Podcasts about great sex

Send a textAnna Rollins grew up as the kind of girl who took her faith seriously — and that's exactly why it hurt her so much. In this conversation, Anna and I dig into her memoir Famished: On Food, Sex, and Growing Up as a Good Girl, where she traces how purity culture's messages about desire, self-denial, and the body quietly fueled decades of disordered eating, compulsive exercise, and sexual pain. What strikes me most is that Anna's parents were loving, her church wasn't overtly abusive — and yet the cumulative message she absorbed was shrink yourself.  I think this conversation is going to resonate deeply with so many of you.THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR:To Heal or Harm: Scripture's Use as Poison or Medicine for Abuse Survivors by Dr. Steven Tracy. How to refute it when Bible verses are weaponized! https://amzn.to/4rSYkZuTO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED: Get Anna Rollins' book FamishedFollow Anna on SubstackWatch our Love & Respect Docuseries The Portuguese version of The Great Sex RescueThe Chinese version of The Great Sex RescueThe Spanish version of The Good Girl's Guide to Great SexSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Episode 321 addresses a vulnerable question from a man in recovery who fears he may have “overcorrected”—moving from sexual addiction to sexual numbness. After establishing over a year of sobriety, he wonders if suppressing his sexuality has led to aversion rather than health. We explain that this phase is not uncommon. Sobriety is essential, but it is only the beginning. When years of compulsive behavior have rewired the dopamine system, removing intense stimulation can initially feel flat. The brain and body require time to recalibrate, and during that process, desire may feel muted.We also explore the powerful role of shame and fear in suppressing healthy arousal. Many addicts carry beliefs that they no longer deserve sexual enjoyment because of the harm they caused. Unresolved shame can shut down vulnerability, which is essential for authentic intimacy. Additionally, medical variables such as stress and hormone imbalance should be ruled out, as libido is influenced by both emotional and biological factors. Healthy sexuality looks very different from addiction-driven intensity—it is relational, emotionally connected, and often built on appreciation rather than urgency.Ultimately, the goal of recovery is not sexual suppression but integration. Guardrails—healthy boundaries—are necessary to maintain safety, but walls built from fear prevent growth. As couples move from repair into creation, they can collaboratively define what authentic intimacy looks like for them. With patience, grace, and ongoing emotional connection, sexuality can evolve from something compulsive and destructive into a conscious, shared celebration of closeness and love.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  Guardrails or walls—Moving from Sexual Aversion to Healthy Intimacy in Recovery Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

A Note from James:In the first two episodes with Dr. Nicole McNichols, we talked about chemistry, communication, anatomy, and the science of pleasure. This final episode is really about something deeper—how relationships evolve over time and what actually keeps desire alive.Because the truth is, long-term relationships don't stay exciting automatically. They require intention. They require curiosity. And sometimes the issue isn't your partner at all—it's that you've stopped doing things that light you up in your own life.We also talk about novelty, sex toys, aging, hormones, communication, and why pleasure itself is not optional for wellbeing—it's essential.This conversation tied everything together for me.Episode Description:How do couples keep desire alive years—or decades—into a relationship?In the final part of this series, Dr. Nicole McNichols explains why long-term passion isn't about constant novelty or dramatic reinvention. It's about intentional connection, personal growth, communication, and maintaining a sense of play.They discuss the “seven-year itch,” why boredom often comes from losing personal passion rather than losing attraction, and how seeing your partner energized by their own interests can reignite desire. The conversation also explores sex toys as collaborative tools, the health benefits of sexual activity, aging and sexuality, hormone therapy, and practical ways to communicate about sex without embarrassment.The episode closes with a powerful reminder: pleasure is not a luxury—it's a core component of wellbeing.What You'll Learn:Why boredom in relationships is often about your own life—not your partnerHow pursuing individual passions can increase attraction in long-term couplesWhy sex toys enhance connection rather than threaten itThe physical and psychological health benefits of sexual activityHow curiosity, humor, and vulnerability improve sexual communicationTimestamped Chapters:[00:02:00] Pleasure, Playfulness & Why Attraction Fades[00:03:28] The Seven-Year Itch & Long-Term Desire[00:04:00] Intention, Communication & Intimacy Dates[00:04:45] When Boredom Is About Your Own Life[00:05:25] Personal Passion & Seeing Your Partner Differently[00:06:11] The Best Sex of Your Life After Kids[00:08:16] Novelty Without Threatening the Relationship[00:09:24] Erotic Identity & Emotional Needs[00:11:00] Frequency of Novelty & Sexual Compatibility[00:11:21] Men Feeling Threatened by Novelty[00:11:42] Sex Toys as Collaborative Tools[00:13:26] The Pleasure Cycle: Wanting, Liking, Learning[00:14:12] Sex, Stress Reduction & Sleep[00:15:23] Health Benefits of Sex[00:16:08] Pleasure as Essential Wellbeing[00:19:00] Is Sex the Most Enjoyable Activity?[00:20:00] Presence, Mindfulness & Happiness Research[00:21:39] Sex and Meditation[00:22:00] Sex in Your 80s & Aging[00:23:22] Loneliness, Health & Sexual Function[00:24:25] Erectile Dysfunction & Physical Health[00:25:00] Menopause, Hormones & Sexual Pain[00:26:23] Hormone Therapy & Medical Guidance[00:27:35] Communication as the Core Skill[00:28:35] Leading With Curiosity[00:29:56] Humor, Playfulness & Awkward Conversations[00:31:08] Closing ThoughtsAdditional Resources:You Could Be Having Better SexNicole McNicholsDaniel Gilbert — Happiness research referencedSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

