Podcasts about avoidant

Episode TitleThe Attachment Style Quiz Your Therapist Would Give You (Part 2 of the Secure-Relationship Series)Episode DescriptionMost of what we do in relationships is on autopilot—shaped by how we were cared for (or not) as kids. In this episode, Sharla and Robert unpack the three main attachment styles (Secure, Anxious, and Avoidant), share eye-opening childhood reflection questions, real-life couple stories, and checklists to help you identify yourself. You'll finally understand why you chase, why they pull away, and how to stop using labels as weapons—so you can actually build the safety and closeness you both crave.Key TakeawaysYour attachment style isn't a flaw—it's an adaptation from childhood.Never weaponize labels (“You're so avoidant!”). Use them for compassion only.Secure relationships require: safety first, equal power, and the relationship that come first.The path to more security = Acceptance of who you both are + owning your impact.You can't force change in your partner. You create it through consistent safety.Quick Attachment Style Checklists (from the episode)Secure I enjoy closeness but am also comfortable alone. Disagreements don't shake me. I trust easily.Avoidant I recharge best alone. Closeness can feel smothering. I downplay emotions.Anxious I worry my partner will leave. I need frequent reassurance. Small things feel like big threats.Resources for Deeper LearningMust-Read BooksAttached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller → The book that brought attachment theory into everyday relationships. Wired for Love by Stan Tatkin → Deep dive into how your partner's brain works and how to create real security together.The Power of Attachment by Diane Poole Heller → Excellent for understanding how early wounds show up now and how to heal them.Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson → Seven conversations that can transform your relationship (Emotionally Focused Therapy classic).Next WeekWe start building that “invisible forcefield” around your relationship—specific tools to create safety and security even when your attachment styles clash.Call to Action!If this episode gave you an “aha!” moment, please leave us a 5-star rating and quick review—it really helps other couples find the show. Share this episode with your partner or a friend who's stuck in the chase-pullaway cycle. And subscribe so you don't miss Part 3!Thanks for listening — and remember: put each other first this week. The small things, done often, really do change everything. ❤️

In this mini but important episode, Christa tackles the most common, and most painful, dynamic in marriage: the anxious-avoidant pairing. If you've ever felt like you're constantly chasing your spouse for connection while they pull away, or if you feel overwhelmed by a partner who won't give you breathing room, this episode will help you understand why these attachment styles are magnetically drawn to each other and how the pursue-withdraw cycle keeps you stuck. In this intro episode, Christa gives practical steps each partner needs to take to break the cycle and move toward earned secure attachment. The key insight: Your Enneagram type is the engine, your attachment style is the steering, understanding both is where real change begins. Whether you're anxious, avoidant, or somewhere in between, this episode gives you language for what's happening and hope that change is possible. Listen right here or watch on YouTube! Need mental health tips in this time? Sign up for the FREE EnneaSummit here! ⁠⁠https://www.tylerzach.com/mh26/enneasummit?ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tylerzach.com%2Fa%2F2148228842%2FLS2nNmzL The Enneagram and Marriage Coaching & Certification Masterclass course begins again February 12, use code COACH for discount ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-e-m-coaching-masterclass⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find more about your type, the pod, freebies, and SO much more at our website right here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.EnneagramandMarriage.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Christa's Best-Selling Book, The Enneagram in Marriage, here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://a.co/d/df8SxVx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, Alix & Kayla unpack one of the most controversial queer takes on the internet: being attracted to women, sleeping with women, but not wanting to date or marry them. Is it preference, internalized homophobia, avoidance, or just honest self-awareness?Through listener submissions, they dive into WLW stereotypes, deal breakers, attachment styles, emotional intensity, codependency, and why queer relationships can feel so confronting. This episode is funny, nuanced, validating, and guaranteed to spark debate.00:00 – Intro: married, not related, very codependent02:00 – Listener love, sister wives & queer community updates06:00 – Deal breakers: kids, lying, cheating & location10:00 – Hygiene, finances & political differences16:05 – Topic intro: “I'm into women but wouldn't date one”17:10 – WLW stereotypes: neediness, codependency & you-hauling21:00 – Hookups vs dating & honesty vs leading people on25:20 – Intimacy, fear & emotional closeness with women29:50 – “Women are what I desire, men are what I tolerate”35:30 – Right person vs wrong person39:00 – Independence, merging lives & feeling suffocated44:00 – Avoidant attachment & relationship panic49:30 – Who's the Problem: toothbrush edition 56:30 – Final thoughts & listener call-to-action#WLWPodcast #QueerPodcast #LesbianPodcast #BiVisibility #WLWRelationships #QueerDating #AttachmentTheory #QueerDiscourse #WivesNotSisters #LGBTQPodcastConnect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

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Healthy relationships require that we are open to being influenced. After all, what is a relationship if it doesn't include give and take. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Kaleb Beyer explains what both research and experience has taught him about the importance of accepting influence in relationships.  Show notes:  What does accepting relational influence mean?   Allowing those we are in relationship with to shape and impact our thinking, feeling and behaving.   What does not accepting relational influence look like?  Relationship rigidity resulting in dismissing or being un-moved by the input, wisdom, experience and interaction of another individual.   What does the research say?  Husbands who accept influence from their wives tend to have happier and more satisfying relationships.  The more influence a spouse is willing to accept, the more influential they can be.  What makes accepting relational influence difficult?  Being defensive or the tendency to recoil from perceived challenges.  Black and white thinking or the tendency to see matters in either/or categories.  Avoidant or the tendency to avoid relationship disagreement and friction.  Misunderstood roles in relationship or the tendency to enter a relationship with a role modeled or taught to you that does not permit influence.  Lack of relationship safety.   What happens if we don't accept influence?  The relationship tends towards disconnection.  Does accepting influence mean finding agreement?  Yes and no. Yes – you both agree that the other is worth understanding well enough to know when and how to yield to them. No – agreement is not the objective. In fact, disagreement is common and still should include influence.  What does healthy influence look like amid disagreement?  When a person says "no" in a relationship, they should simultaneously say "yes" to the friend or spouse they are in relationship with. By this we mean, those we are in relationship should always feel they have been understood and valued enough to have influenced us regardless of the decision at hand. 

Get the Somatic Attachment Healing Course FREE for life when you start your 7-day trial of the All-Access Pass: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/somatic-attachment-healing?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=somatic-attachment-healing&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-01-30-26&el=podcast If you're caught in cycles of emotional pain, overthinking, or fear of getting close again, this episode will help you understand what's really happening beneath the surface, and how to start healing at the root.   Episode Summary Breakups don't just hurt emotionally; they can activate deep attachment wounds that keep us stuck in fear, rumination, and self-doubt. In this episode, we explore why commitment can feel so threatening after heartbreak, how the subconscious mind enters “flaw-finding mode,” and why the boomerang effect can pull us back into unhealthy dynamics. You'll learn how to separate genuine feelings from fear-based reactions, why holding no contact is so powerful for healing, and how to begin rewriting old emotional stories so you can create secure, healthy relationships moving forward.   Key Takeaways Why fear of commitment often intensifies after a breakup How to distinguish real feelings from subconscious fear responses What “flaw-finding mode” is and how it sabotages the connection The boomerang effect and why it keeps pulling you back Why holding no contact supports nervous system regulation How routines help rewire old attachment patterns Practical steps to heal emotionally and move forward with clarity   Timestamps 00:00:00 – Intro 00:01:31 – A Fear of Commitment 00:02:40 – Feelings Minus Fears 00:04:31 – Flaw Finding Mode 00:05:56 – Boomerang Effect 00:08:50 – IAT Promo 00:09:43 – Hold No Contact 00:10:44 – Rewrite Our Old Stories 00:11:46 – Find a Routine 00:12:30 – Conclusion / How to Heal From a Breakup   Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.   Helpful Resources:

What happens when you've been in a long distance romance with an avoidant attached person and it feels intense even if you've just met a handful of times? You want answers...What is happening here? Can this be anything more? Why do they ghost me and return? As Sarah shares her stories, we try to find her answers that would soothe her troubles heart. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

If you've ever been in a romantic relationship where one of you keeps reaching for closeness while the other pulls away just when things feel important, this episode is for you. If part of you feels like you're always chasing connection, or part of you feels like too much closeness makes you want to escape, you're not broken. You're likely in an anxious-avoidant dynamic. Anxious and avoidant partners don't randomly fall in love. This pairing is common for very specific psychological and nervous system reasons. Today I want to help you understand that pattern so you can stop personalizing what's happening and start seeing it clearly. This is Part One of a three-part series. Today is about naming the dynamic. The next two episodes will focus on how to love an anxious partner and how to love an avoidant partner without losing yourself.____________________________Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/anxious-avoidant-relationships Download Where Are You in the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle Right Now? It's a quick self-assessment to help you understand how you're showing up in your relationship when things get hard: https://abbymedcalf.com/anxious-avoidant-cycle-assessment Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack. You'll get...✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby_________ Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week! https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/

Being patient with an avoidant doesn't save the connection - it often kills attraction.Dating expert Lucia explains why attraction fades when you're waiting, being understanding, and "not putting pressure on it". If you've been trying to stay calm and do the right thing while nothing changes, this episode is for you.#avoidantattachment #breakups #exback #nocontact #nocontactruleGet coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram

Start Healing Your Attachment Style With Personalized Courses Taught by Thais Gibson. Free for 7 Days (Enough Time to Complete a Full Course). Limited-time Offer: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-01-21-26&el=podcast When someone won't commit, it can trigger anxiety, self-doubt, and the urge to chase or over-explain. But a securely attached person doesn't beg, pressure, or abandon themselves. They respond with clarity, boundaries, and self-trust, and that response changes everything.

Why does an absent or emotionally unavailable father affect your relationships as a man? In this episode, David breaks down how growing up without consistent masculine presence shapes attachment, emotional regulation, and intimacy in adult relationships. You'll learn how father absence leads to avoidance, hyper-independence, emotional shutdown, performance-based self-worth, and repeated dating patterns—including choosing emotionally unavailable partners and sabotaging healthy connection. This episode goes beyond psychology and dating advice. It's about responsibility, nervous system healing, masculine leadership, and doing the deep relational work required to create secure, grounded, and fulfilling relationships.     Key Topics Covered: ⭐ The real impact of an absent or emotionally unavailable father ⭐ How father wounds shape attachment styles in men ⭐ Avoidant attachment, fear of intimacy, and emotional shutdown ⭐ Hyper-independence and distrust in relationships ⭐ Performance, success, and "never feeling good enough" ⭐ Shame cycles, conflict avoidance, and lack of repair ⭐ Why men choose unavailable partners ⭐ Repeating your father's patterns unconsciously ⭐ Difficulty receiving love and reassurance ⭐ Healing father wounds through relationship ⭐ Inner child work and masculine reparenting ⭐ Nervous system regulation and emotional capacity ⭐ Learning repair, leadership, and secure intimacy   ➡️ Join the Waitlist "Relate" https://forms.gle/2AXhmyNweasETaso7  Connect With David – The Authentic Man: Instagram: / theauthenticman_ Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/ For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe    

In this episode of Unfck Your Relationships, I break down what actually happens when an avoidant realises they've lost you and why this moment is so often misunderstood and romanticised. Avoidants don't experience breakups the same way anxious or secure people do. Instead of immediate grief, they often feel relief as the fear of closeness shuts off. It's only later when distractions stop working that the loss truly hits. I unpack the avoidant timeline, from the relief phase to the delayed grief, why breadcrumbing often follows, and why missing you does not automatically mean growth or emotional availability. This episode isn't about getting them back. It's about understanding the dynamic so you can stop waiting, stop self-abandoning, and start choosing secure love without needing someone else to realise your worth. WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-womanSign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experienceCONNECT WITH MICHELLE:Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanningWebsite: http://www.michellepanning.com

For an anxious guy, nothing is more confusing than discovering that your avoidant, seemingly asexual wife was having an affair.No touching. No sex. Years of rejection.And yet… she was sleeping with someone else.I break down a real message from a man in a long-term dead bedroom who discovered his dismissive-avoidant wife had been cheating for years. We dig into anxious vs. avoidant attachment, why this dynamic is so common, and why the affair usually has nothing to do with you lacking masculinity, confidence, or sexual value.If you've ever wondered:“How could she want sex with him but not me?”“What does an avoidant partner actually want?”“Why counseling never seems to work with avoidant spouses?”“Was I just too needy or anxious?”…this video will make things click.We'll also talk about:Why “new” always beats “safe”Why anxious partners are usually the only ones willing to do the workWhy avoidant people struggle in long-term monogamyAnd why this pattern tends to repeat itself again and againIf you're dealing with a dead bedroom, infidelity, or the anxious–avoidant trap, you're not alone.

Therapist Joseph Caruso joins Trending with Timmerie Episode Guide Withdrawing? Avoidant? Can’t handle Boredom? Recovering from repression and numbness. (1:30) How do we reach people who’ve replaced human relationships with AI chatbots? (26:19) Is it a bad habit to always want to watch something? (33:59) How do you deal with friends and extended family and confront them about their values? (39:41) A young man struggling with LGBTQ writes Timmerie a letter (42:30) Resources mentioned: Joseph Caruso https://cccsanjose.com/therapists/joseph-caruso Find a Therapist https://cpa.ce21.com/directory https://find.catholictherapists.com/ Irregular eating damaging fertility https://relevantradio.com/2025/11/irregular-eating-damaging-fertility/ Send Timmerie a question trending@relevantradio.com

In Episode 10, Kim opens Season Two by breaking down procrastination in a way most people have never heard it explained before. This episode isn't about productivity, discipline, or time management. It's about emotional risk, fragile self-esteem, and the identities we built in childhood to survive. Kim explains why procrastination shows up around the things that matter most. Big conversations. Creative work. Boundaries. Healing. Growth. And why avoidance isn't laziness. It's protection. Drawing from attachment theory, trauma, neurobiology, and her own lived experience, Kim connects procrastination to emotional attunement, identity, shutdown, people-pleasing, catastrophizing, and the fear of inner collapse. She also explains why insight alone doesn't change behavior, and what actually has to shift for real movement to happen. –––––––––––––––––– Time Stamps & Topics 00:00 – Rage, triggers, and decades of stored emotional memory 00:25 – Why feeling misunderstood cuts so deeply 00:52 – Procrastination isn't about time management 01:22 – Emotional risk vs practical difficulty 01:50 – Personal example: writing a first book 02:29 – Procrastination around hard conversations 03:01 – Mistakes, shame, and fragile self-esteem 03:59 – Inner collapse and identity threat 05:04 – Why systems learn to avoid emotional danger 05:28 – What self-esteem actually is (and isn't) 05:51 – Self-esteem as emotional resilience 06:25 – Emotional attunement explained 06:44 – Empathy vs shared experience 07:37 – Why "they'll never understand me" isn't true 08:10 – Childhood emotional neglect and minimization 09:14 – Avoidant coping and jumping to solutions 09:57 – Why being sat with matters 10:27 – Religion, conflict avoidance, and emotional bypassing 11:30 – Biology of trauma and implicit memory 12:33 – Adoption, abandonment, and cognitive bias 13:46 – Anger as a lifelong trigger 14:52 – Suppression vs expression of emotion 15:41 – Coping mechanisms and shutdown 16:24 – Anxious vs avoidant responses in conflict 17:09 – Self-esteem and "what happens when something goes wrong" 18:28 – Catastrophizing and control 19:13 – Why anxiety feels protective 20:00 – Avoidance as nervous system safety 21:25 – Silence, minimization, and relational procrastination 23:14 – Childhood roles: good child, peacemaker, achiever 24:38 – Survival strategies vs self-esteem 25:27 – Relational procrastination and suppressed anger 26:25 – Waiting until you're angry to speak 27:08 – Walking on eggshells and staying silent 28:02 – Triggers as accumulated implicit memory 29:12 – Why your partner isn't the whole cause 30:07 – Shutdown as self-protection, not punishment 31:05 – Why insight doesn't change behavior 31:56 – Awareness without emotional capacity 32:23 – Cognitive vs behavioral change 33:11 – Reframing hard conversations 33:56 – Procrastination in personal growth and healing 35:02 – Childhood identities and family roles 36:16 – How family freezes you in old identities 37:35 – Why growth feels threatening 38:05 – Holding competing emotions about parents 39:22 – Letting go of old identities 40:05 – Why growth feels risky, not empowering 41:18 – What actually reduces procrastination 41:46 – Emotional regulation and self-trust 42:09 – Questions to ask yourself about avoidance 43:16 – Tasks that carry emotional weight 43:44 – Identity disruption and behavior change 44:31 – Alcohol, belonging, and identity shifts 44:58 – Pay attention to what you avoid 45:26 – What avoidance is protecting –––––––––––––––––– This episode is especially relevant if you feel stuck despite insight, avoid hard conversations, or keep postponing the things that matter most to you. Kim's website: https://www.kimpolinder.com/ Kim's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kp_counseling/ Kim's YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@engineeringlovepodcast

