Stay Open

I think it's time to come clean with some things...Stay Open will be no longer. APRIL FOOLS. I'm not going ANYWHERE BABY. In this week's episode I "smell the roses" if you will. Partake in the green good, if you will. And this episode dives deep into a lot of topics. Including but not limited to: child acting and how I was an actress in Hollywood as a child, Tik Tok stars Alix Earle and Pookie, legislation I would write around Mary Jane, and if I'm running for President. Buckle up, strap in, and light a J. This episode is so fun.

I am absolutely unhinged in this episode, but it is a gem if I do say so myself. This week is the first installment of "Tea In Your 20's" where I share the pieces of advice and knowledge that I have learned in my 20's. This is not your regular advice. I really want to explore the things that NO ONE TELLS YOU IN YOUR 20's. This episode is for the girls that need a friend to talk you through your drive, carry you through your makeup routine, or just simply to hang out with.

Finding your unique style can be hard when it seems like every day there is a new aesthetic or trend to try on. Especially when trying to find your style is coupled with the constant growth and change of life. So...be whom you want. Try out the trends you like. It's time to take the beige aesthetic up a couple notches by adding a little *spice*.

Cue "Bad Guy" by Billie Eilish. This episode is starting 2024 off with a bang...more like a roar. In ep #34 Arletta invites you to let your inner beat out and speak your mind. Stand up for yourself. Let people know how you really feel. Gone are the days where we sit by and play the innocent, nice, content little girl. In 2024, women are here to let their strength and light show. Your inner beast is a gift-a power. Stop hiding her away just to appease everyone around you. Your inner beast deserves to be heard.

Happy few days after Christmas! The winter cold took me down and this was the best I got. Enjoy this little episode where I share my favorite material items that I could NOT have lived without in 2023. A little gift guide if you will. As well as a cute little Christmas tree story of how Zach and I found our lollipop tree this year. I hope you had a fabulous holiday

In a culture of over consumption, toxic behavior, and demanding distractions-it's time to cut out the bullsh*t. In this episode, Arlee talks about ridding that bull and cutting out the things that no longer serve us.

The new and improved Stay Open show is back and better than ever. In this New Years Special, Arlee dives into her 2023, how she is learning to stay consistent when one faces failure and takes you alongside her one woman show.

You know those days where you just cry at the drop of a hat?! That was me in this episode. *Insert feel good conversations about topics that didn't make me want to cry. This week I pick up where we left off with Scandoval, and dive into the season finale of Vanderpump. That somehow leads to THE SHANIA TWAIN CONCERT described and analyzed in full detail by me (which was great but I have some THINGS TO SAY). I then just have a real talk with where I'm at in this season of life. I'm in my Slow Girl Summer Era, microdosing, saying no, and listening to what I need. 

I'm back bitchesss…did you miss me? After taking 1 year off, Arletta is back to talk about where she's been and what she's been doing. This episode is like catching up with an old friend and gives you all the feel good energy of just getting the chance to finally spill the tea. If you are as obsessed with SCANDOVAL as Arlee is, then buckle up because she dives into the nitty gritty details of the (reality) scandal of the century. As well as discussing the art of working ON your life NOT in it. Is this episode chaotic?Maybe. But it wouldn't be a proper dysfunctional guide without coming back in true Arletta form. Sit back, relax, and enjoy this episode!

Such a large part of our 20's is people pleasing and growing pains. We try to fit ourselves into old roles that we used to fill. But with age comes maturity and with maturity comes growth. It is okay to no longer feel like you fit. It is okay to change who you are. Hell, it is okay to change the music you like, the friends you hang out with, the style of your clothes. You are who YOU say you are. Not the person who everyone else wants you to be. 

Oh this week's episode is a good one! I am joined by my husband to discuss and talk about all things weddings. I mean in this episode we seriously share it all. We talk about our engagement story, how that lead to an elopement and me walking down the aisle no more than 24 hrs later.  I have wanted to share this story since the moment it happened, and its finally time! Listen for the deets on marriage, eloping, first year drama, all things weddings. 

In this weeks episode I talk about something that I have wanted to talk about for a long time. It is hard to learn how to celebrate your own wins. As we grow older, we learn that no one else is responsible for our happiness and success. We have to be the ones to believe in ourselves. You have to be the one to clap for yourself and celebrate your own wins. This has been one of the most important lessons that I've learned in my 20's!

On today's episode I answer my best Ask Arlee (aka me) questions. Let's catch up and discuss your burning questions. This episode gives you a little bit of everything. We cover topics like burn out and ways that I've learned to prevent it. I discuss where I'm at with wedding planning  and give some advice on military relationships and big life transitions in a small period of time. 

Nothing a little chat with your virtual besties can't fix. In this weeks episode I dive in to all of the things I learned on my 26th year on this earth. I share the secret behind feeling like a bad bitch and how to found the inner confidence at 27 to spend my birthday alone. 

