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The Nothing Is Wasted Podcast
Episode 379 - The Adoptee's Journey with Cameron Lee Small

The Nothing Is Wasted Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later May 28, 2025 59:48


How can we help a child who may not have the words to express their own grief? How can communities be support systems to those who have adopted?Cameron Lee Small's story began with loss. At the age of three years old, he was adopted from his birth country of South Korea and placed in a home thousands of miles away in America. As he grew up and began to understand the complexity of emotions that can arise as an adoptee, he realized the need for support and care for others who shared his journey. Through his practice as counselor and his interactions with other adoptees and their families, Cameron has seen the impact loss and trauma can play in the lives of those who have walked this path. And because of his own personal experience, he has been able to help adoptees and their families navigate a way forward towards healing. In his book, **The Adoptee's Journey: From Loss and Trauma to Healing and Empowerment**, Cameron shares glimpses of his story and search for his birth mother as well as practical ways adoptees can regain their sense of agency and identity in the complexities of their story. In this insightful conversation, Davey talks with Cameron about the kinds of questions that can come in an adoptee, how parents and caregivers can help children regulate who have experienced trauma, and why it is so important for churches to be adoption informed so that they can best serve families who adopt. If you are an adoptee or an adoptive parent or you know someone who is, this episode will help you understand the nuances of the emotional experience many adoptees feel and how you can love and serve those who have welcomed children into their home through adoption. Website: therapyredeemed.wordpress.com Instagram: instagram.com/therapyredeemed Book: The Adoptee's Journey: From Loss and Trauma to Healing and Empowermenthttps://amzn.to/4kay5tK Additional Adoption Resources:Cam's Minneapolis TEDx Talk: tedxminneapolis.com Virtual TEEN ADOPTEE Support Groups: https://mailchi.mp/25796625a7ab/virtual-group-for-teen-adoptees Adoptive Parenting Consultation Group [3-Month Coaching with Cameron]: https://community-adoption-support.mailchimpsites.com/ 10 Facts about Adoptees: https://therapyredeemed.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/10-facts-about-adoptees.pdf

Adoption: The Making of Me
Carol: For This Adoptee, Early Searching Led to Present-Day Understanding

Adoption: The Making of Me

Play Episode Listen Later May 20, 2025 60:44


Carol Hoeksema was born at the Salvation Army Evangeline Home for unwed mothers in Grand Rapids, Michigan, in 1957, where she stayed the first 13 days of her life before going to an unknown foster family arranged by Bethany Christian Services. At 3 months, she was given to her adoptive parents and raised in the Dutch immigrant community of Pella, Iowa. She always knew that she was adopted and was curious about her roots. At age 19, she started her search by going to the adoption agency, and over the next 15 years, she was able to find and contact the families of both birth parents. After experiencing a secondary rejection by her mother, she found healing and belonging in doing genealogy research. In contrast, her late father's family welcomed her with open arms. She has lived a rich life, full of family, friends, and adventures. A retired family physician, Carol lives with her husband on Camano Island, Washington. They have 3 grown children and 4 grandchildren. In this interview, she tells the story of her adoption and search for her roots so that her descendants will know their history, too, and wants to give hope to others experiencing birth mother rejection.Sign up for our mailing list to get updates and the Eventbrite - (soon to be published) - for our September 12th & 13th Washington, D.C. Event!Thank you to our Patreons! Join at the $10 level and be part of our monthly ADOPTEE CAFE community. The next meeting will be on Saturday, June 7th, @ 1 PM ET.RESOURCES for Adoptees:S12F Helping AdopteesGregory Luce and Adoptees Rights LawFireside Adoptees Facebook GroupDr. Liz Debetta: Migrating Toward Wholeness MovementMoses Farrow - Trauma therapist and advocateNational Suicide Prevention Lifeline – 1-800-273-8255 OR Dial or Text 988.Unraveling Adoption with Beth SyversonAdoptees Connect with Pamela KaranovaBecause She Was Adopted by Kristal ParkeDear Amy, letters to Amy Coney Barrett. A project by Meika RoudaSupport the showSupport the showTo support the show - Patreon.

Mind Your Own Karma-The Adoption Chronicles
Transracial Adoptee and Queer Somatic Healer Kellan Bacon on Breathwork, Authenticity, and Nervous System Healing

Mind Your Own Karma-The Adoption Chronicles

Play Episode Listen Later May 13, 2025 50:12


In today's episode of Mind Your Own Karma - Beyond TheBandage, we're joined by Kellan Bacon, a transmasculine, transracial adoptee and holistic practitioner. Kellan shares their powerful journey of navigating life as a queer, trans person and how their experiences shaped their healing work. Through their practice, Kai Ming Holistics, Kellan uses compassionate,trauma-informed, and body-centered approaches to help individuals—especially queer and adopted folks—heal and reclaim their authentic selves.Kellan blends breathwork, polyvagal theory, parts work, and Root Cause Therapy to support nervous system healing and emotional release. They also dive deep into their own lived experiences as an adoptee and how their personal healing journey influences the work they do with others.In this episode, we explore topics such as:How being trans and a transracial adoptee intersects with Kellan's identity and healing journey.The power of breathwork and somatic practices in navigating trauma and reconnecting with the body.The importance of authenticity in healing and reclaiming one's true self.How Kellan's spirituality and healing practices have evolved over time, especially with Root Cause Therapy.And how we can heal from within by tuning in to our bodies and nervous systems. If you're someone who's exploring your identity, dealing with trauma, or interested in alternative healing practices, this episode will leave you with fresh perspectives and actionable insights for your own journey. Key Takeaways:• The intersection of adoption, queerness, and trans identity in healing.• Exploring alternative healing modalities like breathwork, polyvagal theory, and somatic practices.• The role of authenticity in reclaiming one's identity and healing from trauma.• How somatic techniques help to heal your nervous system and access emotional release. About Kellan Bacon: Kellan is a transmasculine, transracial adoptee from China and the founder of Kai Ming Holistics. They specialize in guiding queer and adopted folks through trauma-informed, body-centered healing using breathwork, polyvagal theory, parts work, and root cause therapy. Kellan's unique approach combines their own lived experiences with professional knowledge to create a compassionate, holistic space for healing. Connect with Kellan:Instagram accounts are: https://www.instagram.com/kellanbaconand https://www.instagram.com/kaimingholisticsKellan's Website: https://KaiMingHolistics.as.me/ Somatic Healing Journeys What if the answers you've been searching for aren't outside of you, but within? Somatic Mindful Guided Imagery® helps you access your body's hidden stories and begin real healing.Your body remembers what your mind has forgotten. Through Somatic Mindful Guided Imagery®, we listen, we feel, we heal. If your soul's been whispering for something more… follow the call at https://www.somatichealingjourneys.com/. Want to be a guest?If you're an out-of-the-box healer or someone with a unique perspective on healing—whether through somatic techniques, energy work, trauma-informed care, or any alternative methods—I'd love to hear from you! Reach out if you're interested in being a guest on Mind Your Own Karma - Beyond The Bandage.Email: mindyourownkarma@gmail.com#TransracialAdoptee #AdopteeVoices #Transmasculine#GenderExpansive #QueerHealing #AdopteeHealing #AuthenticSelf #ComingOutOfTheFog #BreathworkHealing #SomaticHealing #EmbodiedHealing #Transmasc #Nonbinary #NervousSystemRegulation #TraumaInformedCare #HealingJourney #MindBodyConnection #AsianAdoptee #ChineseAdoptee #AdopteeRights #TransAdopteeSpace #AdoptionTrauma #DecolonizeHealing #MindYourOwnKarma #HealingPodcast #QueerVoices #AdopteeStories #HolisticWellness #CommunityHealing #MindYourOwnKarma #Somatic #SomaticHealingJourneys #HealingPodcast

Thriving Adoptees - Inspiration For Adoptive Parents & Adoptees
The Path To Empathy Laura Engel & Hannah Andrews

Thriving Adoptees - Inspiration For Adoptive Parents & Adoptees

Play Episode Listen Later May 10, 2025 39:52


Another episode with a difference courtesy of two ladies with huge hearts. Empathy for others in the adoption constellation is foundational to thriving and communication. Listen in as birth mother Laura and adoptee Hannah explore the path to empathy. Hannah Andrews  was born in Chicago and was adopted as an infant during the Baby Scoop Era. She was raised on a Midwestern farm with two older adoptee brothers. In 2018, a chance meeting with author birthmother  Laura Engel sent Hannah in search of her own history. She found more questions than answers, but found guidance and community from fellow triad members. She joined the AKA board to provide that same support to others. Hannah is a writer, pianist & pet enthusiast .  She lives in San Diego, CA with her dog Josie and three Pussycats .https://www.instagram.com/hannahshannonmashup/https://medium.com/@writingsbyhannahandrewshttps://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100074619925818https://www.adoptionknowledge.org/our-board-of-directors.htmlHere's a bit about Laura and her book from her website:My book is about Laura, a woman who lived her life with her secrets finds her greatest secret unearthed at age 67. The child she was forced to give up for adoption when she was 17 in an Unwed Mothers Home in New Orleans unexpectedly sends her an email.  Meeting her 49 year-old son rocked her world and cracked her soul wide open. She found the acceptance and love she had always denied herself had been with her all along. My book tells an incredibly sad story but ends with a story of grace, hope, and extraordinary joy.https://www.facebook.com/lauralengelauthor/https://www.instagram.com/storytellerlaura/https://lauralengel.com/https://lauralengel.com/books/Listen to Laura's previous interview here https://thriving-adoptees.simplecast.com/episodes/goodby-shame-with-birth-mother-laura-engel Guests and the host are not (unless mentioned) licensed pscyho-therapists and speak from their own opinion only. Seek qualified advice if you need help.

Adoption: The Making of Me
Mary: How a Search Angel and DNA Changed This Adoptee's Life

Adoption: The Making of Me

Play Episode Listen Later May 6, 2025 52:30


Mary, a seventh-generation Tennessean born in Memphis in 1986, was adopted and raised in Jackson, Tennessee, by a supportive family who encouraged her search for her biological relatives. In 2007, she connected with her birth mother, who had mistakenly identified the wrong man as Mary's father.  Then, in 2019, a "search angel" and a DNA match through Ancestry.com unexpectedly revealed her actual biological father and a previously unknown family. She has since developed relationships with these newfound blood relatives, while maintaining a connection with the family of the man her birth mother initially believed to be her father.The Adoptee's Journey: From Loss and Trauma to Healing and Empowerment by Cameron Lee SmallMagic Mind - Use Code: MAKINGOFMEAPR  https://www.magicmind.com/MAKINGOFMEAPR Thank you to our Patreons! Join at the $10 level and be part of our monthly ADOPTEE CAFE community. The next meeting will be on Saturday, May 10th, @ 1 PM ET.RESOURCES for Adoptees:S12F Helping AdopteesGregory Luce and Adoptees Rights LawFireside Adoptees Facebook GroupDr. Liz Debetta: Migrating Toward Wholeness MovementMoses Farrow - Trauma therapist and advocateNational Suicide Prevention Lifeline – 1-800-273-8255 OR Dial or Text 988.Unraveling Adoption with Beth SyversonAdoptees Connect with Pamela KaranovaBecause She Was Adopted by Kristal ParkeDear Amy, letters to Amy Coney Barrett. A project by Meika RoudaSupport the showTo support the show - Patreon.

Should Have Listened to My Mother Podcast
Family Is So Much More Than Biology with Guest Lifestyle Journalist and Author, Randee Dawn

Should Have Listened to My Mother Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later May 6, 2025 27:55


Randee and her mom are very close. They have a wonderful relationship and Randee says "she's my best cheerleader."  A lot of that has to do with the honesty and open communication that they had from the very beginning-"adoption was normal, not a stigma, not a tragedy."  Also, Randee learned at a young age that just because you are blood related doesn't guarantee you a loving relationship.Lois was definitely a role model to Randee. But Randee also feels that she learned from things that Lois did and didn't t do and then would form her own opinions. Randee had the luxury of knowing that her mom "always had my back.".Unfortunately, growing up in the 70's, Randee's parents divorced and her mom went to work. She was able to get contract work, writing and editing government contracts. It was a stressful time for Lois, but she made the best of it. For example, her office didn't have a window, so she decided to put a picture of a window up on the wall. That made it feel so much better."The Only Songs We're Singing," was released April 2025 and "Leave No Trace" will be released August 2025.In “The Only Song Worth Singing”, the power of friendship is one of the major themes blended with myth and the power of music. Imagine Irish folklore combined with mysticism – makes for a magical read.She's also written Amazon Bestseller, Tune in Tomorrow and co-wrote the popular, The Law & Order: SVU Unofficial Companion and co-edited, Across the Universe: Tales of Alternative Beatles.Randee Dawn's Bio:Randee Dawn is a Brooklyn-based author and journalist focusing on speculative fiction across the categories (science-fiction, fantasy and horror) at night, while writing entertainment and lifestyle stories during the day for publications including Today.com, NBCNews.com, Variety, The Los Angeles Times and Emmy Magazine.You may have seen my name in other publications over the years, including Soap Opera Digest and The Boston Phoenix, E! Online, New Musical Express and Mojo. I contributed to a French book about American television, Les Series Tele and co-authored (with Susan Green) The Law & Order: SVU Unofficial Companion.I've got a fair amount of short fiction in anthologies, and authored the short story/poetry compilation Home for the Holidays. I'm currently  represented by Bridget Smith at JABberwocky Literary Agency, and I frequently appear at conventions and workshops on panels and to give readings.My first novel, Tune In Tomorrow, was published by Solaris/Rebellion in 2022. Arc Manor will publish my next two novels in 2025: The Only Song Worth Singing (April) and Leave No Trace (August).My degree in broadcast journalism from Boston University is occasionally useful, though I'm pleased to have a paralegal certificate from New York University.Currently, I reside with the love of my life and an adorable West Highland Terrier (who is also quite lovable). No, I don't have a fox, but if you want to meet a fox like this, JAB Canid Education and Conservation Center can help.  More information about Randee. https://creativecoachingpartners.newzenler.com/ WEBSITE: https://randeedawn.com/https://www.facebook.com/AuthorRandeeDawnhttps://bsky.app/profile/randeedawn.comhttps://www.instagram.com/randeedawn/https://www.threads.net/@randeedawnhttps://www.tiktok.com/@randee.dawnhttps://randeedawn.com/https://randeedawn.com/appearances/https://creativecoachingpartners.newzenler.com/ "Should Have Listened To My Mother" is an ongoing conversation about mothers/female role models and the roles they play in our lives. Jackie's guests are open and honest and answer the question, are you who you are today because of, or in spite of, your mother and so much more. You'll be amazed at what the responses are.Gina Kunadian wrote this 5 Star review on Apple Podcast:SHLTMM TESTIMONIAL GINA KUNADIAN JUNE 18, 2024“A Heartfelt and Insightful Exploration of Maternal Love”Jackie Tantillo's “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast is a treasure and it's clear why it's a 2023 People's Choice Podcast Award Nominee. This show delves into the profound impact mother and maternal role models have on our lives through personal stories and reflections.Each episode offers a chance to learn how different individuals have been shaped by their mothers' actions and words. Jackie skillfully guides these conversations, revealing why guests with similar backgrounds have forged different paths.This podcast is a collection of timeless stories that highlight the powerful role of maternal figures in our society. Whether your mother influenced you positively or you thrived despite challenges, this show resonates deeply.I highly recommend “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast for its insightful, heartfelt and enriching content.Gina Kunadian"Should Have Listened To My Mother" would not be possible without the generosity, sincerity and insight from my guests. In 2018/2019, in getting ready to launch my podcast, so many were willing to give their time and share their personal stories of their relationship with their mother, for better or worse and what they learned from that maternal relationship. Some of my guests include Nationally and Internationally recognized authors, Journalists, Columbia University Professors, Health Practitioners, Scientists, Artists, Attorneys, Baritone Singer, Pulitzer Prize Winning Journalist, Activists, Freighter Sea Captain, Film Production Manager, Professor of Writing Montclair State University, Attorney and family advocate @CUNY Law; NYC First Responder/NYC Firefighter, Child and Adult Special Needs Activist, Property Manager, Chefs, Self Help Advocates, therapists and so many more talented and insightful women and men.Jackie has worked in the broadcasting industry for over four decades. She has interviewed many fascinating people including musicians, celebrities, authors, activists, entrepreneurs, politicians and more.A big thank you goes to Ricky Soto, NYC based Graphic Designer, who created the logo for "Should Have Listened To My Mother".Check out our website for more background information: https://www.jackietantillo.com/Or more demos of what's to come at https://soundcloud.com/jackie-tantilloLink to website and show notes: https://shltmm.simplecast.com/Or Find SHLTMM Website here: https://shltmm.simplecast.com/Listen wherever you find podcasts: https://www.facebook.com/ShouldHaveListenedToMyMotherhttps://www.facebook.com/jackietantilloInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/shouldhavelistenedtomymother/https://www.instagram.com/jackietantillo7/LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/jackie-tantillo/YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@ShouldHaveListenedToMyMother

Adoption: The Making of Me
Heather: A Longing Led to Searching

Adoption: The Making of Me

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 29, 2025 75:26


Heather G. Marshall is an adoptee, author, speaker, and workshop facilitator. Her TED talk, “Letting Go of Expectations,” centers around her adoption and reunion. Her second novel, When the Ocean Flies, released in February 2024 (Vine Leaves Press). The novel is an adoptee-focused exploration of love and longing, of identity and belonging, and of healing from trauma. Heather was born in Leith, Scotland, in 1967, relinquished at birth, sent to foster care, and subsequently adopted in Scotland. She has been in reunion with her mother for twenty years, and was in reunion with her father for the last six years of his life. In her writing, Heather explores family, adoption, women (especially older ones), the natural environment, and how these intersect. When she isn't writing, she likes to hike, travel, practice yoga and meditation, do a wee bit of knitting, and, of course, read. Originally from Scotland, Heather now lives in the United States. You can find out more about her at heathergmarshall.com.The Adoptee's Journey: From Loss and Trauma to Healing and Empowerment by Cameron Lee SmallMagic Mind - Use Code: MAKINGOFMEAPR  https://www.magicmind.com/MAKINGOFMEAPR Thank you to our Patreons! Join at the $10 level and be part of our monthly ADOPTEE CAFE community. The next meeting will be on Saturday, May 10th, @ 1 PM ET.RESOURCES for Adoptees:S12F Helping AdopteesGregory Luce and Adoptees Rights LawFireside Adoptees Facebook GroupDr. Liz Debetta: Migrating Toward Wholeness MovementMoses Farrow - Trauma therapist and advocateNational Suicide Prevention Lifeline – 1-800-273-8255 OR Dial or Text 988.Unraveling Adoption with Beth SyversonAdoptees Connect with Pamela KaranovaBecause She Was Adopted by Kristal ParkeDear Amy, letters to Amy Coney Barrett. A project by Meika RoudaSupport the showTo support the show - Patreon.

Mind Your Own Karma-The Adoption Chronicles
The Adoption Paradox with Jean Widner: Adoptee Voices, Adoption Trauma & The Truth About Healing

Mind Your Own Karma-The Adoption Chronicles

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 29, 2025 59:40


In this powerful episode of Mind Your Own Karma, I welcome back returning guest and fellow adoptee Jean Widner, who is here to launch her groundbreaking new book: The Adoption Paradox. If you're an adoptee, part of the adoption triad, a therapist, or simply someone who wants to better understand the complex realities of adoption—this is a must-listen conversation.Jean's book is already being called the most important educational book about adoption since The Primal Wound, and it's easy to see why. Through nearly 100 deeply honest interviews—with adoptees from all walks of life, birth and adoptive parents, therapists, and allies—The Adoption Paradox reveals the emotional truths, systemic issues, and lifelong impacts that the glossy adoption narrative often leaves out.