A Note from James:In the first episode with Dr. Nicole McNichols, we talked about chemistry, myths, and why communication matters more than performance. This episode goes deeper—into biology, anatomy, dopamine, desire, and the mechanics of pleasure.There are a lot of myths around sex. Some are cultural. Some are Hollywood. Some come from bad science. And some just come from silence.This conversation gets specific. We talk about orgasm, desire, scheduling sex, the so-called “missionary problem,” novelty in long-term relationships, and why so much of what we assume about men and women sexually just isn't true.If Part 1 was about mindset, Part 2 is about understanding how sex actually works.Episode Description:What actually happens in the body during orgasm? Why does anticipation sometimes feel better than the act itself? And why are so many of our beliefs about sex simply wrong?In Part 2 of this three-part series, Dr. Nicole McNichols breaks down the biology of desire, the science of orgasm, and the myths that quietly sabotage long-term relationships.She explains why dopamine peaks during anticipation, why consistency—not intensity—is often key to orgasm, and why “missionary” might be underrated. They explore the anatomy of the clitoris (including research only fully mapped in 2006), the orgasm gap, responsive vs. spontaneous desire, and why scheduling intimacy can actually increase desire.This episode reframes sex not as performance, but as collaboration—an evolving, communicative process rooted in curiosity and growth.What You'll Learn:Why dopamine spikes during anticipation—and how to avoid the post-expectation letdownThe difference between spontaneous and responsive desire (for both men and women)Why consistency is physiologically critical during orgasmThe science behind the orgasm gap and what actually closes itWhy scheduling intimacy can increase frequency and desire—not kill spontaneityTimestamped Chapters:[00:02:00] No One Craves Bad Sex & The Myth of “Boring” Positions[00:03:18] Previously on Part 1: Porn Myths & Feeling Wanted[00:04:00] Chemistry, Pheromones & The Role of Safety[00:06:00] Sexual Growth Mindset & Compatibility[00:08:00] Fireworks vs. Communication[00:10:00] Anatomy, Diversity of Touch & The Clitoris Explained[00:12:00] Scripts, Feedback & How to Talk During Sex[00:17:00] Novelty, Micro-Novelty & Preventing Boredom[00:19:00] Wanting, Liking & Learning: The Pleasure Cycle[00:23:00] Expanding the Definition of Sex[00:25:00] The “Sex Recession” & Frequency Myths[00:27:00] Planning Intimacy & Scheduling Sex[00:31:00] Why Missionary Deserves a Rebrand[00:34:00] Internal Anatomy, the Clitoral Complex & Size Myths[00:39:00] What Is an Orgasm, Physiologically?[00:45:00] The Orgasm Gap & Why Fingering Matters[00:47:00] Consistency vs. “Faster & Harder”[00:49:00] Masturbation Myths & No Nut November[00:51:00] Refractory Period & Aging[00:55:00] Multiple Orgasms & What Research Shows[01:00:00] Love, Orientation & Novelty in Long-Term RelationshipsAdditional Resources:You Could Be Having Better SexNicole McNicholsHelen O'Connell – Research mapping full clitoral anatomy (MRI studies)Beverly Whipple – Orgasm research & physiological studiesA Moveable Feast – Referenced during discussionSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Send a textRebecca, Joanna, and I are pulling back the curtain on what went into making the Love & Respect docuseries — including the things that didn't make the final cut.From the bizarre Nazi torture illustration Emerson used to keep women in bad marriages, to the genuinely heartbreaking story of a little boy watching his father abuse his mother, this episode gets raw and honest about why we've been fighting this battle for seven years. We also share the stunning survey results from a church in Florida that show exactly what happens when love-and-respect-style teaching takes root in a community. And we end with a word of real hope: healthy churches exist, better books are being written, and the tide is turning.THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR:To Heal or Harm: Scripture's Use as Poison or Medicine for Abuse Survivors by Dr. Steven Tracy. How to refute it when Bible verses are weaponized! https://amzn.to/4rSYkZuTO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED: Watch the Love & Respect Docuseries! Episode 1, Episode 2, and Episode 3Our Love & Respect hub (links to all Love & Respect articles 7 resources at bottom)The Substack from the Florida womanSubscribe to Good Fruit Faith on YouTubeSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

*Disclaimer* This episode contains adult content and is not recommended for young listeners.   Hebrews 12:15 NLT “Look after each other so that none of you fails to receive the grace of God. Watch out that no poisonous root of bitterness grows up to trouble you, corrupting many.”   *Transcription Below*   About Dr. Morgan Cutlip:  It's hard to know where to start so I'll start with what matters most to me and that's my relationships.   I'm a mother to two kids, Effie (12) and Roy (9). They are hilarious, spirited, spicy, deeply thoughtful and emotional kids. I adore them and being their mother. They've challenged me in the most surprising and wonderful ways. I'm married to my high school sweetheart, Chad. I always feel like I lose a little street cred when I say that so, for the record, we didn't date that entire time and eventually reconnected years after college on MySpace (yup, now I've aged myself). He's the love of my life, an incredible man that loves others deeply, works so very hard, and continues to be open to growth and change.   I've worked in the field of relationship education for over 15 years alongside my father, Dr. John Van Epp, who is the founder of Love Thinks and developer of multiple relationship education courses that have been taught to over a million people worldwide. I started traveling to conferences with him when I was in junior high and so, in many ways, it feels like I've grown up in the relationship education field. He's amazing and brilliant and I'm blessed to have learned so much from him over the years we worked together and just cherish our relationship.   I distinctly remember a conversation with my dad over 20 years ago where I said that someday I wanted to support women, but I just wasn't sure how.   Fast forward 10 years and Effie (our oldest) was born and, holy moly, did motherhood hit me like a ton of bricks and I completely lost myself in motherhood (you can read the full story in my book).

