Podcasts about great sex

Send us Fan MailIn this season finale we take a dive into social media, examining the messages behind viral clips from popular marriage and church influencers, and challenge fear-based teachings about marriage, parenting, gender, and authority. Through our thoughtful (and often hilarious) analyses and lively discussion, we hope this conversation encourages you to pursue healthier, Christ-centered relationships rooted in mutual respect, truth, and genuine spiritual freedom. CHECK OUT OUR OCTOBER SIMULCAST EVENTWe're doing our sex talk and a one-day marriage conference! Check it out for more information.TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!)And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED: Zachary Wagner's Book “Men of Virtue”Podcast Episode 262: Problems with Marriage on the Rock by Jimmy EvansEpisode 262 Blog PostSheila's SubstackAlex Falcone's reel about divorce stats (he's the good one!)Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books:The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

In this episode (335), we respond to a courageous submission from a betrayed partner who is navigating early recovery with her partner after multiple discovery days. Both partners have trauma histories, both are in individual therapy, and both are trying to understand what healthy sexual intimacy can look like after porn addiction, betrayal trauma, and past sexual coping patterns. Her questions center on lingerie, fantasies, kinks, dressing up, and whether these elements can ever be part of authentic intimacy—or whether they inevitably feed the pornified parts of the brain. We honor the depth and maturity of her questions because this is one of the most complex areas couples face in recovery.We emphasize that healthy sexuality cannot be reduced to a simple list of approved or forbidden behaviors. Lingerie, fantasy, experimentation, or sexual play may feel empowering and connecting for one couple, while feeling objectifying, unsafe, or triggering for another. The real questions are about intention, impact, consent, safety, presence, and whether each partner feels seen as a whole person. For the addict in recovery, this means asking whether he is truly present with his partner or superimposing old fantasy templates onto her. For the betrayed partner, it means asking whether she is freely choosing sexual expression or performing out of fear, people-pleasing, comparison, or the need to feel desirable and enough.We also discuss the role of a sex fast as a potentially powerful tool in recovery when it is done with transparency, structure, purpose, and ideally professional guidance. Taking sex off the table for a season can help reduce compulsive dependence on sex, create safety for the betrayed partner, and allow the couple to build other areas of intimacy that may have been neglected. But we caution that a sex fast should not become avoidance, silence, or emotional distancing. In the end, the goal is not to create a fear-based sexual relationship or to let pornography continue defining the bedroom. The goal is for the couple to consciously create a sexual relationship based on being rather than performing—where both partners are safe, present, authentic, fully seen, and deeply connected.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  Healthy Sexuality or Pornified Performance? Navigating Lingerie, Fantasies, Kinks, etc., and Authentic Intimacy in RecoveryLearn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Welcome Brave Lovers! In today's episode, we are talking all about fellatio. This is a NSFW episode but very good for your relationship! Join Laurie and George today as they tackle this topic on the giving and receiving of oral sex. We are focused on the men in this episode and detail the importance of hygiene, grooming and reassurance. You'll learn how to have it be a more pleasurable experience for the giver and receiver. This erotic way to connect may bring up some discomfort but we encourage you to have this conversation with your partner and explore. Make sure to pre-order a copy of our book Brave Love, Great Sex now, available on September 15th! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us Fan MailWhat does it actually mean to be a “good man” in today's world—and does Christianity offer something deeper than dominance, leadership clichés, or internet manosphere culture? In this thoughtful and surprisingly hopeful conversation, Zachary Wagner joins us to unpack masculinity through the lens of the fruits of the Spirit, exploring everything from loneliness and power to marriage, self-control, parenting boys, and the modern crisis of meaning for men. Together, we challenge shallow cultural narratives and argue that true strength looks a lot more like love, service, courage, and emotional maturity than performance or control. Listen in as we propose a healthier vision of manhood for both men and the people who love them.TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!)And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED: Zachary Wagner's WebsiteZachary's Book: “Men of Virtue”Our conversation with Zachary about his book Non-Toxic MasculinitySupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books:The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

If Part 1 was about the field of sexual medicine, Part 2 is about the marriage at the center of it. Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz return to their conversation with Dr. Irwin and Sue Goldstein, and this time, the questions get more personal. How do you stay married for fifty years? What does great sex actually look like across the decades? And what happens when a woman who has spent her career in sexual medicine starts experiencing low desire herself? Sue Goldstein opens up about her own journey through peri-menopause and the slow erosion of her libido- what she calls "duty sex", and the medications that brought not just her sex drive back, but a playfulness in her marriage she hadn't realized had gone missing. She walks listeners through her menopause toolbox of five treatments, explains why she's "76 and feels like she's in her 50s", and dismantles the lingering fears from the Women's Health Initiative that have kept generations of women in what she calls hormone prison. Dr. Irwin shares his own daily protocols for sexual health, why he believes most older men are leaving capacity on the table, and the surprising data from their own clinic- that more than half the Vyleesi prescriptions they write are off-label for men. They explore why dopamine is dopamine, regardless of gender. The reality of persistent genital arousal disorder. And a remarkable story of a teenage horseback rider whose chronic arousal turned out to be a herniated disc. This episode is full of practical wisdom, clinical innovation, and one of the most real conversations about long-term love you'll hear all year. The Goldsteins' secret to fifty years of marriage? Best friends, good sex, and the willingness to keep trying new things — including a chocolate sauce on the day before you change the sheets. Irwin Goldstein, MD, IF (he/him/his). Director, San Diego Sexual Medicine 5555 Reservoir Drive, Suite 300, San Diego, CA 92120, Director, Sexual Medicine, UC San Diego Health East Campus, San Diego, CA. Clinical Professor of Urology, University of California at San Diego. Voluntary Clinical Professor of Obstetrics, Gynecology and Reproductive Services Past President, International Society for the Study of Women’s Sexual Health. Past President, Sexual Medicine Society of North America. Editor Emeritus, Sexual Medicine Reviews, The Journal of Sexual Medicine, International Journal of Impotence Research. Phone: 619 265-8865 - Mobile: 619 987-7432. Email: dr.irwingoldstein@gmail.com. http://www.sandiegosexualmedicine.com. Like us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SDSexMed. X: http://twitter.com/SDSexualMedSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome Brave Lovers! In today's episode, we are joined by a couple live in the studio! Join us as we welcome long-time friends of Dr. Laurie, Joe and Myra. They share with us their forty-year love story and the role that physical intimacy and emotional closeness have played in keeping their bond strong over the years. Joe and Myra talk about friendship being a foundation of love, how they navigated the difficult caretaking years, and keeping their attraction and desire alive. Turning towards each other, a strong belief they could weather the storms and even sharing vulnerabilities with each other to this day have created a strong and secure connection! Make sure to listen in and download this episode to hear from a real set of Brave Lovers! Order a copy of our book Brave Love, Great Sex coming out on September 15th. Available for pre-order now!  Please support this episode's sponsor (and help the pod!): Uberlube.com -- The lubricant Laurie has recommended for 20+ years! Use the code BraveLove for a discount! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us Fan MailWhat happens when you know the old “because I said so” parenting style isn't healthy…but you also don't want to raise entitled little tyrants? In this episode, parenting coach Wendy Snyder joins us for a deeply practical, heartfelt, (and hilariously honest) conversation about strong-willed kids, emotional regulation, yelling, boundaries, anxiety, and what healthy authority actually looks like in family life. Together, we unpack the difference between authoritarian, permissive, and powerful parenting—and why so many parents swing wildly between all three. From power struggles and picky eaters to shame spirals and unmet emotional needs, this episode is packed with compassionate, evidence-based wisdom that will leave you feeling both challenged and hopeful. If you've ever wondered how to parent with confidence without fear, guilt, or constant battles, this conversation is for you.CHECK OUT OUR OCTOBER SIMULCAST EVENTWe're doing our sex talk and a one-day marriage conference! Check it out for more information.TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!)And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED: Wendy Snyder's Book “Fresh Start Your Family” Pre-Order Link & Bonuses Wendy's WebsiteWendy's InstagramSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books:The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