The Adoption and Fostering Podcast
Episode 209 - APPG Adoptee Voice Inquiry

The Adoption and Fostering Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 26, 2025 35:07


In this episode we have the now almost obligatory ASSGSF intro and the get to the business on hand. We invited the All Party Parliamentary Group on Adoption and Permanence steering committee chair Siobhan Rhodes to come on and talk about the work they're doing to gather the voices of people who are adopted. We chat about what that is with the APPG is and you can complete the survey for Adoptee Voices here. As always if you've experience of adoption, fostering or special guardianship from any perspective personal or professional and would like share that on the podcast please get in touch through the Facebook page, BlueSky or email us at AandFpodcast@gmail.com   Listen/subscribe on iTunes here Spotify here  

Adoption: The Making of Me
Kate: For This Adoptee, the Surprises Kept Coming

Adoption: The Making of Me

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 22, 2025 64:31


Kate was born at a Florence Crittenton home in Kansas City, MO, in 1970 and placed with her adoptive family at 9 days old. She always knew she was adopted and has always wanted to find her family of origin. This was finally made possible when Missouri changed its laws allowing adopted people access to their original birth certificates. She has been in reunion with her mother since 2018, meeting her in person and getting a life-changing hug in 2019. That hug was the first time she had a feeling of being home. Kate is also in reunion with her father's family, who have been welcoming.Reunion has been beautiful, messy, painful, liberating, and the most life-impacting thing Kate has ever experienced. Finding her story and learning about her people, though sometimes painful, has been incredibly grounding, and she now feels like a real person.While finding family has been an overall positive experience, some of the stories have been quite difficult. Her father went on a shooting spree, killing three people, including two police officers, and wounding several more before taking his own life in Harrisonville, MO, in 1972. As luck would have it, she had a chance encounter with an author while visiting his grave for the first time. The author was doing research for a book he was writing about her father. This encounter was instrumental in helping Kate find healing, as it led to factual information about what happened that day in 1972, as well as connections with some of her father's friends, giving her an understanding of the kind of person he was beyond the story he is most remembered for. Kate has been fortunate that her mother was willing to answer all of her questions, even though they were uncomfortable and seemed repetitive. This helped her to understand the decisions made by her grandparents. Had things turned out differently and Kate remained with her natural parents, her name would have been Lisa Simpson, which makes her giggle.The Adoptee's Journey: From Loss and Trauma to Healing and Empowerment by Cameron Lee SmallThank you to our Patreons! Join at the $10 level and be part of our monthly ADOPTEE CAFE community. The next meeting will be on Saturday, May 10th, @ 1 PM ET.RESOURCES for Adoptees:S12F Helping AdopteesGregory Luce and Adoptees Rights LawFireside Adoptees Facebook GroupDr. Liz Debetta: Migrating Toward Wholeness MovementMoses Farrow - Trauma therapist and advocateNational Suicide Prevention Lifeline – 1-800-273-8255 OR Dial or Text 988.Unraveling Adoption with Beth SyversonAdoptees Connect with Pamela KaranovaBecause She Was Adopted by Kristal ParkeDear Amy, letters to Amy Coney Barrett. A project by Meika RoudaSupport the showTo support the show - Patreon.

The Adoption Roadmap Podcast
Your Worth Is Where You Put It”: A Gen Z Adoptee's Bold Message for Parents

The Adoption Roadmap Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 16, 2025 74:22


In this powerful episode of The Adoption Roadmap Podcast, host Rebecca Gruenspan sits down with 19-year-old adoptee, author, and advocate Wilson Munsterman to explore identity, self-worth, and healing through the lens of adoption. Wilson opens up about his adoption from China, the scar that shaped his early beliefs about himself, and the moment he chose to rewrite his internal narrative.Wilson shares how he went from struggling in silence to finding his voice—and using it to uplift others. Together, Rebecca and Wilson dive into the realities of transracial adoption, the unique identity challenges adoptees face, and what adoptive parents really need to know. This episode is packed with wisdom for adoptive parents raising teens, adoptees seeking healing, and anyone who's ever questioned their worth.Important Links- Wilson Munsterman on Instagram- Marked by Adoption: 10 Key Insights from an Adoptee's Perspective (Amazon)- Identity (founded by Isaac Etter)- Family Adoption Network Center- Shannon Bingham- Sweet Peachtree Marketplace (Use code ROADMAP10 for 10% off)- RG Adoption Consulting- Take the “Are You Ready to Adopt?” QuizChapters00:00 Understanding Adoption and Self-Worth02:52 Finding Worth Through Community Engagement05:49 Navigating Identity and Belonging08:51 The Impact of Open Communication in Adoption11:58 Rewriting the Narrative of Adoption15:07 The Role of Friends in Support18:02 Transforming Scars into Symbols of Hope20:59 The Journey of Self-Discovery24:12 The Importance of Sharing Stories26:57 Lessons for Adoptive Parents30:03 The Struggle with Self-Worth32:54 Finding Purpose and Passion37:29 Cultural Exposure in Adoption40:36 Understanding Identity and Culture43:42 The Complexity of Cultural Identity45:46 Finding a Voice as an Advocate49:10 Testifying for Adoption Support52:37 Creating a Supportive Community55:28 Designing a National Adoption Blueprint01:00:00 Writing for Change01:02:15 Emotional Challenges in Writing01:06:45 The Importance of Compassion and UnderstandingTune in to The Adoption Roadmap Podcast every Wednesday and Friday morning. If you like what you hear, I'd appreciate a follow and a 5-star rating & review!

Adoption: The Making of Me
Mike: From Adoption to Discovery

Adoption: The Making of Me

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 15, 2025 70:47


Mike Brettmann was born in Des Moines, Iowa, in 1958 and adopted a few days later. He grew up on a small farm in Iowa with a brother who was adopted from another family. They were always told they were adopted, but it was never discussed. Mike joined the army after high school and served nearly 28 years on active duty. His uncle asked him to find the Brettmann family history while stationed in Germany. After tracing the Brettmann family in 1987, he wanted to find his roots. In 1999, he found his adoption papers and began a search for his birth parents, and in 2010, he connected with his birth mother. She gave him information about his birth father, who was not listed in the adoption papers, and they met in 2012. The reunion with his birth parents did not go well, but he was happy to learn his story and find some other relatives that he created a relationship with.The Adoptee's Journey: From Loss and Trauma to Healing and Empowerment by Cameron Lee SmallThank you to our Patreons! Join at the $10 level and be part of our monthly ADOPTEE CAFE community. The next meeting will be on Saturday, May 10th, @ 1 PM ET.RESOURCES for Adoptees:S12F Helping AdopteesGregory Luce and Adoptees Rights LawFireside Adoptees Facebook GroupDr. Liz Debetta: Migrating Toward Wholeness MovementMoses Farrow - Trauma therapist and advocateNational Suicide Prevention Lifeline – 1-800-273-8255 OR Dial or Text 988.Unraveling Adoption with Beth SyversonAdoptees Connect with Pamela KaranovaBecause She Was Adopted by Kristal ParkeDear Amy, letters to Amy Coney Barrett. A project by Meika RoudaSupport the showTo support the show - Patreon.

Raising Wild Hearts
The Hidden Trauma of Adoption with Janet Sherlund

Raising Wild Hearts

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 14, 2025 59:27


Today we're diving into the complexities of adoption— exploring the emotional and psychological impacts on adoptees. Janet Sherlund, author of Abandoned at Birth: Searching for the Arms that Once Held Me , shares her personal experiences and insights, emphasizing the trauma associated with being adopted and the societal expectations surrounding it. We also consider the societal narratives surrounding adoption, the dark history of the adoption industry, and the importance of focusing on the needs of the child rather than the desires of adoptive parents. Learn More About Janet Here. Follow Janet on IG Here. Janet's Recommended Reading: Relinquished by Gretchen Sisson , Who is a Worthy Mother by Rebecca Wellington, Maggie O'Farrell's writing Keywordsadoption, trauma, identity, belonging, motherhood, generational perspectives, biological connections, open adoption, policies, gratitude, adoption, trauma, adoptees, parenting, adoption industry, reform, identity, belonging, infertility, societal normsChapters00:00 Understanding Adoption: A Deeper Perspective03:03 The Adoptee's Experience: Trauma and Identity05:51 Generational Perspectives on Motherhood08:49 The Search for Belonging: Filling the Void12:07 Biological Connections: The Impact of Meeting Birth Parents15:00 The Complexity of Adoption: Gratitude and Trauma18:03 The Challenges of Open Adoption and Current Policies30:02 The Adoption Industry and Its Implications35:51 The Dark Side of Adoption42:01 Understanding Trauma in Adoption48:03 Reforming Adoption Practices for the FutureText RWH and Let Us Know What You Want to Hear on the Show!Support the showIf you feel inspired please consider sharing this episode with a friend, writing a 5⭐️ review or becoming a Raising Wild Hearts Member here!

Thriving Adoptees - Inspiration For Adoptive Parents & Adoptees
Walking Each Other Home With Chasity Galyon

Thriving Adoptees - Inspiration For Adoptive Parents & Adoptees

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 10, 2025 58:44


Is trauma getting in the way on your journey to home? To peace? Is your ego pulling you off the path?  Adoptive mom Chasity was adopted by her step-father whilst she was in pre-school. Listen in as we explore the journey home, obstacles and more...Connect with Chasity athttps://www.linkedin.com/in/chasity-galyon-2b4994250/https://alovingoptionadoption.org/  Guests and the host are not (unless mentioned) licensed pscyho-therapists and speak from their own opinion only. Seek qualified advice if you need help.

Adoption: The Making of Me
Ellianna: The Power of Reverse Healing

Adoption: The Making of Me

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 8, 2025 68:11


Ellianna was born prematurely in a county hospital in Portland, OR, in 1968. She had been relinquished at birth, so she stayed in the hospital alone for several weeks. Foster care stepped in for a week, and then she went to her adopted family, where there was another adopted child that was 2 years older. Ellianna moved around a lot as a child, and as an adopted child, this added to the feeling of not belonging anywhere. Adoption was not something talked about much in the home, but both children knew they were adopted.At the age of 24, she met both of her birth parents and much extended family on both sides. This began the long, arduous journey of healing her wounds and finding where she belongs.Ellianna moved in with her birth mother and grandmother one month after reunion and proceeded to start trying to find a way to fit into her newly forming identity. It has been a roller coaster ride of forging new families and dealing with the issues from the one she grew up in. No one could have prepared her for the long, winding road she has taken, but with it all, she has found peace and the belonging she desired.The Adoptee's Journey: From Loss and Trauma to Healing and Empowerment by Cameron Lee SmallThank you to our Patreons! Join at the $10 level and be part of our monthly ADOPTEE CAFE community. The next meeting will be on Saturday, April 12th, @ 1 PM ET.RESOURCES for Adoptees:S12F Helping AdopteesGregory Luce and Adoptees Rights LawFireside Adoptees Facebook GroupDr. Liz Debetta: Migrating Toward Wholeness MovementMoses Farrow - Trauma therapist and advocateNational Suicide Prevention Lifeline – 1-800-273-8255 OR Dial or Text 988.Unraveling Adoption with Beth SyversonAdoptees Connect with Pamela KaranovaBecause She Was Adopted by Kristal ParkeDear Amy, letters to Amy Coney Barrett. A project by Meika RoudaSupport the showTo support the show - Patreon.

