The Adoption Experience

The Adoptee Rights Coalition recently attended the National Conference of State Legislatures in Louisville, KY.  Lynn gives an update about the issues surrounding adopted people obtaining their original birth certificates. Follow our Facebook page for the future updates: https://www.facebook.com/AdopteeRightsCoalition Simone Biles credited adoption in a recent interview with Hoda where she stated, "If not for my parents and adoption, I would not be here today."  Lynn discusses the controversary surrounding that and shares opinions surrounding kinship adoption as a form of family preservation. Concerned United Birth Parents (CUB) Stand with Adoptees.  Read their official statements here: https://concernedunitedbirthparents.org/adoptee-rights Sign up for the CUB Retreat in Kansas City, MO: https://concernedunitedbirthparents.org/ Sign up for the Adoption Knowledge Affiliates (AKA) virtual conference: https://www.adoptionknowledge.org/virtual-conference.html        

Ande and I discuss our deceased biological fathers and how we would love to learn more about them.  If you happened to know one of our fathers, please email Lynn at theadoptedgenealogist@gmail.com.    

I was excited to spend time with Kristi on Mother's Day discussing our shared experiences surrounding our narcissistic adoptive mothers.  We cover how the adoption industry is a breeding ground for narcissism, how a therapist helped Kristi understand narcissism, going No Contact with her enmeshing narcissistic adoptive mother, and what modalities of healing have helped her heal and cope with what she refers to as a "life sentence." Disclaimer:  Only a qualified mental health professional can diagnose Narcissistic Personality Disorder.  This podcast and the series related to narcissism is based on the adopted adult determining that his/her parent has a narcissistic personality style.  It is understood that not all adoptive parents are narcissistic, or even that most are. Comments for Kristi or Lynn can be sent to theadoptedgenealogist@gmail.com Writing process https://courses.crappychildhoodfairy.com/login Dr. Ramani's new book, “It's Not You!” https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/710202/its-not-you-by-ramani-durvasula-phd/ Photo credit: debyemm

Having a narcissistic family system and being adopted is a double whammy. Double whammy: a twofold blow or setback Photo: my daughter and me Book recommendation: https://www.amazon.com/But-Its-Your-Family-Aftermath/dp/1642790990   Beat Your Genes Episode that discusses Behavior Genetics, the twin and adoption studies and Three Identical Strangers:   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bog9_7gMP5s&t=2289s&ab_channel=BeatYourGenesPodcast   Blueprint: How DNA Makes Us Who We Are: https://www.amazon.com/Blueprint-How-DNA-Makes-Press/dp/0262039168    

Ideas for low contact with your narcissistic adoptive mother.   Lynn's blog mentioned in episode:   https://noapologiesforbeingme.blogspot.com/2024/04/the-walls-dont-talk-adventures-in.html

Introduction to a new series I am discussing on Narcissistic Adoptive Mothers. Book recommendation: “It's Not You!” https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/710202/its-not-you-by-ramani-durvasula-phd/

ASAC conference: https://www.adoptionandculture.org/conference Untangling Our Roots: https://righttoknow.us/communityevent/untangling-our-roots-summit-2024/ Operation Fog Lift: https://open.substack.com/pub/therealadopteamoxie/p/adoption-new-york-city-fieriness?r=1pbwya&utm_medium=ios Relinquished book: https://www.relinquishedbook.com/ Adoption Unfiltered book: https://adoptionunfiltered.com/ The Last Daughter movie trailer: https://youtu.be/VApJQrN7hN0?si=kpVDMq_c42CAdb3Z The Last Daughter book: https://www.textpublishing.com.au/books/the-last-daughter Black Cake (Hulu) trailer: https://youtu.be/aHEF2D8yMes?si=p7OyvW9RwbZevdrt Lifemark movie: https://lifemarkmovie.com/ Little Bird (Amazon Prime): https://www.amazon.com/Little-Bird-Season-1/dp/B0CJK3KYYN Simon Benn Facebook Poll: https://www.facebook.com/share/p/TtedicYg56DWeWNh/?mibextid=WC7FNe Conceiving Christian America (Embryo Adoption): Book: https://nyupress.org/9781479818594/conceiving-christian-america Intro podcast with Ande at The Adoption Files: https://theadoptionfilescom.wordpress.com/2024/02/25/conceiving-christian-america-introducing-a-new-series-on-snowflake-adoption/ Have an event you want discussed? Email Lynn @theadoptedgenealogist@gmail.com

