The Things We Don’t Want To Talk About

Send us a Text Message.Season 4: Episode 10: Farewell Episode This episode is my last one for this season and the last one for The Things We Don't Want To Talk About. I reflected on what's coming up and what I am grounding myself on for this season and what you all can look forward.Thank you for the all time spent listening to my podcast and I wish you all well for a long time!Please stay connected with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to keep the conversation going!

Send us a Text Message.In this episode, I focus on reflecting on who we are at the core as it relates to core values, beliefs of self, facing our shadows etc. I pair this focus with analyzing “The Vanishing Black Family” documentary to bring attention to how our views of struggle, deficit mindset, lack of accountability, and integrity shows up in our relationships we have with others as it is a direct reflection of how we treat ourselves inherently. I provide insight, challenging questions, and various ways to think about what we need as a society to better show up for ourselves.Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation!

Send us a Text Message.In this episode, I dive into the topic of meaningful connections, empathy, friendship, relational poverty, and more. I reflect on how the health of our relational connections directly affects our mental and physical health as I pair the lessons from “What Happened To You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing” by Dr. Perry and Oprah Winfrey. I provide insight on how resilience and character is built on the journey to healing through social connection and why we all are desperately in need of finding true connectedness through community.Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation! 

Send us a Text Message.In this episode, I dive into one of my favorite conversations which is talking about self-awareness and how to become more introspective. I reflect on a text I have been reading “What Happened To You: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing” by Dr. Perry and Oprah Winfrey. Reviewing what happened to us is more important than asking what our problem is. I was able to reveal some of the things I am unlearning, wanting to change, and how the small action steps I take lead to growth. Most importantly, in this episode I give advice on what it would look like to practice being more intentional and self-aware in your own life.Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation!

Send us a Text Message.In this episode,I dive into the conversation of money and our limiting and affirming beliefs as it relates to how you view money and why. As a Black woman from Detroit in her 20s, I talk about how our family structure, financial status, and our position in the world affects what we choose to associate money with. I use this episode as a way to talk about my childhood, financial debt, and the changes I have made to shift from what I always knew to be true to where I really want to be in life!Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation! 

Send us a Text Message.In this episode, I highlight the issues educators are facing, Black & Brown youth being behind academically, the lack of support and resources being left out the conversation as the school year around the United States is coming to an end. I reflect on my positionality as a Black woman educator and one who is from the city of Detroit and the changes that have been seen in the last 10 years. This episode sheds light on the state of our community and helps people who are not aware to understand a demographic of people and places that is in desperate need of change so that a better future can exist.Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation! 

Send us a Text Message.In this episode, I dive into a very vulnerable conversation about my childhood growing up and exploring the mental and emotional trauma I've experienced as a child in honor of Mental Health Awareness Month. I reflect on where my need to feel seen, accepted, and heard started from and how it shows up in my adulthood experiences. I look back on my parental protection, lack thereof, and also thinking backwarsd as to how growing up fast has implicitly showed through my over-ambition, need to prove, and the fight to re-invent myself. This episode is for all those who are learning and unlearning the stories that have been told since childhood.Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation! ðŸ'•ðŸ'—

In this episode, I have an intimate conversation with my friend Josh a.k.a. “JayDeantae” on how we keep up our faith when our back is against the wall. Today we are in conversation about our mental health, domestic violence, the idea of being “too down”, having faith when that is all we have, life, and more all while Josh talks to us about being proven not guilty after facing 35 years in prison! Tune in to hear about how we end up in so many situations that leaves up choiceless and ultimately voiceless in our journey of life. Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation!

This episode dives into a great topic I've been wanting to be explore: cathexis versus love! Cathexis is the act of investing mental or emotional energy in a person, object or idea and often confused for love in so many of our intimate and non-intimate relationships. Breaking down the real meaning of love in this segment, I challenge all to reflect on how they have received and/or not experienced real love, trust, and reciprocity in their lived experiences.  Let's talk about it! Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation!

This episode starts the beginning of Season 4! In this episode, I highlight the new changes that have taken place, focusing on doing hard things to have a better life, and learning and unlearning. Listen in as I dive into life the past 8 months and what is to come for this new seasonLet's talk about it!Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation!

