When Marriage Hurts Podcast - Help for Christian Women in Painful Marriages, Emotional Abuse in Marriage, Trauma in Marriage

Hey Sis, The covert ways in which an abuser sabotages their victim's chances of success and happiness are so subtle that they often go unnoticed. They also go unnoticed because the abuser does it in such a manner that makes it seem like there was no malicious intent involved, so innocently. This contributes to the frustration and loneliness of the victim who has a hard time explaining this to people outside the marriage. I share a few examples of mine on this episode. Love, Ola   ***One-on-One coaching session slots now open. You can book a clarity session at https://www.calendly.com/oladavies360 ****   Let's connect! Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts Email: oladavies360@gmail.com Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts

Hey Sis, Even when it becomes clear that we are being abused in covert ways, there is a sense of responsibility that we can feel towards fixing the problem, fixing the abusive spouse. Why do we feel this sense of responsibility? Why does protecting ourselves from harm feel so bad and selfish? Why does it seem like our abusive husband is the real victim?  I share some insights in this episode that take a look at how the groundwork for these types of relationships get laid. Love, Ola   ***One-on-One coaching session slots now open. You can book a clarity session at https://www.calendly.com/oladavies360 ****   Let's connect! Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts Email: oladavies360@gmail.com Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts

Hey Sis, Have you ever wondered why some Christian men treat their wives terribly? I wondered about this myself as I struggled to understand why the man I married was the perfect Christian man to others yet he treated me horribly. I share some insights from the scriptures about why this happens.  Love, Ola   ***One-on-One coaching session slots now open. You can book a clarity session at https://www.calendly.com/oladavies360 ****   Let's connect! Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts Email: oladavies360@gmail.com Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts

Hey Sis, This episode talks about health issues that sometimes arise after leaving an abusive marriage and I share a bit of my experience. Love, Ola   ***One-on-One coaching session slots now open. You can book a clarity session at https://www.calendly.com/oladavies360 ****   Let's connect! Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts Email: oladavies360@gmail.com Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts

Hey Sis, This episode addresses one of the common concerns women have about leaving an emotionally abusive marriage - what people will say and how other people will receive the news. Love, Ola   ***One-on-One coaching session slots now open. You can book a clarity session at https://www.calendly.com/oladavies360 ****   Let's connect! Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts

Hey Sis, In this episode, I address one of the most common questions I get from women which is "How do I cope with my marriage". I give vital clues on how to approach this question in other to find not just the answers you want but the answers you need. Love, Ola   ***One-on-One coaching session slots now open. You can book a clarity session at https://www.calendly.com/oladavies360 ****   Let's connect! Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts

Hey Sis, In this episode, I answer questions like: -What if women in my family have bad marriages -Is it a generational curse? -What if my husband needs my help to break a pattern of abuse in his family? - How can I help him break the pattern of abuse? Be blessed as you listen. Ola   ***One-on-One coaching session slots now open. You can book a clarity session at https://www.calendly.com/oladavies360 ****   Let's connect! Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts

Hey Sis, In this episode, I explore a less talked about tool of abuse that goes unnoticed - housekeeping. I share a bit of my experience and how this form of abuse negatively impacts a woman's well-being. ***One-on-One coaching session slots now open. You can book a clarity session at https://www.calendly.com/oladavies360 ****   Be blessed as you listen. Ola   Let's connect! Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts

Hi Sis, It's another episode and we are revisiting the basics - exploring how emotional abuse plays out in daily living.  I read out questions from a quiz (by Natalie Hoffman) that helps you identify subtle and hidden patterns of abuse.    Remember, the abuse is never your fault. Your trust was betrayed.    Love, Ola   Link to quiz: https://form.typeform.com/to/bYJK7jhE?typeform-source=www.flyingfreenow.com Facebook: @whenmarriagehurts Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts

Hi sis, This episode explores some ways in which we lose our voices and the role abuse and religion plays. Happy listening! Ola

Below are some online support groups for Christians in abusive marriages. Please note that the life-saving divorce Facebook group is for men and women.  The two other groups are for women only. Confusion to clarity => https://www.facebook.com/groups/confusiontoclarity/?ref=share&mibextid=NSMWBT Life-Saving Divorce Private Group (on facebook) https://www.flyingfreesisterhood.com/sign-up  (paid membership)  

Hi Sis,  This episode is about hoovering. What it is, why the abuser uses this tactic and why hoovering is an effective way by which abusers keep their victims trapped even when the victim knows they are being abused.  Happy listening!   Let's connect! Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts Mentioned in this episode: Flying Free Podcast by Natalie Hoffman

Are people who leave abuse stronger than those who don't? Or does it actually take strength to stay in abuse? The answer might shock you as I talk about bravery, courage and strength in this episode. Resources mentioned in this episode: https://www.flyingfreenow.com/category/articles/ Flying free podcast.

Hi Sis, Does the thought of being a divorced woman scare you? Make you very uncomfortable? Makes you start to re-evaluate your marriage and think maybe the abuse isn't so bad after all? I've been there before. In this episode, I share the fears I had about getting a divorce that didn't even have to do with my ex. You'll learn what the other side of divorce can look like and how you can navigate the road.    With love, Ola Let's connect! Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts

Hi Sis, In this episode, we answer questions like: -whose idea is divorce anyway - God or the devil? - am I splitting my family if I want to divorce my abusive husband? -why would God permit divorce if he wants all marriages to stay together?   With Love Ola   Let's connect! Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts ***Episode referenced- Episode #35- Is What You Are Experiencing Really Abuse?

Hi Sis! Are there times you feel your husband doesn't know he's hurting you and your marriage cos you know if he knew, he'd definitely want to change? I know that feeling. After all, people make mistakes and some people just don't know how to treat a spouse they claim to love. This episode helps you answer the question of whether your husband is simply ignorant or could he even be doing it deliberately?   With love, Ola    Join us on facebook and instagram: @whenmarriagehurts