The Grown Folks Are Talking Podcast

A chance encounter with a parent spanking their child in public sparked a deep conversation about our own parenting journey. In this episode, we reflect on how our views on discipline have evolved over the years—acknowledging our past use of spanking and why we've shifted toward a different approach with our youngest child. While we believe in giving parents grace and avoiding snap judgments, we also recognize the importance of open discussions about discipline within relationships and why being wise when choosing a partner to have a family with is so important. Join us as we weigh in on Team Beat 'Em and Team Gentle Parenting. 

On this episode of The Grown Folks Are Talking, we're cutting through the noise and setting the record straight on DEI (Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion). With so much misinformation floating around in the headlines, it's time to talk about what DEI actually is—and more importantly, who truly benefits from it.   We're joined by special guest Leo Crimbley, a recruiter with firsthand experience in hiring practices and workplace diversity efforts. Leo breaks down the real purpose of DEI, dispels common myths, and shares what he sees behind the scenes when it comes to equitable hiring and opportunities.   If you're tired of the headlines twisting the truth or just want to better understand what DEI ACTUALLY means in practice, this is the conversation for you.  So... welcome to the table, have a seat, and get informed.   Link in our bio.  

In this heartfelt and humorous episode, we open up about reconnecting with our oldest child, who recently resurfaced after a period of no contact. We dive into the challenges of parenting an adult child still navigating a difficult season and the delicate balance of supporting her growth. Cris shares an embarrassing fact about her post-high school plans, including how her parents had to sit back and let her learn her lessons at 18. We also find humor in reminiscing about our first apartment's hilariously questionable decor choices. Tune in for an emotional, real, and relatable conversation about family, growth, and finding laughter even in life's messy moments.

As the new year begins, we're diving into the art of goal setting. In this episode, we share lessons learned from our past goal-setting failures and unpack the critical difference between simply setting a goal and creating a plan to achieve it. We'll explore the power of SMART Goals and some new strategies we're excited to try this year. Plus, we discuss how focusing on the year as a whole can lead to burnout and share tips for staying on track by breaking goals into manageable steps. Tune in to start your year with intention and a practical plan for success!

In this episode of The Grown Folks Podcast, we confront the heartbreaking reality of elderly abuse. After having a difficult discussion with our family over the holidays, we chat about recognizing the warning signs, advocating for our loved ones, and creating a safety net for the most vulnerable among us. We also explore why the elderly are often overlooked, leaving them at risk of predatory behavior by caregivers. This is a vital conversation about ensuring dignity, respect, and protection for our elders.

In this holiday-themed episode, we dive into the world of moms and the often unrealistic expectations they place on themselves during the festive season. From trying to create the perfect meal to ensuring everyone has the most magical experience, it's easy to lose sight of what really matters: slowing down and savoring the joy. We discuss practical ways to enjoy the holidays with less pressure and more connection. Whether it's simple family activities, embracing imperfections, or finding moments of calm amidst the chaos, this episode is packed with ideas to help you rediscover the season's magic without the stress. Plus, we take a heartwarming walk down memory lane, sharing stories of Christmases past. Remembering simpler times and holiday traditions helps remind us that the best memories often come from the smallest, most authentic moments. So grab a warm drink, take a deep breath, and join us as we give ourselves permission to let go of perfection and truly enjoy the holidays.

This week, we discuss emotional intimacy after stumbling across a Twitter thread claiming men are hiring sex workers just to have vulnerable conversations.  We go back and forth on how much emotion is too much and Joe refuses to believe that his wife wants to know everything about him.

Our post-election thoughts following the reelection of DJT.  

In this episode, we dive into the ongoing online conversation around Russell Wilson and Ciara's relationship and why it's sparked such a divide between men and women. From Russell's unabashed love for Ciara to his role as a supportive stepdad, he's labeled by some as “too soft,” while others argue Ciara hit the relationship jackpot. We unpack what this says about our expectations of masculinity, romance, and the double standards around emotional expression in relationships. Join us as we discuss why men's vulnerability often meets resistance, how views on step-parenting reveal deeper gender biases, and why women's choices to leave relationships that no longer serve them should be celebrated, not criticized. This episode is a fresh look at modern love, societal expectations, and the power of owning your happiness on your own terms.

Join us for an emotional and raw episode as we explore two thought-provoking clips that challenge our views on parenting. We start by unpacking the idea that sometimes, it's okay for kids to show disrespect—a notion that raises eyebrows but sparks essential conversations. Then, we tackle a powerful message about the importance of allowing children to face the consequences of their actions, even when it feels like jumping into the fire to save them. Cris opens up about the heart-wrenching reality of trying to guide a teenager off the metaphorical train tracks, breaking down in tears as Joe paints a vivid picture of that struggle. Their candid discussion reveals the complexities of love, responsibility, and letting go. As we wrap up the episode, we shift gears to share encouragement and support as the holiday season approaches, reminding ourselves that every parent's journey is unique and filled with both challenges and joy. Tune in for an episode that promises to resonate, inspire, and perhaps even shed a few tears.

In this episode, we dive deep into the connection between who you choose as a spouse and its impact on your mental health. We explore the ways a partner can influence your emotional well-being, and how to offer meaningful support when your loved one is going through a rough day. Plus, we discuss recognizing when it's more than just a bad day and could be a sign of deeper emotional struggles. Whether you're navigating relationship challenges or seeking advice on supporting your partner, this episode is packed with insights on maintaining both individual and shared mental wellness.

This episode explores the subtle but crucial difference between complacency and contentment. Cris opens up about her ongoing battle with the fear of becoming complacent, often making it hard for her to truly feel content. We discuss how striving for more can sometimes come at the cost of appreciating the present, and ask: Is it possible to seek growth while still embracing contentment? Join us as we dive deep into these contrasting mindsets, sharing personal stories and practical tips for finding a balance between the two.

In this episode, we delve into the complex and controversial case of Marcellus Williams, who was sentenced to death despite new evidence suggesting his innocence. We explore the broader implications of the death penalty, including racial bias, wrongful convictions, and the lasting impact on families. As we navigate this tough conversation, we also emphasize how local elections hold immense power over criminal justice policies and decisions that can mean life or death. Tune in to learn why your vote matters more than ever.

In this early morning episode, recorded before the sun even rose, we dive into the evolving dynamics of love languages in relationships. As time passes, the way we express and receive love can shift, and it's crucial to stay curious about your partner's needs. We explore how to learn and adapt to these changes, challenging couples to remain attentive and connected as their love grows and transforms. Whether you've been together for years or are just starting your journey, this episode is packed with insights on keeping your relationship thriving by speaking your partner's language.  

In this heartfelt episode, we dive deep into the personal evolution of parenting, sharing our journey of growth, reflection, and hard-earned lessons. We open up about the complexities of our relationship with our estranged daughter, exploring the emotional challenges, the impact on our family, and the road to healing.  We also discuss the unique dynamics of our relationships with our children's birth families, focusing on the love and support we have for our youngest daughter's birth mom, and the gratitude we feel for that connection and its positive impact on our family. Join us as we reflect on the past, confront our mistakes, and discuss how parenthood continues to shape who we are today.  

In this episode, we dive into the growing divide between older generations and Gen Z. From workplace culture clashes to concerns about inflation, we explore the reasons behind the younger generation's quickness to voice their frustrations. Cris steps up to defend Gen Z, arguing that their concerns are valid and a sign of progress. Meanwhile, Joe channels the spirit of a cranky old man on his porch, questioning whether these complaints are just youthful angst or something more. Tune in for a lively debate full of humor, insight, and a few good-natured grumbles!

In this episode, we dive into the often-debated topic of living at home well until you turn 30. Is it a smart financial move or a sign of delayed adulthood? Inspired by a thought-provoking video by Anton Daniels, we discuss how staying with family can be a savvy strategy for saving money and reducing debt in today's economy. Plus, we explore the dynamics of being a supportive parent who continues to help their children long after their 18th birthday. Whether you're considering staying home or you're a parent navigating this journey, this episode offers valuable insights on family support and financial planning for the long term. Tune in for a thoughtful conversation about making the most of multigenerational living!

In this episode, we dive into the complex and deeply personal topic of grief. We explore the ways in which you can support a loved one through their grieving process, from providing a listening ear to simply being present. But grief isn't always about losing someone to death; sometimes it's about grieving someone who is still alive, such as an estranged loved one. We discuss this unique form of loss and how it affects us emotionally. Throughout the conversation, we share our personal experiences and reflect on how we've supported each other through difficult times. Join us for an open, heartfelt discussion on navigating grief in its many forms.

This week we explain where the heck we have been.  Life has been life'ing.  We weigh in on the conversation surrounding the 50/50 relationship vs the new trad-wife trend.  And honestly its all confusing, cause people should do what serves their family,  right? 

In this episode, we dive into Tyler Perry's newest film, sharing our thoughts and reactions. **Warning: This episode contains spoilers**—so if you haven't seen the movie yet, you might want to watch it first! Tune in for an engaging discussion on what worked, what didn't, and our final verdict on this much-anticipated release.  

In this week's episode, we discuss if nepotism is a bad thing. The news of Bronny James Jr. joining the L.A. Lakers triggered a lot of people but what's the issue?  Let's talk about it. 

In this special episode, we sit down with Major and Shakira Patterson as they share their experiences of life as an active-duty family, illustrating how a soldier's family also serves our country. We laugh about common misconceptions of military spouses but also share emotional moments reflecting on missed birthdays. This episode offers a full spectrum of emotions and insights.

In this week's episode, we discuss mental health challenges, stigmas, and tools WE use to cope.  

This week's episode takes Cris down a path she didn't plan on taking.  The duo discuss the 34 felony charges against the 45th POTUS as well as a local news article.     Register to vote or check your status using the tools available at Vote.Gov. 

This week we take time to discuss fatherhood and Joe's experience as a Black dad raising Black children.  

In this episode, we discuss a viral post that backfired on a well-meaning mom.  We open up about the current state of our relationship with our oldest daughter and how it is so easy to judge parents from the outside looking in.  Parenting teens is HARD, and we share a little bit of why on this episode.

Joe brings more imaginary stats to this episode and we go back and forth over his claim that women initiate divorce more often than men.  We chat about miscommunication and how building a marriage is often like building IKEA furniture.  Tune in for laughs.   

Join us as we debate 4 marriage tips from Mr. Dave Ramsey. Joe makes a slanderous allegation about Cris being a spender and not a saver. 

In this episode, we go back and forth on the topic of forgiveness.  We chat about the types of apologies that SERVE US and walk through Joe's opinion on the different types of forgiveness. I come clean about my thoughts on a cliché saying regarding forgiveness and disclose my hopes for people who have crossed me.  Have a seat, this one is fun!

In this episode, we discuss our infertility journey and ways we think you can support a loved one in the trenches of IVF and fertility struggles.  We go down the rabbit hole of failed treatments and recount the ways people showed up for us in our darkest moments.  

In this episode, we discuss parenting as millennials and the pressure to gentle parent.  Which begs the question "Have we gone too far?"