“Sex changes as we age, but for every problem, there is a solution.” — Joan Price   Key Links Referenced During the Episode:  Joan Price website: joanprice.com Joan's book Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud About Senior Sex: Book page Joan's webinars: Online sex classes and webinars Joan's sex toy reviews: Sex toys archive   Modern Love Podcast Interview: https://www.nytimes.com/2026/03/18/podcasts/joan-price-widow-sex.html  New York Times Article on Sexspan: https://www.nytimes.com/2026/03/05/well/family/sex-span-longevity-health.html  In this candid and empowering episode of Age Better, Barbara talks with returning guest Joan Price — one of the leading voices on sexuality and aging — about the idea of sexspan: how to keep sex, pleasure, and intimacy alive and satisfying as we age. Together, they explore why sex does change over time, why that does not mean it has to disappear, and why the key is to reassess, communicate, and tweak your approach as your body and life evolve. Joan Price's work focuses on “ageless sexuality,” and she offers books, webinars, and practical advice for older adults navigating these changes.   Barbara and Joan talk about the myths that still surround sex after 60, why intercourse should not be the only definition of “real sex,” and how communication, curiosity, humor, and flexibility can open the door to deeper pleasure and connection. They also discuss solo sex, sex toys, scheduling intimacy, and the importance of speaking up about pain, discomfort, or changing desire instead of quietly assuming this part of life is over. Joan's webinar offerings include topics like Great Sex without Penetration  and Sex Toys for Seniors, reflecting many of the practical strategies discussed in this episode.   If you've ever wondered whether sex can still be joyful, meaningful, and even better as you get older, this episode is for you.  In this episode, we discuss:  What “sexspan” means — and why it matters  The biggest myths about sex and aging  Why it's so important to expand the definition of sex beyond intercourse  How to “reassess and tweak” your sex life as your body changes  The role of communication, humor, and flexibility in intimacy  How sex toys, lubricant, timing, and positioning can help  Why solo sex is a healthy and valid part of sexual well-being  How to advocate for yourself with a partner — and with your doctor  Subscribe to AGE BETTER so you never miss an episode and please consider leaving a review!   You can watch all episodes and bonus clips on my YouTube channel. 

In today's episode, we are talking to our Brave Lovers about the right way and wrong way to give thanks and appreciation to your partner. Saying 'thank you' has the opportunity to create closeness, connection and reinforce vulnerable expression. A casual, empty 'thank you' has the potential to disconnect, derail and seem like a dig. Join us today as we walk you through the differences between thank yous and how to meaningfully show your partner appreciation especially when they are open with you. Thank yous, grow thank yous when they are working and bountiful appreciation in a couple relationship helps you buffer external storms. George and Laurie's expert role play will guide you on getting 'thank yous' right in your relationship. Make sure to pre-order a copy of our book Brave Love, Great Sex for more on this! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us Fan MailWhat if the “Billy Graham rule” (or the evangelical distortion of it) says more about fear than integrity? In this episode, Danielle Strickland helps us unpack the assumptions behind the idea that men and women can't be alone together—and ask whether it protects integrity or quietly reinforces suspicion, segregation, and control. Drawing on Scripture, leadership research, and real-world church experiences, our conversation explores how transparency—not isolation—is a stronger safeguard against abuse and moral failure. We also dig into how purity culture, pornography narratives, and fear-based systems shape the way we interpret opposite-sex friendships, mentoring, and authority. If you're ready to rethink gender, leadership, and trust through a more Jesus-centered lens, this one will give you plenty to chew on.TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!)And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED: Danielle's Book, “Better Together”Danielle's WebsiteDanielle's Substack“The Billy Graham Rule” aka The Modesto ManifestoPodcast Episode 192: How Every Young Man's Battle Makes Everything Worse: "Recovering From Purity Culture" by Dr. Camden Morgante The Whole Story coursesSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books:The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

In this episode of The Egg Whisperer Show, I'm joined by Dr. Renée Hilliard, an expert in sexual health, mindfulness, and integrative wellness. We discuss how mental and emotional well-being intersect with fertility, the role of mindfulness in reproductive health, and the importance of cultivating a healthy relationship with intimacy and self-care throughout the fertility journey. Read the full show notes on my website. In This Episode, We Cover: The role of mindfulness and emotional health in fertility How past experiences shape our reproductive wellness Why intimacy and connection matter during fertility treatments The impact of stress and how to manage it holistically Integrative wellness strategies for a healthy fertility journey Resources: Dr. Renee Hilliard's website Join The IVF Class Find Dr. Aimee's Fertility Essentials & Supplements IVF Class: Do you have questions about IVF? Click here to join me for The IVF Class. The next live class call is on Monday, May 18, 2026, at 4pm PST, where I'll explain IVF and Egg Freezing, and there will be time to ask your questions live on Zoom. Other ways to reach me: Visit my YouTube channel for more fertility tips! Subscribe to the newsletter to get updates. Join Egg Whisperer School. Request a Consultation with me. Dr. Aimee Eyvazzadeh is one of America's most well-known fertility doctors. Her success rate at baby-making gives future parents hope when all hope is lost. She pioneered the TUSHY Method and BALLS Method to decrease your time to pregnancy. Find a wealth of fertility resources at www.draimee.org.

