Podcasts about growing apart

Huang Gang or die. JK JK. Shoutout to all of my friends - past, present, and future - who shaped me into the woman I am today! This episode is because of you :) Let's talk about the trials and tribulations of adult friendships. There are circumstantial friendships (ones you make in school, when it's situational, etc.) and substantial friendships (ones that last because you both nurture it). Your 20s are where you'll find yourself building or breaking these relationships. Today, I share my experiences with cliques, growing pains, girl fights, and avoidant people. I walk you through multiple scenarios with different people I've encountered in my 20s and what lessons I extracted from those situations. Lastly, I give my two cents on how to keep quality friendships as you get older to make sure everyone is a substantial and not situational friend. DISCLAIMER: This is not an episode made to "spill tea" or trash anyone in my past but rather share what those hardships taught me and how I currently carry myself in adversity with others. *NOTE: Sorry the audio is not super consistent. I'm still trying to understand my new apartment's acoustics and how to adjust so the mic isn't so sensitive to P sounds and background noises like our AC or air purifier.*

On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks his weekend: tattoos and dogs. Plus, what hapens when you outgrow old friendshipsIntern John's "Chuy Forever" is a weekend of comedy shows 6/20 & 6/21 in Arlington, Va benefitting Warrior Canine Connection. They train puppies to be service animals for veterans! Tickets are on sale now, InternJohnComedy.comEvery week Intern John discusses adulting, dating, radio life, and more! You can follow Intern John on social media: @InternJohnRadio. You can listen to past episodes at TheThoughtShower.com

There comes a point where everything around you feels… off. You've outgrown the conversations, the habits, the relationships—even the dreams you once held close. But no one tells you how unnerving it is to realize that the life you built no longer fits. This episode explores the subtle and not-so-subtle signs that you're evolving past your current life, and how to navigate that uncomfortable space between who you were and who you're becoming. It's not a breakdown—it's a breakthrough in disguise.

In this episode, I explore how personal relationships and family relationships evolve during a spiritual awakening.  As our frequency shifts with changing consciousness so too does the way in which we feel connection with others. Does this mean that you can't stay friends with those who aren't awakening? Absolutely not. The key is to honour yourself in the process. Tune in to the full episode for guidance on navigating these changes.    Xo G www.avalonspirit.com #avalonspirit #ginettebiropodcast #spiritualpodcast Thanks so much for watching my video! Please SUBSCRIBE, LIKE and SHARE to spread love and higher consciousness from these messages to more people.    For more amazing content, check out:    Website:              www.avalonspirit.com Facebook:           https://www.facebook.com/groups/avalonspirit Instagram:           https://www.instagram.com/ginettebiro.medium Podcasts:             https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-ginette-biro-podcast/id1505097658                                 https://ginettebiro.podbean.com/ YouTube:             https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0W-63rlYl8mX5edln35gsw TikTok:                  https://www.tiktok.com/@ginettebiro.medium   If these messages have inspired you, please give back and Donate today:  https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=G5HYV58ZFPLEQ   Ginette Biro Podcast: Are you ready for a divine spiritual journey? Ginette Biro brings insight from the spirit world to you to grow your consciousness and connection to other dimensions. Get ready to live a more meaningful and purpose-filled life. She helps make sense of life within the world of spirit and woo so that you can connect more deeply to your higher self and purpose.  She is rare in being both a channeler, medium and having a near-death experience. Ginette channels information about Spirit Guides, Fifth Dimension, Vibrational Frequency, Spirit Guides, Life After Death, Cosmic Consciousness, Higher Self, Parallel Timelines, Energy Portals, Past Lives, Live Channeling, Aliens, Galactic Federation and much more.  Check out her Cosmic Consciousness Circle and Lightworker Mentorship Circle for live sessions with Ginette. https://avalonspirit.com/collections/experiences  

She thinks that her boyfriend (who proposed to her almost a year ago - and she said no) could be having an affair. But is he cheating? We figure it out with THEjoeSHOW's War of the Roses?

Pittsburgh FamilyLife Affiliate staff member, Tim Tucker, interviews Scott and Catherine Mercer, part of our Pittsburgh FamilyLife Team, and Tom and Pam Jones.  Tom is a licensed Christian counselor and associate pastor, and Pam is a real estate agent in the Pittsburgh area.  It's discussed that Instead of a 'oneness' in marriage, many marriages are drifting farther apart.  How can this 'oneness' be restored?FamilyLife has a lot of great ways to help marriages that are struggling, or just want their good marriages to become even better!  One of the resources is this fall's FamilyLIfe "Weekend To Remember" marriage getaway here in the Pittsburgh area.  The dates are November 7-9, 2025 at the Marriott North in Cranberry Township.  God can use it to bring couples to a oneness with Himself and with each other!  Please go to WeekendToRemember.com for more information, and use the group name 'weekendtogether' to receive a $100 discount on the registration fee.  To listen to other HHFF podcasts, please type in "Help and Hope for Families Radio" in the search bar of your smart phone or computer.  For added helpful information and resources, please go to FamilyLife.com and also download the FamilyLife app!  During the summer months, you can also listen to "Help and Hope for Families" on Pittsburgh's radio station WORD FM 101.5 or WORDFM.com each Sunday evening at 9:30 PM (Eastern).

Kelly Clements is the creator of The Entreprenewer, a marriage centric coaching program for entrepreneurs. Her professional experience working for world class coaching programs like Strategic Coach and Lifebook have taught her how to work with driven entrepreneurs, but it was her personal experience that underscored why it was so important for both the entrepreneur and the spouse to have a coach. Kelly can seamlessly help bridge The Ambition Gap that many entrepreneurial couples experience, as well as giving relevant perspective changes to help couples connect at a deeper level. Her Relationship Spectrum™ helps couples identify ways to create a healthier power dynamic, and her Presence Principles™ will help both parties get more enjoyment and intimacy out of the relationship. Author of The Power of Play, Praise, and Purpose, and Grow Your Business Without Growing Apart, Kelly provides actionable strategies to help entrepreneurs WIN at work and home.  In this episode, Cindra and Kelly discuss:  The 6 Presence Principles Her DANA Acronym and how it relates to you How your Reticular Activating System impacts relationships  Her “Alpha-Omega Spectrum” and why you should understand it  Most importantly, how to grow your business without growing apart HIGH PERFORMANCE MINDSET SHOWNOTES FOR THIS EPISODE TO LEARN MORE ABOUT KELLY   TO GET 10% OF KELLY'S COURSE, USE THE CODE: “MINDSET” AND CLICK HERE REQUEST A FREE MENTAL BREAKTHROUGH CALL WITH DR. CINDRA AND/OR HER TEAM TO LEARN MORE ABOUT THE MENTALLY STRONG INSTITUTE Love the show? Rate and review the show for Cindra to mention you on the next episode.    

In this month's ARINS podcast Stephen Roulston and Martin Brown, with host Rory Montgomery, discuss education systems in Ireland. Their recent paper is 'A Century of Growing Apart and Challenges of Coming Together: Education Across the Island of Ireland'. Read the article in full here: https://bit.ly/3BCCZyX This is episode 40 of a podcast series that provides evidence-based research and analysis on the most significant questions of policy and public debate facing the island of Ireland, north and south. Host Rory Montgomery, MRIA, talks to authors of articles on topics such as cross border health co-operation; the need to regulate social media in referendums, education, cultural affairs and constitutional questions and the imperative for good data and the need to carry out impartial research. ARINS: Analysing and Researching Ireland North and South brings together experts to provide evidence-based research and analysis on the most significant questions of policy and public debate facing the island of Ireland, north and south. The project publishes, facilitates and disseminates research on the challenges and opportunities presented to the island in a post-Brexit context, with the intention of contributing to an informed public discourse. More information can be found at ⁠⁠⁠www.arinsproject.com⁠⁠⁠. ARINS is a joint project of The Royal Irish Academy, an all-island body, and the Keough-Naughton Institute for Irish Studies at Notre Dame's Keough School of Global Affairs.

