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In this debrief episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon breaks down the patterns of abuse found in Avery's survivor story, including soulmate language, triangulation with former partners, financial abuse, and the confusion created when someone's words repeatedly fail to match their actions. The episode also examines how Avery's emotions, communication, and reactions were used to discredit her legitimate concerns. Apologies created hope and restarted the relationship without producing lasting change, while circular conversations kept Avery defending herself instead of addressing the original behaviour. If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
In this rerelease episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Avery shares the story of her abusive marriage and the years she spent trying to make sense of a relationship filled with lies, infidelity, triangulation, and circular conversations. As the relationship progressed, Avery found herself carrying the financial and emotional responsibilities of the family while her partner avoided accountability and blamed her for the problems she was trying to address. Every concern became proof that she was angry, dramatic, hypervigilant, or impossible to please. Avery discusses the betrayal she uncovered, the hope that kept her trying, and the gradual realization that the calm she wanted could only exist when her partner was no longer in the home. When Avery finally ended the relationship, the abuse shifted into harassment, false accusations, custody threats, and other forms of post-separation control. It's a story of crazy-making, black-and-white thinking, lies, infidelity, triangulation, circular conversations, hoping for change, shame, harassment, false accusations, custody threats, emotional abuse, coercive control, gaslighting, trauma bonding, word salad arguments, psychological abuse, financial abuse, weaponized incompetence, blame shifting, emotional manipulation, betrayal trauma, smear campaigns, hypervigilance, trusting yourself, and post-separation abuse. If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon discusses how an abusive person can maintain control while appearing to let their partner make every decision. They refuse to participate, leave the planning and responsibility to someone else, and then criticize, blame, sulk, or become angry once a choice has been made. Brandon explains how this creates a no-win situation where the victim must constantly predict what the abuser wants, despite never being told what that is. Over time, the victim may take on the invisible labor of running the household, managing the finances, and preventing problems, while the abuser remains outside the process until there is something to criticize. The episode also explores how this pattern creates plausible deniability, keeps the victim focused on avoiding negative reactions, and slowly damages their confidence in their own judgment. What appears to be freedom can become a system of control built around blame, moving goalposts, and the fear of making the wrong choice. If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon debriefs Vicky's survivor story and examines what it means to be assigned the role of family scapegoat. He discusses how Vicky remained loyal, worked hard, stayed quiet, and continued trying to earn her family's love, yet was still treated as the problem. The episode also explores transactional love, financial support being used in place of accountability, and how the calmer parent's refusal to protect a child can become one of the deepest betrayals. Brandon also breaks down how abusive families focus on a survivor's reaction instead of what caused it, why outside accountability threatens a family built on silence and appearances, and the grief of mourning relatives who are still alive. He closes by discussing his hope that Vicky can rediscover the creative, capable, and resilient person she has always been outside the role her family created for her. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses physical abuse. *** If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Vicky shares how she became the scapegoat in a family shaped by favoritism, transactional love, psychological abuse, and silence. Her mother controlled the household through humiliation, mind games, and physical aggression, while her father repeatedly failed to protect her. Meanwhile, Vicky's brother was treated as the golden child, protected from accountability, and given opportunities she had spent years working toward. Despite everything, Vicky remained loyal and eventually returned to work at the family business, hoping she would finally be trusted to take it over. Instead, she was denied training, physically attacked, and betrayed when her brother was brought back despite her clearly stated boundaries. After a confrontation turned violent, Vicky was fired and ordered to leave, forcing her to face the painful reality that her father had once again chosen the family system over her. It's a story of favoritism, transactional love, psychological abuse, silence, coercive control, enabling, humiliation, physical aggression, physical abuse, the scapegoat, the golden child, toxic family systems, narcissistic mother, betrayal, loyalty, trust, grief, no contact, emotional abuse, sibling abuse, betrayal trauma, adult child of narcissistic parents, and financial control. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses physical abuse. *** If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
This is part 2 of 2; you can find part 1 hereIn part 2 of this conversation, Jon and Amir talk about L. Ron Hubbard, hypnosis, belief, and why we wall ourselves into our personal silos when our beliefs are challenged, rather than having the courage to consider the evidence. Links:See Yuval Laor's work hereSee John Hunter's work hereHere is a link to the documentary, Let There Be LightNote for Americans and other non-UK people: Speakers' Corner in London is a designated area for free speech and public debate, located in the north-east corner of Hyde Park near Marble Arch. It has been a site for public speaking since the mid-1800s, allowing anyone to speak on any lawful subject, especially on Sundays.
In this debrief episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon Chadwick debriefs Canva's survivor story and examines how her reactions to abuse were isolated from their context and used to portray her as the abusive person. The episode explores the severe gaslighting that led Canva to record conversations so she could hold on to her own reality, the smear campaign that began before she left, and the way every conflict became a trial of her character. Brandon also discusses financial abuse, isolation, pregnancy being used to discredit her, the public and private versions of her former partner, and the custody fears that made leaving feel like choosing between two different kinds of danger. The debrief also looks at the reasons Canva stayed, including the powerful connection from the beginning, her desire to keep her family together, exhaustion, financial instability, love bombing, and the fear that leaving would mean she could no longer protect her children. The episode closes with a reminder that healing may require accepting that you cannot correct every lie someone tells about you. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses physical abuse. *** If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
What if the therapy that was supposed to help actually made things worse?For many survivors of coercive control, couples therapy doesn't bring clarity, it deepens confusion, self-doubt, and shame.In this episode, I'm joined by licensed marriage and family therapist Frances Russell to talk about why traditional couples therapy can be harmful when coercive control or domestic violence is present. We discuss what survivors should know, what therapists often miss, and why understanding patterns of power and control—not just isolated incidents—is essential.Whether you're a survivor wondering why couples therapy didn't work or a mental health professional wanting to better recognize coercive control, this conversation offers practical insights and compassionate validation.In this episode, we discuss:Why couples therapy can unintentionally reinforce coercive control.How neutrality can cause harm when abuse is present.The subtle signs therapists should be watching for.Why assessment for coercive control is an ongoing process—not a one-time intake questionnaire.The difference between incident-based and pattern-based thinking.What survivors can do if they're looking back and realizing therapy caused additional harm.Considerations for therapists when ending couples therapy due to safety concerns.What to know about therapy notes, confidentiality, and family court.About Frances: Frances works as a therapist for both individuals and couples, and specializes in trauma recovery, helping people rebuild trust in themselves, others and life after experiences that have shattered it. She works with clients who want to process childhood abuse and neglect as well as others who come in to process recent, traumatic experiences between themselves and their partner. She primarily uses Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with couples and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) with individuals. In addition to being a therapist, Frances is a trauma-informed yoga instructor with Comeback Yoga, an organization that supports veterans and their families. Frances also teaches graduate students at Regis University and her courses include Crisis, Trauma and Loss and Human Growth and Development.In her free time, Frances enjoys staying active and getting outdoors through running, backpacking and skiing. She is also always on the lookout for new restaurants and recipes.Register for the Free Webinar Series - Why Co-Parenting Feels Like a Trap here - https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/coparentingPlease leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7Enjoy some of our freebies!Choosing Your Battles FreebieCanned Responses FreebieMic Drop Moments Freebie...
