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Happy mental health awareness month [ir]Regulars! In this episode, we meet Alex Compton, a new father with a background in social work and mental health advocacy. What starts out as a deep dive into the new challenges of parenthood from a father's perspective ends up taking a sharp, unexpected turn. Around minute 54, the conversation shifts to a more serious note when Alex opens up about being a Black man in America today raising a Black son. In Alex's words, people need to hear this... and we couldn't be more thankful to him for granting us the opportunity to have this difficult, yet important discussion.

After eight long months, the [ir]Regulars are pumped to bring you the very first guest of season two. Joining us live from her bedroom, we are thrilled to introduce you to one of the most positive, down a** chicks we've had on the show thus far. Following a tragic, early morning accident after bartending shift, Nikki Walsh found herself pinned under a tractor trailer and battling for her life. In this episode, Nikki, a licensed personal trainer, walks us through what it was like to suffer a spinal cord injury that left her paralyzed from the waist down, and how she has persevered through an obstacle that would've otherwise halted many others. 

As promised, the [ir]Regulars are back with a new monthly episode. Since we know you missed us so much during the hiatus, we decided to give you another episode of Bobby and Kaity rocking out without a guest. In this episode, we discuss self esteem - what it is, why it's important, what roles it plays in relationships/life, and how we can work to improve it. We also feature a very impromptu PSA about non-iPhone users and their overwhelming inferiority to the general public. Sorry not sorry.

After nearly six months since the [ir]Regulars took an unannounced break, Bobby and Kaity are finally back on the mic and ready to spill the tea about what the hell has been going on and what led us to the infamous hiatus. From breakups to new jobs to depression and so much more… welcome to season two, [ir]Regulars.

Guess who's sober? You're right, it's not Kaity. It's our guest this week. Joining the ir[Regulars] to talk about his new lease on life is Alec, a former coworker of Bobby's who is eight years sober and crushing the battle against mental health and sobriety every single day. Alec's shares his story of rock bottom - which for him looked like drunk driving through the quad at college - and how his strength to take control [before it was too late] saved his life.

The title speaks for itself. You've heard us mention it countless times in previous episodes. This week, the [ir]Regulars finally reveal that “big event” in Bobby's life that served as a huge turning point for him mentally, emotionally… and legally. Bobby opens up about an experience unlike anything we've heard before and how it shaped him to becoming the resilient [and anxious] person he is today.

"What's your favorite color? I have Alopecia." Glad we have your attention, we promise that'll make more sense [and make you laugh] later. In this week's episode, the [ir]Regulars are joined by badass baldie, Rikki, who developed Alopecia universalis at four years old. Rikki tells us what it was like growing up with this condition through childhood, the terrible teenage years, and finally coming into her own as a young adult [and smokin' hot model]. From dating to bullying to charity and poems, Rikki tells her story about learning to love and accept herself for exactly who she is, and who she wants to be.

Summer hours are in full swing, but the [ir]Regulars are back after a week break with some exciting [and slightly toxic] life updates! Spoiler alert: Bobby still can't get a text back and Kaity blacked out again. Some real groundbreaking sh*t. ANYWAY... joining us from across the country in this week's episode is teacher, turned nanny, turned feature-film actress, Ashley. Lansdale native and long time friend of Bobby and Kaity, Ashley takes us along her journey from PA to LA, juggling multiple jobs in pursuit of her dream to be on screen. Working alongside A-Listers like Eddie Murphy and so many more, Ashley talks about life in the industry, what goes on behind the camera, and how she stays grounded and focused on her goal to see her name in lights.

Following the worst two weeks of your life, the [ir]Regulars are back and talking some good ole' fashion sh*t. Bobby leads us off with a heartwarming story about watching a chick get hit by a car while Kaity whines about her new relationship. From the friend zone, to friends that f**k, to hall passes and everything in between - we've got a lot to spill and we're not holding back.