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Welcome to EVEMAS DAY 5; If you are new here, EVEMAS is a series I began where I upload an episode everyday from December 1st until December 25th. Through this series, we will cover all topics involving becoming the best version of yourself possible in a very realistic and relatable way. In today's episode, we talk all about friendship break ups and how difficult it can be. We cover topics and questions such as... Should I reach out to a friend who has distanced themself from me? How do I deal with the feeling of how easy it was for them to let me go? How to cope with the memories you guys had? Seeing them move on in life, and not being a part of it Thank you for all your constant love and support on my show - I truly appreciate each and every one of you! ALL LINKS: https://linktr.ee/foryoufromeve Website + Services: https://www.foryoufromeve.org Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/foryoufromeve Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@foryoufromeve Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com/shop/influencer-e333d6b9?utm_source=hoobe&utm_medium=social LTK: https://www.shopltk.com/explore/Olivia_Eve_Shabo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

SISTERCAST w/ Tay! I'm finally back after taking some time off, and this comeback episode is exactly what you need if you're navigating friendship changes in your 20s. We kick off with a much needed catch up - from Miami wedding dress shopping adventures to honest conversations about outgrowing friendships, Tay & I are going to talk your ear off this week. Can you tell we are excited to be back?  In this episode, I'm unpacking: 

What does true friendship mean to you? How do you know when it's time to let go of a friendship? Friend, I LOVE you! And I know that friendship is so important in our lives. That's why my BFF Lauren and I dive deep into the intricacies of friendship. We explore how to nurture, grow, and gracefully let go of relationships as we journey through life's different stages.  We share personal insights on the complexities of relationships, emphasizing the importance of recognizing when it's time to let go of friendships that no longer serve us.  Some key takeaways are: Intentionality is key: Friendship requires effort and conscious nurturing to thrive. Vulnerability is essential: Sharing our true selves with others deepens our connections. Friendships evolve: As we grow and change, our relationships may naturally shift or end. It's okay to let go: Sometimes, holding onto friendships that are no longer fulfilling can be detrimental to our well-being. Losing a friendship can be emotionally challenging, and it's important to allow ourselves to grieve. Share the dynamics of your relationships by tagging me @biancaolthoff and @laurenbronsonpetrous. XO, B RESOURCES/LINKS Co-Host Lauren Bronson Petrous https://boundlessandco.com/  Watch the video on Youtube: https://youtu.be/SfVNmRE0cd4 Resources Podcast Episode with Lysa Terkeurst Ep 100: Setting Clear Boundaries, Communicating Our Needs To Others and A Million Little Funerals with Lysa TerKeurst https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-100-setting-clear-boundaries-communicating-our-needs/id1529509063?i=1000586081202  Book by Lysa Terkeurst Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are https://www.p31bookstore.com/collections/lysa-terkeurst-books-and-bible-studies  Takeaways Intentionality is key in maintaining friendships. Vulnerability allows for deeper connections between friends. It's important to evaluate friendships regularly. Friendship requires risk and investment. Not everyone is meant to stay in your life forever. A friend audit can help clarify relationship dynamics. I stay too long in relationships. Friendships can be categorized as weeds, flowers, or trees. Seasonal friendships are valid and should be honored. Adaptability is crucial in friendships. Friendship is a choice, not an obligation. Boundaries are essential in protecting relationships. Mourning the end of a friendship is a necessary process. ⋇ Convoy of Hope - Empowering Women and Girls Together Donate here https://convoyofhope.org/bianca/  ⋇ Bianca's new book Grit Don't Quit: Developing Resilience And Faith When Giving Up Isn't An Option. https://amzn.to/3MO74OC  ⋇ The Grit Don't Quit Bible Study is now available. https://www.biancaolthoff.com/gdq  ⋇ So grateful to our sponsors! ⋇ Subscribe to We're Going There on your favorite podcast app so you don't miss out on any of the great topics and conversations. Don't forget to leave a loving review! Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/were-going-there-with-bianca-juarez-olthoff/id1529509063?uo=4  Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6RpqUTDQWWKDHt1yLQlMKW?si=sgf1iKWzQg6QzjEMEvuW2A ⋇ Visit biancaolthoff.com/resources to learn more about books and other resources from Bianca. https://www.biancaolthoff.com/resources  ⋇ Want to stay connected, join the community today. https://www.biancaolthoff.com/ ⋇ WGT email: podcast@inthenameoflove.org ⋇ Music by: Brad Tsushima, Instagram: @bradtsushima, email: bradtsushima94@aol.com, Spotify: “R.A.D.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode #900 Has your marriage hit a rut again? Feeling like you're both just coasting? Sometimes the answer isn't in fixing the relationship directly but in reigniting your own spark. In this revisited episode, we're going back to the basics of personal growth as the hidden key to a thriving marriage. When you work on becoming a better version of yourself—whether through new hobbies, health goals, or simply shaking up your routine—you bring fresh energy to your relationship. And trust me, your partner will notice. Join us as we dive into practical ways to invest in yourself so you can reignite that connection with your wife. If you're ready to shake things up, this episode is for you. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

You feeling this episode? Send us a text!In this episode we talk about adult friendships. As we age we start to really dissect and reevaluate our friendships. Some of us grow apart but do we really have to though? We talk so much about communication but drop the ball when it comes to those who were there by your side at one point in time. I'm not talking about the ones who were toxic and needed to be cut and burned. Leave those be. Some times we get so caught up in life that we forget to reach out to those that had our back until we standing at the pulpit telling stories over caskets. It's a total change when our friends are split across the continent or continents. We get into this who's going to call first mindset. Who's going to plan first ideation. We lose time that way. If you love those close to you then keep them close. To my friends that are not near, I hope you're still close. That's why I'll always be the first. It doesn't matter. A simple check-in text is all someone needs, sometimes. Support the show

Ever feel like a once-close relationship suddenly became distant? In this episode, we explore how fast people can grow apart, often without even realizing it. From friendships to romantic relationships, we'll dive into the subtle shifts that can create emotional distance. Learn the common reasons behind these changes and how to recognize the early signs. Whether you're trying to rebuild a connection or understand why it's fading, this episode offers insight into navigating life's relational drift. CONQUER SHYNESS

Season 2 is All About Men's Mental Health! We're focusing on three key pillars: Finances, Fitness, and Relationships.This episode is focusing on relationships, giving loads of actionable advice and tips for dating in 2024.Kit also known as 'Londons Hitch' is our special guest today. An accomplished actor turned dating coach, this episode contains information that is going to help you and your relationship in 2024. Enjoy.Find Out More About Kit - https://www.slickwithkit.com/--------- EPISODE CHAPTERS ---------(0:00:00) - Dating and Mental Health(0:09:31) - Building Masculinity and Attraction Factors(0:15:02) - Gender Roles and Relationship Dynamics(0:27:42) - Rebuilding Trust and Growing Apart(0:35:23) - Creating Value in Relationships(0:47:31) - Balancing Work and Relationships(0:54:03) - Commitment and Responsibility in Relationships(0:56:43) - Navigating Friendship Dynamics and First Dates(1:03:14) - Navigating First Date Dynamics(1:09:22) - Crafting Genuine Online Dating Profiles=================================❄️ LUMI THERAPY : Get 15% OFF with code: INSIDEAMINDPOD https://lumitherapy.co.uk/?dt_id=1119525

On todays episode our host Mario, Mari, and Miles dive into the dunce of the week, In did you know? Mario leads the segment with a cautionary tail and what in the world in pig butchering. Mari gives us more fun facts like you can actually die from broken heart. Miles talks about some fun facts about the up and coming Olympics coming to Los Angeles and how they are not going to build new facilities for the games. IG: @WEARESACRAMENTO916 WEB: WEARESACRAMENTO916.COM --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/wearesacramento/support

I think at one point you have been at your lowest down and out moment. BUT IT DOES GET BETTER! I read this incredibly brave post a friend wrote and had to share! Just know one day at a time, life can be hectic and throw all kinds of garbage your way and then one day later things and life can take on a bright light that makes you feel amazing! It is a weird little world we live in. 805-440-4909 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/amy-fordyce/support

After years of friendship, Shasta and Sher found themselves in two completely different places: Sher was a stay-at-home mom, whereas Shasta didn't have kids and was more focused on her career. Sher was married to a pastor, while Shasta was questioning church. Sher was more conservative-leaning, and Shasta was more liberal. The question arose: “If we met today, would we have become friends?” It's a familiar experience—someone's no longer single, or has kids, or switches jobs, or you're just in different life stages. And you wonder, was that the only thing holding your friendship together? In today's episode, Shasta and Sher discuss how they saved their friendship when they realized they had nothing in common anymore, why it was worth it, and the unlikely key to their survival.In this episode, Shasta and Sher answer the questions:How can you revitalize a friendship that's lost its shared interests or commonalities?How can having “nothing in common” actually benefit your friendship?Is it worth staying friends with someone you have nothing in common with anymore? Why?Connect with other listeners on our Mighty Networks community!Join Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list.Resource Links:David Brooks' book on feeling seen & seeing others: How to Know a PersonTake the Frientimacy quizzes: Positivity Quiz, Consistency Quiz, Vulnerability QuizLearn more about the Frientimacy Triangle in Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessMore of Shasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeLearn more about Shasta's CoachingCirclesConnect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeShasta on FacebookTell us what you think about this episode.

Welcome back to the Soul Wealth Podcast! Today's episode we are taking a dive into relationships and purpose. Thanks for tuning in and enjoy the episode. Let's Connect!  Instagram: http://instagram.com/ryanyokome/ Connect with Ryan: http://www.ryanyokome.com/   Much Love, Ryan Yokome I'm a husband, father, entrepreneur, business coach, endurance athlete, nature lover and the host of the Soul Wealth Podcast. Over the past decade, I have helped thousands of entrepreneurs get out of their own way to unleash their greatest purpose. I started my coaching business in 2014 after having success in the Network Marketing industry. I love helping others live their deepest purpose.   

Do you guys ever just save up for a good cry? We're running through some of the weird reasons we've gotten emotional lately. Hanli starts to feel like a local in Mexico but shares what she's found hard about connecting with people and building community away from home. Marissa reflects on how growing up can sometimes feel like growing apart, as we all enter different chapters of our lives.

“Family Proclamations” is the brand new podcast by Blair Hodges, host of Fireside. Enjoy this sample episode and be sure to subscribe directly to Family Proclamations now, because FP will be fully switching over soon!

Maggie Smith wrote a poem that went viral, but that wasn't the cause of her divorce. It was just one moment in a much bigger story about infidelity, raising children, and learning to live in a haunted house. Need some divorce catharsis? Join us.  Maggie Smith is the best-selling award-winning author of the memoir, You Could Make This Place Beautiful. She also wrote Good Bones and Keep Moving. Her writing has appeared in the New York Times, New Yorker, The Nation, The Paris Review, and The Best American Poetry. Her awards include the Academy of American Poets Prize, Pushcart Prize, and a fellowship from the National Endowment for the Arts.  Transcript MAGGIE SMITH: It's like the Instagram fail where you try to make the cake based on the beautiful unicorn cake you see, and then it's like, "Nailed it!"—and it looks like it's melting off to the side. You know, no one wants to make something that doesn't become the shining image in your mind you think you're making. BLAIR HODGES: That's Maggie Smith talking about her national best-selling book You Could Make This Place Beautiful. Her cake metaphor gets at some of the anxieties any author might feel, but it also works as a description of the marriage she wrote about in that book. Things started off well, with high hopes and visions of a shared future, but it turned into a Nailed It scenario when she discovered her husband's affair. Maggie Smith joins us to get real about divorce, family, patriarchy, raising kids, and more.     WHAT SOME PEOPLE ASK (01:21)   BLAIR HODGES: Maggie Smith, welcome to Family Proclamations. MAGGIE SMITH: Thanks for having me. BLAIR HODGES: I thought we'd start off by having you read one of the pieces in your book, it's called "Some People Ask," because it's short but it gives a nice overview of a lot of the things you talk about in this memoir about divorce and family, about your career, and about all kinds of things. Let's have you read that on page ten. "Some People Ask." MAGGIE SMITH: These were my attempts at—people won't ask me these questions if I put the questions and answers in the book. Alas, that did not actually deter the questions. So this is one of them. Some People Ask “So, how would you describe your marriage? What happened?” Every time someone asks me a question like this, every time someone asks about my marriage, or about my divorce experience, I pause for a moment. Inside that imperceptible pause I'm thinking about the cost of answering fully. I'm weighing it against the cost of silence. I could tell the story about the pinecone, the postcard, the notebook, the face attached to the name I googled, the name I googled written in the handwriting I'd seen my name in, and the names of our children, for years and years. I could tell them how much I've spent on lawyers, or how much I've spent on therapy, or how much I've spent on dental work from grinding my teeth in my sleep, and how many hours I sleep, which is not many, but at least if I'm only sleeping a few hours at night, then I'm only grinding my teeth a few hours a night. I could talk about how a lie is worse than whatever the lie is draped over to conceal. I could talk about what a complete mindf*ck it is to lose the shelter of your marriage, but also how expansive the view is without that shelter, how big the sky is. “Sometimes people just grow apart,” I say. I smile, take a sip of water. Next question. BLAIR HODGES: I love the "Some People Ask" sections. They're scattered throughout the book, and they get at questions I think a lot of divorced people run into. I think this is why folks who have been through divorce can relate so much to the book is these questions that are so familiar. What strikes me is, all that thinking in the italic text that you read, that happens in a split second. All of that calculus is so fast. MAGGIE SMITH: It does. I mean, it has to happen fast. Because when you're on the spot—whether you're on stage at an event, or doing a podcast, or someone catches you at the farmers market, like a neighbor—you have to do that quick mental math. What do I really want to get myself into right now? BLAIR HODGES: There's something else behind the question of “what happened,” which is like, what really happened? People kind of want like—there's probably something that's not public, or they want the tea. The question can be asked out of sincere regard for you, but there's also, most of the time probably a little bit of that human impulse to just want to know the dirt. MAGGIE SMITH: I think that's true, but I also think particularly with divorce, the wanting to know—that curiosity is a self-protective impulse. People don't even recognize that impulse when they are asking, but what they're really asking is, how does this not happen to me?   GROWING APART (04:44)   BLAIR HODGES: Oof. That resonates with people. Throughout the book my mind kept going back to this pinecone. You mentioned the story about the pinecone. Basically this is part of how you found out your husband was cheating on you. He had given your child this pinecone, and then later on you discovered this is a pinecone he picked up on a walk with a woman he was seeing in another state. I can hardly wrap my head around him giving that to your child. It's connected to this whole other thing he was doing. MAGGIE SMITH: That was why I threw it away. [laughter] BLAIR HODGES: That's right. The line I kept thinking of too from this one is, "sometimes people just grow apart." Now that the book's out, does that line still work? Do you find yourself still in conversations like this? People can know more, a lot more, about the situations you went through. Do you still find yourself sometimes having to say, "You know, sometimes things just don't work out?" MAGGIE SMITH: You know, the deep irony of that is when I wrote that section of the book, I thought the truth was in all of that italicized internal monologue text. The sort of, not really lie, but the "let's just get this over with” quick and easy answer was “Sometimes people just grow apart,” and the longer I've been sitting with this, the more I realized that's true. Everything in the paragraph is true, too. But “sometimes people just grow apart,” as sort of toss off an answer as that is, it actually is not inaccurate, and it's not not what happened. I mean, that happened also. BLAIR HODGES: The thing is, the growing apart could be incredibly painful or the growing apart could be incremental over years and people diverge in interests or mature into different people. The growth apart can be really painful, so it can be a true answer, and at the same time what's behind that answer could be really different depending on who you're talking to. MAGGIE SMITH: I just had friends who celebrated twenty years together, and they're posting photos of their younger selves, and you swipe to see the current version, or how it started, how it's going—that kind of meme. It feels like a miracle to me now that there are so many people who grow together over twenty, forty, sixty years instead of growing apart. I think it's a beautiful miracle that some people manage to do that. I did not. BLAIR HODGES: We see you grieve that. There are several times in the book where you talk about grieving the loss of that kind of connected relationship over the years. At this point in your life you can't ever have that. You can't have a relationship you shared when you were in your twenties and are now in your forties. That person is connected to the person you were with and it's not possible to recover it. MAGGIE SMITH: I get a little envious of seeing pictures of people from the nineties and they're still with that person. I don't get to do that. I don't get to carry forward that human being with another human being. I suppose if I met someone and got married this year and live to be ninety-seven, I could still have a golden anniversary, if they also live to be ninety-seven. I think it's unlikely that's going to happen. That was actually a fair amount of the grieving process. It wasn't just my specific marriage. I think everybody gets this. It's all the things in the future you think are guaranteed you when you "settle down" with someone, and then all those things go up in smoke when it doesn't work out.   REGRETS (08:38)   BLAIR HODGES: Did you wrestle a lot with feeling like those years were lost? A lot happened. You had kids during those years. You grew professionally. You struck out on your own in bold professional moves. You became a successful and very known writer. I'm wondering if there's a sense of lost years, because even some people that have a lot of things to look back on fondly still might feel like, "Dang it, I wish those years were spent differently." Do you live with a sense of regret about it? MAGGIE SMITH: No, not necessarily. I think at the beginning I did. Like, "Really, now I'm in my forties and I have to start over? Now?" It would have been easier ten years ago, for sure. It would have been easier fifteen years ago, for sure. But when I look at my kids and the life we've built here it's impossible to imagine it happening any other way. Because to rewind the film far enough to get a different result, I would be erasing them from the story and I can't. BLAIR HODGES: I wanted to ask you about this. How long—to preface this question—how long was it from beginning to end of writing the book? Do you remember? MAGGIE SMITH: Some pieces of the book existed before I knew I was writing a book. I pulled some poems in. I pulled some previous essays in, but I wrote the book for a year. BLAIR HODGES: The reason I ask is because we get to see you grow during that year. This is one of my "gasp out loud" moments. There are a few of them in the book where I literally gasped. It usually involved something your ex had done. But this one, one of the biggest for me, was something you said. When people would ask you a question, "Wasn't it all worth it because you got the kids out of it?" Earlier in the book your internal voice says, "Actually, I might undo it all, even knowing that would entail the kids." What you verbally say to the person is, "Well, I can't imagine life without my kids." The thing you're not seeing in italics is, "Maybe,” or “maybe even probably." But we see you grow from that. Talk about that growth over the course of the book, because that was a huge admission to be like, "You know what? Maybe not. Maybe it wasn't worth all that pain." MAGGIE SMITH: Not just for me, but for them. A lot of what I wish for them is a different kind of childhood and a different kind of family. I remember thinking about if I never had my children I wouldn't miss them, because I wouldn't have known them and they wouldn't miss me because they wouldn't have known me, and so it's not hurting anyone to say I would rewind the tape and completely do this all over again. Throughout the course of writing the book and living that year and sitting with everything and really thinking about it, I got to a place where I was like, "No, actually, I'll take the heat." I think it's worth taking the heat myself. I think they can take the heat enough so we get to have each other and in the end that has to be worth it. I did a lot of that in the book. A lot of my thinking at the beginning of the book is not my thinking at the end. That's an accurate reflection of life. Not necessarily a convenient narrative arc. "Oh, on second thought, I changed my mind, reader, from what I told you thirty pages ago." But that's how we live. I don't know how we live without that.   ON SECOND THOUGHT (12:04)   BLAIR HODGES: It didn't feel like a setup. I felt like I was experiencing you process that in real time and that when you wrote that original piece you hadn't set out thinking, "How is this going to fit into my book overall?" You were writing the pieces as they came and we get to experience that growth with you. Here's the piece "On Second Thought." It's short. I'll just read it. It says: I've been thinking about what I said before about wanting to undo it all. The more that time passes, the less I feel that way. Rilke comes to me in these moments—this is a poet—whispering no feeling is final. I don't just want to have kids, I want these kids, though dammit, I wish they had an easier path to travel. I wish we all had an easier path. Here's what I think about the most. In some parallel universe I can save the children and jettison the marriage. This is magical thinking, as in some Greek myth we're yet to discover. A son and daughter spring from me whole. No feeling is final. It strikes me, that can turn in on itself when it comes to joy too. That quote usually we think about if you're depressed or something, no feeling is final, but there's also a sense in which the best joys can be fleeting. MAGGIE SMITH: That is the last part of a quote I actually have—I'm looking at it right now on a sticky note on my office window. It's been living there for so many years, which tells you I don't wash my windows. "Let everything happen to you. Beauty and terror. Just keep going. No feeling is final." I feel so much of life is toggling between beauty and terror. Sometimes in the same three-minute stretch. BLAIR HODGES: It's great to see your relationship with your kids throughout the book. There's a beautiful piece about Violet, your daughter, and mixtapes. You both have bonded over music. MAGGIE SMITH: That's one of the coolest things as they get older. I feel like I set a music syllabus pretty early with my kids. We had a “no kids music” rule in our house, like no Kidz Bop, no music for children. We just tried to choose clean-ish music so we could enjoy it. One of the coolest things is seeing what from my music syllabus they're carrying forward and what they like of early to mid-nineties indie rock, and then what they strike out and find on their own. That's pretty much a metaphor for living with children. BLAIR HODGES: That's exactly why I brought it up. Then also the reciprocal love, the love your children showed for you. There's a piece called "Hidden Valentines," where your son Rhett had gone out of town. I think he went to his dad's— MAGGIE SMITH: I have one right here! It says, "You are nice and you make me laugh." BLAIR HODGES: He put these all around the house for you. It's so sweet. So I see romance happening in the book even when your partner was gone after the divorce. A certain kind of romance. MAGGIE SMITH: It's funny. It's the end of a love story, but not the end of all the love stories. I really think so much of this book is a love letter to writers and writing, but it's also a love letter to parents and kids, and a love letter to my kids in particular. The real love story is a self-love story, and finding yourself in the mess, but we have each other.   