Send us Fan MailWelcome to Part 2 of our breakdown of For Men Only! This episode dives headfirst into the sex chapter — and quickly exposes how shaky stats and selective storytelling create misleading narratives about libido and desire. We examine why women's sexual desire is far more contextual — and relational — than the book admits. We unpack the myth of “on-demand” desire, challenge rigid sex rules like the 72-hour expectation, and explore why libido is far more dynamic — and human — than most advice admits. We also critique popular marriage frameworks that outsource self-worth to partners and rely on oversimplified gender stereotypes rather than evidence-based relational health. Get ready for a candid, research-informed takedown of bad advice — with a clear message: real intimacy thrives on emotional maturity, not scripts.TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!)And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED: Our article demolishing Shaunti Feldhahn's "research" on love & respectOne Sheet on For Women Only Podcast on For Women Only Podcast on mental loadOur book The Marriage You WantSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books:The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

In this episode of Luvbites by Dr. Tara Podcast, Alicia Sinclair (sex educator) joins Dr. Tara to help couples reconnect and rebuild intimacy after having kids. They cover the mindset shifts needed, how to navigate changes individually and as a couple, and practical ways to bring pleasure and connection back into your relationship. #drtara #sexeducation #relationshipadviceHello Nancy's bestselling massager Lem is designed to be cute, approachable, and seriously effective — perfect for solo play or with a partner.Get 25% OFF with code TARA25: https://hellonancy.com/pages/influencer-dr-taraConnect with Dr. Tara on www.luvbites.coConnect with our guest:@aliciasinclair

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, we dive into For Men Only, by Shaunti & Jeff Feldhahn, and let's just say…we have many thoughts! We unpack some of its core claims about gender dynamics, communication, and emotional needs. Rebecca shares how this book impacted her first few months of marriage to Connor, and not in a good way!We address major concerns with the book's research methods, its reliance on broad gender stereotypes, and its tendency to frame women as overly emotional and men as disengaged. While it contains one of the best descriptors we've seen on mental load, the Feldhahns have yet to propose workable solutions that include mutual accountability and behavioral change. Sheila and Rebecca advocate for a more nuanced, evidence-informed understanding of relationships—one that prioritizes emotional maturity, shared responsibility, and meaningful communication over simplified gender narratives. This one is worth a listen and keep an eye out for Part 2 next week!TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!)And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED: One Sheet on For Women Only Podcast on For Women Only Podcast on mental loadOur book The Marriage You WantSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books:The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Is your sex life bad? Dr Rena Malik walks you through every single sex question you're too nervous to ask - from testosterone, porn, and erectile dysfunction, to libido and stress! The Better-Sex Doctor Rena Malik is a urologist, pelvic surgeon, and sexual health expert who helps millions better understand sexual health and taboo topics through science-based education and honesty. She is also the author of her upcoming book 'The Hard Truth'. She explains: ◼️Why bad sex is often a sign your overall health is breaking down ◼️Why erectile dysfunction can be an early warning sign of heart disease ◼️The 4 pillars that control your sex life: fuel, strength, environment, and confidence ◼️How porn, masturbation habits, and performance anxiety can rewire arousal ◼️What low testosterone actually feels like, and when TRT is a mistake Independent Research: https://stevenbartlett.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/DOAC-Rena-Malik-Independent-Research-Further-Reading.pdf Follow Dr Rena: Instagram - https://link.thediaryofaceo.com/9eD5dDG X - https://link.thediaryofaceo.com/BDcDWi8 YouTube - https://link.thediaryofaceo.com/CTzkeOx Website -https://link.thediaryofaceo.com/TyaRNr  You can pre-order Dr Rena's book ‘The Hard Truth: Everything Men Need to Know for Good Health, Great Sex, and Long Life', here: https://link.thediaryofaceo.com/FQSv9xe  Enjoyed the episode? Share this link and earn points for every referral - redeem them for exclusive prizes: https://doac-perks.com  The Diary Of A CEO: ◼️Join DOAC circle here - https://doaccircle.com/  ◼️Buy The Diary Of A CEO book here - https://smarturl.it/DOACbook  ◼️The 1% Diary is back - limited time only: https://bit.ly/3YFbJbt  ◼️The Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards (Second Edition): https://g2ul0.app.link/f31dsUttKKb  ◼️Get email updates - https://bit.ly/diary-of-a-ceo-yt  ◼️Follow Steven - https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKb  Sponsor links: Wispr - Get 14 days of Wispr Flow for free at https://wisprflow.ai/steven  Ketone - https://ketone.com/STEVEN for 30% off your subscription order Fiverr - https://fiverr.com/diary and get 10% off your first order when you use code DIARY Cometeer - https://cometeer.com/steven for $30 off your first order *Steven is an investor in this business

Send us Fan MailTia Levings is back, and this time she's brought the book so many of you have been waiting for — I Belong to Me, a survivor's guide to recovery and hope after religious trauma, and the follow-up to her memoir A Well-Trained Wife.After thousands of women slid into her DMs asking how did you heal, how do I find myself again, Tia sat down and wrote the guide she wished she'd had. In this conversation, we get into what religious trauma actually is and why therapists are only now starting to name it, how spiritual bypassing uses faith language to invalidate your pain, and why the period right after you leave a high-control church or marriage is actually when you're most vulnerable — not most free. We also talk about why your voice and your sexuality are twin wounds that heal together, how to start building boundaries when you've never been allowed to have any, and why real recovery eventually means sitting with your own complicity — not to shame yourself, but to finally choose something different. If you've ever wondered was what I went through actually trauma, and can I actually heal from it — this episode is for you.TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!)And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED: I Belong to Me by Tia Levings — Release Date: May 5th — Pre-Order Now!Listen to Tia's first episode with us on her book The Well Trained WifeSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books:The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

