Podcasts about coercive control

In this debrief episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon Chadwick breaks down Ehi's story and examines how cultural beliefs were used within a rigid family hierarchy to preserve power. Respect was redefined as obedience, leaving Ehi unable to challenge the older family members who bullied, intimidated, and dismissed him. And Brandon explores how repeated put-downs taught Ehi to see himself as defective, while brief moments of approval made love and acceptance feel like something he had to earn.CONTENT WARNING: This episode discusses childhood sexual abuse and physical abuse.Ehi's book 'Resilient Every Day: 365 + 1 Ideas to Boost Your Resilience Daily and Become Who You Want to Be' can be purchased by clicking here.This episode is sponsored by Rebound Health. Learn more, check your insurance coverage, or schedule a free 15-minute call at hellorebound.com/naIf you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.meClick on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & PatternsSign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon talks with Ehi about growing up inside a bullying narcissistic family where power flowed downward and the people hurting him were protected by their age and authority. He was mocked for asking questions, called stupid and weak, bullied by his siblings, and blamed whenever he tried to defend himself. Ehi learned that safety meant disappearing into corners, hiding in the bathroom, monitoring everyone's moods, and hoping no one noticed him.It's a story of survival patterns, one-sided friendships, emotionally abusive relationships, faith, therapy, boundaries, neglect, going no contact, reclaiming your identity, scapegoats, gaslighting, minimization, belittling, putdowns, childhood sexual abuse, physical abuse, bullying, people pleasing, self doubt, hierarchies, and hypervigilance. CONTENT WARNING - This episode briefly discusses child sexual abuse & physical abuse. This episode is sponsored by Rebound Health. Learn more, check your insurance coverage, or schedule a free 15-minute call at hellorebound.com/naIf you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.meClick on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & PatternsSign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this debrief episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon debriefs Cassandra's story and the pressures that kept her in a volatile marriage. Her move took her far from family, her husband interfered with new friendships, and his rage kept the household focused on his moods. At church and work, people saw a man Cassandra struggled to reconcile with the one she knew at home. Brandon examines how gaslighting made Cassandra question her memory, why shame about another divorce made leaving harder, and how brief periods of peace renewed her hope. CONTENT WARNING - This episode briefly discusses physical abuse. This episode is sponsored by Rebound Health. Learn more, check your insurance coverage, or schedule a free 15-minute call at hellorebound.com/naIf you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.meClick on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & PatternsSign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this rerelease episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Cassandra shares how a man who seemed to offer faith, safety, and a fresh start became someone she feared in her own home. Others saw his charm. Cassandra and her children lived with his explosive anger, and she spent years trying to keep the peace while finding a way to leave.The divorce brought a new struggle. Cassandra describes how his need for control followed her into the custody process, where the stakes for her family grew even higher.It's a story of rage, religion, threats, using kids as pawns, shame, the broken court system, smear campaigns, belief systems, people pleasing, energy healing, gaslighting, name calling, mirroring, accusations, bonding over trauma, control disguised as protection, trusting your gut, isolation, manipulation, bullying, court, custody, trauma, parental alienation, Disneyland Dads, jail, and fixing. CONTENT WARNING - This episode briefly discusses child sexual abuse & incest in regard to history of Cassandra's second husband, physical abuse, and suicide threats. This episode is sponsored by Rebound Health. Learn more, check your insurance coverage, or schedule a free 15-minute call at hellorebound.com/naIf you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.meClick on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & PatternsSign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Sponsored recommendation:Growing in Love for Life In this episode I talk about why emotionally abusive and coercive controlling relationships feel so disorienting, and why you end up spending so much time trying to decode behavior that was never actually confusing to begin with. I explain why the through line in these relationships is power and control, not love or stress or a bad day, and why intermittent reinforcement is what keeps you hooked and doubting yourself. If you have ever felt like you were losing your mind in a relationship that everyone else seemed confused by from the outside, this episode is for you.Support the show*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your RelationshipWebsite: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon talks with Rebound Health co-founders Raeva Kumar and Dr. Erin Berenz about how trauma can leave the brain and body reacting as though the danger is still happening. They explain how survival mode can appear through hypervigilance, numbness, exhaustion, avoidance, irritability, and difficulties within relationships.The conversation explores prolonged exposure therapy and cognitive processing therapy, two evidence-based treatments for PTSD. Raeva also shares her personal recovery story, while Dr. Berenz explains how reprocessing traumatic memories and gradually facing avoided situations can help survivors regain safety, choice, and control over their lives.This episode is sponsored by Rebound Health. Learn more, check your insurance coverage, or schedule a free 15-minute call at hellorebound.com/naIf you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.meClick on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & PatternsSign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Can you find gratitude for what an experience taught you without being grateful that it happened?On this episode of Groove with Portia, I sit down with author Nicole Kranz for a candid conversation about toxic relationships, psychological abuse, self-respect and what it takes to rediscover yourself after leaving a relationship that changed you.Nicole shares why she doesn't believe healing requires forgiving or forgetting. Instead, she found an unexpected form of gratitude—not for the harm she experienced, but for the lessons she carried forward. One of the biggest was learning the power of saying no and understanding that self-respect is a boundary worth protecting.We also challenge one of the most common questions asked of people experiencing abusive or controlling relationships: “Why didn't you just leave?” Nicole explains why leaving can be far more complicated than it appears from the outside and challenges friends and loved ones to ask a different question: “How can I help you?”Nicole also opens up about what she describes as an “entire reset” of herself. Rebuilding required confronting shame, sadness, old patterns and beliefs about herself while learning what it meant to truly respect the woman she was becoming.Her novel, This Is Bullsh*t, Not a Love Story, draws from those experiences and challenges us to recognize the difference between love and a relationship where respect has disappeared.This conversation isn't about putting a positive spin on trauma. It's about what can happen when anger no longer gets to write the rest of your story.Sometimes finding your groove means looking back at the person you once were with compassion, choosing yourself and deciding you're no longer willing to settle. As Nicole shared at the end of our conversation, part of her journey was realizing that the first person she needed to be able to count on was herself.Connect with Nicole Kranz: nicolekranz.com

