The Divorce Field Guide

There are broad categories of parental rights that you do not need to negotiate for in a divorce, in that they will almost always be included as boilerplate in the custody article of your divorce agreement. Episode 95 takes a look at what subjects these rights touch upon, and what is typically said about them in your agreement.

Should name a legal guardian for your kids in your divorce agreement? And what significance does it have if you decide to do so? All that and more in Episode 94.

A common question that many parents raise is whether and to what degree having been (or not been) the primary caregiver for their children will impact their parental rights in divorce. Episode 93 explores the impact of primary caregiver status on your custody negotiation, in and out of court.

In Episode 92, we look at how your divorce agreement can and does - or does not - regulate each parent's spending on their kids, in particular with regrad to big-ticket items, post divorce. We'll look at how to ensure that your co-parent shares certain big-ticket purchases with you, or how to prevent your co-parent from making certain big-ticket purchases without your buy-in and approval.

How do parents cover health-related expenses for their kids post divorce? What's covered by the term "health-related expenses" in the first place? And what potentially-sticky topics should you give thought to in advance of negotiating this subject in your divorce?

Preserving health insurance coverage for kids is a focus of the divorce process, despite the fact that not much needs to change in kids' health insurance when you divorce. Episode 90 looks at the kid-related health insurance details your divorce agreement will speak to, and how to think through future changes in your kids' insurance.

How does health insurance coverage change for spouses during a divorce - and at what particular points in the divorce process does it change? How can you ensure that both spouses have health insurance coverage post divorce? All that and more in Episode 89!

Join us in Episode 88 for an overview of the divorce process, including brief outlines of the key phases of your divorce: working through the issues, drafting your agreement, filing court paperwork, and handling post-divorce administrative matters.

Interests in privately-held companies can be one of the more complex types of assets to divide in a divorce, and there are several different approaches to doing so. Check out Episode 87 to learn what to expect from the divorce process if you or your spouse owns an interest of any size in a business of any size.

How do parents organize vacations with (and without) their kids after a divorce? What types of details related to vacations will your agreement clarify? What vacation-related topics will your agreement not address? Answers to all that and more in Episode 86!

What happens when you're scheduled to be with your kids but you can't be with them - for instance, due to a work trip? What if you're the non-scheduled parent in that scenario? Do yuo have the right to be with your kids? The obligation? In Episode 85, we discuss the "right of first refusal," a handy clause that's commonly found in the parenting section of your agreement.

Pets are family members, too! If you'd like your divorce agreement to address sharing time with or the costs of your pet after a divorce, Episode 84 is for you.

Divorcing with young children carries with it a host of challenges. How you share responsibility for child care costs should not be one of them. Episode 83 will walk you through the ways couples commonly structure sharing responsibility for future child care in their divorce agreement.

For many families, one family car is enough, even post divorce. Episode 82 takes you through the various considerations to bear in mind when you agree to continue sharing a car with your ex.

Divorces takes time to resolve, and life moves forward in the meantime. If you're in the fortunate position of creating or acquiring an asset in the midst of your divorce, Episode 81 walks you through some of the key considerations to bear in mind.

Should you be concerned about privacy and confidentiality in and following your divorce? If so (or if not, and you're concerned anyway!), how can your divorce agreement address your concerns?

For many people, the task of organizing their finances is overwhelming. In this episode, we discuss a variety of options for getting outside help with one of the more challenging requirements of the divorce process.

In Episode 78, we finish our four-part series on organizing your finances, a task that provides the foundation for all financial negotiations in your divorce. Here, we focus on organizing your debts.

In Episode 77, we continue a four-part series on organizing your finances, a task that provides the foundation for all financial negotiations in your divorce. Here, we focus on organizing your assets.

In Episode 76, we continue a four-part series on organizing your finances, a task that provides the foundation for all financial negotiations in your divorce. Here, we focus on organizing your expenses.

One the bigger tasks when you're divorcing is to organize and understand your financial situation. This provides the foundation for all subsequent negotiations around finances, but many spouses are at a loss for how to get started. Over the next four episodes, we'll cover the basics of how to begin organizing your finances, vis-a-vis your income, expenses, assets and debts. Episode 75 focuses on income.

When figuring out the distribution of assets in your divorce, you may have a subset of assets, or a single asset, that you can neither sell to a third party, nor divide between you. What then? Episode 74 will lay out your options.

In the course of your divorce negotiation, you may face the question of whether, and to what degree, to take less (or provide more) than the law calls for. How can you determine, in your particular situation, whether that's the right thing to do? How can you ensure that a decision you make today is not one you regret down the road?

It's uncommon for someone to feel like their divorce process resolved too quickly. The opposite is more frequently the case. Why does divorce take as long as it does, and often so much longer than divorcing spouses would like? And what can you do to move your divorce along more quickly?

Many people wonder if they can update their will or other estate planning documents before their divorce is finalized. Sometimes yes, sometime no. Episode 71 provides an overview of the ways in which changes to estate planning are typically restricted during divorce, and common exceptions to those restrictions.