Thriving Adoptees - Inspiration For Adoptive Parents & Adoptees

So many of us struggle to see our worth. To feel valid. Listen as we explore safety, connection and purpose before going way deeper into worth. You're going to want to listen right until the end of this when Linda drops a bombshell about her that explains so much of what we discuss. Wow! A truly belief busting episode with breathtaking clarity.Linda Michie has a Graduate Degree in Urban Studies with a focus on Social Organization and Governance. She majored in Psychology and minored in Criminal Justice during her undergraduate studies.Linda has been working with children and families throughout her career; in Private Investigations, Child Protective Services, Therapeutic Foster Care, and in Court Advocacy for abused and neglected children. Although a natural investigator, Linda's more noteworthy career accomplishments are in child-benefitting curriculum design, and her passion is in training her designs.Linda's fierce determination to help children achieve safety and permanence is evident in her work every day.Find out more about Linda here:https://www.wishingwellfamilies.com/founder/ Guests and the host are not (unless mentioned) licensed pscyho-therapists and speak from their own opinion only. Seek qualified advice if you need help.

Thriving Adoptees - Inspiration For Adoptive Parents & Adoptees

Do you want more peace and contentment? Who doesn't? Listen in as Janelle and I dive deep in to being content with who we are, fulfilment and more.Adoptive mom Janelle serves as Program Coordinator at Adoption Network Cleveland and in this position, she is responsible for coordinating programming for Families and Youth.  This includes program improvements, development, planning and implementation.  In this role, Janelle acts as one of the co-facilitators for the Mediation Program, and facilitates service around the Family Resilience Fund. She is also responsible for organizing and planning special events for families and youth.https://www.linkedin.com/in/janelle-poskocil-18400343/https://x.com/AdoptionNetCLEhttps://www.instagram.com/adoptionnetcle/https://www.adoptionnetwork.org/ Guests and the host are not (unless mentioned) licensed pscyho-therapists and speak from their own opinion only. Seek qualified advice if you need help.

Thriving Adoptees - Inspiration For Adoptive Parents & Adoptees

What do we need to succeed? What tools do we have already? What tools can we get? Join us for a deep dive with a fellow metaphor lover Amanda into empowerment and thriving.Connect with Amanda here:https://www.linkedin.com/in/amanda-angell/https://www.facebook.com/FosterandAdopthttps://mofosteradopt.com/ Guests and the host are not (unless mentioned) licensed pscyho-therapists and speak from their own opinion only. Seek qualified advice if you need help.

Adoption: The Making of Me
Becky: Shifting Perspectives of Adoption

Adoption: The Making of Me

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 1, 2025 57:42


Becky is a scientist, mother, wife, and baby scoop era adoptee who lives with her husband and biological daughter in Oregon. She was born in California, separated from her very young mother at birth, and adopted at 6 weeks by a married couple struggling to have their second biological child. Comfortably raised, she always knew she was adopted, special, and “chosen”. Her adoption was closed, and the birth certificate remains sealed.In 1993, with the help of her adopted sister and a document listing her birth name that her adopted father had been given by accident, Becky found and contacted her birth mother, who welcomed her warmly. They have been in reunion since that time. The person thought to be her biological father reportedly struggled after serving in Vietnam, was difficult to find, and passed away before any contact was made. At peace with the understanding that she would never meet him, Becky was astonished when, in late 2023, a DNA match emerged indicating that a different person was her biological father and that he was alive. Becky located and met her actual biological father in early 2024.Since the shocking revelation about her “new” father and the rewriting of the narrative around her birth, Becky has been exploring and questioning the dominant social paradigm around adoption. She now has a very different perspective about the nature of choice, reproductive equity, who is a worthy mother in our society, and basic rights around identity. Even though the fog had not yet lifted at the time of her daughter's birth, Becky never considered adopting. Having a baby at the ripe old age of 42 is not always successful, but she knew “choosing” someone else's child was not her solution.The Adoptee's Journey: From Loss and Trauma to Healing and Empowerment by Cameron Lee SmallThank you to our Patreons! Join at the $10 level and be part of our monthly ADOPTEE CAFE community. The next meeting will be on Saturday, April 12th, @ 1 PM ET.RESOURCES for Adoptees:S12F Helping AdopteesGregory Luce and Adoptees Rights LawFireside Adoptees Facebook GroupDr. Liz Debetta: Migrating Toward Wholeness MovementMoses Farrow - Trauma therapist and advocateNational Suicide Prevention Lifeline – 1-800-273-8255 OR Dial or Text 988.Unraveling Adoption with Beth SyversonAdoptees Connect with Pamela KaranovaBecause She Was Adopted by Kristal ParkeDear Amy, letters to Amy Coney Barrett. A project by Meika RoudaSupport the showTo support the show - Patreon.

Thriving Adoptees - Inspiration For Adoptive Parents & Adoptees
Curiosity and Connection With David Cross

Thriving Adoptees - Inspiration For Adoptive Parents & Adoptees

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 1, 2025 56:17


The past is a place of reference not a place of residence. So what drives us forward? What keeps our momentum? Listen is as foster kid David shares his insights on growing forward.How many ex foster kids are professors? How many have dedicated their lives to improving the lives of children from hard places. Dr David Cross is uniquely placed to support you the adoptive parent and this episode is a gem. The paradox of helping your kids thrive is that it starts with you thriving. Listen in with big ears as David shares succinct and clear insights into how you can make that happen.Here's a link to David's previous inerview: https://thriving-adoptees.simplecast.com/episodes/attaching-securelyHere's some more about David and the Institute he lead from their website:Dr. David Cross was the Rees-Jones Director of the Karyn Purvis Institute of Child Development and a Professor in the TCU Department of Psychology. He led the KPICD in its triple mission of research, education, and outreach to improve the lives of children from hard places. Together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, Dr. Cross created Trust-Based Relational Intervention®, (TBRI®) a holistic, attachment-based, trauma-informed, and evidence-based intervention for children who have experienced relational trauma. The Karyn Purvis Institute of Child Development strives to help children suffering from the effects of early trauma, abuse and/or neglect. We conduct research to deepen understanding about the complex needs of these children and how to help them overcome social, behavioral, and emotional challenges. Through various outreach initiatives, we train professionals in Trust-Based Relational Intervention®, a research-based, holistic model developed by Dr. Karyn Purvis and Dr. David Cross. Please understand that we are not a service provider, and do not provide clinical services of any kind. https://www.facebook.com/child.tcuhttps://twitter.com/Child_TCUhttps://child.tcu.edu/ Guests and the host are not (unless mentioned) licensed pscyho-therapists and speak from their own opinion only. Seek qualified advice if you need help.

Thriving Adoptees - Inspiration For Adoptive Parents & Adoptees
The Dreams Beyond Dreams Chris Tonniges

Thriving Adoptees - Inspiration For Adoptive Parents & Adoptees

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 31, 2025 49:57


What's beyond your dreams? Tapping into the dreams beyond our dreams can take us to extraordinary places. Listen in as inspirational leader and adoptive dad Chris shares what he's learned about impact, dreams and much more.Connect with Chris here:https://www.linkedin.com/in/christophertonniges/https://www.onelfs.org/https://www.facebook.com/OneLFShttps://x.com/OneLFS_ Guests and the host are not (unless mentioned) licensed pscyho-therapists and speak from their own opinion only. Seek qualified advice if you need help.

Adoptees Crossing Lines
Adoptee Storytelling & Film Advocacy

Adoptees Crossing Lines

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 28, 2025 59:44


Adoptee Storytelling & Film AdvocacyIn this episode of Adoptees Crossing Lines, Zaira sits down with Alexandra, a British and American domestic transracial adoptee who grew up in her birth country of Hong Kong. Alexandra is the festival director of the Adoptee Film Fest, a global in-person and online film festival amplifying adoptee-centered films by adoptee filmmakers. They discuss her journey of navigating identity, community, and storytelling, and how the Adoptee Film Fest came to be. Alexandra shares her experience of growing up in a segregated society, her birth search, and the importance of creating adoptee-centered spaces in media.In this episode, we cover:(00:20) Introduction to Alexandra and her background as a British and American domestic transracial adoptee. (03:13) The impact of growing up in Hong Kong and navigating identity in a segregated society. (10:19) Alexandra's birth search journey and the challenges of finding community and validation. (20:27) The inception of the Adoptee Film Fest and its importance for the adoptee community. (27:37) The role of storytelling and community building through film. (38:03) Alexandra's reflections on adoptee representation in media and future plans for the Adoptee Film Fest.Call To Action:Subscribe to Adoptees Crossing Lines wherever you listen to podcasts, follow us on social media, and subscribe to our Substack for more content and community:Website: adopteescrossinglines.com Instagram: @adopteescrossinglines BlueSky: adopteecrossing.bsky.social TikTok: @adopteescrossinglines_ Substack: Adoptees Crossing Lines SubstackWork With Me:Email adopteescrossinglines@gmail.com for brand partnerships and business inquiries.Editing by J. Way (AV Editor) Special thanks to J. Way for editing the podcast. To collaborate with her, email her at jwayedits@gmail.com.

Minnesota Now
‘Seoul searching': Korean adoptee celebrates 50th by raising awareness, funds for travel

Minnesota Now

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 27, 2025 10:56


A landmark report in South Korea has concluded the government bears responsibility for facilitating a corrupt foreign adoption program, peaking in the 1970s and 80s. A commission in the country Wednesday released the findings after a nearly three-year investigation.  The adoption program left thousands of Korean adoptees with questions and grief about their origin. More than 20,000 of those adoptees live here in Minnesota. It's the state with the highest number of Korean adoptees in the country.  David “Chilly” Caufman, a Korean adoptee, has been a part of the Twin Cities music scene for 20 years and is helping to organize a music festival called Heart & Seoul Connection. Money raised during the festival will support adoptees to visit their birth country. Caufman is working with Adoptee Hub, a Minnesota-based organization that supports Korean adoptees, to put the concert on. He joined Adoptee Hub founder and CEO Ami Nafzger to talk about the concert and the recent report on Minnesota Now.

