Set To Learn

Recorded before the insurrection, Tanya and Derek continue to speculate about the future of Covid, get upset at Christians around the election, and talk about what they think they should have done differently in past relationships.If you want to get in contact with us, add us on Instagram at @settolearn and slide into our DMs!

We finally dig into our new house and some things we’ve learned around buying and getting started in it, as well as some election talk because it’s kind of a big deal right now.If you want to get in contact with us, add us on Instagram at @settolearn and slide into our DMs!

Heyyyyy possum episode! Took forever to get this one out because of other life circumstances, but hopefully we can get you more sweet sweet podcast episodes soon!

We are well into COVID-19 arriving in the US, and so Derek and Tanya are talking about it’s changed life so far. You can download coloring pages at [themast.net](https://themast.net)!

Tanya and Derek are going house-hunting, Derek asserts things about Tanya’s mental makeup, and at the very end they talk about Twilight Eclipse! Also, they have absolutely no idea the coronavirus is gonna be a thing in the US at this point, so enjoy absolutely no discussion about that whatsoever!We dive RIGHT into follow up:From Jesse, pacemakers are probably fine with dog fences as long as you’re about 12” awayThe correlation of alcohol consumption to cancer has been overstatedDerek succeeded at the NJ bureaucracy with nothing but dad jokesWe’re actually going to try to buy a new house!Stuff we learnedDerek:How much sugar is in a thingThere are people that absolutely don’t fidget at allHaving a list of 1-2 hour projects is great for productivityTanya:She’s not insane because “the call of the void” is a normal thingRainee:Pain and wanting to be someone elseAaaaaaand Derek thinks Tanya totally has ADHD. Tanya is in denial, and thus convo ensues.After that, it’s pretty much just the Eclipse review at the end.Thanks as always for listening! You can visit the show site at settolearn.com!

Kids don't follow directions very well, Derek shares about what ADHD actually is, and Tanya researches cancer the entire episode.We learn things about Covergirl live, during the episode, and Tanya muses about how tragic it is that the world doesn't get to hear Derek read books to kids, then we jump right into things we've learned:Derek:Soap bubbles make a sound when they popAtlas now has opinions, not just needsWe could pay off our house this yearTanya:Pacemakers somehow interact poorly with invisible dog fencesThe depth of the silliness of the English languageSpeaking out your parenting insecurities to others is a good thingSide tangents taken during the things we've learned segment includes:Like a million references to CovergirlThe Dream PodcastTanya doesn't think she's young enough to say boujee and litDerek rants about people not talking about financesDerek is the guy at work that uses big wordsAlcohol consumption increases your risk for cancer?Derek delves into the bureaucratic debacle that his New Jersey license has becomeThen for main topic, Derek talks about ADHD, what it is, what it looks like for him, etc. Check out How To ADHD on YouTube if you have ADHD and/or want to learn more about it.Hit us up on Instagram (instagram.com/settolearn if you want to ask us questions for the show!

Turns out we might be pacifist, we talk about new year resolutions, and Derek reviews New Moon!We talk about Martin Luther’s ribs a little bit before we go into...Things we learned:DerekThe new oven smokes like crazy if anything gets on the bottom of itChildren at Murry’s age need constant and gentle redirectionTanyaShe might be pacifist!There’s still some things that she’s working through from earlier in lifeNo matter what you learned in parenting, you have to constantly relearn the same thingsRainee:What “hesitated” meansMurryHe’s so much more conversational nowThen we talk about New Year’s resolutions and how we use themes, rather than resolutions. Tanya’s word for last year was Grace, but doesn’t have one for this year yet. Derek’s word last year was Survive, and this year’s is Grow.Finally, after the credits, we talk about Derek’s first experience watching Twilight: New Moon!

After we talk about Christmas, Derek talks a bit about why he hasn’t been wearing his Apple Watch, before going right into what we’ve learned:Derek:ADHDBeing spontaneous with datesWant to learn about avoiding spammy textsDiscovered that 3rd parties to 3rd parties to healthcare existTanya:Essential oils and other wellness stuffThe line between people-pleasing and appropriate caution with kid noise in churchRainee:Became a ChristianTaylor Swift is realThanks again for listening to the show! Here’s to a great new year!

