedaaustin_water Website: http://www.vedaaustin.com   ====   Alyssa Nobriga International, LLC - Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this video. Copyright 2023, Alyssa Nobriga International, LLC - All rights reserved.   ===   Want 3 Life-Changing Tools you can use on yourself (or your clients) from inside our Accredited Coaching Certification? Click here to get them for Free: https://www.alyssanobriga.com/tools 

If your ex is an avoidant, there's a good chance you're anxious.  If you let your anxiety take over when you're trying to get your ex back, your chances of success are very low.  Dating/relationship expert Lucia reveals what you absolutely must do if you want your avoidant ex back.

Send us a textYou value your independence, need plenty of space, and rarely rely on others—it's just how you're wired. But what if your ‘normal' way of handling relationships is actually pushing love away and leaving you feeling lonelier than ever? Avoidant attachment might be protecting you in the short term, but it could be sabotaging your deepest connections—and even hurting you in ways you don't realize. In this episode, we'll break down the subtle ways avoidant behaviors damage relationships, why self-reliance can backfire, and most importantly—how to start showing up differently without losing yourself.Support the show

Why do we keep attracting people who trigger our deepest wounds—even when we think we've done the work?   In this episode, we explore why romantic partners often reflect unresolved childhood pain and how these dynamics are invitations to grow. We talk about the importance of attachment styles, trauma responses, and why many of us pendulum swing between codependency and hyper-independence.   If you've ever felt stuck in a “should I stay or go” relationship, we share guiding principles to help you find clarity—without bypassing your own healing. You'll also hear how heartbreak can actually open the door to deeper self-love and emotional maturity, whether you're single or partnered.   I'm joined by Sheleana Aiyana, founder of Rising Woman, who shares her story of breaking old cycles and creating conscious love. Whether you're navigating heartbreak, deepening your current relationship, or wanting to prepare for conscious love, this episode is for you.   ===   Have you watched our previous episode titled The Truth About Failure: Why It's the Secret to Success   Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/YdGji5Qf6IY   ===   GUEST LINKS Instagram: @risingwoman @sheleanaaiyana Website: https://risingwoman.com/   ====   Alyssa Nobriga International, LLC - Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this video. Copyright 2023, Alyssa Nobriga International, LLC - All rights reserved.   ===   Want 3 Life-Changing Tools you can use on yourself (or your clients) from inside our Accredited Coaching Certification? Click here to get them for Free: https://www.alyssanobriga.com/tools

The avoidant craves you when you're distant but loses interest when you're available. Hot/cold. Push/pull. It will remain the same… until you do this: #DismissiveAvoidant #HotandCold The avoidant's attraction is fueled by longing, not love. It's easy to hope your absence has sparked their desire. But once you're back in their arms, their fear of engulfment triggers them to pull away. This cycle keeps them uncommitted, always seeking greener grass while leaving you questioning if the connection was ever real. The Avoidant's Push-Pull Dynamics Their Fear of Intimacy Ending Your Emotional Rollercoaster Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

Talking points: attachment, relationships, cultureI recently brought in an attachment specialist for the Alliance because a lot of men are noticing an uptick in women who are emotionally distant, avoid vulnerability, and break it off the second things get serious. There are a ton of ways to look at this, and lots of factors, but I wanted to dig in a bit—and give some insight into what YOU can do if you're dating an avoidant woman.***Join myself, Ryan Michler, Larry Hagner, and Matt Beaudreau on a mission to improve yourself as a man, husband, business owner, and community leader at the Men's Forge. May 1-4, St. Louis, MO: https://orderofman.clickfunnels.com/uprising-landing-page1715263442491Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and FREE lifetime access to our Attachment Styles & Sex course with a 7-day free trial! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast Do dismissive avoidants ever regret leaving? Dismissive avoidants are known for suppressing emotions, pulling away from closeness, and avoiding vulnerability—but what happens when they realize they made a mistake after a breakup? In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais breaks down the most common patterns dismissive avoidants go through post-breakup, how they process regret, and whether they will reach out or avoid dealing with their emotions altogether. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why dismissive avoidants take longer to process regret after a breakup ✔️ The key signs a dismissive avoidant is realizing they made a mistake ✔️ Why they often don't reach out—even when they miss you ✔️ How they suppress emotions to avoid feeling loss and vulnerability ✔️ What happens when they reflect on past relationships in hindsight ✔️ How to handle it if they do reach out (or if they don't) ✔️ The difference between genuine regret vs. reaching out for comfort If you've ever wondered, “Does my dismissive avoidant ex ever think about me?” or “Will they ever realize what they lost?”, this episode will help you understand their post-breakup mindset and what it means for your healing and closure. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the co-founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leader in personal development. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and more, Thais has helped thousands transform their relationships and emotional well-being. Helpful Resources:

Are attachment styles a life sentence?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Talking points: attachment, relationshipsThe way you connect with others really can change for the better, and it's important to know when you're headed in the right direction. If you or your partner has an avoidant attachment style—aka shutdown in conflict, emotional distancing, etc.—this one's for you. Listen in.Not sure what avoidant attachment is? Check out A Man's Guide To Avoidant Attachment: https://lnk.to/3anA6L(00:00:00) - Intro and what you need to understand first(00:02:25) - Sign number one: more emotional availability(00:04:41) - Number two: Better conflict navigation(00:07:01) - Number three: you aren't debating ending the relationship at the first sign of trouble(00:08:01) - Number four: a deeper sense of trust(00:10:08) - Number five: their needs are more clear, AND they're moving to meet your needs more often ***Join myself, Ryan Michler, Larry Hagner, and Matt Beaudreau on a mission to improve yourself as a man, husband, business owner, and community leader at the Men's Forge. May 1-4, St. Louis, MO: https://orderofman.clickfunnels.com/uprising-landing-page1715263442491Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram |

If you've ever felt like you're too much in a relationship while your partner seems emotionally unavailable, you're not alone. The anxious-avoidant dynamic is one of the most common (and frustrating) relationship patterns—but is it doomed, or can it actually work? In this episode, Jimmy Knowles (@jimmy_on_relationships) joins Sabrina Zohar to break down the push-pull dynamic between anxious and avoidant partners. Both Jimmy and Sabrina lean anxious, while their partners are avoidant—so they get the struggles firsthand.

Anxious? Avoidant? How about transcending ALL of it? PLUS: A quick antidote to Mom ShameSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.