A Note from James:This might be the most useful episode I've ever done. Not that the others weren't useful—they were—but this one goes above and beyond. It was also awkward for me, and honestly a little embarrassing, to ask some of these questions. I asked them anyway, and I'm glad I did, because the answers were excellent.This episode is with Dr. Nicole McNichols, who just released her book You Could Be Having Better Sex: The Definitive Guide to a Happier, Healthier, and Hotter Sex Life. There was so much strong material that we split the conversation into three parts.This first episode focuses on what great sex actually is, the myths most of us have absorbed, and what really separates good sex from bad sex. Episode two will focus on the science and mechanics of pleasure—how sex actually works. Episode three will be about keeping the spark alive over time.I had a lot of fun talking with Dr. McNichols, and I hope you enjoy this first part.Episode Description:What actually makes sex good—and why do so many people get it wrong?In this episode, James talks with human sexuality professor Dr. Nicole McNichols about how modern myths around sex, porn, dating culture, and “chemistry” distort what people think they're supposed to want. Instead of performance, novelty, or intensity, she explains why pleasure, communication, and feeling genuinely wanted matter far more.They also unpack why anxiety and uncertainty are often mistaken for chemistry, how emotional and intellectual intimacy feed sexual connection, and why setting clear boundaries is essential—not just in relationships, but in dating itself.This conversation reframes sex in a way most people were never taught, grounded in research, real relationships, and practical self-respect.What You'll Learn:Why great sex is defined by pleasure, communication, and responsiveness—not performance or noveltyHow anxiety, inconsistency, and “the chase” get mistaken for chemistryWhy non-sexual touch and everyday intimacy directly affect sexual desireHow intellectual connection and feeling seen feed attractionHow setting clear boundaries in dating protects your emotional and sexual healthTimestamped Chapters:[00:02:00] Episode Preview: Porn myths, exaggerated expectations, and false ideas about desire[00:03:18] A Note from James[00:04:36] Interview Begins: Dr. Nicole McNichols' background and teaching human sexuality[00:07:05] What's the difference between bad sex and great sex?[00:10:16] The role of caring and communication[00:11:21] In defense of “vanilla” sex[00:12:47] Why non-sexual touch matters more than people realize[00:14:23] Intellectual intimacy and sexual attraction[00:15:25] Sapiosexuality and attraction beyond looks[00:17:03] Chemistry vs. anxiety in relationships[00:19:13] The real number-one sexual fantasy: feeling wanted[00:21:15] The myth of “playing the game” in attraction[00:24:30] Dating in the culture of ambiguity[00:26:14] Why intentional dating matters[00:27:55] Boundaries, confidence, and self-careAdditional Resources:You Could Be Having Better SexNicole McNicholsThe Gottman InstituteFundera powered by NerdWalletSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Send a textPart two of a three-part docuseries deep dive into the best-selling evangelical marriage book Love & Respect.LOVE & RESPECT DOCUSERIES:Watch the video version of thisHere's episode 1. To see episode 3 next week, subscribe to the Good Fruit Faith ChannelThis podcast delves into what Love & Respect is based on--recycled ideas from a 1970s best-seller; faulty stats; misrepresented research--and editing the Bible.BONUS CONTENTGain bonus content, full videos of the interviews and MORE if you become a patron! https://patreon.com/baremarriageSupport Good Fruit Faith, that paved the way for this projectLINKS: Op-ed on the history of ordination of women and the SBCShaunti Feldhahn's original surveyDouble-barrelled questionsStudy on shoulder-to-shoulder communicationThe Authoritarians book  Breakdown of Eggerichs misunderstanding marital rape and saying you can't tell if a woman is arousedPodcast about the mystery of a woman being "turned on"Dr. Shauna Springer's original PsychologyToday articleEXPERT INTERVIEWEES INFORMATION: Dr. Chuck DeGroat Dr. Shauna Springer Dr. Andrew Bauman Dr. Beth Felkner Jones and her Substack Jay Stringer and his book DesireSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

What if nurturing a healthy, shame-free sex life could actually help us become calmer, more patient parents? In this heartfelt and honest conversation, Wendy Snyder is joined by Christian sex educator Carlie Palmer-Webb to explore the powerful connection between intimacy, nervous system regulation, and the way we show up for our families. Together, they unpack how harmful purity culture messages have left many adults disconnected from their bodies, their desire, and their sense of safety, and how healing our relationship with sex can ripple outward into our marriages and parenting. Carlie shares her personal journey growing up in purity culture, why so many women struggle with shame, pain, or obligation around sex, and how education, compassion, and curiosity can open the door to truly connected intimacy. Wendy reflects on how emotional and physical connection in marriage fuels patience, regulation, and resilience at home, especially for parents working hard to break generational cycles. This episode is a validating, hopeful invitation for couples to reclaim intimacy as something life-giving, empowering, and deeply supportive of the family legacy they're building. ➡️ Head to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.freshstartfamilyonline.com/309⁠⁠⁠ for more info and links.

If you want a practical next step to bring clarity to your dating life and relationships, start here: https://py.pl/3PRNtGKdI5hIf you're newly married (or engaged) and quietly wondering,“Why didn't anyone tell us this part?” — you're not crazy, and you're not alone!This episode will help you:- Relax if married sex feels awkward, slow, or different than you imagined- Stop spiraling if things don't feel like fireworks right away- Feel less pressure to “get it right” and more freedom to grow into it- Get practical clarity on sex, money, roles, and spiritual rhythms without shameIf you waited for marriage and thought intimacy would instantly click — or if money stress, expectations, or tension showed up sooner than you expected — this conversation will help you breathe again.You'll walk away with:- A healthier way to think about intimacy (connection over performance)- Permission to take your time without feeling behind or broken- Simple rhythms that actually help unity grow- A reminder that marriage isn't about perfection — it's about learning how to walk through real life togetherThis is especially for you if you're in your first year of marriage, newly engaged, or realizing that marriage is beautiful and stretching at the same time.You're not failing. You're just learning. And that's normal.CHAPTERS:00:00 – Nobody Prepares You for This in Marriage01:10 – “We Waited… Why Does Sex Feel Hard?”02:45 – Expectations, Shame, and Unspoken Baggage05:00 – Taking Pressure Off the Wedding Night06:45 – Redefining “Fireworks” and Intimacy10:30 – Why Money Hits Deeper Than You Expect13:10 – Budget Meetings That Don't Create More Fights14:35 – Why Spiritual Intimacy Doesn't Happen Automatically16:50 – Marriage Roles Rarely Look Like You Imagined19:30 – Unity Matters More Than Getting It Right

