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“Honesty doesn't have to be brutal. Honesty can be compassionate. Honesty can be respectful.” -Dr. Cory NewmanEpisode OverviewIn this episode, host Dr. Jennifer Reid sits down with Dr. Cory Newman, PhD to explore how the core principles of cognitive behavioral therapy can be woven into our everyday communication with partners, friends, family, coworkers, and even ourselves. What begins as a conversation about therapy technique quickly becomes a practical guide to navigating disagreements, setting boundaries, and showing up more compassionately in all our relationships.Throughout the conversation, Dr. Reid draws connections to her book Guilt Free: Reclaiming Your Life from Unreasonable Expectations (Penguin Life, 2026), which examines how guilt—particularly for women—shapes our communication patterns, our willingness to set boundaries, and our capacity for self-compassion.15 Key Takeaways (Dr. Newman had so many life-changing recommendations, we wanted to make sure you could read about them even if you didn't have time to listen!)1. The Three Pillars of CBTDr. Newman describes CBT as resting on three foundational principles: * A supportive therapeutic alliance* A deep understanding of the patient's lived experience (including cultural and sociological factors)* The development of practical coping skills. These skills promote agency and problem-solving rather than hopelessness and helplessness.CBT Connection: The cognitive behavioral model emphasizes that thoughts, behaviors, and emotions are interconnected. By shifting how we think and what we do, we can change how we feel (Beck, 1979).2. Communication Is Both Internal and ExternalWe tend to think of communication as what we say to others, but Dr. Newman emphasizes that internal dialogue matters just as much. CBT helps people talk to themselves more compassionately, constructively, and hopefully. That same skill then translates outward into better interpersonal communication.He also distinguishes between expressive communication (how we speak) and receptive communication (how we listen), both of which are essential to healthy relationships.Guilt Free Connection: In Guilt Free, Dr. Reid explores how harsh internal dialogue, especially the relentless voice of “I should be doing more,” fuels excessive guilt. Learning to communicate with yourself compassionately is the first step toward breaking free from unreasonable expectations.3. Start with IntentEvery meaningful conversation benefits from a clear, positive intent: to boost morale, to connect, to offer something useful, to communicate understanding. Dr. Newman suggests that even outside of therapy, we can adopt the mindset that our goal in any interaction is to leave the other person, and the relationship, in a better state than when we started.CBT Connection: Intentional communication is a behavioral intervention. By deliberately choosing our communicative goals before speaking, we interrupt automatic patterns that often lead to conflict (Beck, 1995).4. Validity + Utility: The Two-Part Test for What We SayDr. Newman introduces a powerful filter: before speaking, ask whether your comment has both validity (is it truthful?) and utility (is it useful?). Truth alone can be harsh. He pushes back on the idea of “brutal honesty.”Guilt Free Connection: The validity-utility framework directly parallels the guilt equation in Guilt Free, where guilt = our expectations (whether fair or not) minus our perceived reality. Often, guilt-driven communication passes the validity test but fails the utility test. For example, we may say things out of obligation that don't help ourselves or others.5. Intent vs. Impact: Naming the MismatchSometimes people don't mean to cause harm, but their words land that way. Dr. Newman recommends naming the gap directly: “I don't think you're trying to put me down, but the message you're sending sounds like a put-down.” This approach acknowledges the other person's good faith while still making room for your experience.CBT Connection: Distinguishing between intent and impact is central to cognitive restructuring. Cognitive distortions like mind-reading and personalization often cause us to assume malicious intent where there is none (Burns, 1980).6. Seek to Understand Before Problem-SolvingWhen someone is in distress, the instinct is often to jump straight to fixing. Dr. Newman advises leading with empathy instead: “If I were thinking the way you're describing, I'd be a nervous wreck too.” Validate first, then gently offer alternative perspectives. Problem-solving is more effective once the person feels heard.Guilt Free Connection: Dr. Reid describes a pattern she sees frequently, which is people, especially women, catastrophizing about situations and layering guilt on top. The compassionate validation Dr. Newman describes is exactly the antidote: honor the feeling, question the expectation.7. Turn Complaints into RequestsAlmost any complaint can be reframed as a request, and requests are far easier to hear. Instead of “You never reply to my voicemail messages,” try: “I'd really appreciate hearing from you, even briefly. It's hard for me when I don't hear from you.”CBT Connection: This reframing technique is a classic behavioral strategy in CBT. Converting complaints into constructive requests shifts the dynamic from blame to collaboration (Gottman & Silver, 1999).Guilt Free Connection: Dr. Reid explores how maladaptive guilt can be manipulative, such as when guilt-tripping replaces genuine requests, and relationships can suffer. Assertive communication (making requests without guilting) is key to breaking that cycle.8. Silence Fills Vacuums with AssumptionsWhen we avoid communication to spare someone's feelings—say, not RSVPing to avoid disappointing a friend—we leave a vacuum that the other person fills with their own assumptions, which are usually worse than reality. Dr. Newman advises speaking the reality, even when it's uncomfortable, because silence invites personalization and catastrophizing.Guilt Free Connection: In Guilt Free, Dr. Reid identifies avoidance as a common guilt-driven behavior: we don't say no because we don't want to disappoint, but the silence itself creates a bigger problem. Communicating honestly, even imperfectly, is almost always better than disappearing.9. Beware All-or-Nothing Thinking in CommunicationDr. Newman applies one of CBT's most foundational concepts, challenging black-and-white thinking, to our communication habits. You don't have to choose between long silences and a 90-minute heart-to-heart. A quick text saying “Thinking of you” is a powerful middle ground. He calls these “random acts of kindness through text,” which are small gestures that send a meta-message of care.CBT Connection: All-or-nothing thinking is one of the most common cognitive distortions identified in CBT. Recognizing and challenging it opens up a range of behavioral options we might not have considered (Beck, 1976).10. Match the Medium to the MessageText messaging is ideal for quick logistics and small kindnesses, but it strips away tone of voice and body language. Dr. Newman shares a vivid example of a patient whose text “I don't care” (meaning “I don't mind”) sparked a major argument with his girlfriend. For emotional or complicated conversations, choose a medium with more cues, such as phone, video, or in person.His rule of thumb: The more emotional and the more complicated the topic, the more cues are needed.11. The Gottman 20-Minute RuleDrawing on research by John and Julie Gottman, Dr. Newman describes how physiological arousal (elevated heart rate, fight-or-flight activation) makes productive conversation impossible. The Gottmans recommend taking a break during heated arguments and not resuming until at least 20 minutes after your heart rate returns to baseline.Dr. Newman applies this to everyday life: if you receive a message that makes you angry, wait until you've calmed down before responding. Otherwise, frustration will leak through even your most careful words.CBT Connection: Self-monitoring of physiological arousal is a core CBT skill. The Gottman research demonstrates that behavioral interventions (taking a break) must precede cognitive interventions (discussing the issue) when the body is in a threat state.12. Resolve to Resolve—Not to WinDr. Newman highlights one of the most destructive communication patterns: trying to win an argument rather than resolve it. He references the devastating scene in the film Marriage Story where two characters escalate insults in an attempt to out-hurt each other. When the goal shifts from understanding to victory, everyone loses.CBT Connection: The belief “I must convince the other person I'm right” is a cognitive distortion that fuels conflict. CBT teaches that making your point respectfully is already a success. Change in the other person may come later, or not at all, and that's okay (Newman, 2014).13. Never Go to Bed Angry? Not So Fast.Both Dr. Reid and Dr. Newman agree that while the spirit of this advice is sound (don't harbor resentment) the literal application can be harmful. Insisting on resolving a conflict when one partner is exhausted is destructive. The person who needs to sleep should be honored. The meta-message is: don't stonewall, but do respect each other's limits. Use a placeholder: “I want to talk this through, but right now I can't yet.”Guilt Free Connection: This scenario is a guilt trap in action. The pressure to resolve everything immediately often comes from guilt (“A good partner wouldn't go to bed angry”). Dr. Reid's framework encourages questioning whether that expectation is fair and giving yourself permission to rest.14. Setting Boundaries Without GuiltWhen repeated attempts at respectful communication are met with resistance, such as the same pressure, the same guilt trips, it's appropriate to set a firm boundary. Dr. Newman advises doing so with care: “I'd like to talk to you, but not under these conditions. When you can show some respect for what I've said, let me know.” You can walk away from that interaction knowing you handled it with integrity.Guilt Free Connection: Dr. Reid identifies “hyper-accountability,”the belief that we can and should control other people's emotional experience, as a major driver of excessive guilt, especially for women. Letting go of the need to make everyone feel okay is essential to healthy boundary-setting.15. Say the Positive Things Out LoudDr. Newman closes with a deceptively simple but powerful reminder: don't keep positive thoughts to yourself. If you have a compliment, give it. If you feel affection, express it. And one of his favorite tips: talk positively about people behind their back. It often gets back to them and can shift the entire tone of your relationships.CBT Connection: Behavioral activation, which involves increasing positive interactions and reinforcement, is a foundational CBT technique for improving mood and strengthening relationships (Lewinsohn, 1974).Thanks for reading A Mind of Her Own! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work.About the GuestDr. Cory Newman, PhD is a professor of psychology in psychiatry and director of the Center for Cognitive Therapy at the University of Pennsylvania. He is also honorary faculty at the Beck Institute for Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, where he completed his postdoctoral training under the mentorship of Dr. Aaron Beck, a founding father of CBT. A founding fellow of the Academy of Cognitive Therapy, Dr. Newman has presented approximately 300 CBT workshops and seminars internationally and published over 100 articles and chapters. He is the author or co-author of six books. Fun connection: Dr. Newman is a highly accomplished pianist and has accompanied Dr. Reid for several of her vocal performances.References & Further ReadingCBT Foundations1. Beck, A. T. (1976). Cognitive Therapy and the Emotional Disorders. International Universities Press.2. Beck, J. S. (1995). Cognitive Behavior Therapy: Basics and Beyond. Guilford Press.3. Burns, D. D. (1980). Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy. William Morrow.Communication & Relationships4. Gottman, J. M. & Silver, N. (1999). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Crown.From the Guest6. Newman, C. F. (2014). Core Competencies in Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy. Routledge.From the Host7. Reid, J. (2026). Guilt Free: Reclaiming Your Life from Unreasonable Expectations. 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Get the FREE handout for this episode HEREImagine noticing your partner's distress instantly—and knowing exactly how to soothe it. In this episode, Sharla and Robert dive into partner soothing.Learn how to uncover 2-3 enduring vulnerabilities, avoid triggers, and use simple antidotes to uplift each other. Learn why 24/7 availability isn't codependency (it's a system of mutuality and interdependence), plus get exercises to identify vulnerabilities and a fun "how well do you know your spouse" game. Turn your “couple bubble” into a haven of healing and joy.Your Homework – Do This WeekIdentify vulnerabilities: Brain dump incidents, feelings, patterns—boil to 2-3.Spot partner's: Review past reactions, discuss to confirm.Create antidote lists: Soothers for each vulnerability.Play the game: Test ideas without telling—observe reactions.Discuss: Share lists, spark expertise-building talk.ResourcesWired for Love by Stan Tatkin – Core for vulnerabilities/soothing.The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman – Enduring vulnerabilities + processing tools.Get in TouchWebsite: MasterYourMarriage.usInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriageFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/MasterYourMarriage/