Adoption: The Making of Me
Chris: Recorded Live Podcast Episode

Adoption: The Making of Me

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 25, 2025 50:35


Chris Williams was born in Downtown Los Angeles at Queen of Angels Hospital and adopted when he was just a few months old. His journey has been anything but conventional, marked by resilience, reinvention, and a pursuit of purpose. In 2020, Chris moved to Santa Barbara to earn his bachelor's degree from the University of California, Santa Barbara, which he proudly achieved at age 35.While in Santa Barbara, Chris pursued a lifelong dream: stand-up comedy. What began as a passion project evolved into the start of a blossoming career, earning him recognition as an award-winning comic. Through his comedy, Chris masterfully blends humor and heart, often sharing personal stories, including his adoption experience, to connect with audiences on a deeper level. For Chris, comedy isn't just about laughs—it's about community, connection, and creating spaces where people can share their experiences and feel seen.Chris is excited to join the conversation about adoption, offering a unique perspective shaped by his life and his commitment to bringing people together. You can connect with him on Instagram at @crwspeaks.The Adoptee's Journey: From Loss and Trauma to Healing and Empowerment by Cameron Lee SmallThank you to our Patreons! Join at the $10 level and be part of our monthly ADOPTEE CAFE community. The next meeting will be Saturday, April 12th @ 1 PM ET.RESOURCES for AdopteesS12F Helping AdopteesGregory Luce and Adoptees Rights LawJoe Soll & other adoptee resourcesFireside Adoptees Facebook GroupDr. Liz Debetta: Migrating Toward Wholeness MovementHiraeth Hope & HealingMoses Farrow - Trauma therapist and advocateNational Suicide Prevention Lifeline – 1-800-273-8255 OR Dial or Text 988.Unraveling Adoption with Beth SyversonAdoptees Connect with Pamela KaranovaSupport the showTo support the show - Patreon.

Thriving Adoptees - Inspiration For Adoptive Parents & Adoptees

Would you like more peace? Does trauma drown out peace for you? Listen in as we dive deep and deeper still to find peace. Perhaps one of the most profound and powerful conversations in 542 episodes. Enjoy.Here's a bit about Elmarie:I WRITE TO BREAK THE SILENCE.I was adopted through the closed adoption system in 1966, just five days after I was born. For decades, my story remained locked away—silent, like so many others. But silence never brings healing. "Un-Adoptically Me — My story. My truth. My voice" is my way of reclaiming my voice, my truth, and my identity.Through 88 vignettes, I share the raw realities of adoption—the love and loss, the trauma and resilience, the search for belonging. My journey has taken me through deep pain and profound joy, and now, nearing my sixth decade, I embrace both. I live a tranquil life in a valley of vineyards, mountains, and open skies, a world away from the chaos of my past. I am happily married, grateful, and now fiercely passionate about the hearts of adoptees.This memoir is just the beginning. I'm listening—to fellow adoptees, to readers, to the conversations sparked by this book. Their voices will help shape what I write next.If you believe in the power of truth, in the courage of speaking out, and in the unbreakable strength of the human spirit, then you're in the right place. Let's continue the conversation.https://foreverfree.co.za/elmarie/un-adoptically-me/https://www.facebook.com/unadopticallyhttps://x.com/unadopticallyhttps://www.instagram.com/unadoptically Guests and the host are not (unless mentioned) licensed pscyho-therapists and speak from their own opinion only. Seek qualified advice if you need help.

Close the Chapter Podcast with Kristen Boice
Close the Chapter Podcast Episode 309-Exploring the Layers of the Adoptee Experience with Janet Sherlund

Close the Chapter Podcast with Kristen Boice

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 19, 2025 43:55


In this episode, Kristen sits down with Janet Sherlund, author of Abandoned at Birth, to share her journey of being adopted and the lifelong search for her biological family. They explore the complexities of adoption and how adoptees can heal through self-discovery and connection. abandonedatbirthbook.com   When you purchase these books through these Amazon links, you help support the podcast at no extra cost to you. Janet Sherlund's book: 1. Abandoned at Birth: Searching for the Arms that Once Held Me: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1637632754/ref=cm_sw_r_as_gl_api_gl_i_79Z2D9N4XJM27SYX01GP?linkCode=ml1&tag=boice01-20 Janet Sherlund's Recommended Reads: 1. The Primal Wound: https://amzn.to/3EVFfmd 2. Blue Nights: A Memoir: https://amzn.to/4hXZPkK   Subscribe and get a free 5-day journal at www.kristendboice.com to begin closing the chapter on what doesn't serve you and open the door to the real you. This information is being provided to you for educational and informational purposes only. It is being provided to you to educate you about ideas on stress management and as a self-help tool for your own use. It is not psychotherapy/counseling in any form. This information is to be used at your own risk based on your own judgment.  For my full Disclaimer please go to www.kristendboice.com. For counseling services near Indianapolis, IN, visit www.pathwaystohealingcounseling.com. Pathways to Healing Counseling's vision is to provide warm, caring, compassionate and life-changing counseling services and educational programs to individuals, couples and families in order to create learning, healing and growth.  

Adoption: The Making of Me
Christine: A Bittersweet Reunion

Adoption: The Making of Me

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 18, 2025 69:30


Christine is an adoptee born in January of 1972, at the tail end of the baby scoop era. She was adopted in March of that year through Catholic Family Charities. Her mother had bought a book that explained how a family adopts a child in a very simplistic way. In fact, until the age of seven, she thought that all children were adopted. It wasn't until a friend's mother got pregnant that she realized there was another way to have a baby. Her mother explained to her that she was special—that she was chosen.Growing up, the subject of her adoption was not spoken of in her household. She had been told at a young age that she was her parents' child and that they would not discuss the matter of her adoption. She rarely told anyone about it, not even her closest friends. Christine never searched for her birth family. She knew it would make her parents unhappy and was scared about what she might find out. As they got older, her children's curiosity about their actual ethnicity led her to Ancestry DNA. Two years later, after receiving the results, Christine received an email through Ancestry. It stated, “I believe that you are my niece. That would be so wonderful.”The next few months were a process of meeting her birth mother, Pat, two half-brothers, and her maternal birth family. She found out that Pat was 16 when she got pregnant. She had been sent to a home for unwed mothers and gave birth to Christine two weeks after her 17th birthday. Pat was supposed to relinquish her parental rights after Christine's birth but refused to do so. Christine was placed in foster care for two months until Pat realized it was a losing battle and signed the relinquishment papers. For years, Pat slept with Christine's picture under her pillow.Christine and Pat had the opportunity to meet and get to know one another. They were developing a relationship when Pat succumbed to cancer, only 18 months after their reunion. Christine remains in contact with her brothers, aunts, uncles, and cousins.Today, Christine lives in Connecticut with her partner, Rob. Between them, they are fortunate to share four boys and a girl. She holds a Doctorate of Nursing Practice and works as a full-time Professor of Nursing.The Adoptee's Journey: From Loss and Trauma to Healing and Empowerment by Cameron Lee SmallThank you to our Patreons! Join at the $10 level and be part of our monthly ADOPTEE CAFE community. The next meeting will be Saturday, April 12th @ 1 PM ET.RESOURCES for AdopteesS12F Helping AdopteesGregory Luce and Adoptees Rights LawJoe Soll & other adoptee resourcesFireside Adoptees Facebook GroupDr. Liz Debetta: Migrating Toward Wholeness MovementHiraeth Hope & HealingMoses Farrow - Trauma therapist and advocateNational Suicide Prevention Lifeline – 1-800-273-8255 OR Dial or Text 988.Unraveling Adoption with Beth SyversonAdoptees Connect with Pamela KaranovaSupport the showTo support the show - Patreon.

Adoption: The Making of Me
Angela: You Should Be Grateful. Season 9 Finale

Adoption: The Making of Me

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 11, 2025 50:10


Angela Tucker is a Black transracial adoptee and the author of "You Should Be Grateful:" Stories of Race, Identity, and Transracial Adoption, published in April 2023 by Beacon Press. Her search for her biological family was featured in the documentary CLOSURE, which premiered on Netflix in 2015. In 2022, Angela founded the non-profit Adoptee Mentoring Society, offering virtual mentorship for adoptees worldwide. With 15 years of experience in child welfare, she has appeared on CNN, Red Table Talk, The New Yorker, and more, advocating for adoptees.When she's not working to amplify adoptee voices, you can find her at the spa, on the basketball court, or hostessing at Jazz Alley. She drinks a London Fog nearly every single day, and is currently debating the importance of kicking this sugary (but, oh-so-delicious) habit. Angela lives in Seattle, Washington with her Emmy Award-winning spouse, Bryan Tucker.To find Angela: https://www.angelatucker.com/You Should Be Grateful: Stories of Race, Identity, and Transracial Adoption by Angela Tucker Closure - Angela Tucker DocumentaryOur Next Book: Season 10 : The Adoptee's Journey: From Loss and Trauma to Healing and Empowerment by Cameron Lee SmallThank you to our Patreons! Join at the $10 level and be part of our monthly ADOPTEE CAFE community. The next meeting will be Saturday, April 12th @ 1 PM ET.RESOURCES for AdopteesS12F Helping AdopteesGregory Luce and Adoptees Rights LawJoe Soll & other adoptee resourcesFireside Adoptees Facebook GroupReckoning with the Primal Wound DocumentaryDr. Liz Debetta: Migrating Toward Wholeness MovementHiraeth Hope & HealingMoses Farrow - Trauma therapist and advocateNational Suicide Prevention Lifeline – 1-800-273-8255 OR Dial or Text 988.Unraveling Adoption with Beth SyversonAdoptees Connect with Pamela KaranovaSupport the showTo support the show - Patreon.

Thriving Adoptees - Inspiration For Adoptive Parents & Adoptees
Emotional Self Suffciency Amanda Timoteo

Thriving Adoptees - Inspiration For Adoptive Parents & Adoptees

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 10, 2025 60:48


What if we were to stop searching for happiness outside us? How would that be? How would that feel? Listen in as Amanda and I dive into what she calls emotional self sufficiency. Have you heard of that? I certainly hadn't. And it lead to a profoundly empowering conversation. We both loved it and hope that you do too.https://www.theanchorfamily.com/ Guests and the host are not (unless mentioned) licensed pscyho-therapists and speak from their own opinion only. Seek qualified advice if you need help.

The Adoption Files
Every Voice: A conversation with North Dakota Adoptee Mary Kae Kelsch

The Adoption Files

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 7, 2025 62:34


Mary Kae Kelsch was adopted in 1970 in North Dakota, but was she born there? Where is her birth certificate located? Please join as we talk about the laws in North Dakota and Minnesota, about reunion, and about the importance of every voice. Mentioned in the episode:https://www.health.state.mn.us/people/vitalrecords/adoption.htmlhttps://adopteerightslaw.com/north-dakota/https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0057773/The opinions of the host and their guest(s) are just that, their opinions. The host is not a lawyer, a therapist or an adoption professional. Thank you for listening!