FEATURING: Rhonda Stoppe ORGANIZATION: No Regrets Woman Rhonda Stoppe joins Jim & Martha Brangenberg on iRetire4Him to talk honestly about marriage, mentoring, and purpose in the retirement years. Drawing from her own story, Rhonda explains why “old ladies know stuff” isn’t about having it all together but about sharing wisdom shaped by both faithfulness and failure. She addresses the rise of “gray divorce,” the lie that happiness comes after leaving a long-term marriage, and why retirement requires couples to intentionally create new rhythms. Rhonda shares practical insights on staying connected in marriage, setting healthy boundaries in mentoring relationships, and avoiding the trap of becoming roommates in this season of life. Rhonda also gives a glimpse into life after her husband Steve’s retirement, from ranch life and caring for family to cheering each other on as callings shift but don’t disappear. She encourages retirees to step into mentoring roles, build new and deep community, and stay spiritually engaged rather than checking out. The conversation highlights Rhonda’s podcast, Old Ladies Know Stuff, along with several of her books, including The Marriage Mentor (co-written with her husband Steve), Moms Raising Sons to Be Men, A Christian Woman’s Guide to Great Sex and Marriage, and her upcoming release Moms of the Bible. Check them out! Other episode mentions: Past interview with Rhonda and her husband Steve from iWork4Him: “Marriage Mentoring Saves Marriages” iRetire4Him Podcast episode featuring Cynthia Ruchti, discussing her book Spouse in the House Rhonda is speaking at the Legacy Grandparenting Summit in Dallas, March 19–21, and invites you to come, too. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In today's episode, hosts Laurie and George are taking listeners to the islands! Islands of Security explores the places where secure attachment lives—those small but powerful moments where partners feel safe, seen, and able to find each especially during times of struggle. You'll walk away from this show with great ideas on how to develop more islands of security through intentional connection, imperfect action, meeting caregiving needs and managing the high and low roads. Set your calendars for September 2026 to pick up a copy of our book Brave Love, Great Sex and make sure to follow us on our socials @BraveLoveGreatSex Please check out our wonderful sponsors (and support the pod!):WE-VIBE.com and use code BRAVELOVE for 20% off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a textPart one of a three-part docuseries deep dive into the best-selling evangelical marriage book, Love & Respect.THE LOVE & RESPECT DOCUSERIES:This is a video series, so if you want to watch it in all its glory, head over to https://youtu.be/z3EEAkjwcXA!To see episodes 2 & 3 when they launch next week, subscribe to the Good Fruit Faith ChannelThis podcast delves into the broken logic of Love & Respect, why so many people bought into it, and the truly bizarre nature of what passes for evangelical marriage advice.Copyright Disclaimer: - Under section 107 of the copyright Act 1976, allowance is mad for FAIR USE for purpose such a as criticism, comment, news reporting, teaching, scholarship and research. Fair use is a use permitted by copyright statues that might otherwise be infringing. Non- Profit, educational or personal use tips the balance in favor of FAIR USE. All DVD clips and quotes from the book are used for criticism and teaching, and therefore fall under fair use.BONUS CONTENTGain bonus content, full videos of the interviews and MORE if you become a patron! https://patreon.com/baremarriageLINKS:Support Good Fruit FaithOur paper, Sanctified SexismOur one sheet on the problems with Love & RespectEXPERT INTERVIEWEES INFORMATION:Chuck DeGroat: https://www.chuckdegroat.net/Chuck's book, "When Narcissism Comes to Church"Andrew Bauman: https://andrewjbauman.com/Andrew's book, "The Sexually Healthy Man" -----Music Attribution“In the Dark” performed by BlockBeatz/stock.adobe.com“Romantic Smooth Rock (O Mundo Gira)” performed by Yummy Tunes/stock.adobe.com“Gentle Relaxed Smooth Jazz (Soul Power)” performed by Tasty Tunes/stock.adobe.comSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Why do so many good marriages struggle with intimacy?In this episode of the Naked Sunday Podcast, Caleb Nelson sits down with marriage and intimacy coach Dan Purcell to talk about why strong relationships often hit a wall when it comes to sex, communication, and connection.Dan shares his personal story of growing up in a conservative environment, having a great marriage on paper, and realizing there was a whole deeper level of intimacy he and his wife were never taught to explore. That discovery didn't just improve their sex life, it improved their communication, health, confidence, and overall happiness.This conversation goes beyond techniques and talks about the patterns that keep couples stuck, including people-pleasing, fear of conflict, and losing yourself inside the relationship.In this episode, we talk about:• Why intimacy struggles are more common than people admit• How avoiding conflict quietly kills connection• The difference between codependence and healthy partnership• Why sexual conflict can be an invitation to grow• How personal growth impacts attraction and desire• What it takes to build long-term passion in marriageConnect with DanWebsite: https://getyourmarriageon.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/getyourmarriageon/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/getyourmarriageon/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCYQphX4IJhjtLquH0dkKq4Q

Send us a textToday I'm talking with Dr. Steven Tracy, author of "To Heal or Harm," about how scripture has been twisted to keep abuse victims trapped. We're diving into passages that discuss things like, "wives submit," "God hates divorce," and "a gentle answer turns away wrath" to show what they actually mean in context. And spoiler alert: none of them tell victims to stay in abuse. If you've ever felt like the Bible was being used against you, or if you're a pastor who wants to understand how to truly help abuse victims, this conversation is essential.PLUS: A special announcement with Rebecca you won't want to miss!TO HEAL OR TO HARM: Get the book here!COMING SOON:Subscribe to the Good Fruit Faith channel for our Love & Respect podcast coming soon!TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED: Mending the Soul websiteReporting on John MacArthur excommunicating Eileen Gray for leaving her abusive husbandSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Send us a textWe're tackling three really problematic things that have happened recently with evangelical leaders that show just how low the bar has gotten for men. From Jonathan Podluka announcing he wants to sleep with multiple beautiful women, to pastors responding to Philip Yancey's affair by saying "it could be any of us," to Tim Challies telling people in miserable marriages to just stick it out until they die—it's all connected to this theology that refuses to hold men accountable and tells women they just need to accept it. The common thread? A theology of male hierarchy that steals intimacy from marriages, justice from victims, and Jesus from people who are hurting.TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED: Tim Challies' article on if you chose poorlyMy article about Philip YanceyMy reel with the clips of Jonathan PokludaSheila's Baptist News article about Jonathan Podluka's 2023 sermon, and my new op ed about his recent commentsSarah Diefendorf's peer-reviewed articles about men's accountability groupsMy recommended books on walking through porn problemsSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) I'm 32 and should be at my prime sexually, but feel like I'm an intensely boring lover. I want to be wild and uninhibited, and the sort of lover men think about for the rest of their lives. But I'm so vanilla, I don't even know how to be wildly sexy, or what sort of things that would include.2) I'm happily married, but, like anyone in a monogamous relationship, a bit bored. I have never had a threesome, but would love to have one. My fear is that even asking my wife to have one will lead to her never talking to me ever again. How can I suss her out without causing issues?3) Our last ever question on SexTok isn't a question—it's a round-up of what Kelsey and Tracey think are the most important things to do if you want to be a happy couple. Some tips to live your life by...To contact Tracey: Email her at traceycoxtherapy@gmail or message her on Instagram @traceycoxsexauthorStarting in 2026, Tracey is offering a problem solving service, based on decades of writing and researching sex and relationships. It's a unique three-session package done via Zoom, chat, email, or phone. In the first session, you'll tell her your problem. In the second, she'll suggest solutions. In the third session, she'll troubleshoot and come up with a plan for the future. Straightforward, practical advice that's simple to follow—and works.Want a copy of Tracey's book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Send us a textToday I'm talking with Lydia Grace about her incredible new book, Bible Truth About Women. Lydia grew up in the ultra-conservative IBLP circles and went to seminary to answer her own questions about what the Bible really says about women's roles. What she discovered was shocking: there are ore than 120 misleading tactics that complementarians use to prop up male authority that simply isn't in the original Greek. This is the comprehensive resource we've been waiting for that addresses every major passage about women in one place.TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED: Get Bible Truth about Women by Lydia Kaiser! Kindle available now, or Pre-order the paperbackBare Marriage podcast playlists for people getting introduced to our podcastSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) I'm dating again after a divorce and have met a new man I really like, but I'm convinced he's faking orgasms. Why would he do this, and should I say something?2) I've been with my new girlfriend for four months, and although I've given her oral sex every single time we make love, not once has she offered to reciprocate. I've made jokes about it, but she says it's just never been something she's keen on, although she doesn't have any real objections. I thought things would change as she felt more comfortable, but they haven't. How do I handle this?3) I have a smaller than average penis. It's never been a problem with girlfriends because I give lots of oral sex. It doesn't bother me—if anything, it's made me a better lover because I can't rely on penetration. But every girlfriend has registered surprise when she first sees it. Should I warn potential lovers beforehand, or just make a joke when all is revealed, which is what I do now? I don't want to make women feel uncomfortable.To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey's book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When it comes to inspiring millions of people to have healthier, happier, more exciting sex lives and unlocking endless pleasure, Emily Morse delivers overtime. The New York Times called her “the Dr. Ruth of our generation”, and in the 2nd part of this 2-part episode with Emily, the conversation gets extra spicy! Get ready to take notes with Emily as we learn how to unleash our fun, playful, curious side in the bedroom. This means we're saying so long to BAD SEX and hello to the BEST SEX EVER! In this episode Emily reveals exactly why your sexual health and wellness is the #1 priority: *Stop faking orgasms and a great sex life when you can have the real thing *Doing this will teach you to have better orgasms *Enjoying more sex starts with this (are you doing it?) Stay tuned to find out more… Don't miss Emily's new book, Smart Sex: ⁠https://www.amazon.com/Smart-Sex-Boost-Your-Pleasure/dp/0778387100⁠  Follow Emily Morse: Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠  YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/sexwithemily⁠  Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠  Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠  Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/SexWithEmily⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Emily Morse has been revolutionizing millions of people's sex lives and unlocking endless pleasure with her award winning podcast, Sex with Emily. The New York Times called her “the Dr. Ruth of our generation”, and homie, she delivers big time. She's joining me today in this 2 part episode to help women like you (and me) unleash your inner seductress, embrace desire and pleasure, while you tap into the best sex of your life, which means we're saying so long to bad sex and hello to more orgasms (yes please!). Achieving pleasure can be such a challenge for women. But enough is enough! We're boldly going where most men fear to go to put an end to madness and have the BEST SEX of our lives: *What's the biggest key to mind-blowing sex *What can same sex couples teach heterosexual couples about great sex *What has to be your #1 goal in the bedroom  You'll have to listen up to find out all of this and more… Don't miss Emily's new book, Smart Sex: ⁠https://www.amazon.com/Smart-Sex-Boost-Your-Pleasure/dp/0778387100⁠  Follow Emily Morse: Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠  YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/sexwithemily⁠  Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠  Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠  Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/SexWithEmily⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Sex-positive” is a term that gets used a lot these days, but it doesn't always mean the same thing to everyone. Sometimes it's about sexual openness or enthusiasm, other times it's about respect for sexual diversity, and sometimes it's even used in coercive ways. In this episode, we explore what sex-positivity actually is, and what it isn't. I am joined once again by Dr. Carol Queen, the staff sexologist, Company Historian, and Curator of the Antique Vibrator Museum at Good Vibrations. A noted cultural sexologist whose work has been widely published, she’s written and edited several books, including The Sex & Pleasure Book: Good Vibrations Guide to Great Sex for Everyone. Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include: What are the core features of sex-positivity? What are some common usages of the term that miss the mark? Why is it important to separate sex-positivity from things like sexual behavior, frequency, and identity? How can you recognize when sex-positivity is being used coercively rather than ethically? How can you apply sex-positive values in everyday life? You can click here to learn more about Dr. Carol Queen. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors!  Wrap the ones you love in luxury with Cozy Earth. Discover bedtime bliss with Cozy Earth’s bamboo sheet set and loungewear. Using code JUSTIN to get 40% off your purchase.  Soaking Wet from VB Health is the world’s first probiotic specifically designed for vaginal and vulva health and wellness. It’s a doctor formulated blend of prebiotics, probiotics, and vitamins specifically designed to restore balance and increase lubrication. Visit vb.health and use code JUSTIN for 10% off. The Kinsey Institute is where the world turns to understand sex and relationships. You can help continue its expert-led research by donating to the Kinsey Institute Research Fund. Learn more and make a donation here: https://give.myiu.org/centers-institutes/I380010749.html  *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Bluesky to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

Send us a textWe're kicking off 2026 by teaching you how to think critically about Christian marriage and relationship advice! Rebecca and I walk through some really problematic articles and social media posts - from the Gospel Coalition's piece against therapy to Tilly Dillehay's tandem bike marriage metaphor - and show you exactly why they make us feel unsafe. We'll teach you how to spot red flags, question who benefits from this advice, and why prioritizing your safety and discernment isn't selfish - it's Biblical.TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED: The Desiring God article on tandem bikesThe Gospel Coalition article on therapyOur book The Marriage You Want, and the video series that goes with itThe study on followership behaviourSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) My wife has an extremely high libido. I know that sounds like every man's dream, but it's not. My sex drive has never been that high, but hers is through the roof. I thought we'd even out when we had kids, and her libido did calm down for a while. But three years later, she's wanting sex every day. It's emasculating, and I don't know how to deal with this. She's okay when I say 'no,' but I worry she'll seek sex elsewhere.2) I've just gotten together with my boyfriend and we're going to stay with my parents for the holidays. We're in our early 20s and don't want to go without sex for two weeks, but I also would die if my parents heard us or guessed. Any tips for quiet, undetectable sex?3) My new girlfriend is really into what she calls 'power games.' I have never tried anything like that but am intrigued. She knows all about it and I am guessing she will take charge, but can you give me a heads up for the type of thing I might expect?To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey's book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sex shops are more than just retail spaces. In fact, they're often where people actually learn about sex. When formal sex ed fails, sex shops step in to answer questions about bodies, pleasure, and desire. In this episode, we’re exploring how sex shops became unexpected sex educators, and what we can learn from that. My guest is Dr. Carol Queen, the staff sexologist, Company Historian, and Curator of the Antique Vibrator Museum at Good Vibrations. A noted cultural sexologist whose work has been widely published, she’s written and edited several books, including The Sex & Pleasure Book: Good Vibrations Guide to Great Sex for Everyone. Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include: How did sex shops become one of the main places people actually learn about sex? How did Good Vibrations completely change what a sex shop could be? What questions are people really bringing into sex shops when they walk through the door? How do you train retail staff to be responsible sex educators — not just good salespeople? You can click here to learn more about Dr. Carol Queen. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors!  Soaking Wet from VB Health is the world’s first probiotic specifically designed for vaginal and vulva health and wellness. It’s a doctor formulated blend of prebiotics, probiotics, and vitamins specifically designed to restore balance and increase lubrication. Visit vb.health and use code JUSTIN for 10% off. Firmtech’s Tech Ring will help you to track your sexual health–and keep it up. Visit myfirmtech.com/justinlehmiller and use code JUSTIN15 for 15% off your purchase.  Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you’ll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Bluesky to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