DIVISION OF LABOR (15:26)   BLAIR HODGES: That's Maggie Smith, and we're talking about her memoir, You Could Make this Place Beautiful. Her writings appeared in The New York Times, The New Yorker, The Nation, the Paris Review, and the Best American Poetry. She's a best-selling, award winning author of the books Good Bones and Keep Moving. Those books are also available. Maggie, you write a lot in this book about a common problem in marriage. This podcast has other episodes that will touch more on this, but I liked how you explore it, and that's how professional success and a division of labor in marriage can make a big impact. You wrote a poem that went viral. This was a landmark moment in your journey toward divorce, because your partner had started out as a writer as well and then had diverged from that path to become a lawyer. And it seemed like because you persisted with writing your partner couldn't fully embrace your professional success and he'd even downplay and sometimes even ridicule your career as maybe a hobby or a little indulgence. He also wanted you to step into the traditional mother role, despite the fact you're both progressive-minded folks. There was one time when he called you on a work trip to come home because your son had a fever. That, again, was another one of these gasp out loud moments. MAGGIE SMITH: I think this happens in all kinds of families, whether one of the partners is an artist or a writer or not. It doesn't necessarily keep itself to families where one person has a more traditional job and one person has a creative job. Frankly, it doesn't only happen in families in cis-het marriages where the man out-earns the woman. I know women who earn more than their husbands who are still packing every lunch and doing every pediatrician appointment and having a hard time getting away for professional obligations. I know lots of women who, when they go to conferences, someone comes up to them and says, "Oh, who's got the kids?" BLAIR HODGES: I've never heard that. MAGGIE SMITH: Exactly. And I don't think men get that, "Oh, who's got the kids?" Everyone assumes your partner has the kids. It's a real issue, and it's not a poetry versus law issue. It's not a creative versus traditional issue. I don't even think it's about earning—although I do think it can make the power dynamic more pronounced when one person significantly out-earns the other. BLAIR HODGES: It's in the data. MAGGIE SMITH: It's in the data. And there is a sense of feeling somewhat exempt from some of the domestic responsibilities if you are the person who's paying most of the bills via your income. That sets up couples for a lot of resentment, frankly. I don't think there's anything that kills a relationship faster than resentment, feeling like you can't be your full self. BLAIR HODGES: I think that's right. You talk a lot about it in the book, but you also pull back somewhat, because you mention at one point there's this spreadsheet of the cognitive labor that you're doing in the relationship, the day-to-day schedule keeping. One example that comes to mind for me is when a dad feels like he really succeeded because he showed up to Junior's ballgame, but he didn't take them to practices. But he didn't sign Junior up for ball. He's not washing Junior's uniform. He's not bringing treats, blah, blah, blah. But he feels like a really involved dad because he shows up for the game. You talk about this spreadsheet of labor and then you say, "I thought about including it here, but I'm not going to." So you didn't include the actual spreadsheet. But really, you know it's peppered throughout the book, right? The spreadsheet is pretty much in the book. MAGGIE SMITH: It's pretty much in the book. Anyone reading this knows what's on the spreadsheet. We all know—or maybe if you don't know what's on your spreadsheet— BLAIR HODGES: Thank you. MAGGIE SMITH: —take some time and write it down. Sometimes I'll get done with a day, and I'll think I feel like “I didn't accomplish much today,” meaning I only wrote five hundred words or something. Then if I think about what I accomplished, I've done three loads of laundry, I took the dog to the vet, I signed up someone for a camp or soccer, I emailed a teacher about a project my child had a question on, I looked at something, I planned a vacation, I did this, I did this. It's so much of that domestic stuff that doesn't count as "work" that takes up so much time and doesn't really feel like accomplishment or achievement. It's not performative. It's invisible labor. The one thing I realized about my invisible labor is when I was gone to teach or give a reading or visit a university, the invisible labor your partner does becomes very, very visible to you when they are not there. You realize the dishes don't do themselves and the laundry doesn't just arrive folded in the dresser drawer and the play dates don't get scheduled without this human being. BLAIR HODGES: This reminds me of your "Google Maps" essay where you wrote this beautiful piece about tracing your divorce through Google Maps, because you can go back and see pictures of the house. You sent it to your partner after the divorce to say, "Hey, take a look at this. I'm going to be publishing this and it involves you so I thought you should take a look before it goes out." He sent you notes back and one of them was like, "Oh, see the recycle bin? I took that out." [laughter] MAGGIE SMITH: It was illuminating. His edits were like, all of my crying was deleted. Anytime I mentioned crying was deleted. BLAIR HODGES: That's too on the nose, Maggie. Isn't that too on the nose? [laughs] MAGGIE SMITH: I mean, that's why I said it was psychologically revealing. Wanting credit for household chores and wanting to not acknowledge the pain you've caused another person. I found that interesting. I published that piece in the Times. I didn't think I was going to write a memoir, so I thought that was it. But when I went to write the memoir, I thought, I don't know how to tell the story without offering these edits as a kind of shorthand. I mean, I'm not going to offer the annotated version in this document, but it said so much in so little space. You know how if you know someone well, you look at them across the room at a party and their expression tells you “It's time to go,” or “Get a load of this.” That's kind of how I received those edits. It was a lot of data in a very small space.   MOTIVATION(S) (22:11)   BLAIR HODGES: I imagine there were probably legal considerations or some interpersonal considerations about sending it to him first. As you were writing that piece and then the book more in depth, did you worry at all about his reputation? Maybe the lesson here is, don't ever marry an author. But at the time, he was one. MAGGIE SMITH: It's tricky. We have responsibility to other people when we write about them. I was careful and people who know me, very considerate. The people who know more about the situation are like, "Oh, yeah, you were really considerate." [laughter] And I was. And not just because of the legal considerations. That's always something, but also because I didn't write this book to hurt other people. I certainly didn't write this book to expose other people. For people who might be thinking about writing about their lives, whether in a memoir or an essay or something, if they think they're going to share it with other people, the piece of advice I have is to always think about your motivations. If your motivation is anger or revenge or “they thought they could do this, well now I'll show them,” then put your pen down. Or pick your pen up, but that's for your journal or something you can share with a therapist or a friend. That's like Happy Hour venting. If your desire is to know yourself better because you're curious about a situation, because you think unpacking this might be useful for you or for someone else, I think those are safer, healthier motivations for writing about your life, and will probably, if you keep true to those motivations, will keep you out of the weeds. BLAIR HODGES: I want to go back to motivations in a second, but also want to point out you don't name him. You call him “Redacted” sometimes. This is the age of Google though. MAGGIE SMITH: If people want to do the legwork, anybody can find anything. BLAIR HODGES: Is it weird to you that people do? I did. [laughs] MAGGIE SMITH: It's a little strange, but I think it's a human impulse. Have I read stories where someone was unnamed and have I tried to figure out who they are? Of course. We've all done that. I don't think there's any shame in it. We live in an age where if you can find Trump's taxes, you can find anything. BLAIR HODGES: It's true. I also wanted to point out too, here's a piece called "An Offering," where you say: I feel like I need to reiterate something. This isn't the story of a good wife and a bad husband. Was I easy to live with? Probably not. I crave time to myself. I thought I knew best what the children needed. I was stubborn. I disliked, dislike confrontation. So I could be, can be avoidant or passive aggressive. We see this confessional mode a few times throughout the book, too. MAGGIE SMITH: Gina Frangello, who's a terrific writer, said something really smart about memoir, which is there are two essential ingredients. One is self-assessment and the other is societal interrogation. I think this book has both, which I'm grateful for because I didn't know the two ingredients from Gina until after I was done writing it and had already turned it in. But that goes back to motivations. If you are writing a book in which you are going to be the hero of your story? No. That's the wrong motivation. Not only did I not want to write that book, I don't want to read that book. I don't want to read that book. That's too easy. BLAIR HODGES: That's right. It's wonderful to see you wrestling with motivations throughout the book. This book is very meta. You talk about the creation of the book throughout the book, and what we learn is you didn't have one single pure motive. There were times when you talk about being led by curiosity and writing was an exercise in trying to figure out what you thought about something. When you're trying to make sense of everything. Another reason why you would publish it is so you could share pain and share discovery with other people. This is where memoir becomes a sort of curation. Why we read memoirs is because we get to try on other people's lives. Or why we ask someone what really happened, in that question is, “I want to see how this fits on me.”   MY TEACHER, MY PAIN (25:57)   There's one particular lesson you're trying to draw out. This comes out in this piece I just read from called, "An Offering." You're quoting from a Buddhist teacher about how—and this is the Amazon highlighted quote by the way. If you go to your Amazon page, this is the top highlighted part of your book. MAGGIE SMITH: Oh, wow. BLAIR HODGES: Here it is. It says: Thank you for the pain you caused me because that pain woke me up. It hurt enough to make me change. “Wish for more pain,” a friend's therapist once told her, “because that's how you'll change.” That really resonated with people. Pain teaches us. There's a utility to pain. There can be an underside to that, of celebrating pain or of having a privileged pain when other people have worse pains. It can be easier for me to talk about pain when the pain could be worse. I wanted to explore that with you, about the limits of the idea that pain can teach us. Because I agree it can, but there's limits to that. MAGGIE SMITH: Of course. I would like to learn lessons any other way, frankly. I don't want pain to be my teacher. But I think the bottom line is we don't get to choose our teachers. And so I've learned a lot in my life through joy. I've learned a lot in my life through, frankly, confusion, and not knowing things and having to figure it out for myself. In the case of the end of my marriage, experiencing that pain and grief and loss taught me a lot about myself. I don't know if I would have learned those lessons another way. That doesn't mean the scales are balanced. I'm not at all saying the lessons I learned about myself through my divorce made all this suffering for myself and my family worthwhile because they got me this lesson. No. I would always choose not to have the pain any day of the week. I would rather know less about myself and feel better. Absent that choice, which I did not have, I'm glad to have at least made some progress with myself and my life via this unpleasant experience. I do think that's part of why we go to memoir, it's also to feel seen and feel understood. When we share our pain with someone else, whether it's a big pain or a small pain, I think we're telling other people, “This happened to me, maybe something similar happened to you.” You pick up the book, you read it, and maybe you've been through a very similar experience, and it makes you feel less alone. Maybe you've been through a completely different experience that rocked your world in a similar way. You see how someone else kind of got to the "other side of it" and it gives you a sense of solidarity and like, "Oh, yes, this is the human experience." That's what I'm hoping for in sharing it.   