In this debrief episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon examines how Dasha's family assigned roles according to obedience, rewarded her brother for being easy, and scapegoated Dasha for having needs. He explores the loyalty and guilt created after her mother left, the reaction trap hidden inside her father's “just joking” comments, and the way her family disguised isolation as appreciation.CONTENT WARNING - This episode includes a discussion of animal abuse.If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at  hellorebound.com/naClick if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.meClick on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & PatternsSign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this rerelease episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon talks with Dasha about growing up under the authority of a narcissistic father whose image was protected by an enmeshed family system. After her mother left, Dasha became her father's emotional punching bag and learned that belonging depended on keeping her needs small, excelling, and helping the family preserve his heroic image. And anyone who challenged him became the problem.It's a story of abusive romantic relationships, narcissistic parents, abandonment, smear campaigns, mixed messages, emotional invalidation, the cult of family, gossip as currency, depression, stonewalling, finding autonomy, neglect, generational trauma, scapegoats, golden children, family dynamics, competition, financial abuse, animal abuse, perfectionism, being voiceless, not allowing emotions, anxiety, reactive abuse, nitpicking, rejection, suicidal ideation, rage, the silent treatment, lies, gaslighting, eating disorders, and breaking free.CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses animal abuse and suicidal ideation. If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at  hellorebound.com/naClick if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.meClick on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & PatternsSign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this debrief episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon breaks down the patterns in Shannon's story, beginning with the cognitive dissonance created by the caring family man her husband appeared to be and the frightening reality she experienced behind closed doors. Because he maintained that image for years, each new incident could feel like an exception or something the relationship might still recover from.The debrief explores the sunk-cost effect, the intact-family trap, escalating boundary tests, performative therapy, shame and self-blame, and the use of police, courts, housing, and parenting to continue the abuse after separation. It also examines why Shannon stayed, how her compassion was used against her, and why the pressure intensified whenever she tried to reclaim control over her life.If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at  hellorebound.com/naClick if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.meClick on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & PatternsSign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Send us Fan MailArizona's Alec and Lydia Act now defines coercive control as domestic violence, and family courts across the state are racing to catch up. Host Billie Tarascio, founder of Modern Law, sits down with one of the country's leading coercive control experts to break down what the new law means for child custody, parenting time, and anyone facing an Arizona divorce where abuse is part of the story.Dr. Lisa Fontes holds a doctorate in counseling psychology from UMass Amherst, spent 31 years as a college professor teaching courses on child abuse, sexual violence, and intimate partner abuse, and has worked as an expert witness in family, criminal, civil, and immigration courts for 11 years. She has testified in more than 20 states, including on Modern Law cases, which makes her the right person to explain how coercive control laws actually play out in court.Key Takeaways:- Why experts consider coercive control the core of almost all domestic violence- How the Alec and Lydia Act shifts the burden of proof onto the abusive parent- What happened in states like Maine, Massachusetts, and California after their laws passed- How DARVO works: deny, attack, reverse victim and offender- Recognize the "provoke and record" tactic abusers use against their victims- How to tell a victim's reaction apart from a true pattern of abuse- Why 1 in 5 domestic homicides had no prior physical violence allegation, only coercive control- What "spiteful disregard" means when abusers harm children to punish an ex- Why intimate partner sexual violence stays hidden, even from attorneys- How to vet an expert witness and spot fake credentials or AI-written reports- What judges should ask before an abuser rebuts the custody presumption- Where attorneys can find real training on abuse and coercive controlChapters:00:21 Introduction to Coercive Control and Expert Witnessing03:01 The Impact of the Alec and Lydia Act in Arizona06:02 Coercive Control in Family Law: Insights from Other States09:06 Challenges in Proving Coercive Control in Court11:27 Understanding Lethality Indicators and Child Safety14:12 The Role of Experts in Domestic Violence Cases17:11 Rebutting Presumptions: The Journey of Abusers19:45 The Complexity of Domestic Violence Dynamics22:35 Recommendations for Legal Professionals24:52 Conclusion and Future DirectionsTo connect with Dr. Fontes, visit https://lisafontes.com/

In this rerelease episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Shannon shares the story of building the family she never had with a man who mirrored her values and maintained his false identity for years. When Shannon developed cancer and her husband returned to drugs and alcohol, his mask began to slip. The relationship became filled with gaslighting, financial abuse, escalating violence, and one chilling admission: “I got tired of pretending.”It's a story of trauma empathy, post-separation abuse, financial devastation, repeated court proceedings, mirroring, covert abuse, gaslighting, financial abuse, physical abuse, addiction, generational trauma, victim playing, compassion, surviving, shame, cognitive dissonance, being worthy, disassociation, double lives, lies, legal abuse, trust, patterns, being numb, depression, anxiety, healing, fleeing, and abuse shelters.CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses physical abuse in graphic detail. If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at  hellorebound.com/naClick if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.meClick on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & PatternsSign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this rerelease episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon talks with high-conflict divorce coach and One Mom's Battle founder Tina Swithin about how narcissistic abuse can intensify after separation when an abuser uses custody proceedings, false allegations, and repeated court filings to maintain control. Tina shares her experience entering family court with almost no money, representing herself through more than 40 court dates, and trying to protect her daughters while the systems around her repeatedly failed to recognize the danger.Tina explains legal abuse, covert stalking, counterparenting, and parental alienation accusations, along with why documentation and strategy became essential to her case. The conversation also examines the impossible position protective parents face when they are ordered to send their children into situations they believe are unsafe.You can find everything Tina Swithin mentioned on the show at https://www.onemomsbattle.com/*** RERELEASE EPISODE - THIS EPISODE IS A RERELEASE FROM OUR EARLY YEARS. PLEASE FORGIVE THE SOUND QUALITY. WE DID OUR BEST TO CLEAN IT UP. If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at  hellorebound.com/naClick if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.meClick on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & PatternsSign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this debrief episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon deconstructs Haley's story and examines how the abuser repeatedly created self-doubt, then filled the space it left behind with his own 'certainty'. And whenever Haley began pushing back, the abuser created a crisis that forced her to care for him while his abusive behavior disappeared from the conversation. Brandon also breaks down the 'great-guy facade', 'love-boundary tests' ,'accountability reversals', and 'self-policing'. CONTENT WARNING - THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES PHYSICAL ABUSE, SUICIDE THREATS, SELF HARM, SEXUAL ASSAULT, & SEXUAL COERCION. If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at  hellorebound.com/naClick if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.meClick on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & PatternsSign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What are the red flags of Coercive Control?How do you get free from it safely?Coercive Control is an insidious abuse since it can appear like it is not abuse at all.Until it is.Than it becomes a matter of how do you escape from it.Bolgerkevin15@gmail.com

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon talks with Haley, who was only sixteen when she believed she had found the person she would spend her life with. He wrote her love letters and promised he would always protect her, making Haley feel that she had finally been chosen. Yet while she was imagining their future, he was quietly learning which parts of her could be used to prevent her from ever walking away. By the time Haley recognized the danger, the abuser had convinced her that they were married in the eyes of God and that leaving him could cost her everything she believed about herself. As the relationship grew more terrifying, the abuser slowly dismantled Haley's trust in her own reality, keeping her lost in the fog of abuse for three years.It's a story of coercive control, subjugation, religious beliefs, sexual coercion, sexual assault, physical abuse, suicide threats, self harm, eating disorders, surveillance, isolation, gaslighting, fear, obligation, guilt, shame, boundaries, dissociation, mental health struggles, crisis creation, manipulation, stalking, religious abuse, triangulation, community norms, self doubt, self worth, weaponized trauma, putdowns, name calling, nitpicking, minimization, denial, narcissistic abuse, purity culture, trauma bonding, boundary violations, being chosen, and autonomy.CONTENT WARNING - THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES PHYSICAL ABUSE, SUICIDE THREATS, SELF HARM, SEXUAL ASSAULT, & SEXUAL