Podcasts about spouses

On this episode of Minnesota Military Radio, host Doug Wortham welcomes Brad L. Doboszenski, President of the Eagle Group of Minnesota Veterans, and Dr. Marisa Naryka, military spouse and active member of the organization. They discuss the real challenges Veterans face when transitioning to civilian careers and how the Eagle Group provides practical, peer-to-peer support […] The post Eagle Group of Minnesota Veterans: Helping Veterans & Spouses Transition Successfully appeared first on Minnesota Military Radio.

Let us know what you thought of this episode and any other comments you may have. What happens when a family business advisor is also navigating the realities of family business at home?In this episode, host Natalie Kling sits down with Craig and Joyce Hettrich of The Hettrich Group to discuss the unique challenges and opportunities that family-owned businesses face as they grow.Drawing from decades of leadership experience and years spent helping entrepreneurs scale their companies, Craig and Joyce share practical insights into one of the most difficult aspects of family business: separating emotion from facts while preserving the passion that makes family companies special.The conversation explores succession planning, accountability, leadership development, bringing in outside talent, and the delicate balance between family relationships and business performance. They also discuss their own journey as spouses, business partners, and parents working alongside the next generation.Whether you're a founder struggling to let go, a next-generation leader looking for greater responsibility, or a family business owner navigating growth, this episode offers valuable lessons on leadership, trust, and building a legacy that lasts. You can learn more at Hettrich Group EOS.Chapter List00:00 Family Business and Leadership Foundations 04:04 Launching The Hettrich Group 07:09 Working Successfully as Spouses 11:12 Bringing the Next Generation into the Business 14:06 Separating Emotion from Facts 17:16 Letting Go and Scaling a Company 20:52 When Leaders Are in the Wrong Seat 25:15 Accountability, Ownership, and Family Dynamics 33:47 Building Trust and Bringing in Outside Talent 39:10 Creating a Family Legacy for Future Generations 43:17 Understanding EOS and Growing with Intention 45:02 Hard Work, Luck, and Building SuccessTo learn more about the Capital Region Family Business Center visit our website HERE. To learn more about River City Bank and how they can benefit your family business, visit www.rivercitybank.com

This week, Alex and Scott tackle a difficult question from a missionary wife who, after experiencing significant trauma, grief, anxiety, depression, family challenges, and cultural stress during overseas service, no longer feels able to return to the mission field while her husband remains convinced they should continue. They explore the realities of missionary hardship, the emotional and spiritual toll of cross-cultural ministry, and the tension that can arise when spouses find themselves at odds over what they believe God is calling them to do. The conversation examines biblical concepts of calling, marriage, submission, family priorities, and the role of the local church in affirming missionary service. Alex and Scott encourage listeners to distinguish between personal desires, genuine calling, and God's providential limitations, while emphasizing that husbands and wives must seek unity, wise counsel, and pastoral guidance when navigating major ministry decisions. Key Topics Covered The emotional, relational, and spiritual impact of missionary trauma and culture shock. How to distinguish between personal desires, ministry ambitions, and biblical calling. The local church's role in affirming, evaluating, and guiding missionary service. Biblical perspectives on marital leadership, submission, and decision-making during disagreement. Balancing ministry commitments with responsibilities to spouse, children, and family health. Practical counsel for couples seeking unity when one spouse wants to continue missions and the other does not. Here's the conversation from Scott Dunford and his wife about missions. Do you love The Missions Show? Have you been blessed by the show? Then become a Premium Subscriber! Premium Subscribers get access to: Exclusive bonus content A community Signal thread with other listeners and the hosts Invite-only webinars A free gift! Support The Missions Show and sign up to be a Premium Subscriber at missionsshow.com/premium The Missions Show is powered by ABWE. Learn more and take your next step in the Great Commission at abwe.org. Want to ask a question or suggest a topic? Email alex@missionsshow.com.

Send us Fan MailJoin Marc Almodovar, Founder and President of the Men's ADHD Support Group, and Shane Thrapp, Operations Director and Certified ADHD Life Coach, as they celebrate the Men's ADHD Support Group being featured in the May 2026 Men's Edition of ADDitude Magazine. Today they're pulling back the curtain on what they wrote, why they wrote it, and the conversations they hope it starts. From redefining what it means to be a man with ADHD to the parts of intimacy and AuDHD that nobody talks about honestly, this is the episode behind the articles.Learn about what it took to get MADHDSG into one of the most widely read ADHD publications in the world, what Marc's piece on masculinity and ADHD is really saying underneath the surface, what Shane's piece on sex, sensory processing, and intimacy with AuDHD is actually about and why it had to be written, and what the Men's ADHD Support Group is building toward as a nonprofit and why visibility in spaces like ADDitude matters for the men who need to find us.Find the Men's ADHD Support Group at www.mensadhdsupportgroup.orgRead the articles in May 2026 Men's Edition of ADDitude Magazine at: https://www.additudemag.com/men-adult-adhd-redefining-masculinity/https://www.additudemag.com/intimacy-issues-adhd-autism-and-sex/https://www.additudemag.com/neurodivergent-masking-adhd-authenticity/ Check out our website for great blogs, information, and upcoming events! Men's ADHD Support Group WebsiteIf you identify as male and have ADHD Join our Facebook Group!And follow us on all of our other social media! Our Facebook PageOur InstagramOur Youtube:Our TwitterOur TikTok Our LinkedIn

Drift is slow, passive, and creates unwanted distance over time.  Without intentionality, relationships can experience drift. On this episode of Breaking Bread, Kaleb Beyer addresses marital drift. When husbands and wives drift apart. In this episode we will discuss what drift is, what it looks like, and how to close the distance. Show notes:  Marital drift is the slow process of spouses unintentionally becoming distant over time.   What it looks like:  Routines replace intimacy. Relational distance grows.  Small intimate gestures fade.  Spouses act more like roommates than friends.  Spouses love each other but are not connected.  Spouses are increasingly living separate lives.  Closing the distance:  Acknowledge that drift has happened.  Incorporate small acts of love that build intimacy.  Learn about each other's worlds.  Build friendship.  Avoid making negative comparisons of your spouse.  Practice thankfulness. 

What Buyers Should Know About Viewing Properties in Today's Market Buying a home is exciting but touring properties is about much more than simply walking through a front door and deciding whether you like the kitchen. During a recent episode of Talk Real Estate Roundtable, Melissa Wallace sat down with Boston Connect Real Estate agent Sue Bollinger to discuss what buyers should truly understand before scheduling showings, attending open houses, and making offers in today's competitive market. From understanding how online showing requests really work to why private showings matter and how buyers can protect themselves throughout the process, this conversation highlighted the importance of working with experienced real estate professionals every step of the way. The Reality Behind “Schedule a Tour” Buttons Most buyers begin their home search online. But according to Sue Bollinger, many buyers don't realize what actually happens when they click the “Schedule a Tour” button on large real estate websites. Many third-party real estate platforms are designed to generate leads not necessarily connect buyers directly with the listing agent. In many cases: Your information is sent to agents who pay for advertising The agent contacting you may know very little about the property You may unknowingly meet an agent for the very first time in a driveway before a showing The person you speak with may not represent the seller or you Sue explained that buyers often assume they are speaking directly with the listing agent when they are not. That is why it is so important to ask: Who does this agent represent? Are they representing the seller? Are they representing me? What type of agency relationship exists? Understanding representation before touring homes can help buyers avoid confusion and better protect their interests throughout the transaction. Why Buyers Should Have Representation Early One of the biggest themes throughout the show was the importance of working with a dedicated buyer's agent from the very beginning of the home search. A buyer's agent helps: Define your home search criteria Understand your budget Analyze comparable sales Identify property concerns Navigate negotiations Coordinate inspections Explain market value Protect your interests throughout the process As Sue explained during the show: “The listing agent's fiduciary responsibility is to the seller.” That means the listing agent's job is to secure the best possible price and terms for the seller not necessarily the buyer. Having your own representation ensures you have someone advocating for your side of the transaction. Private Showings Are Often the Best Way to View a Home While open houses can be convenient, Melissa and Sue both emphasized that private showings typically provide the best experience for buyers. Private showings allow buyers to: Move through the home at their own pace Ask detailed questions Focus without distractions Evaluate layout and functionality more carefully Have their agent point out important details Sue shared several real-world examples where buyers initially missed major concerns with properties until she toured the homes alongside them. Experienced agents often notice: Sloping floors Moisture issues Foundation concerns Structural problems Signs of deferred maintenance Heating or roofing issues Poor renovations or missing supports Sometimes what looks beautiful cosmetically can hide expensive issues underneath. That is why having a knowledgeable agent physically tour the property with you can make a significant difference. HGTV Isn't Real Life One of the most relatable moments during the show came when Melissa and Sue discussed unrealistic expectations created by television shows. Unlike TV, most buyers: Tour many homes Lose out on properties Adjust their wish lists Revisit properties multiple times Need patience throughout the process In today's market, it is completely normal for buyers to: See several homes before making an offer Tour the same property more than once Reevaluate priorities Compromise on certain features Buying a home is a major financial and emotional decision and it rarely happens as quickly as television makes it appear. All Decision Makers Should Attend Showings Another important point discussed during the episode was making sure all decision makers attend showings whenever possible. That includes: Spouses or partners Family members involved financially Anyone whose opinion will heavily influence the decision Why does this matter? Because it can delay the process when: One person loves the property Another person sees it later and disagrees Additional concerns surface after the fact Different people notice different things during a showing. One buyer may focus on layout, while another notices storage, traffic patterns, noise levels, or renovation needs. Having everyone involved early helps avoid unnecessary complications later. Buyers Should Pay Attention to More Than Cosmetics It is easy to get distracted by beautiful staging, fresh paint, or trendy finishes. But buyers should also pay close attention to: Roof age Heating systems Foundation condition Electrical updates Plumbing concerns Storage space Traffic patterns Noise levels Layout functionality Renovation costs Sue explained that cosmetic issues are often manageable, but large structural or mechanical issues can quickly become expensive. A buyer's agent can help distinguish between: Cosmetic updates Necessary repairs Major red flags This helps buyers make informed decisions while staying within their budget. Be Careful What You Say During Showings One of the most important modern realities buyers should understand is that many homes now have recording devices. These may include: Ring doorbells Interior cameras Smart home systems Baby monitors Audio devices Melissa and Sue stressed the importance of being careful about discussing: Offer strategy Budget Negotiation plans Concerns about pricing during showings or open houses. You never know who may overhear a conversation or what devices may be recording. The best practice? Save strategy discussions for private conversations with your agent after leaving the property. Flexibility Matters in Today's Market Another key takeaway from the conversation was that showing appointments revolve around more than just the buyer's schedule. Many homes are still occupied, which means sellers may be coordinating: Children Pets Work-from-home schedules Health concerns Multiple showing requests That means buyers may occasionally: Need to adjust schedules Wait for approvals Work within limited showing windows Being flexible and respectful can go a long way in securing opportunities to see desirable homes. Final Thoughts Touring homes is about much more than simply deciding whether you like a property. It is about: Understanding value Identifying potential risks Evaluating functionality Protecting your financial future Making informed decisions As Melissa Wallace and Sue Bollinger emphasized throughout the episode, having experienced representation can help buyers confidently navigate the entire process from the very first showing to the closing table. If you are thinking about buying a home throughout the South Shore, South Coast, Boston, or Cape Cod, the team at Boston Connect Real Estate is here to help guide you every step of the way. Learn more at: Boston Connect Real Estate Watch our Live video on Youtube!

With Tenants in Common, each owner holds a separate ownership share, and their interest passes to their estate — not automatically to the co-owner. Example: If two friends purchase a rental property together and register as joint tenants, one friend's share would automatically transfer to the other upon death. That may not align with their estate planning intentions. This is why understanding ownership structures is critical — especially when co-owners are not spouses. Spouses are commonly registered as joint tenants, but when unrelated parties are involved, a discussion about ownership structure is essential. This topic is heavily tested in: • Fundamentals of Real Estate • Practice of Residential Real Estate • Fundamentals of Mortgage Brokerage • Alberta licensing exams (RECA) At The Alberta Real Estate School, we focus on helping you understand not just what the answer is — but why it matters in real transactions. Subscribe for weekly Alberta real estate and mortgage exam breakdowns. #albertarealestateschool #albertarealtors #TenantsInCommon #AlbertaRealEstate #MortgageBrokerExam #RECA #AlbertaRealEstateSchool #RealEstateExamPrep

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A Podcast Co-Host Relationship sounds fun until different personalities, expectations, and creative habits start crashing into each other behind the scenes. In this episode, our cast and crew talk about what actually keeps a co-host partnership working, from handling conflict and sharing responsibilities to knowing when somebody's carrying too much of the weight. There's also that moment where a co-host stops feeling like just another voice on the mic and starts feeling like the reason the show works at all. By the end, you'll probably think a little differently about the conversations happening before and after the record button gets pressed. Episode Highlights:[00:00] Welcome and Topic Setup[02:41] Why Co-Hosts Matter[05:27] Rage Quit to a New Co-Host[09:01] What Makes Chemistry Work[11:04] Goals and Audience First[17:14] Communication Like a Marriage[18:52] Co-Host Prenups and Producer Roles[23:09] Workflow and Division of Labor[30:18] Finding a Co-Host[33:58] Podcasting with Spouses[52:45] Final Takeaways and Wrap-UpLinks & Resources:John Jamingo and The Duchess:https://www.boomerbunker.com/Feature Your Podcast on the Podcasting Morning Show:https://PodcastingMorningShow.com/spotlightThe Podcasting Morning Show:⁠⁠www.podcastingmorningshow.com⁠⁠Ways to Watch or Listen:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.podcastingmorningshow.com/joinus/Meet the PMS Cast and Crew:⁠⁠https://podcastingmorningshow.com/people⁠⁠Join The Empowered Podcasting Facebook Group:⁠⁠www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredpodcasting⁠⁠⁠Book A Free Call With Marc:https://calendly.com/ironickmedia/freestrategycallApplication To Submit Your Show For Evaluation:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcastingmorningshow.com/eval⁠⁠Join us every other Monday at 8 AM ET for the Obsession Worthy Podcasts:⁠⁠⁠http://podcastingmorningshow.com/owp/⁠⁠Join us LIVE every weekday morning at 8 am ET (US) on ⁠Clubhouse⁠: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcastingmorningshow.com/clubhouse⁠⁠EPC3 Speaker Application:⁠⁠ ⁠https://empoweredpodcasting.com/speakersPowered by⁠⁠⁠ ⁠iRonickMedia.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠ ⁠ContentCreatorsAccountant.com⁠⁠Send in your mailbag questions:⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.podcastingmorningshow.com/contact/⁠⁠⁠⁠ or ⁠marc@ironickmedia.com⁠Want to be a guest on The Podcasting Morning Show? Send me a message on PodMatch, here:https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1729879899384520035bad21b

When have you last examined your own flaws instead of fixating on your spouse's? Greg describes how distressed couples have a tendency to focus too much on their mate's issues instead of their own. Plus, Les and Leslie Parrott share how to tell if you're a healthy or an unhealthy spouse. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY. Receive the book Healthy Me, Healthy Us for your donation of any amount! Focus on Marriage Assessment Improve Yourself, Improve Your Relationships Counseling Consultation and Referrals Hope Restored Support This Show! If you enjoyed listening to the Focus on Marriage Podcast, please give us your feedback.

