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Crystal and Sasha take a look back into the information they were never given growing up and the consequences of their miseducation. By using their Mental Health training they are filling in the gaps in hopes to help others make more sense of their own wo


    • Jan 1, 1970 LATEST EPISODE
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    • 52m AVG DURATION
    • 66 EPISODES


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    EP 25: Men in Therapy: Marcus J.

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 48:43


    In the second epiosde of the series, Crystal and Sasha are continuing to normalize therapy amongst men. They invited a mutual friend to share his personal journey with therapy and the ways he has benefited from it.Instagram: @nevertolduspod

    EP 24: We Can't Forget About the Good Dads

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 59:10


    A few episodes back, Crystal and Sasha had a real conversation on what it was like growing up without the presence of a father in the house. In honor of Father's Day coming up, they chose to highlight good men and father's in their lives, because they do exist!Instagram: @nevertolduspod

    EP 23: Shot Girl Summer

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 47:57


    Summer is here and Crystal and Sasha are taking a break from "doing the work." In this week's episode they talk about their plans on how they're going to enjoy their summer while living in this "new norm."Instagram: @nevertolduspod

    EP 22: Thoughts on Religion and Spirituality

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 56:07


    Whether you practice a specific religion, don't believe, or are somewhere in the in-between, we all put our belief and faith in something that drives us. In this week's episode, co-hosts Crystal and Sasha discuss different belief systems and the alternative ways we all practice.

    EP 21: What's Your Attachment Style?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 65:10


    Crystal and Sasha talk a lot about attachment and how that affects you and the relationships you build with others. In this episode they break down each style so you can find out more about which one you are and how that is affecting the kinds of relationships you engage in.Attached by Amir Levine, M.D. and Rachel S. F. Heller, M.A.Instagram: @nevertolduspod

    EP 20: Let's Talk About Sex

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 57:51


    This week your co-hosts invite sex and couple's therapist, Wildy, into one of many conversations they'll have on sex. In this episode they discuss the wrong information we were given and bust a few myths we grew up hearing about sex.Wildilisa Silverman, LMFT: @lovesexwithwildyFollow us: @nevertolduspod

    EP 19: It's My Birthday! & I'll do What I Want!

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 46:51


    Co-host Sasha is celebrating a birthday this week and of course feelings are coming up. In this episode Crystal and Sasha explore the value we place on birthday's and how we can gain control of those feelings.Instagram: @nevertolduspod

    EP 18: The Update: Therapy Check-in #2

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 43:26


    It's time for an update on how therapy is going for both Crystal and Sasha. In this episode, they discuss everything they have learned and are currently working on for themselves from the last check-in they did.Instagram: @nevertolduspod

    EP 17: Life & It's Stages

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 60:17


    In this week's episode co-hosts Crystal and Sasha explore the different phases of a person's life and how each stage can affect our view on life. Their discussion is mainly based off of Erik Erkson's developmental model, and their own experiences.Instagram: @nevertolduspod

    EP 16: Breaking Up is Hard to do

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 58:44


    Going through a break up is never easy or fun. In this week's episode, Crystal and Sasha explore the different reasons people ultimately decide to end their relationships and the many feelings involved.The 7 Principles for Making a Marriage Work by John GottmanInstagram: @nevertolduspod

    EP 15: The Basics of Boundaries

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 49:58


    Exploring what healthy versus unhealthy boundaries can get confusing and overwhelming. In this week's episode, Crystal and Sasha discuss different boundary types and how to begin to practice creating and setting them.Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John TownsendInstagram: @nevertolduspod

    EP 14: Men in Therapy: Pabel Martinez

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 49:53


    It's no secret that Crystal and Sasha are no strangers to therapy. In this series , they will be talking with different men who have been or are in therapy, to break the stigma and normalize talking about feelings amongst men.Our first guest is Pabel Martinez,@PlurawlInstagram: @nevertolduspod

    EP 13: For the Fatherless

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 52:23


    A father figure, or lack of, in the home can have long lasting impacts on a child's development. In this episode Crystal and Sasha discuss why the father role is so important along with their own personal stories.Instagram: @nevertolduspod

    EP 12: When You Look in the Mirror

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 49:27


    How we view our bodies has a lot to do with what we are consuming, and we're not just talking about food. In this episode, Crystal and Sasha get real and vulnerable about their personal journey's with their bodies, as well discuss the harms of having a negative body-image.Body Image in America: Survey ResultsInstagram: @nevertolduspod

    EP 11: A Year in Review

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 58:33


    In this week's episode Crystal and Sasha review the past year and their experiences during the pandemic.Instagram: @nevertolduspod

    EP 10: Choosing a Therapist

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 58:18


    Therapy is something the podcast hosts talk about often and encourage their listeners to try out. But how should you go about finding a therapist once you're ready? In today's episode Crystal and Sasha discuss how to approach the process of finding a therapist that's right for you.Instagram: @nevertolduspod