With the new year, the podcast gets a new name! Brave Love Great Sex! The same great content, the same great hosts! We're aligning the podcast with our new book that will be out in 2026 from Penguin Random House. Pre order it today. Check out this episode's sponsors (and help the pod!): RexMD.com/foreplay -- Discrete, convenient support for ED. Shipped directly to you. Use the link for up to 95% off your first order. Uberlube.com -- Laurie's all time favorite personal lubricant. If you haven't tried it yet, it's a new year! Use the code 'BRAVELOVE' to get 10% off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this week's episode of The John Cash Show Podcast, we are discussing how great sex makes you stupid and much more!! Make sure to subscribe to the Official John Cash Show Podcast YouTube Channel! #Love #Relationships #LoveLife #Adulting #HappyNewYear #NYE #CNN #Laughs #Comedy #Folded #Khelani

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) My partner does the same moves in the same order every single time we have sex. How do I break the routine without bruising his ego? I like what he does, but can't be doing this for the rest of my life.2) My boyfriend loses his erection during sex, but not when he's having solo sex. How do we fix this without making it worse?3) I feel guilty that my fantasies never involve my partner. Is that normal?To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey's book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Before discussing today's show, I'd like to provide some updates on what to expect from the podcast in 2026. First of all, there will be no more Behind the Sessions episodes. There could also be changes in the frequency of episodes at some point, but we'll see how that goes. Life shifts and different needs arise that are pulling me in other directions. Everyone has times when shifts are needed to make space for pressing needs, and that's what I'm experiencing in my life. I'm still excited about the show and the ten-year milestone that we'll reach in 2026. Remember, the archive of episodes (almost 500!) is always available through our website.  Today's episode brings important information about how parenthood changes everything, including your sex life. There are new complexities to intimacy and sex after having a child, and parents need to be prepared so they can protect their connection. Our expert guest answers questions about why passion fades, the sexual-emotional cycle that couples get stuck in, and the path back to each other in your relationship. Join us to learn more! Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy is an AASECT-certified sex therapist and the author of Parents in Love: A Guide to Great Sex After Kids. Certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy, she helps couples navigate sex, desire, and connection in the whirlwind of parenting, even when life and kids make it feel impossible.  Show Highlights: Understanding the role of a sex therapist, what sex therapy entails, and Rebecca's journey to be a sex therapist Identity shifts and body changes that come with having a baby can greatly affect your sex life. There is much shame and stigma around talking about sex and sexuality. The need to be flexible and curious with your partner Factors that impact a couple's ability to connect and be intimate: time, hormones, exhaustion, and resentment Focusing on the “micromoments” to show your connection to your partner Common themes in sex therapy for new parents Reinvesting in the partnership and understanding each other's intimacy needs The need for disconnection and solitude (Everyone needs alone time!) The difficult mental shift from “Mommy mode” to adult partner Dealing with mismatched levels of desire, which could become more pronounced after kids Dr. Rebecca's tips for finding your way back to your partner: Become comfortable talking about sex. Be flexible during the early-parent years. Be open to other intimacies besides intercourse. Consider scheduling sexual activity. Make sure your partner feels seen, appreciated, and desired. Find ways to protect your time for intimacy. The importance of pleasure in all forms of intimacy (“Nobody wants bad sex!”) Resources: Connect with Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy: Website, Instagram, and Parents in Love: A Guide to Great Sex After Kids Call the National Maternal Mental Health Hotline at 1-833-TLC-MAMA or visitcdph.ca.gov. Please find resources in English and Spanish at Postpartum Support International, or by phone/text at 1-800-944-4773.  There are many free resources, like online support groups, peer mentors, a specialist provider directory, and perinatal mental health training for therapists, physicians, nurses, doulas, and anyone who wants to be more supportive in offering services. You can also follow PSI on social media: Instagram, Facebook, and most other platforms. Visit www.postpartum.net/professionals/certificate-trainings/for information on the grief course.  Visit my website, www.wellmindperinatal.com, for more information, resources, and courses you can take today!  If you are a California resident seeking a therapist in perinatal mental health, please email me about openings for private pay clients. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In today's episode, we are focusing on tending to the 'Ghost of Christmas Present' so the 'Ghost of Christmas Future' can reap the relational benefits! Join our experts, Dr. Laurie and George Faller, hosts of the newly branded Brave Love, Great Sex podcast for this fun episode on resolution and renewal. Our hosts use an example of their role play couple, Joey and Maria to illustrate just what it looks like when the negative cycle is cooled off and they have a better way to move forward. In this stage repair is easily initiated and partners can move forward from conflict in a more positive way. George and Laurie share some active ways couples can continue to strengthen connection and intimacy at this time. This looks like identifying triggers, planning time to connect during busy periods, sharing small moments like morning coffees or kisses goodbye, being explicit with appreciation. We hold out for couples stuck in negative cycles that this place of connection does exist! As the New Year approaches, this is a perfect time to consider what relationship resolutions to set and how to renew and refresh as you step into 2026.