Thriving Adoptees - Inspiration For Adoptive Parents & Adoptees

Truths can be elusive for us adoptees. Fantasies or nightmares may fill in the blanks.  And truths can shift when we re-visit the past and ask others for their truth - their versions of events. This can lead to profound realisations. Listen in as Julie and I explore shifting truths, changes of mind and more.Julie Ryan McGue is an author, a domestic adoptee, and an identical twin. She writes extensively about finding out who you are, where you belong, and making sense of it.Here are links to previous interviewshttps://thriving-adoptees.simplecast.com/episodes/julie-i4j2iwqohttps://thriving-adoptees.simplecast.com/episodes/julieHer new book is Twice The Family:From the award-winning author of Twice a Daughter comes the much- anticipated prequel. In this coming-of-age memoir–set in Chicago's western suburbs between the 1960s and 80s–adopted twins, Julie and Jenny, provide their parents with an instant family. The twins' sisterly bond holds tight as the two strive for independence, individuality, and belonging. But as Julie's parents continue adding children to their family, several painful and tragic experiences test family values, parental relationships, and sibling bonds.  Faced with these hurdles, Julie questions everything—who she is, how she fits in, and even her adoption circumstances. She understands her adoptive family is held together by love, faith, support, and her parents' commitment to each other and their children. And yet, the life her parents have constructed is not one Julie wants for herself. As she matures, she chooses her own unique path. In the process, she realizes how the experiences that formed her have provide a road map for the person and mother she wants to be.More at https://juliemcgueauthor.com/twice-the-family/Julie's debut award winning memoir Twice a Daughter: A Search for Identity, Family, and Belonging (She Writes Press) came out in May 2021. It is the story of her five-year search for birth relatives. Her weekly blogs That Girl, This Life and monthly column at The Beacher focus on identity, family, and life's quirky moments. Born in Chicago, Illinois, Julie received a BA from Indiana University in Psychology. She earned a MM in Marketing from the Kellogg Graduate School of Business, Northwestern University. She has served multiple terms on the Board of the Midwest Adoption Center and is an active member of the American Adoption Congress.Julie splits her time between Northwest Indiana and Sarasota, Florida. She is the mother of four adult children and has three grandsons. If she's not at her computer, she's on the tennis court, or out exploring with her Nikon. Julie is currently working on a collection of personal essays.https://juliemcgueauthor.com/https://www.facebook.com/juliemcguewrites/https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-ryan-mcgue-a246b841/https://www.instagram.com/julieryanmcgue/https://twitter.com/juliermcgue Guests and the host are not (unless mentioned) licensed pscyho-therapists and speak from their own opinion only. Seek qualified advice if you need help.

Once Upon A Time...In Adopteeland
221. Bonus: "A Tribute to Ricky; an Adoptee Ally"

Once Upon A Time...In Adopteeland

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 5, 2025 11:15


This episode is dedicated and in tribute to Ricky Lamont Boone. August 7, 1962-January 2, 2025.Music by Corey Quinn

When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of Adoptees
Ep. 80 Sara Easterly: Co-Author of Adoption Unfiltered & founder of Adoptee Voices

When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of Adoptees

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 2, 2025 36:55


 Today we have  an adoptee who was a guest on episode 50 where we discussed the dangers of calling adoption a blessing. Sara Easterly is an adoptee, essayist, and author of books that include Adoption Unfiltered: Revelations from Adoptees, Birth Parents, Adoptive Parents, and Allies, and award-winning spiritual memoir, Searching for Mom. She is the founder of Adoptee Voices, which supports adoptees in their storytelling. She is also a trained course facilitator with the Neufeld Institute, with special interest in the intersection of attachment, child development, brain science, and adoption.We discuss:Check in on her book tours for Adoption Unfiltered (I make a cameo in this book!)The feeling of rejection for adopteesHow she found her book collaboratorsSara's reunion with her biological familyThe corruption in adoptionThe new excuse to hold onto adoption narrativeBooks cited:Author Gabor Mate "Addicted to Drama" by Dr Scott LyonsDaniel Nayeri the author of "Everthing Sad and Untrue"Gretchen Sisson the author of "Relinquished" (Guest on Episode 71)GUEST:www.saraeasterly.comhttps://www.instagram.com/saraeasterlyauthor/https://www.facebook.com/saraeasterlyauthorhttps://x/saraeasterlyPhoto credit for bio pic: Adoptee Eileen Skahill Support the showCONNECT WITH HOST:@youngadoptee@lantoineswww.laniseantoineshelley.comWATCH ON YOUTUBE Here!MERCH here "I am my Hero" and "Courage, my love" TeesSPONSORSHIPS: BetterHelp Show Link HERE!DISCOUNT on WeUNIK Cosmetic Hair products15% off Code: WTWY ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:14 through18, and episode 28, and 29. WATCH PANELS: Here!JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS": HISTORY of the word “Colored”:NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":RESOURCES ON ...

Adoption: The Making of Me
Sharla: For This Adoptee, the Truth Came Later

Adoption: The Making of Me

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 25, 2025 80:03


Placed for adoption through a West Texas county children's home, Sharla is a “Baby Scoop”-era adoptee. Sharla's biological mother moved across the state to live with her older sister and family until the time of Sharla's birth. On the day Sharla was born, a married couple who applied to adopt was contacted. Several days later, with their 9-year-old son in tow, they drove an hour to come for her at the children's home. She grew up in a fairly typical family and home. Always having known she was adopted, as is often the narrative, she has no memory of ever being told. The subject was never discussed, although she did know her parents had NonID information and an “adoption papers” folder. For the majority of her life, her adoption didn't seem important to her or anyone else. In 2019, the secrets and undisclosed information of the past 51 years suddenly began to come to light. Unbeknownst to Sharla, her 23andMe DNA kit would soon reveal a close relative via an email. Suddenly, she could decide if she wanted to know the truth about her biological heritage. She later expressed to her husband that in all the years she had said it didn't matter to her, that was true. However, she explained that when you spend decades believing there's no way to ever learn the truth, you may convince yourself that it's not important. With the encouragement of her husband and children, she is building new relationships. She has also enjoyed a long-overdue, warm, and loving reunion with her maternal aunt, who initially considered adopting her and was there to see her the day she was born. Despite some rejection along the way, loving and seeking out people and relationships hasn't become any less of a priority for Sharla. This 5-year journey has helped her recognize how being adopted didn't define her, but it has shaped and affected her. She is a recovering people-pleaser, has begun to realize that it is not her role to make everything and everyone okay, and is currently finding peace with the “what-ifs."You Should Be Grateful: Stories of Race, Identity, and Transracial Adoption by Angela Tucker JOIN US on March 8th in Atascadero, California - Live Podcast, Un-M-Othered, Jeff Forney & The Innocent People Project + More!Leave your email for more info!Thank you to our Patreons! Join at the $10 level and be part of our monthly ADOPTEE CAFE community. The next meeting is this Saturday, March 1st @ 1 PM ET.RESOURCES for AdopteesS12F Helping AdopteesAdoptee Mentoring SocietyJeff Forney - Innocent People ProjectDr. Liz Debetta: Migrating Toward Wholeness MovementAdoptees Connect with Pamela KaranovaSupport the showTo support the show - Patreon.

When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of Adoptees
Ep. 79 Rae Adoptee Reclaimed & 5 Tips For a Better Life

When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of Adoptees

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 22, 2025 42:26


Hi again! The idea of adoptees reclaiming themselves have perplexed certain people for awhile now. If you aren't adopted or haven't had an in-depth conversation with someone who is adopted you might wonder “What do they need to reclaim?” Today's guest is Rae from Adoptee Reclaimed. Rae is trauma-informed and versed in child development, brain-body integration, and addiction and abuse recovery coaching. Rae borrows somatic methods and Internal Family Systems which she customizes for adoptees. I stumbled across Rae from her Poetry contest.We discuss:Using our voice in a Poetic formWhy I've named the  podcast “When they were young”The silent assignment of adopteesRecognition of before the fogHistory of adoption with native AmericansReunion SupportHow we can best receive joyAnd 5 tips for quality of life (The 3rd tip will change the course of how you approach dating)Guest: RaeAdopteereclaimed.com Support the showCONNECT WITH HOST:@youngadoptee@lantoineswww.laniseantoineshelley.comWATCH ON YOUTUBE Here!MERCH here "I am my Hero" and "Courage, my love" TeesSPONSORSHIPS: BetterHelp Show Link HERE!DISCOUNT on WeUNIK Cosmetic Hair products15% off Code: WTWY ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:14 through18, and episode 28, and 29. WATCH PANELS: Here!JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS": HISTORY of the word “Colored”:NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":RESOURCES ON ...

Career Unicorns - Spark Your Joy
From adversity to advocacy: A biracial Black and White adoptee's journey to social justice leadership with Luke Liss Pro Bono Partner at Wilson Sonsini Goodrich & Rosati (Ep. 170)

Career Unicorns - Spark Your Joy

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 18, 2025 52:21


Disclaimer: The views expressed in this podcast are solely those of Luke Liss and the host, and do not represent the views of any referenced organizations.   Join us for a powerful conversation with Luke Liss, Pro Bono Partner at Wilson Sonsini Goodrich & Rosati, as he shares his inspiring journey from adversity to advocacy.  Episode 170 delves into Luke's personal experiences as a biracial (Black and White) adoptee, his path to becoming a social justice leader, and his vision for pro bono work.   Luke opens up about the impact of his unique background on his sense of belonging and purpose. He recounts his challenges, including almost dropping out of high school, and how he overcame them to graduate from Stanford Law School.  He emphasizes the crucial role of mentorship in his success and shares insights on fostering diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) in the workplace that goes beyond mere compliance.   This episode explores:   Overcoming adversity: Luke's story of resilience and how he transformed challenges into motivation. The impact of adoption and racial identity: Luke's reflections on his personal journey as a biracial adoptee and its influence on his advocacy work. The power of mentorship: How early mentorship shaped his path to success and the importance of finding mentors. Diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) in action: Practical strategies for creating inclusive environments that uplift everyone. Advocating for marginalized communities: Insights into supporting asylum seekers and immigrants, and how to advocate for change. Pro bono and social justice leadership: Luke's journey to becoming Pro Bono Partner at a top Am Law 50 law firm and his passion for social justice. Career development and leadership: Tips for positioning yourself for leadership roles and confidently asking for what you deserve. Immigration law and advocacy: The challenges and rewards of working in immigration law, especially in the face of political uncertainty. Finding hope and joy in challenging times: Strategies for maintaining resilience and finding purpose amidst uncertainty.   Tune in to hear Luke's remarkable story of resilience, leadership, and advocacy, and gain valuable insights on making a difference in the world.   Connect with us: Connect with Luke at https://www.linkedin.com/in/luke-liss-a461907/ and https://www.wsgr.com/en/people/luke-a-liss.html.  Follow Luke's work on Instagram at @wsgives or https://www.instagram.com/wsgives/ and on LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/showcase/wsgives/posts/?feedView=all.   Follow Samorn on LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/samornselim/. Get a copy of Samorn's book, “Belonging: Self Love Lessons From A Workaholic Depressed Insomniac Lawyer” at https://tinyurl.com/2dk5hr2f.  Get weekly career tips by signing up for our advice column at www.careerunicorns.com.  Schedule a free 30-minute build your dream career consult by sending a message at www.careerunicorns.com.   

Adoptees Crossing Lines
Adoptee Identity & Research: Roots and Self-Discovery with Annalisa Toccara-Jones

Adoptees Crossing Lines

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 14, 2025 50:18


Adoption: The Making of Me
Jill: DNA Pushed This Adoptee Out of the Fog

Adoption: The Making of Me

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 11, 2025 60:06


Jill was conceived in Washington and born in Texas, adopted at birth during the Baby Scoop era, in a closed-file adoption through Home of the Holy Infancy to a same-race couple who was infertile. They had adopted a baby boy but he wasn't as promised. Before they could return to the well to get the baby girl they always wanted, the nuns miraculously placed her with her new parents on Christmas Eve! The nuns who decided her fate believed in genetic mirroring matching her to people with similar demographics. They did that for all their babies, playing chess with their lives. When Jill was two, her adoptive father died. When she was four, her mother remarried the only daddy she ever knew, a widower with six kids. She lived in a big blended family, rich in love, heritage, and tradition. Jill always knew she was adopted but completely disassociated from it. Talk about FOG, she was in DEEP. Her mother tried to turn her story into a fairytale that her birth mother loved her very much but she still couldn't keep her. Jill knew nothing of her origin until she was 57 years old! Now, pushing 60, she has learned many things about her paternal and maternal sides. Her maternal grandpa even had a 2nd secret family. She figured this out all thanks to DNA, which provided her mother's name which was the key to everything. That was then used to obtain her original birth certificate, and court records, and get the adoption agency files unsealed for cause!In reunion since that fateful phone call in June of 2022, she has continued to forge a path forward with all who are interested. Jill isn't needy. That's the worst! She is grateful not because she should be but because she is. Never putting all kidding aside, she's constantly joking. She hopes you read between the lines above to see her beautiful pain. She isn't bitter! Not anymore. This is what is. Adoption, what a wild ride!You Should Be Grateful: Stories of Race, Identity, and Transracial Adoption by Angela Tucker JOIN US on March 8th in Atascadero, California - Live Podcast, Un-M-Othered, Jeff Forney & The Innocent People Project + More!Thank you to our Patreons! Join at the $10 level and be part of our monthly ADOPTEE CAFE community. The next meeting is this Saturday, March 1st @ 1 PM ET.RESOURCES for AdopteesS12F Helping AdopteesAdoptee Mentoring SocietyJeff Forney - Innocent People ProjectFireside Adoptees Facebook GroupDr. Liz Debetta: Migrating Toward Wholeness MovementMoses Farrow - Trauma therapist Adoptees Connect with Pamela KaranovaSupport the showTo support the show - Patreon.

Fostering Conversations with Utah Foster Care
Ep 56: Angela Tucker ~ Adoptee Mentoring Society

Fostering Conversations with Utah Foster Care

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 10, 2025 32:19


Episode Summary: In this episode of Fostering Conversations, hosts Amy Smith and Liz Rivera sit down with Angela Tucker, adoptee advocate, mentor, and founder of the Adoptee Mentorship Program. Angela shares her journey from being adopted out of foster care to building a global community for adoptees to connect, heal, and grow. They discuss: Angela's experience growing up in a multiracial family. The challenges of identity and belonging in adoption. How the Adoptee Mentorship Program is creating spaces for adoptees to connect and find support. The power of storytelling and mentorship in navigating adoption experiences. Practical tips for adoptive parents to support their children better. Angela also offers valuable insights into racial identity in transracial adoption and the importance of building inclusive family networks. Whether you’re an adoptee, an adoptive parent, or just curious about the adoptee experience, this conversation is a must-listen. Resources Mentioned: Angela Tucker’s website: AngelaTucker.com Follow Angela on Instagram: @AngieAdoptee Watch the documentary Closure on Angela's website. Read Angela’s book “You should be Grateful: Stories of Race, Identity, and Transracial Adoption” Learn about the Adoptee Mentorship Program and Adoptee Remembrance Day. Explore Angela's workshop: “Cultivating an Anti-Racist Family Network for Transracial Caregivers.” Memorable Quotes: “There's something healing about talking to someone who just gets it.” – Angela Tucker “We don't just mentor kids. Adoptees at any age need spaces of belonging.” – Angela Tucker “Love is already there, but behaviors show you understand who we are.” – Angela Tucker Angela Tucker Bio~ Angela Tucker is a Black transracial adoptee. She is the author of “You Should Be Grateful:” Stories of Race, Identity and Transracial Adoption. Her book was published in April 2023 by Beacon Press. Angela’s search for her biological family is featured in the documentary CLOSURE which premiered on Netflix in 2015. In 2022, Angela founded the non-profit, the Adoptee Mentoring Society to provide virtual mentorship for adoptees world-wide. With 15 years in child welfare, she has appeared on CNN, The Red Table Talk, The New Yorker, and more, advocating for adoptees. Angela lives in Seattle with her Emmy-award-winning spouse, Bryan Tucker. Ep 56 transcript

The Adoption Journey Podcast
Uncovering the Truth: A Late Discovery Adoptee's Journey

The Adoption Journey Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 7, 2025 54:27


Kendal Richardson shares his journey of discovering his adoption at the age of 23 and the challenges he faced in uncovering his biological identity. He discusses the lack of information from his adoptive parents, the trauma and abuse he experienced, and the search for his biological family. The conversation also touches on the complexities of closed adoptions, DNA testing, and the emotional impact of the adoption journey. The conversation covers the themes of adoption, identity, family, and resilience. It delves into the experiences of adoptees, the impact of knowing one's biological family, and the importance of open communication. The conversation also explores the challenges of dealing with trauma and the journey of turning pain into praise.

Once Upon A Time...In Adopteeland
216. Diego Vitelli: "Adoptee Identity, the Search for Answers and Sitting in True Authenticity."

Once Upon A Time...In Adopteeland

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 4, 2025 61:43


Diego Vitelli is a dedicated adoptee-focused therapist, relationship expert, and advocate for racial diversity and LGBTQ+ inclusion. An international adoptee from Colombia, Diego was adopted at approximately five years old by an Irish-Italian family outside of Boston. His lived experience as an adoptee fuels his deep passion for amplifying adoptee voices and fostering spaces where identity, belonging, and healing can thrive.Now holding a master's degree in Couples and Family Therapy, Diego specializes in working with adoptees and their families, as well as others navigating complex relationship structures and dynamics. His therapeutic approach is rooted in empathy, cultural awareness, and a commitment to social justice. Whether working with individuals processing adoption-related trauma or those striving for deeper connection within their relationship(s), Diego brings insight, warmth, and a keen understanding of identity's role in shaping relationships.Beyond his clinical work, Diego has been a steadfast mentor to adoptees of all ages. He previously served as a youth mentor at Amara, a Seattle-based adoption agency, facilitating post-adoption support programs. He continues to be a supporter of the Colombian adoptee community, having served as an administrator for a global private Facebook group of over 2,400 Colombian adoptees. Additionally, as a Chair member of Aireroots, a local BIPOC adoptee organization, Diego is dedicated to creating inclusive spaces for BIPOC adoptees of all backgrounds, identities, and experiences. Through community-building, advocacy, and collaboration with like-minded organizations, he works to ensure that adoptees—especially those from marginalized backgrounds—have access to support, visibility, and empowerment.A fierce advocate for racial equity and LGBTQ+ inclusion, Diego's mission extends beyond adoption. He is committed to helping individuals and people(s) navigate identity, intimacy, and connection in a way that honors their unique experiences.Websites: https://www.adopteefocusedtherapy.com/ https://aireroots.com/ https://adoptionmosaic.com/Mentioned: "Adoption Unfiltered: Revelations from Adoptees, Birth Parents Adoptive Parents and Allies" by Sara Easterly (Author), Kelsey Vander Vliet Ranyard (Author), Lori Holden(Author)Sara Docan-Morgan's book; “In Reunion: Transnational Korean Adoptees and the Communication of Family" available on https://www.uwlax.edu/profile/sdocan-morgan/ and Amazon.comMusic by Corey Quinn

The Adoption Journey Podcast
Navigating Grief and Identity as an Adoptee

The Adoption Journey Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 31, 2025 33:00


Summary In this episode of the Adoption Journey podcast, host Tarcia Smith speaks with Tonya Hockaday about her profound experience of discovering her adoption at the age of 31. Tonya shares the shock and emotional turmoil she faced upon learning the truth, the impact on her identity, and the complexities of family dynamics surrounding her adoption. The conversation delves into her journey of self-discovery, the search for her birth family, and the emotional challenges that arose from family secrets. Tonya's story is a powerful testament to the struggles and revelations that come with understanding one's identity and family history. In this conversation, Tonya Hockaday shares her profound experiences as a black adoptee, discussing the complexities of grieving for unknown family members and the importance of community support. She reflects on her journey of acceptance, the significance of sharing her story, and the impact of the Black Adoptee Meetup, which provided her with a sense of belonging and empowerment. Tonya emphasizes the importance of identity and the healing power of storytelling, encouraging others to embrace their narratives and connect with their communities.

Once Upon A Time...In Adopteeland
215. Paul Kimball: "We are all Human Beings; An Adoptee Ponders"

Once Upon A Time...In Adopteeland

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 28, 2025 77:42


Paul Kimball is an active musician in Stockton California. He conducts Musicals, The Zion Chamber Orchestra and Pops Choir and recently retired after 36 years as a music teacher with the Lincoln Unified School District. He is French Horn player. As a baby, Paul lived in Foster Care after being relinquished by his first mother, a concert cellist, at 5 days old. He was adopted on his first birthday by a liberal Berkeley family in the 1960's. He is married to Doctor Dominee Muller-Kimball. They have two daughters and one and one beautiful grandson! Paul loves hiking. His Memoir, We are all Human Beings/An Adoptee Ponders is available on Amazon and Outskirts Press. He is currently working with California Alliance for Adoptee Rights on legislation that would allow unrestricted access to Original Birth Certificates to Adult California born adoptees.Paul's memoir, "We are all Human Beings; An Adoptee Ponders is available on Amazon.com. Music by Corey Quinn

Unraveling Adoption
The Rebellious Adoptee: Finding Healing and Community After a Traumatic Childhood with Dave Sanchez-Brown - Ep 181

Unraveling Adoption

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 27, 2025 36:48 Transcription Available


"The most healing thing for me now has been the support of other adoptees." -- Dave Sanchez-Brown Read the transcript of this episode here: https://app.swellai.com/t/tp_01JJD8EF1R7VJ6J0V5GXRWXJY4  =============== EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the privilege of speaking with Dave Sanchez-Brown, an adoptee who has bravely navigated the complexities of adoption, mental health struggles, and addiction. Dave shared his adoption story, which took a significant turn after he read Dani Shapiro's memoir Inheritance. Inspired, he decided to take a DNA test, leading him to uncover his biological family and the trauma associated with his past. He discussed the overwhelming emotions that surfaced as he connected with his roots, including the discovery of a family history marked by addiction. Throughout our conversation, Dave highlighted the importance of community and peer support in his recovery journey. He emphasized that finding others who share similar experiences has been more therapeutic than traditional therapy. We also touched on the stigma surrounding addiction and mental health, and how society often lacks empathy for those struggling. As we wrapped up, Dave offered valuable advice for adoptive parents, urging them to be aware of their children's emotional needs and the potential for feelings of alienation. He encouraged parents to seek their own healing to better support their kids. This episode is a powerful reminder of the resilience of the human spirit and the importance of connection in healing. I hope Dave's story inspires listeners to seek support and understanding, whether they are adoptees, adoptive parents, or anyone affected by mental health challenges. Thank you for joining us, and remember to stay safe and connected. ===============

Unraveling Adoption
Adoption in India: Insights from an Adoptee Therapist with Dr. Asra Ali - Ep 180

Unraveling Adoption

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 20, 2025 26:27 Transcription Available


"It's a deep rooted fear of every adoptive parent that the parent will get rejected." - Dr. Asra Ali Read the transcript of this episode here: https://app.swellai.com/t/tp_01JHS4S4K9DW0G3AZRZKWG970A =============== Join Unraveling Adoption's in-person Adoption Healing Quest in Seal Beach, CA on February 8, 2025. More info and registration here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/adoption-healing-quest-an-interactive-event-for-the-adoption-community-tickets-1095804814699?aff=oddtdtcreator =============== EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the pleasure of speaking with Dr. Asra Ali, an adoptee from India whose adoption was facilitated by Mother Teresa. Dr. Asra shared her unique adoption story, highlighting the positive experiences she had growing up in a loving family that embraced her identity as an adopted child from a young age. We delved into the cultural narratives surrounding adoption in India, discussing the historical preference for male children and the significant shifts that have occurred over the years. Dr. Asra explained how adoption practices have evolved, moving from informal arrangements to more structured legal processes to combat issues like human trafficking. As a psychologist and child and family therapist, Dr. Asra works with adoptive families in India, helping them navigate the complexities of adoption. She emphasized the importance of honesty and emotional support for adopted children, noting that many adoptive parents struggle with insecurity and often keep the child's adoption a secret. This can lead to emotional disconnects and challenges for the child. Throughout our conversation, Dr. Asra provided valuable insights into the common mistakes adoptive parents make and the need for open communication about adoption. She also shared her mixed feelings about her own adoption, reflecting on the unanswered questions regarding her biological family. Listeners will find this episode enlightening as we explore the intricacies of adoption in India and the universal themes that resonate with adoptive families worldwide. Dr. Asra's work is a testament to the importance of understanding and supporting adopted children, and I encourage anyone interested in this topic to reach out to her for guidance. ===============

The Adoption Journey Podcast
From Haiti to America: A Transracial Adoptee's Tale

The Adoption Journey Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 17, 2025 73:45


In this episode of the Adoption Journey podcast, host Tarcia Smith speaks with William Uhrlaub, a transracial adoptee of Haitian descent. William shares his complex adoption story, detailing his early life in Haiti, the circumstances surrounding his adoption, and the challenges he faced growing up as the only black child in a predominantly white family. He discusses the impact of his upbringing in a fundamentalist Christian commune, the abuse he endured, and the ongoing struggle with his identity and cultural differences, particularly regarding hair care. William's journey highlights the intricacies of adoption, the importance of understanding one's roots, and the lasting effects of childhood experiences. In this conversation, William Uhrlaub shares his journey of self-discovery, navigating traumatic experiences related to his hair and identity, his time in juvenile detention, and the cultural awakening that followed. He discusses the challenges of growing up in a mixed-race family, the importance of understanding his black heritage, and the pivotal moment of reconnecting with his Haitian roots after years of believing his mother was dead. Through faith and community, he learns to embrace his identity and the complexities of his background. In this conversation, William Uhrlaub shares his profound journey of reconnecting with his biological family after being adopted. He discusses the overwhelming experience of meeting numerous family members, the challenges of navigating cultural expectations, and the complexities of his relationship with his biological mother. William emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and understanding cultural differences, particularly for transracial adoptees. He also critiques the savior mentality often associated with adoption, advocating for a more nuanced understanding of cultural dynamics and the need for systemic change.

Creating a Family: Talk about Infertility, Adoption & Foster Care
An Adoptee's Search for Identity, Family, and Belonging

Creating a Family: Talk about Infertility, Adoption & Foster Care

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 2025 44:53 Transcription Available


Click here to send us a topic idea or question for Weekend Wisdom.Join our discussion with an adult adoptee about her search for her birth family and her identity. We will talk with Julie Ryan McGue, a domestic adoptee and an identical twin. She is the author of Twice a Daughter, which explores her coming to terms with her adoption and her search for her birth parents, and Twice the Family, which explores more of her relationship with her adoptive family.In this episode, we cover:Tell us your adoption story.What role did adoption play, if any, in your childhood?Feelings of needing to be perfect.Fantasizing about birth family. When did you begin to search for your birth parents? Was searching for your birth family something you knew you would do from a young age?After considerable effort, you located your birth mother. At first, she said she did not want contact. How did that leave you feeling? After you had phone calls and met, you didn't want to tell her much about your adoptive parents. How did your mom (your adoptive mom) react to your search and when you found your birth mother? How do you wish she had reacted?What happened with your search for your birth father?Did you feel the same sense of shame, embarrassment, and rejection? Your birth mom's reticence to help you find your birth father and your continued search caused a rift in your relationship. How is the relationship now?The tension between the birth parents' right to privacy vs. the adoptee's right to know. Your experience with online adoptee forums. The primal wound.Importance of adoptee support groups.Support the showPlease leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content: Weekly podcasts Weekly articles/blog posts Resource pages on all aspects of family building

Wards of the State
Ep: 70 "Tara"

Wards of the State

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 2025 67:05


Hey Light Shiners! I am joined by Tara who is a transracial adoptee and she shares her experience with dealing with religious trauma from the Mormon church. She also speaks about how she still loves her white adoptive parents but struggles with her racial identity. Watch the video of this episode only on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/user?u=45714095&fan_landing=true If you would like to be on the show please fill sign up here https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSeZwdv6RQrI49p0kqtzBblV5eQIGAE81dV3Ey3ZQRgmWOeS1A/viewform?usp=preview Please help us keep shining light on the truths of the foster care system by donating. Please click the link to donate! https://karlosdillard.com/checkout/donate?donatePageId=611ab8be7dbb68767abf984e

F*ck Saving Face
Episode 133: How to Live Boldly (and Embrace Fear) with Adoptee Le Anne Harper

F*ck Saving Face

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 30, 2024 45:42


In this heartfelt and empowering episode, I sit down with Le Anne Harper, co-founder of Unlock, a company dedicated to expanding human potential through connection. Leanne shares her incredible journey as the eldest of five adopted children in a multiracial family, navigating identity, overcoming intergenerational trauma, and embracing life on her own terms.From her childhood as a transracial adoptee to her transformative experiences—like swimming with sharks and solo travel—Leanne reflects on the challenges and lessons that have shaped her path. Together, we discuss breaking free from societal expectations, the power of setting boundaries, and the courage it takes to unravel unhealthy patterns.Leanne's story is a testament to resilience, curiosity, and compassion, offering inspiration for anyone striving to live authentically. We also touch on how embracing vulnerability and fear can lead to a life of bold, fearless choices.Plus, I share an exciting update on the success of my Kickstarter project, How to Disappoint Your Parents in 10 Shameless Steps: A Modern Asian American Guide, and how it's amplifying mental and emotional health for Asian Americans and voices of color.Order an early copy of "How to Disappoint Your Parents in 10 Shameless Steps: A Modern Asian American Guide" via Kickstarter: bit.ly/shamelessbook. LIKE WHAT YOU HEARD? Please leave a review on Apple Podcasts! It helps our message get in front of more people. Here's how: Step 1: Go to https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1554330617 Step 2: Click “View on Apple Podcasts” Step 3: Click “Ratings and Reviews” Step 4: Click to rate and leave a short review!

Be the Bridge Podcast with Latasha Morrison
Advent 2024 - Love through a Lens of Justice with Cam Lee Small

Be the Bridge Podcast with Latasha Morrison

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 29, 2024 30:55


In our final Advent episode of the Be the Bridge Podcast, Gina from the Be the Bridge team talks with Counselor, Advocate, TEDx Speaker, and Author of The Adoptee's Journey Cam Lee Small. They delve into the complexities of love within the context of adoption. They discuss how love is often oversimplified in adoption narratives, masking the deeper issues of loss, trauma, and identity struggles faced by adoptees. Cam shares his insights as both an adoptee and a licensed counselor, emphasizing the importance of humanizing the adoptee experience and validating their feelings. The conversation also explores the systemic issues surrounding adoption and the need for activism and collective responsibility to address these injustices. They remind listeners that love must be accompanied by justice to be truly meaningful. Join in the conversation on our social media pages on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to let us know your thoughts on this episode! Host & Executive Producer - Latasha Morrison Producer  - Sarah Connatser Links: Ads: Spotify for Podcasters [Record, edit, distribute your podcast. Download the Spotify for Podcasters app or go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.spotify.com/podcasters⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to get started] ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Become a Donor of Be the Bridge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop the Be the Bridge Online Shop⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Connect with Cam Lee Small: ⁠Website⁠ ⁠IVP Author Page⁠ Instagram Facebook ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Connect with Be the Bridge:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Our Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Connect with Latasha Morrison:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Not all views expressed in this interview reflect the values and beliefs of Latasha Morrison or the Be the Bridge organization.