When have you last examined your own flaws instead of fixating on your spouse's? Greg describes how distressed couples have a tendency to focus too much on their mate's issues instead of their own. Plus, Les and Leslie Parrott share how to tell if you're a healthy or an unhealthy spouse. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY. Receive the book Healthy Me, Healthy Us for your donation of any amount! Focus on Marriage Assessment Improve Yourself, Improve Your Relationships Counseling Consultation and Referrals Hope Restored Support This Show! If you enjoyed listening to the Focus on Marriage Podcast, please give us your feedback. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1196/29?v=20251111

When survivors finally begin talking about abuse, especially years later, the truth rarely arrives in one neat statement. It often comes in fragments, sensory flashes, and moments that can leave spouses and families confused, hurt, or unsure what to do next. In this episode, Mike King sits down with psychologist Dr. Patrice Berry to walk through one of the hardest true crime realities behind closed doors, delayed disclosure. They talk about why trauma memories can surface in pieces, why some survivors do not speak until marriage, parenthood, retirement, or a major case in the news, and what loved ones should do in the first hours and days after disclosure. This conversation also looks at criminal justice pressure points, including credibility attacks, investigative contamination concerns, and the damage that can happen when a survivor is doubted, rushed, or forced into details before they are ready. If you care about victims, spouses, memory, and the way trauma ripples through families long after the crime, this episode matters.#TrueCrime #Trauma #ChildAbuse #SexualAbuse #SurvivorVoices #TraumaRecovery #VictimAdvocacy #CoerciveControl #CultAbuse #ComplexTrauma #PTSD #Dissociation #DelayedDisclosure #FamilyTrauma #CriminalJustice #ForensicPsychology #TraumaInformed #CSA #MaleSurvivors #ProfilingEvil #PatriceBerry========================================CrimeCon Discount Code: https://crimecon.regfox.com/cctw3ntys1x (In Voucher/Coupon area, enter: PROFILINGEVIL========================================https://gamutpodcasts.com/show/gardensofevilinsidethezionsocietycult/========================================20% OFF Newspapers.comhttps://www.newspapers.com/go/podcast/?ref=profilingevil?xid=8877&utm_source=ProfilingEvilPodcast&utm_medium=podcst&utm_campaign=ProfilingEvil26========================================Email your questions to: ProfilingEvil@gmail.com========================================

Did you know today is the National Day of Prayer?   In today's Rise Up reflection, Fr. Jonathan Meyer reminds us of Jesus' words:   “Remain in my love.”   What would happen if we became a nation rooted in prayer?   ➡️ Families praying together ➡️ Spouses praying together ➡️ Friends praying together ➡️ Children learning to pray   Prayer changes hearts. Prayer changes families. Prayer changes nations.   Today, take a moment to pray with someone.   Ask a friend:

In this episode of Dismantling You, I sit down with Kelsey Bates, Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Founder of New York Women's CBT, to talk about the emotional weight of living with chronic illness. Kelsey shares how her own chronic illness shaped her decision to leave a 9 to 5 model and build a telehealth practice that meets women where they are. We dig into the difference between chronic pain and chronic illness, why so many women fall through the cracks of the medical system, and how stigma, racism, and cost combine to leave patients without a coordinated quarterback for their care.We also get into medical trauma and medical gaslighting, two terms Kelsey unpacks in a way that finally puts language to experiences so many women have lived through. Kelsey explains how repeated dismissals show up in the body (fight or flight, hypervigilance, freeze), and why third wave CBT approaches like ACT and DBT can succeed where traditional CBT often feels invalidating. We close with Kelsey's take on radical acceptance, the distress tolerance menu she gives every client, and the realistic version of self care that has nothing to do with facials and everything to do with PT and anti inflammatory food.__________________________________________________Key Highlights

❓ Do Both Spouses Have to Agree to Get Divorced? | Los Angeles Divorce0 ❓ No—only one person needs to file. But whether both parties agree can significantly affect how fast and smooth the process will be.

Episode SummaryWith Mother's Day right around the corner, this episode highlights an important—and often overlooked—reality in financial planning: too many women are still taking a back seat when it comes to managing their financial future.Drawing from real client experiences, this episode explores why financial planning works best when both partners are actively involved, and why it's especially critical for women to engage in the process.From differences in financial goals and investment behavior to the long-term impact of widowhood and divorce, this conversation makes a compelling case for shared financial decision-making—and the risks of sitting on the sidelines.What You'll LearnWhy financial planning is more effective when both partners participateCommon differences in how men and women approach investingHow misaligned goals (even in something like vacations) reflect deeper planning gapsThe financial realities women often face after divorce or widowhoodWhy women tend to outperform men as investorsThe risks of deferring financial decisions to a spouseKey TakeawaysFinancial planning is not a “set it and forget it” process—especially for couplesWomen are statistically more likely to experience the long-term outcomes of financial decisionsBeing uninvolved in financial planning can lead to costly consequencesWomen often bring discipline, patience, and better long-term behavior to investingShared planning leads to better alignment, better decisions, and better outcomesTips, Tricks & StrategiesWant to get more involved in your financial life? Start here:Attend financial meetingsBe present in conversations with your financial advisor. If you don't have one, consider working with a professional.Build your financial knowledgeListen to podcasts, watch videos, or read about personal finance. The basics are more approachable than you think.Run a “what if” scenarioIf you had to take over all financial responsibilities tomorrow, would you be ready? Know your accounts, contacts, and plan.Notable Stats from the EpisodeWomen often experience a larger drop in income after divorce than menWomen tend to live longer, making long-term planning even more criticalA significant percentage of women defer financial decisions to their spouseStudies show women often outperform men in investing due to more disciplined behaviorFinal ThoughtA better life is the result of better planning—and better planning requires participation. If you're not at the table, it's time to pull up a chair.ReferencesDo women live longer than men in the US? | USAFactsThe Economic Consequences of Gray Divorce for Women and MenWomen Are Strong Savers. So, Why Do Their Balances Often Lag Behind?Women Put Financial Security at Risk by Deferring Long-term Financial Decisions to Spouses

Adam Green — co-founder of the Progressive Change Campaign Committee — joins the Chuck Toddcast to make the case that pragmatic economic populism is the Democratic Party's path back to a durable majority, and to push back hard on the conventional wisdom that "moderate" means "centrist." Green argues the public has lost faith in both political and economic systems and is hungry for candidates who tell a clear story about power — pointing to Maine's Graham Platner, Texas's James Talarico, and New York's Zohran Mamdani as examples of progressives who project authentic energy and pragmatic problem-solving rather than ideological purity. He contends that both major parties have already collapsed reputationally even if they haven't yet collapsed structurally, that Democrats could have passed a $12 minimum wage years ago if they'd been willing to compromise, and that recruiting 77-year-old Janet Mills against Platner is symbolic of everything wrong with Chuck Schumer's approach to the Senate. Green is blunt: if Democrats sweep the midterms but leadership remains unchanged, it actually hurts them in 2028 — a Democratic Senate majority should not be read as a validation of Schumer. They discuss why he Democratic brand is so damaged in red and rural states that independent candidates may be the best path to power in places like Montana and Nebraska, and that having someone like Platner in Senate leadership would dramatically improve Democratic performance in rural America. The conversation digs into the deeper strategic and policy questions facing the party. Green argues Democrats should lead with economic alignment over cultural alignment and that Dems should not put reproductive rights forward as their headline issue if they want to rebuild trust in the heartland. He pushes for progressive lawmakers to assert real leverage against their own leadership, advocates lowering the threshold for discharge petition, and makes the case that getting rid of the filibuster would help Democrats rebuild trust with voters who are tired of seeing nothing get done. Green is open to limited cooperation with Trump if Democrats win both chambers but warns the party shouldn't trim its sails just to get a signature. He explains why the PCC backed Talarico over Crockett , names UAW president Shawn Fain as a potential dark-horse candidate, and floats Stephen Colbert as a genuinely intriguing possibility because performance matters in a media-saturated era. Green argues Talarico, Platner, and Abdul El-Sayed all tell a coherent story about power that voters are hungry to hear, but ultimately, the candidate who runs as a genuine disruptor is the one most likely to win, because the current system is so visibly failing the public. Thank you Wildgrain for sponsoring. Visit http://wildgrain.com/TODDCAST and use the code "TODDCAST" at checkout to receive $30 off your first box PLUS free Croissants for life! Protect your family with life insurance from Ethos. Get up to $3 million in coverage in as little as 10 minutes at https://ethos.com/chuck. Application times may vary. Rates may vary. Link in bio or go to https://getsoul.com & enter code TODDCAST for 30% off your first order. Timeline: (Timestamps may vary based on advertisements) 00:00 Adam Green (Progressive Change Committee) joins The Chuck ToddCast 02:30 What does it mean to be a pragmatic progressive? 03:45 The mission is to show economic populism can win in swing races 05:00 Graham Platner is a great storyteller, not a policy wonk 06:30 Several progressive candidates project strong masculine energy 08:00 Balancing incrementalism vs. progress 08:45 Mamdani is showing that you can be both progressive & pragmatic 09:45 Misconception is that “moderate” means centrist 10:30 The progressives are demanding a rebalancing of the power dynamics 11:00 Public doesn’t trust the political and economic system, wants change 11:45 How vulnerable are both parties to collapse at some point? 12:30 Both parties have collapsed reputationally, just not structurally 14:15 Dems could have passed $12 minimum wage if they compromised 16:30 If Dems sweep midterms but leaders stay the same, it’s bad for 2028 17:15 If Dems win the senate, it’s not a validation of Schumer 18:30 If Dems elect the non Schumer candidates, he has to go 19:15 Schumer was a really good leader… until he wasn’t 20:00 Recruiting 77 year old Janet Mills is symbolic of Schumer’s strategy 20:45 Sherrod Brown is probably the best Dems can do in Ohio 21:15 Iowa is overindexed as a swing state 23:00 Michigan having El-Sayed & Slokin would show multiple ways to win 24:00 If El-Sayed loses, does that set the progressive movement back? 25:30 Are independents the best route to power in Montana & Nebraska? 26:30 The Democratic brand is shot in most red & rural states 27:45 If Platner was in leadership, Dems would do better in rural states 29:00 What matters more to the PCC, economic or cultural alignment? 30:45 Democrats shouldn’t put out reproductive rights as their banner issue 31:30 Big Dem wins in the past came from economic, not cultural alignment 33:45 Jared Golden able to vote against trans sports bill, focused on economics 36:00 Want to see progressives assert leverage against their leadership 37:00 Proposal to lower the threshold for discharge petitions 37:45 Discharge petitions would actually liberate the leadership a bit 39:00 When too many items are stuffed into a bill, you don’t get credit for them 40:00 Getting rid of the filibuster would help Democrats rebuild trust 41:00 Both parties only like the filibuster when they’re out of power 42:30 Getting rid of stock trading isn’t as simple as it sounds 44:15 Spouses need to be included in stock trading ban 45:00 If Dems win both houses, where should they work with Trump? 46:15 Dems will be elected to be a check on Trump, but need his signature 49:15 Working with Trump requires abandoning the ideas you ran on 50:30 Dems shouldn’t trim their sails in order to work with Trump 53:00 PCC supported Talarico over Crockett for his bold economic vision 55:30 AOC may need to run for president soon, before her “sell by” date 56:15 Stephen Colbert could be an intriguing candidate, performance matters 57:30 Mamdani takes time every day to tell a story on social media 58:45 Shawn Fain could also make a strong candidate 1:00:00 If Talarico wins in Texas, it could put him on the presidential map 1:01:45 Talarico as VP to get his sea legs could be a potential route 1:02:30 McMorrow positioning herself as the “goldilocks” candidate 1:03:15 Being the shake up the system candidate is the way to go 1:04:00 Talarico, Platner & El-Sayed tell a story about power 1:04:45 The current system is failing the public 1:06:45 Preference between Steyer or Porter in California? 1:08:00 AOC raises the most money because people trust herSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Chuck Todd dives into the Supreme Court's latest ruling further hollowing out the Voting Rights Act and walks through what it actually means in practice — including the very real possibility that several Southern states will now try to redistrict, creating a messy political landscape that won't necessarily benefit Republicans in the way they hope. He traces the history back to the 1990s Georgia reapportionment that led to major GOP pickups by packing Black Democratic voters into fewer districts, but warns this round of Southern redistricting will create more swing districts. He uses the moment to make the case for what he sees as the real structural fix to America's representation crisis: uncapping the House of Representatives to allow it to grow with population the way the founders originally intended, with Madison himself arguing the chamber would always need to expand. He argues that a bigger House would lower the barrier for third parties, minimize the outsized impact of the Electoral College, dramatically reduce the incentive to gerrymander — and crucially, this change wouldn't exclusively benefit either party. His framing is simple: stop fighting over the chairs at the table and increase the size of the table itself. He then pivots to what he calls the rise of the "woke right" — citing the second Comey indictment as exhibit A, noting that the right has now embraced exactly the kind of oversensitivity they once accused the left of engaging in, and pointing out it's no accident that Pam Bondi wouldn't bring the Comey case but Todd Blanche will. He flags that the FCC's attacks on Jimmy Kimmel will badly backfire, dismisses the Hegseth congressional hearing as a useless exercise where everyone was just chasing viral moments, and argues that Hegseth himself is suffering from a bad case of "internet brain" — actively politicizing the military while failing to make a coherent case for why the Iran war was ever necessary. He closes with a pointed observation about the entire administration: nobody around Trump believes any criticism of him is ever valid, and they appear to genuinely think voters are stupid enough to never notice. Then, Adam Green — co-founder of the Progressive Change Campaign Committee — joins the Chuck Toddcast to make the case that pragmatic economic populism is the Democratic Party's path back to a durable majority, and to push back hard on the conventional wisdom that "moderate" means "centrist." Green argues the public has lost faith in both political and economic systems and is hungry for candidates who tell a clear story about power — pointing to Maine's Graham Platner, Texas's James Talarico, and New York's Zohran Mamdani as examples of progressives who project authentic energy and pragmatic problem-solving rather than ideological purity. He contends that both major parties have already collapsed reputationally even if they haven't yet collapsed structurally, that Democrats could have passed a $12 minimum wage years ago if they'd been willing to compromise, and that recruiting 77-year-old Janet Mills against Platner is symbolic of everything wrong with Chuck Schumer's approach to the Senate. Green is blunt: if Democrats sweep the midterms but leadership remains unchanged, it actually hurts them in 2028 — a Democratic Senate majority should not be read as a validation of Schumer. They discuss why he Democratic brand is so damaged in red and rural states that independent candidates may be the best path to power in places like Montana and Nebraska, and that having someone like Platner in Senate leadership would dramatically improve Democratic performance in rural America. The conversation digs into the deeper strategic and policy questions facing the party. Green argues Democrats should lead with economic alignment over cultural alignment and that Dems should not put reproductive rights forward as their headline issue if they want to rebuild trust in the heartland. He pushes for progressive lawmakers to assert real leverage against their own leadership, advocates lowering the threshold for discharge petition, and makes the case that getting rid of the filibuster would help Democrats rebuild trust with voters who are tired of seeing nothing get done. Green is open to limited cooperation with Trump if Democrats win both chambers but warns the party shouldn't trim its sails just to get a signature. He explains why the PCC backed Talarico over Crockett , names UAW president Shawn Fain as a potential dark-horse candidate, and floats Stephen Colbert as a genuinely intriguing possibility because performance matters in a media-saturated era. Green argues Talarico, Platner, and Abdul El-Sayed all tell a coherent story about power that voters are hungry to hear, but ultimately, the candidate who runs as a genuine disruptor is the one most likely to win, because the current system is so visibly failing the public. Finally, he answers listeners’ questions in the “Ask Chuck” segment, weighs in on the DNC choosing NOT to release their 2024 autopsy, and reacts to the expansion on the NCAA basketball tournament. Try ShipStation free for 60 days with full access to all features, No credit card needed! 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Timeline: (Timestamps may vary based on advertisements) 00:00 Chuck Todd’s introduction 01:30 Supreme Court further hollows out the Voting Rights Act 03:00 You may see several states in the south try to redistrict 06:00 We have a serious representation issue in congress 07:30 In the 90’s Georgia reapportionment led to major GOP pickups 09:00 Led to more black Dems in congress, but less Dems in congress 10:00 Redistricting won’t be clean for GOP in this political climate 10:30 Redistricting will create more swing districts in the south 12:15 You may see racially charged Dem primaries in new districts 13:45 Uncapping the House of Representatives could solve this issue 14:15 House expanded based on population growth 16:15 Right now the house is not representative of the people 17:45 Multi-member districts also provide better representation 19:00 Bigger house would create less need for gerrymandering 20:00 Expanding house would minimize the impact of electoral college 21:30 Expanded house would lower barrier to entry for third parties 23:00 The house was always meant to be a bit messy 23:30 Madison argued the house was always going to have to expand 25:00 This change wouldn’t exclusively benefit one party 26:00 Don’t fight over the chairs, increase the size of the table 28:00 The “woke right” has emerged, evidenced by Comey indictment 29:30 Right accused the left of the oversensitivity they’re engaged in now 31:00 Attacks by the FCC on Kimmel will backfire and look terrible 33:15 Not an accident that Bondi wouldn’t bring Comey case & Blanche will 34:15 Hegseth’s hearing was useless, everyone wanted a viral moment 35:30 Hegseth is suffering from a bad case of “internet brain” 36:30 Hegseth is doing everything he can to politicize the military 37:15 Hegseth failed to make the case for why the war was necessary 39:00 Nobody in the administration believes that any criticism is valid 40:15 Do they really think the voters are all stupid? 46:30 Adam Green (Progressive Change Committee) joins The Chuck ToddCast 49:00 What does it mean to be a pragmatic progressive? 50:15 The mission is to show economic populism can win in swing races 51:30 Graham Platner is a great storyteller, not a policy wonk 53:00 Several progressive candidates project strong masculine energy 54:30 Balancing incrementalism vs. progress 55:15 Mamdani is showing that you can be both progressive & pragmatic 56:15 Misconception is that “moderate” means centrist 57:00 The progressives are demanding a rebalancing of the power dynamics 57:30 Public doesn’t trust the political and economic system, wants change 58:15 How vulnerable are both parties to collapse at some point? 59:00 Both parties have collapsed reputationally, just not structurally 1:00:45 Dems could have passed $12 minimum wage if they compromised 1:03:00 If Dems sweep midterms but leaders stay the same, it’s bad for 2028 1:03:45 If Dems win the senate, it’s not a validation of Schumer 1:05:00 If Dems elect the non Schumer candidates, he has to go 1:05:45 Schumer was a really good leader… until he wasn’t 1:06:30 Recruiting 77 year old Janet Mills is symbolic of Schumer’s strategy 1:07:15 Sherrod Brown is probably the best Dems can do in Ohio 1:07:45 Iowa is overindexed as a swing state 1:09:30 Michigan having El-Sayed & Slokin would show multiple ways to win 1:10:30 If El-Sayed loses, does that set the progressive movement back? 1:12:00 Are independents the best route to power in Montana & Nebraska? 1:13:00 The Democratic brand is shot in most red & rural states 1:14:15 If Platner was in leadership, Dems would do better in rural states 1:15:30 What matters more to the PCC, economic or cultural alignment? 1:17:15 Democrats shouldn’t put out reproductive rights as their banner issue 1:18:00 Big Dem wins in the past came from economic, not cultural alignment 1:20:15 Jared Golden able to vote against trans sports bill, focused on economics 1:22:30 Want to see progressives assert leverage against their leadership 1:23:30 Proposal to lower the threshold for discharge petitions 1:24:15 Discharge petitions would actually liberate the leadership a bit 1:25:30 When too many items are stuffed into a bill, you don’t get credit for them 1:26:30 Getting rid of the filibuster would help Democrats rebuild trust 1:27:30 Both parties only like the filibuster when they’re out of power 1:29:00 Getting rid of stock trading isn’t as simple as it sounds 1:30:45 Spouses need to be included in stock trading ban 1:31:30 If Dems win both houses, where should they work with Trump? 1:32:45 Dems will be elected to be a check on Trump, but need his signature 1:35:45 Working with Trump requires abandoning the ideas you ran on 1:37:00 Dems shouldn’t trim their sails in order to work with Trump 1:39:30 PCC supported Talarico over Crockett for his bold economic vision 1:42:00 AOC may need to run for president soon, before her “sell by” date 1:42:45 Stephen Colbert could be an intriguing candidate, performance matters 1:44:00 Mamdani takes time every day to tell a story on social media 1:45:15 Shawn Fain could also make a strong candidate 1:46:30 If Talarico wins in Texas, it could put him on the presidential map 1:48:15 Talarico as VP to get his sea legs could be a potential route 1:49:00 McMorrow positioning herself as the “goldilocks” candidate 1:49:45 Being the shake up the system candidate is the way to go 1:50:30 Talarico, Platner & El-Sayed tell a story about power 1:51:15 The current system is failing the public 1:53:15 Preference between Steyer or Porter in California? 1:54:30 AOC raises the most money because people trust her 1:57:30 Ask Chuck 1:57:45 Experienced wildfires, in bad conditions there’s nothing you can do 1:59:00 What do you make of Hegseth purging so many top generals? 2:01:00 Props for “Dynastic” podcast 2:03:00 How do you see the US/Israel dynamic play out post-Trump? 2:06:30 Do you see a path forward for statehood for D.C. & Puerto Rico? 2:10:15 Why don’t interviewers press Lindsey Graham on his post J6 remarks? 2:13:00 Should Democrats be more forceful rhetorically or does that do more harm? 2:17:15 Ken Martin appears on Pod Save to explain why they won’t release ‘24 autopsy 2:18:30 Autopsy could have offended a particular set of donors or supporters 2:19:45 How do you learn lessons from the loss if you don’t share those lessons? 2:20:30 NCAA expanding basketball tournamentSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever had a conversation with a loved one go in a completely different direction than what you saw coming? Your intention was there, but the way your loved one received it was nothing in the way you intended it?  Our good friend, Jason VanRuler, started to see this pattern in many of the people he had come into therapy. Conversations between people -- where everything was at stake -- and the intentions were there, but someone inevitably walked away feeling hurt, unseen, or even abandoning the relationship altogether. What one person meant isn't what the other person heard. So Jason asked himself, “Why does it sometimes land well, and other times not?”The more research he did, the more he learned predictable patterns that led to 5 primary communication types: Peace, Advocate, Thinking, Harbor, and Spark. Each one with a strength and each one with an opportunity. Not only that, each person has their own primary and secondary type. In this episode, Jason unveils each type, how we develop our own, and how we can better understand how our spouse, kids, and loved ones communicate with us. We get into marital dynamics and why we usually marry someone with similar secondary type, but the trouble that can arise when we realize we don't have the same primary one. We also talk about how knowing the types can help us communicate at a deeper level with our kids. Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction 1:18 Jason VanRuler joins the show!4:34 Why these communication types matters 6:00 Jason introduces the 5 PATHS of communication11:16 Where our personal communication style comes from 14:05 Strengths and weaknesses of each communication type 20:20 The communication types in our children and how we give what we didn't get25:05 How different communication types serve us in marriage Show Notes: Get Jason's new book Discovering Your Communication Type: The 5 Paths to Deeper Connections and Stronger Relationships: https://amzn.to/4sZzbwc Check out Jason's website: www.jasonvr.comReserve your seat for Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort beginning August 17, 2026: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/V75F6bY2Looking for a marriage intensive with Famous at Home? Apply now.  https://www.famousathome.com/coaching Men, sign up for the Living Legacy Cohort:https://www.famousathome.com/menscoaching Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

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How are you subconsciously buying into the lie that there is a secular-sacred divide?   In this episode, Jeff and Sharon discuss:  The intersection of faith and finance. Glorifying God through your business leadership. Investing in the things that will last for eternity. Communicating with others through a common language narrative.    Key Takeaways:  God's ways work at all times, and they work for believers and non-believers. As a business person, you have a stronger pulpit than the pastor. You are with your employees for 40+ hours a week, not only 30 minutes per week. Busyness is not an indicator of success. It is a sneaky trap for comparison. Intentionality with what God has called you to is the key to success. Spouses should be having the money conversations, including working with the financial advisor, together. They should be on the same page and allow the money to tell a narrative.    "I'm a firm believer that when we construct our business around fulfilling God's purpose and God's mission, then not only are employees going to be impacted, but our vendors will be impacted, our clients will be impacted, and, plus, it's just more joyful to live God's way." —  Sharon Epps   Episode References:  Women Doing Well: https://womendoingwell.org/ Kingdom Advisors: https://kingdomadvisors.com/   About Sharon Epps: Sharon Epps is the President of Kingdom Advisors. Sharon has a background in corporate banking, as a stewardship pastor, and as an executive with Crown Financial Ministries and Generous Church. She is also a co-founder of Women Doing Well. Sharon's passion is to energize stewardship and generosity through highly leveraged leaders.   Connect with Sharon Epps: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharonepps1      Connect with Jeff Thomas:  Website: https://www.arkosglobal.com/ Podcast: https://www.generousbusinessowner.com/ Book: https://www.arkosglobal.com/trading-up Email: jeff.thomas@arkosglobal.com Twitter: https://twitter.com/ArkosGlobalAdv Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/arkosglobal/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/arkosglobaladvisors Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/arkosglobaladvisors/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLUYpPwkHH7JrP6PrbHeBxw