*Adoptee Tik Tok *Legislative Summit 2023 in Indianapolis * Concerned United Birth Parents retreat 2023 *Celia Center adoption conference Nov 10, 11 2023 *Adoptee Rights 101 *Real ID complications (and passport update!) *Adoptee Remembrance Day- 11/30/23  *National Adoption Awareness Month Show Notes: NAAP Adoption Happy Hour: https://naapunited.org/adoption-happy-hour Preorder the book: "Relinquished:  The Politics of Adoption and the Privilege of American Motherhood."  https://www.amazon.com/Relinquished-Politics-Adoption-Privilege-Motherhood/dp/1250286778/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2A50CHXAVR2JZ&keywords=relinquished%3A+The+politics+of+adoption&qid=1699013928&s=books&sprefix=relinquished+the+politics+of+adoption%2Cstripbooks%2C74&sr=1-1 Celia Center adoption conference: https://celia-center-adoption-constellation.mn.co/plans/339536?bundle_token=9059baf90d541a7b894e633227303955&utm_source=manual%20noopener Real ID Debaucle: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-burning-question-will-the-government-finally-decide/id1598023322?i=1000633287479 Adoptee Remembrance Day Virtual Candlelight Vigil (10/30/23) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uun76F2JQpE&ab_channel=UnravelingAdoption-podcastandotherresources    

Learn about the nonprofit that was started by first mothers who are helping other women not have to go through what they did when they lost their children to an un-regulated adoption industry. Correction:  Lisa Woolsey (I said her name wrong on the podcast) gave the training that I attended. Learn about the Board of Directors of SOS here: https://savingoursistersadoption.org/saving-our-sisters-about-us/boardofdirectors/ Family Preservation Project (Where Moms and Resources Meet): https://thefamilypreservationproject.com/        

Pressure on UK government for formal apology re forced adoption: https://www.theguardian.com/society/2023/may/09/victims-of-forced-adoption-step-up-pressure-for-uk-government-apology Adoption Trends (why a decline in adoption?) Intersection of coercive control, the troubled teen industry (TTI) and adoption.  More on TTI here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cFLaEnQ2Dp0&ab_channel=60MinutesAustralia H.R. 1475 - Hospital Adoption Education Act: https://www.congress.gov/bill/118th-congress/house-bill/1475/text NAAP Happy hour replay of Friday 6.2.23 Zoom presentation of "All You Have is Love": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d_G1yXypDcI&t=889s&ab_channel=NationalAssociationofAdoptees%26Parents Trailer of the documentary here (pledge a donation!): https://seedandspark.com/fund/allyouhaveislove#story          

Our personal kinship adoption experience and subsequent open adoption; When God Calls you to adopt; risks of unlicensed adoption brokers; the Kamiya Mobley story (kidnapped child learns she is not the biological daughter of her "adoptive" mom when she is 18 years old).   Show Notes: Risks of Unlicensed Adoption Brokers in Private Adoption: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=onyzHGYKXOo&t=64s&ab_channel=AdoptionNetCle When God Calls You to Adopt (by The Real Adoptee Moxie) https://open.substack.com/pub/therealadopteamoxie/p/when-god-calls-you-to-adopt?utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web The Kamiyah Mobley story: https://www.hulu.com/series/beyond-the-headlines-the-kamiyah-mobley-story-with-robin-roberts-dd7e8f8f-7b48-4171-bdda-702251449f36 Link to my blog: https://noapologiesforbeingme.blogspot.com/      

Adoptee Citizenship Act; Adult Adoption Scam; Ohio Kinship and Adoption Navigators (OhioKAN); Korean Court Rules Against Adoption Agency: North Dakota ICWA law; Attorneys on the Bus; Rootstech Genealogy Conference   Show notes: Latest on Citizenship for Intercountry Adoptees: https://adopteerightslaw.com/adoptee-citizenship-act-status/ OhioKAN (help with kinship and adoption resources) https://ohiokan.jfs.ohio.gov/our-program/ Ohio Justice Bus: https://www.ohiolegalhelp.org/blog-5-25-2021-ohio-justice-bus Family Search (Rootstech Genealogy Conference): https://www.familysearch.org/rootstech/    

Gun control; high school shooting threat; applying for a passport, (and reported problems with being adopted); Birth Mother's Day, Mother's Day; being adopted and menopause.   Show notes:   Blog about being adopted and getting a passport: https://www.adoptionbirthmothers.com/us-adoptees-have-trouble-getting-passports-due-to-sealed-records-law/ Interview at The Adoption Files with Lorraine Dusky, author of "Hole in my Heart:" https://open.spotify.com/episode/76vrspm8FcEkDZfyvxDCz7?si=24Z6P-ABRM-_iMbSWTIFUA   Research about mother's and daughter's age of menopause: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/9243205/  BUY YOURSELF FLOWERS, LADIES! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G7KNmW9a75Y&ab_channel=MileyCyrusVEVO        