This episode is all about toxic relationships, boundaries, and how to handle someone you may know that is going through a toxic relationship. 

Pour yourself a tequila floater and strap in because this weeks episode is a crazy a** ride. This episode is all about ONE of my FAVORITE topics: dating culture in your 20's! And holy moly do I GO IN.  From college dating, to my own personal dating history, we are all over the place in this one. From a very real and honest perspective, I share my own experiences and thoughts on the crazy f*cking ride that is DATING IN YOUR 20's.

This week is all about going back to why I started this podcast in the first place. YOUR 20'S ARE HARD! If you are in this period of your life, you know what I am talking about. Part of why this decade of our lives is so difficult is because we are constantly comparing. THE COMPARISON MONSTER WILL EAT YOU ALIVE!! This time of you life cannot be compared to anyone else's because they are not you. Make mistakes, fail, try new things, push yourself outside of your comfort zone, date a lot of people, or date no one, find yourself, and about all else STAY IN YOUR LANE. 

Listen up ladies (and gents) you are THE main character. You are that bitch. You are dare I say THAT GIRL. And you know what THAT GIRL does? She vibrates on a higher frequency. She sets healthy boundaries, she lives her life like she is THE GIRL (even on the days she doesn't feel like it). In this weeks episode I dive into what it takes to be the main character of your life. 

I think everyone needs to hear this (including myself). STOP GLORIFYING BURNOUT! We do it in our careers, our relationships, to ourselves. It is awful when we constantly push ourselves  to our breaking point. We are not meant to live like that. We need to rejuvenate. We need to take the time to give back to ourselves. Never underestimate the power of refilling your cup. It is so important to prioritize our health and sanity. In this episode I dive in to specifically what I do to prevent my burnouts. 

This one is taking me back to my roots! In this episode I break down and get in to the nitty gritty of all the things that I wish I knew in my early 20's. Honestly, everything I discuss in this episode can be applied to any stage of life. This episode is FULL of tips, tricks, and (unsolicited) advice. I wish I had this episode YEARS AGO! 

When was the last time you celebrated for yourself?  In this weeks episode I just want to chat and remind you to stop and celebrate your wins. It is important to recognize when you have accomplished your goals and are smashing your to do lists. STOP comparing yourself and accept your imperfection as the true perfection in this life! 

On this weeks episode I share my deeply personal body image journey and my own personal struggles with body dysmorphia and diet. Growing older is hard ESPECIALLY in the area of personal love and confidence. I hope this episode will make you feel normal and validate your own personal journey with health, fitness, and being more loving towards your body. 

#15-On this episode I am talking with Delaney Rowe. You may recognize her from Tik Tok. She is a hilarious entertainer that uses her platform on Tik Tok to satirically bring to life different characteristics and stereotypes that we have experienced and interacted with. If you have never seen her work, you MUST look her up. On today’s episode, we discuss what it’s like to be in your 20’s, living in LA, making new friends, self care, staying true to yourself, and how to effectively make content that is aligned with who you are.

Happy almost Valentines Day bitches. I hope you will be grabbing a bottle of wine or an ass to celebrate this glorious day of love. And for my people who hate (we never say hate here we only ever STRONGLY dislike) Valentines Day-this episode is for you. This is my little love treat from my heart to yours. In this episode I dive deep into the #1 lesson that I had to learn before I met Mr. Right. Because let’s face it...Mr. Right now is just a convenience. Ditch his ass, blast this podcast, and lets dive in to what it really takes to handle your soulmate.

Happy first episode of 2021! It can be overwhelming thinking about where to start when you want to make some changes and bring positivity into the new year. In this episode I dive into some ways I love to start out my year. It is all about finding one theme that you are really drawn to, that will keep you on track when we fall out of line. Speaking of falling out of line...I also dive into the importance of cleansing and cleaning our space (physically and metaphorically). We all love a clean girl that appreciates her current reality. Dive into this new episode with me and come out on the other side motivated and ready to conquered this year.

This episode is ALL OVER THE M*THER F!C&ING place. First, can someone please explain to me why everyone and their mother who is washed up from some reality show DECIDES it is their civic duty to start a podcast!!? Please....PLEASE leave the podcast for those of us that feel it is our CALLING. Which brings me to the meat of this episode which is all about throwing out the word RESOLUTION and exclusively using the word GOALS. Because let’s be real-resolutions go to die in the metaphorical graveyard at the end of JANUARY. But not goals honey. Not this year. I am here to equip you with ALL of the positive support and tools to conquer 2021. LET GET IT.