Dan discusses the latest developments in Colorado's governor's race with George Brauchler, the 23rd District Attorney. They dive into the Second Look Bill, proposed legislation that would allow certain violent criminals to be paroled after serving 20 years. Dan expresses his concerns about the bill's implications, citing the lack of consideration for victims and their families. The conversation also touches on the Left's approach to crime and punishment, and how it may impact the state's safety.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, we feature an interview with Angela and Jim. They discuss the importance of wisdom in financial planning. They use anecdotes and real-life examples to illustrate how experience, proactive planning, and understanding the 'why' behind financial decisions are crucial for a secure future. The conversation emphasizes avoiding common pitfalls like emotional decision-making and fragmented advice. Key Takeaways

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We're not skirting the hard stuff today. From living with a spouse who won't get help, to raising kids in a culture that feeds anxiety and confusion, to dealing with hurt inside the church, these are the real questions you're asking.But before we get to them, we need to talk about something bigger: the slow drift away from truth, even inside the church. When everything becomes “discernment” and everyone claims special insight, we stop thinking clearly and start dividing over things that shouldn't divide us.We're going to get grounded again. Truth matters. Your family matters. And how you live this out right now matters more than ever.Show mentions: http://heidistjohn.com/mentionsWebsite | heidistjohn.comSupport the show! | donorbox.org/donation-827Rumble | rumble.com/user/HeidiStJohnYoutube | youtube.com/@HeidiStJohnPodcastInstagram | @‌heidistjohnFacebook | Heidi St. JohnX | @‌heidistjohnFaith That Speaks Online CommunitySubmit your questions for Fan Mail Friday | heidistjohn.com/fanmailfriday

Dr. Rob challenges the common belief that the addiction part of a person is separate and therefore able to be dealt with and removed altogether. Rather, the addict part of you is part of the whole you, and will always have the potential to act out again. As a result, there is danger in declaring that you will never act out again. So what can recovering addicts do instead? Dr. Rob highlights reasonable expectations of both partners in recovery, strategies for building trust again, and the importance of creating a solid support group for both partners after betrayal.    TAKEAWAYS: [1:22] There are two separate parts of me, right? Wrong.  [4:00] If I lie again am I not really in recovery?  [5:45] The value of attending 12-Step meetings long after recovery begins.  [8:07] Common pitfalls in the years after recovery.  [10:09] The importance of building social support relationships.  [11:46] Treatment doesn't actually fix anyone.  [13:36] Will my spouse ever do this to me again?  [18:03] Strategies for building trust after betrayal.  [22:00] Spouses have work to do as well.  [27:07] Will we ever be happy together again?  [32:00] Addicts need to work every day on being the best people they can be.   RESOURCES: Sex and Relationship Healing @RobWeissMSW Sex Addiction 101  Seeking Integrity Free Sexual Addiction Screening Assessment Partner Sexuality Survey   Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES: “Your capability to do negative things doesn't go away because you keep your addiction in check. It's who you are.”  “Recovering addicts who are fearful and worried about slipping up have a realistic sense of what they're facing when they go out in the world.”  “Treatment doesn't ‘fix' anyone. It just gives you a chance for remission.”  “You can only build trust with what you are doing, not with what you are saying.”  “Addicts need to work every day on being the best people they can be.”

Got some sh!t to say?This week, Marko and Steve dive into the world of work spouses—the coworker you vent to, laugh with, and probably talk to more than your actual partner during the day. They break down why these relationships feel so essential at work, and why they can make even the worst jobs bearable… but also question when that closeness starts to look a little too close.Because let's be real—what happens when your real partner isn't exactly a fan? The guys get into the discomfort, jealousy, and side-eyes that can come with having a work spouse, especially when boundaries start to blur and outsiders (or your significant other) think something more is going on.To wrap things up, Eduardo joins the guys to  tackle the week's Listener Sh!tuation, offering their thoughts and guidance on a real life dilemma from the audience.-Articles:Psychology Today | The Work Spouse: Indispensable Friend or Playing with Fire?Support the showSh!t | Leave us a voicemail with your relationship sh!tuation at (903) POD- SHIT.  That's (903) 763-7448.  You can also fill out a Listener Sh!tuation on our website, podrelationshit.com, or email us at relationshitquestions@gmail.com. Visit Us |www.podrelationshit.com for more Relationsh!t content and information about the podcast.Donate | Head over to patreon.com/podrelationshit and start donating today!  Your donations will give you early access to the podcast,  behind-the-scenes interviews with our weekly guests, and merchandise.Rate Us | Go to your favorite podcast directory and give Relationsh!t a 5-Star rating, and a fantastic review!Follow Us | Instagram and Facebook: @podrelationshit

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Stu Burguiere and Dave Landau continue their joint mission to do America by ranking Gavin Newsom's wife with the rest of the worst and most problematic political spouses in American history. Plus Stu and Dave respond to Donald Trump's latest Truth on Iran, detail a few disturbing candy-related stories, and go through some of their favorite viewer comments from last night's show. TODAY'S SPONSORS RAYCON Get 15% off the Everyday Earbuds Classic at http://www.buyraycon.com/stu LEAN Get 20% off and free rush shipping with the code STUANDDAVE at http://www.takelean.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do women really want to see from their men via text or facetime? spoiler: its not a d*ck pic. Ive got some fire tips for the traveling spouses. tune in for juicy listner questions and follow ups + tantra for beginners aka technique you can try tonight! ASK ANON @ https://www.thehornyhousewifepodcast.com Popstar: Get 20% off your purchase by visiting https://www.popstarlabs.com/hornyhousewife and use code promo code HORNY HOUSEWIFE Indacloud: If you're 21 or older, get 40% OFF your first order @IndaCloud with code HOUSEWIFE at https://inda.shop/HOUSEWIFE! #indacloudpod Bluechew: Buy two months of BlueChew Gold, you get the third for FREE with promo code HOUSEWIFE at https://www.bluechew.com

In this raw, no-BS conversation, PFC Podcast host Dennis sits down with Justin Ball — licensed clinical social worker, former Green Beret, and one of the most insightful voices on military mental health — to unpack the often-ignored second war.Justin brings both battlefield experience and clinical expertise, while Dennis shares unfiltered war stories and hard-earned lessons. They draw on Homer's Odyssey, Achilles in Vietnam, modern family systems theory, emotion-focused therapy (EFT), anthropology of tribal hunters returning to the village, and brutally honest spouse perspectives (shoutout to Angela Ball for the coffee-table truth bombs).This isn't another “do these 5 things and you'll be fine” checklist. It's a real talk about why coming home is hard — for the service member, the spouse, the kids, and the whole damn family system — and how to navigate it with eyes wide open.Key Takeaways- The transition home starts **before** you leave the sandbox — unrealistic expectations (“If I can just make it home…”) set most people up for failure.- Anger is often the only “socially acceptable” emotion for warriors; underneath it usually lies fear, sadness, shame, or grief over missed time/missed life.- Military and home are **competing tribes** with conflicting values, boundaries, and shame triggers — yelling works at work, but it nukes the dinner table.- Spouses aren't “just holding it down” — they've built an entire functioning system. Coming home = deliberate, careful re-entry, not storming the castle.- Chronic leaving-and-returning (TDYs, schools, exercises) is as damaging as combat deployments — families don't care if it's “just training”; absence is absence.- Healthy reintegration means **we** not **me** — appreciation, lowered expectations, co-regulation in traffic rage moments, and honest communication about what's really happening emotionally.- There is no smooth road. The healthiest couples/families acknowledge it's bumpy, forgive missteps quickly, and keep talking.Whether you're an OGA guy with 15 TDYs, an infantryman coming off your first rotation, a spouse reading this description in tears, or a leader wondering why your guys are angry all the time — this episode is for you.Chapters - 00:26 – Justin returns; setting the stage for “coming home”- 03:16 – Evolution of post-deployment screening — what's better now vs. then- 09:59 – Acute vs. chronic homecoming — one big event vs. a lifestyle of constant comings & goings- 13:18 – The spouse perspective (Angela drops truth bombs over coffee)- 19:46 – Don't discount non-combat deployments or training risks — it's all cumulative family stress- 22:38 – Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT) basics — emotions are older than words- 27:05 – Anthropology: hunters leaving the tribe, returning changed, and the danger of re-meeting- 36:55 – Shame culture in the military vs. home — competing tribal expectations create anger & failure loops- 42:25 – Anger as secondary emotion — fear, sadness, shame underneath- 45:03 – Mismatched expectations on both sides (warrior welcome vs. “don't touch my schedule”)- 50:31 – Operator syndrome vs. spouse high-stress reality — high stress is high stress- 54:29 – Ego check: coming home with an inflated “war hero” self vs. careful re-entry- 59:23 – The minivan road-rage story — tribal rules don't switch off overnight- 01:05:35 – Building a culture of appreciation (Gottman style) without knife-handing it- 01:09:43 – Listening without fixing — emotional acknowledgment firstFor more content, go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.prolongedfieldcare.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Consider supporting us: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon.com/ProlongedFieldCareCollective⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.lobocoffeeco.com/product-page/prolonged-field-care

What if the greatest story ever told felt deeply personal again? In this Easter-focused conversation, Dallas Jenkins shares how he is bringing the resurrection of Jesus Christ to life in upcoming seasons of The Chosen. With intimacy and emotional depth, Jenkins reveals his own faith journey that reshaped his career, his creative and spiritual approach to the Savior's final days, and what it truly means to celebrate Easter with joy that is both real and transformative.SHOW NOTES/TRANSCRIPTSEnglish: https://tinyurl.com/podcastOT214ENFrench: https://tinyurl.com/podcastOT214FRGerman: https://tinyurl.com/podcastOT214DEPortuguese: https://tinyurl.com/podcastOT214PTSpanish: https://tinyurl.com/podcastOT214ESALL EPISODES/SHOW NOTESfollowHIM website: https://www.followHIM.coFREE PDF DOWNLOADS OF followHIM QUOTE BOOKSNew Testament: https://tinyurl.com/PodcastNTBookOld Testament: https://tinyurl.com/PodcastOTBookBook of Mormon: https://tinyurl.com/PodcastBMBook  WEEKLY NEWSLETTER https://tinyurl.com/followHIMnewsletter  SOCIAL MEDIA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/followHIMpodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/followhimpodcastTIMECODE:00:00 Easter - Dallas Jenkins1:00 Welcome and Lisa gushes2:10 Easter in the Jenkins family5:04 Come, Follow Me Manual6:35 Portraying the Crucifixion and Resurrection of Jesus09:15 A gateway to testimony11:34 Why does it have to be so brutal?14:33 Getting to show what comes next16:26 The biggest struggle in Season 5 20:53 How to portray the Road to Emmaus?23:45 Who is the Jesus of popular expectation?27:22 Dallas @ BYU33:43 Measuring success34:37 How to focus on Easter?38:33 Dallas on LDS turf42:42 Understanding through building a scene44:58 Pool of Siloam46:13 Jesus in his hometown and a joyous scene48:03 Evangelical mascot for the LDS50:31 The Chosen points to reading the scriptures53:02 Watch Season 6 for the joy in Season 756:01 Personal challenges and teamwork with Amanda59:41 Spouses supporting our ministry1:01:12 Matthew and Peter1:06:48 Ways to support Brother Jenkins1:10:20 Which character surprised Dallas?1:14:09 Jonathan isn't Jesus and a Green Burrito1:16:53 Actors being prepared by God1:19:40 Red Sea Moments1:21:30 Feeling chosen and its “not all rainbows and unicorns”1:25:58 Ezekiel and Easter1:28:05 Gratitude for Dallas's testimony of Jesus Christ1:30:47 End of Easter - Dallas JenkinsThanks to the followHIM team:Steve & Shannon Sorensen: Cofounder, Executive Producer, SponsorDavid & Verla Sorensen: SponsorsDr. Hank Smith: Co-hostJohn Bytheway: Co-hostDavid Perry: ProducerKyle Nelson: Marketing, SponsorLisa Spice: Client Relations, Editor, Show NotesWill Stoughton: Video EditorKrystal Roberts: Translation Team, English & French Transcripts, WebsiteAriel Cuadra: Spanish TranscriptsAmelia Kabwika: Portuguese TranscriptsHeather Barlow: Communications DirectorSydney Smith: Social Media, Graphic Design "Let Zion in Her Beauty Rise" by Marshall McDonaldhttps://www.marshallmcdonaldmusic.com

