When Marriage Hurts Podcast - Help for Christian Women in Painful Marriages, Emotional Abuse in Marriage, Trauma in Marriage

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Are you tired of trying to figure out this thing called marriage? Do your attempts to seek Godly counsel for your marriage leave you feeling confused and frustrated? Have you attended marriage seminars and joined prayer lines but your marriage doesn’t se

Ola Davies | Marital abuse coach


    • Sep 16, 2024 LATEST EPISODE
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    90\ Ways In Which An Abusive Husband Sabotages You

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 16, 2024 25:03


    Hey Sis, The covert ways in which an abuser sabotages their victim's chances of success and happiness are so subtle that they often go unnoticed. They also go unnoticed because the abuser does it in such a manner that makes it seem like there was no malicious intent involved, so innocently. This contributes to the frustration and loneliness of the victim who has a hard time explaining this to people outside the marriage. I share a few examples of mine on this episode. Love, Ola   ***One-on-One coaching session slots now open. You can book a clarity session at https://www.calendly.com/oladavies360 ****   Let's connect! Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts Email: oladavies360@gmail.com Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts

    89\ Why Do I Feel Responsible For Helping My Abusive Husband?

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 9, 2024 20:05


    Hey Sis, Even when it becomes clear that we are being abused in covert ways, there is a sense of responsibility that we can feel towards fixing the problem, fixing the abusive spouse. Why do we feel this sense of responsibility? Why does protecting ourselves from harm feel so bad and selfish? Why does it seem like our abusive husband is the real victim?  I share some insights in this episode that take a look at how the groundwork for these types of relationships get laid. Love, Ola   ***One-on-One coaching session slots now open. You can book a clarity session at https://www.calendly.com/oladavies360 ****   Let's connect! Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts Email: oladavies360@gmail.com Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts

    88\ Why Your Godly Husband Treats You Badly

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 2, 2024 18:22


    Hey Sis, Have you ever wondered why some Christian men treat their wives terribly? I wondered about this myself as I struggled to understand why the man I married was the perfect Christian man to others yet he treated me horribly. I share some insights from the scriptures about why this happens.  Love, Ola   ***One-on-One coaching session slots now open. You can book a clarity session at https://www.calendly.com/oladavies360 ****   Let's connect! Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts Email: oladavies360@gmail.com Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts

    87\ Health Issues After Separation and Divorce

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 26, 2024 21:02


    Hey Sis, This episode talks about health issues that sometimes arise after leaving an abusive marriage and I share a bit of my experience. Love, Ola   ***One-on-One coaching session slots now open. You can book a clarity session at https://www.calendly.com/oladavies360 ****   Let's connect! Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts Email: oladavies360@gmail.com Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts

    86\ What Will People Say If You Leave The Marriage?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 19, 2024 28:44


    Hey Sis, This episode addresses one of the common concerns women have about leaving an emotionally abusive marriage - what people will say and how other people will receive the news. Love, Ola   ***One-on-One coaching session slots now open. You can book a clarity session at https://www.calendly.com/oladavies360 ****   Let's connect! Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts

    85\ How Do I Cope With My Marriage?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 12, 2024 14:47


    Hey Sis, In this episode, I address one of the most common questions I get from women which is "How do I cope with my marriage". I give vital clues on how to approach this question in other to find not just the answers you want but the answers you need. Love, Ola   ***One-on-One coaching session slots now open. You can book a clarity session at https://www.calendly.com/oladavies360 ****   Let's connect! Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts

    When There Is A Generational Pattern of Abuse

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 5, 2024 19:13


    Hey Sis, In this episode, I answer questions like: -What if women in my family have bad marriages -Is it a generational curse? -What if my husband needs my help to break a pattern of abuse in his family? - How can I help him break the pattern of abuse? Be blessed as you listen. Ola   ***One-on-One coaching session slots now open. You can book a clarity session at https://www.calendly.com/oladavies360 ****   Let's connect! Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts

    83\ House Chores As A Tool of Abuse

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 29, 2024 19:00


    Hey Sis, In this episode, I explore a less talked about tool of abuse that goes unnoticed - housekeeping. I share a bit of my experience and how this form of abuse negatively impacts a woman's well-being. ***One-on-One coaching session slots now open. You can book a clarity session at https://www.calendly.com/oladavies360 ****   Be blessed as you listen. Ola   Let's connect! Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts

    82\ What If My Husband's Behavior Is Due To Past Trauma?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 22, 2024 15:58


    81\ What If you're Depressed and Unaware?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 15, 2024 14:34


    80\ How You Can Fix Your Marriage?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 1, 2024 18:29


    79\ When The Church Does Not Care About The Abused

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 17, 2024 15:25


    78\ How To Pray For Your Marriage

    Play Episode Listen Later May 27, 2024 13:03


    77\ Why Your Husband Treats You the Way He Does

    Play Episode Listen Later May 20, 2024 16:02


    76\ When You Decide To Divorce: Safety Tips

    Play Episode Listen Later May 13, 2024 14:39


    75\ Why It's ”Hard” For Your Husband to Know He's Hurting You (DARVO)

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 15, 2024 18:04


    74\ What If Your Friends Want You Staying In An Abusive Marriage

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 25, 2024 15:20


    73\ How To Trust God In A Destructive Marriage.

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 26, 2024 14:09


    72\ How Has Your Marriage Affected You?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 12, 2024 16:03


    71\ Health Effects of Emotional Abuse:My story.

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 29, 2024 30:46


    70\ Am I Being Spiritually Abused?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 22, 2024 24:38


    70\ Am I Being Spiritually Abused?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 21, 2024 24:38


    69\ Is It Worth Staying For The Children? What If I Regret Leaving?

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 4, 2023 24:53


    68\ Coercive Control: What It Is and How It Constitutes Hidden Abuse

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 13, 2023 30:56


    67\ What If My Abusive Marriage Is For God's Glory?

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 30, 2023 18:54


    66\ Is The Abuse Really Bad Or I'm Just Making A Big Deal Out of Nothing?

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 9, 2023 14:37


    65\ How The Church Silences Abused Wives

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 25, 2023 19:44


    64\ Does God Want You To Stay Or Leave The Marriage ?

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 11, 2023 20:18


    63\ How Christian Marriage Books Make Wives The Perfect Abuse Victims

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 28, 2023 27:32


    62\ Is It Really Emotional Abuse?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 21, 2023 32:23


    Hi Sis, It's another episode and we are revisiting the basics - exploring how emotional abuse plays out in daily living.  I read out questions from a quiz (by Natalie Hoffman) that helps you identify subtle and hidden patterns of abuse.    Remember, the abuse is never your fault. Your trust was betrayed.    Love, Ola   Link to quiz: https://form.typeform.com/to/bYJK7jhE?typeform-source=www.flyingfreenow.com Facebook: @whenmarriagehurts Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts

    61\ How Emotional Abuse Impacts Your Health

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 14, 2023 15:58


    60\ How Abuse Steals Your Voice

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 31, 2023 24:33


    Hi sis, This episode explores some ways in which we lose our voices and the role abuse and religion plays. Happy listening! Ola

    59\ My Husband Cheated, What Do I Do?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 17, 2023 20:26


    58\ Feeling Stuck In A Painful Marriage? How Looking Back Could Help Get You Unstuck

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 3, 2023 22:04


    57\ Father's Day When Abuse Is Present

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 19, 2023 16:43


    56\ Public Humiliation As A form Of Abuse

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 12, 2023 15:15


    55\ Is Your Body Yours Or Your Husband's? - How Abuse Objectifies Our Bodies

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 5, 2023 25:11


    54\What To Expect When You Decide To Separate

    Play Episode Listen Later May 22, 2023 34:52


    Below are some online support groups for Christians in abusive marriages. Please note that the life-saving divorce Facebook group is for men and women.  The two other groups are for women only. Confusion to clarity => https://www.facebook.com/groups/confusiontoclarity/?ref=share&mibextid=NSMWBT Life-Saving Divorce Private Group (on facebook) https://www.flyingfreesisterhood.com/sign-up  (paid membership)  

    53\The Reason Why Leaving An Abusive Marriage Can Seem Like The Wrong Decision

    Play Episode Listen Later May 8, 2023 27:45


    Hi Sis,  This episode is about hoovering. What it is, why the abuser uses this tactic and why hoovering is an effective way by which abusers keep their victims trapped even when the victim knows they are being abused.  Happy listening!   Let's connect! Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts Mentioned in this episode: Flying Free Podcast by Natalie Hoffman

    52\ Why You Need Individual Therapy Even If You have Chosen To Stay

    Play Episode Listen Later May 1, 2023 19:47


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    51\ What If Your Husband's Abusive Behaviour Is Due To Demonic Influence?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 24, 2023 26:59


    50\ Are You Afraid Of Ending Up Alone?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 17, 2023 25:44


    49\ When You Feel Too Weak To Leave An Abusive Marriage.

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 10, 2023 25:52


    Are people who leave abuse stronger than those who don't? Or does it actually take strength to stay in abuse? The answer might shock you as I talk about bravery, courage and strength in this episode. Resources mentioned in this episode: https://www.flyingfreenow.com/category/articles/ Flying free podcast.

    48\ Why Divorce Is So Scary

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 3, 2023 25:04


    Hi Sis, Does the thought of being a divorced woman scare you? Make you very uncomfortable? Makes you start to re-evaluate your marriage and think maybe the abuse isn't so bad after all? I've been there before. In this episode, I share the fears I had about getting a divorce that didn't even have to do with my ex. You'll learn what the other side of divorce can look like and how you can navigate the road.    With love, Ola Let's connect! Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts

    47\ Sex In An Abusive Marriage

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 27, 2023 24:23


    46\ What Can Save Your Marriage?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 13, 2023 27:25


    45\ What Does It Feel Like To Be Finally Divorced?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 6, 2023 23:00


    44\ Why It's Okay (And Even Encouraged), To Be Angry When You Realize You've Been Abused

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 27, 2023 11:12


    43\ What If My Husband Grew Up In An Abusive Home?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 20, 2023 19:08


    42\ What They Won't Tell You About Marriage

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 13, 2023 42:35


    Hi Sis, In this episode, we answer questions like: -whose idea is divorce anyway - God or the devil? - am I splitting my family if I want to divorce my abusive husband? -why would God permit divorce if he wants all marriages to stay together?   With Love Ola   Let's connect! Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts ***Episode referenced- Episode #35- Is What You Are Experiencing Really Abuse?

    41\ Does Your Husband Know He's Hurting You?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 6, 2023 31:24


    Hi Sis! Are there times you feel your husband doesn't know he's hurting you and your marriage cos you know if he knew, he'd definitely want to change? I know that feeling. After all, people make mistakes and some people just don't know how to treat a spouse they claim to love. This episode helps you answer the question of whether your husband is simply ignorant or could he even be doing it deliberately?   With love, Ola    Join us on facebook and instagram: @whenmarriagehurts

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