READING MEMOIR (29:53)   BLAIR HODGES: My partner joked with me when I started this podcast, like, "Oh, you're going to include memoir?" In the past, I've just done academic stuff—sociology, psychology, Religious Studies, and all these things. I was a little snooty about memoir, dismissive of it, skeptical of it. But I decided to lean into it for this show. Two things happen when I'm reading a memoir. The two things I love the most. First, when an author says something I already knew in a way I never would have been able to articulate or didn't even realize I knew. The other one is when they tell me something I'd never considered before, but suddenly it snaps into place in the clearest of ways. These revelations that happen when I'm reading. MAGGIE SMITH: That happens to me, too. That's why it's a genre I turn to a lot. I get that from poetry also. I think that's probably why I read primarily nonfiction and poetry because those are places I go to be changed. I can't pick up a book of poems or a memoir and not be a slightly rearranged, slightly different person when I close the book. I don't think we exit good books as the same person we enter them, and that is a gift. BLAIR HODGES: We carry pieces of it with us too. We're changed. I should point out as we're talking about pain and all the suffering you write about, and the grief, and there's anger, there's frustration, there's some joy, there's some love. But you say you're a lot funnier than your book is. There's a footnote that's so funny. It's like, "I wanted twenty percent more wit and twenty percent less pain in here, but this is what we got." [laughter] MAGGIE SMITH: I think my gallows humor comes out in this book because I feel like I meet people all the time, and they're like, "Oh, you're a lot funnier than your writing." That's probably true of a lot of people unless you're maybe David Sedaris. I'm not a humorist. I tend to write through things I'm puzzling over or grappling with, and that's not necessarily a space where I feel free to be funny, but in every other aspect of my life it's part of my life. BLAIR HODGES: It made me think about the function of humor, too. Because sometimes humor can be an escape hatch out of difficult emotions. It felt like you resisted that. You could have—you're a funny person and I'm sure you could have said lots of quips and witty things. But it seems like you resisted them because you're like, "No, I need to stay in this moment and I'm not going to take the escape hatch." MAGGIE SMITH: It's just not that kind of book. I think I could have maybe written a funny book. Well, maybe not that year. I was not in a place to have written a funny book. Maybe I could write the funny book now. But it's something even, and I write about this, it's something even my therapist notices, that whenever I'm telling a particularly painful story or talking about something painful, I laugh. It's so bad, I have to laugh. Like, can you believe that happened? It is that sort of emotional escape hatch, where you can't let yourself look it straight in the eye and go there. It was important for me to do that. BLAIR HODGES: Well, I'm looking forward to your sequel to this book, You Can Make this Place Hilarious. [laughter] MAGGIE SMITH: I know! I wrote a book called Keep Moving. Then after that I thought maybe the next book is just like, Sit Down, or Rest Up, you know? [laughter]   BLAIR HODGES: That's Maggie Smith. We're talking about the book, You Could Make this Place Beautiful. She's an incredible author, and as she mentioned, also wrote a book called Keep Moving, which is a lot more like, keep moving. It's got your happy aphorisms and more motivational stuff. I think pairing these books is a good idea.   BEING HAUNTED (33:18)   BLAIR HODGES: I wanted to talk briefly about being haunted. You kept the house you lived with your family and your partner there, you wanted to keep the house so badly. But it means you live in a haunted house of sorts, in a haunted city. You drive places and see where you went out to eat, or you see where this thing happened, or that thing happened. Then in your house, all the things that happened there. You mention how—you don't put it in this way, but this is what came to mind, that divorce is kind of marriage by another means, especially if you have kids. I mean the relationship has to continue logistically, also in your memory, so divorce is a hard kind of marriage by other means in this hauntedness you describe throughout the book. MAGGIE SMITH: I still live basically in my hometown. It's always been that way. I see people from different stages of my life all the time. I see places that meant things to me all the time. I live in the house I lived in when I was married. My kids are still here. That was never going to change. One of the commitments I've made is keeping my kids' life as untouched by all of this as humanly possible, which is laughable because it's not untouched at all. I mean, it sort of napalmed everything, but the house is still here, and we're still here, and our neighbors are still the same, and they're still in their schools, and they still see the same people all the time, and we still walk to the farmers market. It's important to me to provide as much stability as possible for them. What that means for me is not being able to get that "fresh start" so many people want after a relationship ends, where you want to leave that part of your life behind and move onto something else. When you've lived in the same place for forty years you don't get to do that. You're taking one for the team, but that's what being a parent is. It's taking one for the team over and over and over. To be honest, on one hand it's difficult because there are a lot of memories. On the other hand, I don't think I would have thrived through this challenging time without my community. I don't think that would have been possible if we'd been living someplace else. BLAIR HODGES: Right, like your first lonely solo Christmas when neighbors were coming by and dropping stuff off on Christmas morning. MAGGIE SMITH: It's ridiculous how kind people are to me. People look out for me so much. My family is here. We have Sunday dinners every week. People have asked if it's weird publishing a memoir and having so many people know about your life and then you're walking the streets knowing people are looking at you, maybe knowing more about you than you know about them. It doesn't actually feel that strange. I feel very held here. I feel really supported here. BLAIR HODGES: You could make “this place” beautiful. “This place” means so many things, but I feel like in the book it also means the literal place—that house, which it's so kickass that you bought it. It's yours. It felt really empowering that you were able to do that. Reclaim it as yours. MAGGIE SMITH: The most terrifying part of the divorce other than being on my own was, where are we going to go? Being able to stay in this house, and that was thanks to the book Keep Moving, being able to stay in this house, and being able to provide that for my kids was something I didn't think I was going to be able to do as a poet. It has been really empowering. It's a good way to think of it. It's a double-edged sword. Yes. On one hand, it's a haunted house. Yes, my ex-husband's handwriting is in some of the cookbooks. But on the other hand, we're here and we're still standing.   AFTERLIFE OF A BOOK (37:39)   BLAIR HODGES: I love that. Do you have any favorite criticisms of the book? Something where you're like, "Oh, that's really interesting," or have you tried to ignore any of that kind of stuff? MAGGIE SMITH: I don't think people really ignore it. If fifty people say something nice about your book and one person says something mean, that mean thing will live rent free in your head forever. I think that's just what it is to be human. I try not to tune in too much or put too much stock into either criticism or praise because both can be dangerous. Too much praise can make you complacent and not make you challenge yourself to do better. You're competing against yourself when you're a writer more than you're competing against other people. Most of the criticisms of the book I anticipated. I anticipated people would say, "Why are you airing your dirty laundry?" Which is why that's a question I posed to myself in the book. I anticipated that people would say, "Oh my gosh, aren't you worried about your kids reading this someday?" I anticipated some people not liking the meta aspect of the book or the direct address to the reader. I made those decisions anyway because it's my book. Those people can do things their way if they want to. BLAIR HODGES: I imagine when people meet with you who have read the book—Most of the time if you're going to a reading or something, people enjoy the book. You get to see a lot of different positive reactions. There's so much in the book that a lot of different things could resonate with a lot of different people. There were so many pages I marked, like, I want to ask her about this, I want to ask her about this. But time is limited. There was way more than I could possibly cover, but I saw on Instagram you're celebrating the year anniversary of this book coming out. It's heading into paperback now. You said this book has sparked meaningful life-changing conversations. Maybe before we go, talk about the afterlife of the book as it continues in your conversations. Maybe an example of a meaningful life-changing discussions you've been able to have because of the book. MAGGIE SMITH: Book tour is always an opportunity to do that because I get to go to different cities and sit down with different writers and hear their questions and have a conversation about big life stuff with them. We end up talking about not just divorce, but all kinds of things. We end up talking about patriarchy. We end up talking about parenting. We end up talking about memory and hometowns, and family and secrets, and silence and all kinds of things. Depending on who I'm talking to, that conversation takes a different shape and different texture and different color. If someone wanted to follow me like the Grateful Dead on book tour and come to all of my events for the paperback, they would be witnessing five or six different conversations because they're all so personal. Some of the most meaningful moments I get to have around this book are talking to readers. It's sitting at the signing table and having people come up and hand me a card, or hand me a crystal, or hand warmers they knitted me, a little something, or just to say “I gave this to my mom,” or “my best friend really needed this,” or “I wish I had this when I was going through my divorce twenty years ago.” Something that happens with memoirs when you share a lot of yourself, it inspires or encourages other people to share a little bit about their stories with you too. That's been a beautiful point of connection with readers.   FORGIVENESS (41:48)   BLAIR HODGES: I really hope people who haven't had a chance to check out this book, check it out. It's called You Could Make this Place Beautiful. There's so much we didn't mention, like the fact your husband wound up with Pinecone. I don't know if he's still with Pinecone or not, but that at least happened. He moved out of state, which was earth shattering for you, and how that disconnected him from the kids. There's a ton of stuff we didn't cover, but I thought we would close with having you read a piece on page 302. We started off with a "Some People Will Ask" piece and I thought it would be good to cap it off with a "Some People Will Ask" piece. MAGGIE SMITH: Some people will ask, “You say you want to forgive. Have you?” Someone will ask that, I'm sure, because I ask myself all the time. How do I answer? I could say it's difficult to forgive someone who hasn't expressed remorse. I could counter with questions. Why do I need to forgive someone who doesn't seem to be sorry? What if forgiveness doesn't need to be the goal? The goal is the wish, peace. Can there be peace without forgiveness? How do you heal when there is an open wound that is being kept open, a scab always being picked until it bleeds again. I could say this is my task, seeking peace, knowing the wound may never fully close. “Forgiveness is complicated. To be at peace I think what I need is acceptance. I accept it."   REGRETS, CHALLENGES, & SURPRISES! (43:04)   BLAIR HODGES: That's Maggie Smith, reading from the book You Could Make this Place Beautiful. There's always a segment at the end of these episodes called “Regrets, Challenges, & Surprises.” It's where I ask people about anything they would change about the book now that it's out, what the hardest part about writing it was, or what the most surprising thing was. You've touched on some of these already, but before we go if you have anything to say about regrets, challenges, and surprises, we'll close there. MAGGIE SMITH: I don't think I have any regrets about the way I wrote the book. Surprises? Honestly, I think the reception has been surprising. I did not expect it to be a New York Times bestseller. It's an Ohio poet's memoir. No one was more surprised about that than me. I think I was folding laundry—literally—when my agent called to tell me I made the list. So that was certainly surprising. BLAIR HODGES: And you had two of your favorite songwriters write songs based on your book, too! MAGGIE SMITH: Crazy! Challenges? Fear. I think that's probably whether it's a named challenge or an unnamed challenge, I think that's one of the challenges for all of us. Fear of failure, fear of exposure, fear of litigation, fear of falling short, fear of not making the thing you think you want to build in your mind. It's like the Instagram fail where you try to make the cake based on the beautiful unicorn cake you see, and then it's like, "Nailed it!" And it looks like it's melting off to the side. No one wants to make something that doesn't become the shining image in your mind you think you're making. Fear is always the challenge, and the goal is to overcome that. BLAIR HODGES: The goal is to “keep moving,” as a wise person once said in a book you can also pick up at your favorite local retailer! [laughter] Thanks a ton, Maggie. This has been great. I loved your book. I truly, truly did. I hope people check it out. Thanks for taking time to be on this little show. MAGGIE SMITH: It's my pleasure. Thank you. BLAIR HODGES: Thanks for listening. Special thanks to Camille Messick, my wonderful transcript editor. Thanks to David Ostler, who sponsored this first group of transcripts. I'm looking for more transcript sponsors, these aren't free so help me out! My email address is blair at firesidepod dot org. You can also contact me with questions or feedback about any episode. There's a lot more to come on Family Proclamations. And here's the moment where I do the thing you hear on so many podcasts: Ask you to rate and review the show in Apple Podcasts of in Spotify! Let me know what you think about it so far. Here's a new 5-star review from "Fan of the Sun," and check out the detail here: "I have really enjoyed the variety of books and subjects that have been covered so far. I have been able to incorporate some valuable aspect from each episode into my personal life. Blair is a fantastic interviewer who knows the material and asks engaging questions. He digs deep, yet is able to give the listeners a well-rounded overview." Love that. It's my goal: to go wide but also dig down deep. Thanks fan of the sun, and I imagine that you've already recommended the show to a friend too because you know that's the number one way that people hear about podcasts is through a friend. Thanks to Mates of State for providing our theme song. Family Proclamations is part of the Dialogue Podcast Network. I'm Blair Hodges, and we'll see you next time.

They grew up together and now run a production company. They are contending with the growing pains of transitioning from best friends to coworkers and the challenges of running, essentially, a family business. Esther helps them find the complementarity in their roles and see their story as growing and developing even in the face of challenges. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Friendships are the cornerstones of our lives, but navigating them can be tricky! In this episode, we explore the world of female friendships with Danielle Bayard Jackson, a friendship coach and national speaker. Danielle, speaks about her new book "Fighting for Our Friendships," and shares her expertise on the science of female platonic connections. If you're ready to equip yourself with the tools to build strong, lasting bonds with the amazing women in your life, this episode is for you! In this episode we discuss:How to determine if a friendship is worth repairing, or releasingHow to navigate complicated dynamics in friend groups of three What does it mean to be a true "girl's girl"?And the age-old question: Is it okay to share your friends' secrets with your partner?Hit our Homegirl Hotline…we'd love to hear from you! Call or Text us at (310) 363-1067 for advice, to share the things you're proud of, or any gems you think we'd enjoy. Watch video on YoutubeSupport us on Patreon | Get Bravado bonus content + special discounts!Shop our Merch here!Our Sponsors:* Check out Chime: chime.com/BRAVADO* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BRAVADO for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BRAVADO for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out My Life in a Book and use my code BRAVADO for a great deal: * Check out NPR: npr.org* Check out Rosetta Stone and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.rosettastone.com/* Check out The Wonderful Company: https://www.wonderfulpistachios.com/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-black-girl-bravado1502/donationsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Did my friend, Wendy, and I actually grow apart or was it something else? The first conversation with Wendy left me speechless...and with lots of unanswered questions. So, I asked her to come back for another conversation so we could dig a bit deeper. In this episode, we explore grief, depression, and how important it is to literally be there for your friends.

We often hear about people growing apart in relationships. But, growing back together? These stories are few and far between, but they do exist. Wendy and I were the best of friends in high school, then we went our separate ways, but now we're back and better than ever. This is our story.

This week we're going airing our dirty laundry, about what we disagree on behind closed door. We spill the tea on:

Having friendships that last looks different in every season. In today's episode we are diving deep on what it looks like to be a healthy friend and have a healthy friendship. We tap into our experiences with friendships and struggles, how to make Godly friend and be one, friends in different seasons, growing apart , dealing with gossip and comparison in friendships and so much more! We pray this episode blesses you!If you feel led to sow in our ministry: Cash-app $Heavenlybondpod Zelle: Heavenlybondpod@gmail.comLISTEN ON SPOTIFY:HeavenlybondpodListen on APPLE PODCAST: Heavenlybondpod Follow us on our socials: (Instagram & TikTok) @ Realthase4 @ Melodyslife@ Heavenlybondpod

First I have a life update about something TRULY shocking that happened to me over the weekend, and I go through your stories of things men have lied to you about! Then I get into Head Noise where I answer your questions. In today's episode we've got two really opposite topics! My husband and I are in out mid 20s and have been together since our late 20s. His family are very close with him. I have recently realised that I have always put his needs above mine – his personality has become my personality. I want to do so much more, experience the world and step outside my comfort zone. I want to put off having kids for a while and he doesn't accept or understand it. I want change and he is so happy and content without change. We're growing apart and I don't know what to do. I've cheated on my husband with someone I had a huge connection with. We've ended it now as we are both married and decided we didn't want to leave our partners for each other. Now that it is fully ended I don't feel like I need to tell my husband as our relationship has really improved. I would just be unburdening my conscience to ruin lives, when I've already shut down that cheating relationship and am moving forward with my life. How do I alleviate the feelings of guilt that are clouding my moving forward. LINKS If you want me to answer your question just email me at info@dyfmpod.com Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG  Follow @alexispredez on IG   Follow @listnrentertainment on IG  CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez       Executive Producer & Editor:  Elise CooperDigital Producer:  Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh  Find more great podcasts like this at www.listnr.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Thomas and Lysandra talk growth. We all should be growing in every area of our lives, but what can we do to ensure that we are growing together instead of growing apart? To watch the full video go subscribe to our YouTube channel. To share your story send an email to info@familymeeting.org or call 904-257-3062 to ask your questions and receive a reply on a future episode. Want a more meaningful conversation with Thomas and Lysandra? Join our monthly members only coaching call now!

Does social media distort the reality of war or bring us closer than ever to it? Would the NATO alliance hold in case of an incursion in Northern Finland? Is such an incursion likely? Is there a significant chance of the US not guaranteeing European security in the longer term, as it has before? These are some of the many questions we had the honor to ask Ben Hodges, a retired three star general in the United States Armed Forces, as well as the former commanding general of the United States Army Europe. I hope you enjoy the episode. --- ▶️ Jaksot videon kera Youtubesta: http://www.youtube.com/c/Futucastpodcast

In today's episode, Jeanine talks ALL about friendship... Why are friendships so hard and the solution to it. We hope you enjoy this! This episode covers: - Loneliness - How to be a better friend - Growing apart - Conflict - Friends for different seasons ORDER MY BOOK where I talk ALL about this. JOIN OUR PATREON! YAY! 2 extra J&K podcast plus a live bible study once a month! SPONSORS: Good Ranchers: Go to Goodranchers.com and use code HEALTHY to claim over 25lbs of free chicken today! 2.25lbs of pre-trimmed chicken breasts in each order for free! AG1: Try AG1 and get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D3+K2 AND 5 free AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase exclusively at DRINKAG1.COM/HEALTHY. Follow us on Instagram! Happy and Healthy: https://www.instagram.com/HappyandHealthyPodcast/ Jeanine: https://www.instagram.com/jeanineamapola/ Jeanine and Kaleb: https://www.instagram.com/jeanineandkaleb/ Follow us on TikTok! Happy and Healthy: https://www.tiktok.com/@happyandhealthypodcast Jeanine: https://www.tiktok.com/@jeanineamapola Tags: jeanine amapola ,happy and healthy, christian podcast, self help podcast,christian podcast for women, jeanine and kaleb, Jeanine amapola podcast, podcast for Christians, christian podcasts for girls, christian girl ,becoming happy and healthy, jeanine and kaleb ward, friendship, how to make friends in your twenties, making friends in your 20s, how to be a good friend, how to make friends, loneliness, friendship advice, how to overcome loneliness Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode #804 In a world where routine and monotony can wear down the strongest of bonds, "Grow Together by Growing Apart: Personal Development as the Key to Saving Your Marriage" presents an enlightening perspective on rekindling the spark in your relationship. Doug Holt sheds light on an often-overlooked aspect of marriage—personal growth. In this episode, Doug delves into the crux of marital stagnancy and the transformative power of self-improvement. With compelling anecdotes and practical advice, he navigates the journey of self-discovery and the ripple effect it has on one's partner and the marriage as a whole. From addressing the dangers of the empty cup syndrome to exploring avenues for personal fulfillment, Doug offers a roadmap for reigniting passion and companionship in marriage. Listeners will be introduced to the Activation Method, a beacon for men seeking to elevate themselves and, by extension, their relationships. Doug's conversation is a testament to the idea that when one partner embarks on a journey of personal development, it sets a foundation for mutual growth and renewed connection. Discover how to break free from the cycle of resentment, enhance your value within the marriage, and embark on a shared journey towards a fulfilling and dynamic relationship. This episode is not just a podcast; it's a call to action for anyone looking to transform their life and marriage through the power of personal growth. Join Doug Holt as he guides you through the essential steps to become the best version of yourself, for you and your partner. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

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Ever since I had the idea of starting a podcast, I knew who I wanted to do it with. Today I finally get to do so. This week I sit down with Amanda, my bestfriend since I was 12 years old. Today we talk about the ups and downs of friendship, and what its like being a girl. Free ways to make me smile: - rate the show on Spotify⭐ - send me a dm and let me know what you thought of this episode

We talk with Nathan about an email sent to the podcast (part two of one).  We process the changes in our relationship and the positive impact on our family.  We explore the good Jules has added, and confront the daydreaming to discuss what un-dissociating means - and how to do that without binary thinking.  We talk about the dynamics of Em and Dante, and how the good in our life now is from the hard work we did in the past.Write to the podcast HERE.Links provided in the podcast intro:The System Speak Website, where there's a button for donations to keep the podcast on-air, and you can offer a one-time donation to support the podcast or become an ongoing subscriber.  If you would like to support our efforts at sharing our story and fighting stigma about dissociative identity disorder, and educating the community and the world about trauma and dissociation, you can also donate to support the podcast HERE.Follow us on Patreon HERE for early access to updates, pictures, videos, and what's unfolding for us.You can JOIN THE COMMUNITY HERE, but due to an Apple issue, you must use a non-Apple device or non-Safari browser to join.  Once you have joined, it should work fine on any device.   Remember there are two steps: joining the community network itself, and then also choosing which groups to join.  Everything happens inside the groups!   Additional Zoom group events are optional.  We have peer support check-in groups, an art group, a lego group, movie groups, and social events.  Join us!  This is a non-clinical space for people with dissociative disorders.Content Note: Content on this website and in the podcasts is assumed to be trauma and/or dissociative related due to the nature of what is being shared here in general.  Content descriptors are generally given in each episode.  Specific trigger warnings are not given due to research reporting this makes triggers worse.  Please use appropriate self-care and your own safety plan while exploring this website and during your listening experience.  Natural pauses due to dissociation have not been edited out of the podcast, and have been left for authenticity.  While some professional material may be referenced for educational purposes, Emma and her system are not your therapist nor offering professional advice.  Any informational material shared or referenced is simply part of our own learning process, and not guaranteed to be the latest research or best method for you.  Please contact your therapist or nearest emergency room in case of any emergency.  This website does not provide any medical, mental health, or social support services. ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Sierra Schultzzie, Riayn Christina, & Paloma Malfavon chat long-distance friendships, being busy vs seeing your friends, and learning how to communicate needs in a friendship! Find Twenty Whatever on Other Podcast Platforms// Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCW7gxdcCY7rDteu3VRj7K3w Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1470690716 Google Podcasts: https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy9jNjFmODgwL3BvZGNhc3QvcnNz The Group Chat @ (917) 810-3045 for business inquires please contact: sierra@sixsevenmedia.com twentywhateverpod@gmail.com Thanks for listening!

Kelly Clements (Founder of The Entreprenewer and Author) helps her clients achieve greatness in their careers while creating deep meaningful connection with their most significant relationship- their partner.As a successful entrepreneur herself, Kelly understands wholeheartedly the demands of growing a business and the toll it can take on personal relationships. She shares invaluable strategies that are crucial for entrepreneurs looking to offset the demands of running a business while maintaining a fulfilling personal life.