Get my new book: https://bronsonequity.com/fireyourselfDownload my new special report - How to Use Inflation to Your Advantage - www.bronsonequity.com/inflationThis webinar replay from the Mailbox Money Show features Bronson Hill moderating an expert panel on the rise of private credit as a powerful, tax-efficient cash-flow alternative to traditional banking and Wall Street investments. The discussion explores how private credit fills lending gaps left by post-2008 regulations, offers faster capital access for businesses, delivers strong risk-adjusted yields (10–34% net in various models), and provides diversification across industries like litigation finance, medical receivables, real estate bridge lending, and merchant cash advances.Panelists:Yonah Weiss — Business Director of Madison SPECS, specializing in cost segregation studies that accelerate depreciation and generate massive tax deductions for real estate investors (especially under current 100% bonus depreciation rules).Kaaren Hall — Founder of UDirect IRA Services, a leading expert in self-directed IRAs and retirement accounts, author of the BiggerPockets Guide to Self-Directed IRAs, and advocate for using retirement funds to invest in alternative assets like real estate and private credit.Courtney Moeller — Oil & gas investment specialist focused on working interest deals that deliver significant upfront tax deductions (often 80–90%+) and ongoing depletion allowances to offset active, passive, and capital gains income.TIMESTAMPS0:40 - Welcome!1:36 - Event Overview3:19 - Panelist Introductions: Yonah Weiss, Kaaren Hall, Courtney Moeller5:02 - Audience Poll: Who You're Most Excited to See5:41 - 2026 Tax Secrets Overview6:05 - Yonha Weiss: Cost Segregation and Accelerated Depreciation7:30 - Kaaren Hall: Self-Directed IRAs and Retirement Accounts8:29 - Courtney Moeller: Oil and Gas Tax Benefits10:51 - Real Estate Professional Status and Active Income Offset12:20 - Holistic Tax Planning and Exit Strategies13:08 - Self-Directed IRA Asset Classes and Prohibited Transactions15:29 - Super Bowl Tickets in Roth IRA Example17:42 - UBIT/UDFI in Self-Directed IRAs and Syndications19:44 - Oil and Gas Risks and Operator Due Diligence21:55 - Planning Mistakes and Last-Minute Tax Fixes23:04 - Primary Residence vs Investment Property Depreciation24:57 - Single-Family and Vacation Rental Cost Segregation26:56 - Oil Price Impact on Returns and Break-Even Points28:05 - Bonus Depreciation on Gas Stations and Car Washes29:38 - Business Equipment and Section 179 Deduction31:32 - Roth IRA Conversion and Valuation Strategies32:58 - Audience Poll Results and Tax Strategy Discussion35:24 - Land Man Show and Oil & Gas Realities36:43 - Giveaway Announcement: Fire Yourself Book and Strategy Call39:02 - Wealth Forum Event in Scottsdale Announcement40:11 - Q&A: IRA-Owned LLC Prohibited Transactions42:25 - Q&A: Concurrent Investments by Spouses in IRAs44:39 - Q&A: Cost Segregation on Existing Properties46:48 - Q&A: Oil Price Effects on Current Returns48:07 - Q&A: UBIT/UDFI Filing and Leverage in Syndications50:08 - Q&A: Self-Directed IRA Oil & Gas Investments51:35 - Panelist Resources and Contact Info53:43 - Outro and Next Event TeaserJoint the Wealth Forum: bronsonequity.com/wealthConnect with the Guests:Yonah Weiss:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cost-segregation-yonah-weiss/Website: https://www.yonahweiss.com/Kaaren Hall:Website: https://udirectira.com/Email: info@udirectira.comCourtney MoellerEmail: courtney@courtneymoeller.com#PrivateCredit#TaxStrategies#CostSegregation#SelfDirectedIRA#OilAndGasInvesting#PassiveIncome#RealEstate2026

Topics: Unanswered Prayers, Lies About Prayer, Praying the Prayer Right, Vain Repetitions (Matthew 6:7), Unconfessed Sin and Prayer, Cherished Sin (Psalm 66:18), Righteousness Through Christ (2 Corinthians 5:21), Doubt and Prayer (James 1:6-7), God's Faithfulness Despite Our Doubt (2 Timothy 2:13), Wrong Motives in Prayer (James 4:3), Pleasure and God, Unforgiveness and Prayer, Forgiving Because You're Forgiven (Ephesians 4:32), James and the Law, Christ Is the End of the Law (Romans 10:4), Ignoring the Poor and Prayer (Proverbs 21:13), Bad Husbands and Prayer (1 Peter 3:7), Praying Together as Spouses, God Always Hears You, the Holy Spirit Praying for You (Romans 8:26), God Working All Things for Good (Romans 8:28), New Heart at Salvation, Righteousness Not Based on Behavior, Unanswered Prayers and Jesus, Asking and Trusting, Striving to Rest (Hebrews 4:11), God's Got Something Better Support the showSign up for Matt's free daily devotional!  https://mattmcmillen.com/newsletter

Access to instant emergency money for Soldiers and their families. What is Army Emergency Relief (AER) and why has it been called the Army's safety net for Soldiers and their Families? How does Army Emergency Relief provide financial support when Soldiers face unexpected hardships? In this powerful episode of the Your Next Mission® Video Podcast, SMA Tilley welcomes 16th SMA (R) Michael A. Grinston, the CEO of Army Emergency Relief, to unpack the mission, resources, and impact of one of the most important organizations supporting the U.S. Army community.For decades, Army Emergency Relief has quietly helped Soldiers, Retirees, and Military Families overcome financial emergencies through grants, interest-free loans, scholarships, and assistance programs.But many in the Army community still ask:• What exactly does Army Emergency Relief do?• Who qualifies for AER assistance?• Can active duty Soldiers receive grants or loans from AER?• How does Army Emergency Relief help Military Families during emergencies?• What types of financial hardships does AER cover?• Does Army Emergency Relief help with rent, travel, or medical expenses?• What scholarships does Army Emergency Relief offer for Military Children and Spouses?• How does AER support Soldiers during PCS moves or unexpected financial crises?• Why do Army leaders say AER is one of the most important resources Soldiers should know about?• How has Army Emergency Relief impacted the lives of thousands of Soldiers across the force?Under the leadership of 16th SMA (R) Michael A. Grinston, Army Emergency Relief continues its mission to ensure no Soldier faces financial hardship alone.If you are a Soldier, Retiree, Military Spouse, leader, or someone interested in how the Army takes care of its people, this conversation will give you insight into one of the most powerful support programs in the military.You will learn: How Army Emergency Relief supports Soldiers financially Why leaders across the Army trust AER in times of crisis How to apply for Army Emergency Relief assistance What programs AER offers to Military Families and Children The long-term impact of Army Emergency Relief on Army readinessArmy Emergency Relief (AER) is the official nonprofit of the U.S. Army, providing financial assistance to Soldiers, retirees, and their families when they need it most. Through grants, interest-free loans, and scholarships, AER helps maintain Army readiness, morale, and family stability.Hosted on the Your Next Mission® video podcast, where we bring together military leaders, Veterans, and organizations making a real difference for the military community.What is Army Emergency Relief?How does Army Emergency Relief help Soldiers?Who qualifies for Army Emergency Relief assistance?Can Soldiers get financial help from AER?How do you apply for Army Emergency Relief?What grants does Army Emergency Relief provide?Does AER offer scholarships for Military Families?#ArmyEmergencyRelief#AER#MichaelGrinston#YourNextMission#USArmy#MilitaryFamilies#SoldierSupport#MilitaryBenefits#Veterans#ArmyLife

Feeling alone in your own community can create quiet relational strain and identity confusion. This isn't social failure or emotional weakness. It may be a sign of identity-level misalignment — belonging through performance instead of being known.You can be surrounded by people and still feel alone.Not rejected.Not excluded.Just slightly unseen.This episode explores the quiet loneliness that can exist inside belonging — especially for high performers and high-capacity leaders who learned early that usefulness secured connection.If you've ever left a room exhausted not because anything went wrong, but because you were subtly “on,” this conversation will feel familiar.We explore:Why capable people often belong through strength instead of mutualityHow nervous system regulation shapes social bracingWhy identity drift can happen even in healthy communitiesThe external cost of armor in leadership relationships and family systemsThis isn't about communication skills or better social strategies.It's about recognition.When belonging is built on performance — even subtle performance — people begin relating to what you provide, not who you are. Over time, that creates distance. Teams learn that safety equals productivity. Children learn that love equals strength. Spouses stop offering care because you don't look like you need it.And underneath all of that? Often grief.Because the role that secured your belonging also protected you. Letting it soften can feel like risking your place.We gently explore the nervous system layer — how hyper-attunement, micro-adjustments, and social fatigue are not personality flaws, but adaptive strategies. And we name the layer few people speak about calmly: sometimes being the strong one keeps you slightly above needing anyone.Recognition comes before resolution. Awareness without shame is where recalibration begins.Today's Micro Recalibration:In your next relational space, ask gently:Do I exhale here?Not to fix it.Not to judge it.Just to notice.That awareness alone begins the shift.If you've been feeling relational strain, subtle burnout, or an identity shift you can't quite name — you're not broken. You may simply be recalibrating how you belong.Explore Identity-Level Recalibration → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Learn about The Recalibration Cohort→ Join the next Friday Recalibration Live experience → Take your listening deeper! Subscribe to The Weekly Recalibration Companion to receive reflections and extensions to each week's podcast episodes. → Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Books to read (Tidy categories on Amazon- I've read/listened to each recommended title.) → One link to all things...

Text us and let us know what you think! Tap HEREWhat would change if we built a rule of life that actually fit our days and led us to Jesus? Join Jayce and James as they discuss what this could look like. We unpack “rule” as a trellis, not a cage—simple anchors that help prayer, work, family, and rest breathe. New Year energy is helpful, but the real move is choosing one priority and letting everything else take its proper place. That's where fasting and asceticism come in. From Exodus 90's cold showers and media fasts to the Daniel Fast's clarity, we share the honest early struggle—headaches, hunger, fidgety evenings—and the surprising fruits: easier yeses to our kids, a renewed desire for the nightly examen, and a heart that listens without forcing.Along the way, Jeff Cavins' challenge hits home: if you have “priorities,” you don't have a priority. Spouses and children matter immensely, yet the center cannot hold unless we order our lives to the will of the Lord. We explore how daily Mass becomes a fixed star, why saying no creates real freedom, and how fasting sharpens spiritual hearing. ************Links and other stuff from the show:Pastoral Letter, "On the Unity of the Body and Soul:" archokc.org/pastoral-lettersRed Dirt Catholics Email Address: reddirtcatholics@archokc.orgThe Book "From Christendom to Apostolic Mission" (Digital and Print): AmazonThe Social Dilemma: https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224Daily Examen Prayer: https://bit.ly/309As8zLectio Divina How-To: https://bit.ly/3fp8UTa

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Are work spouses actually a thing? And what turns a desk-mate into a ride-or-die?  In this special episode of The Assignment, Audie Cornish reunites with former work husband and longtime co-host of NPR's All Things Considered, Ari Shapiro. They dive into the stories that defined their careers, the push and pull of competition in the newsroom, and the ways creative collaborators develop shared languages—from Ryan Coogler and Michael B. Jordan to Tina Fey and Amy Poehler.   Taped live at On Air Fest in Brooklyn, New York.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We recommend listening to the teaching, HaSatan (Did the Devil Make You Do It?) | Part 20, before listening to this episode.Afterburn: also known in the fitness world as the “afterburn effect.” Simply put, the more intense the exercise, the more oxygen your body consumes afterward. This effect could occur spiritually after Rabbi Berkson's intense weekly teachings. This Afterburn Q&A session lets your mind and soul absorb more understanding (oxygen).Some of the topics covered are:• Can we be “guarded” in our love for one another?• We irritate one another, hopefully for the good• Handling correction• Parents, stop ruining your children by doing this…• I won't allow others to affect the demonstration of my love• Spouses shouldn't compare their spouse with another's spouse • Do we love ourselves as Messiah loves us?• Do we observe well enough to learn and adjust?• Is this exalting yourself over Elohim?• Because you experienced signs and wonders• Your answers don't come from within• How do we deal with negative feelings towards another in the Body?• Becoming the new you and going forward• Overcompensating for your trauma• Is there such a thing as “spiritual pork”?• If one has the attitude to ‘negate' their brother…?• Allowing the abomination of desolation to be set up in my heart?• Why don't we listen to or believe each other?• It's my job to remind youSubscribe to be notified of new content each week.Learn more about MTOI:https://mtoi.orgThe MTOI App https://mtoi.org/download-the-mtoi-appFollow MTOI:https://www.facebook.com/mtoiworldwide https://www.instagram.com/mtoi_worldwidehttps://www.tiktok.com/@mtoi_worldwide Contact MTOI: 