COERCION. If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at  hellorebound.com/naClick if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.meClick on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & PatternsSign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this debrief episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon breaks down how love bombing, over-functioning, and intermittent reinforcement kept Caroline trying to recover the extraordinary first six weeks of her relationship. After destabilizing Caroline through insults, withdrawal, lies, and gaslighting, the abuser made every rupture her problem to solve. Caroline responded by monitoring her tone, suppressing her reactions, giving more emotionally and financially, and searching for the right way to restore the man she believed was his authentic self. Brandon explains how brief returns of warmth and generosity made Caroline's over-functioning appear successful. Each reward revived her hope while the abuser lowered the standard of treatment and tested how much more she would tolerate. CONTENT WARNING - THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES PHYSICAL ABUSE & SEXUAL ABUSE/ASSAULT.If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at  hellorebound.com/naClick if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.meClick on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & PatternsSign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Mica Francis' case is now being widely talked about due to the Netflix documentary, The Death of The Pastors Wife. Laura talked about Mica and all the red flags she saw in 2024. Mica died trying to leave John Paul Miller – a man who calls himself a Pastor. In this remastered series you will learn much more about what he did to Mica as well as what was left out of the documentary.  Mica was failed when she was alive. She's been failed in death - up until now.  Mica's case raises urgent questions about justice, accountability, lessons about intervention and prevention for future women and the urgent need for coercive control laws.   *****************************************************************************************  Listen as Laura and award-winning journalist and creator and host of the True Sunlight and Cup of Justice podcasts, Mandy Matney unravel in granular detail the timeline leading up to 30-year-old Mica being found dead from a gunshot wound to the head in North Carolina's Lumber River State Park on April 27 2024. Mica's death came days after she told a police officer she was ‘scared for her life' after she found a GPS tracker on her car and razor blades in her tyre and just two days after John Paul Miller was served with divorce papers.  Join the conversation on social media and in the Crime Analyst Squad www.patreon.com/CrimeAnalyst  #MicaFrancis #MicaMiller #JusticeForMica #CrimeAnalyst #CoerciveControl #Stalking #DomesticAbuse #PostSeparationAbuse #TrueCrime #TrueCrimePodcast #ExpertAnalysis  Clips https://www.tiktok.com/@therobbieharvey/video/7364765211661798702?lang=en  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xYOjVP6uS8E       Sources Link to Cross Over episode with Mandy and Laura on Cup of Justice Ep #86:  Apple Link: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/coj-86-crime-analyst-expert-laura-richards-joins-mandy/id1668668400?i=1000659373717  Spotify Link  https://open.spotify.com/episode/10P6t5LmMxF3YHUdgxPcm9?si=e3832e105dc1430d  Links to Episodes about Mica Francis  Mica Francis separated from John Paul Miller. She was desperate for help.. Mica Francis: Have you heard the term coercive control?  Ep 303: Mica Francis: Analyzing the Federal Charges Against John Paul Miller with Mandy Matney and Liz Farrell Mica Francis: Breaking Down the Federal Charges Against JP Miller with Mandy Matney and Liz Farrell Huge News in Mica Francis' Case. John Paul Miller Has Been Indicted Finally…  2026 Masterclasses and Crime Analyst Resources and Community         For more insight and knowledge, advocacy and professional development join The Crime Analyst Squad. It's a growing and dynamic community offering expert insight, in-depth conversations, exclusive episodes and videos, and live events: www.Patreon.com/CrimeAnalyst       www.dashriskchecklist.com   www.thelaurarichards.com         Subscribe to Crime Analyst YouTube: @crimeanalyst         Facebook: Crime Analyst Podcast         Instagram: @crimeanalyst, @laurarichards999         Threads: @crimeanalyst         X (Twitter): @thecrimeanalyst, @laurarichards999         TikTok: @crimeanalystpod         Website: www.crime-analyst.com         If you found this episode valuable, please consider leaving a five star review wherever you listen. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this rerelease episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Caroline shares the terrifying story of a man from her college years who returned decades later and appeared to offer everything her first marriage had lacked. The first six weeks felt magical. When his admiration turned into degradation, Caroline doubled down, convinced that loving him well enough could bring back the man he had pretended to be. She spent nearly eight years trying to recreate those first six weeks as his cruelty escalated into financial exploitation, physical violence, sexual abuse/assault, and the discovery of a horrifying double life. It's a story of gaslighting, perfectionism, doubling down, physical abuse, sexual abuse/assault, psychological abuse, infidelity, put downs, blame shifting, healing, crazy making, doubt, fear of failure, shame, embarrassment, isolation, escape plans, support, double lives, narcissistic abuse, coercive control, covert abuse, emotional abuse, verbal abuse, gaslighting, victim blaming, love bombing, devaluation, intermittent reinforcement, trauma bonds, manipulation, coercion, intimidation, death threats, post-separation threats, domestic violence escape plans, domestic violence safety planning, homelessness after domestic violence, living in a car after abuse, over-functioning in relationships, proving your worth, fixer mentality, people pleasing, generational trauma, religious conditioning, survivor shame, PTSD, and trauma recovery. CONTENT WARNING - THIS EPISODE GRAPHICALLY DISCUSSES PHYSICAL ABUSE & SEXUAL ABUSE/ASSAULT. If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at  hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What if just one professional truly understood coercive control?What if your therapist, evaluator, attorney, judge, child protection worker, or GAL recognized the patterns that so often go unseen?Would your family's story look different?In this episode, I share more than 20 of the most important things I believe professionals need to understand about coercive control, post-separation abuse, and the experiences of protective parents and children.These aren't abstract theories. They are lessons I've learned from years of working with survivors, children, and families—and from listening to the stories of people who have lived through these systems.Whether you're a survivor hoping professionals will better understand your experience or you're a professional wanting to improve your practice, I hope this episode sparks curiosity, conversation, and change.We explore:Why looking at isolated incidents causes professionals to miss the larger pattern of coercive control.How children experience coercive control—and why their behaviors should invite curiosity rather than quick conclusions.The mindset shifts professionals need to better recognize, assess, and respond to coercive control while supporting protective parents and children.This episode is also an invitation.As I continue developing trainings for therapists, evaluators, attorneys, judges, and other professionals, I want to hear from you.What did I miss?What do you wish every professional understood that could have changed your family's story?I'd love to hear your thoughts.Couples Therapy Episode - “Ep 212: When Couples Therapy Causes Harm | Understanding Coercive Control in the Therapy Room with Frances Russell, LMFT”  https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991648/episodes/19493873Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic, I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show, you may do so here at Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/Wondering where to start? Check out our top free resources - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/resources.htmlIf you're interested in guesting on the show, please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest 

PODCAST with SHEILA is back with a powerful live interview exploring coercive control, legal abuse, and high-conflict divorce through real-life experience.In this episode, I speak with Lisa Johnson, co-founder of Been There Got Out, a high-conflict divorce strategist and certified domestic violence advocate. After spending over $100,000 on her divorce, Lisa made the courageous decision to represent herself in family court. Her case was later published in the Connecticut Law Journal and is now used as legal precedent — an extraordinary outcome for a self-represented litigant.Lisa's live testimony also helped pass Jennifer's Law, expanding the legal definition of domestic violence to include coercive control. In this honest and educational conversation, we discuss how abuse can continue after separation, particularly through the legal system, and how individuals can protect themselves while navigating high-conflict custody and co-parenting situations.

Sponsored recommendation:Growing in Love for Life Someone recently asked if I'm dating, and my honest answer was "traumatized." In this episode I talk about why that word fits better than a simple yes or no, why a recent connection activated me so quickly, and why my nervous system goes numb instead of excited at the thought of dating.I get into how healing recalibrates the way we read people, why familiar can feel safe even when it isn't, and why real consistency can feel boring at first. I also talk about the messy middle of healing, the part most people want to skip, and why it's actually where the real work happens.If you want support working through any of this, you can find me at emotionalabusecoach.com.Support the show*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your RelationshipWebsite: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

In this rerelease episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon talks with former survivor story guest Jean about how overwhelm becomes both a control tactic and a lasting effect of narcissistic abuse. They explore how love bombing floods a survivor with attention before gaslighting, guilt, fear, silent treatment, financial abuse, and isolation make it increasingly difficult to process what is happening or make clear decisions. Jean shares how the constant shifts between praise, silence, demands, and anger overwhelmed her nervous system and kept her working harder to regain the relationship she thought she once had. She also discusses the overwhelm that continued after leaving, including divorce, custody, single parenting, the need to be believed, and the pressure to heal quickly. This episode examines emotional, informational, decision, and time overwhelm while validating the confusion, exhaustion, and sensory overload that can remain long after the relationship ends. If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at  hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Why doesn't she just leave?  It's a question survivors of domestic abuse hear again and again. But it places the focus in entirely the wrong place.  Laura interviews Grace Stuart, survivor and host of Why She Stayed podcast, to examine how coercive control can develop gradually - and why it can be so difficult to recognise when you're living inside it.  Grace was just 20 when she met her former partner, who was 14 years older. What initially felt intense and intoxicating became a complex spider's web of grooming, manipulation and control.  Grace shares how apparent honesty and vulnerability built trust, while her boundaries were crossed incrementally and each violation explained away. Laura unpacks the pattern: the love bombing, age and power imbalance, gaslighting, isolation, sexual coercion and the gradual erosion of Grace's trust in her own instincts.  They also explore how addiction became an explanation for behaviour that Grace did not yet have the language to identify as domestic abuse.  Laura and Grace discuss:  Grooming, love bombing and accelerated intimacy   Age and power imbalances   Boundary testing and incremental erosion   Gaslighting and self-doubt   Isolation and dependency   Sexual coercion and violence   Addiction versus abusive behaviour   Why recognising the pattern matters   The question isn't why did she stay? It's what did he do that made staying make sense?  #GraceStewart #WhySheStayed #CoerciveControl #DomesticAbuse #DomesticViolence #SurvivorVoices #SurvivorStories #TraumaBond #EmotionalAbuse #PsychologicalAbuse #SexualCoercion #ReproductiveCoercion #PowerAndControl #AbuseIsAPattern #TrustYourInstincts #CrimeAnalyst #LauraRichards #BehaviouralAnalysis #TrueCrime #TrueCrimePodcast #Podcast     More from Grace Stuart Why She Stayed Podcast on Spotify   Why She Stayed Podcast on  Apple   Instagram      Clip     https://fb.watch/Jgz69E5Y1u/  Thank You to the Crime Analyst Sponsor Who Make the Show Possible. Support The Show Through the Sponsors:    Find the fall pieces you'll reach for most at Quince. Download the Quince app for app-exclusive offers or go to Quince.com/CRIMEANALYST. Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada and the UK, too.   Amplify your fall look with Thrive Causemetics. Go to thrivecausemetics.com/ANALYSTS for an exclusive offer of 20% off your first order.  Support Crime Analyst     If you value these conversations, please follow, rate, and review Crime Analyst wherever you listen to podcasts. Sharing episodes helps us educate more people about coercive control, stalking, domestic abuse and homicide prevention.     For exclusive episodes, live events and behind-the-scenes content, join the Crime Analyst Squad on Patreon.     Laura's Resources and Training information:    www.dashriskchecklist.com    www.thelaurarichards.com        Crime Analyst YouTube, Socials and Website        YouTube @crimeanalyst         Facebook Crime Analyst Podcast        Instagram @crimeanalyst @laurarichards999        Threads @crimeanalyst        X @thecrimeanalyst @laurarichards999         TikTok @crimeanalystpod        Website www.crime-analyst.com         Leave a 5* Review https://www.crime-analyst.com/reviews/new/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this debrief episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon Chadwick breaks down the systems of control that kept Bonnie tied to an exploitative abuser. After destroying her financial independence, he repeatedly positioned himself as the person who could provide employment, housing, money, or access to her son. Every form of help carried hidden conditions, allowing him to turn support into debt and demand Bonnie's labor, attention, gratitude, and compliance. This debrief examines the many avenues of financial abuse in Bonnie's story, the use of a child as leverage, and the periods of apparent change that gave Bonnie hope. Brandon also explores how addiction, arrests, housing instability, employment threats, surveillance, and constant emergencies kept Bonnie in survival mode, leaving little space to recognize the larger pattern. CONTENT WARNING - THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES PHYSICAL ABUSE. If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at  hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Bonnie shares the story of an exploitative narcissist who entered her life as a protector and gained control over everything she needed to survive. He listened to her, made her feel safe, and this was exactly what Bonnie had spent her life searching for. But then, the abuser got her hooked on drugs, and pulled her into a life consumed by addiction and crisis. As Bonnie became more dependent, everything carried a hidden cost. A financial, emotional, or physical debt that needed to be repaid. Access to her son, employment, housing, transportation, and her own body became sources of control. And whenever Bonnie challenged him, he threatened the things she needed most. It's a story of exploitation, coercive control, addiction as leverage, trauma bonding, weaponized help, survival mode, narcissistic abuse, financial abuse, identity theft, sexual coercion, physical intimidation, emotional abuse, child custody coercion, control through children, post-separation abuse, digital surveillance, bodily autonomy violations, threatened intimate-image abuse, employment sabotage, housing control, isolation, gaslighting, smear campaigns, retaliation, fear, confusion, entrapment, shame, self-doubt, self-blame, grief, and despair. CONTENT WARNING - THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES PHYSICAL ABUSE, SUICIDE, DRUG USE, & SEXUAL COERCION. If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at  hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this episode of Perfect Prey, I'm joined by award-winning journalist and author Jess Hill for an important conversation about coercive control, domestic abuse, victim-survivors, children, and post-separation abuse.We explore what coercive control looks like, why it can be difficult to recognize, and how perpetrators maintain power through psychological, emotional, financial, and other forms of abuse. We also discuss how abuse can continue after separation through stalking, harassment, legal systems, and family court.Jess and I examine the impact on children, the importance of recognizing coercive control when assessing risk, and her work toward criminalizing coercive control in Australia—while emphasizing that legal reform is only one part of creating meaningful change for victim-survivors.What we cover• What coercive control actually is—and why it is often misunderstood• How coercive control can be difficult to recognize while you are experiencing it• The psychological and emotional impact of living under coercive control• Why leaving an abusive relationship does not necessarily mean the abuse ends• Post-separation abuse, stalking, harassment, and continued control• How children experience and are affected by coercive control• The ways children can become part of an abusive dynamic• Family court and the challenges faced by victim-survivors navigating legal systems• Why understanding patterns of behavior matters when assessing risk• The importance of listening to victim-survivors and taking coercive control seriously• Jess's work toward criminalizing coercive control in Australia• Law reform, prevention, and creating meaningful systemic changeWhy listenCoercive control is often misunderstood because it does not always look like what people expect abuse to look like. There may be no single incident that explains what is happening. Instead, control can develop through patterns of behavior that gradually restrict a person's autonomy, freedom, relationships, and sense of self.This conversation is also about what happens after a victim-survivor leaves. Separation can become another stage of control, particularly when perpetrators use legal systems, children, stalking, or other mechanisms to maintain power.For survivors, protective parents, clinicians, attorneys, advocates, researchers, and anyone trying to better understand coercive control, this episode offers an important conversation about recognizing patterns, understanding risk, and creating systems that better protect victims and children.Guest bioJess Hill is an award-winning Australian journalist and author focused on domestic abuse, coercive control, and gender-based violence. She is the author of See What You Made Me Do, a groundbreaking examination of domestic abuse and coercive control. Through her journalism, research, and advocacy, Jess has helped shape conversations around domestic violence, prevention, and law reform in Australia. Connect with Jess Hill:Instagram: @jessicahelenhillWebsite: www.jesshill.com.auBook: See What You Made Me Do available on AmazonPodcast: www.vwt.org.au/thetrapConnect with Dr. Christine:Protective Parenting Program: Protective Parenting ProgramOfficial site: www.coercivecontrolconsulting.comYouTube: www.TikTok: @dr.c_coercivecontrolInstagram: www.youtube.com/@DrCocchiola-coercivecontrolTEDxTalk: https://youtu.be/gp2qByKOue4?si=jJpjpRewxHD9JdYgBooks:FRAMED: Women in the Family Court UnderworldEvery Moment of Every DayAvailable on Amazon.If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who needs to hear it, subscribe for more trauma-informed conversations, and consider leaving a review. Your support helps other survivors and protective parents find information, validation, and community.— Dr. Christine Cocchiola & guest Jess Hill 

In this debrief episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon examines the control tactics that kept Buttercup attached to the person hurting her. After making her feel deeply seen, her husband became the source of her pain and the person she waited for to relieve it. Through intermittent reinforcement, unpredictable moods, blame shifting, and triangulation, he kept Buttercup focused on regaining his affection while making her feel responsible for the chaos he created. Brandon explores how Buttercup's empathy and beliefs about marriage made leaving feel like abandoning someone she was obligated to help. When she began reclaiming her voice and considering divorce, her husband escalated to violence as his control slipped. This debrief connects narcissistic abuse tactics to the emotional attachment and fear that make leaving difficult, then closes with the importance of Buttercup rebuilding an identity around her own needs and choices. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode has a a graphic description of physical abuse. *** If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at  hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this rerelease episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Buttercup shares how the man who once made her feel deeply seen became the person she feared most. Raised by a critical pastor father, she learned to silence herself and earn acceptance while believing marriage was permanent. After a whirlwind romance with a charismatic younger man, his adoration gave way to cheating, humiliation, abandonment, and a home ruled by fear. For 12 years, Buttercup walked on eggshells while protecting her children and trying to win back the man she thought she had married. Behind his beloved public persona were sexual coercion, drug use, violent intimidation, and increasingly dangerous abuse. When Buttercup finally filed for divorce, he launched a smear campaign, abandoned her financially, and threatened to take their son. Her story reveals how empty apologies keep hope alive and how leaving begins with accepting that love cannot make an abuser change. It's a story of codependency, empty apologies, entitlement, gaslighting, physical abuse, sexual coercion, hypocrisy, blaming, nitpicking, projection, coercive control, possession, narcissistic abuse, infidelity, emotional abuse, trauma bonding, intermittent reinforcement, love bombing, walking on eggshells, gaslighting, blame shifting, entitlement, smear campaigns, post-separation abuse, financial abuse, and religious trauma. *** TRIGGER WARNING - This episode has a a graphic description of physical abuse and sexual coercion. *** If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at  hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this rerelease episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon talks with Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola about how coercive control and psychological maltreatment affect children, especially when abuse continues after separation. They discuss why traumatized children may become dysregulated, defensive, fearful, or aligned with the controlling parent, and how these responses can be mistaken for ordinary misbehavior. Dr. Cocchiola explains how protective parents can rebuild safety by lending their children calm, recognizing triggers, preparing for difficult interactions, using less threatening language, and responding without escalating conflict. She also explores ego resiliency, authoritarian versus authoritative parenting, the neurosequential model, and why connection and emotional regulation must come before correction. This conversation offers practical guidance for parents trying to help their children heal while coercive control remains an ongoing presence in their lives. Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola's website can be found at http://drcocchiola.com/ If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at  hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this debrief episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon examines Jennifer's survivor story and the patterns surrounding the abuse and murder of her mother, Martha. He discusses how seeing someone's potential can create a rescue fantasy, how communities and authorities can deepen a victim's isolation, and why an abuser losing control can lead to escalating danger. Brandon also explores the hidden trauma experienced by children who witness domestic violence, including hypervigilance, parentification, dissociation, and survival being mistaken for resilience.  CONTENT WARNING - THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES PHYSICAL ABUSE, FEMICIDE, MURDER, SUICIDE ATTEMPTS, AND DEATH THREATS/ATTEMPTS TOWARD CHILDREN. If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at  hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

„Ich habe meine Frau dabei erwischt, wie sie mich mit unserem Nachbarn betrügt, und weiß nicht, wie ich damit umgehen soll.“Mit diesen Worten wendet sich Jason Worley auf Reddit an die Community. Er erzählt von Misstrauen, einer zerbrochenen Ehe und der Frage, ob es überhaupt noch eine Zukunft für seine Familie gibt.Doch was als Bitte um Rat beginnt, nimmt eine immer düsterere Wendung. Aus einer Ehekrise wird ein Konflikt, aus einem Konflikt eine Entscheidung und am Ende wird diese Geschichte tödlich enden.Was ist in dieser Nacht passiert? Und wie konnte eine Geschichte, die auf Reddit mit der Suche nach Hilfe begann, in einem schrecklichen Verbrechen enden?Heute sprechen wir über Jason und Brandi Worley und darüber, wohin Jasons Suche nach Antworten ihn schließlich führte.Diese Folge haben wir mit Mascha vom Podcast "Herz über Kopf" aufgenommen. Hört bitte unbedingt rein, unter anderem hier. Inhaltswarnung: Explizite Gewalt gg. Kinder, Partnerschaftliche Gewalt, Coercive Control, Betrug, Suizid(versuch)Ob der Fall gelöst oder ungelöst ist seht ihr ganz unten in der Folgenbeschreibung: N= nicht gelöst, G = Gelöst.SHOWNOTES:Danke an unsere Werbepartner:SNOCKS: Hol dir 20% Rabatt auf ALLES bei SNOCKS mit dem Code puppies20 – ohne Mindestbestellwert! Hier gehts zur Website.Die Tagebücher der Apothekerin:Die Spotify-Playlist mit Die Tagebücher der Apothekerin von Hyuganatsu findet ihr direkt hier.NordVPN:

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon talks with Jennifer about growing up with a narcissistic father whose coercive control and physical violence ultimately led to the murder of her mother, Martha. As a child, Jennifer watched her father terrorize her mother while trying to protect her younger siblings from the chaos surrounding them. When Jennifer's mother finally left and filed for divorce, the abuser's behavior escalated into stalking, threats, and court-ordered visits that placed the children directly in danger. Despite repeated warnings, law enforcement failed to intervene before the abuser killed Jennifer's mother outside the school where she worked. Jennifer also shares how the trauma of her mother's death followed her into adulthood. Her story explores the lifelong impact of witnessing domestic violence, the devastating consequences of systemic failure, and the difficult process of releasing shame and rebuilding a life in honor of her mother. It's a story of dissociation, addiction, re-enactments, mental health, suicide attempts, femicide, physical abuse, death threats and attempts toward children, murder, coercive control, systemic failure, small towns, shame, guilt, stalking, threats, custody, post-separation abuse, financial control, criticism, narcissistic abuse, narcissistic father, domestic violence, grief, anger, parentification, trauma, and trauma recovery. CONTENT WARNING - THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES PHYSICAL ABUSE, FEMICIDE, MURDER, SUICIDE ATTEMPTS AND DEATH THREATS/ATTEMPTS TOWARD CHILDREN. If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at  hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

This is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: Dynamics that Make Coercive Control Effective and Difficult to Escape. This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. This is about the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to use digital technology to control and stalk you in a relationship. It is a fairly short episode, so it is easily heard in one sitting. And so you can hear it again and again. You might want to take notes. This information can save someone's life. Host: Bill Mitchell If you're experiencing intimate partner abuse, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse—or if you suspect someone you care about is—Riel's story offers critical perspective on spotting red flags early, breaking free, and finding support. You're not alone, and recognizing the patterns can be the first step toward safety and recovery. Domestic violence resources are available 24/7—reach out if you need help. Are you a survivor ready to speak out? Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Explore more through the WHEN DATING HURTS book by Bill Mitchell, available on Amazon in paperback, eBook, and audiobook formats. It's an essential resource for understanding domestic violence and dating safety. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WHEN DATING HURTS book⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Hotline.org ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠– Call 800-799-SAFE • ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LoveIsRespect⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RAINN.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WhenDatingHurts.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: Dynamics that Make Coercive Control Effective and Difficult to Escape. This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. This is about the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to use digital technology to control and stalk you in a relationship. It is a fairly short episode, so it is easily heard in one sitting. And so you can hear it again and again. You might want to take notes. This information can save someone's life. Host: Bill Mitchell If you're experiencing intimate partner abuse, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse—or if you suspect someone you care about is—Riel's story offers critical perspective on spotting red flags early, breaking free, and finding support. You're not alone, and recognizing the patterns can be the first step toward safety and recovery. Domestic violence resources are available 24/7—reach out if you need help. Are you a survivor ready to speak out? Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Explore more through the WHEN DATING HURTS book by Bill Mitchell, available on Amazon in paperback, eBook, and audiobook formats. It's an essential resource for understanding domestic violence and dating safety. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WHEN DATING HURTS book⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Hotline.org ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠– Call 800-799-SAFE • ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LoveIsRespect⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RAINN.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WhenDatingHurts.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this debrief episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon Chadwick debriefs Plum's survivor story and examines how the patterns she experienced with her mother shaped her vulnerability to coercive control in her marriage. Brandon explores how unpredictable rules and moving goalposts taught Plum to overfunction, question herself, and believe she could never do enough. He also discusses her mother's need to maintain a victim identity, how parental approval caused Plum to override her concerns about her future husband, and why the relief she felt in his absence was important information from her body. The episode also examines how viewing abuse as a series of separate incidents can keep victims focused on solving the latest conflict. Once Plum recognized that the silent treatments, gaslighting, sexual coercion, accusations, financial abuse, and violence were all part of a larger pattern of control, she gained the clarity needed to leave. That same pattern recognition eventually helped Plum understand her relationship with her mother and end contact with her. If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at  hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this rerelease episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Plum shares the story of growing up with a neglectful, victim-playing narcissistic mother who made her feel responsible for herself from an early age. As Plum became more independent, her mother's behavior shifted, using guilt, illness, broken promises, and carefully manufactured crises to maintain control. Years later, Plum married a controlling man whose gaslighting, silent treatments, sexual coercion, and escalating physical abuse forced her to recognize the patterns she had been conditioned to accept. In understanding that her husband's behavior was intentional, Plum also began to see the truth about her mother, the difference between closeness and enmeshment, and the generational trauma connecting both abusive relationships. It's a story of generational trauma, gaslighting, physical abuse, sexual coercion, silent treatments, abuse cycles, control, no contact, victim playing, neglect, guilt, manufactured crises, enmeshment, suspected medical abuse, narcissistic mothers, narcissistic abuse, emotional abuse, strangulation, parentification, trauma bonding, narcissistic husband, financial abuse, future faking, and isolation. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses physical abuse, strangulation, and sexual coercion. *** If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at  hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this release episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon talks with Mark Vicente ('What The Bleep Do We Know?', 'The Vow', & The Narcissist's Playbook), about his new documentary, covert narcissistic abuse, spiritual narcissism, enmeshment, the dark night of the soul, surviving the the cult of NXIVM, psychopaths, and the experience of waking up.  If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at  hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Imagine waiting 530 days waiting for the trial of the man who groomed, controlled, strangled and assaulted you only to walk into court on day one and be told there would be no trial. Behind closed doors a plea deal was negotiated dramatically altering the outcome of the case, resulting in Robert Hastings walking free – no prison time.  Strangulation and coercive control are high risk behaviours correlating significantly with serious harm and femicide – yet far too often abusers are rarely charged. This case was rare because it did and yet there was still no justice.  Listen as Laura and Paris explore Paris's own experience, including how her children were targeted, how perpetrators exploit systems to maintain power and control long after a relationship has ended, and why recognising these behaviours is critical to preventing serious harm and homicide.  Paris also shares how surviving abuse has transformed her into an advocate for change through Paris's Law, her campaign to reform the criminal justice system so that victims are no longer re-traumatised by late guilty pleas in domestic abuse cases.  In this episode Laura and Paris discuss:  Why non-fatal strangulation is one of the strongest predictors of femicide;   The 530-day wait for trial and the impact of late guilty pleas on victims;   Image management and how perpetrators present themselves to others;   Grooming, manipulation and behavioural patterns used to establish power and control;  Stalking and post-separation abuse as continuing patterns of coercive control;  Why high-risk behaviours must never be viewed in isolation;  The emotional toll of navigating the criminal justice system;   Paris's Law and why legislative reform is urgently needed.   More from Paris Shears   Paris's Event   Paris's Law Campaign  https://www.parislaw.co.uk    Parliament Petition  https://petition.parliament.uk/petitions/764553   #ParisShears #ParissLaw #CoerciveControl #DomesticAbuse #DomesticViolence #NonFatalStrangulation #BehaviouralAnalysis #Victimology #CrimeAnalyst #LauraRichards #ViolenceAgainstWomen #MaleViolence #HomicidePrevention #TrueCrime #Podcast     Clip    https://youtu.be/nSzElsRv538?si=9fG8nozG2c--qmiy     Thank You to the Crime Analyst Sponsor Who Make the Show Possible. Support The Show Through the Sponsors:      Support Crime Analyst    If you value these conversations, please follow, rate, and review Crime Analyst wherever you listen to podcasts. Sharing episodes helps us educate more people about coercive control, stalking, domestic abuse and homicide prevention.    For exclusive episodes, live events and behind-the-scenes content, join the Crime Analyst Squad on Patreon.    Laura's Resources and Training information:   www.dashriskchecklist.com    www.thelaurarichards.com       Crime Analyst YouTube, Socials and Website       YouTube @crimeanalyst        Facebook Crime Analyst Podcast       Instagram @crimeanalyst @laurarichards999       Threads @crimeanalyst       X @thecrimeanalyst @laurarichards999        TikTok @crimeanalystpod       Website www.crime-analyst.com        Leave a 5* Review https://www.crime-analyst.com/reviews/new/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this debrief episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon breaks down the key takeaways from Athena's survivor story, including how an abuser can recognize someone's vulnerabilities and position themselves as the answer to everything they are missing. The debrief explores the feeling of being chosen, especially by someone with status and admirers, and how that feeling can deepen a trauma bond. Brandon also discusses how empathy for an abuser's trauma can shift attention away from the abuse itself, how hot-and-cold behavior creates instability and control, and how future faking acts like a constantly changing dangling carrot that keeps hope alive.  If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at  hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Athena shares the story of a relationship with a calculated predator who entered her life when she was sick, financially vulnerable, isolated, and searching for stability. He offered Athena exactly what she was missing: family, a sense of belonging, financial support, a spiritual connection, and the feeling that she had been specially chosen. As the relationship progressed, it was a whirlwind of good and bad. Athena hardly had time to process the myriad of abuse tactics that were being mixed in with some magical moments as well. And as Athena inched herself out the door, she eventually saw what her abuser was really capable of, and when she left, that fear didn't dissipate; it only got worse. It's a story of sexual assault, surveillance, boundary violations, hot-and-cold behavior, triangulation, future faking, gaslighting, punishment through withdrawal, deliberate triggering of her trauma, stalking, anonymous messages, account intrusions, intimidation, isolation from communities, death threats, restraining orders, trauma bonds, cult-dynamics, entitlement, coercive control, emotional abuse, narcissistic abuse, post-separation abuse, manipulation, predatory behavior, grandiosity, spiritual abuse, love bombing, and fake empathy. CONTENT WARNING - THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES SEXUAL ASSAULT AND DEATH THREATS. If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at  hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter    Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

DescriptionIn this episode of Perfect Prey, I'm joined by Jayden Posen, a survivor and advocate who shares her powerful story of coercive control, grooming, sexual violence, trafficking, and systemic failure.Jayden discusses how abuse can begin through manipulation and trust, how perpetrators use psychological tactics to gain control, and what happens when survivors speak up but the systems meant to protect them fail to listen.This conversation is a reminder of why we need to recognize grooming, understand coercive control, and take survivors seriously.What we cover• Jayden's experiences of sexual violence and systemic failure beginning at age 14• How “boys will be boys” normalizes harmful behavior and prevents accountability• The connection between coercive control, sexual violence, and power• How threats of self-harm can be used as a coercive control tactic• Social media, pornography, misogyny, and the influence of online personalities• Human trafficking, exploitation, and the vulnerabilities within nightlife environments• Why survivors are so often asked the wrong questions• Victim-blaming, silence, and the pressure to protect institutions and reputations• The role of bystanders and the importance of accountability• Why young people need better education around consent, boundaries, power, and healthy relationships• Jayden's work toward the Nightlife Safety and Accountability ActWhy listenJayden's story is a powerful reminder that abuse does not always begin with violence. It can begin with grooming, attention, manipulation, threats, and the gradual erosion of a person's autonomy.This conversation also asks us to look beyond individual incidents and examine the systems, cultural messages, technology, and institutions that can allow abuse to continue.For parents, educators, advocates, clinicians, survivors, and anyone working with young people, this episode offers an important conversation about recognizing coercive control, challenging victim-blaming, and creating environments where accountability matters.Guest bioJayden Posen is a survivor, advocate, and public speaker who uses her lived experience to raise awareness about sexual violence, exploitation, attempted trafficking, coercive control, and systemic failure. After experiencing repeated harm from a young age, Jayden now speaks publicly about survivor advocacy, nightlife safety, accountability, and the need for stronger protections for vulnerable people.She is also developing the Nightlife Safety and Accountability Act, a policy initiative focused on prevention, accountability, trafficking prevention, public safety, and protecting vulnerable people in nightlife environments.Connect with JaydenInstagram: @jaydenposen on InstagramWebsite: JaydenPosen.infoEmail: jaydenposen.outreach@gmail.comLearn more about Jayden's advocacy and the Nightlife Safety and Accountability Act through her website and social media.Connect with Dr. Christine:Protective Parenting Program: Protective Parenting ProgramOfficial site: Coercive Control ConsultingYouTube: Dr. Christine Cocchiola on YouTubeTikTok: Dr. Christine Cocchiola on TikTokInstagram: Dr. Christine Cocchiola on InstagramTEDxTalk: It is ALL Coercive Control — TEDxBooks:FramedEvery Moment of Every DayIf this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who needs to hear it, subscribe for more trauma-informed conversations, and consider leaving a review. Your support helps other survivors and protective parents find information, validation, and community.— Dr. Christine Cocchiola & guest Jayden Posen

In this debrief episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon Chadwick debriefs Spoon's survivor story and examines how grooming, learned beliefs, people pleasing, and the loss of self-trust shaped her vulnerability to abuse. Brandon discusses how Spoon's groomer became a truth teller in her world, teaching her to override her own discomfort and trust someone else's interpretation of what she was experiencing. He also explores how Spoon's “cool girl” identity taught her to minimize her needs, how people pleasing became tied to her search for self-worth, and how placing that worth in other people's hands made it easier for manipulative people to use approval, rejection, and withholding against her. The episode also looks at one of Spoon's most important lessons in recovery: slowing relationships down long enough to compare someone's words with their behavior. By giving herself time to observe patterns, Spoon began learning to trust what she saw instead of relying solely on what someone told her.  *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses child sexual assault. *** If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at  hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this rerelease episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Spoon shares her story of childhood trauma, grooming, sexual assault, addiction, abusive relationships, and the long process of discovering who she was underneath everything she had been taught to become. Spoon discusses how growing up feeling responsible for other people's emotions left her vulnerable to a predator who began grooming her at 13, and how that experience influenced her ideas about sex, love, relationships, and what it meant to be a woman. She also examines her years in modeling, addiction, her struggle with self-worth, and the relationship that finally forced her to recognize how often she had abandoned her own needs to keep someone else. Through recovery, Spoon began questioning the stories she had been given, slowing relationships down, paying attention to actions instead of words, and building an identity based on what she actually values. It's a story of narcissistic abuse, grooming, child sexual abuse, sexual assault, generational trauma, abuse cycles, emotional abuse, abusive relationships, coercive control, manipulation, emotional neglect, parentification, walking on eggshells, people pleasing, low self worth, loss of identity, trauma bonds, addiction, boundaries, and healing from abuse. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses child sexual assault and a graphic description of suicidal ideation. *** If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at  hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter    Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this episode of Zone 7, Sheryl McCollum is joined by human trafficking survivor and advocate Tina Dixon, who ran away as a young teenager before being trafficked through the Dixie Mafia’s network of brothels and organized prostitution across the South. Together, they discuss the grooming, manipulation, violence, and addiction traffickers use to control their victims and how organized trafficking operations adapt to changing technology as recruitment expands through social media and other online platforms. Tina also explains what finally helped her break free after decades of exploitation and why she has made it her mission to help others escape trafficking and rebuild their lives. Highlights: (0:00) Sheryl explains the Dixie Mafia’s ties to human trafficking and the importance of understanding victimology in investigations (2:00) Why investigators distinguish between different forms of commercial sexual exploitation and how those differences shape an investigation (3:45) Tina runs away at 14, arrives on Bourbon Street, and becomes involved with an outlaw motorcycle club (8:30) The differences between a “Cassanova pimp” and a “gorilla pimp” and how traffickers use manipulation before violence (10:15) Inside Louisiana's prostitution “circuit” of roadside bars, gambling rooms, and brothels hidden throughout the bayous (11:45) How traffickers groom children online using social media, emotional manipulation, and false promises (15:00) Childhood abuse, addiction, and the vulnerabilities traffickers intentionally exploit (17:15) Inside a rural brothel: how victims are trained, controlled, and punished (23:15) Why traffickers profit while victims are left with addiction, trauma, and nothing to show for years of exploitation (24:15) How online predators continue using the same grooming tactics to recruit children today (26:45) The confrontation that led to Tina being shot twice (30:00) Why Destiny House, Hookers for Jesus, and EMDR finally succeeded after 17 rehab attempts Enjoying Zone 7? Leave a rating and review where you listen to podcasts. Your feedback helps others find the show and supports the mission to educate, engage, and inspire. --- Tina Dixon is the founder and executive director of Queens Arise, a nonprofit organization dedicated to helping survivors of human trafficking build independent futures through education, career training, mentorship, and long-term recovery support. After surviving decades of trafficking herself, Tina now helps survivors create lasting stability while advocating for survivor-led solutions. Learn more about Tina and sign up for updates on her upcoming memoir, Going to the Country: https://queensarise.org/tina-dixon/ Sheryl “Mac” McCollum is an active crime scene investigator for a metro Atlanta police department and the director of the Cold Case Investigative Research Institute, which partners with colleges and universities nationwide. With more than four decades of experience, she has worked on thousands of cold cases using her investigative system, The Last 24/361, which integrates evidence, media, and advanced forensic testing. Her work on high-profile cases, including The Boston Strangler, Natalie Holloway, Tupac Shakur and the Moore’s Ford Bridge lynching, led to her Emmy Award for CSI: Atlanta and induction into the National Law Enforcement Hall of Fame in 2023. Social Links: Email: coldcase2004@gmail.com X: @ColdCaseTips Facebook: @sheryl.mccollum Instagram: @officialzone7podcast● TikTok: @Sheryl.McCollum Sheryl’s new book, Swans Don’t Swim in a Sewer: Solving the Cold Case of the Flint River Killer’s Daughter, is available now wherever books are sold.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon Chadwick is joined by Annette Oltmans, founder of The MEND Project, to discuss covert emotional abuse, double abuse, and the myth of mutual abuse. Annette explains how hidden tactics such as minimization, blame shifting, deflection, false accusations, stonewalling, and broken promises can keep survivors confused, overfunctioning, and struggling to put into words what is actually happening in their relationships. Brandon and Annette also explore double abuse, which can occur when survivors finally reach out for help and are met with disbelief, judgment, victim blaming, or harmful advice from friends, family members, therapists, faith communities, or other institutions. They also discuss reactive defense and why a survivor reacting under prolonged stress should not automatically be viewed as evidence of mutual abuse. Throughout the conversation, Annette explains how better language, validation, compassionate listening, and a clearer understanding of abusive dynamics can help survivors make sense of their experiences and begin rebuilding trust in themselves. CLICK HERE TO REACH THE MEND PROJECT If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at  hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Paris Shears never imagined that the man she fell in love with would groom, physically harm and control her. What began as a seemingly loving relationship became a pattern of coercive control, intimidation and violence that left her fearing for her life.  When Paris's former partner was charged with offences including intentional strangulation and assault, he initially pleaded not guilty. After more than a year with the trial looming over her head, Paris went to court for the first day of the trial, and there was a closed meeting where he changed his plea and took a deal. The consequences have been devastating for Paris which is why she  launched a petition calling for Paris's Law, and urgent reform so perpetrators cannot control victims once charged and benefit from changing their plea at the last minute in cases involving domestic abuse and coercive control.   In this episode Laura and Paris discuss:  Paris's relationship and the gradual progression of coercive control.   Grooming behaviours and how predators identify and exploit vulnerability.   The impact of people-pleasing, trauma and self-abandonment.   Red flags and behavioural patterns that should never be ignored.   Why coercive control is often misunderstood by family, friends and professionals.   The criminal charges brought against Paris's former partner and the outcome of the case.   The impact of late guilty pleas on victims and the justice process.   Paris's Law campaign and the reforms Paris hopes to achieve.   Why behavioural analysis and pattern recognition are critical to preventing violence against women and girls.   More from Paris Shears  Paris's Law Campaign https://www.parislaw.co.uk   Parliament Petition https://petition.parliament.uk/petitions/764553  #ParisShears #ParissLaw #CoerciveControl #DomesticAbuse #DomesticViolence #NonFatalStrangulation #BehaviouralAnalysis #Victimology #CrimeAnalyst #LauraRichards #ViolenceAgainstWomen #MaleViolence #HomicidePrevention #TrueCrime #Podcast   Clip   https://fb.watch/IOcYRotX2B/    Thank You to the Crime Analyst Sponsor Who Make the Show Possible. Support The Show Through the Sponsors:   Visit TAKELEAN.com and enter CRIMEANALYST for your discount.   Ready to reach your goals? Visit forhers.com/crime to get personalized, affordable care that gets you.  Support Crime Analyst   If you value these conversations, please follow, rate, and review Crime Analyst wherever you listen to podcasts. Sharing episodes helps us educate more people about coercive control, stalking, domestic abuse and homicide prevention.   For exclusive episodes, live events and behind-the-scenes content, join the Crime Analyst Squad on Patreon.   Laura's Resources and Training information:  www.dashriskchecklist.com    www.thelaurarichards.com      Crime Analyst YouTube, Socials and Website      YouTube @crimeanalyst       Facebook Crime Analyst Podcast      Instagram @crimeanalyst @laurarichards999      Threads @crimeanalyst      X @thecrimeanalyst @laurarichards999       TikTok @crimeanalystpod      Website www.crime-analyst.com       Leave a 5* Review https://www.crime-analyst.com/reviews/new/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this debrief episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon Chadwick breaks down the patterns of abuse in Anisha's survivor story, including how a whirlwind relationship can create commitment before someone has enough time to recognize troubling patterns. Brandon also discusses criticism disguised as self-improvement, intermittent abuse, gaslighting, and how periods of peace between abusive incidents can repeatedly restore hope and make the larger pattern harder to see. The episode also explores why Anisha stayed, including her identity as a healer and problem-solver, her belief that the relationship could be fixed, and the confusion that kept her focused on understanding her abuser. Brandon examines how protecting an abuser from consequences can eventually leave a victim vulnerable, before closing with a discussion about identity and the ways abuse can distort how survivors see themselves. Anisha's story ultimately becomes one of reclaiming the parts of herself that abuse tried to diminish. You can reach Anisha at https://www.power2breakfree.com/ If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at  hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Anisha shares the story of an introduced marriage that quickly became emotionally and physically abusive. What began with criticism, confusing outbursts, and attacks on her identity gradually expanded into isolation, career control, threats of divorce, verbal degradation, and severe physical violence. Through it all, Anisha kept searching for an explanation. As a healer, optimist, and problem solver, she believed that if she could understand her husband's wounds, communicate more effectively, become a better wife, or find the right help, perhaps she could finally reach him and change their marriage.  As the violence escalates, Anisha begins recognizing that the problem was never her inability to fix the relationship. She also encounters another painful layer of her story when some of the people and organizations she turns to for help misunderstand, minimize, or retraumatize her. Eventually, support from her family, education about abuse, and one powerful question from a therapist help Anisha stop searching for evidence that her husband might change and begin looking at the evidence of who he had consistently shown himself to be. Anisha also shares how she rebuilt her life, healed from the trauma, and transformed her experience into advocacy for other survivors. It's a story of criticism, confusing outbursts, attacks on her identity, isolation, coercive control, threats of divorce, verbal degradation, severe physical violence, minimization, retraumatization, second abuse, the healing process, victim-playing, arranged marriage, introduced marriage, victim blaming, blame shifting, gaslighting, denial, walking on eggshells, confusion, cognitive dissonance, trauma bond, intermittent reinforcement, cycle of abuse, escalating abuse, criticism disguised as self-improvement, loss of independence, financial abuse, protecting the abuser, PTSD, empathy, restraining orders, and overfunctioning. CONTENT WARNING - THIS EPISODE GRAPHICALLY DISCUSSES PHYSICAL ABUSE. You can reach Anisha at https://www.power2breakfree.com/ If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at  hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this debrief episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon breaks down the major abuse patterns in Inez's survivor story and explores why knowing about narcissistic abuse does not necessarily make someone immune to experiencing it again. The debrief examines how an abuser can use their trauma story to create false trust, use stories about former partners to quietly communicate expectations, disguise jealousy as hurt or insecurity, and promise to care for someone before gradually making that person responsible for their emotional well-being. Brandon also discusses how punishing a victim for expressing feelings can teach them to become smaller inside the relationship, and how provoking emotional reactions allows an abuser to shift attention away from their own behavior. The episode also looks at why these tactics create confusion, self-doubt, and longer attachment to abusive relationships, while recognizing Inez's decision to leave after eleven months as evidence that the knowledge and healing she had gained did matter. If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at  hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.