Sex and Sativa with Alex

It is with gratitude that I approach the season Finale of #SexandSativawithAlex. This episode is a quick recap of every episode this season from conception to publishing, a glimpse of the hijinks I got into while putting together this season as well as plans for the next season.I do hope you enjoy this episode and it encourages you to share the podcast with people in your life. Light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode. Love and Light from Your Favorite Sex Positive Goddess

Earlier in the season I asked listeners of the podcast to send me their version of erotica that would feature on the erotica episode this season, Well this particular erotica sent to me by an avid podcast listener inspired me to tap into writing taboo erotica. I do hope you enjoy Britney's story. Light one up or pour yourself a drink while you enjoy this episode ( It's also encouraged to use the erotica episode as you please)

Finally an episode update. The last time Nudes were tackled on this podcast the climate felt so different from today, on this episode I discuss how cynical the climate is towards nudes exchange in relationships, revenge porn and an uptick in Anti Revenge porn laws. I tackled how difficult it is with the rise of AI and deep fake nudes, as well as life after viral revenge porn scenerios. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode. Please share with your people and have fun

On this episode, Jessica our Locked Sissy discusses the intricacies of Sissification as a Nigerian living in Nigeria, cages and keyholders, safety in the online BDSM community and everything under the Sissy sun. This episode is incredibly informative, fun yet eye opening and assuaged my curiosity. So light one up, pour yourself a drink and stay Locked in for the ride

Happy 4:20!!! I do hope you enjoy this amazing teaser episode while you light one up and spend some good quality time with yourself...... If you're not 420 compliant it's still your favorite podcasters holiday so celebrate it by listening and sharing this teaser with your people. Love and Light from Your Favorite Sex Positive Goddess

A true and tried method where couples escape while tapping into a sexual fantasy world they can successfully bring to life, as elaborate or tame as they may choose. Welcome to the world of Role playing. This episode provides great insight into how couples may broach the idea of exploring this kink as well as how best to plan for an eventual role playing scenario. So light one up, pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode

Celebrating International Women's Day in 2024 I decided to delve into a fantasy universe where I run a Brothel. The Sex Positive Goddess and Madame Boujee team up on this episode to share their vastly different Brothel and management styles. We also discussed the growing lack of community, different fronts and specialized services these fictional Brothels offer as well as our very unique Madame Aesthetic. Madame Boujee and I delved into reasons for lack of sexual Intimacy as well as sacrifices made in relationships while highlighting the importance of employee incentives and how best to enjoy the fantasy business of sex. Another Unhinged episode with Boujee that I truly hope you enjoy. So turn up the volume, light one up, pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode

Another Fun yet slightly unhinged debunking episode that has me so excited to share this episode with you listening. Wrong opinions or assumptions about birth control options led me down a not so healthy road which is why I am passionate about debunking the ludicrous, concerning and eye raising myths surrounding contraceptives. I do hope you find a bit of comfort and lots of humor with this episode. TW: SA, Rape. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

A little vulnerability, a dash of personal stories, a bunch of tips/tricks and a whole lot of humor: What better way to kick off the first episode in 2024. Happy New Year!!! On this episode I discuss ways one can broach the topic of introducing another player to your partnered sex life: The Toy. I also go into detail the steps partners should take note of so as to ensure mutually guaranteed sexual pleasure while using a sex toy. I really do love playing with toys and I hope you will too after listening to this week's episode. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

I spent a bit of holidays putting together my sexual bucket list and decided to make an episode of the experience. This episode will serve as a sort of guide for anyone interested in putting together their own sexual bucket list. I share tips on how to create a fun yet sex positive Bucket list as well as the FAQs regarding this list. A little of my own bucket list items made it's way to the episode as well. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

To leaving you wanting more!!!. Happy Holidays from Your Favorite Sex Positive Goddess

This season I plan on sharing the Joys of Kink and bringing my kinky friends along with me but this would be premature without a solid background in Kink. On this episode I approach kink from the basics, a little peek behind the vast curtain that kink hides behind. I talk about the huge role that RACK plays in the enjoyment of kink, the benefits of introducing kink into your sex life as well as the various types of kink that exists in today's modern world. I also highlight the differences Fetishes and Kinks even though they are both used interchangeably. Don't worry Vanilla folx i didn't leave you wonderful lot out. For more on Kink give my previous episodes: BDSM is not Abuse {Season 4 episode 2} as well as Food and Sex {Season 2 episode 1} a listen for more insight into some specific kinks. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

... "then they came together" When your partner's pleasure is truly a priority for you then this is the episode catered for you. Welcome to the world of self stimulating mutual pleasure guaranteed, such a roundabout way of letting you know that on this fun episode of Sex and Sativa with Alex I address right to your partner's pleasure, ways to initiate this wonderful intimacy building tool with a partner. I also share fun tips to be more present during this fun exercise as well as the benefits of couples engaging in Mutual Masturbation. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

It's Scorpio Season!!! My gift to you? Welcome to Season 6 of Sex and Sativa with Alex, in this episode I identify Sexual Routines/Habits. Go on a journey where I tell the difference between Sexual Habits and Sexual Routines, I also highlight how to tell the difference between positive and negative sexual habits, benefits of developing healthy sexual habits and how hygiene plays a huge role in the utmost enjoyment of sexual pleasure. Hard truths, Fun laughs and some lessons all packed into this season premiere. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this Season Premiere

Another Fun Bonus episode that teases the return of Sex and Sativa with Alex Season 6. I do hope you enjoy.

May has been so wonderful for me Self Pleasure wise and I decided to share those wonderful experiences on this podcast. I do hope you also enjoy the Bonus erotica I put together quickly. I'm excited for the new season but until then please enjoy this Bonus episode. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy

I just finished an intense cannabis cleanse and decided to celebrate 4:20 by sharing a raunchy erotica story I wrote recently. I do hope you enjoy this 4:20 themed erotica. Light one up and enjoy this Bonus episode

Welcome to the Season Finale on this wonderful podcast and to round things up I went in a soft but well meaning route with Sexual Intimacy. This episode was quite a learning curve for me and I am so excited to share this with you. In this episode we talk about what sexual Intimacy means in a relationship and to individuals, I also talk about establishing sexual Intimacy while celibate as well as how to achieve sexual Intimacy when it's lacking in a relationship, as a bonus I also briefly discussed tips on rekindling/initiating sexual Intimacy as well. I hope you enjoy this episode while I work on coming back with so much more fun, enlightening and interactive episodes in the coming seasons. As usual light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

I am so thankful that this podcast reached this milestone. Thank you for listening to my wacky life stories, thank you for playing each episode, thank you for sharing and recommending this podcast to your people. I am so grateful. Love and Light from Your Favorite Sex Positive Goddess

Introverts Assemble!!! This episode is packed with so much for the very first #AskAlex series. From Tips to navigate sex for introverts, how to increase one's body count and approaching a person for sex without coming off as disrespectful. This was sort of daunting initially but as always I had fun putting this episode together. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this week's episode.

With the amount of ease this episode brought me it is actually hilarious that I was remotely nervous to approach the topic of "CONTRACEPTIVES". I have to admit that having one of my favorite persons "Boujee" with me to tackle this topic made it seamless. Boujee and I discussed; Spanking men's butt, The lack of advancement in male contraceptives, "Fucking Rich", while also deftly navigating Religion and Faith Clashing with Contraception. Thank you Boujee for an interesting episode with your unique perspectives. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode, heaven knows I did.

Welcome to 2023! In this episode I discuss Orgasms in the new year, my eventful first day of the year, grace and leeway. I also touch on the upcoming Giveaway to celebrate 3 years of podcasting as well as a new section on the podcast called "Ask Alex" Light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode. I hope the rest of the year is positive to you

In a different universe there's a version of Alex that has a thriving custom lingerie store. On this episode join me as I delve into the different facets of Lingerie,fun fact; I have a slight obsession with pretty lingerie so putting together this episode was a no brainer. With the holiday spirit Light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode, also do not hesitate to share it with your favorite people this holiday season.

The idea that the older one gets the less sex one should experience because with age comes a certain asexuality has always rubbed me the wrong way. With my birthday approaching I discuss how age can affect our sexual choices and how embracing that can be a good thing. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

From Childhood I've lived in a world where shame rules the vagina and as a child It seemed ridiculous but as an adult I find it maddening. On this episode I discuss the unspoken rules that vulva owners have to go through, the weird fads and trends as well as the maintenance culture that we seemingly have to upload when it comes to perfecting the Vagina/Vulva. So light one up or pour yourself a drink as we delve into Pussy Problems

Even with my microphone breaking down mid record, rain falling expectedly I still decided to put out this episode. Sexual Health Awareness is incredibly important and in this episode I share some personal experiences with STI's. This is quite a vulnerable and not so fun episode so definitely light one up or pour yourself a drink

Sexual fantasies can sometimes feel like a taboo or some sort of cheat code, on this episode of #SexandSativawithAlex I tackle sexual fantasies, the guilt and how to deal with that as well as introducing sexual fantasies to your partner. It can get somewhat nerve wracking trying to get your partner to help make your fantasies a reality do I added a little guide to help as well. This episode was really interesting to work on so light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

It's a wonderful time in existence where we have so much options to explore in term of sexual aids so it's sort of baffling to me when I meet people who are ashamed, embarrassed or angry that they need lube with their partners to enjoy sex. If you enjoyed a previous episode of #SexandSativawithAlex titled "WAP: A DISSERTATION ON A BLACK WOMAN'S SEXUALITY" then think of this episode as an extension with a different point of view. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

Debunking myths relating to sex is one of my favorite things to do on this podcast and it was interesting to dive into Biases I previously held regarding oral sex. On this episode I explore the basic, absurd and somewhat thought provoking notions that one might just believe about oral sex. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

Welcome to Season 5 and I'm kicking things off by discussing sexual Expectations and how holding on to those expectations leave one having mediocre if not bad sexual experiences, unlearning these expectations also made its way into this episode and I do hope those solutions help. Season 5 is going to be amazing, so light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

I promised an erotica themed episode in Season 4 and The Sex Positive Goddess is here to deliver. Light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode. Please don't hesitate to tell me how much you enjoyed it.

The Boujee Bitch and I continue our discussion on romance episode and in this concluding episode we disect most of the popular tropes that are heavily used and repeated in romance novels. We also delved deeper to discuss how the lack of representation skewers our idea on what romance should look like. This was such a fun episode and I really do hope you enjoy it. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

On this episode I am joined by my favorite person (The Boujee Bitch) and we discuss Romance novels, do we love them, hate them or hate that we love them. In the first part of this 2 part episode, Boujee and I delve into our shared history with romance novels, how we both used romance novels as a great way to escape from the woes of growing up in a Nigerian household. We also discussed the various genres of Romance novels and the sometimes unrealistic nature of these novels. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

The term "Hoe Phase" always rubs me the wrong way and with this episode, I'm able to finally put words to why I feel like it's a term used to mock women for choosing to explore their sexuality. It's a new year, let's not be eager to pigeon hole ourselves into situations that might not favor one sexually. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

Can a relationship work with more than 2 people involved? On this episode I discuss Polygamy, Polyamory, Open Relationships and Reverse harems. I'm challenging my notion of what healthy relationships look like rather than the optics of said relationships. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy This episode. Please listen to pt 1 to fully enjoy this episode.

Can a relationship work with more than 2 people involved? On this episode I discuss Polygamy, Polyamory, Open Relationships and Reverse harems. I'm challenging my notion of what healthy relationships look like rather than the optics of said relationships. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy This episode

It's actually frustrating to see how dirty talking(something that can actually help your sexual experiences) is viewed as cheesy, corny or cringe. On this episode of my podcast I give tips on how to make Dirty Talking less awkward and more personalized. Interested in Initiating Dirty talking for the first time? it's all in this fun episode, so light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

On this episode I delved into Aftercare and how our complete disregard of the inclusion of Aftercare impacts the enjoyment of our sex lives. This episode highlights the Importance of Aftercare in our regular sexual relationships as well as how best we can include aftercare in our sexual practices. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

I had so much fun Tackling the most ridiculous and Misleading Myths surrounding the Female Orgasm, here is the continuation of the Previous episode. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode

The Elusive O, for so long there has been a ton of confusion regarding the Female Orgasm and why it cannot be achieved and honestly I was surprised by the fact that some people still hold on to these untrue beliefs. On this episode I have fun tackling a lot of Myths Surrounding the Female Orgasm as well as my experiences unlearning some of them I held as Facts. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode

On this episode, I talk about the fun benefits of consuming ethical porn and the differences between Mainstream Porn easily available on the internet and Ethical porn. I also talk a little bit about my contribution so far to ethical porn. For more insight, check out Porn Culture in season 1 of my podcast. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

With a lot of stigma and unfair Stereotypes attached to BDSM it is important to note that Abuse has no correlation while practicing the lifestyle. Healthy BDSM relationships revolve around Consensual Play, infact enthusiastic consent is encouraged in BDSM. In this episode I talk about the responsibility that practitioners of the lifestyle owe each other as well as a few mistakes that I've seen be repeated in a D/S relationships. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

Welcome back to #SexandSativawithAlex. Kicking things off this season by talking about sexual pleasure and how the lack of visibility regarding sexual pleasure has the sexual experience feeling incomplete. In this episode I talk about how the lack of comprehensive sex education plays a huge role in how we view the importance/need for sexually pleasurable relationships. I also note how most times we view sexual pleasure =indecency and immorality. I do hope you enjoy this week's episode as it's a preview of how fun this Season is going to be. Please don't hesitate to engage with me on IG@Sexpositivegoddess and Twitter @SexSativa. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode

Thank you so much for joining me on this awesome podcast but this season has to come to an end in order to make way for a better season. On this episode I recap all the fun conversations I discussed this season and true to form, my opinions about certain stuff has changed and I give an update on the future of the podcast. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode

If you enjoyed the first episode on sexual responsibility with The Boujee B*tch, then give this episode a listen. We both talk about ways to respect your sexual partner, birth control and sexual responsibility while living with an STI. so pour yourself a drink or light one up and enjoy this episode

Sexual Responsibility is so often ignored and this episode seeks to shed light on the term "Sexual Responsibility". My guest(The Boujee B*tch) and I tackle ways we can be more sexually responsible and why sexual responsibility prepares one to fully understand and respect your own sexual choices. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

On this episode of #SexandSativawithAlex I am joined by the present Mr Globe Nigeria(Dr Uzo) and we discuss the unwillingness of some men in using sex toys with their partners as well as themselves. We also discussed the running joke of Igbo men being bad at sex, Butt plugs, Nymphomaniacs and BDSM. This was such a great episode so light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode

If you can prep for sex why can't you prep to Masturbate? I love the idea of getting ready to pleasure yourself because honestly masturbating is a form of self care. On this episode I talk about how I get ready to enjoy my orgasms and how preparing for solo play reaffirms that I have the right to enjoy my pleasure. Light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode

On this episode of #SexandSativawithAlex I discuss Labiaplasty, Designer Vagina trend and why some women would pay to have the perfect looking vulva. No two Vulva is the same, let's learn to appreciate the vulva we have. Light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode, it's quite informative

On this episode I tackle harmful, funny and straight up confusing myths surrounding women Masturbation. It's Masturbation May Ladies and you deserve your Orgasms. Maybe after listening to this episode you'd go into the world to close that Orgasm Gap

On this episode of #SexandSativawithAlex I talk about the annoying (dare I say) Misfortunes plaguing my life as a female Stoner who regularly indulges in consuming Cannabis. I know I'm not alone in my feelings so please don't hesitate to share with me other peeves as a female you encounter that I didn't talk about. Light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode