Freaks, Kinks and Geeks, Oh My!

We're kicking off Season 4 with a bang, with out very first episode exploring the world of bootblacking. Leather care extraordinaire Knotty Kitty as well as the delightfully disembodied voice of Rah teach us the ins and outs of bootblacking, from what it entails to its spicy existence in the kink community. Is there any crossover with foot fetishism? Is bootblacking just for submissives? How do you make shoe shining arousing? Come along as we untie the laces behind the allure and technique behind this unique practice!

Attention, fellow explorers of love and connection! Have you ever wondered how nonmonogamy has been changing in the recent years? In the public eye, or how about in how it's being practiced? Let's face it, relationships have always been more complex than society often admits, and the integration of nonmonogamy has definitely been leaving it's mark. How HAS nonmonogamy been rewriting the rules of love and commitment? Expect candid conversations, some surprising tidbits, and the comedic riff raff of your favorite bratty hosts as we navigate this fascinating journey together. Let's talk about the ever-changing landscape of relationships! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/freakskinksandgeeks/message

We need to take a hard look at the nuanced world of leadership within BDSM and non-monogamous communities, exploring the subtle indicators that signal either healthy guidance or potential toxicity. Let's talk about red flags that may indicate manipulative or abusive leadership styles, such as lack of consent awareness or boundary violations. And let's balance that with the green flags that signify compassionate and effective leadership, including communication skills, respect for autonomy, and a commitment to mutual growth and empowerment. Join us as we navigate the complexity of power dynamics and offer practical advice for discerning trustworthy leadership in alternative relationship/lifestyle communities! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/freakskinksandgeeks/message

FKG takes on the world of BDSM online! There's a lot more tantalizing terrain of online spaces to explore when it comes to kink and pleasure than you might think. From finding community to indulging in your fantasies, we'll let you know the pros and cons of this virtual approach. So grab your headphones and join the conversation - you tell us, are there more pros than cons? Are the cons worth the pros? Let us know in the comments! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/freakskinksandgeeks/message

Dive into the fascinating world of South Korea's 4B Movement and its unexpected connections across the globe. What are the 4 B's and how is this movement resonating with so many femmes worldwide? You tell us--is this something you could see for yourself? Are you already abiding by the 4 B's unintentionally? It's time for some delicious delicious discourse! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/freakskinksandgeeks/message

Loving our podcast as much as we love making it? Leaving us a review on Apple iTunes helps more people like us find our supportive and empowering space! Our mission is to make sure kinksters and non-monogers alike can find their safe space, support in their lifestyle, and meet other likeminded people. Click here to leave a review! 

CJ opens up about her journey with hugging! About a year ago, CJ started to take steps to listen to her body and respond to when she did and didn't want hugs, which in most cases looked like saying no to hugs. Which got us thinking... how many other people feel like this and just don't know what it looks like or where to start with something like this? In this episode, your two favorite brats dive into what that experience was like, how to start something like this for yourself, and what to expect along the way, this is an episode you won't want to miss!! Loving our podcast as much as we love making it? Leaving us a review on Apple iTunes helps more people like us find our supportive and empowering space! Our mission is to make sure kinksters and non-monogers alike can find their safe space, support in their lifestyle, and meet other likeminded people. Click here to leave a review! 

We HAVE to talk about these most common circumstances that leave your average non monogamous person questioning whether or not they can call themselves non monogamous anymore! Have you ever found yourself in a situation like this and thought, “man, am I even poly now?” Tune in to find out if you can still call yourself polyamorous if you're in one of THESE dynamics! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/freakskinksandgeeks/message

One of our most important episodes to date. In this powerful interview, survivor/overcomer and overall badass guest host Krystal, shares her journey of reclaiming her power through BDSM after a history of domestic violence. In Is episode, we cover how to spot domestic violence and its many different types, differentiate between BDSM and DV, and learn how to navigate entering into kink after surviving DV. We delve into important insights and discussions that are crucial to this delicate topic. Tune in for a transformative and enlightening conversation that explores healing, empowerment, and the complexities involved in identifying whether or not you find yourself having these same experiences. An episode you WON'T want to miss! https://www.peacefulpaths.org/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/freakskinksandgeeks/message

Getting ready for YOUR journey into polyamory? You're in the right place! Join us as we discuss the most common missteps people make when starting out in polyamory. Because believe it or not, the pitfalls that come up when you're new to the whole polyamorous relationship scene ARE in fact, predictable. Jealousy? Communication? Over saturation? We get into it all! So grab your headphones and get ready to learn how to thrive in the world of multiple romantic connections! Loving our podcast as much as we love making it? Leaving us a review on Apple iTunes helps more people like us find our supportive and empowering space! Our mission is to make sure kinksters and non-monogers alike can find their safe space, support in their lifestyle, and meet other likeminded people. Click here to leave a review! 

Calling all kink-curious folks! Ready to dip your toes into the world of BDSM? This video is a great place to start! In this episode, we get into the most common things to watch out for when you're just starting out. We'll share our personal experiences, lived mistakes, and a whole lot of "whoops, I didn't see that coming" moments! From newbie misunderstandings to unexpected surprises, we've got your back. So, get comfy, and let's navigate these common mistakes of BDSM together! Loving our podcast as much as we love making it? Leaving us a review on Apple iTunes helps more people like us find our supportive and empowering space! Our mission is to make sure kinksters and non-monogers alike can find their safe space, support in their lifestyle, and meet other likeminded people. Click here to leave a review! 

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To snip or not to snip, that is the question! In this episode we have guest speaker, Jeremy, on to share about his personal experience with his vasectomy. We discuss everything from why he decided to get one, what the procedure was like, how recovery went and what it was like after! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/freakskinksandgeeks/message

Get ready to cozy up and discover a whole new level of human connection in this eye-opening podcast episode! Join our host as they dive into the world of cuddle parties, where strangers come together to experience the power of platonic touch. You'll be amazed at the unique experiences and profound connections that can be formed in these safe and consensual spaces. Hear firsthand stories from two participants who have found comfort, healing, and a sense of belonging through cuddle parties. Whether you're curious about the benefits of touch or simply seeking a heartwarming journey, this episode will leave you craving more cuddles and a deeper understanding of human intimacy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/freakskinksandgeeks/message

The brats tackle a topic much too layered and nuanced to cover in under an hour! Raevyn gives us powerful insight on her experience of being trans in the kink and ENM lifestyles. We cover details of her personal journey, shedding light on the intersections of identity, sexuality, and self-discovery. Prepare to be completely charmed and captivated by Raevyn's authentic storytelling, vulnerability, and amazing props as her story unwittingly speaks to embracing your own truth. Loving our podcast as much as we love making it? Leaving us a review on Apple iTunes helps more people like us find our supportive and empowering space! Our mission is to make sure kinksters and non-monogers alike can find their safe space, support in their lifestyle, and meet other likeminded people. Click here to leave a review!

Loving our podcast as much as we love making it? Leaving us a review on Apple iTunes helps more people like us find our supportive and empowering space! Our mission is to make sure kinksters and non-monogers alike can find their safe space, support in their lifestyle, and meet other likeminded people. Click here to leave a review! 

Your two favorite bratty host join up with an awesome guest, Daniel, to explore all things feet! Did you know that a foot fetish is one of the most common fetishes?? Ya! We didn't know that either! This is a super interesting podcast on what is a very misunderstood topic. Listen and learn with us! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/freakskinksandgeeks/message

This week we welcome our guest “Amazon” as they share their experiences with lifestyle clubs! We discuss what types of club are out there, what you should expect, what you should not expect, how to act right at a club and more! If you have ever wondered what a lifestyle club is like then this episode is for you!! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/freakskinksandgeeks/message

You may have heard the term floating around social media, and if you're like us you have no idea what it could mean! We did the research so you didn't have to! In this episode we dove into what exactly is a beige flag, what are OUR beige flags, and when does it become cause for concern? This lively episode is full of laughs, you're not gonna wanna miss this! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/freakskinksandgeeks/message

Breakup's are never fun and they are something that many don't want to have to deal with but unfortunately through the course of your life you likely will have many romantic and platonic break ups. We discuss the best way to handle break ups so they can be as calm and as drama free as possible! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/freakskinksandgeeks/message

Welcome to "The Liquid Playground", a candid exploration of the wetter side of kink. In this immersive episode, our hosts navigate the diverse, sometimes surprising world of wet-play kink, delving into the safe, consensual practices involving water, oil, food, and more. Listen in as we uncover this lesser-known facet of kink, challenging taboos while promoting healthy, informed exploration. This episode is a dive into a world that proves to be an exciting mix of sensory experiences - definitely more than just getting your feet wet. Whether you're a curious newbie or a seasoned kinkster, this podcast promises to be both illuminating and exciting. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/freakskinksandgeeks/message

In this episode, we delve into the world of Total Power Exchange (TPE) within the realm of BDSM. TPE is an intense power dynamic where one partner willingly surrenders complete control to the other. We explore the fascinating nuances of this dynamic and discuss the pros and cons associated with it. Throughout the episode, we highlight the pros of TPE, such as the profound trust and intimacy it fosters, as partners navigate deeply vulnerable spaces. The relinquishment of control can provide a sense of liberation and personal growth, allowing individuals to explore their desires and push boundaries. Additionally, TPE can enhance communication skills and establish clear boundaries within the relationship. However, we also acknowledge the potential cons. TPE requires immense trust and responsibility from the dominant partner, and the potential for abuse or manipulation exists if boundaries and consent are not upheld. We discuss the importance of ongoing communication, negotiation, and consent within TPE dynamics to ensure the well-being and safety of all involved. Tune in to this insightful podcast episode as we explore the complex and intriguing world of Total Power Exchange, shedding light on its benefits and potential pitfalls within the realm of BDSM. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/freakskinksandgeeks/message

In this lively and humorous podcast episode, we delve into the realm of non-monogamy and unravel the complexities hidden beneath the "Non-Monogamy Umbrella" meme. With a mix of laughter and thoughtful discussion, we explore the various relationship dynamics encompassed by non-monogamy and share our opinions on what we agree with and what raises an eyebrow. We examine the meme's depiction of polyamory, open relationships, swinging, relationship anarchy, and more. We find ourselves nodding in agreement as the meme acknowledges many forms of non-monogamy we know and love...However, we also find ourselves scratching our heads at certain aspects of the meme. In this episode, we bring levity and enthusiasm to a topic that is often misunderstood. Join us as we navigate the non-monogamy umbrella with a sense of humor, an open mind, and a genuine desire to explore the ever-expanding landscape of love and connection. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/freakskinksandgeeks/message

Bringing back an FKG favorite, responding to the burning questions people have about navigating nonmonogamy and bdsm! After scouring Reddit and Facebook far and wide, we present to you a collection of situations that you could very well find yourself in! Get the FKG approved solution to your questions! And remember: whatever you're experiencing in these lifestyles, someone has lived it! Do any of these sound like you? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/freakskinksandgeeks/message

Here we go again with another episode courtesy of the current attack on human rights. In response to the recent dehumanizing bills being passed, we're here to drop some statistical truth bombs and a resource page which we are desperately trying to expand. If you have more resources that we can add to our resource page, please let us know so we can add them ASAP! https://www.freakskinksandgeeks.com/lgbt-resources --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/freakskinksandgeeks/message

Studies have shown that children in polyamorous families tend to be more mature, self-confident, and better equipped to relate to people from diverse backgrounds and experiences. This is just one of the statistics we pull when looking at nonmonogamous family systems. We relate what being radically and responsibly honest with your children can look like, and how it's actually more in service to their own personal growth than you may think! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/freakskinksandgeeks/message

We see so many people looking to get connected to local kink/polyamorous communities, but did you ever think about what it's like to finally be IN those groups? This episode, we look back on our experiences over the years in different groups and the community as a whole. Listen till the end to hear our advice being in these groups and which expectations to manage! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/freakskinksandgeeks/message

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Sex toy party gone wrong! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/freakskinksandgeeks/message

So you think you know all there is to know about consent, huh??Well you may be surprised to find out just how deep this rabbit hole goes! We talk about areas of "sneaky consent" (times when you think you don't need consent but actually do) and how you can make sure the people in your life KNOW you're keeping their boundaries in mind. Who doesn't want to be someone who has evolved to be aware of all forms of consent?? Loving our podcast as much as we love making it? Leaving us a review on Apple iTunes helps more people like us find our supportive and empowering space! Our mission is to make sure kinksters and non-monogers alike can find their safe space, support in their lifestyle, and meet other likeminded people. Click here to leave a review!

To nude or not to nude THAT is the question! In todays episode we are discussing all things nude photos! Do we send them? How do we take them? Why do people take them? How do you safely send them? Do you need consent? So many questions wrapped into one very revealing (see what I did there) episode! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/freakskinksandgeeks/message

I know we could all go around and talk about red flags for DAYS! But what about some green flags that keep us coming back for more? In this episode, we cover what to look for when you're getting to know someone and thinking of starting a relationship! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/freakskinksandgeeks/message

Your two favorite bratty hosts get in their feels today… sensual feels that is! This episode has it all, from defining what sensualism is, how you can get into it, sensual word association, and CJ making April close her eyes and guess what sensation she's feeling! You don't want to miss this one, might actually be one of our funniest episodes yet! But we'll let you… feel it out ;) --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/freakskinksandgeeks/message

Are you in a relationship with someone who is experiencing NRE with a new partner? Are you yourself in some deep NRE and wanting some tips on how to balance out and stay connected to your existing relationships? And is there anything you should look out for once the NRE is done? Let's talk about what you can do if you find yourself in any of these situations--because let's face it, this could make or break your existing relationships. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/freakskinksandgeeks/message

Your favorite kuh-nuckleheads are back with a TON of kuh-nowledge on kuh-nife play!! Get ready to be slapping your kuh-neecaps at our VERY original and fun pronunciation jokes, while learning what knife play is, what people enjoy about it, how to prepare to safely explore adding knife play to your scenes! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/freakskinksandgeeks/message

100% of our members polled agree that this stage is UNAVOIDABLE! You already know that relationships are work, but what does that work look like when one or more of you are already completely spent? We'll take you through what relationship burnout is, signs to look out for, how to make what the Gottman's call bids for connection, and survive the patches of burnout you're bound to experience. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/freakskinksandgeeks/message

CJ opens up about how hard it's been to find her identity in kink and the duo dives into how an outfit change might make a huge difference! In this episode, FKG explores what fetish fashion is, the history, the presence in media, and how we can use fetish clothing to step into our own kink identity! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/freakskinksandgeeks/message

We all have different boundaries when it comes to what age difference we're willing to date, but have you ever stopped to think about how age differences can make or break relationships? Or worse, at what point a significant age difference becomes... grooming? We break down the main issues in age gapped relationships, what grooming is, how to know if you're being groomed or if you're actually the one doing the grooming, and how to make sure you're being ethical about your relationship when there is an age gap! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/freakskinksandgeeks/message

You may not realize how much of an impact being nonmonogamous can have on your legal rights. People have been fired from work for being polyamorous, are prevented from joining health insurance policies, have little access to effective therapy, have no protection for assets acquired while in polyamorous relationships, have no say in what happens if one of your partners passes away, and have extreme difficulty being seen as legal guardians for children. In this episode we talk about what sort of legal protection is available, how some areas have changed their laws regarding alternative family structures, and how you can make sure you're protected in the ways that matter to you! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/freakskinksandgeeks/message

The battle royale of all controversy has to be about the meanings of top/bottom and whether or not those are the same as dom/sub(s)! (Okay it's at least a title match) We compare the definitions and look at some controversial opinions (as usual!) on the topic. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/freakskinksandgeeks/message

As the two resident brats of this podcast, we thought it was finally time to get into brats and brat taming! Is it age play? Is it different from being a submissive? We're poking every aspect of the topic until we get what we want... for brats to be understood! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/freakskinksandgeeks/message

Have you ever thought about what your brand is when dating, or did we already lose you? Your brand is who you are in a relationship, what your goals are, and what you're looking for! So let's get into it! Check out our Relationship Branding worksheet to develop (or refine) your personal brand! "When you're done asking yourself these questions, you should feel a sense of comfort. There's an overwhelming relief in having an authentic personal brand. Unlike clothes that hang ignored in the closet, the authentic brand is like the classic outfit you can't wait to grab again and again because it aligns perfectly with who you are, how you feel, and where you'd like to go next." (Ryan Erskine, entreprenuer.com, 2016) Click here to download our Relationship Branding Worksheet! https://www.freakskinksandgeeks.com/forms --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/freakskinksandgeeks/message

Here's an episode you should accidentally have playing in the background when your closest hot friends come over ;) KIDDING! Learn how to ACTUALLY approach a sexy situation that 1 in 7 Americans have experienced! In this episode, you'll learn the different types of group sex, how to be safe, how to orchestrate, and how to come prepared (pun intended!). --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/freakskinksandgeeks/message

Even if you've done all the work, the reading, the therapy, and have expanded your understanding of love to include loving more than one, that doesn't mean you won't struggle with learned codependent behaviors, or partners. So let's talk about codependency in a nonmonogamous context--what does that look like when it's more than just one person needing another, and that person needing to be needed in return? How can we navigate finding out that we ourselves may be codependent when maintaining more than one loving relationship? And where can we begin when it comes to healing from a codependent history? This episode is the perfect place to start. And remember, you're not alone! Expect a vulnerable and emotionally charged look at what codependency is and even how our hosts have experienced it (and been guilty of it) through their lives. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/freakskinksandgeeks/message

In this episode we discuss all things consensual non consent "CNC". This is a very controversial kink and we discuss the controversy, why its more common of a kink than you'd think and how to do it ethically and safely. Loving our podcast as much as we love making it? PLEASE go leave a review for us on Apple

Your favorite poly, kinky podcasters finally take on compersion! We talk about what it is, if it's exclusive to polyamory/romantic relationships, upsides and downsides, and what's been our experiences! We also answer a very important question... Does compersion have a verb form?? --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/freakskinksandgeeks/message

Write Up: Are YOU down with OPP? OPP stands for One Penis Policy and is a common iteration of nonmonogamy typically between a straight man in a relationship with a pansexual or bisexual woman where the woman is only allowed to see other woman.. which may sound simple enough, but let's dive into what that means, ask some hard questions, and discuss some points you may not have considered! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/freakskinksandgeeks/message

Okay let's talk about the REAL epidemic infecting us all--NARCISSISTS! The sad truth is that most of us either know a narcissist or have had to endure being around them. But did you know that Narcissistic Personality Disorder is actually a mental health condition? It's one of the least diagnosed disorders due to a narcissists inability to identify that there's anything wrong with them--which is what makes it the most toxic personality type for anyone to be forced to exist around. You'd be surprised how many different types of narcissists there are! So let's talk about how to identify a narcissist and how to exist around them when you can't separate from them. Loving our podcast as much as we love making it? PLEASE go leave a review for us on Apple

What does a Pro Dom do? Is it all about sex? Is it all about whips, chains and collars? How do you find and vet a Pro Dom? Why would you want to hire a Pro Dom? We deep dive into all of those questions and more with our Pro Dom guest Dollar! This is a unique opportunity to peak behind the curtain and see what its actually like to be a Pro Dom. Loving our podcast as much as we love making it? PLEASE go leave a review for us on Apple

In light of the devastating news of the overturning of Roe v Wade, we at FKG want to make it abundantly clear that we SUPPORT WOMEN'S BODILY AUTONOMY and will use this platform to share any and all resources we can find to make sure that those who find themselves needing abortions can be seen, supported, and know their options. Please share our resource page everywhere you can. www.freakskinksgeeks.com/abortionresources Loving our podcast as much as we love making it? PLEASE go leave a review for us on Apple

In the words of Rhianna "chains and whips excite me", and its the chains that we will be discussing! In this episode we discuss bondage basics. We cover the types of bondage including a couple of types that are much less known (you gotta listen to find out what they are :), bondage safety basics, what the risk are and we even discuss how you can heighten your experience with bondage. Loving our podcast as much as we love making it? PLEASE go leave a review for us on Apple