Derek watches Twilight, Tanya witnesses Derek pass out (unrelated), Kanye gets saved, and Halloween thoughts!Highlights:Life stuff - Murry’s still teething hard, and Addie is doing her baby thing of needing to be held all the time, but despite life being full, life is pretty good!Follow up - It’s really funny when children cry into a kazoo. Also, people agree that eating mold is bad and gross. Geez, you’re all wimps.Derek watches Twilight, first movie - He thinks it’s an awesome premise, poorly executed in parts, but otherwise enjoyed it!Things we learned:Derek successfully got a flu shot on his own, but passed out HARD on a blood draw, totally freaking out a phlebotomistKanye is probably a Christian now and you should listen to his new albumTriggers, a book about being levelheaded in parenting, is really good and you should read it!Derek passed a New Jersey electrical test on his first tryApparently jumping off a roof doesn’t end in instant death, but definitely ends in day-later-whole-body-painTanya’s a bit insecure about what people will think of her parenting style, including things about unschooling, like kids not learning to read til they’re 12It’s not a weakness to care about people. NO REGRETS ON THE CULT EPISODE, Y’HEAR???Then the rest of the episode is our thoughts on Halloween! We reference a Pubcast episode in there, too.We’d love to hear your thoughts about the show! Find and message us on Instagram or send us a voice message!

The first real podcast recorded after Atlas is born, Tanya and Derek discuss how life has been going since. While they sound sleepy and delirious at 8:30 PM. Follow Up: Thanks to Jazmynn and Colin for sending in questions for the unschooling episode! Voice messages link: speakpipe.com/settolearn What we've been learning: Derek's been going on a caffeine sabbatical. Tanya's realizing that people forget she's sassy, since she's been so under the weather up until recently. Derek loves Lincoln Log messes. Tanya feels weird about not being able to give to people when people give to her. Rainee doesn't like boys, just daddies. Tanya learned that Derek ate just a very very tiny amount of mold, it's not a big deal, okay? Love you guys. Thanks for listening. I know we aren't very regular recently, but we still love doing this and are so grateful to you for joining in on our lil show. ❤️

A summary of the last nine months, recorded three days before giving birth. This is us at the lowest we’ve ever been. “To live is to suffer, to survive is to find some meaning in the suffering.” Friedrich Nietzsche

Atlas finally enters our world. We talk about Atlas' birth story, both Tanya and Derek's sides, as well as our feelings surrounding the event. Basically, we're super jazzed.

It’s the unschooling episode! We also talk about our Canada vacation, Derek rants about a musical, and Tanya is still pregnant. The previous show notes author has been sacked due to their snark and how long it took them to write show notes. We start off talking about how our Canada vacation went, and slowly transition to stuff we learned: Rainee learned about gutting fish We all learned about transitioning into vacation Tanya talked Rainee through what spanking is It takes a long time to paint cabinetry Tanya’s realizing how much this pregnancy has changed how she thinks and functions Tangent: Derek talks about electrical licenses and tests Derek’s learned to like stainless steel straws Tanya’s learned that Derek has few opinions, but those he does have are surprisingly strong and surprising. Tangent: 7 Brides for 7 Brothers Then we get into our main topic this week, which is finally the unschooling episode! We lay down the primer of what unschooling is and how you should think about it, as well as answer a few questions. Resources mentioned: BoyinaBand videos: Don't Stay In School You don't legally have to go to school. Changing Education Paradigms by Ken Robinson (RSA Animate version) Pam Laricchia LivingJoyfully.ca (website) Exploring Unschooling (podcast) We'd love to hear your feedback! Message us on Instagram or leave us a voicemail

Really, most of this is about Derek’s vasectomy, and why! If you have feedback or questions, you can contact Derek and Tanya on Instagram or send a voice message at settolearn.com/talk!

