Podcasts about compersion

Some of my favorite conversations on this podcast are the ones where we stop trying to make non-monogamy look perfect and just talk about what it's actually like.This is absolutely one of those episodes.For this Rewind, I'm bringing back my conversation with sex educator Dirty Lola, and ohhhh, there is so much good stuff in this one.Lola takes us through her journey from experimenting with non-monogamy before she even had language for it, to marriage and monogamy, swinging, polyamory, divorce, and eventually building relationships that feel much more aligned with who she actually is.And we talk about the messy parts.Jealousy. Resentment. Agreements that don't work. Agreements people say yes to and then don't actually follow. Feeling unheard. Learning how to ask for what you need. Figuring out what information you actually want about your partner's other relationships.And, of course, compersion.One of my favorite parts of this conversation is how honest we both are about the idea that compersion is supposed to be this magical gold standard of successful polyamory.Sometimes Lola feels it.Sometimes I feel it.And sometimes neutral is fucking fantastic.Because healthy non-monogamy isn't about never feeling jealous or being delighted every time your partner falls in love with someone new. It's about knowing yourself well enough to recognize what's happening, communicate about it, create boundaries that actually support you, and take responsibility for what you do with your feelings.We also get into something I wish more people understood about agreements: don't say yes to something you don't actually agree to.A reluctant yes followed by broken agreements isn't healthier than having the uncomfortable conversation in the first place.Say no. Keep talking. Get curious about what each of you actually needs. Find the version that works for everyone involved.That's collaboration.In this episode, we talk about:Lola's journey from monogamy to swinging and polyamoryDiscovering non-monogamy before having language for itWhat happens when one partner identifies as polyamorous and the other doesn'tJealousy as information instead of something to eliminateRecognizing the unmet needs underneath jealousyRules, boundaries, agreements, and what happens when they're brokenWhy saying yes when you really mean no creates resentmentLearning how to disagree and collaborate instead of fightHow being heard can completely change conflictBreaking old relationship patterns in healthier relationshipsCompersion, jealousy, and why neutrality is a perfectly wonderful place to beKnowing how much you actually want to hear about your partner's other relationshipsWhy it's okay to want some moments to feel like they're just yoursThe very human reality of polyamoryWhy not every form of non-monogamy is polyamoryLola's simple, free practice for getting out of your own head before a difficult conversationThere is so much laughter in this conversation, but there's also a ton of wisdom about what it really takes to build relationships where you can be honest, messy, imperfect, and still deeply loving.If you're navigating jealousy, trying to figure out your boundaries, opening a relationship, or wondering why you don't feel that mythical nonstop compersion everyone keeps talking about, this episode is absolutely worth another listen.Because you don't have to be perfectly polyamorous.You just have to be willing to know yourself, tell the truth, communicate, and keep learning.Enjoy this Rewind with Dirty Lola.Send us Fan MailSupport the show

Compersion – feeling joy for another person's joy – is a beautiful thing, especially when it comes to non-monogamy. But, like anything that's bright and shiny, there's a shadow side to compersion, and we've seen it become a stumbling block in non-monogamous relationships time and time again.When we elevate compersion as a virtue in polyamory, we accidentally create some real problems. Surprisingly, the shadow of compersion isn't about jealousy at all—it's about the pressure, the performance, and the unintended consequences of treating compersion like a moral requirement. If compersion is virtuous, does that mean the absence of compersion is a moral failing? Most of us would say no, but conversations within our communities often tell a different story; people who experience compersion are elevated, celebrated, and held up as examples of "doing non-monogamy right," while those who don't feel compersion end up feeling like they're failing at non-monogamy.In this episode, we talk about:— Why compersion and jealousy are not mutually exclusive (you can feel both at the same time!)— The dangerous elevation of compersion as a virtue and what that does to people who don't experience it easily— How the pressure to feel compersion can lead to performative emotions and enmeshment— The difference between big, electric compersion and the subtle, quiet bubbles of compersion that are easy to miss— Why your partner doesn't owe you compersion, and why demanding it creates unhealthy dynamics— The importance of neutrality and consent as valid emotional states (not everything has to feel good to be okay)— How focusing too much on compersion can cause us to neglect other important emotions like grief, envy, and jealousy— The archetypal nature of emotions and why we need to tend to all of them, not just the "positive" ones— Why jealousy isn't something we can or should transmute into compersion— Practical ways to interrupt harmful cultural conversations that demonize jealousy or pressure people to feel compersion— How to cultivate the attitude of compersion without requiring yourself to feel the emotionResources mentioned in this episode:— Episode 157 What is Compersion? with Dr. Marie ThouinJOIN The Year Of Opening® community for a full year of learning & supportLearn the 5 secrets to open your relationship the smart wayAre you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.comGet the answers you want to create the open relationship of your dreams! Sign up for Playing With Fire Community Call hereMusic: Dance of Felt by ⁠Blue Dot Sessions

Dear Listener, is polyamory just cheating with extra steps? If you've ever wondered what actually distinguishes ethical non-monogamy from infidelity—or if you're thinking about opening your relationship and want to do it right—this episode is for you.Maybe you're curious about ENM but nervous about what it could do to your relationship. Maybe you're already practicing ethical non-monogamy and navigating a shift—adding a new partner, one of you wanting to close back up, or renegotiating agreements that no longer fit. Whether you're just getting started or deep in the complexity of polyamory, we've got you covered.This is the final episode in our Managing Thirds series. "Thirds" are people, things, or activities outside your couple bubble that can threaten—or enrich—your relationship's safety and security. And when it comes to ENM, there are a lot of thirds to manage—which is why doing this well requires intention.We're joined by Relationship Center therapist Nicole Penrod, AMFT, who specializes in supporting couples through transitions like this one. Nicole breaks down what actually distinguishes ENM from cheating, and explains why opening a relationship—or changing how you're open—will intensify whatever already exists between you, for better and for worse.We walk through what ENM relationships need to function well: knowing your strengths and weaknesses as a couple, getting clear on your why, building tools to navigate surprises as they arise, and managing big feelings like jealousy. Nicole introduces practical frameworks, including how to create a "container for experimentation" and the RADAR check-in—a structured conversation for staying connected through change. We even do a mini roleplay so you can hear what it sounds like in action.If you want to explore or evolve your ENM relationship in a way that strengthens rather than strains your connection, this episode was made just for you.Key Takeaways00:00 Intro01:36 Managing Thirds Meets ENM11:25 Agreements and Check In Tools24:16 RADAR Check-In Framework28:55 Mini RADAR Roleplay40:45 Updating agreements as you goResources and linksPolywise: A Deeper Dive into Navigating Open Relationships by Jessica Fern and DavidMultiamory podcastEp. 20 - Understanding Jealousy, Compersion & Attachment in RelationshipsEp. 35 - NVC for Couples: What Nonviolent Communication Is and How to Use ItHave a question or comment? Email us at podcast@relationshipcenter.com. We love hearing from you!If you'd like to work with one of the talented clinicians on our team, go to relationshipcenter.com/apply-now to apply for a free 30-minute consultation.To get a monthly email with our best content, go to relationshipcenter.com/newsletter.If something in this episode touched you, will you share it with a friend? That helps us reach more sweet humans like you.Lastly, we'd love it if you would leave us a rating and review wherever you listen to podcasts. And be sure to hit subscribe while you're there so you never miss an episode!

Non-monogamy is one of the topics I get asked about more than almost anything else, so in this episode I sit down with Susan Bratton and Karl Eberhardt to dig into what open relationships, polyamory, and relationship anarchy actually look like day to day — not the theory, the lived experience. We talk about how to know you're ready to open a relationship, the STI screening protocol that makes it work, how jealousy and compersion actually show up, and the moment a 35-year marriage nearly ended over what gets called "husband thievery." We also get into how an adult daughter found out her parents were non-monogamous in one short conversation, and how a "summer boy toy" earned a promotion to full-time boyfriend. Whether you're curious, skeptical, or already living this life, this conversation is going to challenge some assumptions.Mentioned in this episode: Testing before getting physical is non-negotiable for me — ProDx Health makes it easy. First PASS-certified at-home STI kit, herpes testing included. 15% off: http://prodxhealth.com/discount/tabooIn This Episode:0:00 – Redefining Relationships in Midlife0:28 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth0:52 – Meet Susan Bratton & Karl Eberhardt2:25 – Defining Non-Monogamy vs. Cheating: The Relationship Tree7:29 – How Susan Knew She Was Ready to Open Her Marriage8:25 – How Karl and Susan Met (The Pool Story)12:02 – Why Karl Is "Well-Suited" for Polyamory14:34 – The Non-Negotiable: STI Testing & Screening In15:39 – "Polyamory Means Love Many": Susan's Two Love Relationships17:27 – Karl's San Diego Girlfriend & Traveling as a Throuple19:59 – What Is a "Bambi"? A Different Kind of Intimacy21:26 – Susan's Young Lover & the Jealousy That Followed23:57 – Karl's Turn: Facing Jealousy Over an Old Flame26:29 – Compersion, Husband Thievery & Almost Losing Tim29:44 – Telling Their Daughter Taylor31:11 – From "Summer Boy Toy" to Full-Time Boyfriend34:05 – OutroTo watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube!About The Guest:Susan is a champion and advocate for all those who desire ageless intimacy.She is a best-selling author and publisher of 44 books and programs including S*xual Soulmates, Relationship Magic, Revive Her Drive, Ravish Him and many more. She's the official company spokesperson for GAINSWave® and The Dr. Joel Kaplan Company. She serves as Chief Advocacy Officer of ProDxHealth.org STI testing.Susan has been a featured guest on over 1,000 podcasts and TV shows, including Diary of a CEO, You Are Not Broken, S*x with Emily, The Human Upgrade with Dave Asprey, Good Moms Bad Choices, Heal Thyself, IDIOT with Laura Clery, The Infamous “Clit Camp” Music Video, LuvBites with Dr. Tara, and The Chalene Show.Her books and interviews have helped millions take control of their s*xual joy.Her message resonates across gender and age because it's rooted in agency, body literacy, and connection.Connect with Susan Bratton:Website: https://susanbratton.comMentioned in this episode: https://tenintimacy.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/susanbrattonKarl Eberhardt is a nationally recognized New Car Owner Trainer on correct care of modern car paint finishes. Karl has a life long passion for design and is the brewer of beer//Cicerone CBS, and custom jewelry. He has built surfboards for 25+ years.Connect with Karl Ebhardt:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karleberhardt_/About The Host:Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

We're excited to share a discussion between Dedeker and Marie Thouin about compersion from a Buddhist perspective. Marie Thouin is a lifelong student of love & life, as well as a PhD candidate in East-West Psychology at the California Institute of Integral Studies. Her dissertation research focuses on the experience of compersion in consensually nonmonogamous relationships. She is also a Dating Coach and Founder of Love InSight, where she helps people of all ages, genders, sexual orientations and relationship styles navigate the path to loving and healthy relationships. Marie is passionate about celebrating love in all its shapes and forms!Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community.Get 10% off sexual health supplements at vb.health with promo code MULTI.Whatever you want to learn, MasterClass has something for you, taught by experts in their fields. Support the show and get an exclusive 15% offer at multiamory.link/masterclass.Skillshare is an online learning community with thousands of classes for creators. Everything from graphic design and video editing to photography, writing, and business. Get a free month of Skilllshare at multiamory.link/skillshare.Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you ever feel like everyone else in polyamory got the compersion memo except you?Like you're supposed to be thrilled when your partner is excited about someone else... and if you're not, maybe you're doing non-monogamy wrong?In this episode of Nope! We're Not Monogamous, we're talking about compersion, what it actually is, what it isn't, and why forcing yourself to feel it often creates more harm than healing.Because here's the truth: You don't have to be ecstatic. You don't have to pretend you're okay when you're not. And neutrality is a huge win.Inside this episode, we explore:→ why compersion isn't mandatory→ the pressure to be the "cool" polyamorous person→ how comparison and scarcity keep us stuck→ the social fairy tale training that taught us love equals exclusivity→ why your partner's joy doesn't erase your value→ how emotional safety creates space for genuine compersion→ why forcing compersion is often self-abandonment wearing glitter [laugh]Because real compersion doesn't grow from pressure. It grows from trust. From self-worth. From emotional security. From knowing that somebody else's happiness doesn't automatically threaten your place in their life.If you've ever wondered why compersion feels hard, or felt like you were failing because you weren't happy enough for your partner, this episode is for you.

This week, Henno and Bryan discuss work, wellness, funding for mental health, communication, and compersion. Hope you enjoy it!   Helpful links: Suicide Prevention Lifeline dial 988 or 1-800-273-8255 https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ https://www.crisistextline.org/ Text HOME to 741741 for help https://www.nami.org/NAMI/media/NAMI-Media/Helpline/NAMI-National-HelpLine-WarmLine-Directory.pdf Call 211 for help or go to 211.org https://coda.org/ https://www.gamblersanonymous.org/ga/ translifeline.org Trans Lifeline 1-877-565-8860   Ways to contact the show: Website: Thecrazylifepodcast.weebly.com E-mail: thecrazylifepodcast@outlook.com Twitter/X: @thecrazylifepod Bryan's Twitter: @stewnami or @salty_language Bryan on Bluesky: @stewnami Henno's Twitter: @idahenno Henno on Bluesky: @idahenno Henno's Fb/Instagram Henno Heitur Bryan's Other Podcast: saltylanguage.com Bryan's Blog: https://stewnami.wordpress.com/ Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/crazylifepodcast/ iHeart Radio: http://www.iheart.com/show/263-The-Crazy-Life/ Google Play: http://thecrazylife.libsyn.com/gpm Blubrry: https://www.blubrry.com/the_crazy_life/ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2irC3XxOJMEuzKtWliHiBM Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-crazy-life/id1008617039 Stitcher: http://goo.gl/BDeUCZ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrj15dasmUUfzZz3Oeu_9uA TuneIn:  https://tunein.com/podcasts/Mental/The-Crazy-Life-p1149126/   Intro Music is "Life Sux" by Henno

n this episode of Openlove101, John and Jackie Melfi reflect on a recent visit to a swingers club after returning from an extended vacation. What stood out to them most wasn't sexuality—it was the atmosphere. As they sat observing the room filled with couples socializing, laughing, and floating naturally between conversations, Jackie noticed something striking: there was an overwhelming absence of jealousy, possessiveness, or tension. The environment felt completely different from a traditional nightclub scene. Rather than rigid couple dynamics or territorial behavior, the club carried an energy of openness, relaxation, and emotional safety. Couples mingled freely, conversations flowed naturally, and nobody seemed consumed by suspicion or insecurity.   Jackie explains that many people avoid swingers clubs because they imagine them as highly sexualized, intimidating spaces full of pressure and expectations. But once inside, the reality is often far different. Most conversations revolve around ordinary life topics—travel, work, kids, relationships, hobbies, and everyday experiences. The lifestyle environment, they explain, is built much more around connection and communication than most outsiders realize. One of the central themes of the episode is compersion—the feeling of happiness when seeing your partner happy. John and Jackie discuss how this emotional mindset changes the energy inside consensual non-monogamous spaces. Instead of competition or ownership, many couples experience genuine support, trust, and emotional freedom. They also acknowledge that this comfort level doesn't happen overnight. New couples often arrive with anxiety, jealousy, and fear: "What does that guy want with my wife?" "Why is that woman touching my husband?" Those reactions are normal. But through repeated positive experiences, open communication, and exposure to respectful environments, many couples gradually begin to relax and feel secure. The episode also highlights how many long-term couples in the lifestyle develop deep empathy and emotional maturity—not just toward their own partner, but toward others around them. The atmosphere becomes less about sex itself and more about human connection, openness, and shared growth.

This is a replay to get the video version of the episode onto podcast apps that previously only had the audio version. Season 6, Episode 746: From Threesomes to Non-Monogamy: One Man's Journey Beyond Jealousy and Shame with author Adam Darrow about his edgy, honest, and raw memoir "Seek the Risk" (affiliate link) https://amzn.to/3KrboVR This was an enlightening conversation and one many should listen to. Expanding our boundaries may seem difficult, and it doesn't pan out for everyone, but either way, valuble lessons are learned about oneself, one's limitations become clearer when faced with new challenges, and what we are willing to do for love becomes obvious. A question to ask yourself, well, more than one, what cultural shame is holding you back? Why should we allow culture to decide what is acceptable and what isn't? Would you ever stare normalcy in the face and give it the finger and do what you want? Even if it cost you relationships? Can you withstand the heat of a cultural assault from a judgmental mob of societal norm enforcers? (even if they are your friends and family?) Or would you just stand up tall, point your chin up, and say FU and just do it? When Adam Darrow met Jane at forty, he thought he was the adventurous one. After all, he'd spent his twenties competing in extreme sports and had explored threesomes—that made him pretty edgy, right? Then Jane, a PhD psychologist who spoke five languages, told him she didn't do boyfriends (and she meant it). Drawing from his background in extreme sports, Darrow spent two and a half years transitioning into non-monogamy, followed by three challenging years of emotional work before finding equilibrium. The journey wasn't easy. He didn't think he could do it. When his partner Jane publicly announced their arrangement on Facebook in 2009, Darrow watched his life wildly transform. His best friend called him derogatory names. But over time, he discovered something unexpected: jealousy could be channeled into motivation to become a better partner. What initially felt emasculating became an opportunity to overcome deep-seated insecurities like imposter syndrome and validation-seeking. His memoir chronicles this transformative experience through vulnerable storytelling that includes explicit extreme sexual details and uncomfortable emotional truths, as well as healing and growth. How did keeping emotions bottled up nearly break him? The book explores that question while advocating for moving beyond societal shame around sexuality, relationship conformity, and focusing on personal authenticity rather than rigid beliefs about relationships. Estimated Timeline:  Adam Darrow's Journey Into Non-Monogamy 00:03:40 - PhD Psychologist with Unconventional Past 00:06:43 - Extreme Sports Skills Applied to Non-Monogamy 00:09:13 - Separating Sex from Emotion in Relationships 00:19:57 - Managing Jealousy Through Don't Ask, Don't Tell 00:22:26 - From Jealousy to Compersion in Open Relationships 00:25:11 - Breaking Through Shame and Choosing Each Other 00:28:42 - Walking the Beach: Questioning My Limits, book excerpt 00:33:17 - Understanding Nesting Couples and Non-Monogamy 00:39:43 - Letting Go of Control in Relationships 00:46:22 - Vulnerability and Authenticity in Memoir Writing 00:51:51 - Writing the Book and Her Reaction 00:58:17 - Identity Beyond Sexual Acts, sexuality 01:06:44 - Overcoming Jealousy Through Personal Growth 01:11:27 - Healthy vs Unhealthy Jealousy in Relationships Connect with Adam Darrow:  Link to the books website  www.seektherisk.net Substack seektherisk.substack.com Email for folks to contact Adam at adam@seektherisk.net insta:   @seektherisk Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow  

Dear Listener, have you ever felt like you're competing with your partner's job, phone, friends, or hobbies for their attention? Or maybe you've been on the other side—accused of not prioritizing your partner when you didn't even realize you were doing it? Whether you're in a long-term relationship or just starting to date someone new, this episode is for you. (Singles: stick around until the end for dating-specific tips on managing thirds from day one.)In this episode, we dive into one of the most common causes of relationship problems: mismanaged thirds. "Thirds" is a concept from Stan Tatkin that refers to anything outside the couple—people, things, or activities—that can leave one or both partners feeling neglected or sidelined. When thirds aren't managed well, the couple bubble gets compromised, and the relationship suffers.We explore why thirds threaten your sense of safety and security, the signs of relationship trouble to watch for (hint: it's not always about the thing you're fighting about), and how to protect your relationship by setting boundaries that actually work. Spoiler: the answer isn't "stop doing the thing" or "stop caring"—it's something more nuanced that leaves neither partner feeling like they've lost.This is the first episode in a four-part series on managing thirds—stay tuned for deep dives on healing from betrayal, navigating in-laws, and ethical non-monogamy.Key Takeaways00:00 Intro 01:53 What are "thirds"—and why do they threaten your relationship? 21:09 How do you protect your relationship from mismanaged thirds? 31:26 Managing thirds in early datingResources and linksYour Brain on Love by Stan Tatkin (audiobook)The Ten Commandments for a Secure-Functioning Relationship by Stan Tatkin (blog post)Ep. 20 - Understanding Jealousy, Compersion & Attachment in Relationships (podcast episode)Have a question or comment? Email us at podcast@relationshipcenter.com. We love hearing from you!If you'd like to work with one of the talented clinicians on our team, go to relationshipcenter.com/apply-now to apply for a free 30-minute consultation.To get a monthly email with our best content, go to relationshipcenter.com/newsletter.If something in this episode touched you, will you share it with a friend? That helps us reach more sweet humans like you.Lastly, we'd love it if you would leave us a rating and review wherever you listen to podcasts. And be sure to hit subscribe while you're there so you never miss an episode!

In this episode of Openlove101, John and Jackie Melfi pull back the curtain on how their open relationship actually works—beyond the surface-level curiosity most people have. This conversation goes deeper than rules or logistics; it's about the emotional foundation, communication, and mindset that allow their relationship to thrive. They begin by sharing that their relationship didn't start open by design—but evolved into it. Long-distance dating forced them into deep conversations early on, creating a level of communication many couples don't reach until much later. That foundation became the backbone of everything that followed. Jackie opens up about coming from a traditionally monogamous background, while John had years of experience in the lifestyle. Instead of clashing, their differences created balance—allowing them to build something intentional, rather than defaulting to societal norms. What stands out most is their commitment to radical honesty. They didn't just allow outside experiences—they talked about them, shared them, and used them to strengthen their bond. Rather than creating distance, this level of openness brought them closer.   As their relationship deepened, they faced what most couples fear—jealousy, insecurity, and emotional attachment. Instead of avoiding those feelings, they leaned into them. Through communication, check-ins, and boundaries rooted in care (not control), they learned how to navigate those emotions together. One of the most powerful concepts they introduce is compersion—the ability to feel genuine happiness for your partner's joy, even when it involves someone else. Rather than competition, their relationship is built on celebration and support. They also challenge one of the biggest fears people have: "What if my partner falls in love with someone else?" John and Jackie explain that love isn't a limited resource. It's possible to love multiple people without diminishing the primary relationship—when trust and communication are strong.

In this live episode of Sex With Emily, I dive into your real-time questions about sex, dating, desire, and connection… breaking down what might actually be blocking you from the intimacy and pleasure you want. From why it can feel harder to approach people or build attraction, to how stress, overthinking, and disconnection from your body and partner impact desire, I unpack the hidden patterns shaping your sex life. We explore everything from casual sex after breakups to how couples can reignite the spark, approach intimacy more intentionally, and create more ease, confidence, and fun in both sex and modern dating.  ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to the LIVE 01:16 How to Call/Text Your Questions 01:49 Valentine's Day & 21 Years of Podcasting 02:36 Why Couples Love Listening Together 04:33 Desire vs. Arousal Explained 05:21 Can You Coregasm at the Gym?  06:59 Blood Flow & Body Responses 07:53 Is This Normal?   09:02 What Some Women Enjoy Watching  10:54 Vulnerability in Men & Relationships 12:38 What is Compersion? 14:10 How to Approach Someone at the Gym 18:45 How to Bring Back the Spark in Relationships 21:25 Yes/No/Maybe List (Game-Changer Tool) 23:48 Real-Life Love Stories (Gym & Neighbors) 24:16 Keep Dating Your Partner 27:09 Slow Cooker vs. Frying Pan 28:52 Final Thoughts & Where to Find More Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the thing you thought made you “too much”… was actually the doorway to deeper connection, more honest relationships, and a whole lot more pleasure?In this episode of Nope! We're Not Monogamous, I'm joined by writer and poet Kate Heskett, whose story appears in the new anthology Pillow Talk, a collection of real, raw, awkward, and hilarious experiences of sex, intimacy, and desire.Kate shares what it was like to show up alone to their very first swingers hotel takeover, the anxiety, the curiosity, and the unexpected validation of finding people who see the world the way they do.We talk about what happens when monogamy never quite made sense, the messy transition into non-monogamy, and what it actually looks like to build “love-first” relationships without rigid rules.In This Episode, We Cover:→ What a swingers hotel takeover is really like (beyond the fantasy)→ The anxiety and courage of showing up alone to your first lifestyle event→ Kate's story “Pineapples in the Snow” and what it represents → Growing up feeling “wrong” and trying to fit into monogamy → The transition from monogamy to non-monogamy (and why it can be messy)→ What “love-first” non-monogamy looks like in real life→ Navigating triad dynamics, distance, and communication → Compersion, voyeurism, and different turn-ons in open relationships→ Why real, honest stories about sex and relationships matterAbout Kate HeskettKate Heskett (they/them) is an award-winning poet, writer, and canoe guide based in Whistler, BC. Their work has been published in Pique and The Lupine Review, and they are a contributing author in the anthology Pillow Talk: Real People. Real Stories. Real Awkward.Their story, Pineapples in the Snow, shares their first experience at a swingers hotel takeover, exploring risk, desire, and the powerful validation of finding community.Pillow Talk: Real People. Real Stories. Real Awkward. is an anthology featuring 18 writers sharing frank, funny, and deeply human stories about intimacy, desire, and the moments we don't usually talk about.From awkward encounters to moments of joy and self-discovery, this book helps normalize the full spectrum of human experience.

What are metamour relationships supposed to look like in non-monogamy? Do you have to be instant best friends… or even chosen family… with your partner's partner?In this episode, relationship coach Ellecia Paine explores the real emotional pacing of metamour connections. From the pressure to create “kitchen table polyamory” right away, to the importance of chemistry, play, and nervous system safety, this conversation offers grounded insight for anyone navigating polyamory, open relationships, or complex love dynamics.You'll learn why authentic metamour relationships grow through shared experiences over time, not performance or obligation, and how to build connection in ways that feel sustainable for your real life.Whether you're new to non-monogamy or deep in your journey, this episode will help you release unrealistic expectations and create more compassionate, conscious relationship dynamics. In this episode we explore:• What kitchen table polyamory really means (and common misconceptions)• Why expecting instant closeness with metamours can create pressure• How friendship chemistry and pacing impact polyamorous relationships• The role of play and shared experiences in building trust• How to allow metamour relationships to develop naturally• Emotional safety, authenticity, and sustainable connection in non-monogamySend us Fan MailSupport the show

If you've ever been turned on by feelings of jealousy, you are so not alone. Dr. Marie Thouin wrote the book on compersion, so she's the perfect person to join us to get real about erotic jealousy, humiliation, being “the unchosen one,” and why some of us get hot exactly where we've been hurt. In this reverse interview, Joli shares candid stories from early non-monogamy and triad life, using masturbation and fantasy to work with jealousy, and how disposability, comparison, and attachment wounds all show up in her erotic life.They also dig into the ethics and weirdness of fantasizing about real people (including metamours), the idea of “participatory jealousy,” and what it really takes to play with this energy without burning everything down. You'll hear about kink as a tool for transformation, what happens in the “underworld” of big feelings, and how new erotic experiences can actually rewire old wounds—and make more room for compersion, nuance, and genuine choice in how you relate to jealousy.In this episode, we talk about:— Jealousy as a source of turn-on rather than a problem to fix— The relationship between jealousy, shame, and the struggle for Compersion— Joli's personal journey with jealousy in early non-monogamy and triad living— Using masturbation and fantasy to work with jealous feelings— The erotic charge of disposability, being “unchosen,” and humiliation— How attachment wounds and humiliation kink intersect with jealousy— Ethical questions about fantasizing about real people (including metamours)— Using placeholders/roles vs. specific individuals in erotic imagination— The idea of “participatory jealousy” and reclaiming agency— Alchemizing jealousy into something transformative (using a Jungian/alchemical lens)— The role of safety, trust, and betrayal in whether jealousy play can be healing— Kink as a tool for psychological transformation, not just sensation— Memory reconsolidation and how new erotic experiences can rewrite old wounds— Keeping metamours present in the imagination to support compersionResources mentioned in this episode:— Dr. Marie Thouin's website— Justin Lehmiller's research on sexual fantasies— Joli's guest episode on Girl Boner Radio with August McLaughlin— Episode 215 Nurturing Established Relationship EnergyJOIN The Year Of Opening® community for a full year of learning & support. Registration is open now at ⁠⁠www.TheYearOfOpening.com⁠⁠Learn the 5 secrets to open your relationship the smart wayAre you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.comGet the answers you want to create the open relationship of your dreams! Sign up for an Ask Me Anything hereMusic: Dance of Felt by ⁠Blue Dot Sessions

What if the goal is not to erase jealousy, but to stop letting it drive the car? Dr. Marie Thouin joins April and Scott to define compersion in clear, grounded terms, and to explain why it can show up as an emotion, an attitude, or even simple supportive neutrality. They talk about the spectrum from “I can handle this” to genuine joy, the “second arrow” of self-inflicted suffering, and the conditions that make compersion more likely: security in self, security in the relationship, supportive community, and more. The episode also explores how autonomy and trust intersect with boundaries, when “training wheels” help, and how to tell the difference between growth discomfort and self-abandonment.Dr Marie Thouin Websites:https://mariethouin.com/https://www.whatiscompersion.com/Naughty Gym Website:www.NaughtyGym.comOur Upcoming Events:1. Wild Love Theory Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreat2. Barcelona Adventure Trip -- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-20263. El Salvador Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador

Hey Booty Gang—pull up a chair, silence your group chat, and maybe hydrate, because this week's episode of BUTT HONESTLY is equal parts curious, clinical, and casually chronic. We kick things off with a listener whose partner only seems interested in unleashing their wild side after a few cocktails. Is it liquid courage, a personality setting, or just a very specific two-drink minimum? Dr. Carlton and Dangilo unpack the science, the psychology, and the “are we okay with this?” of it all—no judgment, just raised eyebrows.Then we head straight into the medicine cabinet as another listener asks the question no one wants to Google at 2 a.m.: What medication actually helps your balls while on testosterone therapy? (Spoiler: WebMD panic scrolling is not a treatment plan.) Then things get emotionally mature—yes, really—as one listener asks the guys to talk about compersion. What is it? Can you learn it? And why does it sound like a Pilates class but hit like an emotional pop quiz? The boys break down joy-for-your-partner joy without making your brain hurt… too much.The guys zoom out to talk dating apps—what's working, what's broken, and why everyone somehow has the same five photos. Dangilo takes a nostalgic (and slightly unhinged) detour involving The Alamo and Pee-wee Herman's bike, proving once again that history class would've been way more interesting if he'd been teaching it.Meanwhile, Dr. Carlton gets serious for a moment to remind everyone that colonoscopies are not a vibe—but they are a necessity. Consider this your loving, slightly stern reminder to take care of your insides… all of them.As always, the episode wraps with the guys' “69 and a Half Foot Pole” of the week—things they're politely, firmly, and sometimes medically distancing themselves from—and finishes strong with their Love Language of the Week, sending you off informed, entertained, and maybe questioning a few life choices.It's thoughtful. It's funny. It's Butt Honestly doing what it does best: answering the questions you're afraid to ask out loud… except here, we say them into microphones.

This week on the Erotic Awakening Podcast, episode 745,  Dawn chats with Dear Caroline from Needle Playground on the subject of Quills .... ……plus, she reviews some polyamory/poly/polyam terms like fluid bonded, compersion, anchor, comet ….and then mentions where she will be and shares a resource that she just became aware of!   Links mentioned on the show: Needle Playground https://needleplayground.com/ Leather Life Education Series https://leatherlife.org/ Intrigue https://fetlife.com/events/1725996 Indy Rope Expo https://www.indyropeexpo.com/ Primal Arts Fest https://fetlife.com/events/1911410 Polyamory in the News https://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/ Twisted Windows https://www.twistedwindows.com/     Transcript 1:54 Interview Dear Caroline on Quills 4:07 Types of porcupine 4:42 Quill barbs 5:11 Quill cleaning 12:44 How Caroline got started in Quills 17:05 Needle Playground 19:41 Where Dawn will be in 2026 21:48 Polyamory Terminology 22:41 Fluid Bonded 24:59 Comet Relationship 25:46 Compersion 26:47 Anchor 27:55 Breaking of Bread w/Friends 29:06 Resource - Twisted Windows     Enjoy!!! Dawn     Discounted/Free books, kink starter cards, online classes; early access to the show, and more!    https://www.patreon.com/eroticawakening   ***************************************** Fetlife - @erotic_awakening  Instagram - @eroticawakening Youtube - @eroticawakeningpodcast TikTok - @eapodcastdawn Newsletter - www.eroticawakening.com   Discord - https://discord.gg/WQtSM56V39   745 - #polyamoryterminology #polyam #anchorrelationship #cometrelationship #fluidbonded #compersion #powerexchange #polyamory #livingms #polyamorytoolkit #kinkeducation #leathereducation #onlineeducation #podcast #eroticawakeningpodcast #bdsm #domsub #submission #heartsandcollars @twistedwindows #bdsmresources  

What does cuckolding really mean—beyond the porn clichés, the insults, and the misconceptions? In this intimate and unfiltered conversation, Mr. and Mrs. Sno sit down with Hubbs and Hopeful, two hosts from the Cuck My Life Podcast, to unpack the real psychology behind cuckolding, compersion, dominance, submission, emotional vulnerability, and why so many couples misunderstand this dynamic. Together, they explore: The difference between humiliation kink and healthy cuckolding Why compersion—not degradation—is at the heart of most cuck dynamics How communication and emotional safety determine whether this lifestyle strengthens or destroys a relationship What bulls and single men get wrong (and what the good ones consistently do right) Why cock cages, denial, and power exchange can deepen intimacy rather than replace it   Plus, Mr. Sno opens up about his own evolving identity, Mrs. Sno shares how stepping into her vixen energy transformed their relationship, and the Cuck My Life hosts reveal the emotional courage required to live authentically within this kink. This episode is raw, psychological, funny, deeply honest—and a must-listen for anyone exploring hotwife play, cuckolding, stag/vixen dynamics, or the emotional side of non-monogamy. If you've ever wondered what cuckolding actually looks like behind closed doors… this conversation pulls back the curtain.   00:00 – Welcome & Today's Topic Mr. and Mrs. Sno introduce the episode and set the stage for a deep dive into modern cuckolding.   01:30 – Meet Hopeful & Hubbs (Cuck My Life Podcast) The guests share their mission to normalize cuckolding and elevate the conversation beyond stereotypes.   03:40 – "I've Always Been a Cuck" — Identity, Labels & Self-Discovery Hubbs describes recognizing his identity later in life and how ED unexpectedly transformed his marriage.   06:50 – What IS Cuckolding? Compersion vs. Humiliation The group explores definitions, misconceptions, and the psychological core of cuck dynamics.   14:20 – Dominance, Submission & Everyday Relationship Roles Hopeful explains how his DS marriage works 24/7—and how it differs from porn stereotypes.   19:50 – "I Don't Want to Be Humiliated" — Mr. Sno's Turning Point A candid discussion about why not all cucks want degradation, and why that distinction matters.   24:10 – Hotwife, Stag, Vixen, Cuck: Do Labels Even Matter? A myth-busting segment on lifestyle terminology and how couples can use labels without limiting themselves.   31:00 – Emotional Risk, Insecurity & the 'Bigger Penis Problem' The panel breaks down what actually happens emotionally after that first experience.   36:55 – How to Talk to Your Partner If You're Curious About Cuckolding A powerful segment on vulnerability, honesty, and how to have the scariest—and most important—conversation.   44:25 – How to Find (and Vet) Bulls & Single Men Ethics, red flags, emotional intelligence, and why most men are not prepared for this dynamic.   52:10 – What Good Bulls Understand (And Why Most Don't) The nuanced expectations of a third: respect, communication, and serving both partners.   58:20 – Mrs. Sno's Vixen Energy & Solo Play Revelation An intimate look at how confidence, agency, and compersion deepen connection.   1:04:30 – Cock Cages, Denial & the Psychology of Being Locked Why cages intensify attention, arousal, and emotional closeness—plus practical fit tips.   1:12:40 – Final Thoughts on Love, Trust & Returning Home Why cuckolding strengthens secure relationships and why emotional connection—not sex—is the foundation.   1:15:00 – Where to Find Cuck My Life Links, socials, and closing gratitude.   PLEASE share your feedback and stories with us! Email Us: SnoMilf@yahoo.com Twitter (X): @SchedulingSin Join us on Discord: https://discord.gg/F4Wk558TaT https://schedulingsin.com IMPORTANT - Please read and respect our chat server rules before joining our Discord Chat Server. This service is completely free, there are many rooms to enjoy with fellow members of the swinging community. You MUST BE OVER 18 YEARS OLD TO JOIN THIS DISCORD SERVER. Our Discord chat is for social chat. it is not a pick up site or dating site.  

Send us a textEpisode 695: From Threesomes to Non-Monogamy: One Man's Journey Beyond Jealousy and Shame with author Adam Darrow about his edgy, honest, and raw memoir "Seek the Risk" (affiliate link) https://amzn.to/3KrboVRWhen Adam Darrow met Jane at forty, he thought he was the adventurous one. After all, he'd spent his twenties competing in extreme sports and had explored threesomes—that made him pretty edgy, right? Then Jane, a PhD psychologist who spoke five languages, told him she didn't do boyfriends (and she meant it). Drawing from his background in extreme sports, Darrow spent two and a half years transitioning into non-monogamy, followed by three challenging years of emotional work before finding equilibrium. The journey wasn't easy. When Jane publicly announced their arrangement on Facebook in 2009, Darrow watched his life wildly transform. His best friend called him derogatory names. But over time, he discovered something unexpected: jealousy could be channeled into motivation to become a better partner. What initially felt emasculating became an opportunity to overcome deep-seated insecurities like imposter syndrome and validation-seeking.His memoir chronicles this transformative experience through vulnerable storytelling that includes explicit extreme sexual details and uncomfortable emotional truths, as well as healing and growth. How did keeping emotions bottled up nearly break him? The book explores that question while advocating for moving beyond societal shame around sexuality, relationship conformity, and focusing on personal authenticity rather than rigid beliefs about relationships.Estimated Timeline:  Adam Darrow's Journey Into Non-Monogamy00:03:40 - PhD Psychologist with Unconventional Past00:06:43 - Extreme Sports Skills Applied to Non-Monogamy00:09:13 - Separating Sex from Emotion in Relationships00:19:57 - Managing Jealousy Through Don't Ask, Don't Tell00:22:26 - From Jealousy to Compersion in Open Relationships00:25:11 - Breaking Through Shame and Choosing Each Other00:28:42 - Walking the Beach: Questioning My Limits, book excerpt00:33:17 - Understanding Nesting Couples and Non-Monogamy00:39:43 - Letting Go of Control in Relationships00:46:22 - Vulnerability and Authenticity in Memoir Writing00:51:51 - Writing the Book and Her Reaction00:58:17 - Identity Beyond Sexual Acts, sexuality01:06:44 - Overcoming Jealousy Through Personal Growth01:11:27 - Healthy vs Unhealthy Jealousy in RelationshipsConnect with Adam Darrow: Link to the books website  www.seektherisk.netSubstack seektherisk.substhttps://payhip.com/RuanWillowBooks$0.99 books https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/ninetyninecentsbookssales Support the showExclusives https://www.buzzsprout.com/1599808/subscribeNewsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillowhttps://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliates Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow BeeDee dating app https://beedee.app/?r=ohfuckyeahThe Fantasy Box DATE30 for $30 OFF 1st box https://thefantasybox.sjv.io/c/6250602/2141126/26423

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In this episode, I sit down with ICF certified relationship coach, erotic event producer and founder of Passport to Pleasure Ally Iseman to explore what consensual non-monogamy can look like in real life—beyond headlines and hot takes. Ally shares her evolution from serial monogamist to multi-partner relationships, she defines compersion and erotic jealousy (zelophilia), and explains how clarity, agreements, and tolerating discomfort are the real “muscles” of any sustainable relationship—monogamous or not. You'll hear practical frameworks for opening up, the difference between romantic and sexual needs, and how multiple relationships can highlight different authentic versions of yourself.Timestamps:0:00 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth: sex & midlife reset0:35 – Meet Ally Iseman: the Non-Monogamy Nerd1:18 – From serial monogamy to self-study: changing the variables3:05 – The first “green light” story—and an unexpected reaction5:12 – Compersion vs jealousy vs erotic jealousy (zelophilia)7:08 – When “we thought we were okay” meets reality8:23 – Agreements, definitions, and why discomfort is data10:15 – Cheating vs ENM: clarity beats assumptions11:36 – Romantic needs vs sexual needs: orientation or lifestyle?13:10 – Multiple partners, multiple selves: time, priority, authenticity15:05 – Karen's reflections: bi-coastal love & new relationship energy16:32 – Making it work: communication, calendars, and compassion17:26 – What's next + Part 2 coming nextWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the guest: Ally Iseman is a writer, consultant, ICF Certified Relationship Coach, NCSF-registered Kink Aware Professional (KAP), and the Founder of the inclusive relationship resource platform Passport2Pleasure.com. ​Sitting on numerous advisory boards in NED roles for brands in the sex tech and relational wellness spaces, she has been a speaker, erotic event producer,...

Zach talks with Brian and Toby, partners of 13 years, and dads of two daughters. They share openly about parenting, building a household on their own terms, and how their marriage has evolved through different phases, from dating in Manhattan to raising a family in Brooklyn. Brian and Toby talk about splitting household roles, setting expectations, and creating rules that bring freedom instead of friction. They also share how growing up gay shaped their ability to design a marriage without traditional templates, why openness and honesty fuel their intimacy, and how they balance parenting with maintaining fun and connection. Key Takeaways Parenting in phases – From toddlers to elementary-aged kids, parenting shifts from hands-on care to emotional presence, and Brian and Toby embrace each new stage. Custom rules reduce conflict – Alternating mornings, dividing domains like kitchen and bedtime, and setting an “11 a.m. rule” help keep household harmony. Gay marriage breaks the mold – Without pressure to follow traditional timelines, they built their relationship with more freedom and intentionality. From secrecy to openness – Their open marriage evolved from “don't ask, don't tell” to full transparency, deepening their trust and intimacy. Compersion in practice – They highlight how celebrating a partner's happiness, whether in rest, personal pursuits, or relationships, can fuel closeness. Shared values of planning and fun – Their natural organization and commitment to joy give their family structure and spontaneity in equal measure. Guest Info BrianCo-host of the Dads and Daddies podcast. TobyExecutive producer and co-founder of an animation production studio. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Zach talks with Brian and Toby, partners of 13 years, and dads of two daughters. They share openly about parenting, building a household on their own terms, and how their marriage has evolved through different phases, from dating in Manhattan to raising a family in Brooklyn. Brian and Toby talk about splitting household roles, setting expectations, and creating rules that bring freedom instead of friction. They also share how growing up gay shaped their ability to design a marriage without traditional templates, why openness and honesty fuel their intimacy, and how they balance parenting with maintaining fun and connection. Key Takeaways Parenting in phases – From toddlers to elementary-aged kids, parenting shifts from hands-on care to emotional presence, and Brian and Toby embrace each new stage. Custom rules reduce conflict – Alternating mornings, dividing domains like kitchen and bedtime, and setting an “11 a.m. rule” help keep household harmony. Gay marriage breaks the mold – Without pressure to follow traditional timelines, they built their relationship with more freedom and intentionality. From secrecy to openness – Their open marriage evolved from “don't ask, don't tell” to full transparency, deepening their trust and intimacy. Compersion in practice – They highlight how celebrating a partner's happiness, whether in rest, personal pursuits, or relationships, can fuel closeness. Shared values of planning and fun – Their natural organization and commitment to joy give their family structure and spontaneity in equal measure. Guest Info BrianCo-host of the Dads and Daddies podcast. TobyExecutive producer and co-founder of an animation production studio. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Join us and Meshei from Expansive Connection Coaching as we discuss the six most important things those new to the lifestyle need to know and us veterans of the lifestyle need always to remember: Radical Honesty as the Starting Point Shifting Mindsets: From Specialness to Uniqueness Navigating Jealousy and Compersion with Conscious Awareness Boundaries, Agreements and People-Pleasing Navigating Different Paces in the Journey Co-Creating Evolving Agreements Expansive Connection Coaching We Gotta Thing Community We Gotta Thing Website We Gotta Thing on Instagram

On today's episode, we have Dr. Marie Thouin (she/her) join us for a conversation about creating fertile soil for compersion. Together we talk about the power of our narrative frames, choosing to turn towards connection, and emotionally touching your toes.

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Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce made headlines this week thanks to the heartwarming reaction of Travis and his brother, Jason Kelce, as they celebrated Taylor's new album, The Life of a Showgirl. Relationship therapist Esther Perel weighed in, highlighting the concept of “compersion” in a recent Instagram reel that's been buzzing online in relation to Travis' celebration of her.If you have a pattern of people you date or attract in your life that tend to be competitive, jealous and critical rather than supportive and happy for your successes then this is an episode you won't want to miss.In Episode 407 of The Charisma Quotient, Taylor Swift, Travis Kelce & The Secret to Love: Compersion vs. Jealousy, Kimmy dives into the power and importance of compersion—feeling authentic joy for the happiness and success of someone you love—and unpacks why these “cheerleader” moments are the true green flags in dating.   Relationship therapist, Esther Perel, used this term “compersion” recently in an Instagram reel that's been buzzing online in relation to the heartwarming reaction of Travis Kelce and his brother Jason as they celebrated Taylor Swift's new album.  Kimmy unpacks why these “cheerleader” moments are the true green flags in dating.   Kimmy uses real-life coaching stories to illustrate how compersion and jealousy show up on first dates and far into relationships. You'll hear about clients who kept attracting partners that would downplay their wins, make dismissive jokes, or always steer the conversation back to themselves—leaving them feeling small, unseen, and unsupported. Kimmy explains where these reactions come from and why they're red flags you need to spot early. Through practical steps, Kimmy teaches you how to identify and cultivate compersion. She outlines a powerful homework assignment to the listeners on how to conduct a “compersion check-in” on your next date, how to reclaim your power by celebrating your own wins without shrinking, and how to recondition yourself to receive genuine support—especially if it feels uncomfortable or “foreign” at first.    You'll hear: How to spot the subtle signs of compersion (and jealousy) from the very first date, so you don't waste time on someone whose insecurity will make you feel small. A real-life client story that illustrates how someone can seem charming and supportive, but consistently chips away at your joy—and how to break that toxic cycle for good. Specific “green flags” that signal emotional maturity and genuine support, versus common “red flags” that point to competition and insecurity. A simple, three-step “Compersion Check-In” exercise you can try on your next date or even in your current relationship, to see how supported you really feel. If you are wanting to break patterns in your dating life and want a Taylor and Travis kind of love, hop on a private call with Kimmy to flush out what might be causing that and find ways to attract the right partner for you  https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com  

Send us a textWhat does it really feel like when you've found the right one? In this episode, I sit down with New York Times bestselling author of No Holds Barred and host of the Decision Decision Podcast Weezy WTF to unpack the difference between chasing toxic love and finding the kind of relationship that finally feels easy.We break down:✨ The moment you know you've found the right person✨ Why healthy love feels calm, not chaotic✨ The green flags most people overlook in relationships✨ Compersion & open relationships — what people get wrong✨ How to handle jealousy before exploring open loveIf you've ever stayed too long in the wrong relationship or wondered if you're ready for the right one, this conversation will hit hard.

Send us a textIn this episode, Charlie shares his journey of self-discovery, sexuality, and his deep connection to HIV prevention. He discusses his upbringing in a traditional Catholic family, his experiences with sexual exploration, and the importance of open conversations about sexual health. Charlie emphasizes the significance of PrEP in his life and how it has allowed him to explore his sexuality more freely. He also reflects on the stigma surrounding HIV and the need for better education within the healthcare system, particularly regarding non-traditional relationships. Throughout the discussion, Charlie advocates for fluidity in sexuality and the importance of having honest conversations about desire and safety, especially within the Latinx community.To access PrEP online through Q Care Plus, click hereThis episode was brought to you by The Los Angeles Family AIDS Network in collaboration with Reach LA.Support the showThis podcast is brought to you by the Los Angeles Family AIDS Network

Join hosts John and Jackie Melfi in this fun and revealing episode where they play "This or That: Lifestyle Edition"! The couple behind colette Swingers Clubs and the award-winning openlove101.com blog share their preferences on various aspects of open relationships and swinging.   In this candid discussion, John and Jackie answer questions about full swap vs soft swap, playing together vs separately, and much more. With over 13 years of experience in consensual non-monogamy, they offer valuable insights on jealousy, vulnerability, and how their preferences have evolved over time.   Whether you're curious about the lifestyle or looking to deepen your understanding of open relationships, this episode provides an entertaining and educational perspective from two experts in the field.   Key Topics Discussed: 0:00 - Introduction to Open Love 101 podcast 1:01 - Game explanation: "This or That" lifestyle edition 1:45 - Full swap vs soft swap preferences 2:00 - Playing together vs separately 3:20 - Spontaneous vs scheduled play 3:46 - How vulnerability affects relationships 4:44 - Meeting couples online vs at events 5:34 - Club vs resort preferences 7:07 - Same room vs separate rooms 8:03 - Processing feelings in the moment vs afterward 8:40 - Clear rules vs going with the flow 11:04 - Regular play partners vs one-timers 12:44 - Jealousy as a red flag vs growth opportunity 15:26 - Slow and sensual vs fast and wild 17:16 - Compersion as a must vs work in progress 21:01 - Home vs elsewhere preferences 22:02 - Playing with people they know vs strangers   Join the Conversation!   Like what you heard? Subscribe to our channel, hit the notification bell, and visit openlove101.com to sign up for our email list. You'll be notified of upcoming videos, articles, and events!   Don't forget to leave a comment below with your own "This or That" preferences or questions for John and Jackie. We'd love to hear your thoughts on the topics discussed!   #OpenLove101 #Swinging #NonMonogamy #ThisOrThat #RelationshipAdvice #ConsentualNonMonogamy #OpenRelationships

Can you feel joy when your partner finds happiness with someone else? In this video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com dive into the concept of compersion—the emotional opposite of jealousy—and how it can create deeper connection, trust, and personal growth in non-monogamous relationships. They share their own experiences, discuss challenges rooted in traditional relationship norms, and explain how compersion can reduce pressure, expand emotional freedom, and even strengthen primary partnerships.

This episode is also posted on the IPH YouTube podcast.IHP content is for people who are interested in topics, stories, & guidance for personal development, self-help, spirituality journey, the 5D mystic path, & enlightenment the human way. It's for people who choose the human love narrative, not the human suffering narrative. Don't tune in if you don't love life & humanity because this won't be for you. Don't tune in if you still believe in evil or the devil. Topic not ideal for ego-sensitive or emotionally sensitive people. Please don't tune in. Thank you! All IHP content resonates with people who want to achieve enlightenment the human way & are emotionally accountable. IHP podcast host Maria Florio shares voices, stories & perspectives from her 5D mystic enlightenment functional adult life to give examples of what it's like to know emotional self-regulation skills, experience secure attachment, have functional adult conversations & experiences & 5D relationships.Inspiring Human Potential Inner Growth 5D Self-Empowered Enlightened Expanding Consciousness Voices, Stories & Perspectives5D Mystic Enlightenment Functional Adult Relationships New Stories To Heal Trauma Together & Bring Forth Your Humanity5D collective are functional adults who unconditionally love with flaws & imperfections that want to bring forth the authentic self, the inner child adult, & use functional adult direct open-hearted communication.You find your authentic self with self-awareness of your inner & outer mental, emotional & physical well-being as you choose to expand consciousness through integration of the brain, learning to love yourself and other(s) unconditionally - family, community, society, & world.To be you means you're able to actively feel alive, energized & ready for life's adventures (thanks to engaging your mammalian social engagement system - the ventral vagal state). You're ready to bring forth the future with the 5D collective (mystics & educators, etc.) & support humanity to move into another day of life & beyond.With a twin flame there is no saga or obsession; just unconditional love with a deep knowing of one's bond, oversoul connection, lifetimes together.Bringing Together Human, Spiritual, & Spirituality Elements to Explore Human Evolution & ConsciousnessBringing together the human elements (existentialism, psychology, sociology, neuroscience, somatics informed, trauma informed, interpersonal neurobiology informed, etc.), spiritual elements (ascension, the four clairs, astrology, metastrology, metaphysics, 3D, 4D, 5D - dimensions, spiritual awakening, tarot, Akashic records, etc.), & spirituality elements to explore human evolution & consciousness.When we can unconditionally love with flaws & imperfections in all our relationships, we always grow & expand consciousness. We get to experience authentic & genuine aspects that go beyond what words can describe.All our relationships support our expansion of consciousness.We are fragments of each other.Relationships that are unconditionally loving with flaws & imperfections hold the opportunity to support learning how to express & be your true self & tap into your infinite higher human consciousness potential in this lifetime, not the next one.I am life.I am love.I am expanding consciousness.I am infinite higher human potential.I am you.Love, Maria ♾️

This episode is also posted on the IPH YouTube podcast.IHP content is for people who are interested in topics, stories, & guidance for personal development, self-help, spirituality journey, the 5D mystic path, & enlightenment the human way. It's for people who choose the human love narrative, not the human suffering narrative. Don't tune in if you don't love life & humanity because this won't be for you. Don't tune in if you still believe in evil or the devil. Topic not ideal for ego-sensitive or emotionally sensitive people. Please don't tune in. Thank you! All IHP content resonates with people who want to achieve enlightenment the human way & are emotionally accountable. IHP podcast host Maria Florio shares voices, stories & perspectives from her 5D mystic enlightenment functional adult life to give examples of what it's like to know emotional self-regulation skills, experience secure attachment, have functional adult conversations & experiences & 5D relationships.Inspiring Human Potential Inner Growth 5D Self-Empowered Enlightened Expanding Consciousness Voices, Stories & Perspectives5D Mystic Enlightenment Functional Adult Relationships New Stories To Heal Trauma Together & Bring Forth Your Humanity5D collective are functional adults who unconditionally love with flaws & imperfections that want to bring forth the authentic self, the inner child adult, & use functional adult direct open-hearted communication.You find your authentic self with self-awareness of your inner & outer mental, emotional & physical well-being as you choose to expand consciousness through integration of the brain, learning to love yourself and other(s) unconditionally - family, community, society, & world.To be you means you're able to actively feel alive, energized & ready for life's adventures (thanks to engaging your mammalian social engagement system - the ventral vagal state). You're ready to bring forth the future with the 5D collective (mystics & educators, etc.) & support humanity to move into another day of life & beyond.With a twin flame there is no saga or obsession; just unconditional love with a deep knowing of one's bond, oversoul connection, lifetimes together.Bringing Together Human, Spiritual, & Spirituality Elements to Explore Human Evolution & ConsciousnessBringing together the human elements (existentialism, psychology, sociology, neuroscience, somatics informed, trauma informed, interpersonal neurobiology informed, etc.), spiritual elements (ascension, the four clairs, astrology, metastrology, metaphysics, 3D, 4D, 5D - dimensions, spiritual awakening, tarot, Akashic records, etc.), & spirituality elements to explore human evolution & consciousness.When we can unconditionally love with flaws & imperfections in all our relationships, we always grow & expand consciousness. We get to experience authentic & genuine aspects that go beyond what words can describe.All our relationships support our expansion of consciousness.We are fragments of each other.Relationships that are unconditionally loving with flaws & imperfections hold the opportunity to support learning how to express & be your true self & tap into your infinite higher human consciousness potential in this lifetime, not the next one.I am life.I am love.I am expanding consciousness.I am infinite higher human potential.I am you.Love, Maria ♾️

Send us a textEver wondered if you can learn to feel compersion instead of jealousy? Or if talking about opening up your relationship means you're actually ready to do it? This episode dives deep into these questions and more!I'm joined by Ally Iseman, a certified relationship coach and founder of Passport to Pleasure. Ally brings her unique blend of humor, compassion, and practical tools to help couples navigate the complexities of non-monogamy.In this episode, we explore:Why "conversation is lubrication" and how to make it work for youReframing jealousy (even the hot kind!) as a tool for growthThe value of understanding consensual non-monogamy, regardless of your relationship styleAlly's step-by-step method for moving through jealousyHow to know if your relationship is truly ready to open upKey Takeaways:Compersion vs. Jealousy: Ally shares her personal journey from experiencing what she thought was jealousy to realizing it was actually compersion.The NERD OUT Method: Learn Ally's unique technique for transforming jealousy into a mindful, growth-oriented experience.Effective Communication: Discover the crucial difference between clear communication and effective communication in relationships.Curiosity Over Conviction: Why approaching non-monogamy with genuine curiosity is more powerful than trying to convince your partner.Whether you're actively practicing non-monogamy, considering it, or simply curious about different relationship styles, this conversation offers valuable insights for everyone. Ally's approach emphasizes personal growth, effective communication, and creating relationships that truly work for you – no matter what form they take.Ready to explore if your relationship is prepared for non-monogamy? Take Ally's free Relationship Ratio quiz at  www.passport2pleasure.com/ratio to get started on your journey.And check out Ally's Substack https://allyiseman.substack.com/https://elleciapaine.com/callSupport the show

Welcome to That Other Lifestyle Podcast, hosted by Jason. In this episode, we delve into the captivating concept of compersion, a unique emotion resonating joy when your partner finds happiness. Journey with Jason as he explores how this intriguing emotion can be fostered and put into action within the lifestyle community. Discover the essence of compersion through relatable stories, thoughtful insights, and practical advice, designed to enhance connection and understanding among partners. Whether you're new to the lifestyle or a seasoned participant, this episode offers valuable perspectives on moving beyond jealousy, reframing emotions, and genuinely celebrating your partner's joy.   My links: www.thatotherlifestyle.com https://benable.com/ThatOtherLifestyle National Lifestyle Weekend Tickets Naughty in New Orleans 2025 Tickets Single Men's Guide to the Lifestyle Course https://beacons.ai/thatotherlifestyle Risque Lifestyle Parties SDC.com STDHero.com Hellowisp.com

Big Dipper and Meatball are joined by actor, writer, and filmmaker Kit Williamson to talk about the Hollywood hustle and why it's important to tell queer stories. They talk about the success of 'EastSiders' and his new Revry original “Unconventional” starring many familiar gay faces. Plus they get into some nasty chat about group sex, a musty goon cave, and everything but the kitchen stynk.Follow @kitwilliamsonListen to Sloppy Seconds Ad-Free AND One Day Early on MOM PlusCall us with your sex stories at 213-536-9180!Or e-mail us at sloppysecondspod@gmail.comFOLLOW SLOPPY SECONDSFOLLOW BIG DIPPERFOLLOW MEATBALLSLOPPY SECONDS IS A FOREVER DOG AND MOGULS OF MEDIA (M.O.M.) PODCAST Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Big Dipper and Meatball are joined by actor, writer, and filmmaker Kit Williamson to talk about the Hollywood hustle and why it's important to tell queer stories. They talk about the success of 'EastSiders' and his new Revry original “Unconventional” starring many familiar gay faces. Plus they get into some nasty chat about group sex, a musty goon cave, and everything but the kitchen stynk. Follow @kitwilliamson Listen to Sloppy Seconds Ad-Free AND One Day Early on MOM Plus Call us with your sex stories at 213-536-9180! Or e-mail us at sloppysecondspod@gmail.com FOLLOW SLOPPY SECONDS FOLLOW BIG DIPPER FOLLOW MEATBALL SLOPPY SECONDS IS A FOREVER DOG AND MOGULS OF MEDIA (M.O.M.) PODCAST Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's be honest—most of us really don't want to talk about envy. It's uncomfortable, it feels icky, and it brings up all sorts of emotions we'd rather not face. You know we love to talk about jealousy, but understanding envy, especially how it differs from jealousy, can also be incredibly valuable for relational and personal growth.In this episode, we talk about:— The difference between envy and jealousy, and why we often conflate them— How envy involves comparing ourselves to others and breaking people down into parts rather than seeing them as whole humans— The underlying sense of unfairness that fuels envy and how it can become destructive— Why envy can be both a powerful motivator and a path to self-destruction— How envy shows up specifically in non-monogamous relationships, especially when it appears alongside jealousy— The way envy can point us toward our genuine wants and desires if we're willing to examine it— How envy can be valuable individuation material that helps us understand our values and what we truly want— The destructive potential of envy in relationships and communities when left unexamined— Practical ways to work with envy when it arises, including using it as information rather than letting it control our actions— The importance of considering not just what we envy in others, but whether we're willing to do what it takes to achieve similar outcomesResources mentioned in this episode:— Cinderella and Her Sisters: The Envied and the Envying by Ann and Barry Ulanov— What is Compersion? by Marie Thouin— The Drama Triangle concept by Stephen KarpmanJOIN The Year of Opening® community for a full year of learning & support. Registration is open now at ⁠⁠www.TheYearOfOpening.com⁠⁠Learn the 5 secrets to open your relationship the smart wayAre you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.comGet the answers you want to create the open relationship of your dreams! Sign up for an Ask Me Anything hereMusic: Dance of Felt by ⁠Blue Dot Sessions

In this episode we sit down with Ava's new partner, Ramone, to explore his journey through non-monogamy. Ramone had always identified as strictly polyamorous, but meeting Ava introduced him to new experiences, including his first sex-positive event. We dive into Ramone's past relationships, his perspective on polyamory before Ava, and how stepping into a more open, play-oriented space challenged and excited him. Plus, we hear about his first impressions of finally meeting Anthony and Pinky in person. Join us for a candid conversation about evolving relationship styles, exploring new spaces, and what happens when love meets adventure. LINKS: Three Shades Of Grey | Website The Ethical Slut | Third Edition Splash Mocha SOCIALS: Anthony's Instagram Pinky's Instagram Ava's Instagram TikTok

Grace and Alvina talk about the emotion of jealousy and how it differs from envy, and how both are normal emotions. They discuss how to better reframe feelings of jealousy. They also discuss the feeling of compersion, which is the opposite of jealousy. For the Fortune Cookie segment, Grace shared some insights from a Winter Institute panel about the middle grade market. And then Alvina asks Grace to tell her about her book DIM SUM FOR EVERYONE. They end by sharing what they're grateful for. See complete show notes at www.bookfriendsforever.com. Click here to become a Patreon member: https://www.patreon.com/Bookfriendsforever1. See info about Grace's new book "The Gate, the Girl, and the Dragon": https://linktr.ee/gracelinauthor. Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bookfriendsforever_podcast/  

This week, Raoni welcomes to the "Raoni Washburn Show" stage, Clinton Otwell. Clinton shares with Raoni his not-so-unique polyamorous relationship with his two boyfriends and how he maneuvers through while living in the Castro District of San Francisco. Raoni and Clint also talk about roommate life in the city, the things that happen in the Fitness SF showers in the Castro, sex BINGO cards, trying to remember what condoms are for, and hookup pet peeves.Follow Clinton Otwell on Instagram @ clintincastroFollow The Raoni Washburn Show on:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Threads⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Positive+1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠all @exposingmygay,Please subscribe to the "⁠⁠⁠Bossy Power Bottom Gay-Treon (Patreon)⁠⁠⁠" and get all things Bossy Power Bottom Productions bonus content from over four shows! Don't forget to go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠raoniwashburn.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for any information you need on the show or Bossy Power Bottom Productions. While on the show website, look at the⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Bossy Power Bottom Catalog⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and pick out your next piece for your upcoming gay or pride-related event. Do you have something you want Raoni to hear? Call in on the official Bossy Power Bottom hotline at 415 501 0401 and leave a message. Any other inquiries are received at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mygayexpose@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ !

Compersion—the warm, fuzzy feeling of joy when your partner experiences pleasure with someone else—is often called the “opposite of jealousy.” But what does it really mean, and how do you cultivate it in your non-monogamous relationships? In this episode, Anthony, Pinky, and Ava dive into the concept of compersion; sharing personal stories, insights, and practical tips on how to navigate this unique emotion. They discuss:     •    What compersion is (and what it isn't)     •    The role of compersion in different types of non-monogamy     •    How to develop compersion if it doesn't come naturally     •    Common challenges and how to work through them     •    Real-life experiences of feeling (or struggling to feel) compersion Whether compersion flows easily for you or feels like a work in progress, this episode offers perspectives to help you explore and deepen this often-misunderstood aspect of non-monogamous relationships. LINKS: More Than Two (2nd Edition) Inside Out 2 Discipline Equals Freedom | Jocko Willink Naughty N'awlins SOCIALS: Anthony's Instagram Pinky's Instagram Ava's Instagram  

Some podcast apps may not display links from our show notes properly, so we have included a list of links at the end of this description. * In the context of non-monogamy, compersion or the emotion of positive empathy is understood as sharing our partner's joy regarding their other intimate relationship or relationships. Drawing upon her seminal research with consensually non-monogamous individuals, author and mindful dating and relationship coach, Dr. Marie (two-un) Thouin, unravels the complexity of compersion in her recent book, What is Compersion?, the first ever book to offer a comprehensive model of compersion and a practical roadmap to cultivating it. * In this episode, Dr. (two-un) Thouin is joined by Poarch Creek Two-Spirit Indigequeer activist, artist, sex therapist, and somacultural theorist Dr. Roger Kuhn in a conversation exploring compersion as a roadmap for radical love in monogamous and non-monogamous consensual relationships. * This episode was recorded during a live online event on August 8th, 2024. You can also watch it on the CIIS Public Programs YouTube channel. A transcript is available at ciispod.com. To find out more about CIIS and public programs like this one, visit our website ciis.edu and connect with us on social media @ciispubprograms. * We hope that each episode of our podcast provides opportunities for growth, and that our listeners will use them as a starting point for further introspection. Many of the topics discussed on our podcast have the potential to bring up feelings and emotional responses. If you or someone you know is in need of mental health care and support, here are some resources to find immediate help and future healing: * -Visit 988lifeline.org or text, call, or chat with The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline by dialing 988 from anywhere in the U.S. to be connected immediately with a trained counselor. Please note that 988 staff are required to take all action necessary to secure the safety of a caller and initiate emergency response with or without the caller's consent if they are unwilling or unable to take action on their own behalf. * -Visit thrivelifeline.org or text “THRIVE” to begin a conversation with a THRIVE Lifeline crisis responder 24/7/365, from anywhere: +1.313.662.8209. This confidential text line is available for individuals 18+ and is staffed by people in STEMM with marginalized identities. * -Visit translifeline.org or call (877) 565-8860 in the U.S. or (877) 330-6366 in Canada to learn more and contact Trans Lifeline, who provides trans peer support divested from police. * -Visit ciis.edu/ciis-in-the-world/counseling-clinics to learn more and schedule counseling sessions at one of our centers. * -Find information about additional global helplines at befrienders.org. * LINKS * Podcast Transcripts: https://www.ciispod.com/ * California Institute of Integral Studies (CIIS) Website: https://www.ciis.edu/ * CIIS Public Programs YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/ciispublicprograms * CIIS Public Programs Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ciispubprograms/ * Mental Health Care and Support Resources: https://988lifeline.org/ https://thrivelifeline.org/ https://translifeline.org/ https://www.ciis.edu/ciis-in-the-world/counseling-clinics https://befrienders.org/

In this conversation, Dr. Marie Thouin PhD and author of What Is Compersion?, discusses the concept of compersion, which is the joy one feels for others' happiness, particularly in the context of non-monogamous relationships. The discussion explores the spectrum of emotions from jealousy to compersion, the importance of self-worth and agency, and the factors that can foster or hinder the experience of compersion. ChaptersIntroduction to Compersion and The Origins of Her Book What Is Compersion? (00:00)Defining Compersion: A Dive into the 3 parts. (5:02)The Spectrum of Emotions: Jealousy to Compersion. (8:22)Navigating Compersion: The Belief that Compersion Should be the Ultimate Goal in ENM: Toxic Positivity vs. Authenticity. (9:24)Is Compersion Necessary for a Healthy Non-Monogamous Relationship? (12:21) The 6 Pillars to Cultivating Compersion: Is Compersion like a Muscle that Anyone Can Train?  (15:15)The 1st Pillar: Choosing Non-Monogamy From a Place of Values and Integrity. (15:15)If A Partner Is Doing Polyamory For Their Partner And Didn't Necessarily Choose It, Can They Achieve Compersion? (17: 28) The 2nd Pillar: Building Security Within One Self: Financial, Emotional, and Spiritual Autonomy. (20:45)Building Inner Security in Self. (22:43)Are Some People More Compersive than Others?  (27:27)The 3rd Pillar: Security in the Relationship.  (32:30)If You Are Practicing Non-Hierarchical Polyamory or Solo Polyamory, How You Can Create Security? (32:22)The 4th Pillar: Positive Metamour Relationships: your partner's partner (Very Important). (39:13)What If Your Partner Does Not Want You to Meet Their Metamors?  (46:36)What If the Metamour Does Not Want to Meet You?  (49:04)Growth Edges: Embracing Good Pain. (51:13)The 5th Pillar:Perception of Benefits from your partner's Other Relationships. (54:36)The 6th Pillar:Community Belonging: The Role of Support in Non-Monogamy. (57:46)Cuckolding and Erotic Compersion: Is the Feeling Self-Centered or Other-Centered?  (01:04:50)Final Thoughts: Don't Pressure Yourself to Feel Compersion. (01:08:50)____________________Instagram @drmariethouin Website:  https://www.mariethouin.com for free 30 minute session, webinars, Your Compersion WorksheetHer Book :  What Is Compersion? (Diverse Sexualities, Genders, and Relationships)Where to find us, and how you can support us:Instagram: @girlsgonedeeppod Merch: girlsgonedeep.com/shopContact: girlsgonedeep@gmail.comWHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com Instagram: @wlthegameWoo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop!

We don't know about you, but we could use a big ol' break from all the politics. So it's the perfect timing to introduce the concept of compersion (i.e our wholehearted participation in the happiness of others) as we chat with Dr. Marie Thouin, an expert in the topic. We're discussing how compersion can operate in both monogamous and non-monogamous relationships, why jealousy and possessiveness don't have to be the conditioned response, and ways you can invite more joy into your dating life. Plus, we give updates on our trips to Italy + Mexico City in an extended intro.To learn more about Dr Marie Thouin follow her @drnariethouin and visit her website whatiscompersion.com and order her book 'What is Compersion?' today!Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available for pre-order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Anisa Beauty: Get 30% off site-wide at www.anisabeauty.com using the code DATEABLE* Happy Mammoth: Get 15% off, sitewide, on your first purchase at happymammoth.com with the code DATEABLE* OSEA: Give the gift of OSEA's Super Glow Body Set! Get 10% off your purchase site wide at oseamalibu.com with the code DATEABLEPODCAST* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Uncommon Goods: Get 15% off original, handmade, absolutely remarkable gifts at www.uncommongoods.com/dateable with the code DATEABLE* VIIA Hemp: Check out their new High THCA Flower and get 15% off your favorite gummies using the code DATEABLE at https://bit.ly/viiadataeable* VIIA Hemp: Get 15% off all products including their best-selling High Love gummy at https://bit.ly/viiagoddess with the code DATEABLESupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Get ready to dive deep into the fascinating world of compersion with our latest Shameless Sex episode featuring the brilliant Dr. Marie Thouin! As a leading expert and scholar on compersion in consensual non-monogamy, Dr. Thouin brings a wealth of knowledge and groundbreaking research to our listeners. What's in store for you: Discover what compersion really is (and what it's not!) Explore the relationship between compersion and jealousy Uncover the latest research findings on compersion in monogamy and Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM) Learn practical tips for cultivating more compersion in your relationships Understand why developing compersion is crucial for healthy relationships Get insights on essential questions couples should discuss about compersion Dr. Thouin, the author of the first-ever scholarly book on compersion titled "What is Compersion," shares her journey in the field of sexuality and how she became a pioneer in compersion studies. She'll bust common misconceptions and provide evidence-based insights that could transform your approach to relationships. Whether you're in a monogamous relationship curious about compersion or practicing ENM, this episode is packed with valuable information to enhance your emotional toolkit. Dr. Thouin's expertise will guide you through the complexities of human emotions and help you foster more joy, love, and understanding in your relationships. Don't miss this opportunity to learn from one of the most respected voices in the field. Tune in to expand your understanding of compersion and take your relationships to new heights of emotional maturity and fulfillment. Ready to explore compersion further? Check out Dr. Thouin's offerings and connect with her: Website: http://www.mariethouin.com Instagram: @Drmariethouin Buy her book: What is Compersion  Join us for this mind-expanding episode that promises to challenge your preconceptions and open new possibilities in your relational world. Let's get shameless about compersion! Come to our Shameless Sex Couple's Retreat in Costa Rica! We only have spots for six couples so sign up asap here: https://tinyurl.com/mpvf858h Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order our book now! Go to shamelesssex.com to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our Amazon Wish List Other links: Get soaking wet and bigger loads + 10% off with code SHAMELESS at http://soakingwet.com Fall in love with our fave dating app that actually embraces your desires at https://feeld.co/ Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at http://uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at  http://OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at http://purepleasureshop.com

In this episode, Billy from the Manwhore Podcast joins us to share his experiences dating in New York and exploring non-monogamy. As I've mentioned before, my boyfriend and I are new to opening up our relationship, and I'm still mentally preparing to branch out. Will my boyfriend get jealous? Billy helps me work through these insecurities by sharing his experiences in past relationships and his current situation in the non-monogamous world. His insights offer valuable guidance for navigating these new dynamics. Send us your questions and stories to be featured on da pod https://www.brokegirltherapy.com/contact-page Merch is available now! https://www.brokegirltherapy.com/store #brokegirltherapy #nonmonogamy #openrelationships Support our sponsors and BGT by using the codes below: Quinn Wellness: https://lvnta.com/lv_ShzUBGtV1kkEt6Umtu Code: 15brokegirl for 15% off your order! BetterHelp: As a listener, you'll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at BetterHelp.com/brokegirl Stefanie Maegan https://www.instagram.com/brokegirltherapy/ https://www.instagram.com/stefaniemaegan/ Billy Procida https://www.instagram.com/billyisprocida/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, Dr. Marie Thouin is back to talk about compersion and her new book on the subject.Dr. Marie Thouin is a Mindful Dating & Relationship Coach who supports people of all backgrounds and relational orientations to create intentional and vibrant love lives. She is a leading expert on the topic of compersion and the author of the groundbreaking book, "What is Compersion? Understanding Positive Empathy in Consensually Non-Monogamous Relationships.” Marie has published seminal research studies, the first-ever encyclopedia entry on compersion, and is the creator of www.WhatIsCompersion.com, a popular website that features her research, blogs, and other resources on compersion. She has been featured in several magazines and podcasts, including ELLE, the Savage Lovecast, and Multiamory. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Quality lube is essential for good sexual experiences. Try our absolute favorite, Uberlube and get 10% off plus free shipping with promo code MULTIAMORYThis episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month.Treat yourself to some stories to turn you on or help you drift off to sleep with an extended 30-day free trial at DipseaStories.com/multi Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices