The Awkward Adult.

Hello from the other side after over a month. In this week's episode I update you about where I have been and why I am back. I also talk about my experience living in a different country and about how being introvert is in this world where everyone has something to say!

Nothing in excess is considered good, even if it's positivity. Toxic Positivity is an overgeneralization of being positive in every difficult situation to the point where we are bound to feel guilty if we feel sad or negative about a bad happening and it does more harm than good.

When does self-love become self-obsession? Where is the fine line between the two? While one could be positive, the other one is unhealthy and negative. Tune in to find out more on this week's episode of The Awkward Adult.

Let's end this year on a positive thoughts. :D

What even is reality? And who to believe in a world of fake news?

There is no easy way to explain or even come up with solution to recover from OCD. The feeling of shame and helplessness can, however be definitely reduced, when the sufferer knows, he or she is not alone in this and many people suffer from this. Becoming self-aware of the issues one has and pinpointing the possible root cause can greatly help in soothing situation for people with OCD.

On this mile stone of my Podcast, I would love to share some wisdom I had over this year, about one of the most important life skill in life, Networking. The skill of making friends and connection irrespective of your field of work.

Once you achieve inner peace, people and situations can't enrage you, because they don't have control over you. You have control over you. Inner peace comes hard, and can go easy but if practised deliberately, as Master Shifu says, "Nothing is impossible, with inner peace."

When you say, I want this or that... have you ever wondered what led that desire? Is it something you always wanted? Or was it because everyone says that it is something worth having?

A person who is friend to many might just be an empath, that doesn't necessarily mean that he is someone selfish or shallow.

Success depends on your talents, skills, hard work, how smart you work, your interest and your purpose. When majority of these factors align, it's then when your work become great.

The need of friends is more or less same for everyone throughout out their life but it still changes in core nature as we grow.

Many of the innovations, inventions and the greatest of ideas that we have in the world, roots from inconvenience, laziness and the drive to make our life more comfortable. Like Wheels: to make transportation easy, tools to make cutting and hunting easy, telephone: to have a smooth communication system, food delivery system, washing machine. Anything and everything that makes us comfortable roots from that one lazy person who just wanted to never get our of the comfort zone.

Everyone has a different radius of personal space. Some people like to keep things to just themselves, some like to share with their inner circle only, while some likes to share everything with everyone like living public. Sometimes it depends on age also. Problems arise when these two totally opposite worlds clash, when people with different personal space radius come together. Or the radius change. Maybe as kid you used to be a person who shared everything , now you keep them to yourselves. You partner wants you to open up more or you don't like your partner's habit of sharing everything with the outer circle or with everyone else.

Happiness brings excitement in life, it makes life worth living. It makes our life not boring. But the thing to remember about happiness is, there is no living happinly ever after: there is no forever happiness. Happiness comes and go. Peace is about you realising how powerful you are and how powerful your thoughts are, and aliging them with your world such that you are the centre. Contentment: is about the awareness that there is no supreme state or goal of having it all. Realising that happiness is not forever and that life is about improving or maybe staying still, depends on you.

We are human and we are programmed to feel these emotions: negative or positive: if we were not supposed to feel these emotions, they would have never existed at the first place. But no one gets that. People are so into spreading positivity that they just ask you to lock up and suppress all the “negative emotions” which does more harm than good.

In this Episode I talk about some mental tricks to help you being consistent in doing regular physical work out. There are two two steps of being healthy. The first one is, 1. Eating the right food. And the second one is doing the right physical activity for your body type. Eating right and adding physical activities 3-4 days a week can actually do a incredible turn around to your body and your overall well-being.

This world is a very weird place and there are weird ways to get things done. People tell you, you need to have goals, ambitions, dreams but also stability, money. People tell you to work hard but also be happy. People tell you it's important to have passion and chase your dreams and work hard till you achieve it, to not follow the crowd but also make sure you do something mainstream that is recognised by all and respected by all but meanwhile something different and something out of the box. People tell you to get out of your comfort zone but also chill out and build memories with your friends and families.

Moving on can be one of the most difficult time of your life, with so many ugly emotions to handle. By being mindful of your feelings you can actually turn it into the a learning and growing experience of your first break up.

In this episode, I talk about some of the speculations about how our day to day life might change during and after this Pandemic. In the past 3 months,The drastic changes in our day to day life, owing to the Pandemic, has been for such a large scale, which I don't think we have seen in history before. The reason bringing this change might not be as Appealing, This is a eye opening happening, that has forced us to introspect into certain aspects in our day to day life, which we can either totally give up or change for something better.

What our country needs right now in unity, we need to stop news media dictating what to think and how to behave towards others and just present us with facts and let us judge for ourselves. One good deed sparks another, there are hundreds and thousands of positive, constructive things going on around us, if we are informed about those, our community and our country and the people in it will be inspired to do more constructive work. Afterall, we all are human made up of the same blood and flesh from the same ancestors.

The finance management is different for every individual since the need and want and income are different for different people. What works for me may not work for you, or what worked for your parents might not work for you. So take your time, explore, sure enough seek out help and ask your parents and people you trust, how they do it and work out a finance management plan for yourself. We don't realize it now, but 10 years from now, decisions like this will what set you apart from others.

Personally, I feel, you have two different world. One is the outer world that you constantly see, the second one is your inner world. Everything going on in your mind, your thoughts. You are chaotic when your inner world and outer world is in conflict. For some who thrives in chaos, maybe aligning these two world may not be as important as those who can work only in peace.

Is the lock down making you crazy? Let's see what we can do to make this lock down a fun one. :D

One of the big disadvantage of not being accountable for your fault is that, you never learn from your mistakes because for you, it's never your mistake. And you know, mistakes are meant to be made by human so that they can learn from them. And if you don't take ownership of your mistake, how can you learn from it?

What is it being Real? Does just living and breathing makes you real? Can we be beautiful forever? Can we last forever?

We have this primal desire for opposite sex, which is built-in in sexual organisms to keep our species from extinct by reproduction. But we don't just get attracted to random opposite sex right? I mean what sets one person apart from the crowd that we choose to fall in love with. Is it how they make us feel, is it their overall personality and how they behave and treat others. Is it something that is lacking in us and that we desperately want in us but we find it in them and feel complete now thinking they are a part of us?

Boredom is not something you need to escape, it's something you have to deal with. Most people try to escape it which is not the solution to it. Boredom is a neutral feeling: it's upto you to turn it into something positive or negative. Being open to all the plans of friends, just to avoid being bored begin a classic example of something negative, by doing so you are just wasting your time.

The biggest fear of parents especially, mothers is the fear that their kids won't need them anymore one day. Which to tell honestly, I didn't understand. I used to think, they grew us up, educated us to be independent and be responsible. But as it seems, the thought of your kid needing you in their life, or more appropriately in their day to day life, gives them an existential reassurance, I guess? Maybe it's something we won't understand till we are a mother or a parent to a child.

Of course, in early man days, these were literally the fight and flight response and usually after the danger passes, body gets back to it's normal hormone levels, but unfortunately this is not always true for the setting human are living in today. If you sense danger of your boss yelling at you for not meeting the deadline or for your co-worker for performing better than you, you can't fight or flight! In other words, in our modern human life, we come across a lot of situations which we can't run away from… for example a news of you suffering from a chronic sickness that might get worse over time or like constant bickering with your loved ones. So it's all becoming more and more mental. You can't physically fight them, so it's strenuous for your mind to come up with solutions in such situations.

Body image is mental and emotional : it's both the mental picture that you have of your body and the way you feel about your body when you look in the mirror. Any one can have a low body image. It's not like only people who are like overweight have a low body image. It is as easy to develop for a skinny person than it is for someone who is healthy or someone who is overweight. And why this is an issue we should all be concerned about is because this constant feeling that your body is not good enough, can be really a struggle to deal with in your day to day life.

This life of ours, is so full of uncertainties. Life without plan is floppy. Routine helps us make it un-floopy. You don't necessary need a plan for this. Just a pla- is enough for starter. You don't have to worry about weather you have magic beans or not. Just regular beans is enough. The secret to happiness is planting those regular beans and taking care of it regularly till they grow into plants and you can sell them and be rich.

Fed up of keeping up with the new year new me trend? Join in for a completely new and more fun trend. We want improvement in many sphere of the life: Being healthy, working harder in job, building new skills, eating healthy, looking good, regular exercise. Anything new that you add in your existing routine is a work and it takes willpower to start doing it, habituating it with your body and mind and continuing to do it. What we often forget is, the only thing changed is the month and year not you. You are the same person you were one day before. And having these sudden so much expectations from yourself can be overwhelming to your mind and body. It would be exhausting and keeping up with improving each sphere of life will be draining your willpower to continue which is an exhaustive resource. Like any other exhaustive resource, your willpower also needs time to replenish too.