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) I have just found out my wife fakes her orgasms sometimes. We've been together for seven years. She recently asked me if we could use her vibrator during intercourse so she doesn't need to fake it. I am shocked. I had no idea, and feel hurt and angry that she didn't tell me this before. Sh explained that she finds it difficult to climax during intercourse, which is interesting because none of my other partners have had this issue.2) With my consent, my boyfriend films us every single time we have sex—which is a lot. We've been together 18 months and his libido is still as high as it was at the start. He says he watches the videos and uses them to masturbate. Is this normal, or could it be an indication that he is a sex addict or up to no good? We're both in our 30s.3) I have a very average sex life. My libido is low and I'm unadventurous in bed. I have a good relationship with my mother and asked her if this was the case with her. She said it was. Does this mean you can blame your parents if you have a rubbish sex life?To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey's book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The holiday season is here and in today's episode we are talking about giving and receiving gifts in your relationship. What does this ritual mean to you and which are you more comfortable with? George and Laurie share their thoughts and some of their favorite gifts and memories over the years. Laurie suggests that partners keep a running list of their loved ones' likes so when it comes time to get a gift you already have ideas handy. It's best if gifts are thoughtful and have your partner feel seen rather than buying something just because. Intentional gift-giving can spark connection and provide lasting memories. On the other hand, gifts that don't consider your partner or create pressure can lead to a negative cycle. What is one holiday gift or ritual that makes you feel good and inspires connection? Share with us on our instagram page! We wish all our listeners a happy holiday season and thank you for your continued  support! We hope you continue to listen in the new year and celebrate as we transition to our new brand Brave Love, Great Sex! Keep it hot and ho, ho, ho, y'all! Check out this episode's sponsors (and help the pod!): RexMD.com -- Reliable, discrete ED support! RexMD offers a simple, private path to get ED meds like Viagra, Cialis, or generics. RexMD is giving up to 95% off during the holidays! Call them today. Uberlube.com -- Laurie's long-time favorite personal lubricant! Simply the best! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a textWe're coming full circle from our podcast on right-wing authoritarianism to talk about that viral Oklahoma student essay and why Christians rallying around bad arguments makes all Christians look terrible. Then Keith and I get vulnerable about how our faith has changed over the last few years—from realizing faith isn't just about beliefs, to understanding who Jesus actually called out (spoiler: not "the world"), to reframing the concept of sin as form of brokenness that God truly understands and has deep compassion for (as opposed to the angry God who is mad at us all the time). We'll also share some of the exciting things coming in 2026!JOIN OUR FUNDRAISING CAMPAIGN!Help us raise money to fund our research, our new podcast docuseries, and our translation projects! Give through the Good Fruit Faith Initiative (tax deductible within the United States) or join our Patreon!CHECK OUT THE RESOURCES MENTIONED:The Whole Story puberty courseThe Great Sex RescueTO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED: Our podcast on Right Wing AuthoritarianismSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) Why do orgasms feel so much better when you're on your own? When it's just me and my vibrator, they are consistently intense and satisfying. It's very hit and miss with my partner, even if he's giving me oral sex (which is the only thing that works for me).2) In one of your previous podcasts, Tracey suggested that couples who'd been together for years might spice things up by visiting a sex club. My wife of two decades and I just did this—and we LOVED it. We just watched and soaked in the intensely erotic atmosphere. Now, we want to go back and this time have sex with each other at the club—maybe even invite others to join. Any advice on how to do this? How do we decide on our boundaries, and how do we stick to them in the heat of the moment?3) We only ever have ‘efficient' sex because we're tired parents. How do we stop being productivity machines and start being lovers again?To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey's book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode (#311), we respond to a vulnerable question from an addict early in recovery who wonders whether years of porn use have permanently damaged his ability to see his wife as the most attractive person in his life. He worries that neurological “chemical bonding” to porn images and body types means he will always be more attached to fantasy than to his real partner—and that his wife may be committing to a lifetime of being second-best. We affirm that pornography does significantly impact the brain, altering arousal templates and reinforcing dopamine-driven bonding to novelty and visual stimulation. However, this chemical bonding represents only one small aspect of human attachment, and the brain is both neuroplastic and capable of profound healing and expansion in recovery.We then challenge the cultural illusion that attraction is purely biological, automatic, and based solely on physical appearance. From movies to music to porn, society teaches an adolescent model of attraction that reduces human beings to bodies and chemistry and frames attraction as something that “just happens” to us. This narrow view leaves people powerless and sets relationships up to fail—especially when addiction is layered on top. In contrast, we describe attraction as a force that can be cultivated, expanded, diminished, or redirected based on what we value and where we invest our energy. Attraction grows through curiosity, presence, appreciation, and intentional engagement—not through comparison or novelty-seeking.Finally, we emphasize that the real question is not whether a partner can “compete” with porn, but whether the addict is willing to fundamentally change how they understand and practice attraction. Porn never teaches holistic attraction—it teaches consumption without connection. In recovery, addicts are invited to truly see their partner as a whole human being, appreciating not just physical appearance but character, sacrifice, shared history, and emotional depth. The prognosis for attraction is not fixed or predetermined; it is shaped by choice, maturity, and investment. When attraction is approached holistically, porn cannot compete—and many addicts find that what they feared was lost forever is something they are only just beginning to discover.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:   After Years of Porn Use, Will I Ever See My Partner as the 'Most Attractive" Person in My Life?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

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Send us a textKeith and I went through 10 clips from evangelical influencers and pastors that have been driving people crazy all year. We break down why Josh Howerton's claims about conservative mental health don't hold up, why blaming women for divorce is absurd, and how complementarian teaching about male authority actually contradicts what Jesus taught.JOIN OUR FUNDRAISING CAMPAIGN!Help us raise money to fund our research, our new podcast docuseries, and our translation projects! Give through the Good Fruit Faith Initiative (tax deductible within the United States) or join our Patreon!CHECK OUT THE RESOURCES MENTIONED:The Whole Story puberty courseThe Marriage You WantOur Great Sex Rescue Toolkit to respond to pastors and friendsTO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED: 2025 study on conservativism & mental healthThe 2015 study on conservatives and happinessThe 2021 study on women's health in sexist churchesOur study on women's sexual health in conservative spacesOur podcast on why women seek divorceReport on Child Marriage in the US Report on Child Marriage in Canada Our article responding to Josh Howerton's claims that evanSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) I've been married a long time and our kids are about to graduate—the pressure is finally off. I'm as happy as you can be with someone you've been with for 25-odd years. Meaning, I'm also bored. I've paid my dues, and I want some excitement. There's a man in my life that's paying me a lot of attention. Am I bad for thinking that if I'm discreet and careful, I kind of deserve to have fun?2) Do you have a solution for the age-old problem for everyone who has sex: If one of you orgasms first—usually the woman, because ‘she comes first' is a good motto—how do you maintain interest? Once you've climaxed, the horniness disappears and everything is half-hearted.3) What is the etiquette these days for STI testing with a new partner? I've only had one sexual partner my whole life and am out there dating again. I know what's recommended, but how many people follow these guidelines? I don't want to look out of touch.To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey's book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Send us a textIt's episode 307 of the Bare Marriage podcast! Holly Fletcher joins us to talk about her AMAZING new book Missionary Kids. I devoured it in one sitting. We need to listen to the stories of these kids, because they're a microcosm of white evangelicalism!JOIN OUR FUNDRAISING CAMPAIGN!Help us raise money to fund our research, our new podcast docuseries, and our translation projects! Give through the Good Fruit Faith Initiative (tax deductible within the United States) or join our Patreon!TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED: Check out Missionary Kids by Holly Berkley FletcherHolly's Substack: A Zebra Without StripesHolly on Blue SkyInstagramThreadsEtsy Our book She Deserves BetterSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) I'm reading lots of things on social media that suggest people who are emotionally volatile are better in bed. Is there any truth in this?2) Everyone talks about how having kids ruins your sex life. But no one talks about your wife never wanting sex ever again afterwards. It's been six years since our last child was born, and we now have sex around three times a year. She has zero interest, and tells me I'm not being supportive for wanting sex with her when she's so busy.3) I am a man in his mid-50s and have carried this for years: When I was 12 years old, my mother walked into my bedroom while I was masturbating and humiliated me for it. This has left me with intense shame ever since. How do you get over something like this? I feel uncomfortable even when a sex scene comes on when watching TV with my wife.To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey's book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Send us a textHappy American Thanksgiving! We're rerunning one of my favorite episodes from four years ago where Rebecca and I talk about what God is actually like—spoiler: He laughs and takes joy in life, not just suffers on the cross. We also dive into why our Great Sex Rescue research matters and address all those critiques about our methodology (and yes, we're now peer-reviewed, so that critique doesn't really work anymore). Plus, we tackle that awful Missouri pastor story about "trophy wives" and explain why harmful marriage advice is like thalidomide—it might help some people, but that doesn't mean it's not causing serious damage to others.THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSOROrder Dorothy Greco's book For the Love of Women! Learn why it can feel so difficult to be female in our society, and what we can do about it.TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED: Check out The Great Sex Rescue!Gretchen Baskerville's book The Life Saving DivorceCheck out our new YouTube channel, with our five short videos you can share on key topics we keep returning to time and time again!Our peer reviewed article in Sociology of ReligionA longer article I wrote on the Thalidomide analogySupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) I'm concerned about my daughter. She's a virgin at 24. Once upon a time, a parent's fear was teenage pregnancy. I'm worried because she's not having sex at all. She's beautiful, bright, funny, and has everything going for her, but has never had a boyfriend. I couldn't wait to have sex. What's going on, and should I talk about it with her?2) My boyfriend and I love sex toys. We have lots of toys for me, but nothing for him. He's not into anal play. Other than a penis ring, is there anything else I could treat him to?3) I have a job that requires me to work in a different country quite frequently, often for three or four months at a time. Can you give some practical tips for intimate video calls? My wife is confused by what we'd do, and I don't want it to feel awkward. Should we ‘finish' on camera, or would that be too much?To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey's book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Send us a textComplementarians use a lot of really nice-sounding words to describe their beliefs about gender roles, but when you actually break down what they mean, they're not talking about roles at all—they're talking about hierarchy. In this episode, Keith and I decode all the euphemisms like "different roles," "servant leadership," and "his headship is for your protection" to show what complementarians are really saying: that men should be in authority over women. The problem is, when you actually implement these beliefs in marriage, we see relationships struggle—and the statistics bear that out. And we work directly against the gospel, putting the husband in the place of Jesus. THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSOROrder Dorothy Greco's book For the Love of Women which just launched this week!TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED: "The Marriage You Want" book on Amazon, or get the curriculum and video series from Baker Books"The Bible vs. Biblical Womanhood" by Philip Payne"How God Sees Women" by Terran WilliamsRebecca Groothuis essay on "Equal in Being, Unequal in Function"Previous podcast episode on John Piper's "harsh husband" advice Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Send us a textWe're diving into part two of our discussion on Francine Rivers' "And the Shofar Blew.” While Christian fiction can be inspirational, this novel reinforces dangerous theology about marriage, telling abuse victims to stay and suffer "better," portraying women who report pastoral abuse as liars, and presenting an incredibly sexist view of women's roles in the church as normal and godly. Join me and my friends Merry, Sarah, and Joanna as we unpack why books like these—even though they're just fiction—profoundly shape how Christian women understand marriage, faith, and their own worth.THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSOROrder Dorothy Greco's book For the Love of Women which just launched this week!TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED: Find Sarah McDugal on FacebookSarah's help for women healing from betrayal trauma: www.wildernesstowild.comFor women navigating high-conflict divorce or custody: My Freedom NavigatorFind Dr. Merry Lin's book "Rebecoming" and listen in to her Bare Marriage podcast episode!Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Send us a textWe're doing something we've never done before—looking at a Christian fiction book to explore how fiction shapes our theology of marriage. Today we're discussing Francine Rivers' "And the Shofar Blew.” We're talking about how fiction doesn't give explicit advice but still profoundly influences our worldview about faith and marriage, and how even books with problematic messages can become part of our theological foundation without us realizing it. THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSOROrder Dorothy Greco's book For the Love of Women which just launched this week!TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED: Find Sarah McDugal on FacebookSarah's help for women healing from betrayal trauma: www.wildernesstowild.comFor women navigating high-conflict divorce or custody: My Freedom NavigatorFind Dr. Merry Lin's book "Rebecoming" and listen in to her Bare Marriage podcast episode!Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Send us a textEver been told you're complaining too much about how women are treated because "things are so much better now"? Yeah, me too. In this episode, I sit down with journalist and author Dorothy Greco to talk about her new book For the Love of Women, and we dig into why sexism is absolutely still alive and well—and how it's affecting all of us in ways we might not even realize. This conversation is going to help you connect the dots, give you language to talk about it, and remind you that no, you're not crazy.THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSOROrder Dorothy Greco's book For the Love of Women which just launched this week!TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED:Dorothy Greco's websiteDorothy's Substack: "What's Faith Got to Do With It" The song Not All Men by Morgan St. JeanSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Amy and T.J. spent the day listening to Taylor Swift’s new album “The Life of a Showgirl” and then read all the critical reviews. Taylor’s lyrics appear to highlight her sex life with fiancé Travis Kelce and shine a light on some pop beef she may have with Kelce’s ex Kayla Nicole and singer Charli XCX… details that did not go unnoticed by the critics and fans alike. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.