Welcome to ‘That's what he said' where Dan and I will be answering your questions and sharing our thoughts and experiences navigating our relationship, businesses, being parents to two cherubs and the adventures and challenges that come along with   Connect with Dan @danielcolosi  Join our Emotional Intelligence Academy  Download our FREE EQ Cheatsheet here   Follow our new page EQ Movement where we'll be dropping daily EQ education and tips  FREE Emotional Intelligence FB group @eqmovement  Let's stay connected  Facebook: @marciamiatke     Instagram: @marciamiatke     LinkedIn: @marciamiatke     Twitter: @marciamiatke   

Balaji Srinivasan returns to go deeper into his theory of the Social Lens. Balaji, Erik, and Dan discuss the tactics the Gray tribe can use to create, identify, grow, and scale their power, how the tribal lens maps to geopolitics, the Blue playbook through the last several decades of world history, and more. We're proudly sponsored by Vanta. Get $1000 off Vanta with https://www.vanta.com/zen Note: This is an unfiltered discussion that functions as an early draft for an essay and video Balaji plans to release soon. RECOMMENDED PODCAST: Hosts Nolan Church and Kelli Dragovich have been through it all, the highs and the lows – IPOs, layoffs, executive turnover, board meetings, culture changes, and more. Together they host HR Heretics with a lineup of industry vets and experts, diving deep into the kind of leadership-level strategy that often happens behind closed doors. Check out the first episode with the architect of Netflix's culture deck Patty McCord. https://link.chtbl.com/hrheretics TIMESTAMPS: (00:00) - Episode Preview (02:20) - You can found a tribe just like you can found a startup (10:30) - Exit vs Reform (16:42) - Sponsors: Vanta, NetSuite (19:05) - Any statement can be problematized (29:00) - Can you presume societal stability? Not if you're thinking like a CEO (34:00) - Strength of network effects (52:20) - Inequality has decreased (55:15) - Japanese vs Chinese economic model for innovation (01:07:45) - Asia is rising, the US is in relative decline (01:30:15) - How Elon Musk, Mark Zuckerberg, and Garry Tan respond to Blue or reform it from within (01:38:00) - The Market for Revolutionaries: Myanmar, Hungary, Czechoslovakia, Afghanistan, Iraq, Hong Kong and China (01:48:00) - Blue is a business model (01:57:00) - Charity is dependency. Investment is independence. (02:06:00) - Who defines democracy, and where is the term going? (02:27:00) - Grays attract the smartest defectors (02:36:30) - How the Gray territory gets built on land (02:49:49) - What is the highest belief and ideology of each tribe? (02:56:00) - Parallels with the Soviet Union and India (03:15:00) - Mapping the advantages to Blue and Gray (03:28:50) - How Gray beats Blue for control of cities (03:33:00) - Gray pride parade (03:40:00) - Winning the police (03:50:00) - How the Grays in San Francisco will organize themselves (03:55:30 - The power of Elon renaming Twitter (03:57:00) - Small business owners and the working class (04:00:00) - The CHAZ (Capitol Hill Autonomous Zone) in reverse (04:17:00) - AI will help expedite the Gray cause (04:20:00) - Can this really happen? SELECT LINKS: The Network State Conference in Amsterdam on October 30 : https://lu.ma/tnsconf Ronald Brownstein, America is Growing Apart, For Good https://www.theatlantic.com/politics/archive/2022/06/red-and-blue-state-divide-is-growing-michael-podhorzer-newsletter/661377/ X / Twitter @balajis (Balaji) @dwr (Dan) @eriktorenberg (Erik) @MOZ_Podcast SPONSORS: Vanta | NetSuite Are you building a business? If you're looking for SOC 2, ISO 27001, GDPR or HIPAA compliance, head to Vanta. Achieving compliance can actually unlock major growth for your company and build customer loyalty. Vanta automates up to 90% of Compliance work, getting you audit-ready in weeks instead of months and saving 85% of associated costs. Moment of Zen listeners get $1000 off at https://www.vanta.com/zen NetSuite has 25 years of providing financial software for all your business needs. More than 36,000 businesses have already upgraded to NetSuite by Oracle, gaining visibility and control over their financials, inventory, HR, eCommerce, and more. If you're looking for an ERP platform, head to NetSuite: http://netsuite.com/ZEN and download your own customized KPI checklist.

In this episode, Kelly shares some really important insights looking at some of the challenges business leaders face in maintaining healthy relationships and how to shift gears to avoid breakdown. If you'd like to join world-renowned Entrepreneurs at the next Genius Network Event or want to learn more about Genius Network, go to www.GeniusNetwork.com. Here's a glance at what you'll discover from Kelly in this episode:  Why the traits that make Entrepreneurs successful in business can show up as challenges in relationship How couples can navigate power struggles and offset the demands of growing a business and a relationship What the “Ambition Gap” is and how it can split couples apart and cause divorces (Here's how to avoid it…) Kelly shares the difference between the “Alpha”, the “Beta”, and the relationship between these two personalities How to transform a controlling, exhausting relationship into a healthy, engaging, connected relationship Experience The Omega Relationship: A perfect balance between healthy “Alpha” and healthy “Beta” The key to preserving half your net worth, multiplying your productivity, and having a healthy love life

Happy Monday! Today on the Higher Battle podcast, we are talking about all things friendships. How to make new friends, leave toxic friendships, handling friendships growing apart, and more! Let's work through it together! Enjoy! Let's be besties: Payton's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/payfrantz/?hl=en Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@payfrantz?lang=en Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/paytonfrantz Higher Battle Shop: https://www.higherbattle.org/ Higher Battle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/higherbattle/?hl=en #paytonfrantz #christianpodcast #higherbattle #friendships --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/higher-battle/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/higher-battle/support

Hunter Gardner and Shalewa Sharpe share stories about growing distant from somebody that they used to know. • Pitch us your story! risk-show.com/submissions • Support RISK! through Patreon at patreon.com/risk or make a one-time donation: paypal.me/riskshow • Get tickets to RISK! live shows: risk-show.com/live • Get the RISK! Book and shop for merch: risk-show.com/shop • Take our storytelling classes: thestorystudio.org • Hire Kevin Allison as a coach or get personalized videos: kevinallison.com To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

PLEASE WELCOME TRYING NOT TO CARE'S VERY FIRST GUEST....LAUREN RAYMOND!!! Lauren and I talk about our experience with female friendships and friendship breakups. In today's episode we dive into why we think female friendships are hard, expectations and non non-negotiables, growing apart from friends and friendship icks. This episode is sponsored by ZocDoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/TRYINGNOT and download the Zocdoc app for FREE This episode is sponsored by Tinder - On Tinder, it starts with a Swipe. Download Tinder today and explore all of the possibilities for yourself. https://apps.apple.com/us/app/tinder-dating-new-people/id547702041 ♡MY SOCIALS♡ Instagram: personal, podcast TikTok: personal, podcast Youtube Revolve, Amazon Storefront + more: LTX TNTC COMMUNITY GROUPCHAT: https://app.geneva.com/invite/4939298b-477b-4d4b-a32a-0b82431273bf If you want to ask me questions, need advice or have any episode ideas, submit here: TNTC Community Google Form Follow Lauren!  https://www.instagram.com/itslaurenraymond/?hl=en https://www.tiktok.com/@itslaurenraymond?lang=en

Every entrepreneur needs this book on their desk. In today's episode, we dive deep into the invaluable insights found in "Grow Your Business Without Growing Apart" by Kelly Clements. Join us as we explore the challenges faced by growth-oriented entrepreneurs in balancing business success and personal relationships. Discover how author Kelly Clements addresses the common Alpha dynamic and provides couples with essential tools to overcome power struggles and strengthen their bond. If you're seeking a healthy work-life balance while nurturing meaningful connections, this episode is a must-listen. Get ready to go deeper into this important topic and unlock the secrets to growing your business without growing apart. Grab Kelly's book here: https://www.amazon.com/Grow-Business-Without-Growing-Apart/dp/1961098024/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1686263814&sr=8-3  

Sibling Advicery is back, answering your questions once more!! Bob and Monét offer advice on finding queer romance in high school, how to build a presence on TikTok, and the etiquette surrounding friendships that fizzle out. This holiday, give one annual membership and get one free by going to https://MASTERCLASS.com/RIVALRY. Want to see exclusive Sibling Rivalry Bonus Content? Head over to www.patreon.com/siblingrivalrypodcast to be the first to see our latest Sibling Rivalry Podcast Videos! @BobTheDragQueen @MonetXChange Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You come home after a long day, you see your partner, but you don't say anything more than “hi” to each other. Something hilarious happened at lunch, but you don't see the point in sharing it with your partner. You sit down to dinner, but have nothing to say to one another. You find yourself thinking, “How did this happen? Is this normal? This can't be what a relationship is supposed to be like…” Well guess what? Not only has 90% of our Instagram audience admitted to growing apart in a relationship, but 1 in 3 of them are going through it right now. Growing apart is so scary. You can't understand how this happened, especially because you used to be so close. You wonder if you've already drifted too far to fix it. You're afraid of the possibility of breaking up. If you've ever found yourself feeling more alone with your partner than without, or if you miss them even when they are right next to you, then you HAVE to listen to this episode. Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode74 Links and Resources: Check out our 30 Day Connection Challenge at Connection Challenge Episode 38: You Want Connection, Your Partner Wants Sex. Who Comes First? Thanks Cozy Earth. Go to CozyEarth.com and get 35% off sitewide when you use the code PILLOWTALKS