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The Back Channel with Kris Wilder
Be yourself is bad lazy advice. You know that question that you layout for people, “What should I do?” You know when you're looking at possibly a date or a job interview or important moment. “What should I do?” You are seeking information. You are seeking counsel. “How can I make this moment better?” Just … Continue reading "Be Yourself Is Bad Lazy Advice" The post Be Yourself Is Bad Lazy Advice appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Secret societies don't care about you. A fun little observation and it is that The Secret teachings of the Illuminati, the Rosicrucian's, the Mason, Skull and Bones, the Trilateral Commission, generally the occult mysticism. And from the Mike Myers movie So I Married an Axe Murder, The Pentaverant, with Colonel Sanders before he died. Secret … Continue reading "Secret Societies Don't Care About You" The post Secret Societies Don't Care About You appeared first on Kris Wilder.
The unique and special formula. A conversation with a friend regarding the Google Algorithm turned into an observation. The levels of interest and focus you freely give to the almighty Google prove you are not that special. We are all special except we are not. Amazon knows when you are ready to buy a … Continue reading "The Unique and Special Formula" The post The Unique and Special Formula appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Promising You an Easy Life. An easy life is something we desire, who doesn't want that? And it is the kind of life that results in an unedited, soft life. I would argue a trivial life. We can't escape the trauma the hardship of this life it is in the nature of our existence, it … Continue reading "Promising You an Easy Life" The post Promising You an Easy Life appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Craters of Improvement. We seek like-minded people. It feels good to get validating and to share similar ideas. We develop a tribe of sorts. But not a false tribe. As an example, your co-workers are a forced tribe. Your co-workers are constructed of people who meet the business needs and not yours. That is what … Continue reading "Craters of Improvement" The post Craters of Improvement appeared first on Kris Wilder.
I'll give my energy to this. The old saying, “You get what you focus on.” That's about thoughts, will, and intention manifesting into action. It's true. It's as true as the changing seasons the choice of where you put that energy is the way of your flow. It's the way that you go. The more … Continue reading "I'll Give My Energy to This" The post I'll Give My Energy to This appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Building by Doing Your Work. Recently I donated a car to a company to get a tax credit and to easily get rid of my car it seemed like a good idea. The events lead me to need to contact them to make sure that they had received the car. The response was, “Do you … Continue reading "Building by Doing Your Work" The post Building by Doing Your Work appeared first on Kris Wilder.
The Robert's Rule of News is about the speed of news. Recently the actress Tanya Roberts died and she died twice. That is a case of fast reporting, and being the 1st to have the hot take in play here. The story is the actress Tanya Roberts died. Then it came out that she wasn't … Continue reading "The Robert's Rule of News" The post The Robert's Rule of News appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Your energy is key now “In these times.” That's what the radio announcers and broadcasters like to say. “In these uncertain times,” or “These unprecedented times.” Yeah, yeah, yeah, heard a million times. Your Energy is Key Now, Right Now, More Than Ever The question is, “What do I do?” “What do we do in … Continue reading "Your Energy is Key Now" The post Your Energy is Key Now appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Custom built minds and bodies. Our bodies and minds are plastic or malleable. The body can be adjusted and is adjusting to lift massive weights through repetition practice and diet. Eddie Hall the English strong man was a swimmer in his youth and then he changed his direction. The serial killer Ted Bundy lost weight … Continue reading "Custom Built Minds and Bodies" The post Custom Built Minds and Bodies appeared first on Kris Wilder.
There is a saying that goes, “Letting somebody live rent-free in your head.” That saying means a person has long since left the situation, but you continue to go over what happened. The saying is attributed to Ann Landers who wrote in an advice column for 56 years. They Are Gone The idea is that … Continue reading "Rent Free In Your Head" The post Rent Free In Your Head appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Circumstances and Fate in An Active Light. “If only this would be like that,” “If the situation would just break this way.” “What we need to have is the stars align yeah that will make everything right.” Well, there's the crux of the situation. There's the crux of the circumstances and fate. Standing around and … Continue reading "Circumstances and Fate in an Active Light" The post Circumstances and Fate in an Active Light appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Two distinct roles in your life. One is the role of citizen the other resident. These two positions result in how you hold yourself in your community. Resident v. Citizen A resident is a person living in a place, that's pretty much what they do they live in that place. Done. A citizen has rights … Continue reading "Two Distinct Roles in Your Life" The post Two Distinct Roles in Your Life appeared first on Kris Wilder.
The Menu of Life. Life is likely not going to go as planned. Your life well, it does what it does and as much as you plan, things change. As much as you are an excellent planner, setting out that trajectory, establishing those goals, implementing them one after another successively. As you are moving towards … Continue reading "The Menu of Life" The post The Menu of Life appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Learning agenda. Learning with an agenda is predisposing yourself to a conclusion. This type of learning serves a purpose but it also narrows our lives. We create silos of knowledge and the desire to learn and be entertained. We create silos of knowledge. In those silos, we have a predisposition. We have a planned outcome … Continue reading "Learning Agenda" The post Learning Agenda appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Light the Lighthouse. Terror, fear, the pain they create confusion and then we go into survival mode. That's not new the survival mode, but here's a way to look at survival mode and how you might deal with it as somebody else is experiencing it. The Sub-Personality One way to look at this is as … Continue reading "Light The Lighthouse" The post Light The Lighthouse appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Whispers of defeat and crab pots. The story of the crab pot goes like this. A bunch of captured crabs are in a bucket and as one crab has made it to the rim of the bucket, about to escape it gets pulled back down by the other crabs. The truth is that this is … Continue reading "Whispers of Defeat" The post Whispers of Defeat appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Victim times three. The title sounds like rejection or oddly an acceptance of what is happening, but in a strange and odd way. “This is not happening,” or I am a victim of a certain circumstance is not an attractive look. Business Destroyed Recently my karate dojo got flooded. The dojo was destroyed. The unit … Continue reading "Victim Times Three" The post Victim Times Three appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Improve my life. The idea of improvement of getting better is not inherent in all of us. We do what we need to do and not much more. The caveman Grock needed a better smashing rock so what he did was he fashioned a new tool, enter the rock on a stick. The rock on … Continue reading "Improve My Life" The post Improve My Life appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Cultivating a life. Are you a cultivating person or are you something other? Are you seeking change in your life or are you letting it pass by? The post Cultivating a Life, an Excellent Life appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Putting your world in place is important but I would argue that it's essential. The post The World Prefers You're Organized appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Mistakes are part of life The post Lack of Effort is an Error appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Monotony should be used The post Monotony is a Large Part of Life appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Quote Sitting, that's a term I just made up but I'm going to show you how it works and I think you're going to find value in it. On any social program any social platform you're going to find quotes that are tossed out like chicken feed cast on the ground with little thought and … Continue reading "Quote Sitting" The post Quote Sitting appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Common specialness is wonderful. It cost nothing to be decent. Be kind because is who you are, it's a great policy. The idea of being kind because it's who you are is only half of the formula of this common specialness. When you are kind because it is who you are it turns into a … Continue reading "Common Specialness" The post Common Specialness appeared first on Kris Wilder.
The intrusive evil of the media The post Intrusive Evil of The Media appeared first on Kris Wilder.
The executive mind and how you should engage your world. The post Corner Office appeared first on Kris Wilder.
We tell ourselves fallen stories, negative self-talk. Sometimes these stories are ego feeds, they're a great story about how wonderful. That we the best and we're pretty darn good at what we're doing. You're Not Good Enough Then of course there are those other stories, those fallen stories, negative self-talk, where you're not good enough. … Continue reading "Fallen Stories, Negative Self-Talk" The post Fallen Stories, Negative Self-Talk appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Sprinters v. Hikers is one way to look at information. There is a quote from Arthur Schopenhauer, the German philosopher, and this is not an exact quote, but he relates all truth passes through three stages. The first stage is the idea is ridiculed, secondly, the idea is violently opposed. Thirdly the idea is accepted … Continue reading "Sprinters v. Hikers" The post Sprinters v. Hikers appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Consistency is greater than quantity and its greater than quality. Morning TV shows, you know, those Good Morning AM Sunshine, they are tripe. But those shows are there every morning at the same time with the same rhythm. Their power is not in the quality or the quantity or what they provide regarding their content. … Continue reading "Consistency in Life" The post Consistency in Life appeared first on Kris Wilder.
These stories can be a good thing or they could be lies but we're not going to delve into the idea of the lies right now we're going to stick to the stories. Stories are how we communicate and make experiences stick. Stories are how we make ideas work, how we make them spreadable, and … Continue reading "Stories We Tell" The post Stories We Tell appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Used to express an obsession with something, an object, to a product, is “I'm addicted.” “I'm Addicted,” is used to share with someone the idea of a product, a movie series, again, about anything as being so good that it creates a mental and physical dependency. Giving Away Free Will The idea that it's a … Continue reading "I'm Addicted" The post I'm Addicted appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Ladies and Gentleman, those are earned titles. Recently you may have noticed that the world changed. Along with that change came stress, fear, terror, anxiety. The purveyors of this fear are relentless, it's their job to spread terror and fear. They want to get clicks and eyeballs and create a sense of ambient anxiety. Tell … Continue reading "Ladies and Gentlemen" The post Ladies and Gentlemen appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Uncertainty is what is happening now. The world is on fire according to the news of the day. If it's not one thing that the world is doing to destroy your life, your world, your family, your fitness, your health, it's another thing. The phrase that is being used today or the versions of it … Continue reading "Uncertainty" The post Uncertainty appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Cherokee story is how it is attributed, who told it, but I suspect the story's origin is lost to time. But the Cherokee story is about a grandson who was wrestling with a couple of ideas. The grandson went and talked with his grandfather to try to get the situation resolved and the grandfather said, … Continue reading "Cherokee Story" The post Cherokee Story appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Fast zombie. They are part of our world. It is no secret that mayhem and chaos sell, fear sells, it sells all the time. One of the classic methods of selling fear is the horror movie. It's a genre all to itself with monsters that have changed over time. The monsters used to be the … Continue reading "Fast Zombie" The post Fast Zombie appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Gift eyes see the world differently. Unsatisfied with the place you are is not an uncommon thing to have happen. The dissatisfaction is a motivator. It's a change, or it gets you off your mark, gets you going it's not a bad thing to have. But sometimes we become overly oriented externally. Too much on … Continue reading "Gift Eyes" The post Gift Eyes appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Self-mastery is often about viewpoint. “I haven't had a haircut.” “My business is closed.” “I don't have a job, or a business anymore.” “My movements are restricted.” All these things are taking place right now. They can be seen as an opportunity to relax into the oblivion or to, “Seize the Day,” to quote that … Continue reading "Self-mastery" The post Self-mastery appeared first on Kris Wilder.
For the win is often swimming upstream. Swimming upstream is a metaphor for the difficult task. Something that is present and constantly pushing against us. The fact is that those things exist. Philip K. Dick Had Something to Say One of my favorite quotes is from the science fiction author Philip K. Dick and he … Continue reading "For The Win" The post For The Win appeared first on Kris Wilder.
We all need an Icon of Destiny. We need icons. We need those people that have come before, we need those people who espouse truth. we need that person who has risen when life leveled them. False Icons The false icons, of course, are the ones that don't build, that don't build a positive future. … Continue reading "Icon of Destiny" The post Icon of Destiny appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Think Write is a means of ordering yourself. With stress increasing, intelligence gets reduced. Often in stressful situations, choices are made that are not good. Stress can create headaches, increased depression, heartburn, create shallow breathing, blood sugar spikes, and many other things. Excited State This excited state of stress is not good for the body. … Continue reading "Think Write" The post Think Write appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Scars, we likely have them on our body. I've got more than a few. One from a barbwire fence. Another from gravel being dug out of my arm. A good one on my arm that shows itself when I've got a little bit of a tan. An excellent one on my back from a motorcycle … Continue reading "Scars" The post Scars appeared first on Kris Wilder.
What happens is important, but let's talk about how you deal with what happens to you. It's an old saying. It can go back to religions, schools of thought, but ultimately what is being said is you're not in control. The world's going to do what it's going to do. Oh, you think you can … Continue reading "What Happens" The post What Happens appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Loss and change can be horrible. It can be traumatic and it can be soul-crushing. Think of the greatest loss you could experience in your world. The permanent painful loss. Now step back from that moment because thus the laws and change I can't address and I wouldn't try. However, a wet finger to the … Continue reading "Loss and Change" The post Loss and Change appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Grateful for can be a pattern. The human brain focuses on problems. Abnormalities, broken patterns, it's a built-in system, it's a mechanism that has allowed us to become the most successful species that we can imagine. You could call this the nature side of the brain, the animal, the pre-loaded functions, a pattern. Or you … Continue reading "Grateful For" The post Grateful For appeared first on Kris Wilder.
IDK (I Don't Know) as it's said in the text world. I Don't Know Can Be A Statement of Honesty I don't know can be a statement of honesty. “I don't know where the increase in the budget is going to come from.” In the context of business and as a tool, yes it's an … Continue reading "IDK" The post IDK appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Bruised People. We all have our heroes the people that we admire in their attributes the things that attract us to them. Those elements of their personality are bright, like the proverbial moth to the flame. We are drawn to those attributes that the person possesses. As an example, I've always held Theodore Roosevelt in … Continue reading "Bruised People" The post Bruised People appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Crazy Catastrophe. There is this thing sweeping the world and evidently, we've lost your minds. I'm talking about The Corona virus and everybody is losing their minds the point of nausea. Sometimes it becomes difficult to sort out the true information. The information that's needed to make good choices. The run-on goods in stores for … Continue reading "Crazy Catastrophe" The post Crazy Catastrophe appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Brains v. Backbone. What's better to be a genius or to have a backbone? You know the consistency of life? Fiber, fortitude, guts, grit? Well, I have an opinion and I set out to find out if it was shared by people I know. Here's my unscientific poll and the answer to that question and … Continue reading "Brains v. Backbone" The post Brains v. Backbone appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Forgot and forgive. Hanging on to transgressions, errors, missteps, oversights, mistakes, and more is not a good idea. It is called, “Letting somebody live in your head rent-free.” It's, “Dying from the poison of the snake bite of revenge.” “Living in the past.” You can likely name a few other ways of describing this behavior. … Continue reading "Forgot and Forgive" The post Forgot and Forgive appeared first on Kris Wilder.
Not everyone is virtuous. I know it's not a popular belief right now. We want to assume goodwill and that everybody has our best interests at heart. That's not the way the world works. Virtuous People, Non-Virtuous People Here's an example. Willy Brandt (1913-1992) who was the chancellor of Germany had to resign in 1974 … Continue reading "Not Everyone is Virtuous" The post Not Everyone is Virtuous appeared first on Kris Wilder.