Back on the road again, the [ir]Regulars travel to Fishtown, Philadelphia to link up with multi-platinum selling artist ROZES - or as Kaity and Bobby know her, Liz. A Montgomery County native turned chart-topping pop star nearly overnight, Liz talks about her struggle to remain authentic in a social media saturated world and the challenges that the internet has created for artists today. Liz opens up about her own mental health story and how she uses her alter ego ROZES to connect with people who are facing similar battles. From song writing to OCD to Instagram algorithms and so much more, we cover it all in this week's episode, proving every rose has its thorn.

Shame and stigma are dead and the [ir]Regulars f**king killed them. In this episode, we're putting the [fun] in [fun]eral. Joining us to speak at the service - all the way from Phoenix, Arizona for our first episode ever recorded remotely - is Licensed Mental Health Therapist, Janelle Hettick. Janelle shares her own experiences with mental health disorders and sheds light on what it's like to provide therapy for others while also being in therapy herself [and with her husband]. In celebration of Mental Health Awareness Month, Janelle explains how we can all work together to end the stigma and put the shame around mental health disorders to rest, once and for all.

As Mental Health Awareness Month continues, the [ir]Regulars decide to get personal about their own experiences with depression and anxiety. From medication, therapy and even suicidal ideation, Bobby and Kaity discuss mental health from their lens and what the journey to a more grounded and gratitude-based life has been like for them.

"Be who you think you are." ...inspirational, or terrifying? At The Your Life Gym, this is a question that will define much more than your workout. Joining the [ir]Regulars in this highly anticipated episode are founder, Jake Luhrs, and Fitness Director, Joel Chandler, like-minded souls with a passion for mental health, spirituality and physical fitness. To kick off mental health awareness month, Jake walks us through his dream of The Your Life Gym - the first and only mental and physical health gym of its kind - and shares how teaming up with key players like Joel and Jake's non-profit, Heart Support, brought his vision to life in ways that he never imagined possible. No words can do justice to the impact of the message that Jake and Joel have to share with us in this episode. If you're in a funk and you're looking for a sign - just trust us, this is it.

All the way from Utah, the [ir]Regulars are joined by Mike - Bobby's childhood best friend and Kaity's senior prom date. Growing up in the Philadelphia suburbs, Mike was your average bro. So it came as quite a shock to Bobby, Kaity and the rest of the tri-state area when Mike posted a photo of him and his now husband on social media just a few years after graduating college. In this episode, Mike opens up about his sexuality and what it was like growing up hiding it. He walks us through his journey of eventually coming out and shares what life looks like now that he is finally free... and no longer searching for himself.

When's the last time you heard a man tell another man that he loves him, in a nonromantic relationship? In this episode, we welcome back Joe [former guest from episode 11] to talk about male appreciation and why [as a man] it's just as important to gas up and love on your homies as it is for women. The [ir]Regulars dig deep and discuss the impact of father/son relationships, childhood trauma and much more as Joe opens up about one of the darkest times in his life and how a little bro love was the light that guided him to a brighter tomorrow.

The big "D"... we're talking about it. The "d" word that tends to make most people under the age of 30 uncomfortable to say the least. In this episode, we meet Brittany who's had a painful, first-hand experience with it. That's right ladies and gentlemen, we're talking about divorce. At 24 years old, this week's guest found herself a single mother married to a master manipulator with an alcohol addiction. Brittany opens up to the [ir]Regulars about her journey to independence at such a young age and learning once and for all that she is worthy. SUPPORT OUR BOY SCOTT HERE: https://gofund.me/c6037c16

Have you ever wondered what the f**k goes on in the mind of members of the opposite sex? Whether related to dating, sex, career, etc. - we've all spent some time trying to get inside the brain of men and women. The first episode of its kind, the [ir]Reglulars answer questions submitted by listeners from both the male and female perspective. Should you split the bill on the first date? Do you fake orgasms? Can you control your stream of urine on demand? Find out the answers to these questions (and some legit ones as well) in episode 30!

"Never mistake a bad day for a bad life." Easier said than done though, am I right? For this week's guest, adding up all the bad days would logically sum up a pretty dark outcome. But not for KJ. In this episode, the [ir]Regulars introduce us to a young man who has undergone four neurosurgeries since the age of 12 - one of which has been performed on approximately 3,000 people... ever... throughout the world. While navigating the road to recovery, KJ talks about how he created his "new normal" and the vital role that his unwavering positivity has played in his journey to survival.