In today's episode, Laurie and George dive deep into the world of the sexual pursuer. They explore the underlying attachment and connection needs of the sexual pursuer and help SPs develop emotional regulation and language around expressing these needs. If you identify as an SP in your cycle and struggle with rejection or disconnection this episode is for you to learn how to; self-soothe and invite your partner into your world. We take care in this episode not to pathologize or diagnose the needs of the SP but to help couples engage in compassionate and effective communication. Intimacy is a shared world between lovers, where tangible attachment is created. If this sounds like you make sure to download and listen to this show! Our book, Brave Love, Great Sex is now available for pre-order on Amazon. Secure your copy today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us Fan MailWho's carrying the mental and emotional load when it comes to sex? Today Keith and I are breaking down all the ways evangelical marriage culture places that burden almost entirely on women: from appearance standards and contraception to performing passion on demand and suppressing her own emotions so his experience stays comfortable. We are listening to sermon clips and reading quotes from bestselling Christian marriage books that are pretty hard to hear, but really important to call out for the harm they cause to women (and marriage).We are also talking about what we all actually want — a sex life rooted in real intimacy, where both people get to show up with everything they are.TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!)And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED: The Orgasm Course and The Husband's EditionStarter Pack Podcasts on Making Sex Feel GreatSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books:The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Sex is a normal part of human life, but it can also get complicated–whether you're having it or not! The way we approach, think, and engage with our sexuality varies widely our culture, community, identity, and more. But one thing we can all strive for is healthy and safe sex. Siphumeze Khundayi and Tiffany Mugo are two sex educators and the co-founders of HOLAAfrica (HOLAA!) a Pan-Africanist digital platform that focuses on creating spaces that deal with safe sex and pleasure. Today they share insights on the kinds of mental and emotional tools we can turn to in order to have great sex, why it's ok to take small steps on your sexual journey, and why it's important to take ownership of your pleasure.(This episode originally aired in 2022)For the full text transcript, visit go.ted.com/BHTranscriptsLearn more about our flagship conference happening this April at attend.ted.com/podcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever caught yourself thinking “I could take it or leave it” when it comes to sex?This is your headphones warning episode. My friend, Dr. Heather Rhodes, is back with me, and we're talking about something you might not be saying out loud - what happens when desire feels out of reach. You love your husband, you care about your marriage, and at the same time, you feel tired out, stuck in your head, or just not that interested.And it's so confusing, because on paper, everything looks fine. But inside, there's tension. Your mind is always running, and your body feels a step behind. It's incredible how tiny habits can slowly drain that spark without us even being aware. One minute, everything is exciting and fresh, and the next, it can feel flat and distant.In this episode, you'll hear:Why being in your head all the time can shut down your desire, and how to start shifting thatHow negativity, unspoken tension, and resentment can hurt your connections more than you realizeWhat if your low libido has nothing to do with your hormones And yes, some parts of this one may have you staring into space for a minute. So, put your headphones in and come listen before you add “fix libido” to another mental to-do list.Breakfast GuideNourish Tracker - Discount code: HAPPILYHORMONALCONNECT WITH Dr. HEATHER RHODES:WebsiteIG: @drheatherrhodesHappily Hormonal Quick Start GuideNEED HELP FIXING YOUR HORMONES? CHECK OUT MY RESOURCES:Hormone Imbalance Quiz - Find out which of the top 3 hormone imbalances affects you most!Join Nourish Your Hormones Coaching for the step-by-step and my eyes on YOUR hormones for the next 4 months.Send us a text with episode feedback or ideas! (We can't respond to texts unless you include contact info but always read them)Simply Nourished Cycles Podcast TrainingDon't forget to subscribe, share this episode, and leave a review. Your support helps us reach more women looking for answers.Disclaimer: Nothing in this podcast is to be taken as medical advice, please take informed accountability and speak to your provider before making changes to your health routine.This podcast is for women and moms to learn how to balance hormones naturally in motherhood, to have pain-free periods, increased fertility, to decrease PMS mood swings, and to increase energy without restrictive diet plans. You'll learn how to balance blood sugar, increase progesterone naturally, understand the root cause of estrogen dominance, irregular periods, PCOS, insulin resistance, hormonal acne, post birth-control syndrome, and conceive naturally. We use a pro-metabolic, whole food, root cause approach to functional women's health and focus on truly holistic health and mind-body connection.If you listen to any of the following shows, we're sure you'll like ours too! Pursuit of Wellness with Mari Llewellyn, Culture Apothecary with Alex Clark, Found My Fitness with Rhonda Patrick, Just Ingredients Podcast, Wellness Mama, The Dr Josh Axe Show, Are You Menstrual Podcast, The Model Health Show, Grounded Wellness By Primally Pure, Be Well By Kelly Leveque, The Freely Rooted Podcast with Kori Meloy, Simple Farmhouse Life with Lisa Bass

Have you ever felt like your apologies just don't cut it? In today's episode we are discussing the formula on how to give a good apology. Repair is an essential component of a healthy relationship and often the standard, "I'm sorry," can do more harm than good. Join hosts Laurie and George to learn why your current attempts at apology fall flat and what a meaningful apology sounds like. You'll learn how to keep the focus on your partner, not you, express care and become skilled at repairing. Our expert demo clearly demonstrates a bad apology and the better route to apology. If you've ever struggled in this area this episode is for you! Like our episodes? Then you'll love our book! Make sure to pre-order a copy of our book 'Brave Love, Great Sex' on Amazon now.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us Fan MailFinding a healthy church after being hurt is hard — especially when toxic churches have learned to hide what they really believe. This week, Rebecca and I walk you through our evidence-based, step-by-step method for evaluating a church's website before you ever step through the door. From homepage vibes to staff pages, statement of beliefs to membership covenants, we'll show you exactly what to look for — and what to run from.We're also sharing real examples from actual church websites, some of them from well-known names you'll recognize, so you can train your eye to spot the difference between a church that genuinely welcomes you and one that just wants to slot you into a hierarchy. And we're connecting it all to our brand-new peer-reviewed study on internalized modesty messaging — because finding a healthy church isn't just nice to have. For girls especially, it can make all the difference.GET OUR TEMPLATE to Vet Your Church's WebsiteTO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!)And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED: Our article about risk of sexual harassment in the Scientific Study of Religion JournalSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books:The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Hello Brave Lovers! Join us today in our conversation on how to self-regulate when you are in conflict with your partner. We often discuss the power of co-regulation; when partners can be there and ease the distress of one another. However self-regulation is a powerful and necessary tool when your partner isn't available or their attempts to soothe you become a step in the negative cycle. Listen to Laurie and George today as they share how to self-regulate, when is a good time to use the skills and what it looks like in practice. Self-regulation gives us the opportunity to reflect on our behavior, the impact it has on our partner and what the underlying need is. Our book, Brave Love, Great Sex is out on September 15th. Make sure to pre-order your copy on Amazon today! our own individual responsibility to work on the cycle Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us Fan MailA close look at how Every Man's Battle ignores the impact of predation on women and girls–and is just plain creepy! Plus a new study on hostile/benevolent sexism when it comes to tradwife content. It's our podcast and Friday RoundUp in one!Our podcast we wanted to air this week just wasn't ready in time–so we decided to record our Friday RoundUp a day early, and run it as this week's podcast. So if you're used to listening to our podcast, remember that on YouTube every week we also have a 20 minute unfiltered, unscripted Friday Roundup!TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!)And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED: Our post on the two Every Man's Battle excerptsThe Facebook post people were commenting onThe article on the new tradwife studyOur download on the problems with Every Man's BattleOur download on the problems with Every Young Man's BattleSubscribe to our YouTube channel so you don't miss all the regular Friday roundups!Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books:The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Welcome Brave Lovers! In today's episode Laurie and George delve into the withdrawer's world and how their mission to get it right is so wrong. Inspired by a recent post from podcaster Steven Bartlett, they discuss the unrealistic expectations and pressure many withdrawers impose and the vicious avoidance cycle they get caught in when they can't meet those expectations. If you identify as a withdrawer in your negative cycle or you want more insight on your withdrawing partner this episode will teach you: what is happening and steps to take to break this habit. You'll learn how to set realistic expectations, reduce pressure and communicate clearly with your partner. It takes less than 10 minutes a day to create a better relationship! Take a page from our role play and address this in your relationship for a more secure connection. Our book Brave Love, Great Sex is now available for pre-order on Amazon. Secure your copy today!  Support this episode's sponsor (and help the pod!): Uberlube.com -- Laurie's long-time favorite personal lubricant! Use the code BraveLove for a discount! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us Fan MailKeith and Rebecca are taking over the podcast this week and are answering your questions — from how to find a healthy church community to whether complementarianism is a dealbreaker. They're refreshingly honest and a little funny about it. Then Joanna joins to dig into a brand-new peer-reviewed paper on how internalized modesty messaging affects girls' self-esteem and their risk of being sexually harassed in church as minors. What they found is both unsurprising and deeply sobering: environments that emphasize modesty messaging don't just harm girls, they actually groom boys into predatory behavior. It's research that needs to get out of their little corner of the internet and into the broader conversation, and your support made it possible.TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!)And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED: Love & Respect DocuseriesBook suggestions from Rebecca: Mistborn Series by Brandon SandersonProject Hail Mary - Andy WeirShattered Sea Trilogy - Joe AbercrombieFarseer Trilogy - Robin Hobb(Join The Patreon for our great book club for more!)Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books:The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Let's talk menopause and perimenopause- and the things no one warned us about. Tiera does a beautiful job of unpacking the physical and emotional shifts women experience, how it can impact sex, and what's actually helpful in this season. We want to help you feel equipped and encouraged as you enter this time of life! Watch the episode on YouTube!! Our Episodes: Mindfulness with Dr. Lori Brotto Resources: Evree Lube: Use the code KINGDOM for 10% off! Coconu Lube: Use the code KINGDOM for 15% off Yes! Vaginal Moisturizer : Use the code KINGDOMSEXUALITY for 15% off Better Sex Through Mindfulness book Sex Toys: Married Dance: Use the code KINGDOMSEXUALITY for 10% off Tiera's Fertility/Menopause Doula Info: Use discount code: KSFOLLOWER for $50 off any package ⁠⁠Join Unite & Ignite ⁠⁠ Want more from Kingdom Sexuality? Come hang out! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Approximate Time Stamps: Introduction and Overview - 0:00 Discussing Menopause - 0:30 Understanding Menopause Terms - 2:06 Perimenopause Symptoms - 4:19 Hormonal Changes and Effects - 6:13 Blood Work and Diagnosis - 11:00 Common Symptoms and Treatments - 14:20 Vaginal Changes and GSM - 17:09 Libido and Hormone Therapy - 23:15 Testosterone Therapy Discussion - 27:34 Positive Outlook on Perimenopause - 35:04 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us Fan MailWhat does it mean to have realistic expectations of a spouse with ADHD? How does gender play into how ADHD impacts a relationship? And what do accommodations actually look like—versus what do they not look like in a healthy marriage?This week Rebecca talks about her own diagnosis of ADHD with her father Keith (a pediatrician) and good friend Daniel Forsythe (a licensed psychotherapist who works with neurodiverse marriages frequently) to dig down to discuss what the evidence actually says is possible, the risk of “caregiver burnout”, and more as Rebecca picks the brains of the actual professionals so we can all land in an evidence-based place!THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR:To Heal or Harm: Scripture's Use as Poison or Medicine for Abuse Survivors by Dr. Steven Tracy. How to refute it when Bible verses are weaponized!TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!)And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED: Study regarding impact of ADHD on women versus men in adulthoodWrite-up on how we falsely believe that ADHD is easier on womenStudy on how a messy home impacts women versus men's social standing and who we intrinsically believe is “responsible” for cleaningThe Marriage You Want bookIs It You, Me, or Adult ADHD? A more therapeutic book about counselling practices for marriages working with ADHD: Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books:The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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Send a textWhat if the reason so many women struggle with desire, arousal, and orgasm has nothing to do with their bodies—and everything to do with what they were taught before they even wanted to be sexual? In this episode, Rebecca and I pull together research and real-life stories to trace a thread that runs from how we raise our daughters, to what happens on the wedding night, to why so many women are secretly faking it.THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR:To Heal or Harm: Scripture's Use as Poison or Medicine for Abuse Survivors by Dr. Steven Tracy. How to refute it when Bible verses are weaponized!TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!)And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED: Our Orgasm Course and Boost Your Libido CourseLove and Respect Docu-SeriesResearch Paper: "Sexual Passion in Adolescence: Examining Its Transmission Through Mothers"Research Paper: "Do Women Withhold Honest Sexual Communication When They Believe Their Partner's Manhood Is Threatened?"Instagram Thread by Ally Jolie (somatic psychologist, UK)Podcast episode on men projecting sexual attention-seeking onto girlsSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Most men want to please the women they love. But many don't understand what actually helps a woman open, relax, and experience truly satisfying sex. In this episode, I talk with Certified Sexologist Kevin Anthony, host of the Love Lab Podcast, about what men often miss about what women need to make sex great for them. For many women, great sex doesn't start in the bedroom. It begins with safety, trust, connection, and presence. When a woman feels emotionally safe and deeply connected, her body can relax and open to pleasure. Without that foundation, sex can feel tense, pressured, or disconnected — even when both partners have good intentions. Kevin and I explore: • Why safety and trust are essential for women's sexual pleasure • How connection starts long before the bedroom • The role of emotional intelligence in great sex • How presence creates much better sex than performance • The physical things many men misunderstand about foreplay • Why women's arousal is more fluid and responsive than many men realize • How you can create more harmony, connection, and passion This conversation will give you powerful new perspectives to create deeper intimacy, better sex, and a more connected relationship.    Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life!       Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):https://uppbeat.io/t/prigida/burbleLicense code: IHVPCN3F5C1BO2Q0

Send a textJay Stringer, licensed therapist and author of Unwanted, is back to talk about his brand new book Desire: The Longings Inside Us and the New Science of How We Love, Heal, and Grow. Together, we unpack why so many of us — especially those from church backgrounds — were taught to fear and suppress our desires rather than develop them. We dig into enmeshment, the "provisional self," why differentiation is actually the secret to intimacy and a healthy sex life, and why low libido is never just a libido problem. If you've ever felt broken, empty, or like you don't even know what you want anymore, this conversation is for you.TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED: Get Jay Stringer's book DesireGet Jay's book UnwantedFollow Jay on InstagramSheila's book The Marriage You Want, and the video curriculum that goes with itSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Send a textAnna Rollins grew up as the kind of girl who took her faith seriously — and that's exactly why it hurt her so much. In this conversation, Anna and I dig into her memoir Famished: On Food, Sex, and Growing Up as a Good Girl, where she traces how purity culture's messages about desire, self-denial, and the body quietly fueled decades of disordered eating, compulsive exercise, and sexual pain. What strikes me most is that Anna's parents were loving, her church wasn't overtly abusive — and yet the cumulative message she absorbed was shrink yourself.  I think this conversation is going to resonate deeply with so many of you.THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR:To Heal or Harm: Scripture's Use as Poison or Medicine for Abuse Survivors by Dr. Steven Tracy. How to refute it when Bible verses are weaponized! https://amzn.to/4rSYkZuTO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED: Get Anna Rollins' book FamishedFollow Anna on SubstackWatch our Love & Respect Docuseries The Portuguese version of The Great Sex RescueThe Chinese version of The Great Sex RescueThe Spanish version of The Good Girl's Guide to Great SexSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Episode 321 addresses a vulnerable question from a man in recovery who fears he may have “overcorrected”—moving from sexual addiction to sexual numbness. After establishing over a year of sobriety, he wonders if suppressing his sexuality has led to aversion rather than health. We explain that this phase is not uncommon. Sobriety is essential, but it is only the beginning. When years of compulsive behavior have rewired the dopamine system, removing intense stimulation can initially feel flat. The brain and body require time to recalibrate, and during that process, desire may feel muted.We also explore the powerful role of shame and fear in suppressing healthy arousal. Many addicts carry beliefs that they no longer deserve sexual enjoyment because of the harm they caused. Unresolved shame can shut down vulnerability, which is essential for authentic intimacy. Additionally, medical variables such as stress and hormone imbalance should be ruled out, as libido is influenced by both emotional and biological factors. Healthy sexuality looks very different from addiction-driven intensity—it is relational, emotionally connected, and often built on appreciation rather than urgency.Ultimately, the goal of recovery is not sexual suppression but integration. Guardrails—healthy boundaries—are necessary to maintain safety, but walls built from fear prevent growth. As couples move from repair into creation, they can collaboratively define what authentic intimacy looks like for them. With patience, grace, and ongoing emotional connection, sexuality can evolve from something compulsive and destructive into a conscious, shared celebration of closeness and love.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  Guardrails or walls—Moving from Sexual Aversion to Healthy Intimacy in Recovery Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

A Note from James:In the first two episodes with Dr. Nicole McNichols, we talked about chemistry, communication, anatomy, and the science of pleasure. This final episode is really about something deeper—how relationships evolve over time and what actually keeps desire alive.Because the truth is, long-term relationships don't stay exciting automatically. They require intention. They require curiosity. And sometimes the issue isn't your partner at all—it's that you've stopped doing things that light you up in your own life.We also talk about novelty, sex toys, aging, hormones, communication, and why pleasure itself is not optional for wellbeing—it's essential.This conversation tied everything together for me.Episode Description:How do couples keep desire alive years—or decades—into a relationship?In the final part of this series, Dr. Nicole McNichols explains why long-term passion isn't about constant novelty or dramatic reinvention. It's about intentional connection, personal growth, communication, and maintaining a sense of play.They discuss the “seven-year itch,” why boredom often comes from losing personal passion rather than losing attraction, and how seeing your partner energized by their own interests can reignite desire. The conversation also explores sex toys as collaborative tools, the health benefits of sexual activity, aging and sexuality, hormone therapy, and practical ways to communicate about sex without embarrassment.The episode closes with a powerful reminder: pleasure is not a luxury—it's a core component of wellbeing.What You'll Learn:Why boredom in relationships is often about your own life—not your partnerHow pursuing individual passions can increase attraction in long-term couplesWhy sex toys enhance connection rather than threaten itThe physical and psychological health benefits of sexual activityHow curiosity, humor, and vulnerability improve sexual communicationTimestamped Chapters:[00:02:00] Pleasure, Playfulness & Why Attraction Fades[00:03:28] The Seven-Year Itch & Long-Term Desire[00:04:00] Intention, Communication & Intimacy Dates[00:04:45] When Boredom Is About Your Own Life[00:05:25] Personal Passion & Seeing Your Partner Differently[00:06:11] The Best Sex of Your Life After Kids[00:08:16] Novelty Without Threatening the Relationship[00:09:24] Erotic Identity & Emotional Needs[00:11:00] Frequency of Novelty & Sexual Compatibility[00:11:21] Men Feeling Threatened by Novelty[00:11:42] Sex Toys as Collaborative Tools[00:13:26] The Pleasure Cycle: Wanting, Liking, Learning[00:14:12] Sex, Stress Reduction & Sleep[00:15:23] Health Benefits of Sex[00:16:08] Pleasure as Essential Wellbeing[00:19:00] Is Sex the Most Enjoyable Activity?[00:20:00] Presence, Mindfulness & Happiness Research[00:21:39] Sex and Meditation[00:22:00] Sex in Your 80s & Aging[00:23:22] Loneliness, Health & Sexual Function[00:24:25] Erectile Dysfunction & Physical Health[00:25:00] Menopause, Hormones & Sexual Pain[00:26:23] Hormone Therapy & Medical Guidance[00:27:35] Communication as the Core Skill[00:28:35] Leading With Curiosity[00:29:56] Humor, Playfulness & Awkward Conversations[00:31:08] Closing ThoughtsAdditional Resources:You Could Be Having Better SexNicole McNicholsDaniel Gilbert — Happiness research referencedSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

A Note from James:In the first episode with Dr. Nicole McNichols, we talked about chemistry, myths, and why communication matters more than performance. This episode goes deeper—into biology, anatomy, dopamine, desire, and the mechanics of pleasure.There are a lot of myths around sex. Some are cultural. Some are Hollywood. Some come from bad science. And some just come from silence.This conversation gets specific. We talk about orgasm, desire, scheduling sex, the so-called “missionary problem,” novelty in long-term relationships, and why so much of what we assume about men and women sexually just isn't true.If Part 1 was about mindset, Part 2 is about understanding how sex actually works.Episode Description:What actually happens in the body during orgasm? Why does anticipation sometimes feel better than the act itself? And why are so many of our beliefs about sex simply wrong?In Part 2 of this three-part series, Dr. Nicole McNichols breaks down the biology of desire, the science of orgasm, and the myths that quietly sabotage long-term relationships.She explains why dopamine peaks during anticipation, why consistency—not intensity—is often key to orgasm, and why “missionary” might be underrated. They explore the anatomy of the clitoris (including research only fully mapped in 2006), the orgasm gap, responsive vs. spontaneous desire, and why scheduling intimacy can actually increase desire.This episode reframes sex not as performance, but as collaboration—an evolving, communicative process rooted in curiosity and growth.What You'll Learn:Why dopamine spikes during anticipation—and how to avoid the post-expectation letdownThe difference between spontaneous and responsive desire (for both men and women)Why consistency is physiologically critical during orgasmThe science behind the orgasm gap and what actually closes itWhy scheduling intimacy can increase frequency and desire—not kill spontaneityTimestamped Chapters:[00:02:00] No One Craves Bad Sex & The Myth of “Boring” Positions[00:03:18] Previously on Part 1: Porn Myths & Feeling Wanted[00:04:00] Chemistry, Pheromones & The Role of Safety[00:06:00] Sexual Growth Mindset & Compatibility[00:08:00] Fireworks vs. Communication[00:10:00] Anatomy, Diversity of Touch & The Clitoris Explained[00:12:00] Scripts, Feedback & How to Talk During Sex[00:17:00] Novelty, Micro-Novelty & Preventing Boredom[00:19:00] Wanting, Liking & Learning: The Pleasure Cycle[00:23:00] Expanding the Definition of Sex[00:25:00] The “Sex Recession” & Frequency Myths[00:27:00] Planning Intimacy & Scheduling Sex[00:31:00] Why Missionary Deserves a Rebrand[00:34:00] Internal Anatomy, the Clitoral Complex & Size Myths[00:39:00] What Is an Orgasm, Physiologically?[00:45:00] The Orgasm Gap & Why Fingering Matters[00:47:00] Consistency vs. “Faster & Harder”[00:49:00] Masturbation Myths & No Nut November[00:51:00] Refractory Period & Aging[00:55:00] Multiple Orgasms & What Research Shows[01:00:00] Love, Orientation & Novelty in Long-Term RelationshipsAdditional Resources:You Could Be Having Better SexNicole McNicholsHelen O'Connell – Research mapping full clitoral anatomy (MRI studies)Beverly Whipple – Orgasm research & physiological studiesA Moveable Feast – Referenced during discussionSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Send a textRebecca, Joanna, and I are pulling back the curtain on what went into making the Love & Respect docuseries — including the things that didn't make the final cut.From the bizarre Nazi torture illustration Emerson used to keep women in bad marriages, to the genuinely heartbreaking story of a little boy watching his father abuse his mother, this episode gets raw and honest about why we've been fighting this battle for seven years. We also share the stunning survey results from a church in Florida that show exactly what happens when love-and-respect-style teaching takes root in a community. And we end with a word of real hope: healthy churches exist, better books are being written, and the tide is turning.THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR:To Heal or Harm: Scripture's Use as Poison or Medicine for Abuse Survivors by Dr. Steven Tracy. How to refute it when Bible verses are weaponized! https://amzn.to/4rSYkZuTO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED: Watch the Love & Respect Docuseries! Episode 1, Episode 2, and Episode 3Our Love & Respect hub (links to all Love & Respect articles 7 resources at bottom)The Substack from the Florida womanSubscribe to Good Fruit Faith on YouTubeSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

