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Business training for Contractors: https://thecontractorfight.com/battlegroundContractors hear it every day: “Your price is too high.” But most of the time, price isn't actually the problem. The problem is that you haven't given the customer enough evidence to believe you're worth more. In this episode of Contractor Fight TV, Tom breaks down the 3 things that justify a higher price without defending it, apologizing for it, or trashing the cheaper contractor. You'll learn how to use: • Communication to build trust before the sale • Content to establish authority before you ever meet • Customer experience to prove you're worth the premium You don't get to SAY you're worth more. You have to prove it. And if you're constantly hearing that your prices are too high, it might be time to stop blaming cheap customers and start looking at the experience your company is creating. CHAPTERS 00:00 — “Your Price Is Too High” 00:23 — Stop Defending Your Price 01:04 — What “Justifying Your Price” Actually Means 01:29 — #1: Your Communication Justifies Your Price 02:24 — Your Website Is Part of the Sale 03:02 — Bad Follow-Up Kills Trust 04:18 — Confidence vs. Arrogance 04:43 — Speed Is King 05:32 — Price Isn't the Only Thing Customers Care About 06:12 — #2: Your Content Justifies Your Price 06:30 — Become the Best Educator in Your Market 07:19 — Stop Making Excuses and Create Content 08:17 — “It Takes What It Takes” 08:39 — What Contractors Should Create Content About 09:38 — #3: The Customer Experience Justifies Your Price 10:22 — Your Team Is Part of the Experience 11:18 — Make Your Company Easy to Work With 11:34 — How Pre-Planning Builds Trust 12:39 — Stop Leaving Customers Loose Ends 13:14 — Warranty Problems Are Opportunities 13:45 — Trust Is What Makes the Higher Price Make Sense 14:25 — “People Are Just Cheap” Is an Excuse 14:54 — The Real Reason You're Getting Price Pushback 15:30 — Why Tom Gets So Fired Up About This 16:08 — Take the Next Step Ready to build a stronger, more profitable contracting business?

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Are you being sold fitness advice that only helps you survive instead of thrive? In this episode, I expose the misleading “you can get by” argument often used to defend restrictive diets, extreme workout programs, and unhealthy lifestyle habits. Learn why surviving isn't the same as optimizing your health, strength, and body composition, and how to set higher standards for your fitness. Stop settling for “good enough” and start building habits that help you truly thrive.

Welcome back! Today we're throwing it back to our first episode ever with one of our most-requested guests: ⁠Christine Lang⁠, soul channel, intuitive, and energy healer. We're chatting all about common fears and blocks that are stopping us from finding our ideal partner, and Christine even made an ⁠exclusive free guided meditation⁠ for all listeners to uncover—and overcome—their own fears and blocks.*⁠ACCESS THE FREE MEDITATION HERE⁠*what we talk aboutWhy you keep attracting people who bring out your triggers?How to stop dating with the mindset of wanting to be "picked"How to let go of the scarcity mindset in datingHow to communicate with partners who don't express their feelingsIs it a real connection or just surface level?Triggers and blocks in dating vs. in long term relationships& (a lot) more!Find Christine on Instagram ⁠@christinelang_intuitive⁠.As always, find us on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! 

"Every time this child was proven wrong, he learned something new." In this episode, Andrew Stotz continues his conversation with Balaji Reddie as they explore two essential elements of Dr. Deming's System of Profound Knowledge: the Theory of Knowledge and Psychology. Through the memorable story of a young boy trying to understand how his father's scooter starts, Balaji illustrates how we build theories, test them through experience, and improve them through learning. The discussion also explores why PDSA begins with theory, why experience alone is not enough, and why understanding how people learn is fundamental to leading improvement. Whether you're new to Deming or deep into his work, this episode offers practical insights into how better questions lead to better knowledge and, ultimately, better management.   Are you ready to learn more about the System of Profound Knowledge? Check out DemingNEXT online learning! https://deming.org/learn/demingnext/   TRANSCRIPT 0:00:02.2 Andrew Stotz: My name is Andrew Stotz, and I'll be your host as we dive deeper into the teachings of Dr. W. Edwards Deming. Today, I'm continuing my discussion with Balaji Reddie, an educator and trainer in the teachings of Dr. Deming, and quality management generally. The topic for today is: The theory of knowledge and psychology. Take it away.   0:00:29.8 Balaji Reddie: Well, thank you. Good morning, Andrew. And it's great to continue our series. So the last time we met, we had begun with the Profound Knowledge, where we said that Dr. Deming brought together four, seemingly disconnected, sciences. He never invented any single one of them, but he saw the connections, and he created, what you could say is, a bootstrap theory of management, if I may say so, a very all-encompassing view of things happening around you. That's why he had no other word to describe it except profound. Because you see things that you normally would not see. That's what we said the last time. And when he proposed that, all of a sudden, I told you the funny thing was that experts in each of those sciences jumped in. I think they realized that they were caught napping, that they did not see the connections, and they did not see a bare minimum set of competencies that you need to have in order to understand things in their entirety. It was very, very... It was amazing that he actually could put that all together.   0:01:44.3 Balaji Reddie: So we started off with the four sciences, in no order of preference. We said here... His words were appreciation for a system. That means, taking into consideration the fact that everything... Having a holistic view, that what we see is not an event but an eventuality, that there's a huge big system behind it. Whatever we get to see in front of our eyes, we're just getting to see the effect. So appreciating that, that's what he said, for a system, a systemic view. I just used a different word, I said connectedness. And I said that from now on, we say that there are no events, there are only eventualities. Which means when something happens in front of our eyes, we always question... We bring in the concept of time and space; that the origins of this, what I'm seeing in front of my eyes, lie somewhere else and maybe actually in a different time frame. So I need to study deeper in order to understand why I'm seeing this in front of my eyes. And you gave that fantastic example of coffee beans, where you said everything has to happen at the right time. So that was the first one.   0:02:54.1 Balaji Reddie: Second one, was about understanding variation. And I would say, that's statistical thinking. I think around 1998, I saw someone come out with the definition of statistical thinking. And they said that it's a holistic view of looking at a process, that everything in the world, happens in the form of a process, and all processes are subject to variation. And understanding and reducing that variation, is synonymous to increasing quality. Now, I'd just like to make a slight change there. Yes, all processes are subject to variation, but talking about reducing... I think, understanding and managing that variation, would lead to better quality. And his entire insistence was understanding variation. Although, let me tell you this, in Henry Neave's book, he wrote about this, where he said that in one of the weekend chats that they had with Deming, he made a statement that if I had to reduce my message to managers in two words, I would say: reduce variation. And this, I've heard from both Henry Neave and David Kerridge. For those who are unaware of who David Kerridge was, because he passed away, I think, around 2018 or 2019, I can't remember... Or maybe before. I'm forgetting the year.   0:04:32.1 Balaji Reddie: But this was... He was from Aberdeen, Scotland. And people used to say, he's like an unofficial person who could be the successor to Deming. So he wrote a lot of wonderful papers. So David Kerridge, Henry, and I, were sitting together having dinner, and they were talking about Deming, and they said that, yeah, he did not... There were some things where he could get really, really upset about when he... About performance appraisals. But there are some things when he spoke of Shewhart, Walter Shewhart, he spoke in a very different tone. And then came this topic, that when we told him that you said reduce variation, he said, "I never said that." They said, "But you said it. We have it... We wrote it down, both Henry and I." And he said, "I could have said that in a context, but I don't think I meant it in that way." So for the record, yes, he uttered it; but he meant it differently. I'm quite sure he said to understand and manage that variation.   0:05:35.4 Balaji Reddie: So what is that managing variation? Okay. We saw this last time, in the very narrow sense of the term, that is when Walter Shewhart invented the control chart. He said there are two kinds of variation that exist: natural variation and unnatural variation. And to distinguish between these two, he created the control chart, which was based on... It was an empirical formula, and people confused it to be a statistical thing. He demarcated, brought in two lines, what he called as the upper control limit and lower control limit. And he said as long as the outcomes of any process or system, if you could measure them and you're plotting them on a graph, as long as they lie within these limits, well, that's the natural behavior of the process or system under study. And the moment their performance crosses the limits, one of these limits on the higher side or the lower side, then you can say there's something unique, special, that has happened. So he used the term, random variation, and assignable cause variation. Because he said you could assign a particular cause to the points that lie outside limits. But when you are studying the variation that lie within limits, the variation that lies within limits, then you can't ascribe a particular cause. There is a system of causes acting. This particular difference in approach...   0:06:58.1 Andrew Stotz: That's a great point. The assignable thing is a great, great point. It really helped me just understand it better.   0:07:04.7 Balaji Reddie: Oh, yeah. Because you could assign a particular, that's why he said assignable. And this is random. Assignable, has its advantage that you can isolate it. And initially, he said you could isolate, and you could eliminate, that cause because it is something which is alien to the system under study. And one by one by one, when he said you eliminate all those causes, you land up with a system or a process that fluctuates only within limits, and he called that as a statistically controlled process. Now, he said your real work begins when you start looking into the reasons for each of those points lying within limits, and I made that statement. You don't have one cause, you have a system of causes. Here's where we studied systems the last time, and I'm just refreshing all of this. I said that in a system, you have interconnectedness, you have interdependencies. And then cause and effect are not closely related in time or space. You have synergistic relationships. So when you start studying, it becomes very, very complicated. Because the performance of each of those causes is also subject to variation. So you can never, ever tell with absolute certainty, what is causing the system variation. Because each of the causes is part of a bigger system. So he made that statement that the complete knowledge of any process or system, is unknown and unknowable. He was not being pessimistic; he was being realistic. We discussed this the last time. And so I said, what do we do then? Yeah, we'll come to that. But now comes the other part, which gets really, really interesting.   0:08:46.7 Andrew Stotz: By the way, I want to... Before you move on from the variation, I want to add something. But continue on.   0:08:55.2 Balaji Reddie: Okay. So he said the reason for the point lying outside... And I said it's assignable, what Dr. Deming called as, special cause variation. You can assign a cause, and I said it's alien to the system under study. And I started by saying you can eliminate it. And even Walter Shewhart began by saying, eliminate it. But now, I'm going back on my words slightly. If you eliminate that special cause, it could be a special cause for the system under study, but it could be the common cause of another system which is related to this. And so what can you do? Well, here's the best part that comes in. You reduce the effect of that cause, to the extent that it does not cause any harmful variation here, to the system under study. And that, Andrew, is optimization. "I want this, and I want that", not, "I want this, or I want that." So I need that.   0:10:01.0 Balaji Reddie: Because I can begin with eliminating, but then I have to keep my eyes and ears open. Because this is what I did in my own company when I started implementing all of this. I'll be honest, I drew a control chart, and when I found points lying outside limits and we discovered causes, I used to eliminate them. But since I was exposed to Profound Knowledge, and what Dr. Deming said about optimization, I kept my eyes and ears open to any change that we observed in the company, anywhere. If I... Even if I got a feedback within a day, two week, month later, saying, "See Mr. Reddie, this is what's happening," and I said, "Wait, wait, wait. Let's see the connection." And invariably, the systems would be connected. And so we could not eliminate, we had to reduce. So we had to go back and check. And that's optimization. Because what happens is if you just keep eliminating... Which is a good place to start... The system under study could get attacked by that interrelated, the other system which you have just actually disturbed. And the problem would resurface with a new face. And you would then say, "Wait a minute. We had solved this problem. Why is it back?" So here's where Profound Knowledge comes in. And that's why the word is continual, it's not continuous. You gotta keep at it, you gotta keep learning. So when he said, yeah, that for common causes, or what he called as random causes, they're so complicated... And for these special causes too, they become complicated... Then how do we understand, and what action do we take? Do we just wait on our haunches and do nothing? That's where he brought in the Theory of Knowledge. And I'll begin with his...   0:11:44.1 Andrew Stotz: And maybe I can add something.   0:11:46.3 Balaji Reddie: Yeah, sure. Now you could. Yeah.   0:11:48.7 Andrew Stotz: The first thing I was thinking about, a special cause, or an assignable cause in a factory, particularly in Asia... But maybe also in the US and maybe more in Europe these days... Is a fluctuation in the electricity. Not necessarily a blackout, but that can be a special cause.   0:12:12.1 Balaji Reddie: Right.   0:12:13.6 Andrew Stotz: But just fluctuations in electricity, can cause an impact on a system, so it can be a special cause. And then once you understand it, you may decide, "Hmm, is there a way we can smooth this? Is there a way we can think about the electricity input into this system, which is really critical for this system, by putting something in between the electrical source and this particular system?" So that's an example of the idea of a special cause, potentially, that is just a common cause, possibly, of another system.   0:12:55.3 Balaji Reddie: That's right. In fact, in India, we did have this problem in the 1990s, when the whole world descended into India because of the cost advantage. The rupee got devalued, the dollar really sprung up. And so people found India as a gold mine, when it came to establishing organizations. And what they would do is bring in much of their semi-automatic technologies that they had in the US, or wherever, Europe at that time, into India, which were largely electronic, had components which were electronic. And in India, the temperature conditions are... I mean, you're in Thailand, you know how it is. It's extreme.   0:13:35.1 Andrew Stotz: Yeah.   0:13:36.9 Balaji Reddie: And so it was not ready for that. And we would have these problems with the components conking off. We had to come out with some remedial stuff, some short-term stuff. And then we started discovering things, we started inventing things. And they almost started losing the cost advantage. Then they said, "Okay. Let's get a little smart." When the next set of machines etc., started coming to India... This was in '91-'92, if I remember right. By '93-'94, that realization came in and so they said, "Why don't we send it in with a cooler," the cooling system, "so that no matter what happens outside, the components would be unaffected." But that led to another problem in cities like Mumbai, where you had extensive humidity.   0:14:24.2 Andrew Stotz: Yeah.   0:14:25.3 Balaji Reddie: And that would cause droplets, which would short-circuit the electronic components again. And so they came up with climatizers. It was crazy.   0:14:34.4 Andrew Stotz: Round and round you go.   0:14:36.7 Balaji Reddie: Yeah.   0:14:38.5 Andrew Stotz: That's interesting.   0:14:39.8 Balaji Reddie: You see, when I was exposed to Profound Knowledge for the first time, and when I wanted to teach it, I remember, I used to want to look out for examples; but I found none. And then when I started digging deeper and deeper, I said, "Wait, I do have examples. It's just that I didn't know that I was looking at it differently." And so it was amazing. Like I said, what Dr. Deming said, you see things that you normally would not see. And I began seeing things in retrospect.   0:15:09.4 Andrew Stotz: Yeah. And that's sometimes... I think the teachings of Dr. Deming have made me a very calm and relaxed guy. I no longer freak out over, what I now know, is just normal variation. And I feel like it's a world of people, that you have to react. If you don't react, you're not doing something. And it's almost impossible for most people to see that the next outcome of this, is not a special cause. And I spend a lot of time in my ethics class trying to help young people understand, that there's just normal variation. Which brings me to my last point I wanted to make with what you said. It reminded me of my studies... Which are limited... Of insight meditation, concentration meditation, or Buddhist... What the Buddha taught. And I remember sitting in a temple in Los Angeles many, many years ago, and I thought, "I'm gonna try to learn from this monk."   0:16:24.6 Andrew Stotz: And I left there thinking... So we did meditation, and he said, "Just try to clear your mind. And just..." And so I left that meditation going home thinking, "My brain was on fire," and there's so many things going on. So I went to him, and I studied more, and I learned more. And I realized that I had misunderstood. You're not trying to control your thoughts, or reduce your thoughts. You're trying to observe your thoughts. And once I started to realize, just observe, then I started to make progress in really understanding that reduce will come over time; maybe, maybe not. But observing was really the step. Because once you observe something, particularly with your mind, if you observe thoughts coming out, then that actually means you're somewhat disconnected because it's hard to observe something that's happening. So therefore, you're starting to look at it from a different perspective. And that's what I thought about when you were saying, it's not just reduce, reduce, reduce. It's first, observe.   0:17:40.1 Balaji Reddie: That's right. Yes, understand, see what's happening, ask the right questions, "Does this happen every day? Or has it happened only today?" things like that. And then you could say, "Okay. If it's happened only today, why did it happen only today? Is today a special day?" So that's the understanding of variation in the broadest sense. And that's why statistical thinking is about asking the correct questions, even in the absence of data. It's thinking, statistical thinking. Don't confuse it with statistical methods, where all kinds of mathematical mumbo jumbo come in. This is thinking statistically. And that's where theory of knowledge, where Dr. Deming said, comes in to help us, first, enlist what's unknown. And then from that, you start pinpointing, or segregating what is knowable, faster. And then you... Once you do that, then you start recycling your thoughts and trying to understand those systems much better. And that's the theory of knowledge.   0:18:45.5 Balaji Reddie: Now, just a statement which he said, what is a theory of knowledge? He said, "A statement conveys knowledge, if it relates some cause to some effect; It fits without fail, all the observations of the past; It helps us predict the future with the risk of being wrong." So I'll repeat the whole thing. He said, "A statement conveys knowledge, if it relates some cause to some effect," it provides us information, it relates some cause to some effect. "It fits without fail, all the observations of the past; It helps us predict the future, with the risk of being wrong." Now, if you go through this step by step, when you say here, take this example of a small five-year-old child. At least this is a very, very Asian and an Indian kind of an example, but I'm quite sure people all over the world will relate to this. A five-year-old child, here in India or in Asia, watching his father go to work every day. Father goes to work on, what we call as, a two-wheeler, a scooter as they call it. And if you know, in the old days, you could kickstart the scooter. We didn't have push-button starts, we used to kick the lever. And so this kid is very intrigued as to how does this scooter start. And he knows that he's at that age, if he keeps asking questions, he'll be told, "You'll learn when you grow up," or "Don't waste my time."   0:20:18.2 Balaji Reddie: And so he decides to observe and learn. And so he starts observing his father every morning from the small little balcony that they have. The daddy brought the scooter out into the compound and then put it on stand. And he did a big ritual around the scooter, and then he kicked the lever and the scooter started. And so he would write down. This is happening every day. And then he noticed that the scooter wouldn't start till he kicked the lever. And so he wrote down his first theory: kick is equal to start. Now, he decided to test this theory. A couple of days where he wasn't even in the balcony, he would sit inside the house and he would hear the kicking sound, and he would tell his mother, "Now the scooter's gonna start." And guess what? The scooter started. So this theory can't be wrong. Now, he decided to test the theory differently. He decided to start the scooter one day. So there was nobody at home, he goes to the garage where the scooter is there, and he gives the lever a mighty kick. But it doesn't start.   0:21:23.3 Balaji Reddie: Now, he says, "This is crazy." So he goes and reads the notes that he made. And then he saw a lot of funny things that were happening. His father was taking a bag off his shoulder, putting it on the handlebar, and touching the scooter two, three places and then kicking the lever. So he went and brought his father's bag, put it on his shoulder, took it off, put it on the handlebar, did that whole ritual, and then kicked the lever. But the scooter didn't start. He said, "Now, what's wrong? Maybe I've not observed properly." So the next day, the whole system came under scrutiny. But he didn't observe anything special at all. But then again the next day, and then he said, "Wait, wait, wait, wait. There is something he's doing there. He takes the bag off his shoulder, but then he touches the neck of the scooter on the inside, and then he kicks the lever." So what could that be? And then when he observed the next day, he saw there was a key he was inserting and twisting it. And he said, "Oh, damn." So he wrote down his provisional theory: key plus kick is equal to start.   0:22:23.7 Balaji Reddie: And so again, he tests this when there's nobody at home. He gets the key, inserts it and turns it, then he kicks the lever and the scooter starts. So here's where his theory becomes a little more elaborate: key plus kick is start. Now, this works very well till, months down the line, he hears kicking, kicking, kicking, but the scooter's not starting. And so he comes out and looks at his father. His father's desperately kicking away. And he says, "Looks like the old man's got it wrong." So he comes down and asks his father, "Have you turned the key?" And he says, "Oh yeah. You're trying to teach your father how to start the scooter." "Then why isn't the scooter starting?" "I don't know." So they take it to an elderly gentleman staying nearby. "Look, the scooter's not starting." So that elderly gentleman is quite unperturbed. "Oh, no problem." He does something totally out of the playbook. He runs with the scooter, jerks it into motion, and the scooter starts.   0:23:20.4 Balaji Reddie: So key plus kick completely collapses, and this kid is flummoxed. He asks his father what made the scooter start, and that's where he gets the answer, "You'll learn when you grow up." Now, this kid grows up with the question in his head, "How did the scooter start that day?" And he reaches seventh grade where they're having a subject called science, general science. And the teacher that day in class is discussing Newton's laws of motion. And she starts, "Body continues to be in a state of rest..." etc., etc. "And to every action there's equal and opposite reaction," and, "rate of change of momentum is equal to force." And the moment that kid hears that sentence, "Rate of change of momentum is equal to force"...now here's the point I'm making. To every child sitting in that classroom, this was just information. But one of those things answered a question; it became knowledge. He suddenly realized when his teacher said, rate of change of momentum is equal to force, that's when he said, "When you're running with the scooter or kicking that lever, I'm generating a force which is making the scooter start."   0:24:32.2 Balaji Reddie: And soon, of course, when he grows up, he inherits the scooter, and every time he has a problem, he runs with it, jerks it into motion. But one day he's doing that and then the scooter is just not starting. So he takes it down to the motor mechanic, and the mechanic does something very funny. He goes underneath the scooter and comes out with a contraption called the spark plug and shows him how dirty it has become. Then cleans it, puts it back and then kicks the lever and the scooter starts. So now he's got a big elaborate theory. When I kick that lever or run with the scooter, I'm generating a force, the force ignites a spark, the spark ignites the fuel, and the scooter starts. Now, I know this is not how it happens, but I think I made my point.   0:25:13.9 Balaji Reddie: But if you go through this entire narration that I've just made, if you realize something, that every time this child was proven wrong, he learned something new. And he was proven wrong because he had a theory. It may not have been correct, but it was a theory. So theory is not the opposite of practice; theory is a guide to better practice. And the more your theory is proven wrong, the more you learn. And the theory is based on what you have seen, what you see before your eyes. You liken it to something, an experience, something you've seen, something you watched. And that's how theories are generated. And that's when Dr. Deming said, if you want to understand the complexities in a system, you begin with theory. "I think. I feel. Let's try this." It worked? Great, "Let's do it again." If it did not work? Great, "Let's see under what conditions it would work?" And that's why he said we need to cooperate to understand the system, because when we sit together, each one comes out with a different theory based on what our backgrounds are. I think once we had this discussion, like if I were to start describing to you the road reaching to my place, you already start constructing a mental picture based on whatever you've seen in life. And that's your theory.   0:26:50.3 Balaji Reddie: Now, when you actually land here, you say, "Oh, I thought this and I'm seeing this." So that's what happens with Plan-Do-Study-Act. We're all born with this. It's a natural way of learning. It begins with a theory: I think; I believe; Let's try. And then you actually carry out that set of steps which you think would give you the result. And then you study. "Did I get the result? Did I not get the result?" And then you act. "Maybe I need to modify my theory. Maybe I need to add to it. Maybe just abandon the theory."   0:27:23.6 Balaji Reddie: I remember once somebody asked me this question, "That if we abandon the theory, what happens?" Well, you get to know the limitations of your existing theory. And the more you know where your theory fails, the more powerful it becomes for you. If you can predict failure, you have really understood the process. So when you know that this is gonna fail, then you've really understood this. So this theory, this is a system of learning, and all of us are born with this. We all have this natural inclination of asking questions. So that system of learning which leads to theory, we're born with it. But the problem is this: there are some people who learn by watching, some people who learn by doing, some people who learn by reading, some people who learn by writing. For some people, one word is enough. For some people, you have to keep repeating the theory till the person says, "Okay. I understand it."   0:28:22.9 Balaji Reddie: Now, is this wrong? We're just different from each other. And that, is what Dr. Deming said, is the understanding of psychology. You need to understand the learning process of a person, and then you need to interact with that person. So whether it is an employee in your company, whether it's your customer, whether it's your supplier, you need to understand. And I would reduce that word to being empathetic. Understand, be empathetic, and not just understand what makes that person tick. Broadly, we say learning process. Now, a lot of corollaries that come out of this, that you cannot copy an example without understanding the underlying theory behind it. It's not how that person has been successful, but why. And for that, you need to... Because we come from so many different backgrounds, that's why Dr. Deming said, you need to have operational definitions before you start communicating to each other. So all of these are an outcome of the Theory of Knowledge. One is the concept of experimentation. That means the more you fail, actually, the more you learn. But management rewards only successes. The appraisal system works only on successes. We need to also recognize failures, because that's where you know where it failed and what you need to do next. And as they say, failures are the stepping stones to success, etc. Fine. But if you're doing it in a very structured scientific way, your rate of success would go faster.   0:30:05.1 Andrew Stotz: And I think that's an important part, is the structured way. Because one of the things... I was just teaching a management team, about 35 people, yesterday. And I was teaching them about corporate strategy, and that there's many ways to win in corporate strategy. Could be the low-cost leader, or whatever. But one of the ways I describe, is what I call, know-how. That your firm has some special knowledge, or some special skills, or expertise, that you've accumulated over time. And this brings us to the point of... Because many times, I've thought about the Theory of Knowledge, and thought, "Yeah, we do that." We casually do exactly what you said. We ask a question, we have a little theory, we test it. But the problem is, many companies think that they have know-how as a competitive advantage, until the person with the know-how leaves. And then they realize, "Oh, we just had one superstar." The question is, do we have a formal or structured way of acquiring and disseminating knowledge, till it becomes common knowledge in our company? And that's where the Theory of Knowledge, and the PDSA, I see brings a lot of value.   0:31:36.2 Balaji Reddie: Yeah. So that's why the joke going around is know-how, know-what, but more important now is know-when and know-who. Even if you know who, it leads to the when, what, and how. Sometimes, you tend to thank the person profusely because that person says, "I know who knows to solve this," and then it takes you right there.   0:32:01.7 Andrew Stotz: Here's a fun thought exercise that I like to think of, is that... You and I both read physical books. And I've got thousands of them surrounding me in my office. But we're in a point in time where the future generations are not gonna read physical books. They're gonna read books that are online and...   0:32:27.0 Balaji Reddie: Right.   0:32:29.0 Andrew Stotz: And then we look at someone's house in the future. There's not gonna be books in their house. It's gonna be on their pad, on their phone, in the cloud. Now, one thing that's kind of interesting is, think about... Imagine that there's a solar flare hits the earth and wipes out all the books. They're all gone. In fact, all of our accumulated knowledge, of research studies, and everything. For the first time in human history, there's like this moment where everything's gonna... It wouldn't happen nowadays because people still have a distributed libraries, distribution of the knowledge. And all of a sudden, you could be without knowledge. And so this is part of the reason why, in a company context, it's important to have a method for acquiring, but also a method for consolidating, and collecting, and building knowledge, and upgrading it. Anyways, that was just some fun thing that I've been thinking about in my head. So anyways, keep going.   0:33:35.7 Balaji Reddie: Yeah, no. That's what's going on right now with the HR departments in companies, knowledge management, because they say, like you said, the person leaves and everything leaves along with them. So apparently, what happens is, when they are debriefing after a successful project... And this implementation thing which I read in Dr. Juran, he used to call it the Santayana review, George Santayana, who made that famous statement, "Those who forget the past are condemned to repeat it." And so he would say at the end of the entire project, y'all sit together... And like from the defense, you have this thing called, debriefing. You narrate everything, and it's verbatim. You take down what you went through so that that remains on record. And so we used to do this in our company. At the end of the project, we used to have the last meeting, and the last document that we used to put on the file, which used to close the file, the improvement file, was "Things Gone Right, Things Gone Wrong."   0:34:37.7 Balaji Reddie: And without that, no project file was completed. No project was completed. We used to have that last meeting, and the new team coming in would ask for the recently completed projects, and begin with reading that document first, because we don't want to repeat the same mistakes. And this is the only way. So nowadays, I've seen this, that the HR person also sits around in that meeting and asks the question, "Okay. You took this decision, but what made you take that decision?" Because they want that to be replicated. Turning tacit into explicit. So that that comes from here. If you understand why Juran explained... That's why I keep saying this, that I could understand Juran because I read Deming; and I could implement Deming because I read Juran. They're not mutually exclusive. And so when people get into this stupid argument of who was better, you're losing out on their learning by getting into that silly argument. They were very compatible. Maybe, they had different ways of expressing themselves.   0:35:51.7 Balaji Reddie: And so coming back to what Deming said, he said that this is Theory of Knowledge, and so you are in a continual state of learning when you're dealing with, what you call as, random causes. But in a state of assignable causes, that's the low-hanging fruit. It gives you the instantaneous results that management wants to see. But at the same time, if you're exposed to Profound Knowledge, you know that if you take such drastic steps of elimination, etc., etc., to show those results, the low-hanging fruit, a person with Profound Knowledge would keep his eyes and ears open to note any kind of changes, anywhere, in either a related or an unrelated system. And then make changes accordingly. You can't just leave it at that.   0:36:44.4 Balaji Reddie: So my experience in my company when I started implementing this... Because we had... What? 77 different interconnected processes which were running to make the company... Well, from start to end. Which included some manufacturing, some finance, some personnel. So these are all interconnected. And we found that if you're making changes, they would affect the other processes, sometimes directly, sometimes indirectly. So you have to keep revisiting those processes again and again, and seeing how you can optimize. And my estimate, is that it takes around three, to three-and-a-half years to actually attain some kind of predictability in the entire organization, if you're using good teams and using Profound Knowledge. If you are not using Profound Knowledge, you will gain some very good... You'd have some very quick gains, no doubt about it. But then the other problems may resurface. And if you've seen the path of frustration that Dr. Deming has drawn in, 'Out of the Crisis,' there's a diagram that you reach... You expect improvement and you don't, and it stagnates. And that's exactly what happens when you don't have Profound Knowledge. You tend to stagnate, and in fact, you start going the opposite direction. If you see it as a better way of learning and understanding your processes, then definitely, things can get much, much better. That's how I look at it.   0:38:28.8 Andrew Stotz: Excellent. Right.   0:38:29.9 Balaji Reddie: So in my own company, it took three-and-a-half years, to see things. And then we saw the effect of all this when we had to grow as a company, and from having something like 30-40 people, to close to 300. The growth was crazy. But because we had been exposed to all this, things became easier, let me put it that way.   0:38:57.4 Andrew Stotz: Yeah. It's funny because what I was just thinking about... Normally, when we say, "You have to grow," we're talking about like growing revenue, growing market share. But what you're also talking about, is you have to grow in your knowledge.   0:39:11.0 Balaji Reddie: Yes. You have to.   0:39:13.7 Andrew Stotz: Otherwise you can't manage it.   0:39:17.4 Balaji Reddie: Right.   0:39:20.7 Andrew Stotz: And anything else you want to add on this topic?   0:39:24.1 Balaji Reddie: Well, this is... So this is where you have all the four sciences acting together. So if I were to, in a nutshell, put together what we have just discussed of all the four sciences, I'll just pull up a list of points, and if we can sometime do perhaps a video call... Excuse me... Then... Just give me a minute.   0:39:55.5 Andrew Stotz: Yep.   0:39:56.5 Balaji Reddie: Okay. So here we are. So let's get to Profound Knowledge. Okay. So let's begin.   0:40:07.5 Balaji Reddie: So understanding... So appreciation for a system. The points you need to look at: that cause and effect are not closely related in time and space; that outputs are the results of a myriad of inputs; there exist synergistic relationships among the inputs themselves; And we need to understand the importance of a common aim and purpose for a system to function well. We come to understanding variation. That's learning how to think statistically, that is how to distinguish between matters that require immediate attention, what we call as, assignable cause variation; versus matters that require constant attention, which is what we call as, random cause or common cause variation., And understand that taking cognizance of and managing this variation, is synonymous to better quality. About Theory of Knowledge: the importance of theory; using theory to interpret observations; and experience is not doing the same thing again and again, but doing different things and learning from your failures. So you keep doing... Even if a person says, "I've got 30 years of experience," it could be... I don't say it's always... It could be the same thing being done for 30 years. But doing different things in 5 years, you could gain a lot more experience than doing the same thing for 30 years. And then you understand how to learn faster. The day you discover your learning process, is the greatest day of your life. And the funny thing is you can't discover it yourself. You need outside help. And that could be a mentor, maybe a teacher, maybe a friend, I don't know, it could be anybody. And understanding of psychology: okay, that people are inherently good; they want to do a good job; they learn differently, therefore they think differently. Working on people's learning systems and processes, rather than trying to exhort them, that would be better, learning their processes... And ranking... You cannot compare one person's learning system with another. Each one has their own learning system. You have to learn how to appreciate that and hone it, and make a person better at what they do.   0:42:40.2 Balaji Reddie: So these are the four sciences acting together. And that gives you Profound Knowledge. And we said here when we started, that when you have Profound Knowledge, you ask different questions. So when you start looking at things happening around you, and you start asking these questions... Because Dr. Deming said that people are the only living parts of any organization, and so you need to understand them. So I keep joking about this sometimes, that how do we learn this theory and psychology? The best thing is to... If you have a pet at home, if you can predict the behavior of your pet, then you really have Profound Knowledge. Because here is a living creature who can't communicate to you what they want, and if you can understand that, that's real empathy. When you understand your pet, or whatever.   0:43:43.5 Andrew Stotz: That's competitive advantage.   0:43:45.6 Balaji Reddie: Yes.   0:43:49.2 Andrew Stotz: Fantastic.   0:43:50.4 Balaji Reddie: Also, I keep saying this, when the womenfolk, they take a break when they are expecting. And then they come back to work after they've had their children, they had a child or something, people say that they've come back to work. I said, "Oh, they have not been away from work." They've done work which is so different right now. They've learned so much. So it's unfair to say that you've taken a break. I think women are never on a break. Whether they're in the family way, whatever, they are working. It's just that we define work as something that you do at a place of work, that is an office where they're doing work. Even when they're with a child trying to understand what that damn child is trying to say. I mean, just imagine, they learn how to... What that kid is going through, even though that kid can't communicate. And somehow, they have that instinct. So they have it more than us. I mean, of course, when you have parenting, which is done by both men and women now... During our time, of course, it was more women-oriented. We came from a different generation. But I see that change now. And so I keep saying this, that if you spend time trying to understand babies, or trying to understand your pets, I think you become more empathetic. And automatically, your Theory of Knowledge bit, and your psychology, starts getting stronger.   0:45:21.7 Andrew Stotz: Yes. I'm gonna test the theory. If I give my child this, they're gonna be quiet. Yeah. There you go, Theory of knowledge.   0:45:33.5 Balaji Reddie: There you go.   0:45:34.4 Andrew Stotz: Fantastic. Well Balaji, let's end it there. And on behalf of everyone listening, I want to thank you again for this discussion. And for listeners, remember to go to deming.org and jump into DemingNEXT to continue your journey. There's so much there now, it just keeps growing. So, this is your host, Andrew Stotz. And I want to leave you with one of my favorite quotes from Dr. Deming, I just can't stop saying it: "People are entitled to joy in work."

A few months ago, I came across an incredible video. It's the early 70s, and a local Chicago talk show is interviewing a doctor who wrote a sex education book that millions of people across the country were reading … unaware that it was full of wildly incorrect and frankly homophobic claims about homosexuals. The interview is going smoothly until suddenly a man jumps up from the studio audience and does what nobody else had dared — he confronts the doctor about his misinformation and demands he explain himself. That man in the audience was Murray Edelman, and I'm very excited to say that he's my guest this week on The Sewers of Paris.Here's the video — jump to 9:25 to see Murray's interruption: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PChFM8kAjhw A quick reminder that I have a new video up on YouTube about the long, messy fight for marriage equality, check that out at https://YouTube.com/mattbaume. Join me for weekly livestreams every Sunday on Twitch. Check out my book Hi Honey, I'm Homo! at GaySitcoms.com; subscribe to my email newsletter at MattBaume.com, and if you're enjoying The Sewers of Paris, support the show on Patreon at Patreon.com/mattbaume.

Most men despise small talk, dismissing it as shallow, fake, or a complete waste of breath. We skip the pleasantries and go straight to the agenda. But in this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler breaks down why avoiding small talk is quietly costing you massive life, career, and romantic opportunities. Small talk isn't about the weather or sports; it's a low-risk reconnaissance mission to establish trust, likeability, and respect. Ryan shares 4 actionable moves to stop trying to be "impressive" and instead leverage genuine curiosity to open doors you've been walking right past. Stop treating small talk like a nuisance - it's the gateway to your next big breakthrough.   SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - The Real Cost of Skipping Small Talk 02:35 - Low Risk Equates to High Opportunity 04:30 - The Instinctual Mistakes Men Make 06:47 - The True Function of Small Talk 08:34 - Curiosity Over Performance 12:55 - Move 1: Master the Follow-Up Question 16:40 - Move 2: Be Memorable, Not Impressive 18:50 - Move 3: The 48-Hour Follow-Up Rule 20:45 - Move 4: Treat Every Room Like It Matters 28:00 - Why Introversion Is Not an Excuse 29:40 - Your Weekend Assignment   Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready  

Grace start's the show discussing Tim Walz's crazy defense of a child rapist, saying we shouldn't judge someone based on their "worst day". Then, Grace discusses Karen Bass's latest excuse for meth heads and more!  Visit the Howie Carr Radio Network website to access columns, podcasts, and other exclusive content. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hour 3 - Team distractions aren't an excuse full 2780 Wed, 15 Jul 2026 18:56:10 +0000 HqQKJGacHD9ytCBLooR6cQeYT1J0o5hA nfl,kansas city chiefs,soccer,world cup,society & culture Cody & Gold nfl,kansas city chiefs,soccer,world cup,society & culture Hour 3 - Team distractions aren't an excuse Hosts Cody Tapp & Alex Gold team up for 96.5 The Fan Radio's newest mid-day show "Cody & Gold."  Two born & raised Kansas Citians, Cody & Gold have been through all the highs and lows as a KC sports fan and they know the passion Kansas City has for their sports teams."Cody & Gold" will be a show focused on smart, sports conversation with the best voices from KC and around the country. It will also feature our listeners with your calls, texts & tweets as we want you to be a part of the show, not just a listener.  Cody & Gold, weekdays 10a-2p on 610 Sports Radio.  2024 © 2021 Audacy, Inc. Society & Culture https://player.amperwavepodcasting.com?feed-link=ht

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It's a fun episode recorded live from The Beer Temple. Excuse the noise, but it's just people having fun!Email Eletters to: Insiders@craftbeertemple.comMailing address: The Beer Temple 3173 N. Elston Ave. Chicago, IL 60618Intro/Outro Music: Gorilla Meat by Jogger UYD4L!

Matt and Paddy discard of the standard podcast format this week. It's a bit all over the show. With the players back for pre-season, we look at what individuals get up to the off-season. How much control do Everton have over individual training, nutrition and more? Talk then turns to the right-back chase. Everton have been linked with Djed Spence but he's at the World Cup. Do the club have any excuse for not getting this position sorted already?

Nolan Wells' story starts the way too many of these do — a group of friends, an island, a holiday weekend, and one kid who never made it back to the boat. He was eighteen. He was talking to a girl on the north end of Horn Island, off the Mississippi coast, around three in the afternoon. That's the last time anyone saw him alive. His friends left an hour and a half later. He wasn't with them. The reason on record is that the boat was taking on water — not exactly a detail that holds up when you think through what leaving someone behind on an island actually requires people to decide, in real time, to do. By Monday morning, after two days of searching by the Coast Guard, the National Park Service, and Jackson County, a park ranger found him in the water — almost exactly where he'd last been seen. Investigators have reportedly ruled out alcohol and drugs. His friend group has stayed near his mother through all of it. And before he ever stepped foot on that boat, Nolan left his phone with her — a small fact that tells you more about who he was than any headline will. Now his family has a civil rights attorney involved, and the questions aren't going away — about the boat, about the timeline, about why one teenager was the one left standing on that shoreline. We go through what's confirmed, what's still unexplained, and where the account from that friend group starts to strain under basic scrutiny. Full episode is up now — link below. Social Links & Legal Footer Join Our SubStack For AD-FREE ADVANCE EPISODES & EXTRAS!: https://hiddenkillers.substack.com/ Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC8-vxmbhTxxG10sO1izODJg?sub_confirmation=1 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspod X Twitter https://x.com/TrueCrimePod This publication contains commentary and opinion based on publicly available information. All individuals are presumed innocent until proven guilty in a court of law. Nothing published here should be taken as a statement of fact, health or legal advice. Hashtags #NolanWells #HornIsland #HiddenKillers #MississippiMystery #FourthOfJuly #MissingTeen #JacksonCounty #CoastGuardSearch #TrueCrimePodcast #UnsolvedMystery 

“Being under the control of passion and lust, Rama's father, Maharaja Dasharatha, wanted to fulfill Kaikeyi's cherished desire, thus he did not go through with Rama's installation ceremony.” (Sita Devi speaking to Ravana, Valmiki Ramayana, Aranya Kand, 47.12)

Parents... let's be honest. Kids have become the ultimate excuse. Running late? "Sorry, school drop-off." Need to leave a party early? "The kids are exhausted." Don't want to go somewhere? "I couldn't get a babysitter." Forgot someone's birthday? "Things have just been so hectic with the kids." Sometimes it's completely true... and sometimes your children are the perfect, guilt-free way out of doing something you never wanted to do in the first place. Hang out with Anele and The Club on 947 every weekday morning. Popular radio hosts Anele Mdoda, Frankie du Toit, Thembekile Mrototo, and Cindy Poluta take fun to the next level with the biggest guests, hottest conversations, feel-good vibes, and the best music to get you going! Kick-start your day with the most enjoyable way to wake up in Joburg. Connect with Anele and The Club on 947 via WhatsApp at 084 000 0947 or call the studio on 011 88 38 947Thank you for listening to the Anele and the Club podcast..Listen live on Primedia+ weekdays from 06:00 to 09:00 to Anele and the Club broadcast on 947 https://buff.ly/y34dh8Y For more from the show go to https://buff.ly/gyWKIkl or find all the catch-up podcasts here https://buff.ly/K59GRzuSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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“Instead, you must worship Christ as Lord of your life. And if someone asks about your hope as a believer, always be ready to explain it.” (1 Peter 3:15 NLT) Years ago, I encountered a man on a street in Hawaii. He was holding a sign that read, “The wages of sin is death.” He was also yelling, “God hates you” and “God will judge you” to everyone who passed by. I watched him for a few minutes until I could no longer leave his misrepresentation of Scripture unchallenged. “Excuse me,” I said. “Why don’t you share the rest of that verse? It’s true that it says the wages of sin is death, but the rest of it says that the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” The man responded by telling me that God was going to judge me. Then he continued misrepresenting God’s Word. Make no mistake: Judgment can and will come to those who reject the Lord. But if that’s our only message to the world, we’re not doing the gospel justice. Because at the center of the gospel is a message of hope. The apostle Peter wrote, “If someone asks about your hope as a believer, always be ready to explain it” (1 Peter 3:15 NLT). So, let’s explain it. Jesus Christ took the judgment of God on the cross of Calvary in our place so we don’t have to face it. Everyone who believes in Him will be saved from judgment because of God’s mercy. As we wrap up our look at the greatest revival in human history, I will remind you that God spared Nineveh. God extended mercy to Nineveh. And as a result, a spiritual awakening occurred in Nineveh. The people of Nineveh seized on the hope in Jonah’s message and believed. If God could bring a mighty revival in Nineveh with no better representative than Jonah and no more gospel than he preached in their streets, He can surely do the same thing for America. Jesus validated the story of Jonah. He said that just as Jonah was in the belly of a fish for three days, He, the Son of God, would be crucified on a cross, lie dead for three days, and then rise again. That’s why believers have hope. Jesus endured God’s judgment for your sin. He suffered and died in your place. And He did it as part of God’s plan. God loves you so much that He sacrificed His only Son so that you might have eternal life. As we celebrate 250 years of God’s blessings on our nation, I want to make sure that you have something greater to celebrate. Have you asked Christ to come into your life? Have you asked Him to forgive you of your sins? Do you have the hope right now that you will go to Heaven when you die? If not, you can have it. Pray these words: Lord Jesus, I know that I’m a sinner. I’m sorry for my sin. I’ve turned from it, and now I choose to follow You from this moment forward. In Jesus’ name I pray, amen. Reflection question: What would you say if someone asked you about the hope you have as a believer? Discuss Today's Devo in Harvest Discipleship! Experience the Harvest Crusade on July 11 when you watch online! — The audio production of the podcast "Greg Laurie: Daily Devotions" utilizes Generative AI technology. This allows us to deliver consistent, high-quality content while preserving Harvest's mission to "know God and make Him known." All devotional content is written and owned by Pastor Greg Laurie. Listen to the Greg Laurie Podcast Become a Harvest PartnerSupport the show: https://harvest.org/supportSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

My guest is Kurt Johnson Co-author of The Moon Tavern, A Culinary Love Story With Recipes. The Moon Tavern takes the reader on a romantic and culinary journey through the Islands of Croatia, where dark family secrets are revealed, quirky friends and relatives are found, and love is discovered.Vesna, or Ves, is a cookbook writer from Minneapolis who travels to the remote, exotic island of Lastovo off Croatia's Mediterranean coast to reconnect with her biological grandmother. She'd been adopted as a young child after her parents died in the Yugoslav Wars of the 1990s. Ves is also fleeing a frayed relationship with her live-in partner, Reed.In Lastovo, she meets Dinko, a single, handsome, and wealthy vineyard owner, and his cute daughter Mia. With his help with the translation, Ves discovers her biological family's history and the dark secrets of what happened during the war. Romance, travel, and cooking ensue. She ultimately learns what matters most to her: simplicity in life, closeness with family, and someone to share love with. And, of course, food!Stephanie [00:00:00]:Hello, everybody, and welcome to Dishing with Stephanie's Dish, the podcast where we talk to people in the food space and other spaces. All the spaces of all the fun things. Kurt is my spouse, Kurt Johnson, and also the co author of the Moon Tavern, a culinary romance with recipes. It is a fiction book that is available on your bookshelf now. Welcome to the podcast, Kurt.Kurt Johnson [00:00:22]:Hi, thanks for having me.Stephanie [00:00:24]:Thanks for having us. The idea that we should work on a book together. I am, as many of you listening know, a cookbook writer and my husband is a fiction writer. And somewhere along the way, we decided that maybe it would be good to collaborate together. Kurt, was it you or me that had the idea first? I think it was you.Kurt Johnson [00:00:42]:Yeah, probably. I was kind of done with my past book writing about Las Vegas and looking for something different. And we'd been traveling a lot, so going to Croatia, going to Italy, going out west, going to Turkey. So I wanted to incorporate travel with a novel, and I also wanted to incorporate food. And so I thought this would be a lot of fun. Since we're traveling together, we have those shared experiences and you have the food experience and the food writing experience. So I thought it'd be a fun collaboration. And I've always liked the idea of love stories.Kurt Johnson [00:01:18]:Even my thriller books in Las Vegas had kind of a love story element. And it adds a dimension to a novel that, I don't know, makes it cohesive, makes it pull together in an emotional arc that's kind of fulfilling in the end.Stephanie [00:01:33]:Do you think you're a romantic at heart, or what is it about romances that are fun to write for you?Kurt Johnson [00:01:39]:Maybe I'm a romance at heart. I may be more stoic than that, though. I just. I like the idea of seeing people get together, seeing people enjoy the same interests and finding people that can fall in love. Of course, that's always the fun part. The hard part is once you get married and move on from there and have to deal with kids and daily life and work and all the other things that go with living life. And that's not that much fun to write.Stephanie [00:02:07]:Yeah, exactly. We as a couple, I think I can speak for me and you maybe on this one. We've always had great experiences traveling. We are good traveling companions. We like the spirit of adventure. Did you know that Croatia would be the spot for the first fiction endeavor?Kurt Johnson [00:02:24]:Yeah, that was a given since we'd been there five times and four times running a sailboat and visiting the islands. And as you know, Stephanie, I'm just enamored with those islands, I think they're so beautiful. And there was one island we discovered out there, Lastovo, which is the furthest island out. So a lot of the sailors and tourists just never get there. They stay closer to shore. So, you know, going out there the first time, this beautiful bay of Zachlopedia, where, you know, it's a, it's a protective cove which is beautiful turquoise water. And then taking the dinghy in, and then you walk up this path, I think it's about a two mile hike. And then you go over this ridge and this 16th, 15th century town opens up.Kurt Johnson [00:03:10]:You know, at one point maybe it had 10,000 residents. And, and it, it, when we first saw it, I don't know, 10, 15 years ago, it was abandoned. So it was a ghost town of 15th century buildings and churches and apartments in this beautiful valley of lush green foliage. So that's very picturesque. We had an incredible meal there of just simple anchovies and blitfa. And for you, for you people out there that don't know, blitfa is ubiquitous in Croatia. And it's, it's just spring potatoes with Swiss chard, but it's served with everything.Stephanie [00:03:52]:It is served with everything. And they sometimes have spinach, sometimes have like another type of green, but it's sort of like the potatoes are cooked till they're pretty soft, and then it's kind of mashed in a little bit. So it's not fully a mashed potato and it's not fully a roasted potato. It's sort of a combination of both. But it is good.Kurt Johnson [00:04:12]:Yeah, so, yeah, that's so, you know, it seemed such an exotic place, the island of Lastovo in Croatia, that it was a natural to place it there.Stephanie [00:04:23]:Can you tell a little bit of just an introduction of the story, like what people will find when they crack open the book?Kurt Johnson [00:04:30]:Sure. It's about Vesna, who is. Has a breakup with her live in boyfriend, and they'd had a restaurant. She was a chef, a cookbook authority, and had a restaurant, not unlike my dear wife Stephanie. And she has a breakup and she leaves Minneapolis to go to Croatia to uncover her. Her heritage. She had been adopted from Croatia, specifically Dubrovnik, when her parents died in the Serb bombing of Dubrovnik in 1991. So she was adopted out of there and raised in Minnesota.Kurt Johnson [00:05:05]:So then she goes to Croatia and rediscovers her dark family secrets and meets Dinko Radek, who is a winery owner, and, you know, romance ensues. But she has a life still back in Minneapolis that she has to go back to and resolve.Stephanie [00:05:24]:When we talked about putting this first concept together, you know, I see the world through food. Like, literally everything in sort of my life is framed by a meal, an experience, just the way that I see the world. It's always around food, celebrations. And so did you know that that would work for this Croatia book? Because I didn't. When you first brought it up, I was like, I can't be a Croatian grandma here. And writing recipes about what at the time I perceived as, like, dumplings.Kurt Johnson [00:05:53]:Yeah, I wasn't sure either, frankly. You know, so each chapter, there's 25 chapters, and each chapter in it has a description of cooking. And it's all Croatia cooking, Croatia recipes. You know, all food we at over the years where we were there. And then the idea of tagging on recipes was just kind of bringing it home. Like, here's the Croatia experience. Now here's how Stephanie would bring that back to the real world, which is here in the United States.Stephanie [00:06:21]:We have talked about doing a series of books. What is it about this genre that you think lends itself to other titles and other characters?Kurt Johnson [00:06:29]:Well, you know, it's an adventure book on one level, and there's always new places to visit. So the next book is based in Panza, Italy, where we've been a couple times. And it's this beautiful island off the coast of Italy in the Mediterranean. And, you know, Italian food. You go to Italy and what you remember is the pizza in Naples or the. The pasta in Rome and. And the busteca up in the hills. So, you know, a way to experience a place is.Kurt Johnson [00:07:04]:Is through food. And I like writing about new settings. You know, it. It's not as interesting writing about Minnesota,Stephanie [00:07:11]:but you've written a lot about Las Vegas. You've had how many books about Las Vegas? Three.Kurt Johnson [00:07:16]:Yeah, three. You know, two of the. Of kind of a thriller in. Two thrillers in a series, and then a book about RVing that ends up in. In Las Vegas. And Las Vegas is a interesting place, and I lived there for five years running nightclubs and restaurants. And so two of the books are Underbelly of Las Vegas, which I was a part of in the nightclub scene back in the late 80s. So that's just flat out fun to write about.Kurt Johnson [00:07:39]:And Las Vegas is such a weirdo place that it's fun to bring that to life.Stephanie [00:07:45]:It's interesting to hear you talk about that. The way you choose your stories is about place, because the first book, the Barrens, that you wrote with our Daughter Ellie, inspired by her experiences as a canoe camper in the tundra. That's also based in Place, too. Place is sort of what starts you on these journeys. It seems like, yeah, you know something,Kurt Johnson [00:08:07]:you threw me a curveball because I never really thought about it. But you're exactly right.Stephanie [00:08:12]:All.Kurt Johnson [00:08:12]:All these books start off with a setting, with a place, and then, you know, the plots revolve around. Around that. And there's just so many. So many different. There's a finite number of, really, plots you can choose from. It's kind of like a piano keyboard has all the. The notes that you want to make up a. A music piece the same way with plot structures.Kurt Johnson [00:08:34]:And so to take it to the next level, you really have to search out characters, and the characters are in a setting, so those two are inexplicably, Inextricably. Inextricably linked. Yeah, exactly. So, you know, the two go hand in hand. So character and place really can set a novel apart.Stephanie [00:08:59]:Can you think of other books that you've written or. Excuse me. No, not that you've written, that you've read. Where Place sort of started you off on this adventure?Kurt Johnson [00:09:07]:Yeah, probably. I really love Beautiful Ruins.Stephanie [00:09:11]:Jess Walters.Kurt Johnson [00:09:13]:Walters, yeah. And that starts off in Italy, kind of near Cinque de Terre. And it's kind of the poor version of Cinque de Terre, where the tourists don't go. And it was such a fascinating story. And then they bring that all back to Hollywood in America, and it just works so well. But what really captures your imagination is the description of this little seaside community. Before the whole plot takes over, IStephanie [00:09:41]:kind of think about that book. The Embarrassment of Mangoes.Kurt Johnson [00:09:44]:Yeah.Stephanie [00:09:44]:When you and I first started sailing and going on these adventures, we read that book. It was about a couple that buys a boat and sails through the Caribbean, and she is discovering spices and fruits and vegetables and things that she's never eaten before. And I just loved that book. It was really what got me into sailing and thinking about how to make that our life and whether or not, you know, we could buy a boat and do that. And that boat really had a huge setting of place. Can you think of, like. I don't know. When I think of other books, there's very few books that I think about character first.Stephanie [00:10:19]:I usually always think about the place. Maybe that's just something.Kurt Johnson [00:10:22]:Or the plot, too. Yeah, they're all just linked together. And you don't think about. Well, you were saying you don't think about character as much.Stephanie [00:10:31]:Not really.Kurt Johnson [00:10:32]:Yeah, it's funny. I think, you know, the best books people say are character driven, but they're inexplicable. What's the word again?Stephanie [00:10:41]:Inextricably.Kurt Johnson [00:10:43]:Inextricably. Trouble with that. Linked. So, you know, you pick a place and you pick a plot and then you build these characters. The characters have to build around that plot and so they kind of naturally flow. And, and I, I think they, if they're well written and honest, you shouldn't think of them. You know, they're interesting characters and you'll say, you know, this is Rabbit and the Rabbit series. And you'll know, but you won't say, oh, that's just a great character.Kurt Johnson [00:11:10]:I, I, I don't know that I certainly, you know, I'm probably deep into it and I look at the craft a lot so I can see where somebody has really spent some time to develop an honest character or where, you know, the narrative voice comes through and, and a character comes to life through this first person narrative voice. So I see that a lot moreStephanie [00:11:30]:people have a real, like they can't believe you can write a book. Like the idea of the literal act of sitting down and writing and how that works. People fantasize about writing it, but then very few people do. What was it that got you over the hump from thinking about writing it to actually sitting down and doing it?Kurt Johnson [00:11:47]:Well, selling our business and all of a sudden being able to free up time. Because for me, novel writing and I think was it Chrisham talked about, you know, writing at 5 in the morning before he goes to work at 7. I just couldn't do that. You know, I just, I'm very focused on one thing and, and so I needed to free up my time from work in order to get going. And then it was, can you put together, you know, a thousand or fifteen hundred words every day so that it links up into a novel and have that, not only that, that discipline, but also have the creative juices to produce scenes almost every day because, you know, like a, a good novel is created from 50 scenes. So I went from, you know, writing a memoir that I probably won't publish just to see if I can get, you know, a thousand words every day and put this together to then writing Las Vegas turnaround. And there I, I, I really just copied a lot of plot structures that I saw that I liked. And so it was easier for me to set up main characters, set up tertiary characters, subplots, because I had a blueprint from somebody else.Kurt Johnson [00:12:56]:And then, and then once, you know, you Keep writing. You get muscle memory for it and it becomes more, more natural and actually more fun because it becomes more organic. You'll follow characters through a town and they'll meet somebody and all of a sudden that person becomes a character in their universe and they say something and all of a sudden that takes off and you have to follow it. Now, you know, the woman's gonna fall in love with a guy at the end. But getting there is the fun part. And now I can do that a lot more organically.Stephanie [00:13:27]:If you are talking to any aspiring novel writers, what kind of advice do you have for them to get started?Kurt Johnson [00:13:34]:Well, you know, you gotta lower your expectations just because publishing is so hard, you know.Stephanie [00:13:39]:Can you elaborate on that?Kurt Johnson [00:13:41]:Well, you know, there's maybe two or three or 400 agents, most of them in New York City and they're all trying to make a buck. And it's hard to make a buck off a debut writer. It helps if you're MFA and you're writing in a genre because, you know, let's say 70% of the books are read by women and 70% of those are romances. And then men, the other 30%, probably 80% of what they read are, you know, thrillers or mysteries. So if you can pick a genre, that always helps. But yeah, it, you have to be more thoughtful about it. And I think, I think so many first time writers, you know, once they get the discipline and put, put the, the words on a page, they write that first personal novel, you know, and I wrote my memoir and it's, it's really 90% of those, they, you know, people have the, they aspire for the great American novel and it's too personal, it's too close to home. They can't break out from the reality of their lives to have fun with the plot and make things happen.Kurt Johnson [00:14:45]:So a lot of times these books, nothing happens. They're deeply emotional books where nothing happens and they're, they're excruciatingly boring. So you gotta get past that phase and then you gotta look at it as a, as a craft. And, you know, a big chunk of it's art, of course, whatever you wanna call that, you know, shedding light on the human experience. But a big chunk is craft. And I don't think you can get to the craft for most people in that first book. So you gotta keep writing, you know, and realize that the first couple books may not get published. So, you know, the barons got published.Kurt Johnson [00:15:21]:That was one, two, that was my third, fourth book, you know, and the, and two, the, the first three, two of them were duds that will never be published.Stephanie [00:15:31]:Yeah. Yeah. All right, well, it's good to chat with you about the book. We are in the marketing process of the book. I feel like books come in three waves. One is the idea that you're thinking about it. The second, the actual writing of it. And then the third is actual the marketing of it.Stephanie [00:15:48]:What do you think's the hardest part?Kurt Johnson [00:15:49]:Well, I mean, it's. The hardest part's finding an agent and finding a publisher. Then if you self publish, the hardest part is marketing. And at least it is for me because writing is so natural and fun for me. But I think for most people, you know, the writing's a hard part. And, and you know, like the Minnesota writer o', Brien, he hates writing, so he forces himself. Tim o'. Brien.Kurt Johnson [00:16:12]:So he forces himself to get those books out there. So probably that's the hardest part for him.Stephanie [00:16:17]:We had, I had a cookbook, two cookbooks out and I had a publisher, but they didn't publish this book because it was a fiction book. I think some people just assume like, oh, well, they've already had books out, but we self published this book. Why did we make that decision from your standpoint?Kurt Johnson [00:16:33]:Well, we couldn't get an A list agent or a New York publisher. There's just not, it comes off as almost a debut book and it's hard for them to make any money. So if you can't get an A lister, then you're, you know, stuck with boutique publishing companies and others and, and they just don't support the marketing of your book. And I've self published books in the past, so I know how to do it. I know how to put a professional product out there. And, and we can, you know, both of us are marketers and, and Stephanie has a large platform, so we can do a lot of our own marketing or, or outsource it, you know, but still we retain most of the profits. So when we do the marketing, we can reinvested or keep those profits.Stephanie [00:17:17]:Yeah, I, when you say profits, it sounds like there's a lot there. I'd like to, I mean, I mean,Kurt Johnson [00:17:22]:maybe, maybe we broke it even at this point, but then now we're looking at a marketing PR firm that's going to set us back another $5,000. But you know, if, if these books succeed and somebody makes a lot of money, it's the, it's the third, you know, book that's going to put them over the top. It's not the first.Stephanie [00:17:40]:I have this idea too that we're going to write these books and then sooner or later someone's going to turn them into a T series because it's going to be like the White Lotus where each season is a different location and a different cast of characters, but sort of the general premise is sort of the same.Kurt Johnson [00:17:56]:I hope so. You know, I hope an A list agent comes along and, and frees us from our servitude or whatever. And, but, and yeah, you know, there's, there's plenty of stories of self published authors that, that get deals or even boutique. Boutique authors that get deals. So you know, we can dream.Stephanie [00:18:16]:One thing that I'd like the listener to hear is what their part is in this because we've. I was leaving the coffee shop today. We're in Ely. That is the vacation backgrounds. But.Kurt Johnson [00:18:25]:Right.Stephanie [00:18:25]:I was leaving the coffee shop today and a woman stopped me and said, Stephanie, I had the opportunity to read the Moon Tavern. It's so good. I loved it so much. And she's telling me about it and telling her friend. And I have that experience a lot where people have really, really enjoyed this book. And I just want the listener to know that leaving reviews on Goodreads or Amazon or Barnes and Noble or wherever you bought the book or if you can' find a book, asking for it at your local bookseller. Cause they can always order it when you're self published. The more buzz you can create about these books, the better chance that someone will hear about it, someone will buy it and eventually a publisher, if they hear about a book and they like it, then they may pick it up.Stephanie [00:19:03]:So I think if you like what you're reading and you want to see more of this type of work in the world and books that you like, that's something that you can do to help us out.Kurt Johnson [00:19:13]:Yes, a 5 on Amazon or top rating on any other Goodreads is good too. Yeah, it's, it's all, it's all good. So yes, those, those help a lot. Just because the more reviews you can get and the more five star reviews you get, the more people will pick up the book, the more buzz you'll get. So yeah, so it helps us immeasurably.Stephanie [00:19:35]:Another thing before we wrap up here, someone asked me about the Cover of the book. Do you want to talk about how you picked the artwork?Kurt Johnson [00:19:41]:Yeah, I was pretty much online Xee Reider, she's in St. Paul and she's a muralist mostly. And I really liked the look that she had. So I reached out to her, and she did the original artwork, and then each chapter ends with a recipe, and there's a pen and ink drawing, and she did those. And I really think that adds another level to the book. And I love a beautiful cover.Stephanie [00:20:10]:Yeah, the cover is really nice. She did a great job. All right, well, that is it for this episode of the podcast. Just want to chat with you and give people a little background. Thanks for being a guest. Stephanie Hansen's @StephaniesDish Newsletter is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stephaniehansen.substack.com/subscribe

My guest is Kurt Johnson Co-author of The Moon Tavern, A Culinary Love Story With Recipes. The Moon Tavern takes the reader on a romantic and culinary journey through the Islands of Croatia, where dark family secrets are revealed, quirky friends and relatives are found, and love is discovered.Vesna, or Ves, is a cookbook writer from Minneapolis who travels to the remote, exotic island of Lastovo off Croatia's Mediterranean coast to reconnect with her biological grandmother. She'd been adopted as a young child after her parents died in the Yugoslav Wars of the 1990s. Ves is also fleeing a frayed relationship with her live-in partner, Reed.In Lastovo, she meets Dinko, a single, handsome, and wealthy vineyard owner, and his cute daughter Mia. With his help with the translation, Ves discovers her biological family's history and the dark secrets of what happened during the war. Romance, travel, and cooking ensue. She ultimately learns what matters most to her: simplicity in life, closeness with family, and someone to share love with. And, of course, food!Stephanie [00:00:00]:Hello, everybody, and welcome to Dishing with Stephanie's Dish, the podcast where we talk to people in the food space and other spaces. All the spaces of all the fun things. Kurt is my spouse, Kurt Johnson, and also the co author of the Moon Tavern, a culinary romance with recipes. It is a fiction book that is available on your bookshelf now. Welcome to the podcast, Kurt.Kurt Johnson [00:00:22]:Hi, thanks for having me.Stephanie [00:00:24]:Thanks for having us. The idea that we should work on a book together. I am, as many of you listening know, a cookbook writer and my husband is a fiction writer. And somewhere along the way, we decided that maybe it would be good to collaborate together. Kurt, was it you or me that had the idea first? I think it was you.Kurt Johnson [00:00:42]:Yeah, probably. I was kind of done with my past book writing about Las Vegas and looking for something different. And we'd been traveling a lot, so going to Croatia, going to Italy, going out west, going to Turkey. So I wanted to incorporate travel with a novel, and I also wanted to incorporate food. And so I thought this would be a lot of fun. Since we're traveling together, we have those shared experiences and you have the food experience and the food writing experience. So I thought it'd be a fun collaboration. And I've always liked the idea of love stories.Kurt Johnson [00:01:18]:Even my thriller books in Las Vegas had kind of a love story element. And it adds a dimension to a novel that, I don't know, makes it cohesive, makes it pull together in an emotional arc that's kind of fulfilling in the end.Stephanie [00:01:33]:Do you think you're a romantic at heart, or what is it about romances that are fun to write for you?Kurt Johnson [00:01:39]:Maybe I'm a romance at heart. I may be more stoic than that, though. I just. I like the idea of seeing people get together, seeing people enjoy the same interests and finding people that can fall in love. Of course, that's always the fun part. The hard part is once you get married and move on from there and have to deal with kids and daily life and work and all the other things that go with living life. And that's not that much fun to write.Stephanie [00:02:07]:Yeah, exactly. We as a couple, I think I can speak for me and you maybe on this one. We've always had great experiences traveling. We are good traveling companions. We like the spirit of adventure. Did you know that Croatia would be the spot for the first fiction endeavor?Kurt Johnson [00:02:24]:Yeah, that was a given since we'd been there five times and four times running a sailboat and visiting the islands. And as you know, Stephanie, I'm just enamored with those islands, I think they're so beautiful. And there was one island we discovered out there, Lastovo, which is the furthest island out. So a lot of the sailors and tourists just never get there. They stay closer to shore. So, you know, going out there the first time, this beautiful bay of Zachlopedia, where, you know, it's a, it's a protective cove which is beautiful turquoise water. And then taking the dinghy in, and then you walk up this path, I think it's about a two mile hike. And then you go over this ridge and this 16th, 15th century town opens up.Kurt Johnson [00:03:10]:You know, at one point maybe it had 10,000 residents. And, and it, it, when we first saw it, I don't know, 10, 15 years ago, it was abandoned. So it was a ghost town of 15th century buildings and churches and apartments in this beautiful valley of lush green foliage. So that's very picturesque. We had an incredible meal there of just simple anchovies and blitfa. And for you, for you people out there that don't know, blitfa is ubiquitous in Croatia. And it's, it's just spring potatoes with Swiss chard, but it's served with everything.Stephanie [00:03:52]:It is served with everything. And they sometimes have spinach, sometimes have like another type of green, but it's sort of like the potatoes are cooked till they're pretty soft, and then it's kind of mashed in a little bit. So it's not fully a mashed potato and it's not fully a roasted potato. It's sort of a combination of both. But it is good.Kurt Johnson [00:04:12]:Yeah, so, yeah, that's so, you know, it seemed such an exotic place, the island of Lastovo in Croatia, that it was a natural to place it there.Stephanie [00:04:23]:Can you tell a little bit of just an introduction of the story, like what people will find when they crack open the book?Kurt Johnson [00:04:30]:Sure. It's about Vesna, who is. Has a breakup with her live in boyfriend, and they'd had a restaurant. She was a chef, a cookbook authority, and had a restaurant, not unlike my dear wife Stephanie. And she has a breakup and she leaves Minneapolis to go to Croatia to uncover her. Her heritage. She had been adopted from Croatia, specifically Dubrovnik, when her parents died in the Serb bombing of Dubrovnik in 1991. So she was adopted out of there and raised in Minnesota.Kurt Johnson [00:05:05]:So then she goes to Croatia and rediscovers her dark family secrets and meets Dinko Radek, who is a winery owner, and, you know, romance ensues. But she has a life still back in Minneapolis that she has to go back to and resolve.Stephanie [00:05:24]:When we talked about putting this first concept together, you know, I see the world through food. Like, literally everything in sort of my life is framed by a meal, an experience, just the way that I see the world. It's always around food, celebrations. And so did you know that that would work for this Croatia book? Because I didn't. When you first brought it up, I was like, I can't be a Croatian grandma here. And writing recipes about what at the time I perceived as, like, dumplings.Kurt Johnson [00:05:53]:Yeah, I wasn't sure either, frankly. You know, so each chapter, there's 25 chapters, and each chapter in it has a description of cooking. And it's all Croatia cooking, Croatia recipes. You know, all food we at over the years where we were there. And then the idea of tagging on recipes was just kind of bringing it home. Like, here's the Croatia experience. Now here's how Stephanie would bring that back to the real world, which is here in the United States.Stephanie [00:06:21]:We have talked about doing a series of books. What is it about this genre that you think lends itself to other titles and other characters?Kurt Johnson [00:06:29]:Well, you know, it's an adventure book on one level, and there's always new places to visit. So the next book is based in Panza, Italy, where we've been a couple times. And it's this beautiful island off the coast of Italy in the Mediterranean. And, you know, Italian food. You go to Italy and what you remember is the pizza in Naples or the. The pasta in Rome and. And the busteca up in the hills. So, you know, a way to experience a place is.Kurt Johnson [00:07:04]:Is through food. And I like writing about new settings. You know, it. It's not as interesting writing about Minnesota,Stephanie [00:07:11]:but you've written a lot about Las Vegas. You've had how many books about Las Vegas? Three.Kurt Johnson [00:07:16]:Yeah, three. You know, two of the. Of kind of a thriller in. Two thrillers in a series, and then a book about RVing that ends up in. In Las Vegas. And Las Vegas is a interesting place, and I lived there for five years running nightclubs and restaurants. And so two of the books are Underbelly of Las Vegas, which I was a part of in the nightclub scene back in the late 80s. So that's just flat out fun to write about.Kurt Johnson [00:07:39]:And Las Vegas is such a weirdo place that it's fun to bring that to life.Stephanie [00:07:45]:It's interesting to hear you talk about that. The way you choose your stories is about place, because the first book, the Barrens, that you wrote with our Daughter Ellie, inspired by her experiences as a canoe camper in the tundra. That's also based in Place, too. Place is sort of what starts you on these journeys. It seems like, yeah, you know something,Kurt Johnson [00:08:07]:you threw me a curveball because I never really thought about it. But you're exactly right.Stephanie [00:08:12]:All.Kurt Johnson [00:08:12]:All these books start off with a setting, with a place, and then, you know, the plots revolve around. Around that. And there's just so many. So many different. There's a finite number of, really, plots you can choose from. It's kind of like a piano keyboard has all the. The notes that you want to make up a. A music piece the same way with plot structures.Kurt Johnson [00:08:34]:And so to take it to the next level, you really have to search out characters, and the characters are in a setting, so those two are inexplicably, Inextricably. Inextricably linked. Yeah, exactly. So, you know, the two go hand in hand. So character and place really can set a novel apart.Stephanie [00:08:59]:Can you think of other books that you've written or. Excuse me. No, not that you've written, that you've read. Where Place sort of started you off on this adventure?Kurt Johnson [00:09:07]:Yeah, probably. I really love Beautiful Ruins.Stephanie [00:09:11]:Jess Walters.Kurt Johnson [00:09:13]:Walters, yeah. And that starts off in Italy, kind of near Cinque de Terre. And it's kind of the poor version of Cinque de Terre, where the tourists don't go. And it was such a fascinating story. And then they bring that all back to Hollywood in America, and it just works so well. But what really captures your imagination is the description of this little seaside community. Before the whole plot takes over, IStephanie [00:09:41]:kind of think about that book. The Embarrassment of Mangoes.Kurt Johnson [00:09:44]:Yeah.Stephanie [00:09:44]:When you and I first started sailing and going on these adventures, we read that book. It was about a couple that buys a boat and sails through the Caribbean, and she is discovering spices and fruits and vegetables and things that she's never eaten before. And I just loved that book. It was really what got me into sailing and thinking about how to make that our life and whether or not, you know, we could buy a boat and do that. And that boat really had a huge setting of place. Can you think of, like. I don't know. When I think of other books, there's very few books that I think about character first.Stephanie [00:10:19]:I usually always think about the place. Maybe that's just something.Kurt Johnson [00:10:22]:Or the plot, too. Yeah, they're all just linked together. And you don't think about. Well, you were saying you don't think about character as much.Stephanie [00:10:31]:Not really.Kurt Johnson [00:10:32]:Yeah, it's funny. I think, you know, the best books people say are character driven, but they're inexplicable. What's the word again?Stephanie [00:10:41]:Inextricably.Kurt Johnson [00:10:43]:Inextricably. Trouble with that. Linked. So, you know, you pick a place and you pick a plot and then you build these characters. The characters have to build around that plot and so they kind of naturally flow. And, and I, I think they, if they're well written and honest, you shouldn't think of them. You know, they're interesting characters and you'll say, you know, this is Rabbit and the Rabbit series. And you'll know, but you won't say, oh, that's just a great character.Kurt Johnson [00:11:10]:I, I, I don't know that I certainly, you know, I'm probably deep into it and I look at the craft a lot so I can see where somebody has really spent some time to develop an honest character or where, you know, the narrative voice comes through and, and a character comes to life through this first person narrative voice. So I see that a lot moreStephanie [00:11:30]:people have a real, like they can't believe you can write a book. Like the idea of the literal act of sitting down and writing and how that works. People fantasize about writing it, but then very few people do. What was it that got you over the hump from thinking about writing it to actually sitting down and doing it?Kurt Johnson [00:11:47]:Well, selling our business and all of a sudden being able to free up time. Because for me, novel writing and I think was it Chrisham talked about, you know, writing at 5 in the morning before he goes to work at 7. I just couldn't do that. You know, I just, I'm very focused on one thing and, and so I needed to free up my time from work in order to get going. And then it was, can you put together, you know, a thousand or fifteen hundred words every day so that it links up into a novel and have that, not only that, that discipline, but also have the creative juices to produce scenes almost every day because, you know, like a, a good novel is created from 50 scenes. So I went from, you know, writing a memoir that I probably won't publish just to see if I can get, you know, a thousand words every day and put this together to then writing Las Vegas turnaround. And there I, I, I really just copied a lot of plot structures that I saw that I liked. And so it was easier for me to set up main characters, set up tertiary characters, subplots, because I had a blueprint from somebody else.Kurt Johnson [00:12:56]:And then, and then once, you know, you Keep writing. You get muscle memory for it and it becomes more, more natural and actually more fun because it becomes more organic. You'll follow characters through a town and they'll meet somebody and all of a sudden that person becomes a character in their universe and they say something and all of a sudden that takes off and you have to follow it. Now, you know, the woman's gonna fall in love with a guy at the end. But getting there is the fun part. And now I can do that a lot more organically.Stephanie [00:13:27]:If you are talking to any aspiring novel writers, what kind of advice do you have for them to get started?Kurt Johnson [00:13:34]:Well, you know, you gotta lower your expectations just because publishing is so hard, you know.Stephanie [00:13:39]:Can you elaborate on that?Kurt Johnson [00:13:41]:Well, you know, there's maybe two or three or 400 agents, most of them in New York City and they're all trying to make a buck. And it's hard to make a buck off a debut writer. It helps if you're MFA and you're writing in a genre because, you know, let's say 70% of the books are read by women and 70% of those are romances. And then men, the other 30%, probably 80% of what they read are, you know, thrillers or mysteries. So if you can pick a genre, that always helps. But yeah, it, you have to be more thoughtful about it. And I think, I think so many first time writers, you know, once they get the discipline and put, put the, the words on a page, they write that first personal novel, you know, and I wrote my memoir and it's, it's really 90% of those, they, you know, people have the, they aspire for the great American novel and it's too personal, it's too close to home. They can't break out from the reality of their lives to have fun with the plot and make things happen.Kurt Johnson [00:14:45]:So a lot of times these books, nothing happens. They're deeply emotional books where nothing happens and they're, they're excruciatingly boring. So you gotta get past that phase and then you gotta look at it as a, as a craft. And, you know, a big chunk of it's art, of course, whatever you wanna call that, you know, shedding light on the human experience. But a big chunk is craft. And I don't think you can get to the craft for most people in that first book. So you gotta keep writing, you know, and realize that the first couple books may not get published. So, you know, the barons got published.Kurt Johnson [00:15:21]:That was one, two, that was my third, fourth book, you know, and the, and two, the, the first three, two of them were duds that will never be published.Stephanie [00:15:31]:Yeah. Yeah. All right, well, it's good to chat with you about the book. We are in the marketing process of the book. I feel like books come in three waves. One is the idea that you're thinking about it. The second, the actual writing of it. And then the third is actual the marketing of it.Stephanie [00:15:48]:What do you think's the hardest part?Kurt Johnson [00:15:49]:Well, I mean, it's. The hardest part's finding an agent and finding a publisher. Then if you self publish, the hardest part is marketing. And at least it is for me because writing is so natural and fun for me. But I think for most people, you know, the writing's a hard part. And, and you know, like the Minnesota writer o', Brien, he hates writing, so he forces himself. Tim o'. Brien.Kurt Johnson [00:16:12]:So he forces himself to get those books out there. So probably that's the hardest part for him.Stephanie [00:16:17]:We had, I had a cookbook, two cookbooks out and I had a publisher, but they didn't publish this book because it was a fiction book. I think some people just assume like, oh, well, they've already had books out, but we self published this book. Why did we make that decision from your standpoint?Kurt Johnson [00:16:33]:Well, we couldn't get an A list agent or a New York publisher. There's just not, it comes off as almost a debut book and it's hard for them to make any money. So if you can't get an A lister, then you're, you know, stuck with boutique publishing companies and others and, and they just don't support the marketing of your book. And I've self published books in the past, so I know how to do it. I know how to put a professional product out there. And, and we can, you know, both of us are marketers and, and Stephanie has a large platform, so we can do a lot of our own marketing or, or outsource it, you know, but still we retain most of the profits. So when we do the marketing, we can reinvested or keep those profits.Stephanie [00:17:17]:Yeah, I, when you say profits, it sounds like there's a lot there. I'd like to, I mean, I mean,Kurt Johnson [00:17:22]:maybe, maybe we broke it even at this point, but then now we're looking at a marketing PR firm that's going to set us back another $5,000. But you know, if, if these books succeed and somebody makes a lot of money, it's the, it's the third, you know, book that's going to put them over the top. It's not the first.Stephanie [00:17:40]:I have this idea too that we're going to write these books and then sooner or later someone's going to turn them into a T series because it's going to be like the White Lotus where each season is a different location and a different cast of characters, but sort of the general premise is sort of the same.Kurt Johnson [00:17:56]:I hope so. You know, I hope an A list agent comes along and, and frees us from our servitude or whatever. And, but, and yeah, you know, there's, there's plenty of stories of self published authors that, that get deals or even boutique. Boutique authors that get deals. So you know, we can dream.Stephanie [00:18:16]:One thing that I'd like the listener to hear is what their part is in this because we've. I was leaving the coffee shop today. We're in Ely. That is the vacation backgrounds. But.Kurt Johnson [00:18:25]:Right.Stephanie [00:18:25]:I was leaving the coffee shop today and a woman stopped me and said, Stephanie, I had the opportunity to read the Moon Tavern. It's so good. I loved it so much. And she's telling me about it and telling her friend. And I have that experience a lot where people have really, really enjoyed this book. And I just want the listener to know that leaving reviews on Goodreads or Amazon or Barnes and Noble or wherever you bought the book or if you can' find a book, asking for it at your local bookseller. Cause they can always order it when you're self published. The more buzz you can create about these books, the better chance that someone will hear about it, someone will buy it and eventually a publisher, if they hear about a book and they like it, then they may pick it up.Stephanie [00:19:03]:So I think if you like what you're reading and you want to see more of this type of work in the world and books that you like, that's something that you can do to help us out.Kurt Johnson [00:19:13]:Yes, a 5 on Amazon or top rating on any other Goodreads is good too. Yeah, it's, it's all, it's all good. So yes, those, those help a lot. Just because the more reviews you can get and the more five star reviews you get, the more people will pick up the book, the more buzz you'll get. So yeah, so it helps us immeasurably.Stephanie [00:19:35]:Another thing before we wrap up here, someone asked me about the Cover of the book. Do you want to talk about how you picked the artwork?Kurt Johnson [00:19:41]:Yeah, I was pretty much online Xee Reider, she's in St. Paul and she's a muralist mostly. And I really liked the look that she had. So I reached out to her, and she did the original artwork, and then each chapter ends with a recipe, and there's a pen and ink drawing, and she did those. And I really think that adds another level to the book. And I love a beautiful cover.Stephanie [00:20:10]:Yeah, the cover is really nice. She did a great job. All right, well, that is it for this episode of the podcast. Just want to chat with you and give people a little background. Thanks for being a guest. Stephanie Hansen's @StephaniesDish Newsletter is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stephaniehansen.substack.com/subscribe

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Aphasia Communication App: How One Brother Gave a Stroke Survivor His Voice Back For four or five hours, Robert Schmidtbauer’s younger brother lay on the floor of their Wisconsin home, unable to get himself up. Robert found him when he got home from a late shift driving cabs. His brother had been drinking that night, but this wasn’t alcohol; it was a stroke, one that would put him in the University of Wisconsin Hospital for three weeks and in rehab for six months. His brother was already living with ataxia, a rare progressive condition that had taken his ability to walk and had begun to affect his speech. The stroke made it dramatically worse. Today, unless you know him well, you’ll understand only 60 to 70 percent of what he says. It’s usually the end of a sentence, the last few words, the part that carries the point that disappears. Robert became the translator. For years, every visitor, every relative, every tradesperson needed him in the room to fill in the blanks. Then he built something better: an aphasia communication app called Larry’s Speakeasy, priced at nine dollars for life, now used by people in 20 countries. When the Speech Problem Has No Official Name One detail of this story will be familiar to many stroke families: Robert’s brother has never been formally diagnosed with aphasia. The doctors attributed his speech difficulties to the combination of ataxia and stroke and left it there. After a year of speech therapy and his own reading, Robert concluded there was “probably some of that in there,”  but no clinician ever gave the problem a name. That matters, because a diagnosis is often the doorway to resources. Without one, nobody hands you a communication aid, a device funding pathway, or even a list of options. Robert’s brother got speech therapy two or three hours a week while it lasted, some practice phrases to take home, and nothing else. The Gap Nobody Warns Stroke Families About Rehab ends. The communication problem doesn’t. When Robert’s brother came home, the brothers developed their own system: Robert would catch 90 percent of a sentence, ask him to repeat the rest up to three times, and then ask him to spell the words letter by letter. That was the system for years. Robert credits his stint teaching English online to students around the world for training his ear to listen closely. But the system only worked when Robert was in the room. The moment that changed everything was ordinary: a new housekeeper came to quote on cleaning, and Robert’s brother, who runs the inside of the house, couldn’t make himself understood on the details. Robert stood in the middle, finishing sentences. He’d felt like a “third wheel” through his brother’s rehab, looking for a way to genuinely help. Standing in that kitchen, he found it. “I had one person on my wing that no one else in the building could understand but me. And even I had a 50% chance of understanding what he really wanted.” — a care facility director, on why a tool like this matters What Is an Aphasia Communication App? An aphasia communication app is software that speaks for a person whose own speech is impaired a modern, affordable form of what clinicians call AAC (augmentative and alternative communication). Larry’s Speakeasy does two things, deliberately kept simple: Type-to-speak. If your hands still work, you type any phrase or sentence, and the app says it out loud. One-tap phrases. For people with limited hand function, pre-made buttons cover emergencies (“I need to go to the bathroom,” “call the doctor”) and everyday phrases hello, goodbye, and a growing list Robert adds to as users suggest them. The market Robert walked into explains why he built his own. At the affordable end, there’s roughly one comparable app at around $13. After that, the next step up starts near $150 and climbs to $7,000–$8,000 for dedicated equipment that requires training and support to operate. Between a cup-of-coffee app and a small car’s worth of hardware, there was almost nothing. Robert priced Larry’s Speakeasy at $8.99 once, for life. “It’s not here for me to get rich off of,” he says. “It’s my brother, and I want it to help.” Built With AI, in Days, by a Retiree Robert is 67, with a background in television and radio rather than software. He’d spent months learning to work with AI tools and, in his words, cussing and swearing at the computer. When the housekeeper moment landed, he posed a different question to the AI: how can I help my brother’s speech?  And had a working version running within about two or three days, refined over the following months. That’s worth pausing on. The tools to solve a real disability problem at kitchen-table scale now exist for people who aren’t programmers. A determined care partner built, tested, and shipped an aphasia communication app from rural Wisconsin no company, no funding, no advertising. Around 260 people across 20 countries have tried it, and it’s listed as a resource on the National Aphasia Association website. More Than an Emergency Button The use cases stretch well beyond the kitchen: Therapy practice. Practice phrases from a speech pathologist can be loaded into the app and drilled at home with or without a partner. Video calls. Open the app in one window and Zoom or FaceTime in another, and a person who can’t speak clearly can hold a conversation with family anywhere in the world. Robert saw his own mother’s isolation in a care facility years ago; this is his answer to it. Care facilities. An iPad on a care cart could let staff understand residents nobody else can and document requests, which protects residents and facilities alike. Where to Find It The app lives at LarrySpeakeasy.com, with a seven-day free trial before the one-time $8.99 purchase. Try it, and if it helps, it helps, as Robert puts it; there’s no push. Stories like Robert’s are why this podcast exists: ordinary people refusing to accept the gap between what the system provides and what recovery actually needs. If that resonates, my book, The Unexpected Way That A Stroke Became The Best Thing That Happened, shares ten tools for recovery and personal transformation drawn from my own stroke journey and hundreds of survivor interviews; you’ll find it at https://recoveryafterstroke.com/book. And if this show has helped you, you can support it at https://patreon.com/recoveryafterstroke. This blog is for informational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. Please consult your doctor before making any changes to your health or recovery plan. Robert Schmidtbauer – Building a Voice for My Brother (Interview) After a stroke, Robert’s brother lost clear speech and had no tools to cope. So Robert built one: a simple app that speaks for those who can’t. Highlights: 00:00 Introduction – Aphasia Communication App 01:21 Challenges in Communication Post-Stroke 05:17 Stroke Experience and Recovery 12:20 Communication Challenges and Solutions 17:43 Creating Solutions Through AI 18:03 Introducing the Aphasia Communication App 21:13 Expanding Accessibility in Care Facilities 27:14 Final Thoughts and Resources 29:19 Bridging Communication Gaps 30:14 Resources for Stroke Survivors Transcript: Introduction – Aphasia Communication App Robert (00:00) If I ask him three times, I still can’t understand it. Like, spell it for me. You know, so I mean, that’s kind of how we got by until I developed this app. Lacunar Stroke New Research (00:10) Hello, everyone, and welcome to another episode of the Recovery After Stroke Podcast. Before we get into it today, I want to say a massive thank you to all my Patreon supporters and to everyone who supports this podcast. You are the reason this show keeps going. And I appreciate every single one of you. If you’d like to help keep these episodes coming, you can support the show at patreon.com/slash recovery after stroke. And if you’re looking for tools to guide you, On your own recovery, my book, The Unexpected Way that a Stroke Became, the best thing that happened, is available at recovery after stroke.com slash book. Now, today’s episode is a little different. My guest is Robert Schmidtbauer. And Robert is not a stroke survivor, he’s a care partner. His younger brother was already living with ataxia, a rare condition affecting his muscles and speech, when a stroke six or seven years ago made communication between the two brothers harder than it had ever been. In this conversation, we talk about what it’s like to be the person who translates for someone you love, what happens when rehab ends and the communication problem doesn’t? And what Robert decided to do about it. Something that might genuinely help other families in the same situation. Challenges in Communication Post-Stroke BIll Gasiamis (01:30) Robert Schmidtbauer welcome to the podcast. Robert (01:33) Thank BIll Gasiamis (01:33) can you give me a little bit of a rundown on you and your relationship with your brother before he had a stroke? Robert (01:42) My brother’s nine years younger than I am, so he’s 56, no, 58 now. And we’ve been living here. He originally got out of high school, went to travel school in Minneapolis, Minnesota, and lived there for a number of years. He has a taxia, and he moved home. to my mother’s house. Let’s see, we’ve been here 16 years now in this house living together. And he moved home about 20 years ago. Not quite, maybe like 18, 18 and a half. The ataxia took away his ability to walk. I’m not sure if you’re familiar with ataxia, but it’s kind of like in the muscular dystrophy realm. And it’s very, very, very rare. he attacks your muscles. depending on the seriousness and the kind, there’s like 20 different kinds. You probably wind up dying from it because it slowly affects your muscles. And the first things to go usually are your extremities. In his case, it was his legs and his speech. So when he moved home, he already had a slight problem talking, not real bad, but my mother built a house and it was very small, just one level. so that she didn’t really have to walk up and down stairs and that type of thing. And so he was basically sleeping in the easy chair when he moved back home. And I lived across the street. So I said, come on and move in with me, because I’ve got this big house. I was a single parent at the time. I have one son. And I said, there’s plenty of room here. You can have a bedroom and live here. Stroke Experience and Recovery And so we lived here. The story behind him and the stroke, I was at the time working as a cab driver at a resort town north of here. And so I would never usually get home on weekends until like four or five in the morning. And I came home, I found him on the floor. And so he had a drinking problem at that time. And I asked him what was wrong. And he said, well, I’m drunk. I well, how long have you been here? he’d been on the floor for like four or five hours. My brother is probably 6’1″, or around 6’2″, 230, 240. I couldn’t lift him up. We bought this house as a duplex. My girlfriend at that time lived and rented from us a basement apartment. Even with the both of us, we couldn’t. get him up. So called the ambulance, we got him in and it obviously wasn’t alcohol, although he had been drinking. He wound up going to, we live in the state of Wisconsin and Madison is in the south part of the state, which is our state capital. They took him to the hospital here and then they flew him to Madison and he wound up there in the University of Wisconsin Hospital, which is a very big progressive type hospital. And he was there, I think about three weeks before he came back to a nursing home here to recover. And so his recovery before he finally got home, I would say, going back to memory, we never really wrote it down, but probably about six months. He was in the nursing home for a good three, four months and then in an assisted living type situation where he had his own room, didn’t have to share it, was going through treatment and rehabilitation before he got home. And so then he came and when he was done with that, then he moved back here. So was about a six month process. BIll Gasiamis (05:37) How long ago was a stroke? Robert (05:40) exactly. I couldn’t tell you to be honest Bill, but somewhere in the realm of six to seven years. I go back, I ran a bar at one time and I’ve been gone from there for four years and this was before that. So I would say between six and seven years ago. BIll Gasiamis (05:57) Before COVID. Robert (05:59) Yeah, before COVID. BIll Gasiamis (06:01) Okay. So when he came back from rehab and the assisted living and came to live at your house, what kind of deficits was he living with? Robert (06:13) Excuse me. He still couldn’t walk. He was already in a wheelchair at that time with a taxia. And that didn’t really change much. was worse, obviously, when he first had the stroke, but the rehab helped him to get back to, I would say more or less where he was before the stroke. As far as being ambulatory, he can still stand up. He can still… function, get into counters and cupboards and things like that. He just, the legs, he just can’t walk. He could crawl on the floor if he had to. And his arms and everything still work, so he could still type. again, this was through rehab, but he pretty much got back to where he was prior to that, except for the speech. the speech became noticeably worse. I would say even at this time, at that time it was really bad, at this time unless you know him and live with him or have known him previously, you’re probably going to understand somewhere between 60 and 70 percent. It’s usually the last part of a sentence or thought is what Most people have difficulty understanding. BIll Gasiamis (07:30) So is it the ataxia and aphasia that he’s dealing with? Robert (07:34) You know, officially he’s never been diagnosed with aphasia. It’s probably more to do with the ataxia combination with the stroke. So the doctor has never really the prognosis or whatever you want to call it. They never really diagnosed them as having aphasia. But after reading up on it and going through therapies, you know, for speech and other things. And that continued for the better part of a year. It’s kind of obvious that there’s probably some of that in there. But as far as a medical diagnosis, official medical diagnosis, we never really got that meaning from any of the doctors. BIll Gasiamis (08:17) Got it. So he came back, he would have had some needs f and you would have had to support him with those, if obviously the walking and then and then whatever other needs. So in that communication early on, were you guys able to actually communicate and you understand what his needs were and help him with what he was asking? Robert (08:40) Yes, there was a point and you being a strokes arrival, you know, I have no idea. have AFib and so, you know, kind of runs in our family. So I knew some of what he was going through, but obviously I don’t know what anybody who’s had strokes, you know, have to go through on a daily basis. watching him, there was a point, especially in the nursing home immediately after in the first several months. I would say that there was major depression. There was a battle. I often quote a movie. There was a line that black actor, what was his name? Older guy that played God. Anyway, came on said one time, you never get busy living or you get busy dying. And so I mean, there came a point. after like the first month where we kind of had a come to Jesus conversation at the nursing home and it was like, okay, because he wasn’t following their recommendations too much. didn’t really, the therapy and stuff, wasn’t too thrilled and excited to do that. so I mean, through this conversation, it was like, okay, like, look, you know, either. You try and make the best of the situation and improve or I can’t help you. It’s like alcoholism or any other drug disease. You really have to want to do it, I think, yourself. And so he’s been dry now for, boy, well, since the stroke, probably close to 10 years now. I mean, he slowed down enough after the stroke, he quit completely. But so, yeah. So I mean, that, you know, the communication. I could communicate with him in hospital. It was harder, obviously, but, you know, I could still understand him. The one thing that helped me out throughout the period that we lived together, especially after the stroke, was I taught English online. So I talked to people from Saudi Arabia. I talked to people, you know. from various countries around the world. And that really helped me because I had to listen closely to them. But there are still times where I will ask him, I get 90 % of it and we get to the last couple of words and I’ve got the gist of it, but it’s like, I don’t understand the last words. He’s come out like, okay, ask me three times. If I ask him three times, I still can’t understand it. Like, spell it for me. You know, so I mean, that’s kind of how we got by until I developed this app. BIll Gasiamis (11:23) Yeah. And it it’s interesting, like you guys all went through rehab, left from hospital, came home, he had a speech issue, and yet you guys didn’t weren’t given a tool or something to help you guys communicate at all. It wasn’t even like a thought for anybody to do that. Robert (11:45) No, there was not. I mean, he had speech therapy when he went to the hospital, but that was an hour, three times a week or two times a week. I mean, it wasn’t an everyday type of thing. So yeah. then exercise is when he came home from there that he would, know, phrases and words and stuff that the therapist would want him to practice at home. And even that was… somewhat of a struggle, because we’re kind of, no disrespect to nationalities, but we’re kind of pigheaded Germans. Communication Challenges and Solutions BIll Gasiamis (12:20) that being said, you come home, you haven’t got the tools, you’re trying to help. your brother, there is times where you can’t understand what he’s saying. And you think, I know, I’ll create my own solution for this problem. And tell me about th the background that you had that helped you solve that problem and the solution that you created. Robert (12:43) Yeah, well, if we go back to, you know, when he came home, because this is obviously been recent, right? It’s because of my background was in television and communications. I worked in television and radio. And so I enjoyed playing with computers when he came home because, you know, we were fairly close family and knew him. I just let him do his thing. you know, and if he asks for help whenever I was there for him. But I always felt like a third wheel going through, you know, the stuff from him, his his rehab. I take him there and do it, but there wasn’t much except for like the speech stuff to help him be repetitive on that. So it felt like kind of a third wheel. So it kind of settled into a pattern, you know, unless he needed help, he’s pretty self sufficient. He has a CNA that comes over a couple times a week to make sure that like, when he takes a shower, he doesn’t fall, you know, that that kind of stuff helps with the dishes or cooks a couple meals and puts it in the refrigerator. But I was looking for ways, you know, and trying to think of what a person could do. Creating Solutions Through AI Well, So I still work, you know, part time. And through television, I had my own production company and did things on the side all the time. And so I like to be creative. And a friend of mine who lives in Chicago had a business and we started playing around with AI for about the last six months now. And it’s not as easy as some people say it is, you know, and especially to learn how to use it. So we started playing around with it. And the frustration level of learning AI got to me after we were into it two or three months. you know, learning how to prop things and explain things to get the result that you wanted, I think is one of the biggest keys for that. And not to go off on a tangent here, but this is how the app and working for my brother really came about. I just needed a break. So it came to a point where I’m cussing and swearing. swearing back at the computer and AI and I’m like, no, no, no, no, we tried to do this like five times. This is really simple. You just change this one thing and you’ve got what I want. But every time I asked it, would change something else. And so I’m like, OK, I still want to continue to learn how to use AI, but I got to just put that aside for a minute and take a day off and not work on that. And so we happened I’ve had, I was a single parent. My son was 13 months when my ex-wife left. And so I raised them by myself. And I’ve had a housekeeper that’s been with me for like 20 years. And she is getting older. She’s like in her late 60s, early 70s now. She fell and she busted her hip. And so we had to find another housekeeper while she was recovering. You know, I said, if you want to come back, you’re more than welcome to, but you know, we’ll find someone else in the meantime. And so we had someone come over to the house and give us a quote on what it would cost us to just tidy up the kitchen and the bathrooms and stuff, because I still work about 30 to 35 hours a week. the same thing that happens over and over again when people and relatives visit us with his speech happened with her. And when I’m around, I’m the go-between. I mean, it’s kind of they understand the 60 % of the first part of his answer. And because he’s around the house all the time and doesn’t leave it, I leave those kind of decisions that I take care of the outside and the lawn and those things that I leave the inside of the house to what he wants. Because he’s the one that spends most of the time, you know, in here. And so I’m answering, you know, I’m filling in the blanks for her. You she’s like, okay. I understand you want the bathroom clean this way, but what was that last part? And so I finished the sentence. I’m like, well, he said this, you know? And it kind of dawned on me at that time, you know, going back to the third wheel feeling, kind of dawned on me at that time. I’m like, okay, what if I asked AI a couple of questions about how I can help him, you know? I mean, and help him with his speech. And that’s basically how the app came about. She gave us a quote that was here for half hour, and that happened half a dozen times. And so after she left, I’m like, all right, I still want to try and continue to learn this. And maybe by doing a different project that I’m not just completely frustrated with at the moment, I can help myself with this other project and help him all at the same time. And so. I just posed the question to you, I use Claude mostly, and I just posed the question to Claude, and it gave me the answer. And from that point on, we, over the last, it’s been a little over two months, two and a half or three months, we refined it, probably ended up in running in about two or three days. Introducing the Aphasia Communication App BIll Gasiamis (18:03) So fundamentally, can you tell me how the app works, what it is and how it works specifically? Robert (18:11) It’s basically whatever you want it to be. And it has everything to do with how functional you still are. It’s not designed to be an end all be all. It can be. If you can’t speak at all, it can be. Because you can either type, depending on your conditioning. Do your hands still work? Can you type? So you can type, there’s a line there as you see, you can type in whatever phrase or sentence that you want, and then it will speak out loud what you type in. And then there’s also for people that are limited in their use of their hands, pre-made phrases. And they range from emergency phrases, I need to go to the bathroom, you need to call the doctor. you know, personal phrases, hello, goodbye, you know, things that, and I just thought up as many as I could. And we’ll add to that as we move through stuff and anybody that has suggestions, like contact, and that’s probably what’s screwing something up is I didn’t have a contact on there. So my email’s on there now that if you have an idea, please feel free to, you know, contact me and we’ll try and put something in for that. So that way, you know, if you have an emergency or you have like the housekeeper, you know, like the situation we are and you know, you need something, all you do is just click on the button and then it will speak that phrase out loud. I just wanted it very simple, very straightforward. And so, you know, it’s designed in the sense of doing it that way. If you want to go to a medical definition of it, you could use it and substitute your own voice completely if you want. But the idea is probably more of a helping situation where anybody going through therapy, like watching my brother go through therapy and coming home with phrases and words that he had to, you could literally you know, hit the button, that phrase would come up and you could practice that or, you know, the speech therapist could give you a list of things that could, if you could still type, you could type that in and then work with that at home. If you didn’t like me and my brother, add me to, you know, to be here to rub through that kind of stuff. But if you were alone or someone couldn’t get over it, you could use it in that realm. And depending on how your rehab went, you could be useful for six months. It could be useful for a lifetime. again, that’s why the prices where it’s at, it’s not here for me to get rich off of. want people to, you know, I want it to help people. It’s my brother and I want it to help. So, you know, if you can afford it, it’s $8.99, $9. And that’s a lifetime deal. So once I get this problem. BIll Gasiamis (21:00) Yeah. What’s the price? Yeah. Expanding Accessibility in Care Facilities Robert (21:13) cleared up that I didn’t know about. You can use it for however long it’s there. BIll Gasiamis (21:19) Yeah, nine dollars. I it thirteen Australian dollars. It’s if it it’s well worth it. Like if you get a you get a tool for nine dollars and you use it forever, like that’s perfectly fine. No issue with that whatsoever. so it it’s Robert (21:31) You know, we are doing something as far as facilities are concerned. I’ve reached out to nursing homes, assisted living places, and I haven’t heard back from any of them yet. I’ve gotten some response on it. It seems favorable, but I haven’t got into any kind of negotiations or anything with them. One of my ideas is like going through with what my mother went through with her dementia, right? Here in Tomahawk, there’s one, two, three, two nursing homes and an assisted living place. And so my brother and I and my son, they had a couple rooms where instead of being out in the general population area with people all around, we could book a room that had a television and a couch and a table and stuff. And we would bring order a pizza or bring in food and spend a couple hours as a family where we weren’t disturbed. And my idea for them is twofold. Number one, seeing as how you could use it on an iPad or a tablet. If you had, I have one of the people that helped me here give me information. I work for a group called Tom Ocunary Interfaith Volunteers. it’s a, we give free rides to senior citizens and people. with disabilities. they can go to the doctor, they can go to the store. And one of the guys was the director at one of these facilities. And he came through to become a director all the way from just being a CNA, which is a very low paying job. It’s the people who clean up the messes, let’s just say, you know, to running the facility for this company. And, you know, he’s like, I had one person on my wing that no one else in the building could understand but me. And he said, even I had a 50 % chance of understanding what he really wanted. To have this, say an iPad that you could have hooked onto your cart when you’re making rounds or something, he said, would have been invaluable. And so not only in that respect to help them with clients that they have, but then they would also have like a legal transcription of something in case something a family said that so and so did this to so and so that was bad or they had a problem of some kind. It could be documented. The other aspect of that was with these rooms I was talking about was, you know, you could literally take the computer and open up just like we are here. You’re going to open up a couple of browser windows. You could put Larry’s you know, speak easy, the interface in one window, you can open up FaceTime on Facebook or Zoom or whatever, you know, communication, let’s say that your daughter lived in Phoenix, Arizona or New York or somewhere. You could get them on the line and you can literally have a conversation back and forth because it would speak out loud through the speaker. And if you were, again, able to type and or hit the phrases, you know, that person over there would hear it come out of the computer. And so you could then keep closer tabs on your relatives. Because I think one of the bigger things, having this experience with our mother, was the isolation and the loneliness. mean, in those days, which is now 15 years ago, I went there every other day for an hour or two. I still had to work and still had other things to do. So, you know, to be able to come home and just sit down at a computer and talk to them would have been real nice. So in a sense of, you know, keeping in touch with your family and that type of thing with friends or whatever. Like my brother was a travel agent in Minneapolis and he’s still got two or three of the people that he worked with that are still in his life. So to be able to, you know, do that and you can hold a conversation with them and catch up and things. So I think that would be those two things combined I think should be, how do I put it, attractive to a facility, not only for the client but also for the facility itself. BIll Gasiamis (25:45) Yeah, yeah. To be able to take an iPad and press a button and have a basic conversation at such a low cost to entry, like that’s really good. I imagine there is already software that’s similar that would Robert (26:00) There’s one that’s, and I can’t remember the name of it, so you’ll excuse me. hope. But there’s one that’s about $13 or $14 right around $12.99 or $13.99. That is similar. But from that point on, the next step up is about $150 all the way up to like $7,000 or $8,000 where you actually have to have equipment at home that… you need to learn and or have help using. So there’s really a pretty big gap in that. That’s just my opinion. My research isn’t paid. There could be other things out there. I know there’s a lot of text to speech and a lot of the tablets and stuff right now. just to be dedicated to, excuse me, you know. people with this, you know, aphasia with recovering from stroke. So I really thought, you know, when I, when I’m a My brother showed him, I’m like, wow, this could really help not just him, but other people. BIll Gasiamis (27:05) Yeah, understood. And Robert, if somebody wanted to get a copy of this or to check it out, where would they go? Final Thoughts and Resources Robert (27:14) Speakeasy.com and again, like I said, there’s a free trial. You could just go there and check it out. And if that, you you decide over the course of that free seven days, if that would help you or not help you, you know, and that way then there’s, there’s no push, you know, I think that’s a week. And so if you’re truly interested in it, you have to remember that, that there’s only seven days to try it out and use it. If it helps, it helps, and if it doesn’t, that’s fine, you move on. BIll Gasiamis (27:43) That’s cool. Yeah. Yeah. Very good. Robert, well, I really appreciate you sharing your story and your challenges that you guys have both had to overcome and the development of this little basic simple tool that solves a problem and and reaching out so that we can let people know so that if they need to solve a problem like that, that is similar and they’re happy to pay nine ninety nine US dollars, then that that might help them. That might be a good way to go about solving a little problem well, a big problem for people in in their home. Robert (28:21) You know, we’ve, it of, asked me something that I did here just recently because we are on the, NAA, the National Aphasia Association website as a resource. We’re on a smaller, it’s called the Stroke Foundation out of Texas, started by a family very similar to your case, a family that has suffered stroke in the family, and it’s a family-run foundation. We have 300, almost 260 something people that have tried it across without any type of advertising just by talking on Facebook and supporters. And also we’re people from 20 different countries now have tried it. So, you know, I welcome them all, you know, just try and if it helps, good for you. And I’m happy that. you do something to help anybody. BIll Gasiamis (29:17) Yeah. Thank you, mate. Thank you for joining me on the podcast. Bill Gasiamis (29:19) Well, there you have it. My conversation with Robert Schmidbauer. A huge thank you to Robert for reaching out and for sharing his and his brother’s story. What stays with me from this one is how simple the whole thing is. Two brothers with a communication gap that the system never closed. And instead of waiting for permission or a diagnosis, Robert sat down and built the tool himself. Nine dollars for life because it’s his brother and he wants to help. If you or someone you love is dealing with speech difficulties after stroke, head to the show notes right now. You’ll find the link to Larry’s Speakeasy there and the app that Robert built at Larry’s Speakeasy.com. There’s a free seven-day trial so you can see it for yourself whether it helps before you spend a cent. And while you’re there, if the episode gave you something, like it, leave a comment. Share it with someone who needs it and subscribe so you never miss another episode. Every one of these things helps more stroke survivors and their families find this show. If you’d like to go deeper on Aphasia, check out my earlier conversation with Tracy Bode, Aphasia Help After Stroke At recoveryafterstroke.com/slash Aphasia Help After Stroke. Tracy Bode. The links will be in the show notes. My book, The Unexpected Way That a Stroke Became the Best Thing That Happened, is available at recoveryafterstroke.com/book. And if this show has helped you and you can support it at patreon.com/recoveryafterstroke I would deeply appreciate it. Thanks for being here. I’ll see you on the next episode. The post Robert Schmidtbauer – Building a Voice for My Brother appeared first on Recovery After Stroke.

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Every person has received God's invitation through Jesus Christ—but not everyone responds. In the parable of the Great Banquet (Luke 14:15–24), Jesus exposes the excuses that keep people from experiencing the joy, forgiveness, and eternal life He freely offers. Good things like careers, family, possessions, and even religion can become barriers when they take Christ's rightful place. Join us as we discover why the invitation is open, why excuses are so dangerous, and why there is still room at the King's table for all who will come.

Resistance- The Fear That Is Stopping Your Success Why do we resist doing the very things we know would move our lives forward? In this episode, I share a live training session exploring the hidden force behind procrastination, self-sabotage, overthinking, limiting beliefs, and the fear of change. Although these challenges appear different on the surface, I believe they often stem from the same place – fear-based resistance. We'll look at why your unconscious mind may be holding you back, how overthinking disguises itself as productivity, why perfectionism creates paralysis, and how small steps can dissolve fear far more effectively than giant leaps. I also share practical ways to work with resistance, including reflection, visualisation, questioning limiting beliefs, and reconnecting with the feeling of where you truly want to go. Because success isn't about forcing yourself forward. It's about understanding what's holding you back and learning how to move beyond it. In This Episode Why resistance often shows up as fear rather than laziness The hidden connection between procrastination, self-sabotage and overthinking How perfectionism keeps you stuck Why limiting beliefs create resistance to success The fear of change and stepping beyond your familiar zone Using reflection and journaling to uncover answers already inside you Why small steps beat giant leaps every time How to create momentum without overwhelming yourself The question that helps dissolve resistance and create movement Key Takeaway Resistance isn't the enemy. It's a signal. When you stop fighting it and start understanding what fear is underneath it, you can begin to move forward with confidence, clarity and purpose. Success often isn't about learning more. It's about removing the resistance that's already stopping you. Please share with a friend: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/484-resistance-the-fear-that-is-stopping-your-success Shine Brightly

The 5 Hidden Payoffs of Fear That Keep OCD and Anxiety Loops RunningMost people assume fear is just something that happens to them. In this episode, Matt Codde, LCSW and founder of Restored Minds, explains why part of the mind actually believes it's benefiting from staying afraid, and why that belief is what keeps the fear loop running.Matt breaks down 5 "secondary gains", the hidden payoffs of safety, control, identity, pain avoidance, and self-justification that quietly convince you fear is protecting you. He walks through real examples (driving anxiety, health anxiety, relationship fears, money fears) showing how fear often creates the exact outcome it claims to prevent.If you've ever wondered why you can't just "stop worrying," this episode explains the piece that usually gets missed: you can't let go of fear until you're willing to let go of what you believe it's giving you.

The Department of Justice has repeatedly argued that it cannot meet the congressionally mandated deadline to release all Jeffrey Epstein–related documents because of the massive volume of material and the need to review and redact sensitive information, particularly the identities of alleged victims, before publication. DOJ officials have said that millions of documents are still under review and that hundreds of attorneys and over 400 reviewers are working through the backlog, but they have also acknowledged that only a tiny fraction—less than 1 percent—of the files have been made public well past the Dec. 19, 2025 statutory deadline. The department further resisted efforts by lawmakers to appoint a special master or independent monitor to oversee compliance, claiming that Congress's cosponsors lack standing in the Maxwell criminal case and that judges do not have authority to compel faster action. In letters to the court, DOJ representatives have emphasized the logistical burden of the review and insisted the effort is ongoing, framing the delays as a byproduct of the sheer scale of the task rather than intentional obstruction.Critics have seized on the department's complaints as evidence of willful slowness, selective release, and a prioritization of protecting powerful individuals over transparency and accountability. Lawmakers, victims' advocates, and commentators have blasted the pace and extent of the release as insufficient to satisfy the bipartisan Epstein Files Transparency Act, and some have suggested the DOJ's invocation of redaction and procedural burden is being used as a pretext to conceal politically sensitive material. Bipartisan pressure has grown, with proposals for audits of the department's compliance and threats of contempt proceedings against top DOJ officials for failing to meet the law's requirements. Even a federal judge acknowledged the lawmakers' concerns were “undeniably important,” though he declined to intervene directly. The frustration stems from the perception that the department's complaints about being bogged down are enabling continued opacity, retraumatizing survivors, and undermining public trust in the justice system's willingness to confront Epstein's network fully.to  contact me:bobbycapucci@protonmail.comsource:Top federal prosecutors ‘crushed' by Epstein files workload - POLITICOBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-epstein-chronicles--5003294/support.

What if someone’s go-to excuse isn’t actually true? In this hilarious Dirty Little Secret, a caller reveals the surprising lie they tell over and over just to avoid one very specific type of conversation. It's awkward, relatable, and guaranteed to make you wonder what excuses people around you are secretly using. Listen now to this unforgettable confession from The Jubal Show! Perfect for fans of Dirty Little Secret, funny confessions, anonymous secrets, comedy podcasts, and entertaining radio moments. The juiciest, most outrageous confession podcast from The Jubal Show! It's the Jubal Show's Dirty Little Secret! Listeners spill their wildest, weirdest, and most scandalous secrets anonymously—no judgment, just pure entertainment. From shocking revelations to hilarious mishaps, you never know what you'll hear next! Hosted by Jubal Fresh and the team, every episode is packed with jaw-dropping confessions, witty reactions, and unexpected twists. Got a secret? Share it with us… we promise we won’t tell!➡︎ Get on The Jubal Show with your story - https://thejubalshow.com This is just a tiny piece of The Jubal Show. You can find every podcast we have, including the full show every weekday right here…➡︎ https://thejubalshow.com/podcasts The Jubal Show is everywhere, and also these places: Website ➡︎ https://thejubalshow.com Instagram ➡︎ https://instagram.com/thejubalshow X/Twitter ➡︎ https://twitter.com/thejubalshow Tiktok ➡︎ https://www.tiktok.com/@the.jubal.show Facebook ➡︎ https://facebook.com/thejubalshow YouTube ➡︎ https://www.youtube.com/@JubalFresh Support the show: https://the-jubal-show.beehiiv.com/subscribeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sometimes, the thing we ask God to provide is not the thing we really need.  While we often bring our surface struggles to Jesus, asking Him to fix our finances or change our material situation, He cares too much about us to simply heal the symptoms—He goes straight to the root of our wounds to provide the deep inner healing, peace, and contentment our souls are truly crying out for. #FULLTANKwithBroBo​ #FULLTANKwithBroBo2026​ #BoSanchez​ #GodWillProvide​ #Matthew9​ #InnerHealing​ #HealTheRoot​ #FaithInAction​ #SpiritualMaturity​ #TrulyRichMindset​ #TrueProvision​ #Grace​--- PS. Do you want to grow your finances but don't know how? For the past 18 years, I've received a lot of “thank yous” from so many TrulyRichClub members because once upon a time, they were stuck in their finances but through the club, they learned how to invest and they're on their way to financial freedom. If you want to grow your finances and reach your financial dream, go to www.trulyrichclub.com now or go to trc.ph/events to join our upcoming seminars!To support my mission work, click this link now! http://BuyMeACoffee.com/brotherbosanchez

Megyn Kelly is joined by Matt Taibbi, editor of "Racket News" on Substack, to discuss the rise of socialists within the Democratic party, 29-year-old Colorado candidate Melat Kiros' major victory over the long-time Democrat incumbent, the wild positions she has that are growing in the Democratic party, NPR's embarrassing false report that Justice Samuel Alito was retiring, Nina Totenberg's widely-criticized explanation for the mistake, the shocking backstory to the fake story and Totenberg's history of mistakes, Sheridan Gorman's mom's powerful testimony before the House yesterday, calling out Democrats for not protecting Americans and trying to focus on other issues, and more. Then Rob Finnerty, host of "Finnerty" on NEWSMAX, to discuss corporate media refusing to tell the truth about boys in girls' sports, the reality of the issue ignored by the left, a new law in Minneapolis allowing bathhouses again, Jussie Smollett's bizarre comeback appearance at a Pride event, the lawlessness seen at Pride events throughout June, Naomi Osaka making her Wimbledon appearance all about herself, Serena Williams' failed comeback and poor sportsmanship, and more.   Taibbi- https://www.racket.news/ Finnerty- https://www.newsmaxtv.com/Shows/finnerty   Supersure Insurance: Upgrade your business insurance to a year-round SuperAgency at https://Supersure.com/Megyn The Wellness Company: Don't let a sudden illness derail your summer—secure your peace of mind and save $45 on a Medical Emergency Kit today by visiting https://UrgentCareKit.com/MK and using promo code MK. Herald Group: Learn more at https://GuardYourCard.com Birch Gold: Text MK to 989898 and get a free America 250 silver round with qualifying purchase     Follow The Megyn Kelly Show on all social platforms: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/MegynKelly Twitter: http://Twitter.com/MegynKellyShow Instagram: http://Instagram.com/MegynKellyShow Facebook: http://Facebook.com/MegynKellyShow Find out more information at:https://www.devilmaycaremedia.com/megynkellyshow Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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From 'Go Birds' (subscribe here): Eliot Shorr-Parks goes over a look at all the changes around the NFL on coaching staffs — and it's pretty clear the Eagles aren't alone in having to deal with a new coordinator. Then, Jalen Hurts is ranked as the 16th best QB. Fair or unfair?

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todays news: supreme court loves money, the confederate flag is still trash, the weather is all fakaktaif you would rather read my podcast here it is. im not sure it translates on the page all the time. pls sub the podcast wherever you do your podcast business. heres the podcast now. see ya -chrisive had this cough for a few days. i was just sick and i never get sick. so i was sick and i had a cold and i thought, oh, when this is over, then i wont be sick again for like a few years. and thats not what happened. its like when i got food poisoning and then three months later got food poisoning again. the first time was at a nice restaurant in new orleans. patrick stewart was eating there. so i figured, its alright, but i got a bad oyster. then a few months later, im at a midtown mcdonalds somewhere between penn station and times square. its late at night. I was going through a lot at the moment so im eating mcdonalds by myself. and then next day it was a horror show. and i was out for like a few days. havent had food poisoning since. or mcdonalds. i dont think ive had mcdonalds since. then i had fast food after that. you have to have fast food sometimes. i mean you dont have to. you absolutely dont have to, and you shouldnt. but then, you kinda have to.im putting the transcripts of these shows on my substack now, and i feel like maybe its not a good idea, because the inflection, really, you need to hear that. so listen to the podcast and then read it and then print it up and pass the transcript out to strangers on the street. like a manifesto. like youre just trying to spread the good word. not a manifesto. dont call it a manifesto. people get in trouble over manifestos. i dont think anybodys had a manifesto that was well received. and i also dont know a lot of things, so there probably is one that i dont know about. but it sounds like a good line to say. dont come back at me with facts. i like facts. i believe in facts. im all pro facts. sounds like im saying facts like f a x. facts. its kinda hard to say and now that my attention has been brought to it, its gonna be impossible for me to say. but im not anti facts. im for them. if i make a statement, and there is a fact that will negate it, i dont want to hear it. or maybe i do. if theres a well received manifesto that you want to tell me about, email me chris@chrislaker.com and i will make an on-air correction.im going to do the news now. oh, another thing about doing the transcript, though, before i do the news. i go through, cause the voice recorder app makes a transcript and so does substack when i upload, makes a transcript. im sure thats ai, its using data center fucking shit or something like that. its probably evil and bad for the environment. but it does it automatically. i cant even stop it, i dont think. and i go and clean it up and i see all the ums and the ohs and the fucking whatevers. and i just wanted to say, im sorry. i promised jacqueline that i would no longer say this podcast is a bad podcast. its a great podcast. its the best podcast. but i could be a little more concise with my language as a journalist. sorry about this fucking cough.all right. im going to try to get through as much news as i can. of course, the supreme court is first. these fucking fucks. i hate judges. ive said it a number of times, which i shouldnt say on the record in case im in court. theyll play this. but i dont like the fact that they wear robes, i dont like the fact that they sit a little bit higher than everybody else, and i dont like the fact that they bang their little gavel to get attention. it seems very childish to me. like sit on the same level as everybody else, wear normal clothes, and if you need attention say excuse me. excuse me is very effective. everybody else uses it. you can even be angry, excuse me. you could, because youre being polite, but angry, but firm. banging a wooden mallet on the table, thatll probably get you thrown out of a restaurant. and the your honor, having to call them your honor. i dont like that either. we dont have royalty in the united states of america, this your honor thing. ive got to stop talking about my anti-judge views because one day it will come back at me. but here it is.supreme court upholds birthright citizenship on constitutional groundshttps://www.reddit.com/r/news/s/wMO1ougSA6yes. its an amendment of the constitution. birthrights. i dont even understand how that becomes a court case. its pretty clear in the constitution. i guess they go to the supreme court, says, yeah, i know what it says. but you know what we want to do. come on, just let us do the thing we want to do. they didnt know when they wrote that that it would be like this. you know what i mean. dont make me say it. theres certain kinds of people who have birthright citizenship now that maybe when they wrote this they wouldnt think those kinds of people would have it. come on, just let us do it. and that worked on a few of the justices. it wasnt like a clean sweep of the constitution wins there. so, but birthright citizenship still a thing. for now.mount olive pickles withdraws from great american state fair after confederate flag at north carolina boothhttps://www.reddit.com/r/news/s/rOtzBnpswvi feel like anything there is to say about the confederate flag is so obvious and its been said a million times. its like, yeah, its a loser flag. its a traitor flag. its weird that people have this attachment to it and some attachment to the confederacy when they lost and they were on the wrong side of everything. you can just let that go, man. but they love it. i have family way back who fought in the civil war on the north side. and i dont claim some ownership of that. he wasnt me. but to make a big deal out of the north carolina booth having a confederate flag, they love that. they love the people getting upset about it. so its like, fine, fly your loser flag, nobodys seeing it at the america state fair anyway. theres like nobody there. thats probably also part of the reason why this mount olive pickle company pulled out. but good for mount olive pickles. im usually a vlasic person. maybe ill take a look at mount olive since they had the courage to stand up and say, we are not going to let the seven people coming to our booth stop us from pulling out of this fair because we dont agree with the confederate flag.nun arrested by ice as she walked to mass in texas is releasedhttps://www.reddit.com/r/news/s/NDnuejJ4X7why would they arrest the nun walking to mass? did the ice agents, were they just watching sister act and then they see a nun walking? better arrest her in case, you know, criminal in disguise. and shes not, so they have to say, im sorry, you gotta understand, havent you seen sister act? youre walking around looking like a disguised whoopi goldberg, and you expect us not to question you. well, we didnt really question you, we arrested you. we call it questioning, but its arresting. the question is, do you think youre under arrest? and the answer is yes.supreme court strikes down limits on political parties campaign spending in win for gophttps://www.reddit.com/r/news/s/txoi6InmtEthe supreme court, they love money. they love money when its being paid to them through alleged bribes. dont know that thats true. ive heard this being said. but they love money. they love money in elections. they love money going into their accounts. they love gifts. of any kind. so money is what everybody wants in elections, of course. if you ask anybody, do you want campaign finance reform? theyre saying, no, no, we want no regulation. all the money. i love political ads. i love getting the texts. i like whenever i watch a sporting event to just see all sorts of attack ads from these political packs that dont answer anybody. and i say this all the time, but i dont even understand who these ads work on. ive never seen a political ad and thought, i should listen to what theyre saying here. this is important, and definitely not a bunch of lies. and it hasnt worked here in california when tom steyer spent like more money than anybody on his governor campaign and he didnt get past the primary. and rick caruso, he spent a bunch of money trying to be the mayor of los angeles, and he lost by a lot. but i guess this is good. the gop are very happy. they get to spend a lot of money.snow blankets montana closing beartooth pass and dumping sixteen inches near idaho borderhttps://www.reddit.com/r/news/s/JtOXBCiqMli thought everything was heating up right now. i guess everythings just all over the place. i used to watch those doomsday prepper reality shows showing peoples doomsday bunkers and the preppers always sounded so crazy. and now, i think theyre probably acting a little smug. i dont know any doomsday preppers. i should meet some. see if i can get space in a bunker.us declares to exit usmca to start a decade-long countdown for the pacthttps://www.reddit.com/r/news/s/248abxGLg2what the fuck? this is the thing that trump said theres no nafta, then he renegotiates a new nafta, which is kind of like not much different from what i understand. i dont know that much. but this is the deal that trump made, and now he doesnt like it. maybe he forgets he made it because he might be suffering from some brain issues, some people are saying. so he doesnt remember making the deal and figures it must be obama. lets end it. thats a theory that i just made up and its a joke. satire.one more story, and then i gotta go.luigi mangiones federal trial in united healthcare ceos killing postponed until januaryhttps://www.reddit.com/r/news/s/aFEJJXDwy5luigis obviously innocent until proven guilty, and hes pled not guilty. i believe him. i dont think theyre just going to let him go, though, even if the jury finds him not guilty. i think theyll find another way to hang him up and hell just be in jail forever. but if hes found not guilty and gets to go home, itd be interesting to see. thats all im going to say about that. itd be interesting to see.chris laker - voice of a generation is a reader-supported publication. 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You HAVE to see this — Florida Lt. Gov. Jay Collins just used his own prosthetic leg as the ultimate "participation trophy" and completely shut down Byron Donalds' refusal to debate! Pat Gray breaks down the fiery moment where Collins, a twice battle-injured Special Operations veteran, clapped back hard at Donalds' campaign saying there are “no participation trophies in politics.” Collins didn't just talk — he took off his prosthetic leg and slammed it on the podium, reminding everyone what real sacrifice looks like. This isn't just campaign drama — it's a raw moment exposing the difference between empty talk and actual service in the Florida governor's race. We also cover: Gracie the Texas Giraffe is STILL missing GTA 6 is now available for pre-sale Caitlyn Clark continues to get disrespected by the WNBA SCOTUS gives the Trump administration a BIG win on illegal immigration Hillary Clinton gives Trump a compliment — WOW! Drop your thoughts in the comments RIGHT NOW: Do you think Byron Donalds should debate Jay Collins? YES or NO? Was Collins' prosthetic leg moment powerful or over the top? Pat reads every single comment from fellow patriots like you — your voice matters in the fight for real leadership and common sense! If you want straight talk that cuts through the political nonsense and holds Republicans accountable too, smash that LIKE button, SUBSCRIBE, and share this with every friend who wants honest conservative commentary. We're keeping it real — one bold take at a time. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Saturday the 12th of April 1958, two men – 60-year-old Isaiah Dixon and 32-year-old Matthew Kavanagh – returned to their boarding house at 11 Hillmorton Road in Rugby. Kavanagh strangled Dixon with his own tie, stole 34 10s from his pockets, went shopping, and confessed to his murder. But then in court, he denied murder, and used an alibi which had got many 1950s killers off a murder charge.Location: Ground floor bedsit, 11 Hillmorton Road, Rugby, Warwickshire, Date: Saturday the 12th of April 1958, evening, Victims: Isaiah Dixon (and Evelyn Ullah)Culprit: Matthew KavanaghSeven time nominated at the True Crime Awards, Independent Podcast Awards and the British Podcast Awards, Murder Mile is one of the best UK / British true crime podcasts covering only 20 square miles of West London. It is researched, written and performed by Michael of Murder Mile UK True Crime Podcast with the main musical themes written and performed by Erik Stein and Jon Boux of Cult With No Name and additional music, as used under the Creative Commons License 4.0. A full listing of tracks used and a full transcript for each episode is listed here and a legal disclaimer.#rugby #warwickshire #truecrime #crime #ukcrime #robbery #theft #killing #law Follow me on SOCIAL MEDIA · Instagram· FaceBook· ThreadsSUBSCRIBE via PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/murdermile. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever feel like your office doesn't fit the standard benchmarks for growth? In this episode, Kiera and Dana riff on how to know whether going big or tightening the screws is the best way forward for your practice — including specific questions to ask yourself so you can get started on change today. Episode resources: Subscribe to The Dental A-Team podcast Schedule a Practice Assessment Leave us a review Transcript: Kiera Dent- Dental A Team (00:00) Hello, Dental A Team listeners. This is Kiera and today's a lucky day. I get Dana on the podcast with me. Dana, she is Donuts with Dana. She's been my ride or die for so freaking long. I love this woman so much. And fun fact, I didn't quite prep her 100 % for this podcast and yet she still shows up for a podcast with me. So Dana, how you doing today?   DAT-Dana (00:20) Doing pretty good. Listen, any podcast with you is a good time. So if I get time with Kiera, I'm showing up.   Kiera Dent- Dental A Team (00:25) Well, I appreciate   it because selfishly I needed to throw a few podcasts in the morning before a coaching call day. And I was like, ⁓ doing them solo. I'd rather have a consultant. So I just looked across the calendars and was like, which consultants are free and like threw them on people's calendars. And then Dana was like, I didn't even know that this was a podcast. So, but Dana, I equally feel the same. Like if I can snag you for a podcast, like let's roll girl. Let's have a good time. Dana.   You're Dainty to a point, but you're also Dynamite Dana. And we just had a client who's looking to work with you. And I told them like, Dana, you don't take on new clients. Like it is a very rare season. Like you happen to have a few clients that just like you've grown them enough. They're too new level that they're not staying with us. They've been with you for freaking ever. And I was like, Dana has a very rare opening. And I remember this client was like, well, we want to meet Dana. And I was like,   hold please, I'm just gonna send you a bunch of podcasts and if you need more than that, you just let me know. So, and when I was looking through them, it was like, Dynamite Dana on the podcast. And I was like, I think that one just got to stick for me Dana. Like it's the best one by far because you're a dynamic, you're dynamite and you just crush it for teams. So excited for today because today's topic is scale or simplify. Like what should growth look like in your practice? And this one I just felt was gonna be a fun rift with you and me because we have practices that.   DAT-Dana (01:23) you   Kiera Dent- Dental A Team (01:40) I think are on both sides of this coin and how do offices know? So I'm excited Dana to rift with the one and only dynamic dynamite, Dainty on the pod.   DAT-Dana (01:52) It's getting longer and longer, but I love it.   Kiera Dent- Dental A Team (01:56) But what's crazy is Dana like here's a fun fact about Dana that you guys might not know for those of you who've listened for a while great welcome if you haven't go back and listen to some of them Dana's been Don't is with Dana. I think still my favorite one, but ⁓ Dana has this wild memory you tell her one time like I can change alliterations on Dana multiple times which we've done with core values and Dana has the most current one always Dana I don't know how your memory does this cuz I'm like you'll remember that on   whatever May date we're doing this podcast on that on that date it was dynamic dynamite Dainey and you're like yeah Kiera that was the latest one and I'm like how like I have a good memory but you even skunk me like it's impressive has this always been the case for you like did you crush everybody on memory like that game memory   DAT-Dana (02:37) Yeah, it is. It's always been the   case. And it's weird. I was trying to explain it to Britt and Nikki one time. And it's like, my brain just automatically like does alliterations and associates things with like other pieces that then I can, I don't know. It's very strange, but I'll take it.   Kiera Dent- Dental A Team (02:51) I don't know. I love it.   So, every year for our company holiday party, if you guys don't do it, it's a good time. have, I hope Danny still love it. Like, but we, do fun. Kiera's games are just made up games guys. And I have a great time and it's always changing the rules. Tiffanie always loses. Even if I try to like slightly ethically cheat for her, like I give her 10 tickets on the beginning and I'm like, Tiff, if you can't freaking win with that much of a jump.   DAT-Dana (03:01) yeah.   Kiera Dent- Dental A Team (03:20) but it's always about team trivia and Dana whoops, she skunks every single year she wins it because she just has all the memory. So maybe Dana, that's why you and I both love the holiday party. Cause I just like, even tried to make it to where you won't win it. Not cause I don't want you to, but I'm like, my gosh, like you skunk them every time. So it's a fun time. We, but I'm never letting Shelbi do it again. She made me do, do you remember Jeopardy last year? I had like 200 tickets a person that I had to like peel off and raffle off.   DAT-Dana (03:32) We have... I know.   Yes.   Sift through, I know.   Kiera Dent- Dental A Team (03:50) That Shelbi is like, that one was worth 15 tickets. And so if you guys want ideas, we're gonna talk about how to simplify our scale. Like that's our topic. But if you want us to rift on holiday party ideas, Dana, that just might have to be a topic. So email in because the marketing team has to see that you want to know this for me to make podcasts anymore. So email Hello@TheDentalATeam.com and just say like, we want to hear about all your holiday party ideas. Dana and I might get back on a rift. So, but Dana, let's talk about.   scale or simplify, how do offices know? Like what are some of the defining pieces? Because I think this is something about Dental A Team I'm obsessed with is we don't have a set like model, like not every office has to have X, Y or Z, it's truly yours. like that also, I think for some offices, they just wanna be told. They wanna like, I want my mom to tell me what to do for college. Like mom, just tell me. And I think people are like, well, just tell me Dana, do I scale or do I simplify? Like how do people know? Like what's some, and again, this is a full blown, we had a few.   Excuse me, talking points, I'm not here to follow any of them. I'm just here to talk like real life, like how do we guide offices if they should simplify our scale? What's kind of some of the things you start with within office?   DAT-Dana (04:53) Yeah. So usually I'll honestly start with the owner and like, what do you truly love? Because if you don't love managing people, if you don't love doing the procedures that it takes to expand, if you don't love like   running the business and crunching the numbers and doing those pieces, if that doesn't inspire you, then let's talk about simplifying, right? Where if, if really and truly that's why you show up every day is for those pieces, then let's talk about scaling, right? And what growth looks like and you know,   what that looks like for you and it might be adding practices, might be expanding the space that you're in, it might be a variety of different things, but honestly and truly what do you love because I don't want to build something that at the end of the day just makes you dislike coming to the office more or exponentially harder.   Kiera Dent- Dental A Team (05:49) I agree with you, Dana. I think this is a spot where almost giving you as an owner, the green light to say it's okay to stay where you're at. ⁓ I have an office in Florida and every time we got on a call, everybody around them was telling them to expand. So they had six operatories. They're producing 3.5 million. Their overhead, kid you not is 35%. And people were like, right. Like it's just, ⁓ it was a great practice and they worked four days a week. It was a husband, wife duo.   And I remember we talked all the time and they're like, Kiera, everybody thinks that we should scale. Like we should get another practice. Like we've got this. And I was so annoyed because I'm like, everybody chirping in your ear doesn't realize what you want. What they wanted, their kids were a little, they're like, we want to be home with our kids. We have a very profitable practice. We're very happy with it. We have minimal debt on it and it's just fulfilling our life. And what we want to do is we want to have our summers. We want to go golfing with the boys. We want to.   get on a boat and go take, they take a month off and they go travel because they can't and they can still pay their team while they're gone. And I think for them, they actually hit this spot of growth. And what they were looking for is they didn't want to necessarily grow the practice. They practice like who would change that up? mean, they've got the, they dropped out of insurance. Like I'm talking, they have the sweetest of the suite. They work six to three. They're off every day at three o'clock. Like you want to make a dream life for people that to me was like their dream life. And so when I looked at it,   But what they did is they got stagnated and they just needed something to fulfill. So they actually then went into like church groups and community groups and she got into bodybuilding, which Dana and I can appreciate. Like she got very obsessive about like working out and putting in and spending her time in her physical health. And he spent his time in like Bible study and giving back in the community that way that I feel that if there's a spot, Dana, like you said,   know thyself and be free. And it might be that you want to scale, but you don't want to scale your practice. You just need to go find another avenue of fulfillment that can be in varying shades. That doesn't necessarily need to be the practice. So I don't know because I'm such a like, I love to grow, but I have to ask myself like, why am I growing? it for my own ego? And I'm like, no, I want to like help 500 dentists. Like we're at like a hundred, 200 dentists. Like for me, how do I help 500 dentists? And then how am going to help a thousand dentists? And how do we do that as a company? And that to me,   is the MO more than the dollars is like the big MO is big impact in dentistry. And so it's the number of dentists that we serve and we help. ⁓ That's what lights me up. But like Dana said, managing the team screw that we're bringing on a C-suite for a reason. Like I don't want to deal with that. I don't want to, like I need to build and to create. And that was, makes me happy. ⁓ But I think you do it because you want to do it, not because you feel like everybody else around you does it. But Dana, like, I don't know how to, we can say this on a podcast, but like, how do you really help a dentist?   see that that's okay. I don't know, because we had another dentist who came to our mastermind in person and she told me, said, Kiera, I'm not like them. Like I don't have big dreams. Like I'm perfectly content doing nonprofit dentistry and taking my team on nonprofit trips. And I was like, how did you miss the loud blaring message that I preach from ups on stage? Like   We don't care what you do. Like there's a dentist who works three days a week and he's so freaking happy. And I've got a dentist who's working like six days a week and he's so freaking happy. And she's so happy. Like ultimately it's not about production. It's not about days you're working. It's not about size of practice. It's about what makes you happy. But Dana, I feel like people don't see that. And they're like, no, I need to be bigger or I need to do this. Otherwise I'm failing. I don't know. What are your thoughts on that?   DAT-Dana (09:24) Yeah, and I think it is having an honest conversation that sometimes like comparison is the thief of joy. And like you said, know thyself and be free. And so oftentimes, I will put together just like, a couple options, right? Okay, so you could do this, and this is what this would look like. So we could expand the practice, it could have this many ops in order to fill this many ops, we're gonna have to bring in an associate, right? And sometimes when you map out, you go down the road of, okay, now this is going to be hiring this many people. And this is going to be the process of   creating a new building and this is, they kind of start to see, right? And they're like, I always talk to them about, okay, think about these plans, let's walk them through together. And like, does that make you feel joyful, excited, giddy, inspired, motivated? Or does that feel like it's going to be more work, daunting, more stress, those types of pieces? And yes, sometimes even the growth that you want has a little bit of stress added, right? Or has a little bit more work added in the beginning. But you should be truly excited   Kiera Dent- Dental A Team (10:12) Yes.   Mm-hmm.   DAT-Dana (10:23) And you should be ready to tackle it and feeling refreshed, not looking at it and kind of feeling like, my gosh, I'm already burnt out just even thinking about the plan.   Kiera Dent- Dental A Team (10:32) I would agree with you. And I think that there's like a, I think that's a good litmus test that you brought up Dana of like, how do I feel? Like, is that like a heavy weight and burden? Because like for me building a C-suite now in the company that actually freaking lights me up. Like I'm like, all right, let's like try to figure this out. I get excited to learn that piece of the business ⁓ building out and how can we do these different pieces? Like I get really excited, like building the client journeys. Those things still like excite me. But a few years ago when we talked about growing,   I was like hard no. It was a like put a stop on everything. If you ask me to build one more thing, I'm tapped. Like I just didn't have it in me. And so I also hope people realize that like just because you want something today or you don't want something today, that doesn't mean it's a forever process. Like it can evolve and it can morph with you. And timing is everything. Like Dana, there's some offices where I feel like they're like sleepers and they're just asleep and asleep and asleep. And then all of a sudden like, and I'm going to expand to 10 ops. And you're like,   All right, sweet. Like you and I both have a client in Nebraska and it was like sleepy client just going along status quo. And then all of a it's like, and I'm going to buy the building next door and I'm adding on to dentists. we're like, great, you're lit up for this. let's build it. So I think when people, don't know, maybe this can help people. My family was always like, where are going to move? Jason and I, this is a conversation we talked about on a regular basis. And someone said the other day, they were like, I'm going to move to the East coast. And I was like, you really want to like build your family there. And she said, Kiera, it's not forever.   Like I could just go live there for two years and I could move back to the West coast. And I think sometimes we believe like I do that where I live is my forever permanent, like non-negotiable. And if I'm going to scale or I'm going to simplify, that's my forever non-negotiable rather than like, this is the season and time I'm at. That office that I talked about, their kids are getting older. I know they're starting to think about different things and what they want their life to look like. And so I also want you to realize that if you choose to scale or you choose to simplify,   They're not irreversible decisions. Like if you scale it up, there's a doctor that just joined us and she's a really awesome example. I'm getting her on the podcast. I can't wait to bring her on. Dana doesn't even know about this client. She's new to the company. She's awesome. She freaking blew up a business. Like she launched it. It rocked. She expanded. She built it so big. And then COVID hit and she was in a space where oil and gas were her main clientele. And all of her patients had that. And she's like, I lost them all. She's like, so I had added 10 more ops to my practice.   I had to scale it back down to what it was before, make it go through. And I had this like huge lease on me. And I think about her that like, even if you expand it out and blow it out, she still was able to get herself back to profit margins, found a way around it. That for, I think people, maybe Dana, get nervous and it's like, this is my, I don't know, my like glory or my doom forever. But it's like, it's just decisions and it decides on if it lights you up or if takes you down. I don't know. I've said a lot of words. What do you think on that, Dana?   DAT-Dana (13:26) No, I agree with you. agree. And I think that, too, like you said, people have different seasons in their lives. And at different points, they want different things. And it's okay to want something now to build it and then to decide that that isn't where you want to sit forever. And then we pivot, we come up with other plans. And in the reverse, it's like, oftentimes, I feel like offices don't realize how much you can simplify but still grow. And so, you know, I think it's just going through.   Kiera Dent- Dental A Team (13:29) Thank   Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Say that again, because I think people   might have missed that. Say that again, Dana.   DAT-Dana (13:57) Yeah, you can still simplify things in your practice and have massive growth.   Kiera Dent- Dental A Team (14:03) Yes. Bingo. I also hope people hear that because like that practice I was sharing in Florida and Dana, you've got some offices right now that we talked about. We had a case study where they were negative cash. They simplified and they have grown and they've expanded so much. think people often feel, I don't know, I'm going to be hated. I can tell. I'm like playing with my hair a lot right now. That means I'm nervous to say what I'm about to say. So if you're watching, thanks for, I'm sure the marketing team is going to love cropping this.   I think some people feel the ego pull to be larger when that's not really what they want to do. And so they expand or they build because it is really sexy to go to an event or to talk to your bros or your girls and say, this is my office and look how amazing it is. But I think that there's a silent killer that sits inside where they're under debt, they're exhausted, they're so tired and they don't want that versus my practice in Florida. On the outside, I remember looking at it I was like,   This doesn't strike me as their office, but they're like, here it's cheap. It's paid for it fits our clientele and the inside was gorgeous and they renovated it at times. It's a small, tiny office, but I'm like, it does not need to be the grandiose. Like they're not going to go up in a presentation and throw the exterior of their building on a screen. Like it's not, it's not something where you drive by and you're like, wow, I want that dental office. But what I do is I want the profitability. want the life. I want the interior. I want the people that come to that practice. I want the team of that practice.   that I think sometimes ego drives. And again, the exterior of this practice is not like, I think it's a beautiful practice. It's not one though that I'm gonna drive by and stop and be like, my gosh, like this. And so I think sometimes people get that temptation pull. I mean, I've had it. Dana, do you know how embarrassed I used to, I shouldn't tell you this, you were part of it. I used to be embarrassed to post about our team when we do like our Disneyland retreats and there was five of us. And I was like, because we look like.   We look like this piddly little consulting company and I was embarrassed about it. And I wanted to have that giant team picture. And I'll tell you having a freaking giant team picture. That's a lot of mouths, a lot of headache and a lot of stress, but like, feel the ego pole as a leader and a business owner. And it used to be like, loved my team and we were five. I loved us. Like Dana, do you remember the Disneyland retreat sitting in that room together? Like we had some killer fun times together and my life was exponentially easier.   DAT-Dana (16:18) Yeah.   Kiera Dent- Dental A Team (16:26) But like, how do you talk about the ego pull? Even though that's not necessarily, like, I don't want the stress, Dana. I don't want that. I want, I actually want the number of clients we serve today with that, intimate team. Like that's really, and I think we are getting closer to actually having that. think we've been doing a better job there, but like, how do you have that ego pull, not pull you because simplicity is not fun to refine. And we could have done probably a lot more on a lot less people.   ⁓ And now I'm getting people that text me like, my gosh, look at your team. Like I want to join Dental A Team. And I'm like, well, thank you. You don't know like the chaos behind the scenes. ⁓ How do you prevent? Because I think there was a piece of me that might have grown for ego and status too. And like I've never admitted that on the podcast, but I hope people recognize that like these are real conversations too.   DAT-Dana (17:15) Yeah, I think it's just an open and honest conversation about why and about where they are and about what their options are I have a doctor right now who like really really   keeps reiterating how much he wants multiple practices. And we've had to have just kind of a reality conversation of, hey, I will help you build whatever it is that you really truly want. Also though, we just had a conversation about you wanting to start a family, right? And so I always say to him, right, the right decision comes at the right time. And if it's not the right time, maybe it's not the right decision. And let's just take a look at what it would look like to actually be able to get you out of this practice a little bit more to then start to build your family, to then   maybe be able to have practice number two and practice number three that you don't have to be dependent to be in practice number one anymore. And so I do think it's just an open and honest conversation. And sometimes as a coach or as a consultant, these conversations can be uncomfortable.   But let's take a look at where you are. Let's take a look at why you want to do this thing. Obviously, we're going to look at the numbers to make sure that it makes sense and to make sure that you can do it as as minimal stress as possible. But ultimately, why do you want this? Why do you want this thing? Right? What is driving you to do it? What do you hope that it creates? And if all of those pieces really align with what you want, great. And that's awesome. And if they don't, let's figure out a different way.   Kiera Dent- Dental A Team (18:37) Yeah. And I hope everybody has heard throughout this entire episode, Dana has been saying that there's another option. There's a different way that we could figure out something. And I think that that's the benefit of having a coach go through this with you on the simplifier scale, because I know as a business owner, really it's a like, it feels like it's a straight up line. Like you start here and then you grow your team and you grow your profits and you grow your production. You hope you grow your profits. but like that's kind of how it feels like in business linear. But I think with coaching,   Dana, I've seen hundreds of offices and it's a like, well, great. You can have a family today and we can build it. Like you said, we could build practices that don't even rely on you. You can have associates. I've had doctors who have associates that go and open. They just get part of the ownership of it, but they have to do nothing of it. They like help fund it and that's all their requirement is. And the doctor's super happy. They're super happy. And I think what I've learned too, Dana, is for people to realize, like, I think, like I said, I think it's a straight linear is how in my mind it feels.   but I'd like you to almost see it as a spiderweb or there are so many different, or maybe a better analogy is like Venice. Let's do Venice. That feels a little prettier. There are so many winding sideways and different routes. Like it's not just the canal you need to follow. And I think having a consultant, having a coach, having people that are in a community, talking of different ways, I genuinely know and believe that there are probably 200 different ways to get to the ultimate goal you want that doesn't maybe look the way you're painting it in your head today. And I think Dana, you could attest to that as well.   DAT-Dana (20:04) Yeah, absolutely.   Kiera Dent- Dental A Team (20:06) So Dana, if there's a doctor out there that's like, do I simplify, I scale? What would you recommend like in quick like two or three bullet points that they do today to make that decision cleaner for them?   DAT-Dana (20:16) Yeah, I think first and foremost, really think about what you want for your life, not just your practice. Think about...   how much time you want to be at the office, what are the things that you want to do, ⁓ just kind of where you are in your space of life. And I think too, honestly, second thing on that list would be like reach out for help, talk to people who've done it, reach out to a coach. If it's not a coach, find a mentor, find somebody in your area that has expanded or has but in a second practice. What are the lessons that they would tell you? What are the things that they would tell you to look out for? ⁓   and also too, like what are other options? And so I feel like use your network or look for a coach.   Kiera Dent- Dental A Team (20:59) Yeah, and that's why she's called Dynamic Dynamite Dana because with that, that's a perfect wrap. And I hope all of you take her advice. Reach out, we'd love to chat with you. Like, I'll give you free advice. We'll talk to you. Our team's here. Be a part of our community. And Dana, thank you for being on the podcast. I appreciate you in my life. I appreciate you on the podcast. And for all of you listening, thank you for listening. I'll catch you next time on the Dental A Team Podcast.  

Open up your Bibles to Galatians 5 and we’re going to add a few more to the list of yuck – Yes, the left side of the list under the label “Without the Holy Spirit”. We’re looking at what we do and who we naturally become the Holy Spirit isn’t given room in our lives and we’re directed by the world and our flesh. This list is like a blarring alarm, “WARNING, THIS ISN’T WHAT GOD WANTS FOR YOU”. If you find yourself doing these things continually, you can now know why. If someone you love is doing these things, you can know why. Wrong director. Wrong influence. Wrong side of the list. Looking at Galatians 5: 19-21, in part 1 we studied “sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures and idolatry”. In Part 2 we studied “sorcery, hostility, quarreling and jealousy”. Well, that’s been fun, hasn’t it? Let’s address the next 5 today with what happens when our lives aren’t following the direction of the Holy Spirit, “Outbursts of anger, selfish ambition, dissension, division”. These are 5 attitudes and behaviors that damage our relationship with God and with other people. 1. Outbursts of Anger This is a desire to control situations or people when things don’t go our way. We lash out, we say things to hurt others, we lose control of our emotions and our mouth. This is not under the guidance of the Holy Spirit. God never leads us to just blow up. It’s never his desire for us to lose our temper. Scripture says, “In your anger do not sin.” It’s okay to be angry sometimes. There are things that should make us angry. But there’s righteous anger and outbursts of anger. There’s anger that leads to healthy change, and there’s anger that just hurts people. Check your anger sis. God didn’t design you to be continually angry and disgruntled about something. Some of us walk around continually angry about life and we wonder why we struggle to have good relationships and feelings of happiness. Girl, you’ve got a grouchy bug in you. 2. Selfish Ambition This is a self-seeking attitude that says, “What’s in it for me?” Do you have a unique way of making everything all about you? Yeah, that’s selfish-ambition, and guess what, that’s not from the Holy Spirit. When we pursue our own success, happiness or advantage at the expense of everyone else, this not only makes us look like a real crap person, but it grieves God. Selfish was NOT the example of Jesus. Never once do we see Jesus in all of his righteousness, in all of his glory, in all of his power making everything about him at the expense of others. When really, it really was all about him. He was and is the answer to everything, but he sits down with the sinner, he draws near to the pain, he stretches out a hand to the hurt. If we’re going to be like Jesus, all our selfish ambition has to be stripped away. If we’re going to be like Jesus, we will willingly bend down and wash feet even if we are the greatest in the room. So really, what is the Holy Spirit calling you to do in the group you’re in … he’s calling you to make it about them and not about you. 3. Dissension This might be a new word for you. What does this mean? Dissension is a critical spirit that constantly looks for flaws and faults in others. Rather than building up, it tears down, creating conflict, tension, and division. Have you ever heard someone use the expression, “Well, I’ll be the devil’s advocate”, then they stream a bunch of negative punches and critiques. Hey let me tell you something, the devil doesn’t need an advocate! Why would we advocate for the one who is against us? Why would you ever speak up for him sharing his opinions? The child growing up under dissension feels never good enough. The wife living in dissension feels continually defeated. You know that if you’ve lived in it. Now the question is, are you creating it in your home? Are you constantly correcting, belittling, nagging and critiquing? Is it just never good enough for you, always needing improvement. The dish washer just can’t be loaded right by anyone else. Their driving is never okay. The way they fold laundry drives you insane. And oh my gosh, why do they do what the do the way they do it? Girl, stop that! That is dissension. That’s looking for the flaw. That’s creating fault. And it’s coming from a heart that is more focused on finding faults than extending grace. If you’re searching for weaknesses and tearing down rather than building up, that’s simply NOT from the Holy Spirit. That’s the other side of the list. – Game around the table – imitate someone else – if they were to imitate you at the table, in the car, at the office, would you like what you heard and saw? – Friends – Monica’s mother – that’s dissension Being the fault finder is not our calling! 4. Division Instead of bringing people together, sometimes we thrive in dividing people and putting them against one another. We create an “us against them” script. We retell the story so more gather on your side. But opps, take a look where that is on the lists, that’s the wrong side. This isn’t what the Holy Spirit guides us to. This is what the world does. This is what our flesh desires. Some families do this against eachother. There’s mom’s side versus dad’s side, and you have to choose one. Hey let me tell you what that creates – a whole bunch of losers. No one wins in that game. You’re just divided. 5. Envy This is like jealousy, but even more so than you wanting what someone else has, you don’t want them to have it either. Envy comes from a deep insecurity and unhappiness with self. The Holy Spirit wants you to have a holy confidence in precisely who you are and where you stand with God because when you don’t you project that doubt onto others. If you can’t celebrate someone else, there’s a problem. If you are in a constant mental comparison with someone else, there’s a problem. If you’re secretly wanting someone else to fail, there’s a problem. And let me tell you, that’s such a foothold to the enemy of your soul. He’ll eat you up with envy and he’ll turn you into someone you never wanted to be. You can’t be grateful when you’re envious. You can’t be happy when you’re envious. So you’re left weak, disappointed, and sad. That’s NOT the direction of the Holy Spirit. Outbursts of anger, selfish ambition, dissension, division, envy. With each of these is an invitation to examine ourselves. Is this showing up anywhere in our lives? Where does it come from – NOT from the Holy Spirit. Where does it lead – NOT to God’s good plans for you. What can you do about it? Recognize it – take responsibility for it – ask forgiveness for it – and seek God for special strength to change it. Follow Pamela on Instagram – https://instagram.com/headmamapamela Or Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/pamela.crim Find out more about BIG Life – http://biglifehq.com

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