Episode 70 describes several of the more important but less obvious considerations for you to keep in mind as you think through the ideal division of your marital assets.

Once you and your spouse have agreed to the amount and duration of child support and/or spousal support, there are two important questions you need to answer. One, do you want to speak to whether support may change in the future, in amount or duration? Two, if so, do you want to speak to exactly how support would change? Episode 69 will take you though how to think about support "modification" in the context of your divorce negotiation.

If you own your home and want to complete a buy-out of one spouse's interest in the home, you will typically also need to refinance or assume the mortgage. In Episode 68, we look more closely at how that works.

When you've been in mediation, and you're ready to have outside attorneys review your draft agreement, what's the best way to go about coordinating that? Should their review be sequenced, or happen simultaneously? Answers to those questions in Episode 67!

What's a term sheet? Do you need one? We'll take a look at the role a term sheet can play in your mediation or negotiation process in Episode 66.

Many people have the misconception that mediation is only for spouses who get along well. Not so. But, at a certain level of conflict, mediation ceases to be an effective or productive process for you. Episode 65 looks at how to determine where that tipping point is, and how can you work productively in a negotiation process even if you can't stand being in the same room as your spouse.

What can you do when your spouse has dug heels in on a particular point and won't negotiate further? Especially where their offer is far outside the realm of the reasonable on the subject being negotiated? Episode 64 looks at what your options are, and how can you weigh them and proceed productively, when you have a stubborn or intransigent spouse on the other side of the table.

People's incomes change over time, and divorce is no exception to that. What happens when your or your spouse's income changes - for better or for worse - in the divorce process? How should you consider and work with income changes in your divorce negotiation?

Many people are in a relationship with a significant other while going through their divorce. How does that impact your divorce process? Episode 62 will explore this dynamic and its impact on divorce negotiation. We'll offer some tips on how to ensure, if you do have a significant other while divorcing, that your divorce process goes as well as possible.

It's not uncommon for spouses to come to a divorce mediation process without feeling much trust for one another. Episode 61 looks at the ways that the mediation process can be structured to solve for an absence of trust, and what red flags, in particular around lack of transparency and integrity, may indicate that mediation is not an appropriate process for you.

Divorce brings with it a lot of changes, a number of which can be unwelcome. At least, initially. How can you work productively with difficult change in the divorce process, and how can you support your spouse in doing so? -- NORMAL --

Most people who hope to settle their divorce out of court envision working with reasonable attorneys in the process, on both sides. What happens when your spouse doesn't share your vision, at least insofar as his or her attorney is concerned? And what are the most constructive ways you can approach your divorce negotiation if your spouse has hired an aggressive attorney? -- NORMAL --

For many reasons, couples may initiate a divorce process and then put it on the back burner for months or years. What are the consequences of doing that? And what are some things you should consider if you're anticipating letting your divorce lapse, or are in the midst of a well-lapsed divorce? -- NORMAL --

Your divorce will likely take a while to resolve. What happens when the assets that are the subject of your divorce change in value during the process? -- NORMAL --

One of the many changes that divorce brings may be a return to the workforce for a spouse who has previously stayed home. The issue of how and how quickly this happens can be a source of conflict between divorcing spouses. In Episode 56, we'll take a look at reasonable approaches - by both sposues - to one spouse's return to the workforce. -- NORMAL --

More often than not, spouses bring differing levels of comfort with and knowledge of their finances to the divorce process. This can be challenging, especially in a mediation, where spouses participate more actively in the negotiation of their own settlement. What are the best ways of working with this kind of disparity in spouses' financial sophistication, while maintaining a commitment to a reasonable settlement process? -- NORMAL --

What's an interim agreement? When might you want one? What are some of the potential pitfalls of signing an interim agreement? We'll discuss these topics and more in Episode 54. -- NORMAL --

What happens when you change your mind about something you've already agreed to in your negotiation? Is it too late? What are the effects on your negotiation process? And how can you minimize the likelihood of that happening?

Is it a good idea to communicate directly with your spouse during your divorce? It really depends. We'll discuss some common pitfalls and how to work around them in Episode 52.

Many couples going through a divorce have questions about whether they can (or should) file taxes jointly with their spouse. Episode 51 looks at the pros and cons of filing jointly while divorcing.

In December 2017, our tax law underwent a major overhaul. Let's discuss the components of that overhaul that are most relevant to divorce.

Many families going through a divorce have expenses that exceed their income. What are the implications of a spending deficit, and the solutions to it, in a divorce?

What happens when a parent wants to move out of state with their kids during or following a divorce?

In Episode 47, we look at what's required to transfer retirement assets (without tax penalty) between you and your spouse.

If you're participating in a divorce mediation at what point in the process should you file in court? What are the pros and cons of filing at the outset vs. conclusion of your process?

During a divorce process, many spouses wonder if they can move out of the marital home. While there's no blanket answer to that question, we'll look at the pros and cons of doing so in this episode.