This episode is the finale of Season 3 and highlights the best episodes, and segments that highlight the season's growth, leaving everyone questioning what development and accountability we have held for ourselves throughout this season of life. Join me as I dive into the past and connect with the now for this season. Enjoy the recap! Let's talk about it!Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation!

This episode focuses on how to identify what we need, creating a toolbox to refuel and recharge when needed, and reviewing the process of making our visions real. As someone who has struggled with putting my needs first, in this episode I get vulnerable about how I got to this point of life, how my environment has played a factor, and how I changed my self-talk in a positive way. Join me as I enter a new chapter of life and give you all an honest conversation to have this conversation within yourselves and change how you view different aspects of your life for the better.Let's talk about it!Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation!

This episode focuses on what we idolize as “the girl's girl”, how to find our true lane by being unapologetically ourselves, conversing about aesthetics vs reality and how to achieve the sense of self that is true to your value system and not what is just trending at the moment. #AskJenn is Detroit's very own “the girl's girl” as I like to call it and she's here giving us the secrets to achieve an unapologetic life in relationships, life, and through our careers. Tune in to challenge your thinking and review the inner talk you tell yourself.Let's talk about it!Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation!

This episode explores a true topic that we don't want to talk about MONEY. Today we have a special guest Gene Green, and he is the owner of Fresh Baked Prints and as he would say “Every Day A Get Money Day” EDAGMD! We converse about the standards of how we view money, what really helps us grow for years to come, identifying what patterns and ways of working are idea and the mindset we need to have when looking at using money as the tool it is. Tune in to challenge your thinking and conceptualize new ways to grow and have more funds!Let's talk about it!Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation! 

This episode explores the intersection of life & relationships featuring a special guest! We look at the conversations we've been avoiding as it relates to the growth and inner work we need to do to sustain healthy relationships, the way we look at love and needs through intimacy, and how we navigate life while having love on our side. Understanding life and hearing perspective from a man versus a woman, this episode will allow you to reflect on how our societal expectations and norms have influenced our views on love, partnership, and gender roles.Let's talk about it!Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation!

This episode explores how we find our voice and look at what has inspired us to be who we are today while finding the strength to be able to declare what we want. We can become so used to silencing ourselves that we do not challenge ourselves to speak up and own how we feel, what we desire, and how to make small steps toward being the assertive individuals we need to aspire to be. In this episode we explore the phenomenon of autonomy, how to stand up for yourself, acknowledge your power, and assess if the life you're living is a good reflection of what you truly desire for yourself.Let's talk about it!Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation!

This episode goes in depth to explore what the cost of success is and what it takes to obtain what we really desire and if it is worth it. We live in such a busy world that requires us to give up so much to meet its needs and that can deplete us in the process. We put working and surviving over our emotional, mental, and social needs and we are analyzing the impact of it all. This episode is a great think piece to challenge your motives behind what you are in fact really “doing it for”.Let's talk about it!Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation!

This episode goes in depth about how our use of social media is taking over our minds, taking away our free will, while increasing our addiction to social media. The power of social media has led to our addiction to our phones and screens, self esteem issues, distorted realities, and the heightened view of looking at everything for the moment and not long term success. We will explore the balance between wanting to engage with people to stay in the loop and honoring our souls for the long run.Let's talk about it!Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation!

This episode is all about SACRIFICES! How to identify what we need to sacrifice, what is worthy of sacrifice, and how being able to sacrifice will improve our discipline and long term success along the way. Always remember sacrifices are like investments– What do you need to sacrifice that you keep putting off?Let's talk about it!Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation!

In this episode we are identifying what a breakthrough really looks like, finding joy in silence + stillness, and re-finding/defining purpose. This episode goes in-depth about what life has been like me for the past 6 months on the journey to Season 3! A breakthrough is something that changes the course of your life going forward and ensures that things will never be the same for you again. Most of what a breakthrough requires is for you to have the courage and the bravery to stops settling for second best.Until next time!Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation! 

The season two finale episode is here and I am recapping  this season the highs + lows , what I have taken from this year, and what I want my listeners to take as we are wrapping up for 2023. My reflection question that I want to leave you all with is “What will you take with you going into this Q4 and what can you do to get you to the place you want to be emotionally, mentally, and/or financially?Until next time!Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation! 