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Unlock Clarity, Healing, and Emotional Freedom This Boxing Week With Thais Gibson. Start Your Free 7-day Trial to the Personal Development School and get the Healing Family Dynamics Course ($250 Value) FREE for Life. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/healing-family-dynamics-flashsale?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=healing-family-dynamics&utm_medium=organic&utm_term=K-OyK4c3FN0&utm_content=yt-12-26-25&el=podcast When someone you care about suddenly pulls away, it can feel terrifying and deeply confusing. You may find yourself asking: Are they discarding me… or is this just normal avoidant behavior? In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down the clear emotional, behavioral, and neurological signs that indicate whether a Dismissive Avoidant is preparing to discard and what you can do to protect your heart, stop self-blame, and respond from a grounded, empowered place. This video also walks you through practical steps to regulate emotional dysregulation, interrupt painful self-judgment patterns, and set boundaries that honor your needs, regardless of how the other person chooses to show up. In This Video, You'll Learn: The difference between normal avoidant distancing and an actual discard Early emotional shutdown and devaluing behaviors to watch for Why Dismissive Avoidants replace intimacy with “creature comforts” The neuroscience behind emotional dysregulation in relationships How cortisol and oxytocin impact connection, stress, and bonding Why self-judgment makes everything more painful and how to stop it How to use pattern interrupts and boundary-setting to protect yourself The biggest sign a Dismissive Avoidant may be pulling away Timestamps: 00:00 – Are They Discarding Me? 00:44 – 1. If You See Them Shutting Down Emotionally 01:44 – 2. If There Are Sudden Devaluing Behaviors or Comments 04:50 – Healing Family Dynamics Course Promo 05:48 – 3. They Replace Intimacy With Creature Comforts 07:05 – The Neuroscience Behind Emotional Dysregulation in Relationships 09:12 – Step 1: You Don't Need to Judge Yourself 10:58 – Step 2: Pattern Interrupt 13:49 – Ancient Wisdom on Self-Consideration 15:33 – 4. When They Stop Communicating 16:20 – Final Thoughts Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Avoidant restrictive food intake disorder (ARFID) is an eating disorder where people severely restrict food due to fear, sensory sensitivities, or low interest — not body image concerns — causing significant health and social problems Unlike normal picky eating, ARFID involves intense distress, extremely narrow food choices, nutritional deficiencies, weight loss, and serious disruption to daily life and social activities Prevalence ranges from 0.35% to 6.4% depending on region, primarily affecting children and teens, with average diagnosis at age 11 and higher male representation than other disorders Treatment approaches include parental control strategies, cognitive behavioral therapy, family-based treatment, food therapy, and sequential oral sensory methods to gradually reduce food-related fear and anxiety A specialized protocol combining psychology, hypnosis, and neuro-linguistic programming shows 90% success for adults and 65% for children, often achieved in single session

Avoidant restrictive food intake disorder (ARFID) is an eating disorder where people severely restrict food due to fear, sensory sensitivities, or low interest — not body image concerns — causing significant health and social problems Unlike normal picky eating, ARFID involves intense distress, extremely narrow food choices, nutritional deficiencies, weight loss, and serious disruption to daily life and social activities Prevalence ranges from 0.35% to 6.4% depending on region, primarily affecting children and teens, with average diagnosis at age 11 and higher male representation than other disorders Treatment approaches include parental control strategies, cognitive behavioral therapy, family-based treatment, food therapy, and sequential oral sensory methods to gradually reduce food-related fear and anxiety A specialized protocol combining psychology, hypnosis, and neuro-linguistic programming shows 90% success for adults and 65% for children, often achieved in single session

Thank you for joining us for our 2nd Cabral HouseCall of the weekend!   I'm looking forward to sharing with you some of our community's questions that have come in over the past few weeks…   Sophie:  Hi Stephen, I really appreciate all that you do and I was hoping you would be able to give me some much needed guidance. I was diagnosed with ventricular tachycardia last year and the only explanation the consultant could provide was it was due to a tiny scar on my heart. I had a ultrasound & an MRI and the results were fine, and my heart was structurally sound. I have taken the big 5 and nothing was out of the ordinary apart from high cortisol at night and candida. I consequently completed the CBO last year. I am currently on beta blockers to control the fast/erratic heartbeats. These do not work all the time. The consultant said my only other option is for them to preform an AF abrasion. What are your thoughts on this procedure, as I really want to get off the beta Blockers and find a natural alternative to fixing my heart. I have heard you talk about how Enzymes are good for the heart, is there one in particular that would help or anything else I can try? I really do not want to have the abrasion or carry on with the BB and am desperate to find a natural solution to fixing my symptoms. I am taking omega 3, magnesium-complex, VD + K2, vitamin c, b-complex, hawthorn, zinc, coq10 & taurine, is there anything else I should be taking to help. When my symptoms are at there worst, I get a big rush to the head and black out for a few seconds, whilst shaking. I have a clean diet, and do not smoke and have cut out alcohol, coffee & sugar, as I find any stimulant does not help, including over exercising. Please help, any advise would be greatly appreciated.                                                                                                                                                                                Anonymous: Hi Dr. Cabral! Over the last year my cycle has gone from 28 days to 23–24 days, and my PMS symptoms have gotten extreme—like night sweats, heavy emotions, breast tenderness, and migraines right before my period. I'm only 34, so perimenopause feels early. Could this be stress-related, estrogen dominance, or something deeper? Thank you for all you do!                                                                                                                                                                                                   Sarah: Hello dr C! Curious if you're familiar with the eating disorder Avoidant Restrictive Food Intake Disorder (ARFID)? I suffered with it from the age of 2 until 20 - eating nothing other than 2 "safe" foods which were very processed. I'm now 29 and can happily say I no longer suffer with this ED after years of work and eat ALL the foods (all healthy, organic, wholefoods). I'm worried if having this ED for this length of time and during my developing years has permanently impacted my health, specifically my digestion and my gut microbiome. I've drastically changed my life around, have done a bunch of your testing and protocols but still dealing with some issues and curious if my past means i'll never be able to reach optimal health? How resilient is the body?                                                                          David: Hello Dr. Cabral, appreciate your work and dedication. I've been experiencing persistent muscle twitches throughout my body for about six months. My doctor says magnesium levels look "normal," but I know that doesn't always tell the full story. Could this be related to electrolytes, stress, or a nervous system imbalance? Any suggestions on testing or protocols to help calm the twitches would be appreciated.     Tommy: Hi Dr. C, I'm so frustrated. I had a gut issue for a long time and only the healthy belly product kept it at bay. Stool test showed citrabacter Freudi which I ran before I had the digestive issues. I did 2 para protocols, then the CBO, and dealt with frequent urination all the way through. By week 8, my bowells were much better and things had improved, however, I had to stop the protocol there as I couldn't handle the supplements at a lower dose. 2 weeks later I picked up a stomach bug, and since then I'm back to square one. I'm working on CBT because I have a lot of trauma and I believe that's why I've been so succeptible to stomach issues. 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Neuroscientist Chris Lee joins me to break down what's really happening in the brain when someone pulls away, shuts down, or spirals. We cover avoidance as a regulation strategy, why anxious activation hits so hard, and how state–story–strategy explains your patterns better than any TikTok soundbite. If you struggle with mixed signals, overthinking, or reacting fast in dating, this episode gives you clear, science-backed answers. We also get into emotional availability, communication during conflict, and how to create safety without overfunctioning. You'll learn how to recognize your patterns, rebuild trust in yourself, and stop taking someone else's regulation personally. Whether you're dating or partnered, this conversation helps you understand connection with far more clarity. Learn more: https://www.drchrislee.com/ If you're ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE! Get Ad free HERE! Want to work with Sabrina? HERE! Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE! Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Go to AquaTru.com now for 20% off (your purifier) using promo code SABRINA. AquaTru even comes with a 30-day best-tasting water guarantee.  Get 40% off your entire order at Lolablankets.com by using code SABRINA at checkout. Experience the world's #1 blanket with Lola Blankets. Head to DRINKAG1.com/ZOHAR to get a FREE Welcome Kit with an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3 plus K2, when you first subscribe!  Download Cash App Today: https://capl.onelink.me/vFut/mlzhc53l #CashAppPod As a Cash App partner, I may earn a commission when you sign up for a Cash App account. Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App's bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. Visit cash.app/legal/podcast for full disclosures.   Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

A blindsided breakup with an avoidant partner leaves you reeling—one moment there's love and connection, the next, silence and confusion. Here's why they disappear the moment love takes hold. When the avoidant pulls away just as things feel real, it's not about you—it's about their fear of emotional closeness. Understanding this pattern is the key to freeing yourself from self-blame, reclaiming clarity, and finding peace after their sudden retreat. How Pace and Futurizing Fuel the Flame Why Avoidants Bail When Intimacy Appears How To Regain Power and Emotional Balance Reference to YouTube Live Show: Why People Pleasing Pushes Love Away- LIVE Q&A https://www.youtube.com/live/mE84gY2FfY8 Website: https://www.schoolofattraction.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/schoolofattraction Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6SX9WKgEWynkxyulGhDihC?si=62449e8d26ac4ba2 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschoolofattraction/ Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

If you've ever found yourself Googling “How do I get an avoidant to choose me?” or “How do I make an emotionally unavailable person love me?” This episode is your wake-up call. I'm giving you the truth no one online seems to want to say out loud. You cannot “make” anyone love you… but you can understand the deeper wounds that keep pulling you toward emotionally unavailable partners in the first place. This episode is packed with real talk, compassion, and the exact mindset shift you need if you're tired of repeating the same painful relationship patterns.Inside the Episode:• Why you're drawn to avoidant partners and how old patterns keep recreating the same pain.• What's happening in your nervous system when you chase emotional unavailability.• How to show up securely with someone avoidant — matching energy, regulating yourself, and assessing their real capacity.If this episode hit home..if you heard yourself in these patterns, now is your time to break them. The Empowered.Secure.Loved Program is open for applications, and this is your LAST chance this year. We're closing applications at the end of December, and once it's closed, it's closed.And because this is truly the final chapter of the Empowered.Secure.Loved Program, we are doing something incredibly special as a heartfelt farewell. This is your last opportunity to step into this life-changing work before the doors close for good.

In this episode, I sit down with a former coaching client to unpack the all-too-common experience of losing yourself in a relationship, especially when you have an anxious attachment style.We talk about what happens when you prioritize your partner over your own needs, slowly sideline your friendships, and stay committed to someone whose words say one thing but whose actions say another. She shares her journey of loving the “nice” avoidant (the kind who isn't malicious, but deeply unavailable) and the painful uncertainty of realizing that even a kind partner may still be unable to meet your needs.Together, we explore how every relationship becomes a mirror for what you truly want, especially if you didn't grow up with healthy role models… and how stepping into secure attachment requires both courage and accountability.She also shares the tools that helped her rebuild her confidence, navigate singlehood with empowerment, and finally create a relationship with herself that feels trusting, grounded, and whole.Learn about 1:1 Attachment Coaching with Jessica here.

Start Healing Your Attachment Style & Unlock Your Core Needs. Free for 7 Days + Bonus Course for Life! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-free-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-free-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-12-08-25&el=podcast If you're tired of feeling confused, undervalued, or “left hanging” by someone who only gives you just enough to keep you around, this episode breaks down the psychology of Dismissive Avoidant breadcrumbing. Thais Gibson explains the deeper emotional and subconscious roots of breadcrumbing within the Dismissive Avoidant attachment style, including how their childhood emotional neglect creates a comfort zone around emotional scarcity. She also reveals why people on the receiving end of breadcrumbing often feel “stuck,” and how this dynamic stems from their own learned comfort with neglect. You'll walk away with practical tools to recondition your subconscious comfort zone, shift limiting beliefs, rebuild your standards, and create a relationship model based on mutual nourishment rather than deprivation. You'll learn:  ✅ What breadcrumbing actually is and why it's so common with Dismissive Avoidants ✅ How childhood emotional neglect creates an Avoidant's “breadcrumb comfort zone” ✅ Why trauma spreads through patterns, not intention ✅ How Dismissive Avoidants can stop breadcrumbing by learning to stop breadcrumbing themselves ✅ Why people who accept breadcrumbs usually have their own comfort zone of neglect ✅ How to recondition your subconscious to expect, and accept, real emotional nourishment ✅ The role of boundaries, standards, and self-worth in stopping the cycle ✅ Why identifying your needs changes your entire dating experience Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – Are You Being Breadcrumbed by a Dismissive Avoidant? 02:34 – Why We Accept Breadcrumbs: Subconscious Comfort Zones 05:15 – Dismissive Avoidants Must Stop Breadcrumbing Themselves 06:37 – Giving Yourself What You're Not Receiving Externally 08:22 – Needs Course Promo 08:47 – Why You Stay in Breadcrumbing Dynamics 09:26 – Boundaries as a Declaration of Your Self Worth Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

This might be the most triggering episode of the year, because today we're exposing the toxic love cycle between the people who get attached too fast… and the ones who vanish the second things get good.If you've ever sent a “did you get home?” text after ONE date, or you've ever disappeared for 48 hours and called it “space,” this episode is for you.We break down:

Still fixated on your avoidant ex? You've moved on, yet part of you can't let go. Here's how to break free from the intoxicating pull of this high-drama connection. It's Not About Him. Intense High/Low Drama=Excitement Identify Addictive Loop and Reframe Reference to YouTube Live Show: Why People Pleasing Pushes Love Away- LIVE Q&A https://www.youtube.com/live/mE84gY2FfY8 Website: https://www.schoolofattraction.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/schoolofattraction Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6SX9WKgEWynkxyulGhDihC?si=62449e8d26ac4ba2 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschoolofattraction/ Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

Last week, we explored the "why" behind Bethany's avoidant behavior. This week, we go deeper, uncovering the pain she has been silently carrying to keep the peace. For years, Bethany has minimized her own needs, believing her hurts "don't rise to the level" of the pain she caused Brian. But this silence has come at a cost: disconnection, resentment, and the loss of her own voice. In a powerful moment of reclaiming her assertiveness, Bethany reconnects with the "badass" she used to be. We explore what healthy assertion looks like for an avoidant partner and why standing up for yourself is actually an act of love for the relationship. We then turn to Brian to understand the "very good reasons" behind his disrespectful protests, revealing that his anger is often a desperate "air horn" trying to wake his partner up to his pain. This week's prompt: Reflect on a time you minimized your own hurt to keep the peace. What part of yourself did you have to silence, and what would it look like to reclaim that voice today? Send your responses to this prompt or any questions/comments you have about the podcast via email or voice note to support@thesecurerelationship.com. Your submission might be featured on a future episode. Follow Julie Menanno on social media @thesecurerelationship. For weekly homework assignments visit our website: The Secure Relationship Podcast Register for Repairing After a Negative Cycle Workshop: Click to Register Purchase Julie's book Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime

Coach Vincent Bos discusses why Avoidant Exes Pull Away and Why They Come Back Later.

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The Real Reason Men Shut Down, Pull Away, and Go Blank.Ever dated someone who was warm one minute… and emotionally shut down the next? In this week's Benson Book Club, we break down Chapter 7 of The Untethered Soul - “Transcending the Tendency to Close.”This chapter explains:why people emotionally close offwhy your ex suddenly went coldthe psychology behind emotional shutdown and avoidancehow to recognize when YOU close your heartand how this pattern destroys connectionI also give you a step-by-step Law of Detachment routine for heartbreak that I did to get over bookman!! The exact script to record, what to listen to every night, and a clean way to detach from someone who can't show up for you.If you want to understand why someone pulled away… or you need help letting go fast… this episode gives you clarity, strategy, and the tools to move on.Today's episode is brought to you by:Bellesa: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibeTM OR a FREE Rose toy with any WhisperTM order! CLAIM YOUR FREE GIFT HERE.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Last week, we sat with Brian's heavy narrative that Bethany is "out to get him." This week, we turn the lens around to understand the experience of the avoidant partner. We explore a conflict about picking up their sick daughter from daycare, where Bethany's genuine attempt to help is misread as control, leaving her feeling like the "bad guy" yet again. We finally unveil the "why" behind Bethany's lack of emotion. We learn that her "stone face" isn't indifference; it is a desperate shield against the pain of feeling like a failure. The breakthrough happens when she admits, "I'm not trying to avoid you... I'm just trying to shut out the pain," causing Brian to soften and feel hope for the first time in weeks. This week's prompt: Think about your own version of the "stone face." When you shut down, go numb, or get super logical—what specific feeling are you trying to avoid? Are you protecting yourself from feeling like a failure or from feeling rejected? Send your responses to this prompt or any questions/comments you have about the podcast via email or voice note to support@thesecurerelationship.com. Your submission might be featured on a future episode. Follow Julie Menanno on social media @thesecurerelationship. For weekly homework assignments visit our website: The Secure Relationship Podcast Take Julie's Anxious Attachment Course: Anxious Attachment: Self-Work Course Purchase Julie's book Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime

Ever feels like your avoidant partner never wants to do anything during the holidays? Avoidant attached persons can have a love/hate relationship with holidays and it had everything to do with their attachment styles. As an anxious attached partner, you probably love the holidays - getting the perfect presents, planning get-togethers and meals, involving your partner in everything... While on the other hand, your avoidant partner wants to do anything (crawl on a hole) but be a part of what they see as too much. This episodes dives into why the avoidant attached partner wants to hide from the holidays, your friends and most of their own people. We share five things avoidant attached persons don't want during the holidays and what you can do to help them feel more relaxed - and get them involved. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

Are avoidants actually avoidant… or are they reflecting something deeper back to you - especially if you have anxious attachment?.In today's episode of the F*CK TRAUMA Podcast, I'm breaking down one of the most perspective-shifting teachings you will ever learn about relationships:Why avoidants show up the way they do, and how the Law of Assumption can transform the dynamic completely..Not by chasing.Not by fixing.Not by abandoning yourself..But by understanding self-concept, your nervous system, and the inner story that avoidants mirror back to you..Inside this episode, you'll learn:✨ Why anxious attachers are drawn to avoidants✨ What the “abandonment mirror” actually is✨ How your inner assumptions create avoidant patterns✨ Why avoidant behaviour feels so familiar to your body✨ How changing your identity changes how THEY show up✨ How to shift the story of them and the story of you✨ Embodiment practices to step into secure, chosen energy.This is the deeper layer behind everything I teach:You are not powerless in your relationships, and avoidants are not “fixed this way.”They reflect your inner world and when you shift, they do too..If you haven't listened to these episodes yet, start here:They'll give you the perfect foundation for today's teaching:

Is your heart aching for an avoidant ex? This episode is your essential guide to navigating this incredibly painful and confusing situation. We cut through the generic advice to give you an attachment-based framework for what to do next.In this episode, you will learn-The Avoidant Mindset - What is really going on in their head post-breakup? (It's not what you think).The Power of Secure Energy - How to become the one thing an avoidant is subconsciously drawn to.Strategic Communication - What to text (and what NEVER to text) to reopen the door without scaring them off.The Foundation of All Reconciliation - Why your personal healing is the non-negotiable first step to getting them back.If you're ready to trade your anxiety for a clear, empowered plan, this episode is for you.Subscribe and listen now!I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

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I unpack the subtle and often misunderstood behavior known as avoidant gaslighting. I explore why avoidant partners distort truth, not always to manipulate, but to protect themselves, and how these patterns create distance and erode trust. You'll learn how to recognize this behavior, respond without escalating, and set boundaries that foster accountability and connection.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - What is avoidant gaslighting?02:50 - Truth distortion and misremembering05:26 - “The Turn” and shifting blame07:39 - Why avoidants retreat from closeness10:04 - How to name and address the behavior13:42 - Tools for shared accountability15:56 - Avoidant awareness vs. defensiveness17:27 - Building reflection and self-awareness***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Cole Zesiger is a breakup and relationship coach specializing in breakup recovery, dating advice, and relationship coaching. After a divorce at 23 and another breakup soon after, he began sharing his journey on social media—growing to over 750,000 followers across Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, and more. Key Topics: ⭐ Breakups as catalysts for self-growth ⭐ Attachment styles and relationship patterns ⭐ The importance of communication and emotional expression  ⭐ Healing and rebuilding after heartbreak ⭐ Comparing past and current partners ⭐ Finding meaning in loss ⭐ Forgiveness as a step toward closure  ⭐ The role of spirituality and belief in something greater  ⭐ Avoidant vs. anxious behaviors in dating  ⭐ Creating a well-rounded life post-breakup  ⭐ Modern dating and social media illusions  ⭐ Chemistry and compatibility  ⭐ Three pillars of a lasting relationship  ⭐ The concept of "no contact"  ⭐ Self-accountability and co-creation in relationships   ➡️ Join the Waitlist for David's Men's Program "Relate": https://forms.gle/2AXhmyNweasETaso7 Connect With David - The Authentic Man: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/ For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe   Connect With Cole: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachcolezesiger/ Cole's Book "exsandnos": https://coachcolezesiger.com/exsandnos Website: coachcolezesiger.com Tiktok: Tiktok.com/colezesiger Youtube: Youtube.com/coachcolezesiger  

This summer, I hit a breaking point. Seriously, my friends wanted to admit me for professional help. After my most recent breakup, I was on the verge of a breakdown. Not because a man had that much power over me —but because of what his leaving exposed within me.The breakup wasn't the cause of my pain;it was the catalyst that cracked open the deep places of my heart —places where old wounds and patterns had been hiding for years.So today, I'm sharing something deeply personal.This isn't for him, although it's addressed to him.This is for the woman listening right now who knows that kind of ache — the anxious heart that just wants answers, the love that feels unfinished, the pain that God promises to redeem.And this is not just for singles--I know married women who need this healing. If you've ever loved an avoidant,if you've ever been ghosted,if you've ever been left wondering what went wrong,I pray this episode brings you comfort and clarity.Because sometimes… God uses heartbreak to bring healing.

We sit down with Dr. Jordan Rullo to unpack why sexual desire often misfires, how brakes and gas shape intimacy, and why responsive desire is just as healthy as spontaneous desire. We share practical tools to manage mismatch, avoid pressure, and build trust through small rituals.• Brake and gas model of sexual function• Causes of low desire across biology, psychology, relationship, culture• Spontaneous versus responsive desire explained• Desire discrepancy as a perpetual problem and acceptance• Why scheduling sex backfires and scheduling connection works• Avoidant dynamic and how rejection spirals happen• Consensual unwanted sex and bodily autonomy• When to involve medical providers and rule out health issues• Friendship, trust, and Gottman's Magic Six Hours• Weekly State of the Union and sexual communication habits• Prioritization, maintenance plans, and recommended resourcesBe sure to smash the like button, leave a comment, and share this episode with a friendYou can also follow and interact with us on Instagram at StrongerMarriageWife and Facebook at Stronger MarriageVisit strongermarriage.org for free workshops, e-courses, webinars, surveys, and moreSubscribe to our podcast and the Utah Marriage Commission YouTube channel at Utah Marriage CommissionVisit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org Podcast.stongermarriage.org YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLife TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com/

Start Healing Your Attachment Style With Personalized Courses Taught by Thais Gibson. Free for 7 Days (Enough Time to Complete a Full Course). Limited-time Offer: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-11-06-25&el=podcast When a Dismissive Avoidant stops talking, it's usually a defense mechanism. But what happens when you go silent instead? The reaction might surprise you. While they seem calm or detached, there's an entire emotional process unfolding beneath the surface. In this video, Thais Gibson explains what really happens when you stop talking to a Dismissive Avoidant, the five key emotional stages they move through, and what their silence actually means. You'll learn how space impacts their nervous system, why they sometimes come back indirectly, and how to decide whether reconnection is truly healthy. You'll learn: ✅ The 5 emotional stages Dismissive Avoidants experience when you pull away ✅ Why initial relief is often followed by confusion and regret ✅ How independence becomes a form of emotional control ✅ The subconscious fear that drives repression and withdrawal ✅ What their indirect attempts to reconnect (like memes or jokes) really mean Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – What Does the Avoidant Do When You Stop Talking to Them?  00:24 – The Four Attachment Styles  01:25 – 1. Dismissive Avoidants Feel Relief When They Have Space 02:07 – The Cost of Conflict  03:35 – 2. Dismissive Avoidants Feel an Increased Sense of Independence  04:43 – 3. Dismissive Avoidants Start Having Mixed Feelings 05:47 – 7-Day Free Trial  06:37 – 4. Dismissive Avoidants Begin Questioning or Regretting Things 07:16 – 5. Dismissive Avoidants Will Make Attempts at Reconnection 08:39 – What to Do If You're on The Other Side  Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Today we dive into the mind of an avoidant- - what makes them shut down? - what are the thinking when they shut down? - what are the feeling when they have the urge to run away or shut down? - why do they walk away? And what you and your partner can do to save your relationship. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