Tanya learns about whiskey barrel cribs, Derek learns about 80s vasectomy videos, and you learn about free-range parenting. We join our “heroes” just in time for you to hear them eating ice cream you can’t have. Mmm, doesn’t that make you feel special. Anyway, Tanya’s still pregnant. Not much changing there anytime soon. They’ve learned a few things, not surprising when it’s been about a month an a half since recording the last episode.

Podcasting on vacation, our heroes talk about the baby’s gender and name, and rant about colleges! The NICE thing about these guys getting farther and farther between episodes is that I don’t have to do these summaries as often. After some pointless banter and threats of breaking into people’s houses, D&T reveal they’re having a baby girl, and (SPOILERS) her name is Atlas Shrugged. I mean, Mouth Agape. Erm, Atlas Agape. Friggin hippies. And then we can’t escape it any longer as they go into what they’ve learned: Derek learned: He’s much more motivated to be up early when he knows the kids get up after 6:30 About mustache wax Their coffee pot doesn’t stop brewing when he takes the carafe out Why tile feels colder than carpet Tanya learned: She can read the ultrasound pretty sensibly now! About placing appropriate blame when she lets people make her overstep her boundaries with work To remember expectations are silly in this stage of life Then Derek goes off on college fraud and uses it as a soapbox for decrying college in general. Send all hate mail today o the Instagram or yell at him at settolearn.com/talk.

Still in the throes of pregnancy and hyperemesis gravidarum, we still manage to talk about a bunch of stuff we’ve learned recently, including natural consequences, Thomas the Tank Engine, and vaccinations! Oh look, they made it out with another episode before the heat-death of the universe. Way to be punctual. Derek jumps in right away with an adorable Rainee recording, and Tanya talks about some feedback to last time’s sin nature episode. They also let you know to give them questions for a future unschooling episode, either on Instagram or via voice message at settolearn.com/talk. As for things they’ve learned: Tanya’s still learning that natural consequences are a...unpleasant... Derek learned Rainee thinks that he sleeps on the couch Here there really isn’t anything they learned (Tanya’s breaking the rules again) but something something mommy punched daddy playfully and ohhhhhh the toddler accountability Derek learned Tanya is extremely opposed to the mutton chop Derek’s learning about how good Thomas the Tank Engine is (lol, wut) (Here lies an Umbrella Academy diversion) Tanya’s learned some things around the vaxxiverse Derek’s apparently into an open-world game Tanya’s been learning about the Emerson’s sensory tendencies and gives a primer on ASMR And that’s all you get! So sorry you had to listen to an episode less than an hour long, guess you’ll have to get your jollies somewhere else. Have you tried lightly flogging yourself?

Boy, has it been a week. Also, we talk about sin nature! Yep, they’re still pregnant, and Tanya’s still very sick. And also everyone else in the family got sick. Which made everything worse. Really, this whole part is very gross and depressing. For follow up, Derek decided it was worth mentioning the coincidental release of all of Steven Universe on iTunes with the release of an STL episode. Also, they learned that, go figure, there’s no discovered differences in function among sperm. Yay science. Learning: Tanya learned how caffeine works, Derek learned that poop incidents make one very aware at night, Tanya learned that you need a lot of heat to kill bacteria Derek throws in something that may or may not be true about germ clouds and shoes And Derek learned that he’s still a bad person, and that the gospel is sweet. To shorten up the rambling. And prepare your tomatoes for the main topic (timestamp: 20:39), where Derek and Tanya talk about their perspectives on the sin nature of children. Some resources they talk about: Jesus the Gentle Parent GotQuestions.org Llamas with Hats St. Patrick’s Bad Analogies Feel free to let them know your very strong feelings either with your voice through their voice message system or with your text words via DM on Instagram! If you’re wondering what happened to the Twitter, it’s still there! You can use it, but you can pretty much count on them not paying attention. That IV lady story is pretty cute, “stick” around for that.