Negativity is like a bad flu or an epidemic. It always generates in a point and only spreads like bad virus from one person to another. The best way to not let it spread is by containment. That is just extinguishing at the source or becoming the end point of it. Being stoic is a mannerism that help not spread negativeness because their minds transcend beyond “people” and petty issues.

India is becoming more and more unsafe for woman. Meanwhile no such extreme measures are being taken up to make woman feel safe. Some sick minded men blames it all on women coming up with reasons to justify their heinous crime. Is this our fate? When even after being educated, some men can't respect women? What have we become?

A parent-child relationship is one of the most long-lasting and emotionally intense social ties. Although it is mostly positive and supportive, this tie might also includes feelings of irritation, tension, and ambivalence. With the kid's busyness in his new work life and the parent's sudden void of no work-life, parents may feel that they are more emotionally invested in the relationship than their adult children.

This episode discusses about the 4 rules of Deep work, that you can follow to inculcate deep work in your professional lives.

Ironically, jobs are actually easier to enjoy than free time, because like flow activities they have built-in goals, feedback rules, and challenges, all of which encourage one to become involved in one's work, to concentrate and lose oneself in it. Free time, on the other hand, is unstructured, and requires much greater effort to be shaped into something that can be enjoyed.

In this new economy,  an increasing number of people will lose as their skills becomes automatable or easily outsourced, there are others who will not only survive but will thrive- become more valued.

How we choose what we do, and how we approach it…will determine whether the sum of our days adds up to a formless blur, or to something resembling a work of art. —Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi Society has misleaded us enough with follow your passion, it's not about finding a passion and following it, it's about the approach towards your work. It's about being a craftsman and respecting your work and making yourself better and better to be the best of you, you can be at it. You become passionate about your work when you have mastered the skills needed in it, when you start inventing and innovating instead of just knowing and working on the technicalities of it.

Our fears are real, but also these fear are all in our mind. And guess who's in control of our mind? Us! It's always easy said than done. And in reality it takes a lot of time to actually deal with them and some of them even can't be dealt with. But that's what living is all about. It's about having fears… and living with it… accepting it as our own… sometimes tackling it other times, letting it tackle us. And we all have it.

We have stopped asking ourselves: do we need it? We just follow what is trending: we are just doing what the machines are programming us to do. It's time to wake up from this sleep. It's time to stop and think for ourselves. It's time we question what we really value. It's time we become more human and take control of our own mind, because if we don't well, those human devised algorithms will.

Our society is outdated. In this world of technology, where we update our phones and applications in our laptops with just click of a button, don't you think it's time we update our society too? Don't you find it funny that, the society the real world, we are living in, are still following rules and regulations that were started at the first place in the setting where it could actually apply? We are so much engrossed in the digital world around us that no one cares about changing the society.

Anxiety, depression, stress and other self-deprecating habits have become very common among growing kids and young adults while it shouldn't be. Mental illness, has always been a taboo in the world. Especially in India. That's the reason many people who suffer from it, don't opt to speak up about it with their loved ones for the fear of being treated as someone crazy. It's time, to speak up, because if we don't speak up and if we dont learn how to deal with our issues, it's really gonna mess up our mind.

Role Models, Idols. The people who guide you and motivate your way to success. How important are they? And if you have them, do you really let them rule your life? Should you?

In this world, where you get relationships and dates so easy, is it really that difficult to stay single? And not get into relationship just for the sake of it? The Awkward Adult is back with season 2.

Friday the 13th Episode. Do you feel guilty while taking a break from your day to day hard work? Do you like to be busy all the time? Do you find yourself constantly complaining about not having enough time? No? Me neither.

Have life mission that you really want to accomplish but don't understand what's going wrong?

While developing your skills, you will face two control traps, and even though both of them looks same, you need to be very careful, since you have to let go of control in one of them while in the other, you have to get out and take control of your life. So how do you know when it's the right time to take control? https://www.amazon.in/Good-They-Cant-Ignore-You/dp/0349415862

Unless we internalize, we can't be motivated towards our pursuit. Chris Evans Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HqSoxMOrVeE&list=WL&index=40&t=408s Ryn Higa: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gTzjt-arWKg

The human desire to fulfill some special existential purpose has existed through out history. Instead of bothering to answer the question if there is meaning to life, confront the randomness of the universe to find that the only option we have is to find importance in the stuff, right in front of you.