Start Healing Your Attachment Style With Personalized Courses Taught by Thais Gibson. Free for 7 Days (Enough Time to Complete a Full Course). Limited-time Offer: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-11-05-25&el=podcast When a Dismissive Avoidant pulls back or refuses to commit, it can leave you feeling confused, anxious, and unsure of where you stand. However, a Securely Attached person handles this moment very differently, and their response changes everything. In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down how Securely Attached people respond when a Dismissive Avoidant won't commit — and why it turns the dynamic in their favor. You'll learn what emotional maturity looks like in action, how to communicate without pressure or people-pleasing, and how to back your needs while staying calm and confident. You'll learn: ✅ How Securely Attached people handle commitment delays with clarity and self-respect ✅ Why understanding different attachment style timelines prevents unnecessary pressure ✅ How to communicate needs without triggering defensiveness or withdrawal ✅ What boundaries look like when someone stays in the “gray area” too long ✅ How standing firm in your standards helps you naturally attract secure love Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – Securely Attached vs Dismissive Avoidant & Commitment 00:33 – The Unique Timeline for Each Attachment Style & Commitment 03:12 – What Would the Securely Attached Person Do? 04:36 – 7-Day Free Trial  05:26 – Step 1: Let the Person Know How They Are Feeling 08:20 – Step 2: Follow Up With More Clarity and Specificity 11:37 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

You all have been asking for this one, so here it is. In today's episode, I'm walking you step-by-step through exactly what to do if you're dating someone with avoidant attachment. This one is packed with clarity, compassion, and a whole lot of truth.If you've ever felt confused, anxious, or like you're constantly walking on eggshells in your dating life, I want you to know you're not alone. This episode will help you understand the avoidant attachment style, how to recognize it early on, and most importantly, how to stay grounded and empowered no matter what's happening in your relationship.Inside the episode:How to recognize the real signs of avoidant attachment (and when it's not actually avoidance).The one thing you must do first before trying to “fix” the relationship.How to stop falling in love with potential and start choosing partners who can meet you.If this episode speaks to you and you're ready to finally break free from those anxious-avoidant dynamics for good, go apply to the Empowered.Secure.Loved Program today.

If you've gone no contact with your avoidant ex and they still haven't said a word, this episode will tell you exactly what's going on in their mind. Dating/relationship expert Lucia breaks down each stage of what happens internally - from denial to realization - so you can understand why silence works better than chasing.#nocontact #nocontactrule #avoidantex #avoidantattachment #fearfulavoidant #anxiousavoidant #dismissiveavoidant

Jillian breaks down one of the most talked-about topics in modern psychology: attachment styles. But instead of sticking to labels, she challenges the oversimplified ways we use them—and offers a more grounded, compassionate way to understand why we love, cling, or pull away. Jillian shares personal insights into how she healed her own attachment wounds and explains the deeper influences of culture, family conditioning, trauma, and life context on our relationships. This is your guide to moving beyond “anxious” or “avoidant” and toward true emotional security and connection. Download Jillian's FREE limerence workbook, http://jillianturecki.com/workbook  Join my community and membership, The Conscious Woman Submit your relationship question for Jillian at https://forms.gle/FbtgkGTwfnrjvHwW7  Order Jillian's book It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life at https://www.jillianturecki.com/book ~~ Follow the show on: Instagram: @jillianonlove Email the show at hello@jillianonlove.com  Subscribe to Jillian on Love+ on Apple Podcasts or Patreon ~~ Follow Jillian Turecki on: Instagram: @jillianturecki TikTok: @jillian.turecki X: @JillianTurecki Visit her website at jillianturecki.com ~~ Jillian On Love is brought to you by QCODE. To advertise on the show, contact us! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Why is almost everyone so angry with people who have an avoidant attachment style? Are they evil or is something else going on?Dating/relationship expert Lucia reveals what's really behind all the hate and what to do if you're dealing with an avoidant yourself.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#avoidantattachment #fearfulavoidant #dismissiveavoidant #nocontact #avoidantex

Unlock Deeper Intimacy Starting Today. Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Attachment Styles & Intimacy Course and Finally Transform Your Relationships for Good! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-sex-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-10-22-25&el=podcast If you've ever felt like you're speaking a different language when trying to connect with a Dismissive Avoidant partner, you're not wrong. They process emotions, safety, and closeness differently at both the neurological and subconscious levels, which can make even simple conversations feel confusing or one-sided. In this video, Thais Gibson reveals how to communicate so an Avoidant actually hears you, without triggering withdrawal or shutdown. You'll learn the five key principles that transform connection, backed by neuroscience and attachment theory, plus how to stay calm and secure while getting your needs met. You'll learn: ✅ The 5 keys to communicating with a Dismissive Avoidant, without chasing or pressuring ✅ How to speak to their subconscious mind so they actually feel safe opening up ✅ The neuroscience behind why Avoidants pull away when emotions run high ✅ The difference between emotional expression and logical communication — and how to balance both ✅ How to frame your needs without sounding like an ultimatum ✅ Why timing, tone, and body language matter more than words ✅ Practical scripts to get your Avoidant partner to listen and respond Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – Intro  01:53 – 1. Communicate Your Feelings in a Logical, Factual Way 04:29 – Attachment Styles and Intimacy Promo 05:07 – 2. Use Timing Properly 07:07 – The Neuroscience Behind Avoidants and Connection 09:06 – 3. State Your Needs  09:47 – 4. Leave It Open-Ended 11:04 – 5. Timebox When Asking the Dismissive Avoidant for Something 13:46 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

It was supposed to be a romantic Vegas trip… until I got hemorrhoids, threw up in a $900 suite, did shrooms (allegedly), and had second thoughts about Bookman.Why? Because this man did the unthinkable… he texted back, planned dates, opened doors, used empathy, and was willing to change. Is this too good to be true… or have I met my match? You tell me.Welcome to Part 1 of Finding My Husband: Vegas - where romance meets chaos, Russian standards meet American men, and emotionally stable men are the new red flag. I said what I said.(dating podcast • Vegas trip chaos • attachment theory • love bomber or match • relationship overthinking • female hosted podcast)See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The trip ended, the lessons didn't.In Part 2 of Finding My Husband: Vegas, I'm talking about the real game: how to keep him hooked without losing yourselfWhy even healthy love will still drive you a little insane sometimesHow to self-regulate before you self-sabotageFrom overthinking to attachment theoryEverything you need to know about dating an avoidantAnd how to actually win an avoidant over(dating podcast • attachment styles • relationship advice • how to love an avoidant • female-hosted podcast)See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.