We have our wonderful sister Elisa on this week to talk together about how singles and married people can connect and why they should be friends with each other. Plus, Elisa lets us know her secret method for determining baby genders! Ohhhhhhh boy. Strap in, folks. This thing is like, two and a half hours. This is why Derek and Tanya never have guests, sheesh. So Tanya's sister Elisa comes along for the ride this week. After Elisa gets the obligatory fan-service out of the way, they...well, they get coffee and tea, and talk about cat cafes, and... You know what, let's just skip the pleasantries and go WHAT THEY LEARRRRRRNED: Elisa learned how to change a blower motor Tanya learned that given enough isolation, she will talk the ear off the first person she comes in contact with Derek learned that newspapers are not relevant for kids any more Elisa learned that passports are generally not good 6 months before they expire Then, main topic time! This week, the experts on being married meet the expert on being single. Things not to say to singles and marrieds Why should you have single or married friends? How can you love each other best? Miscellaneous listener questions, wrapping it all up. Though the "miscellaneous" refers to the questions, not the listener. It was one listener. Let's not get all confused about this and assume these people have more listeners than they actually have. And of course, Elisa's baby guessing formula. Don't try this at home, kids. Congratulations on making it through. As a reward, Derek and Tanya offer two methods of further wasting your time, by giving your opinion by voice message or though DM on Instagram.

We make a very exciting announcement, and also explain the very NOT exciting things. After Tanya’s done describing her tea and after they stop lowering expectations for this, their third recording (nice one, Derek), the lede is dropped. A new child shall be joining the cast of Set To Learn, coming in August! But not all is happy on the home front. Tanya describes what morning sickness looks like for her, and it’s... not pleasant. However, they’ve learned some things in this time of crazy: Derek realized he’ll be able to manage to keep the kids alive should Tanya ever kick the bucket, and Tanya’s gained new sympathy for those struggling with chronic pain. Gender speculation time! Rainee wants a girl, Derek thinks he’s agnostic and Tanya thinks it’s a boy. Then it’s title time, as they bring up a male vs female sperm theory that they ACTUALLY asked for feedback on. So go ahead and send your crazy internet speculation via DM on Instagram or with your voice at SetToLearn.com/talk! Then they meandered off on an amusing anecdote about toxic squishy toys and floating noses. So. There’s that. Also, Christmas follow up! If you were curious how Derek possibly could have possibly spent all the budget for gifts last episode, you will quickly understand here. That’s about it. Unlike the Masts, I refuse to speak to you again until the next episode.

It’s our Christmas episode! Tanya makes the Roomba French, Derek sticks his quarter in his mouth, and we answer listener questions about Christmas! Oh boy, adventures in kids not taking naps. Riveting entertainment. Speaking of riveting entertainment, Derek and Tanya go on a rant about Cartoon Network to attempt to justify their inevitable pirating of the newest three episodes of Steven Universe. Bending moral guidelines is the best, isn’t it? And we surprisingly quickly get into what they’ve learned: Tanya: Is either a far-in-advance person or a nick-of-time person Learned more about how learning happens organically To up your classy house game, just reprogram your electronics to speak in French! Realized she needs to figure out how to rest in a life-giving way Just always bring shoes The kids need a lot less toys than she thought Derek: Lyrics are sometimes different than what he thought they were! Don’t put quarters in your mouth Amazon hangs onto a lot more information than he thought (Duh, buddy) After shamelessly shilling their methods of listener communication (which, of course, you can participate in on Instagram and in their voicemail box), they finally get to answering listener questions on Christmas. From Carisa: What were the traditions for each of your families growing up? What will you keep in your family, and what will you add? From Cameron and Elisa: How do you deal with Christmas gifts for the young kids? From Matthew: What are your preferences for Christmas music? The Gift: A Christmas Compilation This Warm December: A Brushfire Holiday, Vol 2 Everyday is Christmas by Sia From Elisa: How do you deal with family visitation on Christmas? Dennis: Merry Christmas? or Happy Holidays? And that about wraps it up for this year. If you must continue listening to this, I suppose you should probably subscribe on Apple Podcasts. As always, you can “enjoy” listening at SetToLearn.com. Merry Holidays, and a Happy New Year.