In this rerelease episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon talks with clinical psychologist and author Dr. Ingrid Clayton about narcissistic abuse, complex trauma, and the long journey toward believing your own experiences. Dr. Clayton shares how growing up within an abusive and gaslighting family system shaped her nervous system, relationships, and sense of self. She explains why emotional abuse can remain hidden for decades, with its effects often mistaken for personal failings, addiction, perfectionism, or an inability to maintain healthy relationships. Brandon and Dr. Clayton discuss complex PTSD, fawning, trauma reenactment, toxic shame, and the painful hope that an abusive or enabling parent will eventually acknowledge the truth. They also explore why familiar relationship dynamics can feel safe to the body, even when those dynamics are harmful. To buy Dr. Ingrid Clayton's book 'Believing Me', click here. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses childhood sexual abuse. *** If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
RESOURCES- Step into your next level of growth and join me inside Lotus Rising Premium Coaching at danettecoaching.comWatch Trust Me: The False Prophet here: https://www.netflix.com/us-en/title/81758532CONNECT WITH DANETTEInstagram: @thedanettemayFacebook: Danette MayTikTok: @thedanettemayNEW TV Show on Youtube: @TheDanetteMayListen to The Danette May ShowRead my book: danettemay.com/embraceabundancebookGet The Rise book: therisebook.comWork with Danette: danettemay.comIn this powerful final episode of my Trust Me: The False Prophet series, I sit down with Nomz Bistline for a raw conversation about surviving coercive control, religious trauma, prison, and the long road back to personal freedom. Nomz opens up about facing her abuser in court, living with panic attacks behind the scenes, and what it really means to be labeled “strong” when all you want is permission to fall apart. We also explore trauma recovery, dissociation, victim blaming, spiritual abuse, and the deep emotional impact of being forced to rebuild your identity after years of manipulation and control.Nomz shares how she began questioning everything she had been taught, why anger can be an essential part of healing, and how reclaiming her voice has led her toward music, advocacy, and a new life on her own terms. Her message is a powerful reminder to trust your inner knowing, keep asking questions, and stop outsourcing your power to people or systems that do not feel right. This episode is for anyone healing from abuse, toxic relationships, religious conditioning, coercive control, or the belief that they must always be the strong one.This episode is an independent conversation and commentary related to themes discussed around Trust Me: The False Prophet and is not affiliated with or endorsed by Netflix.IN THIS EPISODE:(00:00) Welcome back to the series(4:31) Nomz Bistline joins the show(5:18) What happens behind the mask(6:40) Facing her abuser in court(7:53) The trailer case explained(11:23) Tired of always being strong(15:57) Family, support, and feeling alone(19:57) Watching the documentary back(24:34) Surviving prison and questioning everything(27:14) Coercive control and legal reform(31:08) Power and manipulation in the courtroom(31:32) The trauma of living with uncertainty(33:28) Words that gave her hope(34:36) Planning joy after traumatic moments(36:59) The pain people hide(38:07) Leaving a triggering environment(39:35) Turning trauma into music(43:35) Why anger can support healing(46:54) Faith conversations after religious trauma(51:03) Nomz's final message to women(53:10) Closing the seriesCONNECT WITH NOMZIG: https://www.instagram.com/nomzia_b/?hl=us
Joanna Simpson was brutally killed by her estranged husband, British Airways pilot Robert Brown, just one week before their divorce was due to be finalised. Brown pre-dug a grave and hid her body in Great Windsor Park. He finally admitted killing Joanna with a claw hammer, but he was acquitted of murder and convicted of manslaughter which meant he was eligible for release after 13 years. Following years of campaigning by Joanna's mother Diana Parkes, best friend Hetti Barkworth-Nanton, Laura Richards and thousands of Crime Analyst listeners, Brown's automatic release was stopped in 2023. He came up for parole in April 2026. In this episode, Laura interviews Hetti Barkworth-Nanton and they take you behind the Parole Board Hearing sharing new details about Brown's psychopathic behaviour and ongoing risk. Laura analyses and discusses with Hetti the significance of the evidence considered by the panel, including the relevance of coercive control, the importance of judicial sentencing remarks, and why understanding behavioural patterns - not simply convictions - is imperative when assessing dangerousness and risk. In this episode Laura and Hetti discuss: The significance of the fact-finding process prior to the Parole Board Hearing. What the panel learned about Robert Brown's behaviour and psychology from a 330 page dossier. Why psychopathy and behavioural patterns matter in risk assessment. The importance of coercive control when assessing risk and dangerousness. The knife incident and why it remained significant despite no criminal conviction. Why the original sentencing remarks became crucial evidence years later. The difference between criminal convictions and behavioural evidence. What "retained culpability" means and why it mattered at the Parole Board Hearing. Lessons for professionals assessing high-risk perpetrators. Why understanding coercive control saves lives. This episode continues Crime Analyst's landmark series examining Joanna Simpson's murder, the campaign that prevented Robert Brown's release, and the lessons every professional -and every listener - can learn about coercive control, risk assessment and the importance of understanding dangerous behaviour before tragedy occurs. If you haven't already listened to Laura's landmark Joanna Simpson series, start here: https://www.crime-analyst.com/case-004-joanna-simpson-a-miscarriage-of-justice/ #JoannaSimpson #HerNameWasJoSimpson #RobertBrown #BritishAirwaysKiller #CoerciveControl #Stalking #PreventMurderInSlowMotionä #WomenMatter #ChildrenMatter #DomesticAbuse #MaleViolence #CrimeAnalyst #Expert #Analysis #Behaviour #TrueCrime #Podcast #Crime #DomesticHomicide #NotAnotherJo Clip https://www.facebook.com/reel/1494827995475239 Sources View the Judicial Review Crime Analyst Episodes on Joanna Simpson's case: Ep 105: Joanna Simpson: A Miscarriage of Justice, Part 1 Ep 107: Joanna Simpson: A Miscarriage of Justice, Part 2 Ep 110: How to Save a Life with Hetti Nanton, Part 3 Ep 111: Reflections of Joanna Simpson, Part 4 The Case of Joanna Simpson: the British Airways killer who must stay behind bars The Case of Joanna Simpson: killer pilot Robert Brown planned every detail of killing Jo Ep 189: The British Airways Killer to Remain in Prison: The Judicial Review, Part 5 SIGN the petition for serial domestic abusers and stalkers to be on the same register as sex offenders and ensure they are proactively assessed and monitored. https://www.jsfoundation.org.uk/ https://refuge.org.uk/ Laura's Resources and Training information: www.dashriskchecklist.com www.thelaurarichards.com Crime Analyst YouTube, Socials and Website YouTube @crimeanalyst Facebook Crime Analyst Podcast Instagram @crimeanalyst @laurarichards999 Threads @crimeanalyst X @thecrimeanalyst @laurarichards999 TikTok @crimeanalystpod Website www.crime-analyst.com Leave a 5* Review https://www.crime-analyst.com/reviews/new/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