*Disclaimer* This episode contains adult content and is not recommended for young listeners.   Hebrews 12:15 NLT “Look after each other so that none of you fails to receive the grace of God. Watch out that no poisonous root of bitterness grows up to trouble you, corrupting many.”   *Transcription Below*   About Dr. Morgan Cutlip:  It's hard to know where to start so I'll start with what matters most to me and that's my relationships.   I'm a mother to two kids, Effie (12) and Roy (9). They are hilarious, spirited, spicy, deeply thoughtful and emotional kids. I adore them and being their mother. They've challenged me in the most surprising and wonderful ways. I'm married to my high school sweetheart, Chad. I always feel like I lose a little street cred when I say that so, for the record, we didn't date that entire time and eventually reconnected years after college on MySpace (yup, now I've aged myself). He's the love of my life, an incredible man that loves others deeply, works so very hard, and continues to be open to growth and change.   I've worked in the field of relationship education for over 15 years alongside my father, Dr. John Van Epp, who is the founder of Love Thinks and developer of multiple relationship education courses that have been taught to over a million people worldwide. I started traveling to conferences with him when I was in junior high and so, in many ways, it feels like I've grown up in the relationship education field. He's amazing and brilliant and I'm blessed to have learned so much from him over the years we worked together and just cherish our relationship.   I distinctly remember a conversation with my dad over 20 years ago where I said that someday I wanted to support women, but I just wasn't sure how.   Fast forward 10 years and Effie (our oldest) was born and, holy moly, did motherhood hit me like a ton of bricks and I completely lost myself in motherhood (you can read the full story in my book).

A Note from James:This might be the most useful episode I've ever done. Not that the others weren't useful—they were—but this one goes above and beyond. It was also awkward for me, and honestly a little embarrassing, to ask some of these questions. I asked them anyway, and I'm glad I did, because the answers were excellent.This episode is with Dr. Nicole McNichols, who just released her book You Could Be Having Better Sex: The Definitive Guide to a Happier, Healthier, and Hotter Sex Life. There was so much strong material that we split the conversation into three parts.This first episode focuses on what great sex actually is, the myths most of us have absorbed, and what really separates good sex from bad sex. Episode two will focus on the science and mechanics of pleasure—how sex actually works. Episode three will be about keeping the spark alive over time.I had a lot of fun talking with Dr. McNichols, and I hope you enjoy this first part.Episode Description:What actually makes sex good—and why do so many people get it wrong?In this episode, James talks with human sexuality professor Dr. Nicole McNichols about how modern myths around sex, porn, dating culture, and “chemistry” distort what people think they're supposed to want. Instead of performance, novelty, or intensity, she explains why pleasure, communication, and feeling genuinely wanted matter far more.They also unpack why anxiety and uncertainty are often mistaken for chemistry, how emotional and intellectual intimacy feed sexual connection, and why setting clear boundaries is essential—not just in relationships, but in dating itself.This conversation reframes sex in a way most people were never taught, grounded in research, real relationships, and practical self-respect.What You'll Learn:Why great sex is defined by pleasure, communication, and responsiveness—not performance or noveltyHow anxiety, inconsistency, and “the chase” get mistaken for chemistryWhy non-sexual touch and everyday intimacy directly affect sexual desireHow intellectual connection and feeling seen feed attractionHow setting clear boundaries in dating protects your emotional and sexual healthTimestamped Chapters:[00:02:00] Episode Preview: Porn myths, exaggerated expectations, and false ideas about desire[00:03:18] A Note from James[00:04:36] Interview Begins: Dr. Nicole McNichols' background and teaching human sexuality[00:07:05] What's the difference between bad sex and great sex?[00:10:16] The role of caring and communication[00:11:21] In defense of “vanilla” sex[00:12:47] Why non-sexual touch matters more than people realize[00:14:23] Intellectual intimacy and sexual attraction[00:15:25] Sapiosexuality and attraction beyond looks[00:17:03] Chemistry vs. anxiety in relationships[00:19:13] The real number-one sexual fantasy: feeling wanted[00:21:15] The myth of “playing the game” in attraction[00:24:30] Dating in the culture of ambiguity[00:26:14] Why intentional dating matters[00:27:55] Boundaries, confidence, and self-careAdditional Resources:You Could Be Having Better SexNicole McNicholsThe Gottman InstituteFundera powered by NerdWalletSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Send a textPart two of a three-part docuseries deep dive into the best-selling evangelical marriage book Love & Respect.LOVE & RESPECT DOCUSERIES:Watch the video version of thisHere's episode 1. To see episode 3 next week, subscribe to the Good Fruit Faith ChannelThis podcast delves into what Love & Respect is based on--recycled ideas from a 1970s best-seller; faulty stats; misrepresented research--and editing the Bible.BONUS CONTENTGain bonus content, full videos of the interviews and MORE if you become a patron! https://patreon.com/baremarriageSupport Good Fruit Faith, that paved the way for this projectLINKS: Op-ed on the history of ordination of women and the SBCShaunti Feldhahn's original surveyDouble-barrelled questionsStudy on shoulder-to-shoulder communicationThe Authoritarians book  Breakdown of Eggerichs misunderstanding marital rape and saying you can't tell if a woman is arousedPodcast about the mystery of a woman being "turned on"Dr. Shauna Springer's original PsychologyToday articleEXPERT INTERVIEWEES INFORMATION: Dr. Chuck DeGroat Dr. Shauna Springer Dr. Andrew Bauman Dr. Beth Felkner Jones and her Substack Jay Stringer and his book DesireSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

What if nurturing a healthy, shame-free sex life could actually help us become calmer, more patient parents? In this heartfelt and honest conversation, Wendy Snyder is joined by Christian sex educator Carlie Palmer-Webb to explore the powerful connection between intimacy, nervous system regulation, and the way we show up for our families. Together, they unpack how harmful purity culture messages have left many adults disconnected from their bodies, their desire, and their sense of safety, and how healing our relationship with sex can ripple outward into our marriages and parenting. Carlie shares her personal journey growing up in purity culture, why so many women struggle with shame, pain, or obligation around sex, and how education, compassion, and curiosity can open the door to truly connected intimacy. Wendy reflects on how emotional and physical connection in marriage fuels patience, regulation, and resilience at home, especially for parents working hard to break generational cycles. This episode is a validating, hopeful invitation for couples to reclaim intimacy as something life-giving, empowering, and deeply supportive of the family legacy they're building. ➡️ Head to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.freshstartfamilyonline.com/309⁠⁠⁠ for more info and links.