    EP 9: Therapy Check-in

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 55:39


    Both Crystal and Sasha have been vocal about their experiences in therapy and how it has helped them progress in life. This week's episode is the first of many where they get real and personal about their therapy journey's and what they are currently tackling.Maryam HasnaaInstagram: nevertolduspod

    EP 8: Part 2: Check your privilege

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 57:24


    Continuing the conversation from last week, Crystal and Sasha explore the individual's role and responsibility in being an anti-racist.Me and White Supremacy - Layla F. SaadInstagram: @nevertolduspod

    EP 7: Part 1: A racist history

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 46:02


    In honor of Black History Month, Crystal and Sasha have a conversation on being an anti-racist in two parts. In this episode, they discuss the history of racism in America.STAMPED: Racism, Antiracism, and You - Ibram X KendiInstagram: @nevertolduspod

    EP 6: Confronting You, You & You

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 61:24


    Crystal and Sasha have been talking a lot about "doing the work" for themselves. And In this episode they talk about why its important, what it looks like and how you can approach it at your own pace.Instagram: @nevertolduspod

    EP 5: Who we are: Mental Health Professionals with Feelings

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 58:42


    In the final episode of the identity series, Crystal and Sasha look back on their journey to becoming mental health professionals. They discuss the good, bad and ugly of their experiences in the field.Instagram: @nevertolduspod

    EP 4: Who we are: New York Born and Raised

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 56:00


    Growing up in NY can teach you a lot of unique skills and some unnecessary ones as well. In this episode Crystal and Sasha discuss how their education on life was shaped by their city and the boroughs they were born in.Sources on internalized capitalism:Forge Medium articleTherapy with Lee pic

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    EP 3: Who we are: Latina Pride

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 58:37


    Being Latina looks and shows up differently in Crystal and Sasha's lives, but they both agree it plays a role in their identity. In this episode they break down how they feel it has shaped their experiences.

    EP 2: Who we are: The first... first-gen to be exact

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 56:57


    Crystal and Sasha continue the discussion on identity by talking about their experiences on being first-generation.Instagram: @nevertolduspod

    EP 1: Who we are: On being Women

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 57:39


    In the first part of their identity exploration, Crystal and Sasha discuss how identifying as women has shaped their sense of self and how that affects their present day.Instagram: @nevertolduspod

    Intro: How it all started

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 7:07


    Crystal and Sasha discuss how their knowledge and similar experiences led them to start this podcast.

    Epilogue: Final Thoughts

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 9:05


    After more than a year's journey of talking about and doing "the work", the podcast is coming to an end. In their last recording co-hosts, Crystal and Sasha leave you with their final thoughts.

    EP 64: Are You an Asker Or a Guesser?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 44:19


    When communicating with others, some of us are askers and some are guessers. If you don't know, Crystal and Sasha break down each style and of course, use their own experiences to help you figure out what your style is. Instagram & Tiktok: @nevertolduspod

    EP 63: Breakup Lessons- The Good, Bad & the Untold

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 52:21


    There are always lessons to be learned when a relationship does not work out, if you choose to. In today's episode Crystal and Sasha discuss what they've learned about themselves and how to be in better, healthier relationships from the mistakes they've made in the past. Instagram & Tiktok@nevertolduspod

    EP 62: You're Not Just Tired, You May be Burnt Out

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 43:45


    Hearing the term "burn out" is more common nowadays but how do you know if you're experiencing it? In this episode, Crystal and Sasha go in depth on what it looks & feels like and give some tips on how to recover.Instagram & Tiktok: @nevertolduspod

    EP 61: Why Are YOU So Defensive!?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 54:16


    Defense mechanisms are completely normal and necessary in order to survive in this world. In this episode Crystal and Sasha talk about what defenses are, how they protect us and they breakdown some of the more common defense mechanisms. Instagram & Tiktok: @nevertolduspod

    EP 60: Men in Therapy with Alex Z.

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 47:26


    Crystal and Sasha are back with their Men in Therapy series with special guest Alex Zamora. In this episode of the series, Alex discusses his journey with mental health, his therapist and the connection to his art. Alex Zamora: @zamoravisualsInstagram & Tiktok @nevertolduspod

    EP 59: We're Still Recovering (From More than the Pandemic)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 43:00


    Things are returning back to "normal" after more than 2 years living through a pandemic, but if it's been pretty difficult to feel good or back to your old self, you're not the only one. In this episode, Crystal and Sasha discuss the difficulty in adjusting back to "normal" after recognizing the way we've been living, even before the pandemic, may not have been so normal after all.Instagram & Tiktok: @nevertolduspod

    EP 58: When Self-Care Alone Isn't Enough

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 48:10


    Self-care is promoted everywhere you look, but are we doing it right as a collective? In this week's episode, Crystal and Sasha discuss community self-care and how it can possibly be more beneficial for us as a whole.Instagram & Tiktok: @nevertolduspod

    EP 57: Therapy Check-in - How it's Going

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 52:37


    In the first therapy check-in of 2022 Crystal and Sasha come together to talk about what's changed, what hasn't and why. They discuss the themes coming up in therapy and in their overall life.Instagram & Tiktok: @nevertolduspod

    EP 56: Lost Letters: My Abusive Relationship with My Boss

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 55:18


    In this Lost Letter's episode, Crystal and Sasha read and tease apart an anonymous letter written to an ex-boss who was emotionally abusive. Abuse in the workplace, how it can be spotted and what to do if you find yourself in that dynamic at work is discussed.Instagram & Tiktok: @nevertolduspod

    EP 55: What We Wish We Were Told Pt2

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 45:29


    Since Crystal and Sasha received such good feedback from the first episode they did (EP 37), they decided to do a part two. In this episode they continue the conversation on what they wish they were told about relationships and life.Instagram & Tiktok: @nevertolduspod

    EP 54: The Trauma We Inherit

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 50:52


    Trauma is complex experience that comes at us from many different angles. In this episode Crystal and Sasha focus on discussing what generational and racial trauma are and how we are ALL affected by it. Instagram & Tiktok: @nevertolduspod

    EP 53: Why is it So Hard to Ask for Help?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 55:51


    Crystal and Sasha are back, refreshed from their break and ready for some changes in 2022. In their first episode back, the idea of asking for help and why it is so damn hard to do it is discussed.4 Tips on Asking For HelpInstagram & Tiktok: @nevertolduspod

    EP 52: It's Been a Year...

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 49:50


    It has officially been one whole year of podcasting for Crystal and Sasha. In the last episode of 2021, they review the good and bad of what they learned together and they talk about changes to come for 2022. Instagram & Tiktok: @nevertolduspod

    EP 51: The Last Check-in

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 57:07


    In the fourth and final therapy check-in of the year, Crystal and Sasha discuss the main themes of what they have been dealing with in therapy and life in general.Thought RecordInstagram & Tiktok: @nevertoldsupod

    EP 50: A Conversation With Marvin Toliver

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 54:04


    Marvin Toliver, LCSW is the final guest of the podcast for the year From practicing as a therapist to his view on how to normalize mental health, him and the co-hosts get into a little bit of everything while putting humanity at the forefront of the conversationMarvin Toliver Ig: @mtoliver_lcswMelanated Social WorkZentoAmenInstagram & Tiktok: @nevertolduspod

    EP 49: Lost Letters: "I'm Surviving"

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 49:26


    *Trigger Warning*In this episode of Lost Letters, the anonymous writer discusses their experience with sexual assault and trauma. Co-hosts Crystal and Sasha break down what sexual assault is and how to create boundaries in relationships.Resources: RAINNInstagram & Tiktok: Nevertolduspod

    EP 48: Breaking up with Toxic, with guest, Josephina R.

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 58:06


    Leaving a toxic relationship is something that's easier said than done when love is involved. In this week's episode, co-hosts invite Josephina R. to discuss her separation from a partner who was unhealthy and toxic.Instagram & Tiktok: @nevertolduspod

    EP 47: Embracing Your True Identity with Matthew Melissa M.

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 56:08


    Exploring your identity and figuring out how to be the protaganist in your story is a process we all go through. In this week's episode LMHC, board game enthusiast and content creator: Matthew Melissa M., talks about how he found parts of his identity and how he incorporates them into all his worlds.Instagram: @thisisroom51Room 51 Social Media ContentIG: @nevertolduspod

    EP 46: Fabio Peña on Being First-Gen

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 58:43


    Fabio Peña, the co-founder & CEO of The First Generation Consulting Page is this week's guest. Together, the co-hosts and their guest discuss being first-gen, how that changes your narrative and how it affects your mental health.Peña & Co., LLCIG: @pena.consultingInstagram & Tiktok: @nevertolduspod

    EP 45: The Most Wonderful Time of the Year?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 52:08


    It's that time again...The holiday season is quickly approaching and of course it brings a lot of emotion. In this week's episode Crystal and Sasha discuss the different feelings that can come up during this time and give helpful tips on how to get through.Instagram & Tiktok: @nevertolduspod

    EP 44: Men in Therapy: Anthony G.

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 49:13


    In this episode Crystal and Sasha continue to try and shed light on men in therapy. Guest, Anthony G helps the co-hosts continue the discussion on the impact and importance of therapy. Anthony G. Instagram: @_Quesoblanco_Instagram & Tiktok: @nevertolduspod

    EP 43: Do Women Feed into Toxic Masculinity?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 54:03


    Taking ownership over the roles women can play within toxic masculinity is a necessary, but uncommon topic of conversation. In this episode, Crystal and Sasha have an open discussion on the ways they feel women can contribute to toxic masculinity.Instagram & Tiktok: @nevertolduspod

    EP 42: Getting Old, We ALL do it

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 51:10


    Getting older is an inevitable process we all go through, but it seems to be something we don't talk about. This week Crystal and Sasha explore aging, death and why we should be thinking about it more.Instagram & Tiktok: @nevertolduspod

    EP 41: Taking Up Space

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 56:31


    Taking up space is a term that was not discussed, thought of or taught to both Crystal and Sasha. In this week's episode they break down the meaning and importance on taking up space in every way.Instagram & Tiktok: @nevertolduspod

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