In this debrief episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon breaks down the patterns of abuse in Jody's survivor story. The debrief explores how repeated accusations kept Jody permanently on the defensive, how one small technicality became a lasting attack on her character, and how constant communication slowly isolated her while keeping her attention focused on the relationship. Brandon also examines how the abuser's version of reality came to control the relationship, how Jody's empathy was used against her, and how the abuse extended to her pets, home, privacy, and attempts to create space. The episode also discusses fear, obligation, guilt, shame, violence against objects, and the next-day reset that allowed the abuse to continue without accountability. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses physical abuse, death threats, and animal abuse. *** To visit Jody's website -> https://www.jodystewart-throughthecracks.ca/ To buy Jody's book in Canada -> https://a.co/d/0doqSjMG To buy Jody's book in the United States -> https://a.co/d/05hDxomB If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Before her brother Eden was murdered, Jessica Brown was already fighting for social change. She had dedicated her career to helping disadvantaged girls, giving them a chance to break the cycle of destitution and abuse through mentoring, education and crisis intervention. Then Edan was killed, and everything she thought she understood about violence, loss and justice suddenly became very personal. In this episode of I Catch Killers, Jessica takes us inside her fight for change through her work with Sister to Sister, Warrior Women, and the NSW Serious Offenders Review Council. But that's not all. As you'll know if you're a regular listener of the podcast, Anthony Jones, the man who murdered Eden, has been released from prison. Subscribe to our new Youtube channel. Follow I Catch Killers:Instagram: @icatchkillersTiktok: @icatchkillerspodcastFacebook: @icatchkillersSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Jody shares the story of reconnecting with a boy she had dated as a teenager, thirty years after their brief relationship ended. At first, the familiarity felt comforting. They spent nearly every day together, talked constantly, and quickly slipped into a relationship. Then the accusations began. A friendly conversation became flirting. A delayed drive home became proof that she was cheating. Before long, he was recording her calls, searching her phone, tracking her movements, reviewing her bank statements, and demanding that she prove her innocence again and again. As his paranoia and drinking escalated, Jody found herself walking on eggshells inside her own home. He isolated her from her son, verbally degraded her, damaged her property, threatened her life, and left her with painful suspicions surrounding the sudden deaths of two beloved pets. Even after she passed a polygraph test, nothing changed. Jody's story follows the slow tightening of coercive control, the fear that made leaving feel dangerous, and the moment she finally stopped begging him to stay and let him walk out the door. It's a story of narcissistic abuse, coercive control, paranoia, jealousy, surveillance, phone monitoring, hidden cameras, accusations, verbal abuse, psychological abuse, animal abuse, threats, physical abuse, physical intimidation, death threats, property destruction, isolation, boundaries, financial monitoring, trauma bonds, trauma bonding, possessiveness, substance abuse, addiction, gaslighting, reality distortion, triangulation, fake discards, abuse resets, blame shifting, double standards, projection, and leaving an abusive relationship. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses physical abuse, death threats, and animal abuse. *** To visit Jody's website -> https://www.jodystewart-throughthecracks.ca/ To buy Jody's book in Canada -> https://a.co/d/0doqSjMG To buy Jody's book in the United States -> https://a.co/d/05hDxomB If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Bek Condello didn't choose the world she was born into. Raised inside the Geelong Revival Centre, a church she now describes as a cult, every aspect of her life was decided for her — what she believed, who she could trust, who she could marry, what she wore, and what would happen if she ever left. By the time she was an adult, she had never kissed anyone, never questioned the rules she'd grown up with, and genuinely believed the outside world was dangerous. In this conversation with Kate Langbroek, Bek explains why leaving wasn't the hardest part. The real challenge came afterwards: rebuilding an identity from scratch, grieving the parents she feels the cult stole from her, navigating a marriage that was never really her choice, and learning to trust her own instincts after a lifetime of being told not to. Bek also speaks candidly about the lasting impact of growing up in an environment where sex was framed as shameful, revealing how it contributed to a diagnosis of vaginismus after her wedding and the profound effect it had on her first marriage. This isn't simply a story about escaping a cult. It's about what happens when everything you've ever believed is stripped away, and you're left to answer one terrifying question: who are you when you've never been allowed to decide for yourself? Can You Handle a Girl Like Me? by Bek Condello is available now. If this episode raises concerns for you, support is available. You can find Lifeline on 13 11 14 or visit their website for confidential crisis support. Support independent women’s media and get our biggest offer of the year. Subscribe here for 30% off your annual Mamamia subscription. Code applied at the checkout. Offer ends June 30. You can now watch our show in full length video on the Apple Podcast app - make sure your phone is up to date and we can't wait for you to see. CLICK HERE. What To Listen To Next: Listen: Harrison James: What Every Parent Should Know About Grooming Listen: Jessica Rowe On The Brutal Public Humiliation That Changed Her Forever Listen: Esther Perel: When You Choose Your Partner and Lose Your Family Listen: Georgie Tunny & Rob Mills: The Marriage And Baby Conversation Everyone Keeps Asking About Listen: The Love Of My Life Was My Best Friend. Then She Died At 34 Listen: Jeni Haynes Created 2681 Personalities To Survive Her Abusive Father Listen: Kate Ceberano Has Spent 40 Years Trying To Figure Herself Out Discover more Mamamia Podcasts here. Watch No Filter on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram here. Follow us on TikTok here. Feedback: podcast@mamamia.com.au Share your story, feedback, or dilemma! Send us a voice message, and one of our Podcast Producers will get back to you ASAP. Rate or review us on Apple by clicking on the three dots in the top right-hand corner, click Go To Show then scroll down to the bottom of the page, click on the stars at the bottom and write a review. CREDITS: Guest: Bek Condello Host: Kate Langbroek Executive Producer: Bree Player Audio and Video Producer: Julian Rosario Social Media Producer: Olivia Colman Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land on which we have recorded this podcast. Become a Mamamia subscriber: https://www.mamamia.com.au/subscribeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Coercive Control. This is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: Coercive Control - How to Detect It. How to Break Free from It. This is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: Blame Shifting -- What It Is. How to Deal With It. This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. This is about the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to use digital technology to control and stalk you in a relationship. It is a fairly short episode, so it is easily heard in one sitting. And so you can hear it again and again. You might want to take notes. This information can save someone's life. Host: Bill Mitchell If you're experiencing intimate partner abuse, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse—or if you suspect someone you care about is—Riel's story offers critical perspective on spotting red flags early, breaking free, and finding support. You're not alone, and recognizing the patterns can be the first step toward safety and recovery. Domestic violence resources are available 24/7—reach out if you need help. Are you a survivor ready to speak out? Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book: Explore more through the WHEN DATING HURTS book by Bill Mitchell, available on Amazon in paperback, eBook, and audiobook formats. It's an essential resource for understanding domestic violence and dating safety. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Coercive Control. This is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: Coercive Control - How to Detect It. How to Break Free from It. This is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: Blame Shifting -- What It Is. How to Deal With It. This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. This is about the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to use digital technology to control and stalk you in a relationship. It is a fairly short episode, so it is easily heard in one sitting. And so you can hear it again and again. You might want to take notes. This information can save someone's life. Host: Bill Mitchell If you're experiencing intimate partner abuse, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse—or if you suspect someone you care about is—Riel's story offers critical perspective on spotting red flags early, breaking free, and finding support. You're not alone, and recognizing the patterns can be the first step toward safety and recovery. Domestic violence resources are available 24/7—reach out if you need help. Are you a survivor ready to speak out? Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book: Explore more through the WHEN DATING HURTS book by Bill Mitchell, available on Amazon in paperback, eBook, and audiobook formats. It's an essential resource for understanding domestic violence and dating safety. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Amir left Scientology staff in January 2026 and has many questions. Is Scientology 20th-century Buddhism, and was Hubbard the Buddha who will take everyone to Nirvana? What is the difference between a sociopath and a psychopath? Why did Tom Cruise jump on Oprah's couch? What is a “mystery sandwich” ? These and many more questions may or may not be answered! #scientologycult links: learn more about the Mendota Studybuy Jon's latest book, If Scientology Ruled the WorldAnd listen to a free sample hereAnd here's Spike's YouTube
In this debrief episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon examines the major patterns of coercive control in Natalie's survivor story. The debrief explores how intense love bombing created a powerful attachment before the relationship shifted into criticism, emotional punishment, and isolation. Brandon discusses how Natalie's children, friendships, family relationships, and independence were treated as threats to her abuser's control. He also examines the cycle of explosions, silent treatments, and false repair that kept Natalie focused on restoring peace while gradually shrinking her world. The episode concludes with a look at the post-separation smear campaign that isolated Natalie from members of her LGBTQ community and portrayed her as the dangerous one. Brandon also explains why survivors should not feel ashamed of the choices they made while living under constant pressure, manipulation, and fear of emotional punishment. If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
In this rerelease episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Natalie shares the story of a relationship that began with intense chemistry, constant attention, extravagant gestures, and a powerful feeling of connection. Over time, the love bombing gave way to jealousy, criticism, silent treatments, compulsive lying, emotional punishment, and constant demands that Natalie place the relationship above her children, family, and friends. As Natalie became increasingly isolated, every independent decision could trigger an argument, manufactured crisis, or withdrawal of affection. When she finally tried to leave, the control continued through hoovering, mixed messages, intimidation, triangulation, harassment, and a smear campaign that portrayed Natalie as the aggressor. Natalie also explains how connecting with several of her ex's former partners helped expose a repeated pattern of manipulation and victim-playing. Through therapy, education, and those unexpected friendships, Natalie began to understand that the chaos was never something she could have fixed by being kinder, more patient, or more accommodating. If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
RESOURCES- Step into your next level of growth and join me inside Lotus Rising Premium Coaching at danettecoaching.com- Fuel your day with Rootz Nutrition Protein Superfood: a clean protein plus greens blend designed to support energy, curb cravings, and nourish your body with real superfoods.Click this link to get your exclusive discount and try it for yourself.- Watch Trust Me: The False Prophet here: https://www.netflix.com/us-en/title/81758532- Learn about narcissistic disorder here- The book mentioned in the episode is: The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker- You are not alone, you can click this link to a number of resources hereCONNECT WITH DANETTEInstagram: @thedanettemayFacebook: Danette MayTikTok: @thedanettemayNEW TV Show on Youtube: @TheDanetteMayListen to The Danette May ShowRead my book: danettemay.com/embraceabundancebookGet The Rise book: therisebook.comWork with Danette: danettemay.comIn this powerful episode of The Danette May Show, I sit down again with Dr. Christine Marie from Trust Me: The False Prophet for a deeper conversation on trauma bonds, coercive control, narcissistic abuse patterns, and why leaving a controlling relationship or system can feel so confusing. We talk about how the “good times” can become part of the abuse cycle, how intermittent reinforcement keeps people emotionally attached, and why fear can sometimes be mistaken for love when the nervous system is living in survival mode.This conversation is about awareness, safety, and hope. Dr. Christine shares practical ways to begin seeing the truth more clearly, from tracking negative and positive interactions to listening to your body's signals, understanding the power and control wheel, recognizing coercion, and creating a safety plan if you are unsure how to leave. My hope is that this episode reminds you that you are not alone, there is no shame in what you have experienced, and your voice, intuition, freedom, and self-trust can be reclaimed.This episode is an independent conversation and commentary related to themes discussed around Trust Me: The False Prophet and is not affiliated with or endorsed by Netflix.IN THIS EPISODE:(0:00) Why abuse can feel addictive(0:40) Setting up the series(5:40) Hope after leaving control(6:23) How love bombing works(9:09) Sam and spiritual imposters(10:10) Trauma bonds and intermittent reinforcement(12:10) Ducklings and survival attachment(15:00) Why we get stuck(17:40) Stockholm syndrome vs. trauma bonds(20:44) Practical steps to find clarity(26:01) Body signals and walking on eggshells(28:37) Yelling, blame, and reactive abuse(30:29) The narcissism trend conversation(30:55) Psychopath vs. sociopath explained(32:25) The SPECIAL ME checklist(33:21) Jealousy and cult control(34:05) Nice guy red flags(35:45) The mask of sanity in religion(40:38) Red flags, boundaries, and the word no(42:21) Planning to leave safely(46:02) Resources, hotlines, and support(47:48) Protecting yourself with safety tactics(50:55) Signs of coercion defined(52:32) Releasing shame(54:30) Final thanks and wrap-upCONNECT WITH DR. CHRISTINE MARIEWebsite: https://www.christinemarie.comIG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.christinemarieLinks and social media: https://www.flow.page/christinemarie
There is a particular kind of loss that doesn't get talked about enough when you leave a coercive relationship, and it isn't the loss of the person. On some level, that was survival. The loss I am talking about is quieter and stranger than that. It's the loss of your own mind, entire summers, thousands of small moments that were technically yours but that you never actually lived.In this episode, I talk about what it looks like when coercive control colonizes your nervous system so completely that you can't find the beginning of it anymore.Support the show*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your RelationshipWebsite: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner
In this rerelease episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon talks with forensic psychologist Dr. Joni Johnston about the psychology behind stalking and how unwanted attention can develop into an ongoing pattern of fear and control. Dr. Johnston explains the five types of stalkers, the stages of an obsessive ex, and why rejection following an abusive relationship can increase the risk of escalation. They also discuss documenting incidents, online stalking, restraining orders, trusting your instincts, building a support system, and creating a safety plan when someone refuses to leave you alone. Dr. Joni Johnston's website. Dr. Joni Johnston's Podcast - Unmasking a Murderer - Youtube. Dr. Joni Johnston's Psychology Today Articles. If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
RESOURCES- Step into your next level of growth and join me inside Lotus Rising Premium Coaching at danettecoaching.comWatch Trust Me: The False Prophet here: https://www.netflix.com/us-en/title/81758532Listen to Lola Blanc's song here: https://youtu.be/xR521N085MA?si=C_2Wp1l8OsWdYKGfCONNECT WITH DANETTEInstagram: @thedanettemayFacebook: Danette MayTikTok: @thedanettemayNEW TV Show on Youtube: @TheDanetteMayListen to The Danette May ShowRead my book: danettemay.com/embraceabundancebookGet The Rise book: therisebook.comWork with Danette: danettemay.comIn this powerful continuation of my conversation with Dr. Christine Marie from Netflix's Trust Me: The False Prophet, we go deeper into the psychology of coercive control, brainwashing, religious trauma, and survivor healing. Dr. Christine shares what it was like to be part of the documentary without having creative control, how she built trust with members of the FLDS community through a harm reduction approach, and how the filming unexpectedly became part of a much larger story involving Sam Bateman, survivor courage, and the predator playbook.We also talk about the belief gaps around Warren Jeffs, what it means to create a safe “Switzerland” space for people in and out of high-control religions, and why coercive control laws matter so deeply when protecting victims and children. This episode is a powerful reminder that healing can happen when we stop judging, start helping, and turn trauma into triumph.This episode is an independent conversation and commentary related to themes discussed around Trust Me: The False Prophet and is not affiliated with or endorsed by Netflix.IN THIS EPISODE:(0:00) No creative control(0:43) Welcome to part two(1:05) The harm reduction approach(1:31) How evictions sparked the filming(2:54) Building trust with the FLDS community(4:54) How Sam Bateman entered the story(6:43) Recognizing the predator playbook(10:55) The documentary's impact on survivors(11:37) The Warren Jeffs belief gap(16:26) Creating a Switzerland safe haven(19:17) FLDS, LDS, and changing communities(22:52) Dr. Christine's personal faith today(24:22) Her children and the Trust Me theme song(26:36) Evidence, coercive control, and the law(31:02) Closing gratitude and Julia's scrapbook(32:41) Final wrap and linksCONNECT WITH DR. CHRISTINE MARIEWebsite: https://www.christinemarie.comIG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.christinemarieLinks and social media: https://www.flow.page/christinemarie
Coercive Control While Separated Under One Roof: How to Survive It | The Divorce Course Podcast (Part 2)
In this debrief episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon examines the patterns of enmeshment, possessiveness, financial abuse, and coercive control within Selene's survivor story. The debrief explores how Selene entered a family system where her husband's relationship with his mother left little room for privacy, independence, or healthy boundaries. Brandon discusses how Selene was positioned as a threat, how her husband resented attention given to their children and her friendships, and how grief, new parenthood, and family stress provided explanations that made the larger pattern of abuse harder to see. Brandon also looks at the financial dependency her husband deliberately created, the frightening escalation that occurred whenever Selene asked for accountability, and why every attempt at leaving helped her gather the knowledge and confidence she eventually needed to leave permanently. Finally, the episode examines the recurring symbolism of doors throughout Selene's story. Doors were unlocked without permission, removed from their hinges, and became difficult for Selene to walk through as she developed agoraphobia. Later, new doors led to her own apartment, the courthouse, greater independence, and a life built on her own terms. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses adult physical abuse and strangulation. *** If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Selene shares the story of surviving a possessive and controlling marriage complicated by her husband's deeply enmeshed relationship with his mother. After becoming pregnant, Selene discovered that her partner had lied about his marriage and soon found herself financially dependent, isolated, and living inside a family system where boundaries were constantly violated. Her husband resented the attention she gave their children, monitored her whenever she left the house, controlled access to money and basic necessities, criticized her appearance, and used anger and intimidation to keep the family walking on eggshells. Selene also describes protecting her children, living in her car, returning to the relationship, reaching out to abuse services, and eventually filing for divorce. Although the harm continued through child neglect and unpaid support, Selene rebuilt her independence, returned to her hometown, became an author and public speaker, and created a life her former husband never believed she could build. It's a story of coercive control, financial abuse, possession, enmeshment, emotional incest, toxic mother-in-law, jealousy, isolation, neglect, intimidation, verbal abuse, putdowns, physcial abuse, sexual coercion, monitoring a partner, surveillance, clothing control, appearance-based abuse, body shaming, name-calling, rage, walking on eggshells, trauma bonding, intermittent reinforcement, cycle of abuse, guilt, victim playing, gaslighting, reality distortion, rebuilding after domestic abuse, and agoraphobia. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses adult physical abuse and strangulation. *** If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
In this debrief episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon examines the key patterns in Elly's survivor story, including how childhood chaos taught her to function around unstable people and how caretaking became the role she carried into her marriage. He also discusses why addiction does not excuse abuse, how intimidation can be a form of physical violence, and why silence can sometimes feel like the safest way to survive. Brandon also explores the impossible position Elly faced as a mother when protecting her children became both a reason to remain and a reason to leave. The episode looks at smear campaigns, legal abuse, manufactured evidence, and the emotional aftermath the safe parent often manages when children return from an abusive home dysregulated and distressed. It is a debrief about survival, post-separation control, and Elly's decision to stop protecting the reputations of the people who harmed her. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode graphically discusses child physical abuse, threats involving weapons, addiction, suicidal loss. and adult physical abuse (IPV). *** If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
In this rerelease episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Elly shares the story of surviving an abusive marriage marked by addiction, infidelity, intimidation, and escalating physical violence. After growing up with generational trauma and learning to survive through caretaking, Elly found herself trapped inside another family system that protected the person harming her and punished her for speaking up. As the danger increased, Elly realized that leaving was the only way to keep herself alive and give her children a chance at safety. However, separation brought a new fight through legal abuse, financial devastation, institutional failures, and the continued weaponization of her children. It's a story of generational trauma, an enabling family, infidelity, physical abuse, protecting your kids, taking your power back, intimidation, gaslighting, legal abuse, post-separation abuse, isolation, IPV, emotional abuse, circular conversations, minimization, addiction, custody, and child abuse. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode graphically discusses child physical abuse, threats involving weapons, addiction, suicidal loss. and adult physical abuse (IPV). *** If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
In this rerelease episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon explores how abuse and trauma can create a lasting sense of imposter syndrome. Gaslighting, criticism, comparison, and repeated minimization can leave survivors doubting their abilities, questioning their memories, and wondering whether what happened to them was serious enough to be called abuse. Brandon also examines how perfectionism, overfunctioning, isolation, and the belief that other people had it worse can deepen this self-doubt. The episode explains how an abuser's voice can become an internal voice long after the relationship ends, causing survivors to discount their accomplishments and minimize their own pain. This episode is a reminder that emotional and psychological abuse are real, your trauma does not need to be compared with anyone else's, and you do not need visible injuries for your experience to be valid. If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
In this debrief episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon examines the patterns that kept Tally invested in a relationship that had become increasingly unsafe. The debrief explores how the dream of creating a family kept hope alive, how promises and self-awareness repeatedly reset the abuse cycle, and how Tally's basic needs were reframed as demands. Brandon also discusses triangulation, family enabling, emotional caretaking, and how leaving after conflict allowed Tally's former partner to control when repair happened. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode graphically discusses adult physical abuse (IPV), and strangulation. *** If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Tally shares how the seemingly perfect man next door became controlling, intimidating, and physically dangerous. What began with jealousy, phone checking, and triangulation slowly grew into emotional neglect, family enabling, repeated promises of change, and escalating violence during pregnancy and after childbirth. Each apology gave Tally another reason to believe the future they had planned was still possible. Tally discusses the pressure to manage his emotions, the way her needs were treated like demands, and the moment she finally stopped trusting his potential and started protecting herself and her child. It's a story of control, intimidation, jealousy, triangulation, emotional neglect, family enabling, future faking, dreams, physical abuse, strangulation, emotional caretaking, coercive control, promises to change, cycles of abuse, walking on eggshells, phone monitoring, needs reframed as demands, belittling, putdowns, custody, and the religious image. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode graphically discusses adult physical abuse (IPV), and strangulation. *** If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Recent reporting in the Washington Post found that Tulsi Gabbard has been taking policy guidance from her guru. We revisit our episode from May 2023, where we lay out Gabbard's lifelong involvement in this cult: What does it mean for a prominent American politician to come into power as the sleeper cell of an eccentric Hindu-American cult? Does she act independently, or has her God-man got her on speed-dial? Can she bridge the divide between left and right with the radiant glow of Krishna consciousness? Joining us today to help answer these questions is Nitai Joseph. He shares some heritage with Gabbard, because he also grew up in a Hare Krishna sect. He holds an MSc. in the Psychology of Coercive Control and has worked across a range of issues connected to ideology and manipulation, including cultic awareness, child sexual abuse prevention, adverse meditation experiences, and organizational ethics and accountability. Show Notes Tulsi Gabbard, her guru and the mysterious messages that helped shape her political career Gopala Govinda Rama Chant by Jagad Guru Siddhaswarupananda Paramahamsa Chris Butler QAnon Anonymous Episode 211: Tulsi Gabbard P1 (The Cult) feat Mike Prysner QAnon Anonymous Episode 212: Tulsi Gabbard P2 (The Fascist Turn) feat Mike Prysner Tulsi Gabbard Had a Very Strange Childhood What Does Tulsi Gabbard Believe? | The New Yorker Chris Butler Siddhaswarupananda Paramahamsa: on “freedom” An Insiders Perspective on Tulsi Gabbard and her Guru | by Lalita | Medium Tulsi Gabbard 2016 Janmashtami Message ISKCON Abuse Timeline Definition of Betrayal Trauma Theory Archived ex-Hare Krishna message board Nitai can be reached via LinkedIn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this debrief episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon debriefs Terry's story and examines how relentless pursuit, emotional caretaking, isolation, threats, stalking, and physical violence kept her trapped in the relationship. The episode explores how Terry's abuser treated her boundaries like obstacles, made her feel responsible for saving him, and created consequences that gradually separated her from friends and family. Brandon also breaks down why restraining orders did not immediately make Terry safer, how leaving became an ongoing process, and how fear, obligation, guilt, and shame each kept her in the relationship longer. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses physical abuse. *** If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
In this rerelease episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Terry shares the story of a relationship marked by physical violence, threats, isolation, stalking, and an intense trauma bond. What began with relentless pursuit and attention slowly became constant monitoring, public humiliation, financial sabotage, and escalating abuse. Even after Terry tried to leave, her abuser continued to threaten her children, violate restraining orders, follow her, destroy property, and appear wherever she went. Terry describes why returning felt safer than resisting, how the cycle of fear and affection kept pulling her back, and what finally helped her reclaim her power from 2,500 miles away. It's a story of isolation, feeling stuck, threats, stalking, trauma bonds, triangulation, physical abuse, addiction, infidelity, putdowns, humiliation, financial abuse, intimidation, minimization, denial, gaslighting, protection orders, love bombing, and exerting your power. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses physical abuse. *** If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Send us Fan Mail**Content warning: this episode contains discussion of domestic and sexual abuse and child removal see below for support links***This is the second in a two-part series, produced in partnership with the non-profit organisation Right to Equality, where we look into the shocking subject of child removal in private family proceedings in England and Wales. Today we dive deeper into how these cases have arisen in our family justice system and deep dive into the impact of experts in these cases. I'm joined by Dr Adrienne Barnett, Reader in Law at Brunel University of London and Co-Director of Right to Equality, and; Natalie Page, advocate, campaigner and Director of Survivor Family Network and author of a soon to be released book “The System Is The Weapon”. To learn more about the work of Right to Equality and read real life reporting from the family courts visit: www.righttoequality.org SupportI provide free weekly online group support sessions. You can find more about the Divorce Coach sessions here.For victims and survivors of abuse in England and Wales information on your legal options is available via: www.flows.org.uk and find out about support via he 24 hour domestic abuse helpline or via the 24 hour sexual violence helpline.For safe parents of children who have disclosed child sexual abuse help is available via We Stand. For more information and resources, see my website available here: https://saradavison.com/Support the showFind more information and resources here: http://saradavison.com/Follow me on social media►Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saradavisondivorcecoach/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SaraDavisonDivorceCoachTwitter: https://twitter.com/SDDivorceCoachLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sara-davison-742b453/
In this rerelease episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon discusses why leaving an abusive relationship can be so difficult and why survivors should never be shamed for staying. He explores the emotional attachment created through cycles of abuse, along with the fear, financial dependence, isolation, custody concerns, health needs, immigration issues, cultural pressure, and lack of institutional support that can make leaving feel dangerous or impossible. This episode also examines how hope, self-blame, shared dreams, and the belief that an abusive partner may change can keep someone emotionally tied to the relationship. It is an anti-shame conversation about the complicated realities survivors face and why the question should never be, “Why didn't they just leave?” If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
In this debrief episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon Chadwick debriefs Felix's survivor story and examines how a whirlwind beginning can make a relationship feel destined long before trust has been earned. The episode explores how fate, long distance, and outside validation helped carry the relationship forward, even as controlling patterns began to emerge. Brandon also discusses connection becoming surveillance, double standards around communication, apologies creating renewed hope, and the disorienting Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde experience of being treated one way in public and another way in private. If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Felix shares the story of a long-distance relationship that began like a once-in-a-lifetime romance and slowly became controlling, destabilizing, and physically abusive. What initially felt like fate was reinforced through intense declarations of love, marriage plans, international travel, matching rituals, and promises of a shared future. Over time, Felix found himself managing his partner's emotions, proving his commitment, sacrificing parts of his own life, and trying to solve problems that kept changing shape. Felix discusses love bombing, future faking, digital monitoring, emotional double standards, HIV-related shame, blame shifting, physical violence, strangulation, and the way apparent accountability pulled him back into the relationship. He also reflects on how the mythology of their love story kept replacing real repair, and how his body recognized the danger before he was fully ready to accept it. It's a story of long-distance relationships, control destabilization, physical abuse, fate, love bombing, future faking, digital monitoring, double standards, HIV-related shame, blame shifting, strangulation, LGBTQ domestic violence, lies, gaslighting, humiliation, withdrawal, whataboutism, false equivalence, verbal abuse, and abuse cycles. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode graphically discusses adult physical abuse (IPV), and strangulation. *** If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon discusses the abuse patterns in Cara's survivor story, including love bombing after years of emotional starvation, rage as an atmosphere, isolation, and suicide threats used to force her into a caretaker role. Brandon also explores the double life Cara felt pressured to maintain, how fear, obligation, guilt, and shame kept her connected to the relationship, and the small repeated disappointment that finally helped her see the larger pattern clearly. The episode ends with a reminder that survivors deserve compassion for what they had to do while living in survival mode. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses physical abuse, suicide threats, and suicidal ideation. *** If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
In this rerelease episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Cara shares her story of surviving a four-year relationship with a rage-filled physical abuser. After leaving a long emotionally abusive marriage, Cara was pulled into a relationship that began with love bombing, constant praise, and the feeling of finally being seen. But over time, the relationship became a cycle of fear, isolation, trauma bonding, suicide threats, physical intimidation, and emotional caretaking. Cara discusses the confusion of recognizing physical abuse when the harm was escalating in increments, how her abuser's rage and threats kept her trapped in a caretaker role, and how embarrassment pushed her into living a double life. She also shares how the cycle of abuse became familiar, how hopelessness took over, and how telling the truth to trusted friends became the first step toward leaving. It's a story of abuse cycles, physical abuse, suicide threats, trauma bonds, intergenerational trauma, isolation, embarrassment, shame, rages, smearing, destabilization, suicidal ideation, future faking, hopelessness, depression, loyalty, double lives, being kind to yourself, hoovering, loneliness, forgiving yourself, plausible deniability, fawning, caretaking, fear, stalking, and guilt. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses physical abuse, suicide threats, and suicidal ideation. *** If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon breaks down Dove's story and the patterns of abuse that appeared beneath the surface of the relationship. The debrief explores how boundary crossing can be reframed as “openness,” how jealousy and accusations can become a system of control, and how an abuser's imagined stories can force a survivor to keep defending against a reality they did not create. Brandon also discusses the escalation in Dove's story, including rage episodes, privacy violations, sexual coercion, physical violence, strangulation, and the way the abuser shifted responsibility for his own behavior onto Dove. This episode is about boundaries, coercive control, reality domination, blame-shifting, and protecting your peace after someone has made your needs feel like a crime. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode graphically discusses adult physical abuse (IPV), strangulation, suicide threats, adult sexual coercion. *** If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon talks with Darlene Thomas, Executive Director of Greenhouse17, a domestic violence shelter and advocacy program in Kentucky built on a 40-acre farm. Darlene shares how Greenhouse17 reimagined shelter by moving away from shame, secrecy, rigid rules, and one-size-fits-all support. Together, they discuss survivor shame, community belonging, financial abuse, economic repair, and why safety is only one part of rebuilding after abuse. Darlene explains how abusers can trap survivors through ruined credit, stolen identities, unpaid debts, lost income, and financial dependence, and how Greenhouse17 helps survivors begin repairing those pieces through education, support, stipends, and survivor-centered care. This conversation is also about worth. It is about what can happen when survivors are treated as people with value, not problems to manage. Through farming, flowers, handmade products, community connection, and grace, Greenhouse17 offers a model of shelter where survivors are supported, trusted, invested in, and given room to grow. Click here to learn more about Greenhouse17.org To download the financial handbook mentioned in this episode -> CLICK HERE CLICK HERE if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Dove shares her story of a relationship that began as a familiar friendship and slowly turned into coercive control, jealousy, sexual coercion, privacy violations, isolation, physical violence, and strangulation. What first felt like safety became a relationship where Dove was expected to manage his moods, answer immediately, give up privacy, accept accusations, and carry the blame for his behavior. Dove discusses the slow escalation of walking on eggshells, being punished for asking for space, having her needs minimized, being pressured into sexual situations she did not want, and having her private images shared without consent. She also shares how jealousy and interrogation became a way to control her friendships, her phone, her family time, and her reality. It's a story of coercive control, jealousy, sexual coercion, privacy violations, isolation, physical violence, strangulation, walking on eggshells, being punished for asking for space, having her needs minimized, being pressured into sexual situations, narcissistic abuse, domestic abuse, domestic violence, coercive control, emotional abuse, psychological abuse, nonconsensual image sharing, digital abuse, phone monitoring, accusations of cheating, sleep deprivation, intimidation, rage, circular arguments, gaslighting, blame shifting, shame, guilt, suicide threats after breakup, and post separation abuse. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode graphically discusses adult physical abuse (IPV), strangulation, suicide threats, adult sexual coercion, and porn addiction. *** If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
In this rerelease episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Lana shares her story of growing up as a fixer, surviving childhood abuse, and later entering a relationship with a jealous and physically abusive partner who used love bombing, blame-shifting, addiction, sexual coercion, and violence to keep control. What began as intensity and romance quickly turned into accusations, isolation, fear, and repeated physical abuse. Lana explains how the abuser's jealousy became a weapon, how his addiction was used as something she was supposed to fix, and how the relationship slowly trained her to doubt herself, shrink her needs, and survive by going quiet. It's a story of coercive control, IPV, sexual coercion, victim playing, belittling, shame, fixing, child sexual abuse, sowing the seeds of doubt, fear, isolation, gaslighting, blame shifting, love bombing, trauma bonding, addiction, minimization, crazy making, self blame, bad police officers, intimidation, rage, depression, low self-esteem, disappearing acts, and jealousy. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode graphically discusses child hood sexual abuse, adult physical abuse (IPV), and adult sexual coercion/abuse/assault. *** Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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In this rerelease episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon discusses how victim-playing abusers use guilt, empathy, and blame-shifting to make survivors feel responsible for the abuse they are experiencing. The episode looks at how an abuser may present themselves as wounded, abandoned, misunderstood, or mistreated in order to gain sympathy early in the relationship. But as the relationship continues, that same victim story can become a way to control the survivor, avoid accountability, win arguments, and make the survivor feel guilty for having boundaries. Brandon breaks down how this pattern can show up through jealousy, isolation, silent treatment, guilt trips, defensive abuse, smear campaigns, DARVO, and post-separation abuse. At the center of it all is a painful reversal: the person causing harm keeps finding ways to make themselves the victim of the person they are harming. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode mentions suicide threats and self harm. *** Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
In this debrief episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon breaks down the patterns in Tommy's story, including family scapegoating, public humiliation, body shaming, circular conversations, and the loss of safety inside the home. Tommy grew up with a father who needed control over the family image, the household rules, and the people around him. As Tommy got older, he became the target of criticism, shame, intimidation, and impossible expectations. In this debrief, Brandon explores how humiliation can be used as a control tactic, how a child can learn to disappear in order to survive, the fear of asking for help, and how reality control can make someone doubt their own reactions. Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon talks with Tommy, a survivor of childhood abuse who grew up as the scapegoat child of a malicious controlling father. From public humiliation and body shaming to gaslighting, circular logic, physical abuse, and impossible expectations, Tommy spent his childhood walking on eggshells while desperately trying to avoid becoming his father's next target. As the abuse intensified, Tommy learned to stay invisible, seek refuge at friends' homes, and eventually turn to alcohol to numb the anxiety, fear, and emotional pain that followed him into adulthood. Years later, after struggling with addiction, relapse, and grief, Tommy began confronting the root causes of his suffering and rebuilding his life through recovery. It's a story of scapegoating, humiliation, addiction, recovery, family dysfunction, grief, going no contact, narcissistic father, narcissistic abuse, emotional abuse, psychological abuse, physical abuse, gaslighting, circular logic, triangulation, body shaming, complex ptsd, walking on eggshells, impossible expectations, coercive control, emotional neglect, death, blame shifting, darvo, infidelity, minimization, denial, and anxiety. *** CONTENT WARNING - We discuss physical abuse in this episode. *** Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.