GET FREE HANDOUT to accompany this episode HERE:Resentment from unequal decisions? One person dominating finances, parenting, or chores? In this episode, Sharla and Robert explain how to create a "system of governance" in your marriage—drawing from John Gottman's "accepting influence" and Stan Tatkin's shared leadership—to end power struggles, restore parity, and protect your “couple bubble.”Hear real couple stories, our own early parenting struggles, a list of 10 key principles to start your governance system, and a deep dive on "guardrails"—in-moment reminders that interrupt harmful patterns before they escalate.This is how you lead each other without chaos or hurt.Key TakeawaysGovernance isn't control—it's a shared constitution for decisions, influence, and implementing principles.Accepting influence (Gottman) means blending strengths—couples who do this are far more likely to thrive.Build principles like "We shield each other from harm" that you both defend selfishly.Guardrails: In-moment reminders (e.g., "Remember our agreement?") interrupt harmful autopilot behaviors before fights escalate.No system = power struggles and resentment; good governance + guardrails = allies and a strong bubble.ResourcesThe Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman – Gold standard for influence and conflict.Wired for Love by Stan Tatkin – Deep dive on shared leadership.In Each Other's Care by Stan Tatkin – Modern habits for governance.Up Next WeekKeeping each other safe through partner soothingIf this helped you spot a power imbalance, follow, comment, and share! Put each other first this week. ❤️Get in TouchWebsite: MasterYourMarriage.usInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriageFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/MasterYourMarriage/

Hey friends- keeping it real here: I have caught the sickness my kids had last week and my voice is barely holding on. But, I didn't want to leave you hanging because consistency matters to me. I went back into the archives and pulled this specific conversation because, I believe it is the one message we all need to hear right now. If you are feeling stuck, frustrated, or like you're constantly battling your spouse, this is for you. Hopefully, I'll be back next week, fully rested and ready to roll!Episode Summary: Are you exhausted from arguing in circles? We're stripping away pride to talk about the one ingredient thriving marriages have: Humility. True humility isn't thinking less of yourself; it's thinking of yourself less.We explore why ego kills intimacy, how to "accept influence," and why being "right" makes you lonely. I share a vulnerable story from my own reconciliation where a coach asked the toughest question: "What was your part in this?" In This Episode:Strength vs. Weakness: Why admitting you're wrong is a power move.The "Let Them" Theory: Stop controlling your partner's thoughts.Accepting Influence: Deferring to each other's strengths.The "My Part" Challenge: Owning your role in conflict.Argue with Humility: Using "I" statements and validating without agreeing.The 5-Finger Apology: Kill resentment before it takes root.

Hey, it's Amy Newmark with your Chicken Soup for the Soul and I'm still sharing stories with you from out book about forgiveness, Chicken Soup for the Soul: Let It Go. Today's stories are about changing your mindset and doing what's necessary to make your marriage work, and of course these strategies could apply to any relationship that needs a little TLC. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Nine Simple Practices That Strengthen Relationships Summary In Episode #99 of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis celebrate their 99th episode by sharing nine powerful practices couples can use to strengthen connection, deepen trust, and build meaningful intimacy. Each principle is grounded in years of clinical experience, neuroscience, and relationship research—while remaining practical and accessible for real-life relationships. Together they explore why emotional safety is the foundation of all connection, the importance of ownership over blame, and how consistent attunement builds emotional closeness. They emphasize spending intentional time together, rebuilding trust through small daily actions, learning to emotionally regulate before communicating, and facing—not avoiding—conflict. They also highlight how positive relational interactions nurture bonding and why dreaming and planning for the future together creates shared hope and purpose. Listeners are encouraged to start small, picking one area to work on, knowing that meaningful relationships are built one intentional step at a time. Key References & Influences These concepts draw from established research and recognized thought leaders in relationships, trauma, emotional regulation, and neurobiology: Polyvagal Theory & Safety Porges, S. W. (2011). The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-Regulation. Emotional Attunement & Attachment Siegel, D. J. (2010). The Mindful Therapist: A Clinician's Guide to Mindsight and Neural Integration. Trust and Relationship Repair Gottman, J. & Silver, N. (2015). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Gottman, J. (2011). What Makes Love Last? Ownership vs. Blame / Emotional Responsibility Brown, B. (2015). Rising Strong. Conflict Resolution & The Zeigarnik Effect Zeigarnik, B. (1927). On Finished and Unfinished Tasks. Psychologische Forschung. Hope & Future Orientation Seligman, M. (2018). The Hope Circuit: A Psychologist's Journey from Helplessness to Optimism. Trauma, Safety & Human Connection van der Kolk, B. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score. Conference Invitation If you're ready to go deeper in strengthening your relationship, we invite you to join us at the Human Intimacy 2nd Annual Conference. Use coupon code 50off to receive 50% off registration (limited time): https://humanintimacy.zohobackstage.com/HumanIntimacy2ndAnnualConference#/   Online Supplemental Course: (It's Free) The Human Intimacy Companion Course  

We finish our series on the Gottman Principles from their book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2761: Kara Shade challenges us to distinguish between needs and preferences in dating, revealing how clarity on this distinction can prevent heartbreak and guide us toward stronger, more intentional relationships. Backed by Gottman research and insights from relationship scientists, her piece encourages reflection, flexibility, and honesty, principles that remain just as relevant in long-term partnerships as they are in early dating. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/bending-without-breaking-identify-needs-preferences-dating/ Quotes to ponder: "When people show you who they are, believe them." "Being clear and honest about your needs and asking the tough questions are critical functions of that process." "It's less about what you're doing and more about how you're doing it together." Episode references: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0609805797 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2761: Kara Shade challenges us to distinguish between needs and preferences in dating, revealing how clarity on this distinction can prevent heartbreak and guide us toward stronger, more intentional relationships. Backed by Gottman research and insights from relationship scientists, her piece encourages reflection, flexibility, and honesty, principles that remain just as relevant in long-term partnerships as they are in early dating. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/bending-without-breaking-identify-needs-preferences-dating/ Quotes to ponder: "When people show you who they are, believe them." "Being clear and honest about your needs and asking the tough questions are critical functions of that process." "It's less about what you're doing and more about how you're doing it together." Episode references: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0609805797 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode Summary:In this heartfelt and high-energy episode of Get Ahead Guests, Carissa sits down with DJ Kevro and wife Chevonna — the powerhouse behind Musical Phunktions, a multi-DJ company that's brought unforgettable energy to over 10,000 events across Southern California. But today, we're not just talking playlists and packed dance floors — we're going deeper.Alongside his wife Chevonna, a therapist and mother of their four children, Kevro shares the real story behind building both a thriving business and a lasting marriage in one of the most demanding industries out there. From the pressures of wedding weekends to learning how to truly support each other's dreams, this episode is packed with honest insights and practical wisdom for any couple trying to balance love, family, and entrepreneurship.In This Episode, We Talk About:

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2738: Heather Gray highlights how honoring a partner's needs strengthens intimacy and builds emotional security. By choosing acceptance over resistance, couples foster respect, reduce power struggles, and create lasting connection. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/why-you-need-to-accept-your-partners-needs/ Quotes to ponder: "Accepting your partner's needs is a way of showing respect for them and the relationship." "When both partners are willing to accept influence, they are more likely to find win-win solutions." "Rejecting influence is essentially rejecting your partner." Episode references: Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love: https://www.amazon.com/Eight-Dates-Essential-Conversations-Lifetime/dp/1523504463 The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0553447718 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2738: Heather Gray highlights how honoring a partner's needs strengthens intimacy and builds emotional security. By choosing acceptance over resistance, couples foster respect, reduce power struggles, and create lasting connection. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/why-you-need-to-accept-your-partners-needs/ Quotes to ponder: "Accepting your partner's needs is a way of showing respect for them and the relationship." "When both partners are willing to accept influence, they are more likely to find win-win solutions." "Rejecting influence is essentially rejecting your partner." Episode references: Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love: https://www.amazon.com/Eight-Dates-Essential-Conversations-Lifetime/dp/1523504463 The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0553447718 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm back with a deep dive into a topic that many listeners have either asked me directly or perhaps quietly wondered about but may not say out loud: what happens when one partner is invested in personal growth and the other isn't? Drawing from my own journey, years of interviews with experts, and Gottman Institute research, I explore in this solo episode how this dynamic plays out in relationships and what it can mean for intimacy, compatibility, and long-term partnership. Relationships don't always end because of one big betrayal or crisis. Sometimes, they slowly drift apart as one person evolves and the other prefers comfort and predictability. I'm unpacking the tension between growth-oriented partners and stability-oriented partners—and ask the hard question: can these two ways of being coexist, or does the gap eventually become too wide? What you'll hear in this episode: How growth-oriented and stability-oriented partners value relationships differently  The ways personal transformation can unintentionally feel like criticism  Why recurring arguments often reveal deeper, unspoken dreams  What happens when one partner turns toward—or away from—bids for connection  How couples can accept influence from each other without fully sharing the same goals  A framework for building a shared meaning system that balances stability and growth  The moment of clarity that comes from realizing you're asking for more than the relationship can provide  Why leaving isn't always failure, but sometimes an act of integrity At its core, this conversation is about honoring both your partner's truth and your own. My invitation to you is to invite you to reflect on what you most deeply want in a relationship and to trust your intuition when the paths no longer align. Resources from this episode: Email me (support@andreaowen.com) or send me a DM on Instagram if you're interested in deeper work in a new group program I'll be offering soon! 691 When Growth Rocks the Boat668: Lesson 8: Leaving people behind to find yourselfSeven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: https://andreaowen.com/podcast/694 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When marriage feels tired or transactional, it's time to return to the Source. In this Sunday Recalibration, discover how identity alignment before God creates intimacy that lasts — even when life feels loud and connection feels distant.Most high-capacity couples didn't enter marriage hoping to become roommates. You wanted real connection. Enduring intimacy. A shared rhythm that felt as grounded as it was loving.But over time — especially in the weight of parenting, leadership, and the constant pressure to do more — that intimacy can erode. Not always dramatically. Sometimes, it's just a quiet drifting.And before you know it, you're managing logistics more than connection… showing up out of duty instead of desire.This Sunday Recalibration invites you to remember what marriage was meant to be — not a performance, but a sacred covenant. Not a contract of convenience, but a reflection of God's relational nature.Drawing on Ephesians 5, Genesis 2, the wisdom of Tim Keller and Dan Allender, and her own personal story, Julie Holly shares how vertical identity alignment is the only foundation strong enough to hold a marriage — especially in seasons of weariness, role fatigue, or emotional distance.Inside today's episode: • Why deeper intimacy starts with God, not with marriage work • How Identity-Level Recalibration supports both spiritual and relational repair • Why performance and control block presence — and how to return to truth • A 3-part Micro Recalibration to help you reconnect at the rootThis episode is for every couple craving restoration — and for the high performers quietly carrying relational fatigue behind closed doors. Whether you're faith-filled or simply curious, this is a space where sacred truth meets real-life application.Micro Recalibration:In what ways have I made marriage about performance or control — instead of covenant?Where do I need to return to God with my identity — so I can return to my spouse with grace?What would shift in our intimacy if I saw my spouse as a reflection of God's image — and myself the same?Linked Resources:Seven Principles to Making Marriage Work by John Gottman PhD and Nan Silver The Deep-Rooted Marriage: Cultivating Intimacy, Healing, and Delight by Dr. Dan B. Allender If this episode gave you language you've been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration→ Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn't therapy. This isn't coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

When marriage breaks — through betrayal, burnout, or quiet distance — it's not a tactic that restores intimacy. It's identity. This episode invites you to rebuild from the root and rediscover what still wants to last.What if the intimacy you long for isn't lost — it's just buried beneath years of survival, performance, and quiet fractures no one taught you how to name?In this episode of The Recalibration, we're speaking directly to the high-capacity human who's been holding it all together — at home, at work, in leadership — while quietly wondering: Can this marriage really be healed?Whether you've weathered betrayal or are just living in the slow erosion of connection, today's recalibration reveals the one shift that makes rebuilding intimacy possible. Not strategy. Not more effort. But identity.We'll explore:Why intimacy can't be rebuilt through communication tools aloneHow identity fragmentation shows up in relationships — and what to do about itThe difference between fixing the marriage and becoming someone intimacy can reachWhy high performers default to solutions that work everywhere else — but not hereReal examples of restoration, from public figures to private livesAnd how faith, presence, and identity-level alignment till the soil for trust to grow againWe also anchor this episode in the wisdom of Dan Allender, Phil Stutz, John & Stasi Eldredge, and Chip & Joanna Gaines — showing how intimacy isn't about perfection, but transformation.Whether your marriage is “fine,” flailing, or on fire — this is your reminder that you were made for more. Not just a functional partnership. A sacred one.Today's Micro Recalibration:What parts of myself did I abandon in this marriage — and why?What would rebuilding intimacy look like if I stopped trying to fix the marriage — and started showing up as the truest version of myself?For Couples: Where have we been trying to reconnect without doing the root work?Linked Resources:Seven Principles to Making Marriage Work by John Gottman PhD and Nan Silver The Deep-Rooted Marriage: Cultivating Intimacy, Healing, and Delight by Dr. Dan B. Allender If this episode gave you language you've been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration→ Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn't therapy. This isn't coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

Still performing in your relationship? This episode explores how performance sabotages intimacy — and how identity alignment unlocks real partnership, especially for high-capacity couples balancing kids, careers, and emotional overload.Still trying to be “easy,” agreeable, or impressive in your relationship — even when it's costing you? In this episode of The Recalibration, we're naming the hidden performance patterns high-capacity couples carry in marriage… and why they backfire.From emotionally over- functioning to masking true needs, many of us learned to survive by performing. But that performance — even when masked as “support” — sabotages true partnership. Especially in seasons of parenting, leadership, or high demand, the desire to avoid conflict or keep the peace often keeps couples emotionally distant, even when they're physically present.We unpack the quiet difference between improving communication — and being truly seen. Because most marriage tools focus on behavior. ILR addresses the identity beneath the pattern.You'll hear insights from Brendon Burchard, Brené Brown, and Michael Neill… along with the personal story Julie shares of how fear shaped her own performance in marriage — and how identity-level recalibration allowed her to stop striving and start receiving.If you've ever asked yourself:Why do I feel invisible in my own marriage?Why am I exhausted even when things “look fine”?What's the difference between helping and performing?…this episode will give you language, clarity, and a next step.

You can say all the right things and still miss each other. Discover why emotional honesty—not performance—is the gateway to real connection, and how to break the cycle of surface-level intimacy without sacrificing strength.What if the very thing that makes you successful is also what's silently distancing you from your partner?In today's episode of The Recalibration, we explore emotional honesty in marriage — and why it's so hard for high-capacity humans to access it. You might be articulate, self-aware, and transparent… and still be emotionally unavailable. Julie Holly shares her own journey of emotional detachment disguised as leadership, revealing how high performers often substitute control and composure for true vulnerability — not out of malice, but out of protection.This episode blends real-world storywork, neuroscience, and relationship research from Dr. John Gottman to uncover the invisible gap between what we say and how we actually connect. It's not about mastering conflict scripts or fixing communication. It's about recalibrating identity — so your presence matches your power.You'll hear:Why emotional honesty feels risky to high achieversHow “transparency” can still be a maskWhat Gottman's bids for connection reveal about nervous system safetyHow tiny missed moments create emotional shutdownWhy ILR is not mindset work — it's identity work that restores intimacyHow to lead your marriage with presence, not performanceWhether you're in a long-term relationship or simply desiring deeper emotional connection, this episode invites you to stop calculating and start connecting.Today's Micro Recalibration:Where have I been withholding emotional honesty to protect an image?What truth — even a small one — could I share today that would build intimacy, not distance?For Couples (Recalibration Together):What's one moment recently where you felt I turned toward you — or didn't?This is the kind of clarity that recalibrates more than just your marriage — it shifts your whole life.Linked Resources:Seven Principles to Making Marriage Work by John Gottman PhD and Nan Silver The Deep-Rooted Marriage: Cultivating Intimacy, Healing, and Delight by Dr. Dan B. AllenderIf this episode gave you language you've been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration→ Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn't therapy. This isn't coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

Marriage isn't just communication — it's an identity mirror. Whether you're married, divorced, or desiring deep intimacy, this episode shows how misalignment reveals itself in relationships and how to recalibrate at the root.If you've ever wondered why your marriage feels more draining than connective — even when both of you are trying — this episode will feel like a deep breath.In today's episode, Julie opens up about her own marriage journey, offering a raw and redemptive look at how conflict, disappointment, and distance in our closest relationships aren't failures — they're invitations. Marriage doesn't just reveal our partner's flaws — it reflects our identity misalignments, outdated roles, and legacy patterns that no longer serve us.You'll discover why marriage isn't meant to complete you, but to confront you — lovingly, truthfully, and redemptively. Through personal story, neuroscience, and soul-level insight, this episode offers a new lens on intimacy and transformation.You'll also hear why most marriage advice doesn't work when identity is misaligned — and how Identity-Level Recalibration gives you the clarity and tools to rebuild connection from the inside out.Today's Micro Recalibration:For Personal Reflection:What identity roles or survival patterns have you brought into your relationship?If you paused to see yourself the way your spouse sees you, what might you notice?For Couples (Use Together): If you're in a relationship (you don't have to be married), sit with these questions individually — then come together for a rich, honest conversation:What story or identity role do you think I brought into our marriage?What's one moment where you've felt most seen, safe, or loved by me?What part of your story do you wish I better understood?Whether you're married, divorced, or dreaming of something more aligned — this is your invitation to stop performing, start healing, and recalibrate at the root.Linked Resources:Seven Principles to Making Marriage Work by John Gottman PhD and Nan Silver The Deep-Rooted Marriage: Cultivating Intimacy, Healing, and Delight by Dr. Dan B. AllenderIf this episode gave you language you've been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration→ Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn't therapy. This isn't coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

In this episode, Dale and Chris sit down with Tim Rutledge, Director of LEAPS Training and a retired narcotics agent, to explore the unique challenges first responders face in marriage—and the difficult road many walk through divorce. Tim shares candid insights from decades of service, stories from the field, and practical tools to strengthen relationships under pressure. Together, they discuss how to build trust, communicate through stress, and find resilience and hope, whether you’re fighting for your marriage or navigating the pain of separation. Bible Verse Inspiration: "Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be courageous; be strong. Do everything in love."  -1 Corinthians 16:13–14 Resources: https://www.leapstraining.com/  

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2705: Couples who thrive over time tend to “turn toward” one another, facing vulnerability, taking responsibility for mistakes, and embracing empathy, rather than turning away in resentment or detachment. Through the moving story of Jack and Dana, Dr. Margaret Rutherford shows how mutual accountability and heartfelt apologies can rebuild trust, even after years of missed opportunities for connection. Her insights offer a clear path toward transforming regret into renewed commitment. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drmargaretrutherford.com/knowing-what-you-know-today-would-you-still-marry-your-partner/ Quotes to ponder: "I know I dominated the family. I didn't know how to be any other way." "I allowed Jack to dominate our relationship. There were reasons." "It's never too late to turn toward them to ask for their understanding or forgiveness, to build a more intimate bond." Episode references: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0553447718 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2705: Couples who thrive over time tend to “turn toward” one another, facing vulnerability, taking responsibility for mistakes, and embracing empathy, rather than turning away in resentment or detachment. Through the moving story of Jack and Dana, Dr. Margaret Rutherford shows how mutual accountability and heartfelt apologies can rebuild trust, even after years of missed opportunities for connection. Her insights offer a clear path toward transforming regret into renewed commitment. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drmargaretrutherford.com/knowing-what-you-know-today-would-you-still-marry-your-partner/ Quotes to ponder: "I know I dominated the family. I didn't know how to be any other way." "I allowed Jack to dominate our relationship. There were reasons." "It's never too late to turn toward them to ask for their understanding or forgiveness, to build a more intimate bond." Episode references: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0553447718 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As you grow, relationships shift. Learn how to hold alignment without sacrificing connection, and how to lead your relationships through recalibration with clarity and compassion.You're growing.You're stretching.But you care deeply about those around you — and you don't want your growth to create unnecessary distance.In this episode of Identity-Level Recalibration, Julie Holly addresses the quiet internal tension many high-capacity humans carry: how to honor your alignment while navigating how your recalibration affects others.Julie shares her own journey of minimizing vision to maintain comfort for others — and how identity-level recalibration allowed her to stop softening her growth and start leading relationships with both clarity and compassion.You'll also learn why ILR recalibration sits beneath common relational frameworks — not forcing separation or performing alignment, but creating organic shifts as your nervous system stabilizes around your true identity.In This Episode, We Cover:How identity recalibration naturally shifts relational dynamicsWhy healthy growth creates temporary stretch points in relationshipsDifferential tolerance windows: why your capacity shifts before others catch upILR vs. relational coaching, conflict management, and boundary-setting modelsJulie Holly's personal marriage recalibration journeyThe difference between abandoning others vs. stewarding relational alignmentWhy clarity doesn't require defensiveness — but does require honestyThe ripple effect of leading relationships through identity recalibrationToday's Micro-Recalibration:Ask yourself:Where have I been softening my growth to avoid relational tension?Where might honest, compassionate clarity actually strengthen — not threaten — the relationship?Reframe: I can grow while stewarding my relationships — not shrinking inside them.Resources Mentioned:Books:The Deep-Rooted Marriage: Cultivating Intimacy, Healing, and Delight by Dr. Dan B. AllenderSeven Principles to Making Marriage Work by John Gottman PhD and Nan Silver If this episode gave you language you've been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration→ Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn't therapy. This isn't coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2695: Tonya Lester challenges the traditional timeline of relationships by unpacking the emotional and psychological layers behind the question “Should we get married?” She offers a deeply reflective guide for couples to explore their inner motivations, values, and past wounds, helping them make a conscious and grounded decision about commitment. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/should-we-get-married Quotes to ponder: "Marriage is not a prize for being in love; it is a particular structure that requires a particular set of traits and values." "If we are still in a dynamic where we are trying to prove we are ‘enough' for the other person, then we may be trying to use marriage to validate ourselves." "If you are trying to earn worthiness or avoid abandonment through marriage, it will not work." Episode references: Getting the Love You Want: https://www.amazon.com/Getting-Love-You-Want-Anniversary/dp/0805087001 The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0609805797 Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love: https://www.amazon.com/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-YouFind/dp/1585429139 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2695: Tonya Lester challenges the traditional timeline of relationships by unpacking the emotional and psychological layers behind the question “Should we get married?” She offers a deeply reflective guide for couples to explore their inner motivations, values, and past wounds, helping them make a conscious and grounded decision about commitment. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/should-we-get-married Quotes to ponder: "Marriage is not a prize for being in love; it is a particular structure that requires a particular set of traits and values." "If we are still in a dynamic where we are trying to prove we are ‘enough' for the other person, then we may be trying to use marriage to validate ourselves." "If you are trying to earn worthiness or avoid abandonment through marriage, it will not work." Episode references: Getting the Love You Want: https://www.amazon.com/Getting-Love-You-Want-Anniversary/dp/0805087001 The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0609805797 Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love: https://www.amazon.com/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-YouFind/dp/1585429139 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ready to shake up your love life? Professional matchmaker Amy Andersen shares her proven strategies for finding meaningful relationships in your 40s, 50s, and beyond. In this powerful conversation, Amy reveals why timing matters more than age, how to create your "ideal match wish list," and the importance of disrupting your comfort zone to meet the right person. She shares her own story of moving cities to find love and explains why treating dating like a strategic second job actually works.Amy's advice goes far beyond romance - her philosophy of getting intentional, expanding your social circles, and saying yes to new experiences applies whether you're seeking love, friendship, or business connections. In fact, she credits joining a "hokey" co-ed bowling league with landing her business on the front page of the San Francisco Chronicle! If you're ready to step into your power and manifest what you truly want in life, this episode will inspire you to take action!Key Takeaways:Why self-love and timing are prerequisites for finding lasting loveHow to strategically expand your dating pool and meet quality peopleThe power of disrupting familiar routines to create new opportunitiesBook recommendations for manifesting relationships and personal growthWant to work with Jen? Book a complimentary 20-minute call HERE. Follow Jen @jenmarples on Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok and YouTubeSubscribe to Jen's NewsletterUnedited AI Transcript HereCONNECT WITH AMY ANDERSEN:Linx DatingInstagramLinkedInAMY'S READING LIST:How To Not Die Alone Wired for Love Getting the Love You Want The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work 

Rebuilding Us: Turning Conflict into Connection Podcast Summary: In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis dive deep into the essential relationship cycle of rupture, repair, responsibility, and rebuilding. Drawing from their personal experiences and clinical work, they explore how every relationship inevitably encounters conflict—not because something is wrong, but because two different people are sharing life together. Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn emphasize that conflict is often not about the surface issue (like toothpaste or hair gel), but rather unmet expectations, unspoken needs, and internal narratives we build over time. Using real-life stories and examples, they explore how couples can move beyond blame and defensiveness by embracing self-awareness, honest communication, and compassion—for themselves and each other. The episode also introduces the powerful concept of the “we problem,” encouraging couples to see relational issues as shared challenges rather than individual failures. Through intentional communication, ownership of feelings, and regular expressions of gratitude, couples can strengthen their bond and build a relationship that thrives—even after betrayal or rupture. Whether you're newly married or have been together for decades, this episode is filled with practical wisdom and hopefor anyone who wants deeper, healthier, more resilient intimacy. Key Concepts Covered: Rupture is inevitable, but repair is a learned skill. What we fight about is often not the real issue—it's unmet expectations or a need to feel heard and valued. True intimacy requires vulnerability, humility, and responsibility. “I” statements are powerful tools for conflict resolution. Shifting from a “you vs. me” to a “we” mindset transforms how couples face challenges. Emotional honesty means recognizing your own triggers before projecting onto your partner. Gratitude and daily appreciation can reignite positive connection. Healing after betrayal demands both partners do their inner work while also working on the relationship. Recommended Resources Mentioned: Books: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by Dr. John Gottman (Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse framework) Never Split the Difference by Chris Voss (Empathy in high-stakes communication) Facing the Shadow by Dr. Patrick Carnes (betrayal and relationship recovery) Courses & Tools: HumanIntimacy.com — Online course: How to Communicate When You Don't Know What to Say (Dr. Kevin Skinner) Reclaim: Healing from Betrayal and Rebuilding Your Life – Podcast and course Therapeutic Concepts Referenced: Gottman's Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, Stonewalling Positive and Negative Sentiment Override (Dr. John Gottman) “We problems” vs. individual blame Emotional regulation and co-regulation Self-awareness before communication Reflection Questions for Listeners: What's a recurring conflict in your relationship that might be about something deeper than the surface issue? How do you typically respond when you feel misunderstood—and what might a more self-aware response look like? What are three things your partner has done this week that you could show appreciation for?

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2641: Dr. Margaret Rutherford shines a compassionate light on the hidden roots of common couple conflicts, revealing how everyday arguments often mask deeper needs like trust, gratitude, and vulnerability. Learn five destructive patterns of bickering and five transformative strategies to replace them with understanding, empathy, and emotional connection. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drmargaretrutherford.com/5-common-ways-couples-bicker-and-fuss-and-five-strategies-to-stop/ Quotes to ponder: "Contempt is the number one communication quality that kills a relationship." "Blame is easy. The second is much, much more vulnerable and thus, more difficult." "People who are truly secure in and of themselves don't have to be right." Episode references: Pia Mellody's Work - Facing Codependence: https://www.amazon.com/Facing-Codependence-What-Really-Recovery/dp/0062505890 The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0609805797 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2641: Dr. Margaret Rutherford shines a compassionate light on the hidden roots of common couple conflicts, revealing how everyday arguments often mask deeper needs like trust, gratitude, and vulnerability. Learn five destructive patterns of bickering and five transformative strategies to replace them with understanding, empathy, and emotional connection. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drmargaretrutherford.com/5-common-ways-couples-bicker-and-fuss-and-five-strategies-to-stop/ Quotes to ponder: "Contempt is the number one communication quality that kills a relationship." "Blame is easy. The second is much, much more vulnerable and thus, more difficult." "People who are truly secure in and of themselves don't have to be right." Episode references: Pia Mellody's Work - Facing Codependence: https://www.amazon.com/Facing-Codependence-What-Really-Recovery/dp/0062505890 The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0609805797 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Learn powerful insights into building a thriving marriage—one that invites Jesus in, leans on his timing, and finds strength even when resources run dry. Whether you're married, single, struggling, or thriving, you'll walk away with biblical encouragement and practical wisdom for navigating relationships with faith and hope.

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2594: Kyle Benson offers a compassionate roadmap for encouraging a hesitant partner to try couples therapy, emphasizing empathy, timing, and emotional safety. His five-step approach helps shift the conversation from blame to mutual understanding, creating a foundation for connection and healing through professional support. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/5-steps-to-inspire-your-partner-to-join-you-in-attending-couples-therapy/ Quotes to ponder: "Don't try to inspire your partner when you are emotionally charged." "When we ask our partner to go to therapy, we're asking them to face pain and uncertainty." "Use empathy to validate your partner's fears or concerns." Episode references: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT): https://iceeft.com/what-is-eft/ The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0609805797 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2594: Kyle Benson offers a compassionate roadmap for encouraging a hesitant partner to try couples therapy, emphasizing empathy, timing, and emotional safety. His five-step approach helps shift the conversation from blame to mutual understanding, creating a foundation for connection and healing through professional support. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/5-steps-to-inspire-your-partner-to-join-you-in-attending-couples-therapy/ Quotes to ponder: "Don't try to inspire your partner when you are emotionally charged." "When we ask our partner to go to therapy, we're asking them to face pain and uncertainty." "Use empathy to validate your partner's fears or concerns." Episode references: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT): https://iceeft.com/what-is-eft/ The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0609805797 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This month is going over probably my favorite happiness activity that comes out of The How of Happiness by Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky  and that's nurturing social relationships. I personally am an extravert and love being connected with people. However, I have found this harder to do as I've gotten older.  We all get busy with our lives and time can seem to fly by. I'll notice it has been months since I chatted with a friend. Prepping this episode has prompted me to reach out to several people, as I mention in the episode. I hope it also prompts you to reach out to a friend or loved one you haven't connected with in a while. It's likely to boost your, and their, happiness. In this episode, we dive into:Why connection is a biological and emotional necessityHow small expressions of gratitude can transform your marriage or partnershipThe surprising truth about happy couples and the 5:1 ratioHow to shift your mindset when a loved one disappoints youThe Four Horsemen of unhappy relationships—and how to avoid themWays to celebrate good news with others and deepen connectionIf you're looking to feel more supported, loved, and joyful in your everyday life, this episode offers practical strategies backed by research—and delivered with compassion.Books Mentioned:The How of Happiness by Sonja LyubomirskyThe Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by Dr. John GottmanPlease subscribe and leave a review on your favorite Podcasting platform. Get 12 Financial Mistakes that Keep Physicians from Building Wealth at https://www.growyourwealthymindset.com/12financialmistakes If you want to start your path to financial freedom, start with the Financial Freedom Workbook. Download your free copy today at https://www.GrowYourWealthyMindset.com/fiworkbook Dr. Elisa Chiang is a physician and money coach who helps other doctors reach their financial goals by mastering their money mindset through personalized 1:1 coaching . You can learn more about Elisa at her website or follow her on social media. Website: https://ww.GrowYourWealthyMindset.com Instagram https://www.instagram.com/GrowYourWealthyMindset Facebook https://www.facebook.com/ElisaChiang https://www.facebook.com/GrowYourWealthyMindset YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/WealthyMindsetMD Linked In: www.linkedin.com/in/ElisaChiang Disclaimer: The content provided in the Grow Your Wealthy Mind...

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3130: Corey Allan explores practical ways couples can navigate disagreements without damaging their connection, especially when core values or lifestyle changes like minimalism are at stake. Drawing on insights from marital research, he outlines respectful communication strategies that allow each partner to stay true to themselves while nurturing the relationship. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.becomingminimalist.com/communicating-with-your-partner/ Quotes to ponder: "Problems in marriage are inevitable. The question is, can you remain satisfied in your marriage in spite of differences?" "Respect is defined as not trying directly or indirectly to change anyone." "If you're over-functioning for someone, you are under-functioning for yourself." Episode references: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0609805797 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3130: Corey Allan explores practical ways couples can navigate disagreements without damaging their connection, especially when core values or lifestyle changes like minimalism are at stake. Drawing on insights from marital research, he outlines respectful communication strategies that allow each partner to stay true to themselves while nurturing the relationship. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.becomingminimalist.com/communicating-with-your-partner/ Quotes to ponder: "Problems in marriage are inevitable. The question is, can you remain satisfied in your marriage in spite of differences?" "Respect is defined as not trying directly or indirectly to change anyone." "If you're over-functioning for someone, you are under-functioning for yourself." Episode references: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0609805797 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3130: Corey Allan explores practical ways couples can navigate disagreements without damaging their connection, especially when core values or lifestyle changes like minimalism are at stake. Drawing on insights from marital research, he outlines respectful communication strategies that allow each partner to stay true to themselves while nurturing the relationship. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.becomingminimalist.com/communicating-with-your-partner/ Quotes to ponder: "Problems in marriage are inevitable. The question is, can you remain satisfied in your marriage in spite of differences?" "Respect is defined as not trying directly or indirectly to change anyone." "If you're over-functioning for someone, you are under-functioning for yourself." Episode references: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0609805797 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What does it take to keep a Marriage fresh and exciting? Is that even possible. From the happily married couple who have NEVER lived together, to the Parents of SIX kids who are still as loved up as the day they met… we investigate the secrets of being happily married.

Send us a textWhat happens when a marriage teeters on the edge of collapse? Ken and Tabatha Claytor don't hold back as they reveal the raw truth about their first two years of marriage—when Ken had already planned to divorce Tabitha and she was battling severe depression. This powerful episode takes you on their 25-year journey from those desperate early days to the thriving relationship they enjoy today. With refreshing honesty, they share how Tabitha's miraculous deliverance from depression became a turning point, allowing her to "pump the brakes" on their divorce and begin rebuilding what seemed irreparably broken.The Claytors distill their hard-won wisdom into three essential principles that have transformed their marriage: making your spouse your absolute priority (yes, even above your children), building unshakable trustworthiness, and developing effective communication skills. They offer practical strategies for each principle, from establishing boundaries that protect your marriage to creating safe spaces for vulnerable conversations.Their discussion on trustworthiness is particularly revealing as Tabatha shares what has built her confidence in Ken over the decades—his authentic relationship with God behind closed doors and his consistent character across all settings. Meanwhile, their playful back-and-forth about returning text messages demonstrates how even the strongest marriages navigate everyday frustrations.Whether you're struggling to save a troubled relationship or simply want to strengthen an already good marriage, this episode delivers hope and practical tools you can implement immediately. As Ken powerfully reminds us, "It doesn't matter how bad your marriage might seem right now. There's a better day ahead."GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE:Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com)Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site)DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/giveConnect with us:- Website:https://www.kenclaytor.comhttps://www.tabathaclaytor.comhttps://www.myalivechurch.org- Socials:Instagram -https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/TikTok-@Ken_Claytor@Tabathaclaytor@myalivechurchFacebook-https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytorhttps://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytorhttps://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch- Ask us questions: info@kenandtabatha.com

We want to work with YOU! 15 Minute Free Consultation  Start healing now! Set up a Coaching Session   Welcome to another insightful episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, hosted by Tim and Ruth Olson, licensed marriage and family therapists. This week, we continue our exploration of John Gottman's landmark book, "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work," with a deep dive into the fourth principle: letting your partner influence you. In this episode, Tim and Ruth tackle some common obstacles couples face when sharing mutual influence, such as the fear of losing autonomy and the impact of ego and past traumas. They provide constructive strategies to overcome these barriers, emphasizing that influence should be reciprocal and beneficial for both partners. The discussion offers practical steps for embracing influence, including learning how to listen actively, valuing your partner's expertise, and practicing small tests of openness. With their trademark blend of personal anecdotes and professional insights, Tim and Ruth guide listeners on how maintaining humility and mutual respect can transform challenges into opportunities for deeper connection. Join the Olsons as they empower you with the skills needed to foster healthier communication and enduring love in your relationship. Tune in for expert advice, engaging dialogue, and strategies that can help turn adversity into triumph in your marriage. [Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.] {Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}

How can couples maintain a strong marriage through both simple daily interactions and handling bigger challenges? In this Valentine's month, host Rebecca Greene and her husband Seth discuss Dr. John Gottman's seven principles for making marriage work, sharing their experiences and insights from their 21-year relationship and a recent marriage workshop they attended. They explore how these principles play out in real-life situations, from handling communication challenges to building shared meaning as a couple. Key Takeaways:  ➞ Love maps are dynamic and require continuous updating as partners grow and change - couples need to stay curious about their partner's evolving interests, preferences, and dreams ➞ "Turning towards" your partner in daily moments of attempted connection is crucial - even small acknowledgments of your partner's comments or concerns build emotional bank accounts ➞ Taking a 20-minute "adult timeout" when emotionally flooded helps partners regulate and return to discussions more productively ➞ Having a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions helps maintain relationship health and emotional connection ➞ Creating shared meaning through rituals, goals, and activities (like reading the same books) strengthens the relationship's foundation Memorable Quotes: Rebecca Greene: "I think I have a secret decoder ring for marriage...and I think that the code is to really like your partner. We love them, we fell in love with them, we need to stay in love with them. But I like who Seth is." Seth Greene: "I learned that all those times of us mentioning stuff during the day is us attempting to connect with each other, and if we respond, then we're putting deposits into our emotions." How to Connect: Website: https://www.whinypaluza.com/ Facebook Group: Whinypaluza Mom Newsletter: https://whinypaluza.beehiiv.com/ Follow https://linktr.ee/whinypaluzamom The episode provides practical relationship wisdom by combining research-based principles with real-life examples from Rebecca and Seth's marriage, giving listeners actionable insights for strengthening their own relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How can couples maintain a strong marriage through both simple daily interactions and handling bigger challenges?In this Valentine's month, host Rebecca Greene and her husband Seth discuss Dr. John Gottman's seven principles for making marriage work, sharing their experiences and insights from their 21-year relationship and a recent marriage workshop they attended. They explore how these principles play out in real-life situations, from handling communication challenges to building shared meaning as a couple.Key Takeaways: ➞ Love maps are dynamic and require continuous updating as partners grow and change - couples need to stay curious about their partner's evolving interests, preferences, and dreams➞ "Turning towards" your partner in daily moments of attempted connection is crucial - even small acknowledgments of your partner's comments or concerns build emotional bank accounts➞ Taking a 20-minute "adult timeout" when emotionally flooded helps partners regulate and return to discussions more productively➞ Having a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions helps maintain relationship health and emotional connection➞ Creating shared meaning through rituals, goals, and activities (like reading the same books) strengthens the relationship's foundationMemorable Quotes:Rebecca Greene: "I think I have a secret decoder ring for marriage...and I think that the code is to really like your partner. We love them, we fell in love with them, we need to stay in love with them. But I like who Seth is."Seth Greene: "I learned that all those times of us mentioning stuff during the day is us attempting to connect with each other, and if we respond, then we're putting deposits into our emotions."How to Connect: Website: https://www.whinypaluza.com/ Facebook Group: Whinypaluza Mom Newsletter: https://whinypaluza.beehiiv.com/ Follow https://linktr.ee/whinypaluzamom The episode provides practical relationship wisdom by combining research-based principles with real-life examples from Rebecca and Seth's marriage, giving listeners actionable insights for strengthening their own relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2465: David and Constantino Khalaf share their own experiences as an introverted couple navigating these differences, showing how open communication, trust, and small acts of kindness can help partners meet each other's needs without resentment. By embracing their differences rather than resisting them, they've learned to strengthen their relationship and build a deeper emotional connection. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/dance-intimacy-independence-marriage/ Quotes to ponder: “There are times when you feel drawn to your loved one and times when you feel the need to pull back and replenish your sense of autonomy.” “If David ignores his need for independence, the abundance of intimacy begins to breed resentment.” “Viewing it as a dance rather than a tug of war reminds us to collaborate to meet each other's needs rather than fight to preserve our own.” Episode references: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0553447718 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2465: David and Constantino Khalaf share their own experiences as an introverted couple navigating these differences, showing how open communication, trust, and small acts of kindness can help partners meet each other's needs without resentment. By embracing their differences rather than resisting them, they've learned to strengthen their relationship and build a deeper emotional connection. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/dance-intimacy-independence-marriage/ Quotes to ponder: “There are times when you feel drawn to your loved one and times when you feel the need to pull back and replenish your sense of autonomy.” “If David ignores his need for independence, the abundance of intimacy begins to breed resentment.” “Viewing it as a dance rather than a tug of war reminds us to collaborate to meet each other's needs rather than fight to preserve our own.” Episode references: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0553447718 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's wisdom comes from The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman.   If you're loving Heroic Wisdom Daily, be sure to subscribe to the emails at heroic.us/wisdom-daily.   And… Imagine unlocking access to the distilled wisdom form 700+ of the greatest books ever written.   That's what Heroic Premium offers: Unlimited access to every Philosopher's Note. Daily inspiration and actionable tools to optimize your energy, work, and love. Personalized coaching features to help you stay consistent and focused Upgrade to Heroic Premium →   Or, ready to go next level?   Join Heroic Elite, a 101-day training program designed to help you unlock your potential and achieve real, measurable results. Optimize your energy, work, and love with a proven system for transformation. Become the best, most Heroic version of yourself.   Join Heroic Elite →   And finally: Know someone who'd love this? Share Heroic Wisdom Daily with them, and let's grow together in 2025!   Share Heroic Wisdom Daily →

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2404: Laura Triggs shares three simple yet transformative daily habits to enrich your marriage without needing lavish getaways. By practicing small acts of kindness, making time for mutual connection, and establishing meaningful rituals, couples can nurture lasting love amidst life's chaos. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/3-daily-habits-that-are-better-for-your-marriage-than-an-exotic-vacation/ Quotes to ponder: “Real-life romance is fueled by far more humdrum scenes. It is kept alive each time you let your spouse know he or she is valued during the grind of everyday life.” “A husband and wife are continually making bids for each other's attention and the most successful couples are the ones who continually ‘turn toward' their partners.” “Rituals are regularly occurring activities or traditions that you share as a couple, which serve to strengthen your bond.” Episode references: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0553447718 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2404: Laura Triggs shares three simple yet transformative daily habits to enrich your marriage without needing lavish getaways. By practicing small acts of kindness, making time for mutual connection, and establishing meaningful rituals, couples can nurture lasting love amidst life's chaos. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/3-daily-habits-that-are-better-for-your-marriage-than-an-exotic-vacation/ Quotes to ponder: “Real-life romance is fueled by far more humdrum scenes. It is kept alive each time you let your spouse know he or she is valued during the grind of everyday life.” “A husband and wife are continually making bids for each other's attention and the most successful couples are the ones who continually ‘turn toward' their partners.” “Rituals are regularly occurring activities or traditions that you share as a couple, which serve to strengthen your bond.” Episode references: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0553447718 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2386: Kyle Benson explores how successful couples manage emotional disconnection by focusing on the power of repair. Even in the healthiest relationships, conflicts are inevitable, but what sets emotionally connected couples apart is their ability to recover from these ruptures. Benson emphasizes the importance of maintaining friendship, emotional understanding, and effective repair attempts to sustain a strong, loving bond. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/repair-secret-weapon-emotionally-connected-couples/ Quotes to ponder: "How couples repair is what separates the relationship Masters from the Disasters." "The real difference between the couples who repaired successfully and those who didn't was the emotional climate between partners." "Your repair attempt is only going to work well if you have really been a good friend to them, especially lately." Episode references: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0553447718 The Science of Trust: https://www.amazon.com/Science-Trust-Emotional-Attunement-Couples-ebook/dp/B005459RHI Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2386: Kyle Benson explores how successful couples manage emotional disconnection by focusing on the power of repair. Even in the healthiest relationships, conflicts are inevitable, but what sets emotionally connected couples apart is their ability to recover from these ruptures. Benson emphasizes the importance of maintaining friendship, emotional understanding, and effective repair attempts to sustain a strong, loving bond. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/repair-secret-weapon-emotionally-connected-couples/ Quotes to ponder: "How couples repair is what separates the relationship Masters from the Disasters." "The real difference between the couples who repaired successfully and those who didn't was the emotional climate between partners." "Your repair attempt is only going to work well if you have really been a good friend to them, especially lately." Episode references: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0553447718 The Science of Trust: https://www.amazon.com/Science-Trust-Emotional-Attunement-Couples-ebook/dp/B005459RHI Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you concerned that you're on the road to divorce? Maybe you and your spouse have fallen into unhealthy, frustrating, and toxic patterns that leave you wondering if your marriage can work. Now what?  In this episode, Lynn, John, and Austin discuss the following patterns you can practice on your own and as a couple that can change the dynamic of your relationship: On your own: Have a funeral for your marriage   Pray and journal Take the “Love Style” quiz Get a support team Evaluate your conflict patterns As a couple: Evaluate your conflict patterns Practice a soft start up Learn how to repair after conflict Take a break when needed This is hard work, and it won't happen overnight. But if and when you, and your spouse, are able and willing (the key phrase!) to practice these together, we're confident that you'll be on the road to better and deeper connection. Book recommendations: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work and How We Love: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds!

If you are someone who craves community, someone who may be struggling to receive love, or someone who has been on a healing journey, this episode is going to be so expansive. This week, Jessica dives deep with TBM member Lexi, exploring the profound impact of childhood patterns on love, health, and career. Lexi shares her journey from overcoming health challenges to embracing her true calling. Everything in the body and soul is connected (and that gut-brain connection is so strong!) and Lexi reminds us that this work can help get us attuned to what we're experiencing in the body AND help us find our voice to self-advocate. Lexi also shares some major unblocking she discovered in order to accept the love and help and care that was circling her. Whether you're struggling with health, seeking deeper love, or finding your purpose, Lexi's story offers expansive insights into aligning with your most authentic self.Find the Complete Show Notes Here -> https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast In This Episode We Talk About:Experiencing a rock bottom with her health and its role in her awakeningThe transition from corporate life to entrepreneurship in functional health and manifestation coachingThe challenges and tests in moving from Boston to Medellin, ColombiaThe importance of maintaining community and connection even when relocatingLexi's journey with TBM work and how it reshaped her relationship with her husbandCultivating healthy detachment and trusting the process of manifestationOvercoming codependency and embracing a balanced, interdependent relationshipThe power of family dynamics and integrating into a partner's familyUnderstanding and healing through gut health and holistic practicesThe significance of community support and interdependence in personal growth THEMES / TIME STAMPS:Impact of childhood and upbringing & initial views on relationships (00:08:35)How health struggles led her to functional health and career shifts (00:36:30)How Lexi unblocked and navigated family dynamics (00:55:00) Resources: 2024 TBM Summer Challenge - Get Out of Your Own WayJoin anytime - will be available until Sept 2 11:59pm PST  Share a your manifestation story to be featured on a mini-process episode on the Expanded Podcast! Bon Charge - 15% off with code MAGNETIC Infrared PEMF MatThe BON CHARGE Infrared PEMF Mat is my absolute go-to product! I use it almost daily to ground my nervous system, drop in deeper into my meditations & help my body recover after big hikes. The highest quality and most biohacking stacked mat I've seen on the market! Use code MAGNETIC at checkout for 15% off. us.boncharge.com/MAGNETIC Osea - 10% off with TBM10Undaria Algae™ Body WashUndaria Algae Body OilUndaria Algae Body Butter Codependent No More by Melody BeattieThe Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by Nan Silver & John GottmanFind our summer challenge plus all our workshops and all workshops mentioned inside our Pathway Membership! (Including the Inner Child & all of our Unblocked DIs)Connect with Lexi@lexisullcoaching on IGCheck out Lexi's website Where To Find Us!@tobemagnetic (IG)@Lacyannephillips@Jessicaashleygill@tobemagnetic (youtube)@expandedpodcast Other ResourcesSubmit to Be a Process GuestText Us: +1-213-423-5226 - (texting is only for US, Canada, & Puerto Rico)Alexis Smart x TBM EXPANDED Flower RemedyDid you Finish the Manifestation Challenge? Share your experience with us! Free Offerings to Get You StartedLearn the Process! Expanded Podcast - How to Manifest Anything You Desire Get Expanded! The Motivation - Testimonial LibraryNeed Help Identifying Your Block? Access our FREE Find Your Biggest Block Exercise