Fun stuff this week! Hair dye, adorable dogs, and what we never thought we’d do as parents, but totally have. Hoo boy, these people are distracted this week. They ramble through talking about getting their hair dyed, then about Tanya’s new glasses, then something something Christmas, then back to hair dye. It’s a mess. But eventually they get to what they’ve learned: Derek: Never trust a dog A wonderful unschooling moment with Rainee, regarding mangled fingers The command line on computers is actually not insane Felt like the 1% a little when dealing with health insurance this year. Tanya: She's getting old Discovered that when her base body temp is the highest is when she's the coldest No matter how much you prep a toddler for a shot, it's still crazy Why the top of her lips peel off in the winter Emerson is basically Ron Swanson. Give him all the eggs and bacon you HAVE. Listener Alyssa tells us her story via Instagram about her experience with post-partum anxiety via a miscarriage.

Yet again, this sickness is still plaguing the house, but this time, Derek's the one! Oh well, they'll get past this eventually. They actually don't dawdle this week before hitting what they've learned: Tanya: Recounts a conversation on race with Rainee. Catch a mouse as soon as you see it. In this stage of parenting and marriage, naps are the currency of their love. Play games with your kids as much as possible. Derek: Caffeine is not a replacement for sleep. Normal mousetraps are silly and ineffective. He's starting to play with Raspberry Pis and stuff at work. After the pleasantries are out of the way, they hit up listener feedback for literally the rest of the episode. Apparently they got a lot of feedback from last week, can't imagine why. If you're curious about the cult topic they're talking about, check out last week's episode. If you're here at this episode just for this topic, you can just skip to 18:08. However, just as a warning, Derek rambles here about making an interesting name for their listeners when they give feedback. If you have any better ideas (can't be too hard, come on), you can make them feel like you care by DMing them on Instagram or by leaving them a voice message at settolearn.com/talk! They start off with the positive stuff, by people unrelated to Derek and Tanya's specific situation. Some good stuff! 9Marks is recommended as a resource on church discipline, as well as Jonathan Leeman's book called Church Discipline. They also talk about how last week's show actually circulated through Tanya's old church pretty quickly, as well as through the group of people who have left that church over the years. They talk about some of the feedback from some of those people, which was pretty cool. Then they hit the negative feedback. This is from people who are still within that church. There were three responses, they talk "briefly" about the gist of all of them, as well as a specific question: How does last week's episode serve to glorify God and build his church? There's also a lot of feelings talked about after this. Was there anything they wished they did differently last week, what have they learned, how has the response to last week's episode impacted them, etc. It was recorded for posterity or whatever. Also something about hyper-Calvinism and that they were probably wrong about that part. Woof. Hopefully they do something lighthearted and fluffy next week. If you can, review us on Apple Podcasts or share the show with a friend! It helps get us into the ears of more people! Contact Us Instagram Twitter Feel free to DM us either place if you have questions or want to share your thoughts! We love to hear from you.

Tales of an asthmatic and her husband, Derek opines on classic VeggieTales, and yes, Tanya shares her experiences with being in a cult. Haha, Tanya forgets to turn on her mic. Oh, the hijinks! They forget that they have a format to uphold and go into things they’ve learned without actually introducing it, by recounting the weeks of sickness that has raged through the family, and specifically Tanya. Things They Learned Derek: He should just expect that Tanya gets some kind of horrible lung disease at the change of the seasons. Tanya made the most wonderful muffins and the secret recipe was random stuff in the fridge! Old-school VeggieTales actually holds up pretty well! Tanya: Speaking at a conference is fun and she’s good at it! Also, confidence is not equal to pride. A lot of things that people think cause sickness actually don’t! Sugar, wet hair, being cold, etc.

We talk more about child development stuff and our struggles, Derek rants at the music industry, and a particular children's book puts us on the topic of purity culture! So basically, these two, even though they put on a good face (really I'm not sure they do), they want you to be sure they don't know what they're doing. They're not bad at it, but they're stumbling through life just like you are! Tanya gets a little salty about crunchy internet moms and talks about "herps" briefly (unrelated), but then they move promptly onto what they've learned! Tanya: Emerson is already learning about consent via tickling How to communicate best with Rainee, about sin and redemption It's difficult to have someone do your job because they'll either do it better or worse than you, and both options feel weird Derek: Emerson isn't really attached to nursing as much anymore! maybe... There's not gonna be color in the leaves this year

Sorry for the late "official" episode, that'll be next week. For now, enjoy the warbley wisdom of our newly three-year old.

Kids aren’t sleeping, we’ve overbooked ourselves, yet SOMEHOW. We’ve finally gotten around to another podcast.

Derek learns what cockles are and Tanya just wants to go to sleep. Head over to settolearn.com/talk to send us a voice message! If you can, review us on Apple Podcasts or share the show with a friend! It helps get us into the ears of more people! Contact Us Instagram Twitter Feel free to DM us either place if you have questions or want to share your thoughts! We love to hear from you.

In what we're learning this week, we cover the entire gamut from tragedy in the backyard to hilarity on the Candy Land board, so prepare yourselves for THAT roller coaster. Then in our main topic, we talk a bunch about penises, vaginas and butts, so hide yo kids. Or don't. I mean, we don't. We're talking about how to help our kids protect their bodies. Book → God Made All of Me Head over to settolearn.com/talk to send us a voice message! If you can, review us on Apple Podcasts or share the show with a friend! It helps get us into the ears of more people! Contact Us Leave us a voice message! Instagram Twitter Feel free to DM us either place if you have questions or want to share your thoughts! We love to hear from you.

Hey, it's been a while, kind of! We went on an anniversary trip and discovered new things about our children, got some listener feedback on Christian unschooling resources, and we give you ten random facts about ourselves that may or may not be interesting to you. I mean, that's really on you to figure out for yourself. By the way, we figured out a new way you can talk to us by literally, you know, talking to us! Head over to settolearn.com/talk to send us a voice message! If you can, review us on Apple Podcasts or share the show with a friend! It helps get us into the ears of more people! Contact Us Leave us a voice message! Instagram Twitter Feel free to DM us either place if you have questions or want to share your thoughts! We love to hear from you.

Our zucchini has grown to the size of our house, and we received questions about the poop in our garden, which honestly, we can't blame you for. Derek also talks about his faults this week, and we delve into what's been going on with him the past month. If you can, review us on Apple Podcasts or share the show with a friend! It helps get us into the ears of more people! Contact Us Instagram Twitter Feel free to DM us either place if you have questions or want to share your thoughts! We love to hear from you.

We went to Missouri for a family wedding, which was lovely, but discovered some things we should have set expectations for beforehand, so we talk about that. Something also happened on the flights back home that kick off a conversation about the struggles we have with post partum anxiety. And there's a little something about the jar at the very end. If you can, review us on Apple Podcasts or share the show with a friend! It helps get us into the ears of more people! Contact Us Instagram Twitter Feel free to DM us either place if you have questions or want to share your thoughts! We love to hear from you.

Emerson has taken to riding the Roomba and Derek is learning to wear shoes. We also ask the question about whether yelling and raising your voice is different, and whether it matters! If you have questions for us, use the hashtag #askSTL on Twitter or Instagram! Links Definition of rutschy Ten Little Indians - turns out, definitely racist origins! If you can, review us on Apple Podcasts or share the show with a friend! It helps get us into the ears of more people! Contact Us Instagram Twitter Feel free to DM us either place if you have questions or want to share your thoughts! We love to hear from you.

Tanya has learned deep things about her emotions, and Derek goes on about movies and heat rash and whatnot.

Oh boy, the sleepless nights have been setting in. Plus we talk about how we discipline! Contact Us Instagram Twitter Feel free to DM us either place if you have questions or want to share your thoughts! We love to hear from you. Music Credits: "Improbable" Kevin MacLeod Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 License

In this episode, we talk all about ourselves, kids, upbringings, and what to expect from the show! Contact Us Instagram Twitter Feel free to DM us either place if you have questions or want to share your thoughts! We love to hear from you. Music Credits: "Improbable" Kevin MacLeod Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 License