This episode is all about identifying what's your core fear and what's stopping you from going after what's supposed to be yours. The fear of what could happen if we really go after what we want combined with the fear of us not making it can be more than a notion. This is a message you can feel at all levels in life and by really being honest with you, you will get to the bottom of what you really are afraid of, and then get to the root of why we settle in so many settings of our lives and what that looks like going forward.Let's talk about it!Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation!  

This episode is all about breaking down emotional availability by analyzing what it is and how it looks depending on who is involved, the importance of being emotionally available in both intimate + non intimate relationships, and how we are able to sustain healthy emotional bonds. We are constantly being pushed to become more distant and less feel when it comes to the relationships we have in our lives which takes away the human connection we so desperately need. Sit back and enjoy this special conversation I have with my special guest & founder of Audio Wave Network, JG and hear his perspective from my guy's point of view along myself. Let's talk about it!Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation!  

This episode is all about assessing what you want out of your life by getting away from having expectations and truly experiencing life for what it is. Sometimes we can tend to not thoroughly engage in what life had to offer us because we get so consumed in trying to control an outcome that's not in our control. Taking on every opportunity that comes your away allows you to have a magnitude of experiences that will help you better understand what you really want in life and why. Releasing this idea of “what we should be doing” and fully embracing what we are doing and where we are. Enjoy an episode of reflection, insight, understanding as you dive into this new segment. Let's talk about it!Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation!

This episode is all about exploring how the themes of perfection and overstimulation are present in our lives and how it hinders the natural gift of progressive growth that is much needed in our lives. We are constantly pushed to be “this person” that is viewed as perfect and we are needing to understand how unhealthy it is to our holistic growth as individuals. Releasing the shackles of perfectionism and not indulging in overstimulation via social media and those amongst us helps us to not continuously look at ourselves under such scrutiny. Enjoy an  episode of reflection, insight, and understanding as we dive into this topic to combat the themes of perfectionism.Let's talk about it!Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation! 

This episode is all about exploring unconventional relationships, sexuality + preference, and why it's so important to go after what you desire and not stay in the box society puts you in. We have our first special guest on this episode and we have a transparent conversation on navigating relationships and her experiences as we think about what relationships would be like for us in a perfect world! Enjoy a episode of laughter, insight, + fun as we dive in this topic going against “norms”.Let's talk about it!Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation!  

This episode is all about finding joy during the times it seems like the hardest thing to do. There is so much going on in the world that life can feel so  depleting and overwhelming, so this episode is a pick me up to put you mentally at ease. Shifting our minds always from this idea of going from problem to problem and constant living in despair to being more present to enjoy the fruits of our already done labor. This episode will challenge you to find joy no matter your circumstances so that you can surpass those moments of emptiness.Let's talk about it!Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation!  

This episode is all about “L-O-V-E”. All about understanding love as an action rather than a feeling, exploring where we first learned “love” and why we look at it the way we do.  Understanding the journey of self-love, loving others fully, self-actualization + wholeness, and breaking down how worthy we see ourselves to allow love to come into our lives. This is a discussion that challenges us to look at how modern society has molded us into viewing love in ways that does not humanize our being until we are able to go beyond just the love we give ourselves.Let's talk about it!Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation! 

In honor of “Mental Health Awareness Month”, this episode we are talking about my journey to self awareness, mental health issues in the family and  why it is important that we must have these conversations out loud to spread awareness and knowledge. I will be talking about my experience with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), how I was recently diagnosed, and the differences between mental health issues. This episode challenges us to go beyond the surface when it comes to this topic so that we are able to be aware and empathize with those who deal with mental health issues everyday.Let's talk about it!Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation! 

Welcome to Season 2! In honor of “Mothers Day”, this first episode we are talking about the desires women have as it relates to taking on the role of being a “mother”, strained relationships with mom, pressure on women to fit in boxes, and honoring space for the women who do not have the stereotypical views on motherhood. Allowing you to really think about what you want out of life and what your desires are that affirm your existence holistically.Let's talk about it!Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation! 

This is Season 1 Finale episode! We are talking about the addiction we have to implicitly and explicitly focusing on the lives of others and comparing ourselves, addiction to social media, learning how we can embrace solitude + silence, and how to occupy our minds. We have to allow ourselves to be challenged and be ready for the times we are tested by life so that we do not constantly get into the habit of shutting down. We are making room for ourselves to exist.Let's talk about it!Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation! 

This episode we are talking about patience, allowing the momentum to build, & focusing on not overwhelming ourselves by being so focused on upholding the norms of "grind culture". Allowing ourselves to realize we are not over night successes so we need to give grace as we navigate the spaces we occupy. How can we make space to honor rest? How do we place ourselves first as we strive for our goals? What does it look like when we let consistency + talent conquer over all?Let's talk about it!Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation! 

This episode we are diving into the issues we as Black people face as it relates to our lack of privilege, those who do have versus the have nots, resources, and getting out of the "woe is me" narrative in regards to why we are in the position we are in. How do we elevate when we do not have that headstart? How do we create a life for our future selves that promotes long term privilege for the years to come? How can we really get ahead these days?Let's talk about it!Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation! 

Women are not a monolith so it is time we stop treating ourselves like we are. This episode awakens the conversation about what it is like being a Black woman living in a world that wants to box you in dependent on status, physical, and/or career choices. We are exploring the ways in which we break out of the "creature of habit" mindset and explore the opportunities waiting for us on the other side. Letting go of our insecurities and preconceived notions we are exploring different avenues. Hope you enjoy and thank you for listening!Let's talk about it!Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation! 

Body dysmorphia is a mental illness involving obsessive focus on a perceived flaw in appearance.The flaw may be minor or imagined. But one may spend hours a day trying to fix it. The person may try many cosmetic procedures or other excessive measures to create this “image”How do we see this today?The obsession of perfection we have with wanting to be perfect images all the time with is not realistic and leads to a false sense of self. Let's talk about it!Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation! 

Imposter Syndrome, something we often deal with sometimes knowingly or unknowingly, but always affects us in multiple ways. Imposter syndrome is loosely defined as doubting your abilities and feeling like a fraud. It disproportionately affects high-achieving people, who find it difficult to accept their accomplishments. This is the first episode of 2022 and the first episode with our first amazing guest Sarah a.k.a. Flemi! Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation! Follow our special guest on Instagram @sflemi @flemi.jpg

We are in the season of reflecting and this episode is focused on looking back at our patterns, ways of life, traumas as children, the bonds we have and why. It takes for us to go back to our inner child to get to the "whys" and "hows" for how we live our life.  Identifying what this looks like in our careers, relationships + interactions with people, and the influence it holds on the way of being and human connection going into the new year!Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation!

It usually takes much time for us as humans to completely see people for who they are even if that means hurting ourselves within the process.  It is a blessing in this day and age to have a true friend but is also a blessing when we are able to make do with those who do not serve our highest good a.k.a. ignoring the red flags from the beginning! They say the older you get the less friends you have and throughout your lifetime you will only have 1 or 2 good friends decipher those one or two now and keep watering the friendship!Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation!

In this society we talk about the word "mental health" as a abstract idea that is not close to who we are but in actuality we as people of color tend to overlook our mental health which then comes out in various aspects of our life. This episode dives into my personal encounters with mental health, what it looks like for others in varying spaces, and how we can be conscious of our feelings, mindfulness, and prioritizing our well-being.Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation!

Our first episode, breaking into the season with a major topic that is often overlooked: vulnerability! Facing the fear of being judged, being your true self unmasked, and allowing others to connect with you in a intimate way that may or not get the love and respect you desire, yes you still need to be vulnerable. Do we really have to be strong all the time or is it just the conditions we have met for a day too long?  Connect with me on Instagram @theeducatornkenge to join the conversation!“Staying vulnerable is a risk we have to take if we want to experience connection.” – Brené Brown

Welcome to Welcome To The Things We Don't Want To Talk About Podcast - a show dedicated to unfiltered conversations about debunking societal norms, reflection on our lived experiences, and what that means today for us. In this episode I am introducing myself and giving a glimpse on what's to come!Stay tuned and thank you for listening!