*Disclaimer* This episode contains adult content and is not recommended for young listeners.   284. DON'T MISS THIS! Controversial Sex Questions, Answered with Dr. Juli Slattery   1 Samuel 24:19b NIV “May the Lord reward you well for the way you treated me today.”   *Transcription Below*   Bio: Instagram Facebook Authentic Intimacy Website Java with Juli Podcast   Thank you to Our Sponsor: Leman Property Management Company   Questions and Topics We Cover: As Christ followers, should we use a friend's preferred names and pronouns? If one part of Scripture talks about turning the other cheek, is that the same as saying God expects you to stay in an abusive marriage? Is it reasonable to assume that once they have a smartphone, 100% of kids will be exposed to pornography?   Previous Episodes on Sexual Intimacy on The Savvy Sauce, Including Past Episodes with Dr. Juli Slattery: Fostering a Fun, Healthy Sex Life with your Spouse with Dr. Jennifer Konzen  Ways to Deepen Your Intimacy in Marriage with Dr. Douglas Rosenau  Ten Common Questions About Sex, Shared Through a Biblical Worldview with Dr. Michael Sytsma Hope For Treating Pelvic Pain with Tracey LeGrand Treatment for Sexual Issues with Certified Sex Therapist, Emma Schmidt Talking With Your Kids About Sex with Brian and Alison Sutter Natural Aphrodisiacs with Christian Certified Sex Therapist, Dr. Douglas Rosenau Healthy Sexuality, Emotional Intelligence, and Parenting Children with Autism with Counselor, Lauren Dack Pain and Joy in Sexual Intimacy with Psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist, Dr. Jessica McCleese Identifying and Fighting Human Trafficking with Dr. Jeff Waibel Bridging the Gap Between Military and Civilian Families with Licensed Professional Counselor, Cuthor, Podcaster, and 2015 Military Spouse of the Year, Corie Weathers Enjoying a God-Honoring, Healthy Sex Life with Your Spouse with Certified Sex Therapist and Ordained Minister, Dr. Michael Sytsma Enjoying Parenting and Managing Conversations About Sex with Certified Sex Therapist and Author, Dr. Jennifer Konzen Conflict Resolution, Infidelity, and Infertility with Licensed Psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist, Dr. Jessica McCleese Hormones and Body Image with Certified Sex Therapist, Vickie George Passion Pursuit with Dr. Juli Slattery Female Orgasm with Sue Goldstein Erectile Dysfunction, Premature Ejaculation, and Treatments Available with Dr. Irwin Goldstein Turn Ons, Turn Offs, and Savoring Sex in Marriage with Dr. Jennifer Konzen Desire Discrepancy in Marriage with Dr. Michael Sytsma Answering Listener's Questions About Sex with Kelli Willard Anatomy of an Affair with Dave Carder Supernatural Restoration Story with Bob and Audrey Meisner Healthy Minds, Marriages, and Sex Lives with Drs. Scott and Melissa Symington Female Pornography Addiction and Meaningful Recovery with Crystal Renaud Day Building Lasting Relationships with Clarence and Brenda Shuler Healthy Ways for Females to Increase Sexual Enjoyment with Tracey LeGrand Pornography Healing for Spouses with Geremy Keeton Sexual Sin Recovery for You and Your Spouse (Part Two) Personal Development and Sexual Wholeness with Dr. Sibylle Georgianna  Our Brain's Role in Sexual Intimacy with Angie Landry Discovering God's Design for Romance with Sharon Jaynes Sex in Marriage and Its Positive Effects with Francie Winslow, Part 1 Science and Art of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage, Part 2 Making Love in Marriage with Debra Fileta Mutually Pleasing Sex in Marriage with Gary Thomas Sex Series: God's Design and Warnings for Sex: An Interview with Mike Novotny Sex Series: Enhancing Female Pleasure and Enjoyment of Sex: An Interview with Dr. Jennifer Degler Sex Series Orgasmic Potential, Pleasure, and Friendship: An Interview with Bonny Burns  Sex Series: Sex Series: Healthy Self, Healthy Sex: An Interview with Gaye Christmus Sex Series: Higher Sexual Desire Wife: An Interview with J Parker Sex Series: Six Pillars of Intimacy with Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo 215 Enriching Women's Sexual Function, Part One with Dr. Kris Christiansen 216 Enriching Women's Sexual Function, Part Two with Dr. Kris Christiansen 217 Tween/Teen Females: How to Navigate Changes during Puberty with Dr. Jennifer Degler 218 Secrets of Sex and Marriage: Interview with Dr. Michael Sytsma 222 Pornography: Protecting Children and Personal Healing, Victory, and Recovery in Christ with Sam Black Special Patreon Release: Holy Sex: An Interview with Dr. Juli Slattery Special Patreon Release: His Desires and Her Desires in the Bedroom with Dr. Jennifer Konzen 224 Surprising Discoveries of Sex in Marriage: An Interview with Shaunti Feldhahn 252 Maximizing Sexual Connections as Newlyweds to Long Term Marriages and Recovering from a Sexless Marriage with Dr. Cliff & Joyce Penner 260 Sex After Cancer with Dr. Kris Christiansen 277 Breaking Through Addiction in Marriage with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith   Connect with The Savvy Sauce on Facebook or Instagram or Our Website   Gospel Scripture: (all NIV) Romans 3:23 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,”   Romans 3:24 “and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.”   Romans 3:25 (a) “God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood.”    Hebrews 9:22 (b) “without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.”    Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”    Romans 5:11 “Not only is this so, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.”    John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”   Romans 10:9 “That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”    Luke 15:10 says “In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.”   Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus”   Ephesians 1:13–14 “And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession- to the praise of his glory.”   Ephesians 1:15–23 “For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms, far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every title that can be given, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way.”   Ephesians 2:8–10 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God‘s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.“   Ephesians 2:13 “But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near through the blood of Christ.“   Philippians 1:6 “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”   *Transcription*   Music: (0:11 – 0:11)   Laura Dugger: (0:11 – 2:21) Welcome to The Savvy Sauce, where we have practical chats for intentional living. I'm your host, Laura Dugger, and I'm so glad you're here.   Today's message is not intended for little ears. We'll be discussing some adult themes, and I want you to be aware before you listen to this message.   Leman Property Management Company has the apartment you will be able to call home, with over 1,700 apartment units available in Central Illinois. Visit them today at lemanproperties.com or connect with them on Facebook.   My returning guest for today is Dr. Juli Slattery.   She has authored another book entitled Surrendered Sexuality: How Knowing Jesus Changes Everything, and we're going to cover a few themes from this book, but I think what you're going to find most helpful are her candid responses to some really tricky questions related to dating and pornography, technology, thought life, shows that we watch as believers, divorce, and just intimacy in general as married couples.   So, I think this is an episode that you're going to want to learn from yourself, but you'll also want to share with others because Dr. Juli has offered us such a gift as she directs us back to the heart issues and wisely guides us into sexual integrity in our own lives.   Here's our chat.   Welcome back to The Savvy Sauce, Dr. Juli.   Dr. Juli Slattery: (2:21 – 2:21) Thanks so much for having me back. It's always a joy.   Laura Dugger: (2:21 – 2:22) Well, I love that you've been a repeat guest many times. So, we get to just dive right in today because I'm going to link all of your previous episodes in the show notes. But to dive in, I'm just curious, as believers, where does your heart break as you see us compromising on God's design for sex?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (2:22 – 3:31) Hmm. That's such a good question. You know, I think my heart breaks the most in that when we compromise God's design for sexuality, or even when we don't understand it or understand His goodness, it means that there is a breach in our relationship with God.   And so, I am so passionate about what I do, not necessarily because I love talking about sexuality, but because for a lot of people, sexuality represents a wall between them and God, like an issue they can't resolve, or a place of shame that they just can't quite shake free from, or battle with sin that they feel like they're enslaved to. And so, those things mean that there's a limit to how much they invite God into their lives.   And so, for me, that's where my heart breaks the most is, you know, ultimately, we were created for the greatest fellowship with God and anything that gets in the way of that is something that God cares about and something that I care about.   Laura Dugger: (3:32 – 4:03) You say that well, and you've written many books, but in this most recent one, you plainly state one issue when you write, “You will not be able to obey God with your sexual thoughts, while binging shows and music that continually display the exact opposite.”   And I love how practical that is. So, Juli, why do you think this has become so normalized? And I would say, especially in Christian marriages.   Dr. Juli Slattery: (4:05 – 5:58) Yeah, you know, I think a lot of it is that the church has been historically really quiet about sexuality, you know, like we might talk about save sex for marriage, and don't cheat on your husband and that sort of thing. But the gray areas about how we think about our sexuality and kind of what we have the liberty and freedom to engage in, there's kind of silence, or maybe there's legalism.   And I think in that space, what ends up happening is the culture is so forthright with a message about sexuality, like woven throughout every single show that you could stream on any platform, you know, your music on Spotify, even the news you consume, the Instagram feeds, whatever, it's consistently showing you a way to understand sexuality that is contrary to God's design, and the messaging can be so subtle, or so repetitive that we don't even realize we're ingesting it.   And so, it's normal to talk about with your friends, like the latest season of The Bachelor, or, you know, the latest thing that you're streaming that if you really look at it, there's probably 100 references to sexuality that are outside of God's design. And so, we end up just having our mind conformed to this world.   And the scripture says really clearly in Romans 12, that we can't offer ourselves to God while we're still thinking like the world thinks that it requires an act of transformation of our thinking. And I don't know that there's anywhere more than we need this than in the topic of understanding our sexuality.   Laura Dugger: (6:00 – 6:59) Okay, so for I'm thinking of married couples, because I was recently at a wedding shower. And I love a friend from church. Her name is Dawn Karius. And she was giving the devotional and just sharing. You know, it's very easy to get married and fall into this trap. She was talking about what you watch specifically.   And she said, so many couples will watch something together, watch a show before bed, but be really intentional. If that is what you choose to do, then the shows that you're watching, even though you're with your spouse, is that drawing both of you closer to Christ? Because if it's pulling you further away from Christ, it's also pulling you away from one another.   And so, with all of that, and with what you've studied and written about, if a couple's hearing that and or some single person just hearing this, what would be your practical advice or encouragement for them?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (7:00 – 9:29) Yeah, some of it is, we can't live in a bubble. You know, it's, I think that there are some couples will have the conviction that, you know, we're just going to get rid of all of our devices, we're going to get rid of every streaming service. And there's nothing wrong with that decision, you might feel convicted to do that.   But for most couples, I would say, they're like, okay, we live in this world, we need to understand even the world we live in. And so, it's not like we're going to completely be cut off. But are we being discerning about what we consume?   And what are the standards that we might hit where we might just say, “You know what, we don't need to be watching this.” You know, like I can think of one show in particularly that my husband and I were watching. And it was a well-written show. It was exciting. But there was just so much profanity and just gross kind of sexual content that after two or three episodes, we're both just like, “You know what, as good as the show is, we just, this isn't, we're not watching this. Like we need to stop.”   And I think you need to have those discussions and you might have a different level of conviction than your spouse does. And that's okay, but at least have those conversations and you need to follow your conviction.   But then the other thing I would say that is equally important, if not more important, what are you consuming that helps you get God's perspective of sexuality? And what I've found is that a whole lot of Christian married couples know very little about what it looks like to build a healthy sex life in their marriage. And they're not consuming anything that helps them know how to love each other better, how to overcome differences, even how their bodies work, how to focus on one another and enjoy sex in a holy erotic way.   And so, even if you're watching and consuming very little content from the world, but you're not actively pursuing anything that gives you a biblical perspective, you're still going to end up defaulting to what the world says. And so, I think that again, it's equally as important or not, if not more important to be pursuing what's true and what's right and what's good.   Laura Dugger: (9:31 – 9:53) I love that, how you flipped it. And that discernment piece is huge because we don't want to be desensitized to then that we're consuming and we also want to feed on the good. So, I think it even leads to a broader question, again, as Christ followers, how can we recognize if our conscience is being pricked?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (9:54 – 12:05) Yeah, we can start by asking the Lord. You know, I mean, I think it's in, is it Psalm 139, where, you know, David is basically saying, “Search me, oh God, and know my thoughts, you know, show me if there's any offensive way within me.”   I think that's a beautiful prayer as an individual and as a couple, like God, we want to honor you with what we consume in media, with what we think about, would you guide us and would you show us? And then I think we all have that experience of watching something or listening to something or reading something where we're like, “Uh, I don't know, like, this is sort of a gray area. Like, I'm uncomfortable here. I probably shouldn't be watching this.” Or “Wow, that's really, that's really in your face. Like that's really graphic.”   And it's heeding the Holy Spirit when you get those prompts, instead of just pushing through and being like, “Ah, it's not that big of a deal. It's not going to affect me.” Like when you feel that sense of prompting, you respond to it and you say, “All right, I'm going to put this down. I'm going to shut this off.”   And, um, you know, the scripture says that we can become callous to those promptings of the Holy Spirit if we are in a habit of just running right through that. But we become more sensitive to the Holy Spirit when we yield and when we obey.   Um, and so, I think even just keeping track, you know, every day or every week, like where were the times regarding this or anything else that I really felt convicted by the Holy Spirit about maybe something I said about a friend, uh, or about a little white lie I told, you know, where were the times where I really felt the Holy Spirit nudging me and what did I do? Um, where do I need to confess that I didn't respond well? And where do I need to celebrate that? Yes, I listened, I obeyed, I yielded. Um, and so, I think that's a practice we get into of either ignoring that conviction or really yielding to it.   Laura Dugger: (12:06 – 12:28) Hmm. And that gets after the heart issue, which Jesus is so concerned about our heart. And that's a very softened heart approach. Yes. I hope we can have. And as it relates to sexual integrity, then what are some other ways that we need to be on guard so that we're careful not to be misled?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (12:29 – 13:37) Yeah, boy, I think there's just so much conversation. Um, again, even in Christian circles, sometimes around having a negative attitude towards sex, um, kind of accepting some forms of pornography as normal and even good, you know, husband bashing, wife bashing, you know, like complaining, kind of letting the thought feed in your mind of maybe I should have married somebody else.   Maybe that my life would be easier if I, I weren't married to this person. I wish they were this or that. So, sort of that discontent that is natural to feel in marriage. But the question is, what do you do with it? Do you give it space to grow and to nurture, or do you bring that before the Lord?   Um, so, I think those are some of the ways that we want to look at, like, how am I giving the enemy space in my life and in my marriage versus how am I inviting God to really reclaim what's broken here?   Laura Dugger: (13:38 – 14:01) Well, and then even thinking of the other side to guard ourselves from having a critical and judgmental spirit toward others or just having self-righteous pride. Can you educate us on some common reasons why some people may be predisposed to struggle with some certain sexual sins?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (14:02 – 17:20) Yeah, absolutely. I think that's so important, um, because the research really shows that some of us are more, I don't know if I'd say it that way, but we are going to be more predetermined maybe to struggle with things like pornography or same-sex attraction, or even hooking up.   And it's never like a one plus one equals two exactly. But there are what we might say indicators or risk factors that make you more vulnerable to those kinds of sexual struggles. And some of them might be unhealthy family dynamics growing up, you know, none of us had a perfect family, but let's say you grew up in a family where one of your parents was like overtly critical towards you all the time.   Maybe you went through a divorce with your parents where, um, you know, at a certain age, you just, your family fell apart and you're kind of looking for that stability and love. People who have experienced sexual trauma in childhood or the teen years are going to be more pre-dispositioned to want to understand that or act that out.   People who might struggle with anxiety. And, you know, some of it is we got to understand that sex, because it elicits dopamine in our brain and oxytocin and endorphins, which are all really feel good kind of experiences and hormones and neurotransmitters. When we had a sexual experience at a young age, our brain can learn, “Oh, this is how I deal with stress. This is how I deal with depression. This is how I deal with loneliness.”   So, a lot of times when you talk to somebody who has an ongoing struggle with a sexual temptation or sin, it's because they've learned as a pattern from maybe the time they were 10 years old or 12 years old or 15 years old, that this is how I dealt with the stress in my family. This is how I dealt with when my father died. This is how I dealt with when I was sexually abused. Like this was the way that I found to self-regulate and to self-medicate and to find comfort.   And that can be masturbation. It can be pornography or again, you know, acting out sexually. And so, for people who have that kind of story, and this might be your spouse, or this might be against somebody that you're looking at and judging to just say, “You need to stop that behavior,” is often not going to be enough. They need to do the work of really looking at what am I using sex for? What are the wounds that I'm using sex to cover up?   And how do I actually get the healing I need and find healthier and safer ways for me to cope with negative emotions? And that's why groups are really important for people who have sexual struggles. Counseling is really important. And again, that long journey of healing and freedom, not just a one-time decision that I'm going to try to never do this again.   Laura Dugger: (17:21 – 20:19) Love that word freedom, even because that hope is available. And just pointing out how you said this is not deterministic. That's not what we're saying is if you experience something, you will act out sexually. But I agree with you that it is fascinating and helpful to hear the correlation of certain things that happen, especially in childhood, and how that plays out long-term.   And I am blanking on which guest it was on The Savvy Sauce, but somebody was enlightening me. I think it was for females that if they were sexually abused, typically before a certain age, then they were more likely to struggle in marriage with wanting to completely avoid sex. But then if it was after a certain age, that it was completely opposite where they maybe used sex to medicate, or they were very aggressive and even would act out, let's say in single years, that they would sleep around with a bunch of partners if they had been wounded.   And so, I just think it just, it helps us to not be judgmental of one another. We don't know the full story.   Dr. Juli Slattery: (20:20 – 21:09) Yes. Yeah. There's always more there than we usually realize at first. And, you know, this plays out a lot in marriage because there are a lot of women who are married to guys who are addicted to pornography. And that's a deeply painful dynamic. That's really hard.   But to understand that your husband didn't want to have this struggle, often doesn't know how to get out of it, you know, gives you compassion. It doesn't mean that you look the other way, you need to get help, and you need to insist on getting help. But it does give you empathy and compassion that there's something underlying this and feeding it. It's not just, “Oh, I think I'm going to, you know, look at porn and hurt my wife again,” that there's always a deeper dynamic at work.   Laura Dugger: (21:10 – 21:50) Absolutely. And even an example from your book, I'll just read a quote where you said, “I spoke with a man who runs a sexual addiction program. He told me he had never met someone with sexual addiction, who did not also have significant sexual or psychological trauma in their past.”   And I think it goes along with what we're saying. But if we also then flip it and look at more of the positive side, how can we rightly prioritize connection and intimacy in marriage as God intended?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (21:53 – 24:24) I think first of all, we need to be convinced that this is worth it. You know, when we look at everything there is to do in life, there's so many worthy demands on our time. You know, from I want my house to look nice, and we need to make friends and we need to be an outreach to our community. And our kids are taking a lot of time and they should, and they've got all their activities and our church needs our help. Like when do you have time to do all this? And then, oh yeah, prioritize your marriage.   And I think we have to become convinced that if we're not working on our marriage, and specifically if we're not working on the sexual connection in marriage, then all those other things have the potential to fall apart. That the way I've learned it over time is that sex is never going to be a neutral issue in your marriage. It's either going to be something that is bonding you together and causing you to work on the deeper levels of intimacy, even as you talk through sexual difficulties, or it's going to be something not immediately, but over time, that becomes a wedge between you.   It might start as a wedge of resentment of my needs aren't getting met, or I feel like you're objectifying me or you're putting pressure on me. Or it might be a deeper wedge of a pornography addiction or something that's not being addressed. Or I don't trust my husband because of my trauma. And those things don't just stay dormant. The wedge becomes bigger and bigger and bigger until you get to the place where now you're not comfortable being in the same room anymore and you feel like roommates. And then now one of you is attracted to somebody else and the story plays on.   And there are very wonderful godly men and women who have gotten married with every purpose to stay together. But a wedge like this has grown over time to the point where they're now thinking about divorce or one of them has cheated on the other. And so, we have to be convinced that honoring God in our lives means prioritizing our marriage, and it means working on this intimate aspect of our marriage so that we can be a stable foundation for our families and our churches and our communities.   Laura Dugger: (24:26 – 24:39) And so, if we're getting as practical as possible, what are the best practices that you've seen in married couples who are happily married? How have you experienced that?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (24:40 – 28:04) Yeah. I'll put it in kind of like a cliche sort of way because I think sometimes that's catchy. Number one, I would say they're couples who will resist the drift, who will repair the rift, and who will adjust to the shift.   So, I can kind of break that down a little bit. But you know, the first thing is resisting the drift of you can go weeks without meaningfully connecting with your spouse. And I don't just mean sexually, but I mean like eye to eye, you know, just loving touch, just connecting to their hearts. And so, couples who know how to resist that drift, like they have regular times built into their calendar where this is where we connect every day. Like even for 10 minutes, this is where we hold each other's hands, we look at each other in the eye, we really connect with what's in your heart, how are you? And they have regular rhythms of once a week or once every other week, we're going to go out and do something fun together, just the two of us. We've worked through what sex looks like in this season. Like how many times do we want to have sex? Are we scheduling that? How are we making sure that's a priority? And so, that's the resisting the drift.   And the second one is repairing the rift. And at every marriage, there are going to be things that tear you apart. And sometimes those things might be sexual in nature, like a temptation, an emotional affair, pornography use, sometimes it's going to be something else where you have a deep disagreement that you can't resolve on your own. And you need to be courageous enough to reach out for help and say, like, if we don't get help, if we don't address this issue, like it's going to become something that tears us apart. Any couple that you meet who is happily married for like 30 years or more, they can tell you a story of when they had a rift, and the kind of help that really address that.   And then I think the third thing is adjusting to the shift. And in even the normal stages of marriage, there are shifts that happen. Like, you know, I'm in the stage right now where me and the people my age are going through biological changes with menopause and with aging. And, you know, some people are going through becoming grandparents and retirement. And there's all these shifts that are happening even naturally. There's other couples that are younger who are going through the shift of pregnancy and battling infertility. And some people are going through cancer. And there are things that happen that require you to shift your expectations. And to not just wish that it is like it used to be. But this is the marriage we have now. Here are the circumstances we have now. Here are the bodies we have now. How do we learn to love each other and embrace this season, given the changes that we're experiencing?   And so, I think that's a framework that I've seen healthy couples navigate over time that really fosters intimacy.   Laura Dugger: (28:05 – 29:29) That is incredible. I love how you put that. And I've shared with you before that my background is in Christian sex therapy. So, sex is a topic that does come up a lot and people feel comfortable sharing or asking questions. So, just in regular conversation, I want to recap two conversations that kind of show stances on both ends of the spectrum. And I'd love to hear your wisdom on how to respond to each one.   So, first, there was a Christian married woman with children, and she was teaching younger women to say yes to every single sexual advance from their husband. And she said, “If your husband has the higher drive, and he wants to have sex twice a day, then consider yourself lucky. And don't ever say no, because your body is not your own.” Yeah, it's hard to recap. So, this is not my perspective. So, sharing both ends.   So, that was one person. And then on the other end, I've heard a woman tell me, “You know, I just didn't feel like having sex for about a year and a half after we had our baby. So, I just told my husband, you're going to have to wait.”   So, loaded question, but Dr. Juli, how would you respond to each of those?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (29:29 – 32:31) Well, Laura, I feel like you probably would have just as good of response as I would to those. Yeah, I like that you're presenting those as two extremes, because they are two extremes. And I think both extremes kind of miss the heart. We want to be able to say yes to sex and intimacy. And being able to say yes means also being able to say no.   In that first situation, essentially, what is going to end up happening is that that wife is going to start feeling like my husband wants me for sex. And I don't have the capacity to enjoy it twice a day. I'm starting to feel like an object or used. And the husband is never going to learn that covenant love requires self-denial. And at every level, you know, what did, what did Paul say to husbands in Ephesians 5, like love your wife as you love your own body and be willing to lay down your, your life for your wife. And that means being sensitive to the fact that she doesn't have the same sexual appetite as you do. She doesn't have the same biology you do, that it actually can be physically painful, emotionally traumatic for a wife to have sex when she's not physically ready. Really, that couple is not working on intimacy. They're, they're kind of reinforcing a pattern that sex is about the husband getting his needs and desires met only through the wife without considering her. And that might work for short term, but that's not building intimacy in the long term. And it's not teaching either of them. And that wife needs to learn her own sexual desires and patterns and be able to communicate those to her husband. So, that's what I would say in that first one.   And the second one, essentially, you have a wife kind of having that more selfish perspective of, I only have sex when I want it and on my terms, instead of considering the husband. And, you know, how do I focus on him? How do I work on experiencing sexual desire? How do I foster that? Because it's important for my husband, it's important for our marriage. And I don't want to be selfish.   And so, I think both of those situations are kind of approaching sex where one person gets to be selfish, and the other person has to sacrifice. That's ministry, that's not intimacy. And so, we really want to be at a place where both of us, the higher desire one and the lower desire one, are learning what does it look like to really love well, to love sacrificially and to communicate the ways that I feel loved. I don't know, what would you add to that or change?   Laura Dugger: (32:31 – 33:11) That's why I asked you, you said that beautifully, better than I could have responded. And again, you're getting back to the heart of it and pointing us back to Jesus with each answer. And, you know, commonly people do struggle with having a safe place where they can ask candid questions about sex.   So, I am going to throw some more at you. And some of these are ones that you wrote about. But just to give us a little taste, even of the book, or if somebody has a burning question like this, I'd love your healthy response.   So, how do you respond when people ask, “How far is too far to go in a dating relationship?”   Dr. Juli Slattery: (33:14 – 36:32) Yeah, I think people are looking for a line, you know, like, as long as I don't cross this line, are we good? And of course, I think their traditional line would be as long as you're not having intercourse. But I think that misses the larger context of the purpose of sex. I've had to be convicted of this in my own life. And we talked very early in our conversation about how we've just sort of ingested messages from the culture. And the culture says that healthy sexuality is an expression of how I feel, right? So, so if I feel safe with you, if I feel romantically connected to you, if I feel sexually attracted to you, then it would be healthy for me to engage sexually with you. And then Christians would come and say, yes, but as long as you don't cross this line. So, that's sort of the narrative that I think a lot of us have heard in the church.   But if we look at, from a biblical perspective, God did not design sex to be an expression of how I feel. Okay, let that sink in for a minute. God did not design sex to be an expression of how I feel. He designed it to be a seal and a celebration of covenant, of the choice that a man and a woman make to covenant their lives to one another. And for them to say, just like I give you my whole life, I promise faithfulness to you. I promise that we are becoming one as a family. We have now a physical way to symbolize that in becoming one with our bodies. And so, even if I feel romantically attached to somebody I'm not married to, I don't act on that. Or even if I don't feel romantically attached to my husband, we work on our sex life because we're in covenant.   And so, when you begin to understand sex from that standpoint, you answer that question differently of how far can I go? Why are you sharing your body with another person when you haven't shared your life with them? And, you know, I think that the standard is not legalistic, but the heart of the question is a lot, that's a harder question. You know, like it says, and I think 2 Thessalonians or 1 Thessalonians, you know, Paul says, the will of God is that you do not engage in sexual immorality. Don't take advantage of a brother or sister.   And how many times in dating relationships do you look back and you're like, “Wow, I gave too much of myself to that person or I took too much of myself from that person. Like we engaged in things that now we're broken apart. Like I wish I could take back.” And so, what does it look like to honor each other? What does it look like to honor the Lord? So, I think those kinds of questions help you get to the heart of how do we steward dating relationships a lot better than looking for a line we're not supposed to cross.   Laura Dugger: (36:33 – 37:31) When was the first time you listened to an episode of The Savvy Sauce? How did you hear about our podcast? Did a friend share it with you? Will you be willing to be that friend now and text five other friends or post on your socials anything about The Savvy Sauce that you love? 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Because, you know, ultimately we don't like, we don't want to just say, “Oh yeah, whatever you want to call yourself is fine with me. Truth doesn't matter.” But on the other hand, we really want to get to the spiritual issue underneath this. And there's a, there's a big difference between somebody who doesn't know the Lord, doesn't know where you stand on any of this, and somebody that you can engage in a conversation with and seek wisdom on.   I think there, there's probably more latitude to use somebody's preferred name than pronouns. And I think in friendships, sometimes you can work that through and just say, you know, “Hey, I love you. I understand where you're coming from. I'm going to try my best to use the name that you're asking. But the pronoun is something that I'm not comfortable with. And here's why. And just like I'm, I want to understand where you are. I hope that you would have grace and understand where I am.” So, in a friendship, you're able to have those kinds of conversations. Whereas if it's a coworker or it's a stranger or a neighbor, sometimes we can't have that level of conversation. And so, I, we might choose to handle the situation a little differently.   Laura Dugger: (39:21 – 39:36) That's good. A hundred percent truth, a hundred percent love or kindness. And what if somebody asks, how much attention should we be giving these secondary issues as believers?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (39:39 – 41:03) Boy, I, I think first of all, the secondary issues come out of the primary issues. So, the primary issue, and you know, the issue I wrote Surrendered Sexuality is about is if my life belongs to the Lord, then my whole life needs to belong to Him, including how I think about cultural issues, including how I treat my neighbor.   And so, I don't see them as secondary issues. I see them as an outgrowth of the primary issue. I think when they become secondary issues are when we argue with other believers about it and it becomes the most important thing. Like I put you in a category based on, will you use preferred names and pronouns? And then I think we're missing what God calls us to.   The primary issue is that we want to honor God and we want to love each other. And so, let's keep going back to that primary issue. How do I love my neighbor well? How do I honor God's truth well? How do I pursue unity within the body of Christ well, as we're navigating some of these secondary issues? So, you know, like if we're going back to the primary issue, it means that we have to talk about the secondary issues, but we talk about them in light of what's primary.   Laura Dugger: (41:04 – 41:17) I like that. And I just have three more of these kind of tricky questions. So, another one, does pornography addiction qualify as reasons for a biblical divorce?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (41:20 – 42:50) I would say, first of all, technically, if we look at the word for sexual immorality in the scripture, which is porneia, we would say, yeah, you know, pornography does qualify for that.   But for the person who's asking this, maybe the woman who's asking this, I would say, why do you want to get out of the marriage? And what Jesus said is Moses permitted divorce because of the hardness of your heart. And I think a more important question is where's your heart and where's your husband's heart? Because I've seen people with pornography addictions who have really open hearts towards healing, and they're willing to get the help that they need. They're repentant. They're willing to do the work. They're willing to go through even a time of separation to show that they're serious about that work.   And then there are people who have very hard hearts of, “This is who I am. I might go through the motions, but I'm really not interested in change.” And so, I think the pornography addiction is less the issue than the posture of the person's heart and their willingness to work. And if your spouse is willing to work, then I think it's on us to have soft hearts too, and to be open to the work that God can do.   Laura Dugger: (42:51 – 43:34) That's good because saying you have to zoom out and see more of the story in that stance, because that's very different. Somebody who's working on it and hates the struggle and is wanting to break free versus being married to a narcissist who is abusing you and treating you in a certain way and addicted to pornography. So, you point out well that all of these questions have more to them.   Okay. So, two more, if a spouse has had an emotional affair in the past with a coworker, but they still work with this person, what is the wise thing to do and how should they handle it if their spouse is uncomfortable with them still working there?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (43:36 – 44:33) Yeah, boy, that's something that I would want to seek counseling on. You and your spouse really need to get with a counselor and talk that through. The generic advice in that situation would be to get a different job, to not have that relationship still a temptation or available.   But there are sometimes very extenuating circumstances where that's not a possibility, or at least for now, that's not a possibility. And so, I would really encourage you to meet with a third party to sort through the details of your particular situation. Because it could be that your spouse isn't willing to take that hard step of cutting off that relationship, or it could be that they're willing, but again, there's extenuating circumstances. And I would really want a wise person who is engaging with you to help you navigate that.   Laura Dugger: (44:34 – 44:44) But I love that, how you highlight that something to look for though, is that you would hope your spouse would be willing to make that right, especially if they were the offending.   Dr. Juli Slattery: (44:46 – 44:46) Okay.   Laura Dugger: (44:47 – 45:00) And then also, Juli, because scripture does talk about turning the other cheek, does that mean it's the same as saying God expects you to stay in an abusive marriage?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (45:02 – 47:41) Absolutely not. If you were in an abusive marriage, you are not doing your spouse any good. You are allowing your spouse to be in a place where they're destroying their own life and they're destroying the people that they love.   Now you say, okay, where biblically do we see this? We see that Jesus, he says in John, he says, “I laid down my life for my sheep. I lay it down willingly. No one has the authority to take it from me. I have the authority to lay it down and I have the authority to take it up again.” And we see Him living that out with religious leaders who were after Him all the time, who wanted to stone Him, who were accusing Him of things. It says over and over again that Jesus escaped from them. He just got out of there until it was time that the Father said, now is the time for you to give yourself for the world.   So, we take that principle and we say, Jesus was not abused. Jesus did not let Himself be abused. He gave Himself as a lamb to the slaughter as a sacrifice for the Father and for the world. But that's very different. Up until that time, we see Him have great boundaries. We see Him not get, it even says He didn't entrust Himself to man because He knew what was in their hearts. I mean, He had boundaries with people that could have hurt Him.   And I also love when we see this in the story of King David and Saul, when Saul is chasing David, Saul is abusive, right? He wants to kill David. And so, David escapes. And there's a situation where David has the power or the opportunity to kill Saul and he doesn't do it. And then Saul just is struck by his conscience, and he comes back to David. He goes, “You're a better man than I am. I'm so sorry. You know, come back with me and I'll treat you well.” And even though David doesn't take revenge, he doesn't go back with Saul. He's still, he's like, “You go your way. I'll go my way. I'm going to let the Lord judge between us.”   And I think that's a great model. If you're in any kind of abusive relationship, you don't take revenge, but you also don't stay in that situation. You go your way, let them go their way, and you let God judge between you. And I think we see that over and over again in scripture.   Laura Dugger: (47:42 – 48:19) I think that is so well said. And it reminds me of a somewhat recent conversation in 2025 with Stacey Womack who's saying with domestic violence, really the way God would see it is child abuse. And that kind of helps our paradigm because we are His child.   And she elaborates on that. So, I said that that was the last one, but I actually thought of one more as it relates to our children.   So, is it reasonable to assume that once a child has a smartphone, 100% of them will be exposed to pornography?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (48:21 – 49:15) Yeah, it is. And I would say not just once they have a smartphone, because I know with one of my kids, we delayed the smartphone decision, but he had a learning disability that required him to have an iPad for school. And somehow, even though we locked down all the apps, somehow he's able to access it through that. Or it can be a gaming system, or it can be a friend's phone. And so, having a smartphone or device like that certainly makes it more probable.   But you know, like our kids are surrounded by screens and technology, not just what's in our home, but in other people's homes and at school. And so, I think it's safe to assume, unfortunately, that yes, 100% of our kids are going to be exposed to pornography, probably by the time they're 13 or 14.   Laura Dugger: (49:16 – 49:31) And sadly, some much younger than that. But even if there's parental controls, or filters put on, it is just something on my heart that we have to be so vigilant against.   Dr. Juli Slattery: (49:32 – 50:12) Yeah, no, I felt like when, you know, I have three boys, and when they were all three kind of in those teen years, I felt like I was trying to plug holes in a boat, and there'd be new ones popping up all the time. Whether it's like apps, or you know, things that you think are completely safe. Somehow, pornography can get through.   And our kids are smart, like they know the workarounds to the parental things. And that's why we just need to have conversation after conversation, just discipling them, not just protecting them from pornography, but discipling them through what they're inevitably going to be exposed to.   Laura Dugger: (50:13 – 51:05) That's a great point that not just being reactive, but proactive. I think why I have such a heart for this is because practicing and doing therapy and having so many people come in those wounds, that if that addiction gets a stronghold, and that pornography use, it just can wreak havoc in people long term. And so, if we can do that hard work of discipling early on, it is such a blessing to our children, to the generation.   So, I'm just so grateful for your candid responses. And I think it's also a helpful reminder just to never take on a burden that was never meant for us to carry. So, are there any ways that God has taught you to not try and do His business?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (51:07 – 52:16) Yeah. Boy, that's such a great question. I've had to come to the conclusion that I can't convince anyone of right and wrong. You know, like, I can't convince anyone that pornography is wrong, or gay marriage is wrong, or you know, like, that's not my job. My job is to walk with the Lord with integrity and faithfulness and to testify as to who He is.   And so much of this work, whether we're talking about marriage or our friends or our children, so much of this work has to be the Lord's work. And you reach a stage with your kids when they hit those teen years, where you realize the things my kids most need, I can't give them. I can't give them a relationship with God. I can't give them the desire to follow and seek the Lord. Like, I can model that for them. I can encourage them. But that is between them and the Lord. And if I try to control that, I'm just getting in the way of the work that God wants to do in their lives.   Laura Dugger: (52:18 – 52:33) Goodness, I will need to write that down and reflect on that. That is so good, Juli. And there's still so much more that you could share with us.   So, where is your preferred place that we can go online and continue learning from you?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (52:34 – 52:48) Yeah, I would say two places. Number one, our website is authenticintimacy.com. And the second one is the podcast that I do called Java with Juli. It goes along with The Savvy Sauce, you know, like they kind of go together.   Laura Dugger: (52:49 – 53:11) Yes, absolutely. We will certainly link to all of that in the show notes for today's episode.   And you're familiar, I've asked you many times before, because we are called savvy, because savvy is synonymous with practical knowledge or discernment. So, as my final question for you today, Dr. Juli, what is your savvy sauce?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (53:13 – 53:58) Oh, I don't even remember how I answered this the last few times. I think I may have said this before, but I think reading the dead old guys is one of my savvy sauce, like reading people who didn't live in this generation who loved the Lord.   And learning from them is just, that's probably taught me more discernment than anything, because they just cut right through the cultural noise that I think sometimes can blind us. And they really help me see my heart for what it is and help me really want to pursue God at a deeper level.   Laura Dugger: (53:59 – 54:03) Wow. Any specific recommendations that have been personal favorites there?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (54:04 – 54:22) Yeah, I love A.W. Tozer. I love many of Andrew Murray's books, particularly Humility and Absolute Surrender. And C.S. Lewis is another great one, Mere Christianity. So, those are some that I would recommend you start with.   Laura Dugger: (54:23 – 54:44) That is wonderful. Thank you for sharing that.   And Juli, it's just always such a delight to get to share an hour of conversation with you. And you are just this beautiful mixture of bold and gentle and humble, all combined into one. So, thank you for being my returning guest today.   Dr. Juli Slattery: (54:44 – 54:49) Oh, thank you. And it's such a pleasure to be with you. Thanks for your great questions.   Laura Dugger: (54:51 – 58:33) One more thing before you go, have you heard the term gospel before? It simply means good news. And I want to share the best news with you, but it starts with the bad news.   Every single one of us were born sinners, but Christ desires to rescue us from our sin, which is something we cannot do for ourselves. This means there's absolutely no chance we can make it to heaven on our own. So, for you and for me, it means we deserve death, and we can never pay back the sacrifice we owe to be saved.   We need a savior, but God loved us so much. He made a way for his only son to willingly die in our place as the perfect substitute. This gives us hope of life forever in right relationship with him.   That is good news. Jesus lived the perfect life. We could never live and died in our place for our sin.   This was God's plan to make a way to reconcile with us so that God can look at us and see Jesus. We can be covered and justified through the work Jesus finished. If we choose to receive what he has done for us, Romans 10:9 says, “that if you confess with your mouth, Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”   So, you pray with me now. Heavenly father, thank you for sending Jesus to take our place. I pray someone today right now is touched and chooses to turn their life over to you.   Will you clearly guide them and help them take their next step in faith to declare you as Lord of their life? We trust you to work and change lives now for eternity. In Jesus name we pray.   Amen. If you prayed that prayer, you are declaring him for me. So, me for him, you get the opportunity to live your life for him.   And at this podcast, we're called The Savvy Sauce for a reason. We want to give you practical tools to implement the knowledge you have learned. So, you're ready to get started.   First, tell someone, say it out loud, get a Bible. The first day I made this decision, my parents took me to Barnes and Noble and let me choose my own Bible. I selected the Quest NIV Bible and I love it.   You can start by reading the book of John. Also get connected locally, which just means tell someone who's a part of a church in your community that you made a decision to follow Christ. I'm assuming they will be thrilled to talk with you about further steps such as going to church and getting connected to other believers to encourage you.   We want to celebrate with you too. So, feel free to leave a comment for us here. If you did make a decision to follow Christ, we also have show notes included where you can read scripture that describes this process.   And finally, be encouraged. Luke 15:10 says, “in the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.” The heavens are praising with you for your decision today.   And if you've already received this good news, I pray you have someone to share it with. You are loved and I look forward to meeting you here next time.

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"Love of neighbor is a path that leads to the encounter with God… closing our eyes to our neighbour also blinds us to God." - Pope Benedict XVI, God is Love   Summary We begin with Love because marriage flows from our deepest identity and relationships, not just spousal dynamics. Created in the image of a loving, Triune God, we must first ask who God is and who we are in His eyes. Our relationship with God and with ourselves forms the foundation for loving others. Pope Benedict XVI's God Is Love reveals that eros and agape are inseparable dimensions of love: we are made to give and receive love. God's passionate, faithful love for His people—fulfilled fully in Jesus—becomes the model for marriage. In Christ, love of God and love of neighbor are one reality. Our first neighbor is our spouse, and loving them faithfully is the primary path to holiness and authentic love. Key Takeaways Love begins with God, not marriage Before focusing on spousal relationships, we must understand who God is and who we are in His eyes. Our identity as loved by God is the foundation for all love. You cannot love others without loving God and yourself rightly Knowing and receiving God's love allows us to love ourselves truthfully, which is necessary to love anyone else authentically. Eros and agape belong together Human desire (eros) is not bad; it is purified and fulfilled by God's unconditional love (agape). Love requires both giving and receiving. God's passionate love is revealed fully in Jesus Christ embodies God's self-giving love and draws us into communion—with God and with others—especially through the Eucharist. Marriage is the primary place love is lived Spouses are each other's first neighbors. Loving one's spouse faithfully is the clearest expression of love of God and the path to holiness.   Resources: Pdf of encyclical:  https://www.vatican.va/content/benedict-xvi/en/encyclicals/documents/hf_ben-xvi_enc_20051225_deus-caritas-est.html Join the Cana90 Fellowship:  https://messyfamilyproject.org/programs/cana90/fellowship-form/

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