The Lost Sons (the Paul Fronczak story), interview with Lorraine Dusky (author and journalist); Ohio Adoption Grant, Netherlands discontinues international adoption with U.S., Swatting in Ohio 3rd degree felony,  World Affair this weekend https://governor.ohio.gov/media/news-and-media/governor-signs-executive-order-to-launch-adoption-grant-program-04072023 Swatting in Ohio https://www.police1.com/legal/articles/swatting-now-a-felony-under-ohio-governors-new-law-7WgkegICV0SQoexk/ The Lost Sons (the Paul Fronczak story)  https://www.imdb.com/title/tt14030624/ The Netherlands discontinued doing adoption business with the U.S. https://www.nytimes.com/2021/02/09/world/europe/netherlands-international-adoptions.html#:~:text=the%20main%20story-,Netherlands%20Halts%20Adoptions%20From%20Abroad%20After%20Exposing%20Past%20Abuses,and%20government%20complicity%20until%201998. https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/News/Intercountry-Adoption-News/the-netherlands--closed-intercountry-adoptions-between-the-nethe.html Hole in my Heart (Lorraine Dusky) https://www.amazon.com/Hole-My-Heart-Fault-Adoption-dp-1951479793/dp/1951479793/ref=dp_ob_title_bk Ohio Adoption Grant Program https://fosterandadopt.jfs.ohio.gov/adoption/grant The Adoption Files https://open.spotify.com/show/68DXjPUypeImBmFZr9OOpo    

One woman rock-n-roll show; being adopted at The World Affair; telling my mom I wanted to search for my birth mom; the B.I.T.E. model of authoritarian control; what the heck are Jesus Babies? Family preservation   Show Notes: Trans Am by Lisa Stephen Friday: https://www.transamshow.com/press World Affair https://www.aworldafair.org/ B.I.T.E. Model https://freedomofmind.com/cult-mind-control/bite-model/ Jesus Babies (alternatives to adoption that support family preservation): Informal temporary caregiver of mother and child Power of Attorney to Grandparents or others Legal Custody to Kin or Fictive Kin Kinship Adoption  

Crazy Ohio weather; new Ohio phone law; the B.I.T.E. model as it relates to cults and adoption; National Conference of State Legislatures (NCSL); educating about opening sealed original birth certificates of adoptees; Indian Child Welfare Act The Adoption Files podcast with Ande Stanley and Lynn Grubb: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2KFmco76gY9iGisxCBFChR?si=JLcCNk7OSZGCCSJnrwpxMg A Little Bit Culty podcast: https://alittlebitculty.com/ The B.I.T.E. Model: https://freedomofmind.com/cult-mind-control/bite-model/ This Land podcast (updates on ICWA) https://crooked.com/podcast/this-land-episode-1-the-case/ Books mentioned:  Sandy White Hawk: https://shop.mnhs.org/products/a-child-of-the-indian-race Gabrielle Glaser: https://www.amazon.com/American-Baby-Mother-History-Adoption/dp/0735224684 National Conference of State Legislatures (Indianapolis 2023) https://www.ncsl.org/ Right to Know: https://righttoknow.us/                

Post-conference thoughts; Ohio politics (reproductive rights and death penalty); CASA guardian ad litem; working in law; adoption themed musical in the works; Easter lunch with Weezy and her high heels. SHOW NOTES: https://untanglingourroots.org/ For the Record, a new musical in production: https://www.ftrmusical.com/ Ohio ballot issues: https://www.ohiosos.gov/legislation-and-ballot-issues/ballot-board/ Lynn's blog about her reproductive journey: https://noapologiesforbeingme.blogspot.com/2022/07/adopted-and-pro-choice-reproductive.html A story about Lynn's 91-yr old mom: https://www.facebook.com/lynn.grubb/posts/pfbid02xBKCzGM9YKQUqVwDZFKRiT2BWzVk1SiGZj9xUnSzTirjHg47q5ZyfBywiX19f3irl Rachel Coyle: How Things Work at the Statehouse: https://checkout.square.site/merchant/ML6J35ZXTZQQT/checkout/YB4FGW6A53NJ5RFANQLOYCUL

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