Guilty pleasures. We all have them. While some are easy to indulge in - like binge eating Doritos in bed at 2:00 am - others can be a bit more challenging to satiate... like being called a "pathetic loser" and humiliated for sexual pleasure. This week, the [ir]Regulars explore the world of fetishes with a Sarah, a young woman who works in a law office by day and specializes in fulfilling fantasies online by night. Sarah opens up about cashing in the guilty pleasures of men and what it has been like for her personally and in her relationships. In the second half of the episode, we are joined by Sarah's boyfriend, Eric, to get his perspective as the significant other to a virtual, money-making mistress.

Among hundreds of other silver-lined clichés, it's been said that grief is the price we pay for love. In this episode, the [ir]Regulars are joined by Nicole who paid the ultimate price when she lost her dad to cancer in 2018, two weeks before she was supposed to get married. Sharing her journey as her dad's primary caregiver during his final months, Nicole opens up about the ugly truths of what grief of a loved one is like... without the poetic quotes.   On behalf of the entire [ir]Regular community, we'd like to dedicate this episode to the memory of Charles C. Albor III and wish him a happy heavenly birthday.

In the wise words of Asher Roth, "I love college" ... or do I? Both college graduates themselves, the [ir]Regulars get real about the overpriced, "one size fits all" experience that is college in America today. In this episode, we discuss astronomical student loan debt, useless gen ed courses and feeling as though we've been sold a lie, leading the [ir]Regulars to explore the most haunting question of all... was it worth it?

Back in their old stomping grounds, the [ir]Regulars bring you another fearless guest with an impactful story. This week, we hear from Shannon about her journey learning to accept and love the skin she's in. With symptoms and obstacles that closely mirror an addiction to drugs or alcohol, Shannon shares her story about her lifelong struggle with one thing that we as humans can never outrun: food.   **TRIGGER WARNING** Beginning around minute 11, some of the material discussed in this episode may be triggering to those who struggle with eating disorders and/or their relationship with food. If you or someone you know needs help, please visit www.nationaleatingdisorders.org.

It's been a long two weeks but the [ir]Regulars are back and holy sh*t, was this one worth the wait. This week's guests are anything but conventional, so it seems only right that for the first time in [ir]Regular history, we took the show on the road to record episode 24 remotely. Joining us this week from their own living room is Sarah and Jay, a polyamorous couple with 18 years of love and dozens of hot women under their belt.

Once a cheater, always a cheater? The [ir]Regulars are back to revisit a touchy subject from a less popular point of view. In this episode, we dive inside the mind of a person who has cheated and discuss why they may have done what they did.

Greetings, and welcome. The [ir]Regulars want to play a game.

This week, the [ir]Regulars take on a topic way outside of their wheelhouse. Joining our cohosts is Leanne to lead a difficult discussion about pregnancy loss and infertility. Leanne walks us through her journey, sharing her struggles as she endured multiple unexplained miscarriages in her pursuit to start a family. To close out the episode, Leanne's husband and veteran [ir]Regular guest, Zac, opens up about what it was like from a partner's point of view, giving us a full scope perspective on this tragic but surprisingly common issue.

The average human attention span is 12 seconds. For our new cohost Kaity, you're lucky if you can get 4 from her. In this episode, the [ir]Regulars are getting real about attention deficit disorders. Racing from thought to thought, Kaity opens up about the less obvious symptoms that people don't talk about, the shame and doubt that come with the disorder, medication struggles and so much more.

Therapy... something we have all more than likely considered but haven't taken the plunge. For the first episode of 2021, the [ir]Regulars sit down with a very special guest. Liv, a clinical mental health counselor, speaks to what drove her to pursue her profession, what a "normal" day looks like from her perspective and much more. Bobby and Kaity discuss their experiences in therapy while Liv provides her point of view from the counselor's perspective.

The last day of 2020 is finally here and we can all agree that we're ready to close the door on this sh*t show. While we say goodbye to quite literally the worst year of the century, we're introduced to a whole new train wreck among the [ir]Regular nation. Ladies and gentlemen... meet our new cohost.

The [ir]Regulars want to keep it short and sweet for you this week as it is Christmas Eve! Before we wish everyone a happy and safe holiday, we have some news to drop. 2020 has been full of surprises. Stay tuned all the way to the end...we saved the best surprise for last.

Should you be rewarded for just showing up?! The [ir]Regulars dive into the topic of 'participation trophies' when it comes to sports. Featuring Zac Fryling, 4x Division 1 NCAA Wrestling qualifier for West Virginia - helping us dissect what the issues are with giving out participation trophies for just showing up and really where this topic stems from. 

Sarah is back from getting the 'rona out of her a$$ - kidding. Which, is on par for this week as the [ir]Regulars give their opinions on COVID - which consists of Sarah yelling into the microphone and Bobby presenting his arguments in a calm, cool, collected manner. *Remember, these are two idiots sharing their opinions and not real scientists with facts - take that into consideration while listening. Do not get offended [or do, honestly, who cares].

Sarah gets Rona'd in the butt - kidding, but she got exposed, leaving Bobby without his PIC but the show must go on. Tyler, a long time friend of Bobby, comes on the show to share his opinions on drug addiction from a paramedic's point of view. Also, featuring a story so wild it will leave you on the edge of your seats.

Sarah's coworker, Jaime, joins the [ir]Regulars and boy do Sarah and Bobby have questions for her! Jaime is a conservative bisexual from Brooklyn, and her story is one for the books. 

The Boyz have themselves a day at an incredible event while Sarah slept the whole day away. Returning from the epic journey, for the first time, [ir]Regular hosts TWO guests and a live audience [of 5 people]. Sarah gets drunk and goes MIA - leaving Bobby and the Boyz to recap their adventure and discuss an event they went to that is the ultimate form of exercise [not just for the body, but also for the mind].

The [ir]Regulars sit down with comedian and photographer Mike O'Malley as he reminisces about his upbringing, living under a bridge, being adopted, etc. and how this [ir]Regular life has shaped him into the person he is today. Ending the show by challenging his views on the philosophical question - 'does everything happen for a reason?'

Do you?

The [ir]Regulars host their first guest, Scott. Bobby doesn't stfu about Architects. Sarah drives around in silence like a serial killer. Scott's voice makes the ladies' panties drop. And if you don't listen to metal music [or at least try it out] after this episode...then Bobby and Scott didn't succeed.

Breakups are never easy. No one goes into a relationship hoping they will go through the pain of a breakup (except Sarah, who literally breaks up with her boyfriend every other day). The [ir]Regulars tackle all angles of a breakup - from dealing with it internally and learning to move on, to the dread of discussing “the end” with family and friends.

If you were to ask Bobby to describe Sarah in one word what would he say (besides annoying)?...Toxic. On this episode, the [ir]Regulars dive into the many forms of toxic relationships that come in and out of our lives - whether it be family, friends, or significant others - toxicity can come in all shapes and sizes.

We all love a little controversy...and this week we dive into the two things they tell you never to discuss on a first date: politics and religion. Bobby impersonates Trump and Sarah makes her musical debut on a worship soundtrack.

Sarah becomes the cult leader of the #herpesgang while Bobby keeps his record clean. Quarantine did a number on many of us but Bobby was nice enough to give his 20lbs weight loss to Sarah as a housewarming gift. 

C'mon people, it really isn't hard to to NOT cheat on someone...The [ir]Regulars dive into their histories of getting cheated on. Then getting a little dark by shedding light on the stigmas of mental health along with our personal views and experiences in dealing with it. 

Time to get a little personal! Sarah dives into a darker time from her past and what she's done to overcome the challenges of drug addiction including whether or not we agree with addiction being considered a 'disease' and why your back porch isn't safe when she is on drugs. Followed by Bobby explaining how even during his battle with cancer, he still has never had a bad day in his life. 

The [ir]Regulars dive into Sarah's exquisite encounters from dating apps. Who would have thought she would have matched with the 'owner' of Philly?! Bobby can't get a right swipe to save his life while Sarah cleans up. Ending the show with "you definitely want to bang your 'platonic' friend"...

Seriously people....help.