This episode is a shortie but a goodie. If you had anywhere close to the week that I’ve had, you need this episode. It seems that 2020 is going to be relentless until the bitter end. Well you know what?! It takes two to tango bitch. And I refuse to sit back and let 2020 win. In this episode, I set the tone of the last month of this crazy year right: ready to kick it’s ass. I really just wanted to give you a little appetizer if you will to the main course all month. When we encounter a colossal year such as this one, we need to digest it in small bites.

Italy, hot baristas, astrology, stitches, and public health care. This episodes covers a little bit of everything! In this episode I tell the story of how Stay Open started. Where I got the inspiration and how I came to make Stay Open my mantra in life. I also share my new OBSESSION that is bringing light to my life and helping me dig deeper into the person that I am. Enjoy this very Arletta-esk story as I share how I really share the story that defines the meaning of a dysfunctional guide on how to live life from a women in her 20’s.

Who knew when you got engaged that people would act so fucking weird. People come out the the woodwork that you haven’t talked to in FOREVER. Old friends disappear in the midst of (hopefully) one of the happiest times of your life. There is no telling what people’s reactions are going to be. But whether you’re engaged, getting married, having a baby, quitting a job, or going through many of the changes that life throws at us-people ALWAYS have something to say. Well, I have something to say back. This episode is a love letter rant all about the jealousy that I’ve seen in my life and give you a much needed pep talk on how to drown out the negative noise in your life, focus, and spend time on the important things that NEED to get done.

Let’s be honest, we all slip out of our grind sometimes. we go through the ups and downs in life that carry us through the moments where we are on top of our shit and the moments where we fall off. And when we fall off, it can be a bitch getting back on track. Well this is your sign that it’s time to get back on the horse. In this episode I share the key steps that I use to get myself back on track when I slip from my grind.

No one relationship is perfect. And I do not claim to be an expert by any means. However spending the last two years in a long distance relationship has given me quite a bit of insight on the the inner workings of what makes a relationship truly successful. In this episode I finally get the opportunity to bring my favorite human onto the show (my boyfriend). Together we dissect the nitty gritty secrets on what makes our relationship work. The good. The bad. And the ugly.

Do you know that there are multiple copies of yourself out in the world? Each social media platform is a digital copy of you. Your digital self is introduced daily to people you may know and people you may not know. Do you like who people are meeting? It is hard in this crazy world of social media to be the work you, the friend you, the family you. How do you keep them all together without changing into something you aren't? You create a brand. And I'm not talking about a new skincare line. I am talking about the brand of you. In this episode I dissect the importance of persona consistency. Are you thinking about your identity enough?

This episode is the answer to all of your problems. Well...maybe not all, but most of them! For my first guest on the podcast, I bring to you Mr. John Lerew. John Lerew is a Certified Financial Planner, life connoisseur, master of wisdom, and above all things-my dad. I am so honored to have him on this episode and to start this Lif$ Talks special with him. I know that I needed to hear this wisdom just as much as you need to hear it. In this episode, we break down daunting financial topics and dive deep into confusing and often difficult life concepts. His straight forward, intelligent energy is refreshing and the eye-opening conversation that you need to hear today.

I know there are things about your life that you aren't satisfied with. I know you might be living through a tough chapter of your life. I want you to think of this episode as the little paragraph above a tough chapter in a book. You know, the one where the author peps you up as the reader, before diving into the hardest chapter of the book. This is my pep talk to you. This is my personal message to you of validation-that you are in fact exactly where you are supposed to be.

About two years ago I stumbled across a Facebook post that completely changed the way I view the idea of "self care". Sometimes (who am I kidding...most of the time), being an adult means having to be your own parent and to keep yourself accountable for the important things. I have to be careful to catch myself from using trendy self care products- like drawing a bath and popping in a nice fizzy bath bomb to distract me from the ACTUAL self care that I need to be doing. Self care comes in more forms than I think we think about. Especially with markets today, capitalizing on this "self care" movement. In this episode I share with you what I consider to be true self care and how to balance both the fun and the not so fun self care routines needed to stay healthy, strong, and successful.

Every sturdy home starts with a solid foundation. Yourself is no different. It is important to have a solid foundation for which you grow upon. If your mind, body, and soul is your home-then they need to be set on solid ground. This episode will help you break down what I find to be the most important elements to laying and maintaining a solid foundation. There will be storms in our life, but if we cannot weather them, we will crumble. I give you the tools that I use to keep my foundation sound no matter what is going on around me.

Post-grad life is NOT at all what I thought it was going to be. No matter where you are in life, it can be hard to feel like you are on the right path. Especially when social media and the constant influx of content can make you feel like nothing you do is enough. There are days (who am I kidding-most days) where I feel like I can never catch up, be enough, or succeed enough to keep up with everyone else who seems to be in my lane. Well move the F$CK over bitches because this podcast is here to discuss all of the not so talked about topics of what it is REALLY like to live as a young girl in your 20's.