In today's episode, hosts Laurie and George are taking listeners to the islands! Islands of Security explores the places where secure attachment lives—those small but powerful moments where partners feel safe, seen, and able to find each especially during times of struggle. You'll walk away from this show with great ideas on how to develop more islands of security through intentional connection, imperfect action, meeting caregiving needs and managing the high and low roads. Set your calendars for September 2026 to pick up a copy of our book Brave Love, Great Sex and make sure to follow us on our socials @BraveLoveGreatSex Please check out our wonderful sponsors (and support the pod!):WE-VIBE.com and use code BRAVELOVE for 20% off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a textPart one of a three-part docuseries deep dive into the best-selling evangelical marriage book, Love & Respect.THE LOVE & RESPECT DOCUSERIES:This is a video series, so if you want to watch it in all its glory, head over to https://youtu.be/z3EEAkjwcXA!To see episodes 2 & 3 when they launch next week, subscribe to the Good Fruit Faith ChannelThis podcast delves into the broken logic of Love & Respect, why so many people bought into it, and the truly bizarre nature of what passes for evangelical marriage advice.Copyright Disclaimer: - Under section 107 of the copyright Act 1976, allowance is mad for FAIR USE for purpose such a as criticism, comment, news reporting, teaching, scholarship and research. Fair use is a use permitted by copyright statues that might otherwise be infringing. Non- Profit, educational or personal use tips the balance in favor of FAIR USE. All DVD clips and quotes from the book are used for criticism and teaching, and therefore fall under fair use.BONUS CONTENTGain bonus content, full videos of the interviews and MORE if you become a patron! https://patreon.com/baremarriageLINKS:Support Good Fruit FaithOur paper, Sanctified SexismOur one sheet on the problems with Love & RespectEXPERT INTERVIEWEES INFORMATION:Chuck DeGroat: https://www.chuckdegroat.net/Chuck's book, "When Narcissism Comes to Church"Andrew Bauman: https://andrewjbauman.com/Andrew's book, "The Sexually Healthy Man" -----Music Attribution“In the Dark” performed by BlockBeatz/stock.adobe.com“Romantic Smooth Rock (O Mundo Gira)” performed by Yummy Tunes/stock.adobe.com“Gentle Relaxed Smooth Jazz (Soul Power)” performed by Tasty Tunes/stock.adobe.comSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Send us a textToday I'm talking with Dr. Steven Tracy, author of "To Heal or Harm," about how scripture has been twisted to keep abuse victims trapped. We're diving into passages that discuss things like, "wives submit," "God hates divorce," and "a gentle answer turns away wrath" to show what they actually mean in context. And spoiler alert: none of them tell victims to stay in abuse. If you've ever felt like the Bible was being used against you, or if you're a pastor who wants to understand how to truly help abuse victims, this conversation is essential.PLUS: A special announcement with Rebecca you won't want to miss!TO HEAL OR TO HARM: Get the book here!COMING SOON:Subscribe to the Good Fruit Faith channel for our Love & Respect podcast coming soon!TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED: Mending the Soul websiteReporting on John MacArthur excommunicating Eileen Gray for leaving her abusive husbandSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Send us a textWe're tackling three really problematic things that have happened recently with evangelical leaders that show just how low the bar has gotten for men. From Jonathan Podluka announcing he wants to sleep with multiple beautiful women, to pastors responding to Philip Yancey's affair by saying "it could be any of us," to Tim Challies telling people in miserable marriages to just stick it out until they die—it's all connected to this theology that refuses to hold men accountable and tells women they just need to accept it. The common thread? A theology of male hierarchy that steals intimacy from marriages, justice from victims, and Jesus from people who are hurting.TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED: Tim Challies' article on if you chose poorlyMy article about Philip YanceyMy reel with the clips of Jonathan PokludaSheila's Baptist News article about Jonathan Podluka's 2023 sermon, and my new op ed about his recent commentsSarah Diefendorf's peer-reviewed articles about men's accountability groupsMy recommended books on walking through porn problemsSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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When it comes to inspiring millions of people to have healthier, happier, more exciting sex lives and unlocking endless pleasure, Emily Morse delivers overtime. The New York Times called her “the Dr. Ruth of our generation”, and in the 2nd part of this 2-part episode with Emily, the conversation gets extra spicy! Get ready to take notes with Emily as we learn how to unleash our fun, playful, curious side in the bedroom. This means we're saying so long to BAD SEX and hello to the BEST SEX EVER! In this episode Emily reveals exactly why your sexual health and wellness is the #1 priority: *Stop faking orgasms and a great sex life when you can have the real thing *Doing this will teach you to have better orgasms *Enjoying more sex starts with this (are you doing it?) Stay tuned to find out more… Don't miss Emily's new book, Smart Sex: ⁠https://www.amazon.com/Smart-Sex-Boost-Your-Pleasure/dp/0778387100⁠  Follow Emily Morse: Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠  YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/sexwithemily⁠  Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠  Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠  Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/SexWithEmily⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When it comes to inspiring millions of people to have healthier, happier, more exciting sex lives and unlocking endless pleasure, Emily Morse delivers overtime. The New York Times called her “the Dr. Ruth of our generation”, and in the 2nd part of this 2-part episode with Emily, the conversation gets extra spicy! Get ready to take notes with Emily as we learn how to unleash our fun, playful, curious side in the bedroom. This means we're saying so long to BAD SEX and hello to the BEST SEX EVER! In this episode Emily reveals exactly why your sexual health and wellness is the #1 priority: *Stop faking orgasms and a great sex life when you can have the real thing *Doing this will teach you to have better orgasms *Enjoying more sex starts with this (are you doing it?) Stay tuned to find out more… Don't miss Emily's new book, Smart Sex: ⁠https://www.amazon.com/Smart-Sex-Boost-Your-Pleasure/dp/0778387100⁠  Follow Emily Morse: Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠  YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/sexwithemily⁠  Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠  Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠  Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/SexWithEmily⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

With the new year, the podcast gets a new name! Brave Love Great Sex! The same great content, the same great hosts! We're aligning the podcast with our new book that will be out in 2026 from Penguin Random House. Pre order it today. Check out this episode's sponsors (and help the pod!): RexMD.com/foreplay -- Discrete, convenient support for ED. Shipped directly to you. Use the link for up to 95% off your first order. Uberlube.com -- Laurie's all time favorite personal lubricant. If you haven't tried it yet, it's a new year! Use the code 'BRAVELOVE' to get 10% off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices